Girls Gone Bible - Toxic Love | Girls Gone Bible

Episode Date: September 6, 2024

hiiiii GGB:) this week we’re talking about LOVE! what love is. what love is not. according to 1 Corinthians 13. “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 we get very honest about where we are in terms of romantic relationships & love and what we’ve learned over the years from being loved correctly and from being loved in a way that doesn’t meet God’s standard. Jesus is love. the fact that we exist is an expression of God’s love for us and Him sending His only Son to die for us is the greatest demonstration of love in the history of ever. the standard of what love should be, is HIGH. do not settle for less than Christ-like love. episode starts at 9 minutes. we love you so much. Jesus loves you more. -Ang & Ari WE ARE ON THE OFFICIAL GIRLS GONE BIBLE LIVE TOUR! www.girlsgonebible.com/tour for the first batch of cities we have locked in :) WE LOVE YOU AND CANNOT WAIT TO SEE YOU! if you’d like to support Girls Gone Bible 🙏🏻🕊️🤍 Paypal- https://www.paypal.me/girlsgonebibleinfo Venmo- https://www.venmo.com/u/girlsgonebible

I'm being attacked. I'm having a spiritual attack. I'm being attacked. Do you have any floss? No. Okay, cool. Thought you were Jess. Thought you were Jess. You got some pearly whites, buddy. Can you pray in tongues over my chest?

Yeah, yeah. Lay hands. I'm being serious, lay hands. Jesus, I declare and declare, stop. I declare and declare that you get this chest pain, this COVID, this unhealthy Satan demon. What's up? What's up, bud? What's up, bud? What's up, bud?

I missed you. What? Just kidding. I've slept at your house every single night. We missed you guys though. Hi, GGB. Hi, I'm Ari. And I'm Ange.

And this is Girl's Gone Bible. We talk everything Jesus, spirituality. We love Jesus so much. He saved our lives. And now we get to share the good news with you guys. We talk everything, mental health, relationships, everything that you guys have been through. We probably have too. So you can feel safe with us. We are a safe place. We love you and welcome to GGV. Welcome to GGV you guys. Oh my gosh.

Ari, how are you? What's up my dog? I have been... You guys aren't gonna believe this. I'm still sick. A month later. I was just gonna say you guys wouldn't believe what I just still sick. A month later. I, what? I was just gonna say you guys wouldn't believe what I just witnessed downstairs.

My heart is literally in 500 pieces right now. Tell them what happened to you. Well, because people haven't believed me that I'm trying to- Who's not believing you? Everybody, everyone thinks that. My brother told me I'm just dramatic. He literally goes,

have you ever stopped to think that maybe you're just dramatic? And I was like, you don't understand. When I cough, I thinks that. My brother told me I'm just dramatic. He literally goes, have you ever stopped to think that maybe you're just dramatic? And I was like, you don't understand. When I cough, I start choking. I'm very scared. Ari and I, we'll tell you guys everything, but we were just in Puerto Rico for a week. We took a little girl's vacation

for one of our really good friends' birthdays. And I was sick. You guys know I was sick a month ago, and then I'm in Puerto Rico and I'm starting to get better, but this, I have this lingering cough that every time I cough I start choking. So like my life right now is me just trying to not cough because when I cough I start choking.

And so I'm in Puerto Rico, I'm starting to feel better, all of a sudden I get sick again And it was this scare I would and it was like a thousand times worse than the first time usually like you guys I can Tough it out. I oh, you know what I mean by tough it out is like she will literally go on like five mile hikes Go to Pilates like she will tough it through I had kov COVID and I went to put and I was FOMO. She can't not be in the scene with us. I have such, I get such bad FOMO, not even just like to hang out with people. I don't like missing out on life. I hate the idea of being inside, sick in bed and like life just happening outside over there. And I just like, I love life so much that I want to be involved in whatever's going on.

But we're in Puerto Rico and I get so sick and it's like a thousand times worse than the first time, so much so to the point I spent the last two days in Puerto Rico in bed by myself. And you guys, that is so unlike me. I will tough it out, thug it out, get out there. Like, it's just not like me. And then I got back to Orlando and I knew I needed to go to the doctor,

but I was like, I'm not going to go in another country because I don't know. Or you just know. Yeah, you could have. I don't know. I'm just scared. So I get to Orlando. My poor mommy has to pick me up. Mommy. I'm a grown woman. Mommy. My mommy picks me up from the airport.

I need my mommy. I need my mommy. Mommy picks me up. There's something about being with your mom when you're sick. It's all you need. I mean, I, there's something about being with my mom in general that I resort back to 12 years old. Like I don't know what it is.

And so mommy picks me up. We go to the emergency room. They put me on this stuff. I'm getting treated like a princess in the emergency room. I want you guys to understand they're treating me like an absolute queen. I'm like, wow, I've never been treated this well to walk out with a $10,000 emergency room bill. Do you know they need to tell you that, right? My mom starts freaking out at the end. She's like, you can't just do that. You can't just run all these tests, give all this medication. They're giving me feel good stuff.

I'm having a good time. Little do I know, I'm being... This is the recovering addict. Real nice, GGB. I'm just kidding. I'm feeling good. There's no drinks. It says the recovering addict. Real nice, GGB. I'm just kidding. I'm kidding. I'm feeling good.

There's no drugs. Pumped out your veins with morphine. Oh, no. The cough is coming. OK. OK. Sorry, I can't get too excited. I'm telling you, it's a demon trying to ruin my day.

Anyways, $10,000 bill. They tried giving me another vaccine. I'm like, I'm good. Oh god, please. They do not let me leave without trying to give me another. We're gonna get shadow banned for saying the word vaccine. Anyways, life is good. Would you guys just pray for me?

Pray in tongues right now. Go, pray in tongues. The point is, is uh, pray for me. Pray for Ann and don't get any vaccines. For the love of God. That was a hot take, buddy. You're being real political these days. I don't care.

She called me last night and said, tomorrow I'm gonna come talk about the Biden administration. I said, hang on, just give us a second. Don't know if we're qualified. I have to come from a place of love, but also honesty. Yeah, she's dying. My armpits were rotting. I, no, I don't care, I'm telling them.

The enemy was after us so badly. I got a chemical burn. I don't know if you guys have ever gotten it, but I switched deodorants. I switched to a native deodorant, which is like an all natural deodorant, which is like an all-natural deodorant, because you have to be careful with deodorants because it causes cancer. Yeah, I really do.

Yeah, I should wear it in degree every day. I wear the worst. The worst of the worst. She's spraying at the friggin'. I'm like, give me all of the aluminum. I don't care. I am not dealing with it. I don't play that game. My chemical burn was so bad, it was spreading,

I couldn't move, our other friend gets 600 bug bites in Puerto Rico, 600, like her whole body was covered. It was so sad. It was nuts. I just really did wanna speak a second too, cause being sick, I've actually, like my immune system is really honestly so strong that I am able to power through when I'm sick

because I just, I have the strength to do it. I don't ever get that sick. And so to have been sick for the past month of my life, it's been really hard. It's been genuinely really, really difficult to not have energy, to not be able to like laugh because then I start choking and like, we're laughing about it, but it's actually really hard.

And I've been in this space where I just feel like God really quickly wants to minister to people who deal with chronic illnesses and chronic sicknesses and how you're normal is not like everybody else is normal. Because I obviously haven't, I'm not going through something that is quite as severe as what other people go through, but I understand now what it feels like to have your reality disrupted and like for sickness to be your normal. So I just want to pray over anybody. I was praying this morning over anybody who

might be watching who deals with any sort of chronic sickness or illness that Jesus loves you and he is sovereign and he's Lord over your body and there's this Little passage that I just wanted to read really quick in first Corinthians 15 It talks about our earthly bodies versus our heavenly bodies and while Sickness and disease came through one man, Adam, and death came through Adam, resurrection and life has come through Jesus for us all. And one day our earthly bodies are gonna go, but they're gonna be resurrected in our heavenly—we're gonna be—our earthly bodies are gonna be resurrected into our heavenly bodies. And we're gonna have new bodies. And Jesus just—He loves you so much, and He is sovereign over new bodies and Jesus just, He loves you so much and He is sovereign

over your sickness and your illness and He just wants you to know that He sees you and He's with you through it and it must be so hard when everybody else's life is so normal and you're just sitting there sick. And so while Ari and I can't really fully understand, we're with you and we see you and we love you so much. That's really sweet.

Today we wanna talk about, we want to have a conversation around the idea of love. Specifically, Ari and I have both experienced great love and we've also experienced love that is not quite up to the standard of what God intends for it to be. We have a lot of stories, we have so many things we could say. We're kind of going to talk a little bit today about toxic love and about what love is based on 1 Corinthians chapter 13, and what it's not and things that we've experienced on both ends.

We've both experienced beautiful love and not so beautiful love. How do you feel about the topic of love today? It's so funny, you guys. I'm on the phone with Angela last night. We were going to do a different, we're supposed to do a whole different topic today, but we backed out of it because God told us so. And so she's like, let's do toxic love and love is patient and love is kind of, I had this moment, I'm gonna be honest with you, I was like, I was laughing this morning telling her, I'm like, honestly, I don't, I don't, what do you mean? Like, I don't, I don't know. I can't relate anymore, okay? Because I've been in a real series of singleness. I mean a real series.

It is a series, baby. So she's been in a real season of singleness. And so I just want to let you guys know, like you guys, some of you are in this season just like I am and you're, it's frustrating, and I want to let you know that you're not alone, and I'm with you, and I see you, and I understand you, and we're in this together.

And although it seems so frustrating that God is working all things together, and he's got a plan, and there's such beauty in singleness. There really is, when you take a step back and you look at the big picture of it, it's truly been the greatest gift he could have given me, even though there's moments where I am so impatient and I'm just like, oh, I'm so frustrated and I'm tired.

Yeah, totally. I know, as you guys know, I was also in a season of Singleness with Ari and it was really hard, it's been hard. And there are moments where we'll kind of joke but not really joke and be like, where are the men? Where are they? Where are they?

Why does it feel like there's so few good men? Why does it feel like there's so few good men? Why does it feel like there's so many great women and so few great men? And sometimes it really is easy to lose hope, but I'm coming on here to say that like, please just don't lose hope. I believe in love. I really do.

I believe in God's love. I believe that there's beautiful, good love out there. And like, I have had so many moments of being like, genuinely feeling discouraged and being like, okay, well, I guess, you know, all that matters to me is that I find someone who loves Jesus, and then it's okay, I can settle in all the other areas. But I believe in my heart of hearts. And you know this, this whole time, I've been like, no, I know what's out there, I know what God has, and I know it's gonna be beautiful, and I know it's gonna surpass our expectations,

and we worry about compromising and sacrificing and settling, but I believe that God has something for each and every one of us that is so good if we believe for it. 100%, 100%. And be proud of yourself that you're not settling. We're not if we believe for it. 100%, 100%. And be proud of yourself that you're not settling. We're set apart. To have someone that loves Jesus

and that is gonna do this walk for you, it's gonna take some time because we're not just gonna date anyone who's living of the world, who's not gonna lead us the right way. So, that's a very special person and that's going to take time. It is going to take time. And that's going to take God working on them.

So. Yeah. And imagine it's like two different people. It's because I imagine a lot of people are in a position where you're like, I'm ready, but I'm ready. I've waited. And it's just like, but you don't know where your person's at. He might not. She he or she might not be completely ready yet. So it's like two people that God has to prepare and bring together. And you have no idea what's happening on the other

end of it. All I know is that it's good. And I'm just asking you guys to believe for it and speak life over your love life, speak life over your spouse. Do not speak death. Do not say that there's nobody out there. You'll never find love If I know anything from experience It's that your words shape your life and you come into agreement either with God or not with God based on the words that you say So speak it out loud God is preparing the most beautiful man or woman for me and it's my soul mate and it's all gonna make sense and there's no Years wasted and it's gonna be beautiful. So just keep speaking life and hold on to hope.

I'm asking you guys, it's so, so important. I always think about this. I always have this vision of like me praying and I'm like, I'm praying and I'm praying on my husband and then my husband, my future husband is also doing that same thing, praying for me. And he's working on us both behind the scenes and doing what he's gonna do before he brings us together.

And so yeah, like Angela said, in that time, just speak life and be like, I'm so excited for it. I love that. If we're sitting there saying he's never gonna come, well no, he's never gonna come. So we have to be mature Christians and know and trust God. Believe in love. Love is the most powerful force in the world.

It's the first commandment. Like everything, it's the first and second commandment is based on love. Love is the most powerful force. It is the reason we're alive. God created us because he loves us. He created everything. Everything is based in love.

And it's such a lie to believe that true love doesn't exist. It does and it's good and it's out there. You just have to believe for it. I believe in love more than anything in the world. I swear. So just to give a little context, 1 Corinthians 13,

1 Corinthians chapter 12 is, I'm so sorry if my voice is so annoying. I can't stand to hear myself right now. I can't imagine what it's like to have to hear me. You don't even sound any different. I feel like I can barely get my voice out. If you go back a little bit, 1 Corinthians chapter 12 is all about spiritual gifts. And Paul is writing to the Church of Corinth, you know, telling them, he's just informing them, educating them on the spiritual gifts that are given from by God. And then I love that we get to this point in chapter 13, where he talks all about

love, and about how love is more important than any of the spiritual gifts. And I feel like in Christianity a lot, people wanna be used by God so much that they are so fixated on gifts and gifting and anointing and power and power, give me more power and God's like, I wanna love you. Would you just let me love you? You want all these things and I want to love you. Would you just let me love you? You want all these things and I just want to love you,

I want you to love me and I want you to go love people. The point of all the gifts that we have, healing, prophecy, evangelism, every gift that we have is birthed out of love. It's so that we can love each other with these gifts. The reason why Paul is speaking on this, we can correlate it with romantic relationships and friendships and stuff, but basically the church was falling apart

and this is why he speaks on this and he's basically saying like we need to come together as one. We need to love each other. We cannot let this fall apart. If I could speak all the languages of earth and angels, but didn't love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God's secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains but didn't love others, I would be nothing. If I gave everything to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it, but if I didn't love others, I would have gained nothing. Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable,

and it keeps no records of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice, but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up. Love never loses faith. It's always hopeful and endures through every circumstance. Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will become useless, but love will last forever.

Now our knowledge is partial and incomplete, and even the gift of prophecy reveals only part of the whole picture. But when the time of perfection comes, these partial things will become useless." And I love how it ends with, three things will last forever, faith, hope, and love, and the greatest of these is love. I love this part because I read something that said, faith is the foundation and content of God's message. Hope is the attitude and focus, love is the action. When faith and hope are in line, we are free to love completely because we understand how God loves.

I love 1 Corinthians 13 so much because as we said, love demonstrates, literally, love is the basis of everything that we do because we wouldn't be here if it weren't for love. Any other religion serves gods. They serve gods that are not rooted in love. Their gods don't love them. Their gods don't care about them. Their gods are not... The fact that we're all here is an expression of God's love for us.

And I love the idea of when it says in Scripture, we love because he first loved us. And someone has asked me recently, do you feel like getting closer to Jesus helps you love people better? And I literally go, the moment that I realized who Jesus was, my heart's capacity to love others literally is as if it was, it's otherworldly, my ability and my capacity for love, the affection that I'm able to give other people, the way that I know I'm able to make other people feel loved is because I know Jesus.

I have the love of the Father and it's only from the overflow. He pours, he pours, he pours, and then I give out. That's the way that love works. That's right. You know? That's so true. It's the same thing. When people ask me what is one of the greatest gifts of finding Jesus and it's because of who he made me, what he did inside of me, the person he's developed me into, the person he's developed me into. I thought I was this good girl before, no. The woman that he built me into, love, patient, kind, is only because of him. Ari and I were thinking, this part,

this first part of the passage, when it talks about if I could speak all the language, but I didn't love others, I would be nothing. If I had the gift of prophecy, I would be nothing. If I had the gift, it's just like, if you literally were the most powerful, incredible person in the world, if you did more for Jesus and accomplished more healings and saw more miracles than anyone else in the world but you didn't love the people around you, it means nothing, and it's that serious. I love this part so much because we put such an emphasis

on the things we do rather than on how well we love the people around us. What you accomplish ultimately means nothing versus how well you love the people around you. Your barometer and your measure for success should literally be based in how you make the people around you, your barometer and your measure for success should literally be based in how you make the people around you feel. If the people around you feel loved,

you are successful, you know? I read in the Bible the other day, it was in Matthew and it said, what good is it to just love the people that love you? It says, what reward is that? I think that's what God has really shown me. It's loving people who can't do anything for you. I will tell you when I have been in my darkest days and I have helped someone in need, whether

it's the littlest things, showing someone love by holding the door open for them, showing someone love by seeing someone in need and being like, hey, are you okay? Do you need anything? These little things that are acts of love. Love stems from all the fruits of the spiritness, gentleness, meekness. When we always come from a place of love, gentleness with people,

we don't realize how many people are going through so much internally that sometimes they can't even be their best selves, but to sit there with gentleness and be kind, that's gonna make you feel better as a person. And so I just, I think if we all come together and realize that we're living in such a broken world, there's so many people that are so sad, that need help, that need love, strangers.

And these are all, we're all God's children, yet we're all like against each other in a way. We're all just trying to live for each other and stay in our lanes. But what if we opened ourselves up when we're even out at like a grocery store, just out in our day to day and we keep our eyes open because there's someone that might need us. There's someone that might need our tenderness and our love. And I just, it's one thing I've really learned on my journey with God because I read these stories about him, how much he did for others and how he was just so, his eyes were always open.

He never slept. He was always seeing who he could help. And if we could all have that trait like Jesus and be alert and do these little acts of love for people, it'll change our lives. It'll change people's lives. So beautiful. So yeah. It says in scripture that it's about what you do for the least of these, about the people who can do nothing for you. And there's like, I think there's like a sickness of individualism in life, just in general, but even in the

church too, where everybody is so about themselves and their gifts and their business and their anointing and their ministry. And it's just like, you're anointing and you're gifting. It's not for you. It's not for you. It's not about you. It's for the advancement of the kingdom. And I think that you and I, the deeper we get into ministry,

the further we bend towards Jesus. Jesus, take the crown. It's yours. Like this is all about you and it's for your people. And it's just not, there's just selfishness and self-centeredness is the poison of the world. And I think Ari and I kind of want to go through each of these love is patient, love is kind, and kind of talk about them, talk about what it is and what it's not. I think, when we read this verses four to seven, you see that these are all

the things we should be, but oftentimes we're not. And when Paul is writing these specific descriptions about what love is, he's really describing God, he's describing Jesus. This is Jesus in fullness. This is the standard we should be living at. We often fall short. Love is patient. What does that mean to you? This podcast is sponsored by Nurture Life. Nurture Life is a meal delivery service focused on helping busy parents easily feed their babies and kids from 10 months old to 10 years old. The company provides fresh meals and snacks that are delicious, nutritious, and fully cooked. That means that they're ready to serve in just one minute. Nurture Life lets kids enjoy a healthy nutritionally balanced diet while still eating all of their favorites like mac and cheese, spaghetti and meatballs and so much more.

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Once again, that's NurtureLife.com for 55% off and make sure you use our promo code GGB so they know that we sent you. Love being patient. I think patience is, as we know, patience is a fruit of the Spirit. Patience is something that I had zero of before knowing Jesus. Angela BC, before Christ, was full of no patience. And patience is a natural response to being close to Jesus. I think my ability to be patient with people has grown exponentially. And I just know that when love is patient, love being patient means that you give grace

when you love someone deeply. You give grace, there's room for error, there's room for growth. You don't just expect things from someone, you don't expect them to get it right the first time. You give them grace. Like that's what I think of when it's love is patient. Like I'm gonna give you grace.

I'm gonna give you a moment. I'm gonna give you room for growth. And another way that I look at love being patient is like you guys know how we feel about purity and you guys know Ari and I standard for purity outside of marriage and it's, we value purity above all else. I think without purity in general you're in a bad spot. I'm so sorry, you're in a bad spot but I

think I mean especially what we do being in ministry everything what you know is in our heart is what's gonna come out so that's why Ari and I value purity so much. But for you guys I want you you to know, especially for the women, there are men out there who will respect your boundaries. And I'm telling you right now to not settle for anybody who's not patient enough to wait for you, to not wait for the God-given time to pursue certain things in a relationship.

Your boundaries are not too much. Your boundaries don't make you weird. In fact, your boundaries are the coolest thing about you. And so if there's a man who's not being patient with you or there's a woman who's pushing those boundaries, you already know what to do, and I'm giving you permission right now to walk away from anybody who is not patient with you.

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Get out there. All right. Love's patient. I wanted to share this with you because I went through my notes today. I opened up this thing and I found this letter that I wrote about Angela. Because I believe that,

I truly believe that God brought us together because it's going to be like the blueprint for our marriages someday. Like to train, we're like in training with each other. And it's so special. And one of the things, because you were so further along in your walk, the one thing that I valued so much about our friendship was patience. You really did teach me patience. I wrote this last year. I think this might've been a year and a half ago that I wrote this, but I wrote, Jesus, are you ready?

It's so cute. I couldn't believe I found this. Jesus, thank you for my best friend, for bringing me someone who shows me patience. She meets my insecurities with kindness. She doesn't see me as I feel in the season of my life, which is broken and afraid, but she sees me for who I really am. someone of hope and courage. At least that's what she tells me. She sees the tiredness in my eyes and fills them with light by her kindness and offers

me a place of rest in her presence. She supports me, she sees me, and most important, she loves me and doesn't give up on me. Thank you for shining through her because of how she loves me and showing me how to love myself. This is us. This is us. So,

because of how patient Angela was with me through the days where I didn't think I could make it through, I have learned how important patience is. Because an impatient heart cannot be a loving heart. Yeah. Ari, first of all, is the most easily lovable person because an impatient heart cannot be a loving heart. Ari, first of all, is the most easily lovable person you guys know. That's why you guys love her as much as you do.

Everybody does. I want you to know if you love Ari, you're not the only one. Everybody does. You're so easy to love. On the other day, I was in Florida and I've learned so much from our friendship. You have healed things in me that like other friendships and relationships have broken.

We're gonna get to love doesn't give up, but I struggle so severely with abandonment issues. I fear negative emotion because it doesn't end in reconciliation in my mind. You are the first situation in my life where I know that you're not walking away and talk about infinite patience. The other night, Ari and I were so dramatic and intense, just like naturally, so imagine all that we go through all the time. We have to have conversations all the time. Sometimes we take things out on each other and and that's just like an honest look into relationship. It's real. What we have on on screen

there's so much behind it that's real and it's real love and it's real conflict. And the other day I was just having a really hard time. I had gotten out of the emergency room, things were going wrong with the episode. I was having to stay up and I like came at Ari in a way that I just wanted her, I don't know if anyone's ever done this, but you know when you're so miserable, misery loves company, I wanted her to join in my suffering and instead of coming to her and just being like, hey, I need, I'm feeling really upset and I need you with me in this. I came at her completely wrong and she didn't deserve it. And you know, we went a day and I was prideful and I didn't want to admit or say sorry or anything.

And then the next night I went to her house like without her permission. She was already sleeping and like I couldn't bring myself to like lay down my pride and say sorry. So I just slept at her house without her permission. And then the next morning you were on the phone and I was waiting for you to get off and I went into the living room and I literally put my head in your lap and I just started crying and I was like, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

When we're not on good terms, I am truly unwell and Ari doesn't even bat an eye and she goes, it's okay. Don't worry about it. Nothing, like that's what love is. Like that's what true patience and love is. It is. That was, you know we'd be doing that a lot. We do it all the time. Anytime we come to, we're always on our floor and one of us comes in our heads on our lap and we just hold each other and then it's over. It's so sweet. To have, honestly, to have, to know patience is to understand God's love.

And then when you understand God's love, you're like, okay, I understand how He loves me now. So now I can let that flow through me onto other people. And now I can have the level of patience that I've experienced how he's had with me for other people. And that's really what it is. Patience is understanding Jesus first. That's why I tell you guys, you think this is like you're being punished

for being in a season of singleness. If I have not been in the season of singleness for as long as I have been, I wouldn't know patience. I've been able to endure patience because I've had to wait patiently. I've had no choice. And to know patience is to be walking with Jesus,

to getting to know Him, being able to wake up every day with just Him and reading His word and reading how He is and how He's been so patient with me, how He's been so patient with me, makes me want to be patient with others. Wow. And to others. And when we're on this journey with Jesus, right, the goal is to be like Him and to live like Him.

And you read how patient and loving He is with others. And so it forces you to be like that and that only comes when it's just you and him. And so before your person, he really models patience for you because it really is one of the biggest things that you need in a relationship with because without patience, you can't love correctly. You can't because there's going to be so many moments where you're not your best self. And how many times has that happened with us? How many times have I went off the rails and I have not been my best self

and I didn't say things that were of me. But because you are so patient and you come from, you see me in the eyes of love like Jesus does, and that's another thing patience is. You see the person through the lens of how he sees you. And so there's been so many times with us where I'm not being my best self and you're just sitting there being,

and what's diffused it is you come at me in such a place of patience and love, and you're like, it's okay, I understand, I hear you. Or you'll just let me be me for a little bit, and then we come back, and it helps me come down, it relaxes my nervous system. When you're patient and somebody isn't feeling good, and you sit there when that patience,

your nervous system calms down. You're able to diffuse yourself. There truly, it's, when I think of the greatest compliment someone could give me, it's wow, she's patient. Oh yes. She's patient. And it's really hard when you, like for me, I'm not always obviously patient.

There's been so many times where I've fallen short and you regret it every time. You're always like, why? Why did I lose it? Why didn't I just? That's right. Because you feel so much better when you choose to be patient. I know. I know.

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sometimes that are so ungodly and why any of us would choose to be in a relationship with somebody who puts us down or who talks down to us or who disrespects us or who's simply just unkind. But I just want you to know that it is not up to God's standard when somebody is unkind to you. And I understand people deal with their own things and always when somebody's being unkind, it's because they're hurting, they're unwell. But I just want to talk to somebody who is in a situation where you're not being treated right. And I know full well, I have accepted certain types of behaviors throughout my life because they

felt normal to me. And based on your upbringing and your childhood and things throughout your life, there are things that begin to be normal and you're comfortable in chaos, and you're And based on your upbringing and your childhood and things throughout your life There are things that begin to be normal and you're comfortable in chaos and you're comfortable in pain But you don't have to live like that and you don't have to be surrounded by people who don't treat you right Love is kind Jesus is kind when I think about Jesus I think he has been kind to me. All the times that He saved me, that He's protected me, that He's spoken, all the blessings that He's given, the comfort that He's provided me with, He is kind. He is kind. He says kind things. God speaks kind words. And if somebody

around you is not speaking kind words to you, you know it's not from God. And I've been in relationships where everything somebody said to me was a slight, was putting me down, was unkind, was making me feel stupid, was making me feel like I'm not good enough. That's not Jesus, that's not God and it's not something if you have the ability to get out of a situation, I implore you to get out of it. Yes. When I, part of the, when you get out of relationships,

you sometimes will find yourself saying, but why, but why did this have to end? And you will understand when you experience God's love and then you will say, wait a minute, this is what love feels like. This is what, what are we on right now? Love is kind? Oh, this is what love is like and this is what kindness is.

Love and kindness do not put each other down. They do not cheat. They do not have one foot in and one foot out. They do not make you second guess yourself. And like Angela said, yes, it goes back into your past and you think you are being so sacrificial by being like, no, I can't give up. I can't give up on this person. I need to fight through this. Like, this was just a mistake.

No, absolutely not. That is not what love is. And we have to stop putting excuses for the cheating, for the lying, for the lying, for the manipulation, for the back talking, for the putting each other down. Love does not make you feel like you're less of a person. It does not make you feel like a shell of yourself. So good, so good.

It goes on to say love is not jealous. It goes on to say love is not jealous. Jealousy is a natural emotion. It happens. We all experience it. But I think I've talked about this before, but something that I've gone through quite a bit in my life that has been really difficult is like always finding myself in relationships that are really controlling and really jealous and very,

I've said it before, but it's like God's love, I've seen it with you. You were one way when I met you, and God pouring his love into you and you allowing yourself to receive it has made you blossom literally like a flower. That's what God's love does to you. It makes you bigger.

It makes you better. You grow and you grow and you grow. And a toxic love, an ungodly love, squeezes you and hangs onto you like this and makes you smaller and smaller. And I don't want you to get bigger, and it makes me insecure, and that's something that I've experienced,

and it's so detrimental, and I have left relationships a legitimate shell of myself, because due to somebody's, like, unfortunately insecurities, putting a ceiling on me and people go through this all the time where you leave a relationship and you've completely lost yourself. And sometimes too, I'm just gonna say it,

sometimes people will come at you a certain way to make you feel small. Like they come at you and they make you think it's your fault and they make you think it's you when it's really their own insecurity and you leave a relationship and you are such a small version of yourself. That is not God's love. God's love is not jealous. Jealousy is it's natural to experience that in relationships but when it's to the point where it is affecting your everyday life, it's affecting your confidence, it's affecting your heart, it's affecting your joy, it's affecting your ability to like advance in life and do more and get better, that is so wrong.

Jealousy only comes from a place of something is not right within themselves. And so we will sit there and be like, why, why is this true about me? Think about when you are full of, full of, full of grace, full of love, full of Jesus. You are not going to be coming from a place of deceit, jealousy, harming someone, talking down to someone. That's why I used to take everything so personally. I really did. If someone said something to me, I'm like, I would harp on it for days.

And now I'm like, I see things so clearly because I know, because I'm in a place, I'm in a place of the fruits of the spirit, of gentleness. And so I am not going to come out. And if I do, because I have, I have put people down, it's because my heart isn't right. So I want you guys to understand that. When you are sitting there being like, oh, is this how he really feels about me?

No, no one comes at you in such, putting you down and trying to just hurt you with words because it's the truth. Yeah. They do that because it's coming from a place of fear. It's coming from a place of, I don't feel good about myself. Jealousy, the root of jealousy is fear. Yep.

Another thing about jealousy is someone wanting something from you. So when we have these things in our hearts, a prayer that Angela and I always like to say before we start our day is if there is any bit of jealousy in our hearts, humble us to the point that it hurts if we do have that in our hearts. The one thing you never want is jealousy in your heart. in your box. It has salon grade tools designed just for DIY nails. We can customize it with our choice of six polishes. The polish doesn't chip and it lasts for seven days or more. And you guys it breaks down to just two dollars

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You shouldn't put too much like, oh my gosh, I'm jealous, so something's really wrong, and I'm ungodly. You know what I mean? It is normal, but then also you can, you shouldn't be with someone who's making you jealous. We should all have a standard for ourselves of going for people who make us feel secure and good,

who aren't sketchy, who aren't untrustworthy. Like naturally you're gonna feel jealous sometimes, but at the same time, your foundation and basis of your relationship should be trust and you should know even if I might get a little jealous, I know this person is still good and faithful and loyal and so we also have a part to play in who we choose as our partners and who we're gonna be in relationship with. It is not irritable.

I think it can be really easy in relationships. Sometimes when you're around someone a lot, everybody knows it, everyone who's been in a marriage or a long-term relationship or even friendship, you are gonna get irritable, you're gonna get irritated, you're gonna get annoyed. But Paul is very clear in writing that irritability is not a fruit of the spirit. It is not a descriptive part of God's character. And we should also do our best to steer away from irritability.

And just don't be an irritable person. And it can be hard sometimes, but we are here to encourage you today to lean toward patience and love and kindness and not irritability. And just don't be that person who's like irritated all the time. Like I love nothing more than a man who's down to have a good time. Like for me, I think because like you're like this too,

we're just like down. We're down to have a good time Today's the door day. Today's the door today's the day the Lord has made and I will rejoice and be glad in it And like I want to have a good day. I want to have a good time I don't want to be irritable if I don't have to be and so when I look for a man, I Hate a moody man. I hate You go out to dinner with your man and your friend and he's just like in a bad mood

and it's just like, live a little. Like everything's okay. You know what I mean? Just always try to steer towards being in a good mood. And just know that people are going through things. And so take that moment to be like, they're probably, they probably had a rough day. God only knows what they're going through.

I just need to have grace for them. I need to have, yeah, I need to have patience. It keeps no record of being wronged. And seeing our past, and seeing our wrongs, and seeing our sins, and literally being like, I don't care about any of it. I'm going to use these girls anyways. God keeps no record of wrongs.

He looked at us and he said, if I can use two loaves and five fish, or no, five loaves and two fish. My point exactly. I could use these girls. If I could use so little, I can do with these girls whatever I wanna do because their past isn't what defines them. And the fact that we're able to enter into this relationship with Jesus,

get on the public platform and speak about Him, regardless of what we've done in the past is the greatest demonstration of love I have ever seen. Nobody can tell me that God doesn't love me because of what He's done in our lives and He has not held our past against us. So if there's anybody out there who is holding your past against you, just understand that the God who created you and then paid for your freedom with his own body and his own blood

isn't holding your past against you. You do not let anybody hold your past against you. He keeps no record of wrongs. So whoever is in your life that is reminding you all the time, if it's a boyfriend or a girlfriend being like, but you did this and you did this and this is part of your past and you're not clean because you did this.

No, that's not true. You tell him, you read this to him and say that God keeps no record of wrongs. That's who God is. And you know what? That's not someone you want in your life that sits there and talks about your past because we all have past.

The beautiful thing about our friendship is that we have, we're able to sit there and share the darkest parts of our life and sit there and still look at each other like we're just the most light of our each other's lives because that's acceptance and that's true love and we don't look at what we've done, we look at who we are now because we're not always going to be the people that we're meant to be. We're going to go through seasons where we fall short, where we're not our best selves. And to have someone that sticks by you through that and doesn't see you as the person as you are in this broken season, maybe you're in a broken season, maybe you don't feel good, maybe you're just not your best self because you're working towards it with Jesus in this moment,

but they still see you as a light, that's the person you never let go of. And that is true, unconditional love. It's for someone to see you and the eyes that God sees you, not to sit there and down you and judge you. That's not true love. And so on our next one, it says, is the next one, love never fails?

Yep. And that brings us to love never fails. And you guys could be sitting there saying, well, but it did fail, because I'm not with the person that I loved. And what I want you guys to do is I want you to go back to the scripture and I want you to really say, was this love really patient? Was it kind?

Did it keep no wrong records? Because it did give up. It wouldn't have failed if it was true love. True love doesn't give up. It doesn't abandon you, it doesn't leave, it doesn't put you down. It never gives up and endures because Jesus is with us and my best friend that's sitting across from me that literally never gave up on me. Even on my darkest days when it was so hard to love me, she still loved me through those days and saw me as sunshine. That's what unconditional love is.

And that's it. And honestly, like, God really brought you into my life to show whoever, God really brought you into my life to show whoever is going to be my husband better show me the capacity of love that you show me. I swear, he tells me that all the time. He's like, the way she loves you, that's how your husband's going to love you. And he better match up to that. So whoever comes into my life better match up to her love. Same, same, you are the embodiment of love, you really are.

And I even think about the thing that happened the other day, and then I come back and you could have easily been like, you know what, I wanna sit and I wanna talk about this and I wanna harp on it and I want you to understand what you did wrong and blah, blah, blah, and I want you to understand what you did wrong and about blah, blah, blah and I want you to grovel and ask for forgiveness and you literally were just like, I love you. I love you, that's it.

You know, that's true love and you know what, our, I don't know who they are or where they are, but I am putting a flag in the ground right now and I am saying we are going to have the most beautiful love stories that anyone has ever seen. I believe. I'm in agreement.

I believe in for it and you guys too. It's out there, don't settle, but also don't give up hope. They're out there and I believe, I just believe in true love and I believe in a love that makes you feel good. Not just makes you feel good, it's also a love that makes you more like Jesus, but not a love that puts you down, not a love that gives up, not a love that makes you question everything about yourself. That's not love. Some of the Christians may say, oh, Jesus is all you need and just He's all the love you need.

And while that is true, we still have the right to have moments of feeling scared and feeling lonely. And there is nothing wrong with that. And I don't want anyone to feel shame of that. When Jesus said to, I was reading the story of the Samaritan woman the other day, and I don't want anyone to feel shame of that. When Jesus said to, I was reading the story of the Samaritan woman the other day, and He says, when He says, if you drink from my water, you will never thirst again. Some of us, we are searching for something to fill the void in our lives because it's been missing as little kids, so we're searching for love in other people when we need to first search it in Jesus, because we truly will never thirst again. And once we find that love in Jesus, we won't settle.

We won't settle anymore for people that put us down, for people that are irritable, for people that are giving us half love. We won't settle for it. And so I know that it's hard and I know that some nights can be so lonely, but find your footing with Jesus first. Find it. I know some days are gonna be hard and it's gonna be longer maybe than expected,

but keep going, keep learning, keep understanding who he is and his love, and he will fill you with so much love that when that person comes, you'll just know, and you will not settle for counterfeits. You will not settle for counterfeits anymore. I like that. We can keep going around in the cycle of trying to fill the void, counterfeits anymore. I like that.

We can keep going around in the cycle of trying to fill the void, and we keep going from relationship to relationship to relationship, but we have no idea who we are, so we won't be able to be our best selves for our person. But once we find our footing in Jesus and we have that solid rock of foundation, we are gonna be patient, we are gonna be caring,

we are gonna be gentle, we are gonna be caring, we are gonna be gentle, we are gonna have better understanding for people, we are gonna be the best versions of ourselves. So when that person comes in, it's going to be godly, it's going to be beautiful, and we're gonna attract the most perfect person. Amen. So good.

I pray that you would experience the love of the Father in a way that you never have before. I pray that wherever you are right now watching this or listening to this, that Jesus himself would pour his love into your heart, that he would wash you in his love, that you would experience the love of the Father in a way you never have, and it would be impossible after this to ever settle for anything less than what God has for you. I pray that His love would encapsulate you, that it would absolutely tear down every misconception you have of who He is, that it would invade your heart, that God's love would touch the innermost parts of your heart that need healing,

that you don't even know are there, and that it would change you, that it would change the way that you move through life, that you walk through life, and that you would be different from this point forward because of God's love. We love you guys. Talk about love. We love you guys. Talk about love, we love you.

So much. Yeah, talk about love. We love you guys so much. We're all in this together. Isn't it crazy how we're all growing as a family? We're going through all these stages of life together. Singleness, sadness, we're just all. Joy too.

Joy, okay, yeah, joy. Can we talk about something? We were just talking, we were like, we were in such a season of sadness. It's time for joy. Jesus wants us to have joy. Joy, joy, joy. We pray for your guys' joy. We love you so much. May the Lord bless you and keep you. May he make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you. May the Lord turn his face towards you and give you peace, love, patience, gentleness, meekness, joy, joy. We love you guys so much.