Girls Gone Bible - Victory Over Heartbreak | Girls Gone Bible

Episode Date: October 13, 2023

hi GGB fam! join us today as we talk about how to have VICTORY over HEARTBREAK. last week, we talked about the pain and heaviness that comes from break ups & heartbreak. this week, we talk about how to overcome that pain. we hope this episode uplifts you, inspires you, and motivates you. most importantly, we hope you realize that we have victory over every single heartbreak through Jesus. "But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ." 1 Corinthians 15:57 we love you so much. Jesus loves you more. -Ang & Ari if you’d like to support Girls Gone Bible 🙏🏻🕊️🤍 Paypal- https://www.paypal.me/girlsgonebibleinfo Venmo- https://www.venmo.com/u/girlsgonebible

Are we I'm just wondering if we're good because recently you've been calling me Angela a lot and you don't call me Angie like you used to and I'm wondering you told me that I look fake when we say hi no that's not what I said I didn't say you look fake when did i say that i said you said when we start the show you go hi oh no i told you last night not that you sound fake i do a fake smile what do i do you just get excited so you're like no that's not what you said i would never call you fake. Don't blow up my spot like this. Cheers. What's up, guys? Hi, guys.

Hi, GGB gang. So today we are having a little fun. We are going to answer a lot of questions. We're going to go off the cuff. We're going to continue our conversation from last week or whatever week that episode is released after the breakups and soul ties episode. is released after the breakups and soul ties episode, we really want to focus today on how to have victory over heartbreak. Because while heartbreak and heartache is very common and it's painful and it's dark and it's heavy, we have victory over all of that, just like everything else in life. We have victory over it through Jesus.

So we're going to do that today. We're going to have a little fun. What I do. What I do while you are gone, cry. Just kidding. I have been. What have I been doing? Working out, going to 7-Eleven, getting protein bars.

She goes to 7-Eleven. So I'm going to apply at 7-Eleven. So I have like specific protein bars that I like, and they have them at 7-Eleven. And Ari gets really mad at me because she's like, why don't you just go to the store and buy a pack of them? And I don't know why I get a thrill from walking into 7-Eleven every single day to get a protein bar, but I physically can't get myself to buy a box. It's a thrill for her to go to 7-Eleven three times a day. It's weird.

No, I'm telling you, it's my OCD. Now I'm stuck on 7-Eleven. I broke my creation addiction. Now I'm on 7-Eleven. She comes running creation addiction. Now I'm on 7-Eleven. She comes running in the car all excited. She goes, I just signed up for the rewards for 7-Eleven. I signed up for the rewards the other day. And I was like, can 7-Eleven sponsor us?

Does that work? So we're going to read some Psalms today. I love Psalms so much. Book of Psalms is like, it's poetry, but it's also prayer and it's direct like conversation with Jesus, with God. And I just, I really love psalms. So let's go to one of my absolute favorites. Psalm 23. I do have this one memorized, but I'm not gonna I'm not gonna show off can you guys stander so Psalm 23

the Lord the shepherd of his people the Lord is my shepherd I shall not want he makes me to lie down in green pastures he leads me beside

the still waters he restores my soul he leads me in the paths of righteousness for his namesake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil. For you are with me, your rod and your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil. My cup runs over.

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever. So this Psalm 23 is a psalm of trust, and it's like a declaration of putting your trust in God and in his way for you and in his will and his path for you. And I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever. I pray this over myself every single day. I really encourage you guys to pray scripture over yourself. I think it's so powerful. And prayer can be a conversation between you and God and it should be a conversation. But I think bringing scripture into it is really powerful. Yeah. Yeah. No, it is. I actually was just listening to a podcast right before I got in the car,

and then you just said those words. It was meant to be that you need to incorporate scripture in your prayers. It's really, really important. I love that. I love that. You have to stop what do you love I love that you

I love that that was I'm not being fake I love that you just you guys I'm so sorry sometimes I'll literally say like my grandfather died and her head will be somewhere else and she'll be like I love that so much I'm like what do you love? Are you listening? Sometimes my mind is jumbled. Okay.

I really love this Psalm. It's Psalm 91. It's safety of abiding in the presence of God. He who dwells in the secret place of the most high shall abide under the shadow of the almighty. in the secret place of the Most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, He is my refuge and my fortress. My God and Him I will trust. Surely He shall deliver you from the snare of the fowler and from the perilous pestilence. He shall cover you with His feathers, and under His wings you shall take refuge. His truth shall be your shield and buckler. You shall not be afraid of the terror by night, nor of the arrow that flies by day, nor of the pestilence that walks in the darkness, nor of the destruction that lays waste at noonday. A thousand may fall by your side and ten thousand at your right hand, but it shall not come near you.

Only with your eyes shall you look and see the reward of the wicked. Because you have made the Lord who is my refuge, even the most high your dwelling place, no evil shall befall you, nor shall any plague come near your dwelling. For he shall give his angels charge over you to keep you in all your ways. In their hands they shall bear you up, lest you dash your foot against a stone. You shall tread upon the lion and the cobra the young lion and the serpent you shall trample underfoot because he has set his love upon me therefore i will deliver him i will set him on high because he has known my name

he shall call upon me and i will answer him i will be with him in trouble. I will deliver him and honor him. I long life. I will satisfy him and show him my salvation. That is beautiful. How powerful. I will be with him in trouble. And I love how he says he will have angels to lift you up and to be there. I felt that throughout my whole heartbreak just angels supporting me carrying me through bringing me through it so we got a lot of comments about how our video last

week that was on breakups a lot of people were saying yes this is all great but you guys mostly spoke from the place of if you were the one that was broken up with and how to deal with that. And they were like, what if you're the one who has to end the relationship? In my life, my actually experience in breakups has usually been me having to walk away from the relationship. It is its own, you know, unique situation of being broken up with. It's also extremely painful to have to walk away from something, especially when you don't want to. Of course. And I've had to do that so many times, especially the last few years when I got really close to God. Because when I was younger, I would stay in relationships. Like I've

had like four year long relationships and that's a long time to be with somebody to ultimately not end up with them. And that's a long time to be with someone and then to be like walking away from them all of a sudden. And then when I got really close to God, I feel like I haven't had that long of a relationship since then because I listened to God and I let him guide my relationships. And so they end a lot sooner because I, I, you know, look for his guidance and his opinion on what's going on. That's so good. And I know I, I think I've said it on here before, but like romantic relationships are probably the area of my life that I am most submitted to God in.

Because we know that whoever you pick as your partner is you will become just like them. I mean, it will dictate the quality of your life for the rest of your life. Yeah. And so it's really important and I'm really aware of that and I really want to make a good decision. So anytime that I feel like God doesn't want me to be with someone, I walk away from them and I've walked away from people that I loved deeply with my whole heart, people that I've wanted to marry. And I just knew that they weren't for me. So I walked away. And that's really,

it's really hard to do. I think if you have done that, you should give yourself a pat on the back because it is not easy. It's not. Yeah. You know, but that is the beauty of being close to God. He will tell you sooner or later where you don't waste the time of someone and things like that. Yeah. Yeah. So that's a great point that you just made. Yeah. I think I, in the past, would hold on to things because I didn't have the strength to leave them. I didn't have the strength to separate myself from somebody who had become so much of me.

And then being close to God, I can't get away from the conviction. I can't get away. I understand that when I'm not having peace in a relationship, it's because God's not being close to God, I can't get away from the conviction. I can't get away. I can't, I understand that when I, when I'm not having peace in a relationship, it's because God's not giving me that peace. Um, and I think everything could be right in a relationship. Like everything could be good on paper, but when you don't have that peace, all right, GGB gang, I have a question. Did you guys know that bedsheets can harbor more bacteria than a toilet seat? It's absolutely disgusting. It can lead to acne. It can lead to

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Thank you, Miracle Made, for sponsoring this video. Well, and two also is you may be experiencing not peace because you don't have peace within yourself. And I know for me, like that was one of the biggest things in my relationships is I didn't have peace within, so how could I have possibly given everything to somebody else? I didn't know God. I didn't have peace. So I couldn't give anything. I constantly had this empty feeling in my heart. And so then he'll separate you guys and then you focus on him, you find yourself. And then if that

is your person, they'll bring you back. If not, then that wasn't the person for you. Yeah. You can't pour into somebody when you don't have anything to pour. It's so true. You really can't. That's why it's so crucial to find God before anything else. Chase God's heart before anyone else, anyone else's. A hundred percent. You can't like, I don't know. I just, I, I really, I'm at a place in my life where I, I really want to be poured into. Yeah. Like you want to be led. Yeah, I do. And I, I want to experience and, and I am right now. Thank you, Jesus. But like, I don't know. I feel like in the past I've had a lot of situations where I was simply just pouring into the other people.

And that's a really hard place to be, especially as a woman, where you want to be led and you want to be, you know, like taking care of emotionally and mentally. Yeah. What do you think your victory was after your biggest heartbreak? What would you say your victory was after your biggest heartbreak? What would you say your victory was? Honestly, my biggest situation would probably be a time where I had to walk away with somebody that I loved so much. And I did not think that I was going to be able to do it. Like every day, you know how when someone is like a recovering alcoholic or something, they say take it day by day. Like you just want to stay sober today. That's how I was in the beginning. I was like, as long as I don't answer them today, like we'll take it day by day because

I didn't know. And it was only by, it's like my, truly my biggest victory because I was so, it was so interesting what God took me through. And some people may have said like this person was sent from the enemy because they were bad. But what was the, what was the, what were they do? Like you have to go into what they were doing, but what do you mean not answering them? Like, so yeah, they were reaching out. They were reaching out constantly for a long time. And I had to actively ignore these messages. You know, and I, but I wanted to answer and I couldn't because I knew that that's not what God wanted for me. And some people would look at the situation and say, this person was sent by the enemy. I know that this person was sent by God to practice, help me practice the art

of detachment and the art of listening to God and relying on his will. That is, even if it's completely against what my heart and my flesh want. And so this person, I like, I didn't know if I was going to make it. I didn't know if I was going to be able to follow through with it, but it was the first time that I really, truly surrendered to God. And I, and I submitted to his will that was directly in opposition to what I actually wanted. And it was like God orchestrated all these like tests kind of like I'm going to test you today. Let's see if you – and I passed every single time. It was incredible.

And after that, me and God's relationship grew so much during that time because I trusted him with all my heart. It was the first time that I really trusted him with my whole being like, I don't like what this looks like, but I know it's what you want. So let's go through it. And it's the best thing that ever happened. You know? That is a victory. Yeah. And then you came on the other side of it.

And now you know, like you have boundaries now. Oh, absolutely. And I just know that I know that if God doesn't want something from me, I should listen to him. And it's so hard to explain the voice of when you should listen to God, because a lot of people don't understand that voice. Yeah, I think that voice is when God is showing you red signs, red signs, showing you red flags that you're ignoring. Yeah. And it's like, it's so weird. Why do we ignore things?

I don't know. And that's why we have to let go of people with potential. Yeah. You know, you keep like pushing things under the rug. I mean, that's what I kept doing. Yeah. Oh, well, maybe this will. Oh, he'll come around.

Yeah. It will change. Yeah. No, it never changes. Yeah. You got to let go of people like that because you're just going to waste your time. Yeah. You have to you have to accept people.

We talk about this a lot where we're like we have to accept people for who they are. And if you don't like who they are first of all this is the thing about relationships is whoever somebody is in that moment that you're with them if you guys end up together and you get married and you spend the rest of your lives everything about them that is annoying to you is only gonna get worse I remember my like fifth grade teacher said something like that and it always stuck with me um because you have to like you have to find somebody who's annoying i said this to you last night yeah i said this to ari last night because i was like like you know we literally fight like sisters um but last night ari i i heard her she goes i'm like

putting on my skincare she stayed at my house last night and then she's like hey do i from the bathroom she goes hey do i have a toothbrush here and i go no you don't but i have like a couple of extras oh so near and then i hear i know she's using my electric toothbrush i go like this she comes out and she's laughing because she knows that i'm gonna be annoying one person i wear shoes no she she she literally will wear my clothes and then I will lose makeup. And as soon as I noticed that something is missing, I'll call her and I'll be like, where's my Dior blush? Where's my mascara? Cause I know it's in your bag. And so I, but after that toothbrush thing happened, I literally looked at you and I was like, see,

this is what a lasting relationship looks like. You have to find someone who might be, who is going to annoy you, but you still like them. You still love them. Yeah. Their quirks become cute. Yeah, exactly. So how did we even get here? I don't know, but it's a good point.

I mean, you're always going to have things that annoy you. Nothing's going to be perfect. But how do you deal with having to walk away from somebody or like how do you build up the courage to be able to? Just what you said. Talk to God about it. Know if it's the right thing, if it's if you know that you have to leave and you do it with with respect. Yeah. You know, you really go to that person with respect. I mean,

you spend so much time with someone and then you have to walk away. I've had to do it many times too. It's very hard, but I don't know. I think I'm growing into a woman now, so I'm a lot different. My mentality is different. I'm different. So I know pretty quickly. And I don't know. It's just, you just know. I know very quickly now. Me too. I love what you just said. Sorry, go ahead. No, I'm not. I was going to say, I love what you said about the disrespect or about the respect, about how to have respect and like dignity and grace when you walk away. I think when you're not relying on God's voice and what he wants for you, you will end up staying in relationships longer than you should. And when you do that, a lot of the time it ends up in flames. And I've experienced that multiple

times where I wasn't listening to God. I wasn't listening to the little inklings that he was giving me that this is not right. This isn't going to end well. Yeah. And me and this person could have had like a great love and respect for one another. But I always say this. It's better to dock the ship before it sinks. It's better to let something go before it gets volatile or before there's so much resentment or, you know. Yeah.

When you let things fester like that, it's just not, it won't end well. Yeah. I mean, I, I don't really get into relationships. Like I'm so, if I let someone into my life, it's, it's a big deal. Like I don't just let anyone into my life. So I don't know. It's, it's hard, but the worst thing you can ever do is prolong something and waste somebody's time for years on end. So you really, that's why it's so good to chase after God's heart before you chase after someone else's. Yeah. Yeah. That's why I'm so glad that I spent this year just with God.

Yeah. Please don't waste anybody's time. Yeah. That's not a good thing. Guys, we have a really fun game today. It's called Daily Bible Trivia. Have fun studying the Bible with daily trivia and challenge your knowledge of scripture. You guys know that I'm a little bit obsessed with Bible knowledge.

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You're just going to go to the Apple or Google store and search for Daily Bible Trivia. Download Daily Bible Trivia today and get ready to flex your brain muscles. Thanks, Daily Bible Trivia. Because I didn't write down the questions, but reading through them, a lot of them was on forgiveness. Yeah. You know, and I think that is the one thing that is going to free you. It's the hardest thing. It really is the most difficult thing to do.

But forgiveness is key. Yeah. It's going to free your mind, your soul. is key. It's going to free your mind, your soul. I always think back to that story of Jesus when he was getting hung on the cross and how not once did he want revenge on all those people. He just kept saying, Father, forgive them for they don't know what they're doing. And we all want to live a life like Jesus and be like him. And I think when it comes to when somebody hurts us, or we're going through such brokenness, we have to say to ourselves, I don't have to grovel and crawl to God when I need forgiveness. So why wouldn't I give that same person that? And it's

hard. I know we all want revenge sometimes, like if we want to be real. And that doesn't mean forgiving someone doesn't mean looking over. Forgiving someone doesn't mean looking past their behavior, what they did. But it says, I'm going to give this to God and let him handle it, not by revenge, but with compassion. So having compassion and forgiveness is going to free you. It's going to free you. You just go to the Lord and just be like, Lord, they don't know they're left from their right. You take care of it. You handle it. You know best. But to sit there and have such a sick heart and just ruminate everything they did and how bad it was. And it's going to keep you stuck, you guys. And I said this in the last episode, but the longer you stay stuck and sick and dwell is the longer

you're going to, it's going to just prolong what God really does have for you. And once we really understand that he has a plan, He's doing this all for a reason, that's when we can seriously rest and have compassion for them and let it go. Yeah. I really love that about forgiveness because I feel like through the questions and everything, all the comments we got, a reoccurring theme with people is bitterness. and everything, all the comments we got, a reoccurring theme with people is bitterness. Bitterness is the result of heartbreak and heartache that has never been healed. I think that heartbreak turns into bitterness and bitterness stops you from receiving the blessings that God has for you. Bitterness is truly the worst thing. It's so ugly.

Like it just shows up in the ugliest of ways. When you're bitter, you will be incapable of being happy for other people. When you're bitter, you will be incapable of seeing the goodness that you could have in your life because you're so stuck on the past. There's a story in the Bible about how Lot's wife, they were leaving the city and God had told Lot's wife, whatever you do, just don't look back. Just don't look back. And she looked backwards. She disobeyed God, looked backwards, and she turned into a pillar of salt. And this situation is like a very exaggerated situation, but like, I think God is making,

he's illustrating how detrimental it can be to you when you are constantly looking backwards and looking to the past and looking at what was and what could have been. And God is sitting there. I think it's almost like disrespectful to God to constantly be looking backwards because he promises us a future and a hope. And we're not believing him. and we're being like, you actually don't have something good for me. This was what was good and I want to go back there. And I just, I want to be somebody who believes in what God says he has for me in the future. It's not back there. That's gone. It's gone. You move on. You let it go. Oftentimes he brings you through that breakup to show you faith, to teach you faith, to develop your character and to show you how to just really trust him and have faith. Yeah. And how I think, too, he brings us through breakups and betrayals and like, you know, situations when people do us wrong because he really shows us man will always fail you.

They will always leave you. They will always abandon you. They'll always disappoint you. They'll always come up short. But I, God says, will never leave you nor forsake you. He's never going to disappoint us. Yeah, and that's another thing I go back to compassion. You know, we get so mad at God when he takes things from us or breaks us down to the point

where we can't even get out of bed any morning. But what I learned through my brokenness is He really did break me down, not because He wanted to hurt me. It was out of compassion. He's such a compassionate God that He needed to build me into this woman that I am today. Truly, I wouldn't be able to sit here right now and talk like this and be vulnerable and have confidence. Through my brokenness, I truly am built into the woman I am right now. And my why God became my thank you God. Truly, it really did. And I just encourage everyone that's feeling broken and down, just keep going. Yeah. That's, that was my victory in this. My victory is that I just kept going. Yeah. On the days where it was, it was hard to even take a shower or get out of bed. I kept going. Yeah.

You know, like I couldn't even get out of bed without saying Jesus in the morning. I would just be like, Jesus, Jesus. And by the grace of God, he just kept carrying me through. He is your strength. Yeah. And you can either make the decision to just sit in it. And I mean, I know someone very personally who didn't leave the house for many years because they stayed so stuck in their pain. And it's sad. And it's really sad. So we have that option. And when I kept going, I was realizing what God

was doing. And I was like, okay, okay, I know what He's doing. So I got to keep going. And He was just trying to help me and to change my life and to build me and to bring me to my purpose. So, yeah, just keep going. He knows what he's doing. He knows what he's doing, and he doesn't want, like, you don't have to stay stuck where you are. God is sitting there waiting, waiting. He's literally, like, knocking on your door every day being like, I have so much for you. Come with me.

Get out of this situation. Stop looking backwards. Stop looking where you are and look forward. Look to me and like, let's get out of this thing together. You are not meant to be stuck in this heartache that you're living in right now. God is there to pull you out and you just have to receive that. You have to receive his hand and help. Just like when he reached down when Peter was drowning

and he took, he just gave him his hand and took him out and got him out of the water. Like that is what God is waiting to do for you. You just have to let him. So good. Like I love that scripture, be still and know that I am your God. That doesn't mean be quiet. It just means let go because God is in control. He's in control. And I never knew that before. I thought I was in control. I thought I had to figure it all out. And the minute I knew that I didn't have to figure it out anymore and that I had a God, a father that was in control of my life, I could let go. And the pain subsided. And I got to just rest and relax and know that he's going to bring me exactly what I need. And if he's going to take something away from me, no matter how much I want it or love it, it's for a reason. He saw things I couldn't see.

Another way to have victory over heartbreak and whatever you're going through is something that a lot of us do. And it's really normal. It's like basic psychology that when you leave a situation or they leave you, whatever it was, you will naturally have an inclination to look at the good. You have to stop glorifying the person that you were with. You have to stop. You have to. You notice how Angela's looking

guilty that's all I do yeah well I mean it's really normal you you look back and for some reason all you can think about is how amazing they were and all the good things and you're like oh remember that time that we went ice skating and this and that and you're you're you've like created this exaggerated um story narrative in your head about how incredible it was while not even thinking about the fact that you guys fought the whole way there and the whole way home. And there are a lot of therapists and psychologists say that when you go through a breakup, you should write a cons list. You should write a list of why these people weren't good

for you. And I really agree with that. And then you look at it every time you sit there and you're having this exaggerated story of why they were so great and so perfect. And it's such a loss. And it's, I'm never going to find anybody like them. And then you can go through. Luckily, me and Ari have each other for that. We have something called pep talks. And our pep talks is basically, if we're going through a situation, we call and we're like. Talk about the facts. Give me the facts. What is the real.

Because my mind is talking to me crazy and making me think that I. This situation is this. But really, what is it? Remind me. And we will sit there and go through a list of the facts about the situation. And we'll and we'll be like, whatever you're thinking is not real. It's not real um so i'm not sitting there and saying to like sit and villainize the person absolutely not but you

have to focus on the facts what are the facts it wasn't all daisies and roses yes absolutely i am so guilty of that you guys you have no no idea. I will self-blame. I will be like, but they were. And I did. Sometimes I'll be like, but they were. You know, this would be amazing. And I'm like, huh? What?

What? Say it again. What? I'm like, who? Who are you talking about? Because I don't know if you're seeing this person correctly. It's incredible what the mind will do. And the last thing I would say is truly, please listen, guard your heart. Yeah. Says it in the Bible for a reason so that if something

doesn't work out, you don't leave this relationship being absolutely destroyed yeah I mean it's one thing I really learned you you give so much to someone that you put them before God and then you know it ends and you're just like you have no identity and you're feeling worthless and just horrible I'm just like this is the truth and this is honestly the way that I operate. I know it's easier said than done, but this is really how I feel. Relationships are not the end all be all of life. We put so much emphasis on it when there's actually so many things that are just as, if not more important. It's really not the end of the world. You let the story, you let the story go, the chapter closes, and you look for

the beautiful thing that, things that God has ahead of you. That's why it's so important to stay single. I enjoy it. Like, I truly, I truly, like, love being with myself. I love being single. It's the best. It really is. Like, it's, of course, I want love, and I want to be a wife and a mother, but if you can seriously stand on your own, you're golden. A hundred percent. I mean, just keep, if you're single or you're in your waiting season, you just chase after God, be with God, and he will provide. Take rest in that.

And honestly, when you want a relationship, it's mostly because you want love. You want attention. You want affection. You want validation. And we all want that that we all want love but guess what there's no attention love affection and validation that is more consistent better or more pure than god's or stronger like that's honestly you you're not missing out because you can get all these things from god in fact you get them even better because people are not able to satisfy you the way that God can. And if you keep looking and other people for that, you're going to live your whole life and marriages, relationships with this emptiness

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I, that's honestly my favorite part, I think, of my relationship with Jesus, other than He is the Lord of my life and I have a great respect and reverence for him. I am a victorious winner through Jesus. I have victory through Jesus. Like I can do all things through him who strengthens me. He gives me the ability to never be a victim to any heartbreak that I'm going to experience. I know. And you just like, I don't know. I just don't you just feel so fulfilled? I feel so fulfilled. Like, yeah, listen, my life isn't perfect. I go through pain. I go through, you know, heartache. I it doesn't mean the pain is going to go away. I struggle. But it's you just feel so filled up.

And to know that you don't need another person to do that for you and you don't need to put your identity into someone. It is the most freeing feeling in the world. Yeah. It's freedom. And it's just I don't know. just I glow different I look different I feel different it's incredible yeah yeah I'm a Jesus freak me too truly I love him so much he gives us everything we could possibly need but it's true I I spent my my like since I was 16 doing that like really putting my identity into relationships and giving my all. And, and it's just, it's never going to work. It's never going to work until you chase Jesus. Truly. Yeah. I think for me, I've really gotten good at, I don't put so much emphasis on my

romantic relationships. Like I love the person that I'm with so much, but that's not my, the, that's not the ruler of my life. No, no, it should, it should never be. Absolutely not. And, and it's so much happier and healthier that way. Like I just, I, there's so many more important things in life to me. Like serving God is absolutely the number one, helping people, bringing people to Jesus. That's what matters. Yeah. We get so blinded because our egos get all crazy when it comes to romantic relationships. But that's why they all fail because you make them the God.

Yeah. And that's why they fail. Yeah. When relationships should literally just be a means to serve God together and like better as a union. Yeah. And just to make each other better. We got so many questions just being like, I'm so broken.

And I just want to tell you guys this. In the midst of your brokenness, I encourage you to do these things. Pray, trust, release, and have peace. Pray and pour it all out to God. He will meet you in your messiness. You don't, your prayers do not have to be tidy. Trust that he is so good. Trust that he is working everything out, even when you don't know or understand it. Release it all to him. Release the desire to fix it. Release the desire to control it. Release the desire to understand why they did what they did.

God sees it and he will intervene and fix it. And we have to go back to the truth and the truth is in the scripture. I have plans for you not to harm you, but to prosper you. Plans to give you a hope and a future. If God wants you to have something, there is nothing you can say or do that will take it away from you. Someone wrote in and said, I love what you said about someone who is like, you know, iffy and rocky. Someone said, why does he keep coming back but not taking it serious? Why does he keep coming back but not taking serious?

Well, first of all, you're letting him come back when he's not being serious. That's the number one thing. Why would you even entertain the idea of somebody who's not being serious with you? Here's what I know. If someone wants to walk away from you as hard as it is, don't let the door hit you on the way out. And unless they come back and they are so sincere and you see it in their eyes and they're just like, I made the biggest mistake of my life. And they show you not with their words, but with their actions that they are going to change for the better for you. That's the only way you give someone a chance. But if they're just coming back and sending you a text or whatever it

is, don't even waste your time. You're just going to be damaged and hurt. I just really have so much encouragement for anyone who's in a situation where they're with somebody who is like one foot in, one foot out, or they're in a situation where they don't feel the person is being completely for them and about them. Like you don't ever even give somebody a chance who's not completely about you. And like, you've got, they've got to be making it known. They've got, it's got to be obvious and you've got to feel it and you've got to know it. And you never stay in a situation that somebody is making you constantly doubt and question whether they want to be with you. You should have, like your romantic relationship should be not easy because

no relationships are easy, but you should certainly not be sitting there all day long wondering, having anxiety if this person is actually about you or not. You know what I mean? It's so true. And that's why it's so important to learn your value. And you learn your value, you know how you learn your value? Through God. God will show you your valley. Valley. God will show you your value. It's so true. Yeah. You just focus on him and he will show you exactly who you are. When you're in true relationship with God, I really, truly believe this. You will be incapable of not being able to see your value when you really know what he says about you. When you have him in your heart, like we feel truly like we are of infinite value. Like I am God's daughter. Like I have so much value that I'm not going to settle for

anybody that's not being good to me or that's not being all about me or being intentional in pursuing me or taking care of me or do, you know what I mean? Being good to me. I used to look past so much stuff that now that I've started my relationship with God, I'm like, how did I put up with that? Yeah. How in the world did I put up with that? You know, and it's not being ignorant. It's knowing your value.

Yeah. So if you do not understand your value, which i was there so don't i give you so much grace yeah just focus on him and stay single until you till you have that solid 100% your value i love that i love that so much i really do i know i like it um why can't i get over someone i have loved for 10 years often on toxic yo-yo cycle 10 years my girl it's because you it's a lot I'll tell you why you can't get over it because it's been off and on you haven't nipped it in the bud yeah that's right for you yeah okay um when you keep going back like we were talking about,

when you keep looking back, you're going to keep getting hurt. And God isn't going to, when he sees you keep making the wrong decision, there's only so much he can do. He'll give you signs and put you in the right direction. But if you keep going back, then you're just going to keep hurting yourself. If you keep choosing toxic, it's like, yes, God is sovereign and he is Lord and he will orchestrate and do things in your life. But at the same time, you have free will. And if you're 10 years of, I have so much grace for you because I get it. And that happens to us as a product of our upbringing and the love we had as children

or the lack thereof. Like it's really, it's psychological why these things happen and why we accept stuff lack thereof like it's it's really it's psychological why these things happen and why we accept stuff like that but it's it's wrong it's really wrong god does not want you being in a toxic situation for me personally i've actually never gone through a breakup and gotten back with somebody not once i am like like a real breakup you know what i mean i've never gotten back with an ex because I know that it's in the past. Nothing's changed. You know what I mean? People don't change that much. If I have an understanding, like we broke up for a reason, I'm not going to keep doing that now.

If God brings them back to me, that's another story, but that's never happened. Yeah, yeah, yeah. If you're choosing to go back to something that you know isn't good for you, I pray in the name of Jesus that you, that it breaks right now and that you have the strength to move on in the maturity. And how do you find the strength? Through Jesus. Through Jesus. Just keep focusing on him.

I know that sounds repetitive. It's really repetitive, but it's the truth. But I wish I had two girls when I was in my, you know, teens or 20s to just young 20s to be like, just keep focusing on Jesus. Oh, my gosh. I love this so much. Do we have to throw away any object that makes me remind? Sorry. Do we have to throw away any object that reminds me of this bad relationship?

Oh. A hundred percent. Get rid of it. Get rid of everything i okay this is gonna get super spiritual and super supernatural but i really believe in it and i really believe it's true i believe that things that if you hold on to something of somebody else's it will also like contribute to having a soul tie with somebody i have a friend who one day she was texting me and she was telling me like, I'm really, I'm heartbroken over this guy. I'm not feeling good. Like I can't

stop thinking about him. I'm, I'm, I'm waking up throughout the night, having dreams of him, all this stuff. And I'm texting her back and I'm praying for her through text. And I'm like, I don't know why, but I, I just, I see you right now in my head as like, you're right here. And then I see all these like spirits, like these demons, like surrounding you, like tens of them surrounding you and pulling on you. Like, I just see all these things pulling on you. She goes, Angela, I swear this is a true story. She goes, Angela, I can't believe it. Let me show you what I'm wearing right now.

She sends me a photo of a t-shirt that she's wearing. She's not even aware of the fact that her T-shirt is this guy, this really bad person that she's talking about who is really bad to her that she has this soul tie with. She sends me a photo of the shirt. It's this guy's and it's like kind of like a skeleton or like some sort of figure in the middle with all these figures around it pulling on it. No way. I swear. I swear. And she was like, I can't believe she's like, how did you

see that? I'm like, I don't know. I don't know. But like, that's what I see is happening to you. Like you're just being pulled by all this stuff. And that's why you have no peace. She took that, she threw it away. She had a candle that this person gave to her. She threw that away. And she realized she had all this stuff in her bedroom that was that belonged to this person and she's having dreams about him all night yeah it's it's a really weird thing to even comprehend in your mind but it does yeah it does throw out your ex-boyfriend's sweatshirt I know it brings you comfort that you wear it I've done it I've done it I've held on and been like no I've like no I've I've like had a sweatshirt that I slept in and then had bad dreams and all night. It's real. Get rid of everything. If you want to move on for real,

which I encourage you to move on, throw it out, get rid of it. Guys, I'm so sorry to anyone who's going through a broken heart. I really just have it on my heart to say that, but I promise you, I promise you, just get ready. This is about to be the best. You're about to really come into your own and miracles are going to happen. And one thing I can assure you of is that God is not going to take away anything that's meant for you. Never. I've said it like a hundred times this episode but it's the truth it's the truth yeah and just i don't know god has so god when god thinks about you in your life he thinks about so much more than the person you're with like truly he he just he he has so much in store for you and we are so micro focused on our romantic relationship when there's a world

of opportunity outside of that. So put less pressure on it. And there were mornings where I didn't even think I could come out of it. And when I started to read scripture and realize how real it was, that's the truth, remember? And scripture said, and God is faithful. He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. It's the truth. And when I knew that he wasn't going to give me anything that I couldn't handle, I moved differently. I was like, okay, he knows I can handle this. It's for a reason. So that's how I was able to keep going. And honestly, you have to look at it in the sense that in these hard times, especially when you have to make a hard decision, like to leave somebody,

to break up with somebody, to end a relationship that God doesn't want for you, you are going to, while it's painful, while there's anxiety, you are going to grow so much. And it's such a, like, there's so much room for victory in that situation between you and God and it will strengthen your relationship with God and it'll strengthen your dependence and your reliance on God. Just love you guys so much. And, you know, even though we can't answer a lot of your DMs, we are constantly praying for each and every one of you guys because we know what you're going through. And we know there's so many people that watch us that are just feeling so broken.

We read all your comments on YouTube, by the way. And you have no idea how it makes our hearts feel. God, we love you guys so much. Yeah, the biggest blessing in our lives. So every time we read these comments about what you're going through and how broken you are, we're constantly, you're in our prayers. And I hope you guys know that. And I just hope you guys know that you're not alone and how broken you are. We're constantly, you're in our prayers. And I hope you guys know that. And I just hope you guys know that you're not alone. And you have two sisters that are sitting right here that have both been so broken and so alone and so isolated.

And we came out of it. And if we can come out of it, you can too. Oh, yeah. You guys, you need to understand one thing about the God that you serve. He is a God of truth. He's a God of freedom. He's a God of redemption. He's a God of restoration. There is nothing that you're going through that God cannot heal. There's nothing that is painful in your life that God cannot use for good. He will use every bad thing in your life for good. I swear to you in in Jesus' name.

Jesus' name. You are going to come out on the other side of this. Everything is going to be good. You're good. If you knew how much Jesus loves you and when you know because you're on this journey with us and you probably already do know because you've been on this journey, you're going to rest so much different. Things aren't going to affect you.

Your heart is going to heal. Trust him, trust him, trust him with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge him and he shall direct your paths. If you knew how much God loved you, it would change everything about your life. You would value yourself. You would stop settling. You wouldn't accept the bare minimum. You certainly wouldn't accept abuse. You wouldn't accept anybody being bad to you because you know the way that God loves us is the way that your partner should love you.

We love you so much. We love you. You are our best friends. Yeah. And we'll see you next episode. We'll see. Truly. You're our best friends. Yeah. And we'll see you next episode. We'll see you next episode next week, next Friday. Maybe write in the comments about what... Give us some topics, whatever you guys are thinking that, you know, anything that you guys want to talk about.

We're always looking for topics. Yeah. Love you guys. May the Lord bless you and keep you. May he make his face shine upon you and be gracious to you. May he turn his face towards you and give you peace jesus said peace to you not as the world gives do i give be let your not okay peace we're keeping this in we're keeping that in no because everybody needs to know i don't want to be the only one that messes up what did he say hang on what do you say

he said he said peace be with you not as the world gives do i gives let not your heart be troubled neither let it be afraid hey we don't call this jesus for degenerates for no reason we love you guys we love you god bless you Thank you.