Girls Gotta Eat - Do You Believe in Life After Love? with Comedian Sean Donnelly

Episode Date: November 5, 2018

It's Seany Time! Get ready for another side-splitter with our hilarious friend and comedian Sean Donnelly. He opens up about his divorce, life after it, and whether men can survive without women. Also... on the agenda: Dogs, dating (and dating dogs), comedian life, a shocking food confession from Rayna, and a controversial round of Is This Weird? Enjoy! Follow Sean on Instagram and Twitter @SeanyTime. Follow Girls Gotta Eat @GirlsGottaEatPodcast and check our website for live show dates and merchandise. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Yeah, I'm like, and that's when I realized I wasn't a man. She's like, Revely's a weird, right? Welcome back to another episode of Girls Gotta Eat. Welcome back. Every week when I listen to it, I'm like, sounds the same every week. I love it. My voice at the beginning sounds like very smooth and pretty,
Starting point is 00:00:35 and then by the end, I'm like, rah, rah! It's like my voice the way it changes. No, I like your voice. There's some podcasts I listen to it. I'm like, oh my God, I cannot get through this. This is, I mean, I love my voice. Don't, I love something about yourself.
Starting point is 00:00:49 So weird. So to get into it, I feel like I wanted to talk about this because it's obviously something important in my life. But we never like do a lot of really serious stuff on the show. But there was obviously a really horrible mass murder, massacre in Pittsburgh this week. This is where I grew up. This is the community where I grew up. And I'm so proud to be from there. And it's the temple where I had a bimitsva. It's a very important special place to me. And I was left with this feeling of despair and sadness and I didn't leave the house for a couple days and I kept thinking to myself, what can I do to take action against something like this and to try to make sure that nothing like this ever happens again and to be, you know, gun control is really important. It might not be important to other
Starting point is 00:01:34 people, but what is really important is voting and exercising your right to vote no matter what your beliefs are, it's going to the polls. So tomorrow, guys, I really want to encourage people to just exercise your right as an American, go to the polls, vote, vote good people into office that make good decisions that are going to protect the people of this country. Yeah, I just don't, I can't even get started on gun control. Like, whatever, it's not political. It's we just don't want people to die at school, at dinner, at a church, at a synagogue. I like, I can't, you are going to be the emotional one.
Starting point is 00:02:07 It's insane. We've such a huge problem. So clearly one of the issues that's important. And tomorrow we get to vote for candidates that are not funded by the NRA and that can help someday with the gun epidemic we have in this country. So, and I think that it doesn't even matter. I mean, clearly we know which party is fun about the NRA, but I mean, this is just people not dying, you know, this is just machine guns not being available to civilians and makes
Starting point is 00:02:32 me crazy. Excited for election day. Yeah, me too. And, you know, it's, obviously this is a comedy show, but this week going is really terrible for me. This is my community. This is where I grew up. Your parents got married.
Starting point is 00:02:43 I mean, it's, it's Raina's hometown. It's her synagogue, the tree of life. in Squirrel Hill, Pennsylvania. I mean, and just people were there for a worship service, a brisk. I mean, it's just horrifying. Yeah. And, you know, to think about, like, a day that is really special to be destroyed by such a horrible thing.
Starting point is 00:03:01 So, you know, I thought about, and I talked to my parents a lot about, you know, what can I do because I was left feeling so empty and so anxious. And, you know, I realize I have this platform and it's important to use it. Right. It's, you know, we have all these listeners that I think are smart, educated people. And I want them to exercise their right to vote. and that's what I can do, is encourage other people
Starting point is 00:03:20 and use this platform for a really good thing. So I thought about whether I wanted to talk about this on this show because it is a funny, fun show, but this is something that's really important to me. On a lighter note, guys, tomorrow, I mean, it's a good day. We're going to make it a positive fun day. Tag us in your cute pictures with your voting stickers,
Starting point is 00:03:35 and we're just really excited to hopefully make a difference, make a little bit of an impact on these midterm elections. So excited. I'm excited too. So, yeah, that's all I have to say on that. we can get to the show and have a good time now. Ashley was like, okay, we're not going to spend like a lot of time on this. I'm like, you mentioned gun control.
Starting point is 00:03:52 I'm like, let me tell you something. Also, if you guys, one organization that you can support is called Everytown, and that's a good one if you're like, I feel the same way about gun control. That's just one that I like. And they have a big social media presence, which we know most of you guys do too. So cool. Love them. All right.
Starting point is 00:04:07 Well. Okay. Shake it off. All right, guys. Back to your regularly scheduled programming on Monday. We have a big holiday. show coming up. There might be some tickets left. I don't know. It's almost sold out. I think it's almost sold out. I don't know. December, it's December 17th. It's a Monday. We may have a
Starting point is 00:04:26 couple's show tickets left. If you guys are just getting into this podcast and you want to come see us live, the live shows are so much fun. So much fun. They're a little different than what we do on the show. It's more of a variety show with guests. And we have more live shows coming up throughout the winner. So we'll let you guys know. That's it. Keep rating, reviewing, subscribing, adding us to your Instagram stories. I don't know what else to talk about. Ashley and I were like, what do we talk about today?
Starting point is 00:04:50 Like nothing happened to me this week. Well, we have some stuff going on. We are headed to Chicago this week. So if you're listening to us on Monday, our show in Chicago is Wednesday, the 7th. We're super excited. I can't wait. My whole family's coming.
Starting point is 00:05:04 Yes, you're going to be an only child after the show. Totally disowned. My parents have never listened to the show. So I would have to start the show by explaining to them what the show is. Okay, I don't want to burn all the bits I've written for this show. This is going to be my most epic show explaining to my parents what the show is about. Raina's mom. Hashtag Raina's mom will be there.
Starting point is 00:05:25 Can't wait. We haven't plugged during a while. Literally can't wait. My brother, my sister-in-law. I just can't wait. Yes. So we're so excited to meet you guys in Chicago. I mean, it's one of our favorite cities.
Starting point is 00:05:35 We love it. I can't eat pizza. I'm so excited. Pizza in Chicago? Deep dish? You're a deep-disher? Yes. The more pizza the better.
Starting point is 00:05:43 I've been sitting next to you. I love all of pizza. pizza. I don't discriminate. Deep dish pizza is not pizza. Deep dish pizza. Actually, you know my favorite type of pizza is Detroit style. Oh, it's the best. Which is Emily pizza? Emily's one of my favorites. Well, it's a thicker crust. It's not a shell of carbs filled with cheese and sauce. I'm not mad at that. That's delicious. It's not pizza. It's a pie. Well, what do we eat? Like, what is Chicago's like, like deep dish pizza?
Starting point is 00:06:08 No, but aside, is there anything aside from deep dish? The Chicago dog. The dogs. So there's like a pickle on it. There's tomato. There's, um, pop. Seeds and mustard, they like load that shit up. Well, let's get those. Okay. Go get some cute picks. Oh, and our beanies. Portillo's.
Starting point is 00:06:21 Yes, portilloes. Okay, I've heard of that. Okay, guys, also, we are launching beanies. Raina refuses to acknowledge the beanie. This has been happening for months. I'm wearing a beanie. I refuse to acknowledge the beanie. All right.
Starting point is 00:06:33 Should we talk about this? Okay. This was a couple months ago. Raina wears a beanie every fucking day from October to March. Every day she wears a beanie. The whole time I'm sick. I'm sick from the end of the fall. through the winter, Anna wear a beanie.
Starting point is 00:06:46 So when we were looking at our merch a few months ago, a few months back, I'm like, oh my God, I can't wait for beanie. I'm texting this to Raina, no response. She just, like, address something else in the conversation, like, hey, did you see that text about the beanies? Like, I just, you know, I need a lot of validation
Starting point is 00:06:59 and reactions when I'm texting. Same. And you refuse to address it. So then it turned into a thing. So it's like the second I talk about beanies, Rainier just like turns her head, she addresses something else. She refuses, she's doing it right now. She refuses to discuss the beaniees.
Starting point is 00:07:12 I have them like on me. I have your beanie like for you. You refuse to even look at it. Every time I've seen her, she's had the beanie's in her bag. She refuses to even take it out of my hand. So I'm going to force a beanie on her in Chicago. We're going to get cute beanie hot dog picks. Oh my God.
Starting point is 00:07:29 It's going to be so adorable. And I don't know if you know that. We'll say. TBD. Ashley actually like kills it with the Christmas merch. So we're designing some holiday merchandise for you guys. It'll be limited time holiday merch. We'll let you know when that's out, but it'll be in time for the holidays, as stated.
Starting point is 00:07:46 Single all the way. Single bell, single bell, single all the way. I did a sweatsher like that last year for Bros. Me Basic, so we're going to use it for Girls Got to Eat. Our great designer, Leah, I'm sure she'll come up with something cute. So we are going to Chicago, and when we leave Chicago, I'm headed straight to Charleston. Oh, yeah. So I'm meeting up with some college girlfriends, and the, The trip is because one of my best college girlfriends, she got a divorce, topical.
Starting point is 00:08:18 Today we're talking about divorce. So she got a divorce and her ex-husband is getting remarried. Little fucking fuckface. Little fuck face. So what an amazing thing to do? It would go to one of my favorite cities. Yes. So we were like, he's getting what?
Starting point is 00:08:35 Like, okay, motherfucker. So obviously we're like rallied around her and we're going to do a girl's trip. So, and these are, you know, I have this group of seven girlfriends from college. We, a lot of them still live in the South. We all have to Clemson, so we're doing Charleston. I mean, this is, I guess this is a Bachelorette in your 30s. It's the anti-Bachelorette. It's like an anti-bachelorette.
Starting point is 00:08:52 I love that same. I called it a fuck-your-ex husband trip, but I like anti-bachelorette. You know what I like fuck your ex-husband a little bit more. It just has like a more beautiful ring to it. It's class here. Fuck your ex. But like, you know. Yeah, so it'll be great, you know, but I mean, this is right at my alley.
Starting point is 00:09:07 Oh my God. Just celebrating like shitting all over somebody. weekend. I'm so excited. Oh my God. I should take more trips like that. Like, you know nothing brings like people together more than like commonly hating something together? Like I could have nothing in common with somebody. We might just like hate the same thing and like we're best friends now. Right. So like I don't, I could come on this trip because I hate him too. But come on. You know him. Chicago to Charleston. And also guys, we really love Charleston a lot. And I've spent a ton of time there when I lived in Atlanta. Raina loves it too. So DM us if you're in Charleston and you think we should do a show there
Starting point is 00:09:40 because why not? Well, I don't want that many DMs. Don't DMs a day. What? 700 DMs a day. All right, send them to Ashley at Ashley. So, divorces and all that fun stuff brings us to our topic today a little bit, sort of.
Starting point is 00:09:57 We're so excited to have this day. We are really excited. One of our favorite things is having comedians on the show. We're really excited to have another comic on the show and our first male divorce day. Yes, everyone. Welcome. Sean Donnelly.
Starting point is 00:10:10 Thank you for having me. How are you? We're great. It's Shawnee Time. You guys are so excited about my Instagram handle. I was like, I was so excited to say that. Yeah, Sean's Insta is Shawnee Time, but I've always read it as Sean N-Y time. Like he's in New York. Like the New York Times?
Starting point is 00:10:31 Yes. Like the paper. Like he works for the paper. That would be way more adult and that would be way more, that'd be way cooler. No, no, no, no. Shawnee Times cooler. S-E-A-N-Y-T-T-Y-T-T-T-E. T-I-M-E.
Starting point is 00:10:40 I did it like, what time is it? It's Shawnee time. It sounds, more than you say it sounds a little weird, but whatever. It sounds weird for a grown man, but in my mind what I'm thinking is like, should I change my Instagram to like rainy time? Oh, see?
Starting point is 00:10:54 It sounds cute and cuddly. Then you're into it. Yeah, but it makes me sound more approachable, which I don't want. I want to be less approachable. Why do you want to be less approachable? I just want less people to talk to me on trains and in coffee shops. But they're not going to know your Instagram handle.
Starting point is 00:11:07 Well, that's true. You're not going to be like, Hey, don't talk to me. My Instagram handles Rainy Time. I think it's because I'm five feet tall. People look at me, they're like, oh, she's like a small child. She's approachable. Do you have a lot of people coming up to you?
Starting point is 00:11:20 Yeah, it's everybody you want. It's ever like a really good looking successful man. It's just like random people and college job. Small children. It's just a lumberjackie. 12 year olds. It's just me going, my Instagram handle is Shawnee type. What do you think of that?
Starting point is 00:11:34 It's very pedophile. I know. What is it? What am I thinking of? The Shining? What? It's, oh, no, that's, here's Johnny. Here's Johnny.
Starting point is 00:11:43 Here's Johnny. Yeah, yeah. The more I think about it, there's a really bad idea. You're such a creep. Okay, so can we tell the audience who you are? Where are you from? What do you do? Let's start with that.
Starting point is 00:11:54 Of course. My name is Sean Donnelly. I am a professional stand-up comedian. I perform, stand-up is my main job. That is what I do. I'm from Long Island, but I'm from the border of a very forgotten place, I feel like.
Starting point is 00:12:11 It's like the border of Queens and Nassau County in Long Island. So I think people think of Long Island. I think either like you're from the Hamptons or you're from like the North Shore like Gold Coast of Long Island. So, but I'm from like half hour from New York City. And it's very, it's very Queensish looking, I guess. And yeah, I've been doing comedy for 12 years. I've been on a bunch of random TV stuff and just performing around the country
Starting point is 00:12:35 for like seven of those years. years and it's going good. What was the latest big thing? Colbert, right? The latest big thing was Colbert. I did Colbert, yeah. And that was really fun. And then that aired back in June.
Starting point is 00:12:48 And yeah, it was really cool. And I wore these, I like Clark's shoes. I work, you know guys, do you have the brand Clarks? I feel like I can see the logo in my head. Are they orthopedic? No, oh my God. They're not orthopedic. Wait, Paul laughed.
Starting point is 00:13:02 Paul laughed. I have explained to the listeners, Paul. Paul will not make eye contact her laugh the whole time. If he laughs, I know it's funny. I have hit the bar. Orthopedic shoes, Paul's brand. Now we know. Did you take one look at me?
Starting point is 00:13:20 Do I have it to mention my Instagram handle is Shawnee Time? It's a very youthful Instagram handle. You know that guy, Shawnee Time. They want the Petics. No, they're like... With the crocs. Well, that's what's crazy that you say that because I... They're like tan, like, mackison-looking shoes.
Starting point is 00:13:35 Like, comfortable shoes. Oh, they go with your lumber sexual, flannel that you're wearing. No, because I had a black shirt on and like these green Levi's pants and I had Clarks on and my friend saw the picture of the Clarks and the light was reflecting off of him and he's like, are those nurses shoes? So that's why it makes sense that you said orthopedic because nobody knows they're cool and I think they're really cool shoes. And then I went and they give you a free t-shirt when you go to Colbert and for some reason they decided to give me a medium and I don't know why they would, what?
Starting point is 00:14:05 The Schmedium. The Schmedium. Yeah, exactly. And I don't know why they would do that and torture me like that and have me try on a medium and almost cut off my circulation. They found it secretly behind the scenes. That was part of the
Starting point is 00:14:16 part of the Colbert Report, which was just making him try on sizes that were too small. They were like on candid camera the whole time with your nurse shoes. Just screwing with me. Well, I want to tell how I met you. Okay.
Starting point is 00:14:25 Because I knew you before, like not too long, but I brought you in. And I met you at the Red Clay Festival in Atlanta. Yes, that's true. Which is like a really cool festival. Really cool festival. But we were on like a day show.
Starting point is 00:14:37 I mean, light, light. It was light out. I've never heard of this before in my life. Well, it was in a tent, which was the coolest venue of the festival, was that tent. It was really cool. But it was at like six. But when you do comedy for a little while, you realize and you think, if people out there might not know, like, you see a daytime outdoor show and a tent in the parking lot of a bar and you're like, oh, this is going to be a freaking disaster. Right, that's what we thought. Everybody thought that.
Starting point is 00:15:00 So I go up, I didn't, I didn't bomb. Also, a lot of my friends are there. I didn't bomb. You did great. But I didn't, it wasn't my best set, because I honestly, I'll say this. I haven't been doing comedy as long as you are. I think that may have been my first broad daylight show. And it was very strange.
Starting point is 00:15:17 And again, did fine, but got off the stage and was like, that was fine. Sean goes up fucking murders. I was like, who is this guy? I mean, you, you roasted this guy that was one of my friends. You were saying the meanish shit to him. He was in the front row. He looked like such a douchebag. He was like every 80s movie villain, like finance, bro.
Starting point is 00:15:36 still they tease him about it. I can't remember what you called him, but I'm not kidding you that they still talk about this. Wait, his friends do? Yeah, like something you said or called him, people were losing their minds, and I'm like, this fucking guy. Just crushing in broad daylight,
Starting point is 00:15:50 Sean Donnelly. But it ended up being way, like that had all the makings to not be a great show, and it was a good audience. I think you went up first in that show, did you not? Did you really? Broad daylight, just open the show. Yeah, exactly.
Starting point is 00:16:04 If anybody's going to do, a daytime show, it's Ashley. Like, I'm not surprised by this, because nobody loves a day date as much as Ashley, too. Like, I will talk to, you should be on a date, it's broad daylight.
Starting point is 00:16:14 People can't see me in the daylight. I'm on a date at 7 p.m. Rainer roasted me so hard. Don't be out here in the daytime. I'm like, it's seven. It was July, okay? It was going to be late until like 11 p.m. It was a day date.
Starting point is 00:16:26 Isn't the day date a thing? Isn't it like a, isn't that kind of a blowoff a little bit? But is it not a blowoff? You just prefer it or no? Third date, I'll go on a day date. The first two days. it's like you can only see me in the dark with alcohol involved. That's why I do my best work.
Starting point is 00:16:41 You're like a dating vampire. Yeah. Like I have to, you have, you have to like know that I have other good qualities before you see me in the daylight. Shut up, Rana.
Starting point is 00:16:50 Like, also she's funny. You're the best skin, I know. You're so stupid. You're so stupid. I'm also not smart, see? You look great. I can't be around people other than like alcohol at night. Anyway, so if anybody's going to do a day, day.
Starting point is 00:17:01 You're negging yourself. So you think you have to meet, When the first time you meet people, do you get nervous when you go on dates when you first meet people or no? Nothing makes me nervous ever. Ever. We did our first show at Caroline's sold out crowd. Raina's never been on a stage before, ever. Nothing.
Starting point is 00:17:17 Not even talent shows in middle school. And just was, I was like, are you nervous? Are you okay? And just crushed. Really? Had bits. I was like, what does she do? She was doing stuff that I was like, I give up.
Starting point is 00:17:32 Never been on stage before. This is the nicest compliment I was ever given me. I don't know why didn't you never try stand-up. She's not sad enough on the inside. He's like a genuinely happy person. Her parents-lover, you know. I had like a really nice upbringing. Things have generally worked out for me in my life.
Starting point is 00:17:48 What am I going to talk about? I'm going to get up on stage and people are going to be like, this bitch doesn't have anything to say. What she did about how she grew enormous tits when she was 14? Like, poor her. Like, what am I going to say? She'd go up. I'd be like, isn't it great that everything works out great?
Starting point is 00:18:03 You ever wonder why everything's purses? Perfect. What? Boo! Ready to get off. Ashley's asked me before a couple of times we talked about this. Like, did people think you were funny? Were you the funny girl growing up? And like, I thought you were asking me that. I'm like, no, I was not the funny girl growing up. I was a boy. Shawnee.
Starting point is 00:18:22 My whole life. Shattie, Jack. Oh, and what do you say? Were you not? I just wasn't. Like, I think I... See, I'm surprised at that. Because she had the tits. Like, I didn't have any of...
Starting point is 00:18:31 Is that the prerequisite? Yes. She was pretty. Like, I wasn't pretty. so I'd be funny. You learn quick. But you're both very pretty, so I don't know what you're talking. Oh, what happened?
Starting point is 00:18:40 You mean like awkward high school years? Oh my God, it was so hideous. Yeah, like I bought veneers. I get Botox. Do you really? Hair extensions. Yeah, like I do all the things. He's like, I don't like this girl anymore.
Starting point is 00:18:51 I hadn't grown into my features. It took a while. Really? I think, but you're also, I think you're thinking back differently. I think you're in your head. Everybody's in their head. But I mean, I will tell you,
Starting point is 00:19:02 and that we can move on from this, but like I realized, at young, like elementary school. I wanted to be popular and like the looks were not going to do it. So, I mean, I remember going for show and tell in first grade and like doing bits. Like, I just remember, like, I know that my value is in being funny. Yeah. Like, it wasn't in athletics.
Starting point is 00:19:20 That's what happens with stand. That's where the stand-up thing starts. And you just never had that moment. I also don't know that I knew anything about stand-up comedy. Like, I watch like a stand-up show every day now. Like, I really want to understand comedy. I love it. I really, really enjoy it.
Starting point is 00:19:33 Yeah. I don't remember ever watching stand-up comedy. I watched the Food Network growing up, and I cooked with my mom, and, like, food was a big part of my life. You'd be surprised how many comics never watched comedy when they were little, and only got into it when they were older,
Starting point is 00:19:45 because they wanted to do something else, and they kind of fell into it, and they really enjoyed the idea of writing jokes and doing jokes. A lot of, like, multiple people I know. What's your path to comedy? My path to comedy is I was a die-hard fan. Like, I used to, like, I used to listen to stand-up with my dad, and I was really into it.
Starting point is 00:20:02 And then, like, that's, like, Carlin and stuff, back in the day, like classics like that. And then when I got older, I was really into this radio show called Opie and Anthony that was a huge afternoon radio show here in New York. But I loved when they had the comedians on. And then I was a big fan of Jim Gaffigan and Brian Regan and all these guys. And I just got really, really into it. And then it took me a while to start.
Starting point is 00:20:22 The real true story is that I wanted to do it for years and years. My sister worked a Comedy Central for a couple years when I was younger. And she asked comics, what should my brother do? And they're like, go get a notebook and fill up the notebook. and then go to an open mic. It took me like years before I actually did it. And what did it if, and this is such a non-romantic story, what did it was I was helping out with a show.
Starting point is 00:20:43 I helped produce a show just to be around it, but I'd have the guts to do it. But one of the guys who would produce the show with me, he was like, oh, there's an open mic around the corner. You should go check it out. And I went, and it was at this place called Maui Taco that used to be on Fifth Avenue in like 33rd Street. Okay.
Starting point is 00:20:57 It was disgusting. It smelled terrible. The lights were on. Sounds about right. Yeah, it was an open mic downstairs. you were performing for people who were eating their smelly tacos and you had to stand on a milk crate there was just a milk crate in front of a VW bus cutout thing
Starting point is 00:21:12 that was coming out of the wall and it was just like and people were like talking full volume and you're doing you know it was just the worst situation ever and I went down there and I went and I watched it and I was like it was so bad because open mics could be very bad and I was like oh I could be that bad that's really what got me to do it I was like oh I could do I didn't know because you don't know about open mics when you
Starting point is 00:21:33 start like, when you watch professional comedy, you're like, oh, yeah, these are they just like like this, these guys. Like, I didn't, you just think it out. They just walk out to the stage, Rockefeller Center and just crush it. Exactly. But when you think, when you start to watch Open, like, oh yeah, there's a path to this. And I'm like, oh, I could be that bad. I could do it here and not be embarrassed. Right. So when I did
Starting point is 00:21:51 the two weeks later or something like that, I had two coronas, a shot at tequila. I had my notebook and I went up and I did it. And I've been doing it ever since. You know what? I got to say what prompted me to do comedy was seeing somebody that I knew and say and I could do that and I could do it better. And a great friend, but like she's into comedy
Starting point is 00:22:07 and more, this is an insult to her. She just wanted to do, we all went to her show to support her and I was like, I'm going to do this. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And literally did it a month later, same venue. You have to just see it and be like, I could do that. I think that's exactly the thing. You know, that has to be put into a thing where you're like, oh, that's attainable for me. I can do this little thing right here.
Starting point is 00:22:25 Yeah. And I honestly, and the point I'm working now and I never thought I'd be at this point. I did it to see if I could do it. And then I had fun with it, and then I just got into the whole rhythm of it. And that just became, it kind of takes over a year after year after year. And then it just becomes your life. So obviously this is dating relationships. How did you meet your, well, you're our first male divorcee.
Starting point is 00:22:44 Oh, look at that. So, hence the orthopedic. Spoil alert. Yeah, yeah. We've had one female divorcee. But we didn't really get too much into it. Yeah. So you're the first one to talk about it.
Starting point is 00:22:53 So you're single. I'm single now, yeah. Okay. And how long were you married? I was married for, I was, I think, six years. six years I was married. Okay. And we were together for like nine total.
Starting point is 00:23:04 Gotcha. Okay. And I met her when I was two years into comedy. Okay. So when you're two years into comedy and I was doing the mic scene, like, you have your weekends free because you're not working on the weekends. And then you have, you're not doing as many shows. You're doing mics, but then you're done by, you can be done by 8 p.m.
Starting point is 00:23:18 You know, because the shows are early. Two, 15 minute mics. So I had a much different life back then. And we, would you say two, 15 minute mics? Yeah. Pop into two places for 15 minutes. That's that. 15, two minutes.
Starting point is 00:23:28 More like 15, two minute mics. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, it's bad, yeah. 15 minutes for a new stand-up is like an hour and a half in real-world times. Like, that's what it feels. Literally, I'm not exaggerating when I say two minutes. Yeah. You go in and they bang it out, yeah.
Starting point is 00:23:42 And boo you off stage. And boo you're off-stage. It's whatever. And throw stuff out. It sounds like so many sexual experiences I've had. You're going for two minutes and then you go to them off stage. Yeah, that's, every time I have sex. Like, this is the metaphor for what's going on.
Starting point is 00:23:55 Exactly. It's a very similar feeling to me. It's very similar. You're a two-minute pump or two? I'll take two minutes. So will I. You'll take two minutes. Two minutes of, two-minute's pumper?
Starting point is 00:24:08 Sex. Right, I got you. We actually, we played this. I was like one day where I was like, would you take, would you rather 45 minutes or like three minutes? And we were both like three minutes. Really? I don't want to be pounded for 45 minutes.
Starting point is 00:24:18 Like penetration. Right. So you'd rather just be like a three minutes, but like hard pounding for three minutes. And then you're done. But then what are you? You said, like, good thrusting, I'd say. Good, is there a... I'll take three minutes of good thrusts.
Starting point is 00:24:32 That makes me feel fantastic. That's more minutes and I've had a good thrusting in a while. Really? You can't get a good rhythm going. Back to Sean's divorce. So you met your ex-wife two years in a comedy. Two years in the comedy and then, yeah, so we were able to like kind of have a normal relationship back then. And then she was super supportive.
Starting point is 00:24:52 And then over the years, you know, I'm more comedy. I started working in comedy. and so things kind of changed a little bit. So bad affected things. Sorry to interrupt you. She was not in the comedy scene. She's not, but she was an actress, so she got the idea of like, entertainment and following your dream and all that stuff.
Starting point is 00:25:10 So, yeah, it was like early on, it kind of like was, it just was, you know, both of us just doing, you know, it was normal. We had normal hours. I had a day job. I would go do a mic and then we'd go hang out or eat at, you know, whatever was. So then over time, then we got closer and closer and then we moved in together, and then we got married. And then, but then what happens, I don't know what you want to know, how far you want me to go.
Starting point is 00:25:31 Tell us whatever you can feel comfortable with. Yeah. So what happens is after a while, you know, that's like any relationship. But I think with, what happens is with a comedy relationship is like comedy becomes one of the factors. Like normal relationships break up for normal relationship reasons. So you have that compounded with, like, I started being on, there was like three months period right before we kind of had troubles where I was gone on the road every weekend. And then when people said, when I say weekend, And that could be five days.
Starting point is 00:25:59 So that could be almost the whole week. Thursday through Sunday night. Exactly. Thursday, sometimes Tuesday and then come back Monday. Like, it was like, and then I was doing at least two weekends a month besides that. So I had one was every weekend, one three-month period was every weekend. So what ends up happening is you drift apart. And then there's other things involved in it, which we had as well.
Starting point is 00:26:19 And yeah, and so then that's why ended up ending. And I was the person who brought it up when we finally decided to end it. Well, she was probably pretty unhappy. too. You were probably like, I see that you're suffering. We both were. And I still love her, but I, but we were both unhappy. And when I brought it up, I feel like it was a weight lifted off both of our shoulders. I was one of those moments where, I don't know if you ever had that. Have you had that in a relationship before? Because I never really had, I only had a few relationships in my life. The other major relationship I had, I was the one, I had to break up, but I didn't want to.
Starting point is 00:26:51 I had to do it because the girl wouldn't do it, but I was younger. And she just wouldn't do it. Like she just wouldn't say the words. And I was like, I know this is what you want. This is what you want. And then we talked about. And that was when I was like 25 or so, 24 or something like that. It's very mature though. Like when you identify the other person suffering, you're like, I'm just going to say the thing.
Starting point is 00:27:08 Absolutely. But it was so cliche because I did it. We did it in Joshua Tree, California. You and your ex-wife? My name, my ex-wife. Like you took a vacation to break up? Like on hike. You took like a vacation to break up?
Starting point is 00:27:21 Kind of. Yeah, they're hiking. Without realizing it, we got, things were kind of, weird. We were like, let's just go on a trip because I was going to L.A. for other stuff. And like, all, let's take a few days and we'll just go to Joshua Tree. And we thought it was a good idea. And then when we got to Joshua Tree after like a couple hours of being there, I'm like, what do you want to talk about? And then we were like, we could talk about us. And then we talked about us. And that's the way it happened. But it was, it's a good thing because
Starting point is 00:27:45 she wasn't happy and I wasn't happy. And it's a bummer. Like, there's a lot of things that you, there's things that you don't think of when it's, when you're, when you're saying it and then you feel really good. Like there's like almost like it's a weird like, almost like you're doing drugs or something where like there's an initial rush of like, oh, I feel so much better. I got that off my chest. But then when everything, after it kind of builds back up when you're like, oh, wait, but this changes my life completely.
Starting point is 00:28:07 So I'm like weird where like I'm, I'm not weird. This is not a weird thing. Like I'm a routine person. I like my, I liked how my life was, you know, even though I knew relationship-wise I wasn't happy, it was still comfortable. Like it was like still a comfortable existence. You know what I mean? Like that wasn't the reason.
Starting point is 00:28:24 and like, we liked each other. Like you didn't fight all the time. It was crazy stressful. No, not at all. In fact, that was, no, the opposite. We didn't. Yeah, right. That's almost tougher.
Starting point is 00:28:31 It's way tougher, I think so. I think if it was like, if we were, one of us was just, it wasn't like a war zone. You're leaving. It would be way easier just to be like, let me run away from this. Yeah. Yeah. So, no, it was, it was like, we cared for each other, I think, but we didn't, it didn't, it
Starting point is 00:28:46 was other reasons why it ended. And those are, that's harder to. It's, I think so. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. So different when you're, like, fighting. and it's like a war zone in your house and then you're like, oh, that's over, thank God. But when that's not the case, it's almost sadder to me.
Starting point is 00:28:59 I don't know. Yeah. And the only feeling that ended was like, from saying it in Joshua Tree, it got rid of that pretense of not saying anything. Do you know what I mean? That pretence of like, be like, I don't want to upset you because we were both thinking the same thing and which weren't saying it.
Starting point is 00:29:13 But they were like, you didn't want to upset the other person. So then when we finally did do that in the middle of the desert, not on drugs, totally sober. Yeah. we, that's when we both like, oh, okay. And you kind of had, that actually makes it harder because when we got back, I was like, well, this kind of renews the relationship a little bit. It does.
Starting point is 00:29:31 It kind of did. It really ignited for you again. It's a jolt to the system that you won't get most other times. Exactly, exactly. So, yeah, so that's how it went down. And I think it was pretty, not run of the mill, it was like, I think comedy had something to do with it. There's other things that had stuff to do with it.
Starting point is 00:29:45 But, like, I think overall, it was definitely for the best. But I'm like, I like, I'm like, I'm like, nostalgic for things. So like I walk around, I get bummed out if I, if I went to Montreal, I had to go do comedy in Montreal, didn't realize, oh, I forgot, we went on a trip there. So when I got there, I had to walk up and down the same block that we were raised. I mean, Rayne and I are, I mean, different because we haven't been married, but we get nostalgic about relationships that were terrible, you know, racial relationships that we fought all the time, you know, like, it doesn't, I don't think that ever goes away.
Starting point is 00:30:15 No, I still live in the apartment that I lived in with my ex. People are always like, how do you do that? I'm like, I don't know, were you the person who was asking about that the other day? Yeah. Somebody's like, I don't know how you still live there. Yeah, is that weird? No, it's not weird because I like gutted the place. I threw out everything that was there. Like, when we lived together.
Starting point is 00:30:29 It's rent controlled, so like I'm not giving that up. Yeah. But like, yeah, I know that feeling. We're like, especially when the relationship was good. You're like, nothing was bad throughout of it. So like all these memories are a nice positive memory. Absolutely. But it sounds like for you, like you chose what was true to you,
Starting point is 00:30:44 which was like your career and your job and those things weren't going to change. No, because yes and no, because I actually, To be honest, I said, I go, I will take a break from comedy to work on this. That's what I was going to ask. I hate to ask this, but like, do you feel like you gave it the try? We did. What happened was this. We went to, we had other troubles earlier and we went to therapy for that.
Starting point is 00:31:04 You did go there. Okay. So you gave it like these attempts that, like, trying to. We knew what the case was. For sure. And then, yeah. And also, it wasn't me choosing comedy. It was me choosing comedy.
Starting point is 00:31:12 You could make that argument, but it wasn't also because I was at the point with it where I was like, no, no, no, I'll put a, I'll put a, I'll put the brakes on comedy to work on this. And also, that wasn't the only reason. There was other stuff. So, like, there was a kid's thing. Like, I wanted to have kids more than she might have. And that we realized that over time.
Starting point is 00:31:34 And then it's just also like the drifting apart thing, I think, really, really? I think that we, I think, I blame comedy. I think more than she would. I think she will, if you asked her, I think she would say that comedy wasn't a factor, but maybe she would. I don't know. But I think that from having it, my point of view is that, if I didn't have comedy, we would have been more involved in each other's lives.
Starting point is 00:31:55 And I think after a while we were, it was almost like you're leading two separate lives. That's how you feel. So, and then I feel terrible about that, but that's the way it was. And when it comes to, and I think, and comedy's the culprit when it comes to that. Because then I was getting, I was so, I was so into the comedy thing. I was so in my head about it. And so like, oh, I just want to, I just want to go up every night and do this, this. And then when you have the opportunities to go up every night, then I'm not around.
Starting point is 00:32:18 I would see her 10 minutes a day. By the end, I would go home. that's another weird thing that happens now when I'm coming home from spots that's a weird nostalgic time because that's the only time I would go back and hang out with her for like 20 minutes and then she would go to bed or whatever it was so do you think when you have a career that is more like any entertainment industry where you're traveling all the time like you're getting back out there like you're what did you what did you guys split up like a year ago right about now a year ago it's definitely done by then this is probably the time you like really feel like you're ready
Starting point is 00:32:43 to like get back out there is it harder in the entertainment industry to like fit that into your life? Yeah, I think so. I think that I think there's multiple reasons why it's harder. I think that schedule-wise, because one thing they say about, like, one thing I always thought about stand-up in comedy and show business, it's like, oh, it's like you're cheating life because you work 15 minutes a day, you go home, you go, you're working out, you're on the road, you work an hour a day. But it's really not that. You're really kind of spending 24 hours a day on your career.
Starting point is 00:33:13 And if you slip in that, your career slips, and you can, I know that other jobs have that, too, but it's more of a structured thing with if you were a banker or a lawyer or something else. So, yeah, I think that it is. It's way harder because even if you just take the schedule thing, like I'm on the apps, but then I'm literally like, I'll talk to a girl on the app and we'll hit it off on like Bumble or something. And then I'm like, all right, so, yeah, we should meet up. How about next Wednesday?
Starting point is 00:33:37 Like, it's like this weird thing. I don't know if that happens to everybody else. Like, you have a regular schedule, right? Like, does that happen to you? No, I only have Ashley's schedule. So, like, if Ashley has a date, then I'm afraid. But other than that, like, I'm pretty much, like, she's always like, can we have a call with this person? This time I'm like, like, my schedule is your schedule.
Starting point is 00:33:54 Like, and last time, like, at a restaurant, doing, like, a photo shoot or, I don't know, taking a nap. I take naps a lot. I've been, um. Oh, you have a real, are you Garfield? I don't like. I don't like. I don't like lasagna. So, um, I was going to throw this out there.
Starting point is 00:34:11 Members that Garfield ate lasagna. It's a thing. I know. I didn't, I know that, but like, that's such a deep cut. Okay, I like food. I'm like having like weird. Like that was my favorite cartoon. I want to, I have a confession to make.
Starting point is 00:34:24 I don't like stuffed pastas. So I don't like ravioli. I don't like tortellini. I don't like stuff shells. And I don't really like lasagna. And I was trying to like understand like why I hate this thing. It's really exciting because I was just talking about my divorce and you're now talking about stuffed pastas. Did I diminish the importance of the divorce?
Starting point is 00:34:42 Thank you for bearing your soul. Yeah, love is weird. And you're like, you know what I hate? Rikotich. What I'm going to do now is even diminish it even more and take a break to talk about our sponsor for this episode. Thanks, guys. I really feel the love. Raina, first of all, glossed over a big topic I wanted to discuss, and this is the dog.
Starting point is 00:35:05 Oh, yeah. Oh, do you want to talk about the dating thing? I'm actually more... So anyway... We want to talk about the dating, but can we just touch base in the dog really quick. Whatever you want to talk about. Yeah, yeah. How long did you have the dog?
Starting point is 00:35:15 The dog. He's seven now. So you guys got him together. Got him. Well, here's the thing. Because you wanted kids. I just, she gave you a dog. No.
Starting point is 00:35:24 She, yeah. Wow, way to diminish when he's going through, Ashley. I'm out here bearing my soul about not like you were crying cheese, which is a very personal thing in my life that I don't admit to a lot of people. Oh, my God. Honestly, the way that you did that confession was like, I was like, what is she going to say? And it was like, I don't like stuff pasta. You came out of the pasta closet.
Starting point is 00:35:45 I ought to lay it up. Okay. Well, the dog, the way I kind of went down is that when we quit dating, my wife was like, well, when we get married, we can get a dog. So three months after we got married, I just brought home a dog. Oh. But, and then I just walked. No consent.
Starting point is 00:36:03 She opened the door, and I just had the dog in my hands. I was like, I did it. You said we could. You said we could. You know, whatever. And she loves the dog, but the dog was technically my dog. Gotcha. And it's also hard for her because she, she, she,
Starting point is 00:36:17 does her acting stuff and she has a full-time day job. Oh, wow. Okay. The dog, to be honest, the dog is in Long Island. The dog is at my mom's right now because I have a roommate situation for now and he loves it. He's an English bulldog. His name is Rickles. And he, it's such, it's like him being at club met every day. Well, that's a thing. I mean, it's like if I ever sent my dog to my parents, he would be in heaven. You know, it's just like, it's great. It's going to the grandparents' house. It's the best thing for him. Like, even though I, because I had to do it. And that's actually, if you really, really want to get set. That was the rock, that was the rock bottom moment from when, when I broke up.
Starting point is 00:36:51 I mentioned this before, but like, so like I had my stand-up schedule. I had the dog in Long Island City Queens within the apartment where I had with my roommate. And I had a weekend where I got offered a gig, but I would have been gone for like a week and a half. And I literally, I literally was like, oh, and they needed an answer really quick. And I was like, but then the dogs by himself, I didn't ask my roommate to watch them because then, you know, I just felt weird because we just had move in there and stuff like that. So I called my mom and I was like, I don't know what to do. And so I just bring him out here and, uh, well, I'll take care of it. I just, I was in the middle of my like super messy room with all my crap all over and I just like broke down crying in the middle
Starting point is 00:37:26 of the room. So that was like, that was probably the rock bottom moment of when I was like, how did I get here? Yeah, exactly. And like, married and like living a full adult life. And now it's like, mom, can you watch the dog? Exactly. We've all had that moment that sitting on the floor of our apartment, our disaster of a life after a breakup and you're like, oh my God, how did I get here? Yeah. Why are you always sitting on the floor in your living room when this happens in your apartment's a mess? For me, that's where it was.
Starting point is 00:37:48 Mine was in my bedroom. It was a disaster area. And then just because I needed the help. I think it was like, I need your help. And then she was like, just bring him out here. It's fine. And I was like, I just felt everything came to a head at once. 100%.
Starting point is 00:38:00 Exactly. So that was like the rock bottom moment of the dog. So when he went out there, he's been there ever since I go like once every other week and I hang out. But I do miss him. But we didn't have the co-parenting thing because, It just schedule-wise just didn't work out. Right. And it sounded like, I mean, yeah, it was like the dog was kind of yours.
Starting point is 00:38:19 You brought him home in the first place. Exactly. So it was kind of my responsibility. You guys didn't, like, birth him together. We didn't, yeah, we didn't go to doggy LaMaz or anything like that. We didn't have a doggy. All right. I was, I just, I can't get it up that much for other people's animals.
Starting point is 00:38:34 But in my mind, I was thinking, Not yet. I have a dog Instagram. Oh, my God. I know. You just hate me more like every minute to do. You're not, I do not. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:38:44 You would dog Instagram of other people's dogs? No, it's my dog. I just haven't gotten it yet. So I decided I wanted, I met a Yorkie on my friend's roof. Paul laughed. You met, like he introduced himself. Hi, I'm Jim, the Yorkie. No, actually, you want to really hate me?
Starting point is 00:39:04 Okay, if you think that's weird, I like DM dogs and meet up with them on Instagram. I'm not kidding you. Oh, that's what you do. I DM dogs and I'm like, can we meet up? I walked by you on one of your dog with us. I saw you on the street and I was like, I'm about, to go meet up with this dog. Oh my God, yes.
Starting point is 00:39:14 I see Sean on the street. He was like, I'd love to do your podcast. I'm like, I'm sorry, I'm really busy. I'm about to go meet this dog. We were DMing and it's really happening. I'll contact you. Ashley knows all the dogs. And she's the head bitch in charge of all the dogs.
Starting point is 00:39:27 A friend of me went to visit her at the dog cafe the other day. Ashley's like introducing him to all the different dogs in the cafe. She knows all of them. And you have a dog yourself too, right? Yeah. What kind of dog do you have? He's this big, fluffy dog. He's like 10.
Starting point is 00:39:42 I've had him for 10 years. Big, like, 80-pound collie mix, something, who knows? And, Raida, what's the one you're going to get? Okay, so I met this dog on a rooftop this summer. It was a Yorkie, and I fell in love with this so much. Maybe. Sure, it wasn't just the romantic rooftop meeting that made you in love with them, or no? No, I was with a guy who definitely doesn't want to sleep with me,
Starting point is 00:40:02 so there's nothing romantic about it. But I met this dog, and I was like... The romance for the dog. The dog and I fell in love. It peed on me. Like, we went through all the cycles of, like, what happens when we get drunk together. So anyways, it peed on my leg. And I decided I'm going to get a Yorkie, and I want this name for the Yorkie.
Starting point is 00:40:25 I want to name it Bagel. Bagel? So I decided to go out and get the Instagram name because I'm going to get Bagel the Yorkie. Okay. Which I think I might rename Bagel the New Yorkie. Oh, cute. I like that better. Is that available?
Starting point is 00:40:37 Yes. Well, and my dog's name is Dewey, so New York City. I already reserved that just in case. In case what? I mean, I don't have time to run his Instagram right now. But, like, well, it's like he's old, so I don't know if he'll ever get one. But people are like, are you going to start an Instagram for doing? I'm like, I don't have the time to, like, be a momager to my dog, you know.
Starting point is 00:40:55 Yeah. But I have the handle New York City. She's very busy managing me. You should do a doggy date Instagram. Every date you go on, you take a picture of the dog on the date. Yeah. I'm not going on like guy dates, just dog dates these days. Like, I just meet up with dogs.
Starting point is 00:41:08 They don't let you down. They don't make you. They always text after. They put me in their stories. Okay. And they follow through with the dates. Ashley and I'm this weird cycle where like all these guys keep like talking us and asking us out and then like never follow through with the date. Well, we say yes.
Starting point is 00:41:28 We commit. Yeah. I'd love to go out with you. Sure. Not even overly excited. Just sure. Sounds good. Never hear from him again.
Starting point is 00:41:38 Is that, is taking place on text or not? No. This is text messaging. Across the board. People that know us. People we met in person. On apps, it doesn't matter. This guy hit me last week with the hit me up this week if you're bored.
Starting point is 00:41:51 I'm like, you just asked me out. Hit me up if you're bored. Sean, you wouldn't say that, right? Hit me up if you're bored? No, I don't think so. Let's talk about your dating. That means I want to, fuck you. Right?
Starting point is 00:42:02 Oh. Did you guys not know that? He said call me if you're bored this week. Oh, he just wants to fuck me. Oh, he wants to feel it out. Yeah. He wants to feel out like... So that's a very nice, polite way of saying,
Starting point is 00:42:14 like, I'm not... We're not going to go out on a date, but if you're bored, maybe we'll end up texting something scandalous, and then we'll end up fucking... How did we not pick up on that? I would never just, like, fuck that guy. No, no, no, no, he's not like...
Starting point is 00:42:27 No, no, no. Which how does he not know that? He doesn't know that. You're not the, like, booty call guy. He think I'm... Oh, I got the booty calls? As what it was, hit me up if you're bored. Sounds like it to me.
Starting point is 00:42:36 That's what... If I was gonna say something like that, if I got a vibe from the girl, the girl wanted that. I'm the type that I won't do that just randomly. Yeah. But he did not get that bad for me. You have to assume that.
Starting point is 00:42:47 This is another thing that I've realized is I think, sometimes I think I'm better than most people, like most guys when it comes to that kind of stuff. And sometimes I'm not. Like, you know what I mean? Like, I want to be better than it. And then I realize some conversations I'm in and I'm like, holy cow. I'm doing it. I'm a two-week text on conversation.
Starting point is 00:43:03 I'm like, I'm being the asshole right now. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. We're all inside the bell curve. Yeah. I'm thinking with my dick. Like that kind of thing. So the guys do that. So even if they're a nice guy, you have these weak moments where you're like, oh, hey, hit me on your board.
Starting point is 00:43:18 He seemed really nice. He asked me a lot of questions about myself. He was courting me via text message. He was building a fake basis for a relationship. He was like. Yeah. But anyways, he formed a fake basis for a relationship by asking me all these questions about myself and like seeming like he's interested in my life. And then he hit me with the call me if you're bored.
Starting point is 00:43:38 Yeah, because it also is a thing. where, if I can say this, his particular schedule, it wouldn't warrant. Like, it's like, yeah. Yeah, I'm sorry to say that's what it is. For sure. I love when somebody says something, you're like, oh, of course. And sometimes with guys, I think that that guy, it's not personal, he would do that with any girl.
Starting point is 00:43:58 Like, he's just not dating anybody. Yeah, totally. Oh, no, 100%. I 100% believe what she just said. It's not just you. It's not like, I'll just put this bitch on the side and figure it out. No, no, no way. That's not what it is.
Starting point is 00:44:08 Oh, I didn't preach to him. He's doing this all the time. Especially, yeah, yeah. No, no, no, you didn't pursue him, but that's his, that's his way of pursuing you. Also, to divulge, it's his way, or it's his way of seeming nonchalant that you're going to, you're going to be more into him by just being like, yeah, hit me out when you're bored. Like, that's, that's way different. They'd be like, hey, would you like to go out with me?
Starting point is 00:44:27 Like, yeah. Like, no guys want to, the guys don't want to do that because it's the fear of, like, you're like, uh, no. Or fear of rejection. You know, the whole idea of people like when people aren't into them, like, or they feel like they're not into them. Well, I don't. You like when guys are really into you?
Starting point is 00:44:41 I mean, her biggest turn on is when people are into her. Ashley's Dirty Talk is telling her you think that her comedy is funny and that she's pretty. She comes like instantly. Are you? No, it's not. I mean, of course they need to think I'm funny, but like, we've said this before. Like, my Dirty Talk is just like telling me how hot you think I am. Like, during the, like, you know, like that's what I've been to.
Starting point is 00:45:03 Oh, yeah. I only like I don't like me. Yeah, yeah. Oh, that's Dirty Talk. But I mean, as far as like, pre that. I don't get off on this, like, guy doesn't like me. Like, I... So if you met somebody today, right, say, like, you know, randomly and then he was like,
Starting point is 00:45:20 oh, I get your number, you gave him his number, and he texted you that night, and he was like, hey, what's up? You wouldn't think that was weird? I wouldn't. Like, if it's a guy that I like, like, like, I'm kind of, I have a specific type of guy, like, kind of need to have this, like, banter thing, you know? It's like I like a specific type of guy, but when I like a guy, I'm just like, yeah, if we're in love now, that's cool.
Starting point is 00:45:37 You know? Like, I move quick. Because I don't like a lot of people. But I really, I've never been one of those girls. It's like... We're married now, right? Like the bad boy that doesn't like her back. Like, I'm like, if you don't like me, gross.
Starting point is 00:45:50 You know? I'll just ever follow up with that either. I think that also you just get to an age. You're like, this has happened to me so many times and it doesn't like intrigue you anymore. It's just annoying. You're like, I'm not going to do this like pen pal thing with you. I'm not going to talk to you by your life
Starting point is 00:46:01 and your sandwich you had today. Right, right. That does get kind of boring. It does. And you're just like, oh, I see what's going on here. When you realize you realize you're worth, the older you get as a female, you're like, I am likable and I'm awesome. So if you don't think that, I'm not going to date you.
Starting point is 00:46:15 That's a good point. Not everybody is likable. To be honest, that's what I kind of like, I think I was the guy. I've talked about this before too a couple times, but like I was the no self-worth guy of like the, I was bad when I was younger of like the are you mad guy in a relationship, which, and then the older I get, the more confidence I have with that kind of stuff where I'm like, I'm not going to play that role anymore. I'll just, you know, if you're not into it, then that's fine.
Starting point is 00:46:36 I feel like you got, like, walked on? No, no, no, no. Especially not with my ex. She was not like that at all. I wasn't being walked on. But I, no, to be honest, she brought up one time. Like, I would always be like, as long, the way I was brought up was like, if it was only, like, with the females, I had two sisters and a mom. And my dad was always like, they're on a pedestal.
Starting point is 00:46:54 Like, he didn't say those words, but that's the vibe I always got. So whenever their relationship, I was always like, as long as you're okay, I'm okay. And you're not dealing with anything. So then after a while, my ex would be like, what, stop with me? What about you? What do you think about this? So then I was like, yeah, you know what? You're right.
Starting point is 00:47:08 And then I went to therapy and then you realized like, oh, shit, yeah, that is a thing. And then you feel more confident when you're, you know. Right, and your knees are being. You're annoyed by stuff and you don't realize you're annoyed by little stuff. You know what I mean? Like it just builds, builds, builds. And then you're like, and then it just kind of chips down your self-worth, you know? Well, we want to ask you a question.
Starting point is 00:47:27 We were talking about this earlier. Go for it. Ask me whatever you want. What life is like without a woman? Like, are you, like, can men survive? Specifically, can a male comedian survive after a woman's been around? How do you get dressed and make yourself coffee every day? Is that hard?
Starting point is 00:47:43 It's very hard. Yeah, do you want me to be like completely honest? Yeah, we call you. It's really hard. And I told you I sat in my room and there was stuff everywhere. Right. I'm not, I'm back to being like a, like an idiot. Like I used to live in a home with like.
Starting point is 00:47:58 I used to have a home. I'm like a dog had like a home for a while and then they just got rid of the dog. Like that's what it feels like. Because when you live with a woman, it's like, that's one of the best things about it. I know. We know. We know. I live with me every day.
Starting point is 00:48:11 I clean myself. I clean myself. I love adorable. I haven't learned a thing in the 10 years that I was in a warm, loving home. I am a complete mess. No, like, I'm probably better than I was, but I'm still, it's not like, like, my roommate had some girl came into her apartment. She's like, oh, this is what it looks like when single guys live together.
Starting point is 00:48:34 I'm like, I shouldn't be, that shouldn't be me. I should be more adult than that. There's no curtains on the walls. Oh, no, there is, there is. There's one curtain. There's one curtain. Totally true. Like, you gotta get curtains.
Starting point is 00:48:50 I'm like, I will, I will. I'm a procrastinator. I don't, I don't look at walls. We're like, we've got to put stuff on the walls. And then I don't have that. Like, in my room has some stuff because, like, somebody was like, yeah. Your mom brought it over. My mom brought it over.
Starting point is 00:49:02 I love that you, like, have you seen these memes? Like, you never, it doesn't matter how would you get, you like, always rely on your parents. Like when you're a kid, you're like, whatever, mom. And then you're like, the memes, like, you're 30 years old. You're like, mom, if you don't come with me to the dentist, I'm going to lose my shit. Like, it's just like, you never stop her lying. Yeah, yeah, exactly. I have to call my parents and check in before every life decision that I make.
Starting point is 00:49:22 Do you know this about me? Like, change a job, change my relationship, like, switch with topping I want on my sandwiches. You call both parents or your mom? My mom's more judgmental. So, like, if I, it depends on the kind of, like, support I need. If I just need somebody to tell me that they're, like, really proud of me, no matter what. Everything you do is wonderful.
Starting point is 00:49:39 You're everything I ever dreamed of that as my dad. But if I want somebody to be like really mean and critical and not tell me they're proud of me and definitely not have me. You need balance. Everybody needs balance. My mom. Okay. So men can't survive without a woman.
Starting point is 00:49:52 But like, I don't get me wrong. I can take care of myself, but it's not as nice. I can live. You can get through the day. Yeah. I'm like,
Starting point is 00:49:59 you got here fine. I'm like one step above the people who live in the subway tunnels. Like that's those people, the salad, whatever they call them, the mole people, and in some ways They've been there for like... Formerly married comedians? Yeah, formerly married.
Starting point is 00:50:13 Yeah, they just go down there. There's a whole commune. There's a whole village of people divorces. They just like live on the L. Yeah, it's just going to be a sign. Yeah, the shut down L. When the L shuts down, that's why it's actually shutting down. Just so married.
Starting point is 00:50:28 I remember you guys living below the Z. It like allegedly exists. Have you ever been to the Z train? It's not allegedly. There's a book about it, a, documentary. It's a real thing. Where all the comedians are. It comes every 45 minutes.
Starting point is 00:50:42 Okay, I have two questions. Okay. One, would you get married again? What is your take on marriage? And two, are you dating? Are you trying to start a whole new podcast? Well, keep it short. Oh, okay.
Starting point is 00:50:55 Are we almost done? Are we done? Do you fill us off? No, no, no, we've got to do our game. Oh, okay. Yeah. Yes, I would get married again. Okay.
Starting point is 00:51:03 My view of marriage didn't really change because I didn't blame marriage for what happened. Right. So I still believe in marriage, but I would just make sure it would be a much, much bigger decision for me, I get. I shouldn't say that way. That sounds shitty.
Starting point is 00:51:18 Actually, yeah. I mean, do you know what I mean? I like this stance. Like you're not like fuck marriage. No, not even, no, I'm not like fuck marriage. I'm at the point where I'm fine with marriage. I would just think about it. I thought about it before I got married the first time,
Starting point is 00:51:30 but I would think about it again. I would just take it just as serious as I did the first time. Yeah. And where my now is far. as dating goes, you're saying? I am, I'm dating, but I'm also, I still have that tinge of bummed outiness that I have. But it's not for the relationship. It's for how the life was.
Starting point is 00:51:47 It's for, it's for a feeling. There's weird, especially when you're Irish Catholic, there's a guilt factor in there that doesn't go away right away. So there's, it's going to, that's going to take a while, but I am, I am dating, but nothing serious. Nothing, like you haven't met a, like, a girlfriend since. I haven't had a girlfriend since, no. Oh, you're in luck, because the people that come on, this show get laid a lot from coming on this show. Really?
Starting point is 00:52:09 I'm serious. Every guy that comes on the show. Keep those DMs open. Yeah, just check those DMs. My Instagram is at Shawnee Time. We know the girls love the Instagram. We're going to have you plug all of your shows to where people can see you. Like, every guy that comes on the show gets laid quite a bit.
Starting point is 00:52:25 Host a pick of those Clark's shoes, though. I will. It's on my thing. It's me on stage on the Ed Sullivan Theater. You can see it looks like just white plastic bags on my feet. All right, we are going to segue into our favorite part of the show, other than talking to you, that was our favorite part. Our second favorite part. We play a game every week with our guests.
Starting point is 00:52:46 We play a game called Is This Weird? It's our favorite game. It was spawned by a girl that wrote us an email about a guy that she was seeing who took morning baths. Wake up, take a bath. What? Yeah, weird. So she wanted to know, is this weird. And since then it has spawned this whole game.
Starting point is 00:53:02 So, guys, if you're listening, please keep sending us your emails. Is this weird? dating sex relationships, we're going to lob some of these scenarios. How you pick some really good ones for you? What guy wakes up and takes a bad? That's what we're saying? A 15th century king? What kind of time do you have?
Starting point is 00:53:16 And she, her... Exactly. Did you guys get that? It's so bizarre. Well, I'm short. Her phrasing was very funny. You know what? She lives in New York.
Starting point is 00:53:28 Well, actually followed up with her recently to see what was going on in her life. Yeah, I'd check if that was still happening. She was like, no, he was weird. We're like, obviously. He also, he hit her with the I'm trying to enjoy my 20s. He's 29. I'm trying to enjoy these next three months. If they live in New York, they only, I mean, wherever they are, wherever this is happening,
Starting point is 00:53:50 there's one bathroom, you know what I mean? So it's like, if he's in there bathing, she's got to get in there. And she was like, I would just be doing my mascara and he's got a half chub. He's like laying in the bath. It was like very weird for herself. Oh, that's weird. Yeah. I love to talk about that more, but I know we're our time crunch here.
Starting point is 00:54:04 So we pulled a bunch of emails for you. You're going to last know, is this weird? Okay. I've been casually sleeping with a male nurse for about a month. Speaking of your shoes, can you imagine? The role playing I could do with this guy, hands down the dirtiest guy I've met, which is no problem. Recently, he told me he wants me to pee on his dick.
Starting point is 00:54:29 Is this weird? Okay, that's very complicated. It's very specific. Like, how do you hit that house? Oh, yeah, as a girl, yeah, he's thinking. Where do you do it? In the tub, while the sex, while the sex is happening? What?
Starting point is 00:54:44 I was thinking she's above him, but, like, to hit that target. But you can't arch it. Right, you can't just like. You kind of have one direction. Like, guys, guys, if he was having sex with a guy, they could do that easily. Peel into a funnel. Exactly. Or pee, whatever.
Starting point is 00:54:59 I would pee into a funnel, I would say. Then I could aim it. Oh, I see what you're saying. On it was dick. So there's a funnel involved now? I think... Maybe they do it in the shower. But you have to chuck that up as like...
Starting point is 00:55:12 Then you say it's all... I guess you're saying just the one direction of on my penis. That's the weird part. To me, I know... I don't know anybody that likes this, but like I know that like defecating on people and peeing on people's like definitely a thing.
Starting point is 00:55:25 It's just... The specific organ to me is interesting. I wonder if the thing... The logistics are... I can't figure out. You know what it might be. He might be a germapobe. And he might be a germapobe.
Starting point is 00:55:34 I think, like, pee goes on here anyway. So you might as well pee on, I'm really into peeing on sex. So pee on my dick because everywhere else would be too gross, but just on my dick would be great because I have pee on that anyway all the time. How funny would have you be a germophobic person that wants to get peed on? I know somebody's germapobic, and I made him realize he had a foot fetish.
Starting point is 00:55:55 Isn't that crazy? Does he like foot jobs? So you were giving him a foot job? I was doing a foot job, and he realized that he enjoyed it. It was fantastic. I made him realize he was really here to footchop. while I was doing it. That sounded bad as I said it.
Starting point is 00:56:07 No, we were talking about it. And he goes, we were talking about a girl, I go, oh, this girl's gorgeous. He goes, yeah, but she got all jacked up feet. I go, so? Who cares about that? Right.
Starting point is 00:56:17 And he goes, you don't look at a girl's feet? I'm like, yeah, I do, but I don't care. Whatever happens? It's not a deal breaker. And he goes, he goes, oh, no, that's a deal breaker for me. I go, I go, what do you mean? I go, so if you're not attracted to a girl's feet, you won't, like, hug up with her or, you know,
Starting point is 00:56:31 hang out with her. And he's like, no, no, I go, that's a foot fetish. He goes, I don't, I don't, I don't have a germaphobe. I don't have a fetish. I go, let me ask you this. If you didn't, if you weren't a germaphobe and a girl wanted to jerk you off with their feet, would you let her do that? He goes, oh, yeah, it'd be great.
Starting point is 00:56:45 I'm like, yeah, it's a foot fetish, you maniac. That is a textbook foot fetish. And you're trying to pretend like you're not that? Are you crazy? I can't believe you just made up this whole story to hide the fact that you jerked a guy off with me. Well, I want these girls messaging me on Instagram. I can't have my real self. come out.
Starting point is 00:57:03 Okay, so it's a little where the organ itself is a little strange. Okay, we're going to hit you with the next scenario. Okay. The organ, yeah, that's the only weird part because you've heard of the other stuff so many times. Right.
Starting point is 00:57:11 But that's my guess of why it is. I've been thinking about this for a few hours now. I don't under, I can't picture how you do it. How you do it. I don't know. I don't know. It has to be like, yes. I'll try.
Starting point is 00:57:21 I'll figure it out. And then you just, you kind of jut out a little bit and then just, I just think, you know, I always think now that I've lived in New York for a couple years, it's like, you can't. do crazy shit like that because you don't have a washer and dryer. You know what I mean? Like you can't get crazy with bodily fluids because where you, I mean, we have limited laundry situations and bedding. Yeah. Yeah. Just have extra mattress covers. You have pee everywhere.
Starting point is 00:57:48 You can't. You can't. You can't be out here. I don't have no money to sustain a urination fetish. I can. Okay. For some reason, I really, I really like this one. And it's like, the more I read it, of them like, this girl's dating a terrible guy. He's not even terrible. She's like, don't be with this guy. Right, right, right, right. Yeah, exactly. She's like, she wrote this really long email.
Starting point is 00:58:08 It's like, I don't know how you didn't just answer your own question during the email. Okay. She probably has since working up with him from her own email. Okay. So I've been seen this guy for about three months now. And at first things were really great. But there's been something that's really put me off after we have sex. Not to mention some of the worst, some of the worst sex and sweatiest sex I've ever had.
Starting point is 00:58:28 I'm talking to pull a sweat on my stomach. or back from him. The sheets won't be dry by morning, more laundry issues. And then he always needs to get up. Really quick, I'm sorry to stop you, but sweaty sex. Is that a problem? No, no, no.
Starting point is 00:58:40 I, It depends how much somebody sweats, but I've never met anybody who's egregious. I dated a guy. He swore he had hypo... Oh, hypohydrosis? Hypohydrosis. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:58:51 That means you sweat a lot? Yeah, I don't. I think he was like a hypochondriac hypohydrosis. But I... Hypohypo. He sweat a lot. And like, in the summer, like we would joke that we had like sauna sex.
Starting point is 00:59:02 Like it was pretty bad. Okay. You know, I really loved the guy. But it could get ridiculous then. But you liked it. You were fine with it. I just wasn't like, what was I going to do? You know what I mean?
Starting point is 00:59:10 Yeah. Well, me or my apartment, we would just like always turn the, I had Central Aces because I was, you know, rich in Atlanta and we would like turn it down and that was fine. But I can, yeah, he sweat a lot, but whatever. I mean, what was I going to do about it? Yeah, right. Okay.
Starting point is 00:59:24 Okay. Okay, sorry. So, but the main part of this is he always needs to get up and eat food and have a beer after sex. Let me give you an example. Terrible sex comes to an end. He ejaculates and sweats all over me. Doesn't even try to make me come. He gets up and then I think I need a sandwich in a beer right about now. Then he proceeds to go downstairs, cracks open a beer while making a sandwich for himself every single time. Doesn't matter if it's midnight at a work night where we both have work at 4 a.m. What do they do? Or he's over at my place. He will always eat after. There's no post-sex
Starting point is 00:59:54 cuddles. He's too busy cuddling his beer in a sandwich. Is this weird? You wait. You're just an asshole. You're right. He's just a asshole. Right. He's just You also skipped over my favorite part of the emo at all cast where she says that he yells. I think I just ejaculated myself into another universe. I think she was saying that's what he's thinking. He doesn't yell that. What guy yells at?
Starting point is 01:00:13 Who is she having sex with her? Who has she having sex, Narnia? Also, like, what is this? This girl's like, God, this sex is so bad. Three months in, so terrible. He's awful as a person, so selfish. What do I do? Maybe how about the bad sex might be,
Starting point is 01:00:29 a reason for discussion before the sandwich and beer book. I'm telling you, this girl hit send and she was like, I'm fucking done with this guy. She put it in her own. She's seen him on the email. She's like, I'm not going to write this twice. But are you, this is, it's just funny to me. Like, have you ever have like the second you come, you're like, got to get a sandwich? Like, what? No. What's he got? Working a deli? Wait, it's like George Costanza. Didn't he do that? Yes, he did do that. I was going to bring that up. Eat that sandwich. He does that episode. He eats pastrami, and then he gets put, he puts sports radio on
Starting point is 01:00:55 right after while he's having sex. And then she catches him when he's supposed to be, going down on her and she goes, what are you doing? He goes, pleasureing you. It's such a great scene. Look, I don't think it's going to be wrong with wanting like a cocktail and a snack after a snack. I'll always take a cocktail on a snack. I would do that.
Starting point is 01:01:15 I would definitely do that. I'm not, to be honest. It sounds like he rushes up. After you said the email, I was like, that actually sounds kind of nice. No, right? That's really. Is he ever offering her food too? Because that would piss me off if it's like, oh, you're just going to make a sandwich for
Starting point is 01:01:28 yourself? Where's my thing? This girl kind of answered her own thing. Because do you want me to be brutally honest? Yes. He doesn't care. Yeah, right? That's what it is.
Starting point is 01:01:37 A guy that goes and makes himself food, gets himself a beer. Yeah. No, yeah. You could make her. You can kind of connect the dots yourself. This guy just, he has sex with her. They're dating, I guess, or she thinks they're dating? Three months in.
Starting point is 01:01:48 She thinks they're dating. Yeah. He's talking out with her. She thinks it's a relationship. It's not. And he doesn't care. I'm sorry to say, if you're listening, that's what's happening. He just doesn't care.
Starting point is 01:01:56 The guy's just inconsiderate. Right. True. Not that he doesn't know he's having terrible sex, but it's like, that's one thing. The guy has problems, whatever it is. But, like, if you're, that's his first go-to after that, not like, hey, how are you? Like, he doesn't care. Like, this girl gets some awesome just, like, gets some more self-respect.
Starting point is 01:02:13 Like, terrible sex, you're covered in sweat, and then he just ups and goes makes the sandwich. Like, fuck this guy. You'll be crazy, she just opened up. How low is her bar? She probably lives in New York City. I mean, she definitely lives here. Oh, for sure. And she's, like, dating Emeril?
Starting point is 01:02:26 I guess imagine this big sweaty guy that goes like cooks himself a chef meal after sex Well that's a little bit classier Like you know To cook? You know I don't cook now I know I said to cook To cook is yeah
Starting point is 01:02:37 He said to you cook yeah Also Do you think her bedroom's just a bunch of deli wrappers Just like That waxed You walk into her bedroom It's just like Greasy deli
Starting point is 01:02:49 He wipes up with the deli The greasy deli paper The waxy deli paper she just ends up like setting up a food truck in her apartment in her bedroom sandwich fetish I think yeah I think
Starting point is 01:03:04 I think it's weird that she didn't write about like she didn't end it like you know what I bet it's over we'll touch base we're gonna let you now let me know because I wonder like how will they how's the hanging out part because if the sex sucks
Starting point is 01:03:18 like this guy seems like he's probably a prick anyway that's the thing that's what I'm like what's the it just says at first she says at first things were really great. So it sounds like it's, I mean, three months in, get out of there. Yeah, get out of there.
Starting point is 01:03:30 I hope she just C-Ced him on this email. I was like, I'm not going to read this way. We should do that. We should break up with, break up with people for other people. Destroy relationship. Due to this hypohydrosis as a sandwich fetish,
Starting point is 01:03:44 Pamela has decided to end this relationship. I don't know where Pamela came from. What are we going to call our service? Oh my God, we're going to have to come up with like a dope name. Get fucked. Oh, I'm like, don't get fucked. I have, okay, so we have two more. Okay, I'm going to read this one.
Starting point is 01:04:00 I really like this. Two-part. It's very funny. Okay. I'm 22 years old. I've been seeing a guy for three months. So you can relate to this, 22-year-old girl. That's my, that's my demographic.
Starting point is 01:04:10 Is that your spirit animal? Yes, my spirit animal. Tina. Jackie. She's a stripper. A few weeks ago, I had left for work in the morning, but it was his day off, so I didn't bother waking him. Very nice, consider it.
Starting point is 01:04:24 I got off around six, and when I got off around six, and when I got back to my place, he was still in my apartment watching TV, in my bed. Wait, this is the one night stand? I missed the beginning. No, dating for three months. She's 22. Okay. So he's still in her apartment, in her bed.
Starting point is 01:04:38 I was ready to come home and have a relaxing night alone, but he had made himself comfortable and ended up staying that night with me also. I didn't say anything, and now this has happened a second time. Does he think he lives here? Why does he so comfortable sitting in my apartment alone all day long? it freaks me out is this weird um i'm sorry i tell you you you're dating a homeless man and he's a comedian divorce day formerly lived on the L now he lives in your apartment that's probably my friends one of them old people my friends yeah yeah well she also fits in
Starting point is 01:05:12 this perfect connection because yeah he's in a home right he hasn't left if this doesn't work out Sean has other people he can recommend for you to live in your apartment with you does he live here now. Okay, but in all seriousness, I have, like, definitely had guys leave. Not leave? No, I've had, I've had guys that, like, overstayed their walk and while I was in the apartment. Yes. But, like, I've never, well, okay, I'm usually the one that, like, sleeps in. Well, I don't have a job, like, I don't do anything. So, usually, like, when a guy has to go to work in the morning, I do, like, sleep in at their place. Right. But, like, I will, after I get finished, like, going through their things, I will let myself out in a reasonable time before anybody gets
Starting point is 01:05:49 there. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But you know what's crazy about this? Because, because what I read and I'm thinking, like, I just would be like, okay, time to get up. But she was being considered because it was his day off. She wanted to let him sleep. She'd wake up at 6 a.m. Yeah, I've dated guys that have, like, jobs, so they go to work in the morning and, like, I'll sleep for a little bit to like nine.
Starting point is 01:06:06 But maybe, yeah. It's only three months. Why wouldn't she have turned around? I'm like, I'm going to go. What are you doing today? You know, like, why wouldn't she have kind of made the heart out? Like, I'm going to go. But it sounds like he has, let's just say he's a bartender.
Starting point is 01:06:18 And she gets up to go to her office job. and she's like he got home at three. You know, this is crazy. I think it's so crazy. My best friend, Kate, dated a guy for a minute that, now she's happily married, but she dated this guy that, like, wouldn't leave. She would start vacuuming.
Starting point is 01:06:35 Like, she would start doing errands. She would be, like, in the apartment, like doing everything she could, and he would just be hanging out. I think this might be an age thing, and here's why. This sort of happened to me when I was 22. You know what might be a movie?
Starting point is 01:06:46 Like a, hey, you're my mom thing. Like that he likes to be taken care of. All men have that regardless of age. And it's probably just a way better apartment. Right, like a way better place. So when I was 22, I dated this guy that I lived next door to. And he, like, lived with a bunch of guys. I live with some friends.
Starting point is 01:07:01 And over the summer, I was the only person living in my house. So he would, like, come over and hang out and I'd go to work. And he would, like, stay at my house while I was at work. And I'd get home and his friends would be there and they'd be, like, playing video games. Because it's, like, a nice smelling place. Yes. It's clean. It smells nice.
Starting point is 01:07:12 Or snacks. Yeah. Yeah. I was kidding before, but I was kind of kidding. But you get it now. I think that's actually what it is. That's what it is. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:07:19 I think it's just a nicer, cleaner place to be. He lives with four dudes in Bushwick, you know? Like, it's like, of course he's there. Right, right, exactly. It's just he's, he has to go home to his gross, whatever, his gross hovel. I think it's one of those, I just don't know, and we have a second part to this, it's insane. But this is tough, what should she do? I think it's weird if she didn't say something.
Starting point is 01:07:39 I would, okay, I was saying the show. What does you really like? So I never had a situation where, like, I didn't talk about how I felt. I, if I really like somebody or I didn't like somebody, it's not fucking cool that you're in my space and we didn't talk about this. Like, when I was in college, it's like summer camp. It's like, fine, you were to sit in my house, my video games, cool.
Starting point is 01:07:55 But like, in the real world, I like... She's 22. Yeah, it's not okay. But, like, somebody's children. She's 22. She can turn around and say, hey, what's up? As much as I'm, like, have no problem with confrontation, I don't know.
Starting point is 01:08:07 I think it would be tough. Like, I really like this guy we're three months in. It's a tough thing to say, like, why are you still here? You don't say like that. You say, like, hey, You just didn't, like, do anything. You just sat in my space. Oh, that's not tough for me.
Starting point is 01:08:19 That's super conversation. Yeah. No, I mean more like... Well, it's super... She should have been like, what are you doing tonight? And if he was like, I'm just going to chill out, really? Are you going... I feel like a way you could have been like...
Starting point is 01:08:32 Yeah. Are you going home? Like, I feel like you could have said that. Like, oh, when are you going home? When are you taking off? Sure, yeah. There's ways to say it when you're like, oh, you want to get dinner and then I'm going to crash. I'm going to give you an analogy.
Starting point is 01:08:42 This is like, when people were like, I went through his phone and I found something. I'm so scared that he's going to get mad at me. It's like, well, there wouldn't be anything to find if he didn't do this thing. Okay, so if she comes home and says this condescending thing, if he didn't do something that was so unbelievably presumptuous and comfortable, like that trumps her being condescending about why you're here. True, true, true. I know, I know.
Starting point is 01:09:01 I think it's weird and, like, it was very presumptuous, and he's the guy's probably lazy or whatever. There's not much, too. It's not insidious. I think if she wants to, like, salvage this relationship, I think. Yeah, but she's starting a bad president. I'm not asking any. Any kind of question.
Starting point is 01:09:15 I think you could sit somebody down and be like, hey, I really like you. I like spending time with you, but like I need my own space. This is a two-parter. Okay. Do you want me to read the second part? Yeah. Okay. And this will be our final one.
Starting point is 01:09:26 So same guy, same girl, same guy. Most recently, I had told him he could spend the night with me after his night out, but I was staying in. He said he would be at my place by 1 a.m. So I stayed up waiting for him. 3 a.m. came, and he still was not at my place. So I went to bed thinking he had just made other plans. Around 4.30 a.m. I woke up to him standing over me. I start freaking out.
Starting point is 01:09:44 and he's trying to call me down and saying, it's just me, it's just me. I woke up the next morning and he was passed down on my couch, covered in dirt, and all scuffed up. I woke up, I woke him and asked how the fuck he got in my apartment. Mind you, I live in a four-story walk-up. She's at New York. You can tell you. People don't say walk-up. I live in a four-story walk-up on the second, oh, on the second floor of a four-story walk-up.
Starting point is 01:10:03 Okay, she lives in second floor. As I'm sure you have now guessed, he scaled the building and took my bedroom window screen out and climbed in. Obviously, I did not take this lightly. He claimed that he thought he was welcome, and then I still wanted to spend the night with him, even though he was a little bit late. Wow. That's insane.
Starting point is 01:10:22 Also, what windows aren't, like, my windows have, like, the gates on and stuff. But here's the other thing. There's no texting going on in this relationship. Well, she's asleep, but, like, to me, the definition of being welcome is not having to scale the building, right?
Starting point is 01:10:37 Like, the one thing doesn't equal the other. I thought I was still welcome, so I popped the screen out and crawled in. Even I'm not welcome to stalk you in the middle of the night. What? Can you? Listen, listen, I think this relationship's going great. I'd like to be a shadowy figure above you in your bed.
Starting point is 01:10:53 You guys, this is really weird to say, I have this weird soft spot for this guy. I don't know. What is wrong with you? Girl, I swear to God. What is wrong with me? The guy's obviously an idiot. He's a dopey. He's an idiot.
Starting point is 01:11:08 I know, but he's just really. What do you? You're like, I really love this guy to sweep me off my feet. He's a felon. He, like, hung out in her apartment. She's like, no, just let him do it everybody. And he, like, commits a... He, like, had a bad, like, childhood and he, like, needs a home.
Starting point is 01:11:25 Yeah, like a mental institution. A doctor kitten. What? Paul agrees with me. Yeah. Yes. Okay. I'm sorry.
Starting point is 01:11:33 I think it's funny, but he agrees. I'm sorry, guys. You're like, that guy, he just goes the extra mile, like, climbing up a New York City building and breaking it, breaking an errand. Maybe a little guy will get you chocolates or flowers, but what kind of break in entering? We always say we're in our 30s, so bar is, like, so low. I never realized how low Ashley's bar is. This might be the lowest bar I have ever heard in my life.
Starting point is 01:11:54 You guys, listen, I came from a relationship where... You know what Ashley's thing is, sorry to interrupt you, but you know what you're thinking? I will change him. I will change him when he won't climb up buildings. Look, guys. I'm very easy to change. I'd rather that than, like, him not come home at all and not know where he is, and he's
Starting point is 01:12:09 fucking somebody else. Well, you know, maybe he didn't climb up the building. Maybe he fucked this. A dustbuster. I don't know. You guys, here's a deal. Like, towards the end of my last relationship, I feel like when I was at this guy,
Starting point is 01:12:22 he just wouldn't come home. And I would, it was really upsetting to me. So maybe if he just would have scaled the building and climbed into bed, I'd feel a lot better about it. You guys would still be together. Were you guys living together?
Starting point is 01:12:32 I feel like Ashley. Were you living together? Sorry, sorry. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I feel like Ashley wants to date this guy and this girl can't date this guy anymore. So, um, and he's athletic if you scaled the building.
Starting point is 01:12:41 Ha! Also tall because he was tall enough to grab the ladder. You got to be tall to grab the ladder. I'm just not. I was going to stop dating. It is my dream man. The A&T stays there all day to watch the dog. Hello.
Starting point is 01:12:57 I have like a built-in dog sitter. He's athletic. All right. Tennis his phone number. Ashley's dating this guy now. One thing she didn't mention that I'm sure it was true is how about this? She's probably paying for everything. Well, right.
Starting point is 01:13:07 So I'm not going to do that. She's got to be. This guy's just off. This guy's like a 12-year-old. He's just going off doing adventures. Ashley likes her. He had a dirt bike. I like younger guys.
Starting point is 01:13:16 Ashley likes younger guys. Really? Yeah. Like 21 year olds? Yeah. 22. As long as they're old enough. So is this weird?
Starting point is 01:13:25 Yeah, but not weird. Not too weird for me. I was like, yeah, but also kind of romantic at the same time. Turns around a little bit. She feels like at least he's flexible. Yeah. I would say it's weird. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:13:37 It's weird. It's completely weird. All right. We got to wrap up for the day. Jesus. Sean, you're a great guys. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable. about your life. That was awesome.
Starting point is 01:13:46 No problem. You want to talk about ricotta cheese more before I go? Look, I'm not a very deep person, so that's where my death level lays is an Italian food, okay? Sean's bearing his soul. Brain is like, I have something to say. Yeah. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:14:00 I'm like, and that's when I realized I wasn't a man. She's like, right? Rebbele's weird, right? She's like, I'm like this. I'm like, and when do you know what love is? She's like, do you guys spell out stuff with your spaghetti? What's shredded cheese? What's your, what you take on?
Starting point is 01:14:24 that. I have a lot of stuff to say about plain food also. Oh my God. I can't breathe. I can't wait until you talk to people about me. I think it's great. I think you're awesome. He's like, I'm not going to bitch. I'm not going to talk about you. I don't care about you. Get out of here. He's like she talked about her fake Instagram dog and her hot and she's like, I came here and talk about a divorce. She is horrible. Don't tell people. I want more, I want people to come on our show. I'll tell all of you want. This is fun. Okay. Good. What I want you to do is tell people where they can find you, doing an upcoming show. I do. I have, I'm on Instagram and Twitter at Shawnee Time, NC-N-Y-T-I-M-E. What's your dog? She's not, Magoo?
Starting point is 01:15:12 Riggles, like Don Rickles. But nobody in your audience is going to know what Don Rickles is. I was just, Shawnee Time and Rickles should be like a cartoon. It should. Shawnee Time and Rickles. Yeah, for sure. And a child's book. And I have a show at the comedy seller
Starting point is 01:15:25 at the Fat Black Pussy Cat next of Thursday, when this comes out, the Thursday after this comes out. So the set, November 8th at 7 p.m. Oh, sweet. November 8th at 7 p.m. I'm doing a longer set. At the Fab Like PussyCat, you go to ComedySellar.com for tickets. And, yeah, bring me raviolis, if you can, please.
Starting point is 01:15:43 Thank you. I would love that. Hard break in raviolis, the name of Sean's hour. If people don't know, I love that room. It's just like the coolest little setup there. It's a cool room, yeah. Get tickets ahead of time, guys, online. They sell out pretty quickly there.
Starting point is 01:15:57 If you don't know what the confidence is. It's already sold out. Yeah. And follow you on every little. everything and yeah. That's it. Thank you so much for having me. Thank you for having me.
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