Girls Gotta Eat - Drunk in Love?

Episode Date: April 23, 2018

Bottoms up, bitches! In this saucy episode, we share our drunk dating stories and also discuss how alcohol can make or break a relationship. Bonus topics include: The best music to have sex to, how we feel about Coachella, and our new famous man friend. Oh, and we also reveal way too much in a drunk game of Never Have I Ever (oops). Follow Girls Gotta Eat on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

That, like, when somebody tells me at a first date, they love camping. Like, that's the one thing I won't pretend that I'll pretend. I like to do butt stuff before I will pretend that I like to go camping. Same girl. And you know, I don't, I would definitely do anal before camping. Oh, God. Hi, guys. Welcome back to, like, it was like, who was going to do the intro.

Who could spit it out first. Anyways, welcome back to Girls Got to Eat podcast. This is episode 10. 10. We made it. I'm really excited. I didn't even realize that. Yay.

You didn't? Well, last week you announced it was number nine. I just wasn't thinking about it. Logical progression into 10. Again, I can't not functioning. Yeah, right. Okay, so this is a new episode. Thanks for coming back, y'all.

Y'all come back now. I say y'all a lot. Nobody ever notices. Well, people say that I have a southern draw on this podcast. And I'm like, what? I never heard it. until somebody called you out on it. And I was like, oh, there it is.

Somebody's like, I love it. Ashley, it's all heated and gets all southern. I think they just don't know how to place it. That's true, because you're from Delaware, which is... And I don't have that accent. Not the South film. That's his very specific... PA, Delaware accent that I do not have.

Well, I'm excited to finish recordings so that we can go drink somewhere because last week, we wrapped recording and had a great, great evening ahead of us. We really did. a shoot, which means she goes places and shoots food that I get to eat for free. So I'm always down to tag along. Most importantly, we met a guy. We did. Um, who was very cute. He was half Egyptian and half what? He's like a smoke show. Like we walked in. I was like, oh God. But I immediately was like, well, he's rhinos. Like, he's like your type. And I was like, I have, I, this is off limits

to me. Actually, let me be clear about how insane I am. I went to the bathroom and texted Ashley on my way to the bathroom. Don't talk to my new boyfriend while I'm going. I know. You came out and we were laughing and you were like, what's going on here? I don't like it. Stop. I don't like it. And I just, look, I just, you know what? You're a really good friend. So I think that you can like tell when I'm into something and just back off. Thanks. So I just treat people how I wanted to be treated. Like, I don't want, I don't ever want like a catty girlfriend that's like coming from my man. You know, I don't ever want to feel competitive. So it was like, yeah, we walked in.

That was like, yeah, this is all you, girl. Well, you know I like those brown men? Yes. Anyways, he is an actor who did one of the most important things you can do professionally, which is to be in an episode of girls. Your favorite show? I'm obsessed with that show. So he, whatever.

Actually, let me interrupt you. I called my mom, the third host of this podcast, who I had not brought up in like two weeks. Oh. I feel like we've lost listeners. I was like, you know, I always- Broad Rap every week. I talk to my parents about everything that happens.

So I was like, yeah, I met this guy. He's really cute. And she's like, what does he do for a living? Because she's Jewish, so she asked to know. Yeah, first. And I was like, well, he's an actor and she's like, oh, honey, is he, how do I put this? Is he a bartender who's acted a little bit? Or is he an actor?

Oh, my God. Oh, Mom. Savage. Savage. You know what, though? She wants her baby girl to be taken care of. But you're like, listen, Mom, he was in girls. Click.

Like mic drop. Don't worry that. Mom. Thanks. What have you ever done with your life, mom, besides be a psychiatrist? But I'm, yeah, loser. But I'm, like, I'm, like, watching Rana, like, trying to shoot this delicious bowl of, like, crawfish, whatever it was, also while trying to keep an eye on me and him to, like, make sure. And I was, like, she, I don't know.

But it's like I have PTSD from some girls stealing my man or something, which is crazy. Because, like, I have double-de-bobs. Nobody could steal my man if they tried. What do you bring into the table, huh? I fucking, not you. I ain't long-ass legs, bitch. I'm sorry. This hair?

You do have phenomenal hair. Not right now, but no. If you showed up looking like this somewhere. I can't even imagine. Like, I'm a different person right now than what I should look like. I wouldn't sit with you. No, God, no. I wouldn't sit with myself.

But anyway, he was great. We hung out with him for a few hours. We were like a new little squad by the end of the shoot. Yes, he's cute. Anyways, what's going on with you, sis? So, yeah, last week I mentioned that I was going to go out with the 24-year-old again. We went out and it was good, but we're at dinner and just casually talking about what's been going on. And I was like, have you seen the new Drake video?

And he was like, yeah, I don't know, I'm like, not really a fan. And I was like, I'm sorry, sorry, what? Did you leave? I'm talking about the nice for what video. That is our favorite video, favorite video of all time, favorite song of all time, whatever. That's the most important thing that's over happening. I was like, you don't like the video. He was like, and I'm not really into it.

I'm like, you're not into strong black females. And I'm like, no, no, no, back up, back up. First of all, he's not a huge Drake fan, whatever. But I was like, the video, the video is like a female empowerment, like a movie that every strong character has their own storyline and they're living their best lives. Issa Ray. Isha Ray is in like, Olivia Wilde and Tiffany Haddish. And so I'm just like, I'm going off. A hands are in the air.

Like we're, you know, he was like, okay, Ashley, settle down. I'm like, you need to watch it again. You need to watch it again. You need to watch it again. So we had a nice little date. We get back to his place. And, you know, we're just like, we really started like hooking up or anything. We were like laying in his bed.

And he is like this big TV, really nice TV that like swivels around. And so he like swivel the TV. and then put on the nice for what video. And I was like, this is my foreplay. Like, this is like, I'm so turned on by this. Like, that's the way to get me going. I woke up in the morning to a DM from 2 o'clock in the morning. Let me just be clear.

It was from Ashley's account. From Ashley's Instagram account. Ash House, follow me. She opens with, hey, Raina, it's me, Ashley, as if I wouldn't be sure who was DMing. me and who I was looking at, flips the camera around, and turns on the nice for what video for me so I can see what's going on. Yeah, I was like, hey, it's me, Ashley, and his name, we're just in here, in the bed,

watching the Nice for What video just thought you'd want to see. Well, I was just, I mean, also, he came around. He loves a video now, just for the record. But I was like, this is my new preferred foreplay is just music video. I was like, and like, nice for what, obviously, anything Rihanna. anything Beyonce, maybe not lemonade, but like put on the drunken love video. And I'm like ready to go. He was just laying there like totally disinterested in this video.

You guys are going to have to go to therapy like I am with my 24 year old because it's 2 o'clock in the morning. You're like, hold on. I can't like I can't mess around with you yet because I have to send a video to Raina. Well, also that's the closest we've come to like sending each other videos during sex. Like we weren't having sex, but like I did still send you a video from someone's bad. So I'm still winning. at this point. We are edging towards dog filter stunt level.

They have for me. There for me. Well, he loves Lauren Hill. So after that, we actually played the miseducation of Lauren Hill. That album, so much foreplay. Did you have sex? We did. We did. We did. We did. But here's the thing. I, if I could choose a little known fact about me to have music on during sex, I would prefer it. I just love music that much. I feel like I'm starting in my own, like, music video porn, whatever. So it was like already on. So I was like, can I put in a request? You know, I've never, I never have sex to music. I love this idea.

Why not? Right. So I'm like, the music's on, can I put in a request? Can we put on Rihanna anti? It's the sexiest album. The album was like desperado and needed me and kiss it better. It's so good. It's so sexy.

I've always wanted to have sex to it. I want to have sex. I want to have sex to Cardi B. I like it. That's what I put. I listen to it when I exercise. Like, why wouldn't I listen to it? I know.

I'm just kidding. I don't exercise. That's a crazy thing. That was wild. Ashley was like, is she serious? I'm not really sure. I'm trying to like pull it up. Have you guys heard this song before?

I know they can't respond. Yeah, two weeks ago when it came out. Like, who wouldn't fuck to this? I like it like that. We're having a dance party. I like it. Yes, girl. This was on my Instagram story two weeks ago.

I like pun. You do. Bill? Bitch I'm signing. Anyways. It's, I would have sex to that. Duh, girl. I'm sorry.

I had to turn you on to Nice Furwati and Cardi B. It's like, oh, God. Now you're gonna be fucking to Rihanna. Speaking of music, Coachella was this week. Baycella. Ashley was all excited to like sit at home under the blanket and watch Bechella with her dog and then they pulled it from the year. They did.

Like I was like an hour to live. late. Like, my, Kate had just sent it to me and was like, hey, you need to sit down and watch all of Baychella. Like, it's, and she, there was two separate clips. Like, someone had uploaded to YouTube or whatever. And I was like, oh, God, I got to get home. I, like, raced home and, like, got ready. Because it's like two hours, you know? And the clips were gone. It was devastating. It's like when somebody eats your leftovers from the fridge and there's just nothing you can do about it. You have no recourse. And there's, there are no, like, there's not, no more out there. I mean, there's people's shitty cell phone videos.

you know what I mean, but there's no full performance of Bechella. Well, I want to make a confession to you. I don't like music festivals. I am not surprised to hear this. You're not surprised? I don't know. I feel like you're like, you just, yeah. Like, I don't really either.

To like go to a music festival. It's just like a bunch of crowds and drunk people and people on drugs. You don't like me either. I am not crazy about any huge crowd situation at all. And like I love my music. Orgy at a music festival. It's the only way I'm going. I love a live, like, I have seen some of the best concerts in my life in, like, smaller venues.

Like the Tabernacle Atlanta is, like, my absolute favorite. But that's just not my preferred way to see live music. And I've gone to a ton of music festivals. I've had fun at them. There's one, I love the most that's on the beach. It's called Hangout Music Festival. And I went to that three years. And, like, once you go to that, there's like no going back.

It's on the beach. Like, I don't want to be in the sand. I don't want to be in the dirt. I don't even be in the fucking grass. I mean, fucking trapped. But it's, no, and like, I feel trapped. Yes, like, and a lot of them are in the middle of nowhere. Like, hangout is on the beach.

You stay in a beach house. You cruise down to the festival on bikes every day. It's incredible. So, like, no, I don't ever want to fucking camp. Oh, my God. If I was dating a guy and he was like, let's go to Bonnaroo, I'm like, we're done. Bonneroo. If somebody wanted to go camping, I literally, you know, like, when you first meet a

You want to sleep outside and not shower and then just, like, mosh to, like, I can't. You know when you first meet a guy and you're, like, pretending that you, like, eat healthy and exercise often. And then like that, like when somebody tells me at a first date, they love camping. Like, that's the one thing I won't pretend that I'll pretend. I like to do butt stuff before I will pretend that I like to go camping. Same girl. And you know, I don't, I would definitely do anal before camping.

I literally would. Hiking, biking, hiking, camping, I don't want to do it. I don't want to do any of that stuff. I'm good with hiking biking. Also, the thing about music festivals, I'll do anything in like a VIP experience. But like I don't like to be with masses of people in the heat. drunk people, you're waiting in line for bathrooms, waiting in line for drinks, you're spending all your money on drinks.

Coachella, you can't, you can only drink in designated areas, like, what the actual fuck? So, I mean, no, I'm not, it's not, people that are just like, got to go to every music festival and what fucking dress up and do all the things, no. But I've had great experiences at a few that I've gone to, but it's not really my jam. Well, I'm glad that we vibe on this because what we're talking about today is, could you date someone if you're partying, styles were different. Yes. You meet a guy or a girl, whatever, you meet someone, you think you're super into them, and then they're like, by the way, every weekend during festival season, I dress in costume,

get a bunch of Molly and travel the world going to music festivals and fucking raging. You know, I totally forgot about the week, like if you are a burning man person. I don't know. I mean, whatever. It's a lifestyle. Yeah. And like if you're into it and your significant other isn't like it's it's an issue yeah I don't know I've seen maybe like once or something all right so let's knock them down I want to start with drinking and dating drinking and dating which is just like they go hand in hand I mean think of every first date you've gone on it's like do you want to get drinks do you want to get drinks you want to get drinks always drinks drinks drinks drinks drinks I mean we have obviously such a huge drinking culture but those two things I mean it's I can't imagine

a first date that didn't involve drinks, you know? You know what people are like, do you want to get a coffee? And I'll be like, um, you spelled vodka wrong. I don't know what you're talking about. Yeah. Yeah, with Bailey's, that sounds great. Right. In the morning, when we wake up together, I'll have a coffee with you.

After we got drunk at the drinks. Sure, coffee's great. So I want to share stories of, let's start. Have you gotten really drunk on a date? Like, do you have a story of like a time where you got really wasted and either like burned it to the ground or it worked in your favor? I have the opposite situation where people have gotten really humiliatingly drunk. But before I tell that story, have you had a situation where you got so fucked up? Yes, girl.

I used to drink so hard. I don't drink. I don't binge drink like I used to. Yeah. I mean, I have some hilarious dating stories of times I got too drunk. One of my favorites is there was a guy. we've talked about a few times at this podcast. This was the guy that I met at the end of college,

and we were long distance for years. And we had met one night out. So exchange numbers, drunken night out, whatever. This was our second time hanging out. And he was like, let's meet. You know, my friends, your friends. Let's all meet up at this. This was at Clemson where I went to school.

Pizza night. Pizza night was $5 pizzas and $3 liquor pitchers. What? So I, I mean, back in college is like you just down in the south. It's like a date. Like, what do you just? to do on a date. I didn't even know. So I was like, got super wasted before he showed up. I was just nervous. Like, it was the second time I was seeing him. I just was drinking out of nerves.

Got so wasted. Like, I don't remember the night really. And he ended up at his place. Like, we were making out rolling around in the bed. I fell off the bed on the floor. I remember breaking a CD case. Like, I was, like, rolling around on the floor like a fucking beached whale. Oh, my God. If you remember the CD, you like, you smash like a fucking dashboard confessing. CD case. Like, I don't even know. So he's like, oh my God, probably like this girl's going to like ruin my bedroom. She's a fucking tornado. We got into the shower. I don't even know. Is this the one that like to fucking the shower all the time? Yes, actually it was. Yes, totally was. Flooded the whole bathroom. Like as in they didn't get their deposit back. Like I don't know if we

didn't shut the curtain flooded. I'm never talking about. Yes, I remember getting out and being like, in like water up to my ankles. I swear to fucking God. Luckily somehow in the night, I told him I had an 8 a.m. exam. So he drove me home, put me to bed, and set an alarm for me. I woke up for this exam, hair matted from the shower. Like, where am I? Alford from the night before. When took this exam and was like, well, that's the end of that. And a friend of mine was like, hey, I saw so-and-so coming out of the business building, whatever.

Are you guys still hanging out? And I was like, yeah, I don't know. Absolutely not. And I told them what happened. My friends are like, you're such a fucking disaster. Why did he call me an hour later? I was like, hey, girl, you want to go to the lake? Like he wanted to date me.

Well, maybe. You saw me naked and drunk rolling around on your floor breaking CD cases. And you're like, yeah. I don't think men have that high of a standard. Like, I have done some pretty terrible things to people. And they have called me the next day. I don't think that men have all these, like, rules and deal breakers. You lost him at I got naked.

He saw your boom. That's true. And that was it. He doesn't care what else you do. You had sex with him. You touched the penis. He's happy. That's true.

But let me ask you. We're talking about like matched up party styles. Like did he get fucked up like that too? You know, when it comes to him, like, yeah, I feel like he wasn't a huge partier. And that was the guy that I brought in the cruise, remember? And he just like woke up day two and was like hung over and whiny and like didn't really want to party on this like vacation we were on. So no, our party cells didn't really match up.

He definitely lacked spontaneity and just, you know, I didn't need to be out. getting wasted every night, but yeah, he was kind of lame. Do you feel like that, like, earlier instance was, like, a window into, like, future things to come? Probably. Yeah. That's interesting to think about that, like, somebody that's just sort of, like, a little more low-key and doesn't really like to, like, I mean, we weren't a match eventually.

We weren't a match, like, in the first place, but I was definitely more of a party girl back then, and he was just, like, a little more buttoned up. And I was just like, ugh. It depends on what age you are, though, like, you said back then, like, who doesn't act like that when they're 19, 20, 21? I think it's important to differentiate. Like, am I 19 and we're just getting fucked up all the time? And obviously we'll mature past this.

Or is this like a 30-year-old male or female that's acting like this? Oh, totally. Yeah. And I mean, I have something, I never got like wasted on a first, second, third date. I don't even, I mean. As an adult. Yeah, no, absolutely not. I have like one story of a guy that I went on a Tinder date with.

And, like, he did not look like his pictures. And I was like, well, I'm already here. So let me just slam some shots. And like that night was interesting. But yeah, no, I mean, I'm a responsible drinker. I drink a lot. I like to party. But like, it's not cute to like black out and stumble and slur and, you know,

have your life be ruined the next morning with a hangover. Like, I don't know. You just outgrow it. You're not a sloppy drunk, though. Like, I've seen you drink a lot. Yeah, I can be, yeah, I can really handle my alcohol. But what about, what about a guy getting drunk on a date? You dealt with that.

I had the weirdest situation to happen. So I met this guy when I was in Chicago. And the first night we hung out, it was like a group of friends. He was a friend of a friend. And he was pretty drunk. Yeah. I mean, he, it was like one of the, I don't have to call it. It's not like, I don't know how to name it, but it, he was so far past like the normality.

He was. Normacy. I like your little extra syllable, though. Normality. That's cute. You know there's a kid out there named Normality. normalcy. No, you're like, something's off here.

True, Thompson. You get... I hope everyone has a good day, except for you, Tristan. Good morning to everyone except Tristan. Okay, so he was past the normalcy. Like, I know what you mean. Something's like not... Something's a little off.

It's like, you know, all of us are like having a good time on a Saturday night, whatever. But he was so good looking. It's fine. He asked me out and I just thought, like, whatever. We got on a Saturday night and just had a couple too many drinks. So we went out that week and he showed up and he looked great. He obviously dead sober. He was in a suit in an SUV.

Like, he really was perfectly nice until it spiraled. How do I explain this? We had like good conversation. He was nice. He was funny. He was smart. I had two drinks and he had six. In your span of two.

Yes. Like you're finishing your second glass of pino gracio. And he's like, I'll take a seventh vodka. It was a school night. Yeah. I mean, it was a Tuesday night. And it wasn't going up on a Tuesday. He went way up on a Tuesday.

By the way up, this is our rap episode. How many more song lyrics can we incorporate? Okay, all right. Real back in. Okay. So he's getting drunk. So when he's, we're at, he was on a mission. We were at like this YAC Club and he went from being like fun and smart and like immediately descending into like TMI and he mentioned that he had been engaged.

Okay. So he went full overshare. Overshare is the most. An understatement. Overshare is an understatement. It's like saying that the Holocaust was like sort of a bummer. Yeah. He was like, you know, we weren't really like a match because I'm so alpha and I think that really shrunk her.

human and made her feel like less than and it was really hard for my family so we're all in therapy together and like my parents have like his last relationship like yes and then he admits to me that she actually called off the wedding because he cheated on her gotcha um let me just remind you this is the first time i've ever been on a date first day first person um so uh i would say the oversharing was a little bit uncomfortable for me yeah Yeah, and like whatever, like first date and now you're just like wasted, like word vomiting everywhere. Like, I can't. I hope he went home and felt embarrassed.

I mean, it was very strange. It was very uncomfortable for me. I didn't know what. I do want to hear those things, of course, on date seven. Like it just was he was so uncomfortable. It was so bizarre. I didn't want to deal with it. And like I should have known from the first time that I hang out with him that like I was with 10 people and he was clearly the

drunkest person. Like, something was going on that, like, this should have been a window into what the date would have been like. But I just thought, like, you know, it's the weekend. Everybody gets fucked up. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Has it ever happened to you that, like, somebody got super fucked up? I had a guy get a DUI on a date.

And get that's not real. Taken to jail. What? Yes. Did you love it? You were like, we have so much in common. Oh, my God. Oh, my God.

I mean, we had drank all day. You know, I don't need to share all the details. I, you know, was drunk too and wasn't being responsible and just thought he was okay to drive. And he did. And I remember the point of realizing he shouldn't be behind the wheel and thinking, like, I'm going to tell. I remember where I was in Atlanta. I remember I was on Piedmont Road. And I was like, I'm going to tell him to pull over as soon as we get around this, like, bend and pull into, like, this chickfilet.

that I knew it was right there and the blue lights came on. And I was like, oh my, like the timing I can't. I mean, I was like, he had just, he was like all over the road. And I was like, okay, I mean, I'm drunk and I can realize this is bad. And yeah, I mean, got taken to jail and like, where did you go? Well, it's crazy because they try to get you too. So they say, ma'am, can you drive the car? Because they want you to get in the car and then they just arrest you right after.

It's crazy. And I like, I obviously know how that works. So, yeah, I mean, they tow the car and I had to like, this was before Uber. I had to like track down a cab. And yeah, I had to bail him out of jail the next day because I'm like, no one else know, I had his phone. So no one else knew where he was. I had to pay, you know, he paid me back, but I had to go to bail bondsman first thing

in the morning, bail him out of jail, drive him around, get his car from the impound. Yeah, it was not. Great. Oh my, I can't believe you had to go through this. Well, I was like, you know, again, I have had a DUI or two. So I know how shitty it is. And, you know, I was like, I don't know. know this? That was maybe our third date. So I was like, I just, you know, want to be there.

And I'm the only person that knows this happened, you know? Also, like, you were drinking too and you both got in the car. Yeah, exactly. I'm not saying it's your fault, but like one of you could have talked the other one out of it. Yeah. And I mean, yeah, so in that way, like, you know, it was his choice to get behind the wheel, but I felt partially responsible in that way too. So yeah, I was happy to hail him out of jail. But, um, yeah, that's probably crazy as things happened to be on a date. That's an hour real? Probably 20. 28? 29. That's crazy.

Yeah. I can't believe you about him. Did you see him again? It kind of fell apart up to that. I think he was yelling with some shit. And I was like, I'm past my DUI years, so I can't hang with you. No, I'm just kidding. But you are. Yeah. You are. Yeah. Like, you really are past it. It just, it wasn't. I mean, we probably weren't, you know, going to be a good match anyway, but that is the craziest drinking, really, a thing that's happened to me on a date. That is a wild story.

Yeah. It's pretty wild. But yeah, I mean, I think it's important that you, that your drinking styles match for sure. Like, I don't know that I could date someone that was totally sober. I did it before. We met at DUI school. Totally. Responsibly, everybody.

No, yeah, we met it to UI school and we dated and he was sober. And you weren't sober after DUI school? I just still casually drank. Well, it was, you know, it kind of, it wasn't ideal, but it was like, I realized that we actually did get along pretty well and had a connection, because, I mean, we could hang out all day long. Like, I remember going to hanging out with him one day for like nine hours. And my friends were like, you hung out with that guy for nine hours sober.

Like, you must actually really like that. I'm like, yeah. But I always say, like, somebody that's sober probably wouldn't want to date me either. So, like, do you feel like he had a problem with you drinking? I don't, I don't think he really did. I didn't get hammered around him at all. I really didn't even drink that much. But, you know, if we went up to dinner, like, I remember we went out one time.

It was, like, my birthday, like, had a margarita, you know. We ended things. I actually got back with one of my exes, saw him a few months later. And he was hammered. Oh, no. He had fallen out the wagon. He was, he offered me a Yeagermeister shot. I'm like, what, you just start drinking fucking amateur?

Like, no, I'm not taking a fucking straight Yeager shot. So I felt kind of bad seeing him like that. I was like, oh, you know, he didn't figure his life out. You know, what he could have said was like, Ashley, seeing you brings back all these memories. And I just, I need to numb it. If we could just share a Yeager shot together. But yeah, I mean, what do you, what do you think? Would you date somebody that's sober?

Yeah. I don't want to say, like, I would never say never. Yeah. But, like, just like, I feel like I don't necessarily want to date a person that's sober. I don't think they'd want to date me either, you know? Like, I do like to drink and I do like to go out and I don't need to be at, like, a club partying, like, crazy. But I do like to sit at home and have a glass. of wine. And I don't, not that any sober person would ever tell you not to drink around them or like, you know, please don't do that. But like, there is an element of like, I don't really want to be shoving this in your face. If somebody has a real problem with something, like, I don't want to throw that in their face every single day. Right. And I've been, I've been a drinker since I was in high school. I, it is like, it's something that I really like to do. I am a responsible drinker. I have had some problems in the past, but I've gotten in all our control. I really.

enjoy like having wine. I love going out for margaritas. Like I really, it would be hard for me to stop drinking. And again, like, I think you have a lot of guilt there. There's people that have been sober for years and years and years and years and years and they're way more okay dating some of the drinks and there's people that probably like just couldn't handle being around it. And I think I definitely am not seeking it out by any stretch. What I would love to do is get somebody, like we'll do a different episode about like actually being sober and dating when you're sober. I'd love to get somebody who is actually sober to talk about it because it's not really something you and I can speak to. And like, I think to lighten it up a little bit, I think it's really

important that when you're dating someone, you're like kind of gauging how they like to party and are they binge drinkers? Are they like sober all week and healthy? And then they go so hard and they black out. I don't want that. Let's talk about that. That is to me is like another like weird sort of like red flag. And I dated somebody that like all week long was like a successful lawyer, got up early in the morning. He worked out every day after work. He ate healthy. He cooked dinner. for himself. Like, even if I, like, had, like, a glass of wine or a bourbon after work, like, he really didn't, like, join me that often and doing it. But on the weekends was, like, lit out of his mind. And I really do not like that. So you actually had the worst of both worlds.

Like, you have, like, the, like, lame, like, won't have a glass with wine with you during the week. And then, like, the blackout on the weekends, like, Jesus. You think everybody listening to his podcast is, like, has Rana ever made a good decision on anybody? She's, ever dated. Well, he came with some fun perks. I know who you're talking about. Yeah, like his money. Who do you think bought the wine that I was drinking by myself? So drinking. I think it's important you kind of analyze how you like to drink and hopefully you're not dating somebody that drinks and turns into a total monster. Like you drink every time

you fight. The goal is to just like be on the same page with that kind of stuff. We've all gotten drunk and like picked a fight, but there are like people that I think will pick fights a lot more when they're drinking. Oh, God, yeah. I mean, it escalates everything. And so that's a thing. Like, it was a big problem in one of my past relationships. I would say one of the main things that eventually broke us. I, again, I don't think we should have ended up together. But it was a big issue. And I know other couples like that too, that like they don't have drinking problems. Like, they just fight when they drink and that's, that sucks. You just want to be like the too happy. drunk, you know, as a couple.

You want to go out and, like, drink with your significant other and not fight. And I don't know exactly the advice to offer. I think probably part of it is, like, dealing with the stuff that's on the surface, like figuring out what's coming out when you're drinking and trying to deal with that when you're sober and then really just taking a look at it.

Like, can we tone this down? Can we figure out how to not fight every single time we go out and drink, you know? Yeah. Well, I don't know how, like, you would... I don't know how you could have handled that any better than you did, because, like, that wasn't the situation where you met the person and he was just like fucked up out of his mind all the time. Like he slowly descended into it. Well, and yeah, and once we started to have more problems

in the relationship, that got worse too. I will say in that relationship, I realized when I was getting drunk, like, problems were coming from my end too. And I cut back. And I remember one specific incidences we went, we're at this wedding and like, I just got drunk and angry for whatever reason. It was like off the rails. And I was like, I never want that to happen again. Like, that was an ugly side of me and I really, I really, like, reeled it in. Did he give you shit for it? Yes, it was bad. And I was like, I don't, I don't need to get drunk though. Like, it's fun. I don't, I really even likes to. I'm a fun person, no matter what. Like, I'm not. I need to get drunk. Shut up. You're sure. We're both great sober. Like, we do this podcast sober. So, I mean, it's just kind of,

that's the thing, too, you have to realize, like, I don't need to get drunk. What? You know, sometimes it just happens. You're just having fun. You're out drinking. But like, I don't ever drink to drunk. I mean, I'm not 21 years old. You know, I drink to get drunk. But I don't need to. And yes, you said, like, we, we do this podcast sober. Clearly, we're a delight when we're sober. The one thing I will say that when it, when it comes to this stuff and party styles and drinking and drugs and all that kind of thing is that it can totally change. And I think that a lot of times this podcast were like, honey, he ain't going to change. Leave him. Leave him. And it And like this can change. Like I've changed. Like you, you know, you've changed. Like I, I think that sometimes people are out drinking and partying every night until they have a reason not to. And I had an experience with this with an ex of mine that we dated pretty seriously. I didn't want to date him initially because I just felt like he was this party guy and he was out every night. He was drinking every night and he's responsible. I was like, I don't want a part of that. I was, you know, in my 30s was like, I don't want to date a guy like that. He was a little bit.

younger and I just kind of pegged him as that type of guy. And like this as soon as we started, we went on like a couple dates. He was like, I got to turn the shit around. And I think that he wanted to be better for me. And I think that he wanted to just spend time with me. And he didn't feel the need to be out every night like a dive bar with his friends like on a Tuesday. And it was, it was kind, it was nice to see. And I, I just want to be with somebody that, yeah, we go out and drink and party, but like if we're just hanging out at home and we're Netflixing or doing whatever. Like we're both really happy to be there.

We both really just want to be there. Like, I don't ever want to feel like I'm with a guy and he would rather be out partying with his friends. I don't want to feel like someone's sacrificing their night life or their party life for me. And I think that was really nice that we both kind of settled down together. We still went out. We weren't some boring couple, but we just kind of matured together when it came to

the drinking stuff. And I thought that was cool. So I think it can change. I mean, you see guys all the time. They're like party so hard. And girls. and then you just kind of grow up. But there's a difference to be somebody that's, like, addicted to something

and needs to be doing this every night, versus somebody that, like, it's just a single guy that is partying with his friends and they meet somebody that they like, and it just changes. And I think that you just need to walk in with, like, you know, you're never going to, like, change somebody completely. But, like, you knew that this guy was just sort of out parting because he was young and saying.

What else was he going to do? Right, exactly. Or, like, when I used to work in restaurants, I went out every night and party. But, like, if I had a relationship, I probably would have gone home after work. So, yeah, there's a differentiator for sure. Yeah.

But I just think we're always like, ladies, you see this red flag. But yeah, so if they're out doing Coke every night, that's a red flag. If they're just kind of out drinking, partying, that can change. Right. Take on that art project. Change him. You can change him. Oh, my God.

I'm like ending on a hopeful note. You want to get drunk and play games now? Yes. Yes. Yes. Perfect. All right, guys, in honor of this week's episode about drinking, we are going to play Never Have I Ever. We're going to play Never Have I Ever about drinking.

We've also been drinking. Let's be honest. We actually took a long break between recording the first part of this and this, and we've been to a wine tasting. We've been to dinner, and we have been drinking at my party. I just want to be real with them because I'm sure it's going to sound a little different. Okay. Well, let's preface. Okay.

So never have I ever just assume that all of these questions are prefaced with when I was drunk. Yes. Are you got that? Yes. Okay. Never have I. We're just going to ask each other, right? Are you basically just asking me if I've done it?

Yeah. Okay, cool. Never have I ever called somebody that wrong name during sex? Yeah. All right. I don't, I have not yelled out the wrong name during sex that I know of. I did call someone a wrong name once right before we had sex. My roommates were witnesses. This was in college. I had a crush on a guy named. Somebody not the name of your boyfriend.

And I was out with this guy and I got back to the apartment and, like, called him the wrong name. And my friends from like, Ashley, that's not his name. Maybe he still had sex with me. Have any of they ever called you the wrong name during sex? No, I'm sure. I'm sure when I was blacked down. I don't remember. So yeah, I'll half drink. I'll take a half sip.

Okay. Have you called someone the wrong name? Not that I remember, so it didn't happen. Oh, man, if only the world worked like that. It's if I don't remember it. I've had no DUIs then. Okay, my turn. Never have I ever woken up with somebody in the bed and did not remember their name?

Never, ever. Like seriously? Not once ever. absolutely not. They're neat. Good for you. I used to get so drunk. I'm not judging you.

I'm saying like I haven't. When did this happen to you? I don't know. What time do you want to talk about? No, I'm definitely... Their name? Home with them so drunk. And like I'm not even saying that I had sex with them all,

but you went home with somebody so drunk and you wake up and you're like, what is their name? And you're just like trying to find a piece of mail. Yeah. And you like tab them and a bunch of... How did this can turn back around on me? Hey! Hey, guys. Never have I ever lied about my number to save face.

Like, given someone the wrong number? Oh, number people you've had sex with? Number, yes. Yeah. Whatever. No one needs to know that. Is there anybody on earth that is honest about that? No, no one's honest about that.

Also, look, I don't even really want to know that of someone I'm dating. I don't want them to ask me that. I don't want to know that. That's just not. It's irrelevant. I'm 100% in that camp. I would never ask another person. I don't give me fuck.

I don't care. It doesn't matter to me. You could have slept with 100 women before me. I'd actually, here's a, let me ask you a question. Would you rather, let me segue into another drinking game. Would you rather sleep with somebody? Okay, would you rather date somebody that is slept with five people or 100 people? Oof.

Five, probably. But like, one or two? No, thanks. Okay. Let me change the scenario. for you. Oh, God. Five people or 50 people. Five people are 50 people. I'm fine with either.

You are. Yeah. Totally. Like, I mean, but the game is would you rather. It's not, would you rather? It's not, would you be fine with either? Because I don't care. I, um, 50, so I guess we're a little closer. In, in our numbers. No more drinking when we play this fucking game. That's an honest response. I, I'm actually great. I'm way closer to 50 than five. I actually think that you bring up something that is really interesting, which is that... Are you closer to 50 than 5, please say, yes.

Yeah. I mean, I think that psychologically bring up something interesting, which is that, like, I don't know that I would vibe with somebody that at my age and only slept with five people. Because something has happened. Yeah, no, I'm a big fan of breaking down the math. So I've been having sex for... You were 18, right? I was 17. So a lot of years.

Yeah, break it. And I'm not, I've only been in, like, a couple serious relationship. So I'm with you. So I would actually, I would probably pick the person that is love with 50, but five. For sure. The five, I'm just like wondering what's going on with you to be honest. A hundred's a lot. All right.

I'm not at 50. I got 50. Okay. All right. Well, you find a question. Ooh. Never have I ever peed the bed. No, I haven't been.

Somebody did it to me. Oh, they did. Yeah, in college. I was 18. I woke up and the bed was soaking wet. And I'm in a sheer panic because obviously, like, your first thought is like, did I do this? Because, like, I'd never done that before.

And I looked out of the bed and my comforter was red and then she tore white. And there was something like pink all over and I was like grow up also. Like, anyways, he did it. Okay, what about you? No. Never beat the bed. I don't think women do that. I think it's like a male thing.

It is. Yeah. I've heard of one girl, like not even a first. friend, like a story from a guy where that happened. But like, also like, who's out here pee in the bed? Aren't you so dehydrate? If you're that drunk, you should be so dehydrated. You're like, there's nothing. Never have I ever been in handcuffs for any reason. I mean, I've been arrested. Oh, I was thinking about sex things. Oh, no. Oh, no. I'm sorry. I don't care. We've already talked about it. Never have ever been in handcuffs for sex stuff.

No. I also like, I've been handcuffed so many other times for being arrested. Like, I feel like I have PTSD. Like, you can't handcuff me. Someone brings out the handcuffs. I'm like, no, no, for again. I'm not going to blow. And they're like, I'm just trying to make you come. I'm like, I won't take a breathalyzer. I'm like, it was making you. All right, guys, we hope you enjoyed the drinking episode. We are drunk. We are drunk. Our teeth are purple from want.

DM us and tell us who sounds less drunk because I bet it's going to be me. Wait, really? Yeah, I think I'm better. I think I'm better not sounding drunk than you. Your voice gets a little slurry. Fuck you, Ashley. I'm so good at everything. I'm so good at being as drug as you are.

I'm so good at peanut alcoholics. Anyways, thank you for tuning in to Ashley being a bitch and Girls Got to Eat episode 10. Cheers. Subscribe, rate, review on iTunes, listen on Spotify. That's your jam. Follow us on social. Girls Got to eat. Instagram, Facebook, Twitter.

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