Girls Gotta Eat - How to Be More Fit, Confident, and Tactfully Petty in 2026 feat. Cody Rigsby

Episode Date: January 5, 2026

To kick off the new year, we have the one-and-only Cody Rigsby – beloved Peloton instructor, bestselling author, and podcaster. He opens up about his new relationship, who he's close with at Peloton, how he gets away with being so spicy stuff in his classes, being a Disney adult, his relationship with his mom, and his feelings on marriage (and what the straights are doing wrong). Then we get his advice on how to achieve the 2026 goals our listeners submitted, from being confident, to doing more (and less?) anal, to being more petty (but tactfully). Before Cody joins us, we share our goals for the Year of the Horse, recap holiday highlights (read: appetizer contest), and discuss why this year is Rayna's year and not Ashley's. Enjoy! Follow Cody on Instagram @codyrigsby, listen to his podcast Tactful Pettiness, and get his book. Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Revolve: Get 15% off your first order at http://revolve.com/gge with code GGE. Article: Head to https://article.com for a beautiful new sofa, dining table, or bed. Better Help: Get 10% off at https://betterhelp.com/gge. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Hi, guys. Welcome back to another episode of Girls Gotta Eat. And welcome to 2026. Happy New Year, guys. We made it. We did it. A whole other year. I am not wearing earrings and I'm so naked.

I hate this. It's like the one thing I cannot. sand to not to forget. I don't even want to look at you. I'm disgusted. I got new earrings for Christmas. Like I just, how did I forget? I five rings on. The nails were worse that day though. When they were crying. At least you could brush your hair. If you're watching, I am still having gold nails into the new year. We're recording obviously before the year ends, but Julietta can't come till next week. So I am entering the year with these nails. And I feel like that's a bad omen. You also told me yesterday you haven't got a pedicure in two months, which is crazy.

You always pull this shit. New Year, same you. I haven't gotten one about six weeks, and I am starting to enter French manicure. In the winter, I don't care. I don't care. Well, you sleep next to somebody every night, I don't. My toenails are so long. The fact that you said that, I scratched it with my toenail the other night.

Okay, you were clipping your toenails on the floor the other day in your parents' out. Is everyone, what is actually happening? She's so brave. This is we're starting the year. No, I wanted to borrow the clippers. My toenails, my family makes fun to me for how long my toenails are, like, frequently. I put a paper towel down. Yes, you've got to collected the clippings.

Yeah, but there's like a lot of, your parents have a lot of pets. And I was like, someone's going to eat that. So it reminds me of that my dad had three really funny jokes during COVID, one a month when I lived with them in 2020. And the one of the funniest was, He was clipping his toenails in the living room. I don't think he had a paper towel down. And I'd go, are those your toenails?

Are you clipping your toenails right now? He goes, yeah, do you want them? And it was so funny. I said, you're just like, your toenail clippings are flying everywhere. He was like, yeah, do you want them? I was like, all right. Your dad is so funny. Time to go back to the city.

So funny. So, yeah, we had a great holiday. It was my favorite Christmas the week. This is my eighth, seventh or eighth time with your family for Christmas. I had to skip COVID because of COVID. And then the next year I got COVID really showed you guys who was boss. I was like, your voice sounds crazy. Are you sure you want to come?

You're like, I feel fine. I'm just going to come. No, it was my favorite Christmas we've had because Lisa came and the boys were so fun. Just Christmas with kids, it's different, not a hot take. But at this age, they're two and three and so fun. And everyone just really agreed this was their favorite Christmas. And my brother could not stop thanking me and also you. and Louisa for watching them on Christmas Day.

He sent me the nicest text. Your brother is like a different type of person. Well, because him and Steph cooked the dinner for the most part. And he was like stressed. He was like, you guys always say you'll help with the boys. But like it,

not that you don't, but like you need to you don't understand. You don't understand. You don't understand. Yeah. The whole time. They can't like be in the kitchen and they want to be with their mom and dad.

And we did that and I was so exhausted. Like to keep those boys entertained. It's just they get distracted easily or they get tired. You just have to keep it. going like one minute we were playing restaurant and the next I was up giving them a puppet show like you just have to keep them constantly entertained I just I don't have it in me long term a couple hours I was exhausted I was drunk but it was so so fun and last year I felt really like there was too much there was too many presents and there was too many pastas we tried to make and I was like we have to

pair some of the shit down this year and it felt good it felt like not too many presents and just the right amount of food and not as many dishes and everything just felt right and the vibes were high and it was so wonderful to have you there and I just love like seeing you with my nephews because you don't get to be it with yours as much and it was just really sweet. Oh, he can't talk yet. He took his first steps like yesterday and my sister-in-law just called me this morning. So he'll get there eventually but I was like having fun running around with them and yeah, I just, I love them so much. And we are going to tell you guys the results of the appetizer contest on Christmas Eve, but we're going to thank our partners first. Okay. Thanks to BetterHelp, get 10% off at Better

help.com slash gge and article head to article.com for a beautiful new sofa, dining table, or bed. And thank you to Revolve. Get 15% off your first order at revolve.com slash gge with code GGE. Okay. Advertiser contest. So you have been there since 2018. Yeah. I feel that I've stepped up everyone's game. And we've been doing this in our family for like 12 years, we realized. And Raina always gets slighted. It's every Christmas Eve, everybody submits a dish. Yes. And my first year, I really, I phoned it in the first couple years, but I was like,

I'll just make a thing. Like, I feel like it wasn't like, everybody stepped it up. Everybody stepped it up when I showed up. Yeah. So everybody, it just gets more and more elaborate every year. And this year, you tied for third. Okay, so your brother told me he was doing tuna crispy rice. And I was like, okay, so here's, I was going to make last year's dish and just like update it.

But like, tuna crispy rice, I was like, that is a ringer. Like, that will win. Yes. But crispy ribs is easy to fuck up because sometimes you eat it and it is just rock hard. I feel like we get at restaurants all the time. It is just a rock. It's a McDonald's Hash Brown. Yes.

And I was like, I will try to do something similar. I'll do Jewish tuna crispy rice, which is laccas. And so, which if you guys don't know, it's a Jewish food. We do it for Hanukkah. It's like shredded potatoes that you fry in the little cakes. And I topped it with crab, like crab salad. And since it's like Delaware, Maryland area, I put Old Bay in it and celery seeds in the crab salad. I'll tell you what your brother did to improve upon it.

Of course, he improved upon it. And Louisa is gluten-free. and everybody like made gluten-free versions for her, which is nice too. But that's what I made. I made old bay lotcas with crab salad. They were unbelievable. Thank you. And I will say Matt did win with the crispy race, which it was just, I knew he was going to.

They were unbelievable, better than any restaurant. And he had made them, what, three times before? Like, he really put in the work. It's my Achilles heel every year is that Matt actually practices the dishes. No one does that, but him, though. Yeah, but, like, you've got to play to win. Matt, like, plays the winning. He does.

Yeah. And Steph, like, actually made these dishes at a time. I did it. I did think about, I stayed at Megan's for the week before, and I did think about testing a resume. Lockers are tough. They look easy, but if the potatoes are too wet, they will never crisp up. And mine didn't crisp up enough.

The years were great, but they were a lot of work. And so Matt won. Buck got second, which I usually always support Buck's placing, and I didn't this year. He made these pheasant sliders. They were fine. And I hope he's not listening, but they didn't deserve to win. And I'm going to start cheating because I tally the votes and I announce the winners. and I'm done being honest.

I mean, give it to people who deserve it. That was fake. I just, I literally was like, I can rig this. I'm too honest. Yeah, but you're so honest that nobody would suspect that you did rig it. Exactly. This should have been the year. I mean, Buck just, listen, I love Buck, but he didn't do anything else special.

He didn't put, like, tomato or lettuce on it. He didn't toast the buns. Yeah, it just wasn't his best. And then you and Steph, she made this greer, like a greer onion-taste. It was like a French onion soup tart. It was unbelievable. You guys tied for third. And so Shishonk, he went to see his family, which he was with me for days before that.

And his family does big Christmas Eve. So we didn't spend that together, which I'm glad he got to be. He surprised his family. They didn't think he was coming. It was very sweet. But he was going to do these fried panier sliders inspired by a dish we had at Pigea Palace here in L.A., which is an incredible place to go. It's like Indian elevated bar food, essentially.

It's like really, really yummy. And then he was, I was going to have to do too much to execute. it. I was like, I can't do this. When he was explaining to me, he's like, all she has to do is assemble it. All she used to do is bread the panir, make a slaw, and then build the sandwiches. He was going to bread it. I was just going to deep fry it. Yeah, that's too hard. 12,

no, pieces, I can't do this. So we did these like non with some cheese and butter and butter chicken dipping sauce. They were fine. They were totally fine. They weren't going to be a winner, but he's coming for everybody next year. And your dad made chocolate-dipped salty potato chips.

They were unbelievable. We had to tell Aaron they were gone. Aaron could not. He was obsessed. He was just one track mine for those chips. I liked all the food this year. A lot. It was the best of everything.

It was really great. So what your brother did, so I left like three laccas behind with crab salad on it. So he took them and put them in the air fryer so that the crab was warm and he chrised up the laccas again and he put more old bay on top of it. It looked unbelievable. Him and Steph, we were talking about this, couples that. Both of them are such phenomenal cooks and bakers, stuffbakes.

You don't see it a lot. I don't even, they are the same. They are both so good. I've never had anything that wasn't incredible that they both made. Usually you see one person that's like the DJ of the whole situation and the other person's like a sous chef. Not them. It's crazy that they can do it. It really is unbelievable.

So anyway, those are the results. We know you guys are always invested and we are looking for a corporate sponsor for next year. And maybe a cookbook sponsor. Yeah. So next year, we are going to really do this right. We can hire Bobby to come to make the content. Okay. Great. And speaking of Bobby, we just wanted to take a minute and plug him. Bobby West side, Robert McMullen, allegedly, that's his real name. But Bobby West. His Christian name. His Christian name, government name. He is just our dear friend who hosts all of our holiday shows and he's gone on the road with us a couple times. And he's just such a wonderful friend of

ours. And we've talked about him before in his app. And he is a trainer, but he started this app called Adon And we just think this is a great thing to plug for the new year because you really can find a trainer in pretty much any city. I just asked them to clarify this. It's five major cities right now. So there's Boston, D.C., New York, L.A., one of my missing? Chicago. In Chicago. It's an app that you download again.

It's called Adonis, but you can also go to their website. And you will find your location, your price, and what you're looking for, whether it's like boxing, yoga, strength training. And they'll show you all the trainers that can do it for you. and they have all these events in different cities. And he's just, like, poured his blood, sweat and tears into this. And it's a great brand and just a great way to find a trainer if that's what you're looking for this year. I can't believe how hard he works on this. Like, he came and stayed with me in L.A. for your wedding.

And he stayed with me for a couple days ahead of your wedding to do, like, events for Adonis. And we woke up hungover every day Sunday. I was, like, the most hungover before your wedding. And he, like, he, like, went to an Adonis event. Like, he's just, like, pushes through it. He is the most energy. And, like, he's just, like, I don't know. know. I'm just, I'm so amazed by what he's done and what he's built. And yes, this is perfect

for the new year. If you guys want to just like get in shape on your terms. I know. He's just, he, I'm seeing my wedding too. If you guys like are keeping tabs on him, his importance and his role in our lives. Those are the main roles. He's always naked in our live shows. Yeah. That's his body you say. But just, I would go to join Adonis on Instagram and then you can get the link in their bio, but you can also just look for Adonis on the app store. And we're doing more fitness stuff today with Cody Rigsby. But we just figured, you know, let's plug our and, you know, we just have so many amazing people in our lives that have built incredible things and work really hard and we want to tell you guys about them.

Yeah. Okay. Do you want to talk about last year's resolutions? And did we accomplish them? I was going to surprise you with that. If you accomplished your resolution? I was going to tell you that you accomplished them. That you accomplished all yours.

I don't have one. No, you didn't. Right. Because the main thing, the TLDR of all of this is you. accomplished our joint goal and I didn't. What was my joint goal? Our joint goal was to get our pussies lasered for good. I'm glad you brought this up because in 2026 I'm not I'm abdicating from laser. I have gotten laser like 17 times. I'm not a candidate for laser. I don't know what to tell you. I still have I still have hair and I've just made peace with it. I don't know what to do like I've

gone to two different amazing companies. I just what is going on. Laser is strong but I am stronger. than laser. Right. I still have armp hair. You say nature fought back. Yes. I tried to get a bear push and nature fought back.

Maybe it's a blonde hair. Like I don't have like a full bush. I can't grow a full bush anymore. But like I have hair. I do not look. I'm not a bald eagle by any stretch of the imagination. Oh my gosh. Okay.

Well, if you guys have been keeping up, we both went to this place that Raina won't let me say because I would want to drag them, but we can apparently. And we were not impressed and we, our hair kept growing back. And I will say. mine is less. And so at the end of 20204, we were like 2025, we're going to do this. And you did do it, though.

You tried at least. I didn't. I never went and did a session in all of 2025. I was just too busy. I went continuously. And so, okay, well, let's just give that goal up. Just, I mean, in 2026, I'm unsubscribing from laser. But if you're curious, like, I just shave now.

There is less hair. I mean, I did what five or six sessions. Like, there should be. And I just have to fucking shave my pussy. Like, how do you think I feel? I had like 17 sessions. Maybe I will try to go back to the other place that you said. You said you felt like the lasers were stronger.

Definitely stronger at the other place. And I love it there and it's wonderful and they do a great job. But I just don't think that I'm a candidate. Okay. And I think my body also knew that like maybe someday like hair would come back in style. Well, Kim Kardashian said it's back because the bush is back. So your goals were that and fuck more. I did do that.

You did do that. and then just enjoy your shit. And I did do that. I just listened this morning. Did you? I have a word doc that I keep every single year. This morning and you just wanted to obviously, you were like enjoy your house,

enjoy your pussy and fuck more. You did all your goals. Well, my goals weren't that hard. You were a huge help in doing my, not the fucking I don't know fuck you. But really, I slept with a couple of people. I didn't even see cumming this year. I mean,

now it was crazy. And I mean, really, wow. And I really enjoyed a lot of my shit. And I did nothing else. I accomplished nothing else. Well, I mean, now it feels like it's so dated we're talking about last year. But you started stand up and planned a tour. Get announced it at the buzzer.

In the fourth quarter, it's buzzer. You did all that shit. So that is such a huge thing that was not on your list. Like, I think when it comes to goals, you won 20, 25. Well, you got married and we will talk about it. You've done a lot this year. My goals, I listen back. We're shoot a special.

And I was listening back and I was listening back. and I wasn't sure at the beginning of 2025. I was like, I'm going to do this tour, but I'm going to probably shoot a special, but I was treading lightly about it because I wasn't sure, but I listened back, and I was like kind of emotionally listening to it.

And so I did do that. I did get married. And then my other things were the pussy lasering. And LASIC, which I did not do. And I am doubling down on not getting LASIC. I'm going to go get a glasses eye exam today. So you're not going to do LASIC at all? I mean, I may, but at this point,

I'm like, I don't know. I'm excited by the thought of you. cute new glasses. So I'm heading to Warby right after this. I don't know. At the beginning of last year, I was like, my whole life I've really subscribed to hustle culture. I do subscribe to hustle culture. You and I work really hard. I like working hard. That's my identity. And I like that it's my identity. We've a great episode coming up actually about like not making work your whole identity and we're really excited about that. But I didn't really know what this year was going to look like because like, yes, I made jokes that like I was going to enjoy my shit. And I did. But like,

that's not really me at my core. I want to do both. I want to like work really hard and feel really professionally accomplished and I think you and I both feel like those are the things we hold the highest and what we do professionally I think contributes really positively to the world so I love doing our job and I just was like what is this year going to look like and last year last year at 2025 I was like and listen I enjoyed my ship but I am really ready to get back to work yeah yeah and touring do you want to talk about our goals well I just want to congratulate you for 2025 you had an unbelievable year it was really amazing just being a part of it and kind of taking a backseat to it and just watching but also just like all of your bachelor at parties shade they were so fun and watching you film this special

and work so hard and selling out all these shows and marrying somebody who I really love so much and I think it's such a high quality human being and I just I'm just so proud of you and really nailed it well thanks and this coming up is your year and so now I want to run this by you So I have known this for a while, but I feel more than ever. I am an odd year girly. Okay. Those are your years? I have big milestone moments in every year, but I sometimes can't even remember what

happened in the even ones. I can tell you all the highlights from 2013, 2015, 2017, 2019, oh, 2019, 2021, 2023, 2025. Those other years, what even happened? You got engaged in 2020. I know, and we did start the podcast in 2018. Okay, there are some outlayers, but hear me out. I would say that, yes, we started the podcast in 2018, but we met in 2017, and I think that's more important. And yes, I got engaged in 2024, but I still think 2020 and 2025 are more important in our relationship. What happened in 2020? You met? We met, fell in love, the whole thing. You know, I feel like that was like, oh, my God, right before I turned 40, it was like the whole thing. And I also the first two months of 2020 were unbelievable, but the rest of the year fucking canceled those out. So I don't even look forward to even years. I don't know. Like every time an odd year,

I'm like, yes, it's my fucking year. I'm an odd year girl. Okay, 2026. I'm already looking forward to 2027. And I was thinking about it. I'm just like a number person. And we've talked about this, the numbers I've had with Shishonk and all those things.

Oh, yeah, same. My whole birthday is odd. So I was born the seven month, ninth day, 1993 year. Obviously, 1983. So everything is odd. odd. And I'm just curious if anyone else feels like they lean more toward the other. And maybe there's a little part that I'm manifesting on some level. But it just is always like this.

Like those odd years I just remember in such a big way. And the ones between are just like not really on my radar. There was one year that you kept saying, was it two? Was it 2020? You were like, this is the best year. And I was like, I'm having the worst time of my life. If you ran the tape, you might be more even. Okay, so I think that we have opposite years, and I think that this is true. And so I got served a couple TikToks about this, and so I was reading it further about it.

The Chinese zodiac signs, there's always animals or reptiles applied to what the years are. So 2025 was the year. Just acted like reptiles aren't an animal. I love that. I was like, is it of an animal? I think you got mammals. Well, 2025 is the year as a snake,

and it is a reptile. They're all animals. Wait, mammals and amphibians? There's mammals, reptiles, amphibians. But they're all animals. Raina, don't do this. Yes, they're all animals. Everything's an animal, a fly, an ant.

But under animal is reptiles and amphibians? And mammals. And mammals. Birds, reptiles, amphibians, and fish. Okay. Fish feel like reptiles. Keep it moving. Well, okay, so I was reading about the Chinese zodiac signs,

and last year was the year of the snake, 2025, and 2026 is the year of the horse. And I really related to this. And I was like, Ashley could not relate to this less. So 2025, Year of the Snake, the Wood Snake specifically. I love the Wood Snake, which makes sense why I had sex with all those people. Oh, my God. Both very sexual. The Wood Snake.

The Year of the Snake is about slowing down. And I knew you can't relate to this. Okay. It's about stepping back, observing, becoming, refining your identity. But progress happens kind of behind the scenes in the Year of the Snake. The Year of Horse. So you. The year of the horse.

Movement, freedom, momentum. So 2025, think, heal, plan, shed your old skin, like a snake. Uh-huh. 2026. Horse. Act, declare, move, claim freedom. Like, 2025, we're preparing in silence. Yeah.

Preparing in silence. Waiting in the way. Waiting in the way. 26, execution and movement. I was like, this is so exact. Last year, I didn't do. anything. I just, I got wood and I listened behind the scenes. And 2026, you just slithered around behind the scenes. 2026, horse. Charging forward. Horse energy. Yeah. Big horse. Big horse.

Yeah. I am a horse girl. So I was like, I really relate to this so deeply and I was like, this is the opposite of what Ashley did. Ashley horsed all year. I guess I'm not Chinese. Big reveal. Catch me in 20207 with the fire goat. I mean, it does when I look back. I like I feel like I shed, I mean, I definitely had, I don't say friend breakups in 2025, but I shed some relationships in 2025 and recalibrated quite a few relationships and towards the end of 2024 as well. And I end the year feeling really like solid with where I'm at with those things. I feel like I kind of put a period on the end of most of those relationships and where I'm at

with different people. And I feel good about where I'm at with most people. Yeah. I mean, you really just seem like you're thriving and happy. and like, as are you? Ready to go into the new year. Ready to be a horse. I know, ready to charge through.

So I love that. I love this. Okay. Do you want to talk about your goals? Yes. I have two main goals. Okay. I already launched the tour, but I'm going to hopefully go on a 30 city tour, sell

it out, perform. I'm really excited. I'm really nervous and anxious, and I just feel a lot of anxiety in my body, and I'm just excited to, like, do the whole thing for the first time. Because I've been doing a lot of stand-up, but, like, it's not an hour straight. And so I'm excited to like walk out in front of our audience and they're just so loving and wonderful. You know, you and I were talking about this and I want to remember to enjoy it. I want to remember to like slow down and not feel so bogged down by work and the travel and going all these cold places in the winter.

And I want to just remember like pause a lot and just be like this is really like this is something to be proud of and to enjoy. Yeah. And when you are in cold and you've traveled and you're checking into another hotel and you're fucking lugging your suitcase, around and you have those feelings, just remember that you'll miss it when it's gone. So like instead, that's your self-talk and just fucking enjoy it because you will miss it when it's gone. It's a really different experience. I mean, I've never toured without you.

Like, it's been me and you and an assistant and our tour manager and Ryan. And like, it's this giant group of people with us always. And this is much more isolating, you know, so it's a different experience. So I want to just remember to enjoy it. My other goal is to move back to New York. Okay. Wow. Hard launch. Figure out what to do with my house. Yeah. I don't know. We'll figure it out together. You know, you and I and Shishonk were a bonded

pair, so it's a family. We'll figure it out. So we were in New York for a week between the show and going to Delaware for Christmas and people asking us, like, when we're moving back, I feel like you started to get like, you can't ask us this again. Like, it felt like when you get married and someone asks, so when are you having a baby? Or you get engaged, so when's the wedding? I mean, it was that kind of energy. this just is people that love us and want us to be back there. So it's no shade towards them. It's like, I would be asking too. But it started to get like, oh my God, I can't, how many more times are we going to answer this? And again, it's just, of course people are asking that. I would do.

I don't have an answer, you know? I feel like that's where our community is. That's where I want to be. I want to be closer to family. I want to be like on the East Coast. I feel like I'm a New Yorker. And that's, I love L.A. really deeply. But that's where I kind of see my future and our future. And I don't have an answer, you know, because like I have this tour and I will look forward to coming home to my house in LA and the weather. But that ultimately is my goal is to do this tour, move back to New York. And then I have a couple little goals. They're sports related, which is crazy. I've never said this in my life. And I set really small goals. I want to go skiing once. Okay. Because I have committed to hating skiing, but I haven't gone skiing in 20 years.

Okay. So I don't know if I hate it. You should ski. You're so low to the ground. Yeah. You're not going to fall as hard as I would, you know, like you should be skiing. I should. And I mean, I feel like these are skills that a three-year-old has and not me. So I want to go skiing one time. I want to go golfing one time. Okay. And our friend, Hallie, is this amazingly talented golfer. So I think she'll just take us one time to go off range. I'll see if I like it. And I want to learn to play tennis. Okay. That's my thing I actually want to learn to do, not paddle or pedal or whatever you call it. Pickle ball? No, paddle. Ping pong? No, these like little paddles. It's like very Pickleball, no?

No, it's like in between and it's fancy and hippies days. I don't want to... Real tennis. I want to actually run out to play tennis. I want to commit to going to more live music

because I feel like I just missed so many concerts last year. Right. It's really... I never cared about live music in my entire life. I mean, even when I met you and live music is so important to you,

like I've really never cared that much but I feel like I missed like Tate McCray and Sabrina Carpenter and machine gun Kelly most importantly and like I just want to go to more concerts. Can I tell you, please? A concert I'm going to. You're not ready.

I feel like you're not going to see this coming. We decided this. You're obviously welcome to joy. But me and Chezhang and Ham and Corey are going to go to. It's called the Summer of 99 festival in Chicago. And it's Creed and Bush and Limp Biscuit and Hust. And Hupa Stank and the Verf. I think we're going to go.

That's fun. What is it? We just got talking about, like, I don't like nickelback, but I also don't need to hate on nickelback. I do like Creed. Those times were fun back in the day. Bush? Wait, where, when is this in the summer? It's going to be July 18th and 19th.

I only really care about the second day. I don't really care about Cyprus Hill and then Biscuit as much as I care about Creed and Bush. Well, we like Chicago and I think this will be great. I probably will not join you. Okay, I don't want to hijack your goals. I don't know what I'm going to do in July, but probably about that. But that sounds really fun.

I want to take a trip with that. We love them. We love being around. Like, really, Shajonkin, this is my best friend. So I was four years old, my other best friend. And I just want to do something. They don't get out a lot. They have three kids.

And so I think this will, like, get them out to take a trip that's manageable. Anyway. I think I have two more. I want to drink water. Okay. Not just be more hydrated. Like, I don't drink any water. Like, I realize a lot of days I get to the end of the day and the only thing

and the liquid in my body is coffee and tequila. Like, I don't drink water ever. And now that I'm 40, I think I should drink water. And I want to get into Love Island. So that's really important to me this year. And I have other little goals, but those things are like really important to me. You know, I realize as I wrote this, I have zero romantic goals for the year. I just don't care.

Good. I just feel like when you're really excited about your life professionally, other things just don't matter. I mean, that's really so accurate. And if you are back in New York, you'd, Just don't think about it. Like, I just, you're so busy. I just can't stop thinking about the way that I have a different brain in New York versus L.A. And you were just busy running around.

Do not have time to be bothered. And I'm not saying we don't date. We dated in New York. People date in New York. It's not that. It's not about like, how could you care about finding a partner when you're living in Manhattan? But I don't know. It just doesn't, it feels like it doesn't cross your mind.

It has not crossed my mind. The other day a friend of mine was like, are you, like, are you seeing anybody? I was like, I've never cared less about dating my entire life. I literally don't. And I just, moving back to New York and be on the road, like I will just meet so many more people. Like in L.A. last year, I had to be so much more intentional about dating. I mean, I hired a matchmaker and a dating coach, and I had dating apps.

I'd, like, do a lot to meet people here. I just don't think you have to do as much in New York. You go out, people approach you. It's crazy. Yeah, and the tour. And the tour. You've been fucking on that tour. Someone who's hopefully not on the payroll, but we'll see.

Yeah, we'll see. So it didn't occur. I have no romantic goals for the year. I also have no weight loss goals for the year. I love that. I just, you know, I just want to exercise as much as I did last year, which is not at all. Yeah. Yeah, I really stepped it up with some strength training in 2025 leading up to the wedding.

And just as a woman in her 40s, like, it's important to lift weights and stuff. So I feel like I did that in 2025. I just want to, like, keep it moving. But it's been a minute since I've lifted a weight. You look great. I'll get back into it. But bone density is very important. If you get older, my gynaecologist told me, oh, I'm going to change my IUD.

So I can stop day my period. That's my last. These are great goals. It's a lot. But I think you can do these all, especially the ones that are like ski one time. I set up a tennis racket. I set them low. Last year I said, I think I can do this goal.

My goal last year would just enjoy my shit. My main goals are just do the tour. Remember to enjoy it. Have fun. I'm really looking forward to it. I'm nervous. I'm excited. I can't wait.

And move out of this city. Okay. Rainaggreenberg.com, everybody. Okay, I have some micro goals as well. I'll just run through those, figure out all my credit card perks. And I want to start doing like points hacking. And I really feel like I'm missing out and I hate that feeling. Okay.

So I really want to feel like I'm not using perks. I could be. You say that to me all the time and you're right. Yeah. And like I don't see Tori Dunlap and Brian Kelly and I'm like, I got to figure this out. I mean, I see the lists of stuff. Also, we have status on Delta. That also gets us perks.

Right. And like I have a great credit card. We have great credit cards. Like I have my Chase preferred whatever the fuck the top level. We have a platinum Amex. Yeah. So it's just like I want to make sure I'm taking advantage of all this. Okay.

Well, let me know what you find out. Okay. Yeah, I'll do it for both of us. I'm really going to work on my hair health and the breakage. I just feel like I already do so much. But I'm really noticed on a breakage. I'm really going to focus on my environmental factors. So I have silk pillow cases on the way.

I need to really step up my hair SPF and do some things. Okay. Your hair looks amazing. I told you this. It's getting better, but I'm noticing a lot of breakage. But overall, it is longer and floor. No, it is growing. It's just breaking.

And I'm doing so much, but I could still do more. And I feel like what I do in my nighttime routine, the silk pillow cases maybe even might get a bonnet. It really is going to change the game for me. Okay. So it's two years from now, it's over for you, bitches. Okay. Less screen time.

I always say this. I said it last year. It's just, you can be doing other productive stuff than being on your phone. Even if it's just reading a book, taking a walk, writing. Like I said this last year. If you're on your phone five hours a day, it's two and a half months of the year. That's crazy. It's sickening when you think about it.

And I'd be on my phone more than five. And I'm not going to tell you guys my screen time, but it makes me sick. It is less than it was. I mean, it's significantly less than it ever was. Yeah, I hope so. Okay. More food adventures in L.A. Before I may or may not move away.

But I just didn't, I want to really do a lot more like every weekend that I'm here. I want to venture out and hit my list because it is the best food city in the world and I'll die on that hill. in the country. I think it's amazing. And I will write you lists on lists on list. I will plan trips for you to Laguna, to Silver Lake, literally everywhere.

Even just I haven't explored enough of K-town, like stuff like that, you know? I would love to be on that journey with you, and I will really help. Okay, macro goals. Okay. Which sounds like some nutrition shit, but it's not. Okay, these are my big goals.

Macros. These are my macros. Okay. Special release. So my special will be out this year. I'm so sorry to keep Blueballing you guys, but I promise you will know soon. Yeah, it'll be worth the weight.

I'm just so excited, so proud of it. We have pretty much a 99% final cut, and it's really, it's wonderful. I am so proud of it. I'm not trying to, I don't know, I want to be humble about it, but it's, it's really, I always just want to say it's special, but it is a special, but I can't wait for you guys to see it. It's amazing. So, and I'll do promo around that, so that'll be some professional stuff. Work on our book.

Oh, that was on my list, and I forgot. You did forget it. So we got to work on our book. I did write it. But we do want to write a book and it's important and it's in the works. Yeah. I want to travel more for pleasure. I really didn't get to do that much last year.

So we are going to take our honeymoon. We are going to go to Asia, TBD. We're working some things out now. I've never been Asia. So you have been, but I've never been. So just stay tuned to watch the space for where we're going to go and you guys can follow along. But just more like traveling, just some stuff I want to do.

I want to be able to be spontaneous. Like if I could get decent enough hookups for the Super Bowl, hookups, there's no hookups. Prices on tickets and accommodations. I might go to the Super Bowl. Like, I want to be able to do that because I'm not touring and tied down by that. And then I can't even believe I'm saying this because I've said it so many years and it hasn't happened. And I just, this is a safe space where I can tell you guys this and you won't shame me, but I want to buy a home this year. And it could be the year. Okay. Where are you thinking you might buy a home, actually? Here's what it is. I do not want to rent again. I feel.

I feel like I'm at that point where the next move, if it is to New York, if it is to New Jersey or Brooklyn, which I'm in New York. But wherever it is, I've been looking to buy. I'll just say it. I don't want to rent again. I just don't. Like, I feel like I'm ready for the forever home or the at least five plus year home. Like, I look around in our house and all the things that we have and think about what that

move is going to be. And I just feel like it cannot be into another house that's rented. And so I'm excited about the thought of that. Well, we'll buy a house in the Hamptons together. But, you know, again, that's one of those things. If it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen. And we like to be fluid and flexible and we're not big on, like, resolutions. These are more goals that we want to accomplish this year.

I love your goals. Your goals are enjoying a lot more of your shit. Food adventures and travel. Yeah, it is. I'm excited to, like, help you plan that kind of stuff, too. It's just, I feel like I've gotten away from it a little bit, too. Like, L.A. is just, I think it's the best food scene in the country. there's so many different pockets of like

Thai town and Korea town and boil heights for Mexican food I mean you could eat your way around the world in L.A. And it'll be the best food you've ever had your life. There's so much you can do. I used to commit to like a day in a neighborhood all the time and I kind of got away from doing that.

It is really like fun to do that. Like be a tourist in your city. I've never had a bad meal here. And if we leave here, I will miss it every day. Yeah, we will complain continuously about it. I will never shut the fuck up about the food in L.A. Truly, it's just second to none.

never had a bad meal, never even had one, you know what, I had one mediocre meal at Chaconis. I'll say it. It was fine. It was fine. It was fine. Like, it was good. Yeah. It's not a change life. But that was the worst. I hate to say this. This is really, but Chaconis is good. And that was the worst meal I've had here. That's what I'm saying, how good the food is here. Yes, I agree. Every meal we have here, the staff is so nice everywhere you go. The weather's nice. The restaurants are big. You can get into places. Anywhere you want. Catch me in New York. I'll be like, I know I will move. And I don't see this slip in late. Like you and I are so bonded, me, you and Shashonk, I'm not doing anything without you.

Like, we'll figure it out. But, like, I will move back to New York and complain continuously about the food. I love the food see, but you can't get in anywhere. The vibes are great. I saw someone say the food is better in L.A., but the vibes and the restaurants and the scenes are better in New York. I mean, I, there is no restaurant in L.A. that you go have dinner at 10 o'clock and then it turns up. Like, I've been in places in L.A., and I'm like, so when's it going to turn up?

And my friends that have lived here longer than me, that's not a, we're not turning up. It's not about to turn up. I mean, I feel like 8.30, we're just done. Yeah. Restaurants here. And I like, you know, I live near Abbott Kinney in Venice and I walked on the street at night.

And I want it to be like crawling with people and it's just like not. Yeah. And that's what I really miss is like energy. And, you know, I'm 40. I'm not planning on having children. I'm single. Like the crop of people that is left in New York City at this age are people that are like you and I, that have chosen and maybe not have children that, you know, live a more.

totally. Fluid lifestyle that have like not moved out to other cities. Like that's, that's our people. And that's what I'm excited to like, yeah, be out past 9 p.m. Yeah, like I will always make a 10 p.m. dinner rest in New York.

I would never do it here. You're showing up. They're shutting down. That's not a thing. Like, I guess they exist. But 10 p.m. dinner. No, that is so New York. And I miss that.

That's one of the reason I wanted to move to New York. Because I was like, I can't go to dinner at 10 p.m. on a Tuesday in Atlanta. You just can't. No. I'm sure someone will be like, well, I did. I'm going to,

okay, I hear you. It's just, you know what I mean. I guess. Yeah, you know what I mean. A lot of people cleared out of L.A. last year. Also, you know, we started the year really rocky.

I mean, so many people lost so much with the fires and that Donald Trump immediately became the president. And I mean, the first couple weeks of the year last year, like I was picking you up to go record and we would just cry

the whole way to the recording. I mean, it was just unbelievably tough. And, of course, you know, my heart goes out, our hearts go out to anybody that's affected by either of those things really negatively, Donald Trump or the L.A. fires.

It was just, it was a rough start to the year. And I do think L.A. kind of cleared out a little bit. It did change the vibes here. And we've just had a lot of friends move away this year. Also, we just used to have a much bigger circle of friends. Yeah. I mean, it just kind of things ebb and flow in these cities. New York will always be New York. L.A. will always be L.A. New York felt pretty bleak for a period of time after COVID. And a lot of people left. And then they came back. and L.A. will feel the same, and I'll just, you know, I'll love the city forever. And I have, like, whatever. I'm not going to do this now. If we move, I will be, like, really have such a love letter to L.A. I just love it so much. Yeah. Me too. Anyway, what I'm leaving in 2025, my regrets and the gift bags, you.

When I saw that picture and your carousel. I posted a carousel at today as we record. And the gift bags and every one of the comments, all the girls are going to eat listeners. are like, not the gift bags. Oh my God, the gift bags. And you said leave the gift bags in 2025. And I was like, she's right. You also said come get them. I said come get them then.

What are we going to do? Burn them. We'll leave them outside air once. Somebody will take them. The Azole candles. We'll hide them around the city. Listen, that could be a cute idea. That's a five scavenger on.

Okay. So, yeah, those are our goals. I'm excited for this year. I'm excited for you to go on more vacations and just, you know, be a leisurely, have a leisurely life. The travel influencer? Yeah. Listen.

And you really have been doing it. Like, you've really been doing it. I like the stuff you've been posting. I think you're like kind of entering a different realm. I'm ranting. You are. I think that's really funny. I think it really suits you.

I just think you're really sharp and funny of hot takes. I'm excited to see that journey. Well, thanks. I was like, what am I going to do? Like, what do I want to put out there on social? And I just have been inspired by the likes of Diddy and Caroline Levitt. Who isn't? So I've just been doing these rants and I really enjoy them.

And so, yeah, Ash has on Instagram. They're really funny. Well, thanks. Well, I'm excited this year and honestly, its tour starts January 29th in Tampa. I have 20 city stops planned. I'm adding second and third shows in some of these cities. And I'm going to add probably 10 more cities.

Pittsburgh. I did not forget about you. It's the most important city. Of course, I'm just trying to line it up with a couple of other cities. So I will announce more cities, I promise. And maybe we'll do like an international show. Maybe we'll get to London. But I promise I hear you.

And I'm just so excited this hour is just like it's sex and dating and it's funny and it's wild and it's crazy. And I hope you guys will come and bring your friends, bring your partners, bring your mom, whoever. And maybe you'll see Ashley a little bit on the tour. But I can't wait to kick this off. And it is just going to be like a real, real new experience for me. And real wild ride. It's going to be wonderful. I can't wait.

And this is going to be a great year for you guys that love us because you get to watch my special and see you live. do these hours that are really personal and important to us. And so you're welcome. Yeah. What a gift we are to everybody. And then next year we'll drop our book. Yeah. I know.

Look at us go. Yeah. Okay, guys, well, we really have such a fun interview with Cody Rigsby today. Obviously, you've already seen that he's the guest, but it was a blast. And we're going to talk more about your resolutions in the new year and all the things, too. But just going to go through our partners and then we'll get into it. Okay. This episode is sponsored by Better Health.

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Rigsby. Hi, that was such an enthusiastic intro. You're really good at that. I'm going to steal your technique. Oh my gosh. Yes. No, take it. I'd be honored if you took anything from me. All right. Great. That was good. Oh, yeah. Just shout her out when you do it on the voice. Okay. We'll do. We're so happy to have you. Thanks for having me. I will tell you, I've been on my Peloton journey since COVID. And I, sometimes, like, I go down to my bike and I'm like, what am I going to do today? But when I do a Cody class, it's like, I needed that.

Like, I was like, I need to work hard and laugh. Yes. And when I first started taking your classes, I was like, Raina, this guy's insane. Truly. The, like, resistance is insane. Like, no one else is doing this. Oh, you meant the workout. I thought you meant, like, me as a person.

Both. Both. You're like, you're like. I don't think I'm that hard. You are. It's good. I guess it's also relative. Like, I'm a big bitch.

I always say this. Like, I'm 6 to 250 pounds. A lot of muscle, fat ass. Those for who aren't watching the video. Hot. I like the mustache. Thank you. Oh, the mustache.

Am I trapped with you? What was my point? I am. Probably. Wouldn't be the first one. Oh, my point is that I'm a big bitch. And so, like, the numbers that I'm doing maybe to... You're right.

I have to give myself grace. A petite lady might not be as easy. So I get it, you know? So my relativity to the numbers are not correct. No, I love it. And I was like, I feel like I can't go back to an instructor that will remain nameless. Oh, yeah, yeah, don't name names. No, of course not.

Don't hit me against my colleagues. No, we love them. Okay. We love them all. Yeah, we do. But that's okay. It's just, I'm with Ashley. Like, when I want to block people.

I don't believe in blocking. I don't, like, no. No, but can they not be in my filter? You know what? Well, that, that, you know, no comment. That's where the mute feature comes in. You got a mute. I know because you don't want to let people know that they, like, bothered you that much.

Exactly. I'm talking about on Pelotan. No, I know. And I'm only going to compare it to like, because I was just, me and Ren were just talking about this. And I think it was like a headline, like, queer eyes over. And then it was showing that some of them weren't following each other. Not to stir the pot. Oh, the queer eyes got it.

The queer eye cast. Oh, that's crazy. Some of them were not, like, following each other after the last season. So I'm just like, why would you start that drama? If you didn't like your castmate that much, just press mute. But it gets picked up. All the reality TV stars, they also unfollow each other.

They want the drama. You're making a statement. Wasn't it? Didn't Justin Bieber unfollow Haley or something? Yeah. But he was like, that's Instagram. They're out to get me. That's the mother of his child.

He refollowed. I would hope so. But reality people do, it's too too, tune in. So you just like tune into the next season to see like Jonathan Van Ness, like fight with people. No, but that's not what the show's about. They're not going to fight. They're not going to fight on camera.

They're supposed to be best friends. They're like upset about this. It's love. It's love and positivity. That's why it's a little contradictory to the brand. But, you know, they're fine. All five slash six of them are fine. Do you, okay, so tell us about drama at Peloton.

Like, who do you follow? I cannot. I follow everyone. Actually, there was one instructor that was like, you're like, I guess I hadn't seen it. And then like just time went by and like I didn't follow back. And I was like, wait, I wasn't following you. By the way, this is not like a gotcha thing. We love Peloton and everything there.

So we don't expect that. Listen, I'm media trained enough that you're not going to get. get me. Okay. You know, I'm not going to talk shit about it. I know. Okay, but speaking of being immediate trained, I feel like you get away with stuff that maybe other instructors don't. They just aren't like you, but are you, do you have a pass to say stuff that other people don't? Oh, a pass? Like on like, like sexier stuff. No, you know, I just, I know where the line is and I get so, so close to it. But it's also about just delivery. Yeah. I also, I like believe in like self-deprecation. So if I'm going to make fun of something, like, it's probably about, I'm probably in that.

Like when I call people hoes, like, I am also a ho, so it takes one to no one. Okay. So I believe in that. It's just like delivery. But it's so spicy. It is. I don't know. There's just stuff that I get away with that I don't know.

It's all about delivery. And I don't know if, and it's not other people's brands. Yeah, I haven't gotten in trouble. And maybe I just, like, have become so well known for it that, like, now I put my feet, foot on the gas. knowing that they're not going to fire me. Like, I just want to see how much I can tow the line. Yeah. You know?

And that's what people are there for. Exactly. Exactly. Yeah. Like, even the word bitch, like, I call people bitch all the time. But, like, amongst my friends, that's the term of endearment. Like, that's what I call, like, my best friends. Yeah, 100%.

But you talk about, like, sexy stuff. And if I heard, like, Alex Toussaint, like, bust out something sexy, I'd be like, what's happening here. Slide off the seat. Yeah, but I talk about something's not, like, to turn on. It's to make fun up. Yes. I want to encourage those who are riding to be a slut.

100%. Here at Casa della Rigsby, I believe in, you know, sexual liberation. Okay. You know? So you're a slut. Absolutely. But you are in a relationship now. I am.

You're posting. Yeah. Can we hear a little bit about it? Wow. You know what? Is that what they wanted to know? And also we want to know. You know, I don't even talk about it on my podcast.

So it's like I, I don't know. Maybe you are either view in a relationship? She's married. I just got married. You're just married. I'm in these streets. You're in these streets. You know, I don't like to share too much out of respect for the other person.

Okay, then I have a question. We'd also talk about him. Give you a specific question. How long were you single before you got into this relationship? It's a little complicated. At least like a year, but I had like dated somebody for a while. But they weren't my boyfriend. Does that make sense?

Like I was dating somebody. Yeah. Yeah. That broke off. And it was like two months in between those two people. Does it make sense? Yeah, it's every guy I date. It's like we want to be a relationship. But I was like coming out of the dating, I was like, okay, I really just need to like put my foot on being single.

And then, of course, this person like popped up and there was chemistry. And we just couldn't stop hanging out with each other. So it just kind of worked, you know? And he's hot. So, you know, like you want to post about him when they're hot. When they're not hot, you don't want to do. But you would never. No.

No. Well. We've all, like, slept with an ugly guy that we don't want anybody to know about. Raina, we were in a dressing room in New York at Rent the Runway, and Raina starts talking about this guy, and I don't know how the picture came about. I think I just had sex on that night. It was all hung over. I, like, rolled into the Rent the Runway that morning. It was the ugliest person I've ever seen.

I was like, Rayna, the dressing room attendance, like, I stayed friends with that one. She was like, I never forgot that one. Okay, but was the dick big? Yes, and he was big. See? And when a guy has a big dick, you can get away with a lot. You can be mid-ugly. That's where Vindic energy came from.

Exactly. He was also tall. Like, I try to hug you. I can't get that high. I can't barely see that tall. I always forget how much women love height in a man. It's like... This is, I mean, my current boyfriend is my height.

Current boyfriend I'm obsessed. Yeah. You know, it's like a whole thing. What? Like saying that. Is it? It implies it's like not the last boyfriend. Oh, is it?

No, I meant I was just made... No, I say current husband. It's a whole thing. Oh, really? Okay. I just meant in relation to the last one because I did it a shorty and I didn't really... Keep it. I don't really discriminate against that.

Like, it doesn't matter to me. But, like, I do like having some of my height, especially when kissing. But also, listen, I mean, it is crazy for me because I'm five feet tall that I want, like, a big man. You're six two. It makes sense. You want, like, a big person. But I like what I like, and I'm just going to continue to like it. And I'm proud of you for the friendship that you have that you would show her the ugly person that you hooked up with.

Because there's, there are some guys. I'm not telling nobody. It's not even a shame. It's just like, look, it happened, but I don't need to be showing you. I don't need you to have ammunition against me, you know? I actually, like, typically outkick my coverage. This is really, it's not often that I'm like, this guy was not cute. But he was cute to me.

And that's, which is all that matters. But I gave an ugly guy a chance, and he treated me terribly. But that's the thing. I've had an ugly guy treat me like, the Shrekking. That was like the Shrekking of this year. You might have talked about it on the bike. We talked a little bit. I know I talked about it with Ren.

People were saying, like, people are trying to, to date ugly people so they'll treat them better. When they treat you badly, your whole world comes crashing down. That's devastating. Yes. Not only did you date someone ugly, they treat you like shit. Unreal. And they had an average dick.

Wow. Just really missing here. This guy was broken. Oh my God. And broke. I didn't know this. I'm just not fine. Not even broke.

You're not loving yourself. We need to unpack this in therapy. I do. I love myself too much. Okay. I'm obscene how much I think everything. Nothing is ever my fault. myself. You can't love Balmarena because she's like, that's true. Of course, you're in love with me.

You fell in love with me after two dates. It makes total sense to me. Okay. Okay. All right. There's a lot to impact there. While we're in the questions from our audience. Okay. A lot of the same stuff came up. So people really want to know about the Disney tattoo. Oh, I've had it for a long time. I originally kind of was just like, it was like the second tattoo I got? Okay. And it's the Mickey Mouse outline. It's a Mickey Mouse outline. You see it like every time you're in. It's just like a reminder to be like youthful. and fun and not take life so seriously. But then I also became such a massive fan of like Walt Disney World afterwards because I go to the parks probably like once a year. You're a Disney adult. You know what? I used to deny this, but now I'm just accepting it because everybody that digs on a Disney

adult has never gone as an adult with their own money, eating and drinking whatever they want, no kids, with their friends, you're lit, you're turned up and you're going on Guardians of the Alzi. Fucked up, all right? And there's nothing more fun than that, okay? I want to go back and do like the countries. Yeah. And drink.

Epcot is so much fun. I'm an Epcot slut. Yeah, you should be. Do you want when you're a little kid? Yeah, but I love that part of it. She was actually underage drinking at Epcot when she was a child. As a five-year-old, yeah. Yeah, yeah, I'm, have you been to Disneyland?

I haven't been to Disneyland since I was eight years old, but I've been to Disney World. Where'd you grow up? Born in L.A., but grew up in North Carolina. Okay, I thought you were from the South. Yeah, but Disneyland, I didn't know. Okay. Yeah, a lot of people asked about your tattoos. Okay, great.

If you do go to Epcot, just know that, like, every drink needs to be a double, because it's all just like full of sugar. Okay, that's fair. And the drinks are not strong. But I don't even, I'm like kind of out on just like cocktails in general. Like can we just roll up somewhere and be like, can we have tequila? I agree. Yeah.

That's my drink of chocolate. And like you're going to have wine in France. I love wine. I do love wine. Okay. Especially because I went to Napa recently with my new boyfriend. I went to Napa too. I was like, I love the little like, I love the tastings.

And I'm like trying to pick up on like how to like feel bougie with the wine. And I enjoyed it. I loved it. We went on a little mini moon. Oh, great. Like, my husband is not a wine guy. Oh, yeah? And he was sipping on a buttery shark.

Yeah. Oh, no. No, you lost me there. But I hate chardoning. That's the one I don't touch, but love you for it. Okay, next question. Sorry, I keep distracting you. No, I want to talk about food and wine, actually, for a second.

Oh, okay, great. My favorite topic. Okay, great. Because, I mean, your body is so sick and amazing. And you rolled into here with lunchables. Thanks, Mama. You rolled them with fancy luncheables. It was a pre-packaged boarshead charcuttery, not sponsored.

It was salami and I think like a white cheddar. Okay. But are you, because like you work out for a living, do you have a strict diet? Where do you like to go out to eat? Both questions, please. Listen, I, if you watch my classes or watch my social content, like, I love to talk about food. So, like, food is just, like, for enjoyment. And I never deprive myself of that.

I kind of believe in seasonality. Right now is not a season to be, like, watching what I eat. Depriving yourself. I'll probably kick, be a little bit more restrictive and focus going into the new year as we are. so that, you know, because the summer body is made in the winter. Okay. The winter. No.

And like, you just got to be a little bit, if you want to, I don't want to say you have to be. If you want a specific aesthetic, you got to just be a little bit more restrictive. But I love food. I love to go out to eat. I love Cheetos and cinnamon rolls and ice cream. I like the message that you can do both. You can do both. Yeah.

It's also like, what is your goal? Like, if you just want to be strong and feel healthy, and all that sort of stuff. Yes, you need food that fuels you, but you also want something that tastes good and you can enjoy. Like, life is meant to enjoy. I also want to preface that, like, a lot of the people,

not to get serious, this seems they're getting very serious. The people that we, I guess, look up to or some of the, like, very, like, crazy bodies, and I mean crazy in, like, I guess, a good way, whatever. Like, most of those people are doing something. On Ozzympic. Hormones.

Heavily restricted. Whatever. Like some of these people that you like look on Instagram, you're like, oh my God, they look so good. You're like, they're not telling you the whole story. I think it's good to remember. Yes. You know, I think we grew up in like supermodel era and we had no idea. No idea.

Airbrushing. Like we had no idea what was going on. We were like, I guess that's a normal way we could look and you just can't. No. We were like, they were forcing a certain. Like Christina Aguilera dirty video. I was like, I'm never eating again. Like I was in college.

Like, what am I doing with my life? Yep. Exactly. Full stomach, low-rise jeans. Okay, have you ever slept with someone who came for a class? Like, have you been looking out in the crowd and you're like, I fucking, are you allowed to say that? Oh, oh, you mean like not to, no, no. Once in a while there'll be like a hot husband.

And I'm like, work, that's hot. But like there's never like a gay. There's never like a gay in the audience that's like, yeah, I don't know. There's one guy I went on a date with a long time ago that came to my class. And I was like, okay, that's weird. I mean, I met my husband at a show. He came to our show. Like, I was wondering if you have, like,

you're asking, do I fuck fans? Is that what you're saying? Yeah, basically. Maybe like not knowing it. Yeah. Do you know what I'm saying? Yeah, 100%. There's just even like times in Fire Island.

Totally. Okay. I feel like, oh, I've taken, oh, actually there was one guy I had sex with on the beach in Fire Island. He's like, my mom loves you. And I was like, well, tell her we had sex. Work. You know, and he did.

So. It worked. I feel like you're so well known to be like hard not to fuck fans. Oh. Wow, you know, I don't know. Maybe, I don't know. Okay. Well, can we talk about your story a little bit?

Sure. So you wrote this book and it has a lot of your life's journey in it. And we were telling you before we were recorded. You're just an inspirational person. Thank you. Just if you want to give us kind of like the short story of like how you grew up and how you ended up to where you are now. Well, let me put the book title out there. XOXO Kodi, XO Kodi, XO, Kodi.

An Opinionated Homosexual's Guide to Self-Love Relationships and Tackful Pettiness is the full title of the book. If you would like to purchase it, go off. Totally. A shameless plug. And then I always think of this, like, I'm weirdly enough a Marvel fan. I love Marvel movie. So I think of this is my origin movie, is what you're asking me, like the first movie. Yeah, listen, I grew up in, well, I was born in L.A., me and my mom, single parent, moved across the country with our like three dogs and cats and an old Chrysler to North Carolina where I moved when I was eight.

I lived in North Carolina from eight to 22. after I finished college, I got a degree in essentially fashion merchandising. I moved to New York City to work for like a startup streetwear brand. But like at the time, the streetwear brand was also owned by a choreographer. So I kind of studied under her learning how to dance while doing that job. Then I started dancing professionally for about five years. I kind of got to a place where I was like, ugh, this is, I'm tired of being poor. I'm tired of like glorifying other people.

So I was like, I shouted out. I said, God, Madonna, Allah, Buddha, someone, like, answer my prayers and, like, find me a new path. And then, like, six months later, when I was working at the box here in New York City, the lower side, yeah. So I was not in the show. I essentially was front of the house, and you know how they have a burlesque show there. I had to stop patrons from taking photos of the topless women and the very salacious acts that were happening there. The double-sided delto shows. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Exactly. You should lock phones up. Yeah, I don't know. I don't know. It was before they had those pouches, you know. Yeah. The yonder pouches I'm talking about. Yeah.

The younger bags. So I just thought people from taking pictures. And then the choreographer of that show knew I was a dancer. And he had a connection. Someone he went to college with, worked at Peloton. I was like, hey, do you know any performers? And so he sent me the email. I sent my headshot and resume.

Went for an interview. Got the job. Oh, my God. Started training. 10 years later. Here we are. Almost 11. Actually, 11.

I feel like I have so many questions. 11 years later. And then, like, yeah, I was like, you know, Peloton was really great because I kind of was a fish out of water and know what I was doing. And I had to figure it out. But it also gave me a lot of purpose. I really feel like my purpose is bringing more people into the fitness space by taking away the – I feel like the biggest barrier to entry when it comes to fitness is fear. People are afraid they don't know what they're doing.

They're going to look stupid. people are going to make fun of them and I'm like listen sweetie sit on the bike I'm going to be a little clown I'm going to make fun of myself I'm going to say stupid shit and make this not as serious and deep as it needs to be

and you're going to feel comfortable creating a fitness routine so it really allowed me to find like my purpose you know Is it true that you never taught a spin class of cycling at all and you just were like I'm going to fake until I make it

or I just knew I'm going to kill this It was a lot of faking until you make it I also just was like very I mean, timing is just so important in life. And luckily for me, I just was at the right place at the right time. As much as I, like, have worked hard for what I have, I think that success is like luck plus hard work. And I was just – Yeah.

I mean, it's just true. Like, you can be very talented, but if the right opportunity doesn't come, you're not going to get the success. Also the same thing. If you – if the right opportunity comes and you're not prepared and you're not ready for it, it's going to pass you by. I'm glad you said that. And I think it's important to acknowledge that some of it is luck. Do you listen to the show, how I built this? I've seen a few episodes, yeah.

He interviews, like, big founders and people that have built a lot of stuff. And he ends every episode with, like, how much was luck and how much was hard work. Oh, really? So I think it's important to, like, acknowledge both. No, I think a lot of, like, it was just luck. But I'd built the skills as a dancer and just, like, someone who lives in New York to, like, find who I was. But I think my point was I got in at a very early stage. So I had a lot of room to figure it out, to mimic other people, to, to,

absorb things to try something and let it fail and re-reapply it. And I think that, that, I think I started in 2014 or 15. Wow. Yeah. So I had like four, five years before the pandemic and I was able to like really figure out who I was. And it was like, oh, humor, being silly, being dumb. Like, that's what people are resonating with. And then once the pandemic, it was like, people were hooked. Yeah. That's when I found you. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I never worked out before the pandemic. That's what I got. Remember, I had, I bought a Nordic track bike.

Oh. And I would be, to beginning. What are we doing? What are we doing? Remember? People couldn't get Pelotons. I know, I know. Remember?

And so I bought this Nordic track because I was like, I want to cycle and I would put you on my television. Ah. Yes. And I would watch you. On the app. See, you made it work. I would watch you and do, but now I have a Peloton.

But yeah, I made it work for the time being. But it sounds like you also, did you kind of like stumble into dancing too? Like, you were not like a lifelong dancer. And at 22 you started? You know, I always loved dancing. Like, I would watch, like, TRL, like, Brittany and InSync. And, like, that would be, like, my day after school and middle school. So that's where I had this affinity for dancing.

I would just, like, learn it from the TV. And we were just, it was just me and my mom. And she was, we're broke, broke, broke, broke. And I always wanted to take dance classes, but it just wasn't in the budget. So once I got to college, I found out about Broadway Dance Center's internship program. So I came here, I came here in New York City for the summer between freshmen. year and sophomore year and just like took a bunch of dance classes and that kind of got me on the path of like learning that industry. So you said that Peloton was looking for performers is the way they

find instructors is it kind of like half fitness half like performer type people? Or is it just yeah. I mean it's definitely like shifted. It's definitely shifted to more of like a fitness first kind of thing. No, of course. The personality is important. Listen, there's a lot of I'll even say this about myself. I'm not the best trainer in the world. I'm not the most knowledgeable. I'm just the funniest. Like, You know, and like, that's okay. Like, I know that, but there's a lot of my, but there's a lot of my colleagues who are, like, so knowledgeable, know their shit, like, and they're fantastic. So it's kind of this, I don't know, it's kind of like, what do you want? Do you want someone that's entertaining?

Or do you want someone that, like, do you want someone who's more entertaining or more knows their stuff or more inspirational or whatever? It's kind of like you get to pick what your fantasy is. like my favorite instructor at Peloton is Olivia Amato because like the workout's great she doesn't talk that much and like her music hits you know like I would never want to take my class I'd be like can you shut the fuck up please but it's like you're an entertainer you need something different

every workout I just want someone to tell me what to do I don't need the entertainment so I would literally hate my class who are you close with and we know you love everybody and follow but like who are your besties at Palatine I mean Tune Day's definitely like up there and I just have had her on the show we love Tunday We love her. The thing about Tune Day is, like, I don't know, there's a little bit of, I feel like a little bit of a dad with her and there's a sense of pride because I specifically like sought her out, casted her, like auditioned her, advocated for her when like people were saying that she wasn't a right fit for the job. Like there's a whole journey there.

So to see her success, I feel very proud of that and I'm proud to be a part of it. So there's that. But she's also just like a fun, a fun girl. I know, but y'all don't know the silly and, like, crazy part of Tunei. But I like to go to Beyonce and, like, I can tell. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. She's a fun girl. Sometimes, like, I don't know if she's, like, a little bit more guarded with that, but, like, she's so fun and silly.

And, like, we would probably get in trouble if our text messages leaked. Oh, my gosh. I can't even. It's, I shudder to think. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, I would much rather have my nudes leaked than that leaked. You okay? That's not even.

Full spread eagle. Yeah. I'm a cavity, sir. Here's my 42-year-old pussy. Before you see what I'm telling Raina, when I'm ranting. Yeah, so we're very close. It's interesting to see, like, the journey. I've known a lot of instructors for a real long time over a decade,

but our lives have become so different that, like, we just don't cross paths as much as we used to, if it makes sense. Especially people are parents. Yeah, I mean. Their lives are different. I think also some of my favorite person is Jen Sherman, who's, you know, the first Peloton instructor. She's also like... Wow. The very first.

The very first. And she's almost like a mom to me. I'm not going to age drop her right now because maybe she'd slap me in the face. But she's always just someone that I've like leaned on and talked to talk to about life in general. And even I hadn't talked to her in probably like six months like on the phone. We usually have catchups. And I just had a catch up with her like two weeks ago. So that was very nice and just filling her in on life.

Of course, she also like your listeners wanted to know about new boyfriend. Yeah. Yeah. Everybody wants to know. Everyone wants to know. Why is everyone so into like love? You know what I'm saying? People are obsessed.

Because it's the most relatable thing you could ever do. I know, but my boyfriend was saying the same thing. Like, we were walking to a date and he goes, God, everybody's obsessed with, like, love. And I was like, what do you mean? He was like, the minute I, like, had dinner with a friend, the first thing they asked was like, oh, so you're dating and blah, blah, blah. I'm like, yeah, I don't know. And I'm not someone who gushes. Yeah.

And neither's he where it's like, oh, my God, yes. You're like, I don't know. I keep it a little bit closer to my chest. It's the thing we all relate to. It's the thing that everybody is a touch point for and advice and all that. And aspire to have. Yeah. I mean, we joke about this all the time.

It's like I'll never accomplish something that will give me the type of praise and engagement as my wedding. You know, like I filmed a comedy special. Like that won't even come close. Well, you know what I mean to tell you this. I was going to tell you nothing. But I launched a tour. This is going to be a couple weeks ago at this point. But I launched a tour yesterday.

The post will never get the type of engagement that my outfits from. Ashley's wedding post. I, it's, I, it's, so so next time you do an announcement, you need to make sure. Stand next to Ashley and a wedding dress. Well, you know, just like move it a little bit closer to the wedding. Let it be about you.

To be honest, you should have made her wedding about your tour. Well, no, she headlined the wedding. She officiated. Okay, great. So it was about her. It was about her. Yeah, thank God. But this post that I'm talking about, it was like a roundup of me and Ashley and her husband.

And like, it has 40,000 likes. My tour poster, 15, 20. There's not any more comments on the tour poster. Same amount of. no comments right now. Wait, is this your first marriage? Yeah. Okay, great. Hopefully last. And when did you get married?

On November 1st. Oh, so very recently. I love that. Yeah. And you waited until 40. Two. Love that. Jariatic bride. No, that's a pregnancy. All my girlfriends that have gotten pregnant have been past like 33 or something,

and that's a geriatric pregnancy. No, but I do a whole bit. Like, it's geriatric bride. Like I'm at risk. But like, you lived your life. That's what I'm saying. It's perfect. I wouldn't have it any other way. our age, they're already on their second marriage. Do you know what I'm saying?

You got all the frogs out of the way and you found your prince. Yeah, 100%. I wouldn't have it any other way. We built this thriving career. Like, I know who I am. I would agree. Word of advice to my mom always said, like, don't get married or have kids before 30. And here I'm at 38.

Do you want to get married? Marriage, yes. I want to get married. That's important to me. But there's no rush. I hate the straights, unfortunately. Sorry. They have this obsession.

They have this obsession. with being married to a point where it's more about the day and the Instagram post than it is actually about the love and the relationship and the building of it. Like people get so obsessed with like making the day perfect. And I'm like, let it be imperfect, you know? Like let it have its own little intricacies and stories and all this sort of stuff and let it be more about the celebration of the relationship than it is like the day. So that's my take. I mean, people rushing to the altar with the wrong person just to get married.

Did you know you have to spend forever? Forever. Every day. Every day. Like I love my husband so much. I love being around him. But I'm like, we are really together all the time. What if someone is annoying?

Most people are. No, most of the people are. And your partner is going to annoy the fuck out of you at certain point. They're like, they're around all the time. And then I go downstairs at the bell. They are. I mean, wait, what does my boyfriend ask me? I was like, are you sick of me yet?

Like, when he does something on the way. I'm like, you're getting close. You're getting close. Like, I'm single, and sometimes I really have these moments where I'm like, do I really want to be in a relationship? I don't think you do. No one bothers me ever. I would like to have. So you're an avoidant.

Do you know attachment theory? Oh, yeah. Please. Okay. I was telling some of the other day, I think everybody that's dated me has experienced me differently. I think some people really experienced me as pretty avoidant. And I think there's some people that experienced me as being very, like, anxiously attached. I think that we show up as different people in every relationship.

I would agree. I think we're reacting to the other person. I would agree. What are you? I'm definitely anxious. Okay. But like the guy I dated before, the guy I'm dating now, I was definitely more avoidant where like certain things would get on my nerves.

I was starting to feel like anxiety about like getting close to them. Like whereas like most of my other relationships, I'm the one like chasing, you know? But I think that's comforting to hear. I think that like when you meet the person that makes you feel at home at like a level of just comfort, like that's your person. The person that doesn't spike those levels. Yes. And. Okay.

I think it's built more so on the work that you've done on yourself. Sure. Like you've got to figure out your own traumas and know how to regulate yourself because, wow, we're getting deep, aren't we? I always like, I prescribe to this thing that's like the relationship that you have with your partner is going to be the one that parallels the relationship that you've had with your parents. A lot of how you move through relationships is built on the foundation of how your parents raised you and what they did and did not give you. I always feel like the trauma that we get

from our parents is not our fault, but it is our responsibility to take care of so that we're not putting it into the next relationship or kids if you have them, whatever that is. Yeah. We've said that on this podcast. Your trauma is not your fault, but it's your responsibility. Figure it out. Like, stop holding onto it. So you grew up with a single mom. It sounds like it was just the two of you. I'm sure she worked really hard to give you all she could and all that kind of stuff and? Yes, and. She also, like, dealt with addiction. So there was kind of times in my life as a kid where I felt like she wasn't doing her best, if that makes sense. So I had to, like, heal from that and, like, process it and let it go. And now we're in a, like, great place.

Okay. I love my mom. I moved my mom here in 2019. Oh, she's here. Yeah, she lives, like, four blocks away from me. Okay. And we have a lot of fun now, you know? I feel like I let a lot of that go. we went on like a holiday date to a Christmas bar recently and like got her ass drunk and took her shopping and it was so much fun. That's so fun. No, it was so fun. I think this is inspiring. And we talked about being estranged from family members like a week ago. And I think it's inspiring to know that life is long and you can repair relationships.

Yeah. Yeah. It's all what you want. Like if you don't want those people in your life, you also can not have them in your life. That's what we said. But for me, I was like, I love my mom regardless of the ups and downs. and I know that my time with her is limited. So do I want to like feel resentment or do I want to like let that go and enjoy what I have left of her presence on this earth?

You know? I love that message. Okay, you said something that stuck out to me. You said that you're usually chasing people, which I cannot picture. You seem like, I don't know, your vibe is very like people have to work for it with you. No, no, no, no, no, no. I mean that a compliment. No, no, but I don't think like, you don't have to like work for, I don't think you have to work for it with me.

I really says the compliment. People say it about me. Do they? Do you have to work for it with you? Yeah. Like people say to be close to me, you got to work for it a little bit. I don't give it all. Oh, see, I think I'm the, I am the opposite. Really?

Okay. I think when I am really into somebody, I think that anxious attachment comes. And so, like, the chasing comes with, like, if I feel any sort of distance, then I'm, like, trying to repair that very quickly. But I think whether it's friendships or relationships, I give someone the trust or, like, a clean slate from the jump. and then like if you do things bad, then that's starting to like weigh on me.

But no, I don't love like games with friendship or... It's not even games. It's not playing hard to get. You just seem a little hard to get like by nature. Okay. You just, I don't, do you know what I'm saying? Because I'm the opposite. I'm not hard to get.

Okay. I have struggled with that, like letting people in a little too quickly. And I've had to like actively be like, let's take a beat. Yeah, definitely take a beat. interview this person a little bit before we give them the keys to the kingdom. For sure. I would agree. And I think she's talking about like with friendships as like a partner.

She's really, when as a friend, you're also really warm and wonderful. But I think you've always said that. I just don't give it all away. I'm not withholding on purpose. You make people earn it. I'm not even trying to. I just think it takes a minute for me to really warm up, I guess. I'm not so warm immediately.

Raina is and she's like more physically affectionate and she just kind of, I'm always all over everybody. I love that. like being affectionate even with friends, I feel like we don't do it enough. I do it a lot. I won't look over if she's hanging on somebody. I'm like, could be. It is great. It is great.

Like, I don't know. I love to like hug up on my friends. Yes. But I think I've just, it hasn't been like a pervasive problem in my life. But I have let people in a little sooner than maybe other people would. And I'm like, you know, you're just learning lessons all the time. Always learning lessons. There's a whiteboard about everybody and we're just putting information up on the board.

Yep, yep. Okay. So, by the way, I'm obsessed with both of your nails. Thank you. So cute. Thank you for saying that to her. Thank you. Why, she's not feeling it?

I had some regret. You had some regret? I like this gold. Thank you. That means the world, Cody. Perfect for the holidays. Great for New Year. Thank you so much.

You know? Because it's been a journey, you know. Has it? I don't know how you guys. I love getting a manicure. Well, actually, no. I don't love getting a manicure. But I feel like I need them all the time because I bite my nails.

But I hadn't gotten one for like six months. And even just the hour of a normal ass like, manicure, pedicure, was like too much for me. So I don't know how y'all do it with the gel and the things and the, it's a lot. My girl comes to my house for two years now. Even that. Like we're friends and I'm not doing other stuff, but if I have to, I'm in the home. You know, at least I'm cutting out the travel time.

Although that might be worth the premium of having someone come to the house. Yeah, and it's not even that much. I mean. Great. Noted. Okay. I need to find someone that comes to the house. So we're, I mean, Huliette and I, like, I've been with her longer than my husband.

But you don't get the chair that, like, you know, massages you. No, I got a person that massage you. Oh, okay, pop off. Or I get like a foot massage. Pop off. I just, I love it. Wait, what were we even talking about? I distracted you with the nails, sorry.

No, no, no. So this is our first episode of the new year, and we asked our listeners what their resolutions were. Oh, right. And we said, be funny or be serious, whatever you want. Either way. And we divided them up funny and more serious when we thought we would just get your takes. Okay, great. People love your advice.

Okay, great. Can I tell you guys what came up over and over and over again in terms of this is the resolution? That actually did not come up. That didn't come up. Okay, got it. I want to moisturize more. I want to use lotion more. Then, bitch, buy some lotion and put it on.

This came up a lot. Just that's not. To be fair, I guess, for these people. How often do you do like a full shower, though, where you're putting on lotion every day? Do you put on lotion every day? I have to put on lotion after every shower, dry skin. Yep. You don't?

No, no, no. And my skin has been feeling a little bit dry, but sometimes at the end of the night where I'm like, I'm, I'm. gonna take the shower, like the extra step of the lotion. I'm just like, oh, I don't want to. But I know, but my knees be getting ashy, so I can't be having that. Like, my knees being ashy and I just like gotta get to. Elbow, I need to do my elbow. But like all you have to do is get the moisture.

I have a lot of choice. I have a tip for it. Oh, please. So get like a cool lotion dispenser. Okay. Like they've like pretty ones on Amazon. And so you can feel like a fun thing. Like I have this like spinny thing on my counter and has all my lotions in.

And like, it's just, it's a fun little thing for me at the end of the day. Oh, see, mine would be like find the one that you like, I think the body lotion I have is from Costa Brazil and it smells like, I don't know, like Palo Santo. The Brazilian bum bum cream. Oh, that one's good too. That's so good. That one I used to use a lot, but I don't use that one anymore. But this one smells like. Do you have a bad memory about it?

No, no, no, I kind of just. It's very potent. No, no, no. I've been to Brazil nine times, ten times. I've been many, many times. Do you go for New Year's? I have a lot before, but now I have a lot before. but now I started to go to for Carnival, which I'm going for in February.

But the smell of that is so specifically Brazil. So like I love the smell of it. The only thing I didn't like about that cream was it felt a little sticky after applying it. So I didn't love it. That was my thing, but I love the smell of it. The smell is so good. I use Necessaire and I use the unscented and I have it on my auto shipment. Oh, yeah.

I don't trust auto shipment. Because like, how do you know when it's, They know when I'm out. For lotion, that's hard. I don't like having a stockpile of thing. It hits right when I need it. I don't have enough storage in my apartment. That's true.

Right. So that when it's taking up things. Have you talked about this? No, what? I'm having like a deja vu moment about you. Have you talked with this on the bike? Maybe I probably have. I don't know.

I remember like a funny take about Newark's that you can't do auto ship. You can't do auto. Like, I can't do it because if it comes too frequently, I haven't used it. I don't want to stockpilot it. Even for pills. Okay. And some people are you taking so many pills? What pills?

Why are you taking so many pills? I'm on blood control, blood pressure control. Not the blood control. But they should know what I'm out of it. And they're always sending it like 15 days. Don't worry. Don't worry. AI, Amazon.

The robots are going to know when you're out of things to make it more efficient. It's coming. Don't worry. Okay. I want to move on to something. These came up back to back. One person said I want to try anal and someone else said I want to do less anal. Less anal.

People. How much anal are you doing? So they're going to meet in the middle. Raina, you need to respond back and do less anal girl. Okay. How much are we doing? Let's approach do more anal. I'm doing a lot of anal because that's how I have sex, okay?

But anybody that's doing more anal, I need you to research how to clean out, okay? Okay. That's just real. Just to Google, okay. Just, I don't know. Yeah, Google, you know, because you want to, you want to, you want to, you want to make sure that you're fresh down there. Totally.

Okay. Clean that bomb. Have lube. I suggest silicone lube. Yeah. I don't love water-based lube. It gets absorbed too fast. It's just not, it's, it's sticky.

Actually, it's, water-based loop is much more sticky. Silicon is great for the butt. I would agree. Yeah. I would agree. For the person that wants to do less, Angel. Like, how much are you doing? How?

I'm going to find out. Just do less. You can respond back in the question box. Maybe they're not trying to get pregnant or something. Maybe that's the problem. You're going to die. So we had our show, Siren Night, and we go around to ask people the best part of their year. And just to keep the spirits up.

And she said, I did anal for the first time. We were like, woo. And she was like, but I have never had regular sex. And she was just like, like, saving herself. And we were like, so you're still like a virgin in the puss. What in the, like, Mormon technicalities is this? Yeah, we asked, are you Mormon? Was she?

She just was religious. No, she's saving herself. But you mean to tell me that, like, God was like, well, you know, you've been. put it in your butt so it's it's it's actually you're actually still a virgin also no oral she said she I was like you started with anal and we were like why and she was like I just really liked him we're like this guy this guy that she's dating was just like I how can I trick this bitch this bitch into fucking her and she's not going to suck my dig she's waiting till marriage I'm gonna go I'm gonna go for the anal option okay insane like did they meet a church probably okay Cody people want to be more

petty. Oh. Yeah, be meaner came up a lot. Be meaner. More petty. Be meaner came up. But I want to, we want to talk to you about being petty. Mm-hmm. Because you have a podcast. It's tactful pettiness with my friend Andrew Chappelle. And you really have the perfect line of pettiness, I think, and what I, the content that I've seen and your class is. Thank you. Thank you. My whole thing is don't start no shit, won't be no shit. Like, I would agree. I don't go after people. But if you come at me, you will not like what happened. I'm just responding. So is that kind of your mind? Yeah, I mean, one of my favorite tactfully petty things was that girl on Facebook. Some man wrote a racist comment on her Facebook post.

This hoe drove three hours to confront this man. She prepared him an apology to read off camera. So he had to read it off camera. And she said, if you don't read this, I'm going to show your wife the grinder profile that I found of it. Wow. And when I tell you that that man read that apology with quickness and heart and sincerity, He did. He did. That's what I'm saying. Like, don't. But how do you, did she still talk about the grinder? How do you know this? It's all on, it's all on TikTok. It's all on the internet. You can find

it on the internet. That is tactful pettiness. Exactly. I mean, but it's, it's worth it. Like, I would never drive three hours. What else are you doing? Like, this is a, a story for your life. Yeah. That is worth driving three hours for it. Just for that. Revenge? Absolutely. Do you have any other tips about pettiness? Yeah, you have to know thyself. You know, You have to know thyself and be confident with thyself because if someone tries to like come for you, you got to know how to, you have to, even if the read is true, even if the thing that they're saying is true, you have to be able to own that so it doesn't get to you. You know what I'm saying? I have been like using chat GPT to like run some stuff through it. This morning I ran something through it.

I was responding to this guy. I like once scorched earth on this text message. Even chat chbtee was like, oh, maybe reel it in. But the advice. Chat Chagipt said that's a little too petty. babe. It said, I'm glad you asked me first. I'm glad you asked me first. Wow. Girlie. It's just stick your life. Hey girl. I mean, it also said like, you know, just reel it in. Like, you don't need to like relitigate the situation with somebody. Like, take your power back by doing a little bit less here.

Yeah. I mean, you could go score shirts with people and I think that's fun sometimes. I think it needs to be like, it needs to be subtle and do you know what I'm saying? I was not subtle. You also don't want the other person to know that they got to you. Well, that's the thing. And also pick your battles. I mean, it's just. just, I don't know, you seem so beloved. I don't know if you have a lot of haters. I mean, so rarely do I respond to something or do something, but when I do it, it's worth it. But I can't, I have to let stuff for all off my back. I can't go through life. Yeah, but you're talking about strangers. Like, when somebody does something to you, you're a straight shooter. Yeah. You will respond quickly. You are honest. You're never trying to, exactly. Okay. Like,

point in case, like, someone wrote on a post recently was like, I just took your class. and the playlist was horrible. Do better with the, like, you need to play better music. I said, and I literally clapped, backed, sort of, and I said, ma'am, you can click view playlist to see if you like the song before you click the playlist. So if you don't like the playlist, then go choose another class. A hundred thousand other classes. Yes.

And also just, this enrages me because musical taste is subjective. Exactly. I mean, you have bad taste, ma'am. Sure, yes. Sometimes, you know, once in a while I don't put my full pussy into a playlist and therefore it's not like my best and sometimes it's rushed but I know.

Wait, was that one of them though? I don't know. I didn't go back. Because you know sometimes you're like, you're right. I'm not, I'm not that invested to go then search for the class and look, because they did put the date. But I was just like, I don't have enough time. So I'm going to be nice but bitchy. Of course.

This is the one time where I'm like this, she could read the playlist. This was her fault. Can you imagine not viewing a playlist? Yeah. That's the only reason I take the classes. Yeah. That's crazy. Okay, I have one that none of us are going to relate to, but somebody's goal was to talk less. Why? Are they getting in trouble at school? Sometimes, you know, I guess, you remember when I quit drinking for that, like, two months? I was like, I'm just be saying too much stuff.

There are people, though, that talk and they're not funny or it's not intentional, and, like, nobody actually wants to hear them. So if you don't think you're actually funny, then maybe you should stop talking a bit. I would agree with that. You know what? We'll stop them. Go and have a conversation and just secretly voice record yourself and then go listen to that because nobody likes listening to their voice for the first time. Yeah. Do you know what I'm saying?

Yeah. We're so used to it because, like, you're creating content. You had to get over that. Like, oh, I sound like that. Yeah. If they want to talk less, record themselves and listen and they'll be like, I hate my voice. And so therefore, they'll be self-conscious. Yeah.

I love this. You know? Baptism by fire. Yep. I thought you were going to say record yourself because you'll realize like nothing you say is interesting. That too. Yeah, start a podcast. That too.

Start a solo podcast. Figure it out, babe. You could do a solo. We talk about this a lot. It's such an art form that we could never do and it's like we have so much respect for people who do it because it's hard to carry. I could see you doing it. A one person. Because you talk to the.

Yeah. Well, he does that at Peloton. Listen, I could do it. I don't want to. Exactly. Also with Peloton like, I'm giving directions. There's an audience. There's an audience.

And there's music to play off of and talk about. So I am good at that, but yeah. Okay. I don't know why someone would write this, but, oh, stop. Sorry, I thought it said start. Stop pooping in front of my partner. Stop? But the other one says be able to fart freely in front of my partner.

I'm hearing a lot of these together. Okay, okay, okay. Those are two good things. Stop. I'm sorry, but I'm not taking shit in front of a partner. I'm not doing that. I'm, that's not happening. Straining?

Can you imagine? We need a separation of church and state. in that situation. Like, I don't want to. I don't want to. That's losing too much of the magic here. Let's just, let's create a, let's close the door, babe. I can't.

The smells, the sounds. The smells, the sound. I don't do any of that stuff in front anybody. The face you make? Poop face. No. It's just, maybe, maybe this people, like, maybe someone took the leap and started pooping in front of the other and now it's become commonplace.

You guys need to have a new year, new me conversation. Hey, babe. I think to maybe like bring back some of the magic or like just you know a little bit we've been spent a lot of time together Let's let's take a step back on the pooping in front of each other I love you, but like let's just a little bit of whimsy You know? Just bring back a little bit of whimsy Yeah Now the farting thing

Do you fart in front of your partner? Not yet But you have with other partners? Yes Because it's funny Yeah but like at some point you just got to do it because it's going to happen I still haven't. In front of your husband?

I mean, not audibly. I'd be crop dust. Maybe it's different with two boys a little bit. There's a little bit of stupidity there. I've lived with three different men. No one's ever heard me fart. One time one boyfriend swore he smelled it. I don't even think I've ever heard you fart.

I don't do that. I don't do that in front of other people. That is, I just like, that would just be a life of too much discomfort. I'm not doing it. I'm just like, I'm not afforded. No, I know, but like even having to get up and go to the back. Just bury it. Take the leap of.

faith and just have a good giggle about it. If you want to start farting in front of them, just like, you got to do it and have a giggle about it. Yeah. And hopefully they'll do it first. You know? That's true. Hey, babe, you start farting in front of each other. Just set up a podcast. I don't know about bringing it up. It just has to happen naturally. No, you're right. Okay. So be more of a baddie than I already am. People ask all the time. I know this is like a broad question, but how can I be more confident? How can I feel better? Like, do you have any tips, small ways to just like... I mean, not to be that girl, but like fitness is a good path. to that.

Totally. I think that like when you start to create a fitness routine, like you do still, you start to feel strong. You start to feel confident. You might like the way you look in the mirror. Like it does kind of build this relationship with self. I just think a relationship with self, either therapy, meditation, like get to know yourself so that nobody can take that power away from you.

That's great. Also stop caring so much about what people think. People think they're not worried about you, babe. As much as we think we are the main character and like this. the game that is life. Like, we, nobody cares. And mute and unfollow people on social media that make you feel bad. We say this all the time.

If, if looking at somebody just makes your levels spike, you don't have to follow them. Yeah, yeah, you can definitely unfollow them, especially if they're not your castmate. That's a callback. That's a callback to the previous conversation. Okay, got it. Sorry, I forgot about that. Can't wait for when you guys to unfollow each other. That would be crazy.

It would. That would. That would. Maybe for the drama. Yeah. Or the drama. Just for the drama. I like that idea.

So someone needs to do it. And then like, no month from now, be like, wait a minute. Did you unfollow me? And somebody will be like, we always knew they hated each other. Live on the podcast. Do it in person on your next tour stop. It would make me so sad to unfollow you. Oh, my God.

Wouldn't it, like, hurt your feelings to not follow you? Yeah. I can't even picture it. Oh, okay. But if it gets us some press. That's sentimental. Yeah, anything for the, anything for the press. Well, I love that you even said.

I mean, again, like, Peloton is just, especially this year, there's been times where I, like, cannot function of everything happening in the world. And I remember posting early in the year. early in the year. Like, is anyone else doing something like really aggressively? Because for me, I'm like, I'm going so hard. I have so much rage to get out of my body and my scores were so high they were through the roof. And I did a question box and everyone was doing something the same way, whatever it was, whether it was fitness or some hobby. And I just felt- I was the opposite. So kudos on you. I kind of went to a like a shutdown where everything felt really

overwhelming and I just didn't know where to put my energy. But that's really good that you found that out of it. I have to do that too. And you obviously have to rest and stuff. It was just like, I feel like rage in my body. I have to get out. And it's like sometimes I just need to, you know. I'm proud of you for that because I've been told I don't know how to show like anger. I'm not good at expressing anger. Did you feel like you couldn't do it as a kid?

Maybe. But I just, I've just never been an angry person. But I think like having those outlets are good. Yeah. But you are doing something like great in the world. You allow people to do that at your class. And you just bring a lot of joy and everything you do. And if people are Peloton fans or not, we really encourage them to take your classes.

because they're just so fun and funny and spicy and different. You can have to have a bike and just watch them. Yeah, you can just watch. Even if you have a Nordic track. There you go. Put it on there. Put it on your iPad, you know? Do you get a lot of messages like you changed my life?

Yeah, yeah. And they're always sweet and enjoying. Oh, totally. I just like, I feel like, is there ever a point where you're like, I can't believe, like. Oh, yeah, yeah. I can't believe I get to do this. I think sometimes I also have a hard time, like a hard time actually realizing the impact. Like feeling the gravity.

the gravity of it. I think there's a protector in me that is afraid of losing those things. So if I accept it or bring it in closer, then the fear of losing it becomes more real. Does that make sense? We'll work on that in the next theory session. Exactly. Exactly. Ending on a deep note. Cody, tell everybody where they can find you. You can find me on Instagram at Cody Rigsby. You can listen to my podcast, tactful pettiness. Anywhere you get your podcast, Peloton's there. And I hope that something of my face makes it onto your for you page, you know? After this, they'll be right there. After this, right there.

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