Girls Gotta Eat - How to Feel Sexier

Episode Date: April 17, 2023

It's just the two of us, and we're talking about how to FEEL YOURSELF! We discuss ways to feel sexier for your partner, for your own damn self, when you're in a rut/on your period/just feeling blah, and more. We cover the "5 senses check" and everything from grooming to lingerie to spray tans to self talk. Before we dive into the topic, we're talking shit on Rayna's celeb nemesis (IYKYK), what we would do if we knew our best friend was cheating on their partner, and supporting friends who are battling an illness. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Native: Get 20% off your first order at nativedeo.com/gge or use promo code GGE at checkout. ZocDoc: Go to zocdoc.com/gge and download the Zocdoc app to sign up for free and book a top-rated doctor. AG1: Get a free 1 year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D + 5 free travel packs with your first purchase at athleticgreens.com/gge. Julie: You can go to juliecare.co to learn more or find Julie at your nearest CVS, Target, or Walmart today. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you are feeling yourself like nothing is sexier. So like you just got to believe your own bullshit. Girls got to eat. Welcome back. We're almost back to our roots. We have the mics. It makes me feel really happy. We're still on my couch, which if you're watching third week in a row, there is no art

above the couch. The painting, I made a different decision. It's over there. So the dogs. What are you going to do? I'm going to paint something myself. Bitch, I'm going to put this big tarp down. So the owner of my house is an artist.

He had this thing hanging on the wall when I walked in. It was so gorgeous. This is Jackson Pollock-esque thing that's just like, he just took a black brush and just made strokes. And I was asking him about it. He was like, it's my art. And I was like, I'm not buying that. I already pay you too much.

Was he like selling it to you? He's an artist and he sent me his catalog. And I was like, I'm just going to paint this. I'm not paying for this. This will cost me $3. Okay, so, right, exactly. I think we might have already talked about this because publicity, Alyssa, T. With Policity is her podcast and she's publicity on Instagram, did that in her apartment when she moved here. So she just did like black strokes.

I have a different thing. And I feel like I'm not going to tell you because then you're going to want to do it. No, I'm doing black strokes. I'm committed to it. All right. Well, then I'm going to tell you. Are you painting it on the wall? No.

I'm going to paint the wall. People do that. I did that my first. Okay, you know what I did in my first apartment in your first apartment in your own? City. I took lace and I lined it on the wall and I spray painted over the lace. It was so ugly. There was some, we used to do like weird shit at our 20s. Like this thing that Corey had in her house, she bought a house like really young. It was just like such a boss move. And it said something like Chotchke like Home Good style, because that's all we were into when we were like younger.

You know what I mean? All you got a Marshalls. We don't remember something. We remember moments. and then it was another thing under it that said moments. So it was something like, it was doubleed down on moments. Because stuff, I forget how it happened. I wish I should, I could text her right now in real time and like get her to explain it to me. And we made fun of it.

We all did. She was in on the joke, but we would be like, moments, moments. I know I have a picture this somewhere, but I, well, listen, I'll let it be a teaser. But I saw something. I was like, oh, I kind of want to go with that. vibe, something a little suggestive. Like sexy suggestive? Like kind of like naked body.

Wait. Like silhouette. I love this idea. I think it's really amazing. I cannot wait to see it. And we're talking about feeling sexier today and I'm going to talk about nude photos in my house. Okay. Great idea. Also, I like got in my head last night, like, fantasizing of like, what if then people like want it and then I'm like a famous artist. And I have to quit the podcast to pursue my art career. And then my art is at that gallery. And then you go there. I got to go there this week.

And then you end up with Rusty. And then I'm like showing at the gallery. And then you guys like are at my opening. I'm just a wife and you're an artist. I love this scenario where I quit both of our companies. I was like 10 years down the road. I'm showing at this gallery. You're there with Rusty.

And times have changed. Times have changed. I'm just a wife, which sounds incredible to me. You are saying wife. I didn't say anything about wife. I'm Rusty's wife in a scenario and I'm ready to stop working. I'm fucking sick of it. Rusty, that's going to support you.

Yeah. The art gallery bouncer. Yeah. He is friends with the owners of the gallery who are like 100 millionaires, I think. Oh, Rusty knows the owner. They're running the same crowd. Okay. Who's your future husband?

What's so great about him? I'm not getting married. Ever? I mean, I'm saying that's a good match for you, I guess. I don't know anything about him. Okay. Okay. So before we get into it, big day, huge. We're so excited. Tickets are on sale today for our fall Snack City tour. We announced all the shows last week. They will be on sale in your city's 10 a.m. Local time. So whatever 10 a.m. is to you, that is when they're on sale. What's up for 10 a.m. is to you. You want to rattle these off? Yeah. They're all on our website. And then the links are live. You can go ahead and click through. And we'll tell you the dates. We're so excited.

Okay. London, September 9th, Austin, September 28th, Dallas, September 29th, Charlotte, October 13th, Atlanta, October 14th, Nashville, October 15th, Portland, October 26th, Vancouver, 27th, Seattle, October 28th, San Francisco, November 3rd, L.A., November 4th, San Diego, November 8th, Toronto, December 8th, holiday show. New York, December 10th, Beacon Theater holiday show. I feel anxious that we have to do all those. I do too. As I was reading at it, I was looking at October and November, I was like, the 87th time I said October, I started to panic. A little me too. Okay. So here's the thing. What? I don't know if we're going to be okay. Normally I'm the one that's like, I don't care. It'll be fine. I was programming these on

the website and I was like, this is a lot. But we will be on the West Coast. So we're, we're kidding. We love to do this. There's no greater joy. And so we're really, come on Azul. Out here. And listen, maybe that we live in L.A. now, you might catch a glimpse of Azul at the live show. Oh, yeah. I forgot. He's not quite like Dui used to be. He does get a little scared. But Dewey just didn't give a fuck. She waited around the stage. He sat down. He really didn't care. But Girls Gotta Eat.com. All the shows are there. We still have seven shows left before we take a break for the summer. so you can grab some tickets in Chicago,

DC, Boston, all around Ohio, and then Philly. Yes. Yes. These are really exciting shows, big theater shows. We are really so excited. And it's just,

it's really a joy. Thank you guys for coming to the shows, supporting us, buying the merch, buying vibes, everything you do to support us, sharing your stories. If you are coming to any shows at all,

send us any about stories at Girls Gotta Eat.com. And we just want tea about your friends. People that you're coming with, your significant other that you're coming with. Just tell us funny stories about you and the person that you're with. Any kind of like tea or ross. And if you have single guys in your party, let us know.

So yes, stories at girls got to eat.com. Oh my gosh. Something that is happening in Philly that we've been planning for like two years. It's going to be like so hysterical. You guys aren't even know what hits you. Boston. We have the opening act in Boston. Everything is just in Chicago, D.C., Ohio, all of it.

Like we, like, I'm really excited. Yes. You know I'm an Ohio stand. I just found my OHIO sweatshirt the other day. You just found it because I packed it for you? That's why. It came from New York. Oh, it was in the studio. It was my studio sweatshirt. I was excited when I found it for you too.

But we're so excited. You guys grab those tickets. They will go fast. So we will see you in your cities. We cannot wait. Girls Got Eat.com. Okay, Raina. I have something to tell you, and I don't know if you know this. It's a big development in the sports world. Okay. Wait. Let me guess it. Tom Brady is dating Reese's Spother's phone. You see that?

Is that a rumor? Oh, okay. And honestly, I can see it. I mean, she's amazing at an icon. She seems a little uptight. And he seems like he would attract somebody that's a little uptight. Little like alpha yellow aura. She's so yellow.

Okay. Here it is. Your arch nemesis, Tristan Thompson. Trade into the Lakers. Is on the Lakers. Did you know this? I saw it this morning. And here's the thing.

You guys do I have the number one troller of Tristan. Thompson. Since day one. Yes, on the internet. I can't see a post about, I follow everything. I follow like page six, people, Us Weekly, like I follow all the gossip blogs. And every time I see his photo, I comment on it.

And I tag him and like, boo, I hate you. Honestly, I'm done with it. Chloe was, like, commenting, like, positive things about, like, him, like, getting traded to the Lakers. That's what people were saying. I just, I can't protect Chloe anymore from herself. Yeah, no, it's, it's on her own now. Yeah, I wanted to comment.

Like, we don't want him. But I feel like I'm not. quite at the place to like speak like an Angelino. Oh like we don't want you. Yeah like I just I was like thinking about posting on my story and being like we don't want him and then I felt like Ashley you're not there yet. It's been a week. I just think it's like so funny and people also aren't thrilled about it regardless as like a player. I don't know. I don't know enough about the NBA. I don't know like you haven't lived here long enough to be like we don't want them. people in New York are like

you're not a New Yorker two year for like 10 years like people are so sick I feel like I'm still a New Yorker yeah like somebody can get traded in the Knicks and I'd be like we don't want them and anything that happens to Delaware I'm allowed to speak on it Oh right well I mean I'm yeah

Steelers too I'll be like we don't want them Okay we're not a part of the culture yet Yeah give us a year and then I'm gonna start popping off about Tristan Thompson on the Lakers but I just want to say ladies of L.A., watch out He's on the loose He's in these streets You can't miss it

Well right like his kids are here Yeah. I just thought it was funny. It's funny that we're talking about Tristan Thompson. You're wearing a Boys Lie t-shirt. I know. So it's funny because I just saw this Boys Lie. I didn't know the brand. And then I saw this just on Revolve. And I was like, I obviously need that jersey that says Boys Lie. And then... That's your sports team? This is my time. And then, like, a day later that I got this, who was spotted, stepped out in all Boys Lie. Ariana Maddox was spotted. This is so exciting for me because on my drive over. over here, I was listening to, so I like this podcast, comments, by celebs. I listen to their, like, you're so much, yeah, I like their podcasts. I just, it's like recaps of celebrity gossip and it's all reality TV and I like it. And so they were recapping this, like, some scand of all stuff. And I wanted to ask you about that.

And I walked in here and you're wearing the boys lie shirt. So this is very, like, on brand. I'm curious what your thoughts are on this. So Tom Schwartz, who's the best friend of Tom St. Yeah. Went on, did you see, you know what this? Yeah. Oh my God.

You're up to date. I saw the clip. And like, people tweeting just like, does he? have a publicist? Like, this is wild. These people are so messy. I love it. They act crazy. They act like they haven't been on television for 10 years. So crazy. It's like his first day on TV. So

he's talking to Andy Cohen and he's basically saying that he like knew that Tom Sandable had fucked Raquel in August. Rachel. Rachel, sorry, by her Christian name. So he knows that they fucked it in August and he just thought that it was like a one-night stand. He didn't say anything. He's sort of backtracking

like when he found out about this. Because his original story was I found out in January, he promised me he would tell Ariana and then I kind of didn't want to get involved. But now he's, he's walking it back and saying, I knew they fucked in August. Now I haven't said anything. So people are saying, like, how could you do this to Ariana? How could you not have told her? Yeah. Because she's a really good friend of yours. She is best friends with your ex-wife. Like, how could you not have told her? But I'm thinking about this because his allegiance is obviously to his like business partner, best friend in the world. And like, what do you do with that

information? So I've really been thinking about like if I was in that situation, like what I would do and I wanted to talk to you about it. Because it's like, it's a closest level of like you and me. And if like, I found out that you were having an affair and like I was really close with your partner. But like, I don't know. I think people are like human and we all have a person that there are allegiance lies with.

Yeah. I mean, I have never watched the show a day of my life. But if it really is like you and me, like, I'm not tattling on you. Like, you know, especially because I guess we kind of boil down to like guy code and girl code. Like, I don't care what you do to a dude. What do I care? Like, you're my best friend. You're like family. Like, I'm trying to think. So to me, I guess also depends on what your life looks like. Like, let's just zoom out. I'm not even going to use my family's example because I can't even like say the words. But you have a brother and he's cheated on his wife and you're the sister. You know,

let's, we both have brothers. Like, I would have to be like, I can't watch this. You have to handle this. Like, I can't be in the room with her. But I'm going to, him first and then I don't know. I mean, this would never be my brother, your brother, but if he's like, no, I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing, I don't know where I would go from there. I just can't picture a scenario like that. But sometimes it's like you do have loyalty to one person and it's not your business. And I don't know. Yeah. I mean, I do think they go back like 10 years, him and Ariana because I don't know that whole really should be there. I'll explain. But, but like still, him and probably Tom Sandel will go back 20 years. That's his best friend. That's the

loyalties too. All I would say is that it would probably hurt my relationship with you. If you were telling me constantly, like, I am having an affair and I'm in love with this other person, and I was coming around you and your primary partner, it would damage my relationship with you. Right. Like, I would start to question your character, you know, like, relationships are messy and people cheat and it's not black and white, which is the title of an episode with Esther Perel, that cheating is not black and white. But yeah, I would, start to be like, I didn't know that Raina would do this. And if she can do this to this person, what would she do to me? Like, I would just start to question your character and you're right.

It would probably start to affect our relationship. Yes, I would not tell the person. I sort of had a scenario like this. One of my very close friends was sort of circling the drain of cheating with somebody. Yeah. Not actually cheating, but she had a long-term partner who I had also a long-time relationship with. And she didn't fully cheat, but she had invited me to like come spend some time with her and the other person. And I was like, under no circumstances, will I do this? I will not promote this. I will not come along with you and act like this is okay.

But you do whatever you want. It's not my relationship. I just refuse to be a part of it. And I think it's okay if it damages your relationship a little bit. But I would never in a million years have told her partner. That's crazy. Yeah. And I hope I didn't come across of like someone that's cheating on their partner is dead to me.

It just would start to day and day out wearing me a little bit. When you see someone you're close to being deceitful, being deceitful, being dishonest to anyone. Yes. It would just make me question to your character. I couldn't be around like the primary partner

and you together and I know that things are like really messy and like this relationship I mean allegedly they've been in over 10 years they don't have sex with each other the relationship's not great

but like still there's no reason to do what he did. Yeah. So anyway, the internet is a buzz saying like Tom Schwartz should have like told Ariana but and I don't know she probably feels like

I feel stupid. I feel stupid you fucking knew but I don't know people are human. I don't think I would have said anything. Yeah. And I mean, it's just like these people are messier than most. I feel like we have a glimpse into their real lives more than most,

but at the end of the day, we don't know them. And you never know, like, every detail of everything. We share our whole lives with you guys. You still don't know every detail of everything, right? People take shit and run with it. Yeah, you better behave or we're going to stop sharing. Yeah. And also, I mean, people in glass houses shouldn't throw rocks.

Like, I feel like he is not a perfect angel, Tom Schwartz, he's cheated. I feel like all this whole group has all cheated on each other. There's so much incestuous cheating on each other. And they're all acting holier than now. They've all cheated on each other with their other best friends. Right. So it's like, I don't know that Tom Schwartz is going to like stand on principle and be like,

I'm telling Ariana, it's like he cheated too. Right. It's almost you'd rather them own that and be like, I don't know, I've fucking, I've been there. Right. Exactly. So it's funny you're wearing that shirt because I was dying to ask you this on my way over. Yeah. I thought about literally wearing it to a show with like a heel.

but it's a little too short of my pussy out. Well, I actually am starting to wear underwear now because we have a new underwear sponsor next week. We'll get into it, right? Is it next week? Speaking of Chloe. Speaking of the Kardashian. Teaser alert.

Yeah, that's a huge development. Maybe. I'm going in and testing out underwear. I can't believe you're wearing underwear. I've changed. My nails? Underware. Okay, I'm glad you brought up your nails too.

I walked out of here and I didn't ask you this question and it's been like burning a hole in my brain. I'm upset that I didn't bring this up because you accused me of this. So now you have to answer for yourself. You get poop under your fingernails, Ashley? Probably. Duky has been under those nails.

Be honest. There is probably fecal matter under it. And it's worth it. And it's worth it. They look good. No, listen. Have you wiped your butt and pulled your fingernails up and there was dooky on your fingernails that you saw?

No, but those first few wipes were a challenge. And I have figured out a wipe. But here's the thing. There is stuff under there. They're not free and clear. two and a half weeks in. Like, that's, these are washed. These are, like, that's glue and this is a light color and there's stuff under there. Yeah, dust and his little hair. Dust, residue, debris. But it's not ducky. It's not poop. I can't poop under there. I stand by what I said. There could be.

I don't care. I'm part of the culture now. Welcome. We're happy to have you. I've had so many men up in my house this week, just a train of men. Every one of them said my nails look good. So what do they say specifically? I love your nail color. They do. Love. I get so. I get so. many compliments for men on this neon green color. Really? Always. Men on the street stop. Interesting. Yes. I've never ever had a man make a comment on my nails in my whole life, but this neon green color always. I didn't see that coming. Yeah. Men, they really grabbed too much. Because there's like a whole theory. I feel like it was like on TikTok or something

and like why guys like red nails. Like if you were to tell me like what's the nail color a guy would be attracted to, I wouldn't say neon green. I think it looks kind of edgy. I think that you show up and like I have like tattoos and I have like red green. They think you can I look naughty. That's what it is. I have been thinking about why do guys specifically like this. It looks a little bit like I start with anal. Yeah.

Right. It's not giving wifey. No. It's giving butt stuff on a first day. Yeah, it's freaky-dicky. I know. I'm like, I'm made to it. I can't go back to pinks now because I'm like, men love this for one night.

I'm just kidding. Well, there was some, I think it was this thing about like red nails of like, also, who cares, do what you want to do. dress for you, do your nails for you, but how, like, red nails make guys think of, like, their moms and their teachers and things like classic, like classic, yeah, which also I love a red nail. And I do think back. I mean, like, was your mom in her nails growing up? Like, did she care about nails? I introduce her to acrylic tips. Oh. Yeah, and then she's been old, but she gets, like, these muted, like, my mom's like 70-something. She gets muted colors.

Okay. Because my mom always had, like, long pretty, like, red nails. So to me, I, like, I know that coming from, like, thinking of your mom, you know? It does feel like a, classic, classy. Yeah, like the 80s, 90s, that was like red lip, red nails. Do you follow this girl on Instagram that she's always doing like 2007? She's like, the girl with it, the, um, the nappy. Like, and she straightens the bangs. Like, it's really funny.

What is her handle? I don't know. She's blonde. She makes her hair like all crunchy, but like she straightens the bangs. Well, she just does these sketches of like, so funny. The early 2000s and they're so accurate. And she will do the like foundation on her lips. Like, do you remember we just were like, make your face as like white and powdery as possible?

Yeah, it's crazy. The makeup line. Always had a makeup line. I had three shirts on and then like a net, half vest. Though like a shrug. A shrug. We would just wear sleeves. You would put on three tank tops and then sleeves separately.

And all three of the tanks would be hanging outside of the jeans skirt you were wearing. And then you might put a belt over the tank. Over the tank skirt. Oh my God. And you have those glitter mesh net belts that you like tied around you with like a sash, like a net sash. It's so embarrassing. What else? Okay. So we are heading to New York this week. We will have been back when this airs. But going back to, are you excited? I was just there like five minutes ago. Right. You were just there. I am excited. We were there in February. It's not that like it hasn't been that long. We go every month. That's what we do. No, I really am excited. We have this like TV appearance. And then of course we're going for the New Haven show. And then I'm getting to do my show at this. stand with Francis. We're in new two shows. They will have passed at this time. And we have a dinner of friends to see. Like, it's all pretty jam-packed. And I like that. I mean, we don't have homes there anymore. Have to stay in a hotel, not ideal. Always going to be in a small hotel room in New York. So it's extended period of time is not ideal anymore, unfortunately. But it's

nice to go for a couple days, jam-pack a bunch of stuff in. I'm excited. You know, stay on Skedge. And then... I can't wait. Yeah. I know. I'm excited, too. It is really weird going saying in a hotel. Because I did before. This is my home. This is so weird. What am I doing in this hotel? I know.

But I'm really looking forward to it. And yeah, we are fully L.A. residents now. Everything is moved in and happening. Yeah. Well, and I have to get a license. My license expires anyway this summer. And I have to get a, I guess I'm getting a California driver's license, which is so weird because I wouldn't have seen that coming.

I would have thought I would have got like Delaware or something. Like it still feels like this isn't my permanent home, but I guess it is. And Merrill was saying I might have to take a driver's test. Yeah, we'll double-check that information. Which, yeah, don't DM us. We'll figure this out on our own. But I just can't get Cher Horowitz out of my head, like driving test, driving test. Like, actually...

Oh, I can't wait to plan our outfits. You know, that's my most capable looking outfit. Lucy, where's my friend... What is it? Where's my friend Cagle? Fred Cigel's down the street. We should go get you one. But it's funny you also, like, skipped having a New York driver's license.

You just, like, never got me there for so long. I know. I just, I registered to vote and everything in New York. I think I even talked about that. I was able to register to vote without a license. So I just had kept my Georgia license. And then it's expiring this summer, which is like crazy. It's great.

I think when you change your address, you register to vote. So the post office registers. I mean, that's how I registered to vote in California. Well, I had to like do a thing. Okay. All right. So I kind of wanted to just talk about something like a little more serious. It's just like been on my mind.

Kind of been like dominating my mind, I guess. So I had this friend, someone that I was friends with. And I lived in Atlanta that I had. out with and like, you know, go out with from time to time. And I wasn't that much of in touch with her once I left Atlanta. But like every once in a while, you know, she would DM me about the show an episode she liked and things like that. And she was this woman named Lorraine and she had beaten cancer four times, just like really such a fighter and just this really special person. She's really good friends with Rob. And we did a lot of stuff together when we lived in Atlanta.

And she was always someone that I was like, this girl is just one of a kind. And like to just go through that over and over and over, you know, and was always such a positive light and really, I mean, given the circumstances so positive. And just one of the people that like really wanted to live life to the fullest while she was on this earth, you know, and obviously you fight cancer, be cancer once. You know, you kind of have the different outlook on the world and then to have it happen again. And she lost her final battle with this fifth time that she had cancer. And I remember seeing her post and she was the awesome. in the hospital she did pass away. And, you know, she'll be so missed. And, you know, there may be people listening to this that knew her. And she was just such an inspiration to see this young woman. I mean, I'm assuming she was just at this point, like late 30s, like our age and had had to deal with that for the last decade or or so. And so it hit me pretty hard. I just, you know, these things like, they just make you so mad, you know, you're like, no one should have to deal with this. And then on top of that, I just have a really good friend.

She's Raina's friend as well, but she's more Ashley's friend, really someone who's like a sister to me that has cancer. And I'm not going to give away too many details, but it's really, really devastating. Just all of the details surrounding it. And it's like been dominating my thoughts. And like, this has just been on my mind a lot. And, you know, I'm trying to hold it together as much as possible, but I'm just been like melting down. And I'm not looking for sympathy. This has nothing to do with me. You know, I just want to support my friends who are struggling with anything like this. But it's just like so tough, like these young women or anybody that this happens to.

And I just wanted to talk about it because, you know, we share our lives in this podcast. And this is all I've really been able to think about. And it comes in and out. And, you know, I'll just have to like call my mom and break down. And, you know, we're all really. trying to be there for our friend, how she deals with this, and obviously hoping for, like, the best outcome. And just anybody that's dealing with this,

I just want to, like, send my love to, you know, like, we have so many people that message us that, like, have listened to our show while they have going through chemo. And, like, I can't even think of a greater thing that we could get to do that's so humbling and an honor to be there with any of you during, like, a hard time. We saw a girl message recently that she said that. She was like, I listened to your show while I'm doing my chemo

treatments and we had a girl who came to what Milwaukee or Minneapolis that was so funny and she was like my best tip for giving a blow job is to be bald like she had went through chemo and she'd lost her hair and she was this like legend in the audience and I'm so glad we got to recognize her and so many people's parents have dealt with cancer. I mean my dad had cancer when I was younger and like I completely blacked it out of my mind. I have very little recollection of them telling us and I was old enough to remember like them telling us to see cancer and going through treatment I just blocked it out completely. It was so hard for me to. even fathom the thought of my dad being sick or even losing him and he was fine. He had thyroid

cancer and got a thyroid taken out and never came back. But it's like that's minimal and he survived it. But so many people are dealing with this day in and day out. Their parents or even their friends and it feels like people are getting this so much younger. And we had Jenny on the show, Jenny Jones, in summer of 2021. And she had breast cancer and she got a double mastectomy. And she shared her story and she is cancer free. And she's had to get multiple reconstructive surgeries, which is so great. and it just keeps like coming up. And I know we're getting older, but it feels like people are younger and younger.

And I'm just like rambling at this point. But I just want to like semi-love to anyone dealing with this personally, dealing with this with anyone in their family or friend circle, and just like remind you to like check your breasts because the sooner you can catch this stuff, the better. And I feel like it's really scary to be like, well, I don't want to know. You know, like, I know you're not supposed to get mammograms to your 40. I'm not a doctor.

But like if you feel like you want to go earlier, I don't see why you couldn't. You got one before your breast reduction. they're out there, they're available, and just do check. Not nearly as bad as people make it sound. It took two seconds and I'm so glad that I want. Yeah, and so Jenny really does a great job of like feel them on the first. Like if you follow her on Instagram, she always posts like how to do a self breast exam.

And obviously when you're getting your like annual, the gynecologist there are going to feel you up. I feel myself up all the fucking time. My titties are small. I feel like I know what's going on in there, but I'm getting towards the age, the mammogram age. But I'm just, I feel like I've got to get this out. And I want to just talk about in the podcast. So if any takeaway is just like, feel yourself up, do a self-press exam. I love Jenny's like every month.

Like, why not? You know, like it doesn't take a long time. You could do it in the shower. And if you have someone that is struggling with this or you're struggling with it yourself where you're in our thoughts. And if you know someone who is dealing with us, send him a message, tell them you're thinking about them. I don't know many people that wouldn't appreciate that.

And that's really all I had to say because I know that. this is not just personal to what's happening in my personal life right now. I know so many of our listeners are dealing with this too or have dealt with it. And from the other side, you know, it can be really hard to know how to support somebody. And because you're like, I don't want to make this about me. This is not my struggle. But I love this person. I want to show sympathy. I don't know what I'm allowed to say what I'm not. And, you know, I sent her a message. And I just said, you know, you're really on my thoughts. I feel like really emotional. No, I don't. It's like really difficult to talk about. I have like a really special relationship with her

and we take a trip every summer and her and I drive back by ourselves a lot of the summers and we've had these like really special moments together and she really care about her a lot obviously but I sent her a message and she said like you know I'm just sending you love and I'm just thinking of you and I was like I don't know what else I can offer you. Yeah and she was like that's like all I care about I just want people

like check in on me and so just you know I think you can feel really helpless in these situations and you're just like I don't know like what I can offer without like making this about myself and it's like it's just a phone call or a text message you know right I wanted to hold it together as much as possible today because this is not something to be sympathetic towards me.

She will say, like, I know this is so hard to digest. I'm like, girl, we're fine. Like, all of us are to just love you and just unload as much as you want. And one thing I've noticed, and this is, you know, at least with her, and I've seen this before as well, like, if you have someone that's dealing with this, again, this is not all across the board. I can't speak on this from like such an expert point of view. but sometimes they just don't want to talk about it.

They're sick of talking about it. I had this with a friend of mine years ago. And even with like Jenny too, like this is on their mind constantly. They're talking to doctors. They're talking about something else. You know, like I feel like when my friends have dealt with this, they just want to hear about me in my life because they just want a distraction. They want like comedic relief, like whatever it is.

So it's hard to separate because you're like, I just want to check in on them and tell them I'm thinking about them. But a lot of times they don't want that at all. they'd rather just completely something else. And so I've kind of tried to pivot with like the content that I'm sending her. Like last week I sent her, I was like, here's some pictures for you. I sent a picture of Azul, a picture of Jay, me and me and my nephew, Jay, and then a picture of me and you at this show where I was lifting you up and your asses out.

It's this insane photo of like I lifted you up in Minneapolis. It was so funny. And your legs are dangling and your ass is out. And I sent it to her and she was like, thank you so much. I'm hysterical laughing, and I also said without any context, which I love to do. And she was like, this is so funny. And so, like, sometimes that's what someone might want to, you know, it was just not talk about the cancer or the illness of any kind.

I know we're talking about cancer, but there's so many other different types of illnesses and things like that. So I also want to address what you said about, like, not wanting to know what's going out with your body, but, like, having to do that. Like, I relate to it because, like, with my blood pressure, like, I waited so many years to, like, get, like, this addressed. I'm so glad that you finally made me because I have severe, alarmingly high, like, extreme hypertension.

Like, I have the blood pressure levels of, like, a 65-year-old alcoholic Irish man. And it's really detrimental to your health. And I avoided it for so many years because every time I'd go to the doctor, they take my blood pressure and they would, like, make me feel so ashamed of it. Right, right. And so bad. And so I just, like, I avoided it for so long, but, like, you can truly cause yourself, like, extreme.

I can have a stroke. I can have a heart attack. Like, thank God. I take one pill a day, and I'm fine. So like I really encourage people to like if there's something wrong go see a doctor and like that sounds so basic But like I was really thinking about this I watch summer house because we just love pageants here and I just like watching them do stuff But there's a character on the show and she's talking about her fertility and she hasn't gotten her period in like six months and she's like I don't want to know So I'm not going to the doctor I relate to that feeling of like I don't want to be told how bad this is

But like you have to I can't like encourage you enough to do it because like I mean on the other end of it I get to take one pill and I'm going to be fine and I know what's wrong and I avoided it for so long and it's like never as bad as you think it's going to be. And the worst case scenario is you don't address it. So like fill your breasts, see what's going on. I have had a mammogram because you have to get when you're getting a breast reduction. But it was five seconds in my life. It's kind of fun to walk around with your titties out. They smash it in this machine. Yeah. I like it. I love that you brought that up. Yeah, I really forced you to get this taken care of because I was like, if this picture has a heart attack and dies, like, A, I won't be able to go on because, but be like, you know, financial.

No, I'm kidding, I'm kidding. Financially, you would take a hit. I will force that on everybody. Like, I just said, I was like, I'm going to start sending calendar invites to my friends when they turn 40. I'm like, mammogram time, bitch. Like, if you need support in that way, then like, ask for that too. Even if you don't think it's something as big as cancer, just anything, we're like,

if you would have been like, this might sound crazy, but I feel really scared about going to the doctor and hearing what they have to say, you know, like, ask for support. Like, tell your friends you're going, be like, I might come out of this appointment and needed a friend, you know, like, don't be scared to, before you even know, ask for support. All of this is better earlier. I was terrified going to those appointments and like every doctor I had before this made me feel so bad. They'd be like, oh my God, it's so high. Like something that was really wrong with me.

I haven't done anything to deserve this. It runs in my family. It's like I don't exercise or eat well or I'm like doing smack on the weekends. Yeah. Do people say smack? I don't know, girl. But like I brought somebody with me to the appointment. It was my ex-boyfriend.

but like it was nice to have somebody with me and like they did every test and you're like terrified because they run thyroid checks, they do your kidneys, they do everything. And so there was nothing wrong with me except for just, I don't know, hereditary hypertension. So like just go get this stuff checked out. Bring a friend. I know it's scary. It fucking sucks. But just go get that kind of stuff checked out. Right. Okay. A few quick wrecks. We'll blow through them. Yes. We have not watched. We're recording before the finale of Love is Blind. So we'll talk about that after the fact. Which like, I mean, listen, if it's something so wild, we'll do the bonus episode again. But I don't know. We kind of went into that bonus episode last season because it was so

insane. But we'll see. We'll see what shakes out. I'm kind of bored by this season. I know. It hasn't been the most exciting. Bartis had a baby. And it's so funny because most people are like, I feel so bad for that woman. But it's so funny because the people are like gasping them up and being like, congrats king. Congrats brother. Are Shake and Shane. It's like the shittiest people. That tracks. Yeah. So they're like gasping them up. So we have not watched the finale yet. We are both watching shrinking. You finished it. I am like three episodes in. I love Jason Siegel. I think that it is just the best show. Shrinking is one of the best shows I've seen in a long time. This is on Apple TV. And I don't remember the last time I watched a show that I wanted to be a part of so much that I

want to live in that neighborhood and I want to be on the patio with Liz and Gabby and like be a part of their lives so much. Like yeah, sex in the city, I want to be part of their lives. And that just kind of became our real life. This is not my real life. This is so far removed from a life that I would probably have. And I just love it. Like, I love every single character. I'm obsessed with Jessica Williams. I loved her from that show Love Life that she was in the second season of and two dope queens. Like, I just love her. But I just want to be there. Like, I love their community that they've built and how everyone's connected. And I'm just like, I want to be a part of this. So the show is about a guy who's a therapist and his wife has died and he's kind of spiraling a little bit.

And he decides to get like almost overly involved in his patient's lives. And he tells us one patient, you have to leave your husband. I'm going to stop talking to you. He moves another patient in with him. So it's just like him and the people around him kind of going through it. Yeah. Well, how far are you or long are you? I'm four episodes. Okay, because I feel like it starts to be less about that

and more about just like the whole group as a whole. Like it starts out where he's like kind of overreaching and he's involving himself too much in their lives. And then it just becomes more about like the daughter and there's crazy shit happens. I don't know if you recognize. Do you recognize this sweatshirt? So Liz, where it says sweatshirt in like four different episodes, this Ritz Carlton sweatshirt.

I love Liz. I just went on Etsy and bought it. You know I love Etsy. From the show, you saw her wearing it? I saw her wearing it. I was like, I like that rich sweatshirt. It's like dope. And so I bought it on Etsy for like 10 bucks.

I can't recommend it enough. Etsy. You love Etsy. Yes. And then I watched three episodes and I think you've watched a few of beef. Yes, I'm two episodes into beef with Ali Wong. With Ali Wong.

And I really relate to this one scene of this character. So basically she gets into this like road rage incident. She's supposed to be this like zen sort of like, what's her job? Like a gallery owner? Well, she's a plant startup. A plant startup. She's trying to get acquired.

Okay. Yeah. And she's supposed to be like all Zan. Her husband's like all Zan and gratitude journals and shit like that. She has this road rate insurance with this guy. And it sort of like brings their lives together and Spirr was out of control. But there's this moment she pulls into her garage and like the emails keep popping up. Yeah.

I know. It was so trigering. Me too, right? And it's just like it's stuff about her kids, her husband, her business. And that it's just like this discount code. And she's like in their fucking stops. And I was like, oh, I feel you girl. I felt that.

I feel like Ali Wong has stuff. really speaks to me. Yeah, like her special. Like nothing spoke to me more. Her special is Don Wong on Netflix. We talked about it before. We're obsessed with it. But everyone was talking about this.

I mean, it's like the number one show in Netflix. So we're both, I've watched like one more episode than you, which I, like, you've got to get in this. It's like just getting better and better. It's a wild show. Jeremy told me that I, he was like, you're going to love it. You got to get into this. And then Top Chef, people are like going wild.

I think it's Top Chef season 20. It's Top Chef International. So it's all like the, I think runners up and like winners from like all over the world. Thailand. just all the different seasons around the world. They're getting runners up and winners from them. And Padma does host this one. So I think it's in the U.S.

But I watched the first episode. It's just great. I like to see people just like bring their cultures. And Topshop is like one of my favorite cooking shows. It's not the best of all time ever. So that's what I'm doing, you guys. Okay. So those are our wrecks?

Those are just three. Oh, you know what? People are all over my dick about to talk about this book. Which is fine. I get it. But I finished this book called The Silent Patient. And it was on my Instagram. and people are like, I love that book so much, which I do get.

It's by Alex McEladies. It's Alex, Michael, Ladies, but you guys get it. I'm trying to sound it out. That's the author, but it's wild. This is the long as it's taking me to read a book. I love it, but I couldn't get through it. We've been moving, things have been crazy. I was bringing it on planes.

It's not a very quick read. Like, I like to read it and digest it and read every word. It's really wonderfully written. And it's just like this wild book. I mean, this woman kills her husband, or she's accused of killing her husband, and just shoots him in the head. She was, like, super in love with him. and then she goes in this mental institution never speaks again.

Right. So this therapist is like trying to figure out why. And then it's just a wild twist. And it's a great book. And a few people DM me about it. And they were like, that's such a good book. And can you talk about it on the podcast? So here I am.

And now we have four for the rec slide for Instagram, which is a little bit better than three. So that's my book rec is the silent patient. So those are our wrecks. And let's get into our topic. Yeah. So I'm excited for this because it's just like a hype yourself up, confidence, sexiness episode.

And I feel like people, ask us a lot, like, how do you stay so confident when you're so average? I'm just kidding. People do ask a lot, how are you guys so confident? It's such a dig. No, it's just, also there's confident and then there's like sexy because everybody has their own struggle. Everybody's busy. You know, people got shit going on. You know, whatever is going on in your life. Like, it's sometimes hard to, like, feel yourself. You're just like, it's been such a long day. Like, whatever you have, you're in your period. You feel like shit. It's just, you had too big a lunch. You know. know, like you ate dairy and you shouldn't have. Like, you just stuff's going on your body. You

haven't had the energy to wash your hair in a week. Like, I'm just, now I'm just spiraling about my own life. But it's just, sometimes it can be hard to, like, feel sexy. And we shouldn't go too long without some sort of sexual experience, even if you're single. And I mean, like, masturbating. You know what I mean? And maybe you're just not a sexual person. But even I have to check myself. Like, it's been a minute since I've really like had an orgasm or whatever and I need to get in there. And I know, and you know, and anyone listening knows, sometimes you're feel like you're not in the mood, but how do you get in the mood? Yeah. So I'm excited to do this topic, and I think part of it is confidence, part of it is de-stressing, part of it is, you know, getting around

how you feel about your own body. And I love the episode we did with Emily Nagoski, where we just talked about how, like, women have so many, like, breaks in terms of, like, the gas pedal and the brake pedal, in terms of, like, wanting to even feel sexy, everything you just mentioned. There's just, like, so much going on on your mind. And confidence, to me plays a lot into it also, because I think that the way that we feel about our body plays into the way that we feel about ourselves. And it permeates every single thing. When I'm not feeling myself, then I don't feel

like sexy either. And I don't want to like be naked in front of somebody. And I don't want to send sexy picks. And it takes some like self-talk to like get out of that. So I made some notes to stay about like feeling more confident and doing sexier or crazier or shid or shit. And yeah, sometimes you just got to like say to yourself like I have it an orgasm like a week. And it's time.

It's time. Yeah. I'm asked me out of my couch yesterday and I'm pretty sure my neighbor could say. Yeah, I know. I feel like, This house is, my house too, is not so conducive to like, well, you know me. I'm not trying to masturbate in the couch. People could definitely do you masturbate on this couch. Yeah. Uh-huh. You're a good for you. Masturbator. Yeah, we know, we all know this. So I also wanted to just do this thing before we like get into all the things. I really like to think of this in terms of your five senses. Okay. So let's do a checklist of our five senses. Sight. What are you seeing? Like when you're feeling sexy? Like just in general. And this is something we talked about with the other Emily. Dr. Emily Morris of like the laundry piled up.

Like it's hard to feel sexy when you have like clutter all around you. Like I get it. It's hard to like keep shit clean, keep it clutter free. But sometimes you're in your head about like all this shit that's in the way. I'm the ultimate tidy upper. I can't do anything. I can't like it's like you really need to give yourself permission to disconnect in order to feel really sexy.

And like if I'm looking around and there's like a blanket that should be folded or like that coffee cup that's just like getting water in it, like I. need to like dump that output in the dishwasher. I'm not a neat freak. I just, I do need like decluttering my space. Yeah, that makes me feel sexy. Like when I run this Dyson around, I mean, there's no better investment. You're mad at me, I didn't send the Dyson over here

the other day. Because you want to have an orgasm, that's why. The Dyson came to your place accidentally. Yeah, and I didn't send it back to you. And you were like, I'm so excited to get my Dyson. We got in here. And I sent, but I sent the boxes and it wasn't in there. Yeah. You got a lot going on. Now I'm reading between the lines. You just wanted to masturbate. Yeah, the

dyson gets me horny. because there's just like dog her everywhere. So I just am so big on like setting a mood for your own self. Like doesn't need to be some romantic evening with a partner. Like just for your own self, what are you seeing? Just think about it. Are there things in your direct line of sight or surrounding you that are going to make things unsexy sound so important.

Obviously like music, soundscapes. You know, I posted my like sexy playlist. I can post it again. I may want on Spotify. Whatever gets you going. Even if you just kind of want to relax and listen to like a soundscape, like crashing waves, whatever. And then of course, erotic audio. You know, we have this app. This episode's not a full-blown plug for vibes only, but a lot of

things go in tandem. Like, listen to some erotic audio stories and get in the mood. Smell. This is so major to me. Like, Rain and I love a hotel candle, which also kind of conjures up sex because it's like hotel smells or like a beachy smell. Like, I smell like sun tan lotion and I'm thinking of like beach, skin, sex, vacations, like all those things. Raina says this, like, my senses are like super heightened. Like, I smell stuff. I hear stuff more, like, to the point of like, to a fault, you know, like, I'm more bothered. But I think smell is like so important. And like, even like a boy smell, like, I'll be in CVS. I'll take a whiff of like an old spice body wash and get turned on. Oh, how that curve. I smell a curve and I remember

masturbating in high school. Liz Claybourne. Remember Liz Claybourne? Sometimes I just like a manly whiff of something, you know, like, but like when I smell good, it makes me, like, feeling myself so hard. Like, I just, like, I pick a new perfume every 15 years and my current one is Chloe. And, like, when I, like, put it on and I walk out the door, I just like, I know that, like, I just feel sexier. I'm like, you're going to smell this. You're going to get hard. You're going to smell this weird hard. Okay, I'll wrap this up. Touch. I mean, I'm thinking, like, your body, shave your legs, moisturize, touch yourself. Wash your hair. I mean, so many people in the question slide we did just said showering.

Just showering alone. So much about grooming. I mean, hate showering. Nothing makes me hate my day more. But grooming in general makes me feel really sexy. Yes. Like, if it's the winner or just, you know, a pants season in general. A pants season.

A pants season. Like, any season could be a pants season if you want it to be. I don't shave my legs all that much. Like, I mean, I've had laser hair removal in my armpits. Like, I'm just, it's annoying. My body hair journey has been such a journey. And this has nothing to do with what I'm doing for other people. This is for me.

And I do like to have some. smooth skin everywhere. And you do feel sexier when you do shave your legs. Yeah, of course. You get to rum together like a little cricket under the covers. You ever do that? The way shave legs feel under the covers. Like a little cricket on the covers.

Well, I can't relate to showering and then getting in bed. I hate showering in general. I never do it before I went to bed. That sounds terrible. That is crazy to me that people want to get like all wet and cold before they get into their bed. Wet and cold? Where are you shower?

What do you mean? wet and cold. Who's taking, what a cold? When you get out of the shower, you're cold. I'm just not trying to be all uncomfortable. I don't want to do the thing I hate the most before I do the thing. I love the most or just sleep for eight hours. So you don't shower at night.

Fuck no. People are really divided over this rain. Like people listening right now think you're gross. And they think you have the day in your butthole. So I think people that don't shower in the morning are disgusting. What do you mean? You just slept in your funk all night. No, this is.

You're drool. You're just letting it like just, soak in and you just get up and go. You don't just like wash off and start the day. What are you doing in your sleep? I don't think you're covered in sweat and drool. Turn the AC up. I do sleep really hard.

I do drool and I wipe my face. But there's not drool in my like pussy. You're just like body funk after you like slept in one position for eight hours. And I just, it's crazy to me people don't shower in the morning and then like start their day fresh. I'm glad this is coming up. And listen, I don't want you guys to fight about this in the comments. because you have to respect everyone has a different stance on life. And some people will shower in the morning and shower at night, and that is their truth.

Some people will only shower in the morning. They can't wrap their head around showering at night like you. Some people are more at night. I mixed up. It's after I work out. But like for the most part, I veer towards a nighttime shower. I like to wash the day off and get into bed. I mean, when I really break it down and think about it, it is disgusting because you have

been like pooping on yourself all day and like walking around. It's kind of gross. to not wash the day off of your body and then get into your bed. You're taking it in your bed. You're changing your stand. Well, now that I'm deep diving and thinking about it, but I hate showering so much. So I don't want to, it de-relaxes me. I don't like it.

Yeah. It's something that wakes me up, so I want to do it in the morning. Yeah. I mean, again, I have no judgment around this because people are like, it's gross, man. It's like, we're all gross, man. I don't know. Like, I get it. People are, like, more germophobic than others.

Like, you know, wash your hands and call it a day. Like, you know, I would never come in from the streets, like all day, been out, been traveling, whatever, and crawl into bed in those clothes. Oh, people to get off planes and just get into bed. Okay, listen, this is spiraled, but like it's an important topic that I'm glad that we're addressing. No, I'm telling you, like, I watch this TikTok of someone talking about this and, like, both can be perceived as gross. I just feel that it starts my day fresh if I shower in the morning. Yeah. I will say, though, just back to, like, the sexy topic.

being wet and naked turns me on. So like I will night shower if I'm like there with my partner because like then you're like wet and that's really hot or like when we were in Miami and I like went into your room to do something for like an hour. And then I walked back in my room. My ex is laying on the bed and towel. There's like big old dick hanging out. And I was like this is so hot because we're already halfway there.

You know, like if you want to feel sexier, naked and wet is the way to go. Yeah. I mean also I love a shower. Like especially now this shower in this house, it's like it's my favorite place to be. But yeah, I like getting into bed clean. That's my vibe. Also just being clean and again, well-groomed does turn me on. It makes me feel like I'm just like ready to roll.

And I do think that some people are worried about the way that they like smell, not that you should be bodies or bodies, but like the way that your pussy smells. So like if you want like an extra boost of confidence, you know, like get a little native body wash in there. Sugar-hucking your pussy. Yes, native body wash. But also when you're like with a partner, like sometimes that dirty sex is hot. Like I used to just like have an ex.

We would just like fuck after I went to spin class. And I was like not into it, but he didn't care. Guys don't care. I mean, this was such a deep cut, but we did that episode right before COVID of like my pussy and my crack or something. It was a crazy title. Whatever, look it up. It was like probably early March 2020.

And just talking about gross body stuff, it's not gross. Yeah, everybody smells bad sometimes. Like you think it's grosser than it is. Yeah. Guys don't care. We've spiraled. Yeah. Okay, taste.

You want to suck a dick. Use our blow gel to get those tastes. But I don't know. I mean, I'm just like, there's aphrodisiac foods. I looked some up, avocado, maca, ginger, oysters, chocolate. You could essentially eat a banana if you're feeling. I don't know. I ate a banana on a plane the other day next to this guy, and it was so sexual.

And that guy was yelling at his wife on the phone. Ashley and I don't sit with each other on planes, and it's very funny when there's somebody in between us. That guy was like yelling at his wife about the contractor at the house, and then I got a banana, and I was like, how do I eat this? So I was like breaking off pieces of the banana. I'm putting them in my mouth. Yeah.

I remember this was so long ago. I was with a girlfriend of mine. I was, like, visiting her in Florida. And we were sitting outside this cafe, and this girl walked in so confidently. She had a chocolate-covered banana, like on a stick, deep-throating it, walking. It was insane-looking. Like, because it's on a stick. Like, it was in her mouth, just in-and-out chocolate-covered banana.

And I was like, this is wild. She knows what she's doing. No one is walking around with banana on a stick, not fishing for guys. She's attracting all the right attention. You know how she said that you want like I gotta pay attention? You should go like the park with like sapiens. You should just eat a chocolate cover banana in public. Yeah.

I'll get the back of sick. Yes. Oh my God. Okay. So those are the five senses. Just do a sense check. Just do a sense check of like is there something that's throwing you off? The taste.

Hmm. Are you smelling your own bad breath? Brush your teeth. Floss. If you're not flossing, you're not going to feel sexy. That's the top of my list. Grooming.

Floose. Grooming is important. you and smells. For me, I mean, there's a million things I do to feel sexy and to like feel myself and I like wrote this long list. But I mean, confidence is important. So I like to put myself in scenarios where I like feel good and just like let go of work, stop thinking about all that other shit.

I like to walk around my house naked and just like catch glimpses myself in the mirror and be like you're a bad bitch. And then I do tend to have like some negative self talk about my body. So stop doing that. I'm actively working on doing it. I'm actively working on not constantly making jokes about the way that I look, even though I did the beginning of this episode. So I just, the more you say it, the more it becomes true to yourself, the more you say, like, I don't like this about myself, the more it becomes true.

And so if you are feeling yourself, like, we all know that friend that's like not a 10, that's like a 6, but they feel themselves so hard and nothing is sexier. So like, you just got to believe your own bullshit. I love that. And then there's so many things. So getting a manicure for me, I mean, like you can supplementate your fingers, like when you get a manicure, it just, it makes me feel so sexy. Just like to have these like really feminine hot ass nails, I'm going to like scratch your backup with. I love that. Spring for a massage, nothing turns me on more than that.

Makes me feel like I'm ready to just go fuck in the world. I love that. I will say there is no bigger discrepancy in life than the way you think you look after a massage and the way you actually look. You feel rejuvenated, refreshed, glowing. You look in the mirror. You look fucked up. Your eyebrows are all mashed together. The mascara has become one eyebrow.

There is no different when you are like, oh my God, I'm a goddess. And then you try to take a spa selfie and you're like, I look like I got hit by a truck. You got to take those spa selfies before the massage because you are fucked up. Okay. Oh, my eyelash just mashed together.

And then I get that mark on my face from the butt pillow. You're also just like, ooh. Like you just look fucked up. And you don't feel. You feel great. But this leads me as being a Picks to another thing. Something that just makes me feel really sexy and get in the mood is taking nudes of myself.

And then like I think that you can start to like get in the mood and feel sexier that if you have a partner, texting them something sexy, send the photos. Like nothing just makes me feel sexier than like shooting off a photo like that. Especially on days, like you were talking about like when you're on your period or you're bloated and you don't feel sexy. Have somebody else tell you how sexy you are. Just shoot off a photo to like somebody that you are dating,

your partner, whatever. Have them just feel like, you look good as fuck. And if you are someone who doesn't have really large breasts, like me, for example, like my boobs would always get bigger around my period. So I would always take a titty pick. That is so funny. Yeah. Like, I would be like, who's are those?

Like, they get bigger. I mean, for me, they would. Yours do get bigger. Rob and I couldn't stop talking about it on that trip. They are undercover. They come out of nowhere. They were like, you were sporting some big titties on that trip. Did you?

Rob, say, who's that girl with the big titties and the New York's Ashley? Yes. They looked really. Well, his wife was sitting right there. This wasn't crazy. She doesn't care. She checks it out with us. Right.

I was like, Rob just checked you out and said something like your titties. And you were like, ew, that's Ashley. I will say, in our app, we have a photographer. Her name's Haley, and she is fantastic. And we do videos in our app, and we're going to get some more in there from her. But she's like an erotic photographer. And she did a great series for us in our vibes only app of like great nude poses. So I think we have in the app, great booty poses, great general pose.

So if you feel like my titties aren't my best asset, She is like great butt pick stuff. And I sent this nude the other day. And I was like, I bent over my bed with like a thong and like your pussy kind of hangs out the back. And you sent it or you took it? I sent it. Who did you send it to?

Who did you send it to these days? Oh, right, right, right. Rob. The task rabbit. Which task rabbit did you send those news to? It's a parade of tens at my house. Okay. You understand.

Hear me out. I got to piggyback off. Obviously, boudoir shoots are great. Do your, like, Haley's great. and the people in the app. But like, I get a professional bourgeois shoot. I've hyped this woman so many times

own boudoir in Atlanta. I think I'm finally this year going to do it when we're down there. I just haven't never had the time. And hang those up. Like Samantha Jones style. Didn't Samantha Jones get the nude picks? And she put him in the like foyer.

Like Raina, you and I have them. And everybody has seen them. Everybody. But can he tell it's you? My head is not in it. It's like cut off at the nose. But I have this giant like 11 by 14 nude of myself that I took right after.

I had the first breast reduction with my scars. And it's black and white, and I just had it around my house. Everybody saw it at my apartment in New York. The super of my building saw it. I love that. Bella saw it. And then all the task travids have seen it.

The movers all saw it in my house. Like, it's just this picture is just floating around. I'm going to walk back my whole, I'm going to paint something for above the couch. It's going to be my own naked body, my own nudes. I love that. I love that. Samantha Jones. No, I had that on my list.

Do a boudoir shoot and hang those motherfuckers up around the house. I love it. Yeah. And if you're not comfortable with being you, I'm putting up these photos from Helmut Newton. He's one of like the most famous photographers of all time. But he does a lot of news. You should look up his stuff.

He does a lot of like girl on girl stuff. It's really like beautiful, highly stylized. But like there's this one photo of this woman is laying on her back on her desk and this man in a suit is on his knees going down on her. And it's like this beautiful black and white photo. And it's like I'm really turned on. And I have a few of them framed around my house. And I love it.

It like really turns me on. Just have like erotic art around. Totally. even just look at it like find some on the internet. I wanted to talk about masturbation, obviously, that goes without saying like we're such proponents. But here's the thing. We have a sex toy line. We want you guys to own every product in it. They are elite. They're incredible. Vives only. Vives only. com. But every once in a while, you should get yourself off yourself because, you know, I only did that for like the first time this summer. And I've done it a couple times since. And I usually like to do it

in hotels. And I get turned on for whatever reason. Sometimes it is working on the content within the app. and I just go to town on myself. And, like, you feel so empowered. This isn't a hot take. I know people masturbate manually. All I've done is manual. So I just have it. Like, I haven't gone acoustic.

That's not been my vibe. And it makes you feel really sexy. You're like, I did that. I got her off. I know what she likes, you know? I mean, yeah, it also teaches you how to like judging me. She's like, yeah, bitch. I've been doing this before I was 10.

I mean, I didn't have vibrators back then. Maybe they did. You can turn your toothbrush on, vibrate the thing against yourself. But, yeah. I mean, it also has taught me what I like about my body so I could teach somebody else like where the erogenous stones are like,

I like this area like below my belly button but like above my pussy. Like that area, if you just put your hand on it, it really turns me on. The foopa? Yeah, my foopa. Yeah, my foopa. Like the fupa. There's some nerve endings in there that like, I mean, your clip is like a huge big thing. Oh yeah, we were talking about having that clit doctor on it.

I watched this clip of her on the daily show. It's huge. Clits are huge. Well, it's the whole area. Yeah. But it's not just the little being. It's all over the place. That's only the external part. So, yes, it teaches you what you like

and teaches people how to touch you. But, like, it just, I don't know. I just feel sexier. I mean, I love a good couch masturbation, sush. I mean, an orgasm is going to have good chemicals flooding your brain. Like, just all this good stuff, you know, the dopamine and the serotonin, I think, don't quote me on that. But, I mean, I had exercise on here just because you do get the dopamine and you get the

endorphins and just me moving my body. I mean, it changes my mood around. So I really, if I'm feeling so blah, like that's the first step for me. And that doesn't even have to be something like so intense. It can be a nice long stretch or quick yoga session or just a walk, even just moving your body and like getting the good chemicals going. Yeah, that's really great. I also just, I mean, music goes without saying I just like to dance around the house.

Yeah. Yeah, moving your body. Embarrassing myself around my home alone. Yeah. It just makes me like really feel myself and I'll dance in front of a mirror and just watch it happen. And I love it. I love like move around makes me feel very hot. Yeah.

And since I said, take a walk, put on a cute outfit and walk the streets. I mean, there really is no better city than New York. I mean, if you've been to New York, you've lived in New York, like, we don't even live there anymore. And I can still say it's the most elite city to just like get dressed up and walk around. But you don't need to be in New York to do it. Just like, put on an outfit that you thought you were never going to wear. You don't know where you're going to wear it. And go out, put your AirPods in, put your hype or sexy playlist on and just like walk, just strut. Just let people check out the goods. Yeah.

Or you could get dressed up sexy, go to a bar, hotel bar, any bar, just like order martini and be mysterious. And wear lingerie when you do it. Even if people aren't going to see it, just you knowing it's under there, just get some cheap garbage from Amazon. You don't even need to spend a bunch of money. It makes me feel a set, a set. When my underwear matches my bra, I'm like, is she the sexiest personal law?

I know. I know. Like this stuff just, it matters, you know? And I'm the first person to not think about it. And then when you actually do it, you're like, it matters. It matters because I just, I was thinking a lot, like, just how many times in my life I just haven't felt sexy and I'm beating myself up about my body or the last time I've had sex or just like, you know, you go without it for a little while and you're just like, I guess I can

live without it. You're on your period. You're having a bad day. Like, I just, it's okay to not feel sexy, but like, it is so good for you to feel sexy and to hype yourself and feel confident to have an orgasm. So, like, it's important. Yeah. And what you have on your body, I mean, we're talking about lingerie and sexy outfits and things like that.

But this stuff does matter too and like what you lounge around the house in. You know, Lily and Charles, our friend, stylist, who has been on the show, really talks about this and how to kind of level up what you wear to lounge in around the house to work, things like that. And then out, of course. But, you know, Lunya sent us some things and they sent me, I had it on last night this like silk. There's whole thing as washable silk. And like this romper, it just felt so good on my body. I mean, it's silk. Like, it feels nice on your body.

but when I really don't want to feel like sloppy at home, like I'll wear like Lunya or another brand like Tommy John. I love their like soft materials. It feels so good on your body, like the touch. Like those are like two brands that I love and I partner with Tommy John. But that kind of stuff is nice. Like because we all have like old holy sweats and t-shirts and those are good too. Like sometimes you just need to be in some busted crotch sweatpants and some holy ass t-shirt. And that feels nice, but if you want to feel a little less like that, like what your skin is feeling and the way you look, like, I put on that, like, romper thing and, like, took a selfie. I was like, this is so cute. Anthropology is my favorite brand for this. They have great around the

house outfits. So you, like, couldn't hop on like a work zoom on them. But it's like, it's like body hugging. It's sexy. They have a lot of silk. You know, I can't get enough of a robe. I have so many robes. You love a robe, too. I mean, I really want to dive into this because I just, it took me later in life to realize this, because I would just be always sweats, t-shirts. and then if you just up level sometimes what you're wearing around the house, you will feel sexier. I feel sexy. I walk around that.

I have 25 robes. I have a whole closet full of robes and just like pajamas. I wear a lot of around the house outfits. Anthropology is just like the top, top, top. Gap has like great like matching sets also if you just, you don't want to spend. But anthropology isn't so crazy and they have good sales. So that is a good one. And it does like make me feel sexy to just like be in a robe and have a glass of wine and just like call somebody.

And I'm just like, you know, I have a lot of long distance relationships. So I love a FaceTime for 45 minutes with a glass of wine and a robe. Yeah. And we know people have constraints with money and things like that. And you can find brands that are good quality and may cost less. But just sometimes actually realizing you need a new nice bra. You know, like I feel like especially when I was younger in my 20s, like I would wear those bras till the wheels fell off. You know, you're just like, this needed to be replaced.

Right. And then so funny. Now I just like, I love negative. This is a brand that I love. and other brands too and skims and whatnot, but where you're just like, a new bra feels nice, and you've got fresh support,

you know, get something like kind of see-through. I mean, look at this. This is the new color of my negative. Negative? I love it. You go show a little nip. Yeah.

You love a sheer nipple moment. I do. You hear them. Nips are always out. Like if you've got bras and panties that strings are hanging off, like even just hit up Target, whatever it is. Yeah, Walmart, Target, whatever.

Just new, fresh. Come back with their clothes. Target panties are nice. Oh, yeah. I discovered this company. I bought a couple of their bras and their sets recently. This, like, really nice knit and, like, lace. It's called Knicks K&IX.

They were store in Santa Monica that I've been to, but I really love their bras. I love negative. There's just, I love that you said that. It is really true. Just like, get some, like, better undergarments that are just new. That's it. Walmart's fine.

Yeah. No, no, I was watching this influencer talk about, like, they have this new designer. This is the clothes. But they brought in this, like, I forget what fashion house he came from and, like, dope stuff. Walmart. I'm telling you. They're coming for Target's neck.

I love that none of these are partners. We can just like talk our shit. Well, who's Target? Mosquito. Wait, who's... Mossimo? Mossimo. But did they have mosquito? I don't even know. It's probably Mossimo. Well, it was M. It was Mossimo. Yeah, of course. Yeah, well, that looked good. That stuff looks good. I love that. I'm just saying, like, coming for their neck.

They're always like, why not make better stuff, you know, at good prices? So so many people, and we'll read through some of these submissions, so many people said get a spray tan. And so here's the thing. We want you to preserve your skin. So we know we feel sexier when we're tan. We want you guys to wear sunscreen and whatnot. So a spray tan is obviously a great alternative. But you ought to watch out because come, we'll take a spray tan right off.

I've been giving this PSA for years. So you kind of need to get the spray tan and do that first shower. So you get a little of the smell off and you can't have somebody come on you. Two days in or I think that first shower is fine. I mean, every spray tan is like different. But to me, right after the spray tan, I don't feel sexy. I feel sticky. I feel like I got to do my one shower.

And then I feel sexy. Okay. Yeah. I mean, I feel like everybody when their tan feels a little better. Yeah. Just don't get like a shot to the face right after the spray tan I shower first. Yeah. When I was getting so many spray tans when I was with one of my axes, I would be like,

you got to come inside me. Don't even try to pull it out of my stomach because what I have a big splotch. it's crazy. I do a whole bit about this, because I dated a guy that came on my thigh, like, long, long time ago. And this is how I found it out. And I was like, oh, my God, I woke up and I had just like splotch on my thigh because he came on my thigh.

And then who noticed it? And then I texted my brother. And then I noticed it, but then he called me out of it. But then I texted my spray tan when I was in Atlanta at raw bronzing. I texted Tiffany. And she was like, oh, yeah, girl, that's a thing. But then it's weird because sometimes you'll see people that have like Bobby Westside. He got a spray jam for his wedding and then he got all over his hands.

And I was like, there is one thing that you can get this off with. And I was like, Ashley, please stop. I put it on the group chat. Just come on your fingers. Just come and rub it around. Ew. That is so disgusting. I would do it though.

I love come. You know what makes me feel sexy and I don't know if this is like a hot take. but I just like to fantasize and not touch myself. Ooh, I put that. Like, just kind of sit still with your thoughts. We've talked about this, what, last week in the podcast, the brain actually cannot tell the difference between fantasy and reality, like when you're, like, imagining that something happened.

So, like, at its core level, the brain will think that this is, like, a thing that has happened. So even if you have to fantasize, imagine something, try to just, like, put yourself in this, like, sexy scenario and don't touch yourself and see how long you can do the dishes and think about the last sexual experience you had. Edge yourself? It just makes me feel really sexy. And the hornier I feel the sexier and more bold, I feel it's like being on drugs. I love that.

And something that I keep thinking about is we talked about this with Logan two weeks ago of being a virgin. And especially if you feel like you're older as someone who hasn't had sex and you might be thinking like, how do I know what's sex? Like I haven't had sex. So it's like hard to think about sex, sexy, etc. But I love that she said that one girl like, did she take a course or she basically learned how to give an amazing blowjob? And that made her feel so empowered. Oh, yeah. So I think that too, like taking one of your sexual skills to the next level and then just being like, I'm a fucking expert in this, whatever this is.

I'm the handjob queen. To be an expert at hand jobs, I'm envious. Yeah. I don't think I'm good at it. Yeah. Anything like that, just, then you just kind of know you have that in your arsenal. You feel sexy and confident about it. Well, I mean, I always think about blow jobs.

Like people that like people that really like it are good at it. But you get good at it by practice and you feel confident in doing it. And like, nothing makes me feel sexier than when I'm just like walk into a room and I'm like, I got this. I'm a bad bitch. I can suck a dick. Yeah. Like a fire hose. Oh my God. So like do that with other skills, for sure.

Yeah. And I just, I think it's important to put yourself around people and around content that makes you feel confident and sexy too. So, I mean, we've said this for years, but like, you know, if you're following stuff on social media, if you're watching stuff, if you're digesting just different kinds of media that is images that are unattainable of beauty, it's not going to make you feel good about yourself. So stop doing that.

and put yourself around people that make you feel sexy and your best self and just make you feel like the baddest bitch out there. And, you know, if you're feeling like down, it's like totally fantasy to a friend. Like, can you gas me up today? Yeah. I love that. Yeah. Can you hype me? And if we're talking about like a lot of this is just like feeling sexy on your own, but obviously it goes about saying if you have a partner and you're just like, I don't know, I haven't been feeling sexy lately. Like you can use them too, you know, like just recall past experiences, fantasize about them, start sexting with them, you know, send sexy picks back and forth. Like get ahead. of it before there's the world in which they like come over and then you're like, God, I just am not

feeling it. Like whatever. Also, if you're not in the mood, you're not in the mood. Don't force it. But if you would like to be, you can really get ahead of it, you know, earlier in the day. I totally agree. Love a good sex. Love a good photo. And also, like, touch to me is like so sensual. Like, not every act like has to be like, we just start making out and then we fuck. It's like, I like watching something a little bit sexy and maybe you just like start to like rub their hands. Like, massages are the best way, the best gateway into sex in the world, you know? Yeah.

It doesn't have to be like somebody comes home, pants come off, dick goes in. You know, so I like to spend my time. You hate it. Tickles and like long strokes. Well, I love a massage. But, I mean, we sell an incredible massage oil. But like, that's a good thing too. I mean, you're with a partner that you, you know, you love and trust.

And there's a world in which you're just like, I'm not really like feeling sexy. Like, do you want to rub me down? Especially if you're on your period. Yep. Like, I got this massager recently. I wanted her to like massage my stomach so bad because I'd like had that random period you'd rather leave the United States for that. I don't think they can do that.

Not in America. They can't touch your stomach. I mean legally I don't fucking know but like I've had massages in like Italy, Thailand, Vietnam, Mexico City where they have touched every part of my body. I just think Americans have different ideas about nudity in general. I mean they they weren't fingering me. It's just your stomach. Yeah. I also just think you need to be careful. Like there's organs and they're probably not trained to touch your stomach. But like I just was like, can you? you just like rub my belly.

You could probably ask for it. I didn't know. Maybe I'll ask next time. But if you have a partner, make them do whatever you want. Like, be like, I have cramps. Rub me down. I love that idea. And conversely, I think, like, we can't harp on, like, communication enough.

If you're like, my stomach is my area that triggers me and I don't want you to touch it. Tell them. Don't touch my stomach. Yeah. That too. I'm like, touch my stomach. I'm manspleting massages to you. I'm like, you can ask them.

But as someone whose culture is massages. That's true. No, you can mansplained all you. My favorite places to get massages were Italy and Thailand because they were just like, they're just on your nipples and they're like, is this okay? And you're like, you're already there. Yeah. I mean, that's the thing too. Like, it is nice to have your breast massage, but that's not something that you really get here. You don't get it here. Yeah. Depends what kind of massage far as you go to. Typically. Not at O'Henrickson where I went, which I did have a great experience. But I'll share next week the full scope of what happened. It turned out well. I'm a fan. Okay, should we go through some of our Listener submissions? So we just asked you, what do you do to feel sexier in Instagram?

A lot of this we have already covered. The last one, suck my man's dick to completion. Hashtag more rain his friend. Sorry, guys, I don't really suck a lot of dicta completion. Yeah, sounds like you don't know who's friend you are. Okay, but honestly, there is no better sense of accomplishment than sucking a dick to completion. Nothing will make me hype myself more if I'm just like, I did that.

I know, I think I talked about this years of it. where I had like given my boyfriend at the time to blow jobs in a day because it was his birthday. And then I was like, tell your friends. Listen, you shouldn't want your partner talking about what you do in the bedroom if you don't want them to. But I was like, tell everybody. Oh, that I would want everybody to know about it. Put it on Facebook. Yes. He loves to write a Facebook grant. That would be the most important Facebook grant I ever read from him. Got my dick sucked twice today. Happy birthday to me. Hashtag happy birthday to me. I sucked a dick once twice in a day. And then I had sex at the end of the day.

And I was so brazen. So we were in a hotel. I was in L.A. with my ex. I don't know why I said that. Like it was obviously not a stranger. But if you want to suck a stranger's dick twice in a day, do it. I sucked his dick twice to completion in one day.

And then we fucked at the end of the day. And we're in this hotel. And he was like, I want to push your body up against the hotel so like everybody can see. And I was like, yes, do that. Because I feel like the baddest bitch on earth. I sucked two dicks today. Yeah.

Okay. So he like smashed me up against the hotel. I'm sure the whole city of that. I'm just thinking like the other side of that. your like nipples are all smashed up against the glass. It's like not hot. It's not hot. But I was like, I was just feeling so badass. No, I love that.

There's a lot that, again, we've gone through most of these. I like this cook and underwear and bra while you're living alone. Cook naked. Be careful with the splat. Like, you know, you don't want to get a grease burn. Be careful what you're cooking. Well, you said, I like this one because you said about wearing underwear and lingerie. And this girl said don't wear underwear out.

And I think that's really hot. Right. I mean, it's just, it's like, that's my whole life, you know. So, if you've never dabbled in that, start. And start with your workout clothes because this is a whole other thing people are divided on. But like you wear a pair of loolum pants. They make them so you don't need to wear underwear with them. They're designed not to be worn with a thong.

People who work out in a thong, I will never understand it. That's what I do. I wear a thong to work out. It blows my mind. It's not like a floss thong. It's like a lace thong. I know it's crazy. We've talked about this for a year.

I wear underwear. I mean, it's just by default. I just have them on. Yeah, all right. So I just like, I suit up to get on the bike and I just have panties on. Also, somebody who wrote wear lipstick and I love that. I feel like it draws- And mascara was on here too.

It draws attention to your lips and sex and juiciness and things going in your mouth. And I think it's really hot. Stay moisturized. Nothing turns me off more than when my lips are dry. Like, I have aquifer all around this house. There's an aquifer at every room. Like, I hate a chapped lip. On myself.

That's so funny. I have aquifer everywhere because you put on tattoos. And I put it on Azul's nose when it gets crusty. Like it's aquifer for life. But like, have you ever walked away from an interaction and you're like,

ew, they saw my crusty lips? Yeah, I was talking to somebody the other day and I was like, there's definitely something in my tooth and how could I get this out of here? So brush your teeth also. It all comes back to flossy. Also, going to tag onto not wearing underwear. Also, don't wear a bra.

Let your nipples out. You really are a queen of this. Your nipples are just, they stay em in. Yeah. So no bra, like that makes. me feel so sexy to know, like, my nipples are hard. People are looking at it and I'm just like, like, you know you've done it on purpose to kind of fish a little bit. Samantha Jones. It's really hot. Okay, record myself doing nude yoga, which I love that. Yeah.

Wear laundry when I have bad days, put on a sexy playlist. Obviously, that goes out saying, one time I tried to record myself doing yoga and like little clothes and I turned myself off. I was like, that's not a little shorts and like a sports bra. I didn't know what I thought I was going to do with it, but it was not as hot as I thought it would be. Why, because I deleted that video. I mean, it just wasn't sexy. I don't know. Like, I just, like, it wasn't what I thought.

But you do you. Like, it should be sexy. It wasn't. It turns me on to be in, like, my workout clothes and stretch in front of a big mirror. Because I just like, I like watching the body move. Post all the thirst traps in the world. Fish around. Have people respond to it.

Well, also, like, if you have, obviously, a group of girlfriends that you trust and you're on the group check. be like everybody sent a sexy pick. I think that's a fun thing to do. Like, I've never outright been like, let's all send a sexy pick, but we've just done it. You know, like it's just been a thing where I feel like this is like me, you and Meryl, obviously. I have two nudes group chats. It's me, you and Meryl and me, Emily and Melanie and I send the same nudes to both group chats. And I just, you know, I want everybody's like opinion. And then you'd be like someone back. Because you and me and Meryl had that situation where we were in Australia and we were all quiet in dressing rooms wearing the same bathing suit taking sexy picks. But so it just kind of turned into our thing. Because we were both.

We were all doing sexy pics in Australia. But just do that. Like, nothing makes you feel better than a compliment also. You know, like, if someone just tells you how hot you are, like that's going to make you feel good and sexy. Emily sends me her nudes. Yeah. Melanie doesn't send me any nudes.

Can you send me any nudes? I bet they're hot. They are hot. Emily, I'm going to show Ashley, your nudes just so you know. Emily, we need your consent. We'll get it. And then I'm going to look at all your nudes. Emily is no one's less private than her.

She showed the guy at the natural wine shop, her nudes, too. She's like, he's just really helpful to me. Flash my boyfriend to see his reaction. I love that. Just flashing your partner around the house. That's because your favorite of Jennifer Anderson. She goes shaved bald and just walks around naked. Oh, in the breakup.

Oh, yeah. Yeah, Flash your ex. I think, I mean, a lot of the stuff is just like self-care. I think we covered most of it. Smoke a joint and masturbate. Dance like a slut. Take a twerk shop. I took a twerk shop in Atlanta with big free.

Rita at this like dive bar that's like since been closed. And I felt so much more confident after that. I was like, oh, I can twerk now. I've been wanting to take a dance class because I just, I can't move the way you move. And it's embarrassing to me sometimes. Take a dance class. I'll take a twerk shop. Well, that's honestly, it's a great call. I mean, in New York, I would go to 305 fitness. I just kind of never got back into it post-COVID. They're still wonderful. But I had like a moment in time where I was going to those classes a lot and I love what they do. It was, again, 3.05. And you feel so sexy. I mean, there's really, and then I would like have a look. You know, I would always want to do like a leggings with a sports bra and like I even tie like a plaid

shirt or on my waist, you know, with like a high top. Like you see like a backup dancer wear. And you come out of there feeling like you're on top of the world. I know. You really do. And you look hot because you're like sweaty and you work out. And it's just like you're kind of glowing from it. Nothing is hotter. And the classes are sexy. I mean, those are more like a hip hop dance class. It's not like it's a lap dance class, which you also could take strip to, or. pole dancing. That may be my top. Like, if we're going high level, start taking poll dancing classes and we love Vertical Joe's in Atlanta. Oh, we got to hit them up for the show. Oh, yeah. But yeah, those are great. I've been looking for somebody that teaches pole dancing to make

some videos for our app. It's hard to find people, but that's the next thing on my list. Wait, I know this woman, Roz. I'll hit you. She's great. I'll hit her. I'll let you know. Offline. I'll hit you up offline. Okay. Do you feel like we covered it? Yeah. I hope that you guys just like go out and hype yourselves. Do something that makes you feel sexy and in the movie. for no other reason than just literally for yourself because it's important self-care. Yeah. Okay. Well, Girls Gotta Eat.com.

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