Girls Gotta Eat - How to Set Up, Get Set Up, and Not F*ck It Up

Episode Date: February 28, 2022

We're discussing a hallmark of dating and arguably one of the most preferred ways to find someone -- set ups. We're covering it from all angles, from setting up your friends, to getting your friends/family members to set you up, to all the dos and dont's, plus sharing our own stories and some truly wild tales from our listeners. And before we dive into our topic, we're recapping our recent double date, hotel life, and the Love is Blind 2 finale. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, tickets, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Pretty Litter: Use promo code GGE for 20% off your first order at prettylitter.com. Helix: Get up to $200 off all mattress orders plus 2 free pillows at helixsleep.com/gge. Nutrafol: Get $15 off your first month's subscription plus free shipping at nutrafol.com/gge. Daily Harvest: Get up to $40 off your first box at dailyharvest.com/gge. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I think that people have been out of the dating pool for so long. They just don't even think about what it's like. It's just like you're single and they're single. You guys will like each other. It can feel like an insult. Yeah. Let's just throw these two bodies together and see if they match. Yeah.

And then they send you a photo and you're like, what? Back to another episode of Girls Gotta Eat. Welcome back. Coming you from California from the Pendry in San Diego. San Diego. What is it? No, what is it? San Diego.

No. It's from the same. I can't. I can't. No. It means a whale's vagina. Is that it? I don't figure remember.

And he says stay classy. I don't know. It's San Francisco? No, no, no. I think it's San Diego. We'll double check it. I haven't seen that movie in so many years. We are a Pendry family now.

We live in the Pendry Hotel. We'll get to it. But I haven't slept in not a Pendry in a lot of nights now at this point. We are in California. We're just like so happy over the moon doing shows. We'll tell you all about it. Okay, so a couple housekeeping things. We're going to get right back into the California and the live shows, even though

that one girl literally doesn't care. Last week was a lot about the live shows at the beginning. Even I was like, this is a lot. She runs through my head constantly. And I just, thank you. She lives there rent-free every day. In the best way. I don't care.

Just making me do the most. You thought it was long. Last week we'll buckle up, bitches. So we, speak of live shows, we are coming to Toronto, June 4th. We finally did it. Yeah, maybe. We'll see. You guys are, we love Canada.

They've been locked down a lot. You guys have just been babies about the variance. Not you guys. They just deserve it. We really hope it works out because nobody deserves a show more than Canada. So we will see you guys. Saturday night, June 4th at the Meridian Theater. We are so excited.

And that will be on sale March 7th next Monday at 10 a.m. Eastern Time. It'll be on our website. You grab tickets there one week from today. So save the date and then also new merch launching on the seventh too. Yeah, you guys, merch has been a journey. What a journey. Yeah.

We offloaded our previous merch company. We'll talk about it next week. We'll explain you guys what happened. Yeah, get ready to sip on some. Piping. Hot. But Ashley and I and Bella have been working really hard on new merch. No, Rayda and Bella.

I am so removed from the merch. I do the live shows. Ashley tells me what she likes. She's a part of it. And then Bella keeps us cool. I'm always like Bella is this cool. And our designer, Alyssa. So it is a women-run,

women-owned company finally again. It's just ours. So we'll be relaunching next week unless, I don't know, something terrible happens. But we're very excited to get you some really cool new stuff. And eliminate the mistakes. Yeah. And get it done right.

Take back control. Yeah. So, yeah, you guys were in California. we had, we talked a little bit last week, like, in advance of the L.A. and San Francisco shows, but they were wonderful. Again, we had the Rams cheerleaders straight from the Super Bowl at the L.A. show. And then we had the Warriors dance team in San Francisco who are just like our besties. They were so fun. I miss them.

I love them. They opened the show. They are so incredible. We had them come back afterwards. We were like, come eat this charcuttery. We had so much charcutory and cookies and food. Just everywhere. The stripper tried to steal the bottle of tequila.

Ashley had to chase them down. I did not like it. He grabbed our giant bottle of Casamigos, which just poured himself shots, holding the bottle like he owned it. I was like, excuse me, sir. And he wasn't even the best tripper we've had this week, okay? Because the guy in L.A. put me in an upside-down 69 standing up.

Yeah. So, no, it was really wonderful. We just had, we love being here and escaping the cold and just had incredible shows. So, of course, just wanted to shout them out, all the people that came. We love you guys and had such a blast. And tonight, as we record, will be San Diego, San Diego, and Wales Vagina. And we're so excited. We love the city, too. So we're sure it will be amazing. And if anything insane happens, we'll discuss it next week. But we know some of you guys literally don't care. So we will actually double down.

Yeah, the shows were great. I echo everything actually said. Thank you guys for coming. We just love you guys. The shows have just become more wild. Please come out. We have a lot more shows coming up. so you guys can check our website for tickets. But lots of really fun stuff coming up. And we always like to give you guys travel wrecks. You always ask where to stay. So Ashley and I have been staying at the Pendry in Los Angeles and San Diego. And then when we leave San Diego, we're going back to Los Angeles and continuing our stay at the pantry.

Yes. We are a Pentry family. We were, I was going to come back to L.A. I'd always plan to come back to L.A. And I was going to stay at Kate's house. And I was like, would you care if I just stay here? I just love it here so much. I just feel so at home.

I'm like, I love a hotel life. Yes. The gym is amazing. So, you know, I care about the gym. Rainy cares about the room service. And the spa. And the spa. And we both love the spot.

That's where we meet in the middle. So they do have a Peloton and a little yoga room and a steam room. For me, it's about like the location and the amenities. So like the location of both are fantastic. If you're coming to L.A., the Pendry is in West Hollywood. It's directly across you from the comedy store. So tons to do around here. Great place to walk around.

Get breakfast. All the food here is great. We've been working on the roof, which we really love. Poole's great. And in San Diego, the bar and the restaurant are just, like, so, so beautiful inside the pantry. I'm crazy about the food. The location's perfect if you guys are going to San Diego and you just want to be, like,

really, really in the heart of everything. It's perfect. And then we're just obsessed to the design in general. The rooms are gorgeous, yes. Oh, my gosh. I love him so much. Just looking around. Like, how can I copy this from my home?

Crush in the mini bar. So, listen. Can I just a late laugh? Can I talk about something to happen? in. I'm looking at it right now. So, okay, so in LA, in the Pendry, there's a little thing in the mini bar, and it's a romance kit.

So it's a little box, and it's a white box, and the front of the box just says romance kit. So you're like, what's going to be in here, right? So I'll tell you guys, the kit contains breath mints, two condoms, lovers game, massage oil, personal lubricant, and a sanitary wipe. So I took it from the mini bar, did not open it, and I took a picture. of it to send to somebody. Just be flirting, whatever. And then just forgot to put it back and like had it next to my bed. So they replaced it. So now I'm actually now, now, romance to now. And I've been charged for it. Like, I'm going to have to settle this at the front desk.

I'm going to have to be like, I'm going to watch you and film you explain to the front desk why you never use the first one and why you have two now. I'm going to be down there like, so I see that you guys charge you for the romance kit. And I'm just, to make it clear. There was no romance to me. There was actually no romance. And I was just taking a photo. I was trying to make romance.

It's kind of bent up. Like what was I doing with this? Why is it all, why is the box bet? You were using it like a stress ball trying to get some romance? Oh my gosh. That is so funny. I know. So we all have to handle that.

I'll have to speak to a manager on that. No, I'm kidding. But we had, this is not, this is a bad transition. I was going to say we had some romance on this trip. But no, Rain and I actually, we went on a double date on this trip, I guess. I guess we can call it that.

Sure. I don't know. It falls in that category. If it ends with me making out with somebody, it was retroactively a date. A hundred percent. That's a great call. Thank you. If it's her and the date, is it not a date?

If something happened physical, then you can look back and you can call it a date. Rain and I haven't been on a double date since July 2019. July 2019, two guys took us to their favorite taco place, didn't eat a bite of it. of food. They didn't eat at the place where they had pitched us that we were going to eat. They didn't eat at all ever. And they took us there. We, Rayna and I were like, are we having tacos or what? No, they were not eating. We ordered guac. We ordered guac. Raina and I ate all the guac. Even though Ashley and I had just come from like a 2.30 p.m. lunch where we had to find at the restaurant that I started. Ranah did start. I was in a bad mood, a better bad mood.

Somebody tweeted that. Someone tweeted, yeah, someone tweeted, finally learning that the catalyst of the iconic bathing suit store fight was I was in a bad mood about your bad mood. Okay, wait, Raina. Another thing, this is so, the first of all, people were tweeting about the Cheesecake Factory date, our Valentine's Day, which was so funny. And then Cheesecake Factory got in there and they were tweeting at us. This one, I died. I like screenshot it.

It says, watching Ashley while Raina gets a lap dance is the same energy as watching the groom while the bride walks down the aisle. That's not the best? The tweet of all time. It's exactly that. But what if the groom took his suit jacket off and started just like swinging it above his head to get attention to? You've been doing a good job.

I feel like people are watching you. I love it. That guy gently laid me on the table and you jumped in. I had to bust the table. Yeah, you bust the table. My skills came back from the Lone Star Steakhouse when I was a bus boy. I was a bus boy. No.

It reminded me when I worked at the cheesecake factory and I was fucking the bus boy. Did you fuck a bus boy? There's this guy that was pretty cute I made out with, but we never fuck. I feel like that's like a hierarchy. You don't dip below. Yeah. You went busser? I made out with the busser.

You were a manager fucking the bus. I was dating. I was never a manager. I was just a waitress. I was dating on him with one of the waiters. And just blowing the buser. I wasn't blowing him. Right now.

Yes, you were. I was 21. One of the best quotes right to ever said to me was that. The sick one. I was sucked up a buser. summers between college. Like her mom was like, Raina,

you got to get an internship and she would like tell her she'd to get all these like internships at these like big companies and like do like big stuff and Raina said to me. She goes,

all I wanted to do was suck dick and work at the cheesecake factory. Like it was so funny to me. That is your truth. It is my truth. It's my favorite restaurant. I worked there for a while. It was great.

I love it. Where were we? I don't fucking know. We did this. So anyways, we were talking about the double date that we were on where we didn't eat.

Yes. And where they didn't eat. So it didn't work. I mean, that ended, that whole thing ended in like, we had to break up with these guys. Yeah. Like a week apart. I broke, well, he broke up with me. Yeah. I guess. Yeah. So, it's a mutual thing. So then I had to break up with the other guy because we have to do everything together. We have to stay aligned as a family. Yes. We do. So to catch you guys up how we like met these guys. Oh, back to the double date. Yes. Back to the double date. Without like, we met the old fashion way. We met on the internet. I feel like that is the new thing of how did you guys meet on the internet,

like in the DMs or, you know, whatever. It's funny because I was like telling my brother, like, what I was doing that night? And he's like, what are you doing? And I was explaining him, I met this guy on the internet. And, like, I feel like even five or six years ago, like, your protective brother would be like, what do you mean you met a person on the internet? Yeah. And my brother was like, that's cool.

Like, have fun tonight. You know, like, no one blanks. So anyway. But it's awesome. Like, okay, when you see, it's more so like in the DMs or whatever. Like, when you say on the internet, you almost picture, like, in a chat room. Like, it feels very, like, creepy. But we know that's not what it means.

Yeah. We both had screen names. Met them in my phone. They live at my phone. Yeah. He lived in my phone and I met him on the internet. And we were going out to San Francisco. So I just said, why don't you come to the show?

And he asked if we wanted to hang out the night before. And so I said, do you have any tall single friends? And so I said, lo and behold. I set Ashley up was like the episode today. Like the episode. Yes. I'm a matchmaker. So I'm a matchmaker.

just said, do you have any tall single friends? And I don't think it's like a weird thing to ask either. Like it's, I'm not trying to fuck your friend. My friend is single. I want to see if you're single and your friend is single. And so yeah, I set you up with another tall person. I appreciate it. It worked out. Yeah, that's such an easy thing to do. Like, you weren't going to meet this internet strangers solo. But like it was very like when those things kind of happen like in this case or in any case, it's very like, well, what if we don't like these people? But like, then it's a funny story and you get to do with your best friend. So I was thinking that because we were in San Francisco

for like the one night just to ourselves. And I was like, what if we like burn this night on these people that suck? Because like we were like what is this going to be like, you know? And not everybody vibes with everybody like. Just because I vibe with somebody doesn't mean you want to sit there and talk to that person all night long. And so I was like, what is this going to be like? And it really was so much fun.

I almost like was thinking like should we all just be going on like double dates all the time? Because it just was like a really nice way to just get to know people and it was like a little less pressure. It's just, it's less pressure. I know, but also I didn't know if it was going to be a date or not. It was just an internet person that I was meeting. Also, like, again, if it goes badly, like, we have laughs forever.

Like, the guys that didn't eat, we were still using that material. Years later, I've a bit about it. It's a whole thing. And, you know, regardless, we had a great meal. Like, we ate at this place in San Francisco called Che Fico, Che Fico. I don't know. Is it, like, the credit score or is it, like, I don't know.

FICO score. I mean, right, we also picked a place that we liked. So we were like, we're going to pick a place that we're going to enjoy, no matter what, they can come. Yes. And we're going to enjoy each other and this meal. And maybe they're fun. Maybe they're not, regardless, great story.

Yes. Okay. So, yes, we went to this place. I kept calling at Jay Diaz. So I'm just going to go with Che Diaz. We went to Che Diaz in San Francisco. And we had a great time. And the funniest thing was, like, the next day we hug out with these two guys, like, separately

and could not have more different days. Yeah. My day was the most made. We went, like, we walked around in that, like, the Hayd Ashbury area where, like, thrift stores are. We had like a really like casual Mediterranean, just like tons of hummus lunch and then got tattoos. And it was great. A lot of walking.

I loved it. I'm a big walker. Yeah. And tattoos. It's just, it's my kind of vibe. We got tattoos. It's great. I got a pair of boobs tattooed on my arm.

He paid for it. I've asked him to pay him back like three times. He has not acknowledged it. So I'm not paying it back. He bought me a tattoo. He bought me a tattoo of boobs on my right arm. He wants you to remember him every time he looks at it. It's like a trick.

Damn it. Every time I pay my boobs. You got to send him a check. I'll buy him a tattoo this week. Yeah, and then I went on a ferry to Sausalito and had like lunch on the water. Just different vibes. Very different vibes. Ashley went fancy.

I was not fancy classy. I was sitting in a tattoo parlor for three hours. Literally sat there for three hours. Ashley stayed classy. Keep it classy, San Diego. So that was fun. And you know we love to meet guys on the road. Never in New York.

Only on the road. I'm just like dreading it already. What? Going back to New York. Going back to the garbage of New York, both the streets and the dating scene. Let's just stay. All right. There are residences at the Pendry, so I feel like it's just calling my name.

I've been looking at them because I think I want to stay here. Also, I extended the trip as well. Like, I was going to fly back to New York after we leave San Diego with Bella. And instead, I live here now. So we're going to drive back and spend the weekend here, which I'm very excited about. Okay. So love is blind finale. Love is blind finale.

I woke up at 6 o'clock in the morning to watch this. I crushed it. I was up so early. I couldn't wait to talk to you about it. Hold on a second. Spoilers ahead. Spoilers ahead. No.

I'm going to talk about what we're doing right now. We came back in here. It is 10 o'clock on the West Coast. 1 a.m. on the East Coast. The episode should be out by now. And we came in to record this because we basically recorded it. And it was dated. And we were like, you know what?

They deserve at least us to address the finale. We can't do this every time, but here we are. We don't use this. Also, we said a couple things that didn't age well. It did 100%. I just, I think that we co-signed somebody that we thought we were going to like and they made themselves unlikable again. Shane.

Shane. We, before the finale, we had turned a corner on Shane and we were like, he's a good guy, him in that conversation you had with Shake. Ew. Both of those guys. Shake? Okay. Cringiest moment.

Okay, every single person there was definitely Cringiest, okay, cringious, guys, we're okay. And we're going to talk about lying next week. First of all, I don't even know. I have a belly of brain on eye. What I'm wearing right now?

We've been fucking. Walking bow-legged through L-AX tomorrow. We're in this together. Our vaginas are in this together. Solidarity. Okay. So, shake,

Shakes, shanky moment. What is, well, okay, so there were a lot of, so you said that I, like,

buried how exciting and all the, like the, but I didn't want to, I don't want to give it away when I told you. I think a lot of stuff was really predictable.

I think that, like, the first couple that got engaged, I always forget their name. Natalie and Nick and Danielle. Yeah. So there's two couples that end up together. I mean,

you should, you should, you should afford ahead. You already said spoilers. Raina, you got to pull it together. I'm like watching her trying to form the word.

This is a bad idea. There's two couples that ended up together. I was like not super shocked, but a little shocked. Shake thing was the most cringy because she decides to leave. And you said that clearly something happened like off camera, like fucked up. I mean, first of all, she was the MVP of the whole thing. Like I choose myself is like so powerful. Like deep tea is such a queen.

And but yes, I felt like, and maybe she had been hiding it up till that point. But something happened along the lines where he made her feel bad about herself because she wasn't like that nice about him. Like even towards the end, I think she was just like, her vibe was very like, fuck that dude. And I'm glad that she did because that girl is going to rewatch this and see him say on national television, I'm not attracted to her. Well, she already. I saw some articles already. They've talked to her about it. I think BuzzFeed maybe had an exclusive or something where she was like, yeah, it was fucking awful. It makes me feel sick. He kept doing that because he kept saying how obsessed he was with her. But cringiest moment, the whole finale was when she rejects him and he's like, guys, it's still a party.

And he's like, let's turn up. And he wants to like party and dance. And everyone there is like, um, his friends were like, could be. dude what? And then when he, this is the best, this is the best tweet that I am sad. I didn't come up with. But when he was talking about his reservation at Nobu. Did I show you this tweet? Someone said he's going to be at Nobu with Nobu. It's so corny. And then the only other things, we'll wrap this up. But like Ayanna and Jarrett, I like that they ended up together. It would have been so cringe if she broke up with him in front of his dad at the altar. I know. She left him at the altar with his dad. Like, you know they must have known they were saying yes, because the dad would not have married them. Oh my God. That's so true. I always want to.

I wonder how much these people talk about it ahead of time. But, like, in that case, I think that guy was like, you got to give me an answer. My dad can't, like, watch me. And she was like, well, great, you just hijacked the whole thing because you got your dad involved. Yeah, but he was like, you can't any guy contact with my dad while you break up with me. That's not going to apply. I mean, Shane and Natalie, I mean, I did actually think they were going to get married. I think that I didn't see that coming.

Obviously, they had this huge fight. And I think he has a lot to deal with. I don't know that that was the best idea for him to lose a parent and then go on national TV and like I think he's got some anger shit going on. I don't think anyone's that surprise, though. I was the most surprised at Sal and Mallory. I thought he was like obsessed with her, but maybe some people were saying that he felt like she wasn't as into it as he was, or he's just a soft boy and I can't decide. It's just, I think he made a rational decision, which is like the decision most of us would make, which is like, yeah, I'm not going to marry you. I just met you, but I'd love

to like see where this goes, but he didn't really do that. He kind of ended it. I just, I want to see what happens because I feel like she was like, okay, well, trying to ask him, like, do you still want to be together? Do you still want to date? I agree. It's crazy to get married right now. And he was like, I just going to need some time. Like, it felt like a breakup. And I could be wrong, but it felt like an easy way to let somebody down. Yeah, I don't know that I see him together. What was your biggest surprise? I thought Shane and Natalie would end up together. I actually really liked him out of the pods. I thought I made such like an about face about him. I liked watching him and Shane out because she was trying to like gas him up and he wouldn't

lean into it. She was getting like crazier and crazier and He was just like, I don't know what to tell you, you know? And I liked his communication with Natalie. I thought he looked like he really enjoyed her parents and the family stuff. And he seemed a little less like crazy in the eyes. But like hearing, like, it's almost like a blessing. They had this like ballistic meltdown fight. Her earring her say like, you told me you hate me.

She's so wonderful and rational and just kind. And I love watching her. Like the way she said that to her father was she was like, I see how comfortable I feel with my dad. I didn't feel like that today. Yeah. I was just like, oh, I felt that girl. The only thing I just, I want a lover, and I do, I just, the, you're my best friend thing,

I couldn't, I hated it. They were the most that like, come on, guys, I will shit on it all day every day. I don't care. I don't, I'm not, I will shame people that say you met your best friend in a week. I don't care. What are your best friends actually think? Do you have best friends? Like, Kate and I just, we will never get over it.

And me and you, it's like, Kate's like, what if you were on television saying that? You know what I mean? Over and over and over. And it makes it feel like, who did you have before in your life? Like, your best friend, it's such a huge title. Like, I mean, yeah, you can have a lot of them. But I'm saying, like, to call someone my best friend, her and Shane are going to be friends forever.

This is over. They met 10 days ago. I mean, a bunch of them said this. You're my best friend. It's so weird to watch it. What is your friend situation? Like, what are your friends thinking watching this? But the thing is, like, I expect it from Nick and Danielle.

Like, she's so insecure. Like, it seemed to that they were so desperate for this best friend thing. And like, I just didn't see it coming from Natalie. And I still love her. but like guys we got to stop. We have to stop this. What if you saw me call somebody else my best friend on National Television? I just met last week.

I always say this. I think about my mom calling my dad her best friend. What? That's not her best friend. Francis's joke. I just hear Francis in my head going, that's not your best friend. I talked about Francis a lot this weekend.

I talked about Francis in bed this weekend. No, what did you say? I was talking about how he really inspired me to get my breast reduction. And like inspiration comes from like weird places. I talked about him. today also. You were in bed with a man. Talking about Francis. Oh my gosh. I love the show. I thought it was so really exciting. I don't, I know, I did not walk away feeling like any of the couples, like hit it out of the park like you saw last season with like

Amber and Burnett. I was like, they're going to be together forever. And Cameron and Lauren. I thought, even like Gianina and Damien, dumbest couple I've ever seen, but they like really were together for like years. Well, there were, there was definitely no camera. and Lauren, but they, I saw like some meme that said like stars of love is blind one, Cameron and Lauren, star of love is blind two, deeps. That was just powerful. Like that was bomb. And then her mom supporting her, like that was my favorite moment I think that I've seen of

the entire franchise was her being like, absolutely not. I want someone that's sure about me and I choose myself. I like get chills thinking about it. I did not expect it. I thought he was going to pull some bullshit. He is such an asshole. Like the way he spoke about her of saying. like I'm glad she didn't it.

I don't have to do it. It's like he's such a catch. Like he's out walking around the dad bod and a head full of gray hair. What the fuck is he bring it to the table? You said he had a dad bod and he posted some thirst trap on Instagram and he has a six pack and someone was like, where's the dad by now, Raina? Okay, well, oh, she's defending him now. I'm not body shaming.

I'm only saying that because he could not talk shit on her and her looks enough. I know. That girl is a stone cold stunner. I don't even care. We can talk shit on. That was just the cringe of that. But all right. Well, listen, guys, it's 1 a.m. in the East Coast.

We're going to wrap it up. I'm going to upload this episode. We do it for you. And we are going to rest our vaginas. And we will talk next week about more of our trip. We're going to rest our vagina. Like, it's not resting while I sit here on this couch. I walked into your room and I had to, like, double check you didn't have sex on this

surface. My vagina is resting great on this one. surface. I think I'm going to ice it. Ice that pussy. Okay. And also, while we were talking about Rex, I tried to get back into Anna Delvey and I'm just out.

I just don't like it enough. Are you fully out? I'm out. I mean, you know me. I give it like an hour of my life. You know, I watched the whole first episode. I was like on the fence and then started the second and just like could not get involved. And I feel like it started to get juicier and I still didn't.

hair, you know, and so I'm like, I'm just out on this. Like, I know what happened. Right. So it's not, like, I got to see what happened. I just, I don't love the show. And that's, it's, they produced it well. It's Chondaland. Like, you know, I love her shows. It's just, it's not for me. I mean, you have some thoughts, but like, it's still like the number one show in Netflix and I'm just like, I'm going to be done with it. I mean, well, I actually watched it last night. I was between that and Ozark and I just decided I didn't want to like me sad. Huh? Another show I don't like. I'm, it's, I decided I just wanted to have like a little bit of a lighter evening. So I watched stand-ed-d-dovey thing. I am enjoying it more as the show goes on. I actually really hated the first two

episodes. I don't understand why we're focusing on this reporter. I think it's like a stupid storyline. I don't care about it. Like this story was so fascinating. What I don't like is a re-imagination of facts to the point where like the story just isn't true anymore. I find it really weird and it's not fun for me. And I'd rather just like watch somebody be like, this is based on something else. This isn't the real story. Because there's so many aspects of this is just like just never happened and weren't true. And to me, that's just sort of like nullifies me wanting to watch it. But I am enjoying it a little bit more. There's some stuff like later on where they go to Morocco and like storylines that actually were true if you read the story. So I don't know.

It's not a must watch for me. I know. And it's still just like number one like at the top of the charts. Usama is in it. If you guys didn't know this, spoiler alert, Usama Siddiqui, who has been on the show and he was in and just like that. And now he's in this. He's really doing it. And I just tell you, you knew this. But I just tell the audience, he had posted this clip. I'm like, he was just like white women are out of control like in terms of like hitting on him coming up to him just like aggressively we knew that this girl like grabbed his ass or something not consensually and I wrote like I will fight this woman with a knife emoji in the comments on Instagram took it down they gave me a warning I think I'm shadow banned I was like all to prove my

love for us I'm I am shadow band as well so I feel your pain I'm just like I'm just being funny I know but I guess all the terrible stuff in the internet like this is a joke and then I send it to him And this is what I get for trying to like, you know, stand up for my man. And he was like, don't lose that blue check mark for me, baby. Because you guys are going to be a blue check mark couple. Blue check marks only. I got to tell you, this is so funny. So I am shadow banned currently because I, yeah, I am.

Because I put up that photo of my boobs that were covered with emojis, giant emojis. Still, though, that was like weeks ago. So you know how I know I'm still shadow banned because there's one other Raina Greenberg. She lives in New York. We're friends. This is only one of the Rainier Greenberg in the United States. Maybe in the whole world, probably. She has the handle at Raina Greenberg.

I have the handle at Raina. Dot Greenberg. And tons of people have been DMing her and tagging her in Instagram stories. She keeps sending them to me. Like this girl at the show in San Francisco DM'd her and was like, I've been looking at your legs all night. I'm usually into guys. But like would you want to like hook up later basically?

And she like, she's laughed. She like sends me all these DMs. She's like married. She's the mother of two. Yeah. So she's been getting tagged and DM like crazy because I think people go to look me up and they can't find me. I mean, your stories are still coming up.

Stories come up. Yeah. Well, what does it mean? You can't search for you? It means if you search for somebody, it won't come up. I mean, I don't know how it works, because I can still search for me for my Finsta. Mm-hmm. So I didn't think that you were, but I guess you technically were.

I mean, I think I got you out of band after that. Like, my story views like drastically dropped. So I'm like, God damn, Osama getting me in trouble. No, my stories are fine. People can still see your feed post. But the other at Raina Greenberg, no blue checkmark is getting tagged like crazy. That is so funny that she would get like some of these crazy DMs and she'd be like, what the fuck.

She's cool. She's our age. Oh, no, she's great. Yeah. We called with her recently. Yeah. It's so weird to be on a call with her. And it's like, hi, I'm Raina Greenberg.

Hi, I'm Raina Greenberg. I mean, one of the odds. There's another Rainer. There's another Ashley on that call. Yes, there's two Ashley. Two Rainis. Oh my gosh. But that was, oh, you know what?

Okay. I was debating whether to announce this. I don't know. It's controversial. And what's happening? I just feel like we have to get to. it out there, Raina. I feel like we have to come out as people who don't

like euphoria. Oh, guys, you aren't going to talk about it. I didn't know. Listen, I might cut this. No, I mean, don't leave it. I think people want to know. Like, where we stand. Where we stand. It is like the most popular show. I respect the show. I like Zendaya so much. I think the show is wonderfully produced. I'm obsessed with

a fire. Could be more obsessed with her. The acting is incredible. The writing is incredible. The music is incredible. Rayna and I both just really don't. We have different TV tastes. on some levels, but we both just don't really like stuff that unsettling and like dark and disturbing. So I like heavier stuff. I like stuff that's like emotional and like has really deep storylines and tugs at your heartstrings and all that stuff. But like I also really love feel

good stuff, funny stuff. This is just a little too dark for me. And I feel disturbed watching it and I feel anxious and restless and I don't really like it. And I read an article on like why people watch it. They watch it and like it's called doom watching like the same as like doom scrolling. And like it does kind of play into your own anxieties and fears and like dark side of yourself. And it's just like zero shade. It's everybody is so different and like their TV taste. Like this is also, I didn't like squid game. And I was like this is most popular show in the world. And it just was, I didn't like it. It made me feel bad. It was just like so much murder. And like it was really dark. And it's just honestly disturbing is like the word I consistently use. And that's just me. You know, I just don't.

It's not for me. But like I can appreciate it on like so many different levels. Yeah. I mean, for me like if I'm not. If I'm not. something's not educational, like a documentary series. It doesn't make me happy. It doesn't make me laugh. I don't think that the storylines. I love a deep, really intricate, moving heartfelt storyline. I don't want to watch me. It makes me feel bad. I feel anxious when I watch it. That's why I didn't watch Squid Game either. I feel like I'm so outside of like, I don't understanding the memes and I feel sad that I'm not part of like the before society and the Squid Game Society. You know, I'm missing out on jokes. But it's just I can't do it. I watched one episode. It was too happy for me. I'm not one of those like, just push for the first four episodes. I'm not doing. in it. I got there's plenty of other television on television. Plenty of a television on television, guys, for me to watch. So, I'm out on it. Yeah. So I did two full episodes, like two full

hours, and then I dove into the third, and then I just got kind of tired, and I was like, I think I'm out on this. Bella said the first season is darker. The second season isn't as much. So I was like, well, could I start the second season? And she was like, well, you might have questions. I was like, that's what you're here for. Just answer my question. He's just cool.

Yeah, I know. So I don't know. Maybe I'll just go in there, or maybe it'll just, she said a took her a while to get into it for the same reasons. And so, I mean, it's just not, it's not bad. It's like, well produced. It's like, again, the music just can't get enough of it. But then the music's playing while something really dark is happening. So I'm like, I don't know. Also, I tend to watch TV before I go to sleep and I don't like that energy when I'm going to bed. Breaking Bad was hard for me to get into because it was like so intense in the beginning. Succession, I can only get one episode before I go to sleep. House of Cards, I can only do one episode before I went

to just like, I like to binge stuff and I can't watch them. It makes me really stressed out and anxious before bed. You know me. I like to go to bed like 11 o'clock, lighter than air, sleep sleep before eight and a half. And I also really need like a really strong protagonist, like someone to root for. And like I told you, that's why I didn't really like succession. I was just like everybody's bad. We just, cousin Greg, that's all we got. You know, like I watched three or four episodes and I was out. Maybe it changes too. No, Greg gets actually worse. So, great. So there's nobody, everybody's bad. I can't do it. It's too nihilistic. It's just not for me. But I mean, you know the Succession, Mad Men and Sopranos are like my favorite shows. So yes, I don't

actually need somebody to root for, but there can be a, what's it when it's like a good, bad person? Tony Soprano and Don Draper are pretty terrible people. Oh, really? Tony Soprano, the head of the mafia? I don't know. But, yeah, but that doesn't, there's a word where it's like a bad guy you still root for.

Yeah, I don't know what the word is. I know what you mean. That's exactly what those shows are. Like in Mad Men, you're like rooting that Don Draper like stops being such a piece of dog shit. Yeah. He gets the second wife and you're like, he's going to really do it. and then they're split up in like a season and a half.

So yeah, those are our TV racks and our non-TV wrecks. So let's get into our topic for today. Set-ups. Set-ups. You guys ask all the time, can you do another episode about how to meet guys in the wild? We did this, what, three and a half years ago? This great episode about how to meet guys in the wild. And I think we talk a lot on that episode and with other guests like Matthew Hussie

about how to approach people in the wild. But that's really not everybody's jam. I'm like I don't think most people love locking up to somebody at a bar. We've been in a pandemic for years. Like who knows like how many bars you're even going to. So set-ups are something that like you specifically like feel really excited about recently. And you're such a pioneer of it. Pioneer.

I started this whole thing. No. This is probably how they used to do it in the olden days. You just get set up. Your family sets you up and then you trade land. And you get married. The setup is the original way. It's a family buys you from your family.

your dad gives you to another family. Arranged marriage has ever heard of them? That's really what we talk about. No, I mean, this is, I feel passionately about it. You know, the dream I feel like is to set up people that end up together, you know, like you just want to be like, I think everybody has a deep desire to be like a matchmaker, a successful matchmaker in some way. And then you're just like the star of the wedding and you're like, I set them up.

You're the main character. And, but I go back to John Berger even, just thinking of people you already know. That's a little different. Setting up feels like someone you don't know, like, do you're, but it's still more of that like, let's think of people that aren't complete strangers. And I was thinking about this. Corey and Kate, these are my two best friends outside of Rana. My best friend.

Both were set-ups with their husbands. Oh, I didn't know that. Yeah. So, Corey. What? They're both, Kate, well, Kate and Jay were like, the complete traditional, our friend Tiffany,

who owns raw bronzing studio in Atlanta, the best place you can get a spray tan in the world. And her husband, Todd, like, Kate was Tiffany's friend. Todd was Jay's friend and Tiffany's friend too. But they basically were like, we want you to meet this guy. And they set them up and they're married now. And it's funny because she went on one day with him

and the date was epic. It really was. Like it was just very, feels very like, Kismet, love at first sight. But Kate, after the date was like, I mean, I can't date him. He's crazy. I was like, what do you mean? It's crazy. She's like, you don't even know. Like, she's like,

wild animal. But then, you know, of course, she was wrong. But their friends obviously saw that working out. They've been married or together for 10 plus years, married for half of that or whatever. But, and then Corey and Ham, Ham's uncle set them up. So they were just at the starboard. And Ham's uncle, Paul had known Corey from bartending there for years. And obviously his nephew and to introduce them with the Starbird. Both of them very drunk. Corey was like, I don't remember if he's cute or not. And now they're married.

And Paul officiated their wedding in Mexico. So it was like, you know, that's the dream. You like set somebody up and then you like actually marry them. But I just, you know, obviously there's so many success stories out there. We had you guys email us and we're going to read some of the funnier ones at the end. But a lot of them were just complete success stories of it working out. I mean, it's great. And your take on it, which I love, you've said this multiple times in the podcast is like there's an extra layer of accountability.

accountability. There's two reasons why I love this so much. First of all, yes. I mean, when you meet somebody on a dating app, in the wild, at a bar, everybody should treat you right, but there isn't a layer of accountability because if they don't, it's like who's really going to know about it, right? So if your friends introduce you, your coworkers introduce you to a friend, at least somebody knows if they don't act correctly, they don't follow up, they don't just act like a decent

person. I hate to even just like stoop to this level to be like, somebody has to know somebody. Yeah. But I do think it adds a layer of accountability and people do just act better. I think that they like stick to the plans. I think they follow up when they're supposed to. And then the other thing is that like your friends know you sometimes better than you know you. Like I, and they also know like what you are attracted to that is bad for you and detrimental.

And they will steer you away from that. So like I feel like, listen, I feel like I pick a lot of nice people. But I feel like you could pick somebody really great for me. And you also would sort of avoid the pitfalls that I tend to gravitate towards because you know me better than like I know myself kind of. I know. We say that all the time. Sometimes your friends really do know what's best for you, know you better than, you know yourself.

Yeah. And so, yeah, 100%. Like, I, I would love to, like, set you up with somebody or vice versa. We know years ago, I tried, I went on one date with somebody. And then I tried to set him up with, with Meryl. They connected, but they never went out. They were just busy. You know, it was pre-COVID busier lives.

Actually, Merrill's still fucking busy. We never see her. And then we, I have a guy that I went on a couple dates with. And he's going on a date with a friend of ours. This week. Tonight. Yes. Tonight.

Yes. And she asked me about him. and I tried to do what I think is right, which first of all, I don't know him as well as you do, but like she asked me, look, what do you think about him? I guessed him up enough. I was like, you know, what do you think I should say about him? And you gave me a couple lines because you're, you know, he's more your friend.

But I was like, he's cool. I've hung out with him. He was really nice. He's tall. He's cute. But I didn't, like, I didn't say anything that would make her feel like she had to date him or disappoint me if she didn't. Or, you know what I mean?

I just said enough to make her feel excited and confident that, like, you picked a nice person for her. And then that's it. Like then I'm done. My work here is out. Yeah. I mean, I think that we're all adults here, especially, you know, you just get older. You just these things.

You're able to just be more grown up about things like that. People just, they lose a little bit of their ego and they're just like, yeah, that's whatever. Like we've all been rejected and rejected people a million times. I guess I always think like there's no harm and ever like one date. You know, you set people up on one date. They go out. They vibe or they don't. I get a little trickier if they like date, date and then you're somehow like caught the middle.

I mean, you saw that with the friends of yours where, like, there were, like, two sets of best friends dating and then one couple broke up. And now the both are broken up. But, like, it got a little dicey there. I think that's what people fear. They're like, do we want to set up our friends? And then it's, like, weird if it doesn't work out. But I don't know. I think proceed with caution with, like, best friends. You know what I mean? I mean, it gets a little messy in that situation. Yeah, like, the original couple broke up. The other couple stayed together. They're now broken up too. But I think it was, like, really hard for it because then, like, if you break up with your person, like, like there's this connection to them. And it's like, do I want to do with that? I don't know. I guess it's just like the risk you take. Because like on the flip side of it, my brother and his wife, my sister-in-law's best friends since childhood, met my brother's best friend since childhood. And they at my brother's wedding and they are getting married now.

It's when it works out, it's like really works out. It's like the dream. But I feel like sometimes the setups are just better with people who aren't like the top tier. You know what I mean? Like 100%. That's the dream is like you have this like friend, friend. They're like a little bit more casual. and you send them up with another friend that's like a little more casual.

And it's just like, then you just get to step back. It's so true. I don't know if I would do this for you. If I was like, if I had like a, I don't have any friends I think are shitty people. I don't know because you're like my best friend in the world. I don't know what would happen if you and my other best friend in the world broke up. Yeah, that's, but then that's talking about it. You're talking from a single person standpoint.

Like your brother, like the couple like they did it together. You know what I mean? I just, I see what you're saying, though. Like I don't want to be on the hook. to like, I don't want to watch the dissolution and like be in the middle of it. But I also think then like, you know, you can get into like what do boundaries look like and like how can I tell somebody I'm just like not comfortable with this? And it might be a little awkward for a little while.

And listen, Netra Toab is like I take advice from her like every day and buy her book, read it. It's about boundaries. Like you just, you have to learn how to draw boundaries. And if you really feel like somebody like that you set up broke up and they will not stop talking about it and you're like, I fucking love both of you, then just say that. be out. Yeah. So yeah, let's talk. Let's talk about it. I mean, I think that we're talking about this from two standpoints. Like, you want to set somebody up or you want to be set up. So I have found that,

especially in the recent years, like, I have wanted to be set up. Like, I, you know, you guys know me. Like, yeah, I will meet people in the wild when it happens. But, you know, I'm not crazy on the app. I'm not crazy about the apps either. So it feels like such a perfect thing for me. And I've just been, been like all about it. And I think that you have to let people know you're open to it. Like, no one can read your mind. Like, we're all selfish thinking about each other. You know what I mean? Like, your friends aren't sitting around thinking like, hmm, I wonder what single friends of mine I can set up. Like, you have to tell them. Like, no one's thinking about your singleness like you are, you know? Like maybe. We say it all the time. No one thinks about you. You think about

you. So I think just put it out there. Like, say you're open to it. Like I met our friend. I met her fiance. I went to their house for dinner and I'd never met him before. And I really adored him. He's like 33. I thought he was like so cool. So when I let and I, I, he was laughing a bunch of stuff I was saying. I could tell he liked me too. Well, she's also like so awesome. So of course she picked a awesome person. She found a good one in the garbage can of New York somehow. That's it. That's next week's episode. But like, I said at the end when I left, I was like, let me know if you have any single friends. Like you've got to assume that people's minds don't automatically go there. right. So just put it in their head. Like make a blanket statement to everybody you know. Like tell people you're open to being set up. And I think with guys sometimes you need to be explicit. Like, and every, you know, that guy's a casual person. I met him one night. That's a totally, that's the lowest tier of a person that I would know. Then you have like friends, friends, not best friends. You can't go as hard on them. But like your best friends. I mean, this I even have with my brother. Like you can tell them and I'm kind of speaking to like a woman having guy friends and a brother.

like you can be like, hey, I'm, I'm really serious about this. Like, do you know anybody that might be a fit for me? Like, wait, I want to go back to what you said before with, you casually mentioned it, that guy. How many times probably, it was a scenario like that happened, you meet a couple, you leave, and they're like, John's single, I bet they really like really like each other. And they never bring it up to you. Because number one, I think, like, people can think it might be insulting for them to

be like, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Because it's like, it's like, you think I need your fucking help. You know what I mean? Like, I think not everybody thinks that you will be flattered by that. Right. Or they just say and go back to their lives because everybody's lives are more important to them. You know what I mean?

It's good to remind somebody because I bet you walked out of there and like he probably said my so-and-so friend would like her and then they never think about it again. Exactly. Or maybe I walked out and they were like, she was so, not me, you know, I think I'm great, but like whoever it is. So like she was so funny, she was so great, yada yada. And they never think like you got to just you got to say it.

But I just think it's fine to put it out there. Like this is a prime way people want to be set up. This is not taboo. Like this isn't like some kink, you know? It's like if we all, who doesn't want this? So, I mean, I had a situation like, again, this was with my brother where I, he, it was, I don't need to get into all the details, but essentially he had to like put a little legwork into it.

It wasn't like a close friend of his. It was kind of a friend of a friend. It's like, no, whatever. Again, I know, I'm not trying to be vague or mysterious, but I don't need to tell the whole story. But he said it in passing and then nothing really happened. And I was like, I actually do want to meet this. I want to be set up with this guy.

So, you know, you're my brother. Can you facilitate this? And it takes, it took some text. It took some, a little work on his end that I felt comfortable asking him to do because it's my fucking brother. The same with like your best guy friend, your best girlfriend, whatever it may be. And he did it and we went out numerous times. I mean, it wasn't, you know, a love match.

But it worked out and he actually, the way we worked it out was that he came, again, this wouldn't necessarily work for everybody, but he came and met up with me and Matt and Matt's wife. And it worked out because like we had a familiarity. I'd met him one time briefly before. And we had a great night, the four of us. Like that's not always what you want to do. I don't think you necessarily want to put somebody in a double date situation.

That can definitely be awkward, but that's like kind of what we had to do given me only being in town. But I just think there's nothing wrong with telling somebody like, I'm not just joking around. I'm actually very interested in this person. Can you set it up? I think it's great. I just, I don't think anybody's going to think about you like you said as much as you think about you. Right. They're just going to have the thought and go on about their day and you bring it up and so many people are like, I did have that thought.

You know what I mean? And also, I don't think it's. It's weird to like a double date is a little formal, but like I really love the idea that like my friends have sprinkled to me and to this single guy that like I'm single and they're single. And I think you guys should like each other. I'm going to invite you guys both to a bar. Like I love a group thing where somebody has like mentioned it. It feels like less pressure. And then like if I end up hanging out with him and it's fun, great. If not like whatever. Like you can split off from the group. I don't want to like keep bringing up like Dallas business card guy. But Dallas business card guy like was brought to him. There's this short zipper king and Dallas business card guy. He asked to be called that actually. The fact that you sent a text from him to me and my mom. And it had the word fucking it. I was like, oh my God.

I mean, Cindy loves it, but. Yeah, I did. You're sending texts of you flooring with this guy to me and Cindy. I'm living for it. I did screech. I was like, it's just far. But your mom brought up that she loved it. You talked about your bush last week.

Yeah, she's, I was like, whatever. My mom is cooler than us. Dallas business card guy was brought by a friend and then to our show. And then we ended up all going out and him and I like sat in a corner and like had our own little date that night by ourselves. I mean, we sat at a table like 10 people. But I sat off to the side and it feels like it's not pressure because like then if I don't feel like talking him, I'll just turn around. Talk to other people. A hundred percent.

It feels great. To me there's kind of like three different ways to go about this. I think that there is straight up like telling somebody this happened with our agent actually. he wanted to hook me up with a friend. This was pre-COVID. He was like, he's brokering sex for you. He was totally doing it. He was like told both of us. Like I want you guys to meet. The guy texted me. And that's, I feel like that might feel a little intimidating to some people. It's so normal to us. Like I knew it was coming. And he texted me. He was like, hey, I'm, you know, so-and-so's friend. And we talked, but I was in Australia and then COVID hit. So we never, we never got together.

But like, there's that. There's the very explicit. Like, here's her number. Reach out. And they reach out. And then I love the more casual thing of, like you said, sprinkling it to both people, pitching it very casual. A guy friend of ours did this to me. And we both were at a comedy show. He had said, like, I think you might like this guy. He'd probably said it to him too. Super casual.

Set it in passing. But that gets both of our wheels turning, like me and that guy. That night was kind of crazy. He bought me a drink. We were both talking to people. You know, I'd performed. There was like, girls got to eat people. It was just kind of crazy.

But then I followed up with our. friend and said bring him to Raina's birthday and we fucked. So it worked out. Like I would say that's very successful. I didn't. We neither of someone to date each other. I don't think. Maybe he's in love with me. Who knows? But it was like the perfect thing of our friend thinking of me like Ashley's my single friend. I have one single guy friend for her. Maybe she'll like him, getting us in the same room, putting it in both of our ear. And you also don't have to do that too. Like you don't have to, some people don't want that. They think it's awkward. I don't find it awkward at all. So if you feel like you have people

that it's going to make them awkward, then just don't tell them and just introduce them at the party or whatever. Yeah, I mean, I think, like, if you don't want to feel like you're on the hook like for setting somebody up or you're the single person that's asked for this and you're on the hook for like a whole date,

then like, I think a group thing is so perfect. And like, there's just no weird shit. I mean, again, you and I like can do this all day long. I know it's not natural necessarily for everybody. But like, I would love it if somebody was like, I brought that right in front of my face. This is the hot guy. It's told you that.

I'd be like, you are hot. Cool. Let's talk. like if I don't like you, I will just casually get away from you throughout the evening. Like, who cares? Who cares? Yes, exactly. It's like a social setting. There's other people to talk to. You go get drink at the bar. You order fries, whatever. But all of us, when we are told, I want to hook you up with somebody. I want to set you up with somebody by a friend. We are going to look at the photo of that person and think that's how attractive they think that we are. So 100%. I had one of like my best friend's sisters, who's also a good friend of mine, said to me that the groom at this wedding was

trying to set her up with this guy and he like wouldn't stop pushing. And she was like, is this what you fucking think of me? Like this is the league you think I'm in. But I just want to say like, I mean, and I said this to her, we all think that our friends are the shit. We all think they're fucking cooler than maybe like the average person would think. We think they're better looking because we know them and we love them. And it's like if somebody is introducing you to their friend, all they think is you are

cool enough for my friend. And it is not like a commentary on how good looking they think you are. It just isn't. It's just like, I think you're fun, cool. I think my friend's cool. I think you guys would like enjoy each other. It doesn't mean that they think you're like ugly. It's we all think that, but they don't.

Exactly. Exactly that. However, still take a step back and look at it and be like, listen, is this girl just objectively hotter than this guy? Is this guy objectively hotter than this girl? That's when you've got to just get him in the same room, not say anything, and introduce them and see if it's better in person. Because, I mean, I had a guy friend recently who, I mean, he texted me and he was like,

would you want to go? He gave some stats. He was like, would you want to go out with this 510, 43-year-old recently divorced guy with a boat? And I go, probably not, but I'll see a photo. How big is the boat? And he sent the photo. And Raina thinks this is so funny, but I just wrote back the teeth grit emoji. I was like,

so listen, I could just tell that the guy wasn't for me. Maybe, you know, just, I don't know. It was a photo of what he looked like. Immediately, I was just, I don't feel like I want to go out with him. However, I wasn't insulted because obviously my friend thinks that guy's fucking awesome. You know what I mean? Like, he was like, he's so cool. Like, you're so cool.

Wasn't offended. Didn't take it as a personal insult to my appearance. Maybe it was. But then I went out with him for drinks, my guy friend. a couple nights later and I said, let's think about who else you know. Like, that wasn't a guy for me. I don't think, but do you have anyone else? And he was like thinking, he's saying they're racking his brain, you know, guys, you just got to walk him through this stuff. And he thought of somebody. And he like texted him right then. And then he like allegedly were supposed to be connecting.

Regardless of whether he hits me up or not, because men in New York are just the worst. It worked out in terms of like he got the guy excited. I told him, listen, this is this is controversial. I don't want him to send my Instagram to somebody. I don't want someone seeing what I do before I ever meet them, getting to get in there. I've always said this. I don't want people really knowing before I meet them in person, I'll tell them on a first date,

but before I meet them in person, I don't want them knowing that I do comedy, podcast, I don't want them going to my Instagram. So we actually looked at my Instagram together and picked a photo that he would send. Like, that was like something that I have on my hinge. It's the same type of thing. So I kind of walked him through, like, send this photo, you know,

and, you know, again, I may hear from or may not, but like it kind of took me being like, hey bud, let's think about who else do you know. You know, because you've got to, there's got to be somebody. And he was like, the light bulb went off, which if I hadn't been sitting there with him actually having drinks, he wouldn't have ever thought of that person for me. But you also said something that I was like, oh, yeah, right. Like you got to be specific. Like you got to say send this picture.

Like tell them this stuff. Here's exactly what I'm looking for. Like I think that people in relationships, especially people have been in relationships, again, like my brother, who's his wife for 10 years. They're just like, you're single. my friend's single, maybe you guys will like each other. It's two single people floating around in the world. They must be destined for each other.

You know, like, that's like saying, like, I know two Jews. They'll like each other. You know, so I think you got to be a little more specific. Like, and yeah, maybe that first guy wasn't for you, but you're like, okay, here's what I'm looking for. I had a situation sort of in the opposite where somebody sent me up with somebody and she was like, here's why I think you'd be a good fit. One of my best friends sent me up with one of her boss's best friends. And listen, it didn't work out in the long term, but it was very,

flattering. She was just like, he's super funny. He has his own business. He's like a good age. She's cute, whatever. He's like a great uncle to all the kids. And I was like super flattered that she, that her and him were both like, here's why I think you guys would like each other. Like, they felt like they had thought through this. And they were like, okay, you guys both on your own businesses. You're a good age match for each other. I did not set myself up for success on that date because he is a nice person and a decent man wanted to take me to dinner. And I should have and like, I don't want to do a dinner. Yeah.

Yeah. I don't love, like, a full-blown sit-down dinner. We went to this restaurant that is just, like, really big and crowded and busy. I feel like it personally, just for me, not every is the same. It put too much pressure on the date for me that I have to, like, get a table. There's, like, waiters back and forth, clearing the dishes, bring on the food. I'm eating in front of this person, where's place. I just, I didn't enjoy it.

That's not a knock to him. That's just personally for me. I don't enjoy it for a first date. So I did not set myself up for success. It felt like too much pressure. And I feel like if you feel a lot of pressure in these situations, go to a bar, sit at a bar that has snacks, you know? Well, two layers of pressure there.

Like pressure, you know, because these people set you up, this isn't like a stranger that you met on an app on top of the pressure of like the setting. Well, that's what I mean. Like I felt pressure to initially say yes to dinner in general because I felt like I just, I want to be really nice and he suggested to be a nice place. But yeah, the level, the extra level of like,

well, I want to treat this person well, yeah, it was a lot of pressure on me. But I was flattered at least that these two people wanted to set us up. That was very nice. But I think, I mean, to go back to what you said, it is, and this is something that we will be asked you guys for some do's and don'ts of setups. You said, like, just don't assume that two single

people are going to match. And it sometimes feels like that. You're like, that's almost how I, I don't know. I don't know why my friend that I just mentioned wanted to set me up with that guy. I feel like he knows me a little bit better. You know, like, it just felt like he was like, got a wild hair to set me up or something and just thought of like, sometimes it can feel so random.

You're like, did you even consider either? of us at all? Or are you just wanting to set someone up today? Did you just wake up and want to be a matchmaker? You know what I mean? I think that people have been out of the dating pool for so long. They just don't even think about what it's like. It's just like you're single and they're a single. You guys will like each other. It feels like an insult. It can feel like an insult. Yeah. Let's just throw these two bodies together and see if they match. And then they send you a photo and you're like, what? Like, they sent you like a LinkedIn. You're like, what? So I got set up. I was going to tell the story later, but I got set up for the

wrong reasons. A few years ago. I went on like one of the worst set-up dates. But so it was maybe like five or six years ago. I was maybe six months out from my fiance having abandoned me in our life together. So I was definitely like ready to date and it was fine. And I was in Chicago a lot for work at the time. And one of my best friends from college was like, there's this guy that went to college

with us also. You didn't know I'm in college, but you know, went to the same school. he lives there. He's so great. He's hot. He's single. He's recently single. I think you guys should go out. I looked at his photo. Gorgeous. And she's like, he actually also like ended an engagement right before the wedding. And she's like, you guys have all this in common. And I was like, please do not tell him that about me. I don't want to discuss this on the date. I'm not interested in connecting about this. It's too soon. Like I don't want to talk to him about it. My personal feelings or what he went through. Because he, well, what he told me on the date was he had cheated on her and called. off the, she had called off the wedding a week before the wedding. So anyways, before that, he, he, like, seemed really great. He was so gorgeous. He was like, I'll pick you up. He planned a date. He planned all these things. He did a good job. He was, I can't hammer this home and not so hot. He picked me up in my hotel. We drove to a yacht club in February in Chicago on the water. He proceeded to have six drinks on a Tuesday night and he was driving. He got so hammered and he ended up,

like, crying on the date about his, like, failed wedding. about his cheating. Yes, that he'd cheated on her, that she'd caught off the wedding, that he's going to go to therapy, because his family's so disappointed in him. I'm like, I cannot fucking believe I'm in this scenario. So the point is, I didn't need a trauma bond with this guy on this date. I didn't want to do it.

So we were set up for the wrong reasons. It was a horrible experience. And I don't want that. So don't think because two people have a traumatic experience. One, they want to share that. Yeah. Or two, they'll get along. I think that you can share a little,

the time of you think about this. I think it's nice to hear a little bit about somebody's dating history. So if somebody sent me up with somebody, I'd want to know, like, how long have they been single? You know? Yeah. I mean, and don't set up people that you know are rebounding. Oh, that's a good point, too. Or make it clear.

Yeah, or make it clear. Exactly. Like, don't set up somebody because you feel bad for your friend that just went through this terrible breakup. Like, unless you really don't give a shit about the person you're signing them up with, I think we can all, most of the time going after a really long term or painful breakup, like the next person's going to be a rebound. It's probably not going to work out.

So maybe he's just steer clear of that, right? I mean, that's so true. I didn't really even think about it. Like, his behavior on the date probably was so crazy because he was like hemorrhaging from what it just happened. Yeah. I think he was like months out of this also. But like, yeah, I want to know a little bit about somebody's history.

Are they capable of being in a relationship? Like, I don't know that I want to be set up with your 35-year-old friend who's never been in a relationship. And I'd like to hear about that first. Yeah, yeah, I asked that when I was sitting down with my friend and was like, you know, the story I just told it about who else do you have for me. I did ask that. So hear me out on this.

He said, because, you know, listen, we're trying to get engaged for if someone's hot or not, or if we think they're attractive. So I was kind of roasting him, but we went to another bar later. And then we had a couple of people there. A couple of these girls were there. This one girl was like really cool. She was just, she was telling me about like her and her girlfriend. And we just started talking about it. And I was roasting my friend because I'm like,

he claims that he doesn't know if his guy friends are hot or not. Like, he claims that he doesn't know. Like, he wasn't trying to be like, that's gay. I feel like guys are like that though. I don't fucking know. Right. Like very like going, well, I don't know. I don't know. Like these guys look the same to me. I'm like, oh my God. So she goes, this girl, I love this. She goes, if you were him, how would you wake up and feel about yourself? That is so funny. I mean, is it the best. She goes, if you were this guy that you want to set Ashley up with and you had his face and his body and his life, how would you feel about going out and dating girls? That would say crazy. People appear like

right now and said, lipist testing him out. That's a lot. That's a lot. That's a crazy lipist chas i love that exactly and now you know and now you know exactly how you would feel you can't say how much pussy do they get you can't say like what because honestly like some of the ugliest people you ever met in your life get a ton of pussy you know you just never know or a dick whatever never know that is so funny yes and i feel like it clicked for him he was like all right yeah that is so funny would you yeah just would you date them yeah that's another question if you were me would you date them guys were like i don't know i don't know i don't know But I just thought that was, that was really great.

So, okay, so we asked you guys on Instagram for some do's and don'ts. And some of these we've already covered. You know, we haven't talked about it. Like, don't be the middle man and the messenger. Like, I think you just like, you mentioned this to two people. You connect them. You got to be fucking out. I don't want to follow up.

I don't want to be involved. If somebody was like terrible, if I said somebody up, I don't, if they're like terrible to you, yeah, I want to hear about it. But otherwise, like, I don't really want to be involved that much. I'm not trying to be involved. and I'm also not trying to put them on a group chat. I'm like, well, you're an adult. Here's their number.

They know you're reaching out, you know. So I love that. And someone said, once you've set someone up, you're done. Don't keep checking in. Don't keep asking and nudging. Listen, if you are just so nosy and you won't be able to help yourself, don't be sending people up because you really can't be meddling and like, I think you can ask how it went.

Of course. But I think you have to kind of take a step back. I mean, it would be my impulse would be like I need to know every detail. Like I set this up. But I think just know that, you know, You can't keep going down that road and like badgering them for details. I mean, for the end of time. Listen, I love gossip.

But a couple years ago, I want to say like two years ago, a good friend of mine and one of my best friends, well, a friend of mine, one of my best friends went out on a date. I never asked a single question. I was just like, if it goes well, they'll tell me. If it doesn't, maybe they'll also, I never followed up. They didn't go out a second time. And I never had to hear about it. It was great.

Don't set them up if you've ever slept with them before. I guess it depends when you slept with the person, but like, yeah, you, yes, I agree. I don't know. If you feel like there could be any tinge of jealousy, yeah, obviously, don't set a fright up with somebody who fucked. Of course. But if you are like, there's literally absolutely no tinge of jealousy and he can fuck, like, I don't know.

I don't know that that's a hard don't. It depends on, so this guy that I was fucking in college was so, so casual. I set him up with my first roommate. in New York, and he would be over the place all the time fucking her. I woke up one morning. He was butt naked on our couch. You didn't care. What are you doing?

He was like, oh, I fucked her last night. I didn't care at all. It's so true. I was 19 when we had sex to each other. Wasn't that deep? Yes. If you have to say, I swear he's cute or in person, don't even bother. This is very funny.

I feel like there's memes that are like girls trying to find a good picture. It's awesome when you've hooked up with somebody and you're just trying to find a decent picture to send to your friends. They just guys just don't have good pictures on the internet. But yes, if you have to say that, If you find yourself saying that, walk it back and then think of when you can get them together to meet organically. Don't do this.

Don't go down this road. That is so true. If you think that somebody doesn't give good face on the internet, which is like, listen, I don't always, I'm on this photogenic because I am beautiful in person. So I deliver more in person. Well, that's, our friend that hooked that I slept with a guy after your birthday, I, first of sometimes guys, Instagrams are ridiculous. Like, had our friend sent me his Instagram, I would have been like, what is this?

mess. And I would have seen a picture of him from like 2015, you know, and like, he's hot in person. He's very hot. I can't even see that guy looking hot on the internet. Like, he's a hot in person type of guy. I'm, like, I just, I'm glad that I never even got a glimpse before in person. Hot in person. Better in personality. Like, he's hot in person. He's hot in person. I like this advice. It says don't overhype them or share too much before they meet. It's, I do a guy, like I was doing that with the guy who's more your friend who's going on a date with somebody who's more my friend. This just been a lot. I just didn't overhype it.

I was like, he's cool. I hung out with him one night. I really enjoyed it. He was fun. He seems like a nice person. I just, I'm trying to have plausible deniability if it doesn't work out between people. That's what I'm trying to have.

100%. There's a happy medium of hype. Like, don't be like, she's the funniest person you'll ever meet. Like, you can't be doing that. And then someone's expecting that on the date. Just keep it too. You're not setting. me up for success. If you tell somebody how incredibly funny I am, honestly, tell somebody I'm average.

They won't go out with you, Raina. You can't do that. Someone's like, you should go out of this guy. He's average. You can't just be like, that's the funniest person. I've been in those situations where people like, this is the funniest person you'll ever meet. And I meet them. And I'm like, do you know what funny is? However, if somebody was trying to set me up and they were like, she's fucking awesome. I'm, I am. Fucking awesome, I think, is how I want to be described. Yes. I'm not going to disappoint. I know. I will deliver. I can deliver on that promise and that alone. I mean, listen, maybe you're a bad taste.

You don't think I'm funny. I don't know. I'm still fucking awesome. Comedy subjective. Like that guy who told me, tell me a joke and I said Joe Biden, what did we write? Joe Biden won the election? Yeah.

He didn't laugh. He didn't think it was funny. Okay, so a couple dues that we haven't covered. Let's see. People said PowerPoints. This is a Jared-fried thing. PowerPoint presentations for a setup. I want to see a PowerPoint presentation.

The kids these days love PowerPoints. I want to see one that somebody would make about me. Yeah. I want to see what you're sending people about me. Yeah. I like this. Don't set your friend up with somebody you wouldn't even date yourself, which you kind of were saying before.

Like, if you woke up as this person, how would you feel? Yeah. Well, but it's also, that's asking why. I mean, I have a, I don't know, I have a super high standard of, like, somebody I think is funny, you know? It's kind of like a number one thing. So I feel like there's people out there that, like,

wouldn't hit my statement. that are like great for people who don't care that much about that. You know what I mean? I think just like anything else. I think there's things that other people care about that they wouldn't want that I would be fine with. I would identify the reason you wouldn't date them. So like I have guy friends who I would introduce to my friends and say like this is a fun,

nice person. But I probably would lead with like a grain of salt also being like he hasn't had a relationship in 10 years. I'm just going to be honest. I don't see him like settling down. If you want to like a fun night with somebody, yeah, I think you'll like you'll enjoy him, but, like, I wouldn't expect anything more. Because, like, I have my girlfriend's back.

I would never, like, lead them into a situation to be uncomfortable. I think that, like, you got to be honest a little bit. Oh, yeah. I mean, I just, sometimes, though, it's just, like, we don't have a spark. I think that he is, like, this friend we're talking about that's going on with our friend. I think he is wonderful. I don't know. It just wasn't there for us.

But that's not the reason you went date him is not because he's, like, not a nice person or whatever. He's not good looking, like, has a good job. Like, none of that. It's just like, I don't know. Just wasn't there. So maybe it'll be there for you. you, you know? Like, I have a really good guy friend. If somebody said to me, would you date him?

No, because there's no spark, but also, like, I just don't see him like settling down ever. And I'd see him go through a million girls. And that's the reason. And that's the reason. And if a friend of mine asked me, I would be honest. Right. Okay. And then make sure they're ready to be set up. Yeah. I mean, I think, obviously, ask for consent. You set people up. And I think that's it. I think everything else be pretty much covered. Should we read some of these emails? Yes. Oh, my gosh. So you guys sent so many funny dates. stories, but also just like ways things worked out. Ways to put yourself out there.

They were so great. So, um, the first one's really long. So Ashley can read it. Okay, I'll try to read. I didn't even want to do this one because it's so long, but listen, it made the cut. So, okay, so she, even the way she started, buckle up. Bitch, I don't want to. It's too long. When people send emails like this, I'm like, this isn't going to be that good.

This girl delivered. This is one of the few. This is rare. This is an exception to the rule. Look at your phone and if the email cannot fit on one screen, delete half of the email. We get it. But we, that long stories are great. And there's a bunch of detail

and you guys write these out. But, you know, just for time. You know, brevity is key. So she says, hi, Ashley and Raina, buckle the fuck up. Because I do have a story for you. Let me said the scene. I was 18, a spring chicken, my boyfriend of three years, who graduated 21 years old because he got held back three times.

That's a lot. So funny. So they broke up and she was devastated. Her best friend set, my best friend set me up with a sexy ass man who was 19 and 6 foot five. He had the whole Jersey Shore look, which I was very into at the time. Weren't we all at one point?

She gives him my number and we start texting. We decided to get together and go on a date. So he comes and picks me up at my childhood home. I need to know what kind of car. It couldn't have been good. The Saturn. It just, it was like a,

it was a Subaru. Not a Subaru. Subaru is too nice. This is a Chevy Cavalier. That's what I drove. I get like, they were hot. That's what you bought your kids.

If you like sort of afford a car for your kid, that's what you got them. Maybe now, let's get to the end of it and then we'll decide the car because it could have been a Mustang. Okay, I get in the car and he goes, I need to make a quick stop before I take you out.

We go to the local gas station, shout out to Cumberland Farms, where he proceeds to conduct a drug deal. To start a date that way. He gives the sketchy man who was definitely high and ate the weed and pills. I was a stoner back in the day, so I didn't think much of it.

When the deal was done, I turned to him and ask where we're going. I expected to tell me we're going to the movie or dinner. I was wrong. He told me he bought us Molly, like the drug, and told me we would be rolling face

at his friend's house. Instead of leaving, leaving the date, I politely declined the Molly. He goes, no worries, I'll take your half and takes all of it. I read this. He's like, don't worry, girl. I got you. Okay.

I got you. We start driving in what car? We got to know, it kicks in while we're on the highway. My life is flashing. This is scary, actually. My life is slashing before my eyes because he kept taking his hands off the wheel to touch my dress and feel my hair. Oh my God.

I'm feeling uncomfortable. We get to his friend's house, which is basically a trap house located near a beach. Doesn't sound that bad. His friend who was 24 in balding, pick a struggle. and his girlfriend were strung on on heroin when we got there. What is this story? They offered me some and I said, no, thank you. The dude gives them Molly to wake them up and they're raging in no time.

Is this real? I don't know. This is crazy. She's like, and then the cop showed up with the narcan. Like, what is going on? Listen, she was young. This is great shit happens. My dude is still touching my hair while his friend's girlfriend makes me a peanut butter

and jelly sandwich. I smoke a blunt because I'm uncomfy and I always brought my own weed at the time. So she had her own weed. his friend keeps hitting on me and tells me I have nice titties, which his girlfriend agrees and asks to touch them. I say no thank you again, just trying to be polite. My guy asks, we can go to the beach near his friend's house and I say, fuck yeah, because the bald man and his girlfriend were creeping me out.

We go to the beach and sit in the sand. At this point, the dude starts showing me pictures of his ex-girlfriend from her ballet recital that he saved from her Facebook page. He then starts to sob loudly on my shoulder, clinging to me for dear life while repeating her name over and over again. I was texting my friend the whole time that set us up and begged her to pick me up. She picks me up after the dude has been crying on my shoulder over 20 minutes. My dress was soaked with his tears. When she gets there, I bet he was all over her

because he's on Molly. He just was like touching her. When she gets there, he grabs me and shoved his tongue so deep down my throat that I gag and tells me he had a wonderful night. Since I had low self-esteem, I went on one more day with him. His whole email made the cry. It is so funny. I saw him about five years ago at a bar. He grabbed my face with both hands and kissed both my cheeks and my forehead. I hope you guys love the story and read it. Trauma is the best comedy after all. I'm coming to your San Diego show. Oh my God. She's going to be there. I'm coming here, San Diego show,

and I'm literally so excited to see you both. I'm sorry for this long-ass email. It took forever to write. She was like, I'm a bad writer. I'm kidding. I'm kidding. I took forever to write.

Love you, bad bitches. Thanks for listening. Emily, Emily, we'll see you in San Diego. Thank you for that story. Emily, you are so funny. I love you. God.

Oh, so good. I mean, who didn't have bad self-esteem when they were 19? I made all kinds of, like, terrible decisions. Okay, this next girl, we just, we love what this girl did. We cannot hype it enough. She said, hi, Ray and Ashley, I've learned that if you want your friends to set you up,

you got to make it super clear. You also have to emphasize that you aren't looking to get it set up with any random single guy just because they're single, but that's another story. All it took was three glasses of wine, a shutterfly coupon, and a little confidence, and I made myself a single gal holiday card this year. I included a good photo of me, my stats, and a poem. In the end, I really always sent it out for laughs, but I did get set up on some dates. So if you want to get it set up, make it known, embarrass yourself, do this.

thing, here are the receipts, and she sent the card in his fucking awesome. It's so cute. What a fun idea. She sent, do you want to read this poem? It's so crazy. It's the month before Christmas and all through the house, holiday cards on display, every kind of pop and spouse. All of them lined up on the mantle with care.

That's where this card goes, front and center right there. While you host, you toast, celebrate and jingle. Friends say, who's that? You'll say, that's Brian. She's single. Oh, my God. I'll read one more line. She lives in L.A.

She's 5-2 and fun size. She's super indecisive, but she bakes and has blue eyes. What is this poem? I like, you want me to finish it? Yeah. It's as simple as that, and I'm so grateful that you're helping me out. What a pal is so faithful. I really do appreciate you finding me a beau.

Dating really sucks. It's painful, you know. To be clear, I'm not lonely. I'm thriving. I'm fine. Looking for a hand to hold. A movie buddy, a partner in crime. So Merry Christmas.

Happy Hanukkah. and a happy new year. I hope this season brings you wine, cheese, and all the cheer. Raina, good job reading. He did great. Okay. I love that idea. She wrote, love brain.

Well, I thought she said her name. I said her name. I already. Resume available. A prom request is how she signed. No. That's amazing. That is so funny.

This is so fucking badass and funny. And she's just like, you want to put people's dumb kids and their pets on the mantle. Put my single card and my resume on the mantel. Oh, Brina really said pets. You hit it hard too. I said dumb kids and pets. There's a comma in between them. Okay.

So the next one I'm going to read, we have a few of these moms getting involved. So I have to say one night, Cindy Hustlite came down to the beach. I think she came down with a couple other moms. Corey's mom, the moms got separated. One mom threw up in the bay. Like it was wild. These moms were moms gone wild. We took our moms out.

It was crazy. Not one of our moms. Another mom she threw up. But Cindy, somehow we got separated. She's walking the streets, asking people if they'd seen her daughter. And somehow, I can't remember, I cannot remember how it all went down, but she like hooked Corey up with this guy. Like I remember him, his name was Jordan. He loved Corey this voicemail that night.

It was just wild. But basically, again, we were all like wasted, but my mom saw this hot guy. I don't know why she didn't hook him up with me, but she hooked him up with Corey. I can't remember if they ever went out, but it was like a mom, like, moms can like really get it because they don't give a fuck. Do you know how many times my mom's like, I'm talking to the bartender and he's single? I'm like, mom, he's a bartender in Pittsburgh. I'm not going to date him. I mean, I just date moms and grandmothers.

Yes. You had left the beach in 2020, my birthday week. It was just Louise and I were left. And we helped this woman who was living upstairs in the beach house, like she owned the bottom. You know, we were ready for her. We helped her carry your groceries up. And she starts telling me about her grandson.

And I was interested. But she, like, couldn't find that. She was like, I'll give him your number. I was like, give it to him. I don't care. She was hyping him so hard. He sounded great. That is really funny.

What if we just like ask every person we interacted with on a day-to-day basis, like at the grocery store. I know. Okay, so she says, I live in a beach town, so my setup story does begin in the summer. My mom decided she would get to know all the lifeguards in the beach, where they went to college, what they like to do for fun, their career goals, etc. For multiple summers, she kept telling me I should get to know this one lifeguard because he is handsome, can hold a conversation and his great professional aspirations.

I kept saying, thanks anyway, and I'm not interested because he would never talk to me. But if there is one thing I learned, moms do no best, wink, wink, one spring night at a bar in town, and I was out with her and a friend dancing to a band and in comes the handsome lifeguard. She literally accosted him at the door and brings him to me saying, you remember my daughter, right? I was absolutely mortified that my mom could be so bold. But to my surprise, he never left my side that night. We got to know each other in exchange numbers.

He was bold right back and asked me on a date a few days later. We have been dating for just three years now. And we live together in the same beach town. At the end, thanks, Mom. It's so sweet. I love that story. I love this story. My mom, I forgot my mom did this.

My mom sent me up with this guy who I was obsessed with in high school. I had just, like, gone through a breakup. My mom ran into him at a restaurant in Pittsburgh. He lived in New York. He was, like, visiting Pittsburgh for the weekend. This guy was, like, the most beautiful man I'd ever seen. And my mom, like, told him I was recently single and he should, like, hit me up. And he came back to New York and he did.

And then I blew him twice in one night. Thank you, Mom. I know. Well, he should thank my mom. I'm saying from him. Okay. We have two more mom ones. This is our theme for the day.

One's a little morbid, but we'll do the less morbid first. Do you want to read this one? This is another mom's setup. I'm obsessed with this. Yeah, it's shorter. You know, I want to read it. I can even read the DM if you want to do the... Yeah, thank you for the assist.

Okay. She said, my mom was listening to the local top 40 radio station during their morning talk show and heard a guest she convinced herself would be perfect for me. My age, lived in the same city, similar interests, etc. So she stalked him online, found his Twitter, and DMed him. asking if he would date her daughter. It's fucking crazy.

She did ask for my permission, but I never thought she'd ever get an answer. What kind of psycho would answer that? So I let her go for it. We actually wound up meeting up and dating for months, but didn't work out in the end, even though it didn't pan out. It gave me a truly amazing story

that I will tell maybe everyone that I ever meet. Her original DM is attached, one for proof, two, it just makes me laugh every time I see it. You guys give me life every week. I love her so much. This is so hysterical. So, okay, I'm going to read the DM.

At first, I thought someone was on the radio as in, like, date this person. It wasn't. You know what I'm saying? Radio's would do, like, search, like, single guy in Atlanta. This was just a person? This wasn't like a thing. This was just like me and you meet. Ashley.

No, like, because we got another radio one about that. That was kind of, it was great, but it was where we may. This guy was not fishing for pussy. Literally, this was like, me or you going to the radio to, like, promote our tour. And someone's mom is like, hey, I think, you know. Okay. insane. So here's the DM from the mom. Hi, Blank. Heard you on Blank radio station this morning and enjoyed hearing about your trip to Paris. I think you and my daughter should meet. She's beautiful,

fun and smart and lives in NYC and she likes wine. What a perfect DM. And then he goes, okay, so actually, we have the red, we have the red receipt on here. He read it at 6.57 p.m. And he responded at 8.12. So not too long. He only only let an hour go by. He said, while you're a great mom, I feel like I need to meet her now because this is a great move on your part. The takeaway from this episode is have your mom hook you up. This is insane. I thought it was so, it's so endearing. But also, like, what I would think if I was saying was like, this is going to be the coolest mother-in-law.

And she made a cool daughter. Like 100%. Yes, mom should be out of your doing this. Do you know how in love I was with this guy in high school and I could just never get him? And my mom ran into him and I just ended up blowing him the next weekend because of my mom. I know. I'm trying to think if my mom ever helped get me laid, too. Like, my mom was always, she's just, I think she helps me with like, when guys I'm dating

and meet her, they're like, hell yeah, that's the cool. I just want to hang out with her. That's why I'm dating you. Okay, now this one is about a mom too, but it's fucked up. Okay. So, she says, I work as a home hospice nurse. And earlier this week, I went to a patient's home to pronounce someone that had passed. Her children were there and they were lovely.

we had formed a good relationship and they were grieving appropriately. The son... Is there an inappropriate way to create? Well, yeah. I think we'll get to that. The son stepped outside to make a phone call and when he did, his sister handed me his number on a piece of paper and said, this is just me being the annoying older sister.

I felt so uncomfortable because I literally just pronounced their mother dead, not even an hour ago. And her lifeless body was in the next room over. I hate myself for laughing at this. Not even 15 feet away from us. About an hour goes by and the funeral home comes and they go to take the patient and as I'm on the way out with the funeral home and their mother's dead body, the son handed me his business card and wrote his cell phone number on the back and said

in case I wanted to keep in touch. As if I didn't already have his personal cell number in the chart, but that's besides the point. I get my car to go home and I called my best friend so I could have her stalk him online as I was driving. Turns out this man is 44 years old. I'm 26. I know everyone grieves differently,

but this was a first for me at his mother's death pronouncement. I will not be reaching out, but you better believe I told every single person in my life who would listen because you can't make this shit up, L.O.L. I've attached photos so you know this is real. And it's a photo of the dead mother. I'm kidding.

I'm kidding. We're also not laughing at the dead mother. I mean, come on. I mean, it is fucking bananas. I cannot pick my job off the floor. He handed her his business card like across his mother's dead body. He's like the game.

never sleeps. Sister. We asked for set-up stories. She sent this in because the sister. This whole family is fucked. You guys are listening. RIP to your mom, but you need help. Also, please DM us.

It's the only time I've said that in four years, I need to hear from you guys. If you guys were listening and you did this, we want to hear from me. We want to hear your side. And if your parents died, honestly. Listen, maybe it's what their mom would have wanted. Maybe their mom was like, I want you to get married over my dead body.

They were like, say no more. we took this literally. Like it was their mom's dying wish that this guy would get married. So she's just like, do whatever you got to do. This is like, she's already dead. What was I supposed to do? Life goes on. She's already dead.

Okay, we just have one final one and I just like to top this. No, let's, you know what? I don't care about it. It's not as good and I don't, I want to end on this note. Great. So that was it. Ended on death. Yeah, I want to kill this episode.

Okay. set your friends up if you are in a relationship and if you are not in a relationship, ask your friends to set you up. That's your homework for this week. Yeah, we gave you guys all the tools. And of course, you guys can get tickets to shows we still have tickets left for at Girls Gotta Eat Podcast.com.

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