Girls Gotta Eat - Is Everyone Freaky Now? with Ian Fidance

Episode Date: August 4, 2025

We have wild and hilarious comedian/podcaster Ian Fidance join us to talk about everything from butt plugs to friend fights. We open with trading some drunk Delaware stories (and how Ian is sober now), then we talk about a porn star he's dating, coming out as bisexual (and why he doesn't exactly relate to that label), misconceptions about bisexuality, and why people project their judgements on others' lifestyles. We chat about his best friendship with his podcast cohost Jordan, and he shares a story about them fighting on the streets of New York…then we share our own. We also discuss how everyone seems to be so freaky nowadays (but are they really?), and we break down an insane listener question about her fiancé going to Vegas for his bachelor party. Before Ian joins us, we're talking about why dinner dates are the worst dates (just hear us out), the animal encounters we've been having at our houses, and Ashley announces her special taping. Enjoy! Follow Ian on Instagram at @ianimal69 and listen to his podcast Bein' Ian with Jordan. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Helix: Get 20% off at https://helixsleep.com/gge. Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/gge. Shopify: Go to https://shopify.com/gge and start building your brand today. ZBiotics: Get 15% off at https://zbiotics.com/gge with code GGE. Live Conscious: Get 15% off at https://liveconscious.com with code GGE Vegamour: Get 20% off your first order at http://vegamour.com/gge with code GGE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

People hear that I'm bisexual. I sleep with men and women and trans women. And they're like, oh, he'll fuck me. And they look like slimer from the Ghostbusters. And they look like a human renaissance fair. And they're like, hey, you want to fuck me? And I'm like, good God, no. This podcast is a Dear Media production.

Hi, guys. Hi, guys. Welcome back to another episode of Girls Got to Eat. Welcome back. Why are you laughing? I don't know. What do you have to tell me? Something just came in.

Breaking news. So the Celine bag. I found out who gave it to me. Okay. So if you guys saw the snack last two weeks ago with the Labubu Gate and Raina gave me that Celine Lafoufoo. I've been, I mean, it's been killing me who gave me something from Celine and like,

did I buy something I'm not aware of? Because you know I'm on my Poshmark game and I've been selling my whole house. I just got a text message from Anushka and she said, I'm listening to the snack. I miss because I miss you guys, which I live on our friends do that. She said, I gave you the Celine bag. It was your housewarming present in it. But not from Celine.

Not from Celine. That's Celine. bag fucking put it in the girl's got to eat museum one day like this thing is this is like the sisterhood of the traveling selene bag she brought me sandwiches and a coffee table book about grease in the selene bag the mechino's book the mecanose book the mechino's book didn't bust through that selim bag she probably she carried it from the bottom double perforated it's a really strong bag okay and we have another update same same vibes as your shopping bag just is expensive That's so true.

So I am so excited to announce when and where I will be filming my special. It is all led up to this. It's like one of the biggest things I'll ever do so far in my career. This or your wedding? What's more important? Anyone can have a wedding. Anyone can have a wedding. Not everyone could have a dope wedding, but anyone can do it.

Clip it. Not everyone can have a special. No, they're equally as important. So I am going to tell you about the special in a minute. But first, I would like to announce that I have a Philly show as well. So this has been such a journey. I don't think I've ever worked so hard to get a date that fit in before the wedding because it's sex before marriage. It all has to be before November 1st. So I will be in Philly, my home city, on September 25th, Thursday. At the first, at the City Winery. I am so, so excited. Go Birds, Philly Show. So that is when I will be there. I cannot wait to see you guys. You know, I would never leave Philly off. And there are so many cities I didn't hit on this tour. I'm not obviously done touring, Minneapolis, Detroit, Vancouver, Texas, just to name a few.

I love you all. And I'll get there. But this will be the last official date outside of the special on the tour. So Philly, like I mentioned Thursday, September 25th. And the special, I'm going to film in New York on Saturday, October 11th. I just don't know what to say. It's all happening. It's really exciting. So, I mean, it's been so fun to plan the look, how it's going to feel. And, of course, like all of our friends and family and everyone will be there.

And I had to make a lot of decisions. I thought about filming it in Philly. And it's just there's different things that go into where you can do it, where there's crew costs and all these things. And I am filming it in New York. And that means a lot to me. It means a lot to us. Obviously, it's where we started the podcast. It's where I really honed my stand-up skills. And so it means a lot to film it there. It's going to be beautiful. It's going to be special. And I'm sure you guys like, where is it going to be? Where can I watch it? Just wait. Just wait. Can't say that yet.

But we're filming it. We're making it. So the tickets for both of these will be on sale August 8th, 10 a.m. local time. My site is ash-hess.com. You can get tickets there. And I'm going to post, of course, on social media. And we'll remind you again on the snack on Thursday. But save the dates in Philly and New York, set a reminder. I think these tickets hopefully will go fast. And that's the tea. Well, I'm really proud of you. And so much of our professional success for so long is tied just to each other. And, you know, we've started these businesses together and we've toured together.

But this is all yours, all on your own, all your own hard work. I mean, you did this all by yourself. And it's something to really celebrate and be proud of. Thanks. I've, like, disassociated while I talk about it so I don't like cry. It means so much to me. Yeah. It's like the most like important thing to me.

I've like worked so hard. This is the end of this journey. You're in die soon. 42. Well, I'm getting married. That's the end. There is no sex after marriage. This is the peak is the special.

And then three weeks later. And by the way, like planning a tour and a special and a wedding at the same time, I thought it was like bad bitch behavior. It's psychotic bitch behavior. I am like the always sunny meme with, the red string, just like wedding vendors and bachelorets and set designers and special, like, I felt, I feel crazy. I'm like crashing out daily.

We have a great team and we're really lucky, but that is a lot to deal with. Okay. Well, we'll see you guys there. See you guys there. Bye. No, sorry. Okay. No, you should leave that.

That's it. I was sort. Listen, it's over. You can't do a sex after marriage tour. No one has sex after marriage. That's so weird. Can you imagine? The more so fucking tour.

Bye guys. It goes over. No. Okay. So let's talk about our. partners. Thanks to Helix, get 20% off at HelixSleep.com slash GGE and BetterHelp, get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com slash gge. And Shopify, go to shopify.com slash gge and start building your brand today. And thank you to Zbiotics. Get 15% off at Zbiotics.com with code

GGE and live conscious. Get 15% off at liveconscious.com with code GGE. Okay. So we are like, are in this kind of office park. I don't know what else to call it. That sounds a little, it's office spaces. It's a campus. What the fuck is it? What is Airbnb?

It's like a shared workspace. Okay. I don't remember what it's called. We run an office and we built the studio here. We have the studio here. And there's other ones all around and a variety. There's a hairdresser next store. So the most recent tenant is the most T-Moo wolf of Wall Street shit.

Raina, I can't, it is probably the funniest thing of my life. right now. It's not me? Every, no, you alerted me to it. You were like, are you seeing what's happening next door? You didn't seem that, like, amazed. I was like, you need to, like, spend some time. These guys look like, they are fresh off the Myrtle Beach boardwalk.

100%. They're giving, like, Miami airboat driver. Like, every guy is wearing, like, those viper shades and, like, a teal airbrush t-shirt. Like, they look like parodies. With, like, geled hair and a headset. And the headsets. And they all come in and it's like a sweatshop for Wall Street. And it's just all these guys just like at these computers.

And every two minutes, a different one walks out. And he's like holding a script. And he's like, I can get you 10 shares of this today. No, listen, get your wife on the phone. I'll talk to her now. We can do this now. We can this later. But the shares will go up.

I mean, it's crazy. And as the biggest fan of Wolf of Wall Street, like I just, the whole pink slips scene where like he's selling these pink slips and that he's training these absolute idiots that have no business background. like in how that sell these pink sheets. Yeah. Penny stocks. Penny stocks.

So I have never seen this in real life. It looks like they're filming a Wolf of Wall Street parody. It looks like there is sketches being filmed in there. I did not know what I'm seeing is something that's happening in real. Like modern day world. Me either. I thought it was the 80s. It's literally.

But the way they are dressed, like you might see a collar on like a short sleeve polo shirt but there is not a suit to be found. There is not a slack to be found. They're wearing like racing teas. With that like that exercise material. Like a dry fit? Yes, like a drive. Yeah, like water is right outside the door.

He's just trying to like close a deal outside the door right now. And I got so excited because like I looked in there the first day that they moved in and I was like, look how many men are in there. And I was so excited like, I'm not to get a boyfriend to work. No. But the sheer amount of headsets, you guys, to look in and see a bunch of the. these bros with headsets. It's like jarring. I love it. It's so hilarious. I want to go in there and like give a business seminar. Do you think that they would pitch us? Hi, I'm looking to invest.

No. I can't even imagine what would happen if we just, hey guys, do you know anything about investments? We have some money to spend. I'm just a girl. I'm stupid. We have to do this. I want to. Let's film it. I'll wear a body cam. Okay. What is your latest update? All I have is that something has been pooping on my property and I don't know. I'm not being on my property. That's my latest update. Two times there has been poop. What kind of poop?

Like bird? Too small to be a dog, too big to be a squirrel. It's on the ground. It's on the ground. Oh my God. Azul has not been there. Yeah. It is really hard to get inside my gate.

Like I don't know how you would get inside of there. Like my last house, if an animal could climb inside the gate, I don't even know how an animal could get inside the gate. It has to be like a cat. I'm so glad to bring this up because I have an animal update about my property as well. Okay, great. No, that's all I have. Something is pooping on my property.

And you know me, I'm not going to pick up. up. Oh, I know. I just leave it there for the gardener because I'm afraid. I don't want to touch it. So we talk about this in the podcast, how Azul pooped outside your house. And usually I go check if he's been, I just didn't that day for whatever reason. I didn't think about it. I thought he had gone in the morning, whatever. And you were like, Azul pooped. And I was like, okay, I'll come and get it. And you go, okay. I was serious. I was like, okay. I never, Gwen got it. Spoiler alert. Raina. Okay. So the gardener got it. The gardener got it. So I have a big, nice wrap-around patio.

There's not grass to be found. There's a lot of trees and landscaping and flowers. It's gorgeous. It's what the owner did that. And then someone maintains it. But I've always seen possums. And we had a possum situation at my old house in West Hollywood. So I was like, I'm destined to have a possum as an, like, an outdoor pet.

Granted. So I've seen one or two because one's big and one's small. Always possums, so many squirrels. And I had been dying to see a raccoon because I think they are the cutest animal. What? They're all jerk. They'll bite you. They have rabies.

No, they don't. People, people, people domesticate them. Raccoos are terrifying. Oh my God. I think they're the cutest animal. They're little hands. Oh. So I have just been dying to see one.

Matt, my brother, saw, like, a family of them, like, around his house. He sent me the video. It was the cutest thing I've ever seen. Like, they were as a family. Raina, you just got to see them. A family is cute. And baby anything is cute. But then they grow up to be real raccoons.

They're always small. Ugh. Oh. You're acting like they. Turn into a bear or something. Yeah, they're terrifying. I just have to show you, because I think that you're going to turn a corner on these. I'm not going to turn a corner on rabies.

The way that the one touches its mom's back. Okay, so that's the photo. Look at that little family. And then watch it, like, touch its mom's back. Like, it's time to go. We got to go. There's humans. Watch him touch it.

Okay, it's cute. Are they cute? They're cute. So I was like, I guess we don't have raccoons. I guess we're just like a possum neighborhood. Yeah. And we saw one. I'm so happy for it.

Saturday night. You know, we're out all day. We were drinking during the day. We got home. We were like hanging on the couch, listening to music, and we, we, like,

looked outside. We saw one. And then literally three feet away from it was the possum. I'm like, we have a literal zoo. The possum is back. We have so much.

Actually had like a whole day where she was like Instagram storing this possum. We thought it was dead. And it was playing dead. Yeah. And people really dragged me for not knowing that possums

play dead. It's like the whole thing. Oh, who would know that. I guess it is like a phrase. You play possum. Get out of here. That's what people were saying. I'm a New Yorker.

I refuse to hold myself to that standard. So, I mean, now we have both. We hope the raccoon comes back. I just couldn't believe it. I'm like, these animals are just out there cohabitating. You got cats back there? So many animals back there. And they'll play in that water feature.

It's insane. It doesn't scare you. No, I don't think those. I don't, if it ran in the house, I would die. If that posseum ran in the house, I'd never recover. I don't like a rat or. Ew. Yeah, I know.

I would move out of the house. house, but I saw it. I'm not kidding. I will kill a spider with my bare hands. It doesn't bother me. You can't really live here and be terrified of spiders. They're everywhere. They're everywhere. all the time. But I don't really mind any other bugs. If there was a mouse in my house, I would move. It is terrifying to me. And I've been like, also the squirrels here. This is your LA animal report. The squirrels here are terrifying. They're not scared of anything. And they're so horny. And they'll just jump right across onto your couch. Yeah, they have no fear. They're always fucking. So anyway. That's your animal.

want to take. Okay. So we want to talk about something. I'm really excited about this. Date night. I'm excited. And the no reservations rule. So you had this revelation. I've been having this. I had said recently this one night we went out, you know, spied on your date. But my fiancee out, I went out. We went to this. It's called Not No Bar. We weren't trying to gatekeep it before. It's great. It's in Santa Monica, great drinks, great pizzas. And it's really packed. It's one of the few places where people, you know, are out. Yeah. in L.A. And we saw you, obviously, but we, like, stood at the bar. We had a pizza. We had drinks. Then we went to a bar next door. And we just kind of bounced around and the whole night was like very spontaneous. And I was like, this is like my favorite type of night out when it is more spontaneous. And then I'm just like, I don't know. I love obviously doing everything with him. I love

going out to eat with him. And we've been to a ton of restaurants. We both love food and trying new food and different cuisines and trying new hotspots. But I've kind of realized that it is my least favorite set up, I guess, is to sit across from him at a restaurant that we had a reservation for. Like, I'd love to go to the bar, have a cup of martini on a weekend night, nothing to do the next day, feel more free, maybe go somewhere afterwards, and let's see where the night takes you. But I think it's just there is a lack of spontaneity when you have a dinner reservation, you ought to be there. And it's just like, it feels a little more forced, feels a little more formal.

Like, I don't know if you ever saw this meme. It said, having a dinner reservation is so embarrassing. It's like, hi, I'm here for my spaghetti appointment. Yes. And so last week, Bungalow was doing this thing called Night Market, and it was just a bunch of food trucks, and there's a DJ.

Sometimes they have live bands, and we just went down there, and you could bring your dog, and people had their kids there and stuff, and we just bopped around. We had some empanadas to start. Then he got tacos. I got a pizza, and we just had drinks, and we stood there and chatted, and I've just been enjoying that more. But also, I mean, also Friday night

went to a very nice restaurant and had an amazing meal that we've still been talking about. So it's not that I don't like it, I just am like, I'd rather do something else and I really want to limit the amount of times we do like a dinner reservation, go out to dinner, everything is planned, have to be there at a certain time to like definitely no more than once a week. And I want it to be on the weekends. I want it to be like free and we can drink and booze if we want to and stay out. Like I guess like going to dinner on Monday or Tuesday or Wednesday, whatever, on a reservation, go to the restaurant, sit in a town, sit across from each other at a two top, have someone bring you meal and then go home because it's a school night. I'm actually. I'm I'm over it. And you guys do a date night, like, once a week, right? You're, like, pretty committed to, like, we're not going to sit at home tonight. We're going to make a plan, do a thing.

Yeah, I guess we don't have, like, anything on the calendar. But we go out, definitely, at least once a week. We cook dinner at home, which we love. I think that is, like, such a nice bonding. Like, we'll cook together. He'll cook for me. I'll cook for him. And we try new things and we find recipes on TikTok and we make them.

I like that, too. But, yeah, we do go out a decent amount. Not as much as some couples. Some couples are out every night. I just, I think it's like loaded. I think in the beginning of a relationship, everything's new and everything's exciting. So no matter where you go, it's different. You're going to learn something about the person.

You guys have been together for years at this point. So the like, let's just sit across from each other at a restaurant in our neighborhood. At a thing we could have just ordered in or something, it's not that exciting. And on a date in the beginning, I love that. I'll go anywhere because it's just fun to get to know each other. But like, if I want to go out to dinner with my long-term partner, I want more of like an experience. Like you're sitting at a sushi bar or it's like I've driven across. to like Ktown to do like Korean barbecue.

Like it's an experience rather than just like, let's drive 10 minutes down the street and sit across from each other and need a pizza. We could have done that at home. Yeah. And I'm obviously an advocate of like getting out of the house. But if that's not your journey, that's fine too. Maybe you have kids or whatever you got going on. So I understand that.

But obviously I'm a big proponent of like getting out of the house doing stuff. It's just like doing other stuff. And I just think if there's a restaurant we really want to hit or we want to do something different like you mentioned like going on a little adventure, doing that. like a taco crawl, something like that. But I think I just have this realization of like, this is not my favorite type of date night. It's just not that exciting.

And it's not like you know everything about each other. You guys meet together two and a half years. There's plenty to learn and talk about and do and there's stuff happening every day, your people in the world. But I just, I like a little bit of an extra activity. Yeah, there's something extra. And we sit down across from each other, like it's a job interview. And we talk and we observe and we talk shit.

And, you know, we met the couple next to us when we went to muse that night. and we talked with them and we had a great time. But it was also a weekend night. We went out to a bar afterwards, had drinks. Like it just felt a little more free. But I just am like, sometimes I, he and I are so close. Our relationship is so close. Obviously, I would hope so.

We're getting married. Like sometimes when I just sit down with him at a dinner, across with each other, at a table, I feel like, what are we doing here? She's not building a new experience, you know? But it's like, something about it. It's like, what are we doing? Oh, word this day I'm staying across from you. Like, we're always like on each other.

We're really affectionate and like, love you. You want to be like on top of each other. I like, I'd prefer to sit at the bar unless it's like a special occasion. And then maybe I want to sit at the table, but I don't know. I'm with you. I'm with you. And I think people do like feel this way. I read some article about some couple and they said they don't do dinner dates at all.

And I could not find this for life in me. I read it months ago. I thought I'd saved it somewhere and it was just like we don't like that for us. We don't like that. We don't do that. Yeah. We don't do that. Well, we asked our audience, we looked online because we were just curious, like, what are people doing?

And I really, I also, like, want to keep in mind that people don't have, like, an endless amount of money to just go on dates every single week. Right. And a lot of people suggested free stuff. I mean, stuff that came up over and over hiking, yuck. But just, hiking. A lot of people say going to the grocery store together. Go to the grocery stores. They just like going to Costco or the grocery store.

And, like, what I would add into that is, like, any type of cooking challenge. So if you guys can do, like, an appetizer competition where you, like, each do an appetizer or a chopped challenge. like pick like ingredients for each other like four or five ingredients and they have to make a dish out of it. I love that. Like anything you can come home and make together. I mean, cooking I just think is like so fun to do together. Another thing I really like is like if you go out to a restaurant and you're like, okay, if you have a dish and you're like, this is fine, like figure out how to make it at home

or call the restaurant and ask for the recipe and make it home together. Like anything where you can like recreate an experience or memory, maybe you guys like had a dish on a vacation that you like really loved. Like call the restaurant, get the recipe and like make it together. I think that's really fun. Anything to do with like cooking. A lot of grocery shoppers here though. But even making cocktails. So we'll do like margarita night. We'll make cocktails. We have some like nice tequila. Most of them been like gifted to us. You know, we have these nice margarita glasses, like stuff like that. Just something to like look forward to. Like I am so huge on not getting

in a rut. And ruts happen and relationships ebb and flow. But I just don't ever want to be in a relationship where we do the same thing. We get home at the same time every day. We do this for dinner, we watch TV. Like, I just don't, that's just not how I want to live. And I've been loving, obviously, going out with our friends. We've been doing trivia. Trivia. Trivia nights. Trivia nights are so fun. Trivia nights, just the two of you is fine, but it's not my preference because you don't have enough information to win. You need, like, a team. I got two answers in me, Max. Exactly. So we've been going, we'll go with like eight people and go to Trivia Night and Venice. It's really fun. I mean, obviously, I love to walk with him on the beach, with the Zool, but I think I've just been finding other ways to

eat that's not across of each other at a restaurant. I mean, you know me. I love a food adventure. Okay, so I have three different lists that you can keep that you guys can share on your notes app and just like keep a running list. So the first is I would make like a shared bucket list. Yes.

Of just stuff you guys want to do and just like put some stuff in a hat, pick it out. Yes. There's also just like dice you can buy on. Oh, I love that. On like Amazon. Matt and Steph, my brother and his wife used to have these popsicle sticks and they would have the name of all the restaurants in Roebuth and Dewey. And then they would pick out if they would.

we're going to go out to dinner. And then you can't argue. A lot of couples argue about where are we going to eat. Hot take. I do. I mean, I am part of the problem. I am part of the epidemic that is I'll do anything and then I say no to everything. So that's my first list, shared bucket list. My second list is a shared list of road trips within like 90 minutes-ish of where you are. Like, date night any further than that. I don't think it's like all that fun. Maybe an hour. But like I think a shared road trip list. And then something I always keep on my phone is just like a running list of things I want to be a tourist at in my city. So like we were talking. We were talking. about LACMA, which is like the LA County Museum of Art, and they have, what is it? Friday Jazz. Friday Jazz. Friday Jazz. Outdoor movies. I mean, there's a master list on timeout, at least in LA, I'm sure in other cities, too, of all the outdoor movies. There's movies in the cemetery, movies on rooftops, movies everywhere outside. So be like a tourist. I mean, L.A. and New York are so good for that, because there's just a thousand neighborhoods and there's so many different food adventures you can go on. So I always have, like, food adventures I want to do, like Thai Town or Korea Town or Taco Crawl, like you said. Anything where I feel like,

we've had a new experience together. And I know that's really tough with kids. I totally understand that. You can't just be like all willy-nilly with children. But like you weren't having kids. I'm not having kids. So like what else are we going to do besides experiences and adventures? But I think, I mean, again, you know your partner's schedule and life and preferences.

But if you've been together a while, years, however long, I like that just one night you hadn't planned to go out. Let's go out tonight, babe. Let's go out. Let's hit the town. Let's grab a drink somewhere. Let's grab a bite. It's sexy. Make a roadie.

I love it. I love a drunk walk. Do a drinks walk. Just add something spicy to your nighttime walk. You and I both take like an hour long walk every afternoon, every night. And like, just bring drinks and bring them along. Yeah. Take shrooms and do it.

I want a shroom walk. Go to the sphere. See Backstreet Boys. Yeah. Okay. So we asked you guys for your date ideas. And it's so funny because comedy shows is like number one. And I love comedy, but like I don't go to like the comedy club and buy tickets and go.

Yeah, exactly. So he has come with me to shows and we'll have like a really fun night. When I was in the comedy store, we went there. Then that's when we went to the Benjamin afterwards, like amazing day night. We found great street parking. It was the whole thing. But like I do recommend comedy shows, but like it's weird when you're comedian. No, you can't.

He goes to comedy shows. He goes so much. He sits in the green room and he drives me there and he drives me home. Can I tell you something that came up quite a bit? I read it once and I was like, I'm not going to write this down. It's weird. Legos. Do Legos together. Okay.

Came up a lot. You're building something together. They would do that on The Bachelor and be like, we really built something together. These are the building blocks of life. Okay, Rayna, the second one, I've just seen some of these for the first time. Open houses. So I went on a date that was so fun. It was like a late Sunday afternoon date and we were walking around Venice and we saw an open house sign and we were like, why don't we go?

It's the first date. And we like pretended we were a couple. And like walked around and we were like, ah, this is like, we're really looking to spend a little bit more. It's maybe a little small for us. Like, it was really fun. Yeah. role play and then we like went got drinks it was just like really fun role play home buyers get tattoos

you've done that i have yeah salt hank well that's kind of the same as him coming to my comedy shows i've gone with him to get a tattoo i just sat there and watched one day he'll get you yeah boozy walks obviously breweries i've that's obviously something that we do is a couple like so much and that's a Saturday Sunday thing. But we've done like downtown LA. I've taken them when we were dating long distance. I'd play in this whole league brewery crawl. We went to like three different breweries.

Sunset at the beach. We love that. Again, trivia, sporting events. Driving range came up a lot too. And I never would think of it because I don't even have how to hold. What is it a golf club? It's a club, golf club. But I think that sounds fun.

I could do that. Arcade. So this is on my list. And I told him that. And he was like, what are you taking me to Dave and Busters? And I was like, I would go to Dave and Busters. I would. I want to play like ski ball. I want to sit in like the race car game. Eat cheese sticks. Yeah, it's 100%. There's a place that used to be in New York City called

Arcade Bar and I have had the best dates there. 100%. Someone said Friday nights we have five bottles of wine and watch Disney movies. I was like how many you guys are there? Five. Browse a bookstore, which is fun. A lot of bookstores came up. Okay. And then pottery and ceramics. I feel like this is like way more accessible, you know, I think 10 years ago, would have been like, how the fuck am I going to find a pottery class? I got to sign up. But now you just walk into, um, Color me mine. Now it's, I've been doing that since I was kid.

Really? Oh yeah. I used to go to Color Mine with a little kid. Oh, I didn't know that. I mean, I grew up in like, I didn't grow up in this big city. Like we'd go to like sign up at like the Dover Art Gallery and you go to pottery. That's really cute. Yeah, you can go to like one of these pottery places.

Paint and sip night. Oh, we have friends that do that, that just did that. I think that's really cute. Also, my brother and sister-in-law, they live across you from like a little park and they go up dinner in the park all the time. They just take a little picnic and I think that's like so cute. Yeah, do a picnic. A hundred percent.

Just like a different vibe, you know. Puzzle night, build a blanket for it, watch a movie, read a book aloud together. What kind of book? Home karaoke or dance party. We'd had some drinks Saturday and we like laid on the couch and just played music and he was like that was one of my like favorite nights. But you have karaoke at your house. I know.

I have a karaoke machine. Botanical gardens. I love that. Skano Gardens in L.A. and also the Huntington Library. Honey and Library. Unbelievable. Yeah. We did that. It was like so, so gorgeous. Great photos, too. Get them to take pictures of you. Braini, you put these in such the funniest buckets. Growth and learning focus dates.

Learn a new language together. Take an online course or watch a documentary. Try meditation or mindfulness together. Plan future travel or dream life goals. Budgeting or vision board night. Not a vision board night with your board. You don't think budgeting is worse? Budgeting. You know what really gets me horny. It doesn't really suck a dick of the budget. then write short stories or poems for each other. I like these two. There's relationship building dates.

I love Rainis categories. You can do a relationship quiz. Those are great ideas, too. Like the questions to ask. You can just Google this. 20 years. 20 questions to fall in love. You can also chat GPT that.

And I love volunteering. I was wondering what you thought about that. Especially a local, like, shelter. We volunteering was one of our first dates. We went and did like a God's love we deliver. Yeah, we did the food. Yeah, meals for terminally ill patients, which is. Great.

Clean up a beach or a park. We've talked about that before. So I just love these. But yeah, I mean, and my, obviously my stance is like, don't eat meals together. It's just like, I don't know, mix it up. Mix it up. So timeout is my favorite thing for this. Timeout in New York, L.A.

They have locations literally everywhere. So just go online. And I Googled like, how do I find stuff happening in my city? I was like, Eventbrite and Meetup and Facebook groups at Canber in L.A. It's like our favorite. Timeout is really the premiere to me of like what's up in my city this week. Yeah. And hopefully you have a partner.

that's down for this. You know, like I'm obviously coming from a place of someone who's down to try new things and those are people you've dated as well. And so I hope that no one's listening to this and like, oh, my partner like won't do that. That would suck. How do you go about the division of planning? I think this can be specific to the relationship.

And I feel like more and more I obviously want my fiance to plan stuff for us and he does. But I do really like to make the plan. because you know I want to do what I want to do. Yeah. It's hard because I'm exactly the same. It's like I know that I will plan the best stuff. We will have the best. And no one plans better stuff than me.

I plan half your stuff. Right. You and your fiance collaborate on these dates for you. It's so fun for me. Yeah. I can't plan my own days. I love to like plan a thing, but I want to feel like someone else has put in some effort for me.

Yes. And also like it's about the balance and the relationship overall and what he does for me, you know, for lack of a better word and plans for us and does for us, I guess. and for Azul and for our house and whatever. Like our quote unquote division of labor, it feels very equal. Maybe a little offside. He does more. But so I probably plan more.

And I wanted to be like that. And he is down for whatever I love that about him. And yes, like he really takes like birthdays and anniversaries seriously in special occasions. And he came to you and where he took me on my birthday like during the day. Oh my God. He took me this pancake diner in Manhattan Beach. I was like eating in Panquet. pancakes looking at the water. I was like, who picked this? Pankakes on the beach?

Pancakes by the beach. Did Rayna find this for you? Me. But I mean, I bought a hat. Not that I have to be like in his defense, but you've, you and I've lived here for years and he just moved here. So like, why would he know any of this stuff? He gets points for asking you. Well, one time he didn't ask and then you and I had to have a discussion with him. We're like, always ask Raina. Please don't be out here, like, plenty of your own stuff. You don't know all I like I do. We had to have a discussion with him. But then we did have a discussion with him. But then we did have a discussion. I have one L, and that was your anniversary.

And not only did he ask me, I like asked Jackie Anushka. We had a cumulative answer from everybody. It was no good. It was in a restaurant that was so expensive. It was shocking for what it was. For the atmosphere, it was not bougie. For the prices of the wine and the champagne, it had a whole thing. We put the bill on the refrigerator.

No. We make fun of that bill. We couldn't believe it. It was over $400 for the two of us to have a, I don't want to say mid. It was fine, but we did not eat a lot. We did not drink a lot. And we compare every meal to that because we went to Muse in Santa Monica, which is also pricey.

It is stunning. It is perfect. No notes. The food is unbelievable. And it still didn't even come close. Honestly, I created a core memory for you. You're welcome. It is on the fridge.

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New York City. He is a very funny comedian. He is the co-host of being Ian with Jordan. Please welcome to the show, Ian Finance. Hi, everybody. Thank you so much for having me. He's from Delaware. From Delaware. Dirty Delaware doozy, 302 through and through. I know. Do you still have a 302? Yes. Okay. I'll never lose it. You are the first guest that has a pack of Marlboro Reds just out on the table and I love it. I love the vibe. I always have it with me. Wait, I have that too. I have the Marlboro Reds little charm on a charm. I mean, that's pretty for a lot, made it for me. Look at you guys smoking buddies. I know.

Did you start smoking in Delaware? Of course. In like middle school. Was that the vibe? It's a Delaware baptism. You dunk in the water and then they put a smoke in your mouth. It's a thing? A lot of people smoke in Delaware?

If you're trash. Well, where did you grow up again? In Wilmington, behind the shopping center off 202. Okay. So there's no way I wasn't smoking in the little wooded area between the neighborhood and the shops. Wilmington, wow. And where'd you grow up? In Smyrna.

Really? Yeah. Dude, the last Mother's Day dinner we had when my dad was alive is at the Smyrna Restop. Because that's the only place we could. No. Smyrna Diner. On a park bench. Oh, okay.

At the restop. Are you kidding me? Literally. Yeah. At the rest stop. No, it's a good restop. It's kind of got a park. Yeah.

I know the one. I've been telling Ashley, she never takes me out in Smyrna when I'm there. You gotta go. We don't like go downtown in Smyrna. Now my parents technically live in Dover. Is Kent counting or? Sussex. Kent, not slow or lower.

Okay, I got kicked out of Sussex. The whole county. The whole county, yeah. What? Shut up. Yeah, because I got, I got kicked out of the bottle and cork for criminal trespassing. And then there was like a cover band I hated and I was trying to impress this girl. I was like, these guys suck.

She's like, yeah, they're terrible. And I go, I should throw a beer at him. She was like, you should. So I like, he was like, yeah, yeah. And I threw it, it exploded on his chest. He was like, who did that? And everybody cartoonishly pointed at me. And she did too.

I was like, but I thought you loved me. Yeah. And then they threw me out like a cartoon on the ground. And I was like, come on, friends, let's go.

They're like, no, you're on your own. Wait, I have a question. Because I know you're sober. Were you drinking then? No,

I was sober. You were sober throwing a beer with somebody. No, it was wasted. I was a mess. I was wasted. I was in and I used to hitchhike

from Dewey to fucking Lewis. Okay. That's fucked up though. Like you were just trying to get pussy. And then I got kicked out. I went to a bar. Got too drunk. I kicked out there, left my credit card, went back, snuck into the bar, got kicked out, got arrested.

I was the problem. Right. And then I'm in rehab like two or three years later on the pay phone. And my buddy's like, yeah, Steve punched a cop. They got him out of jail. We're all rallying for him. I'm like, oh, but I get kicked out of the bottle of corking. For one beer bottle.

Yeah, so then when I went down to court and I was how I got drunk on the way down driving. And the judge could smell it on me. He was like, look, you're obviously something's going. on don't come back to this county for a year. You got banned from the county. I got banned from the county. But you didn't go to jail. No. Great. I got kicked out with ball and cork just for being drunk, kind of falling asleep at the bar. This was the night I went out with all the guys, no, not one girl to keep track of me. We were drinking gin. I'm like, falling asleep at the bar. They kicked me out. I didn't know where I was. I lived across the street. I lived on Dagsworthy.

I was just going to say Dagsworthy. Couldn't make it home. That's when I woke up in a bush. So I woke up in a bush probably, I don't know, six, seven hours later, covered in blood. my own puke. Your blood or someone else's? Probably I think I busted my lip and I fell and I ended up kind of like in the in this bush back alley and the first thing I thought was like oh my God, where's my fake ID? And like that was my first thought and I had lost it and then someone returned it to me

and that was like all I cared about in that moment was like my fake ID. This was somewhere I was like 19. I hitchhiked from Dewey to Lewis and then like this guy to again. station stopped off and was like we were like drinking out of a gatoray bottle and I was like you know I mean I don't want to be with a drinking driver I'm just going to pass out in front of the Brooks brother so if something happens I'm on camera and I'm like covered in blood I just got in a fight kicked out of a house I loved it and can want up me all day with these stories so you're sober now yeah I'm sober now things are great just celebrating 10 years sober inshahua congratulations that's amazing thank you yeah

how yeah okay but that's not what got you sober. Are you still drank for a few more years? Oh, please. Oh, yeah. No, that was just fuel for the fire. Tell us your rock bottom. No, I'm getting. We don't want to turn it into that.

No, I wish. But I'll say, did you know you can bleed out of one nostril and snort coke out of the other? It's a fun party trick. You know, you can black out in your apartment and wake up naked in a bar with someone else snorting coke off a metro car. Isn't that crazy? Is that crazy? I didn't know you could do that.

Okay. We love having you here. Thank you. We don't know where today is going to take us. Let's go wherever we go. No, we're going to go on an adventure. You watched me get cock blocked, and it was very funny because you were sober watching it. Yes.

So you had a show, Ashley, in December at the stand. It was the night of the Christmas party. Oh, yeah. And I was, like, talking to some guy, and then this girl approached me. She just thrust a phone at him and asked him to take a picture of us, looked at it. She's like, I don't like it. Hands it back to him. To Ian?

No, Ian was just watching. Okay. And hands it back to him again. And she's like, I makes him take three photos. And she's like, I don't like it. He just walks away. And Ian texted me, did you get fucked by that guy? I was like, girl cock blocked me.

I don't realize that's what happened. Yes, that's what that guy did. He bought me a drink. He came over. He was like so cute. Let me tell you. If that is what it takes for him to walk away, you don't want that. Exactly.

You want someone who's willing to put their heels in the ground, deal with whatever, laugh about it when she goes away. That guy was weak and you deserve better. 100%. I blamed me. I was like, maybe I didn't look hot enough that night. But I did look hot that night. I will agree.

You could have done better. But I do think you, you know. Wait, you're flirting with me that whole night. Get out of here, Ian. I know. I got cock block by the cock block. So wait, you were talking to a guy and like a fan kind of did this? And he bolted.

Like he, yes. Okay. She was more of an industrial fan. So she wasn't actually one of our fans. She is a friend of a friend and I had never met her. And she was at the stand. I actually really do like her. She was just very drunk.

But I never met her before. And she kept making this guy. photos and he was really cute so I got cock blocked all right well yeah and then anne swooped in I don't remember him being cute I remember him being like bearded and like well and what's your type of guy like what are you into for the audience like you know we know you're very fluid and but like yeah but that was my type he's like I don't remember that guy being cute he was like bearded he was also bald that's what I'm into oh you're like beard bald tattoos yeah yeah interesting yeah you've a lot of tattoos I'm into that too that's great

Okay. Shout out R&D tattoos, Ridgewood Queens. I'm sorry got all my work done. All of it? I mean, it's very cohesive. Like 95% yeah. Yeah, it's a specific style, American tradition. Yeah.

Well, I think that's great to go to the same person if you want to look. It's the same shop and they all tattoo in the same style. Yeah, yeah, looks great. Okay, so back to you, what is your type? Are you dating? What's your type? Wouldn't you like to know? Can you tell them about to talk about dating men?

So my mom is suddenly like really. Well, you just said you had a woman the other night in a butt plug situation. Yeah. I'm just like, what's going on? Yes. Yeah, she put it in. It was like hot earlier in the day, and I made a comment, like, you should wear it during my show, and then we'll play with it later, and I totally forgot.

And then by the end of the show, I'm like exhausted. We're just like eating food in a hotel room. And she's like, can I please take this out? It really hurts. I was like, take water. What are you talking? She's like, I have the butt plug it. And I was like, oh, lady, I forgot.

Oh, my God. Get it out of here. I'm so impressed by her because I would have lied. I would have lied and said it was in me all day. and like right before you like got back with me, I would have slipped it back in. She just wore it all day. Oh, I see.

That's smart. Yeah, I'm not gonna. She really likes you, Ian. A little bit trickery, you know. Well, we had like hooked up way in the past. She sounds, yeah, she likes you. Sweet girl, sweet gal. Yeah, she's a pleaser.

Yeah. Yeah. And then we were having sex like side by side. And I didn't know, but I guess a butt plug help because I fucked her in the ass. And I was like, our vagina is tight. And it turned out to be the butt. And I was like, well, Wait, what do you mean?

She took it out of her butt and then you would butt sex. Later in the night. But the butt plug worked with like stretching it out? I guess. I don't know. But that's what you do. Well, yeah. But I mean, it's certain.

Well, I mean, the butt holes in muscle. Yeah. And it expands and contracts. Oh, thank you. And I was dating the porn star and she would only do anal on camera but save the pussy for love. Okay. Isn't that nice? Yeah.

That's romantic. So did you get in the pose? Oh, yeah. Okay, got it. You guys were in love. Yeah, in the butt. This is deep love. But only with the camera's on.

Are you still dating? Well, we met up last night. I kind of laid it on the line of like, look, like, I do want to date you and be monogamous. But this is what I need. I would need you to be on the road with me because she lives out here. I live in New York. And I'm like, I would need you to be on the road with me and like see each other more than like, well, see you in three months. I just talk on the phone.

I can't do that. It's not sustainable. I'm all in or fucking nothing. And I haven't dated anyone in three or, four years, I think. Okay. So it's like a TV continued? Yeah.

Well, we talked last night and she was like, I have to digest this. And then I'm picking her up after this. And I guess we'll talk. But she's very like, I don't know. I just know I can't expect an outcome. I just have to accept whatever it is yes or no. Yeah. And then take that.

Have you had a long-distance relationship before? I have. They're horrible. Okay. But even living with someone is long-distance because I'm on the road every weekend. Sure. And I don't want to put up with the being on the road. and hearing, I miss you, I wish you were here.

And I'm like, me, too. It's like, I feel so impotent. Yeah. And it's like, no, we'll just be here. Let's go. Right. That's a good point. You're not anchored to a place 365 days a year.

Totally. I live out of suitcase, right? You know? Okay. All right. Well, good luck. In New York are my cats and my podcast and my best friend. Other than that, it's like.

Is then your best friend, Jordan? Well, her and Davidel is my dad. Oh, okay. That's your best thing. Yeah, yeah. We talk all the time. Your podcast is so great. But it's relatively new, right?

Yeah, it's like two years. A couple years old. And did you have plans for it? Did you anticipate to be a big success? I mean, it's not seven or eight years ago. Like, it's harder to blow up. And it's just that you guys are so funny and different. Oh, thanks.

And like, what's it felt like to you? I don't know. It's weird, because I've been in such feasts or famine for so long. I'm just like, yeah, I'm nothing. It sucks. And then it's like, all this stuff's happening. And I'm like, what is this a prank? What is it happening?

It's just so different. We have so much fun. Like that's the thing. We are like two mental patients locked in a psych ward disguised as a basement. It's the best thing I've ever seen. There's no one else like it to. But you can't fake it, you know? Like no amount of expertise.

Like it's just you have it with somebody or you don't. Yeah. Our chemistry is like off the charts. We really love each other. And like I've never cared for love to anyone like I have Jordan, you know. Yeah. That's how Ashley and I feel about each other. Yeah.

It's nice. Never and anyone else. But you can, like, feel it. You guys are even, you guys, like, you are touchy. Yeah. We don't touch. Oh, okay. But you love me so much.

Of course. Yeah. No, so total. Did you know that if you hug for longer than 30 seconds, it releases something? Really? Like serotonin and dopamine? No, no, no. Yeah, like seroton.

Oxytocin. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. It's nice. So I've been hugging people and counting for 30 seconds. Oh my gosh. I'm like, can I opt out? You're not going to do it today, right?

Not us. Ian, I feel like I want to watch you hug people for 30 seconds and just make them stand there. Tons of people outside. Let's turn the cameras right. Let's go. Can we just do this? Blog this? We've been vlogging? We're having lunch out there. I want that food. Thank you. That was very nice. I appreciate it. You're welcome. I love it. We're pretty picky. Oh, cool. I mean, I don't want to say we're tough critics. We've just been doing this a long time and there's a lot of sameness. And of course, if you told me Ian and Jordan are starting a podcast, I'm like, that's going to be dope and different and funny. But like, you just don't see things that are surprising and different

anymore. It's tougher. Well, we also don't bank anything. So everything is like fresh and like I'll record without her, she'll record without me. Okay. It is so authentic to the point that we'll be like, I hate you. Lee. Like we've gotten, we're so, dude, she has helped

me with my communication and my understanding and my whole general like view and demeanor with things of how I have to accept things or else she's going to make me drive my head through a wall. Yeah. And we no longer fight. Like we communicate in such a great way.

Like, I really think, like, personally, we've helped each other, like, grow a lot. Yeah. Which is such a great byproduct of something. We're just, like, having fun. But, like, we got in a huge throwdown fight outside my apartment. We're on the streets screaming. Like, she's got her, like, motorcycle lock.

I got my bike lock. Your fucking asshole, fuck you. Get the fuck away from me screaming at each other. We both come from, like, violent, toxic, tragic childhoods. Yeah, sure, sure. So we've really had to work on that to, like, make us work, you know. and I got a DM from someone that was like, hey, I walked by and I wanted to say hi,

but I just wanted to let you know, I'm also mentally ill, and it's really nice to see you guys. It's the all show for me, actually. Did you have to say that? I felt safe. We got in one street fight, and it wasn't that bad,

and there were no props, but like it was in front of MLM. Oh, I thought your time at the time in the elevator when you refused to get in there with me, so screaming through that long ago. You barely remember that. Rita was wasted. The same fight we've had for years over this one particular guy.

No, we left MLM and we yelled at each other on the street and then went separate ways. And like, I just, God, I wish someone would have messaged. Like, I'm a fan. I know. Oh, dude, we got in a fight at this laundry shop up the street for me. And she fucking stormed off and, like, took her shirt off because she was so heated. And she's walking around my neighborhood in a sports bra. And then we just see her coming up the street.

And she's like, I got lost and I don't know how to get to your house. That's perfect. But I think a sign of, especially, I don't know if you can relate, I think it's like a very much East Coast thing. Like being from Delaware and like Philly, like you fight who you love. And a sign of how much you love each other is that you can come back and be all right. Totally. I also grew up with my mom being like, if you don't love each other, you don't fight.

We fight and hit and yell because we love each other. So that's in my head of like, this is what love is. Well, it would be crazy if somebody that you didn't love could bring you to that point. Like no one can really take me to that level unless I deeply care about them. They know me a way that they can just kind of jab at me. Like I can't imagine like at this age letting somebody. But it's also such a gift when you know that

and then you know how to bring the other person down. You know like when you can wind them up but also know how to calm them down. Or when someone gets wound up, you know them and love them enough and they know you enough to where you trust each other so that you can recognize the triggers and go, hey, it's not this.

I think it's just this. Let's take a breath. And like we've got. gotten really good at doing that for each other, which is really nice. Totally. And even just, not that this is specific to the East Coast, but it's certainly different than like the South, for example, where people are willing to say the thing.

And you always know where you stand with me. Like, if something is bothering me, I say it. Like, I think some people are way less confrontational, want to people please and never want to get loud. I always, I would much rather have a confrontation and get to the other side than some sort of resentment that trickles out later. Totally. You know, and I think confrontation is good as long as it's done with, like, love.

Yeah. I try to not say things that I can't ever take back. And I rarely have a conversation with somebody that does not improve our relationship. Right. You're talking about this yesterday. Yeah. Like, I just don't say stuff that's, like, really below the belt. No, no.

You shouldn't. And you don't. I have. But it's, I mean, everybody has. Yeah. But being in this relationship with Raina has absolutely helped me in my romantic relationships and my dating. Yeah.

I mean, like, to run a business together and make decisions together. and compromise on things. I mean, it's just been... Well, it's a testament to your guys' friendship that you've been doing it for so long and you guys are still so amped and, like, so fun and, like, great together because that doesn't...

I mean, these things that we do breaks up friendships, you know? And so that's, like, cool. And you guys are very lucky for that. Thanks. Thanks. So we're just going to take a quick break and thanks for our partners and then we'll get right back into it with Ian.

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with a diverse variety of expertise. Talk it out with BetterHelp. Our listeners get 10% off their first month at betterhelp.com slash GGE. That's BetterHelp, H-E-L-P.com slash G-G. Okay. Okay, so you've dated men and women. Yes, yes, yes. Let's talk about it, like for your whole life?

No. Okay. I secretly did things with men, and then I didn't start being honest about it until I was like 30. Oh, really? Okay. Did comedy help you, like, come out of your shell and talk about it on stage? Oh, totally. I was talking about it in therapy and in my personal life in tandem with talking about it on stage.

And that was something I thought I would take to my grave. Like, I thought no one was ever going to know this. And do you remember the pole shooting? I was in Orlando. Yes. I was in a gay bar that night alone. And I went to Veselka afterwards and all this stuff was coming in the news. I just started crying.

I was like, dude, I got to be honest about who I am because I don't want to get killed in a hate crime. And then people would be like, why are you in a gay bar alone? And then a couple people would be like, I know. I got a feeling why. So you were still like in the closet at that time? Yeah, but I was like going and like meeting up with guys and cruising in the city and like crazy shit was happening, but nobody knew.

Got it. And then I came out about that when I was like 30, but I started doing jokes about it on stage and I had to get like sharp elbows about it because a lot of comics would say like slick shit or people in the crowd would say shit and I'd have to like, I've had to grip a couple people up and just be like, don't ever fucking talk to me.

Good, yeah, go filling on them. It's, I don't know, it's maybe I started talking about it publicly too early because all these things are too new, you know, but I in stand-up for me, I'd find funny in truth and I wasn't being true on stage. I was just not being who I really was. And so in order to be a great comic, I want to live truthfully on stage. In order to live truthfully on stage, I have to live truthfully off-stage. And so I was kind of doing these things at the same time. And then I didn't date date a guy until like recently. Oh, yeah? Yeah, because I was still like trepidious about it, you know.

I want to give you credit because you, I mean, we only met you, but I post that. And my only experience of you is that you speak about these things with just ease. It's with you feel comfortable in your skin. That's all I ever know of you. Oh, I appreciate that. Thanks. Yeah, I feel more comfortable with who I am now more than like ever, which is great.

But, you know, it was like, when I told my mom, she was like, she cried. She was like, I always knew there was like a deep sadness inside you. And it's so funny because I don't even know if I like the term, bisexual, you know, because it's become so polarized and people are like, when you're actually pan and that discludes this and blah, blah, bah, bah. I'm like, shut the fuck up. I guess, like, I'm almost like embracing the idea

of, like, I'll wear a dress on stage. We've seen it. And be like, oh, yeah, that's right. Yeah, at the comedy store. I'm like, no, fuck you. I'm just a fucking dude in a dress, suck my dick. I don't have to be a certain thing, you know, especially, like, being open about dating trans women.

Like, I've gotten so much hate from that from, like, stupid dudes who are, like, you know that woman has a dick. And I'm like, why do you think I'm with her? And then from like the trans community who's like, you're fetishized to us. It's like, I'm openly getting slings and arrows for being like, love who you love, be with this person.

And it's never, nothing is ever enough. Nothing is ever enough. You can't please everybody. No. So all you can do is please yourself, live true to who you are, and know that you are honestly living the best you can live and the best you can live is being kind to others and trying not to hurt anyone.

and fuck all the noise because I get a fucking lot of it. And I don't know. So I guess I'm like embracing more like being just like, yeah, you want to call me something? I'm fucking queer. Who gives a fuck? Yeah. Someone posted that recently, someone I'm close with.

And she just said like when I came out, lesbian didn't feel right to me. Like you're trying to find the label. Not that you have to, but she also said that. She was like, I'm just queer. And that's what it is. Well, it's strange because when you're like bisexual and you come out to people, You're not like, hey, I'm gay, and I'm now going to be living a gay lifestyle. A lot of short shorts, a lot of Madonna.

A lot of parade. A lot of glitter and parades. Okay. But you're like, I'm gay. I'm going to be with a man, and I'm probably going to marry a man. And this is my life. And people are good for you. But when you're like, oh, I'm bisexual, I just seem to let you know.

No matter what, I'm going to come. Now, let's go get dinner, mom. You know, it's like, why am I even telling it? Like, what? It's this big thing, you know? You're coming out as maybe you might date a man, but like, if I want. And it's almost like a nothing burger to me, but at the same time, it was like this very secretive thing that was like a weight over me and I was like so scared of, like, dude,

one time I was like cruising in the park and I saw this comic in Chelsea at like five or six am and I'm walking around. I just got done jerking off of the guy in the park. I see this guy and he's like, what are you doing? I was like, ruck up, come on. Late night spot, ain't at a diner, leave me alone. I love that. But now I'm like, I don't give a fuck.

Like, yeah, me and some guy named Jorge were fucking cranking one out together. I don't know what to tell you. Yeah. I remember seen a guy at this gay bar in Roebuth, Diego's and he was not out because I asked my brother, which he was there, tank top. He was making out with dudes. And I was like, oh, Matt knows him. So I asked and Matt was like, no.

And I'm like, good for him, but this is small town. Yeah. Yeah. Years ago, I met up with this guy off Tinder and I'm like, well, let's meet up. And I'm like, where's a place in town? No one I know would be. And I was like, okay, this spot on like the lowery side, whatever. and he shows up

and he could not have been more comically gay he was in I like got mad at I'm like what the fuck are you doing man he was in like a fucking leather policeman's hat with like a leather band with spikes

and like a harness and I'm like what the fuck is a murder with you and while we were there my adult kickball league like captain and tournament team was there and I'm like, what am I more embarrassed about being exposed,

that I'm with this leather cop, cosplay and gay man, or that I'm a lead-off hitter for an adult kickball team. Either way, let's get the fuck out of here and get a pay-by-the-hour motel in Midtown. Oh, my God. I think the kickball. Oh, yeah, for sure, yeah.

You don't want this, like, BDSM got to know. You play kickball is so funny. Yeah, it was crazy. I was like, oh, my God, the kickball team can't see them. a Leatherman, and a Leatherman, the guy can't see him with a kickball team. I can't fit in anywhere. I am a bisexual guy.

I have a question for you. Because I think with your parents, generationally, they want to know, like, but what are you? What are you? What are you? I almost don't like fault people that are. My mom doesn't care as long as I'm alive.

There you are. Which is great. And I'm glad that you have that. You've started strong with the, yeah. You're just keeping alive. For anyone out there that's struggling, burn your life down to the ground and then come back and rise from the ashes,

you can pretty much get away anything. Totally. People are just glad to you're there. You're brushing your teeth regularly. He's a king. That's really so smart. Wait, my question for you is when you date, did people that you date want you to define it?

Or have you found like a lot of acceptance and like I'm just going to be what I want to be? Like the person that you're dating now, is she like, well, what are you attracted to? Well, I do find that there is as much as people want to be accepting and whatever, there is like a massive bias with, being with or just being like a bisexual man because you're viewed as like weak and gay by like straight dudes and by straight women you're viewed as like a cheater or they're afraid that you're

going to leave them because they don't have something that you want and being like no like I love you and you're the one for me and I don't want to do that it's like an insecurity thing I think that especially because I you know date trans women And so a lot of girls will be like, well, but I'm not a trans woman. I'm like, yeah, but you're you. I'm attracted to everyone. Yeah. Well, I have a certain type.

I'm not like a greedy little pig, you know. I'm not like, because like people hear that I'm bisexual. I sleep with men and women and trans women. And they're like, oh, he'll fuck me. And they look like Bop and Rock Steady from the Ninja Turtles. You're like, I have agency. I still have like a standard. Yeah.

And they look like slimer from the Ghostbusters. And they look like a human renaissance fair. And they're like, hey, you want to fuck me. And I'm like, good God, no. Right. You know? It's like, get away. Go eat a turkey leg.

Right. No, you can still have standards. No matter what you identify as. Like, I'm attracted to men. I'm not going to fuck all men. Exactly, yeah. Right. Like, you like bald men with beards.

You're not going to fuck all of them. A lot of them. Yeah. The other day I pointed out one and my friend was like, Dr. Phil. No. But he doesn't have tattoos for me. Yeah, he also has a facial hair. I mean.

He's a mustache. Put some stickers on his arms. And Rayno. fucking, honestly, hop on his disco stick. Yeah,

just spray paint his arms a little bit for me. The other day a friend of mine was like, I was wondering who's attracted to that

and I was like, big time May. Lady, I'm about to get a horseshoe haircut, all right? I'm going to make my head look like a

cul-de-sac so you fucking date me, okay? You have to shave the whole head. No way. I'll never. I'm not doing,

and I'm letting God take it as it comes. I'm not doing turkey. I'm not doing shave my head. God, be you. Whatever.

Yeah. My forehead will look like a kneecap till I die. I don't care. But you have a nice little coming out of the hat. Yeah. You can I just tell you? I just think it's so stupid. This is not a hot take. That people care what you do.

Your partners, sure, you can talk about this and have concerns, whatever. But other people, why the fuck do you care? Why would anyone care that you sleep with trans women, men? I find it to be very gay that men care. Like, caring what another man does. in his free time is inherently gay and catty. But I understand what you're saying, but I think it is intrinsically hard

to not be curious and not care and not categorize as like an ancestral DNA thing for survival. Like you have to categorize. You have to identify. You have to figure out. And some people aren't there enough to then get past that, but they are like, I just have to know what about. Okay, I see.

It helps people understand the world, I guess, if you want to take a kind stance on it. Totally. Yeah, that's a kind stance. But I agree with like, what do you care with something? What do you care? Yeah, it's like, dude, the guys that have to be like, well, actually, that's a, that woman is a penis. It's like, well, why are you thinking about that? You don't have to suck it.

I honestly think a lot of people that dislike that I'm with trans women or dislike that I'm with men, they see something in me that they recognize. I recognize in them, and so to throw a dagger at me gets it off of them. Because I know when I was younger, any sort of thing that reminded me of who I really was, I pushed out. I never got to the level of being, like, hateful or like whatever. But I know that when I hate things in people, it's because I hate it in myself. Wow. And so when people are coming at me, I'm always like, dude, I know that you see something in me, that you feel in you. This is triggering you out.

And I get it. But you're barking up the wrong tree because what are you coming after me for when it's like, you're probably jealous that I'm living. Totally. Truthfully and honestly, when you are like in a marriage and your profiles with you and your kids and your bio was like Proverbs 317. And it's like, yeah.

And it's like, dude, you are stuck and you will never get out and live who you really are. And I'm sorry, Brad. It's projecting. I don't fucking hate on me for it. Well, you should ask yourself, why does this bother you so much? Like, why does what somebody else is doing bother you? It's triggering something.

Because you sleeping with men or trans people or whoever you sleep with has nothing to do with what anybody else is doing. You know, I'm not trying to tell people like, you should do this or this and that. It's like, I really don't fucking care. I mean, I have my opinions, but it's like, live, if you want to fucking do a thing, go at, have at it. But, like, I don't know. I also think, like, gay male anal sex is in.

inherently disgusting. So, like, I get it. When people are like, ew, and I'm like, I'm right there with you, brother. You know, like, I get it. I understand that. There's so much hair back there. And that's the thing.

Everybody's like, he likes manass. I'm like, I like shaved little dolphins. I like black ballerina men. Oh. And shaved the... To touch a man's butthole and I've done it. I don't. There's so much stuff back there.

I know. I know. And then everybody thinks that that's what I'm after. And I'm like, no, man. I love feminine. The trans women I like are very feminine. I like a strong joel. And the guys I like are very feminine.

It's like I love women and femininity. And then people just think like, oh, he was a fucking guy that looks like Billy Mays or something. Right. Like grooming. Yeah. Totally. But like women are beautiful and amazing and effeminate. And like I want to live.

If I am dating you, I'm going to live in your armpit. Like I want to suffocate myself. in your smells. And then when I'm with a guy, and if I see a drop of sweat, I'm like, get away for me or I'll drag you behind a truck. Okay. I know that sweaty men are ruining everything. Like, they're just always, you were slept with a man that was really sweaty. No, I have a sweat drop on my face. You know that story makes me want to throw up. Oh my God. I can't. I can't. I dated a really sweaty guy. I mean, to have a sweat droplet hit your forehead. You're like, what am I doing? Being with men has made me appreciate women so much more because I've been with a guy and he's

trying to fuck me in the ass. And I'm like, I'm not about it. Get it. You're like, do you like that? I'm like, quite honestly, no. Get away from me. I know. I always say, if you try to like butt sex with me,

I will make you not enjoy it. Like, there's no amount, you're not going to enjoy it. I will be like scooting away the whole time. So do you do it? You just don't really. I'm a top. Okay.

Got it. But I don't even like, like, I dated a guy. And it's funny because I, everything was fine. And then like, I felt his leg hair. And I was like, I'm out. I'm sorry. I'm sorry, Brandon.

I'm out. And I've been a bottom for trans women because, you know, they've had it hard enough. They need some, you know, they got to feel good. You're a real ally. Yeah. And, but no, I don't like guys fucking me. I'm a top. I'm like an alpha femme.

I like that this has made you appreciate just how much work women go through to like. Oh, dude. I can make a guy come to save my life. Have you watched Casey Ballstrom's, I think it's a special. She's great. Her husband, Rob, is amazing. Yes. They're the best.

She is this incredible clip I was just watching about just like women train for childbirth her whole life because the amount of stuff we have to go through to like pluck and prod and like look a certain way. She's amazing if you guys have the opportunity to watch her stuff. Yeah, she's the best. How much do we love Sarah McBride while we're on the topic? Dude, the way she's getting treated by these fucking culture war piece of shit, senators and everything. I just like that she keeps her cool and is like, you guys are obsessed with me. Exactly.

And she is truly like who she is and she is absolutely authentically a person for the people. Yeah. And her being trans is as relevant as your hair color. Right. It does not matter. Totally.

And the fact that people concentrate on it to undercut what she's trying to do, it's so easy to use that as a distraction because otherwise she's got an incredible record and she's fucking bulletproof. So they have to go after this one fucking, and it's so exhausting and annoying. And the way she cares herself with poise and respect and handles it is, I can't imagine.

But I wish I had just an eighth of an ounce of her constitution to be able to navigate the world that way. Yeah. Anyway, that's our Sarah McBride break. No, I think she's great. I'm so proud to be from Delaware because I don't know. She's really representing us so well. Yeah, she's fantastic. I have a question for you.

Do you think people are getting freakier? and asking for more different stuff. I think pornography is having a net negative effect on so many people and expectations. And I found that, you know, fucking people in the bedroom are acting a certain way because they think this is what the person wants. That's irrefutable, totally. Rather than like what they want to do. And I've done it. I smacked a girl's ass.

And she was like, actually, I don't like that. I was like, I don't like it either. I just thought you would like it. Totally. I'm sorry. Yeah. I feel like we saw that with choking. Yeah.

Like it's just everywhere. Yeah. And so guys started to do it just naturally. And I don't even know if I fault. I think you should ask for consent. But I think if you're a guy, the last three women have wanted to be choked, you might think the fourth one just put a hand up there. And she freaks out. And so that's what I'm saying.

But I'm like, there's a world in which you're like, everybody wants this and they don't. But it's not real because. sometimes people don't come. Sometimes people don't like this, or sometimes it takes longer, sometimes everybody's different. I feel like, yeah, people are getting more, I don't know, like, I'm back old school.

I'm like, what if we just held hands like two otters floating down the water? And then girls are conditioned to, like, want to be knocked out. And they're like, what are you a gay time traveler? And I'm like, ah, sorry. You know, it's like wild. Okay, here's what I like about the oversharing

is I will say, like, I remember like 10 years ago, somebody was talking about pegging. And I was like, what is wrong with this person? I had such a visceral reaction to it of like, why would somebody want that? That's so crazy to me. And today I hear fantasies like that. And I'm like, that doesn't sound weird to me. That sounds healthy.

That sounds normal. If it's consensual, it sounds great. Like what I like about the oversharing is people have realized that like all of their kinks are normal and healthy. And it doesn't have to have come from some like deep, dank, horrible place. You know, like I've just, I've had people ask me to do things. in the bedroom recently that like I was like very into that I didn't realize I was going to be into it and it's been fun. I had somebody asked me to talk about being with other guys. Yeah.

While we were having sex. Well, I mean also at the same time, I feel like people are more okay with it now because people's degeneracy levels like gone up to the point where like it's getting to this like decadent, scary level of like people weren't into that because I feel like people were more tied, buttoned up and everything. And this is what happens when you get. chase the rush. Church and you live in a secular society. Yeah.

But I do feel like people, like people are okay with Pegging now because so much, quote, unquote, degeneracy is like come into the mainstream of making it okay, which it is okay, but it's like you got to find it on your own and not look to other people to tell you it's okay. Does that make sense? I'm probably a hypocrite. Is what you're saying that like people are chasing the next thing? Yes, yes, yes, yes. Like they're getting to a level and they're,

like, oh, I got here, but that's not enough. I got to do the next thing. Do more. Totally. The next thing. I got to do it. Like, that's how, that's how these fucking 19 year old guys getting to, like, blowbang porn or whatever. And it's like, because they've been watching shit and it's not good.

And I don't think that that is good. Like, and I think that kind of may be going in tandem with this whole, like, everything's okay thing where it's like, I know my grandfather wasn't eating my grandmother's ass. Like, I know that that wasn't happening. but now it's like, oh, if you don't let me eat your ass, me no date you, you know? But then I do think sometimes those are the louder voices,

and I say that in us having louder voices that talk about sex really openly, but I think there's still a lot of people that are just doing it normal. You know, like I think sometimes people get intimidated. They're like, wait, hold on, everybody's eating ass and choking and dressing up and doing all this crazy stuff.

And it's like, you can, I don't know. I think the best thing and the hottest thing you do was communicate. Yeah. And like, but that's the hardest thing to do because with communication can come rejection

and you may feel weird. But it's like, dude, there's nothing hotter than having a conversation with someone and be like, what do you like? What are you like? What are your things

so that I can make you feel good? And then you figure it out together and then like keep that to each other. And then finding the right partner. Yeah. Like you're sitting here saying like, God, I would love someone to just be like,

can we just hold hands? You know, where you probably had people had a lot of crazy requests. like everyone else has, but there's still plenty of people out there that are like, I'm not going to eat your ass, thank God, and same, and I'm one of those couples. Yeah. So I think there's been kind of not an overcorrection, because that sounds a little negative,

but there has been an overshare, and I think it's kind of warped people's mind that everyone is such a fucking freak, and that's probably not necessarily the truth. And I don't think you owe people all this all the time. I think that like people will say like, this is my kank, whatever, Peggy. It doesn't, it could be a treat. It could just be some of the time. I enjoy like a large range of stuff, but I just, I don't. like regular missionary sex too.

Yeah, me too. My big thing is like, oh, God, I just want to find someone I can make eye contact with and not bury my pillow and be like, what jokes am I working on? So we're going to wrap it up with a question I got. Just people really share a lot with us in the DMs. And this one was different. I mean, we feel like we've seen it all and this one really struck our fancy. So we want to see what you think about it.

Have you guys thought about releasing a book of your DMs? Of our DMs? Like a copy table book we've talked about. That would be incredible. I can't imagine the things, because I see what I get. And I'm like, whoa. I mean, we're really lucky. The stuff people share with us is incredible.

Our audience is just like, we'd have to get a lot of consent. Yeah, anytime I think that I'm like oversharing or, God, I shouldn't have said, I'll get like a response in spades of people being like, thank you for helping me be who I am. And I'm like, it's a net positive. Yeah. Right. But even DMs, I mean, just our emails. I mean, we've thought about like so people share so much with us. Yeah.

That's great. They feel comfortable. with you guys on like a connection to do that. Yeah, and I want to like help when I can. I can't answer every DM, but I went back. Our fans will bring like a log and be like, I found this in the woods and it made me think of you. Will you sign it?

I'm like, I gotta make some changes. People just bring me joins. Will you piss on this? Okay. She writes, help, SOS. I live with my fiance and he recently bought an Apple TV. It's linked to his photos. He's in Vegas on a bachelor party.

And one of the screenshots saved his photos is him asking chat, gpt i'm having my bachelor party in vegas and i had the genius idea to wear no underwear so that when i go to the strip club i get more value from the lap dances and bust a bit quicker can you calculate how much in dollars this move will save me then she writes earlier today he told me he had no underwear to pack because none were clean so he's like set up this whole i went and folded what was in the dryer so he could have some he also told me the guys that have ladies are going to split up and not go to to strip clubs earlier this week. He was literally at Crazy Horse 3.

What do I do? How do I move forward? Then she writes in all caps, no underwear. I mean, this is the dumbest one. That's what I said. This is your money saving plan? This is, I mean. This is how you're going to save money.

Some people are like, oh, I won't go and get coffee outside. I'll bake it at home. Wait, it's going to come quicker. Yeah, yeah. What do you think the answer was? Should we put this in Chad GBT right now? Yeah, it's me. What, chat she?

Ask a friend. And then your friend would be like, you're a mom. Moron. Also, that sounds like a nightmare coming in your jeans and then having to walk around for the rest of the night. Ashley said that. We didn't know the people were doing that. I didn't know people were like coming in their pants. One time I came in my underwear in the back room in the strip club, show and tell Philadelphia, and I got the girl self-tanner all over me and I'd throw my underwear out on the trash can on the way out. It's a nightmare. Also, like the fact that he like lied about the underwear, like just bring underwear. Dude, the fact that he's, imagine him packing and be like, underwear's dirty, no undies. Okay, bye-bye.

This guy is an idiot. Chat Chhabit and I are buds. Okay. She needs to release this guy. This is going to mess up your algorithm. I'm upset. I am upset that this is going through mine because it's, by the way, I think that chat GBT and I are buds and it knows me.

I cannot believe we're going to answer this. I'm so excited. Are you ready? Okay. First of all, chat GBT and my bud. This is hilarious and unhinged in all the right ways. That's what they wrote back to you? I'm telling you, it talks to me like me.

Wait, they, they said that? It talks to me like me. We're buds. They know them the girl's got to you pocket? host and it's just like, hey girl, hey girl, what's up? Spin the block. Okay. This is unhinged. Okay, this is hilarious and unhinged in all the right ways. So let's answer it seriously and playfully. Here's how I break it down. You feel like it's just me talking. Let's run the numbers on no underwear equaling lap dance efficiency financial strategy. Let's assume.

Average cost of a lap dance in Vegas, $40. Time per lap dance, $3. Your average time to finish with underwear, six dances, 18 minutes, $240. You're no underwear strategy cuts that in half. Three dances, nine minutes, $120. Total savings, $240, which would have been your fixed cost minus 120 to completion. So we're at 120 per completion. There's bonus material. Now multiply that by how many times you're planning to hit that milestone over the night. So it's holding space. This is insane. If you want to come a couple times, AI has gone too far. Dude, this, I mean, is it calculating how many more pairs of pants he has to buy?

You guys are going to die. Okay, right. Just don't look at it's true to die. Okay. Okay. Add in not having to do laundry after, and you might as well consider yourself a fiscally responsible king. This is the way Chad GPT talks.

Fiscally responsible king? That's crazy. I'm stunned. Do you think they told him that and he was like, I am a king? Do you want the only robots we had were Roombas? Do you want this styled into a podcast bit? We can script it out for you. What is going on?

He uses a lot. The fact that this. guy was like, I am a king. I am. Well, this might not have said this to him. Chachy Beatty knows I want a mix of funny and serious. But they still probably did the math. They have the same access to the math.

So I actually didn't think about this. Like, I just thought like one lap dance costs what amount of time? This is like if you do multiple lapses. He's not counting the fact that you could save your time instead of getting multiple lap dances. You get a back room where you just get down to business faster. I'm sorry. I talked to my fiancee about this.

And he's not a big like strip club guy. he'll go, but he's just not that type of guy. But he was like, what's the deal with the coming? Are we coming at the strip club? Dude, no. I'm going to laugh at my friends. Like, I'm going to see my friends turn into a, be like, but are you supposed to come in your boxers at the table?

No. Thank you. You're a creep. Thank you. What's the matter with you? That feels really crazy to me. You're supposed to go eat a steak and talk to some girl that left her house because she was addicted to Percocet,

and then you end up being like, okay, I'll check your band out sometimes. That's why you go to a strip club. It's so true. Like, maybe you go to the bathroom. You don't do this with the person. Dude, and also, you can't get, like, who's getting hard in a back room while there's tons of people

gyrating around? And are you that lame that you're like, yeah, girl, eh. Imagine seeing a man walking around a strip club with a giant cum stain. And every other man in there knows what just happened. Oh, my God, when you smell. Ugh. Who's going to want to dance on you after that? Dude, be what a man is.

Shoulder it, keep it inside, go home, and jerk off into the toilet, and then go to bed living with regret. Or do you think he would wear a condom? Oh, are guys wearing condoms and strip clubs be busted? No, this is not a guy. This is an unhinged. Well, I feel bad for her. She's going to marry him. She's got to not marry him.

That's my advice. Don't marry him. That's what I said. He's miserly in a negative way. Do not marry this. I think he's lazy. I think that if you're trying to save money, like get another job. Get a promotion.

Sis, if you're going to marry him. he is a fiscally responsible king. Maybe he did this as a prank to make her laugh. Because who in their right mind is thinking this way? We talk about things that men are thinking about. Oh, that's funny. Things that men are thinking about while you're talking to them and you're like, what's he thinking?

He's like, if I was alone in the woods with a bear, could I fight it and win? Like, that's what men are thinking about? Like, what do we see something? If I encountered a human-sized praying mantis, do you think I could take it? Like, this is just stupid ridiculousness that a man thinks. I refuse to believe that this is a real quick. that this guy.

Okay. She said if you need more details or info, let me know. So to be continued next week, you guys, but I'll write her back because she said, you know, I was kind of crashing out. Sorry, it's better now. And she loves us. And so, you know, I hope she's doing okay. But I'll get more info.

Yeah. And I'll put on the group chat with us. Please let me know. To be continued, guys. Wild. Okay. Here's what I hope the scenario is. He's on a group chat with his dumb friends and they're all just joking about this and he

chat. Yes. And I think that like that's, that's what. guys group chats look like. Yes. Yes. Yes. This is just stupid thing. The amount of insane thing. My friend made ChatGPT write a poem about him eating my duke. Like it was just like a goofy thing. This can't be real. This is, you're totally right. This is what guys think about. It's a bachelor party. They're laughing. Yes. It's a ridiculous thing. You're right. I think girls are on a group chat before a trip. Who's going to book the hotel, the car, who made res? Do we get tickets?

And guys are like, how much money could I save if I cream my jeans? Yes. Okay, so he was just kidding. I said, okay, yeah, we do want more details. Okay, great. Yeah, no, I'm totally with Raina. You're totally right. This is like a funny thing. He's hilarious.

It's guys goofing around. I mean, the answer is hysterical. Like, you don't think that you could actually get a real answer for that. That's very funny. And who in the right mind is like, I need to save money on underwear. It's like, what are we talking? This is a goof. Totally.

And it's a good one. Right. This guy's probably an accountant, you know, and he's just like, I want to talk about the financials of it all. We'll update you guys next week. Ian, thank you so much. Thank you guys. This was incredible.

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