Girls Gotta Eat - It Goes Down in the DMs (But Should It?)

Episode Date: February 13, 2018

How do ladies really feel about guys sliding into their DMs (and do they do it, too)? Why do guys just want to f*ck you once then stalk your Instagram forever? Should you ever Instagram your food on a date? And should you date someone who does? Rayna and Ashley discuss all this and more, play Never Have I Ever with their followers, and introduce themselves to anyone who cares in the inaugural episode of Girls Gotta Eat--a podcast from the ladies behind @OneHungryJew and @BrosBeingBasic. Follow Girls Gotta Eat on Instagram: @GirlsGottaEatPodcast Follow Ashley on Instagram: @AshHess / @BrosBeingBasic Follow Rayna on Instagram: @OneHungryJew Tweet us: @Girls_GottaEat Email us: [e-mail] See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You know, I think that the new goal is to be in a relationship with somebody that I'm so comfortable that I can be that rude to them. That's what I, that's where I want to be. I want to have a... The last meal we had together was when he told me to stop texting. And I was like, oh, bitch. You serious? No, you're rude. I'm like, well, I have to go to the bathroom because I wasn't done texting.

I felt like I was, like, hiding a drug habit. Like, I wasn't allowed to text my friends. I've gone to the bathroom repeatedly to the point that I'm pretty sure the person thinks I have either a drug problem or a blood problem. Or a blood problem. crouched in the corner texting like, this date's terrible. Right. And I'm like, no, no, I'm just texting other people so that I don't forget all the dumb shit you just said to me. Hey, guys, welcome to the first episode of Girls Gotta Eat.

I am Raina. I'm Ashley. And we are the girls that are eating, I guess. Eating a lot of things. I thought we would kick off today by introducing ourselves and like who we are, what we do, and then we'll just jump right in. Girls Got to Eat is going to be a podcast about sex and dating, mostly me and Ashley having sex and dating. Not together. Not always with each other.

But let's kick it off. Mostly orgies, whatever. Lots of food involved. Get it. You got it. So Ashley, let's start off. Tell everybody who you are, what you do. Where are you from? I'm Ashley Hustletine and I am a comedian, writer, influencer. I hate to use that word to describe myself, but it's true. I run the Instagram account Brows Being Basic, which has quite a lot of followers. Don't be modest. How many followers do you have? Let's see what we're at. It was 667,000. So Ashley's pretty famous. Well, I'm the girl behind the bros. So that's kind of my main gig, and I do stand up here in New York City. But yeah, I'm excited. We're going to talk a little bit about our lives as influencers when it comes to dating today.

so I'm pretty pumped about it. Are you dating? Are you single? I'm trying. I am single. But I'm excited because I'm going to get engaged this year. Are you? God, sorry.

Ash, just to be able to background and Ashley, her mom's clairvoyant and told her that she was going to be engaged this year. Well, she has a name in mind. I'm not going to say it and jinx it. But yeah, no, I mean, would I like to be engaged this year? Sure. If I find the right person. No, I'm going to, I'm going to jinx it. His name is Pete.

So if your name is my mom is going to be so pissed. If your name is Pete, you can probably fuck Ashley. God damn it. Okay, that's true. Listen. No, I have been doing a stand-up bit, like, recently about, like, getting, like, it was my one resolution to get engaged this year. So, I mean, I'm up for it.

I'm not going to just marry and get engaged to anybody. But I see myself kind of like that moving quick. You know what I mean? Because, like, I hate most people. So if I find a guy that I'm really viving with, it's like, let's do this. It's the podcast. I'm scaring everybody off. If you get engaged, do we have to stop the podcast?

No, because I got to, I have to date a guy that, like, is fine with, like, sharing all her intimate secrets. Same. I'm ruining everything. I feel bad for all the people. We're editing this out. All the people I've slept with that I'm about to just destroy on this podcast. We're like, we have the names ready. We're like, Tyler Anderson.

He lives on 10th. 10. teeny tiny apartment I'm actually more concerned about my parents listening to this well now that you just outed my mom for being a weirdo clairvoyant okay anyway tell me about yourself rena so my name is reyna I live in New York and I am a writer and a photographer my main job is I run a business called

One Hungry Jew it's an Instagram account mainly about food and travel. We have 316,000 followers. Yeah, you do. I started it three years ago this month. So it's grown. Happy anniversary. Thank you. Other than that, I am a fashion mogul. I sell like four sweatshirts of my website. But they're really awesome. What is your top selling one? What does it say? My number one seller is a sweatshirt that says, I'm on a juice cleanse. It has a glass of wine on it. Which is like, it is super funny, but I love the ones that have like food puns. Like show me your tots, which is a good one. I like that too. I just released that. My favorite is that I'll get pictures of like moms in the Midwest wearing the I'm on a juice cleanse sweatshirt and it's just the best thing ever.

They're like so excited to be hip. Like hashtag bless. Someday I'll be hip. Anyways, I, I too am single and dating. I date quite a lot. So Ashley and I were talking about what is the best way to open up this podcast? What should our first topic be? So I thought since We both are sort of in this influencer world. We would jump in and talk about guys sliding into the DMs. And do you ever go out with them? What has that been like? Because I have some wild stories.

Yeah, it goes down in the DMs. I don't know if you guys have heard that song. It's pretty popular with the kids, the millennials. So you definitely have a lot of this. I guess, yeah, just what's the deal? Do you get guys via DM? Like, do you date fans of your account? Like, what's the situation there?

So my account's a little different than yours because you are anonymous behind your account. So people don't know that there's this like seven foot tall hot babe with like 30 foot legs behind the account. So I'm on my Instagram story every day like in a tank top like squeezing the cleavage out. Yeah, you do a good job with that. I get probably back what I put out into the world. So I have been out with people that have DMed me. It is almost 100% of the time a mistake. I have only lived to not regret it once.

But I'll tell you the story. So I have a lot of guys slide into my DMs and I have people that recognize me a lot in New York. Yeah, which is awesome. Yeah. As long as it's not creepy. No, my main audience is 25 to 34. It's split pretty equally male and female.

And a big part of that is in New York City. So it's not so crazy that I would be recognized here and there. So I've had people recognize me at a bar and like straight up a conversation. And it doesn't feel weird. And I was talking to an influencer guy friend of mine. And he's gay. And I asked him, do you ever go out with people to DM you? And he said I would never go out with a fan.

No, I would never date a fan. And, like, I actually want a sweatshirt that says that. That's the next sweatshirt I'm going to release. But I was so horrified by this response because I don't think of myself as having, I'm not fucking Kim Kardashian. Like, I don't have fans. You do, though. I mean, it's like, that's why you're an influencer.

You have a fan base. Well, I should have listened to him because I've had some good ones and a bad ones. So I'll tell you about something that happened last night. Oh, it's fresh. This is not a date, but I haven't told Ashley this story yet. That's a fresh story. So this guy, he's a chef in Boston, and he slid into my DMs when I was in Boston and said, hey, I go on this restaurant.

I would love to invite you in. And it seemed like super harmless, whatever, but I didn't have time, so I didn't go. And every once in a while, he was shoot me like a harmless text or DM about whatever. And I don't really think anything of it. He seems like a nice person. And, you know, I figured why not what's the harm in responding. So yesterday I posted something on my Instagram story of myself in like a workout outfit. And he was like, yeah, you look really great or something.

And I was like, okay, cool things. Like, whatever. And without any prompting whatsoever, I see that he has sent me a photo, and I opened the photo, and it is him with just a pair of boxer briefs and a hard dick. And he's grabbing his dick. You're speechless, right? Why? Because men are disgusting.

Like, no one asked for that. No, it's so unprompted. I mean, look, I'm not going to lie, like, his body was rebrand. It's really nice. Right. But like, so I respect, I look at his Instagram page and I see his wife and small child. Oh. And I write back.

Interesting. And I rate back. I bet your wife wouldn't really appreciate this. Right. And that was it. He just, he, like, deleted. Did you know that you can delete photos in DMs? Yeah.

Well, after you send it. Well, you can definitely unsend. But then you can delete it. Yeah. So he unscends the photo. Yeah. Took it back. Yeah, because I guess...

Did you screenshot it? Of course I screenshot it. I'm not crazy. I sent it to like... Pull that picture. I wasn't going to send... Oh, yeah, I should show you the photo. Oh, my God.

Real-time reaction. Evaluate how weird this is. I mean, really, his body's nice, but... It's shocking to get that. This is a ridiculous person. What? I love that there's a... You can see the kids shampoo in the bath behind the picture.

Right? He has like his kid's bubble bath in the bath. The kids were like bathing in the background. He's like, hold on kids. Daddy is to send his photos to a total stranger. Don't tell mommy. Oh, Jesus. Mommy, daddy was taking weird photos in the mirror while I was taking a bath.

It's so weird. Oh, my God. Okay, so that was one of the weirder stories that happened to me. I had a great story that happened when I was in Israel. Yes. This is probably my favorite date story of all. all time. I loved it. So for you guys that haven't ever looked at my Instagram stories, I always like see cute guys

here and there and I'll throw them on my Instagram story. And no shame throwing them on her story. No, I mean, never. And actually, recently I've had to stop doing it as much because people keep recognizing themselves on my stories. But I was on the beach in Tel Aviv and I see these two guys playing soccer with their shirts off, very sexy. And I Instagram storied them and I wrote something like, I would fuck everything in this

country. Like something disgusting like that. I love your subtlety. I got to be honest. So somebody who follows me knows this guy and sends him the story. And the next morning I get a DM from him that says like very flattering, but I'm actually not from this country. And I was like, well, that's not a requirement. Anyways.

And I'm so flattered, by the way, at this point. It actually occurred to me like a couple days ago. I'm so flattered to this guy has like slid into my DMs. Meanwhile, I, like, put on the internet that I would fuck him. So, like, who wouldn't slide into your DMs? That's true. Yeah, I know. I've been so, like, flattered by this happening.

And then I was like, oh. Yeah, you guys are hooking up and you're like, I swear this never happens. He's like, you're lying, bitch. Anyways, he was like, how long are you being telling me? I'd love to take you out. He suggested a couple of restaurants that were, like, cool, some bars. So I go and I meet him, which is probably, like, in retrospect, a way to get murdered. But, yeah.

Spoiler alert, I didn't get murdered. ordered. So he ended up being this like super successful, beautiful lawyer. So hot, really funny and like fun. I'm like sort of debate. If you're listening to this, I'll move to Israel and be with you. What's his name? Without you like you did to me with Pete. Pete, where are you? But I really like dark hair and dark skin. He was, he was very of that ilk. Anyways, we went to a couple bars. We hung out. We just like six-hour date on like a Tuesday night and we're just like drinking all night long and then

I go back to his apartment which is the biggest thing I have ever seen in my entire life the living room the living room um ceilings had two story high ceilings I'm in there like a fucking hillbilly like how is what is your way

cause right what is this place cause I never seen that like this I was too drunk to have a filter because it's three o'clock in the morning at this point so I probably was like How much is you read and can I see your 401k and your bank account? And your dick. Well, I saw that. I was in his apartment at 3 o'clock in the morning, okay?

There's only one reason to be there. Anyways, we're still in touch. So he's the only fan that I have ever slept with, maybe? Yes. Final answer. And I like that he didn't like, that was kind of coincidental. He didn't come at you in like a creepy way. Like, I love you.

You know what I mean? No, I've never, I've had. a bunch of people ask me out and I'll never do that. I've never gone out with somebody that's been like, you're so hot. It depends what you look like. I mean, it's not creepy if you're hot. Right. But nobody good-looking has ever said that to me. Yeah.

Are you going to ask me about me? Yeah. So back to me. I'm very narcissistic, so Ashley is going to have to continue to remind me. We'll have to have a hand signal. Ashley, tell me about you. Oh my God, finally.

How do you feel about people sliding into your DMs. I am 100% okay with it. On both accounts, like if it's your personal or like your meme, larger meme account. Literally all of it. Like I just want attention. No, I'm just kidding. I just want to clarify too when we say DMs.

I definitely Instagram above all, but also even like Facebook and Twitter. I mean, all of it I think is okay to an extent. A serious X of mine, we dated for a long time. We had met. We weren't strangers. We met very briefly at a comedy show, and he wanted to get in touch with me, and he found me on Facebook and dropped his phone number on my Facebook timeline. Like, not even in the private messages. I was like, can someone send this guy a dick pick?

Like, how bold are you? It's bold. And, I mean, I waited a few hours. I texted him like, hey, this is Amber from a couple weekends ago. Listen, I think I might be pregnant. You know, just to fuck with him. And, like, he wrote back, I fucking hate you. And the rest of his history.

I mean, it really. But I've dated, I can think of two guys. One, I dated, dated and another that we just had like a hookup that we connected on Twitter. A guy recently that, not a total stranger, but a guy I wanted to connect with that I met many years ago that I wanted, was interested in, I'll be honest. I slid his DMs. Good for you. That's bold. I mean, I just think this is like modern romance.

Do what you got to do. Why not? And I actually, I will say, the thing that you said about the face wage to me is not that crazy. Like, if somebody has met you before and they just don't necessarily want to reach out to a friend of yours to get your number, like, I don't think it's so crazy to reach out on social media. Like, that's how they know how to get in touch with you. That's normal to me. Yeah. What I sort of want to know your feelings on is some guy sees you on their explorer feed and Instagram and they're like, this girl is pretty.

I'm just going to slide into her DMs. Right. Is that weird? I honestly, I don't know if I'm pretty enough to have it happen. No, I'm just kidding. I just, I guess my first question, my first thought would be, this guy just does this all day long. You know what I mean? Is that any weirder than swiping?

I just spit on Ashley. I looked it up. Don't worry. Is that any weirder than somebody messaging on Tinder? Right. That's what I'm saying. So like, I think it's all just this new way that we're living, you know, and I know for fact that for bros being basic, I feature a lot of guys in the account, you know, and they are attractive guys. They're on the account. They're getting a lot

of attention and likes. And I know for a fact that they scroll through and see the women that comment and slide to their DMs. I've had guys get girlfriends out of it. And I'm here for it. Oh, yeah. I've actually had lots of friends that I've put on my Instagram stories and I'll tag them and like four or five girls will reach out to me and be like, who's this guy? Like, what's this story? Like total strangers. So, and I'm always like, you know, if you get late, because of my Instagram story, like drinks her on you. Totally. Like that was my, I got a good guy friend here in the city.

We took a picture of him in the city and a girl kind of comment. I think she commented like, oh, I need a New York tour guide. And I think he thought she was cute. I don't even know. I don't want to know. But next thing I know, boyfriend, girlfriend. I mean, it really, I just, I think there's certainly parameters. Like, definitely don't be a dad sending dick pics like you got.

And I think, like a married dad. Please don't be married. I don't open with like your dick. Okay, he didn't open with his dick though. He opened with like casual, nice normal stuff. That's right. And then boom out of nowhere. Like my children's bath toys are like behind me in this photo.

I think this just goes back to like everything that you're saying summed up to like context and timing. And, you know, today there's a million ways to reach people. and there's normal ways to do it and not normal ways. And it's maybe no different than like reaching out to somebody on Tinder. No, absolutely not. And I think, I think, too, here's how I might play it. And this happened to a girlfriend recently. A girlfriend of mine, a same type of like perpetually single girlfriend.

She's a blogger. She just shared the story of how her and her pretty serious boyfriend met and it was on Twitter. He just followed her on Twitter, thought she was funny. And he reached out and I think she gave him, made him work for it a little bit. And I think that's probably the ticket, like seeing if a guy, is serious about you because he thinks he finds you interesting or exceptionally pretty as opposed to literally he just did that with 20 other girls that day. You know what I mean?

There is something to be said about like a shared teeny bit. But there's, to me, okay, there's a shared hobby there a little bit, right? She's funny. He follows her. He thinks she's funny. And, you know, she has this platform. So there's sort of this shared hobby at some point there. It's not the craziest thing in the world to think that they might like hit it off a little bit.

I mean, they're fully dating. But I think she kind of gave him like, really? You slid to my Twitter DM? fucking creep. But now, you know, I think she kind of, I think that's a good way to play it. Like, okay, you want to slide in? Work for it a lot harder. And what did he have to lose by doing it, right? As long as you're not crazy, I have people that will DM me every day. Okay, let's talk about that. I showed you that. This guy comments on, I'm clearly not going to calm up any. I don't know him. I don't know this guy. I've showed you like a stream where

I'm like, you're having a conversation with yourself. I mean, at one time, I mean, he commented on every single post in an Instagram story. Like, literally you look crazy. That's where I draw online. If you're going to hit someone up in that way that you really don't know, know when to give up. Okay, that's when you get blocked. What, how, what it goes through your head to send someone 20 DMs in a row? Okay. So your feelings are, to sum up, context, right? Do it in a normal way and it's fine. And I think, but I mean, I'm like, I am totally here for it, especially in cases where like, yeah, maybe you to this person once. It wasn't enough of an interaction to get their phone number or whatever it is. Like, get in there. I just did it. Who did you do it to? I'm not going to talk about all that.

We'll talk about offline. Was it like somebody famous? No. Have you DMed someone famous? Yeah, I'm catfishing Ryan Philippi right now. He's from Delaware. He's my neighbor. But I would like, I'm not above like sliding into an athlete or a famous person DM. I'm like, I'm not above anything. Like, if I want a toy, I go out and buy that toy. I go out and buy that toy. Get in there, girl. Yeah. So in conclusion, get in there, girl. Or guy. The only thing we were talking about last week is when you meet a guy and he basically decides to not be with you or you decide to not be with them, but they still incessantly watch your Instagram stories. Or there was a funny meme. I think it was the Handy Jay. She's a fun.

She's a little much, but she's one that I follow. And it was like, all guys want to do is fuck you once and then like every Instagram post for the rest of their lives. And it's like, this is so true. Like what is the deal with this? I like, God, like the guys that they're never going to watch again. But like there's guys that I may have like gone on one date with or hooked up once or like, and not even necessarily guys that I was like super into dating, but like definitely weren't trying to date me. But like still watch every Instagram story. I post the second it goes up. Like I'm not a fucking clown over here. You are.

Just like for your entertainment. Like there's one guy. We hooked up this summer. We met, whatever. And I, did you hook up with him? Yes, we hooked up. Sorry. I don't know.

I just don't like I was sounding slutty. But anyway, we, he was a cool dude. Little younger, definitely was not like, saw this as the long-term potential mate. But like, definitely would have met up with him again. And just really didn't seem to have any interest in like hooking up or hanging out again, which, again, is fine. Like I said, did not see this guy as a long-term potential mate. Sure. still to this day watches every single story I post.

And there's so many other like scenarios like that where I'm just like, I don't care what you're doing. Like, what is that? I don't want, not even not care. I don't want to see your face. I definitely don't want to see your fucking face. And it's so interesting to me because in the reverse, if I, you know, I mute people's stories like after this, you know,

you can mute somebody's story. Yeah, yeah, you showed me. After somebody. Game changer. I don't know somebody ghost me or I have ghosted them, I don't want to accidentally click on their story and let them think that I'm looking at their stuff. I purposely make sure I don't see your face.

Yes. And also, my feeling is that if I find somebody funny and interesting enough that I want to watch every single thing they post on the internet, that's somebody that I want to hang out with and get to know. But that's not the case with these guys. They have no interest in hanging out in real life, IRL. They just want to be a participant from afar. and watch everything you do from their phone.

I mean, whatever. I'm funny. I don't think I'm that funny. I mean, you're very funny. But being benched is a real thing. I mean, I bench people, you bench people. But like, let's be clear. I reject a lot of guys.

I don't want to say. Ashley does an ocean. I'm getting jumped and ghosted over here. Ocean of men that don't want to be like five times this week. But anyway. But I'm not watching their stories. Right. We're not watching their stories.

The second a guy, the second I'm like, a guy's off my mind, I don't give a shit what he's doing. Okay, do you think it's weird or if, because I have both things happening to me currently? People that you were in long-term relationships with that ended that still watch your Instagram stories every day. Or random people you went out once. Is one weirder than the other? I don't. I'd have to sit on that.

I mean, I'll be completely honest. My long-term ex that we had kind of a rough breakup, like I blocked him. Because I didn't even want to see his name because it still stings a little bit. You know what I mean? But, like, a guy that, yeah, it's weird to me. Like, let's say I dated a guy six months to a year, significant, and I know one guy. I could pull him up right now. I mean, he is a dad now.

And he's watching all my stories. I'm like, what? Like, your wife comes in? She's like, who's that? You know, it's just some girl I used to fuck. Yeah. No big deal. My voice is getting high.

I just get so worked up about this. It drives me crazy, but I don't want to go the extra step and block you because I don't want you to know that I care enough. I mean, whatever. Like, the more fans, the better. But, like, the only personal block is, like, that really, you know, that tough breakup acts. But, uh, you would a really good example to tell the quick story of, like, what, the guy in Philly, I think. Oh, yeah. This was so disappointing. This is a prime example of what we're talking about. Like, a guy that, like, you would date, but. Well, maybe, or whatever. He would, you would see again. And they are not interested, but they want to watch everything you post for the rest of

your life. I'll tell you what he's wearing and you'll understand why I wouldn't date him. But I was after it's Carlton in Philly and I was going to be wearing. He was wearing one of those like basketball player like jerseys? No. Just how do I explain it? It's a haines her way extra long like the one of the white shirt, the white t-shirts that come down to your. Skinny jeans. Yes, with black skinny jeans and like black boots and it just it's not my style man.

It's just not for, anyway, he was so hot. I don't care what he was wearing. Anyways. So I was definitely a Luke these days. So I was at... I was staying through with Carlton. I was upstairs in the lounge. And he comes into the lounge with some friends.

And we like strike up a conversation. We ended up like hanging out and drinking for a couple hours. He's from New York. And I'm in Philly for three days, which like I don't... I was cold and gloomy. I didn't know what to do there. So I figured like maybe we would like hang out and he asked me for my number. I never hear from him again.

But I see his little face in a bubble every single day on my Instagram story. Like, I guess he just didn't want to fuck me. I don't know. Like, who wouldn't want to fuck you? I would fuck me. I think everybody would. Yeah, you're like super hot. Thank you.

It's, it's bizarre. I don't know. I mean, clearly it's definitely like that guy just wasn't that enemy situation, but it's like, why does he want to fucking watch my own personal TV show every day, you know? You're a funny motherfucker. That's why. Jeez, Jesus. But anyway.

I think it's just because I think we're so different. Like, if I don't want to, if I'm not interested in this guy, I'm not interested in watching his stories. Mm-hmm. Like, we could be friends down the road. Just because I don't want to date you doesn't mean like you're a pariah and I don't want to be with you. But, like, if you have completely extricated me from your life, I don't know.

I just, I don't understand. I would be curious if girls do the same, like, if all these guys are listening to this podcast being like, yeah, every single girl everyone out does this. Watch is, huh? I would bet that they don't. I think the girls are brought up to have, like, shame. And I think that men are brought up to be, like, fearless and shameless. That's a good call.

Yeah. I mean, but it's, I just don't care what you're doing. Yeah, I don't care either. You know, I don't know. I don't want to see what, you and your new girlfriend and your baby or whatever. I mean, I don't give a fuck. And that's weird. All right.

Let's circle back. Okay. And do our social media influencer. And like, let's try to incorporate the food portion of the podcast. I want to talk about, and I don't even know if I know this about you, actually. Do you Instagram your food on a date? Like, I would rather shit my pants on a date than that's really what I liken it to. I love this.

I think this is great. People probably just assume you're this like, like tell people your process. Like, you don't do that on dates. Okay, so basically the whole premise of my account is that I Instagram photos of food. And I have a website where I write about all the restaurants and I do a lot of travel guides. And I think that people see it and they think I'm like, eating all this food, but almost every single thing that I post is from a photo shoot. So I set up photo shoots with the restaurants ahead of time.

I'll go in either when they're not busy at like 2.30 after lunch or like right before they open and they'll make me a couple dishes. For a number of reasons, mostly the content is not good if I'm just photographing stuff in the middle of dinner. Right. And then all dinner. Yeah. I don't, I really hate being that person that's just like disrupting other diners.

Yeah. It's like the person like with their cell phone and their flashlight out. else has to have their, yeah, it's just such a mess. I find it disruptive when somebody else is doing it in a restaurant, so I don't want to be the person doing it. And then I find that there's no way on earth I can be present when I'm with other people. If I'm stopping every few minutes or even like two or three times to take photos. Right.

I used to always when I was building the account. Of course, I had no choice. Right. But now, you know, through like networking contacts and having done this for so long, I am fortunate enough that I don't have to do that, which is great. So now I'm, yes, I've gone out with people. and friends and done this, taking photos. But in the last, I'd say year probably, I would never do that.

And also, you know, as I actually mentioned, we get a lot of comped meals and comped things. And I don't necessarily want to feel like I've brought somebody with me to do a job. I want to just go out and hang out. I want to, like, have a drink and hang out. I would literally rather die than, like, pull out a camera. Well, yeah. And, I mean, that's kind of, I feel the same way. There was definitely, there's been a few instances, especially in Atlanta, where I used to get a lot of perks and comps and where if I'm there, I might do a quick picture and with like my boyfriend, like, you know, that got it.

Not a first date. I would never. I would literally also rather shit my pants. I just dated a guy not too long ago that was, he was the Instagrammer at dinner. Oh, God. I hope he's not listening. He has not been watching my stories. So I'm, it was nice. It's nice. He gets it. so hopefully he's not listening. But yeah, and again, he took me to like comped meals, which is nice every once in a while, but not for every day. You know, like it's just like, do you want to take me out to dinner? Take me out to dinner.

Don't take me to a comp to meal where you have to Instagram the entire time. Right. And I'm talking like take the picture and like post it in real time. Like I'm talking he'd be there tap, tap, tap, tap, and hashtag in. And I'm like, cool. And I told you this before that like I got so annoying at one dinner that I whipped out my phone and I was like texting my girlfriends and he yelled at me for texting. He yelled at you. I'm like, you know what? I should be yelling at you because you ordered a

well done steak, boom. Oh, that that's also just like a sign that it's like he's no good. Well, God, we might to cut that out. But no, I mean, it was, again, like, you want to take me a nice dinner where you don't have to Instagram the entire time and me like light you from the top with my flashlight? Like, then take me to a dinner. You know, I don't need to, we don't need to be going to, like, calm meals all the time. It's a nice perk that you get. But, It got to be very unattractive. Yeah. The incessant Instagramming.

And posting. The posting thing is very weird, especially you don't have to do that. You don't. If you need to be like, I'm so sorry, I got to grab this picture every once in a while, but like, oh, my gosh. And now what you have to upload it and caption it and hashtag it? I mean, can I leave? You know, I think that the new goal is to be in a relationship with somebody that I'm so comfortable that I can be that rude to them. That's where I want to be.

I want to have a- The last time we had together was when he told me to stop texting. And I was like, oh, bitch. You serious? You're rude. I'm like, well, I have to go to the bathroom because I wasn't done texting. I felt like I was, like, hiding a drug habit. Like, I wasn't allowed to text my friends.

I've gone to the bathroom repeatedly at the point that I'm pretty sure the person thinks I have either a drug problem or a blood problem. I'm just, like, crouching the corner texting like, this date's terrible. Right. And I'm like, no, no, I'm just texting other people so that I don't forget all the dumb shit you just said to me. I want to make sure it's in the notes. We need to make a list. Oh my gosh. Okay.

Well, yeah, good. So I think I'm glad you shared that. Because people might think of like, I don't want to go out date with that girl. She's going to have to Instagram the whole time. And it's like, I'm a professional, bitch. Okay. Let's. Should we play a game?

Yeah. So Ashley and I decided that at the end of every podcast, we're going to wrap it up by playing a game. Our first idea is that we're going to go live on Instagram with our followers, which is about collectively a little over a million people. Oh. A million. Ashley's bringing most of the followers to this. No, whatever.

Could do it along. We're going to play a game. So this week we're going to play. What do we play? Let's play Never Have I Ever. I think that'll be easy with the followers. Am I going to lose the game when I've done all the things? Okay.

I'm going to pause this. Like anyone's like, we don't fucking care. And grab the wine because you have to drink. And then we're going to go live. Okay. BRB. We're going to play Never Have I ever ever. So we want you guys to ask.

the questions. We have like, give a shout it to Serbia. Hi from Chile. Look at all these people. Oh my God, this is so cool. Okay, so, you know, if you guys are shy, like, I'll start it off.

Okay, so never have I ever. And then you drink if you've done it. Right. So if one of you guys shouted out, never have I ever had anal, would you drink? One or both of us would drink or not drink. Would you drink?

Let's do it. Okay. Never have I ever. had anal. Yeah, but like only after a really expensive dinner. You've never had anal? No. How is that possible?

I don't know. Like an out hole. I don't know. Yeah, but like, hasn't it ever, like, done something really nice for you and you just, like, wanted to repay them with anal? There's a lot of hearts. Does that mean that people like anal? I don't know.

All right. Like, nobody you dated ever, like, pressured you for this? Not really, like, no. Okay, so I'll give you the scenario. in which I had anal. Okay. My boyfriend took me to dinner at Blue Hill Stone Barnes. Do you know how expensive it is to eat there?

It's like $800 for two people. And I just felt like as a gift to him, I should let him do anal on me. Okay. That's fair. So that's the price tag, $800. Don JPO. Never have I ever been with a best friend's ex. Ooh.

Never done it. No. Friends X. terrible thing to do. But not best, not best friends ex. No, no, no, no, girl power. Baby K Mab, 70 also said, farted in front of an ex. But are we drinking? Well, you're not me. I'm drinking. I don't think I've ever farted. No, never. I've also never gone to the bathroom in front of an ex. Oh, because women don't poop, just so you know. Wish, I, I really, I take metamuthal. I enjoy you never farted in front of my boyfriend. I enjoy long, luxurious shits on my own. It's like not a thing I want

to share. Do you know what I hate is when? I don't do it on purpose. It's, it. I don't do it. I don't do it On purpose, that's not a cute thing to me, couples that fart in front of each other, but I've accidentally farted in front of my ex, and it was like I wanted to die. I could tell you the whole, I mean, I'm like, because I never do anal, so I have a steel tight butthole. You lie like a dog. Okay. Shambrizy? Shambrizy, which is actually a really cute name.

I love that name. Never have I ever given my number to someone in a supermarket. I have not. Have you? I would. But I do want a drink, so I'm just going to have it. I used, neither of us are drinking. I used to date a guy that worked in a supermarket.

That's not the question. And one time I was in the supermarket and I was like, it was, when I was in college, I would go home and, like, hook up with this guy. And then years later, I was like, I bet he doesn't work here anymore. Like, he must have got his life together. Employee the month on the wall. Swear to fucking God. Maybe he was really good stocking shelves.

Never have I ever joined the Mile High Club. I joined it by myself. Does that count? You masturbate on a plane. Yeah. Drink, bitch. Sometimes you just have to, okay? You guys would crack me up.

Oh, well. No, I'm doing it. Inter all wave 85. Never have I ever fantasized to a close relative. About a close relative. How close? I'm just fucking with you. That's disgusting.

Oh, sorry. No incest here, guys. Have you? Yeah, that's, I never thought that we would find something too taboo, but, uh, we found it. Somebody wants to know, can I see your feet? No. My feet are really ugly.

Shambrizi, back with the solid questions. Never have ever accidentally sent a text to the person I was talking shit about. Absolutely. It's my biggest fear. I should drink twice. Yeah. It's so embarrassing when that happens. I literally just want to die.

And there's no way to back pedal out of it. There's just no way. You just have to, like, admit it. Yeah. Jenna with a bunch of ends. Never have I ever peed in a sink when the toilet was broken. Yes, I have. Absolutely. A million percent.

I had a threesome. Wait, who said this? Oh, sorry. I can't pronounce any of your names. Carios. Okay, yes, I've had a threesome. You're drinking. So I'm drinking.

You got a threesome? I haven't. I will. You know, when I signed up to do this podcast with you, I didn't know how vanilla you were. Sorry, I've really, like, I've had, look, I've had a lot of sex. I have not done too much crazy stuff. I would have a threesome, but I think, like, I have some jealousy issues. I don't think it would work out.

I'm looking for a new co-host who's looser. Oh, shut the fuck up. Raina said a threesome. How many, Raina? Just one. I had one threesome. I was 19. It was with, um, oh, miss, I'm so lame because I haven't a threesome.

She's had one, like 25 years ago. So that is wrap on episode one of Girls Gotta Eat. We made it. Like us in the iTunes store. Leave a rating, guys, a comment, any feedback, good or bad. Well, I'm lying too. I don't want any negative feedback. You can follow us on Instagram and Facebook at Girls' Gotta Eat Podcast.

Hope you guys liked it. I hope this outro was good because we've had about a bottle line. Thanks, guys. Thank you. Cheers to many more. Love, love. Oh, God. I hate you.