Girls Gotta Eat - It's SPICY GIRL SUMMER (how to do it right)

Episode Date: June 9, 2025

It's SPICY GIRL SUMMER and we have all the advice, tips, and tricks you need for making the most of it. We're sharing the top 10 goals for summer (submitted by our listeners) and how you can accomplish them – everything from surviving a younger sibling's wedding to having a threesome to getting tan without the sun damage. We're also sharing travel tips including packing hacks and info for traveling solo. AND we're talking about the three HOT new Vibes Only products we launched, how Rayna is feeling about her upcoming milestone birthday, and Ashley's latest embarrassing moment at home. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Rocket Money: Cancel your unwanted subscriptions at https://rocketmoney.com/gge. Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order at https://quince.com/GGE. Helix: Get 20% off site wide at https://helixsleep.com/gge. Simply Pop: Go to https://cokeurl.com/simplyPOP to find out where you can try Simply Pop. Pretty Litter: Get 20% off your first order and a free cat toy at https://prettylitter.com/gge. Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first month's subscription and free shipping when you subscribe at https://nutrafol.com with code GGE10. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So the theme of the summer, it's a spicy girl summer. You heard it here first. It's hot, but it's more than hot. It's zesty. This podcast is a Dear Media production. Hi guys. Hi guys. Welcome back to another episode of Girls Gotta Eat.

Welcome back, 6-9. Happy 6-9. Perfect episode for 6-9. Yeah, you guys can practice 69 this summer. It's a hot one. This is weird for me. I don't know where to look. We've never been at this angle before.

we've either only been facing directly forward or at each other. And now we're at like a 45 degree angle. So why are we doing this, Raina? Do you want to tell them? Because I look prettier or dead on. And I'm just feeling really pretty. And I'd rather. I don't feel as pretty from the side profile.

Also, this is not my pretty side. For seven years, we've been not filming on my pretty side. My pretty side is the other side. I guess I, well, it's hard to say. Which side's prettier for you? Because stuff's going wrong on both sides. I'm saying. I said you could be like, because they're both sounds.

I mean, I feel better in general. Obviously, since I had like a rhinoplasti, I feel great about my profile. But there's things that I'm like, well, I like, maybe I like this eye better, but I like this cheek better. Like, you know, it's like, you hit a certain age and you're like, it's not all symmetrical. It was never symmetrical for me. My eyes are not symmetrical. How many times an episode can I say when you get to be our age? Get that knee surgery.

I just drive around thinking like what the recovery time would be. You guys listen to last episode. To get your knees stretched. We're going to go see Dr. Barrett after this or you are, I don't know, I haven't decided if I'm coming yet. I just am excited to talk to him. So I, this is actually like the two year anniversary of my third boob job. Keep up. And the scars are almost completely gone. And like that really was like the number one deterrent for me to get a breast reduction in general because I was like, I like feeling really sexy.

I like sending nudes. I like wearing like bikinis where my boobs are hanging out of the bottom. And like, am I going to feel like I can't do that stuff anymore? And honestly, I've had scars for years and it's never bothered me. But now they're like almost gone, which is really nice. Yeah. And of course, if you guys are new around here, Dr. Barrett is our plastic surgeon. He's in Beverly Hills. Dr. Daniel Barrett. He's such a big deal. And he hasn't done full-blown surgery on me. But it's only a matter of time because I'm getting married this year and there's some stuff we've got to figure out. But he does my Botox. Or my, you know, Daxify. And we had an episode with him last summer. And it's always just good to go back and let's do. If you've missed that one, it's so much good information on yes, of course, like surgeries, but also just fillers and skincare. Skin care. and Ozempic and all the things. So go back and listen. All right. Well, let's thank our partners.

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and Pretty Litter, get 20% off your first order and a free cat toy at pretty litter.com slash GGEE. And thank you to Nutraful. Get $10 off your first month subscription and free shipping when you subscribe at Nutraful.com with code GGE 10. I thought there was no chance on earth you were going to show dressed like me today. And we both showed up to play tennis. That's the vibes.

Well, I wanted to be summery. Yeah, for our summer episode. We're talking about summer themes today. And I feel like it's really a summer of just like a Haynes tank. Oh, because Kendall Jenner brought them back. Kendall Jenner wore this tank to the next first Knicks game where like all the celebrities are in RIP Nix. They're no longer in the playoffs.

But it just looked cheap and basic. And I guess the internet found out it was like a Haynes boys ribbed tank. I like it. They're thin. I looked it up. That style is not for me. More mussely. Like this is my style of rib tank.

What's going on the back? Just a regular tank, not mussels. I like to get out with stuff. You know, I think we all have different cuts. We like. And this is my cut. I don't want like, I don't want a muscle tank. I don't mind it.

I have one that cuts in really far. Gives me a little side boob from Zara. I'm really like in that. $12. Zara tanks. That's the thing. Yeah, it's a summer of cheap tanks. Every summer is that summer for me.

But sometimes you get like wrapped up and I'm like, oh, do I need that $70 tank? You don't. No. I have them. And I regret them. I have like an $89, a Goldie. That one we both have. I know.

It is a good tank, but I like this better. I'll say it. I like this $10 tank better than that. $8 tank. I got mine on sale. Top people, yeah. Old Navy. Old Navy, great tanks.

But also Revolve. That's your fashion update for now. Yeah, I'll also revolve. And, you know, you guys use my shop my links because I'm depending on it for. Stop. France. She's promoted her side hustle. Come see me on tour.

You guys. You guys, I need something to live for while she's on her own little tour by herself. Well, I have a little bit of a break in June for Raina Pallusa. I had to take a full two weeks off. It's this week. I can't believe it's happening. I'm like a little nervous because like, what am I going to live for when it's over? I don't know.

She's being 40. I know. Well, I'm going to Europe for two weeks. So it's fine. I'll like find something to live for. But I really like it's finally happening. It's crazy. I know.

I know. You never think it's going to happen. I mean, do you think you'll have something to live for after your wedding? Being married. No, I truly don't. No, hopefully a special. Okay. Will drop after that.

Yeah. But then after that, nothing. After the bachelorettes and the wedding and the special, then the special drops, then everybody gets all hot on you for a minute, and then that ends. You're going to have no attention. And then when I get a special, then it's like, you got a tour now. I'm like, whoa, whoa. No, I'm retired.

We'll go back on tour. We used to have a tour for seven years. No, we have stuff to do. I guess. We have tour stops, actually, that we're planning, you guys. So stay tuned. And we do have another company. We're celebrating three years of vibes only.

It's our sexual wellness business. This week, we launched it. We have sex toys at lube and handcuffs and all kinds of accoutrement for the bedroom for you guys. And a connected app with remote control and erotic audio and all the things. But to celebrate our three year anniversary, we are releasing three new products. I can't like it's been three years. Where has the time gone? I'm really grinding it out for three years.

But, yeah. So these are our summer, 2025, spicy girl summer. We'll get into it. Launches. And these are fun. We have talked for a long time about releasing toys

that come in a case that you can charge, you can bring on the road. And we have designed an incredible toy. It's called the Casey Paul's duo and it comes in what looks like a sunglass case.

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Oh, and it's so comfortable to hold. All our toys are very ergonomic. But that pulsing sensation, that's our first toy that does that. And it hits different. I mean, it feels so, so good. I mean, there's all different types of sensations with vibrators, your standard vibrators. vibrator and suction air pulse. I have not felt a sensation like this before. I don't know if you guys can oh and yes it's quiet. You guys hear that purring. Yeah. It just purrs. And it just pulses really. I mean,

you can turn it up. There's five different intensities. You can turn it up. But the sensation is really different than just a straight up vibration or a straight up sucking sensation. And like Ashley said, really fits in your hand nicely as a beautiful gold detail, perfect color, toss it in your bag. Everybody that sees this thinks it's a sunglass case. Yeah. And, Just back to the charging. I mean, the toy charges in the case, but obviously the case needs to be charged. But the best thing about it is that it charges with USBC. So that is most of your iPhone chargers, your computer charger.

Like when I travel, I just bring one brick and a charger that's USBC. So I charge my phone and my computer and now my Casey case. So so easy to charge. And so you're never without a charged vibe. Your vibe never dies. Nothing worse than that. And again, the color is stunning. and the toy is just really, really special and different.

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That sounds nice. So there are many sizes. so you can really try them all and decide which one's your favorite. And we did margarita, pinia colada, and watermelon sprits. And they come in this cute little travel case. So I honestly can't pick a favorite. We had done pinacolada before and people went crazy for it. But this margarita is so different.

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Put this on a bottle of the vina colada of ass eating for spicy girl summer. But no, it really is so good just to throw one of these in the bag on vacation. And they are all, of course, TSA approved sizes and just have fun. And we did a fun summer photo shoot. So stay tuned for some of the content with that. We hired this very sexy model. I miss him so much. He was really great.

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And just thank you guys for your support over the years. It's been three years of this. It is really not easy to run a sex-based company. And you guys have just, you've promoted it for us and with us. And you've been so excited to just explore your sexuality and be open to different things in the bedroom, whether it's solo or partnered. And so just thank you guys. Yeah.

To have a second business, it's just, it's a blessing and we're really honored. Do you guys support it? Yeah. And you really do. You know, sometimes I like forget we get wrapped up in all the business parts of it. And you just forget that like every day like all these orders are coming in from people that want to improve their sex life or have heard of the podcast or maybe not. And we just, it means a lot. So yeah.

Happy to keep it. Keep it rolling. So have fun this summer. You guys enjoy it. All right. What else are we talking about? Do you want to talk about our week? Yeah.

So I'm in New York right now as this comes out, which I'm very excited about. I just miss it so much. And then Raina Poulouse will be this weekend. So we'll give you guys an update later on how that was. But three days. And I mean, I really, I feel really emotional about it. I think as you approach 40, if you approach these milestone ages, you really take an inventory of your life and you say, like, am I where I want to be career-wise, relationship-wise,

friendship-wise? And I don't have a serious romantic partner in my life. And I think a lot of people, especially at 40, are like, oh, my God, what does that mean who am I? What does that mean for the future? And I just, I'm feeling really grateful about all the other things. I mean, to have all these friends travel for you and show up for you and bring their partners and everybody's friends with each other. And all my friends want to come out and do this for three days with us and with me. And I feel really honored and I choose to prioritize and think about the things that I have or the things that I don't have. And what I have is a lot. And I just,

I feel really emotional just like communicating with everybody and thinking like the people around me are really smart and wonderful and they love each other too and that's like really special for me. So I'm just, I'm really excited. Oh, good. I was going to ask you how you're feeling about it as we get into the big weekend. I'm really excited. No, it really is. I mean, I like what you said.

Think about what you do have, not what you don't have. But I really do love that. And it's just, it's so many people. Everyone's so excited. It's really the event of the summer. I love nothing more than being in a house with all your friends and just like waking up in the morning. Like, what happened last night?

I mean, I don't get drunk like that anymore. But we will this weekend. It's really, really fun. So it's definitely like the highlight of my summer. Well, all you ratchet are parties, all the three of them. Yeah, we'll talk about it. But yeah, I'm just, I'm amped. So we'll tell you guys what happened.

But I'm really looking forward to it and excited. Speaking of my dating life, I had a date last week. And I'm sitting there with him at this bar in Santa Monica. And just to tell our audience, it was the guy from the meat plate. And we talked about it last week where one of my, our friends, boyfriends, like wingman for you. And anyway, this is that guy. This is that guy. So he asked me out and we went to this great bar that you hadn't been to yet. You and I've been talking about going there. You really did want to go there. And I was sitting there and I'm

facing the door. He's facing the wall. We'd been there for maybe like 90 minutes. And you went early. I didn't expect you to go at 5 o'clock. It was packed to the walls by like 5.15. I was so glad we did. He said to me, do you want to go, like, right when they open? And I was like, at 5 o'clock, it's not going to be dark until 8. Do the job? No, seriously. At 5 o'clock, I'm just, I'm winding down from the day. I just take my, like, four mile walk. I've got to do

stuff. I'm not going to get drunk at 5 o'clock. Right. But fine, it was fine. We went, he looked great. And we're about 90 minutes into the date. And I see a tall Indian man and a tall, skinny white girl walk in. And I'm like, that kind of looks like, oh my God, it's them. And you showed up on my date.

I cannot believe you didn't see it coming. I had teased it. Oh, you get this psychotic. I had run the tape, pull the receipts. I had said, I'm crashing your date. I did not think that was going to happen. I was just kidding. The one time I crashed yours, I happened to be at the hotel because I was staying at the hotel and make a special trip.

Well, you didn't even crash it. You just took photos from afar. Yeah, you didn't know. Well, so also, I will say, you had me stressed because when you said you were going at five, like my. like my fiance doesn't even get home till 6.15. I was like, we gotta get going. Like, I don't know how long we have.

So we got there and yeah, we saw you. And you were surprised, which I was like, how? And I was like, should I have acted? Like, had I known ahead of time you were coming, I would have like totally pretended it was a surprise. Like, I didn't really know how to act and he did not love it. He seized up a little bit. His body language changed.

And I think that everybody, I honestly wouldn't fault him for any way he would have acted. Like, I think if I was on a date with a guy and he like sprung his best friend and that guy's fiance on me, I mean, I would have played it off cooler. But I don't know if I would have loved it. I mean, well, he didn't like react poorly. He wasn't like pissed. No. He just seemed caught off guard.

But he is a shired guy anyway. Yeah. You know, like I think some guys would have been like, oh, hey, what's up? Laughing it up, yucking it up. Like, I just think he was a little more reserved about it. He didn't know how to act. And then you brought up something like, what if he thought I had you come? because it was going badly, which was like not the vibe at all.

And then my fiance and I just went and like got drinks at the bar and like had a pizza. Yeah, I was like, do you guys want to stay? And you're like, no, we're going. We'll just stand over here. And then I was like, this actually is kind of awkward. But then when we came back around to wrap up and leave and say goodbye to you guys, he was way more relaxed. And he was joking around. He was talking more to us.

He had a drink. Yeah, we were feeling him for you. He's cute. He's very cute. So cute. I really would not fault him for like. any way he reacted. I can think of some guys who I've been on dates with,

like a different guy went out on a date with that same week, who probably would have been a little more like chatty and warm, but like that's not my guy, you know? Like just because somebody's really good in like one situation doesn't mean that like full picture they're your perfect partner. I was trying to like articulate this and like, like I don't mind if somebody gets a little uncomfortable in that moment because like people that can sort of just like hop to in every single social situation.

That's what I'm like. But that doesn't necessarily make you the best partner in the world. it's a nice thing to have. It's not a need to have. Yes. I was thinking of how my fiancee would have reacted. And it probably would have been a similar energy, but he knew you. We met him the same time. So he knows who you are. So he would have been like, oh, Raina. But this guy didn't know me at all. I mean, I wouldn't have done it if I thought it was going to be awkward. I really thought you knew I was coming. I said it like twice. Like I was like, I'm going to tease this. I mean, I couldn't care less. I think it's funny. And I will say, I don't need somebody who's going to be like, join us.

But if somebody had a really negative reaction to it, that would not be my person either. So like it, I thought it was like cute and light and like who cares. And it made me laugh. I love crashing my friends' dates. I mean, you know, with the people you know you can get away with it. But I was telling you there was one year in Atlanta. It was Valentine's Day. And my friend, but you know, you're friends with him now, Bobby Corey.

We were out with friends day drinking that day. and our one friend Travis, like, this is the day I met Taylor Frost, by the way, too. Like, I just remember this day. That was the day I met her. We were all out day drinking. It was Valentine's Day. So some of us are single. What do we care?

And we were like, you got a date tonight. You can't just get like hammered. Like you want to take your girl out tonight to our friend Travis. And so he's telling us their plans. And like, Bobby and I are like, we'll show up. So we show up to their dinner. And they were like so cool. It was so fun.

Like a sit-down dinner? Yeah, they were out of dinner reservation. That's hilarious. We show up to their dinner. We were able to make space for us. And then they told us. They were like in a two top. We'd like squeeze it.

No, when I worked in restaurants on Valentine's Day, like there was no such thing as a four top. We separated every table in the restaurant. Exactly. So then we're talking about where the rest of the group, my like group of friends in Atlanta at the time, like we're having like dates. And they were like, so and so is down the street at the St. Regis.

We were like, let's fucking go. So we go to the same regis. And we show up. And this guy and his girlfriend are like, what the fuck? And they loved it. I mean, I just think it's fun to be like spontaneous, like a hot take. But even the night we came and crashed your date, like, we looked back on that night as like one of the more fun nights we've had out where we went to this bar slash restaurant,

didn't have a reservation, and we were able to get drinks, have a pizza, then we went to another bar next door. And I was like, this was so much better than like dinner, res, sit down. Like, I don't know. It's just this is literally the coldest take. But like, I'm just having more fun with not as much of a plan. when you go out at night. I've always wanted to live my life.

Couples make reservations and you go to dinner and it's just like, let's just hit the town. I think that different cities, in New York City, I don't ever need a plan. I don't make plans. I don't want to really need a res. If you want to go to like the 10 restaurants that everybody has to go to

because Taylor Swift went there, like yes. But like, also I'm method publicist from via Corona. Now we're besties. That's the most important person in New York City. Oh, there you go. She's our friend now.

But New York City, I just, I don't need to do that. I can hop around anything. I do will be fun. But in LA, everything's like spread out. You got to make res. I know. You know? But like, I don't know. We've just been having fun on date nights, like, playing it by ear more. It just feels better. It feels sexier. It feels like more fun. You've changed. I know me. It's no plans Greenberg. I do not want a plan ever. Well, I had to tell you the story. I've been not, I hadn't shared with you yet. I've been not telling you. So I've been holding back. I've been gatekeeping. We were in bed the other night, like getting ready to go to bed. And we'll go to bed and he'll kind of, fall asleep and I might be up like reading for a little bit. He's just such an easy sound sleeper. It's like not an issue. It's really nice. Like we'll get into bed together and like I'll stay up

and like watch Summer House. And he's kind of in and out of sleep, it doesn't bother him. I don't know. I couldn't be me. But he's just so easy like that. So this was like, we don't do this every night. But this was like one of those nights. Like we're like, let's go up and go to bed. And then I was still like maybe going to watch something. So he kind of been in and out of sleep. I say this to be like, this man was like pretty much sleeping. And I go into the bathroom. I was like doing all my stuff. before I, he always makes fun of me. It takes so long for like women to get ready to go to bed. We have like nighttime skincare routines, like all different things, whatever.

So I'd been like watching TV, so I had my contacts. And so the final thing in the night, I went to the bathroom and I like took my contacts out. And the way my eyes started burning so badly, I was like, oh my God, what did I do? It took me a minute to even realize that I had like taken the contacts out and that's what was happening. I started crying. He wakes up. I was like in so much pain. My eyes felt like they were on fire.

And I'm like, what did I do? I'm like, oh my God, like something is really, really wrong here. And he wakes up to me just crying and tears streaming on my face because they're like on fire. So I'm like, what is even happening? So he was like, splash your eyes with water. He's up now. He's like alert. He's like, let's like soak your eyes of water. And I'm trying to remember what I did. And then I remembered that I had put my cortisone cream on my butt. And obviously I had washed my hands, but like maybe it was under my nail. You use your nail. No. The cream. Sorry, you wipe your butt with your nails, but I don't. So I was like, there must have been some under the nail or something like, you know, my nails are kind of long. And so I'm like realizing it's washing over me that it was just like the cortisol and cream. But then I felt better that I at least like realized what was happening.

I thought you were in time with jalapeno. And I wasn't like going blind. Yeah. So I'm like rinsing my eyes out. They finally started to feel better. And we get back into bed. I was like, I think I realized what was what it was. And he was like, what?

And I said it was like I put some cortisone cream on. And he was like, on what? And I was like, on my butt. He was like, you had butt cream in your eyes. That's why your eyes were burning. So that's the new joke around the house that I put my butt cream in my eyes. And my eyes were on fire. Like living with somebody is just a series of getting embarrassed all the time.

They're just there for all of this. This is your first time looking at the man. I know, but it's just, I mean, I've lived with somebody before, so many years ago, like, to this extent where he's like just there all the time. Like, I do embarrassing stuff. Yeah, me too. Like, that would just would have been like a thing that happened to me personally. Maybe I would tell you about it that I got my like rectal cortisone cream. If you guys remember when I picked it up, they embarrassed me at the pharmacy.

Rectal cortisone cream in my eyeballs. Okay. The worst thing for me is, yes, that's embarrassing, but understandable. It's fine. I'm not really truly embarrassed. you know I'd love to get surgery. If no one can see me looking like that and you like obviously like you had a little bit of like a mouth procedure and the side of your jaw like blew up and like I don't know what I would do. I haven't like had like real surgery while I was like living with

anybody. I've lived with three men. Like you just have to like know you're going to be looking like that in front of a person. I just I can't imagine having a partner that cared about that stuff. I mean he just like doesn't care. He's so unbothered. He loves me no matter what. Like the times he tells me I look beautiful. I'm like, please stop. Now you're lying. Like, he doesn't look at me the way I look at me. You know, and those things just like don't bother. I'm like, yeah, he thought my jaw looked crazy. But he doesn't like think, I don't know. Like, I would feel for any woman who lives with a guy that feels like you can't be gross or, or, you know, be swollen. I think the stuff that we say to ourselves about ourselves is always going to be so much worse than what anybody who loves you

could ever think when they look at you. And like, I think so many times, like we say, like, I feel not you and I, but like, they plural you, I feel fat, I feel unattractive, I feel ugly today. And your partner never really thinks that. Maybe they do, but. Well, you hope they don't. And if you feel that they do, you don't want to be with that person because your looks are going to get worse. Like I'm saying we're all going to age. You're not going to look like you do now. Yes. And we were talking about like having bad breath in front of somebody. And like I stay getting strep throat. I for years we get strep throat. And that makes your breath like so disgusting. And I think about like the men that I live.

with through strep throat that like never said anything to me about it. It never made me feel bad. That's that should be that is the standard and the norm. But I think we're all in our heads. Like my partner thinks this and that and somebody who really loves you doesn't think those things. Or just doesn't care. Like it doesn't even cross their mind. But yeah, I'm pretty much healed from the gum surgery. If you guys want a full health update. But that was only gum graft number one. So I'm still supposed to get another one. I'm like a zool at this point. Like my teeth are so fucked up. I've so much more dental work to get done. But we survived it. And I feel pretty good about it. And I'll get the other side eventually. I don't know. All right. It's a tooth on the top,

which feels different too because then you see it in your smile. I don't know. I don't know when I have like a window of time. No, I got to figure out. It wasn't as bad as I thought. Yeah. No. We'll ping pong who gets mouth surgeries. I got to get some shit done too. Summer. How we bother? This is wintertime shit. Well, let's take a quick break. And then we will get back into it. have some fun travel tips and tricks for you guys. I am telling you about pretty litter. This is truly the best cat litter on the planet, such a game changer. It helps monitor your cat's health, which is huge. We're just talking about health. It's so important to keep your pets healthy. It can detect abnormalities in their urine and just show you if they have anything going on with

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it's a spicy girl summer. You heard it here first. It's hot, but it's more than hot. It's zesty. It is. It's hot. It's hot bodies. It's hot attitudes. It's hot travel. But you're bringing the spice. It's getting hot. It's really, it's better than hot. It's spicy. We're doing things differently. We're doing things spontaneously. More spicy. The sex toys we dropped are spicy. And we did crowdsource and ask you guys your themes and goals. And spicyy came up all the time. You guys are on board. Yeah. So spicy girl summer is here and we asked you guys some of your goals for summer. And so we wanted to do a definitive guide to having spicy girl summer. 10 goals crowdsourced by our audience, and we are going to give tips on how to achieve them. Okay. And then then we'll do some travel tips.

Yeah. And then we have travel tips for you at the end. Okay. Do you want to kick it off? Yeah. This came up a lot in general weddings. Somebody said, survive my sister's wedding. And I think, you know, it is wedding season.

A lot of us are having to travel. Be around people what don't like. Spend a lot of money. We don't necessarily have. Ultimately, it's a good thing. And I never miss that money. But, you know, survive other people's weddings. Big theme of the summer.

Yeah. And one person wrote in. and survived my sister's wedding, which could be that it's a younger sister. We don't know all the details or just a sister in general. And maybe she is single. And so she's looking at this is like she doesn't want to be single. I mean, I don't know all the details. But survive my sister's wedding leads me to believe she's not that excited. No, I don't. You don't use the word survive if you're excited. So I don't know. I mean, this goes back to what we talked about last week with just trusting the timing of your life. And this also aligns with what Raina said earlier in the episode of

focus on what you have, not what you don't have. And these things can be really tough, especially if I'm just projecting. You are going to a younger sibling's wedding without a date and you wish you were in a relationship and it could feel like everybody's getting married around you. But it's like, what are you going to do? They're going to get divorced soon. Yeah. Just wait until your late 30s. Just go, be hot, have fun. And you don't want to look back on this as you ruined your own time because you were worried that you didn't have a date. I mean, I've always had so much fun at wedding. I've been to most weddings without a date.

And you're the sister of the bride. You're an important person. You're on the A list. You're the inner circle. And so that's my advice is if you let this get you down and you think all these limiting beliefs and all these thoughts of why don't I have somebody, why her, why not me, why whatever, you will look back on this next year, five years, 10 years and be like, I can't believe I did that to myself. I can't believe I didn't enjoy this special time in my sister's life.

But maybe she hates her sister. Who's to say? So I'm just saying if your sister is important to you, if your family is important to you, just don't let this ruin this milestone. I love that advice. And I think it's important to be honest with yourself about your capacity. Take breaks if you need to. You know, find a place in the venue you can go cool off for a little bit. Where's something you feel really confident in, not just something you're like, I look hot in this and I should pick this thing out. Where's something you feel physically good? And I guess if you're in the wedding, you know, she's got to be in a rise. Yeah.

Well, son. Get it tailored to be sexy. Shorten it. Hey, I got this fix. Put a slit up the front. Put a sled in it. Why not? I dare someone to tell me.

I can't put a slit in it. I put a slit in it. What are you going to do now? Close it up. And per usual, you know, I think everybody gets in their head, like, I'm the only single person here. No one's thinking about you. No one's thinking about you.

Everyone is thinking about you. No one is thinking about you. And I've been to plenty of weddings by myself, too. Everyone dances together. And if you need to. leave early, you know, but try to enjoy these moments because this is what bonds you to people. And when you look back at special times in your life, it is things like birthdays, weddings, holidays. I've never missed the money that I've spent. Even when I really was struggling, these are the things

I'm happy to have spent the money on and gone to. And also, if you can't, you know, we all have financial limitations. The things I regret is not being honest if I can't afford something or go to something. But just try to enjoy the time because you can't get it back. Yeah. And if this is a matter of really wanting that too and you want to find somebody and you want to get married it's coming it's happening to your sister it's all around you you're attracting it i always think that like something i want if it's happening to people around me it's coming for me next you can't outrun it you get got and listen if you're worried that people are asking you what are you next what about you are you dating somebody just fuck with those people have them think whatever like you could just

hit him with a who's to say just have them thinking you don't you like girls now whatever maybe you do but like I'm just those relatives that are going to make you feel some sort of way, just fuck with them. Just say a thing and walk away. You know, just have fun. Yeah. You know, get out there, enjoy it, feel hot. Okay.

Do more things alone. I love doing stuff alone. You start this one. I just let you take it away. I love it. And I'm never going to not do something that I want to do out of fear that I have to do it alone. And there are things that are scarier to do alone. Of course, travel.

And we'll talk about that later. Going out to eat by yourself. I think everyone's like, everyone's looking at me and I want to experience this with somebody else. But I always have a running list in my phone of things I want to go to, whether it's art exhibits or museums or like even just like a flower shop I want to experience or a different area of town I want to explore. And no one's thinking about me more than I'm thinking about me. No one's like, I can't believe she's doing this alone. I like to go to the farmer's market. I'll go with somebody or not. But I'm never going

to not do something just because I can't find somebody to do it with me. Because how sad would that to go through life just waiting for somebody to fulfill you. And I think that if you have that mindset, it can lead to making bad decisions about who you're with. Because if you just make decisions based on I got to find some way to do stuff with, you, I think you drop your standards. And I don't want to do that either. And so I think how great is it to have the health and the ability and the finances to do things that you want to do that excite you. And just because you don't have somebody to do with doesn't mean you shouldn't. And people ask us all the time about making new friends. I mean, these are great opportunities to meet new people. So take a class, whether it's

a workout class, a pottery class, whether it's just some kind of group camping trip. Just say yes to stuff, even if you have to do it alone. And I find a lot of fulfillment in it even if I can't share it with somebody else. Yeah, and we talked about this a lot. I don't remember the exact episode. We talked about it last year, maybe around this time or late summer, early fall with the horseback riding situation. Orina went horseback riding alone and they couldn't remind her enough she was there alone. And it's funny to laugh about. You know, like, again, just make light of this stuff. It's not that deep. And I always say start small. If you are a person who can't really imagine doing anything alone, like first step is the farmer's market. So many people are there alone or the coffee

shop. It's not going to dinner during prime dinner time and sitting there by yourself. If that feels so terrifying to you, it's just like starting small with the activities that other people are doing alone as well. Yeah. So you'll build up to it. Yeah. Okay, number three, if you want to get into new sex stuff. Three for threesome. A lot of threesome. A lot of threesome. A lot of getting Eiffel Towered. Can you imagine getting Eiffel Towered in Paris?

That should be a goal. You know, I've been thinking about it. Well, you're going to Paris this summer, aren't you? Brittany's going to stay with me. Brittany can't set that up. That's true. She definitely can, though. Well, you and I have been seeing a lot of threesome

just out in the wild. We were sitting at a bar the other night. And there was this girl sitting between these two guys, and they both were like all over her. And then she just got up and left with her. Both of them? She was... I think three subs are hot right now.

Something alone. She was there at two days. I think three sums are really hot right now. And I think two men, one woman, I'm trying to do that this summer. I know where you got that idea. You've been horned up since Harry Jalsy's episode. Harry Jalsy is coming soon and he talks about this. No, this really is the summer of threesomes.

And it's our third anniversary for five is only three new products, threesomes. Everything comes in three. Everything comes in three. Yeah. Summer of three. And we have Mandy and Weezy from the podcast. decisions, decisions, formerly horrible decisions coming in a couple weeks. And their book is a wealth of sex information, inspiration, if you will. So their book is called No Holes Bard. So they'll be

on end of this month and then their book is dropping. And I mean, I've read that book and I was just like this made me want to go out and do some freaky stuff. So I think sometimes just getting in the mindset of threesomes, whether it be with some erotic audio like we have in the Vives Only app or reading a book can really get you set up and inspired. I've been trying some new stuff this year, a little like cuck holding. We'll talk about it with them too. Yes, which I surprise. I like it.

And I've been like sort of ended like the idea of two guys with me. And I just, why not? Yes. Well, I'm manifesting this for you that it happens in Paris. I don't know about those French guys, but you can find whoever. Other people are in Paris. You'll be out with Brittany. you guys can like wingman this and even if she doesn't want to participate well then I guess

it's an orgy but like she could help you find your two guys for you if you get Eiffel Towered in Paris she should run for president and her and I are like you and I we don't have the same type totally she's a very different type that I do so because she's so much hotter than I am stop it I don't buy that no she's just as beautiful as I am but also get on field if I mean I know If you're in a small town, I can't speak on it. And I don't know, but it exists everywhere. And, you know, maybe you take a trip into the city. If you're in a small town, you take a trip to the big city.

But we've talked about Field. Raina had a great experience on it. Like, that would be where I would start if you don't know where to start. And people will have threesomes in their hobbies, preferences. Oh, all the time. So you could find one person on there and then they could set it up for you. I mean, be safe and, you know. There's a lot of couples on there, too, just looking for.

or a third. Exactly. You can kind of design your own adventure of what you're looking for. Yeah. I don't think you always like get into like BDSM or cock holding so easily. So like you can try some lighter fetishes like edging to start. Or just talk about it. You know, again, Field is a dating app and we've talked about it at length,

F, E, LD, you guys can download that. But like if you see someone that's just their interest or threesomes, just go out with them. They're not going to bring a person to the drink date. Like you can talk about it. So tell me about threesomes. I've been interested in it. Like these things just can be like soft entrees into them. Like I always want to tell people like something sounds so intimidating and they don't need to be that way.

Like you can ease in. Dip a toe in. I'll like Jessie. It's a summer house. It's like a toe. When I have been on these field dates, I mean, you can set up your profile however you want. But like people don't walk into a date with me and start telling about their sexual kinks. Like I opened the door to it.

Right. You know? And you would hope you'd be in a safe space to somebody that like they don't lead with that if you haven't expressively wanted them. too. And if somebody does, you feel uncomfortable, then you fucking leave. Yeah, 100%. But I've just, you know, I've been toying with some different stuff this year. It's been fun. Yeah. Yeah. So again, it can just start small, small steps. Somebody said I want to finally try reverse cowgirl. Just get into it. Yeah. Spin around. Do not let that intimidate you at all.

Just, yeah, spin around. Do you like reverse cowgirl? Yeah, I'll do it. I mean, I don't, I guess I'm like, why am I doing it? To me, it just looks kind of naughty. Yeah, it feels naughty. It feels sexy. Your, if your partner is getting a different view. But yeah, I do it. It goes like kind of deeper. And I, it's type two fun for me. In the moment, I don't necessarily care about it. It's not like hitting the spot. I needed to hit necessarily. But I like to think about it after the fact. Yeah. And they can smack your ass easier. Yeah. They don't have to like reach around like just right there. Honestly, I find it an easier position on top than regular cowgirl. I find that I just like I have, it's easier for me. But it's to me, I'm just bouncing and where am I looking? You know, like at their toes.

I'm just, you're just bouncing. And it's just like, that's when you need a show on to watch. I just, I don't, I look at their feet. I take a little break. I give my face a little break. Yeah, it's true. It's a break for everything. Yeah, it's a break for everything.

Enjoy actually being in my own town. I thought that was interesting. And when we talked to Brian Kelly, he said a lot of people are going to forgo international travel this year and really start to explore not only just the United States, but their own towns. And this is something I do so much. L.A. is so humongous. Obviously, in everybody lives in a city this big.

But I always have a running list of the neighborhoods I want to explore. And I'll pick a neighborhood. So say it's like Silver Lake, which is almost an hour from Venice. And I'll pick a great coffee shop to go to in the morning, a little brunch place. I pick a place I want to work. Maybe it's like a park. I want to read a book in and maybe grab an early dinner. And then I drive back.

And I write a whole plan for myself for the day and just ask people like, what's a fun thing to do in this area? And I feel so like accomplished when it's over. Like I've really explored something new. Yeah. I love this to be a tourist in your own city. or town and like keeping a list. Like Raina said, I was going to read you some things for my list. But even this weekend, I mean, I will have just done these shows,

but I have shows in Pasadena. It's like Friday we're going to, I'm going to go and come back. But then Saturday, my fiance is going to go. And I just booked as a hotel for afterwards. There's a really beautiful Langham, Pasadena. And then to the next day, because I want to go to the botanical gardens. Oh, the library. The hunting and library.

Yeah. So I'm just like, I've been wanting to go. Let's just have a fun little staycation at the sexy hotel and do these things. And that's just Pasadena. It's just down the street. You know what I do all the time is every time I see something like the Canber app is great in L.A. Or time out.

Anything I see that I want to do in my city, I star it. And then when I'm near that neighborhood, I see like what have I previously starred that I could like go to? Because Jackie and I like drove way out to Eagle Rock to get this sandwich the other day. And I was like, what are we going to do out here? And there was the botanical garden out there that I was that I'd start a long time ago. And I was like, do you want to go to this with me? And we had such like a lovely like two hours walking around. I know.

And so the camper app is great. Timeout is great if you have in your city because it's like this weekend, this week, this month, and you can really filter it that way. And we'd love the infatuation for restaurants. But I just think TikTok. I mean, every small town in America, you can, if you don't have those other sites or those apps, you just go on TikTok. What are people doing?

I mean, if it's your town and you know everything to do, that's one thing. But I just love this taking a list. Like I have like all these restaurants that we want to hit. And then a couple things I have, I want to go to the Lachma Jazz on Friday. And then the bungalow in Santa Monica, they're doing like a night market Thursday nights, like five to 11 p.m., which I think would be so fun. And then these outdoor movies, I mean, there are so many different ones. They have West Hollywood, downtown, then Sinaspia, which is in the Hollywood Cemetery. And like, Timeout has like every outdoor movie every night through the summer. So anyway, those are just some of my, like, L.A. Rex. But just like, I love this. Just like really enjoy where you're at. Yeah. Okay. Number five, get tan. You were really excited about this one. What are your tanning tips? I just ordered some my tanning products last night. So it was just top of mind. I mean, I love the tanning drops.

I love Isle of Paradise. I do think they just reformulated some stuff and people are pissed. But I was able to find the old bottle on Amazon because I couldn't find in Sifora. When I get a product like that, I will buy like three of them just in case, God forbid, they discontinue it. But I like the tanning drops that I put in my lotion. Do you use tanlux ever? My friend Emily swears by tanlux in her lotion. Oh, the drops. Yeah. I did just order those for a face. Oh, yeah.

Like the top rated. Yes. And it's buildable. You know, still try your best to apply it evenly, but you're not going to have like some streaky mess. And I just think wear sunscreen. Wear hair sunscreen. I ordered some hair sunscreen.

What's that? My scalp got burnt recently and your hair gets dry. So I ordered some like sunscreen for my hair. And, you know, just take care of your skin and keep tan with all these tanning products. I do like a hair mask once a week. I also wash my hair once a week. So that's, that's my hair mask. It's just crazy.

You got to protect your hair in the sun. I like when a skin. gets like really blonde though yeah that's true what are your tanning products i just use the jergins tanning lotion bill people always tell me how about tan i am like it's just no that shit really does work but it has a little bit of smell my doesn't it does it does it i think so it's just faint but i always would only do it on my legs because like if it's up too close to my nose but i'm sensitive to smell you are very sensitive to smell but i put that i put that and i mix it with what's the body oil that i like ohcia ohia body oil i mix the lotion with the ocea body oil i'm just you know i'm

smooth i'm smooth and smooth and So those are my tanning products. And then I just don't get spray tans anymore. No shade. But like I feel like I haven't had one in so long. Like I'm just, I'm DIY at home. I got one for our live show in December because I was going to be like naked for five shows in a row.

But that was it. Yeah. I mean, I love a spray tan. I love raw bronzing studio in Atlanta. We used to go to Sugar and Bronze in New York and they have those here. But I don't know. I'm just like, it's a whole production. And so I just like, I'm doing it in a hell with my tanning drops.

Yeah. I don't like the smell. If you do go, I like sugar and bronze too, it's a good one in Venice. Okay, read more books. Get rid of hemorrhoids. So, it's a duel. If you want to read, I love these girls' goals. If you want to read more books, we did a great book episode two weeks ago on the snack at this point. And it's on our Instagram, some of our book wrecks. And get rid of hemorrhoids. I mean, what kind of creams for your butts can you use that? You got to get rid. You've got to figure this. You don't want to go in a

summer with a butt issue. Trust me, I constantly am dealing with something. You just, you've got to go, you got to figure this out. But Megababe makes a hemroid cream. So I want to take this opportunity to plug Megababab. I feel like they really were like, this is not sexy, but so many people deal with this. And we're going to tackle this issue. Yeah. So Megababab who Katie Sterino is the founder and we just love the product line, they make a hemorrhoid cream called Butstuff, which I think is genius and shop all their other. I mean, great plug for summer in general, just like the deodorants and the anti-chafeing stuff.

Like Megababababre truly is like one of the best places to shop for products year-round, especially summer. and they have stuff for men too. But they have a hemroid cream. And, you know, that could be a place to start. This girl's going to get rid of her hemorrhoids and she's going to be more well-read. Yeah. Okay, great.

The three afts get fit, get fucked, get financially stable. A lot of people want to get fit this summer. I want to do more strength training. I have been stretching a lot. Every morning I've been stretching. Your brother got me into stretching. So that's...

But I just think it's so important to lift weights and I feel like I'm not taking my own advice. So I want to, like, do more. strength training. Even if I'm just doing like class, like Peloton classes at home, I need to go buy some like heavier weights and just doing like some Pilates at home. Like I just do cardio and yoga and I just want to do more like weight stuff. Well, we were talking to Dr. Barrett the last time we were there and I was asking him about people that stay on Ozempic for a long time. And like is that advised? And obviously I'm not going to give medical advice. But he said as you get older, one thing that's

really important is bone density. And so that you should be working out and doing a little strength training and you know whether you're on a glp1 med or not that that's really important as you age yeah hot take yeah it really is and get fucked i mean you know we talked about that and get financially stable we can direct you guys to an episode we did with troy dunlap from her first 100k which i think was really great and she's just a great resource in general and i think also some people are like i am not at the point where i have money to save and i think her content can also help answer some of those questions and remit say tea too remit has been on our podcast a couple times and he speaks to that as well the people are like you're talking about stuff I don't understand like

I can't even I'm living paycheck to paycheck and I think he speaks really bluntly about like that like how to make more money how to get more financially stable yeah and their advice is not it's not like intangible it's I mean if you've $20 a week to save they can still really help to do with that which I think that that's what that's what I had in my 20. is $20 to stay. Oh my God. Yeah, sometimes not even. I was out here overdrafting.

But our episode, I don't know if it addressed so much of that, but she speaks on it, so does he. So they're just great resources. And again, like, this is a start small thing. Like, just start following some of these people. Just have them in your feed. You know, like if you've never thought about saving money or being financially stable before, just start with consuming some of the content about it, reading her book, his book.

Those are just our go-tis. I love that advice. And a lot of people said I want to quit my job and start. a small business and I want to turn my hobby into a small business. And those are the type of accounts that are also great to just emulate what other people that have had success are doing and do like one small thing every week. Yeah, you really do pick up some of this information through osmosis, just having it in your feed of your TikTok, your Instagram.

If you're following like models and memes and stuff that doesn't really bring value to your life, just rework that. So the stuff that you're seeing, even when you're mindlessly squids, scrolling can have you like thinking about things a different way. Yeah. My Instagram makes me so happy. It's just like food and cute little fashion and architecture. I just love it.

Okay. Say yes more than no. I mean, I have been saying this for years. We have been saying this for years. That is the best advice when you want to make friends, when you want to heal from a breakup, when you want to just meet new people in a new city or build your business. Just say yes. And the worst thing that is going to happen is you go to something and you're like,

this is kind of boring. And then you leave. Yeah. And I mean, don't do anything you don't want to do. it goes without saying, but just say yes, just don't overthink it. Like sometimes I'm just like, Ashley, just stop overthinking. Just say you'll go. Just commit to it, put on your calendar, and you can always leave.

Like you said. Yeah. So just like, I think too much overthinking I got a plan. I don't know. Just say yes. Someone's hey, you want to do this thing? Yeah, yeah, I'll be there. Even when I'm like, God damn it, why do I agree to this, I always have fun.

Yeah. I never go to something that I've agreed to because my friends are cool and they have cool ideas. Yeah. So I'm going to like the stuff that they like. And I will make up an excuse to fucking leave if I don't want to be here. Yeah, you can leave at any time. Okay, I love this one. This is number nine.

Date and fuck different types of people to find out what I want. Spread it around. I love this goal and I really think you should game it. Like if you go out with a finance guy, your next guy needs to be broke. You know, like you needs to be a broke comedian. Like just game it. Keep a list. Make a PowerPoint.

Have your girls night with your PowerPoint presentation. Like if you really don't know what you. want, find out by really dating opposite people and make a game out of it. If you really don't know, I mean, if you're like, oh, that person even looks wise, like just really, you know, catch them all. People will surprise you. And I think that we all have this pre-prescribed list of what we want, how we want somebody to be. And the people that I've been with outside of just all being nice people have all been really different than the last person. And I wouldn't have necessarily like picked him out of a lookbook.

Yeah. But yeah, just shop around. I love this. I love that she could end her summer and be like, I went out with so many different types of guys from what they do for work to their height, to their sense of humor or lack thereof to where they live. I just think it could be really fun to look back. And she's like, I did it all.

And here's what I think I want now. Amy Chan, who I've been talking to a lot about dating, she's previously on our show, a breakup boot camp. She says keep a spreadsheet. She says go on date 12 people. Don't get a relationship. I'm like, it's a lot of people. But as much as you can do, keep a spreadsheet and just take notes.

What did you like about them? How did they make you feel? How do you feel after the date? Things like that. What didn't you like? We did a friend of the totals last summer that she like realized she really like butt sex. And she was like, I'm just really enjoying it. And I was like, come for you at the age of like 35.

We discover you like butt sex. Right. How would you even have known? I know. This woman and whoever else takes her up on her challenge may find stuff she didn't even know she was into. Right. It could be short guys. You never know.

It could be women. Yeah, exactly with it. Okay. And the last one. This came out up so much. Be outside more. Be outside more. Garden, sleep outside.

That's where she lost us. But maybe she just means like on her patio. She probably would have wrote camping that. But garden, sleep outside, run, sit in the grass and drink wine. I love that. Just feel in the grass. Feet in the grass, touch grass. Hiking, camping.

See, camping, Raina. So she's separate things. No, I conflated. A lot of people said, well, I want to be outside. more. So I added a few things. Okay. I was going to say the same woman wrote sleep outside.

It's ambitious. Yeah. Okay. Play with my dogs. Garden. Somebody else wrote just be outside with my kids and enjoy them being out. Yeah. I can.

And that's just like, I thought was really sweet. I want to have sex outside this summer. Have you guys not had sex outside? Uh, the stakes get higher as you get older. I, when my early 20s, I would fuck anywhere.

It didn't matter. What was somebody to do? Somebody discovers me having sex outside at this age. you get some real trouble. So we just haven't had a lot of luck. Like, we really tried in Cabo, which was so early stages of our relationship. This was my 40th birthday. This was two years ago. And I think he was nervous. I mean, he was nervous. All our friends were in that trip. And we could hear you guys at the pool. And I'm like, let's do it. And we just, we couldn't work it out. And so ever since then I'm like, we need to fuck on the patio. Yeah. You guys haven't

fucked on your roof yet or the patio. You start small, your own spaces. I know. But I'm also just trying to think logistically, like, what would it be on? I guess I could kind of straddle him on the chair. The new patio chairs we couldn't. There are these big cushions. Like, it just wouldn't be comfortable. Some stuff does sound like a better idea than it actually is. Like, I always wanted to, like, fuck on my roof in my old building because there was 175 apartments and, like, anything could happen. Yeah. And like, we're in this, like, lawn chair on the roof. We kept, like, trying to get into it. Somebody would walk outside every five seconds. Yeah, exactly. We'll definitely do it on the roof. I think that's also do some on the roof. That's my summer goal.

And it's hard. Listen, on, like, on a little. On a, lawn chair you don't have that much like move ability yeah like when we were in Kabul we were on just like a long lounge chair I mean it wasn't comfortable I just was horny about the thought of it and he was nervous about the thought of it I had sex with somebody on their balcony he lived next door of the flat iron building like a really tall building like 30 stories up we just fucked outside in the middle of the day I wasn't famous yet being bent over balcony is good it is but like there was this broad daylight yeah that was really crazy Just defying me.

Like that was crazy. On vacation, you can. Yeah. You also have a lot of neighbors. Like, people can really hear you. Me too. Like, if I was outside of my backyard having sex, people could look down. I know.

Exactly. And the roof, I think, we're safer. The only people that are seeing us are literal planes that are flying over. But, like, the patio, you know, I have a bunch of outdoor spaces. I really do love my house. I love that about it. But the main patio area, like, where we had the dinner, the Habachi dinner and stuff, Like I'm out there a lot on the phone, just talking my shit.

And then I will hear the neighbors and I can hear every fucking word they're saying. I'm like, I have to be more careful. Like you really don't think about it until you hear them crystal clear. Those kids outside your house? All right. Yes, I want to have sex outside this summer and not hear those fucking kids ask each other we're great. They're in.

That's my goal. Their ball's going to fly. Like one time there was a ball on my patio. Like, what if we're fucking outside and they're basketball? ended up like hitting us. You guys, listen, I think that you've worked this into your dirty talk. But I'm trying to think of where we're going. Can we have sex in the Hamptons outside?

Sure. Okay. It's not my house. I don't care. I'm just trying to talk on the water slide that I bought. I was fingered on a water slide once on a carnival cruise. First night. Going down the water slide?

No, at the top of the water side. Like, me and this guy snuck up. Like, you just couldn't wait. No, they had closed. They were a night. You climbed up a water slide towering. Yeah. We were on the Lido deck.

And they had like closed the. pool and we climbed up to the top of the waterside and he fingered me. That's fun. This was in like 08. I like being fingered outdoors. I don't know that I like to get fucked outdoors, but I really like getting fingered outdoors. Yeah, like up against a tree. Like one time I was like walking home with this guy from a date in the winter.

I don't know how he got in there because I had so many layers on. But we he like pushed me into a doorway and was like making out me and like fingered me. Again, I had like six layers on. Yeah. You had like a big jacket on. Like a puppy coat. Like I don't know how you got down that thing. But I still think about that.

That was so hot. That is hot. Okay. All right, guys. Get fingered outside this summer. And that's your spicy girl summer goals. Yeah. All right.

We have a really fun travel tips for you guys. We're just going to thank a couple more of our partners and get back into it. Quince? One of my friends the other day was like I am looking for like a summer wardrobe. Like what should I do? Do you like quince as much as you say? Yes. Yeah.

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traveling, which of course is really important to women. And if you guys just want extra travel in general and how to budget save game points. We did a great episode a couple weeks ago with Brian Kelly, who's the points guy. His website is phenomenal also. But this will just be, you know, for the girlies. Yeah, I think he had a lot of great information on like where you might want to go and, you know, planning your summer travel and how to do it.

But yeah, people want to talk about packing for one. You want to start with packing? Yeah. I mean, I really, I think you're better than packing than I am. I always show up with two cases. That is true. I'll kick it off with packing. Yeah. I mean, my packing tips are probably very similar to yours.

two most important packing tips, packing cubes. I know, I don't do packing cubes. Well, you also will unpack on a trip and I won't. Like, I'll pull one thing out. My suitcase will explode all over the place. I don't do that. Like, I don't unpack. So, like, what I like to do is packing cubes, and I take all my pants and put them all on cube, and I label it pants. And it really helps me to repack and unpack and just know where everything is. And you can get compression ones as well, but my name is another $25 packing cubes, and I've used them for years. So if you, a week ago when we stay in New York for the week. You don't unpack. No. But it's such a small room. Like, you let your suitcase on the floor. I leave my suitcase on the floor. I leave everything in the

packing cubes. And what I do before every trip now, because I like to overpack is I take photos of myself in every outfit. So that I have like a little lookbook on my phone. And if you want to take it even further, what you can do is when you take photos of yourself, when you open the photo, you can hold your finger down. It'll like copy the outline of you and your body. If you hit copy, you can paste it into your notes section. Okay. And then in your notes, you can write like summer dresses, nights out, and you can just paste all those in one place.

Yeah, it's like a closet from Clueless, but in your phone. That's what I like to do. I unpack. If I'm somewhere longer than three nights, I get in there, I hang stuff. I make it like my home. I put my suitcase in the closet. Like, I just, I love to feel like, I mean, two nights I would never, but like three plus. Three, four plus for sure.

Big baggy stuff all hang up like coats. Yeah. My main tip is something that. I got this from Lillian Charles, who is a dear friend. She lives in Atlanta, and she's a stylist. She's been on the show. She was on the show in 2020. And I don't know if she would claim to have invented this concept, but this is where I

personally got it from. And it really is sticking to one color scheme so everything can coordinate. And for the most part, I mean, when I go to New York, it's usually just black. You know, like we wear a lot of black in New York. So it's like these black pants and black tops and then jeans and the sneakers that go with black. And I just kind of stick to that. sometimes for a trip I might do like a navy. I'm like I'm really doing like Navy. So I'm going to

have like creams and whites and things that match with Navy, the shoes that go with Navy or like a brown theme. Or for summer, of course, you're going to do like whites and creams and neutrals. Maybe you have like one color. You're like I'm doing yellow on this trip. You know, like that's my butter yellow trip or yellow and pink and then like the whites and neutrals that go with it. But I think this can really help you get started. And I mean, some people, they're taking a big vacation. They're going to bring everything and that's what they're going to do. But we travel. so much and we have traveled so much that it's like I had to figure out

a way to streamline this and for me that's what works best and like the daytime outfits to the nighttime outfits like they all fit a color palette it makes really easy. Yeah and I also try to remember myself I'm not going to be a totally different person on this trip than I was every single day when I was at home. So stuff that's like

never fit before stuff I'd never wore before and listen you could go be a different person if you want like solo travel is a great time to do that like if you never dress super spicy and you're like this is the trip to do it. Totally. But like if something you never fit before and you never pull it out of your closet, we're not going to do it on that trip. I have to remind myself that all the time. Yeah. I try to hold myself to three pairs of shoes. I'm not going to suddenly like wearing heels in another city. I know. That's the thing. Like, because I have these like heels and I'm like, I'm going to be

so tempted to like bring them on a trip. I'm not going to wear them. So just being honest with yourself is actually the place to start. That's where I have to be honest with myself. But this comes with age. You know, try to tell me this in my 20s. No, I'm bringing the ball gowns. Yeah, I was like, you're like, a totally different person in another city all of a sudden. Yeah. You need one pair of walking shoes, one cute flat pair of sandals and one heel. That is it. And like when it comes to like a trip planning, I mean, we mentioned this earlier in the episode,

but just TikTok and Instagram truly, like just searching your destination and seeing people's lists. And I've gotten stuff from TikToks that had 30 likes. You know what I mean? It doesn't matter. It doesn't need to be like the travel influencers. It's people who have been there and appear to have good taste or your. your type of taste and like the five things that they did and just making a list that way. To me, I'm like, that's not a hot tip, but I don't know that everybody would think about that.

A friend of mine, we were going to Mexico City, me and Emily and Emily was like, I don't know what to wear. And I was like, go on TikTok and look up Mexico City outfits. Watch three TikToks. Yeah. Yeah. You'll plan your whole thing. Because every city is such like a different vibe and style. Like L.A. during the day is like great cute workout sets. And like at night, I think people look a little more homely. New York is the opposite to me. New York during the day, not as cute. nighttime. Cutest fashion. That is true.

It's like the inverse. And I mean, I plan when we're touring or I'm touring, whatever, whenever planning, like by asking on Instagram, like asking people what to do. People love to give you recommendations. And there's always stuff that comes up over and over and over. And I'm like, well, I guess this got to be the best stuff. And you have to keep in mind that, like, people can be giving you recommendations based on, like, their age and their life experience and what they might want to do.

So I always, like, still cross-reference. But I always get coffee shop racks or, like, rooftop. wrecks and restaurants, of course, and like daytime activities from when I ask and crowdsource on Instagram. Things that I would like to remember that I'd like be her, somebody who remembers them, but I'd never be portable chargers, converter plugs. I'm not that girl that remembers them, but I'd like to be someday. And then, I mean, planning trips, like, I don't know, I don't, I plan a lot of trips. I feel like I'm planning multiple bachelors. I think that you don't need to be overwhelmed. I think the first thing is like lock in where you're staying, the house, the Airbnb,

be and then take it from there and like this is the week we're planning that we're locking it in next week we can worry about activities and then delegate out. I think it's a good trip or do it all yourself you know either way. Ashley and I like to do what we want to do so I think that when we go on trips we like to be the ones yeah didn't pick the restaurants and don't ask your brother to help with your bachelor like I did and he was talking about booking a fishing boat what I mean he was just like fucking with me you saw that I posted the screenshot on Instagram oh yeah people like went crazy over it I was like hey can you help me like work out a boat and he was like so we're doing like a fishing boat, like a charter fishing boat.

And I was like, Matt, you're not serious. He was like, I am serious. I'm seriously asking. I was like, don't make me say this. No, we're not doing a charter fishing boat. He was like, what? I thought that could be fun for you. I was like, Matt, no, we're not doing a fishing boat.

And he was like, how about crabbing? I'm like, stop fucking with me. Didn't we do like a pontoon boat kind of. It wouldn't be called a pontoon boat, but like the first time, do we like a party boat. We like, we like danced on that party boat. Yeah. That's what you had in mind. No, he was just fucking with me.

But I was like, this is what you get when you ask your brother to help you with your Bachelorette. Yeah, men can't be in charge of this stuff. Okay, solo travel. People really wanted to know about it. I mean, do it. I don't do much of it. I've done so much of this in my life.

I mean, I ended a very serious relationship when I was 28 and I was just like, what do I do my life now? And I was like, oh, I've never traveled anywhere. And then I just went and did it. I mean, I've traveled the whole world by myself. And yes, my preference is to be with other people. Of course, I really like experiencing things with other people. But again, I've never let that stop me from going. going to do the things that I wanted to do.

And I've really enjoyed solo travel. And I like my own company. And I think it can be a great opportunity to challenge yourself to enjoy your own company and do things that you've never done and push yourself outside of your comfort zone. People ask me a lot about safety in terms of safety. My number, don't do stupid shit. Don't drink too much. Don't walk around by yourself at night in a place that looks unsafe.

Stay in populated areas. Read reviews of where you're staying like on TripAdvisor. I mean, you know, wherever you want to get reviews. I was deciding between a couple hotels in a city that I'm going to for my tour. And the hotel brand that I really liked that, I wanted to stay. And the reviews were just like this area felt sketchy. And then the other option was even just a few blocks away. And nobody said that.

And so I was like, I'm going with that. Like, even a few reviews that were like didn't feel so safe. I was like, say less. I'm out on those immediately. And people love to write about not feeling safe on the Internet. It's the best place. TripAdvisor, I wouldn't necessarily take restaurant recommendations. I don't go to them for that.

Right. But that's where I would go to be like, was it loud? Did it feel safe? Yeah. You know, did the air conditioning work at this hotel? What was the staff like? Was it clean? So in terms of safety, I've never really felt unsafe.

My favorite place is to travel solo tend to be bigger cities where you do feel safer regardless. Yeah. You can go anywhere you want, obviously. It's smaller cities, like really romantic towns in Italy or like the coast of France. Like, I don't love doing that alone because people go there to be on romantic vacations and doesn't feel as social. and I like to be in places where I can meet people. So staying, if you belong to like Soho House, a place like that, if you stay at a hostel, anywhere that feels a little more social.

I really enjoy. And the bigger the city, the better. So if you're just getting into solo travel, London, Paris, Rome, the big ones. Or places that you get a lot of backpackers and solo travelers like Bangkok. I felt super safe in Southeast Asia. I went to Singapore. I went to Vietnam by myself and Bangkok. And a lot of people go there by themselves.

So it's really easy to meet people. Yeah. And if that's the trip you're looking for, obviously I agree with Raina in terms of a big city and like a lot to do and you feel safe and more populated areas or just go to a resort. If you're like, I just need to get away. You stay on the resort. Everything's at your fingertips. And I think obviously have some people have your location when you are traveling. Like I think it's really important. If it's a family member or a close friend, just like a couple people, if you're not really into sharing your location, I do think you should, especially if you're going on a trip alone.

Share your it your itinerary. Yeah. And like letting people know what you're doing. I think like having it somewhat of a game plan. I just, I don't want anyone to be like, I'm just going to go out and drink and walk around. You know, make sure you're obviously staying in like safer areas. And, you know, we love this thing. It's called a birdie. It's a personal little safety alarm thing. It goes on your keychain. And I mean, this is like worst case scenario. But I think those things can just help you feel safe. You just pull it and it like flashes and makes this big sound. And so just having like something on your first pepper spray or something, just something on you that makes you feel safe. I don't think you can bring pepper spray through TSA, but it's just an FY. Yeah, if you're somebody who's concerned about safety, I think somebody having your agenda is really important where your flights are, what hotels you're going to.

And just to avoid feeling kind of lonely, I like to make a lot of plans. So I like to know kind of how my day is going to look. I like to get up early. I like to pick a food market to go to our coffee shop. I like to pick tours and things I'm going to do in groups. So visit a city is my favorite website to do that on. They have almost any city you can ever think about. They'll plan one to seven day.

itinerary for you and logically like they'll map it out for you so if you're like I want to see all the major sites in Rome in three days they'll map that out for you and it's free and that's a great website and Viator is my second travel website where I book every single tour in any city so if you want to do food tours architecture tours anything like that that's great but really the key to not feeling alone for me is a lot of plans I bring a book with me when I go out you can bring a journal I think that's a really nice thing to do just record how you're feeling what you're thinking but I think it's really transformative traveling alone and really special. And I like to eat a meal and really think about it.

I like to go to a museum and really think about it. Of course, I want to like tell jokes my friends. But I just, I like solo travel. I've really enjoyed it a lot. Well, there you go, guys. It's your guide to spicy girl summer. Godspeed. We wish you all the best.

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