Girls Gotta Eat - Meeting the Family

Episode Date: August 9, 2021

It's just the two of us and we're covering a topic that arises in every relationship: Meeting the family. We're discussing introducing your partner to your family and vice versa, and everything from when, where, and how it should happen, fucked up family dynamics, appropriate gifts to bring, sleeping arrangements at the house, tips for communicating/bonding with their family, PDA, and yes, even political differences. And we're sharing some truly hilarious listener stories about family gatherings gone wrong. Plus, Rayna is working out again, Ashley reflects on her past as a shot girl, and we have fresh TV recs. Hope you enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Visit our website for tour dates, NEW merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Truff: Get 15% off site-wide + free shipping with code GGE at truff.com. Ritual: Get 10% off during your first 3 months at ritual.com/gge. HelloTushy: Get 10% off + free shipping at hellotushy.com/gge. Calm: For a limited time, get 40% off a Calm premium subscription at calm.com/gge. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oh my God. Like if I brought my boyfriend to Dewey and he was like, I'll hit the beach in the morning set up the chairs and umbrellas. I'm like, I will suck your dick the second you walk back in. Okay, I went down there with your dad and did it a bunch of times. Yeah, you did do it. Girls got to eat. Welcome back.

I should just yelled, let's fucking go. Let's fucking go. Is it going to rain? We're here. No, it was a real question. Oh, I asked that two seconds ago. Well, Bella, we have our assistance in here. Bella, what's the weather?

Are you checking the weather? I don't know. It looks a little cloudy outside. It is not going to rain. Great. It will rain. I love that song. Bruno Mars.

We're here wearing the new merch. Oh, yeah, we have new merch. We're going to talk about it. We're going to talk about it. I am back from the Hampton, showering indoors, not happy about it. Walk outside, take a shower at 10 when Bella says we start raining. Oh, my God.

Okay. There is a TikTok that is of this, home tour, apartment tour in New York, and the guy has an outdoor shower. I'm going to say it's up there with the top five things people have sent to me. I bet 300 people sent it to me. Ashley, people emailed it to us. They emailed it. We got like six emails about it. The amount of emails that came in last night that were like, this is just for Ashley. This has never happened in the history of the podcast, four years. This is just for Ashley. Here's this TikTok. And I was like, you know, when that happens, I'm like, I almost rebel against even liking it.

I'm so annoyed, but I'm also happy people think of me, you know, always. But I did put it on my story and then I was like, now you're still sending it to me. Check the story first. I love these stuff that starts with a million people probably send this to you. Yes. If you find yourself typing it, yes. Yes. We love you guys.

But also on that note, listen, I am going to look into putting an outdoor shower in my patio. Can you imagine my patio is not private at all? Yeah, but like it's so big. Like what else you're supposed to do with all these days? What am I supposed to do out there? If they don't let me do it, guess who's moving? I'm holding on to these COVID rates as long as I can. You're never moving.

The rent in this building has like doubled. I come over and there's just like a hose outside. You shower outside with a hose. Oh my God, can you imagine? I just do like a little like tent around it and then I'm just out there with a hose. I'm like, look at me. You know what you should buy is one of those spray tanning tents that they bring over. I did that one.

There's just a hose pointed into it. Guys, it's a big week. So much work has gone into the. this. We have worked so, so hard on this. We have all new merchandise. We are so proud of it. It drops today. 1 p.m. Eastern, 10 p.m. Pacific. It looks great. People are right now, we're going like, why is this feel like deja vu? Because we've done this. One year ago, exactly one year ago. Last August. Yeah. Merch is a journey. As I said, we should, we, we, should we make merch. This is a journey. March is a journey merch. We can't add in the news collection. I will not be okay.

What's your favorite thing about it? It's all new. So we switched companies and we have really cool stuff for you guys. So we have amazing crop tanks and crop t-shirts. My favorite of the sets, the pink sweatsuit that you're wearing right now, is unbelievable.

We have different bottoms. You can mix and match everything together. We have tied-a sweatshers. I would say actually my favorite thing about the whole collection is this really pretty embroidered girls got to eat on every single thing that we sell. It's small. There's like, yeah, there's embroidery on like the cuff of the sweatshirts

and right by the pocket of the shirt. short, embroidered. We didn't say what the pink sweatsuit says. It says vaxed wax snack. And I wore it in a little premature, but I wore it in a story about getting vaccinated. And people were like, hold up. Does that say faxed waxed snack? I did a whole like TikTok real. I'm going to get on TikTok soon, I guess. Follow me over there. But like a slow mo wearing it and like pointing at it. Like this is how we're walking into indoor venues in New York. Like that's probably my favorite thing. It's like I love the design. Just like bold, loud, backs and waxed, also a snack.

It's a set. The shorts are, I'm wearing them right now. The shorts are the most comfortable thing of all time. I love them. I wore them all week last week. Just, it's really cool stuff. It's really unique designs. We have a tour shirt for you guys because we probably won't do unique tour stuff to

every city anymore as much we'd love to. But we have a great tour shirt for you guys. If you want to buy it for upcoming shows. I'm just, we're really proud of this. This is fucking awesome. It's Girlthoddypodcast. shop, just storm the store. Go see what you think of it.

It's your word, storm. Storm. You say it all the time. Do I? Do I? Hello, listeners. Is this thing on? You guys have stormed the merch store. You guys have stormed the ticket website.

You guys have stormed. You say it all the time. It's like do something nice for your body. I was not aware of this. No. Storm the store. You say it all the time. That's the next job.

Merch is a journey. You guys have stormed. Like our listeners right now are like, yeah, Rayna. you do. Fuck you guys. No, I'm just, it's not. Like, it's just a thing you do say. Yeah, I do say it a lot.

So Storm the store. That'll merge as a journey. Storm the store. Did you say tie-dye sweatshirts? Those are like some of my faves. I did. I just glossed over it though. Okay.

Yeah. Like, I love that too. And we'll be doing new stuff, dropping new stuff. So if you want to get it, I'm wearing right now. I'm wearing the shorts, but also I literally don't care.

Crop tank. So we had to bring that back, obviously. Oh, and you guys have been asking for this. And we finally have it. We have drinkwear and we have stickers, we've notebooks. The stickers are so cute. The drinkwear is awesome. Yeah.

So, like, insulated drink wear, you can like, like wine glasses. They're so nice. So nice. Yeah. Bring them to the shows. Just kidding. We're not. Whatever.

We don't know. Put in your bags. Listen, if you want to risk it. Also, check the bag policy at these shows because some of them are like, you have to clear bag. I'm like, okay. So check the website. Speaking of that, come to our shows.

We are on tour all of fall. We are kicking it off in mid-September with Raleigh, Charlotte, Atlanta and Charleston cannot wait. There should be tickets left for most of those shows. And then we'll be all over the place. Minneapolis, Denver, Phoenix, Boston. A million cities. You guys are storming the million cities we're coming to.

So dramatic. But these shows are going to be incredible. You can go check out on our Instagram right now. A really fun hype video that we made from the footage from the Philly show. But that's going to be very indicative of what to expect to the show. just like crowd participation, live performances, hilarious stories, stuff you've never heard on the podcast before. They're so much fun. Girls night out or bring your boyfriend, bring your mom, bring your dad.

Definitely bring your dad. Definitely bring your dad. Sit up front with your dad. DMS, let us know his name. Yeah. A hundred percent. If you're bringing your dad, slide those dups or email us. But GirlsGottypodcast.com, get tickets to all the shows.

Yes. And if you guys are coming to the shows, we always like to read your, like, craziest, wildest, sex, dating relationship stories. So if you are coming, you can always email us. Stories at GirlsGottypodcast.com. And then just indicate which show and which time you're coming to and which city. Yeah, which city in the subject line. So three things. Girlsguttypagest.com.

Stories at girlsguttypodcast.com. Go off. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Jenny Jones, who was on our podcast. We recorded on your birthday.

So it was June. End of June. Like the last episode of June before we took that week off. 24th. 28th. Whatever. Whatever. Whatever.

Okay. we talked to her about her journey with breast cancer and she did get her double mastectomy on July 30th. All went well. She got the call. I'm going to cry. She got the call that she was cancer free. And she is just doing amazing. She's like, I didn't expect from what I knew of friends that had gotten that surgery that she would just be texting that day out on a walk the next day. I mean, she's on drugs. But she's doing great. She's with her mom. And I just, all I can say. She's like, she's just really recovered and really well. And she's cancer-free. So I just want to give an update. I'm glad that you did that. And she just could not, she was

completely overwhelmed in the best way from the girls gutting community. And she was like, I feel like you guys gave me this gift. I'm thankful for her to be able to come on the show and talk about this, but also just all the women that she connected with through it. So I just love that. So thank you guys for supporting her, supporting us being amazing. Yeah. Thank you for the update. She made me laugh so hard. I texted her as like very serious. message. I was like, I just want you to wake up to love and a lot of tax and friendship and blah, blah, blah. And I hope you feel okay. And she's like, oh, I'm up. I feel great. How are you? I was like, what? She's killing it. She's killing it. And she's just really positive. I'm

sure she didn't feel great. She's also on drugs. But she is just really like positive and funny. So she has a lot of love around her. And that's partly in part because of you guys. Yeah. What else? Not much is going on with me. I started working out again. I took like for my boss. And there's nothing wrong with that guys. You know? You say that like you're trying to convince yourself. I mean, you're right. And there's nothing wrong with it. If you were going to say it there was, there's not. There's not. I got a boyfriend. I gained a little boyfriend weight, you know, you eat more late at night and stuff started to get jiggly. Nothing wrong with that. It's jigglier than it used to be. And who doesn't want jiggly? I wasn't. Kane likes jiggly.

That's what I'm saying. Kane was just texting me. I'm recording with him right up to this. He was like, hey, are we still on today for 430? And I texted him. I was like, your boyfriend just texted me that I'm recording with him today. And I'm kind of annoyed. It wasn't in my calendar from you. I didn't even know. He didn't even tell me. He stayed with Rob last weekend when he was on his comedy shows in Spokane. Never, never told me anything about it. Rob didn't tell me. All right. Sorry, cut you off. Anyways. No, that's it. I gained a little bored from weight. Everybody does. It's fun, you know? Just, you know, being loving gain weight. Who cares? So I was feeling a little lethargic and jiggly. And so I've been working out more. And that's it.

That's literally the only thing that's going on in my life. Okay. I want to run something by you on the live, on air. Okay. I mean, it's not live and I can cut this if I don't like the way it turns out. But, you know, just anyway, sure, you have, I haven't talked to you about this. Okay. So a guy that I used to date casually, I am wondering, do you think that like, like, we could hang out as friends? Like, do you think I could be like, hey, I'm going to like literally be at the stand all night. I have a million shows. And like, you know, I sometimes I just don't know what I'm doing between. In between, I just kind of like hang out with people. Like, would it be weird to be like, hey, you should come hang? Do I think that there's like a

scenario in which people that used to date can be friends. Yeah, absolutely. Do I think that like you have self-control and keep your pussy in your pants? Yes. I don't see why you would. I think you guys are attracted to each other and want to fuck. But I guess I see a world in which like anybody could be like friends with an ex. Also you're both single. So like if you did like, you know, get a little frisky together. Who cares? Yeah. I just kind of also just, you know, I thought that that could be like a friends with benefits, booty call situation months back. But now I'm just like, I don't know. Like, he's somebody fun that I like talking to and joking around with. So I'm like, could I just be like, hey, you want to come hang?

Like, as friends, like, knowing that there's not, knowing that I don't have an ulterior motor, knowing that, yeah, well, we can fuck if you want to, but not with that intention and not going to get butt hurt if, like, he's dating somebody. You know what I mean? Like, genuinely, like, it's just a fun person to hang out with. I like when we run into each other and we chat, you know? I think that we all feel like there's a finality to relationships in terms of like, if it doesn't work out right now, I'm never going to see this.

them again and even become friends again, we're not going to hook up again. And it's just not. Like, I think people can like ebb and flow. And like, you guys had a thing and then you stopped having a thing and then you flirted a little bit more and then you didn't have a thing. And like, there's a world in which you're friends and then you hook up again or your friends and you just had, I don't want to date him. Like, nothing is ever over. Like, nothing has to be over right now. Yeah. And I think a lot of it's just like the mental check of like, okay, what am I, how am I actually feeling about this? Do I actually still feelings for this person? Am I lying to myself that I could just be friends with them. And I think always a good litmus test. We haven't said that in a while is like,

would I, if he told me he was dating somebody, would that bother me? And I just don't feel like that anymore. You know, I genuinely feel like we could be friends. Like we, when we hang out and we see each other, we make jokes about when we used to sleep together. You know, like, it's really casual. It's like a funny relationship. Like we were chatting about it and someone walked up and like kind of got caught in the crossfire of us. And we were like, oh, we used to date. And I was like, I mean, sort of. And he was like, I say we dated. And we just kind of went. back and forth to the point where this guy was like, let me walk away because it feels like this chemistry is like palpable in the air. But I, for a minute, I was like, well, I don't

need to be friends with this person. Like, you don't get to be my friend. You know what I mean? And like, be in my orbit of someone that used to date me. But now I'm kind of like, I don't know, like I kind of could. I just think I got this, I got this phrase from Ian Kerner when he was on our show that you don't always have to like throw the baby out with the bathwater. Like, I think you really enjoy him. I think you like being friends with him. I think you enjoy each other's company. I think that if you really truly feel like you're not going to date, maybe he will tell you about a person that he he's dating. It'll hurt the first time. And then you get a little numb to it. Like, sometimes you do have to just hear it once or twice. I, like, my best guy friend. My best guy friend, I was like so

in love with him when we met. We slept together. And then he told me he didn't like want to keep sleeping together, which is fine. And we stayed friends. And the first couple times I heard that he had slept with somebody, like really hurt me. But like, I kept it clear in my head. Like, I want to be friends with this person and we're not going to date. And eventually it just didn't bother me anymore. A hundred percent. I think that's such a good call. Like the, I've slept with close guy, friends of mine. We talked about this. We did a whole episode on it of like, what should you fuck your friends? Or we also did is it, is it purely platonic? Those were two episodes about friendships that are more. But I love that you said that about like, do what you want. There's

no rules to this shit. Whatever it feels right. Whatever, you know, know yourself and know what you truly want deep down and like do whatever. I mean, a couple of things. I also don't think you're like Madly in love with this guy. I don't think I'm not trying to date him. And I also think you can start out. Like, the stakes feel less high. Like when you approach it as a friend thing, when you're like, hey, do you want to come? And if he doesn't come, like, you're not. You're is hurt or if he does come you're like less like there's less pressure on it if the person shows up so i just i think that we all think that like when we meet somebody within three weeks we got to think like do we want to date them long term there's got to be like all these like check marks to a

relationship and sometimes things don't move like that you know it but it doesn't mean it's over and it's like final yeah okay so before we get into it we have some wrecks in the theme of like kind of talking about restaurant stuff that's happened the past few weeks i would like to drag myself as a server okay Because I think we're always like, this crazy thing happened with this server. And it's like, you know what? Let me throw myself into the mix. You know some of these stories, but I was a server.

We used to say waitress back in the day. And then it got a little more gender fluid. But for four summers, the first summer I worked at Lone Star Steakhouse, starred as a hostess because I wasn't old enough. And then I turned 19, I think, and then I was a server. I was fine. It was fine. Wasn't the best, wasn't the worst.

And then two summers after that, I worked as a server in Rahobah Beach at the iguana grill. It's still around today. It's a great spot. And then I was the last summer that I lived in Dewey and worked in the service industry. I was a cocktail server at the Rusty rudder. And I would say it was one of the worst cocktail servers they ever had ever. I've heard. So our job was a dream. And I worked with my two best friends, Corey and Corey. We all lived together. We worked together. We showed up every day at like three or four. And we just like served cocktails on the deck while a reggae band. played and they just, it was like easy grill food. The inside's like nicer dining, but,

and it was like these huge hurricane glasses, like big glasses, like dafferies, like, you know, dirty bananas, like whatever, peanut coladas. And you were supposed to hold them up, like, up under your palm and like whip around and like be, and they told us that day one of training. I was like, I can't do that. That's a crazy thing to ask of anybody. Every time you tell me this, I don't understand how anybody did this. It's crazy. Everybody did it. Okay, well, I just see Corey grab a tray of eight giant hurricane glasses and just whip it up by her head. I don't understand how you did it.

Laura was on the postcard holding them. And I was like, I can't do it. And I'm not even going to try. Which is funny to me because you're tall and you're not like a clumsy person. I don't have a lot of upper body strength. So I would just like grab the tray with both hands. You know, you're never supposed to put it on the table. I would like put the tray in the table.

Like I was the worst. I spilled a dackery in a woman's purse one time. And I was like, I don't know what to do. You did it and you just looked at her and I don't know what to do. I spilled a full, I don't know, 20 ounce strawberry dacry in a woman's coach bag. Like it was sitting on the chair or the floor or whatever. The dacry spilled into it and she was like, oh, like ruined her bag. And I was like, I guess so good going to my manager.

Like, I didn't know what to do. That is so funny. You just look at a price and go, I'll just go get my boss. And I, we would drink sometimes, but really not a lot. Like, we didn't show up to work drunk. Like we were, you know, more responsible than that. But on the 4th of July weekend, we did have to work on Sunday and we went to the Starboard and we drank all day and we're like, fuck it. And we showed up to work very drunk.

And I was never good at doing side work. I was just kind of like hide until like someone else did it. I was the worst. I was supposed to cut lines. I was like, I can't do that. I'm too drunk. So I was like, this is like everybody's favorite story. I was on the deck.

One of the bartenders, he said at one point he looked over and my hair was like wind blown. Like he said my hair was like covering my face. And he was like, is Ashley okay? Like, people were watching me work the deck. Because it was funny. And I was just like kind of probably blacking out, honestly. And this woman came up to me on the deck, like a customer that I was waiting on. She was like, Miss, you just spilled red wine all over my husband's white pants.

And I was like, what? Didn't remember. He blacked out at work. like I was like what? And I was like again like I guess look at the manager like I don't know. And that was one time. I don't think I ever worked drunk again until my very last night. I was selling test tube shots and you're supposed to like hold them with a napkin under it. I did it. I'd yager in my fingernails for months. Anyway, but it wasn't like I took my job more serious than that. It was my job. But it was like one day we did just all go drink. It was fourth of July weekend. And I was just like this epically bad cocktail server at the rudder. I quit early. It was like. It was like. end of July. I was like, I can't work here anymore. It's just not good for my mental health. I feel like if I would have met you at that age, like we would not have gotten along because I was the opposite.

I was like the first one in. You were like Laura, like the head bitch. Yes, I wanted, I stayed late. I took every single table. I wanted to upsell every single person. I was like, you all can go home. I got this. The whole bar. I'm like sticking money in my titties. I had, I just like worked so hard. I mean, I also was drunk and did drugs at work.

I mean, guys, don't get me wrong. I was drunk all the time at work. Yeah, but I mean, you, and that was Laura, who now I'm friends with your friends with her. She's a great friend of mine. She was that girl. And I was like, she's such a bitch. Like, we talk about this. Like, how, like, but she was like the head server.

She was so good at it. Like, I was just, it, I just wasn't good. I did it for the love of the game. I can picture this. Exactly. So much. Like, Melanie, one of my best friends. We met waiting tables and I was 21.

I was 22. She's 20. This doesn't matter. And she was like. I just knew you were a hustler from like day one. You just like worked so hard. I was like really in it for the love of the game. I loved money.

I've always loved money so much. Like more than partying, more than going out. I just loved it. So I mean, I wasn't like a goody-to-shoes. I was drunk all the time. Guys, that was cool. Yeah.

No, yeah, you weren't like teachers pet. Like, excuse me, guys. I was usually blowing a manager or a waiter. Were you checking up on people that they were doing their side work? I was usually the one to check off people's sidework. Yeah. But I also was like either, I was fucking like a couple of the waiters or the manager or or both.

at a bunch of place, a couple of different, two different places. I was sleeping with a waiter and a manager. No! I just got it in. Okay. You slept your way to the top. So you get the good shifts. Oh my God. Corey, other Corey, my two friends, both named Corey, we would have to do, so then the deck would turn over at like nine or ten. And then another band would come out. This is in the rudder deck,

which is still a place that you can go. And then we would have a new job for the night. And that was like the jello shots, test tube shots, and literally just 12 packs of beer. Like, we would go out into the crowd with 12 packs and like sell them for like, you know, whatever we wanted. But like, you know, we had a price range. Like you're at the stadium. Like, what do you want to pay for those?

And like, one for Corey was like, she hated it, but she was so good at it. She would just go out there with two 12 bags, one in each arm. Go out into the pit and just start, like, throwing beers at people and collecting cash. Like, it was a wild time. Like, you would just see girls take advantage of be like drunk guys of like, yeah, this jello shot's going to be $20. Because, like, we would buy the tray, and then it would be in our, you know, we'd buy it. And then it'd be like, whatever you think you can get.

This is so fun. I never had, like, a summer job like this. It was fun, yeah. And, I mean, I liked when I was just a better, like, regular server. I have a good memory. Like, I could, I was okay. It was never the best. But, like, the cocktail game was not for me.

No, she wasn't in her for the love of game. I have so much respect for those girls. Even today, girls that are hustling around with jello shots and test tube shots, I'm like, go off queen. Why don't you taste test tube shots. It makes you laugh. Well, we call them tutors. Tudors. Not tubers, tutors.

Like fart, dude. And then you know you got your assignment and I'd be like, I'm on tutors tonight. Oh, no. Guys, also, restaurants need staff really badly. So please get out there. Sign up for restaurants. Get out there. You make friends.

Make lifelong friends. All right. Well, I have two wrecks for this week. I think I, did I say this to you? I'm watching Breaking Bad for the first time. Did I say to this last week? Yeah. Oh, my gosh.

I watched two episodes like six years ago. with an ex. I watched one episode without him. It was like a huge point of contention. We got a huge fight and never watched it again. So I'm watching Breaking Bad. Hot Take and great new rack. It's called The White Lotus on HBO Max. It's so good. It has our boy Jake Lacey in it. I'm sorry, what?

It's so good. It's about a resort in Hawaii and the guests that come and the staff. And so you see everything from the staff point of view and the guests. They focus on three different people. And it's just about like white privilege, a lot of white privilege. But it's one of those shows that is so. awkward and sarcastic. And it's like the awkwardness is so funny.

And it's like kind of serious, but like very, very funny. It's more so a comedy. But yeah, it's about the staff at the resort and the guest's the resort. Jake Lacey's character is so funny in the show. He's this like really uptight, rich white man who marries this girl and can't understand like why she wants to like have a job. Molly Shannon's in it. Oh, my God.

I love this. It's great. Oh, and what's still her mom's name? Jennifer Coolidge. Yes. She's in it as well. Oh, I love her. Great cast.

and then last she's Raina in Connie Britton Connie Britton God there's so many people in this show I'm like actually I'm actually to tell me about anybody else but I feel like that's the only like

Raina on TV that people know about right because do you know anymore? No so Connie Brighton great show, great cast super funny on HBO Max so that's my wreck for this week it's great check it out

okay well we are going to do a dual wreck which is F Boy Island on HBO Max that came out last week And they're releasing in like groups of three. So I've seen the first three. Did you watch the first three? I watched the first two.

Okay. And Nikki Glazer is the host. It's a dating show, dating reality show. The premise is that there's these three women on the island and there's 24 guys and 12 of them are self-proclaimed fuck boys and 12 of them are self-proclaimed nice guys. And I love it so much. I mean, we, we watched it with a couple people in the house and in the Hampton's house. And look, we were laughing out loud within minutes because of because of Nikki.

Like I posted this. Like, Nikki is what reality, dating reality shows have been missing. Like, because she's making fun of the guys mostly. She doesn't really make fun of the girls. Yeah. She is so good at roasting guys and like making fun of how ridiculous it is. Like, all these shows, like, they take themselves so seriously. And then some of the shows, like, do out to handle.

And like, they have like a comedic voice, but it's just not Nikki. And I think Nikki was like born to do this. And we love her and we've had her on the show twice. And, you know, Andrew Collin was there too. when they film this in the Cayman Islands. He helped contribute a little. Like he was kind of telling me some of the stuff from the show

that he, like, wrote. And it's just, it's laugh out loud funny. I wish there would be more Nicky. Like, she doesn't show up enough for me. Like, I want her to be like on their dates.

Like I want her to pop up and like say something and leave. You know what I mean? Like I just, I love her, but I also love the show. It feels very like not rigid. Like crazy shit could happen.

I was telling me this one thing. You haven't seen it yet. Like that just kind of happens during one of the like exit ceremonies. It's just kind of off the cuff. And all the contestants in the show were like, God, this is crazy. Like, and then they egg, the spoiler alert, if you guys haven't seen it, but they exile the guys that get let go to this like nice guy grotto or this like fuck boy. Hobble.

Like they call like, like they call it, uh, limbo. It's just like they're like living in like a tent in the woods. Yeah. Like it's just that's like such a cool hook. Like I think Nikki's an executive producer. This is just like a Nikki wreck. But you can tell that. comedic people were involved in this and they made it so different and so fresh. And like,

you know, Rayne and I kind of co-signed the fact that we like hate some of these like, quote-unquote, terrible people like having platforms. But it just feels different. I just love it. I love it as a reality show. I'm hooked on it. It's gotten amazing reviews. And I like, I just can't recommend it enough. Yep. Totally co-signed. Nikki is unbelievable. Her commentary is so funny. Her faces are so funny. This is exactly what like a reality TV. I wouldn't watch it without her as much. Like I just wouldn't care about it. So she's great. She makes it really unique. I think we need more like women in comedy hosting these shows. Like that's all I want to watch from now on.

A hundred percent. Yeah. And then of course, Love is Blind released these three episodes. Yeah, they're like 40 minutes each. Yeah. And people are just like, you got to talk about it. I mean, I enjoyed it because I, you know, I'm a Love is Blindstand.

So I'm going to enjoy pretty much anything that's like catching up on those people's lives. It's some of it feels like a little bit of the manufactured drama, like the Francesca from Too Hot to Handle thing. But anyway, basically it's the premise is there's three of these episodes. surrounding like an anniversary and to kind of celebrate the two couples that got married, but then everybody else is involved.

Diamond, I love her storyline. I loved her. They bring her back and she's trying to date and just catch, it's catching up on everybody's lives. I mean, it's enjoyable to watch.

I enjoyed it. I mean, we weren't going to not watch it, guys. Yeah, we got to watch it. We're the biggest fan of Love is Blind. I want to know exactly where they were. And it was nice catching up with

Lauren and Cameron and seeing everybody's relationships. Cameron, I don't know if I've ever seen someone that's smitten with their partner. Like, even like talk about her without hearing up. He's so, so obsessed. I'm saying this in a good way. I mean, he acts like such a pussy, but then she's like, he can fuck.

She's like, camera's a freak. And I was like, that's it. Like, you can be sweet like that, but you gotta like eat my butt and do weird stuff to me. But like, that's such a good call. You know he's eating her ass day in and day out. Every day. She's like, are you hungry?

He's like, for that asshole. He, like, he's so. obsessed with her. It's so great. He's so crying. He's like Lauren's on her way home from work and he just burst his tears. And Lauren, I love her energy because she's kind of like, oh, baby. Like it's very just like, oh, but like she's not returning it like in the terms of like the tears.

She's just like, oh, Cameron. That's so sweet. You'd think somebody like her would think somebody like that is a huge pussy, but he can fuck. That's what it is. He's got some like a big dick energy on it. Like I do, like I feel like he's, he's like swinging one. A huge genre. Yeah.

And there's like some good gossip about like Mark and Elsie. Oh yeah, Mark turned out to just be the fucking worst. Yeah, Jessica Batten. Like, talk about like, like, Ashley and I have always been like, Team Jessica. And we stand by that. And Amber cannot with Amber. You know what? You're not my kind of girl.

Team Jessica aged well for once once in age. Thank you. We did good. But, I mean, this is not a spoiler. It came out that he basically was like cheating on all these different women. And he's like this big scumbag player. And she was like, I was the most hated person already. reality TV. I got so much shit and like,

lo and behold, like this was happening behind the scenes. And good for her. She found a man. She moved away. She has a good life. She's like dating a doctor. She lives in LA. So she had a comeuppance. She came out on top. I cannot with Amber. I'm like Amber. Amber is such that kind of girl. She's like, I'm a wife and no one better look at my husband and I will hold a grudge forever. Like get over it. Like she's just not my kind of girl. That's all I'll say about it.

But Jessica came out on top. Like even Jessica was like, y'all get over it. Like, where she lives in L.A., she's this hot, tall, with doctor, boyfriend, like years ago. Get over it. Listen, if you were still holding on to anger like that from two and a half years ago, you go see a therapist. You should go to therapy. And, you know, when I watch Amber, I see, like, a person that's probably that's had a tough life. You know what I mean? That's had, that acts that way for a certain reason.

And, you know, I hope she, she figures it out because it, she seems angry a lot and very territorial. Her husband's very scared of her. Like, that's not really healthy. That's not a cool thing that your husband's, like, scared of you. You know what I mean? Anyway, team Jessica, we stand by it. I was getting a few DMs of like, you're so right at age well. You know, it didn't age well.

Cuomosexual. Okay. We're sorry, guys. Yikes. You know, it was a huge quomosexual, Chelsea Hanler. That stays. That stays. She's walked it back, but I don't care.

I don't care. She said it initially. Okay. You want to like intro the topic a little more? We're talking about meeting the family. And we're really excited to do this one. we put up a slide on Instagram asking what you guys want to know about meeting the family. You guys had so many good questions.

Some really funny stuff came up over and over and over again. Just like a quick side note, a lot of you also ask questions about just like long term. What if I don't get along with my partner's family? What if they have like negative trauma I'm trying to deal with with the family, etc? So there are a bunch of episodes we've covered. And we will also touch on cultural, religious, political backgrounds briefly. But this stuff came up a lot. So we just wanted to point you towards a couple of other episodes that you can,

check out. They're at our website, of course, and iTunes. So how to keep the holidays happy is from November 19th, 2018. It's just about going home with your partner for the holidays. Family Matters with a family therapist. We did. Her name is Vienna Farren. That was December 16th, 2019. She is, as I mentioned, a family therapist, so a lot of

family dynamics, long-term family dynamics. And then the last one, are we too different? It was just me and Ashley. It was the first day we saw each other during COVID-19. And that's June 15th, 2020. And we will touch on backgrounds when you are sort of different religious, politically, especially culturally. But that was a whole episode sort of about that. Yeah. And a big theme that came up was Mama's Boys. And you can take

that really lightly, jokingly, but also, like, it can be a serious thing. Like, someone that's got way too attached close relationship with their mom. So we kind of, we want to do a whole episode on that as well. You know, like, that's a, that's, we need to bring in a therapist and we need to, like, dissect that. So we'll, we'll do that down the road. We promise. We'll, we'll, We've been wanting to. We just need to find the right guess for that. Oh, that's rough. Yeah. But I think a lot of the questions we got were probably from people that are like a little bit younger that have never met like a significant of their

family or just doing it for the first time because it just seemed like somebody who had never done it before. But you never know. I don't know. Not everybody has a boyfriend for the first time when they were 22 or 42. Whatever. But when and where, what gifts to bring? Sleeping arrangements. Oh, yes. Livingerangeons. What to talk about. Well, you mentioned like being young. I mean, I was thinking about this. like I've just kind of been casual about this, but that's because my family's cool. You know what I mean? Like, they're just kind of open and accepting. And like, if I break up with somebody, they're not going to harass me about that person forever. You know, they're just really cool. They like people easily. No one has any hangups. My mom's so sweet. You know, my brother's cool. My dad's cool. So I was like thinking, I was remembering this. The guy that I dated in college and then would kind of date for years after, mostly long distance, but on and off for years. We met right at the end of college. We'd been really just hanging out for two.

two weeks and he met my entire family. He came to pick me up for graduation, which is pretty intense. Like, he picked him up for graduation. He had made me a mixed city and met my entire family, like grandparents. Like everybody was there. It was my graduation. So it was a lot. But it was also like, it felt cool and natural and we liked each other. And nobody was like, so when are you guys going to get married? Like it was just easy. And I just, I think that set the tone for me just never really, you know, even my first serious boyfriend in high school, like he took me to the prom. and we hadn't been dating long and he picked me up for the problem. You know, like, I've just never had a bunch of hangups around it

or too much pressure surrounding it because it's always been kind of chill for me. Yeah, I think it's just all about how you feel. And I think a lot of people ask, you know, when to meet them and how long is too long, how soon and we'll get into that. But to me, it's not about like the quantity of time you've spent with somebody. It's the quality of the relationship. And it's how certain are you in the commitment of this? How certain are you of how your family is going to behave?

and like you said long term, is your family going to act like really nuts about this? And there's a lot to consider, but I think just there's no right answers. You feel it out and you do it when it feels right when you both feel that it's right. You're not pressuring another person for something. Yeah. And I think, you know,

there's old school ways of thinking and antiquated standard views on everything and you don't have to subscribe to those things. I was dating somebody that we were really into each other, but we still weren't official. I was like, not on the fence, but I was like, I don't know. and I met his mom five weeks in.

We went on a trip. We stayed the night at her house. Like she was on the way to Charleston. You know, like, that's kind of early. Like we hadn't decided, but I was like,

it felt fine. She was cool. You know, and that's the thing too. Like, we have to take like family dynamics into this. Like, you've a really fucked up family and you're,

you know, embarrassed to have someone meet them. Like, it's going to take a little bit longer and you need to, you know, prep your partner and things like that. But like, I've always just been like,

yeah, I'm down. I mean, I think the only thing that would give me pause was if I really did not see a future, I was really just being casual with somebody and they felt like they really wanted me to meet their family. Like, if we just run into your family one day, that's no big deal. I'm great with families.

They always like me. I know how to play it. But like, I think when someone's hesitant to meet your family or they're giving you some weird energy, it's because they're not the serious about you. I think so too. And I think that like, don't rush it. Like if one of you isn't ready, it's not going to be a good scenario. So if you feel like you're not ready for your part and meet your family,

And you bring up a good point. Like if your family's crazy and you feel like you don't want to, you need to like prep your partner a little longer for that, if you feel like you're not ready to meet them or they're not ready, just don't push it because it should feel natural. It should feel like you're really proud to bring this person home. You're excited to introduce them to everybody. Everybody's going to have a lot of questions.

And it should feel like this is a committed relationship. We're going to be together. And I don't think five weeks is too soon, I guess. There's no like time stamp on it, you know? Yeah, but yeah, we knew we were going to date. And like, also remove. this sort of, you know, family stone movie, meet the whole family at Christmas scenario.

You know, like, you can meet them in waves also, especially you have a big family. Like, that's what we did that whole episode about on the holidays. Like, there is no reason that you need to go home with someone to see their family over the holidays or vice versa. Like, that's, there's nothing that says that. There's no rulebook on that. You know, if you meet someone's sister because she was in town or she lives in town

and then you meet the mom later, like it's kind of nice to meet them. in waves and you kind of gain an ally. You know what I mean? If someone is a crazy family, you're like, well, you met the sister and the sister liked you. And you met the mom. And, you know, like, you don't have to show up to Christmas meeting all the extended family.

You can do this shit bit by bit when it works out. And it can always be casual. And it could be like, oh, my sister's in town, I'd love for you to meet her. We're going to grab drinks. Like, it doesn't need to be of like, everybody meet Brad. You know, like, it's just, yeah. I think that I've done all of the different things you mentioned. Like, I have gone on a family vacation.

with people. That was the first time I met my fiancee's whole family. I've gone home with people for Christmas. With Kane, I met his sister first and then met his brother later on and then like the sister told the mom about me. That's what I'm saying. She gets to prep the mom for me and it doesn't have to be this like really heavy thing. It can be one by one. I think it's great if your partner meets your friends first.

Like you know, you'll build towards it. I think one family at a time is nice. There's probably a lot of scenarios where like, well, Kane's going to meet my whole family at a bar mitzvah. But the bar mitz was Saturday We're going to get in town two days early Because I want him to like I want him to piece by piece meet people I don't want him to feel like he's meeting 100 people at once

Nobody will get to know him He's not going to get to know anybody I want him to get to know my dad My uncle and aunt all these people So we're going to go home And if you can do that before like a wedding Or like a big thing Go home like a day or too early

And let your partner like meet somebody here and there And even if you wait a little bit longer Like the more prep you can do the better Like I forget if you said this yesterday Or somebody else did that like You should almost feel like you know the family yesterday, yeah. Yeah.

This was like the quote I was going to say of like in a solid, healthy relationship, you should kind of feel like you know that person's family before you meet them. You know, like those are the best meanings of like, oh, like someone's going to meet my brother. They've heard all about him. They've seen them on social media. Like they know the stories of my childhood. You know, like I'm going to date somebody that knows all this, you know, funny stuff about my family before they probably ever even meet them face to face. I think that like that's a mark of a good relationship too that you feel like, you know,

maybe you've popped into a FaceTime once or twice. You feel like you really know these people. There's not a lot of surprises. Like, I think some people are like, I got there and they had this like weird crazy dynamic or they were a Trump supporter. And it's like, I don't know why you're partnered and prep you for this. That's wild. I totally agree with the prep.

I also agree with like, don't over dramatize. You know, like keep it in check. Don't be like, oh my God. When you meet my dad, he's going to have the shotgun and he's going to grill you. Like, unless that's really what's going to happen. But I guess don't worry your partner unnecessarily. You know, some people like to get all like dramatic about their family. well, when you meet my, like, well, okay, really?

Let's just be, like, let's keep it, like, what it is. Like, don't stress out your partner unnecessarily. You know what I mean? Yeah. I think I like to know ahead of time going in. A lot of people ask about this, like, what are people's attitudes about, like, money? If I want to pay for lunch for everybody, is that going to be weird? What do they like to eat?

I always, like, ask a lot of food questions. This came up a lot, like, what if I don't eat the same stuff that, like, my partner's family eats? You know, I just like to feel prepped walking into it. Do you have, like, a crazy person? political family. Can you talk, can you talk to them about that for me? I just want to feel prepped. And before we go too far into this, like when too soon as and went too long, like there is a point at which I think there are, those do things they come up. So if it's been three months, I wouldn't like worry about it. You know, if it's been three months, even if they're going out to dinner

with their family every week, just give somebody time. You're welcome to bring it up. If it's been like six months since somebody hasn't brought it up, I think you're welcome to say it. And Jared Freed, I get all my advice from him. But he said this really great thing about. about, he was talking about asking somebody, like, what are we? But he basically said, like, you know, you have this conversation. You say, like, I'd like to meet your family. And you're welcome to, like, say that to somebody and say, like, take time to think about it. Jared said it's, like, farting in a room.

And he said, no one's going to sit in the room with your fart for too long. And you're going to get an answer. And sometimes I think that, like, if we're with somebody for, like, six, seven months, and you're like, it's weird. I haven't met their family. And it's like, you know what the answer is. You know that you're not meeting them because this person is not as serious about you as you are about them.

Or maybe it's something else. but I wouldn't be scared to ask the question. You can ask it a nice way. Like, hey, I really like you. I would love to get to know the people that made you. Right. And again, though, that this could be down to like, I, my family is super fucked up and I'm super embarrassed

and my mom is mean to every girl I date. You know what I mean? And like, I don't. Like, and that's on you to know what's going on in your relationship. Like there are no blanket statements for this topic. You know, like we're going to just do the best we can. And unless we would, you know, we can't talk to everybody and individually because it's all just a different scenario.

But, you know, there are certainly cases where someone's, like, it's been six months and I'm crazy about you, but I fucking mom's the worst. You know what I mean? And people have fucked up families and they have a lot of trauma and then, you know, sometimes it can be about that. But also, if you're dating somebody and you're committed and you're like thinking you see a future with them, you know that. That doesn't come up for the first time when you bring up that I'd love to meet your family. They're not like, well, actually, like you've talked about your family. You should have. You should have. And you should, we shouldn't be letting other people dictate where we're in a relationship. But if you feel like it's time to meet someone's family or time for them to

yours, just ask. Just ask calmly. You know, it doesn't have to be this deep thing. And also, like, let's be comfortable saying no as well. You know, people, when I, a couple years ago, I had this on and off off X. And we, it would be, we'd be on for like two months and off for a month and on for, and we'd gotten back together for like two months. He was going to surprise me by coming up here for my birthday. And I was like, oh, because he mentioned it. And I was like, oh, shit, I bought a ticket to Pittsburgh for my birthday. But I said, why don't you come? And he waited like a half an hour and he called me and he was like, listen, I think it's like too soon. I think that like, I'm going to meet your friends and family. It's going to be this like,

what are we? And he was like, we just started seeing each other again. I think it's too soon to like make that call. And it hurt my feelings for 15 minutes and then 20 minutes went by. And I was like, that's the right call. If he's not ready, then I certainly don't want to be in a scenario where I introduced him to everybody. This was not a long-term relationship for me. Yeah. So that was fine too. And people will understand if you're not ready. I think the role is as your relationship needs to be secure. You need to know where it stands. If that matters to you, again, if I give you. I give you. be on a first date with somebody and my family

could show up and be like, what's up? This is Tanner. I'm kidding. I would never date a Tanner. But like, you know, my brother has had a lot more girlfriends than I've had boyfriends. Like, he's just kind of, he's a relationship guy. He's a monogamous guy. He likes to be in relationship. So, you know, there's usually, if he breaks up with somebody, there's another girl. And sometimes it doesn't

last, but we've met all those girls, you know. Like, if it's a family vacation and Matt's dating somebody, we're going to meet her. She probably works in the town, you know, like, and sometimes we never see her again. And it's just what it is. My mom is not going to badger him forever. You know, I think sometimes people feel a lot of pressure from their family to be with somebody,

to settle down. And these are just boundaries and communication you have to have with your family from your end. And like if you feel like that's happening and your family just can't stop bringing up your ex, like you need to talk to your family. And you'd be like, hey, like, this relationship is over. And I've moved on and he has moved on and this is uncomfortable. Or you can even say it's hurtful. Like you can easily fucking lie about it.

Just be like, it bothers me when you bring it up because I'm I'm just kidding. But like, I'm just saying like you need to manage that. And I think most people, most like rational people, even if they're kind of old school parents, you know, boomers, whatever, they're going to take that in consideration that you're like, hey, this relationship is over. I know you guys loved him or her, but can we just stop bringing him up? You know, I am trying to find someone new and I just, I would really appreciate if we can just like not keep bringing this person up. Yeah. Most people are rational. If you just ask, like, that's fine. And, you know, for taking way too long to meet somebody. I have a girlfriend who like was with somebody for like 10 months and his parents

were in town every week and they would go to dinner with him once a week. And she was like, he never invites me and he even includes me. But like, he also was like scared to put a label on their relationship. I was like, no offense, but like read the room. This guy is not like committed to you. And you're not being included because he doesn't even call you his girlfriend. You're 10 months in. Right. It's a carry and big thing. Carried to go up and show up to church. Because big wouldn't introduce. And like that's the relationship. we're talking about. Yeah.

You know, avoidant guy. Yeah. And that's how it feels like you're probably right. And the person's not committed to, you probably can feel it. You're probably right. And there's nothing wrong or weak or silly of you for bringing it up. Okay. So what did people ask about right now?

Some logistic stuff was so funny. People ask like some, the number one question that came up was what gift do I bring? Number one question. Really? And I have a lot of thoughts. Also like, where do I meet them? Who pays for the check? Things like that.

But gifts, I mean, I think a standard like, $20 bouquet of flowers is always fine. It shows it's thoughtful. You did something nice. Chocolates, a bottle of wine that's always fine. If you want to get a little more like granular, just ask your partner what their parents like. I thought that like trough was a great idea. Any kind of like really cute foodie gifts, you don't just spend a bunch of money. $20.25 is fine. Yeah, I love flowers. I'm just a big flower person in general. Like who doesn't love flowers? Like it looks nice when you show up with them. Bottle of wine is great. Like find out what do they like, do they like red? Do they like white? You know, whatever.

then if you go on like vacation with them or you're like staying at your house or you're staying at their house the follow up gift is nice too like if that's your vibe like the thank you note with flowers even after the fact if you like really want to impress them like show up with the wine follow up with the flowers i mean it's a strong move i know the follow up gift is really nice especially if people like really went out of their way to make sure they paid for your meals yeah that it's more of that you know what i mean like just a hostess gift yeah my um one of my exes I think he spent Thanksgiving with us in Florida. You know, my aunt and uncle hosted Thanksgiving dinner.

And he did send them a thank you note. And they were like over the moon. I mean, they didn't shut up about him for years. Like my parents knew that wasn't the guy I was going to end up with, but they didn't. And they would not let it go. And they were like, he sent a follow up note. I was like, why did? God damn it.

Like, of course he did, you know. It's so thoughtful. Anything to show also that you just like asked a couple questions and that you were listening. Like ask your partner what you're with their mom. mom's favorite color is. Anything just like little inexpensive, um, anything to show, especially if you're from like a different cultural background, like what kind of spices do they like to cook with, buy that kind of stuff? You know, anything to show I was listening. I asked questions, but flowers are fine. I wouldn't think too deeply about it. It's really kind if you

showed up with anything, really. Yeah. Make sure that they drank before you show up with alcohol. Yeah, I got to ask about that. I'm just trying to think of like food, like food stuff. I'm like, I mean, again, this is just like ask, ask your partner. Like, they should know this. Like, if you're introducing someone to your family, you're the middleman, like, you know this stuff. You're in charge. You're responsible. So for, like, I don't know, I'm just thinking, like, if you were coming from New York or you wanted to just bring bagels or, you know, something that's like, like, uh, signature to, like, where you're from. Like, I love stuff like that. Like, if people would bring, like, some amazing hot sauce to my dad, he would go crazy. One of the first times I ever hung out with your dad,

he just was spooning a syracia on every bite of his food. Yeah. He would go crazy for it. Probably wasn't even saracha. That's too weak for him. Okay, where do you? He loves like the hot. My dad'll just, he'll take a glob of wasabi and just eat it. It's wild. This is insane. He's so tough and hot for you. Oh my God. Now's our thing every week. Okay, well, let me ask you where, they're not just going to meet your family like at home for the holidays. Where do you think you should take somebody like meet your family? This is just, every situation is different. Like, are we in the same town? Are we not? You know, like, you mean like kind of a restaurant? Yeah. Yeah. I think there's like places that are like

clearly like meet the parents restaurant. Yeah. Just like, I don't know. Not too loud. Not too expensive. That's a good call. Like not too loud. Yeah.

Yeah. I mean, I would just let them pick. Obviously, like they'll just pick. But like I would, if you're picking, I would, I would think about what the price point is. Don't pick something that's like too expensive. We're, listen, if they're rich, make them take you to per se. Yeah. Whatever.

Just make your partner pick. You shouldn't have to think this deeply into it. You're already going to be on display. Your partner should pick. That's not your, that's totally not your call. You're absolutely right. We're not even answering this. That's your partner's job.

to decide that. You know what I mean? If they're asking you to pick the place, break up with them. They suck. And if you're picking a place for your own family, yeah, just, you know,

you know what your family likes. You know what your family likes. It's up to you. The other thing that made me laugh is people ask about sleeping arrangements. It's like you sleep where they tell you to sleep. What you mean? Well, and you do sleep where they tell you to sleep.

That's why I brought the family stone earlier because the family stone is just one of the, like, it's one of my favorite movies, but it is nobody is this hateable as Sarah Jessica Parker in that movie. No one. And she decides they have to sleep separate. I mean,

when is that ever in the history? It's just wild. Unbelievable movie. So don't do that. Yeah, I would just do whatever they want. Like, my parents don't care. So if I'm coming home with the boyfriend, I'm sleeping with the boyfriend. Yeah, yeah. But like, if somebody said to me, we're not comfortable with you sleeping, I'd be like, fine, it's two nights. I don't have to suck your son's dick today. I know. I mean, it's just, it's just, do you, totally you sleep where they tell you to sleep? I guess sometimes, I don't know. I guess I can see a situation. I mean, never do the Sarah

Jessica Parker from Family Stone and like kick someone out of their room, like another sibling out of their room or something. But I can understand if you, if you feel like a family is even a little too relaxed and you're like, what? I get to just like sleep with your son or your daughter. I had an accident. The first time I went there, we had like slept in separate bedrooms because there was separate bedrooms available.

But the second time I went there, there was not. There was other family there. And we like slept upstairs in the same bed in like the attic or not the attic, whatever. the bonus room. I don't know. And he was a little surprised. Like, you know, like, they were kind of more conservative. And he was even kind of like, oh, I'm surprised my mom, like, let this fly. And I'm like, good for them. We didn't have sex. I tried. I mean, I would try too, you know, because I was like, I don't need to blow your son today. And I was like, maybe I did try. I would try. Like, I wasn't trying to be disrespectful. Like, they wouldn't have hurt us. But I was like, can we not have

sex? Okay, fine. Then you, then I had to respect that. But you, you've talked about it before. Like, this is just all stuff that, like, you know, healthy relationships have open communication. surrounding. But I mean, if you were going to be with someone's family for so many nights and they don't have some huge compound and you don't have your own wing of the house and you want some private time, you can stay in hotel some nights. Yeah. I mean, yeah, we've talked about that before. We talked about that specifically. It's like you're not going to get along with the family. A lot of like, a lot of political stuff, obviously over the last couple years. People are like, I don't get along with them. You're not obligated to go home with somebody and you're not obligated to stay in a hotel.

I mean, you're not obligated to stay in their home. And I know that it's weird. Not everybody can afford a hotel, but if you can, why not? And you should not be the one that, like, brokers this information. Like, you should always be with a partner. We cannot stress this enough. That's going to, like, preemptively speak to their family about you, about anything, about politics, about religion, about where you want to sleep. You should feel like your partner goes to bat for you and you should feel like they don't do it begrudgingly and they don't go to their parents and say, oh, she's feeling so stupid about this. Your partner should be a united front with you. Your partner should say, I don't want to stay here with her for a week either. You know,

we want to stay in a hotel. We want to try something else. You should always feel like you have a teammate in your partner. And you shouldn't feel like it's you versus your boyfriend and your mom and his mom, for example. And just always feel like somebody's on your team. And it's a bummer if they're not. And that's a problem. Yeah. I think, you know, some people, I'm sure, are just curious if they're generally like just kind of more shy in general and like how to get along with the family, talk to the family. How much do you talk? How much do you not? I mean, this is, I have no issues with this. I just kill it all the time. I mean, whatever. I'm like, I'm an outgoing person. I talk for living. Like, I'm good at this. I know how to, like, the right jokes to me.

make, like, I can read a room. So can you. But we have a lot of experiences. We also talk for a living. Do you feel like, I do want to, a lot of people ask about conversation. Do you feel like when you were like 21, 22, like you were fine too? Or do you feel like you had more anxiety about that kind of stuff? I've never had anxiety about, I've just never had anxiety about like meeting people talking to people. I don't say that in like, I'm not trying to brag. I'm just being honest up front. So no. One thing I think is always nice, whether this is like, maybe this is like out of order or not, but, like, I just don't want to forget to say it, is, like, offering to help. Like, just get, like, that is one thing, you know, again, Matt's had a lot of girlfriends and he's

had, you know, girlfriends stay at the house. And that's one thing. I just feel like my mom always noticed of, like, are you offering, like, do you need help with anything? Most of the time, my mom will say, no, you know what? It's just like the offer. Like, but, I mean, Stephanie, my brother's wife, like, she doesn't, she's in there, no matter what. She's in the kitchen. She's helping out, you know, it's just, like, helping out is so huge. Like, I'm not going to get in the way. and make things more difficult. But I will always want to try it out with the dishes or, you know, can I set the table if you're at their house or can I do this?

And, you know, you really want to make a grand gesture. Are you on a beach vacation? Can I go out early and set up the umbrellas? I'm not doing that. I'm saying to me like, I should do that. But, you know, like, oh, my God. Like, if I brought my boyfriend to Dewey and he was like, I'll hit the beach in the morning and set up the chairs and umbrellas.

I'm like, I will suck your dick the second you walk back in. Okay, I went down there with your dad and did it a bunch of times. Yeah, you did. do it. That's because you don't get up until noon. I'm trying to get that 10 a.m. to noon sun layer. Oh my God, you did get up. I mean, they were so appreciative.

Like, you know, do you want to take the dog out? Like, just little things. Like, if you are not as big of a conversationalist and you want to make a good impression, like maybe actions are going to be more your vibe. You know what I mean? Like, see where someone might need a little assistance doing something and just offer. And they might turn you down and that's fine too. Then you'll have to do it.

I'm like laughing because, like, I tell you what they will remember is you not offering to help. everybody has an experience where they're like my son brought this girl home and I tell you what she just sat in her ass while the rest of us clean and coach just offer you got to offer you got like I'll get up and be awkward for a sec I'll I'll stand up like it's such a bad look to be just cuddled up on the couch with with your partner and like not helping you know what I mean and that's another thing PDA too do people ask what PDA is I'm asking Rain about this podcast no they didn't and I'm actually surprised that they didn't because um Cain and I are like very touchy feeling and I like thought about that, like, was just going to, like, bother his sister, but like, her and her husband are gross, too. So we could be gross. Oh my God. But I read the room. I just, I thought about this a lot, like, right before I walked in the door of his family to meet his sister and the brother-in-law. But I thought, I had this one moment where I was like, I don't want to talk too much. I don't want to talk too little little. I want to ask enough questions, but I want to talk about myself enough. I think when in doubt, just hang back a little bit. I think when in doubt, ask people questions about themselves, be a little more

quiet. You don't be the funniest person in the room, the loudest person. You don't need to be a center of attention. You already are the center of attention. So you don't, I always lead by asking people questions and just sort of like letting them take the lead. And I pick up like little cues. Like his sister tells like dirty jokes and she was sarcastic. And I was like, okay, it's fine to talk about that. Yeah. She makes fun of him. And I was like, okay, it's fine for me to do that too. I just, I took cues from her and I think that's important. Like I'm not trying to run in there and be like talking shit on cane to cane in front of his family. Yeah. You know, just like jerked him off at the table in front of people. Like I just, I let them lead. You're in somebody else's home.

Right. And when I see the opening that I don't feel like it's going to be forced or awkward, and maybe this isn't the first meeting. Maybe this is like the second or third. Like I'm like, bring out those photo albums. I want to see their prom picks. I want to see their baby picks. And that like gasses up a mom like nothing else. When she gets to like, I'm just talking from, you know, from a straight female standpoint, like a boyfriend or whatever. Like they just love to like show you their son, their accomplishments. You would hope. Maybe if they're not proud of them. But like I love to get in there and like reminisce. I mean, I love that anyway. Like photo albums and stuff like that. Like my mom would always do that with boyfriends mine, just like, you know, bring out all the

embarrassing shit. And it's just like such a good bonding experience. But I think with the PDA stuff, you just followed their lead. It is so uncomfortable when like the outsider, like the person that is me and the family is like overly affectionate when they haven't gotten the go ahead. It feels weird. It feels territorial. It feels fucking weird.

Like I'm always like, are you touching? Are we, like, I'm going to sit next to you. but I'm not PDA until you start it. If we're in your family's home. 100%. Right. I'm not doing it until you started. I want you to do it a lot.

Like his sister was like, you guys are like really touchy feeling. I was like, I haven't touched him once. Just let the record show. He's being all over me. I'm doing nothing here. Yeah.

But like I let him take the lead. Somebody asked this question and I thought it was really good. They said like, how do I get in there if like no one's asking me questions about myself? Also, whatever that's rude, but okay. It is rude. And like, maybe that's not, those aren't your people and you don't fuck with them.

But like, I would. there's nothing wrong with prepping for this experience, like you'd prep for anything else. And think about things you have in common with these people and show up with a couple anecdotes. Your son told me about X, Y, Z thing that you like. I like it too.

Here's this thing that I like about that. Show up with like one or two things to talk about. That's not weird. It's not like you prep too much. It shows that you ask questions about them ahead of time. And then if people continue to not include you them, fuck those people. I don't know what to tell you.

You know, you can only try as hard as you can. You could show up with a good attitude, like you prepared some stories. You want to know about them. And outside of that, it's out of your control, unfortunately. Right. Yeah. You know? And, you know, parents, family members, aunts, uncles, siblings, whatever, they're human too. And especially if we're talking about parents, you feel like your partner's parent doesn't like you or their mom's a bitch or they don't ask you anything about you or whatever. Like, it's probably going to be a little bit more of a mom thing here or whatever. Like dad's like, I don't give a fuck. But, you know, parents like have triggers and traumas too. And they actually probably have done way less work on themselves than we have is like a younger generation that believes more in therapy and all this stuff. So like, They could be projecting shit on you too. You know, like, I have a guy friend and his now wife's mom just was not a fan of him.

And I just will never really understand why. And I've seen other situations in which someone's like, you know, my boyfriend's mom doesn't like me, like, coming from a girl. And it's like, tell me more about her. You know what I mean? Is she in a shitty marriage? Is she, does she hate that she never had this type of love that you have between you? You know, is she a narcissist?

Like, there's just, there's a lot of things. And I think a lot of it's just kind of being patient understanding and if you feel comfortable talking to your partner about it. But I mean, I've seen situations where it was a long road. And it was that parents trauma and their triggers and their shit that they were like projecting into your relationship. So just keep that in mind. Like I guess what I'm saying is ultimately what we always say is like don't take it personally right away. Like, yeah, maybe you suck and they don't like you. But like maybe not.

You know, maybe it's just it's their stuff and you just never know. I mean, they're just humans too. and again, I think a lot of times, like, relationships are tricky. Maybe there's a parent that has a, you know, they had a really bad life with relationships, divorces, whatever, and maybe it's a little triggering to see you guys, like, being all happy and having the things they never did. I mean, that's just like one kind of extreme example, but you just never know. So just be patient with it and try not to take it so personally and just try to show up

and be your best self. That's all you can do. All you do is know that you did everything that you could do. And I've talked about this before a while ago, but I have a friend who's married to somebody. I know that the wife and the mother kind of have an issue with each other. I'm not trying to be beat up on moms. It just tends to be the situation that it's a son and the mom situation.

And I know that like the daughter-in-law shows up all the time with flowers and tries to clean and she's nice. And the mom's just like not, she's not doing it. She's not like picking up on it. She's not going to have it. She's never going to like let her in. And all you can do is walk away knowing I tried to be nice every single time. Maybe you don't stay with those people when you go into town.

That's fine too. I don't know. It's a couple hours of your life, hopefully, you know, once a month. and it's not that big of a deal. And hopefully your partner can help you. And again, like, if they can't, maybe you go to therapy. And there's nothing wrong with, like, bringing a therapist in. And Vienna Farron, who's on our show talked about that.

Like, talk to a therapist about the way that you feel your partner speaks to their husband, or speaks to their family, sorry, about you. And Taylor Strucker was on our show a couple years ago as well. And she had, you can look up her episode on our website. But, yeah, major issues. Major issues with his family. And it just never felt like he was on her team. And ultimately, they split up.

And I think that there's never anything wrong. We always say this is contacting a therapist and having a third party there with you. Yeah, 100%. The last thing they came up a lot, like we mentioned it up top, is differences in political backgrounds, religious, cultural, et cetera. Again, can't hammer this stuff enough. Just your partner should prep you for those things. They should prep your family and their family for it, especially politics. If you're really liberal and their family are, I'm just using like Trump supporters as an example,

first of all, your partner should tell their parents, please don't bring this up in front of her. it makes her uncomfortable. And I think that you should feel empowered to say, I don't want to talk about this stuff, and it's not comfortable for me and I'm not doing it. That's it. You don't have a fight with people about it. Or stay there if you don't want.

Yeah. I mean, and if you're not vaxed, I'm not coming there. Also fair. Like, I'm going to draw that line in the sand. My family doesn't believe in the vaccine.

Guess who's not coming to Christmas? I don't believe in your family. Okay. But I just, you know, I dated someone where his family was much more conservative. and this was, this was like pre-Trump, so it was a little less heightened, you know what I mean? But I'm just, if I could put myself in those shoes here today. You know, I, he felt like me, very passionate, liberal, you know, but I would have known that he would have had my back.

Like, and I need that. And so I don't want to be with somebody where I do feel like we're going to their family. We're going to be with their family who is more conservative. And my, my man is going to sit there. like a fucking pussy because because I don't do that. You know what I mean? And I mean, I'm not scared to say it.

And I'm going to keep my cool and be rational. And I'm always happy to be like, you know what? Let's just drop this and move on. But I want to be able to trust in my partner that they have my back and that they're going to speak up if someone says something fucking crazy and racist or whatever. You know what I mean? Yeah. If you feel like your partner is throwing you to the wolves this soon, it's going to be a

100%. I love that you use that phrase. I'd written that down somewhere of just like, that should not feel like that. 100%. So, you know, just communicate with your partner. And if these things keep coming up, then it's an issue with you and your partner. And you're well within the right to talk about it. If someone was like, I want you to meet my family and, you know,

they're super hardcore Republican Trump supporter people, I just can't see a world in which that would be my partner's family. But let's just say this. I don't know. I don't know. It's going to be a short meeting. You know what I mean? Like it's going.

We're not going or staying at the house. You know what I mean? like the fucking mag of flags that fly in on the porch. You know, like I just, if I really love you and I'm committed to you and we're on the same page and I know that you have my back, like, yes, of course I'm going to have to meet your family. You're struggling with this too probably. But we're going to draw some boundaries.

Yeah, 100%. So don't feel bad doing that. I think as we get older, it gets easier. I think at least when I was a little bit younger, it was harder for me to look somebody in the eye and say, like, don't talk to me about this stuff. But I feel empowered to do it. And I feel empowered to say to my partner, why did you not control this ahead of time? So, yeah.

The last funny thing that came up was people were like, my partner's family, he's bringing up the ex. My partner's dad keeps calling me my ex's name. This came up a lot and made me laugh so hard. Like, what is up with his family? I don't know. Sometimes people are just around for a long time. Dads don't care.

They just forget your name. Well, the name thing, okay. If it's a slip up, we were joking about this yesterday. My brother dated two girls back to back with the same name. It was easy when it was the two of them. You know what I mean? Back to back. But then Stephanie came along.

And my mom, I feel like I had to be like, don't call her. Don't call her Miranda. You know, that's not the name. Like, don't call her Miranda. Don't call her Miranda. You know what I mean. But it was, you know, I call Azul Dewey sometimes. You know, like it's just sometimes you slip up, especially grandparents.

They can't get it right. You know, if you feel like it's purposeful, that's your partner's responsibility to be like, stop being an asshole. Okay. In my perfect world, like the dream is that like your partner's family talks so much shit on that person with you. Like, I live for the moment when my partner goes to take a shower. and I'm like, so how much did you hate his ex?

It is my favorite moment. I'm not saying we did it. I love that. But I'm saying we did it. I'm thinking I can just, I know that's happened about me. No, parents love me. But I mean, I don't know if your partner's family, he's bringing up the ex, tell your partner it's how your partner to tell your mom or your dad, shut the fuck up. Who wants to be subject to that?

I'm not dating a guy that's going to let that fly. Because I wouldn't let it fly. You know what I mean? It's like if my family would never. But if they were like, well, when Ashley brought, you know, so-and-so around, I'd be like, shut up. You're an asshole.

And we're leaving until you get this under control. We're staying at the second house on the property. Yeah, exactly. I don't know. I mean, and it's also, every family's different. Some families really like to joke around. Do you know what I mean? Like some families are like they, my family is probably on the spectrum,

like a scale of one to 10, 10 being like the top. Like we're more in like the eight range. like we joke around a lot, I think, but we're not like so hardcore. There's so much roasting. There's so much where even I could feel in a place where I could, I'm not saying that I, it's outside of reality that I could feel uncomfortable in a situation like that. Like some families go so fucking hard.

And they will say some shit like that. And I mean, if it's just that crazy uncle and whatever, you know what I mean? Like family dynamics are different. If their family dynamic is that they just, they're going to roast you and they're going to do all this stuff. Like, maybe you just got a man up a little bit. and throw it back to him. I feel like that's why your dad's dead.

Oh, no. It's from a show. It's from 10, 15. All guys, I don't know. And just, you know, write some roast jokes of your own. Right.

Show. I'm ready to a set. That's why you're on your third marriage, Uncle Ted? Okay. Making fun of me. I have an MBA. Once I was talking,

you're a public. When I was talking shit about my relationship, but I was like, until you're not on your third marriage, I, yeah, I went hard, okay. I mean, I was with an ex-

and we were with this family, and they were talking about another family member. Like, they were talking about it. I was living for it. You know, I love other people's drama. They were talking about, like, another person. And I was just taking it in, taking it in and waiting for my moment. And, like, I think, I can't remember exactly what, but I just did a callback from that family member and, like, dropped this line. And, like, they, like, fell to the floor with laughter.

And that was, like, right before I left. I was like, the fact that I was leaving on this high, I might drop in the week on the car. I had that moment. I met Kate's family. I got there. And his sister told this story about somebody. dying and then his brother-in-law told this story about like someone's funeral. And then like, I was like, you guys just like love telling stories about people to die. Like, and they all laughed

and it was just like, okay, these people are cool. Like I can get along with them. Listen, at the end of the day, all you can control is your preparation and your effort and your partner's preparation and effort and just do your best. I don't know. I'm trying to get you drunk, I guess. I mean, you know, to start with. Keep it to two glasses. I don't do that with Ashley's family, but I'm not a new partner. You're fine. I mean, what are they going to do? You're in. you're in for life. Well, we hope you guys liked this. Yeah. This advice.

It was really fun giving it. Yeah, 100%. And we asked you guys for the craziest, funniest, meet the family stories. You guys submitted the funniest step. It's always like really hysterical. We picked a couple. I'm going to start with a short one because you know,

you guys know I can't read as well. Kids who can't read good. Okay. I met my boyfriend's dad and his wife. She sent us two stories, by the way. We just picked the second one. Okay. I met my boyfriend's dad and his wife.

That was an absolute trip. I go over to their house to make Christmas cookies with their whole family. Everyone is super nice and friendly. We get done making cookies and we sit on the couch and we're talking about Christmas gifts. And all of a sudden his dad brings up that his wife did a boudoir shoot for him and made it into a book for him. He then proceeds to get the book and insists that I look through the entirety of this thing of his wife's nudes. Full bare ass and tits out. Sexy lingerie, everything but vaj.

He points out all his favorite pictures. and raves about how hot his wife is, which to be fair, she is 15 years younger than than him at a total smoke show, but still my fiance, who just saw his stepmom's nudes, and I were so uncomfortable, but his dad's wife is just chilling, not even face that her husband is showing off her nudes. He then insisted that I make one for his son. I had read this, sorry, for Christmas and said that he would hook me up with the photographer who did his wife's shoot. So I was uncomfortable and I thought I could never see them again, but now his whole family jokes about it and said they knew I was, I was a real one for not getting scared away.

Can you imagine the guy's like, no, no, no, you got to see page 23. Her tities look amazing. I would be like, yes, show me. Like, I would, I live for this stuff. Like, this is just the best content. Like, if you get to experience something like that, you were so blessed. Like, people go through life, never having stories like this, never experiencing stuff that's this insane. Like the second he brought that book out, I'd be like, oh, fuck yes. Like, thinking about the group chat that I'm about to fire up later. It's so true. It is, I live for this. Also, I live for bourgeois photos. Also, I'm probably going to contact the photographer. Also, I feel like I know the stepmom on a new level. Like, we're girls now. You know, like, I love this.

I would be like, go off with those nice titties. It's so true. I feel like when you're in comedy, too, you're just, you live for these situations. You can tell people about them. Yeah. It is the, the son probably was the uncomfortable person in the room. Um, like, you know, he's just, he's like, that's who it's uncomfortable for. Jerking off to his stepmom. You know, like, it's weird. That's who it's uncomfortable for. Yeah. Okay. Um, I'm going to read the next one. Guys, I'm not, I didn't prep for this episode. I just want to shout out Raina. Like, I usually do. I read all these emails. I just didn't. So I appreciate it. I mean, I've been doing other stuff. I haven't been, but anyway, so these are all new to me.

Okay, she says, hey, Raina, Ashley, and Azul. I have loved Gigi from the beginning. And once Ashley responded to one of my DMs, I still live off that high. Sorry, you didn't cut that, Raina, so I'm going to read it. Okay. So she says, well, I currently live in Seattle. I grew up in the Midwest. In high school, I was dating this guy.

Let's call him Kane. I can't live. So he's from over there. I know. This email might be about him. I don't know. Okay. So this girl's dating Kane, Raina's current boyfriend.

Well, you've met his family. so you would know. Okay. And one weekend I was invited to the family cabin, which also happened to be where his grandma lived. Kane and I were, I'm so glad that we've DM before. I love this girl. Okay. Kane and I were in separate bedrooms, which left me somehow in his grandma's bed. She was in the guest room for some reason. That night, being the lazy person I am, I decided I did want to get up to pee before bed thinking I'd probably be fine. In the middle of the night, I strangely had a dream about peeing. Sure enough, I woke up to realize I'd peed my boyfriend's grandmother's bed. so easy to blame on the grandmother though mortified i ran to the bathroom to see if there was anything

i could use to clean it but there really wasn't anything so i opened a window sprayed random cleaning products and perfume on the stain the next morning once the pea stain had dried my boyfriend woke me up by jumping into the bed directly onto the pee stain i did not tell him what it occurred then probably the worst part tbh on the way out my boyfriend forced me to kiss his grandma on the lips for context my family barely hugs after pissing in this woman's bed and planned to one honor, I soon realized this was too much for me. I did eventually tell Kane about the pee. The grandma never said anything.

Thankfully, we eventually broke up and I never have to kiss the grandma again. Okay. Also, like, you think about this from, what, a 17-year-olds? Like, this is the end of your life. Like, this is like, I'm going to jump off a cliff. I'm going to jump out this window right now. It's like, this will never be okay. You're panicking.

You're trying to find cleaning products. Yeah. I'm glad that you and Kane got through it and then broke up. I think that was totally about Cain. Just kidding. It might be about Cain. I don't know about his grandparents. I think they're all dead.

I don't know. I don't actually right now. And the grandma died shortly after the trauma of someone eating in her bed. Oh my God. All right. I like to call this email FaceCum. Okay.

Okay. So I was dating my first boyfriend who I had a sexual relationship with. We'll call him Cain. And like Raina discovered in an early age that I enjoyed come and blow jobs. Because I am from a family. family that does not talk about sex and from a small town. I did not have access slash education on birth control. And I knew I wanted to be. Sorry, I read ahead. That sentence is wild. And I knew I wanted to be a doctor. So I gave and received a lot of head to prevent pregnancy. What does it have to do

with you being a doctor? What does it have to do? She's like, I had a big career ahead of me, so I didn't want to get pregnant. So I just gave a lot of sucked a lot of dick. Like, Where his control? I don't know. Anyway, my boyfriend and I used to do a lot of stuff, a lot of car stuff. Desert town, it's easy and fun. And he'd come on my face a lot. Before meeting up with his family for dinner, we of course were feeling incredibly

romantic and hoary. So I gave him a nice blowjob and he came on my face. How often are you getting calmed on your face? We got cleaned up, or so we thought, and went to dinner. While we were at dinner, his mom said something on my neck. Surprise, it was drag come. And proceeded to wipe it. off me with her finger.

This wasn't our first time meeting, but my 17 year old self was traumatized while her son watched in horror and I told her it was dried ice cream. I don't throw up. Anyway, don't let your man come on your face before meeting up with his family

unless you're going to shower after. This is like there's something about Mary. Like it's just so it's so gross. It's so gross. Like not like a, you mean let somebody come in your face. Like, that's not gross. Live your truth. But I will, I would never recover from this. They're doing a lot of car stuff. A lot of car stuff. To get your, like,

someone coming on your face in the car. That's, that's something else. All right. This last people's a little long, but it's a ride. It's very funny. Okay. Hi, ladies. I'm so excited to share the story with you. I feel like it's finally my time to shine with this one. Here we go. For context, I've been dating my current boyfriend for one year, but we were friends hooking up all throughout college as well. So I know him very well, but never met his family. We started dating in July of 2020 and when we made the decision to date, we knew we had already developed serious feelings for each other, so we knew things were going to move pretty quickly. Little did I know just how fast things were going to move, though. A month after we started dating officially, he asked me to meet his entire

extended family. It's huge, by the way. This was no ordinary family gathering, however. I was expecting the family gathering to be a barbecue family reunion type thing, but when I showed up, I learned it was a spreading of the ashes ceremony for his great grandmother. Not an ideal way to meet someone's entire extended family in case anyone was wondering. So I knew things were going to get weird, but nothing prepared me for the moment when they whipped out the Dixie cups and asked everyone in attendance to scoop the ashes of his great grandmother out of the urn with Dixie cups and spread them throughout the woods of New Hampshire. Her boyfriend didn't tell her. That's what they were doing. He was like, we're going to grill out. I would either break up with them or marry them the next day. My boyfriend's uncle was the one facilitating the whole thing. So we asked people to start coming up to spread the ashes and no one wanted to be first. So we started calling out people individually to come up and spread them. Freaking the fuck out, I asked his dad if I had to do this, which he answered, oh, God, no, I'm not doing that shit either. Stay with me. Oh my God. I love this. From that moment on, my boyfriend's dad has been my hero for saving me from not,

from having to scoop up the ashes of a woman I never met in front of people I didn't know. While all of this is going on, people are coming up to me, Dixie cups full of ashes in hand introducing themselves to me. They're like cheersing. They like do it ash cheers. Then people start shaking my hand. All I could think about was how much of this grandmother's remains were on my hand at that point. It was also a windy day. So the ashes of his grandmother were flying everywhere while people were trying to ask me questions to get to know me. By far the strangest way, I've ever met a partner's family and his family and I still laugh about how uncomfortable this was for me to this day. Dixie Cops just running around. There's ashes everywhere.

All I can think about is my dad just throwing his entire Ziploc bag of Dewey's ashes into the ocean. We were all spreading that. My dad was like, bo-bo-bo-bo. dump. Okay, this girl walks up to the dad. He goes, fuck no, I'm not doing it. That is, that is my dad energy too. A hundred percent. I can see your dad doing that. My dad would be like, I don't know, just do it. It's so funny because me and you like love an audience, we'd be like, I'll go first. I know. It's so true. I'd be like, I'll kick this party up. We never met Lois, but I'm sure she was a wonderful woman. She would have been her memory, live on. And I just do a little sprinkle. Like so dramatic.

Baby Hash is down your arm. Peerling, who is she? Ashley takes the mic and starts doing a set with the Dixie couple hands. Is this thing on? I love these. You guys thank you for submitting these. Oh, my God.

These are so funny. These were so good. Thank you for organizing this episode. I did it with Bella. She helped. All right. Well, that's it for us. Yeah.

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