Girls Gotta Eat - Sex Toy Story feat. Lisa Finn of Babeland Toy Store

Episode Date: May 27, 2019

Break out the lube y'all, it's a sex toy episode! We have the amazingly knowledgable Lisa Finn from Babeland toy shop giving us all the good vibrations. We're talking about choosing the right sex toys, introducing them with your partner, BDSM, butt stuff (plugs, pegging, etc.), lube, and more. We're also sharing our most embarrassing vibrator-related stories, along with your submissions. Enjoy! Shop at Babeland.com (code BabesGottaEat for a discount) and follow on Instagram @babeland_toys. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast and check our website for tour dates and merch. Thank you to our partners for this episode: OkCupid: Download the free OkCupid dating app today. Openfit: Get a special extended 30-day free trial membership by texting GGE to 303030. Ritual: Get 10% off your first 3 months at ritual.com/gge. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The butt does not self-lubricate. Not in a way that you want it to during sex. And you... Talking about poop. Jesus Christ. Welcome back to another episode of Girls Gotta Eat. Welcome back. Happy almost June.

Happy end of national masturbation month. We'll talk about that more. Okay. We have a great episode for you guys today. As Ashley mentioned, it is National Masturbation Month. The very to the tail end. So we hope you guys have been celebrating. I've been celebrating.

I celebrated twice today. You're just really getting it in towards the end of the month. I go through like weird phases where I will masturbate like once or twice a day every single day and then I won't for like a week and a half weeks. I know. I feel the same way. But then we've talked about this before. I think we talked about this maybe with Remy.

Like then when I get back into it, I'm like, why am I not doing this every day? Why would you not have an orgasm every day? Right. Self care. Sometimes you're just like, well, I'm never tired. You know what's so weird is if I'm having sex consistently, I masturbate more often. Really?

Yeah, because I think I'm more in the spank bank. So I'm like thinking about it. Oh, that's a good call. Yeah. So in my bed and I'm like freshly fucked by somebody. And I'm like, oh, let's recreate this moment. That's a good call. Yeah, this bang bank is full.

You got to unload some of those memories. But yeah, masturbation is coming to a close. So we had to get this episode in while it was still masturbation. I can't look at you in the face while you say it. So we have a great representative from Babeland, which is a really cool sex toy shop in New York and Seattle, but obviously online as well. So we are going to talk about everything. Loves, toys, vibrators, costumes, all the stuff. Yeah. With her name's Lisa, we will have her on in a few. And yeah, we really got it. We're going to get into it with her.

Super excited. I have so many questions. Yeah. Just a reminder, guys, we have lots of shows coming up. So if you're listening to this now, we are in California this week. San Francisco is sold out, but we still have tickets to Portland on Friday night. That is May 31st. And then Seattle on Saturday night, I think is sold out. But if you're coming, we'll see you there. Yeah. You can check.

There might be a few single tickets left. But, yeah, Portland is the only one this week that you could still grab tickets. So excited. And then, who, July. July. Are we going to be okay? First thing that happens in July. My birthday.

July 9th. Get tickets to that. It's my birthday. Then Atlantic City, Phoenix, Denver, two nights in Denver, Salt Lake City, and then...

What? I'm trying to see if you're going to land it. And then Toronto, Montreal. I was going to kick it to you. No, I was like, is she going to get there the whole way? So July is an awesome month. We can't wait to see you in all these cities.

We are super excited. Yes, in Montreal, we are doing the Just for Last Festival. That's the festival we did in Vancouver. We're doing it again. Toronto, finally. You guys, leave us alone.

But we're so excited to come there. I can't wait. Leave us alone, but also come to the show. Yeah. Yeah, that's it. So stupid live shows.com. Girls got to eat wherever you get,

you know, you guys know what to do. I don't want to say this. Yeah. So before this episode, we put out a call and asked you guys for some sex stories.

So we're going to get into them, sex toy stories. So we're going to get into those later, but we thought we would kick off the episode with our own funny sex toy mishaps. Okay, wait, one thing really quick. I need to say this. because I got to get it out there.

When we were going to do this episode, it was a whole thing. We're glad it's happening now. But remember we originally going to do this episode in December? Do I remember when she canceled on us? We had someone from Christmas. Not someone from Babe Land. We had someone canceled. This episode was supposed to happen back in December.

And at that time, I was going to call it Toys for Thoughts. Like Thoughts, like T-H-O-T-S. And we were going to do a sex toy episode called Toys for Thoughts. It was going to debut on Christmas Eve. Yeah, and she robbed us of it. But anyway. But now it's masturbation. So it's better.

And we have the baby lambtare. But yeah, you guys gave us some funny stories. Those are going to come at the very end. But we wanted to share some of our stories. It would be funny stuff that happens with sex toys. Yeah. I had to like really mine my life because like so many people sent in stories about their parents fighting their vibrators.

So I was like, what else has happened to me? Right. And then I remembered. When I was in college, I was like, I was a waitress at this job. And I was super in love with my manager at this restaurant in Bloomington, Indiana. He was like a townie. Exotic. Yeah.

He stayed in Bloomington after college to manage an Italian restaurant. Nice. I was so in love with him. J.D., if you're listening and you're not married, you know, whatever. I was in love with a guy at the Lone Star. The Lone Star Saloon. Was he a waiter? Yeah.

Bobby. Is that Bobby? No, second impression, Bobby. Different Bobby. First impression wager body. Well, JD was my boss. J.D. was hot. And I'm so in love with him.

And I just... Hold on, hold on really. I'm not going to stop interrupting him, but like he was the GM. He's the manager of an Italian restaurant. Scheduley and manager. Your boss. After you, after you finished college in Bloomington, he was like, let me stick around here.

Yeah. I'm not done fucking co-ed. Is that the wrong with being a restaurant manager? I was a restaurant manager. Right. But I was so in love with him. And so I finally, I don't know how. I got him to come over to my house one day.

And I was like, oh, it was so crazy. and he like came up to my bedroom and like I noticed as soon as we walked into my room that I had left my giant blue dildo on the bed. Yeah. So you're like, how do I get rid of this? And so like I like dove on the bed all awkwardly on top of the dildo. And he's like, what is this girl doing? Like, I don't want to fuck her. Why is she on the bed?

I had to like fling the blue dildo across through my boss is in my bedroom. Didn't get laid. Oh, yeah. But it's a really anticlimatic story. Maybe if I left the dildo on the bed. Did you live alone? How old were you? I was maybe 19 or 20.

Are you at your parents' house? No, no, I was in college at a house. Oh, because you went to college in India. Oh, right, right, right. I didn't care of my piece of your roommates found my giant dildo. I just didn't want, like, my boss at my job to see my dildo. Your nose dived onto your dildo. Yeah, I know.

He's like, what is this girl doing? I don't want to hook up with her. Why is she on a bed? Why was he in your bedroom? I don't remember how I got him there. It was such an accomplishment for me. Right, like, what guy named J.D., managing the Olive Garden in Bloomington?

comes up to a girl's bedroom is not trying to fuck. Right. How? What else was he doing up there? You guys weren't studying. Right. And I was 19. Like I had some perky tidies back in.

Yeah. I'm sure you were like smoke. I was such a smoke. And he didn't fuck me that night. But he might have moved to New York after college. I'm not sure. Let's track him down. And talk him out.

Yeah. People found Jay from Key West. We never said this. You guys did not have said this? Yeah. We never said this is fine. The one that got away. This was the April 1st episode because it was April 1st episode because it was April

day. And I told the story about the one that got away. this guy, Jay and Key West. Y'all found him. He does not look good. No, I'm upset that you guys found him. I heckled actually so hard. Brutal.

Oh, man. But okay. It's good to know I could get him back. What, too? If you ever go, like, missing for a while, you just eloped to Key West. Yeah. Oof.

I know. But to make you feel better, I did look up some of my exes and showed you, and they are a struggle bustin too. You know, the people they were hot when I was 19 are not, they've eaten themselves today. Beth and live in the Midwest. They peaked 19.

Yeah, when they fucked me. Anyways, okay, your sex story. Yeah, so my best friend Kate got me a little pocket rocket for my birthday. This was probably in 2012, I think. And little cute, Jimmy Jane's the brand. I still have it. It is broken down. So I'm glad that our guest today should be bringing us some new toys because I need them.

It was great. It was this Jimmy Jane, Little Pocket Rocket, teeny tiny thing for my birthday. And then that month in July, I was visiting my best guy friend. He lives in Prague. And we were going to do some other traveling around Europe. And I just threw it in my bag because, like, why not? Like, I mean, it's so small. And I was like, yeah, I'll just probably masturbates at some point.

Road masturbation, of course. Mistakingly threw it in my carry-on. And I connected through Heathrow in London. And I got pulled for a bag check. I was like, oh, my toothpaste. You know, my big tooth, I'm my special Tom's toothpaste. So I was like, oh, fuck. I threw the full tube in there.

That's what it is. It's over three ounces. Toothpaste, whatever. And this man, he just was like, there was a language barrier. He was wearing a turban. It was like a whole thing. He's the one that's checking my bag and he's going through all of it. And then it hit me.

I was like the vibrators in here. Like, oh my God. How big is it? Compare it to something. It looks like a bullet. Yeah. I mean, a little bit bigger. But I mean, like, I can hold it between my thumb and my forefinger.

You know, like it's very small. And he's going through everything. Toothase comes out. I'm like, okay. And then he picks. up the vibrator. He picks up the vibrator and also in that carry-on were randomly a lot of like bra and underwear-type garments. Like he's like, I have clothes in there. I'm just like, this is getting more and more embarrassing by the minute. There's my brazzar everywhere. And then he picks up the vibrator and

he holds it up and goes, what is this? And I was like, something that's touched my vagina. Okay, what's worse? The humiliation you felt or the disgustingness he felt? He didn't know what it was. This man in a turban did not know what it was. You think that you don't think that guy that has touched 17 vibrators a day. I don't know. He goes, what is this? Right in front of my face. And my knees went weak.

Like, I'm not a person that gets embarrassed easily. My knees almost buckled. And I said, it's a vibrator. I couldn't think of anything else. And he just still looked at me dead in the eyes. He did still not really grasp me what I'm saying. Like, this guy doesn't know what I'm saying. Like, and so he goes, can you turn it on?

And I was like, this can't be happening. This can't be happening to me. And it's like a twist to turn on. And I had to turn it on. and it's in his hand vibrating. I don't know. Touched my clit at 12 hours prior.

And I think then he realized and he put it right back and all the time I'm thinking like please don't throw it in the in the toothpaste bin. Like I please don't get, I want to keep this. It's brand new. Brand new toy.

I was playing on masturbating on this trip. And he, what am I going to do on the plane the whole time? He put it right back in the suitcase. Then it was just, then he just walked away and I'd pack my own shit up. And I was like, I cannot believe that just happened.

It is like, I had to say what it was, had to turn it on. People are walking by. It wasn't quiet. People saw this happen. He throws a very busy airport. And I'm standing there with my buzzing vibrator in my hand with this man. And I mean, I bet people were just like, that's a crazy shit I've seen today. I got to know, though, if somebody works for TSA, like, this probably happens at least once a day at every TSA agent. Like, I got to know, like, how many vibrators they pull out. Because, like, it's humiliating to you. But like, this has happened to every, at every airport all day every day. But do they even look suspicious?

Vibrators? Yes. I mean, vibrators do you don't look like anything. Like I have like a drawer full of them and none of them identify as a vibrator right way. One looks like an egg. One looks like a lipstick tube. Yes. And so then I put this on my blog. I like literally got to Prague and I was like, this is when I had like a blog that I was like really updated all the time. I put, I threw the story up on my blog and Jimmy Jane read it. And then they set me this vibrator that was like, they're these two little vibrating finger pads and you like touch your clip with them. And they, um, they,

get through TSA, they look like earbuds almost. And they like send them to me. They're like, we never want this to happen to you again. Like ever since then, they've been like a preferred brand of mine. But yeah, that was, I mean, I know that's happened to other people, but I was just like, I can't believe I have to turn this on. You're not going to terrorize the plane, just your own vagina. Right. Like, do I look suspicious? Well, they make all kinds of vibrators today that don't look like vibrators. And we're going to talk about them with Lisa from Bayland. Yes. This landscape has changed the way that they look. They're amazing looking. My dad could open up my nightstand right now and he'd have no idea when I that stuff is. Okay. Maybe the loops, but other than that. All right.

Well, perfect. Perfect transition. Perfect lead-in. Okay, today we are really excited. So in the house with us and Dewe, we have Lisa from Babe Land, which we'll tell you about. It's probably my favorite sex toy store in New York City. She is a brand manager and a sex educator. She's been with Babe Land for three years. She's going to tell us all about sex toys, sex innovations, how to use them, how not to use them. So welcome to the show. Thank you so much for having me. I am so stoked to do this. Yes. Hell not to use them. Let's just jump in right away with that. No, I'm just kidding. I got a lot of emails from you guys about getting stuff stuck in your butts. Oh my gosh. I will say right away whenever we have someone in the store that's like,

okay, I'm looking to get into anal or even if they don't even say that if they buy something small that vibrates, we will straight up let them know off the bat. Whether or not they've said this is going anywhere near my butt. Hey, listen, you can't put that in your butt. it's like these are a master card and also don't put that in your butt yeah i love that so much like in what other part of your life will you buy something and someone's like f yi please don't put that in your butt yeah i that's what they tell me at grocery stores i can't tell you how many times i'm a west side market buying soup they're like please don't put that in your butt yeah squash zucchini none of that has a flared base you need something to anchor

it outside of the body for easy retrieval we're okay we're just don't give it away. We're going to end on anal. And I just have to say before we really jump in that you brought us sex toys and I'm so excited because my vibrator was beat up. I've had it for way too long. And so I've been needing a new one. And it's just, it is one of those things where you're, sometimes you're like, I don't want to spend the money. So you just, a gift, a vibrator is a perfect gift. I agree to spread the good vibes. I'm like holding it right here. I'm like holding it like giving a lecture. Thank you so much though. You opened up like the clown car of sex toys. The first thing you pulled out was

a giant red rope and a whip, there's handcuffs. That one looks like the Sex and the City original massager. So that is the magic wand. That's the rechargeable iteration. So that's like the newer version of it. But that is the same design, the same sort of iteration as they had in Sex and the City, which fun fact,

we still sell the original one that plugs into the wall and sounds like a jackhammer. No. People still love it. Oh, yeah. The Brookstone, like, back massager? Oh, for sure. For sure. So that's a perfect place to start because we wanted to talk about, I'm never, we actually want to talk about Babeland, but we want to talk about how sex toys have evolved and you

give us like the lay the land on this. But sorry, I jumped ahead. We want to hear about Babeland and your history. Yeah. Yeah. Tell us about Balemes because I love it so much. Okay. So a little bit of Babeland history. So we were founded in 1993. We were founded by two lovely queer women who were living in Seattle at the time and just could not find any women-friendly spaces to purchase sex toys. So at the time, it was like, you would need to go through a beaded curtain in the back of a video store and, like, everything was dimly lit. And it was like a bunch of porn videos and then like a couple of giant, you know, sparkly pink dildos or whatever it was. But, you know, there wasn't anybody on staff that could like help you,

find what you need or you couldn't really ask any questions about it. Even simple things like, hey, what material is this? Is this body safe? Like you wouldn't be able to get that information. So Rachel Vending and Claire Kavanaugh, the founders were just like, cool, we're going to open up our own spot. They actually based it off of good vibrations, who has been around since 1977, and also goes for this whole like pleasure forward, sex education based sex toy shop. and they made the flagship store in Seattle and the idea was it was going to be well lit, open, colorful, friendly,

and completely inclusive. If you were over the age of 18, you could come on in and get all the answers that you wanted for the questions that you had for your sex life. I love that. One of the things I really like about Bayland, I think the thing I like about it the most is it's a really bright,

white, lifestyle-y kind of store. It feels really comfortable to be there. It doesn't feel seedy. There's people walking around and answer your questions. Everybody's super nice. And yeah, I think it's a really nice shopping experience, especially when you're like,

something's very uncomfortable for most people to purchase. Oh, yeah. And wait, when was that? What year was that? 1993 was when we opened in Seattle. Our New York location, so we have Soho Lower East Side

and then Park Slope Brooklyn. Those all opened in the early 2000s. I feel like the first time I started hearing about sex toys was sex in the city. So I always like to think about the dates because they were so open about sex and kind of ahead of their time, and that was the 90s. I mean, Babeland was ahead of their time, too, obviously.

Early 90s? Yeah, absolutely. I mean, it was still very much so we don't have, obviously we didn't have half of the products that we have now because technology. But even just the design of products that, you know, in the early 90s it was a lot of phallic things. It was very much so this idea of like, oh, okay, you know, folks with vulvas will get their pleasure through penetrative sex. Of course.

We now know that that isn't necessarily true. In fact, if you are a person with a vulva, over 80% of folks with vulvas need clitor to get off. Yeah. Yeah. I watched it evolve since I bought my first vibrator. My first vibrator was like a giant dildo spinning beads at the inside. And that was probably like, I don't know.

Oh, is that the rabbit? Yeah, the rabbit. Yeah. But they don't even look classier now. Like, they're beautiful. Just have them out on your coffee table. Oh, yeah. They look like little minimalist pieces of art.

This one right here, the Jimmy Jane form to. Big fame. Like, I feel like you can straight up leave this charging like on a desk. And if somebody doesn't know what it is, they're not going to call it out. Yeah, it's a showpiece. I also have a necklace here. So this is the Vesper. What is that?

And it's a pendant necklace. It's a vibrator. But it's a necklace. And I wear this all the time. It's beautiful. Looks like a bullet. This is a display. This isn't my personal one.

But here you go. Go ahead and feel it. It's super strong. It is really strong. I wore that into a wedding. It's vibrating right now. First of all, it's beautiful. And I also, okay, I just have to tell you.

The vibration. I like sort of like to masturbate when I drive. If I'm on like a long car trip and I'm going to be in the car for like six hours, I drive home to Pittsburgh sometimes, that is like my favorite thing. It's tiny and I can use it while I'm driving. So I got this for my friend and she calls it the coffee break. That's brilliant. But you guys do, you guys do all kinds of stuff.

You have classes. They have two books that they've written. right, the founders? Yes. So we carry Morgasem, which is Babelands' Comprehensive Guide to Shame-Free Sex-Exed. We also carry the Good Vibration, Sex and Pleasure Book. So those are going to be like our two main like sort of all-encompassing books. I will say grain of salt on Morgasm is that it was written in the early 2000s.

So some of the ways that we talk about gender and sexuality have changed since. For sure. But as like a cohesive sex ed book. It's great. It's also like a really cute coffee table book. I don't know if y'all had growing up the, oh my gosh, it was the American girl, like my body and me or your body and you. My body, myself or something. It's like my first puberty book. It's like it's done in that style, but like adult sex ed. Like it talks about like Kink, BDSM and like the clit and all that stuff. But like very much so in a very accessible, colorful, leave this out on your coffee table kind of way.

Yeah, that's amazing. I love a coffee. General theme across the board is all this stuff can just be left out in your home. Make sure that it's clean. So tell us kind of, what do you, you've been in this world for a long time, or you know the history of it obviously, like how do you, what do you feel like the lay of the land is right now with sex toys? Like are women masturbating more than ever with toys and what's popular, what's hot? Like, we just want to hear your expertise on toys in general.

I wouldn't say that people are masturbating more. I just think that we're a little bit more open to talk about it. Yeah. You know, having sex toys in the. mainstream. I mean, you can go onto almost any website that does like any sort of sex and wellness articles, whether it's like Bustle, Refinery 29, even like sites like BuzzFeed and Teen Vogue. And they're talking about sex toys too because we're finally like, hey, listen, pleasure is something that we should be striving for. Pleasure is something that is important. You know,

there's this whole big boom in folks talking about self-care and masturbation should be a part of that routine. 100%. I mean, I don't know if you've heard there's a phrase called the orgasm gap, but it's this idea of like, well, why aren't we coming as much as, you know, folks with penises. Let's talk about it. Let's close that orgasm gap.

The gap is an understatement. Like a huge amount of women do not orgasm during sex. It's a canyon. It's more of a canyon. Yeah, and we did a lot of this with it. We had another episode about with a podcaster that we did like all about coming. So we're excited to have you kind of rounded out. on the sex toy realm.

Do you want to just start with like, what do you feel like, where should people start if they want to buy their first sex toy? Yeah. So we want to talk about how to use it with your partner, but I think first,

yeah, I think a great way to start is just on your own. My first vibrator. My first vibrator. If someone comes into the store and it's like, I just want to start having orgasms.

Like, where would you direct her? That is the most common question that we have. We nailed it. So many folks coming in, just being like, hi, I don't know where to start help. So the first thing, is to know what you like and don't like or at least have like an idea. If you're a person that's never had an orgasm before, that's okay. That's totally fine. But are there ways that you find that

your body responds better than others? Like, do you like penetration? Do you like deep penetration? Do you like shallow penetration? Do you only like to focus on the outside? Are you a person that tries to get off by grinding against a pillow? Are you a person that gets off by direct clitoral touch? what feels good to you. Do you like butt stuff? Yeah, do you like butt stuff? You know, what is the way that you find your body responds best to stimulation? From there, we usually sort of categorize how we're going to aim for this. So, you know, do you want something internal, so something that you would use vaginally or anally? Do you want something external, so something that you would use against the shaft of a penis or against the clitoris? And talking about, you would use. You know, and talking about, you would use. You know, you would use. And talking about, you would use. different shapes. Do you want something that's softer? Do you want something that feels like a body part? Do you want something that's powerful? Are you more sensitive? Maybe something that doesn't vibrate really hard or that doesn't vibrate at all? And taking these questions and sort of walking people around the store. Another tip that I always give is that sex toys are kind of like your partner.

I know, I've been with mine for so many years. I think we've been together for like seven years. Listen, I know folks that... I'm about to break up today. We beat you by many years. I'm like 12 years in with my partner. That's impressive. My big blue partner. I can't believe I've never met him.

I think it's called like... I don't use it that often. I think it's called like the Tamagocchi 3,000 or something. Oh my goodness. Bloomington, Indiana. I was in college. I feel like you've said this before and we realize that Tomogachis are those little animals that kids play with.

Tomicuichi. Tomicuichi? I don't know. Whatever. It's Japanese and that thing is a tank. Amazing. Do you all name your sex story? No. I think that you probably should, but maybe I'm just not that creative.

You probably should? No, no. I should name mine after the TSA agent who made me turn it on in front of him in London Heathrow Airport. That's what I should name. I'm sorry. No, that's totally fun. I just got really excited about your tomagacci. Sorry, I got really excited about what you were saying because I love that you're talking about. I never even thought about this. Do you want penetration? Do you want something external or internal? And sometimes you don't know. My first vibrator was, I didn't need all that. I just needed. clitoral stimulation. Oh, it was being attracted to your sex toy. Being attracted to your sex toy. I love this.

Yeah. So, like, if you're walking around the store and you're looking, you know, so often people will be like, well, like, what's your best seller? And the magic wand has been our top seller since we opened in 1990. That's that giant thing. What do you do with that? Oh, I will totally get into that. Just you guys know what I'm looking at.

It is the size of my thigh. You got to insert that in anything, right? If y'all, no. If y'all watch sex in the city, it is. is the vibrator that Samantha. Samantha got and was using it. It's iconic. Like Raina doesn't lift weight.

It's like she can't even barely lift this. It's heavy. Is it weird that I looked at this and just thought my pussy cannot take this? No, because that's the thing. It's bigger than our microphone. It looks like a microphone. You know, like I said, people will come in and be like, what is your best selling sex toy?

And that's it. But you just looked at it and said, no, that's not for me. So don't get it. She's proving your point. Exactly. I love this. Get something that you're attracted to. Get something that you're like, I will grab that off my nightstand. I want to have this. I love this. Because if you're looking at something and you're like, eh, then you're not going to be able to get into the mindset that you need to be in in order to reach orgasm, especially if you haven't had one before. So find something that you find attractive. Like, if it's on a day nap, are you swiping left? Exactly. Right. Absolutely. You got a one. You got a one. to use it or else it's like this is sexy whatever I'm looking on right the gold the gold like that

yeah but I also like the way it shaped okay so my first dildo vibrator was shaped like a peter was shaped like a just straight up like a peanut like straight yeah this one's like curved nicely and the some of the best orgasms I ever had were with a curved penis ooh you want to know why why the g spot is it because it needs to be curved a little bit like hooked yes yeah so for a lot of folks uh they'll need a curve in order to reach the G spot or the prostate. Fun fact, they are located similarly in the body, and I will go to that in just a second. What if I just took a photo of that to send it to my ex, thinking of you? Yeah.

Why not? Yeah. Why not? P penis? Well, you might want to get consent before sending somebody a picture of a sex toy, but that's a display, so. Yeah, it's a display. Debatable, but we're all about consent, so I was checking in.

Anywho. Yeah. So the G spot is, for most folks, it's going to be located about like one to three inches inside the body, but towards the interior wall of the video. vagina so that means towards the belly button. So something with a curve is more likely to hit that spot. Something that goes up and down may just slide past it, but something with a curve is going to sort of rock into it. We always like to talk about stimulating the G spot through firm rhythmic pressure. We tell folks to take your fingers and almost like you're beckoning someone to come here.

Yeah, they'll come here motion. Yeah. So that motion, sort of that curving towards the belly button is going to be great to stimulate the G-spot. So if you have a toy that has a curve, you can sort of rock it into the G-spot in that way that will stimulate it better than something that is slim-line or straight up and down. I just love that you said this. I think that's such a good takeaway for someone

that shot me for a sex toy. If you look at it and you don't like it, don't buy it. Don't be like, maybe I should, if it doesn't appeal to you immediately, that's not your toy. That's not your man or woman or whatever, your partner. No, I agree. And I think that size can be really intimidating too

because sometimes you see these vibrators and they're so huge. And it's a whole concept of women like wanting like a huge cock. I don't want a huge cock. I want like a schmedium dick. That's what I want. Exactly. And smearum dick. It's my new band name.

Yeah, exactly. So like something like that, which by the way, what we're looking at is something, how big is that? Five and six inches? Oh, that. So insertible length. This is about five inches. Yeah. And it's about three fingers at its widest.

Yeah. I like to measure things by fingers because it's a lot easier to say. okay, I can handle two fingers, three fingers, than it is to say, ooh, a circumference of about an inch and a half. Unless you're taking a protractor to your openings in which case. Good on you. Right, good on. You should explore down there.

But I like that because I know your exact measurements. What are your measurements? My circumference is one inch. My circumference is one of the left. But I love that because it's like, I think that like, you know, the perception is that women want these huge cocks. Like, I don't want that. Like, that's a nice size.

And like, I don't need anything bigger than that. Yeah. And some folks too. Some folks really, really like having that sense of just complete fullness. Some folks like depth. But some folks, you know, especially if you have like a lower cervix or if you experience any sort of pain on deep penetration, you know, that is very, very common. But for other folks, there's actually another hot spot that is up towards the cervix

and that one's called the A spot or the anterior fornix. and folks that like deep penetration and only get off by deep penetration, that might be their spot. But for folks that just want the sensation of penetration but don't necessarily want something bumping against their cervix, you know, this one right here, which is, this one's called the GG2, it's slim. It's about two fingers, but for some folks, they're like, this is too big for me. And for other folks, they're like, oh, no, I need like triple that size. You know, everybody's bodies are different and they respond in different ways. So, you know, this could be Godzilla to somebody and it could be a pinky to somebody else.

And some people, I don't want it at all. Like, I just, you know, I haven't penetrated myself with a sex toy in so many years. Like, I'm just straight clitoral. Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. It's whatever gets you off. And that's one of the reasons why, you know, you'll walk into one of our shops and there are so many different shapes. You know, you will find things that are shaped like a pebble or shaped like rabbit ears or, or, you know, are shaped like a giant penis. Just all different things, different strokes for different folks, so they can stroke their folks. So while we're on masturbation before we move on to like partners, I do a couple questions,

men, do a lot of men or do any men, I'm sure some do? What do they buy for masturbation for themselves? And like maybe I'm a girl and my boyfriend travels a lot. I want to buy him a gift to like help masturbate. She had the look that she got on her face. Eggs. Egg. I know. I'm so excited about this. I'm going to put down my mic for just one second so I can open this up.

So hold, please. Yeah. Okay. So for folks with penises, most often masturbation sleeves, we do carry the flashlight, which is like the OG masturbation sleeve. And that one is usually shaped like a vulva at the top. It looks like a giant flashlight when you have the lid on it. And it is a silicone vulva that. has a deep inside so that they can literally just penetrate it. But for folks that travel, this is called a tanga egg, and it's actually our most popular masturbation sleeve for folks with penises. So it's textured. You can go ahead and feel it's textured on the inside. It comes in like a little Easter egg, but it's super, super stretchy. So when you lobe this up, you would put the textured side against either the head of the penis

or down the whole shaft. And you would use it lube and then stroke it. and you're going to get all of those textures alongside your stroking. So it's not just like the sensation of a hand. You're getting like texture or softness. You can feel this silicone is like super soft. Yeah, I'm turning on by it.

I'm like I wish I had a penis right now. I know. I just want to explain it to people. It's like it looks small but it stretches, but it's like I don't know how to describe this. It's the exact same side. I look exactly like a penis head. It's a little.

It's a silicone and it has a hole in it. You stick your dick in it. Yeah. But it's like, yeah, the inside is textured. I feel so good on a dick. Not that I know how dicks feel. So fun fact, I like to sell this for folks that are also looking at the magic wand, because you can stretch this over the head of the magic wand if you want that texture against the clit as well.

So it'll do a bunch of different things. And then a hack that I do in my blowjob classes is I will snip the tip off of this egg and use it at the base of the shaft while focusing on the head with your mouth. So you get sort of like an all-encompassing sensation. No. If you don't want a deep throat, but they want like the whole. whole thing taking care of. Blow job hack.

Yeah. Blow job hack alert. You can use the tanga egg towards the base of the shaft while focusing on the tip with your mouth. Yeah. Did you ever see that video? Yes, I have.

And so this is a little cleaner than the grapefruit technique, which you guys don't know I'm talking about. Just scoop. Just be careful with sugar around genitals. Right. And food in general around. And also citrus.

Yes. Exactly. But hey, to each their own, not going to yuck anybody. He's great for you. But same type of thing. Yeah. Same concept where it's like,

use that towards the base and then focus on them. And move it up and down and yeah, and get the sensation and the texture. I love this. If like, if this is like a really sexy gift for your man. Like if he travels a lot, if you're not going to be around for a little while,

like give that to your man, I love that. We didn't want to like, we're not getting into blowjob tips. This is a whole other episode. But I think that's a great move. Like when he doesn't even see it coming, no pun intended.

Like you're just down there and you just grab that thing and put it on him. He doesn't even know what's happening. He's like, what is going on down there? Happy birthday. Lock him down forever. And don't even show it to him. He'll be like, what just happened? Nothing.

Put it away. Lock it up. I mean, again, you're like, you know what? I can tell she's getting triggered. Listen, as a sex educator, I need to be on my shit about that. Oh, am I electric. Oh, yeah. Great.

No. Fuck you. No, you got to go. Well, fuck. I swore. I swore. She was giving me that look. Don't do anything unless you ask.

So a question we got asked is concern of masturbating too much with a toy that you won't be able to. Orgasm is easily with a partner, with your own hand, whatever. Basically, is there a downside to just masturbating all the time with these high-powered toys? I mean, yes and no. It really depends on the person and their sensitivity. Some people can just really get into habits. and more so than it being a physical thing, it could just be a mental block.

Like if you just tend to get into a routine, same thing with folks that are sleeping with a partner, that they tend to do the same positions all the time, right? So it could just be like a habit that you fall into you. And so like mentally you're like, oh, well, I don't have my vibrator. I don't think I'm going to be able to get off. You're creating that block for yourself. But when it comes to actual physical desensitation,

you'd need to use like a super, super powerful vibrator. Like you'd need to be using that magic wand for like eight hours a day, every day for it to do like any actual like nerve damage. With that, um, understanding that like different folks have different sensitivities with their bits and stuff like that. So like if you're ever like masturbating and all of a sudden you're like, hmm, why is everything uncomfortable? Maybe like take it down a notch. Maybe use more lubricant. If you're not using lubricant, you absolutely can cause some painful stuff down there. You always want to use lube, so everything slides. You don't get friction. That'll be irritating.

But yeah, I mean, if you hold a vibrator against any part of your body for too long, it's going to begin to go numb. That's just, it's just how our bodies work. But it doesn't mean that that sensation isn't going to come back. And again, you should be able to tell this if you are masturbating a lot. all of a sudden you're like not feeling it anymore or you're feeling discomfort or pain. Stop just like you would with anything else. But really it would take a lot of effort for you to be masturbating too much. It's going to be, again, more of a mental thing than anything else. If you're canceling plans to go home and masturbate every single night and you haven't seen

your friends in three weeks because you've just been like cuddled up in bed with your womanizer or whatever it is that you have at home, then yeah, maybe you have a problem. I can only masturbate for like 15 minutes max. Like it does not replace social plans. Yeah. Yeah. But I think that the, I think that like the fear is more so like it's so easy for me to come from a toy. You know, is that going to cause a problem psychologically, like in bed with my partner?

I think that's what you said. Yeah. Yeah. It could be your own mental pocket. Yeah. I need to keep in mind, keep that in mind, I guess. Just from what I've heard just like from my years as a sex educator, you know, Using sex toys can actually enhance your ability to orgasm because you just sort of learn your body more.

Figure it out. You know, masturbation should really be like you making a roadmap roadmap to like your own body and what feels good so that you can have the language to communicate that to your partner. You know, if there is only one way that you get off, fine. That's cool. For some people, that's just how it is. Integrate that into your play. It doesn't have to be the only thing that you do. Also, we shouldn't just be having sex or masturbating for the goal of orgasm.

There are so many other wonderful sensations that come with sex or masturbation that we can really explore and taking the time to discover our bodies and different things that feel great. You know, the journey, not the destination. I love that you said that because I feel like there's plenty of times that I have sex and I don't have an orgasm, but I have a great time. Oh, yeah. I'm not disappointed if every time I have sex I don't have an orgasm. Yeah, such a good call. I'm not in a long-term relationship with anybody right now,

so the probability that I'm having sex with the same person every single day is pretty low. And, you know, when you, unless you're having sex with somebody pretty consistently, it's hard to teach somebody what you like. So I don't always have an orgasm every time I have sex. But yeah, I still like sex a lot. Yeah. And I just love what you said about the toys. And I think this is a lot of people's journey is figuring out their body with a toy prior to having an orgasm with a person.

So, and I think that that just is. like what happens. I mean, you know, we had Rema on. We talked about that at length, but I think that's a great way. You might not even know that you could orgasm in a certain way until you use a toy. And then at least you know next time you're in the bedroom, you're like, move this way, do this with an actual penis. Yeah, absolutely. And, you know, we talk about this when we talk about like Kinkn, BDSM stuff too. You know, you can enjoy things like Kinkumdbdusm, whether it's like being tied up or being spanked or something like that without it necessarily having. to get into whatever your idea of sex is, whether that's penetrative play or even just the goal

of reaching orgasm, you know, you can go ahead and play with these sensations without ever needing to reach orgasm or even trying to reach orgasm and it can still be a really cool, sensual, intimate experience. You know, a lot of folks will use things like BDSM and Kink to sort of be intimate with their partner without necessarily getting into whatever they consider to be sex. So I think that this is a really good time to jump into, we talked about masturbation, so introducing sex to your partner, a sex toy, sorry, to your partner.

And I think that it is a little scary for some people to bring that up. You know, does it make me weird? Am I crazy? Am I going to insult them? You know, am I going to make them feel like they're not enough? So I think, like, language that you can use and good toys that are just sort of easy to lead into would be awesome to talk about.

And we didn't really have it on our list, but I would actually like to talk a little more about the BDSM stuff. Yeah, absolutely. And now I'm just looking at all the stuff you brought. I'm like, let's talk about it. Yeah, I have my frog and my cotton rope. I think some people can feel, yeah, like you said,

emasculated or like insecure. Like, why am I not enough? Like, why do you want to bring sex toys in the bedroom, which is a frustrating mindset because it's like, why would we not? Like, let's make this more fun. But I think a lot of our listeners would want to know that, how you broach it, where to start, all of that. Yeah.

Well, we are on Girls Got to Eat, so I'm going to do a little bit of a food analogy, right? You have the most delicious scoop of ice cream in front of you, right? That is your sex life with your partner. It's delicious. You love this ice cream. It's great. But today you also want sprinkles on top or whipped cream or a cherry.

You know, think of sex toys not as a way to replace anything, but to enhance it. Like the ice cream is still good on its own. I just want a little something different, maybe some texture, some flair, right? So integrating sex toys into your sex life doesn't have to be. something that you're doing because you're not having good sex. Sex toys on top of good sex, amazing. But for folks that are looking to introduce a sex toy into their sex life because they feel like they're not able to have a sex life that they want without it, yeah, that could be a conversation that make people feel pretty intimidated. For a lot of folks, it's this conversation of, like you said,

am I not good enough? Well, what am I doing wrong? And it might not be that. It might be a matter of, you know, if we're having penetrative sex, I just need to have a little bit more focus on my external bits. Or, you know, I get off from really, really powerful stimulation. And, you know, if you are going down on me for an hour, your tongue's going to, you know, feel numb after a while because you've just been going at it. Why don't we just, you know, speed up the process? you know, sex toys are a tool. And if you're using them with a partner, you're still having sex with that partner. Another analogy that I'll use is, you know, you have a hammer. A hammer is a tool. You build a birdhouse using that hammer. You wouldn't say the hammer built the birdhouse.

You built the birdhouse. You just use the hammer to help you out. Right. You still gave your partner that orgasm. You just use the tool of a sex toy to do so. You know, it really comes down to presenting sex toys to your partner as I want to try this new thing and not presenting it in a way that's accusatory, right? Not being like, hey, I'm not getting off. So we need to grab a vibrator. But maybe presenting it as, you know, when I masturbate, I use this vibrator and it feels really, really good. I would love to bring it into bed with you. Find ways that you can use toys on both of your bodies. When we talk- Yeah, we want to talk about cock rings.

Yeah, absolutely. Big fan over here. When we talk about genitals, just like the anatomy of pleasure, you know, the penis and the clit have so many similarities. I mean, they're actually like made from the same tissues. So they both are made out of erectile tissue and they both can be stimulated the same way. So using a vibrator on a penis can feel just as good as using a vibrator on a clit. So if you are with a partner that has different genitals than you,

talk to them about maybe trying it out on them as well. So it's something that you can both enjoy together rather than, I need this thing for me because you are not doing it. That's not the way to approach anything. I know. I think you start with like compliments. Like I care about you. Our sex life is great, you know, but I'd like to try this fun thing.

Who would say no to that? It's just like, let's go on this fun trip. Let's check out this new fun restaurant. It's like, let's try this new thing in the bedroom. Like, why would you not want to? You know? And you probably feel like every couple's a little different, but like I dated somebody for a little while and like we were wanted to spice it up.

So like we just went to sex toy stores together and just like shopped around and said like it's fun to go together. What's fun? Do you think, and it's probably one size fits one for every person, but like do you think it's better to go with your partner to a sex toy shop or to talk about it ahead of time what you want or is everybody different? I think a little bit of both. Definitely like present the idea first.

Like just be like, hey, you know. I've been thinking about using a sex toy in the bedroom with you. How do you feel? Because there are people that will have that on their hard no list. Just like, nope, this is a boundary. I do not like sex toys. I do not like the idea of it. No, I had a guy.

You said it, not me. Deal breaker. I had a guy who just said to me. Actually just starts bullhorning the person. Red flag alert. Yeah. Absolutely. Air horn noise.

Just. Yeah. I would do a sex toy shop with a guy and he like sort of, it was like this defeatist sort of attitude of like, he was like, I just, I just like fucking you. I don't want to like do other stuff. I don't like need other stuff. I don't need costumes and fireworks.

I just like fucking you. And I think that like it wasn't the he was boring. He just didn't want that stuff, you know? Well, here's the other thing is that those were all I statements. Where's the we statements? Right. You know, you need to consider. What about what I want?

Yes. Yeah. Everybody should be getting what they want. There should be an error of compromise. We actually have this tool and I forgot it in the printer, but I will send it to y'all and we can link it. It's called a yes, no, maybe list. And it's basically like curating a sex menu.

And it has a bunch of ideas on it and it's definitely, definitely not an exhaustive list or else it would be like pages and pages and pages and pages long. But it has a couple of ideas, things like, you know, vibrators, butt plugs, blindfolds, even things like oral, like, what do you like, what don't you like? And you go ahead and you fill it out by yourself for yourself and you put things into a column for, yes, I'm into that or yes, I really want to try that. Maybe, like, I'm not sure how I feel about it or no, here's a boundary. And you both fill it out for yourself, by yourself, then you get together and you

compare what you have similar on each of the columns. By both of you doing it, it sort of takes the pressure off of it being like, well, would it be weird if I put this there? Because you don't know what's going to be on the other person's list and just talking about it in a non-judgmental way. If something is on somebody's yes list and it's on somebody else's no list, cool, that's fine. It's off the table. We don't have to discuss it further for now. But, you know, it may be a way to bring up that you both had something that you really wanted to try, but it never came up naturally in conversation. Or you break up.

Yeah. I'm just kidding. I just think if you're with a partner that like cares about you wants you to get off. Across the board, it doesn't even matter like male, female, whatever type of relationship you're in. That should be what your partnership want. I mean, the first time I used sex toys, the guy, my boyfriend at the time, he brought it up. And he was like, we should go get like some toys. We like went to brunch and went to a sex toy shop afterwards.

We had a couple drinks. That's fun. I think that's a fun thing to do. Have some mimosa's, go sex to a show me. And, like, bought a cock ring. And it was because he wanted, like, me to have a better orgasm. And that was, like, the hottest thing in the world to me. Yes, absolutely.

You know, and not telling anybody to sort of, like, eb their own boundaries to please their partners. I mean, obviously not. But at the same time, you know, if you are hesitant about something and it's coming from a place of fear mixed with curiosity, where it's just like, oh, well, I don't know how they're going to respond to this. Just go ahead and say it. What's the worst thing?

I mean, there are so many people with so many kinks. And especially we get people saying, like, oh, well, what about like with one-night stands? Like, I can see having this conversation with a partner that you've been with for like eight years or whatever. But how about just like someone that you're sleeping with just like for fun? If you are not finding pleasure when you're sleeping with somebody, why are you sleeping with that? Right. Totally. Amen.

Amen, girl. I feel like it's easier to bring up with those people. I'll bring on a sex toy in the first night. I've done it before. Just to like, you know. I'll do some weird stuff. I'm never going to see again. Who cares?

I like what you said about boundaries. And I think that probably a lot of people stand where I stand, which is that I don't really need sex toys for anything. I don't need lube and costume and sex toys. But I don't know that I also have any boundaries, really. So if somebody else brings it up, I'm always happy to try something. So I love this idea of a list because I'm probably not. the person that's going to bring it up because I don't need it. I mean, I've also never been

with anybody for eight years I need to spice it up with. But that doesn't mean I wouldn't try it. So I like this idea of just saying to your partner here's something I'm thinking about because you don't know if somebody doesn't. If somebody doesn't have any boundaries, maybe they are willing to try stuff. Yeah. Also, sexting is a really good way to do this. Yeah. Sexing is conversation. It's all language. There's nothing but language happening there. And it could be a really good moment to be like, you know, let's share fantasies with one another because all of that is going to be written out, so you're sort of having this moment to, like, introduce it. You know, especially because a lot of folks, when they're sexting, they tend to get a little

bit kinkier because they're like, oh, okay, well, there's no pressure of me performing in this moment. So they tend to be like, all right, cool, this is a moment to dip my toe in the water, which it totally should be. It's also a really good way to figure out boundaries in that moment and sort of like navigate consent. Now, of course, if someone says that they're into something while sexting and then they absolutely have the ability to retract it when it comes to when you're in the same room together,

etc. But, you know, it's a really good way to sort of bring it up. Like, hey, I had a dream last night where you put me in some handcuffs. The dream. That's a good cover. The dream is a really, really great way to sort of slide it on in there. Also, watching even just like TV and movies and stuff, I can't tell you how many folks came into the store after that Broad City episode where Abby pegs her boyfriend. Because that was the moment that they had this experience of seeing something in media together and they're like, oh,

we can talk about it. Yes. And we have something that's bringing it up. And I'm so glad you brought up pegging. It's my favorite thing to talk about. We're not there yet. No, what I want to say, don't tell me that. I love time about pegging. I had this guy who like really kept sort of, we sexted a lot. We did phone

sex a lot. He didn't live here. And he said to me a few times like, what is your greatest fantasy? And like, he would ask me that a couple times. Do you have any weird kings? Do you have any different kings? Things you've never tried before. And I thought that was a good way to sort of like open it up and, you know, share what he wanted.

It was pegging. We asked, we'll find we can talk about it a little bit later. But yeah, I love that you, that you said that and just like watching TV together and things like that and just, you know, mining what is out there. Oh, yeah. And I think some people maybe have a wrong or disillusion view that it's all 50 shades of gray, crazy shit. So that's kind of why I wanted to. you to talk about all the different ways you can incorporate a sex toy into the bedroom.

I think some people are just scared. They're like, oh God, I don't know how to, I can't handcuff her to the bed. It's just like it's not that difficult. It's like a little vibrator. Let's try it out and see how it goes. Not even that, but like... It can be like amateur stuff.

There are things that we sell in the shop that are just, you know, you wouldn't even think of calling it a sex toy, but it totally is. My go-to for folks, especially when they're like, oh, we're looking to get into like kink or BDSM. We don't know where to start. Blindfolds, right?

Uh-huh. They're just so simple and they're not necessarily overtly kinky, but my gosh, the things that this can do for your sex life. Oh, my God. You know, it's so simple, but it can really enhance just everything. You know, when you take away one sense, you know, everything else sort of gets heightened. So you're playing with that. you can play with anticipation, a little bit of mystery, different sensations, like giving your partner a massage, or like putting warm oil on them,

or dragging a feather over their body, or like something soft, anything sort of playing with this idea of taking away sight. And, you know, folks will get folks in the store that I'll show them a blindfold and they'll be like, well, no, like I mean like a sex toy. and I'm like, that is a sex toy. Yeah, let's, you know, you need to, you need to think about what, what do you consider your boundaries within what you'll try and what you won't try? And even then, like, I know folks that'll introduce vibrators into the bedroom by giving

their partner a massage with one. You know, sort of like, let's introduce this in a way that I'm not going zero to genitals. Like, let's take some time to slow for this. Yeah, and figure out, like, is this a sensation that you like, for some folks, especially because, okay, sex nerd talk real quick, there are two main types of vibration that we'll talk about, and they are buzzy and rumbly. So buzzy is very much so sort of like a high-pitched vibration, more on the surface, a little bit more tickly and intense, and rumbly vibration is a little bit deeper, it penetrates the tissue more. And for some people,

they'll be like, oh, well, I don't like the sensation of vibration. It's because they don't like either Buzzy or Rumbly. But upon exploring other toys, and other sensations, they might be like, oh, that's the right one for me. So having that opportunity to explore it elsewhere on your body first and sort of like touch it and feel it and see whether or not it's good for you can give you the opportunity to sort of realize like, okay, I don't like this, but why don't I like this? And what would I try that I think that I might like instead? So just giving yourself and your partner some room to explore that. So let's talk about some other things. Starting at like ground zero, a blindfolds aside, like what's going on most

mostly in the bedroom on the sex toy front. Right now we have this toy called the Sink. And it is our most popular couples toy for folks that are in a relationship where one person has a vulva and one person has a penis. So I have that here. It looks like a glade plug in. Hold on. Oh, that's it. I was wondering what that was. So it is shaped almost like a little you, almost like a little paperclip. And you have a piece that rests externally on the body against the clitoris and a piece that rests internally and sort of pushes up into the G spot. So if you can imagine that my hand is a vulva.

Okay. And you have the vaginal opening and the clitoris. And so this can actually be worn during penetrative sex. What? So it's going to vibrate. Yeah, it's going to lay flush to the body internally. so you can actually have penetrative sex with this in place so that the fingers, the dildo, the flesh cock, whatever is penetrating will actually get that vibration as well.

And it can be controlled via either remote control or app. So you can actually control this thing from anywhere in the world as long as you have the private code and the device is turned on. Oh my gosh. And Alexa. Alexa turned my vibrator on. Imagine. One day I feel like that'll probably be a thing. But this one's super popular because of it.

There's so many different ways that you can use it, right? You can wrap it around your hand and use it as a handheld vibe. You can open it up and use it as a stroker on the shaft of a penis. You can wear it around for Foreplay and have your partner control of your remote or via their app. You can use it for sexting or phone sex if you are even in different countries from one another. Or you can wear it face to face during penetrative sex. Can I see how hard it vibrates? Yeah.

Sorry to interrupt you. No. This is amazing. And I can also. sync it up. I have the app on my phone if we want to look at that as well. And you can, those are actually two separate motors in each of the legs. So you can go ahead and have them. Only one of them. Vibrate. I love that. If you're like, I really want a vibration against my clit and your partner is someone with a penis and then they're like, I don't want any vibration

against my cock. You can go ahead and turn off the internal motor and only have it going externally. or vice versa. If you're like, okay, I can't handle that much clit stimulation, I just want something internal. This is also really good for folks that are wearing like strap-ons or harnesses because you can wear this underneath the strap-on or harness and your partner can control it with the remote or whatever. So recommended for any sort of coupling where there is a person with a vulva,

there's also a version of this that's a butt plug. So if there are no bulb is involved and you want some of that internal stem, you can get the butt-plug version of this. But yeah, I just think that that's one of the things that I would recommend. And even though, you know, there's a lot going on, the idea that you can use it in so many different ways is what makes it a great toy if you're looking to explore in the bedroom with your partner. Because if something doesn't work one way, you can always try it a different way. Like I said before, vibrators make great back massages, you know, sort of giving you, giving yourself that opportunity to explore. love that idea. Just be like, let's just try it out with a massage and just like slowly get down there.

Do toys vary if you have two people with, I'm trying to stay like politically correct, like two people with Walvos, two people with penises? Like, not really. I mean, what it comes down to is just what folks are into. And so many of the toys can be used by folks regardless of gender. Like I was saying before, we have our external and our internal toys. Those are going to be like your main for like things like vibrators. It's just. just a matter of with internal making sure whether or not it's inal safe if we're talking about going in a butt. Okay.

Speaking of butts. Well, I want to talk about Cockrings. Oh, I was going to ask about Loub. Okay. Because we haven't talked. Ashley's like fair thing as a Cockering. Okay. Well, actually, I can segue from Cockering to Lou.

Oh, okay. We love a segue. The reason I'm asking about Cockerings is because I have brought it up on an episode before and I just got a lot of, we got a lot of messages about it. Like, Ashley, send me your cockering recommendations. And I think some people also don't even know what it is and what it does. So that's why you're here to explain. You're holding one right now.

I've never used one in a bedroom ever, so I'm even curious about it. So cock rings are phenomenal. If you have one without a vibrator, essentially the purpose of a cockering is to help trap blood flow into the shaft of the penis to help maintain erection. So the way... Which is not why I used it. I feel like I used it for the vibration. And so many folks will.

There are folks that will use it for like the cockering aspect. There are folks that will use it for the vibrator aspect for some folks a little bit of both. But essentially the way that erections work is through blood flow. There is no bone and a boner. So by having something that is going to be snug against the shaft but not tight so that it's uncomfortable, it's going to help trap that blood flow in for a harder, stronger erection. And it hits your clit. It's the perfect toy.

So this one has a vibrator. vibrator on it. And this one I love. It's by a company called Jeju, which means I play in French. And this one has a rumbling motor. You can go ahead and feel. And actually, if you put that up to the line. I was wondering about the rumbling.

You can hear that. So that's really, really good for a cockering because it's a deep penetrating vibration, which means that the shaft is going to vibrate as well. So the shape on that one, you have where the vibrator is. you have a little bit of extra room. So as someone is coming down on the cock or on the dildo, wherever you want to put that, they can actually feel that vibration either against their clit

or against the rim of their anus, which has a lot of delicious nerve endings to be played with. And then this one is also waterproof, which is nice for a little bit of showers. Yeah. And all the other fluids that happen for sex. There we go. Fluids.

Okay. Loob. Jeez. Riam. Yes. No, absolutely. It's loop time. I guess I don't know a lot about lube, like flavors.

Oh, my gosh. So that's another thing. You know, I was talking about like blindfolds is like something like simple that you can bring into the bedroom that will enhance everything. Like, Loub, oh my gosh, if I can make every single customer that comes into the store leave with only one thing, it would be Loub. I love that. Okay.

I am so pro-Lube. Almost everybody that works at Babe Land will say the same thing. So, loop is great. Even if you feel like you don't need it, you might. want it. If you're using a toy, you definitely want it because toys don't have natural moisture to them like bodies do. So you'll get a little bit of grip and friction that may not necessarily be comfortable. Right. Like you want that. Yeah. It's for your own sake. Yeah. I mean, some people are in for pain into pain for pleasure. So rock on. But if you are not looking to

have any pain, yeah, definitely. Even if you are still loob because we don't want anything to become like pain that stays when you're outside the bedroom as well. But I digress. So with lube, there are three main types. They are water-based, silicone-based, and oil-based. Really quickly, oil-based, we do not recommend it in the store just because oils, A, can break down latex or latex alternative barriers. So if you're using any sort of safer-sex barriers, be it condoms, dental dams, gloves, etc. Be weary of using oils because they can render them to become unsafe.

That's natural oils like coconut oil, hobo oil, even like if you're using like petroleum jelly or lotion, which if you're using that as lube, don't do it. We had a coconut oil-based loop that we used to promote and we love them, but if you're just body parts, no...

Yeah, so that's fine, right? That's what I was going to say is that for some folks, yes, for other folks, it really depends, especially for folks with vulvas. Each vulva has a very specific pH. For some folks using stuff with coconut oil is really, really good for their body. For other folks, depending on what their pH is, it may mess with a little bit, a bit. Okay. Mess with it a little bit, I apologize.

And if you are a person that's prone to yeast infections, be careful that when you're using coconut oil, that you're using one that is specifically made for sex, like a coconut oil lubricant. Because if you're just using like straight up coconut oil, you have to keep in mind that coconuts are fruit. Fruits are made of sugar. Sugar promotes yeast. Yeah, not just straight coconut oil.

And some people called that out to us early on to not just use straight of coconut oil, but we used to talk about this lube called Wu and they're coconut oil based. Yeah. But I like that you said that just FYI, that it could fuck with your condoms or your barrier. It's not uncommon.

But, you know, if you are a person, person that uses coconut oil as lubricant and it works for your body. Dope, rock on, just be aware of that risk. Can I ask you about another risk? So we get a lot of questions about UTIs also. Are there any lobes that like, I'm prone to UTIs? Is there any like lubs that are bad for that? I would say lube that have less ingredients would just be better if you're sensitive at all.

We, most of our lubricants are glycerine-free and all of our lubricants are paraben-free. And these are things that you're going to want to avoid putting in the body. But for anybody that's prone to UTIs, yeast infections, any sort of sensitivity, I recommend going for just like the plainest lubricant that you can. So actually the ones that I brought y'all, UberLube and Babe Lube, those are both just like very, very simple. UberLub is just silicone lubricant. The only additive is vitamin E, which just helps to hydrate the skin. and then Babe Loeb is just like super plain water-based lubricant. So water-based and silicone-based real quick.

Water-based, amazing, works for everything. Body-to-body, oral, anal, vaginal. It can work with any kind of barriers, any kind of toys. The only thing about water-based lobe is that it is water-based, so it absorbs pretty quickly into the body, which means that you probably will have to reapply if you're going for a long time. Silicon Loeb is a lot longer-lasting. It's going to be slicker.

It's going to be a little bit thinner. With that, it is good to use for body to body, again, orally, anally, vaginally, with barriers, any kind of barriers. The only thing that silicone lobe does not work with is silicone toys. So the thing that's in silicone loop that keeps it liquid will try to liquefy the silicone of the toy. And whereas that's not dangerous, if you just drop money on a nice silicone toy, you're going to want to make it last. Medical grade silicone will last you forever if you take care of it. So you guys obviously, you just recommend a water-based lobe with a silicone toy. With a silicone toy, yeah, absolutely.

But if you're just going body-to-body, or if you're going barrier to body, or if you're playing with a hard material toy like stainless steel or glass, silicone loop, absolutely. And then can you use, if your body's okay with it, can you use oil-based loop with a silicone toy? I think that's fine? You can, if it's something that has a motor or buttons or any sort of like openings to it, I would recommend not doing so just because oil can get trapped in there real quick. Okay.

So it's really just for care and keeping. Sure. Do you guys sell a lube candle? We don't sell a lube candle, but we sell a lube warmer. Okay. And it's like it's this cute little like automatic dispensing, almost like a hand sanitizer dispenser. And you just put your hand under it and it dispenses just like a little droplet of warmed up lubricant. It's called the touch.

That's amazing. Because I used to have a loob candle. It was like fun to play. I mean, and it was all natural. I mean, it never bothered me. Was it a lube candle or was it a massage oil candle? Because I brought a massage oil candle with me. I have one of those two in my bedroom. My mom got it for me. Thanks, Mom. But I had this I have this lube. My bikini wax and salon in Atlanta, they would sell them. And it was like this peach candle that, yeah, I mean, it would start melting and you'd get this like just warm enough peach lube. It was like really fun just to have, like reach over, try not to burn yourself. It sounds fine. Peach hand jobs. That's interesting. I would say definitely check the ingredients on that though because there's probably some sort of an oil in order for it to stay in like a wax formation. But yeah, like this is soy wax candle. So soy wax melts at a lower temperature than regular wax.

So if you are looking to do like a nice warm massage oil sort of a thing, that would be the way to go. Because once it's lit, you can pour it directly onto the. body even when it's still lit. It's not going to burn. It's going to be like hot tub temperature at most. But if you're into the idea of pain with pleasure, we do also sell kinkwax candles, which do burn at a higher temperature. And when that wax traps onto the body, you will feel it. Yeah. I just love the idea of massage as like an entry point into some of this stuff. Oh, yeah. Because it's, if people are a little more scared of broaching the topic, that's definitely a good way to start. Let's do this massage. I'm sure not by it. I'll have an organism just for

from a massage for sure. Yeah, absolutely. Also, so many... With warm massage. So many people forget about all the other erogenous stones that we have on our body other than our genitals. Yeah. Really taking the time to explore them.

Yeah, you agree. I think he wants a massage. He wants a belly rub massage. I'm not going to see that one later. My mom, I always make a massage. He's old. He's like 11. So his back legs, I'm massage him, but when I'm home, I'm like, let your grandma do it.

She'll just like lay there and massage him. Anyway. When we're done recording, I'm going to give you a big, hug. Well, I'm glad that you brought up, and then we were talking about oils and stuff. I had a girlfriend that was talking about jerking her man off with coconut oil the other day, but she was like, it's a disaster, it gets everywhere. And something we got a lot of questions about was how do I clean and store my sex toys? Yes. Oh, my gosh. Yes. Absolutely. So, thankfully, if you are buying a sex toy that is made out of a body safe material,

it's going to be really easy to clean. So things like medical grades, silicone, stainless steel, glass, all these things, are designed in a way that they are non-porous, so that they don't hold any fluids. So for most, you can use a damp cloth with some mild, unscented soap. I would stay away from soaps that have oils in them again, because the whole oil conundrum. So things like Dr. Bronner's may not be great. And for toys that do not have a motor that are made out of medical-grade silicone stainless steel, you can actually boil those to disinfect them. A lot of folks ask about putting toys in the dishwasher. I do not actually recommend that just because the soap that you use for your dishwasher, again, it can absolutely leave residue. On top of that, you know, you want to

sort of be transparent with everything else that's going in the dishwasher and where that toy has been and, you know, are you having company over to eat and everything? And it seems a little unnecessary. You don't need to deep clean the food off of your vibrator. Like it's just, it doesn't need, like, give it a little cleanse under the sink with some soap. You don't need to put it in the dishwasher. Yeah, I mean, if you're buying a toy that's going to be used internally, and especially, you know, when folks think about buying stuff for their butt,

you're going to want to buy something that is made out of a completely body-safe material anyway. You shouldn't be putting anything in your body that's, like, porous. or made out of like jelly rubber or anything like that. So realistically, all of your toys should be able to be cleaned just through just wiping them off. If you ever want to really disinfect it, like say if you used a toy with a partner that you're not fluid bonded with or if you put something up your butt and a little bit of poop happens,

which it happens, you can on most materials use rubbing alcohol and just use that against the surface. So just like wiping it down. with a little bit of rubbing alcohol, just make sure that you are thoroughly, thoroughly rinsing your toy afterwards. And so many of these toys are also waterproof, like something like this, even though it has a motor, you could just go ahead and put this under running water with a little bit of mild soap and just like give it a bath.

Yeah. I mean, like, our iPhones are waterproof now, you know? I just watch mine that's sink. Your iPhone? Yeah. We also have some like really cool gadgets. It's actually, you saying this reminded me, we have this cleaner. It's called the UV.

If you've ever been to the dentist and they, like, put the tools inside that, like, little UV case and they turn it and the light goes on and it disinfects it. We have that for sex toys. Oh. And like at the nail salon, I feel like they have. It's like a little easy bay coffin. I use it to clean my phone because I'm a trash person that brings my phone into a dive bar

bathrooms and puts it on the lid of the toilet while I go to the bathroom. I know my phone's... Same. I'm just going to be there. So if you want to get that deep clean, UV. That's normal behavior. Do you want to move into butt stuff? I think, yeah, well let's get into some like kinky or shit.

Okay, cool. I just... But just any, I have butt stuff, like, I want to know everything. Anal beads. Anal beads. I'm very curious. I've never used them before. Toys. Ooh, I actually, I did not bring anal beads with me, but I will talk to you about them.

So, um, anal beads, depending on how long there, a lot of folks think that, like, if you have, like, a long string of anal beads that it just, like, keeps on going up into the body, um, it doesn't. They'll actually hit a point and fold over. So, um, you'll get a little bit more fullness there. Uh, but anal beads, um, that sort of beaded, um, um, texture. that they have is to create sensation on entry and when you remove it as well. So the rim of the butt has so many wonderful nerve endings. And this is regardless of your body or gender. So having

anal beads as you're putting them in and taking them out gives a little bit of like a popping sensation that can feel really good for folks with prostates as you're pulling it against that. It'll sort of just like flick against the prostate, which can be really pleasurable. A lot of folks folks, for anal beads, they could be really good for getting used to having something in your butt. Most of them will be graduated and you can sort of use each bead to sort of like level up into. Like this little anal starter kit. Yeah, absolutely.

So sort of like moving your way in slowly. Back to Loub really quick. If you are doing anything in the butt, no matter what you're using, toys, fingers, a dick, whatever, always, always, always, always use Loub. the butt does not self-lubricate. Not in a way that you want it to during sex. Talking about poop. Jesus Christ.

There's the intro. I think my cab is here. My Uber just pulled up. Oh, my gosh. So, anyhow. Now that everyone's uncomfortable. No, but seriously. Mission accomplished over here.

It is a real thing. Also, just a side note, if you are someone who's just, just like, ah, poop, no, never. Maybe you're not ready for anal sex because sometimes it just happens. Yeah, that's what lives there. That's, yeah, it's the butt. It's the toe. Yeah.

It's the butt. But with lube, it's going to help with just the malleability of the butt. You know, you kind of want to keep everything hydrated. I think of it like a chapstick. You know, if you have chapped lips, you don't want to be pulling on your lips. Yeah. So just keeping everything hydrated so that the body can move a little bit more. You have some more flexibility in that skin.

Yeah. But anal beads, you can sort of just work one at a time, see how it feels. With any sort of anal play, Tristan Taramino, who is a wonderful sex educator slash porn star, has three steps to anal sex, and it is relaxation, communication, lubrication. Okay. So with the butt, you want to make sure that you are fully relaxed. There is a second sphincter in the butt that is involuntary, which means that you cannot just like open it willingly, you need to just have your body be relaxed.

Pushing past that is where a lot of people experience pain with anal sex. So again, being relaxed before going into it, making sure that your body is aroused and ready to go. Massage is a really good way to do that. Maybe having an orgasm through front bits first and then making your way to the back. That's a good call. You're just already kind of like, that does relax you. Yeah, absolutely. These are all ways to sort of help with that.

But plugs, I mentioned this before. If anything is going into your butt, whether it's beads, a plug, anything, you always want to make sure that it has a flared base. So that's something to anchor it outside of the body. A lot of times folks will think that something with like a string or like anything like this, I'm holding up the necklace right now and it has the chain that goes around your neck. There's still no flared base.

So this is unsafe to put in the bud. Right. It's not a tampon, guys. It's got to have a base. It's got to have a base, something to anchor it outside the body. Because if that toy goes up there, that means that that string or that chain can go up there too. Right. Or break off and it's not going to help you.

Yeah, yeah, absolutely. So definitely make sure that there's a flared base. I mean, fingers, the flared base is the rest of your body. Cock, the flare base is the rest of your body. If you lose a finger up and ass, you have more problems. Well, do you... This is like a really graphic question. Obviously, I know how you pull animal meets out, but how do you put them in?

You just kind of stuff them in. You do it one at a time. But you just like put them up. Some of them are on like a spike that's hard, right? Yeah, so some of them are on like a string. I would recommend making sure that that string is like a silicone string and not an actual like string string string. Again, for cleansing and everything because string is porous. But for some, they're like super flexible for others.

they're rigid. But yeah, just sort of feeding them in one at a time. And it's, anal beads should be done in a way that it's like slow and sensual. And when you're pulling them out, you're not starting a lawnmower. Like, you need to. That visual, like, roo. I'm like, picture my dad, like, out there with the lawnmower. This is making you think why your dad, huh? What she said, starting a lawnmower, you picture like a dad in the yard. Like, that's so funny. Well, I, I don't know how to take them out. Like, I just thought you just rip them all out at the same time. Like, rip them out.

You wouldn't do that. I've never done. What do you mean? Sometimes to have an orgasm, you pull them out. Slowly. Slowly. I don't know. And it doesn't have to be like...

Like, bead. Beed. Yeah. But you would have... But you don't want to just like yank it. Okay. Not only could that be just dangerous for, like, damage. But also, like, that's probably going to make poop happen.

Okay. Pulling something out really quickly could potentially like, you know, make everything else want to come out with it too. Yeah. So with anal beads, pulling them out, again, not like super, super slowly, but slowly enough that like you're giving yourself some time to be able to control it. With anal beads, especially pulling them out like at the moment of orgasm, can be fantastic.

Yeah. Because you're getting that extra stimulation from all those nerve endings back there. so a lot of folks will like wait until they're just about to come and then pull out the little beads. I want to know about butt plugs. Yeah. I brought one with me. Oh my God, yay.

It's so beautiful. Wait, I want you to open this. I have all the questions about butt plugs. Are you use among male and female parts. Do you have sex while you do it? Okay. This looks like a pacifier from like Saks Fifth Avenue. This looks like a dope beautiful.

A Tiffany's baby toy. Yes. This is a shower toy. So that is the Enjoy Pure Plug. That is the smallest one. It comes in small, medium, large, and extra large. And it's made out of stainless steel. And I recommend stainless steel to folks that are looking to get into butt play

because A, super easy to clean. And B, that weight is a really nice way to get fullness without stretching the body. So you're getting that sense of fullness without having something super big in your butt. So what are we, do you, I know nothing. I see you guys know, this is the size of a pacifier. Do you put it in while you're having like vaginal sex? It's honestly, it's however you want to do it with something like that because it has that looped handle at the end. It's really nice to have like your partner sort of like rock it into your body, especially if you're someone with a prostate, that curve again towards the front of the body.

You always want anything with a curve going towards the belly button. Sort of rocking it into the body to stimulate the prostate can feel really, really good. For folks with vulvas, if you're having penetrative sex vaginally, having this in the butt can, provide a sense of fullness, that weight of the stainless steel will sort of move with your body as you're moving. So you'll sort of like feel it rocking around. So you can keep it in during. Yeah, absolutely. So especially something like this, because again, it is steel. This isn't like anything that is going to, I don't know, need any sort of refresher. It's just stainless steel. You can pop this in. You can use silicone lobe, which is going to last longer. And you can

leave this in for however long you feel comfortable. So there are, are folks that will go around and wear these. I actually, um, I have a story from someone who purchased one of these and was wearing it on the subway. Um, and they went ahead, and they went ahead and they sat down on the subway and all of a sudden you just hear clink. I'm sorry, I spook the dog. He doesn't like butt plugs. And they just sort of like looked around, but nobody, nobody noticed. Oh my gosh. Don't mind me. That was just my butt plug. hitting the subway seat. Just kind of going clink right against the subway seat.

I feel like in New York nobody would even notice. Unless you look them in the eye while it was happening. But wearing a butt plug during the day can sort of just be like a sexy little reminder something fun that you could do. Some people do it with like power play. Like their dom will be like, I want you to wear this all day, something like that. Just being aware of your own boundaries and stuff. You know, if you are going to wear this and it's going to make you feel like you're

about to orgasm all day, just. consent and understanding that you are going to be around other people, stuff like that. But for folks that are just getting into wearing a plug just to gauge their comfort and stuff, I'd say maybe like wear it for like 20, 30 minutes at a time or like just for outside of play. But realistically, I mean, you can leave a butt plug in for however long you feel comfortable. Okay. Cool. Yeah. It's a non-intimidating size to me because I'm not somebody who has ever enjoyed but sex. I guess I've never had the right partners.

some pretty well-endowed partners in my life. I feel like that's less intimidating to me to sort of ease into butt stuff. Sandless steel, too. Another reason why it's great is because you can actually put this on a running water and it'll get warm or cool. So that's sort of a fun way to play with that as well. I love it. I just think of anything in life,

it's just the fear of the unknown and that's why people are intimidated by it. So that's why we just wanted to break down a lot of these things and be like, they're not scary. You know, start small. Like, this is all stuff you can incorporate into your sex life. The only other thing I wanted to talk about was strap-ons and things like that, have you been anything else to say?

Because I think that, like, the first time I ever heard of pegging, I told you before we started recording, this guy told me he wanted to do it, and I literally Googled like what was mentally wrong with him. And what I got back was that it's one of the most popular porn categories for men, that it certainly doesn't make you gay. It's not weird. It's not crazy.

And I am super interested in it. I think it's awesome. So, like, if you want to get into that, there are specific ones that you would recommend for, like, women to use on men? Yeah. So really quick. Yeah. myth-busting. The prostate is not a gay button.

We've touched on that a lot. That's a question that comes up a lot. You touched on the prostate a lot? We touched on a lot of prostates on this podcast. A little bit of prostate tapping is always good for me. Love taps. So, yeah, I mean, the prostate, it's the G-spot, but in the butt. So it can be a really good way to have just like an amazing, like, deep full-body orgasm.

With pegging, again, with any sort of anal play, start small, start slow, know your boundaries, communication, relaxation, lubrication. I would recommend, again, something with a curve, especially if you are looking to get into prostate play, and something that is made out of a harder material. So like a soft, squishy dildo can feel really great, but it can be a little bit harder to maneuver when getting into butt stuff. We have a dildo, and I am blanking out on the name of it now. but you would recognize it right away.

It's just, it doesn't have any features to it that make it look hyperphalic. It just kind of looks like a tube, I guess, just like a little curved tube. And this is good for butt play. Yes. So the charm is really good for folks that are getting into pegging for the first time. So you can see there's like no ridges, no ripples, no accentuated head or anything. It's just going to be something that you can just use. to very comfortably insert and take out because it's got that tapered head and just a nice

smooth shaft. The silicone on this is a little bit denser than other silicones that you might see on dildos. So controlling it is going to be a little bit easier because you have to remember like flesh cocks, there are nerve endings, you know where it is and where it's going. A dildo is something that's attached to your body. You may not be as aware of where it is at any given moment. Right. So having something that you can have a little bit more control over is going to be important. Yeah. And I can imagine like pegging for the first time. It's just, I mean, I probably laugh a little bit. So like I would want to mean it's easy to maneuver. I don't want like a, that's something that's going to be really difficult to use on top of the fact that it's sort of

uncomfortable and you're exploring something new. I'm like an expert at this thing, you know? So that looks a little simpler to use. Well, okay, this is a really amateur question from amateur peggar question. I always think of pegging as like a woman wearing the penis. or whoever. But is pegging also just technically you're just using a dildo? I just picture, because a lot of them you buy, you wear like something, you wear it, right? Yeah.

So you're actually kind of like fucking the person. Pegging is specifically a term that's more correlated to someone without a penis strapping on a dildo and performing anal sex on somebody with a penis. that's really where that terminology comes into play. Realistically, I mean, gender is over. You can peg anybody. But otherwise, it's just really just strap on play. But pegging would most likely specifically be alluding to.

Is that some you strap on? So this one is the dildo. So you would get a harness that goes with this. It would go into the harness. Right. Okay, you get a harness to go with it. Yeah, I recommend, I mean, there are kits. And there's one by Tantis called the Bendover Beginner Kit, and that one's great.

But I always recommend getting your dildo and your harness separately because you want a harness that's going to fit your body comfortably. And you want a dildo that's going to fit the receiver comfortably. So the harness should be up to the wear. The dildo should be up to the receiver. Oh, I love that. That's the best pegging advice. I heard.

And I love that you said, gender's over. It's just the best sentence. Gender's over, bitches. Enders over. Sorry. Make a t-shirt. Could it technically still be called bagging if a guy just wants you to put a dildo in his butt? Yeah, I think so. I really cares. Like, whatever you want to do is fine. There's some flexibility around this. I mean, call it, call it what you want.

If, you know, if you're using your hand with a dildo, which actually could be a really good way to introduce it instead of just going, you know, straight into it. And then you could use a smaller thing, too. Yeah. And then also just like, don't be afraid to start with a finger first. and if you are a person with nails, ooh, very important. If you are a person with nails, maybe get some like nitrile or latex gloves. And if you are a person with very long nails, this is actually a tip that I learned from a dominatrix and I love it. Take a cotton ball and sort of put it around your nail before you put your finger in the glove so that the nail doesn't rip through the glove. That's a great tip. I mean, it's softer and nicer.

Whatever. Across the board, don't see. stick a sharp fingernail and a butt. Like, anyway, I mean, you'd be, again, you'd be surprised. In my years as a sex educator, I've heard a lot of horror stories

and a lot of them revolve around things that shouldn't be in those. Yes, a nail getting stuck in there. And then, I don't know. Oh, look at acrylic popping off? Yes. That's not what happened to me, though. Look how long these things are. Those are nothing. I'm picturing

Chloe Kardashian and those talents. Yes, one's going to break off in a butthole. Yeah, you can't put those in a butthole. Yeah, no. I'm sure it's happened. Get a doctor in here. They've definitely taken acrylic nails out of but holes.

I told you 25% of all doctors' jobs is taking things out of butts. All doctors. Except maybe pediatricians. Probably where we should end it. Oh, my God. Except for optometrists. Where's the dog?

A pediatricist all day. Yeah, it's probably a good time to end. This was phenomenal. You are the dream guest for this. This was so great. Thank you so much. Yeah. Tell people where they can find Babylon products. I know that you have a discount code for people

so they can buy some fun stuff. Tell us where we can find you guys Instagram website, discounts, etc. Yes, absolutely. So if you are in the Pacific Northwest, we have our flagship store is in Capitol Hill, Seattle. We also are located in New York City, Holler. We are in Soho and the Lower East Side. We also have a shop in Park Slope in Brooklyn. If you are not near, for the moms.

If you are not near any of those locations, we are online at babeland.com. And you can also follow us on Twitter and Instagram at Babeland underscore Toys. All right. Oh, and also, yeah, I do have a code for y'all. So if you are shopping at babeland.com, use the code Babes got to eat. And that'll get you 15% off the highest priced item in your order. That's amazing. Okay.

And we'll put it on our Instagram too. Yeah, and we, guys, we'll be in Seattle soon. So maybe we'll go to the flagship. We'll tweet it out. Come meet us at the Bayblan store. We'll all shop together. I don't know. Just put it out there.

Yeah, so thank you so much. This was so phenomenal. We love this so much. Yeah. Awesome. Thank you for having me. All right. And guys, stick around.

We're going to play a little game, just the two of us, to wrap up the episode. And thanks again. Yeah. All right. It's just us. Just us. So we can talk privately. As we've mentioned, we asked you guys to send us embarrassing sex toy stories, and you delivered hundreds of them.

Basically, all of your parents have found your vibrators. Yeah, your parents, your grandparents, you found your grandparents, sex toys, like a lot of that, which, you know, we tried to pick the most shocking ones, but just across the board, it seems like that's happened to everybody. Yeah, everyone's mom has unpacked their college luggage and their dildos along with it. Yeah. So good for you guys. Right. We're proud. You really made us proud.

Yeah. I'm just glad you guys are all out here with traveling dildos. Yeah. Exactly. So, yeah, lots of that. But we picked four of them that we thought were very funny and unique. Okay. Do you want to kick it off?

Yeah. Okay. Yeah. All right. She starts, I have a pretty funny sex toy experience. I had a $200 plus dollar vibrator for the past two years. Wow. Okay.

Baller. Stick in some expensive shit. I would keep it in the drawer of my dresser. One night my fiance and I came home from a date night. It was kind of late. We have four animals, two cats and two dogs, and it's not uncommonous for us to find things knocked off the counter or chewed up if we were gone for long periods of time.

When we got home, we saw pieces of something all over the floor. We figured one of the cats knocked something off the table and the dogs chewed up. Or since the pieces looked rubbery, our dogs must have chewed up one of their toys to bits. Yeah, you guys can guess what's coming. But when we turned on the light, I saw pieces of aqua blue rubber, and then my one dog comes running towards me with the remainder of what was my vibrator in his mouth. The other dog starts to wag her tail and present us with the pieces that were dispersed all over the living room floor. I was screaming and mortified.

My fiance, on the other hand, was dying laughing. So many layers to this. First of all, $200 anything that Dewey chewed up, I'd be so pissed. I've never stuck anything that expensive up me. Yeah. Can you imagine Dewey just ran out all like eager with the motor from your vibrator? Covered in blue, aqua blue rubber. My first vibrator, like my first expensive rabbit was like that bright,

blue. Like, I can picture this. Exactly. Absolutely. I just, God, I like, I mean, this isn't that insane, but just to picture these four animals gathered around the vibrator. The remnants of your orgasms. Actually, no, let me back up. The two dogs, you know dogs are like, yes, it's fucking tear the shit up and the cats are like, you fucking idiots. You know cats are like so smart and petty. They're like, what the stupid fucking dogs? That's been in a vagina. You know, those cats were judging so hard. I like, you've illustrated a whole. whole like cat and dog dance in your mind. I'm just picturing these dogs like,

they're like wagging their tails. They're like, yeah, let's tear this vibrator up. And these cats are like, you guys are fucking sick. Those pussies are judging. I just love, anything, we got a couple of these, like dogs finding, chewing the vibrators. It's so funny to me. Doey, running towards me,

cockering in his mouth. Where are you guys keeping your vibrators? If I had something that was $200, you better believe it would be away from my animals. She had a little more explanation that I cut. It was like the drawer. It was a whole situation. I think that the dog just got in there.

Oh, my God, I'd be so upset. That's why I don't have animals, okay? Because I don't, I can't have nice things. This is the reason. All right, the next email is from a girl after my own heart. She likes to use a vibrator in her car. Oh, man. Look, it's just, it's nice sometimes on a long car trip.

Okay, anyways, she used a vibrator in her car. If you ever get in a car crash, we know why. No, I usually. Was she drinking? I like, she was vibrating. She was masturbating. She was vibrating. She was vibrating.

I like to do it when there's not a lot of cars around me. God forbid there's like a semi next to me and they can look directly down into the car. Yeah. I mean, have you ever seen a guy jerking off driving? It's disturbing. I have, but I mean... It's really upsetting. It's really upsetting. Thank God I don't have to like pull it. Ew. Ew. Ew. Ew. Okay. Well, this girl was using a vibrator in her car. Okay. Loved every second of it. Never felt better, she says. However, by the end of it, the vibrator had some law held got lost in the car. I searched for it, couldn't find it, gave up, continued the night. A few weeks later, I go to the car wash.

Mind my own business. Thanks, the guys who cleaned it, got my car. When I closed the door, though, there was a little rattle that I had never heard before. Looking down into the handle of the door, and there is the neon pink mini vibrator waiting for me. I look up in the rear rear mirror, and this group of men that cleaned my car was huddled in a circle

and staring, smirking at me. They obviously knew what they had found or waiting to see who got in the car. Ola, seniors, it's me. Oh, Ola. Adios, seors. Oh, my God. I just, I love that because you know what she's talking about.

Like, when you get your car clean in detail, they, like, dig up crazy shit. Like, for me, it would mostly be, like, loose change and, like, old French fries. But, like, they get under there and they put weird shit on the seat that you haven't seen in years. Years. Yes. What if it was a vibrator? Like, you know. I would be curious to, like, ask a car wash professional how often they find vibrators.

Because mine's, like, a little silver bullet. Yeah. Like, it could get lost very easily. And just stuff, like, moving. Like, yeah, I'm sure they found their fair share of vibrators. That is so funny. Oh, my God. I love that she's just like, oh, la.

There's like a vibrator graveyard at the fucking shammy shine. Oh, for sure. They're like, how many did you find today? I just love, you know, all those men. We're like, what's this? I love the idea. You know, they were all waiting around to see who showed up. Yeah.

Like what she looks like. I feel like that sometimes, like, when I go to a copy shop, I take a shit in the bathroom. And, like, I know the person outside. of the door is like, who's going to come out of there? Who's cute? You're in there for an hour. Okay.

This one, I'm picturing my dad. That sounds gross. But it's obviously about a dad. And the way her dad reacts is like how I can picture my dad reacting. So I just, this one like really spoke to me. Okay. My parents helped me move apartments the summer before my senior year in college, along with my then boyfriend, now husband.

The day was hot as a devil's asshole, August day in Austin, Texas. And just as everything was literally all set and done, everything had been moved in, everything had been unpacked and placed. My dad decided to open my nightstand drawer to inspect his handiwork of putting the thing together for me sophomore year in college and sees a giant, vainy dildo staring him right in the face. I literally saw this happen before my eyes. Time stopped along with my heart. He gently shut the drawer, walked out of the apartment, and came back 10 minutes later after

taking a walk. Can you see Lee Heseltine? He's like, I got to take a walk around the block. You know what the worst part of this is that you had to see your dad? watched it happen. Like, you're screaming like, no. Like, the look on, so, okay, look, my mom found my vibrator in my suitcase in college. She put it in a drawer for me.

I did not have to be there in the room while it happened. Yes. Also, this is not done. The story's not done. It gets worse? Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. This is a two-parter. But, like, you know that is exactly what my dad would do.

He would be like, oh, my God, that IKEA dresser. I put that together for her sophomore year. I got to check out my handiwork. Are you serious? See how it's held up. That's what dads do? Non-Jewish dads. A Jewish dad would never put a dresser together.

Every other dad would. Yeah, not my dad. Every other dad puts together your shit. Yeah, not my dad. My dad put together this couch, that TV stand. My dad's never put anything together in his life. So the scenario is not. I feel like you're a little more the exception of the role.

Everyone's dad has built them some furniture in college. Not me. Fast forward 10 years later. My husband, her boyfriend in college, my husband and I redid our master bedroom. My parents came over on Saturday night. We showed them our new furniture. What did my dad do? My mom literally yelled, you can't just open your daughter's dresser drawers like that.

What? Dad was clueless. He'd obviously forgotten about the dildo 10 years ago. He opens the dresser drawer, a giant cock ring, a staring him in the face in my husband's sock drawer. I shrugged my shoulders and said, that's what happens when you open your daughter's drawers and walked out of the room. It's been an awkward ride, L.O.L. Dad, poor dad. He came back to haunt him.

I love that he found a cockray in the husband's sock drawer. And this girl, like, we say, you know, you live and learn. Like her reaction 10 years later is like, that's what you get. Yes, exactly. Yeah, exactly. That's the difference between being like, whatever. 19 and 29. 21 and 31.

How she's like, oh my God, most embarrassing thing ever. She's 31. She's like, that's what you get, dad. You didn't learn. That's what I can see you saying to Lee. That's what you get, dad. Yeah. I know, exactly.

I just like that the mom tried to stop it. Like my mom would be like, no, I picture her like slow-mo. She's like, don't go in the drawer. You'd be like, Ashley, this is ridiculous. I built this. Dads, nosy dads, that's what you get. See, that's what you get. I can hear the same voice.

My thoughts, exactly. Our final email is also family related. Okay. She starts off with this is a sex toy story, I promise. Thanks for letting us know. She's confirming. Before my boyfriend and I went on a trip, I got lunch with his mom and sister. They made some joke about how he was always clogging toilets

and to expect a lot of that on our trip. I said I'd never noticed before, but I'd keep an eye out. Ew. His mom said she had a theory that when he was a baby and had a stomach issue, the doctors, quote unquote, opened him up too wide, and that was the reason for the clogging, aka large shits.

Great. But he has a big butthole. Like he has an extended butthole. Flashword to modern time, my boyfriend and I bought a dildo. He always liked a little finger up. the butt, so I figured, why not try something larger? I started to very slowly

put the dildo in him. He then took the dildo from my hand and proceeded to put it in himself. He stuck it all the way up in a total of three seconds. Neatless to say, I was in shock. It took multiple rounds of anal for me to simply stop

shrieking, and then there he is with a large-sized dildo right up his ass for the first time, like a fucking champion. And all I can think in the moment was, oh my God, I have to tell your mom. Oh, my God. Wait, did you say multiple rounds of anal?

She was saying, like, it took her multiple times of doing anal just to get, like, anything in there. He, like, took it like a champ up there. Oh, my God. What if a guy took a vibrator out of your hand and shoved it in their own asshole? No, I don't, I would never recover. Like, a large gildo.

This isn't even like a small vibrator toy. This sounds like a hog. I don't know what to say. I'm uncomfortable. Yeah. What if, I mean, you didn't know that your man's butthole was like that big? Ew. Is this a thing?

I'm sorry, I keep saying, ooh. I'm really not trying to body shame if you have like an enlarge butthole. I don't know. I don't know what to say. Like, I guess if you really love somebody, it's fine. But I feel like I could never recover from watching my man just suck up a dildo into his but hole. I don't know.

I feel like it's a lie. Like I feel like normal people, not normal, but like people who haven't stretched that hole out a little bit can't take a dildo. I can't take a dick in my ass. Can't do it. Yeah, I've never tried. Maybe his mom was right. Like, the doctor opened him up too wide.

I don't know. That's actually a weird thing. Doctors don't touch your buttholes. I don't think. I don't know. I've never been a doctor that delivers babies. But it's very, I just, this whole thing is like really grossing me out that the parents were like,

watch out for his giant shits. And then it's like the dill-no. It's just like this is big butthole guy from here and out. And you're like trying to do some like fun light ass play. And he's like, it from here and just like sits on his own dildo. I couldn't also by the way, because like I'm so skittish about bidsax, I have tried to penetrate myself with a vibrator to like really like loosen it up, can't do it.

It is an impossible scenario for me. Yeah. So this sounds like this dude's done this before. Yeah. You're not blowing out your asshole from shit. Well, no. You don't have an enlarged butthole from poop. No, it's not that I just think maybe he was born this way.

Yeah, for sure. People have weird bodies. Yeah, people, yeah. I mean, there's all different types of vaginas. Why aren't there all different types of buttholes? I have no idea. I mean, I would just have a lot of questions if I were her. But, you know, when you love somebody, it's fine.

I just, I hope that that's not a thing. I would just hope that every time we have sex, he doesn't need to stick the dildo up his butt. That's my fear with everything super kinky and wild and out there. It's like once you head down the path, are you always going to be on the path? Yeah, maybe. We'll let you guys know because Ashley and I have a treasure trove of vibrators now.

So we'll let you know. She's out of here looking for a guy with a big butthole. That's going to be my first question. That's my new Hinge profile. And the answer to every question is just... What's your B-hole circumference? Message me if you have an enlarged butthole. Do an experiment.

Most adventurous thing I ever did. Stick a giant geldo in my asshole. Asking for a friend. Favorite meal. Whatever stretches out my butthole more. I can't answer every question with bottle stuff. I'm just going to start exercising doing anything. the stretch of that behole out.

That be a hole. Oh my God. All right. We hope you guys enjoyed our sex toy episode. I loved it. Yeah. I learned a lot. I learned a lot.

I feel like I could give like a TED talk about different types of loom now. You love Loub. I tried it for the first time. I love it. Yeah. It's a good thing. All right. We're going to let you guys go.

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