Girls Gotta Eat - Should I Be Mad About This?

Episode Date: November 28, 2022

Chances are, your partner does things to annoy, frustrate, or even infuriate you, and we're here to discuss them – everything from leaving wet towels on the floor to not posting you on social media to prioritizing his friends over you to well, breathing. We're breaking down the question of "Should I be mad about this?" and offering advice for how to communicate your discontent and/or let some things bother you less. Before we tackle the topic, we're sharing our hometown hookup stories, reminiscing on going to camp as kids, and sharing our thoughts (and a listener story) on the grapefruit blowjob technique. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for SNACK CITY 2023 tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Raycon: For a limited time, go to buyraycon.com/gge for 20% off your entire order. Pretty Litter: Get 20% off your first order at prettylitter.com/gge. Helix: Get up to $200 off all mattress orders plus two free pillows at helixsleep.com/gge. Article: Get $50 off your first purchase of $100 or more at article.com/gge. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

No woman understands this. I would never be like, the bathroom is two feet away. Let me piss in my own lawn. I just would... What up? Girls got to eat. Welcome back. I'm above the line. I'm so...

You're having the most above the line day. You know what I did something a little weird? Masturbate on your couch. So I pulled a rena in that I did a repeat Peloton ride. Oh. So you'll take the same ride 40 times. It's insane. Emily and I are like, girl.

I'm surprised we haven't started a side text to talk shit about you. It's bananas. You know what's really fun is the only thing we talk about me, you and Emily is Peloton. And then you guys start a separate side text to also talk about Palatown. Well, I did a repeat ride, and it was a ride that I did, like first, I think New Year's Day of this year, and it's the Imagine Dragons theme ride.

And I don't know if people know this about me, but I like to come out as a hardcore Imagine Dragons. I'm sure you. guys didn't see that coming, but I love Imagine Dragons. Last year, I came out in the same week as an Imagine Dragons fan, and I said I liked Emily and Paris for real, for real, not ironically. I feel like people were like, who is she? That is one of the craziest. We thought this is like this bad bitch who liked only rap music and shit all over Emily and Paris. I was like, I don't think Imagine Dragons are like, that's not embarrassing. It's not like Nickelback. No, I don't think

it's like a thing. It's funny that you think it's a thing. I don't know. You're You're announcing this like the time you announced the Norco is your secret friend growing up. Imaginary friend. That is the same thing, no? You could have a secret friend that's real. That's true. But anyway, I feel great. Do you like Imagine Dragons?

I have no beef with the Magic Dragons. I mean, I like them. They're good. Those songs slap so hard. The instructor made such a good point. You feel like you're in like a movie trailer. Like they hit so hard that you feel like you feel like you're. you're like walking away from a explosion kind of.

You know what I'm saying? I'm laughing so hard. This is like a thing. Yeah, I guess I can see it. You know, I only like to exercise the Latin rap being. Yeah. This is very more rainous friend or more Ashley's friend. I just know if you like a fresh,

don't know what's coming workout, or you want to take the same old shit. I just, when I get, when I find something I like, I stick with it. I'm in an Alex Toussaint ride right now, but I did Robbins' Daddy Yankee ride, and that's my favorite. I can't stop.

I can't stop. won't stop. We are recording this right before Thanksgiving. So we'll give you a Thanksgiving update. I think crazy happens next week. So I hope you guys all had a good holiday. I kind of wanted to talk about like hometown hookups. We'll get to it.

Okay. I wonder if you had any. But Azul is not with this again. We're so sorry. We're going to get Anna to put in like a graphic of him or something right here. You know, I will say I miss him so much. I said this last week. I like feel like he's with my parents.

So he's been with my parents for like a week. And they watched him and I just let them. keep him because I knew I was coming home soon, but I miss him so much. But I really do look at the silver lining and it's nice to have like a week without that added responsibility. I don't want any longer than this. I don't like being in my home without him. It's like I miss him. But like it's nice sometimes to have a little break. Yeah, sleeping in the morning. We'll just not have to add that into your morning. Like knowing that like I can get up and go. It's not another thing. And then at night, it's cold out now. So like I got home.

I obviously picked up a slice of cake on the way home. me of the night. Past two nights I've had cake. Well, I got this cake jar. Is this your secret nightlife? I don't know about you and this is one of them. And so like I had shows at the stand and then picked up my cake on the way home and normally I'd have to come in and I have to take a zool out and I can't just get on the couch and turn on something like the Kardashians and eat my cake. And I just got to come in and just sit down and eat the cake right away. You're explaining to me my life. Yeah, I know. It's just like, again, this was like what I weighed the benefits if I

I wanted another dog. It outweighs so much of having him. But, like, every once in a while, it's like any responsibility that you just don't have for, like, a period of time. Feels nice. Well, that's what we talked about when you were time of getting a dog. Because you were like, I don't know if I, like, want to do these things. Like, it feels nice to not.

But then you're like, I'm a girl with the dog. I'm a dog girl. And my bedding, like, I washed it when he, like, my parents took him and now it's still just fresh. Like, no hair call over. Yes, this is my life all the time. When I think about getting an animal, I'm like, am I ready for all these things? I don't know. Like Azul's hair is all over my apartment.

He's never even been there. I've recorded here. That's so funny. He's always with you. That is funny. Like, he's never been over there. I would never.

I would never. I mean, my friend wanted to bring her black pug. Tiny little baby hairs. They don't even Chad. And I was like, absolutely not. Different type of hair.

That wiry short hair is even tougher to get out of stuff. I like a fluffy. It's easier. Those short, like a lab. Forget it. Do short dogs? shed? Yes. Fugs, they shed?

Yes, and it's like a different texture. Yeah, it's not for me. I sit on this couch and then I go home and I take as well with me and there's black hair all over my white couch. Well, if you guys are watching the YouTube, you know that I have bleached my hair. This is the first time I have ever colored treated my hair.

No, you didn't. You went dark before, right? One time I went dark, I got like a box of like It's a weird time. I didn't know you that. Yeah, it was, I had really, really, I'm on a hair journey. I had like really bad damaged hair when you met me. It was just like really fucked up and fried because I had, I used bad tools and everything.

So yeah, one time I died at like almost black. It was crazy. But since then, I've never bleached my hair. I don't really color it. I don't do anything. Sometimes I spray a little sun in it.

Take you back to being 14. But this girl came over and did my hair. I don't, I'm still, she didn't do a bad job. I just don't know that it's for me. It's like a little too bleached for me. So I'm going to let it go.

way, but also we're going to be California residents in a month. So I'll get a little tan. It'll feel better. Yeah, I mean, I like it, obviously. I think it looks great, but I just think you have, like, such a good natural hair color. Like, why fuck with it? It's just, it's funny because your hair is designed to go with your skin. There's a couple things that I am so outside of the culture of. Like, I didn't know how long this was going to take or how much. I had to ask you, like, what's a normal price to get your hair colored. Like, I have no concept of what it should cost. So I don't get pedicures and I've never had my hair done. So I'm bleached.

So I'm not part of the culture, really. So now I am. Well, also if you're watching the YouTube, you might notice our sweatshirts. Oh, yes. Vibes only merch. And we're going to tell you everything that we're launching. We'll try to do this in the way that you can watch it. We'd like you to watch it because we have all the stuff and also listen.

So we'll do our best to make it as engaging if you're just listening also. But of course, watch the YouTube because we have so much new stuff for you guys. We are really excited. I can't believe we finally get to analysis. We've worked so hard on this vibes only stuff for months. We've new products. We've new merch, everything. So I am just, I'm so over the moon to finally launch it.

Okay, well, let's start with the sweatshirt. So this is just, we just have one clothing item. We have girls got to eat merch. We have tons of new stuff coming. I'll talk about that minute, yeah. But so we just really didn't go too hard on the merch for a vibe. So this is the vibe definition sweatshirt vibe. It says the state of a person, place, or thing defined by the energy it's giving.

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Oh, we're both wearing smalls. Yes. You can kind of see. So it's like order your regular size. It's unisex sizing, but I would like rock a medium too and have like a bigger. Medium's a little bit. And we're size and clues up. I think these probably go up to we have 3X.

3X. Yes. So just so you guys know, for all the girls got to eat merch and then a vibes and everything we do, we always max out as many sizes as we possibly can. So we want to be as inclusive as possible. Also for vibes only, we have a caffeinate and masturbate mug.

It's these hand-drawn vibrators, and it's just so beautiful and just so cute. If you guys get this, please tag us while you're drinking out of it. We have this incredible designer. His name is Michael Lamb, and he drew that. He's wonderful.

So we love him, and it's just like a watercolor vibe. It's so beautiful. It's beautiful that it's because it's like vibrators. Okay. And then this, this is my break. child. I'm so excited about. This is our come clean up towel, everybody. Where else have you seen this?

It's a golf towel style. It's got a hook on it. It says, thank you for coming. Obviously it does. And this is going to clean, come off of wherever it may be. Your face, your stomach, your lower back, on him, your feet, on you. Maybe you're a squirter. Yeah. Your squirrel necklace. Yeah. So we love this so much and we just think it's so funny and it's this like soft absorbent material. Raina, so this is a carabiner. Yeah. So just so you guys know, that's why the word was in my head so much. I know. It's, I'm aware. I run this company too. No, I'm not talking to you. I'm talking to everybody else. I run this guy. Yeah, I know you're here. That's why it was in my head because we were talking about that carabiner. So, okay, hear me out. Last week, Raina kept saying carabiner about a window washer,

about someone, like when you were paled down a building, you kept saying carabine down a building. I think you were on to something. This is the style of something that you hook on to... It is, and then you... When you're climbing. That little thing screws up and locks it together. So I think you were... But I know you had it in your head,

because that's the first time I ever heard this word was when we were designing this item. Oh, okay, so I went to summer camp. I went to Jewish summer camp, obviously I did. And we did a lot of outdoor like ropes course activities and we would like repel down stuff. And so that to me, I know what that thing is because there's like a little nugget.

You screw up to hold it together. I... Listen, I learned... I learned about this. I used to be Aldersey. Emma Kaufman camp in West Virginia when I was growing up. I went to Christian camp, Camp of Cometh. Was it overnight camp?

Yeah, like for a week. They did that in non-Jews? Non-Jews. Is it all like religious-based? I don't know. Mine was like Christian-based. It wasn't too hardcore. Like maybe for like one thing a day,

we did like a Bible study type thing. But it was all just like fun activities. We were like in cabins in the woods. Uh-huh. I loved it. I loved sleepaway camp. Where was it? Camp of Comuth.

Vela, can you look up. Camp Bacoma. How do you spell it? P-E-C-O. I mean, the meth. Camp and retreat ministries. You did an hour Bible. In Maryland? I didn't know non-Jews did this. Go to camp. Shocking. Jews invented camp. Okay. Yes, they did. All Jewish kids went to overnight camp in the summers. Everybody's parents shipped them off. I was nine years old. The first time my mom was like, see you in a month. Non-Jewish people have money too, Raina. I'm kidding. I'll also know you don't. I do.

Let's be clear. If we had kids today, we could afford to send them. No, if I'm not in my, I don't know, like, it must not have that expensive. My parents didn't have that kind of money. I don't think it wasn't like, it wasn't that fancy. I'll say that. It felt pretty rustic. So there was, there was rich kid camp.

Yeah, this was no rich kid. I did not go to that. This was like, there was like cabins in the woods. Yeah, it was a straight up, we all shower. There was communal, like, bathroom. Yeah. There was this other camp. Why are we talking about this?

There was just one other. Jewish rich kid camp where the counselors Fried camp. Probably. Where your like luggage would go ahead of you to camp or the counselors would put it away. Can you imagine? That is crazy. Like who needs that at 11?

Yeah. You like show up and ever all your things are put away. What an awful child. I mean, were you a kid that just was like fine sleeping away and stuff? Like you didn't. Yeah. Like I feel like you would always get there and like there would be someone crying. And I'd be like we're 11.

Grow up. I'd be like, I don't have you been here. We're in sixth grade. Or like, we're in fourth grade. I don't know when I went, but I was always like, oh my God, that's so embarrassing to be that crybaby. And like, by the end of camp, I'd be like crying to leave. I'd be like, I don't want to leave my friends.

Yeah, that's what I'm crying about. It was the best. You go to the same people every year to your Bible camp? I one friend, Lindsay, who a church friend, because I had like church friends because our church was not in my town. So it was like in my mom's school district and like to all different kids that I went to school with. And Linz's one girl, Lindsay, she might be listening. We're still friends today.

She lives at the beach. Matt helped her move. So she went one time. But I think one time I just like rolled solo. Like I feel like one time I went and everybody was there with the friend and I was like, what's up? You went by yourself? I just was like. I had like a girl to make friends. I'm here to make friends. Of like 12 people.

Like if everyone, like every day we'd like, I don't know how you communicated back then with groups of people sent like a letter. Your parents probably called. I was like if Molly and six. and Chelsea aren't all in my cabin. I'm not going to camp. I remember this one girl named Bronwyn, and I was like, that's the coolest.

That's the coolest. That's the coolest girl. This other girl, Allison, how do I remember this? I think I was literally eight. Isn't he eight? But I just, I could remember being like, those girls are so cool. They're going to be my friends.

Oh, yeah. And I got them by the end of this. Because, you know, I wasn't like that cute, but I was funny. That's why I thought I want everybody. It's crazy to be conscious. She's not pretty, but she's funny. I get it.

I was not what I was going to say. I thought, I was like, she's ugly. I was like, this girl is some work. Huge bitch. I was like, I'm going to make her like me. I told you, I was like, this girl's cool. I'm going to make her like me. Guys, we have gone completely rogue because it's just us today.

Let's get back into it. So, yeah, so for vibes, we have a couple new things that are so exciting. We've worked so hard. So we told you last week about the get wet set. So this has all the products that we sell that are really juicy. So the juiced up lube, the massage oil and the flavored blow gel. I'm getting there. And then we have this great pouch that comes with it.

And I feel like we're on QVC. I love this. So we have vanilla frosting blow gel and announcing a new flavor of blow gel. We have Passion Fruit blow gel for you now. Passion fruit. What better flavor to bring out the passion. It's like a tropical vacation in your mouth. That's the website description I wrote yesterday.

So you can choose between the two. This is such a great set. We priced it so that you guys got a discount on all three if you bundled them together. This is like the best holiday sack. Great for stocking stuffers. Buy it for your significant other or for a friend. You get this like a little pouch. I love it so much.

This pouch will also come with your threesome bundle. So you can get the Ashley, the Raina, and the Gigi for $299 altogether. together, you'd be paying $3.45, so there is a savings there, and then you get the pouch, too. They will all fit in there. Actually, I don't even know if you have to bend the Raina, but we tried it. They all fit in there. Again, so you can use this pouch to travel with your vibrators, use it for makeup if you want. Like, it's just really cute, and it's sturdy and durable and, you know, water resistant, all the things. And so that's the threesome bundle. We love that. Keep all three for yourself. Give one to a friend. You're getting a discount on them.

That's for a limited time offer as well. And then our new product we're so excited about. Okay, you announced it. I'm so excited. Oh my God. Okay. So this is the Lucy bullet. We love it. If I had a daughter, I would name her Lucy. And since we're not having kids, we named our vibrators set after. So this is my child. No, seriously, that's my kid name. Lucinda, but Lucy for short, my mom's name is Cassinda. Do you guys care about this? Probably not. But anyway, that's where the name kind of originally from. We thought it was so cute. It's cute. It's a little bullet. Yeah, it's actually really so beautiful. And it's branded. It's rose. gold. The button is this really pretty color of pink. And the idea behind this is that we want to give you different outfits for the bullet. So we bundled them together. So the bullet comes with two different outfits that you slip on it. And one is, they're both really great for solo masturbation, but also really great with a partner. Yes. Do you want to talk about that? I'll talk about this. Yeah. So the two outfits that it comes with right now, there's a finger cuff with a textured finger pad on the front of it.

And really, I'm the laziest masturbator. I say this all the time. And now you don't even have to hold the vibrator because it just cuffs onto your finger. So I love using it on myself and on a partner is so, so fun. So it makes their fingers vibrate essentially. Yes. So if you guys are just listening to what, not watching Raina St. Alphids, but these are technically called sleeves. So you're basically slipping them on and off.

They slip on and off really easily. Again, this has got this textured finger pad for really concentrated stimulation, which is great. And then the other one is the G-spot sleeve. So this is incredible. Do you stick this on there? It's got an anchor, so for your body, but the tips of the anchor also vibrates. You're going to hit a little bit of your taint, maybe a little bit of your butt, but up on your clit, too. It's going to do it all.

That's going to insert inside you. Or you can use this just as an external vibrator. So it's a really soft head, good surface area, and you just turn it on, powered on. I've been using this. This is my actual. So you just power it on. It vibrates. It's a quiet vibration.

We love that. And it really does get all the way up to the head. It goes really inside there. And then this is on the low settings. I'm going to jack it up and we have three settings, three speeds, three patterns. Little pulsation. I'm obsessed with this. I love it.

It's so versatile. I love the anchor because it can go in any hole. You know what I mean? Yes. And you get both. And you get both. So this is going to be priced at $69, obviously. So it's more affordable and you have two vibrators in one or just if you want to just use

the bullet. Obviously you can do that too. So really three different options. Yeah. And just like every single thing and we'll wrap this up, we promise. Everything we sell is Bluetooth Connect. to our app so you can get in there. The remote control is totally free for you.

So you can turn up the vibrations, change the patterns. And then we have tons of stuff in the app as well, so you can vibe along with the stories. So it's really exciting. And we've worked so hard on this company, and we're just excited to go into the holidays with you guys. So yeah, we hope you love it. Yes, and there is a story this week in the Vibs-only app

about a hometown hookup. And that is going to be, you're going to hook up with this guy for the first time over Thanksgiving, and you're going to see him again towards the end of the year. So it's going to be a two-parter. Because everybody kind of has that, like, Thanksgiving Eve. You see somebody from your past, from high school, whatever. That's kind of what is based around. It's a hot one. Yeah, I actually looked up the guy. So my first, the guy lost my virginity

too. Like that was the guy that I slept with every year when I came home. The biggest dick I've ever seen was the first dick I had sex with. The guy that I lost my virginity too. Huge, massive dick. Crazy. Insane. I don't know how this happened up. Yeah. But this guy's married. I checked last night. He was married. Well, my, so my favorite hometown hookup was this guy that I would hook up with in college, like every winter usually, not in the summer. I was like busy at Dewey Beach. He wasn't up to my standards when I was down at Dewey. He was like my winter hometown hookup. And probably just those three, like three or four years when I would come home from college. And he, I don't even know. He worked at the grocery store. Like he worked at the Dover Acme. Like he worked at the grocery store. I mean,

We were young, but, you know, he, whatever. He just, he wasn't in college. He worked at the grocery store. He was, like, maybe like an inch shorter than me. He was so, he had a kid, but he was just, he had a kid. He was just so funny and so swaggy and so cool. And I liked him so much. Like, I feel like you'd be like, what?

Like, he made me laugh so hard. I remember us watching super bad together. And then we would hit the dance for, we would go out to like these bars in Dover, Delaware and just like dance the night away. That's all it takes from. Yeah, it was so fun. I just had so much fun with them. I knew it was never going anywhere.

And then, so we probably, you know, maybe hooked up for the last time, you know, when I was a junior or senior in college. And then I don't even know, six years later, maybe more, it was Christmas and my other Jewish friend Brooke who would come do Christmas with us. Her and I were out picking up stuff for my mom for Christmas dinner and we're at the Dover Acme. And I was like, I used to fuck this guy that worked in produce. And she was like, what? And I was like, yeah, I used to fuck this guy. Like sometimes I would go there drunk and like find him at the grocery store. Like one time I left the bar and I went to see if he was working.

He was working the night shift. He was like in the serial aisle. I like stumbled in there drunk. I used to do that with the guy that I used to the waiter at Cheesecake Factory I would fuck. I would like go out for the night on the town and I'd like go see if he was waiting tables in like table 10 section. Yeah. So I'm we're in line checking out. And I'm like, you used to fuck this guy.

She's like she said jokingly, what if he still worked here? And I was like, oh my God, there's no way. Like he's maybe maybe he's in management. But he's definitely... Yeah, we grow up. Yeah, we grow up. Yeah. Why do we look up huge sign, employee the month?

I was like, oh my God. Right in front of it. Employee the month. I didn't even know they did that. That's a, you know, like in the grocery store. I think that the grocery stores are the final holdout. Like, I feel like you're the only company that still does that. Yeah.

We should do it. What are the... There are three employees. Anna and Bella are just going to fight it out. They just, every month, we just alternate it. But it was just so funny. and, you know, good for him. That's really, I mean, great.

Providing for his kid. That is such, like, an old school. Like, I wonder what somebody's up to. Like, you didn't have to go on Instagram. He just is, and a picture at the grocery store on the wall. So that was my fave. But I don't know. I have this guy that, like, I go on dates with sometimes when I'm at the beach

and I'm just wondering if we're going to see each. At this point, I'm like, are we going to see each other? I don't know. I usually reach out to him. I don't care. Yeah, but he is there full time, so you have to be going to reach out. But I'm like, I think I just want to see if he even, like, reaches up.

Because it's Thanksgiving, so he'll know that you're coming home. I have no. I think he thinks I'm a huge bitch. I don't know. I think you like something. It's not wrong. It's not wrong. Oh my God.

I hate you. All right, before we get into like the rest of the episode and some other stuff, I just want to say it is Cyber Monday. So we are having a Cyber Monday sale. All the vibe stuff that we talked to you guys about. And at Girls Got Eat Podcast. Dot shop. So all of our girls got eat merch.

And we have such cute new stuff. We work so hard on it. We have baby stuff this year. We have wine tumblers, which you guys have begged for. So tons of new cute stuff. Girls Get Eat Podcast. Shop. And you can find that also from our website,

Girls Gotta Eat.com. So, yeah, tons of new, very cute stuff that we worked very hard on. We hope you love it. And it's very gifty. All the stuff, if you want holiday ordering deadlines, I'm not going to go through them, but they are in the FAQs of Vivesonly.com.

And Girls Got to Eat Podcast. shop. Most things, the last time to order regular ground shipping is December 12th. Okay. Tied by Christmas. But there's a million caveats of like, if you use D.HL or UPS, you express ship it, it's on the website. So go before.

D.H.L. can suck my dick. Literally. I also think probably easy is just remember girls got to eat and just go there and go to the shop. You know what I mean? All that's going to be at girls got to eat.com at vibes only.com. There is vibes only sales. And this is the first time we've done sales on vibes. Yeah.

So, okay. So it's Cyber Monday. Go get that stuff. Have some cyber sex and buy some cybersex. and buy some Cyber Monday. Deals. Yeah. So last night I was watching

C-Sieke on MTV. Okay. It's like one of mine. It's my guilty pleasure show. And Cribs is back. What? Yeah. Cribs is like fully back.

You guys like my job. And so C-S-T-key just went right into Cribs. And it was Ray J. And they said, come inside Ray J's Rayconic mansion. And I was like, that's so funny. Rayconic? That's so funny.

That's so funny I can't believe this is back I'm so excited I think they're doing MTV people too like Kristen Cavaleri is on it one of the girls from Ceste Key or the guys I can't remember but yeah it's totally back

I am obsessed with seeing people's homes I love we talk about this before I like taking walks like when it's dark out so I can like really peep peeping Tom inside of people's homes but on that note a Laguna Beach is on Netflix what?

Yes and I need to make it known that I do have the Laguna Beach entire DVD box set, but I have not had a DVD player in quite some time, so I haven't watched it in a lot in a while. We really aged ourselves. I started it from, it's at my parents. I don't have it here in New York, taking up space. Do you imagine my DVD collections here? I started it, like I watched three or four episodes.

They're all like 20 minutes because it was like a 30 minute show with commercial breaks. It's like crazy. It was 04, it started. And like, it's just crazy. I know that it was a long fucking time. ago, but how people look so different. No, it's been, remember, do you remember when I rewatched the Hills? A couple years ago on this podcast?

I couldn't believe how, like, people just used to, like, look like people. Look like normal people. Like, even their bodies, hair, makeup, like, Chris and Cavaleri would just be, like, no one had a more. Grice, greasy hair. Fried hair, yeah. Just pimples out. It was a different time.

It's refreshing. I don't know. I don't know how I feel about it because it's the way that teenage, because these are teenagers. They're in junior and senior. year in high school and how like a show today, you can even compare it to Siesta key a little bit, like a junior and senior girls in high school would like look so different. Well, I think you see those TikToks that are like 14 year olds back when I was 14.

Because today. Lauren, Elsie, she, like they go to this fashion show. Do you remember they went to that fashion show, Stephen and Trey? And they go to this, it's Rebecca Minkoff. They go this fashion show in L.A. And to the fashion show, Lauren. wears two tanks laird. Did you wear two tanks?

All the time. And like boot cut jeans and like probably a platform flip flop, hair and a ponytail. Like can you imagine a girl that's taping a reality show going to a fashion show today? The looks. The looks would be insane. What I would do is I would like put so much moose in my hair and it would be crunchy and then I would hair straighten the front pieces with an iron.

So they were stick straight and the rest. of my hair was like crunchy. I wore crazy stuff back. Oh, you remember the little, the short knit vests that you put over? You'd put on two tank tops and then the like mesh knit like cardigans, but they only like came to the bottom of your move. Oh, a half cardi. A half cardi.

And some of this day, like glitter woven into them. Oh my God. I used to rock a twin set. So an express twin set. Matching cardigan with tank top. Oh yeah. The built in broad tank top from Express was my whole person. personality when I was growing up.

But it is, it's just, it's crazy to watch. And then obviously, Kristen Cavalieri is still very, so was Lauren. I mean, those are two very relevant people still today.

And I know Kristen and Stephen have that podcast. I would love to have them on. Yeah. And then Stephen Colletti looks like this guy that I used to date who he looks like everybody. Looks like everybody. But I was like he was so cute. Oh, he was so cute back then.

I understood why all the girls fought over here. Anyway, fired up. This must be new. Or maybe they just served it to me recently. I didn't know until recently that Laguna Beach is on Netflix. All right, I'm going to breeze through these. I have two comedy specials for you guys.

Neil Brennan Blocks on Netflix, which you saw live. He is the co-creator of the Chappelle Show. He is a brilliant comedian. He's great. He loves Azul. Oh, yeah. I have a personal connection to him and he's, Azul loves him. And I saw it when he did this like every night for like a month, the Cherry Lane Theater.

It's incredible. Yes, unbelievable. So we highly recommend that. It's on Netflix. Ari Shafir, Jew is a, YouTube comedy special. Our friend Ari is an brilliant comedian. If you want to just learn about Judaism a little bit, I learned stuff.

Yes. I mean, I saw him run some of this one night at the cellar and learned a lot. And he's been on our show. And then you guys can go listen to us on a recent episode of his podcast called Skeptic Tank. And it's hilarious. We talk a lot about vibes. He has the Gigi, like, in his butt. Not like bear, but like all his pieceworm pants.

And he just sits between us on this little chair. Ray and I like take over this studio. It's a very funny episode, but I loved his special, and he put it out on YouTube. I'm so impressed with some of these comedians what they're doing today. They're just like, fuck a network. I'm going to do me. Ari got almost 2 million downloads, like, within three days or something. And he put this out himself.

He's at 3.5 million views. Yeah, and this came out, what, two weeks ago? So we love his comedy and think he's so funny, so you guys can check that out. I know that you guys are all, like, going home for the holidays, and you don't want to hang out with your family. So do this instead. If your family's anti-Semitic, throw this on. Definitely.

throw this on. Was that bad to say? I just feel like if you're, fuck your family, if they're anti-Semitic, put this special on. I never, like, I see something called Jew and I never know what it's going to speak to, and I think we don't need any more anti-Semitism in the world, and I think that Jews have a hard enough time, and we don't need anybody else saying anything bad about us, but he already grew up in an Orthodox family and can speak to this.

Right. If that's not. So he talks about Jews being like whiny and how we all sleep with each other, but nothing bad, and I really liked it. And I think it's, what a nice. way to make anti-Semitism smaller than to learn about another culture in a nice way. The vow on HBO is an unbelievable documentary about nexium, which was a self-help program that turned into a sex cult. So the vow part two is out now.

So it's really great about the trial and all these people going to prison. Keith Reneery should be in prison. So I'm glad that he is. God forbid is a documentary on Hulu about Jerry Falwell Jr. and his wife and this affair that they basically had with this kid. and you learn a lot about the political system and how they essentially blackmail people and how corrupt it is.

And so it's an incredible watchouts on Hulu. And then, you know, we love the sex life with college girls. That's out at season two and White Lotus season two. That is all my racks. So just in line with all the sex stuff we talked about today at our blow gel. We got this email. It made me really laugh.

I'd never heard of this and you said you had heard of it, which was... So this girl wrote us... Do you guys have any crazy stuff you're doing in the bedroom? I'm just email stories or girls got a podcast. 100%. Okay. The subject line was grapefruit blowjob, so she grabbed us immediately.

She said, my husband and I have been married for just shy of a year and have always loved doing freaky things. Tonight I gave him a grapefruit blowjob. I thought Raina might find this particularly interesting. Thanks, girl. It was a delicious, hilarious span on a normal task. Ultimately, my husband said he prefers my hand to the grapefruit, but he liked the citrusy smell and the cold juice running into his butthole.

That's my favorite part of it. These are our work emails. The best part, a bite of the grapefruit to chase the cum. She does a chaser to the cum. She slices a piece out of it and chases the cum.

That's insane. A cum chaser. Like a wellness shot. It's like a pallet cleanser. Yeah, yeah. go to a restaurant. She said, I highly recommend trying this. Here's my video inspo. She sent a link. So we can play a little snippet of this video. I watched this years ago. I've heard of it for a long time. It's this woman. And I'm pretty sure you just kind of like cut a

hole out of this, the grapefruit, you slide up and down his dick. Did you watch the video? No. Oh, I did not. I just wanted to talk about this on the show. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's a thing. This grapefruit blowjob, seven and a half million views. So you cut it open. So you're kind of like have the middle of it. And I can show all this. and then you kind of hollow it out. The sound that is coming out of this woman's mouth. Yeah. I don't know if you guys heard that.

She said, grapefruits are also a fat burner, so you're losing weight while you're sucking the dick. You're burning calories if you're going to town like that. So you guys should watch this video, grapefruit technique, great form. Yes, she's really getting into it. She's got the enthusiasm.

She's got the hands going. But yeah, it's like hollow out this grapefruit, rub it up and down. Because you know that feeling. Yeah, that like soft, squishy. Yeah. It's textured like a pussy. I mean, I'm a grapefruit stand.

You know that. Like I drink. usually like Cosmego soda splash of grapefruit. I love grapefruit. I love the actual fruit. You just love the artificial flavor. I only love the artificial flavor. But I would do this because I just think it's freaky and fun.

And I just think it's like a silly thing to do. Like why not have fun with it? But we say just you don't need it now. Yes, you don't. Honestly, what deters me from this is it just makes a mess and it's sloppy and it's sticky, which I don't like. And I don't want to have to wash my sheets after this. You're definitely not doing it on my white couch.

That's reserved for Azul's hair. So our blow gel is perfect for. for this. If you don't want this like sticky, messy mess, and we have, again, passion fruit and vanilla frosting. Yeah, it's like we wanted to talk about this. I'm curious we can't even poll who's heard of this because I've, again, had to heard of this for years and we still think it's great. Go ahead and do it. But we have a less mess alternative. Yeah. But if you're going to do the grapefruit, clean up with the cumm towel. Your grapefruit towel. I just love that she said It is like the juice like going down into his butt.

Some guys like, well, do you ever like make a blowjob like real sloppy? So it's just like going all over the place. Yeah. Some guys really like that. Clean up tail. People are different. That's a hot take. I have some guys that want like a cleaner.

I have some guys. I want a cleaner blow job. Well, also, if you look at the hole. I love my Bella last. If you look at the hole, she cut out of that grapefruit, that's, she's talking about some big dick. Big dicks. I know.

I saw the size of the hole. Like, I'm thinking of like a normal dick. Like you just eat a little bit. Because you also like a little pressure in there as well. Like it should feel like they're entering a pussy. Yeah. A pocket pussy. I'll do one of those one day.

I can't know about this because I really like to think of myself as the blowjob queen. So thank you for that email. That was really creative and awesome. So thank you. Good for you for doing that. Okay. So our episode topic, well, we were going to potentially do this with an upcoming guest. And there are a couple.

So I had this idea to just do this. this game called, should I be mad about this? Or do this segment, rather. Should I be mad about this? With you guys telling us the stuff we did an Instagram story slide about what bothers you about your partner and are you valid in being mad or are you overreacting? I really was just dying, reading these. It made me laugh.

Some of them were like really serious and most of them are really funny. A lot of household stuff. It reminded me of 2020 during the pandemic when we did that segment of like what is your partner doing that surprises you were dressed. crazy at home. Yes. I feel like we were like two weeks into the pandemic being like, how are you guys getting through this? And everybody's like, I hate listening to my partner's workforce. It's crazy. Yes. So this, we have that one. That one's out there. That one's out there. And then we're going to talk about like our actual feelings about what you can be mad about

and, you know, how to manage that a little bit. And we'll go through your submissions. But a lot of the stuff that came in was a lot of household like laziness type of stuff. So I want to direct you guys to another episode we did about weaponized incompetence. And that is from March of 2022. So the exact date on that is March 21st, 2022. So if you go to Girls Gotta Eat.com, you can search our episodes and you'll find it right away. Yes, there's other ones. We did an episode of microcheating. I know that episode is episode 69. There's a recent cheating episode and then there's an episode called Are We Too Different that I believe was from 2021. And again, you can search these on our website. But there's certain things that fell under all those categories that I wanted to direct people to

other episodes. But anyway, basically we asked for this question. We were going to do a fun little segment with a guest and then we were like, let's make it a whole episode because there was just so much and there's so much to tackle and we're going to go through some of them and analyze them. When it comes to some of the little things, well, I guess it's relative what you think is little and what you think is big. But if we're talking about living together, household stuff, stuff that annoys you, and other stuff too, like I always say, well, I think one of the most important things in relationship is to pick your battles. I mean, you cannot fight every battle. And I think that,

if every single thing someone does, bothers you early on, this probably isn't your partner. But if someone is annoying you after you've been together for a while, or maybe you have spent too long together, you've just, you know, been traveling together. Like, you know, maybe there's something underlying going on. Or maybe you're just annoyed and it will pass. Like, I think we all go through stages in romantic relationships,

friendships, relationships with our family, where you're like, I just don't want to be around and they're so fucking annoying. And it doesn't mean that the relationship's over. It means that you're just going through. that phase. You're going to be annoyed. I get very easily annoyed, but I think it's figuring out if that's just the phase that you're in or this is a person that you really don't want to be with. Yeah, I think there's a lot of levels and layers to the submissions you guys gave us. Can I be

mad at this? You can be mad about anything that you want. Right. Is your entire relationship personality that you are just fighting and mad about everything and you pick every battle and you just say something about everything that they do. I really have had to work to not be like that because I am like that. I really related to that love is blind scene where Cole was cooking for Zenab and she just was like, why are you doing it like that?

Why are you cooking like that? Why are you like, he just was like doing this sweet thing for her and she just picked on him the whole time and I don't want to keep time about Love is blind, but I really saw myself in that scene because I have been like that so much with men that I'm like, you're not doing it the way I would do it. And you're not doing these household things or cooking

and I'm sure people that are parents feel like this a lot. Like I'll just do it myself because I'm, better at this. I have had to have a lot of self-talk with myself where I'm just saying to myself, like, I wouldn't like this. I wouldn't like if somebody was picking it everything I did. If I cooked somebody dinner, for example, and they were like, don't do this, don't do this. I would be like, fuck you, what I'm doing it. I'm out. I know. This is like a discussion I've been having with a girlfriend of mine. I wouldn't have read some of the texts that we've been having about this and just how like men and women are so different and how they think and how we do

things and how typically it is a woman that's like the more nagging a man to like do this differently change. We were having this discussion like I don't know if I've ever felt a partner to do that to me and I certainly wouldn't like it. So I was thinking like can you be mad about it? I think yeah but like what I want somebody treating me like this in the reverse. What I want somebody constantly making comments about like the way I love my life and my personality and things I'm doing? No, not really. So can you be mad about it? Yeah. I guess if it's something that's you guys like when I say duplicitous. If somebody is being deceitful, they're not being truthful, they're doing things that seem really shady. Yeah, then definitely bring it up and talk about it.

But, like, I don't know how many discussions I need to have is somebody about the way they hang a towel up. Like, I'm just not going to do it constantly. The towel, I mean, that's my story. I mean, when I lived with my ex for a moment in time, he wanted to put the towel over the shower rod. And I was like, we have towel racks. Like, and that was just the way he'd always done it. And then I just, like, gave up. And I'm like, this is fine.

It's a, A, it's not a wet towel on the floor, different vibe. A lot of that. A lot of wet towels on the floor, which I'm just different. But to me, I'm like, are they just never helping you around the house? Or do they just not do the towel right? And then you just have to let it go. I had a girlfriend, she's been with her partner for 10 years. And she recently said to me, like, she just realized this to like stop picking your battles.

And I mean, her and her partner live in a one-bedroom apartment in New York, which I would never do. you know, plenty of people do it, but we all know how I feel. And I'm like, she's like, I just stopped like caring that like when he gets out of the bathroom, it's fucking covered in water, like a wet dog shook off in there. That's my metaphor. But, and I'm like, you just realize this 10 years in? Yeah, you can't get mad at everything or don't live with them. Nothing validated me more and not wanting to live with someone than this list.

I know. All the little household things. Like just the dishes come up a lot. People that don't even drive themselves off. Like that stuff is fucking. annoying is shit. And I feel like it reads is so lazy. I'm like, how did you exist on this earth before me?

Like, how did you even manage to get dressed and show up to something on time without me? But I say this as somebody who does this a lot. I've had to have a lot of self-talk to stop doing this. And if you can't stop doing it, like I was in a relationship with somebody. I remember this very distinctly. I was asking what happened in his previous relationship. And he was like, you know, she just micromanaged everything I did. Nothing I did was correct around the house.

The way that I did the dishes was not correct. it was, she was on me all the time. And I remember him saying like, I'm an adult man. I don't need to be, like managed like this. But then I started to feel like I needed to do that because I actually didn't like the way he did anything either. And he felt like an incompetent person. And because I felt so annoyed all the time,

that wasn't my person. Because all the ways he lived his life just overarchingly. Yeah. Not how I was going to live my life. And I don't mean like he just didn't hang towels up the way I wanted them. Totally. I couldn't trust him to take care of anything. So that wasn't my person.

And if you're with somebody that you're like, yeah, everything they do fucking annoys me. and that's not a pattern for you, then maybe that's not your person. And one thing I wanted to mention, too, is, like, I have to do self-talk if I find myself getting annoyed or impatient with somebody, whether it's a partner or a friend or family member, or it's not exactly perfect because I'm a perfectionist. Like, I have to remind myself that, like, if everybody was like me, we wouldn't get along. Like, if this person was like me and doing things at this, like, level or desire for perfection,

like we would probably butt heads. Like is the thing that annoys you about somebody, something that actually makes them the person that they are that compliments you. You know? Like a slow walker. I don't know. My mom comes here.

I'm like, you gotta pick up the pace, Cindy. Even Oscar, I'm like, you are a slow walker. I can't handle this. And I'm like, it's just a type of person that's enjoying themselves a little bit.

You don't have to be busy, rushed all the time. Like, that's a very small example. No one's breaking up over your stride. But sometimes I have to remind myself, like, in me and I like that about them. So this thing that they're doing is like annoying to me, but it also is who they are and they compliment me and maybe I'm just in an annoyed mood today. Uh-huh. I mean, I feel like that about you and me and we are not a romantic relationship.

We're in a business relationship and I think we both probably spend a lot of time picking which battles we're going to choose. And if I'm annoyed about something, it helps me to remind myself, like, if I'm like, I can't believe she said it like that, to remind myself of like all the good that you bring to the business. And like, that's what I would advise people to do. do in relationships also. If you're just exactly what you're saying, if you're annoyed about this one thing, well, maybe that's not how I would do it,

but here's all the really good ways that they are. They really add to my life. So I think about that when you and I pick our battles and business partners. It's fucking hardworking with somebody for five years. You have to just sometimes take who someone is as a whole and be like, maybe this guy isn't the level of comforting me

during something that my girlfriends would be, but is he this guy that's handling everything else? Like I'm thinking of a guy friend. I'm not going to name him by name, but he might not be that, like comfort. You can cry in his shoulder. You don't feel like he's, he's supportive. Great. He's a great partner. But he's just a little more alpha type A managing everything else. He's a caretaker. Like he's just not got that like best girlfriend. You know, there's tradeoffs with everybody.

I think about it all the time. I think about it with you, me, with all my friends. Like, and I wouldn't want anybody to expect me to be perfect. There's tradeoffs with me too. Like maybe you're not going to see me that much. Maybe I'm just going to really need a lot more alone time. But like when you have me, I think I'm really great. I'm fun. I'm playful. I like to sex. I like to cook. There's a lot of good things that come with me when you do have my attention. So I like to think about that from the other side of things. And yeah, there's nobody I look at that I'm like, they have everything. There's tradeoffs to everybody. And like I think about my last relationship and there was huge deficits, but really incredible things about him also. And that's,

that is how you should feel about your partners. Well, and this goes back to not needing your partner to be everything to you. And this is why you have your friends and your family and people that fill all of those buckets. Your partner shouldn't be your end all. y'all. I wanted to talk about this with a friend of mine. She had read this book. Listen, I haven't read the book. It's called The Queen's Code. Sometimes these books can be, they can feel a little dated. Like, I think even like a book like men are from Mars, women are from Venus, changed my life. It made me realize that like we are wired differently in a lot of ways, men and women, but also felt a little misogynistic at times. And it felt like it blamed women a little bit. So some of these books

can feel a little dated, but they're still like valuable information when it comes to the actual like facts, the science, all that kind of stuff. The author of this book, her premise is that we as women evaluate men as if they were our personal picture of an ideal woman. So it's like, we look at them of like how a woman would do something and they're so different. It's about understanding how they generally operate. And she said it works both ways. She says there are times when her partner gets annoyed with me because I don't do things like a man. For instance, I changed my mind sometimes if we had an idea for a plan and when the time comes up, I'm not in the mood. That's just an example. She just was saying something she was getting

annoyed with him about. And she said that kind of learning a little bit more about how men operate or how he probably operates helped a lot in like managing her expectations. Because sometimes we forget that this is a different person and maybe, you know, completely wired differently too. Not that we're like that different. You know what I mean. Yeah. But I just thought that was interesting. Especially, I mean, sometimes with men, like they can only focus on one thing at a time. They aren't as good as multitasking. Different text styles. I mean, I'm going to reference that episode too because this came up a lot with Mimi Winsberg about like someone not texting you during the day or something that came up was like, he'll look at my Instagram stories, but not text me back, or he's on social media.

And so all these things can sometimes be, they're not personal. They don't mean something's wrong with their relationship. It's just like the way this person is. Yeah. And isn't it nice to have a partner to help you with some things? I was thinking about that podcast episode that you referenced about burnout. And I was listening to it. And the woman on the episode talks about like being okay with something being done 85% of the way that you would have done it. So maybe your partner is not going to do every single thing as efficiently as you. I'm talking about like heterosexual relationships because men just seem to get really lazy. I look at them and I'm like, how are you alive? Why is this your level and standard of like cleanliness for a home? But like,

I don't know. It's nice if they just try. I'll even take running some water in the dishes if you can't put it into the dishwasher. So my problem is that once I decide something is annoying me, I like can't unring the bell. So I think about it and then every time you do that thing, I'm like, see, see, if I decide you don't buy enough stuff for the house and then I want to eat, I don't know, my Sashuan chili oil that I really like. And I go in and realize that you have finished it and not replaced it. It is like a meltdown for me. And internally, I'm like, it's just chili oil, just relax.

But I'm so annoyed about it. So I have to pick which of those things I'm going to say something about and actually have self-talk. Because like I said, I've rung the bell internally. So I know I'm annoyed about it. I have to tell myself either we're like not going to stop this. We're just not being so pissed off. Or I empower you to say something once or twice.

It's fine. Like it's not like you can't say anything about all these things. Like, I do want to have discussion if I feel like you're not texting me back or I feel like your, your behavior is a little strange. Like, if stuff feels unfair, you know? Yeah. I mean, that's the thing. Like, we'll talk about these.

Like, some of these are pretty egregious. And they're, like, someone that isn't respecting you or prioritizing you or they're being dishonest to you or things like that. But, yeah, I mean, also, like, sometimes you're in more annoyed of stuff because it's colored by previous incidences or what's going on in the relationship, you know? I just want to, like, validate that all emotions should have a chance to be expressed in a healthy way. And if you're angry about something, then you deserve to express it in a controlled, normal, you know, way. Well, yeah, a lot of this was about communication.

I mean, yeah, your partner, you don't like them breathing. You're just going to vent to us about it. You can't tell your partner stop breathing. But, like, some of these things, I was like, I hope that this has been expressed to your partner as well. Do you know what I mean? Like some of the like bad stuff. Some of the like he did this terrible thing. It's like, did you tell him? Yeah. Some of this is stuff I'll talk shit to my girlfriends about. But other stuff, if I'm really angry, just telling myself, don't be angry about this is not going to make myself not be angry. It's like when somebody tells you to relax, never in the history of relaxing.

Listen, breathes loudly did come up and I feel it. And I'm not interested in living with somebody, a lot of that because I don't want to hear them breathing. And I don't want to. to me with a mouth breather, and I'm never going to sleep with a person that snores. Like, I don't know how people do it. I don't know. But I also think if you love somebody, you get past it. I do realize that.

I would probably say something. I'm so annoying. You can't tell someone to not breathe. Not, I don't, why are you breathing like that? I'm not saying don't breathe. I'm just saying don't breathe like that. It's not a pattern. I just don't like what's happening right now.

Why are you breathing like that? Are you okay? That's what you can brain it. I'm concerned about you. They're like, that's how I breathe. Okay, well, you guys do you on that one. Okay, there was a lot of farting. A lot of farting stuff.

I hate it. I don't want to, right, burping? I don't want any time you burped. Actually. I want a relationship, but I want someone that wants to live separately. I don't want you farting all the time. I know that this is like part of life. I fart all the time.

I live alone. Like, I don't want a partner that I'm fucking to be farting. farting all the time. Go, like, I love farting. Every time I let out the longest, loudest one, I'm, I immediate, my first thought, well, my first thought is that felt good, but my second thought is I'm so happy no one's here. I think about it all the time.

I have lived with, I've lived long term with two partners and then I lived with one partner for like six weeks when we broke up, but I feel like poop and farch are like sacred. I don't, we can talk about it. I don't want to like smell it or hear it or be around it. I have never understood people that, I mean, listen, if you guys go to the bathroom, the door is open, great. But like, what is preventing you from shutting the door? Some couples are into this. Fine, live your truth.

Again, like, our opinions are just our opinions and what we want when it comes to stuff like this. I don't want to. I don't want to be watching White Lotus with my man and he rips a fart. Are you kidding me? Like, it happens every once in a while. I'm saying, I get it. I'm telling you I've never done it. I've never farted in front of a partner.

I want to say that it's totally natural and it happens, but when it's all the time and they just feel so comfortable all the time, farting. I don't want it. I have lived with so many people. None of them have ever, one time one of them smelled me farted. And I heard about it for years. Oh my God.

Okay. So some of these are really funny and some of them are more serious. Yeah, let's do more serious. Okay, tell me you to think about this, because I think this comes up for a lot of people, looks at every woman that walks past him. So I think it's very partner-specific to me. So, like, if I don't... I know you're thinking of.

If I don't trust you, it makes me feel crazy. But, like, if I trust you completely, then I'm, like, looking at her too. I want to look at her with you. I mean, I'm thinking of one of our good friends. Okay. Who is so obsessed with his wife. Yeah.

And they have a kid, and he's the most loyal, trustworthy, husband I can think of. He's always checking out, girls. She is, too. I mean, it's just, it's who he is. It's who he's always been. He's super trustworthy. I don't want to...

somebody, like, I don't want to distracting them from me. You know what I mean? You know, checking out somebody, yeah, fine, I get it. Like, I'm doing it too with guys or whatever it is, but I don't want to be telling you something and your eyes are wandering. You know what I mean? Yeah, I don't want that at all when we're in the moment. Absolutely. And I think that it's like, we just know it when we see it and we feel it immediately. I had, I dated somebody that like always sort of like hostesses and waitresses in front of me in a way that felt like really uncomfortable. And I didn't trust him. And he was cheating on me.

And the vibe was not like you're included in this. The vibe was like, I'm going to do this in front of your face. And I don't care what you think about this. Right. Like nobody flirts with a server more than Cindy Hustline. The way she leans back and puts her tities out and like asks questions. Like I feel like growing up, my dad would be like, Cindy, could you not? Wait, really?

She's so flirty. She's a huge blur. Yeah, she is. Now I'm going to notice it in restaurant. She's really floored. I don't even know she knows she's doing it. Sometimes you just want some attention. Okay, let me...

Let me ask you, this drives me crazy. He calls me bro. Or dude. How do you feel about it? You have to stay, stop. My college boyfriend, like, off and on, did that. With some of these things, let it be known in the kindest way possible. You're turning me off.

I don't want to fuck you when you do that. I nip it in the butt so quick. I'm first time out of the gate. I'm not having any self-talk. about it. I don't want to be called bro or dude. I'm not your friend. I don't like it. I immediately say something. I've seen times like on TV and different things when I haven't hated as much. It can come across very cute like you guys are buddies. It's whatever you want. Yeah, it feels cute. But yeah, I don't like it. You don't think that. You know, I don't think it's cute.

You didn't even say that like you meant. I was trying to validate you. All these things are like, if you guys don't care, then great. Good for you. I pick the things that annoyed me. So canceled plans to celebrate my huge career accomplishment to go a beer. So that feels to me like an immediate nope. This is someone that doesn't support you or really have a lot of respect for you and your time, the canceling of the plans. Not like he wouldn't go out with me to celebrate. Like he canceled to what go get a casual beer. I don't know the whole story. My only other thing again is, is he punishing you for something in the relationship? Did something bad happen? Hurt people, hurt people. You know, there are things. We've all been

in these situations. We've done them. Our partners have done them where you do real asshole things because you're hurt from something else. But if that's not happening, and this is this person's track record, that this is just this run-of-the-mill, fuck your accomplishment situation, then I think this is a red flag and that's not someone you want to be with.

I agree, especially if it's on purpose. I dated somebody, I've talked about on the show, we had very mismatched love languages, and he just never was effervescent about any of my accomplishments. I remember I got this job at Amazon. I worked really hard, and he was just like, oh, I knew you would get that job. And I wanted this big, exciting over-the-top thing.

So he got a new job around the same time, and I purposely did not make a big deal about it. And that made me feel bad that I was, like, punishing him for the way he was. And if you're in that cycle, that's really bad. And the best thing about having people in your life is to celebrate the big moment. And if you don't want to do that with me,

then, like, what are we doing here? However, again, this also canceling plans just to go have a beer or whatever, but you should express when things are important because no one's a mind reader and people handle, things the way that they would like them to be handled in their own life. And this can kind of transition into a thing that I saw come up a lot with he doesn't post me on social media or he'd not even birthday

anniversary, things like that. And it's like, is he a person who doesn't care if you do that? You know, like it's the same as the love language premise. Like we show love and the way we want to receive love. So this could be somebody that doesn't give a shit if you ever did that so they're not doing it. So you have to express that it means something to you. You know, like we have accomplished. so much that even sometimes our friends and family, they don't know if something is big or not because they don't have the full scope of what we consider to be big. You know what I mean? Like sometimes people will say stuff like, you guys are doing this thing. We're like, oh, it's not a big deal. And other times we're like, why didn't anyone say anything about this? You know what I mean? So I think

sometimes this is about communication, like when she's talking about her accomplishment, did he know this was a big deal and did he know it was important to you? That's so true. I'm like thinking about times in my life where I was almost like testing somebody and it's like not fair. It's not fair. I've done it too. It's like the worst thing that we do and it's something that like I look back on all these relationships and all the mistakes I've made and it's like they can't read your mind and it's unfair to expect them to do that and to test them in that way. And I just, I saw that a lot. Like again, we say this all the time. If you feel like someone is like keeping you a secret from their friends, their family, they're not, you don't feel like they're proud of you. That's one thing.

But if you feel like they're supportive and proud and they're showing you off to their friends and stuff and they're just not posting on social media, that could just be because they don't, that's not how, what they do. Like someone said, doesn't share any posts, etc. about me, not even happy birthday or happy anniversary. And right under it was another response that says, doesn't post me on social media, but also doesn't post much in general, which is how we say. We always say that, yeah.

Like, I've dated plenty of people that just aren't big on social media. I can't imagine them ever posting a birthday post for me. And it's like not that big of a deal. Yes. Yes. Like, it's different if they're a person that does it all the fucking time. Like, Corey's husband, him, like, he does that. He posts about her and his kids

and he's one of those guys. Like, my brother, pretty rare. It's really funny when you see it in the reverse. Like, so I have an ex and he's married, though. I don't know, whatever. Yeah, but everybody's different. Matt shows his love in, like, so many other ways. So, like, it's what I'm saying before.

Like, so maybe somebody didn't post you on your birthday, but like, did you feel special that day? Did they go out of their way to, like, do other things to express that? You didn't post me, but you did do a lot of other stuff. I was like, is she going to post? We were in a fight that somewhere. That was that July when we fought the whole month. Yeah, I was doing it on purpose.

People brought up plans a lot and like how their partner makes plans. Because I feel like you can feel often as a woman that it always falls on you. That like every social interaction, every family gathering, all the dinners, everything falls on you. So that is something I would maybe bring up. But if somebody said to me, it's just not really my forte like plan stuff and I just feel more comfortable with you doing it. I think I would accept that, to be honest. And this girl, but this girl said, I hear. about plans for the first time when he's on the phone with other people. And that would annoy me.

That feels, it just, it doesn't feel respectful of my time. I don't want to hear that, like, you've made plans with other people. For me, oh, for her or two. Yes. Um, no. Well, let's talk about it both ways. For me to be included, then it really annoys me. You're not being respectful of my time. But what do you know how I feel? I like, God, this was someone we work with the other day. I was like, don't tell people we're available. We're not. Yeah. It's just like, we have a busy schedule. I don't want. You never know. Oh, you took that as though that our partner was going to go out that night.

You don't know anything about that. Okay. How do you say about that? The way that I took it. Oh, like, they're on the phone talking about see you tonight and you're like, what? The way that I took it was that like she was included in the plans and she was like, are you fucking serious? You committed us to this thing?

And like, but I think the way that you heard it was that they were making their own plans to go out. No, I heard it right. I'm saying like, I don't like if somebody commits me to something without checking with me. you and I can do that. We do it because we know each other's schedule and sign out. But I don't know. You're hearing that they're going out that night and you didn't know about it.

I don't know. I don't think someone needs to know my entire schedule. I guess if it's like a Friday night, like I guess I kind of want to know what you're up to this weekend if we're dating or we're in a relationship. I'd like to know what you're up to. Yeah. It's not like a cardinal sin to me. I'm just like,

it's odd to me that you haven't like mentioned what you're up to. Because I also just like want to be involved in your life. I don't need to be there all the time. I mean, there's, I'm sure a ton of bad things about dating me, but nobody's ever said to me that I'm, like, jealous or possessive in any way. And I certainly don't care if you, like, have a boys' night or have a lot of boys' nights. That's, I don't care. And I don't need to be included all the time. And I also don't need to be called throughout the night.

I don't check in with me. Like, my dream is I trust you and you go do whatever you want. But I guess I'd like to be involved in your life and know what you're up to. Yeah, this brought me to another one that just there was a lot of these, not prioritizing me over his friends, always makes excuses when it stuff I want to do cancels our plans. for his friends. So to me, this is very, like, how egregious is the behavior? Like, is he straight up not showing up when he's supposed to? Is he...

I just keep saying he. I mean, I just keep... Let's feel like this is very, like, heteronormative conversation. Women don't do these thoughts. Yeah, exactly. Women are elite. We're not talking to you. Is he rude?

Is he not respecting your time? Then, bad. Yes. You should be mad. You want someone... We always say this. You want someone who's going to show up, and they say they're going to show up. You don't want someone canceling this, not respecting your time.

I'm like clearly not prioritizing you. But I think it's also how much are you asking of your partner? You know, are you really young? You know, is this someone that you both are 25? And that is a time when people really just want to run around with their friends. And it doesn't mean that they don't want to be in a relationship too. But they may not ready to settle down and spend every night together. Like I think this is like some self-reflection too of like how much time am I actually

expecting to spend with my partner? Am I going out with my friends too? I don't know the whole story behind all these submissions, obviously. but you could, I could see it both ways. I could see a real asshole of a person that just like knows that his partner will put up with whatever and he's not going to commit to plans and he's going to bail and go out with his friends whenever he fucking pleases. And I see a world in which the other partner just is expected a little too much.

I see both worlds, but I think that we train people to be with us, right? So if you've never said anything about this six or seven times, how is this person like you said before supposed to even know this bothers you because you've let it go for so long that maybe they just think this is how you are and this is how it is. I think that there are certain things that are really easy to just like nip out of the way really early and cancel it. You will not embarrass me in front of my friends. I will never date somebody who either doesn't show up for me or if they do, they're not nice to everybody around me.

That you will last with me for one week. I will never tolerate that. But if it's just like they didn't show up once, I will have a discussion about it immediately and nip it in the butt. And I want to make it very clear this will not be tolerated in our relationship. That's my boundary. I mean, I feel like a lot of people I could feel it coming through their words of like, like, I'm second to his friends. And I know what it feels like.

I was like that my college ex, that was always the case. Like I was like, he just, and then he grew up and he decided he wanted to be with me. And I was like too late. I mean, I just knew we weren't a match. But it did feel like an age thing. It felt like that was a stage in his life. And he liked me enough. He still wanted me in his life.

But he wanted to just be with his friends and dick around with his friends all the time. And I could feel that. And it's like, you can bring this up. in a calm, kind manner, how you feel, express how you feel. And they may continue to have you feel like that. And that might not be the right person for you at that time. Yeah. I say a lot on the show is that you can draw any boundary you want. You can pick a fight about anything you want. And you're welcome to have that boundary. But if the person is not going to adhere to it, that just might not be your person or might be the wrong time. And if it's really just like, you're like, okay, you know what?

I unfortunately did reflect on this. And he is a bunch of friends and I don't. And I do want to spend all my time with him and it's like, all right, well, make some friends, do some stuff, go out, do your own thing. You know, maybe that would help the relationship too. It's an interesting scenario to me, these couples that have to spend all their time together and like can't go out with friends and there's like all this jealousy about your time and where you spend it. And I absolutely understand it with couples where somebody like it's like two nights that are off. And like I dated a lot when I was in the service industry and I had two nights off per week. And it was just that time was so sacred to me and to commit both of those nights to somebody would

have been out of the question. But of course you want it. Yeah. So I understand wanting it. But, you know, you've to just weigh like what's fair and how much time should we be spending together. I don't ever want to feel like I'm second fiddle to your friends. So that, like, is really shitty and hurtful. No. I've seen it. I've seen it the other way too. I've seen like where, I mean, this is, you know, you see this a lot with women who have a ton of friends and their male partners don't. And I know, I mean, for example, that's more like my parents relationship. My dad clearly does not give a fuck. He'd rather be alone any other the week doing his thing, whatever the fuck he does, hanging off the dogs.

But I've seen male partners that get jealous. Their partner has a cooler life, has more friends, does cool stuff, and it causes a little bit of tension, you know. And it's just, I don't know, I don't know how the answer, but this is all communication. Yeah, this can happen, I think, when one person is an extreme introvert, one's an extreme extrovert. Oh, we did an episode. Yeah, we did an episode about it.

So I feel like it can definitely work, but you just have to readjust your expectations of the amount of time you spend together and try to enjoy your own time. I was wondering what you thought about this. I'm curious. He doesn't say hi to me when he comes home. Aw. It would hurt my feelings. How you greet someone is so important.

And I always want to be someone who likes the way that they're greeted by me, you know? And I try to just remember, like, when my mom calls to, like, be really excited to hear from her. Because every time I call her, she acts like she isn't hurt for me in 20 years. I've been missing. You know, like, that's her. level of excitement. It's like, it is important.

He doesn't say hi at all. He doesn't greet you at all or he's just not the level of enthusiasm you want. I think he doesn't say hi. She says you just... Probably how he grew up. Yeah. You know what I mean?

This stuff usually comes from your childhood past. My mom would start screaming the second she walked to the door, so that's just what I do. But no, I feel like it sets the tone for the interaction, especially if you guys both work outside of the home, that somebody comes in.

I'd like to just be greeted nicely with like a kiss and a whole. low and it would hurt my feelings. And then I'm in this scenario of like, why aren't you talking to me? And then it starts off this like whole interaction in a negative way. We got all curled up for this next one. I just, it does matter. It matters. And it hurts my feelings. And I want people to like greet me with a lot of enthusiasm. And I understand that like if you're together 365, you're like, it's not

that exciting anymore. But like, you should just be. I know. This is like, is this new or have they been together for years and he used to? And now he's just like, it's no big deal. I just came home, you know. But again, again, but again, Again, like, don't do this when you're mad about it. And when you're feeling in a good place with your partner, be like, hey, I just, like, feel like when you come in, I'm excited to see you, and I don't really feel the same way. And it, like, kind of hurts my feelings a little bit.

And is it just because that's how you are? Or, you know, I just want to talk through this and kind of understand where you're coming from. Again, this is a thing that we love with so many experts. Like, express your curiosity. Like, I'm just curious about this. I'm just trying to understand this. And we have heard from so many psychotherapists, express your curiosity,

and you can frame things in a positive way too. It makes me feel so good and so desired when you come home and you're so excited to see me. And it makes me want to cook you dinner and suck your dick or whatever it is that we do. It's fun for us. I'm going to watch what you want to want. You hold the remote tonight. Positive reinforcement. Yeah.

Okay. This came up a lot and I'm just going to say that we're going to do a full episode on this, but mom stuff. So talks to his mom three times a day, tells his mom everything important before he tells me. We cannot get through a dinner without a phone call from his mom. And then one that was a little heavier financially supports his parents too much to where we can't get stuff ourselves. I dealt with a situation like that that I did not handle well. I did not handle with a level of compassion or understanding that I should. I was younger. I didn't. I was out of my league.

I have not dealt quite with the full-blown mom all the time calling. And I'm going to throw one in there for you also. I wrote down this one that says that his mom just drops by and he knows, but she doesn't. Yeah. And so she just unannounced. It feels like a boundaries issue. I mean, we're going to do a whole episode on this. I don't want to blue ball you guys on it,

but we really want a professional to talk about this stuff. I mean, nothing's more important to me than family. Like, I'm so close with my family, but we don't roll like this. Same with Matt. No one loves her mom more than Matt. I mean, but he doesn't, they both have healthy boundaries.

A lot of times is from the mom. And the son's not going to tell her to stop, you know? I've seen this a ton and it's really tricky. Also, I will say, like, from speaking to, okay, my own mom, look, if anybody could look at their behavior, we would all be perfect human beings, right? I've talked to my own mom about the way that she is with my sister-in-law and, like, my mom's, not that they have a bad relationship at all, but my mom's perception of what happens in a scenario is not mine or my sister-in-law.

As my mom's like, I don't do that stuff, isn't? Because it's your child, and you don't, of course you don't see boundaries. It's your kid. You're like, I'm going to do what I want. You know? I think it could be really tricky and tough. I get it, yeah. I'm saying, I'm validating.

Like, it's, I think a lot of, like, mothers are like this and they don't even see their behavior. Okay, I get that. I don't know. Really? But my mom is so, like, good about, like, my kids have their lives. My mom thinks she's good about it, too. Okay.

I want to go back. This financially supports his parents too much. Listen, all I'm going to say is tread so, like. do not do what I did and my relationship was colored by a lot of other things and I came at this from the completely wrong angle. You have to understand the underlying reasons for this and everything that's going on in the family. You can't just attack someone for helping their family financially because you don't know the full story. So this is very much of like a deeper understanding of the family dynamic. Yeah, these dynamics were deeply ingrained for sometimes decades before you even came

along 30 years before you haven't existed. So it could be completely normal for somebody's mother to call them three times a day or show up unannounced and you are the wrench in that and you're allowed to draw your own boundaries. It would drive me crazy if my mother-in-law stopped by all the time unannounced or if we to stop and discuss her all the time would make me feel crazy. But you're the new thing and this is a dynamic that's existed for 30 years and so we've got to be like delicate with how we navigate it. But I mean, listen, I don't want someone that needs to talk to their family three or four times

a day. I don't know. Three, three, what? She said talks to his mom three times. No, I'm saying like it's, that's, I can't even comprehend it. Yeah, I don't want to shit all over it because having a family that's close is so important to me, to anybody. So it's like, but I would be like why, it would make me feel like they were a little less of an adult or something. Yeah.

I don't, I get, maybe not, though. I don't know. I really want to tread lightly here. Do you need their input and help all the time around the clock? That's not an adult thing. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, I think I have really healthy relationships with both of my parents currently

and, you know, I talk to them. I talk to me to my dad a little more than my mom, but we check in, we fill each other in on the week. I want to hear like a bunch of information about what you guys have been doing. I don't need every granular detail of your day and two or three times a day sounds crazy. I can't relate to it.

I definitely did when I was younger. I think my mom and I used to talk. I mean, there's memes about this. They're like, mom, I need to make a dentist appointment. You know, if you've had parents that have done a lot for you when you're in your 20s and you're still kind of in that mode sometimes. The doctor's apartment stuff makes sense.

I really needed to talk to my mom a lot. We definitely talked every day on the phone. Two to three times? Not three. More than one is crazy to me. What are we talking? What is the follow-up? What do we need to be doing this for?

Listen, we have a guy friend. I don't even know if I've ever told you. And he talks with his family so much that you wouldn't even see it coming. All day, every day, everybody. Oh, no, I see that coming. but we've spent so much time with him. So I get it. A lot of people really do need their family's input on a lot of things.

And this is so much like digging deeper, see what's going on before you pop off or before you end a relationship because you won't get chosen. They're going to choose their family, especially if they're so close with their family, extra close. Their team family, not you. So what you shouldn't do is like pop off and get mad. And you can, I'm not saying to not be upset and not address it, but the delivery here is very important because they're going to choose their family. Or they choose you and like, have you really won? You've like bullied somebody out of doing something.

They're not, if you're married, yeah, but no one, no guy that's like talking to his mom three times a day is going to be dating a girl and choose the girl. Absolutely. That's, you know. Can I tell you the one that made me the most mad? Yeah. wakes me up to cuddle because he can't sleep. It's on my list. What?

You can't sleep and you woke me up out of my sleep? You know how important sleep is to me. I talked to Bella. I'm like, how many hours did you get? Like, it's so important to me. Like, I need a solid, uninterrupted eight hours. I don't care what you're going through. Don't wake me up for it.

Yeah, and I love that wake up in the middle of the night, have sex. You're like, is this a dream? You know, like, I'm down with this. But if it's a constant, you're waking me up because you can't sleep. It's selfish. Yeah, your needs, don't supersede mine in sleep time. Yeah. I'll be woken up to have sex for a little bit and then get off of me.

On a weekend? You're going to wake me up on a school night? It depends on where you are, what part of the relationship. In the very beginning, you can wake me up when I'm trying to, like, be a cool girl. I will tell you, a couple of these things really made me laugh. But I'll tell you like a few short ones. I'll tell you one, like, really bad one. He signs out of his email before letting me use his computer.

Any of this, like, they're trying to hide shit for me. It feels very purposeful. It just feels really icky. Like, I don't, why are we signing out of your email before you hand me a computer? I wouldn't do it. I don't know. Did his last partner spy on him and getting his email? You know, is it?

Because he doesn't try. trust her too. I don't want someone in my email. Also, why don't you have your own computer? No, I just think she jumped on it really quick to pronounce a MapQuest directions or something. So old. It feels, listen, I don't, I've always been a person. Everything of mine is password protected. You're not getting in my shit. I wouldn't like to find somebody going through myself. But signing out of an email address so somebody can like browse on your computer or something feels weird to me. I mean, I just don't know. Is it because I'm not defending it. I just am like, is it because he had someone go through his email before?

I don't want my, I don't want anybody in my email. It's like everything about me. Don't try to hack it. It's so crazy the password. You'll never get it. You guess mine pretty easily. Raina, don't say that. You guys couldn't guess it.

But okay, but if I was like, Ashley, I need like Google this thing. Let me have your computer first again. Yeah, of course. You wouldn't do that all the time. You wouldn't log out of your email. on the hand me your computer. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like, you're right.

If you do that, you're right, you're right. I mean, especially if it's right in front of them. Like, she's not sneaking into his office, you know, if his home office, like, yes, if it's someone's instinct to immediately shut it down, but I'm just wondering where this came from. I agree. The first is probably one of this could be either.

It's very healthy of you. You want to understand the behavior first. I think that that's great. Doesn't shower every day. Man, after my own heart. Well, do they, Does he smell? You don't fuck him or blow him then.

Yeah. Just you got to shower. I would love to not shower. Like, do you feel like they're dirty? You know what I mean? Any hygiene. Is he working out? Is he bartending on his feet?

Coming home, speaking personal experience. Coming home, he's not showering. And then getting into our bed like that. Yeah. Yeah. That's yucky. I'm always waiting for the day for the person that's dating me to realize I don't shower every day.

But you work out. I know. I hate it. I hate having to shower all the time. I hate being wet. It's trying to, He pees in our backyard sometimes. He says it's closer than the toilet. That was on my list too. You got to let it go. Guys love to pee outside.

They love it. This was the most... I'm sorry, ladies, you can't get mad about this. There's a weird thing. They want to pull their dick out and be outside. My dad did it. Matt probably does it. Guys, I've dated. They love it. Anna is horrified. Bella, what do you think? In New York. In New York. You can't relate. If somebody goes up. New York is different, but I'm sorry.

I know I'm right about this. Do not at me. Any man who like owns a home, he's got a yard. He's pissed in that yard. I never. And they have sons. They like to pee together. They do like that.

My dad and my brother did that. Yeah, my dad. No one's not. Bellet. Text your brother right now. Tell me said hi. Yeah. My dad and my brother did.

It's disgusting. I will say this was of everything I read about not drying off after the shower and all the personal hygiene stuff. This was the most like what are men. And it was the most on the hundreds of submissions. I were just like, this, no woman understands this. I would never be like, the bathroom is two feet away. Let me piss in my own lawn.

I just would, it's not the same. It's like the boxers conversation. It's not the same. We have different genitalia. We have different vibes. Like this is what I'm saying, though. Like some of the stuff, like you realize it as you get older, you're like, guys are going to guy.

I'm not mad about this at all. I don't care. Also, you probably split the house with me. You can paint the lawn if you really need to. But it is just the most, like, women don't do these things. Like, I feel like I have, like a memory unlocked of my mom being like, Lee. Side. You know what?

They just, they just, it's like, I just can't even believe. I like them. It's embarrassing to be strange. I know it's embarrassing. Every man that I meet, I'm like, you're so lucky. I'm in your life, how did you survive without me? How did you ever, like, cook a meal and put on clothing and, like, show up to something at the right address at the right time without me helping you at every step of the way.

Some of those things, some of these are so crazy. Like, of course, the dishes, wet towels on the floor, toilet seat up, doesn't put toilet paper on the roll. He puts it on top of the roll, not closing cabinets, not closing drawers, insane, leaving all the lights on, leaving his pants, socks, shirts draped over the couch. Men just get undressed in the middle of the living room and like let their clothes just be in there. This is exactly like what I'm saying, what are men? You know how I know I was blacked out? I'm not doing it. You know, I'm not doing it. I know I was blacked out the night before because I wake up and my stuff is everywhere. That's how I know I was so drunk.

My brain was so flooded with alcohol. I was like, I'll just leave this anywhere. But men, they just exist like that. But then I'm like, not all men. You know? Like we know so many guys. Like we know so many great high functioning guys that would never dream of doing this stuff. They're probably all peanut side.

I'll tell you that. But they're not doing all this other stuff. So it's a not all men situation. but he snacks aggressively. Like we need a budget for it and I'm not fast enough and then they're gone. Too much snacking. Doesn't repost stories. I tag him.

His ass crack is always out. That's my dad. That's all the half of times. Golfing every Saturday. Listen, sometimes you got to let that shit fly too. But again, is it an obsession?

Is it like they can't go to a wedding with you because they have to golf, you know? But if it's like, if that's how they spend their Saturday, you've got to let them fly. If you're spending time with them, you know, if you're like very minimal time spent, they take their whole Saturday up. I know a couple like that. She's like, he's going to go off every Saturday all day. It's whatever. I go do my thing with my girlfriends, you know?

I just think this is one of those things in the reverse that I would be like, I wouldn't want to be treated like that. There was this one thing that was really special to me, like a sport. I can't relate. But I wouldn't want to be told, like, don't do this. Like, if I really loved it, this is one of my two days off, I wouldn't want to be told, don't do this. Yeah, again, it's the same thing.

I dealt with the guy that really needed to, like, he had to watch football all day and Saturday to the point where, like, again, he couldn't go to like a wedding, you know, like multiple times. Like that's, I don't want that. It's an obsession and it's affecting our relationship. But if it's like there's a big thing you need him to do, they do it. But most other Saturdays they golf. This one was just a little heavier.

Refuses to discuss money with me because he makes less than me. I mean, I've been in, is this my ex? I've been in this relationship twice. It is, it's not good. And I have made a lot of big mistakes regarding money. You just have to acknowledge this is not going to be a. fun conversation, but we have to have it. We will have, this will be good for our future.

Let's have, like, 20 to 30 minutes of uncomfortability. Discomfort. Uncomfortability is not a word. Let's have 20 or 30 minutes of discomfort for, like, a future of comfortability. Comfort. Comfort. Comfort. Comfort.

Discomfort for comfort. I'm just, I'm not doing it ever again. I'm not not having the money conversation because somebody's like, it hurts my penis. It makes it go down. I'm not doing it. We're having the conversation. Are you going to tell how much you make?

It depends. Is that how much I'm making at the time? It gets tough. I mean, but refusing to talk about it because he feels what emasculated or... We don't have to have a conversation that looks like me saying to you, I know I make 10x what you make or 4x or whatever it is 2x, but I don't care that you make a little bit less money than me and you're like, it hurts your male e-na.

Like, we have to talk about this stuff. Yeah. I wonder what's going on. Like, is it because they, like, it's so drastic and like he can't take vacations or something. that's not like, I mean, vacations are expensive. I'm just saying like, is it affecting their relationship or he's just like, we're both making money and I don't want to know that you make more

or something? I wonder. Well, there's so many. So many. I don't know if this episode just breaks records, maybe we'll do a part two because there's ones we didn't even get to. Oh, I have a huge list. Yeah. Like there's so much more. But yeah, there's lots of reasons to be annoyed with your partner.

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