Girls Gotta Eat - The 7 Steps to Manifesting Your Best Life with Roxie Nafousi

Episode Date: June 26, 2023

Everyone talks about manifesting, but do they actually know how to do it? We're so excited to have manifestation expert and 2x bestselling author Roxie Nafousi walk us through the seven steps of manifesting to get what you want in your romantic life, career, friendships, finances, and more. In addition to the actionable steps, we also discuss overcoming tests from the universe (*cough* like your ex reappearing), the importance of gratitude (but why it's not always the answer), and handling jealousy (both when you feel it and when others are projecting it onto you). Before Roxie joins us, we recap Rayna's bicoastal birthday parties, our trip with Bill Greenberg, and the new guy in Ashley's life. Enjoy! Follow Roxie on Instagram @roxienafousi and check out her books Manifest and Manifest: Dive Deeper. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Pretty Litter: Get 20% off your first order at prettylitter.com/gge with code GGE. ZocDoc: Go to zocdoc.com/gge and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for free and book a top-rated doctor. Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first month's subscription and free shipping at nutrafol.com when you use promo code GGE EarthBreeze: Go to earthbreeze.com/gge and subscribe to save 40%. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Everything matters and it's all a reflection. How worthy do you really believe you are of joy, love, happiness, and abundance? Episode of Girls Gotta Eat. Welcome back. The way you roasted this outfit. Oh my God. It's just jean shorts and sweatshirt? It's booty shorts and Air Force ones.

You're about to be in like a city girl's video. Like your backup dancer. These are a little tight. Excuse us, Azul. It's just I don't see you wear Daisy Dew. and Air Force One's a lot. I don't know if I've ever seen it. What is the vibe?

You're like, are you going to a barbecue? Like, what are you doing? Tessa looks so good today, so I want to step it up too. It's the best outfit. It is really cute. It's such a vibe. I know. I noticed her dress on the Zoom call.

She's wearing like a checker and like a spaghetti strap dress. And then she walked in with like the Mary Jane's and I was like, work. And the socks. Yeah. Remember when you told Tessa you were like, I love it up. I love this slutty dress you're wearing. and she was like, what? She was like, I used to wear this to my old job.

This was a work dress. It was like, oh, no, totally go off. But the jacket would have been, like, it wasn't bloody. I mean, it was hot. You can make great comments about what you wear. Is that weird? I'm such a stand of you, Tessa. Well, no, I think it's nice to, like, compliment people's outfits.

The one time I'd ask her, she was happy. She gets to wear broad tops to work. You really are a vibe, Tessa. You're a fashion icon. Yeah, I'm wearing one. Beauty shorts to record. Don't listen to me. I'm trying to think of what you do look like.

It's like 90s music video, backup dancer. Like the little jean shorts with sneakers and like a hoodie. Thank you. I used to, I mean, I usually would wear like a low top sneaker, but they're upstairs. And my thighs have gotten a little thick since. Pelotoning. So these didn't used to be Daisy Dukes. I don't even know if that's a term.

Do you know that term tested Daisy Dukes? Okay. Look at them girls are the Daisy Dukes on. Everybody. I just thought it was from the movie. The Deuce of Hazard. Yeah. That's where it came from.

But it's also like a song. I don't know that. Yeah. Okay. Rina, where were we when you were like, when you said like my hand stinks? With Ryan in the car. We were driving to D.C.

It was like so gross. It said my fingers smell. Not instead my hand stinks. It's my finger smell. And everyone was like, which hand is it? I was like the hand. Oh my God. I don't remember why it smelled.

It did smell. Yeah. Okay. I just remembered it because I actually think, well, my hand smells like cheese because that's all you're letting me eat at this house. Okay, Raina lured me over here. I had to come over. To do our job.

Well, you lured me over here, food lists. I came over without my lunch because you were like, come eat all this food. I have left over for my birthday party. We'll talk about it. And then I get over here three things I pulled out of the fridge. I thought I was going to have free reign of the fridge. I opened the doors. I'm getting so.

juiced up to like make a spread. Everything I pulled out. No, not that. She ate cauliflower. No, not that. No, not that. You can't have that either. Nope, that's something Cape-up.

No. In the text, I said, I would like you guys to shop the fridge. I have cheese, wine, and donuts. I said what I wanted you guys to take. Literally not what I eat midday. That's what I would like you to take. Krispy creams. Take it home to Kate.

Make a little picnic together for dinner. You'll have some Kimis, Sauvian Blanc. I mean, I'll take the wine, but it was just funny that you were like, come over and raid this fridge, bitches. And that just came over. and everything I put a carrot at my mouth. She was like, stop it. Don't eat the vegetables.

And I was like, okay, I'll grab this feta dip, which fed is cheese. I was like, that's what I want. Yeah, that's my special feta cake potter for me. Raina, you're never going to get through the food in that fridge. Also, now you're going to be all drugged up. Like, I'm coming over here Sunday and I'm taking everything. Take all the cheese. So if you guys listened last week, I am getting my yearly breast reduction,

my yearly boob job. I'm not getting another reduction. But as we're recording, I already have a new boob. but it's the just one. You know like Reyna loves just one tip. I showed both of my boobs in my birthday. Oh yeah,

you've been showing two since 2020. It was 2020 and she was like, no more. That's very funny. In 2021, you showed one. In 2022, you showed two. 2023. You showed your pussy. 2021.

First boob job. 2022. Second boom job. 2023. Their boboop. Oh my God. You know, it's so funny. Like if you were showing your boobs and I was like,

a jealous, competitive friend, and I was like, she pulled my pussy out. And everyone's like, whoa, whoa, too far. Free the clip. I did offer to get a vaginaplasty with you the other day. I'll go. Well, I am feeling better about my vagina. Good, I'm glad. I had a moment where I was like, well, we know why. Was it a hot day?

Well, when that lady waxed my pussy in Philly and then put a mirror up to it, like it was a hair salon. It wasn't when you walked out with that jersey and no panties on in front of my dad. It's not happened. This is fake news. You really, just be honest. Labia was below the jersey.

Rayna, that's insane. That's fucked up. No, it wasn't. It's not because you've a long labia. You have a long torso. I don't know. That jersey, and my dad loved it.

That jersey came down to mid thigh. My labia doesn't hang to my... My dad loved it. Your dad did not see my postage. My dad keeps time in how you look. It's probably why on his lips. I could see where you stand. You know what?

People don't even know what we're talking about. Anyway, thank you, Ohio for three amazing shows. It's been a minute, because we were. recorded before we left, but just still wanted to say thank yous, of course, that we ended the Snack City Tour, Part 1, first half of the year with three incredible shows in Cleveland, Columbus, and Cincinnati. And we ride for Ohio so hard. People are like, thank you for being so nice about Ohio. I will defend Ohio. We love our audience there so much. We have the most fun. And we did have the Cavs 216 sticks, which is their like stomp-esque drumline. So they're like

trash cans and like buckets and it's like the street style. And we had that whole squad and they brought us all this nice cab stuff. And we had the Bengals cheerleaders in Cincinnati, the Bengals. And then we had this amazing collegiate drumline called the Black Ice percussion from Wilberforce University in Columbus. So we had three amazing acts. And we just had a great time, but the calves brought us this jersey. And I like put it on just jokingly. We actually did wear them, but I put mine on with like nothing underneath because I had a center of thirst trap. And then I came out and like lifted up my arms to be funny. And you swear I showed your dad in my pussy, but I did it. He doesn't pay attention to anything. You could have walked up to his face with

your bare tits and he wouldn't have noticed. I'm lucky he even knows your name. He's so great. That trip was really special and wonderful and just like the best way to go out and we did these huge shows in May at the biggest theaters we perform at and then we did these three shows in Ohio and every one of them were just so fantastic. It was just like the best way to start the summer and end the tour and my dad came. He said that it's like the sweetest thing. He said watching me perform makes him feel like he did something good with his life. So he drove to Cleveland and came to the show and he just loves Ashley. And we both showed our tits in Cincinnati.

It's the first time. Cincinnati. Cincinnati. I don't even how to spell Cincinnati. That's funny. Cincinnati. Okay. Oh, to wrap up the former conversation, I'm having a boob job tomorrow, which will have been

five days ago. So I talked about it last week, but I'll give you guys updates as it comes. I didn't mean to be so flippant about it. I have some scar tissue I need to remember it. Well, you talked about it last week. So that's what I did. And Ashley's picking me up this time. Yeah. I started with my most neurotically, like, I'll take care of you, friend, Emily. And then the next

boob job, Jeremy, because Emily couldn't come. Where was I for the second one? You had your sister and lesbian shower. Oh, right. Oh, yeah. And Jeremy, not so nurturing, but that's okay. And then, so I'm upgrading from the nurturing level of Jeremy and I've you. And now all my friends have had the chance to pick me up at the hospital. Third time's a charm. Yeah. So would you call this a breast Augmentation, though, is that accurate? It's not a reduction. Yeah. They're just going to remove some scar tissue and move around some breast tissue.

I don't know what they're going to do in there, but... They're going to put a needle in my arm. Four hours later, I'm going to wake up and something will have happened. Okay, and I'll be there. I'm excited. But that trip was really long. Like, we took this trip. How long are we on?

Like, nine days. You're on, like, 10 days? I was on 10 days, yeah. I was so exhausted. Like, I was not okay. On my birthday on Sunday, Melanie texted me, happy birthday, and I wrote her back, Happy Birthday. I love you.

You wrote back. Dead's over 10 a.m. My mom was like, you seem really tired. Maybe you're anemic. As people get older, they become even. I was like, well, you try being in six cities in seven days until you're not exhausted. Well, so we did these three shows, three back to back, Friday, Saturday, Sunday nights. And then you went to Pittsburgh and I went to Delaware.

And that Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, like, I truly feel like I got to relax. Like, it truly felt like time off. We had like a call here and there. But we really set it up. So we finally actually got to relax. after the tour and it was really so rejuvenating. And then I went to New York and spent the weekend in New York and it was such a long trip, but I still feel fine because I really feel like I got a vacation for once, sort of.

I was in Delaware with my family and of course Baby Jay and I went to yoga and rode my bike and laid in the sunshine and really felt like it did a lot for me to then go straight to New York and of course just hit the ground running and have like a crazy weekend, lack of sleep, all the things. But I still feel like that reset me a lot. and it was just so wonderful to do that at the end of the first half of the tour, like actually be able to take a day, relax, have some time with our families, of course. But that is so funny that you wrote happy birthday back.

I like read the text message. I was like, am I good? If I'm like really not okay. Well, you've been so tired. Like, what was the... I've been really tired lately. When was it when you just kept sleeping? On my birthday?

I don't know. Like, was in Cincinnati when she just kept sleepy? Yeah, you went ahead of day. I slept for like 10 hours that I before. A nap for the sleep. Oh, that's what it was. You just like, kept just sleepy. We were like, that you might have mono.

Yeah. I took three naps in a day in Sacramento. Yes. I napped on the plane on the way there. I took a morning nap and an afternoon nap. So am I still holding the record for like a naps in a day? Yeah. And also I just,

I don't justify this to anybody. But like, we work all day long and then we have to go do a show at eight. We get to sound check at six. It's a lot. Yeah. People ask what we do during the day. I'm like, So I went to my parents' house also, and my dad said this thing to me.

I was like, I can't tell if that's an insult. I worked out both days I was there. So I went to the gym. Him and my mom lived next door to each other. So in their community, I went to their gym. And my dad was like, I'm proud of you for doing that. There was a tinge of like, you should be doing that. What?

Proud you for working out? His whole personality is working out. So he just wants me to have that in common with him. Well, yes. So we told this at the Cleveland show. He obviously came into town and I knew he was in town and I wasn't able to go to lunch. because I had to take a nap and I obviously saw him and were able to bond with him later that evening and then the next morning for breakfast. But I was in my robe in the hotel in Cleveland and I needed to fill my water bottle up.

And I had checked the gym out earlier to see if they had a peloton. So I knew there was like a water thing in the gym. So I went up to fill my water and was like, I'm not putting on clothes to do this. Like I'm going to crawl right back into bed and nap. So I had my robe on. So I went up to the eighth floor and went in the gym with my robe and filled my water bottle. And as I walked in the gym, I was like, there was this, like, little old man running on the treadmill. I mean, not many, like, 76-year-old five-foot four men are around on a hotel gym.

And I was like, I know Raina's dad loves to run. So I did, like, see him. And I was like, I think that's him. But A, I don't want my contacts in. And then, B, what I don't want to do is startle this man and have him fly off the treadmill and the B response. Look at you in that robe. And then I was like, that's going to be an awkward thing to even talk. to him, I'm just going to, like, get my water and leave.

And I didn't think he saw me, but then, like, I told him later. And he was like, obviously, that was me. And he was like, I did see this lady come in in a robe. And I was like, is she sleepwalking? It was so funny. Is she sleepwalking? That is very funny. Like, that's what you do in the middle of the night.

You're in your pajamas. You go get water. So it's 3 p.m. And I'm in a robe filling up my water thing. Of course, he was like, someone's sleepwalking. I really enjoyed watching you too. act. God, I love him so much. And he kept farting. Raina!

Stop! Don't put him on blast! He farted so loud and then gaslit me and the thing there was something wrong with me. He was like, what? This is the original gaslighting. Like twice. He farted so loud and I looked at him like, are you serious? And he looked at me like, are you serious? I looked at Tesla like, is he serious? Anyway, we will see you guys in the fall. Yeah. The rest of the week was really, I did do a little bit of self-talk because, you know, my birthday was coming up.

And I think that you do a lot of check-ins with yourself about your life when your birthday is coming up. And I just was like... You're not doing well enough. No. I want to make eight figures. You haven't accomplished anything. I want to make eight figures.

I want to be six feet tall. That's a call back from something we just recorded that we'll be out in like three weeks. It's fine. So I was like planning both birthday parties, one in New York and one in L.A. And I was just like, I can't live to do this. Like, plan both of these. and then two really hard travel days. And I'm also just having a situation with somebody in my life

that's a little stressful and sad. So I just had to do a lot of self-talk to be like, here's the list of things that are upsetting me. Here's what I can deal with today. Here's what I can address this afternoon or tomorrow. Here's what can be put off long term. And here's what I'm really happy about. I had these great shows.

I got to see my amazing family. We went to New York. We did all this press. It was really fun. We did these barstle shows with these people we're friends with. And I get to have these. birthday parties and I get to be able to provide a nice experience for people and it helped me to really reframe. But yeah, it's not all like sunshine and rainbows and I had to have some real

self-talk last week. Yeah, that's interesting. I didn't talk to you like in full about really all that. I mean, I knew you were stressed and you left me like one crying voice note. How many, how much did we cry in voice notes last week? I cried all the way down the FDR voice zoning with you. But I think we had a lot of like self-reflection less like we had too much time to ourselves. That's what it was. We actually had to take a vacation and we took some time to actually think and reflect. That voice started as I was crying. I was like, stop it.

Well, what happened was that Tessa and I got our wires crossed. She thought that this car was confirmed and I thought it was confirmed. And we both thought that the other person had confirmed it. So I realized at 8 o'clock in the morning at the end of the Ohio trip, it's not your fault, I thought that I was going to take a car and then I realized to 8 a.m. I don't have a car or a flight. And so I was just like, fuck. Day up.

So exhausted. We done these three shows. I was so excited to get home and see my family. And I was like, oh, I have to like fix this now. And I had a total meltdown. I know. Yeah, that would be a problem for anybody. Like, you think you're going to travel that day.

You realize you wake up in the morning. You're tired as fuck. You've been working, busting your ass. And then you're like, don't have what you need to do to travel. You have to figure it out that day. Would you have to take two layovers? Yeah. So it was a bummer.

It's not how I wanted to spend my day. But I also just had to be like, I mean, look at these last three days and look all great this is. And you get to have two birthday parties. And that's like so special. You're able to fix it. You have the resources and stuff. I said that to you as I was playing up to the airport.

I was like, I'm just glad that I have the resources to fix that. Because it's stuff like, I don't know. 10 years ago, I would have been like, I'm fucked. Absolutely. You know, I live in Cincinnati now. I'm going to start walking. And it was not Texas's fault or your fault. It was the fucking company's fault.

Yeah. So, anyway. But yeah, I think birthdays make you do a lot of self-talk. Your birthday's coming up too. You've done a lot of self-talk about it and you evaluate your life. And I was able to compartmentalize some stuff and work through some other stuff. And ultimately, I'm really grateful and both parties really great. And I feel really just happy and grateful.

for what it was. I had a fun boat party in New York here three and then a party at home in L.A., which was really nice. It was really great. And, you know, the boat, we've done this boat in New York for this third year you've done it. And it was awesome, obviously, and we loved hanging out with our New York friends. But what I really liked about the

L.A. party was people were like making friends at that party too. So like, I brought my other best friend, Kate, and nobody's better than Kate. She just is so outgoing and funny and can talk to anybody. Always in a good mood. She's the top. And I didn't need to hang out with her all night.

You know, like, I brought her in a place where she didn't know anybody really besides you. Some people she'd met, like, once or twice. And I kind of forgot even half the time she was there. She met so many people. I mean, she's still new-ish to L.A., you know, so all these people just kept meeting each other. And then it was so funny because Michael Blowstein came to comedian. He's been on the show, him and Trevor Wallace have the podcast stiff socks. And we just love him.

You guys should follow him if you don't. And Alyssa Amoroso, our new friend, publicity, she was like, wait, it's so funny. I don't follow a lot of comedians. And that guy just came up in my algorithm and I went on like a deep dive. And I think he's so funny. I'm obsessed to them. And like I walk in and he's here.

Like just funny things like that. It was almost like a lot of these people also just moved here or within the year or whatever it is. So a bunch of people met each other and like made new friends too. So that was like a fun energy. It was like a different energy as opposed to New York. Everybody knows each other. They've all been this fucking boat for the past three years.

You know, whatever it is. Nothing makes me happier than when two of my friends that are not connected at all meet and they like each other. and I'm like, oh, I picked well. Yeah. Also, my friend Lisa, who also lives like next door to you, she's a new friend. And she was like, I'm such a Michael Blalstein fan. I'm obsessed with stiff socks and then he was there.

And I was like, Michael Blowstein, when she said, hit at the party. Yeah. So that was really fun. It was just nice to feel like you made the right decision to move somewhere, which I do. Yeah. Okay, we have a big fun announcement on the vibes side. So excited. We have this incredible new feature in the app.

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So I was in New York. I stayed a little longer than you. I was there for the whole weekend. And I was there with a guy and like spent the weekend with him. But I'm like telling this. Because like he's going to listen. His friends will listen. You know, I want to just.

Mom might listen. I don't think it's moms. A snack head yet. Got a lot of moms at the shows lately. Yeah. And it was just really great. I mean, I've kind of mentioned him a few times like lightly, like someone I've been talking to.

and saw on the tour. And we decided to meet up in New York because he lives in the East Coast. And it was just like a wonderful weekend. I had such a great time with him. I obviously plans to see him again. I talk to him all the time, you know, every day.

And we just really like each other. I mean, so it's just nice. I mean, he's just intentional and really good looking and really attracted to him. And he makes me laugh. And he's just like a good guy. And I just like feel really positive about it. And it was just so fun to like run around New York and have like a really

great New York weekend. I mean, obviously he'll come here at some point and I'll visit him, I guess. But that was just... He'll say a thing and then I'll say a thing. And then I'll say a conversation. Yeah. But we just, we had like good dinners and we just did some stuff that I haven't actually done in New York. We were like outside and he met a couple of my friends. And we just had a great time. What? I was laughing about when Melanie and Chelsea and I were kneeling down. tell this. First of all, we had the birthday party on Thursday night. I went out with somebody all night after that, and I'll decide if I want to talk about it later, but it was a special night.

Special nights for everybody. Special night with a special person. I woke up Friday real banged up, and I decided I couldn't go out that night, and two of my girlfriends came over to the hotel, and I knew you guys had plans to have drinks in the bar downstairs when we were like, let's go check in the bar. And we were like, looking through the window at you guys, taking photos, and I was too jacked up. I didn't want to be like, hey, I wish you were to come. I would have come in. I would have come in too hot. But we were taking pictures of you and the staff was like, you have to stop this.

Okay. So, ma'am, this jogged my memory of something that was really funny. So he met me at the hotel. Just one really cute thing that he did was that he got his own hotel room for that first night, knowing I was going to, he was going to stay with me, but to like not impose on me and be in my space. And he got in a few hours before I was even free. So he just booked himself a hotel room and put his stuff there. And it was like very nice and unexpected and like very adult.

and I love that. So he came to meet me at the hotel without his things. His things were like at a hotel across the street and met me in the bar for a drink. And I kind of had like a hope that we might like go up to the room like before dinner or whatever. So I actually didn't even bring anything down to the hotel bar besides my room key. My phone was charging anyway. But I just left everything. And I felt nice to like be totally free like nothing, no purse, no nothing, just to roll up to the bar.

So we wrap up and I was like, I need to go back up to the room to get my phone and get my things. And of course we go up to the room and we just like start making out right away. whatever, one thing leads to another. And the windows are open. Like, the blinds are open, right? We just didn't shut them. And the whole thing with a standard hotel is that like, like, it's built for people, like, watch you. So I never know what's going on in hotels. Like, are the windows frost, can they see in completely? And we've been asking this the last seven times we stayed there and I'd never think about it as I walk by it. I know, like, I never check. And people are like, if you can see someone, they can see you. I'm like, really, though. So the- One of my glass. It was bright. The sun had set yet. And the blinds were open. We, like, never shut them. I'm in a corner.

room and we just weren't paying attention. And so we do our thing. And then we go to dinner. And I get a text from you. And the first thing that says is we saw you. And I was like, I literally like felt like I was going to throw up. And of course, like you didn't see me. You weren't in a condo across the way. But like all I heard when you said like, we just saw you was like, oh my God, they saw us hooking up. Because it was already in my head that people would have seen us. And so then I'm saying, of course, she just met in the bar and I saw your pictures and stuff. But my immediate reaction, to just hooking up with somebody and having the blinds open

and then you saying we all saw you. Wait, I actually never asked for Clarion on this. Isn't this weird when somebody jogs your memory and you're like, I never followed up? You said I thought you meant like hooking up and I was like, why would I have seen her hooking up in her hotel room on a different floor than me? Right. All you said about it was like,

damn, before dinner go off queen. I know, I never was like, how would I have watched you hook up? Right. Never occurred to me to ask. Okay. Anyway, great weekend. This is like the embodiment to me of like that meme that says, if he likes you, you'll know and if he doesn't, you'll be confused.

And it's nice to meet somebody that's intentional. I think that like it does feel easy when it's the right person. I'm not saying he's the right person. I don't have any idea. He hasn't gotten through me yet. But I don't know. But I do think it's like a really nice start to any relationship. When you just feel like this person is intentional,

they call when they say they're going to, they text me and they say that. There's no like anxiety. Is this person going to show up? And all of my best relationships have been like, that. Yes, I'm glad you brought that up. This is still new, but also arguably that is the most exciting time and the most anxiety-ridden time, right? It can be. It can be. It shouldn't be, and the way that I feel is zero percent anxiety about anything and 100 percent security in how this person feels about me and that I obviously feel the same. And you don't always get that.

And you might not even know what that feels like yet. If you're listening to us and you're a younger listener, I don't even know that I felt that. until late in my 20s, maybe. I mean, maybe like my high school boyfriend, like one other guy throughout my 20s, but like the first person that actually turned into a real long-term relationship where there was zero of that, where it was just like, you wake up, you have a good morning text from them, you know what they're doing, they know what you're doing. I'm not saying you need to communicate all day long, but like you kind of do and you know

how they feel about you and they tell you and you can trust they're going to say what they're going to do. It's the best feeling in the world and it actually is like, it's not that rare. It should just be what it is when something is right. Again, I don't know what the future holds for us, but that is how it should feel. And I was watching this one TikTok and this woman was like, the one thing you should have with a guy,

she's just talking to women, is that he's sure about you. And she's like, I can work with anything else. Like, that's the one thing. If there's one thing, it's just that they should be sure about you. She's like, you can have a fucking broke ass bitch loser, whatever, doesn't have a job. But if he's sure about you, I can work with it. That's her.

She used that example. Like it was just something funny of the way she said it. She goes, I can work with it, you know, but that's the number one thing. And it really does ring true. And it's like, it's tough. It's tough because we all get bogged down in the like having a crush or dating someone or situationships and you're unsure. We've dealt with it as evolved as we are, as old as we are, as much information as we have.

We still get into those. And I've done that within the last couple years. Like, what am I going to hear from this person and this and that? And like, this is a reminder of like how it should actually feel. Absolutely. And every really good relationship in my life has felt like this in the beginning, has felt intentional. I have felt secure. I have never once felt like, are they going to show up? Are they going to make the next plan with me? And when I haven't felt like that, I can't actually tell you a time when I turned it into a serious relationship. Because like if somebody is being like wishy-washy about me emotionally, I haven't seen it turn into a relationship. And even people who really care about you, like my ex who came to Florida with us, he's great when he's in person and I'm in front of him or we're on the phone. But like, then I don't hear from him for three weeks. And I'm, I don't hear from him for three weeks. And I'm, I I know the last conversation we had, I was sort of just like riding. I was like, you're not even proud of me. And we got off the phone.

And he called me back and he was like, I think you are so wonderful and so pretty. And I haven't heard from him in three weeks because like that's just the kind of person that is. And like if somebody makes you feel like you just don't know if they're going to show up, like that can't be your person. And this person, for example, they can blow in it out of my life, but I know what it is. Yeah. And it's not going to take me down. But yeah, it's nice to feel that security in the beginning. And I always used to like joke with you that like I never, my ex-fiance, I never thought about him ever during the day.

I know. And it's not that I don't get like gitty to hear from the person. It's just like I can sit down at a work meeting and be present. I can sit down with my girlfriends and be present. And I don't have to worry like, are they going to fall through this plan I made with them later? I know. And we have to remember that, yes, you can be excited. But like some of the butterflies you speak of are just anxiety.

And I've thought about that too because, you know, we had this incredible weekend and then parted ways. And then I just was assessing how I felt. because it wasn't this longing or something. It was just like a comfort. Yeah, I'll talk to them when I get to the airport. You know what I mean? Like it was just, I don't know. You're so right.

Like you don't actually think about them as much when it actually is like really healthy, I guess. And you think about the good stuff and the giddy stuff, but like the mental gymnastics of like, what is this going to be? Yeah. It just goes away from me when somebody really likes me and I can feel that.

I know you kind of have to decipher the difference because you're so used to feeling like this butterfly feeling that actually could be rooted in anxiety and uncertainty. There are people, I think, that, like, treat you so bad or so indifferent that when they treat you well, it feels so good. And that's, you got to check in with yourself about that too. Like, is the fact that they made a plan a really big deal,

or are they just so shitty to me all the time that it feels better when they finally do one nice thing? Well, it's like that intermittent reward. Like, you never know when it's coming. They did that study with, like, rats where you never know when the reward is coming. So you keep like waiting around for it. But I've had this relationship after my ex-fiance

I dated this guy and he just like never showed up. But when he did, it was like we'd see a movie. We'd take a walk in Central Park. Then we'd go see a museum exhibit. Then we'd go to the moment and sit at the bar and have this amazing night. And I'd be like, this is the best person I've ever met. And it's like, no, we just did one nice thing for me

out of the last 15 shitty things he did for me. I thought it was like so great when he would do something nice for you. But it wasn't. He just was like acting normal sometimes and terrible to me the rest of the time. Yeah, exactly. Okay, so then I just wanted to tell you about a couple fan things. Just shout out to the girls' guys audience. One thing I got this DM, we were sitting at dinner because I showed it to him like right away. And I got this DM from this girl and she was like, Ashley, I just saw you walking around the East Village. You look stunning and you were with the most beautiful man,

all caps. And I just thought it was so funny. And I showed it to him and the rest of it was just like, beautiful man. Like I just kept like bringing it up. I was like, that's just so nice. Like they're just so So sweet. You wore a dress this weekend. I wore a dress this weekend. I was so excited. I wasn't in the dress of them, but I did look stunning. No, you look cute.

I was snooping on you. And then the other thing. I haven't told you this yet. So we did dinner. We went to a cocktail bar. Then we actually decided to stay out and have fun. So we went out. We were like dancing at the folly on Friday night, which is open until four.

So we're walking down, Houston back to the hotel at three in the morning. Three. I'm not kidding. And I see these two girls. And one girl, she like, rushes, up to me. She's like, oh my God, Ashley, I'm such a fan. She's like fan-girling. She was just like so cool and so cute. I just love our listener so much. And he kind of was like hanging back. And then she goes, you, whatever you're doing, step it up. She's like, this one right here. You think you're going to date her?

Like literally, it was a thing. Was she slurring? No. That is so funny. I'm never not slurring at 3 a.m. She might have had some alcohol, but she wasn't like slurrying. And I was like this, girl. She like laid into him. She's like, you're going to be with Ashley. You better step it up. And he was like, what did I do? I wouldn't even say that. So I believe it. I wouldn't say it. And then she disappears into the night. Didn't want a photo. Nothing. She just goes. So then we're walking on the street. We probably got like a block away. And I hear a scream from down the down from down the street. And that was when her friend realized who I was. Her friend doesn't really watch the podcast. She just listens. And she was like, oh my God. That's girls. So they run back down. Her and the friend. are running towards us, and then we had to get, like, the photos and stuff like that. And the main girl, I'm pretty sure her name was Aisha. I say that because it'll be relevant. And so we're walking. We turn on to Bowery to go up to the hotel.

And then there's these, like, three dudes standing around, like, maybe like older dudes or, like, standing around outside this bar or whatever. And they just start hollering. They were like, look at him, walking on the right side of the sidewalk. What? Yes. So they were like, look at this gentleman. Look at this king.

It's just a crazy experience. I know. They were like, that's right. You better be walking on the street side of the sidewalk, like, which we've talked about before. I mean, we were walking, we were like holding hands and he was like on the street side. And he goes, where's Aisha to see this? I love a callback king. I thought it was so funny. We were like, Aisha, are you seeing this? I'm stepping it up. It was just like the funniest, like, two things. Ayesha, if you're listening, stepped it up. What a queen. It was just very

funny. It was just very funny. Because someone kind of knocked him down and then he got like built back up by a bunch of dudes. It's cilantro. That is so great. that's like all I'll say after I've talked for 20 minutes about it but yeah it was just like a really great weekend and that's kind of like what's going on to stay of the union I love to see you thriving thanks all right I think that's it we're taking off next week for taking a vacation imagine that so we are going away for your birthday to Mexico I'm very excited with a huge group of friends to celebrate your birthday I just truly truly cannot wait you have planned this entire thing yourself boat dinner reservations I have to like I have to like have a spreadsheet of everyone's flight information to get the cars organized from the airport, the meals, yeah, the reservations, the whole thing.

I really do it all. So I hope, yeah, it'll be so fun. I just want the planning to be over. Yeah, I know. I fully feel like, well, I appreciate you. I'm so excited for our first vacation since last summer. Our business managers said something about like people that like pretend that vacations are work trips

and we're like, we don't take vacations. So it will never happen. Yeah. I was like, right off everything. Scott. It's all work. No, this will be so good. I can't wait.

This is just such a solid group. I think there's 11 of us, maybe 12. And we'll follow along. But yeah, we won't see you guys next week, but we'll be back on the 10th. Yeah, so we have a really amazing episode today with a fantastic guest. And then we have a mega July lined up for you guys. Yeah. We have some really unbelievable guests.

So we're really excited for what's to come. Okay, let's head over to our interview with Roxy. Okay, guys, we are really excited to welcome our guest here today. She is a renowned inspirational speaker and the author of Manifest, a book which will help teach you everything you need to know in order to manifest the life of your dreams. You have seen her in Vogue, Forbes, Glamour, and more. Please welcome to the show, Roxina Fusei.

Oh, thank you so much. Hi, thank you for having me. Of course. Thank you for being here. It's for coming all the way. Thank you. It's so nice to be here. Your place is so like Zen vibes.

Oh, good. That means a lot coming from you. Thank you. It would be bad if you were like, I feel anxious. I hate it here. It's too intense. No, it's so calm. And now it's like immediately felt calm.

It does have like Bali vibes. I walked in and I was like, I must live here. I will do anything to live here. Was it already like that? I didn't do anything. I just moved in. Really? Oh, my God, what a find.

Yeah. Ashley and I were very specific about where we wanted to live in L.A. She had this very specific little triangle she wanted to live in and so did I. So it was like just this area or nothing. I mean, it's really manifest. I was going to say that's like step one. Be clear on your vision. It was so clear. Like where I live was so specific. I live like a block from my best friend, my other best friend besides Raina. And it's kind of funny that we both chose Airbnb's and then moved into homes like one block from them.

Like we really were so specific and like this is where we want to like live and have a life. You definitely manifest. I did it. I love it. Yes. Well, tell us about your work and what you do and you are. Yeah, tell us your whole life story. Oh my God. Okay. So I'll give you a bit of the background. So growing up, I came from like an Iraqi Muslim family and grew up in Oxford and was definitely, as far as I can remember very much, an outsider. 9-11 happened and all Muslims were basically seen as terrorists, but particularly Iraqis. So I was horrifically bullied and just started, you know, from then to really, really reject myself and who I was. and I had a lot of shame around just being me. And so I changed my name from Rowan to Roxy,

and that was kind of my first attempt, I guess, to escape myself. And I moved to schools. And that kind of self-hatred and self-loathing carried me throughout my whole life. And then when I left school, I found cocaine. And I realized I would have a line and suddenly I'd feel confident. And so I then fell into this like 10 years of addiction. and it was, you know, for me, cocaine was like my number one thing. I just loved it.

And I was smoking like 25 cigarettes a day. They used to go with fagash lill. Like you would never see me without a cigarette in my mouth, like, ever. And within that time, I was obviously also suffering from depression, you know, and anxiety. I had no career whatsoever. Literally made no money. He had a string of toxic relationships. And I feel like he's like, I don't have to comfort you.

He's like hearing your story. He is like weirdly therapy. Like when you're upset. That is so sweet. I was having the worst day and he like would not get off of me. Oh, that is so sweet. He was very sweet. He's intuitive.

So then I hit kind of many rock bottoms along the way. And I think anyone that's had any experience with addiction knows what that's like. And I hit kind of one of my last ones in May 2018. It was five years ago. And I called a friend of, mine and I was like, what shall I do? And she was like, oh, you should listen to this podcast or manifesting. And I was like, fuck it, I'll try anything. But this friend, she's got Sophia, she won't want me saying this. She is quite woo. Like, she likes out there things. So I thought

it was just going to be like full of shit. But I was like, whatever, I'll do it. Yeah. But I listened to this podcast and I realized that that wasn't what it was about. It was really all about your self-worth. And I think in that moment, I realized that I had been manifesting, but in the wrong direction, I'd been keeping myself stuck in this place. So I went home and I started researching everything I could on manifestation. And two weeks later, this Australian guy called Wade messaged me on a dating app on the 7th of June 2018. And exactly a year to the day on the 7th of June 2019, our baby boy wolf was born. Oh my gosh. And what happened then was that it wasn't that I got pregnant and I was like, oh my God, this is great, life's

Fairfite, I'm animates and everything. Basically, I got pregnant. I was like, okay, what the fuck? I've got no money. He's got no money. I suddenly had to give up all my addictions, which meant that 28 years of pain came rushing through. And I went into like the darkest depression I've ever been through.

Every day was a true struggle to be alive. I replaced all the drugs with food, so I gained like 75 pounds. I stopped leaving the house. I was completely reclusive. This is when you're pregnant? Yeah, when I was pregnant. So what had happened? And I feel like for me,

this was like a gift from the universe. It was a week before I found out I was pregnant. I'd started something on my Instagram called Agnionn Sundays. Now I've realized that Americans don't know what Agnion is. And I was like, should I know what that is? It's like a column. Like an advice column? Yeah, exactly.

So I, so it's like mini advice column where I just said to people, I don't know why I started it, but I was like, I just love giving my friends advice. So I was like, if people ask me questions, I can give them advice. Anyway, I'd started this a week before. And then when I fell pregnant, this one advice column became my purpose, my sense of meaning. Because obviously, I still had no job. I wasn't doing anything else. But through my pain, there was one day of the week where I was of service to others.

And it gave me a reason to kind of keep going. And I realized that through my pain and through my vulnerability and through my openness, I could help other people feel better, so it wasn't for nothing. And so I realized then that that's what I was going to do. And so I would visualize myself that when I had this baby, I was going to make my life the best it could be. And I also immersed myself in self-development as a whole. I would listen to like all different kinds of speakers and philosophers and thinkers,

and I would read and watch YouTube. And I just kind of brainwashed myself with it almost. And then as soon as I gave birth to Wolf, I was like, this is it. And five months after he was born, I hosted my first workshop in November 2019. And three and a half years on, you know, I don't mean to brag, but I'm a double Sunday times bestselling author. Yes, you did. Yeah.

And, you know, my life is completely different. And, you know, I get to do what I wanted to do, what I set out to do, which is try and help empower people all over the world. and it really is all thanks to manifestation, but specifically the seven steps to manifesting that I developed. I kind of had practiced on myself and then wanted to teach it with the world and it works. Oh my gosh. I love this story. I love it.

Are you okay? No, I'm good. I'm so inspired by anybody that just turns their life around like that. And I think that, you know, it's important to communicate that it's never too late to, like, pick something else. And something we do want to talk about today is feeling like, where is my purpose? And am I ever going to find it? And it sounds like you really did and it's possible and I just love a story.

I really am so invested in the story too. But I had like one question. So this guy came along, he messaged you. Were you still having addictions and stuff where you kind of started to heal a little bit? So like on our first date, I mean, it was like we met at 12 and I was in the bathroom during Codeway too. Okay.

He didn't tell him. So you've like changed in this relationship. I just find that fascinating. Like you were a different person when you met. Oh my God, yeah. Yeah. I mean, immediately we had this like connection. I was like, I manifested you and the universe brought us.

together and I opened up to him a few weeks later and was like, by the way, I've been drugs the whole time. Every time we've been together and every day. He was like, oh, like, he was so surprised. I was like, I've been high like the whole time. There's so many people I would have had to say that to in college. All of them. Oh, I thought you were going to say so many people that would have had to say that to you.

No, I did drugs the whole time. But he was amazing. He never did drugs. He was like totally different to me. Wow. He was like, didn't really drink. So you weren't in this like together doing drugs all the time. No, no.

Okay, got it. That was my last boyfriend. But because I had this, like, newfound love, and I had just discovered manifestation, I did want to change. So I had, like, started, like, also, I mean, I tried to give up, like, 100 times to forward, you know what I mean? I didn't know if it would stick, but then obviously when I got pregnant, I had to stick with it.

But I would say that it wasn't that that made me commit. I mean, I didn't go to AA or do the 12 steps or anything. Now I have one drink, but I never have more than one drink. But that's not for me a battle. I just like one drink. You can do it. it. Yeah. I have no desire to have more. But for me, what kept me away from falling back into addiction was this sense of purpose. It was this. Like I remember there was an experiment once of rats.

So they put rats in this cage and they said that if the rats press this button, they'd be given cocaine. And there was nothing else in the cage. And what happened was the rats kept on pressing the button until basically they died. But then they put rats in a different cage, which was almost like rat nivana. So they had. food and other friends and wheels. And the rats didn't do it. And it was just a real sign that it wasn't just the cocaine. It's not just the chemical.

It's the environment. It's where you're at in your life. And I think for me, I realized that if I changed everything else and if I healed what was driving me to escape, and for me personally, I could heal the addiction. Yeah, I love that because I think there's some people that are addicts and that's the way that they're wired and they can't have one drink and they can't do a, bump here and there, or like whatever it may be, not that we're doing bumps here and there, but I think it sounds like it was what it was doing for you is making you feel confident and

out of the self-loathing. And then you've switched that with healthier things. So now you're just addicted to manifesting. I mean, I definitely, I definitely, it's fucking true. I definitely became addicted to work massively. And it's only in the last six months that I've just like found a balance. No, I'm totally kidding. But it's just, it's true. It's different. It's like, you know, you think about why you used to drink so hard or why I used to just binge drink and it's like it's giving me something else or making me feel more confident

or whatever the value is in my life that I used to do. It's not this like addiction necessarily to the alcohol which also people definitely have. So we've brought it manifesting a few times. What is manifesting? What is this man? Okay, so manifesting is using the power of your mind to change and create the reality

that you experience. But I think with manifesting is because it's become such a trend it's also got quite a bad rep. And I think that there are so many misconceptions. And I for sure know that when I first say to somebody, if someone meets me, they don't know me and they say, what do you do? And I say, like, I'm an author.

And they say, what's your book about? And I say, manifesting, I know that they're thinking, oh, that shit. You know, like, it takes a minute to be able to really see this. Like, this isn't a woo book. This really is just a self-help book. And I think a life guide. Well, even if it is just a woo book, if it makes you feel better about your life, then that's fine.

Yeah, no, true. It's just kind of lame that people would look down and manifesting. It's like, oh, I don't know, thinking positive and what I want in life and bringing it to me. How is that so frowned upon? It's so stupid. That's pretty dope. I don't know it works. Work for me.

No, it's so true. And it's not everyone, obviously, but there are these, like, skeptics who, and I think it's because people think that it's just about wishful thinking or it's just about positive thinking. and if you just think hard enough, then, you know, you'll attract it. And obviously that's not what it is at all. It's about so much more than that. But also I think that the term is now used in vocabulary in, like, such the wrong way. Yeah, like everything else.

So it's like, oh, I manifested my handbag or like, I'm manifesting my hot girl summer. You know, I'm like, huh? Like, it's not used in the right way. So I think just the meaning of it has got lost. Sure. I think that some people can look at it as just wishing really hard. Yeah. You know, people want to feel like they're in the driver's seat of their life

and that they're creating these things, they didn't just like really wish really hard to be in this from the universe. So I see what you mean. Okay. So there's so much information about manifesting and there's so much to know about it. And actually, if you listen to kind of all great speakers and thinkers

like I was doing, what I realized that everything they were talking about really fell under this manifesting umbrella. So even if they weren't necessarily always using the word manifestation, so many people, like all things self-development related really kind of fell into this manifestation umbrella, which is like making your life what you want it to be and like changing your reality. And so almost kind of instinctively I came up with these seven steps to manifesting that I felt

explained everything that you need to know about manifestation. And basically I first hosted a workshop of January 2020. And I was like, it was just I had a really small community. And I'm doing this thing called manifesting. Do you guys want to know what it? Like, just I do a workshop on it? And they were like, yeah. So I didn't.

I was like, well, how do I explain it? And like when I say instinctively, I mean, I came up with these seven steps. I was within about five minutes and just wrote it on the notes on my phone and they've always stuck and they like never changed. And I made this claim. I was like, everything you need to know about manifesting. And then I panicked because I was like, shit. And then I would like tentatively like listen to other speakers and be like, oh no, what if something doesn't fit in my seven steps? But it did. Like really everything does fit into one of these seven steps. And this really is a practice that is at its core about self-worth and self-belief and empowerment.

and overcoming self-doubt and the inner critic and low self-worth and all the things that are holding us back. And then it's about taking action. It's about stepping outside your comfort zone. It's about being the person that you want to become. It's also about knowing how to turn your envy into inspiration, embracing gratitude, surrendering and trusting and letting go. It's such a full practice. I'm just so passionate about it. I love all that. Are we going to go through the seven steps? Do you want to?

Yeah, of course. Okay. Okay, so step one, which you guys have already nailed, is be clear in your vision. So this is really about being specific with your goals and your intentions. So I always say that kind of with this step, but you really require is two things.

It's vulnerability and courage. You have to be quite vulnerable with yourself when you're looking at what you want your life to look like one year from now, especially if it's going to be quite different from where you are now, to be able to say like, these are my secret dreams or this are the things that actually in my life I really want to change.

But then you also need a lot of courage. You need courage to dare to like dream big and to like really set ambitious and exciting goals that truly set your soul on fire. And within the book I share different techniques like vision boarding and like I give a step by step guides and manifesting meditations, which I still do all the time. And there's loads of like amazing neuroscience behind the power of manifesting meditations. and visualization essentially and how it primes your subconscious

to reach those goals by filtering out unwanted information and seeking opportunity and seeing opportunity that is in line with those goals. So it's a really powerful practice. So I want to say something about what you were saying. Her and I have been having conversations lately about why we're not attracted to certain types of people anymore. And Ashley specifically said out an intention

that she wants to be in a relationship and the certain type of person that she's looking for and yesterday we were on the phone talking about just why certain people that are a little easier to date or not necessarily what we would go after because if you want, like, a partner that makes sense for you long term. But I think that you do have to then forego what is easy for what you want.

And those things are difficult, you know? And I think that when you sort of have a clearer vision, it's easier to go after it, but also harder because you have to just give up the things that were so easy, the low-hanging fruit, you know? Right. Yeah. 100%.

And actually, that fits so nicely into step four. And I'll say, but that's so, so true. Okay. Step two is remove fear and down. The secret of manifesting is that you manifest what you subconsciously believe you're worthy of receiving. So you can dream about the perfect partner all you want, but if you don't believe you're worthy of unconditional love, then it's a lot harder to receive. And this is the kind of step of the process and the practice that really makes this a self-development practice. And the focus is so much on inner healing.

And, you know, this comes in two parts and one half. You know, this is also about finding like therapists and counselors and healers that can help you on that journey. but it's also about reprogramming your subconscious beliefs that you have about yourself with like through little practices that you can do every day and there's loads and loads in the book that I explained but ways of changing your language and using affirmations but this is like the hardest step for people to do but it's the most important and it's an ongoing journey like you're always discovering new layers of yourself and finding self-love at a deeper layer and every time you do you open up abundance and you attract more abundance into your life step three is aligning your behavior so like I said this is the step that's about taking action, stepping outside your comfort zone. Also, it's about looking at the way you behave and treat yourself day to day because if we're manifesting what we believe are worthy of receiving, you have to remember that everything you do is a reflection of your self-worth. So how you treat yourself, how you move your body, how you fuel it, who you spend time with, like everything matters and it's all a reflection. How worthy do you really believe

you are of joy, love, happiness and abundance? That's so great. I mean, this is what you you do for a living, but you just really just, it's perfect. You just roll through it. It's so well said. I just, I think step two really hits me in the chest because it's like, my mom's always said to me that I, she doesn't use the term date down. She says, you seek out people that aren't necessarily on your level because you don't think you deserve it. And it always annoys me when she says that. But she is probably right. She is right. You are seeking out what you do think that you deserve. And I think that on the service, of course, I think I deserve somebody wonderful and amazing and on my level in every category that I want. But she's always told me I've sought people out like that.

But it's interesting because what you think you're deserving of in your professional life, like you think you should be the top top best in the world so successful. You know, so it's like, I don't know the answer, but it's interesting that someone like you, for example, is like, I'm such a bad bitch. I should be rich and famous and successful and all this stuff. And it's not even a fake it to you make it. You truly believe that you've earned all the, this and you could get even more, but yet. Professionally, I do. But then in the love life, it's a different.

It's fascinating that different parts of your life, you have different self-worth or something. Definitely. Yeah, I mean, I'll tell you what every job I've ever had, I walk in there, I'm the best person there, and I will crush it and I will outperform every person there. You're right, professionally. So why don't we think that when we walk into a room with people to date

that you're not the best person there and you deserve the belly? I don't know, it's interesting. I will walk into a room and I feel like I can talk to anybody, but do I necessarily pick out the most successful, man, the most interesting, I don't know. Do I seek that person out? No, I probably seek out what's easy. Self-worth definitely changes in different categories of our life.

And actually, I wonder if, you know, if we feel like unworthy of like that unconditional love, we actually seek validation through other areas of our life. So then we like overperform at work and we overperform our career to kind of compensate for the lack of worth that we feel in other areas. It's a very like common story for women especially. to feel very successful at work, to really excel, to strive hard, to feel very confident when they walk into, you know, the boardroom or the office,

but to feel absolutely like they can't carry any of that confidence into a date. Or maybe they can carry the confidence from a facade, but deep down they don't feel that same self-worth. That's interesting, yeah. So step three is align your behavior. It's about the habits, about all of that, but it's also about stepping into the character of your future self, you know, who do you want to be and how can you.

you become them through your daily action. Step four is overcome tests from the universe. So I say that on your way to manifesting anything, you will be shown test from the universe, which basically say how worthy do you really think you are? And the easiest way to describe it is through dating. So if you are, you know, you want to meet someone, you know, your perfect partner and then you start,

let's say you go on a first date and the date is amazing and the chemistry is fire and you're like, oh my God, Roxy was right. This happened so quickly. like he is sent from the universe and then you don't hear from them and then five days later it's like hey what's up this is a test

okay what's going to happen and the test is like how worthy do you really think you are are you going to continue with someone who clearly and I'm sorry five days is five days too long that's crazy to me I want to hear from you

all my way home yeah did you get home okay how much should you enjoy being with me see Raina you are worthy of all exactly you know it I think I give good date. I think I'm fun. I mean, there's a reason why I seek out so many people that are ridiculous for me.

There has to be at the... I know, we thought we fixed you when we did it. I put in so much work. So many long car ride conversations. For what? I have sought out better people. This podcast is age and I've aged. But yeah, there's a reason why I seek out people that are maybe a little ridiculous for me

geographically or age-wise or professionally. Yeah. Yeah. I didn't take a psychotherapist. best for me to know that. Yeah. Anyway, so the test is basically,

are you able to walk away from the things that aren't worthy of you? Or do you stay kind of like in them because you don't really trust that what's worthy of you is coming? And another example might be like, and I always say that when you're about to meet the one, exes always will pop into your life.

Because exes always come with this like tempting like familiarity. Even though you know they aren't right for you. And it's like, do you entertain it? keep the door a bit open, or are you able to truly have closure? Personally, I don't believe in closure. I was like, I need to just see them one last time. No.

Just have sex with them one last time for closure. You don't. Closure comes from with it. Yeah, like be honest with yourself. You can want to have sex with them, but it's not about the closure. Okay. It's just about the potential orgasm and cuddling. If you're into that.

If you're into that. Closeness. You know, like you want that intimacy. Be honest with yourself. So if an ex comes into your life. life and you know that they're not right for you. It's about your ability to really stay strong through that. But basically, test on the universe is looking for anything that asks you to settle for less than you deserve. So this could be toxic friendships, jobs that you don't like,

you know, whatever it is. And even settling within yourself with your bad habits or, you know, the things that are keeping you stuck where you are. And so this is really about like not settling and creating energetic space for what's right for you to enter because our time and energy are really valuable assets. They're not limitless. You know, we have only a certain amount, and so we need to make that space. But for me, the step is also about how well you're able

just to overcome obstacles and rejection. And, you know, manifesting isn't that you just learn to manifest and then life is perfect. You're still going to have shit days, rejection, stressful situations. you know, low points, maybe some rock bottoms. But how you're able to show up to them and how able you are to see value in them

and learn from them is actually what makes the difference going forward. Can you persist through the challenges or do you let them deter you and set you back? And so for me, this is why it's my favourite step. So whenever I go through like a rough patch, what doesn't happen now is that I become hopeless and I think this is who I am. I'm so unlucky.

Things are never going to be good for me. I know that there's an up level on the other side. And that for me is what optimism is. It's not feeling good every day. It's that even on the bad days, you know better days are coming. So this is like my favorite step. Step five is embrace gratitude without caveat. So gratitude has this really high vibrational frequency.

And my mom used to say to me this phrase in Arabic, which literally translates to, for every thanks you give, you get a thousand in return. And there's kind of no better way to accept. explain this step, but the more grateful we are for all that we already have, the more things that life will give us to be grateful for. And when we sit in this true state of appreciation, by the law of attraction, we attract more good things back to our lives. And for me, I give so many practices in this book of how to retrain your brain to be more positive. Because a lot of us need

training for that. Like, I was the most negative person, like half glass empty. I was, I was not brought up taught how to be happy. And I absolutely retrained my whole way of thinking so that now I always sit in this pace of gratitude and it's effortless. And it's with the practices that I share in the book. Can we talk a little bit about it? Because I think that happiness is such a mindset shift

and I think you'll meet people. Ashley and always say like everything really seems to turn out well for us. But I think that's because Ashley and I can pivot. We can be happy with multiple outcomes. We trust each other to make different decisions to sort of elevate what we have going on. And I think you hear other people just say like everything goes wrong from me, of course me, obviously me.

You know, so how do you get out of that? Well, a lot of it is about changing the way that you speak to yourself and the language that you use because our subconscious can't differentiate a truth from a lie. So everything that you're saying, it's believing to be true. So if you are going around saying, I'm so unlucky, bad things always happen to me, then your brain will look for things to support that belief. Like our belief system becomes the filter through which we view everything. And a belief is just a thought that's been repeated so many times that it becomes so.

So if you keep saying, I'm so unlucky, I'm so unworthy, good things don't happen, you will believe that. And then that belief system will influence your actual reality, not only how you perceive it, but what you actually, you know, attract. Whereas if you keep saying to yourself, and even if at first you don't believe it, affirmations like, I am worthy, good things happen to me, you know, I'm so excited for what's coming, there's always opportunities or whatever. If you change that language,

then you start to change what you believe and what you attract. And so for me, having like a daily gratitude practice, like if people did nothing out, I have one exercise in there called a positivity journal and I always say like, if people just ignored everything else I said, I hope they don't.

But if they did and they just did this positivity journal for two weeks, they would see a shift in their lives, like a great shift. I think it's like the best thing that we can do for ourselves. I mean, Dr. Joe Dispenter did this amazing experiment where he found that if people practice gratitude three times a day for four days in a row, their immune system strengthened by 50%. So it's like the power of gratitude is not just on our mindset, but actually on our physiology. It's so good for our health. Our well-being, there's so many studies on the positive effects it has on

sleep and depression and anxiety. So it's a really important step. You know, manifesting isn't just about more, more, more. It's about making the life that you already have feel as good as possible. Yeah, I love that. I'm thinking of this person I know who always says like everything bad happens to her and of course me and of course, you know, I'm the most unlucky person. It's sort of like her whole personality, her whole brand and everything that happens, whether it's a breakup or maybe a fault at work. She's like, of course this happened to me. And I look at her life and I think the same amount of bad stuff happens to you as everybody else in the world. I want to also like just validate that some people truly are depressed and that's how your mind works and it's not so easy

to just decide to be happy, of course, because your brain is not allowing you to be like that. So I want to validate that. But I always think like if you would just take a moment, like, why not just be sort of happy for the apartment you live in and the job you get to have and to work for yourself and how beautiful you are and you wouldn't feel like this all the time. And a lot of it is also perspective. Not to say like other people have it a lot worse, but like a Nedra To Wobb who we love was just like gratitude doesn't always answer. It's like bad things happen. You're allowed to like feel those things. You know, you should be great for what you do have.

Like, that's what I'm not right now. So I'm like, we're all allowed to have those moments. But if you really can always be like, I am lucky to be alive and like have an able body or whatever it is or have this relationship or have this home, a roof above my head. You know, anyone listening to this podcast right now has something going for them that you can like focus on rather than hone in on the negative. I think about my engagement ending. It's the worst fucking breakup story I've ever heard in my goddamn life.

It's insane. It's so bad. He told me the morning of our engagement party. He didn't love me anymore, and I had to go to it. And then he left me the next day. And you had to go to it. We had to go to the party. It was really bad.

I'm so sorry. Thank you. I'm fine now. But thank you. I could use that, though, as evidence that things aren't going to work out. And I can use that as evidence that nobody, even if they tell me they really love me and they're going to be there for me and they proposed me are going to leave me. And I just choose not to. I think that people really did back then have a lot of questions.

Like, how could you ever date after that? And I'm like, I don't know. I just do. Yeah. Everybody gets broken up with. Right. Oh, my God. Yeah.

yeah, this is harsh, but like everybody's gone through it. Yeah. And I looked at my parents and I thought, my parents had been through hell and back. They've been through divorce and they didn't die. The pain didn't kill them. So I know it'll be fine. Yeah. Exactly.

And I also think it through breakups, like you never evolve more as a person than through a breakup. I think it's almost like the greatest thing that can ever happen to you is heartbreak. Yeah. Because you transform. Like you flourish. So usually when people tell me they've broken up with someone, I'm like, congratulations. Totally. you're able to create.

I mean, I love the quote that's take your broken heart and turn it into art. Oh, I love that quote. I've not heard it. The best music we have, the best podcasts. Like the best things come from, particularly women. Going through a breakup, really, quite honestly. So true. It is really so true.

I was talking to a girlfriend of Mars yesterday who's going through a pretty bad breakup and I was giving her some advice that Ashley and I have. And it was like bombs going off in her head. And I was like, this behavior is abusive. It's not okay. And she was like, I never thought about it like that. And I was like, this is emotional abuse. This is unacceptable.

And I can see you're digesting it and hopefully taking it into the next relationship and being able to set clearer boundaries and take care of herself better. Just pick people that won't do this. So you're not two years down the road going, how did I get here? Yeah. I mean, you just look at women. Like, I feel like I can sense it when a friend or any woman is going through breakup and I'm like, she's going to thrive.

Just give her, like, once she kind of gets over the physical pain of the heartbreak, she is going to crush it. You're just like feeling it. It's so true. It's so true. Step six is turn envy into inspiration. Okay, I love this. So envy is a really low vibrational emotion,

which comes from this place of fear. It says that you have something, and that means it's less for me. So it comes from a scarcity mindset, that there's not enough for us to go around. And envy comes from, you know, it comes from wounds unheeled, you know, and it comes from a place of lack.

And we can use envy. We can actually use envy to show us what we want and what still needs healing. But the problem is that often people, they deny when they feel envious and they pass on as judgment instead. So let's say that you're scrolling through Instagram or TikTok and you see someone like, I don't know, dancing in their kitchen and you are going to be like, oh, that's so cringe. Okay, that is judgment. Mm-hmm. Okay. And could that judgment really be envy that this person is able to express themselves so.

unapologetically and authentically. And would you maybe like to be able to do that yourself? Sometimes it's just cringe, though. Sometimes it's my... I have to speak my truth. Sometimes it's cringe, but do you need to judge it? You're right. I'm wrong.

But I love the sentiment. It's absolutely accurate, but I do have to say... I really like to talk some shit. I do. You're exactly right. Sometimes you're like, why am I feeling so negatively? about this thing and your base emotion could be jealousy. We talked about during COVID during the quarantine and everybody was just like teaching workout

routines, teaching baking, teaching cooking and so many people were talking shit on those people. And I remember Ashley and I were just like, why can't you just like hype that person think it's fucking cool or keep it moving? Yeah. Just keep it moving. Like just swipe on. Yeah.

Like I just, I really do believe in like, look, I know that everybody's going to have a bitch every now and then and like we are going to judge sometimes. but I think where we can, like, check our judgment. Because also, when we're judging other people, we're also believing that other people are judging us. So we also inadvertently make ourselves feel more self-conscious. Whereas if we can, you know, really check when we're judging someone, we're like, actually, why do I care?

Like, let me just keep moving. And then actually we're going to worry less what other people are thinking and saying about us because we're not doing ourselves. Yes. I mean, I said this to ran the other day. We were talking about this person we know. it's the person that's on a TV show and she was getting a lot of hate on the internet. And I was like, the envy is palpable. It's jealousy in its purest form. I can feel it. And the things people are

saying, like, aren't even really true. They're just so jealous. And I can like feel it coming through in these comments. And I can absolutely be swiping and be like, oh, that's cringe. But when people are commenting, it's jealousy. Because they want to post something and have other people like it and say something mean and get some sort of rush from that. So much of it is rooted in that. I truly believe that. When you have that urge to write the thing publicly, when someone's having fun, not even someone saying something controversial or that is worthy of any sort of judgment. It's just like someone just dancing in the kitchen like you said. And you feel the need to be like, that's so cringe. It's like, you're so mean. You're so jealous. I love what you. Like, just hit the pause button and say to

yourself like, why do I care? Yeah. I actually never clap back in anybody. And Ashley and I have a pretty easy. Our audience is wonderful. We don't really get a lot of trolls. But this one girl one time said that like I dressed really ugly that day. And I commented back and I said, who the fuck asked you? And she took the comment down and messaged me right away. It was like, I really need to self-reflect. I can't believe I did that. Why would I write something like that? And I was like, I do find that a lot with like, we don't think haters. But like when somebody does that, like that, that is somebody at their core that is just trying to ruin your day because their day is bad. And that is the only reason to do something so mean like that on the internet to somebody.

Yeah. And I also just like, love what you just said of like if you stop doing that, it'll stop happening to you when it comes to like the judgment and stuff. Yeah. And look, we all feel envious like day to day. I think Instagram like makes that like happen. But also like we could be jealous. Let's say we want to meet someone and our best friend gets engaged. Like we are so happy for them. But at the same time, there's this pang of like, oh, why not me? Yeah. I want it. And so we can just use that to like show us like I say, what needs healing, what we still want. And then we can turn it into. to inspiration. So inspiration is the antithesis of envy. It says you have it and I can have it too.

And so we can look to people's success and happiness and joy and love that they have and allow it to show us that it's possible. And so it's like really about getting into this habit of celebrating other people because that is like such a demonstration to the universe. I believe I can have it too. Like when we actually actively celebrate and are happy for other people's happiness, we show that we're not threatened by it. And that comes from a really abundant mindset. And I believe it keeps us attracting good things back to us. Absolutely.

And in an industry like ours, it's like when you see someone make it in this field, it should be an inspiration, like that you're even seeing that, that they're in your orbit and good things are happening to them. Like to me, it's like all these amazing things happen to people I'm friends with or people I know. And that means that I'm surrounding myself with people who are doing awesome stuff.

You know, like that should be kind of, The mindset as opposed to like they got that. That means I'm not going to get it. Yes, exactly. And also, by the way, I don't say any of this coming from this place of like, I'm never jealous or I'm not less. Totally. You know, not at all.

It's just human. We're human. I have the tools. Like I have a like friend, like someone that was a really good friend of mine. And then she just kind of like wasn't really very nice. But she's like killing it. Like she's doing amazing. And sometimes I catch myself getting this pang.

And I have to check myself and be like, hey you know what I'm fucking happy for her like good for her we're all thriving like but so I just have the tools now to see how I can turn it into inspiration and that's the thing that's not denying yourself of emotions like envy will come up but how what do you do with it how can you change that energy of it into something that's going to push you forward rather than hold you back and also like you can mute people or get off the media or follow like I'll mute everyone you don't have to object yourself to something that's making you feel a certain way like we say that all the time. I mean, if you're struggling with even like body image, it's not probably serving you

to see a bunch of models in your feet or if you're struggling with fertility and someone with their new baby is triggering, just muted. We don't have to be subjecting ourselves to stuff that feels bad at the same time still having those tools that you speak of. I totally agree. I think if you look at somebody professionally is a good example where you just like you're so jealous of what they have going on. What I like to do is actually like look at that content and say to myself, what are they doing right? What do people like about what they're doing? How can I emulate that? How can do a better job at that?

And I think that all the time in podcasting because there's so many female podcasters and rather than hating on them, Ashley and I are friends with them. We bring them on our show. We collab with them. We promote everything they're doing. And I like that way of being. And we're at stealing ideas from people.

I'm looking at what people enjoy and they like and they did well and thinking, how can I also do well? Well, and compliment them. Like, I get those feelings. I get those pangs. And I'm just like, that was so awesome. Like, tell them, you know,

and that comes from Nick Eagle. laser too. She's very open about that. And she's a comedian. We've had her on the show a few times and a friend. And she's just like, I get jealous. Like I see women that are, they're so funny and they're killing it. And she's fucking killing it. But she still gets like that. And she's super open about it. And she's like when I feel that need to feel jealous, like I want that. I send them a message or compliment them or promote their stuff. Like I turn my negative energy into positive and put more of that out into the universe and then it comes back to you. And I just love that. I've always said that about her too. Yeah. She came on our show. and she hyped us so hard and promoted us. And I couldn't believe somebody that was like really on the rise like that would take the time to promote us so hard. I know. And when you've gotten to a place where you're in the public or you do something like we do or like you do

and post something that your immediate reaction is like, is someone going to like hate on this in some way? And we have it really good. The people that follow us and our audience is so amazing. But it's always so impressive to me and people really hype you. And they really are like, this inspired me. Instead of like I'm jealous and your crin, or you're bragging.

It's like, I love to see you doing this thing, living your best life, going in this vacation, buying this car. And I'm like, damn, that's awesome. And I'm like, damn, that's awesome. Like, you will get it because of your energy. The people that are out here just like, oh, that you're doing this again.

Like, whatever. It's like, you're not going to get it because you're putting the wrong energy into the world. You guys are natural manifest. I feel like you guys have got this already. You don't need to read them. We're very inspiring people around us. This is the secret, one of the originals.

like the old school book. I feel like my mom got real boned up about the secret early on. I did too. I have a secret upstairs. I think the secret is much more focused just on the law of attraction and I would say it's much more about positive thinking. Okay.

So it was an amazing introduction to it. But I think also it was like so different back then. That was very much about like how can you manifest a new car and like maybe very much about the material things. Oh, was it? Okay. Whereas I think now it's like more about the I just remember like those early days like of stuff. Not that it was that old, but I just remember my mom being like,

this law of attraction thing is so cool. You know, but it is. But it is. But it is. I just remember my dad coming home and being like, so I've been hearing that like sugar is worse for you than fat. Like I just remember like some of those little things that came out when we were younger and you're like, whoa.

So true. Anyway, I had this really nice moment yesterday while I shared on the podcast I told Ashley. So I reached out to this girl and he's Crystal Williams. She's the co-host of almost 30 podcast. we've had on the show. And Ashley and I were doing a cute little summer mailer for vibes only. So we wanted to send her a gift and just asked for her address. And she gave it to me and she said, thank you. And then she sent me a voice memo and she was just like, I'm so proud of what you girls are doing and how hard you work. And it's just amazing. And she sent me the kindest message

about Ashley and I. And it just like made my day. She didn't have to do that. She didn't have to hype us like that. It just meant so much to me. And it made me want to do that for other people too. I'm like very inspired by people that are like that. Because she could have just accepted the gift and said thank you and I wouldn't have found anything of it. That's so, I feel like everyone listening. She's just like, pause and just send a nice message to someone. Yeah. I say well done.

Yeah. Absolutely. I'm proud of you, bitch. That's what we say. Well, I think it's Diane von Furstenberg and her thing is that every morning she starts a day and does something for somebody like a favor, a connection, introducing two people via email. She starts her day with helping someone in some way.

I love that. And I guess that could also boil down to just giving someone like a really nice compliment or praise. But I just love that. Why else do you get to a level of such success and such influence and power if you can't help other people? Oh, my God, of course. Well, I think we're all here to be of service to others. Like, no matter what we're doing or what career we're in, not just people in self-help,

like, whether you are podcasters or entertainers or we're all of service of others. And that's what should be, I think, all of our intention behind everything because we're not here alone. We're here to, like, help each other. better, feel better, happier, you know. Yeah. If you've been lucky enough to get things, you should give back, not just take, take, take. Exactly. All right, what's the final step? So the final step seven, trust in the universe. And this is really all about surrender. It's about letting go. And it's about trusting that you don't know how, but you just know that it will or work out the way it's supposed to. And I think one

kind of mistake that people make when they're manifesting is they try to kind of desperately control exactly how it's going to happen and they become like exactly that they have this like desperate energy which really keeps them from receiving and I think the kind of like gold dust on manifesting is knowing what you want and then letting it go if you know what you want you have your clear goals and you work on your inner healing you take action you're aligning your behavior you're persisting through challenges you're not settling, you're embracing gratitude, you're turning envy into inspiration. And you know that by doing all those things,

the things that you want will come to you. But it is absolutely this unwavering confidence and this absolute surrender to the process. And I always ask people, like, look for synchronicities in your life, look for coincidences, let them show you that the universe is always listening to everything that you're doing.

To me, there's like control in that surrender by saying to yourself, like, I've taken all the steps. I put the building blocks down and I can be happy with a bunch of different outcomes because I know that I've worked towards this. That to me is like surrendering. Yeah. You know? Also, masturbate.

We say manifestation masturbation. That's your body letting go. You should say your manifestations and your goals as you come. It sounds funny, but I'm being dead serious. I manifested our sex toy company. While you're masturbating. I was always doing that. I think about money.

I didn't manifest our sex toy company because I used to use my fingers all the time, just to masturbate. You can still do it. I do both. I go back and acoustic. Anyway, we don't have to go down this road with you, Roxy, but I'm just saying that it is a great way to let go. And also just, Kelly talks about this. Then our app, there's a video, she's not masturbating, but talking about, this is kind of like a bodily surrender to. Anyway, it's kind of niche. Do I like it? I like it. I laugh at you. Whatever makes you feel good.

Roxy's like, um, anyway. I'm British. I'm a bit more prude. I'm like, I'm like, Oh my goodness. Wow. Well, I'm going there. Well, we have a vibrator for you. You guys do you. And, you know, whatever helps you to surrender, I'm here for. Okay.

Great. You co-sign. We were going to talk to you about, like, how do we apply this to career or, like, I want a relationship, or I want to find a hobby. But I feel like it's very applicable in all these steps and saying, like, this is what I want. This is what I deserve. This is what I desire. And let me go do those things to find it.

Exactly. And then are you of the belief of also be kind to yourself and be gentle and if you fuck up one day and you do something that didn't fit in the perfect seven steps, you can forgive yourself and start fresh again. Like I say, this is a life practice. Yeah. You live and breathe this stuff. And there's a whole chapter in here just about self-love.

And self-love, I say, is the driving force behind all of this. So, yeah, of course, it's about, you know, accepting that every day is different and honoring where you're at. I always say the self-love is a balance of honoring where you're at today and where you want to be tomorrow and finding that balance between both. But yeah, this is definitely not about being a perfect person or doing things perfectly. It doesn't exist. It's about embracing all the highs and lows, but having tools to help you navigate them better.

I love that. Well, I feel like we covered everything. Amazing. I can't read this book. I'm really excited to like dive into this book and learn how I self-love myself. It's also like such an easy read. Like you'll read it in a day. It's so easy.

It's so accessible. I love the color. It's not dense. You know, like I didn't like how sometimes I'm from reading a self-help book, I fall asleep. Like if it's too dense, it just makes me tired at night. But this is a really easy read. So it's for everyone. And it's like the way it's laid out, it's broken up.

You have some little boxes here, some pull quotes. It's like a fun read. Yeah, yeah. And there's some exercises to fill out in the queen as well. I just pulled up this thing that says practice visualization. I'm like really big on this. And closing your eyes and like visualizing good things coming to you. And like Kelly has said, picture like a bright light, you know, like coming into your body or whatever you want to do.

and then picturing things that are getting in the way. You know, like things that are literally physically blocking all this stuff from like rushing in to your life. Yeah. Amazing. Thank you so much, girls. Thank you so much. And thank you for having such beautiful, actionable steps.

Because I think sometimes you hear these words strung together and they're just buzzwords. And I sometimes am like, that didn't mean anything. What does she just say? This to me is really actionable and implementable. Thank you. Thank you so much. Thank you for sharing your story also.

It's kind of where you got to and your struggles and everything that's brought you to where you are today. So tell everybody where they can find your Instagram, your website, which I was on this morning, your books, everything. So my Instagram is just at Roxina Fusi with an I.E. And this book, Manifest, Seven Steps, Living Your Best Life is available on Amazon, but also Barnes & Noble and all major bookstools. Okay, okay. Great. Thank you so much for doing this. We're so happy to have you.

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