Girls Gotta Eat - The LA Fires

Episode Date: January 16, 2025

On this episode, we're discussing the wildfires in LA – the people affected, how we're doing/feeling, the way the city has responded, how you can help, the importance of accurate information, and �� on a lighter note – exes checking in and water drop pilot porn. Stay safe, everyone

Welcome to The Snack, a lighter serving of Girls' Got to Eat. This is a Dear Media production. Enjoy. Hi, guys. Hi, guys. A bit of a somber tone. We're coming to you from San Diego, us and Tessa, today. We are safe.

Thank you for all the really wonderful messages. Ashley and I and our homes and Tessa's homes. We are physically safe. And, you know, we like to keep these episodes of the snack fun and, light, but, you know, we want to highlight what's happening here. This is our home. We love it. We've chosen to live here. And we just want to highlight people that are doing good, people that have lost everything and how you can help them. So we're going to try to do this today. So I just, like, this feels like something that we don't want to do, something that we feel really

weird doing. It feels weird to like talk about ads today. Like everything feels I don't really disjointed to talk to podcast right now. And so I just want to address that. Like, I don't know how we're going to like get through this, but we're going to try, you know, I don't want to sit here and cry. Rain and I are safe. We didn't lose our homes. You know, like, we don't want to make this about us, but we know you guys probably want

to hear what is happening and what people are feeling in L.A. And the overall vibe of the city and the people around us. And yes, we can always just not podcast. We're not forced to do anything. But, you know, we feel an obligation to do our job. And also we do want to talk about this stuff and talk about the experience that the city has had and the good that we've seen. And again, like, honor those who are experienced in so much loss and have been so affected. So I just want to get that out of the way.

Like this might feel, it's going to feel so different. It's going to feel pretty, like, raw. but like we've just been sitting here, it's like 430, like procrastinated on doing this because it just doesn't feel right. It doesn't. And, you know, I have sat at this, and we all have at this like intersection of like grief and gratitude where I'm so grateful to have my home. I mean, it was not on my 2025 bingo card to sleep in my house for 10 days and then evacuate. But of course, I'm so grateful. People have lost unimaginable amounts of things, people with children to support and sick parents.

and I am so grief-stricken for so many people, but we're grateful that the three of us are here and safe. Four of us. And we have his little back on the couch. So, you know, we wanted to set this up three-angle for you guys, just like we do because you don't get him on it. He hasn't, we haven't had this in years. Since the couch, since my house flooded last year.

Our L.A. run has been something else. there's first two years in all life here like it never rains here we're like my house flooded it's so wild like it's deranged to have experienced legitimate flood and fire it like in a year I mean what the fuck is happening I mean I you know I well thank our partners and I do want to say something to you it feels so weird to be like it feels just like listen we're gonna it's gonna be weird you guys are just gonna deal with it's gonna be weird yeah but they you know they pay the bills and again like I said, if we said we're not recording today, Dear Media would figure it out, the partners would be fine. This isn't a like, we got to do it. We got to make the dollars. But it's like

the brands that were scheduled for today. We're doing an episode today. So here they are. And you know, thank you to them for supporting the show. Yeah. So thank you to HungryRoot. Get 40% off your first delivery and free item in every box for life at Hungarroot.com slash GGE with code GGE. And thanks to Addie. Learn more at Adi.com. And thanks to Symbiotica. get 20% off and free shipping at symbiotica.com slash girls got to eat. And I will say, I haven't checked on every single partner, but like so many of our partners, you know, we see what they're doing and so many have like donated so much and they're doing so much.

And we'll talk some about the brand response today too. But yeah. So this is being recorded a couple days at a time per usual, but we're recording this on Monday. These fires started Tuesday. I still remember driving your house to pick you up on Tuesday morning. I sent you a video of like some smoke coming up in the palace. And this is just an ongoing situation.

So by this time this comes out, we don't even know what will have happened. But this has been an unbelievable amount of devastation. I'm sure you guys are all being inundated with this on Instagram and the news. But as of this morning, 12,000 structures have burned 62 square miles. I mean, it's the size of Paris. I mean, it's huge. People are comparing the devastation to cities. I mean, so many people have just lost so much.

People with nothing to begin with have lost everything. Yeah, I mean, we might be a little bit all over the place today. I made a lot of notes. I cannot stress it enough. Like, I feel so weird to sit here and try not to cry, but essentially cry and we are safe and have our homes. It feels very strange, but it's like everyone in L.A. is traumatized by this, obviously on such different, such a wide spectrum of people who are safe and have lost nothing and people who have lost everything.

And this will, like, define us forever. this will define the city forever. Like this is one of the biggest natural disasters in U.S. history. I mean, I was telling you, I think about, which I'm not comparing, but I just, I was thinking about a friend who was in New Orleans during Katrina. And I, I will never forget that she was there then. I will never forget how she had to leave. And she came to Atlanta and that's how I met her. She went to Tulane. They had to send students to other schools. She was at Tulane at the time. These things that you live through and you watch your city be underwater or burn in this case in such an unprecedented way is so hard to watch and

like to not know how bad it's going to get. It was like a feeling it's hard to explain. I mean, there's, there's parts of it that feel re-traumatizing from COVID because like I was joking, you know, remember when I left my building in March 2020 and I told the doorman like, see in two weeks, you know, like we had no idea. You just never know how bad it's going to get. And so we sit here today, not even knowing what could happen this week and like, I just am praying that the winds don't pick up again. But like, this is supposed to come out. We'll put it out as soon as it's ready. But it's just like, it's Monday, you know, what's going to happen tomorrow or Wednesday or Thursday? Like, we're not in the clear yet. And that's like really hard to stomach. Yeah, I lived through

Hurricane Sandy and COVID in New York City. I was there the entire time during COVID. And it's just, it feels different. There's an extreme terror of. the unknown. Hurricane Sandy happened and we rebuilt in New York City. COVID happened and it was this collective, the whole country is in on it together. And it feels different here because like I go on Instagram and people have been amazing.

But you know, you see other people's lives going on in other cities. And I have, every day I feel like I have to have self-talk because I feel like genuinely really angry when I see people like their lives are going on and they're opening up their own businesses and they're having fun and being silly

and taking selfies. and God forbid somebody text me anything about anything besides this. But I also have to like remember that like other people's lives go on and that's like okay too, even though this is like my central focus. But it feels very different than COVID did. Yes. It's all, you know, again, this isn't like compare, contrast, what's worse, what's, you know, who's got it the worst, which tragedy is the worst.

But I understand that people that aren't living in L.A. and experiencing this firsthand are going, are moving on with their lives. I get it. I mean, I remember what men. Maui was burning and it really took me out, you know, for like the weekend. I was like donating as much as I could. I was just like in a dark hole. Like I just felt for these people and I never even been to Hawaii at that point.

And like, you know, I probably did what I felt like I could do when I moved on with my life. And those people didn't, you know. And it will feel different obviously for people in L.A. And, you know, I can't even begin to think what people who grew up in L.A. are feeling. You know, I told you I was like, If this was Delaware, if this was Dewey Beach, I'd never recover, you know? So you and I can't even feel what people are feeling that have watched their real communities. Yes, we've built a community in L.A., but we've been there two years. You know, people have really grown up there and had so many

more memories and families and their schools and their churches and their, you know, local restaurants just like be decimated. I mean, it's so overwhelmingly devastating. And of course, we feel like this because we live there even more than if this was happening somewhere else. Of course we would have empathy and compassion, but to be in it like this, I haven't really experienced something like this in terms of like this natural disaster happening where you live, you know? Yeah, it feels really like uncertain. And I've been really interested in everybody's responses to this.

You know, the city of L.A., I've personally loved their response. I feel like they are staying on top of letting people know. they have like a ready set go system like one to pack one to evacuate they've been really on top of it I think that people have really shown up in a big way so many people you know ran towards these fires I mean so many firefighters and we saw videos of doctors and nurses evacuating people from nursing homes and hospitals and so many people just getting pets out of these shelters and news crews and like so many people just jumped to action and have continued to I mean it's been amazing to see how many people have shown up for the people of Los Angeles and

I think the beginning of this, I kept hearing on the news, like the affluent communities of Malibu and the Palisades. And that was really part of the news cycle and all these celebrities. Celebrities, yeah. And I'm glad that the tone has sort of changed. And we've, like, allowed people to understand that these are just normal people with normal businesses. And also, by the way, just because you're a celebrity or you make a lot of money does not mean that you deserve to lose your memories and your home and everything that you have. You know, nobody deserves this. of course, it will be harder for some people than others.

And of course, I understand that. I mean, yeah, whatever you think about it and whatever you think about rich, famous people is your prerogative. But, like, I just want the facts to be correct, you know? Like, it's just, again, I have been watching a lot more local news and national news, and I have to take breaks, of course. But yes, a lot of the people in the Palisades were rich and or rich and famous, but people also just had apartments there.

And there was also just, you know, restaurants where people worked that now lost their jobs or retail stores or whatever. And then Pasadena and Altadena are not rich, famous neighborhoods like Palisades in Malibu. I mean, Altadena is a historically black neighborhood. It is still extremely diverse today. It has this long rich history. You know, Pasadena is really diverse. I mean, there's just people from all walks of life. There are people with money.

There are people without money. I mean, there's people right now. that have nowhere to go and not enough resources that they're in a shelter. You know, so it's like, I want to debunk this whole, like, let Hollywood burn all these rich, famous people who lost their houses, who cares, you know? And if that's what you're seeing on the news, like, I mean, I don't know what to say. It's not the truth. It's not the full picture, you know.

So I just want to say that. And again, just the people that have, like, lost their jobs that work in retail or in restaurants. And I think that people have various opinions about L.A. In terms of what we have seen, it's been so moving. I mean, the city has just come together in a way that I've never seen. And again, this is my algorithm. This is my city where I live. Like, you know, I'm not going to see the way that the community came together in Asheville like I would because of the city I live in and the people that I follow.

You know, it's like that's, I'm in the thick of it. But, I mean, it's just completely above and beyond in terms of the amount of donation. people supporting, people really like boots on the ground, like not just posting on social media. They're out shopping for people. They're going to the shelters. I mean, people are getting turned away left and right because there's too many donations, too many volunteers. You know, people are like, I want to help a family, but I can't get matched with one.

You know, and it's like, then there's all the people that set up those systems and those spreadsheets and, like, they're overwhelmed. Like, it's just been overwhelming in, like, the best way. I mean, I feel like the main animal organization we've seen has been the Pasadena Humane Society. And I was on top of them early on. It was like, take all my money, you know. And I'm watching on the news. I'm like, they have more food, dog bowls, dog beds, cat, whatever the fucking cats need.

Like, forever. Like, people went so hard. Like, it just was crazy to see, like, everyone is like all hands on deck in these support efforts. And that's what I want. people to see about our city. It's just, it's been really moving. And I think any city would do that. You know, I don't think we're special. But it's just like, if you think LA people are like shallow and self-centered and they don't care, I mean, that is just not what we have seen. Yeah. I mean, I think that the reason why it's extra moving is the LA gets this bad rap for everybody to be shallow

and vapid and, you know, fame hungry. But so many of the influencers and people that I follow, all the chefs and people in the food world have shown us. to cook free meals, deliver them to the firefighters. I have seen so many people volunteering at food kitchens that have huge followings. There's a girl who invited me to her birthday party recently, and she said instead of that, please donate to this GoFundMe. She raised $12,000.

She went to Costco. She did a huge drive for people and deliver them. I mean, people are like not stopping at anything to make sure that these people are supported. Brands are just sending so much stuff. If you want anything, Sweet Green is like, come get food. All the restaurants, Sweet Green is a huge national corporation. but small restaurants

or the restaurant my neighborhood in Venice that is just cooking hundreds of pizzas all day long and they have volunteers coming to drive those pizzas to the firefighters

I mean people have just all hands on deck even Soho House stop being assholes for a minute can you believe it they weren't like come in if you're not a member

they didn't say they didn't say the doors are open to everybody but they were like you can come in regardless of your membership status. I mean, they said an email. It was nice. It was really, like, it was the first time I've ever seen to do anything nice for anybody. But you know what? Because you're still going to go there and they're like, oh, you still can't use your laptop. You can't take a shower, but you can't use your laptop in zones one through three. I'm dying, thinking that they're like, oh, no, no, you still can't have your laptop at that table afternoon.

Think of Soho House as evacuation zones and you can't use your lab. You have to evacuate if you try to bring your laptop in here. They moved me around like three different places last week. I was like, you know what? I'm not going to quit my membership. I hate to. I'm always like, you know what I'm going to do is keep paying you. It has been so heartwarming to see. And I hope it continues.

And, you know, it's going to be a long road. And so, you know, being away from L.A. this week has felt like I feel guilty. You know, I'm like, I want to be there. I want to be doing stuff. But I'm like, everyone is. doing stuff right now. Like it, there will be stuff to do and ways to support for a long time. And like I feel like I'm going to jump in when maybe it's died down a little bit, you know? And if you're feeling that way as well, I think some people might be feeling that way. Like tons of people have left.

People are, you know, wherever they are. They're away from the city. They're on the East Coast. I mean, and it's just like if you're feeling that way of like, I want to be there, you know, I'm seeing all these people volunteering their time and doing deliveries and doing this and that. It's going to be needed for a while. So, you know, give yourself some grace and know that, like, you'll do it. And, you know, you'll do it maybe when it's needed a little bit more. Yeah, I mean, it's, it's hard to know, like, when to show up and how. Ashley and I have, of course, donated. And we're going to give you guys resources. We've put our way to put our money towards helping. My credit card company is like, girl, but like I, bitch, what's happening? I've been back and forth so much.

I mean, Tuesday night when this started, I stayed at home and then my power went out for 24 hours. and I didn't have power or hot water. And then Wednesday I thought, okay, I'll go to West Hollywood. I'll try to get a hotel so that I have power and I have internet access. And two hours into being at that hotel, we'd evacuate the hotel. You know, we went back to our own homes. And then it got scary again near me and this all picked up. And then you and I went to San Diego.

I mean, it's just you're up and down and you're up and down. And you do want to like take care of yourself. So you're in a good place to take care of others. Yeah. And, you know, I did kind of want to talk about. like our experience like if anyone's curious like kind of how this went down and how it how it felt and the people that were there for us you know and it just what I felt Tuesday night was like unlike anything I've ever experienced I mean I obviously was watching the news and feeling like

things were fine but then it really just started to feel really scary and I was at my house the winds are I mean shaking the walls sirens nonstop I mean to that is just so unsettling to feel that way. And I was like, do I need to leave my house? And then the second they put a Santa Monica evacuation warning out, I was like, I'm out. Like, I didn't even see if I was in the limits, but I was like, it's in my neighborhood now. And I am so scared. And my mom was like, I really want you to go. And you were in a group chat with all of our L.A girlfriends. And Kate Steinberg sent me a separate chat and was like, come here if you need. Here's the address. Bring a Zool. And like, it just, that's not like my best friend. You know,

like it's a friend she's in our group here but it was just like really so kind to say that and be like bring your dog we got you and i just started to feel really scared by just the sheer amount of like hearing those winds hearing the sirens and like it's just the panic and like the evacuation warnings moving closer and so i i did leave and it was like such a weird feeling to gather things that were important to me like i've never had to do that and so like you're when your mind works in that way it's so weird you're like what's important what can't i replace and like I'm worried about Azul and so I just you know got some things and and went in the car and went over there and they were so wonderful and I felt really like safe there in West Hollywood and

then the next day you came up to West Hollywood as well and you were going to stay in hotel because you started to feel unsafe in your neighborhood and they were cooking dinner I mean Kate and Chad her fiance are just the most wonderful people you could imagine they've since fostered a dog on top of their other dog and their two cats you know they're really like walking the walk but you know we're we're going to have dinner and I were just chatting and like the group chat starts to blow up. There's a fire in Runyon Canyon and this sunset fire is like spreading so fast and like you should get out. And in that moment I was I've never felt before like that level of like, oh, no one's safe and like we're outrunning a fire now. And again, like I really want to I want to tread lightly because I am

somebody who was not affected in that way. But that feeling is a feeling so many people have felt when these natural disasters come in your city and like to leave your home go somewhere else then leave there i mean i called you we were like where are we supposed to go like i still didn't feel safe going home i went home and then i felt like okay it feels okay and then i still wanted to go to a friend that was farther south and i stayed there for the night i also didn't really want to be alone i mean then our friend taylor took me in she has a dog allergy she's like i took a zirtec come over girl you know like people were just like come over you know i called her in the phone she's like come over, you know, bring a Zool. It just everyone was willing to help. And you were with Jeremy. So like,

I felt like I wanted to be with, I would have been with you if you weren't with Jeremy and you were making your own decisions. And, you know, the next day I went back home for a little bit of time. And then I just felt like the air quality. And it was literally like raining ash at my place. All my outdoor spaces. I mean, it looked like it snowed. And I was like, this is so bad for Azul. I can't just stay in my home and mask up when I go outside. Like, I have to walk a dog. you know, three plus times a day. Like, I feel unsafe, like, mainly for him. I can take care of myself.

But, like, he's, we took one walk. He is ash all over him. Like, I just feel like I want to get out. And then you and I made the decision to come here. And, you know, that was my experience with, with this. And it's nothing compared to so many others. But it was just like, it was the first time I felt like that. Like, we're outrunning nature.

Yeah. It felt really, it was, it was, that's when it really hit me how unpredictable this is. I mean, like I said, Tuesday night, Jeremy was staying with me. We lost power, but I was like, it's okay. Like, I have him here with me. You are still safe. There's like a big man in my house. And Wednesday, because we had no power or internet or hot water, I was like, I'll just

get this hotel. And I experienced this hotel, you guys, was so crazy. So, I mean, this had only been going on for less than 24 hours. So I was like, it's fine. I'll get a hotel. They'll get this under control. People will be okay. And I went to this hotel.

I couldn't check in yet for two hours. This guy at the bar started buying me drinks. It was 2.30 in the afternoon. and I had almost three Manhattan's. Oh my God. I was just so drunk. And then this other cute guy at the bar was like, oh, we can't check in. And I was like, yeah, they won't let us check in.

They're understaffed. They're trying to like figure this out. And he was like, well, we should to go to the spa. And I was like, okay. And he was so cute. So I was like, me and that's hot guy are going to go to the spa. Oh, my God. And I signed up for like an hour long massage.

And I'm like, by the time I got out of this massage, we will have had this under control. I've never heard of like a fire hurricane. Like, I didn't know. And so I go down there for an hour and I'm drunk. and so fucked up. My lashes are all mashed up on my face. And we get this thing that says, you must evacuate West Hollywood. There's a running canyon fire. Yeah. And I had to call Jeremy. He was in another hotel down the street. And I was like, I need you to come here and drive the car. Because I'm drunk. Yeah. Literally. And he's like, you drop me off with like three suitcases and a double bag.

I can't walk down there. And I was like, well, I can't drive. So you got to get down here. And then we like went back to my place. It made you feel like nothing safe. I have to outrun this. And of course, I'm trying to add a light story to an obviously horrible situation. Yeah. That could have turned out so much worse than it did for so many other people. But it's been a lot of just back and forth up and down. I mean, my resolution for this year was enjoy my shit. And I did not expect this to happen.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Seven days into the year. Two days. Yeah. I mean, and I think that Californians and people in any place that have experienced anything like this will feel this trauma for a long time, if maybe forever.

Like that feeling of like, okay, I made it through this one, but what about the next one? And I don't know. It's like you see reports of like arsonists. And I don't, who's to say if like the main one, how it started? Obviously the winds alone. Like waking up Tuesday morning, those wins, it was like something bad's going to happen. It felt really ominous. Like already reports of like this could be like life threatening, you know.

So I want to like, yes, climate change, the winds, everything. This was like the quite literal perfect storm of like the worst. possible case scenario. But then you see people just lighting fires all over the city. And I'm like to think like, okay, if we get through this one, when's the next one? You know, I mean, this is how people feel who live in like hurricane zones as well and just different things. It's like it's, I think I'm not sitting here saying, I'm so traumatized. I'm telling people like we are all collectively feeling trauma from this no matter what, you know, when you start to feel a lack of like security where you live. I just, I found myself driving around thinking like is this safe is this safe how do you ever know that this isn't going to

happen again and it gets really windy like that in venice i'm pretty used to these like pretty violent winds but this was like extreme they were saying it's a category one hurricane level wins like 100 mile an hour winds and then you know you think about like all these perfect conditions i mean what they were saying was basically california got so much rain for two years it was an unprecedented amount of rain so there was extra greenery and extra foliage and then no rain for eight or nine months. So it was extra dry. Then you get these winds and it is just primed for these situations, which is quite possibly how this happened. And they're investigating all kinds of arson. And like, yes, people commit arson. It's absolutely fucking insane. But I'm just like without any of that

in the mix, just like the way that these things can work. I mean, I think we've all been learning more about like weather and fire in the last week, you know, like an ember can travel like two fucking miles or something. You know, and it just kind of like drops down. I mean, we were watching the news and that was when there was a fire in Studio City. And, like, we were watching other fires pop up just from, like, embers flying and, like, whoosh, you know, like, those weren't arsonist up in the hills. You know, it was just, like, watching this happen. And I was like, the world is ending.

Like, we're watching this in real time. I mean, and then people are watching their homes burn down in real time. Like, it's just unfathomable. And I'm so grateful for, like, the friends that we have around us that were so willing to be, like, come over, sleep on the couch. You know, I, like, brought my pillow and blanket over to Taylor's. I'm like, what are we doing here? You know?

And there's the people that have checked in on us. I mean, it's been, I felt really emotional about it. We both have. It's just everybody we've ever known. I mean, people that we haven't talked to in so long. And I mean, it made me reach out to so many people that I know in L.A. that I know have families that I've just said, like, my door is open. If you need to come over, if you need a, if you need clothing or dinner.

But you know who really took this as a call to check in is every man that every woman in L.A. has ever dated. Oh, my God. This is like men's Christmas or Thanksgiving when they're just like, now's my chance to check in. Wait, do you think that was happening? What? Yes. Oh my God.

I have heard from multiple men who I told to never speak to me again. And they were like, now's my moment to check in on her. And what did you do? Pick up the call. Ashley, we're in a state of emergency. What else am I doing? Yesterday, when I walked out yesterday and you were on the phone, I literally thought you were talking to your dad. I was about to walk out there.

Actually, I had no shirt on it. I was giggling up a storm. That was my dad. I was like, who are you talking to? Because then I was like, wait a minute. Yeah, that giggle was not for Bill. And I was like, who are you talking to? And you told me, not on my bingo card.

He's dead to me. I don't think of him as a person that's in our orbit anymore. Can I tell you? I totally dug into the archives. Can I just tell you what was so funny about that is that I'm on the phone with him. He can hear you and you go, are you on the phone with and you suggest another man? And I have to go, no, I'm on the phone with. And he goes, tell Ashley.

say hi. Like, he had to listen to you suggest a different toxic act. No, literally, you guys. Who also called me. Of course, of course. No, like, I went out there. It's like, I was like, are you talking to Jason? And then you're on the phone.

You had to go, no, it's Spencer. Like, literally, that's what happened. And I didn't care. Into the phone. I didn't care. It was hilarious. And the one that you were suggesting, I mean, he slid in immediately. Tuesday night.

Buzz, Buzz, let's talk about fire. But also, by the way, while I did that, I was FaceTiming with my fiancee. And he's going, wait, who's that? He was like, wait, who's Spencer again? These are my fake names. Like, it was a whole thing. And then, yes, meanwhile, he's like, I hear Ashley walking away and going,

she's just toxic X-Fers. She's still an earshot of him on the phone. And you asked me no follow-up questions, and I was impressed. I was like, I'm going to hear about this when I go inside. Nope. Oh, business is usual. Raynall's going to rainil. 2025.

Rainel's still here. I mean, men have really taken, this one waited a little bit. He waited until Thursday. The other one, Tuesday night and Wednesday morning. Buzz, buzz, what's going on? Haven't heard from him since. Yeah. He just, he's like, my work here is done.

Well, we, obviously, it feels weird to even sit here and, like, laugh like this. But it's just like, you need to do it. I want to talk about it. Like, you know, always whatever, you always got to laugh and, you know, smile and have joy in your life even in, like, the worst of times. But it's been kind of funny to talk about, like, who's checked in and who hasn't. And like I started making a petty list in my head. And I was like, if you haven't checked in, you're not coming to my wedding. I love that you said that.

And like, I started my list on Wednesday. And I started like telling you like, can you believe that we haven't heard from so and so? Can you believe it? And like, really just running list of like, isn't it so shocking? Even in a natural disaster, we're still petty. But it's, you know, I will say like it took a minute, I feel like to catch on to everybody just how terrible this was. And it was like Wednesday morning, I was hearing for some people. I'm like, that's interesting.

You know, and then by Thursday, I feel like it was. was like, holy shit, like, are you okay? And then it was just like pretty much by Friday, we'd heard from everybody we've ever known except for a few, and you're not coming to my wedding. And I just feel like it's one of those things where you couldn't like not, you know, like, if you know we live in L.A. And then there's just, it really shows you a lot about people and how you're on their mind. I mean, there's people that are checking in me every day. And just because I'm like on their mind and you and our friends and our city. You know, I think people are checking in and like, they know I'm fine and safe, but they're like, how's L.A? You know, like, what, how does it feel?

Like, I just, people are concerned and, you know, wearing their thoughts and collectively as the people in the city that have been affected. And, you know, it has, uh, that has felt nice, you know. Yeah. I mean, people, a couple people have said to me, like, it just feels like life is going on in some of these neighborhoods and I'm like, oh, I don't think it's really like that. But like, I have to like hold space for the fact like the news, the news reaching people in New York is not the same as living in L.A. And I'm trying to not, I don't get irritated with people that like stuff like that to us. Well, I did want to talk about the vibe. If people are curious, I mean, it's so crazy. I mean, I'm sure this has been like in any place where something like

this has happened where like the neighborhoods that are still standing just like they were before are like I think a lot of restaurants are closed obviously comedy clubs closed um and they're starting to open back up but you know like the grocery stores are there people are out i mean there people are wearing masks and the vibe is totally different but like things our life is going on but it definitely feels different and then it's like everybody you encounter you know like i went to my coffee shop honestly just to check on those people i see them every day you know and like the woman that was working there that i see she was just like how are you and then We both just kind of started like tearing up.

It's just like everybody's checking on each other. I saw some memes that just like even the vibe in Ralph's. It's just everybody's talking. Everybody's like supporting each other. And I didn't make it to Ralph's. But it's just like I like to see. I've never heard you go to Ralph's ever. Well, any grocery store, I just kind of saw that people,

I didn't go to any grocery store. I'm just people were like, we were all in this together energy. It's been nice. I went to Airwine. It's nice to see people are still putting together a little fit to go grocery shopping whether they have an N95 mask on or not. Right. People are like, oh, I got to bring out my COVID fashion. But, you know, I'm glad that people are supporting businesses. People still have to work and make money.

And, of course, like, waiters want to make money. People to cut hair want to make money. And it is sort of like an eerie vibe. I went to Abit Kinney on Thursday night, I think, with Jeremy to just get a pizza to go. And it was like so eerie and quiet. And I think people just want to be respectful. Yeah, of course. Like, people have been like, I don't want to be insensitive. And is this okay? You know, and it's just, brain and I have a lot of thoughts and feelings on everything. everything, you know, we're in it, you know, on the mayor, on the governor, on the, on the president-elect. I mean, all this stuff. And I just, I guess, I don't know if I have the energy right now to tackle all of it. But I think the thing that I have found that's just been, that bothers me the most, I guess, is just the information that is so rampant in our world

today in our country today, but with something like this, I mean, I get it. People want to direct their anger and their emotions somewhere. People want someone to blame. But I mean, there's just obviously been so much about the fire department funding and the hydrants and the water supply and this and that. And it's just like, I just think it's more important than ever to receive and disperse accurate information. We need accurate information from experts and science, you know, and facts, it's just like imperative to our well-being and our safety. Like, you know, the way that we were relying on this watch duty app, which was the app that was like tracking all of the different zones,

I mean, and I've donated to them. They're a nonprofit. They're amazing. I didn't know they existed until now and they've just been our whole life. Or, you know, just even watching the news, it's like we are like furiously checking these things to see if like we need to leave our homes, you know, to see of our friends and family in different neighborhoods, what they're dealing with. I mean, we need that accurate information and we need our leaders.

and our media and our government to be making absolutely sure we have that. And so it's just like, I'm just saying, you know, be careful with what you share and what you put out there when you get so worked up about making sure that it's accurate. And then maybe like it's the right time to be posting a certain thing. You know, you feel a certain type of way about like adding to the noise in general. But like that's the main point I wanted to make today. And like the misinformation and like more than ever when you see these things, how important it is.

and we're living in a time where people don't like the truth, so they make up their own. And we have a president-elect that's spouting off about things that are completely just non-existent, delusional, not true in this time. It's like so sickening but not surprising. And like I can't believe that this is the current state of what we're entering into when he's about to be inaugurated.

And again, like, I just like, I don't have the strength today. But it's just like, I guess my point is just like, it's bothered me to see that. And the importance of accurate information is, It's important to our survival. Yeah, I think that people want to make sense of a tragedy through understanding. How did this happen? How can we prevent it from happening?

And what policies led this to happening? Like you brought up the fire department. We've heard about the fire department budgets and the reservoirs and insurance companies. I mean, there's so much information flying around. And a lot of it is really nuanced and there's contacts and it's hard to know who to take information from. And it's really inflammatory. And my feeling is that we should take care of what's happening now and there will be time for

this to figure this all out. And I want to know how this happened too. And I want to know what we're going to do to prevent it in the future if that's even possible. And I just, I really take care with what I repost in terms of theories and things like that. Yeah. And I mean, again, like I've been doing my research. I'm trying to find really obviously factual, unbiased articles and information. And, you know, I think there's nowhere in the country that's as prepared for fire as California.

but you could never be adequately prepared for this situation. I mean, I'm devastated and I'm angry and I would love to know how this happened and what we're going to do to hopefully try to put some things in place to make sure that this would never happen again or the risk will be mitigated at least. I mean, I bought a home here. I want to live here. This is where I've set my roots down and I've really banked on it. Yeah, but I mean, you know, maybe we'll talk a little bit more like with an expert at some point.

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If you're in L.A., especially, where it's like, here's the donation centers, it still need donations. Here's the ones that aren't taking them anymore. And here's what we need drivers and people to sort through everything and things like that. And it's just like they put together the, like, the OG spreadsheet of like everywhere in terms of even like where you can bring your animals or, you know, places like shelters, but also donation centers and how you can help. And so mutual aid, L.A. is like this huge resource. Every day on Instagram, they're posting. And, you know, I mentioned the Pasadena Humane Society earlier. Pretty much right now, they just need monetary donations. I mean, a lot of these animals need veterinary care.

I think they're all set on like things, but you can donate to them monetarily. And then we really like this site. We just learned about this company called Love and Ethos. I think Heather McMahon posted them. And they are a nonprofit organization serving women in greater Los Angeles. And so they're actively seeking ways to aid the community and focusing on assisting single mothers and families with young children. And so you can just go to love and ethos.org and you can click either I need relief if you're a family or a person in need or I can support. And then when you click, I can support. You note the amount you're able to financially contribute.

And then other things you may want to do if you have services, you can volunteer, like what you're able to offer. if you have any resources, like medical supplies or equipment, space for evacuation, you know, a truck or a vehicle, non-perishable food items, but they also, you can do your monetary donation too. So I just learn about that one. I mean, there's so much. You know, I encourage people to donate wherever you feel inspired. So many people need so much ranches burned down and there's horses that need to be taken in. I mean, so many animal shelters need help, need you to foster animals. So many people are just donating, just need money for food. I've donated to the World Central Kitchen. which is just doing food for people who are affected by this and of course,

Ellie Fire Department. And GoFundMe is just doing an incredible job. So if you go to just GoFundMe, at the very top there's a banner. It says support LA Wildfires and you can see hundreds upon hundreds of GoFundMe's. And a lot of families have just posted a photo of, you know, a woman and her two children, a husband and wife and people tell their stories. And if you feel inspired, give them money directly. And so I've been really just, I like reading people's personal stories as to you and just feeling

And like I know and you know that the money went directly to somebody. And it's like, how do you choose? I don't know. The LA Times has done an incredible job of just compiling spreadsheets and where you can send your money. But whatever you feel inspired to do, even if it's $5, even if you buy a package of underwear for somebody and you donate it, like it's meaningful and it's important. And people will need things for so, so long. Like you said, this isn't just going to end next week. Yeah.

And, you know, if you don't have any money to spare, that's fine. too, you know, it's just like, just don't feel pressure or feel guilty. And I mean, I think a lot of people are like, I would rather just donate my time. And again, if you're in LA, so many different places to do that as well. But, you know, every little bit helps. And Rain and I on our Instagram last week posted a list of organizations, which I still obviously, you know, want to tell you guys you can support all of them. And that's going to be the Los Angeles Fire Department, the Wildlife Recovery Fund, Habitat for Humanity. Pasadena Humane was on the, baby to baby. I want to add the Red Cross into the mix. You know, we had that list as well.

and we tagged them their Instagrams, but it is overwhelming. And to Raina's point, like, pick a person, pick a family. I mean, that's kind of where I feel like you can make the most impact at this point is like get that in their go fund me, get that in their hands. I mean, people are going to need to find places to live and they're going to need to start from scratch and get back on their feet. And that's what I did with Maui. I was just like, I'm just going to pick some families that speak to me in their story and just like give them my money. And so, again, like every little bit helps. And it's just, it's a beautiful thing to see everybody like come together and I did a fundraiser for California Firefell Nation like via

Instagram and just like I watched all those roll in and I raised you know like upwards of $6,000 and like 24 hours and it was everything from $5 to 50 to 150 you know and it just all adds up and it compounds and so keep that in mind and pick a go fund me and then send it to your group chat and be like let's do this one you know whatever it really again you know speaks to you it's all helpful yeah so We wanted to talk about a little bit of like the lighter side of things with all this. Like there hasn't been much. This isn't something that people aren't doing jokes on this.

But I think like some of the things I have found is like the way we're treating these like water drop videos like and these pilots doing these like drops or like the fire retardant. And it's just like people are watching this like an extreme sport. Like yes, nice drop. Like some of them are so satisfying. Like you're, I'm jumping up clapping. I love the amount of captions that say wait for it. Oh, the satisfaction. when you just watch them just like go over it.

Listen, LA is a crazy place. People are fucking weird. It's full of celebrities. Like, of course there's going to be like crazy weird stuff that's happening here. Yeah. So I was watching the news and they were like interviewing people in the Palisades that were like helping. And this like news crew like came up against this guy who was like, or came up to this guy who was like helping fight these fires. And it was Steve Guttenberg.

Not Steve. Steve was like boots on the ground for celebrity. I mean, immediately first celebrity. They were just like, hey, sir, how are you? And they were like, oh, Steve Gutenberg. He looks exactly like my dad. A lot of people don't know, you know, like the younger, the Gen Zs are like who? He was one of the three dads in three men and a little baby.

Was he in Ghostbusters, too? No. Maybe? I just, he looks like my, Tessa, do you know Steve? Tess is Googling. I know she doesn't know that as Steve Gutenberg. I mean, Tess, he's like, he's like 70. I wouldn't know who he is.

He's an actor, you guys. I think he's just like the cutest. He looks exactly like my dad. That's my information about him. He's 66. Well, yeah, I feel like my main port category is these pilots right now. these heroic pilots just like flying into the fire, which again, like back to the whole like, why did this happen? Why couldn't we do this? It's like they couldn't fly. The winds were so high.

And like that's when reason why it spread so much. And it's like it's maddening to be like we could have stopped the spread. It's giving COVID. I wouldn't even taking a walk. I would. I do not. When it gets going like that in Venice, not the Venice is the Palisades, but like it's, I wouldn't go outside for a second. So it's like that would have helped. But we couldn't, you know, they couldn't do it because of the wind. And so once they started, I feel like people were like let's fucking go. Like, let's watch them do these drops. I have been, I guess, invested in this Spencer and Heidi thing.

I mean, they lost their home. So he was the first celebrity I saw posting at all. Like, because people don't like watching celebrities talk about losing things. They're like, oh, you're so red. Oh, your third home. Yeah. Which they aren't one of those. They are one of those.

They're not, you know, they're not billionaires. And so they were the first celebrities I saw posting crying to their Instagram story that They lost their home. Of course, they have two small children. But their character arc through this has been amazing to watch. Wait, so what he told people to stream her music? Yes. I forget she's like a singer.

Yes. So he was like, how you could help us financially is go download Heidi's song on iTunes. And she's the number one song on iTunes. Heidi Montek, number one in iTunes America. Thank you, everyone. He like reinvigorated her career overnight. It's crazy. And he's like these Instagram stories.

He's like rolling around on the beach. She's like, I love being famous. Like he's just like, I have a platform I'm going to use it. Yeah, yeah. I saw this comedian named Pete Lee on Jimmy Fallon. It was the day after he lost his home and the Palisades. And, you know, he was being funny. I mean, it was, his story was tragic, you know, and he shared it.

But he was able to like make jokes and it was hysterical. I saw a ton of comedians post. that we'll put it up on YouTube. I really appreciate you coming here. You know, thank you. Yeah, I am. My, I don't mean to be a bummer. There's a comedy show. I'm a comedian. But my house burned down yesterday. That was the most studio audience response I've ever heard. That's exactly what they're, yeah. That was like a game show where it went to zero to bankrupt. I did a show on Friday, and I had shows all weekend. I had a bunch of shows scheduled that all got canceled, but they still did a show. I still did a don't tell show in Torrance. And I was like, I don't have to do this,

obviously. You know, like everybody would have understood. I got asked to do it from a booker because the other ones got canceled. And I was like, I'll go do it. You know, I need a mental break. And I was like driving there, like, I don't know how I'm going to do this. I am not in the headspace to tell jokes and like make people laugh. But like, I guess like just being in that room with all those people that have like experienced the same thing and again torrance was farther these were people that were always in a safe zone but they're still seeing their city burn it felt like a really like collective therapeutic thing to to be in a room and people are there and like you know everybody's had such a hard week obviously and people want to laugh and so you know i'm seen in the comedy community

i think the comedy store and the improv are both reopening and then there's free shows and they're just really like being sensitive about it. I saw Trevor Wallace do something at The Laugh Factory, but it was like a benefit. And so it's just like, you know, as a comedian, you're like, what could, should I go do shows? Is that insensitive? But it's like people want the, you know, comedic relief.

And, you know, if you can, I don't know. I've appreciated seeing, I guess the L.A. scene response with, with that, you know. I think you're like, one of my allowed to feel some joy. One am I allowed to enjoy this? but I think that as, I'm not a comedian, but you are. I mean, I think that you're like spreading joy, and I think that that's what you can give to people, you know? Like, you didn't go out for like,

a fun night to whip it up and put it on Instagram. You were like, I, what I can contribute is joy to other people, and I'm going to do that. And I think that that's like a great service. Yeah, I kind of felt like that too, you know. It's just like, if this is what people need and I can be a part of it, you know, so, yeah, there's that too. Well, we don't know what tomorrow will bring.

And these will be some kind of crazy days ahead for us. So hopefully by the time this comes out, this will be a little more under control. But I don't know. Our thoughts are with everybody. We're going to do everything that we can to make sure that people are okay. And we make a positive impact. And I'm glad that Azul and Tessa and you are safe and our homes are safe.

And so many people aren't. So, you know, we'll continue to use this platform to encourage you guys to just keep your eyes on it. And we love L.A. and the city of L.A., and we really thank everybody that has done so much to keep people safe. Yeah. And I echo what Raina said. And we know it can be overwhelming and how you can help. But if you just even really wanting to and even, you know, a message you know is how can I help is it means a lot.

And to that point, like if you're somebody, you have friends in L.A. and you haven't reached out. I mean, I'm sure they'd love to hear from you, you know, if they're in your thoughts. And it just, it means a lot. But, you know, first and foremost is just our thoughts and our hearts are with everybody who has been impacted by this, experience any sort of loss. And it's going to be a long road to recovery. and we recognize that. And, you know, we're, no plans to leave L.A.

So we're going to be there, boots on the ground, like seeing how we can help for the long haul. And that's on that. I hope you guys have enjoyed this. I don't know how to end this. It's a really emotional rollercoaster. Okay, bye. No.

Well, we mentioned our Instagram earlier, so you can still check that. That's going to be Girls Got to Eat Podcast.com. Girls got a podcast also in TikTok. I'm Ash Hess. Rain is Raina. Greenberg. We've both been posting a bunch of resources.

You can check those out. I made a highlight with everything I posted related to these. So if you miss something, you want to find a link. I do have a highlight. CA fires. It's like my first one on my Instagram, Ash Has. And we will, you know, keep on keeping on. Yeah.

Have a good weekend, guys. Be safe. Bye. Bye.