Girls Gotta Eat - THE WEDDING RECAP feat. Ashley's Husband

Episode Date: November 17, 2025

The wedding recap is here (!!!) and we're joined by a very special guest, formerly known as Sparkle Eyes. Settle in for a full play-by-play of the four-day celebration, from the families meeting, to the (over capacity) welcome drinks, to the Haldi, Halloween Party, and of course, ceremony and reception. We discuss the highlights, the tea, Rayna's officiation, the post-wedding crash, advice we'd give to anyone getting married, and so much more. (And for those watching on YouTube, enjoy plenty of never-before-seen photos and video!) Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for live show tickets and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Square Space: Get a free trial at https://squarespace.com/GGE and use code GGE for 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/gge. Skims: Shop our favorite pajamas at skims.com. ZBiotics: Get 15% off your first order at https://zbiotics.com/gge with code GGE. Storyworth: Get $10 off or more at https://storyworth.com/gge. Saks Fifth Avenue: Head to Saks Fifth Avenue or saks.com for inspiring ways to elevate your personal style. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I was like, where the fuck is Ashley? And I'm like walking up the stairs with a bunch of stuff in my arms. And she's like hunched over the island. Sobby. This podcast is a dear media production. Hi guys. Hi guys. Welcome back to the episode of Girls Gotta Eat.

Special recap episode. Yes. We're married. She's a wife. Can you believe it? How chuggy is that? No, I like it. I can believe it.

People just the whole like, oh my gosh. It's like you're a wife. Marriage looks good on you. Like it's just funny. And like there's one person in my comments like start having babies now. It's like you're new here. Welcome. Let's not say that to anybody, but especially not to me.

Well, I think you got in right under the gun because Vogue has announced that having a boyfriend is embarrassing. I know. So you can't have one of those anymore. And we are going to do like a full episode about this. And it's so big on TikTok right now. But Vogue really ran a big article being like you can't do. this no more. I know. And it's just had it said like having a husband is embarrassing. I would be like shots fired. Cancel the wedding. What's acceptable, fiancee? Yeah. Being engaged is like kind of chic.

It's chic because it's temporary. You know, it's a phase. For some people. For some people. No. So yeah, I have a husband. He is coming on today. Yes, he is. Big reveal. Second time ever, but first time on camera. Because if never seen him. We say his name. I tagged him before you did. I didn't realize it. Oh, it's fine. It's fine. It's just kind of like, you know, I don't think he should get a name until we're legally bound.

No, I agree. You know, like, I think we did this right. I think he should be unsure if you're going to stick around. Exactly. You're going to announce names on the show. Until the county clerk receives that marriage license back, it's not official and you don't get a name on this podcast. No.

You get a name. It's just a nickname. Do you think people are going to be really in his voice? He's a great radio voice. He was a great voice. Yeah. I mean, that's the thing. Like the second I heard his voice at the show in 2021 and, like, I couldn't really make him out in the crowd.

I heard the voice first. And I was like, oh, wow. Okay. He's a great voice. I mean, you know how big that is for me? I feel like I led the charge years ago with how important voices are, not a hot take, but I went out with that guy, the voice of Michael Jackson. It was such a shock. And then right after that hinge started doing voice memos.

So it's so important. I don't know that I could get past. a bad voice. I'm just trying to think if I dated anybody that had a bad voice before. Nobody comes to mind. It's just so important, but also what we do for living. So, but yeah, you guys will hear his voice soon. But let's thank our partners. We'll go. All right. Thanks to Squarespace. Get a free trial at Squarespace.com slash GGE and use code GGE for 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. And BetterHelp, get 10% off your first month at BetterHelp.com slash GGE. And Skims, shop our favorite pajamas at skimps.com. And thank you to Zbiotics. Get 15% off your first order at Zbiotics.com slash GGE with code GGE.

And thank you to StoryWorth. Ooh, is that time of year again? Get $10 off or more at storyworth.com slash GGE.E. And thank you to Sackspith Avenue. Head to Sacksfith Avenue or Sacks.com for inspiring ways to elevate your personal style. Also, I wanted to say, so he brought his iPad. When he comes in, he has his iPad. And we never addressed it, but it was like kind of a bit.

I thought it was so cute and professional. I couldn't need it. But he brought it and he was going to make jokes about the charging, the whole situation that I've talked about on the show. And so when you just see it, just know that he was mocking us. I thought he was trying to be like professional and prepared. I was like, that's so cute. No, but like I, we talked about the things we were going to ask him

because I want him to be prepared. And, you know, an hour before we were getting ready to leave, I was like, do you feel good? You nervous? You want to prep? He was just laying on the couch with his old. He was like, I'm fine. I was like, okay.

He's like, you guys will handle this. If he is nervous about something, I can never tell. He stays very composed. Like, I'm a neurotic crazy person. And he is just always, like, he can say, like, I was so nervous and he, you never know it. I, it's a nice quality. We talk about it in that episode later on, but like, how nervous all three of us were during the ceremony. And I really, I thought he was going to be a wreck.

And just because, you know, I speak for a living. He doesn't. And couldn't tell. Yeah, I mean, it's a male trait too where if I'm the slightest bit nervous, anxious, panicked, I tell everybody. I have to tell everybody. I announced it. I mean, I announced it in the bridal suite. I'm crashing out a little in the elevator. Hey, guys, I'm panicking. I don't even have like that block where like this should be some self-talk. I have to say it right now. And I have and I just like, five minutes later, I'm like, why did I terrorize everybody around me, but like, I can't stop. I think it's nice.

I think you always know where you stand with us. Like, you don't even have to, like, dig for it. You don't have to pick up on the signs. I'm telling you exactly how I'm feeling at all times. Absolutely. I've never had a thought or a feeling I didn't need to tell somebody. Like, what are those people like? I can't even imagine what it is like to, like, think a thing.

And your brain says, don't say it out loud. Yeah. Can you imagine? No, no, can't relate. So, we are recapping the wedding today. We had on my wedding planner, Jacqueline, a few weeks ago with the wedding plan and company. You guys loved that episode. It was so special.

And we didn't really share a lot of the details of the wedding, of course. So we're going to share some of those today. And I just want to start by thanking her and again, hyping her up. And, you know, she's gotten some inquiries from our listeners and we love to hear it. And she was just the best. And she really helped my dreams come true in terms of having this wedding. That was everything I wanted. She is just, I woke up the day after your wedding and I texted her.

She's still getting all these messages. She was like, your brother messaged me. My mother-in-law messaged her. I was wondering, like, dude, I mean, I guess wedding planners get a lot of messages the next day. But like, from somebody like me who's not, she, it's not my wedding. Like, I woke up and I was like, that's the first person I have to text. And just like, it's not like a hot take. But like, I needed an Advil.

And she was like, I will have a bottle of Advil in front of you in five minutes. Like, I needed to know when to be in hair. to be a makeup. She just had an answer for everything. I said to her, like, the outfit I was going to marry you guys in. This belt wasn't like fitting. She was like, I'm going to sew it on to you. Just give me a second. She is unreal. And it wasn't my wedding. She ran that four event wedding, like the Navy. And there was this one point where I just wanted a straw all night. Like I wanted a straw in my drink. And, you know, I wanted to drink out of a straw, whatever I was drinking and I didn't want to mess up my lipstick. And I was on the dance floor. Louisa's ponytail whipped my

out of my drink. She was dancing the hardest. But she posted it and she is our friend who has gone through chemo and she was able to keep her hair and her hair looks better than ever and it's just like I could cry just thinking about it. But she posted this Instagram story and like she was like, look how thick this ponytail is. It was whipping around in the dance force so much that it took the straw out of the bride's drink and something, something.

She wrote, let me cook. I laughed out loud. Did you see it? You love let me cook. Nothing makes you laugh harder than let me cook. She said, let me cook, but her ponytail whipped, took my straw out of my drink. In second, why was Jacqueline right there, straw on the drink? That's insane.

Just she had a straw on her. She just probably has one of those, like, belts with like everything. You tell me about it? Safety pins, there's straws. Like, there's deodorant. I like that you thanked her before your husband. He has the floor today. No, it, you know, the wedding itself was just my dream come true.

I mean, I had all these ideas and wanted to make it feel like a party. and this whole vision and doing to feel like a stuffy wedding and having this Haldi by day and there's a Halloween party at night and the welcome drinks and just all the vibes. And with the help of her and her team, obviously, she had two other planners there on the day of and throughout the weekend. Gabby was there who was wonderful throughout the weekend too. It just really all came together. And, you know, we're going to share a lot of the details today.

We think you guys want to know that in some of our favorite moments and things that went down and some tea. But I guess my advice to anybody to kick it off is to think about what you want for your wedding and the vibes and the look and the feel. And just try your hardest to make it happen. Like I know that it can be tough when your parents are paying for it. But it should be what you want. There is no other time in your life that I know of where you truly will have all these people, all the people closest to you if you choose to do a largeish wedding and not a lope or have a time, little wedding that are all there to support you and celebrate your love. And if your dream wedding is to get married outside in the elements with 15 bridesmaids and have a reception in a rustic

barn with a three-course seated dinner and dance to Sweet Caroline, you do you. If that is your dream, which is a lot of people's dreams. That sounds kind of nice. I've been to that wedding. I don't want to be outside ever. I've been to the wedding in the barn with Sweet Caroline and all, you And it couldn't be me. And that's what a lot of people want. But if you don't want that and you want something different, just really try to. I just kept thinking that. Like, this is my dream.

Like, this is what I wanted. Obviously, my husband and I planned it together, but there were no parents weighing in. And we wanted to do things our parents would appreciate and things like that. But that's just my advice. Like, you should have what you want. Pay for it. I mean, you got to pay for it. But I don't know.

like I think my parents and his parents too, if they were paying for it, they'd still would be, let us do what we wanted. But they would certainly have more of a right to weigh in. So that's just really overall. Like I think people look back and maybe they're like, I let the wedding get away from me and planned and it's not what I would have wanted. And I just think you have to sit down and think about your personality and what you do want.

Because the formality and traditional wedding vibe was what I wanted to be so far from. You did it. Yeah. I like that you spread it out over four days. And I know that everybody can't do that. Not everybody like gets married in the town that they live in. But like I like that it was so spread out. And a lot of people do the last like a third day on Sunday.

And people are hungover. Yeah. I mean. If you could do a Thursday night. Well, yeah. I guess like that's why we didn't play anything for Sunday. and we did all end up Sunday in the courtyard with some family and whoever was out there. And it really was nice.

It felt like a nice send-off brunch, but it wasn't an official event. I think you have to consider like what you're asking to people too, but also like come or don't. But I have never really loved the Sunday send-off vibes. I would so much rather be in for a Thursday welcome drinks, but also plenty of people can't come Thursday. but we say four official events, but over three days, but four days for, like, close friends and family. So it all started on Wednesday, which was such a fun day. We went to the courthouse. We got our marriage certificate, which is just so quick and easy. I just, everything in LA, I just feel like is always so easy. It was so nice, so beautiful, palm trees. I walked across the street and voted

for Prop 50, which passed. Like, I was like, what a glory say. Then you and I got pedicures. I sent next to Stifler, which was crazy. Raina was at the nail salon, and she was like, I have a special guest for you to sit next to. I thought it was our friend Jackie. I go, Jackie, let me guess. And she were like someone marginally more famous. And I go into the salon and they sit me next to Sean William Scott from American Pie. My girl, Jessica, she was like, we have a special chair for Ashley when she gets here. And I was like, what? He was so hot. So he was there with his daughter. Oh, they were so cute. She was getting her pedicure and her nails done. She was in the chair and he was just sitting next to her. It was the cutest thing.

It was so cute. So anyway, that happened that night. We had people over at our house and our families met and we'll talk about that more when he comes around and you were there. When he spends the block. And that was just really nice, but we do talk about it more when he's there. And then Thursday, I mean, we got up. My best friend, Corey and her husband got in town Wednesday night. And so they stayed the night and we got up and just, I don't know, they like we made breakfast.

He made burritos for them. And it was just this lovely moment. And then we had to pack the car. And I will say, I do not know how people do destination weddings because we could barely fit everything in our car. And I know you have shipped things. And you also get married somewhere where they're doing a lot of the stuff. You know, like we were bringing some stuff for the weekend.

Like not all the stuff. We'd already drop the gift bags off. But we had a car full. And I guess like my Indian outfit did take up most of the car. Mine too. Right. But like my wedding dress, like I. have so much respect for people that put their wedding dress on a plane.

I don't know how people do it. I don't know. Destination weddings just couldn't be for me. You come to us. Like that's the vibe. Like I can't imagine packing for my wedding. I got to get on a plane for my wedding. Thank God Jackie was at my house when I was packing and like taking the Uber to the hotel

to be with you guys because I had too much stuff. Yes. Like Raina, we could barely shut the car. I was always in there. He was like, please help. me. He was, like, surrounded by stuff. So I was just like, how are people doing this? Don't people buy an extra seat on the plane for their wedding dress? Isn't that like a thing? I don't know. That seems like a lot of money to spend. You sometimes see people and they can hang it in the little

closet that the flight attendants have, but only like one. So you've got to like reserve that shit. You have to ask out of time? I don't know. It's just a matter of like if it's available. Or what if you have like, okay, so my Indian outfit had like that hula skirt. the can can underneath. Like that wouldn't have fit in the closet. Like, and a lot of wedding dresses have that. I think that obviously things can be shipped. Ship a wedding dress?

Well, my wedding dress got shipped from London to here. But it didn't have that, like, like a lot of wedding dresses have that thing under it that make them puffy. But that can be shipped. Okay. Like, every time you order them, they got to be, everything is shipped from somewhere. Not everything is made down the street on the block.

Yeah. Yeah. So I guess you just ship a lot of stuff, but it was a journey. like getting there and we got there. And most everything was the exception of the Halloween party, which we'll talk about took place at the W in Hollywood. And if you've been listening, you know that our journey started in the W in Boston.

And I talked about it a few weeks ago when I ended my tour and W. Boston did all this things. And I kind of say the wedding venue then. But now I can talk about the significance of this hotel brand for us. And that the first night we spent together was in the W in Boston. and they've been so wonderful. When we were there recently, they did the room number and all the things and that we were able to get married at the W in Hollywood.

And it wasn't like we sought that out. I told Jacqueline what I wanted early on. I wanted this kind of city vibe with like city views. And I didn't want like a carpeted ballroom. And I wanted Florida ceiling windows and like a rooftop energy. And this was the most perfect option. And they just stepped up and like did everything. Like it couldn't have been more perfect.

I mean the colors, they just did a renovated. like years ago. It's the most beautiful, stunning chic hotel. Like the lobby where we had the welcome drinks, this like all this green velvet, this staircase that we took photos on. And the outside patio is where we did the holiday ceremony and the colors were so right. The chairs were yellow and the greenery. And then to have the ceremony and reception out on, and they call it the loft on the rooftop. And basically we like flipped the room. So during the ceremony, it was this very white flowers, ethereal, dreamlike vibe that I wanted. And then they flipped it in under an hour completely. Like these vendors went all the way off. And then you came in and it was a like darker,

moody or sexier vibe. But I just wanted to thank them and their team and go there and get married and tell them you want the copy paste. Ashley Special. Ask for Akash. And he will hook you up. They just did everything. The food was incredible. So I really just, I like that everything was there. There was parties every night. Yeah, and then you're down in the lobby every night. Every night there was just a party in the lobby. And we just got to take over the lobby every night. I didn't have to go anywhere.

I was ready to go to sleep. I was horizontal in 30 seconds. Like, man, it felt like a destination wedding. I mean, it is far from Venice. It is like an hour and a half from Venice. Our friends that came from the west side in traffic. I was like, I stayed at a hotel for three days. I was like, I lived 10 miles from here.

I stayed at hotel for three days. I mean, it just was like, It's really far from my house. It just was like so nice to be on one property. Those are always my favorite weddings, always hand down. Like even locations I've like complained about having to go to like the middle of nowhere in New Jersey or Pennsylvania. I always like kind of bitch about it. But then like you're there and you're like, I just get to be with somebody all day, every day.

Every time I will. I checked in. There was a million people. Every home to the lobby. Like it just you were never like not with people. That's the thing. And I talk about a little bit more in the second half of the episode just why you crash from that. so hard because you're just surrounded by all the people you love most in the world for days on end.

And yeah, every time you look there are your friends and family or at the bar. And then people are meeting from both of our sides, but also from different times in our life. And everybody's becoming friends. And it's just so special. And I had had this vision, I will say, to do the welcome drinks in the lobby. There's these gorgeous green velvet couches. Like, it's stunning. It's just so beautiful.

And initially they were like, we can't like reserve the couches, right? Like, you can't reserve the lobby. And Jacqueline was like, okay, watch us. And so she got them to agree to reserve, like, an area. And the way we took over the entire lobby, because so many more people came than we expected, which we will talk about later. Like, we had the whole lobby. It was so beautiful and special.

I didn't realize that you reserved part of the lobby. What were they going to do? People were there paying money. It all worked out. But I think they soon realized they have the whole lobby, and that's fine. And they had servers for us. And before we came down for the welcome drinks, he was like, I have a gift for you. And he brought me into the dining area of the suite.

And there was this Cartier box on the table. And I just like burst into tears immediately. He had known that I wanted a Cartier tank watch like for years. Like it's just so thoughtful, so nice. It was such a like special way to start the weekend. I did not expect that. And then of course we went down. We had this entrance coming down the stairs.

That wasn't even planned. Like we just stayed on the second floor. the suite was on the second floor. It's called the Vista Suite, if you guys want to check it out. That wasn't planned that you guys did that? No, we, our suite was on the second floor. And so I'm like, all we have to do is go downstairs. Let's take the stairs. I shot her to think if we would have been on a high floor and just took the elevator down to the lobby and just walked in from the reception desk. So you know I missed it and I'm really upset about it. It's one of my greatest regrets in life. Because I told it it's the only event that I was late for. I was 15 minutes like, you came to your rehearsal dress.

Yeah, I did that. I missed it by a couple minutes. And then I saw these videos of it and I was like, God. Damn it. We'll post a video if you guys are watching on YouTube. So we just had the idea last minute. I'm like, well, all we have to do is walk down. We look out. There's 70, 80 people there. I'm like, oh my gosh. I see Caleb, who is my best guy friend from high school who came from Prague. I see my mom. I'm like, oh my God, everyone's here for us. And so we like, come down. Everyone starts clapping and cheering. Like Bobby, Bobby got a video of it. I was like, what an entrance to the weekend that was unplanned. It's a grand wrap around the whole lobby staircase. I mean, it is such. Unbelievable. Yes. I don't really. I know I saw videos of it. I was so upset. Because I didn't,

if I knew you were going to do some big entrance, I would be down on the floor and just like cheering about it. I didn't know. So the only thing I was late for, everything else I was on time. We'll talk about it later, but like people just really every minute of it soaked it up. Yeah.

And the next day we did a holiday ceremony, which we'll talk about a little bit later too. But if you guys don't know, and this is a pre-wedding ritual in Indian weddings where you have this paste. It's made of tumor. it's yellow and you apply it to the bride and the groom to bless them and purify them. And so we did that and we got all dressed up and his mom spoke about the significance of the holiday. And it was just gorgeous.

Our florist, Patrick from once upon a florist got all the marigolds in L.A. I guess they're like sort out of season. He found a farm. He was like, give me all of them. He went all the way off. The marigolds looked insane. And it was just really stunning. And you guys all came up and did the turmeric paste. And towards Yeah, and people put it on his face and stuff like that. So your husband's mom, she introduced what the ceremony was, and she was like, and basically, like, we have people that are special in their lives hold up this. I don't know you call it. It's like sort of like a Hupa in Jewish weddings. It's just like this, I don't want to call like a sheet.

It was like a beautiful draping a tapestry above your head. Yeah, she's like, since giving it to me, it's really special. We'll put this up on. But she's like, where's Raina? And she calls these people up. And I'm too short to hold something above your head. It was so embarrassing. And I'm standing there with it like, my arms outstretched.

I'm like, how long do I have to stand here? There's 150 people here. How long do I have to stand here? I think traditionally it stays up the whole time. And I was like, there's no way. I don't know for sure. Maybe I should have looked this up. But they were like saying like traditionally, yes, someone, people would hold this the whole time.

I'm like literally who. Like my arm gets tired if I scroll movies on the plane for too long. Who has the arm strength? I can't have that kind of strength. But Raina just couldn't. The height was not there. So we called it my sister-in-law, Steph, to hold it up. And four people are holding the corners of this over us.

And it looked really incredible. And we got the vibes. But then it. Human pulse. We were able to put it away. You know, we did the significance of it. But I was like, there's no way these people were going to stand here for the next hour. I would feel bad.

I didn't know. what I was going to do. When she called me off here, I was like, oh, no. Oh, no. Yeah, so it was really nice. And that was just really special. And then we had a Halloween party that night, which is just a wild day to go from a holiday to this Halloween party.

Actually, I was, the holiday was wrapping up. And my makeup artist for the evening texts, I'm in the lobby. And I was like, oh, no. You didn't get any break at all? No. And then all those girls came up to my room. I was in the room with like six girls. But, I mean, that is relaxing for me.

And it just be able to, like, sit, put a robe on. But I was like, oh, no. Oh, my gosh. We went up to the room and, like, we're able to lay down a little bit and eat some pizza and get ready for the night. And so we had a Halloween party. He and I dressed as Batman and Catwoman. It was the hottest I've ever felt, wedding included. I was like, I'm wearing this tomorrow.

He looked so hot. I just felt that was my favorite costume I think I've ever done. Absolutely. That we pulled together in a week. Thank God. Thank God if we did this. Listen, your other one would have been cute. But this was like iconic.

No, it was like so special. And it was special because like it was a black costume, it was a red room. It just like looked really like spicy. Yeah. So we did it at this place called Gold Diggers, which I was thinking like, okay, I want to do a Halloween party. I want to do it offsite, but in the area like Hollywood, East Hollywood, West Hollywood. And there's just a cute origin story.

I mean, Gold Diggers is a boutique hotel and bar, speakeasy vibes and a recording studio. And you and I recorded there when they were pretty nice. in 2021. And we recorded some episodes there. And I know one of the owners. I know I'm from Atlanta randomly. And so I remember when we went there, they showed us the bar and gave us a little tour.

And I was like, that place is so cool. And it really just fit the vibe. I want this like kind of, it did feel like old school Hollywood, like glam. Like it was dark. And there was chandeliers. And but not in like an overly pretentious way. I mean, it's still kind of like a speakeasy-ish vibe. And there's a state.

There's a stage. Yeah, there's a stage. So we just did it there. They were so wonderful and you guys should like check them out. They do like a bunch of fun stuff. Just like check out their Instagram, check out their website. They do events like all the time. It's just like a great spot.

And we had this DJ named Teddy Roxpin who was just incredible and played like a lot of old school stuff. He just absolutely crushed it. And we did a costume contest. And the way people committed to the costumes, I mean that they traveled with them. Like Corey and Ham, this is my best friend and her husband. They showed up to the house with a huge suitcase. I was like, what is in that? So they dressed up as Hulk Hogan and macho man, Randy Savage.

I, I, the, like, details and the accuracy. We had fresh Prince of Bel Air, whole cast, group costume, Jersey Shore. Power Rangers? Power Rangers. Kate and Chad did Power Rangers. Coldplay Kiss Cam. Two people did that costume. Our friend Taylor and Blake were from White Lotus.

He had a blender. All night he was drinking out of the blender. He just kept filling it up with beer. It was really committed. I know. And like they, everybody just really did that. Like I thought some people were going to be like, all right, there's a lot of stuff.

I'm just going to throw on like a cat ears or something. And people went all out and we just had the most fun. We were on the dance floor. Like how are we going to do this again tomorrow? My whole body hurt from dancing. And then we went to a party after. We went to the lobby of the W and they were also having a Halloween party. We just stayed there and partied.

Like, I don't know how. we stayed out so late. So we got in the lobby and we realized the W was having a party in my lobby. Couldn't believe it. I was like, I thought this was my hotel. But I guess you guys are going to do other stuff here. So anyway, so my, you know, fiance at the time was like, I want to go. And I was like, I don't want to go. I'm so tired. Like I don't want to go. I just want to go to bed. Like, we're getting married tomorrow. We've been out all night. And he was like, well, I just kind of want to have like a beer with my friends. I'm like, sure, you should go. I'm getting ready to go upstairs. And then, like, so many of my friends were like, we're going to the bar.

I was like, okay, I'll go to the bar. He was like, oh, now that Taylor and Blake are here. Like, he really was like, you were not trying to do this. And I stayed all for another two hours. It was so fun. Yeah. It just, I couldn't go to sleep. I don't know how much you drank.

I really tried to keep it in check and, like, force myself to not have. I think I had three drinks total from the beginning of the Halloween party, what, seven until we probably went to bed at, like, one. Yeah, that's, one of them was beer. Yeah. Drink a lot of beer that weekend. Yeah, I don't know. I did just keep it in check too.

Like I had a high noon at the after party. I probably had two tequila drinks at the Halloween party. I mean, I just didn't need alcohol. Like, I wanted to have a drink in my hand, but I never need it. And I had so much adrenaline and I didn't want to ever feel hungover at all. I just, I have had events in my life. I spent a lot of money on and I've drank and I don't really remember them. And those are some of my biggest.

regrets in the world, but like I spent all this time and money. And like, I remember every minute of your wedding. Like I just never was really drunk. Yeah. So that was that. And we wake up the next morning and we talk about a little bit with him. But he and I were just able to relax in the morning order room service and finish the love is blind reunion. And then I just start getting ready. And you came in and my mom was there and she got hair and makeup. And Stephanie came in. And we had an amazing glam team, mega hair did my makeup and Valerie from Bobby Pins and Blush. Those are the women that did it. I have a wedding highlight on my Instagram. I tagged everybody. I want to make sure everybody gets thanked. And if you guys are curious on who to use for these types of things,

and they were just incredible. Everybody looked so great. And it just started to get a little stressful. It just felt like all of a sudden it was like go time. And it took longer to get me into my dress that I anticipated. It was tight. It took three people to get in. Jacqueline had to be in there. She was like, I've never lost a battle with a dress and I'm not going to start today. Oh, okay. It fit, but it, the buttons, there's so many buttons down the whole back and they don't have any elastic. It's so it just has to be everyone that's gotten me into it, whether it's tight or not, it's tough to button all those buttons and you just need an extra hand. And so they were in there. And we did a first look with my dad and my brother, which was really cute.

And the boys. My nephews were in there. Wait, I have to show you this photo. I want to put it up on the screen. But we initially, we did the first look with your dad outside. And next to the hotel, there's this giant, like, poster, like a movie poster of somebody, like, smoking a sing. And it's this, like, beautiful moment of you. But from my angle, this giant movie poster behind you, when it's just like, I'll send you.

I'll send you the photo. It could be worse. It could be, like, a maga billboard. Literally. It could be Christy Noam. No. Like in the airport vibes. You had great videographers, photographers all weekend and they did it from a different angle.

But we were on the roof, like on a roof essentially. So the angle I was at was very funny. That's so funny. Yeah. And to your point, like Ryan, who has done all of our girls got to eat shows and was there the day we all met, we all met. We're all there in the same room the night that we all met in Boston. So he's just been a part of the story the whole time. and he shot the whole entire weekend and he was there.

And that was really wonderful. Just have him there. Like, those are the people that are with you the most, like intimately. It's like your video and photographer team, if they're there from the start. And I had this wonderful photographer named Jess McDole. You guys can see her photos, obviously, on Rana's Instagram on my Instagram. She's just, like, incredible.

She really captured every moment and her photos look insane. And I'm going to have them all back next week, this week at this point. And then we went into the ceremony. We talked about it a little bit more. later and Rayno crushed it. It was like so funny. There was just some things I did not expect you to say about Ryan. About your own family. I just was like up there like laughing, laughing. Thank you. I wanted it to be fun, but I didn't want to like take it too far with like the make fun of anybody. You know, it was just I really wanted to be funny and not just like sweet. And I knew that

your guys's vows would be really heartfelt and sweet and meaningful. So wanted to add a little comedy and obviously my longtime love for Ryan. Oh my God. I also brought his girlfriend up. She's listening. His vows had some light humor, but mine had punchlines. And both of ours were obviously so heartfelt, but he had some light humor in his too. He brought up a boy meets world reference, which was like really cute and special.

So it was just, it was the ceremony was great. And we did our photos. We missed the cocktail hour, which is just sad. Like, I'm sure it was so fun. It looked so nice. And we just didn't, we didn't do it. He didn't want to do a first look. He wanted to see me coming down the aisle for the first time.

And I was like, great, I don't really carry either way. I'm down for either. But I also liked us having a grand entrance at the wedding. And I did a little bit of a look change. I brought my hair down and I took the little sleeve things off my dress. And so I had that. And I liked having the entrance, but I still miss the cocktail hour. I mean, I don't want to be like, I don't want to tell.

you was the worst part of the weekend and so you didn't miss anything. I mean, it just, it was really beautiful. It was out of the pool on their roof deck and, like, the views are just like 360 views of Hollywood. Yeah. But listen, if you skip a thing, that's the thing to skip. Yeah. You know? Yeah.

It was really nice. It was really nice. It just looked like the sun was setting and it's just like studying and I chose the food. And I'm like, I want one of those sliders. Like, I chose that. Sliders were good. The mini cassidia. Even like the mini pretzel sticks were pretty good.

It's just good. And then we did our entrance and we wanted to be really fun. So Bobby Westside, who was a close friend of ours, who was there, the whole entire weekend. And he just creates such incredible content. He's such a great emcee. He's emceived so many girls got to eat shows. He was the emcee, the master of ceremonies for the evening. And he absolutely crushed it.

So he announced us and we walked in and we walked into Nice for What by Drake and had a whole drumline. And I feel like I'd been teasing the drumline throughout the wedding planning process. And I really did it. And it added such a. special fun thing. I think people were like blown away. You don't see that every day. So the drumline, I just wanted to talk about them because I've gotten a lot of questions. Like, I want a drumline or for some event, you know, and this is the company that we have used for all of our shows that we've had drumlines since the start. So they're called BD Entertainment.

And they work with a lot of professional sports teams. So the Golden State Warriors, the 49ers, the Giants, so every time we have the Giants drumline at our New York show, like they are in charge of that. but they also can create a drum line in any city. So they have performers in every major market in the U.S. There's no, like, you've got to fly people out and pay for their travel and things like that, which can be the case with certain types of entertainers. And they really just played such a role in making this so high energy and unforgettable. Like the drummers came out first.

They did like cadences. They played this song. And then we came out. And then they had these LED light up drums. Their LED panel drums are the most advanced in the industry. I mean, the lights were going crazy. it's such a fun element and we've loved working with them and I just really wanted to plug them because they've been doing our show since 2023 and they really bring such this energy to any event

and like anybody can have a drum line so we don't want to gatekeep the drum lines anymore. They were so fun. Yeah. They really were. They really were. And then a couple of the drummers stayed around and came out later in the night and they were giving us the drumsticks. Like we have this picture of Chad where he is like about to hit the drum.

It's just, there's a lot of fun action shots, like with the drummers, too. So just wanted to let you guys know and you can connect with them. Their website is BD Entertainment, which BDE is their brand. Easy to remember you guys. So BD Entertainment.com and their Instagram is we are BDE underscore. And so that's how we've been doing it all these years. That's now you know. Bobby's so interesting to me because like most people in the world would be like,

these are my best friends. I'm not trying to work at this wedding. I want to be a guest. Like, I, I mean, we've known Bobby almost 10 years. Like, most people would be like, I'm not trying to be at work at this wedding. Bobby just shines. Oh, he wants to do it. Yes, he wants to do it. Like, he feels the opposite. Some people would be like, I'm best friends at these people for 10 years. Bobby's like, of course I'm going to work this wedding. Yeah. I mean, his reels are second to none and they just keep getting better. So if you guys want to go watch the reel that he made for the Halloween part, I asked him to do that and was like, you don't have to do it. I just know he wants, he's going to do it anyway. So I was like, I want to get this up the next day. Can you put it together? And I don't know if I told it at the end of the night. I was staying there with him and Ryan.

And Ryan was like, Ash, I just want to you know that like I really want to get you a video from tonight, like for you to post tomorrow. Because I know it's like. Oh, sweetie. And Bobby goes, nah, that's my job. we had a little bit of a moment. Like, they were funny. They're friends. Literally, Bobby was like, bro, I've been doing this real.

Like, I'm on, I was hired tonight to do it. Like, they had this moment. I was like, Ryan, no, you're off the hook. Like, I didn't even tell you to do this. Like, I'm having Bobby do it because I wanted to post it the next day. Because we actually wanted to get it on time. Stop. Ryan's been great.

I have the whole ceremony in my drop box. But, yeah, like, I don't want someone to feel like that. I don't want someone to feel any sort of responsibility as something like this or even nerves. You know, like I felt bad asking my brother to do a speech because I know he'll be nervous all day about it. But too bad. You got to do the speech. Everybody wants to see it. And so Bobby's like, I would love to work.

I'm born to do it. He would have been insulted if he didn't work that wedding. He would have been. He just like, he emceived the wedding like a girl's got to eat show, which is what I wanted. Like the energy, the tone, the volume. the hype man of it all, it lends itself to be the energy. Like, they set the tone. I just like that all these people were involved in it that are just like our longtime friends.

I mean, Ryan also is not a wedding videographer. He, like, for weeks was like, I have all these checklists. I'm renting equipment. Like, I'm making sure he had a friend who's a wedding videographer. He got all this advice from her. Like, it was important to him that, like, he's a concert videographer. Yeah. But it means more to have him there.

And, like, you could have hired any MC, but, like, means more to have Bobby there. Like, it was just nice to have these additional touches of, like, not random vendors, but, like, people that mean so much to you. Oh, my, I know that totally. Like, that was such a part of it. Well, I don't know if you'd hire, I don't think you'd hire an MC. I think the DJ usually does it. Well, not, Bar Mitz was hired.

Oh, they hire. You get, like, a hype man all the time. Okay. I just think usually wedding. It's the DJ. So, we will talk about the DJ and hype him plenty in the second half. But I did ask him on our first call. I was like, is it going to step on your toes to have you not emcee this wedding?

He was like, no, I don't need to emcee your wedding. Like different skill sets to me. And he's, he got on the mic. Like, Michael Leary is the goat. And he was, every time he got on the mic, you were there for it. But he didn't emcee, nor did he want to. Different skill sets. Yeah.

So that was great. I mean, we'll talk about it a little bit more. But just it was everything I would have wanted, like dancing all night. Like, I wanted people dancing before they ate, like really. you like come in hot, my vision was that people are already in the dance floor before we walk in. No one announced it. Like do you, like they opened up the doors and everybody just walked in and we just started dancing.

Are you serious? Like there wasn't like a let's find our. Is that really what happened? Stop. That was my dream. No one got their seating assignments. Like the doors opened and everybody got on the dance floor. It wasn't like, let me see about the food.

And also like there was like a natural progression. People just started to get dinner at some point. And they went back to the dance room. wasn't like an announcement of like time to sit down everybody time to dance everybody it's just like doors open dancing well that's exactly what i wanted and you can't force people to act like that and luckily i was like i know how cool these guests are i know our friends and family but you the vibe has to be right and you can't force it and so i was like the vision is that the doors open from cocktail hour reception he and i aren't there yet we're going to do our grand entrance 15 20 minutes i want people

fucking lighting up the dance for but you can't force them to do it and so i told mike Here's the songs I want you to play. I'm so devastated that I missed him because I'm sure there were some bangers. And that's what happened. And when we came back up to do our entrance, someone said to me, like, everyone's on the dance war. And I was like, really? That's all I wanted.

Immediate dancing. Just no one even thought twice about it. Just straight in. And we did our first dance to blossom by Dermannity, big Dermannedy couple. So we did that. And I wanted to keep it shorter. I find the whole dancing with everyone watching. Just not my vibe.

I liked it. We did one slow song. Yeah, and then we brought the families out, and then everybody came out. We did a whole thing. So I danced with our agent. No. Can I tell you, I kind of sprung this slow dance moment on everybody. I was like, grab whoever.

I didn't know if you were going to do any slow songs, and there is always that moment. I mean, I will say about your wedding, we didn't really talk about this. I think that at the age of 40, it is a lot of people's nightmare to be single and go to a wedding. And you had so many girlfriends there in just like different phases of life. Like there was so many girlfriends that were single at that wedding and so many guy friends that were single. And like, yeah. I think that's a moment when I've been single that I have dreaded the most, the moment where everybody goes in slow dances and you're just like the odd man out. And like that just wasn't your wedding at all.

Like everybody was on the dance for, but I was wondering if you were going to do one slow song. That was the one slow song. It was impromptu. I'm not going to get into it. There was a little bit of a snafu and I got the mic and said everyone's slow dance basically. I feel like this sounds crazy, but that's what happened. It just, the flow was so perfect. And we had place seatings, but again, it was not a seated dinner.

There was these stations. If you guys were curious, I never tasted the food, by the way. At all? You never ate it? I never tasted it prior. But there was these, like, stations set out all over the room. There was just sort of like a natural progression to people, like, started to kind of wait in line and grab the food.

But, like, I like that there wasn't this moment of, like, everybody has to sit down now and everybody has to get served. And, like, I sat at, like, four different tables. Yeah. I got up and bounced around the tables. and like that was really fun. And I don't know how you did it because it wasn't this like, this is what we're going to do now,

really rigid thing. But everybody just kind of naturally did those things. It's exactly what I wanted. And Jacqueline helped me create that. I mean, and that's what we did with the tables. So we had some 10 tops. We had some four tops,

like with some high tops. And then we had the lounge seating, which I'll talk about. But like we set it up to, to feel like this. I mean, this is why there is like a floor plan and you really do do it differently than a bunch of like formal tables.

and the food, I mean, we did exactly what you'd expect for me. We did a taco bar. We did a pasta bar. We did it a salad bar, like chopped salads. And then for desserts, I did a champagne tower in lieu of a cake. I was like, the moment I want is the giant champagne tower. It was incredible. They're called bottles and blooms, like seven, eight tier.

Like, that was the moment we had. I sabred. I poured it from the top. I'd just stand on a fucking ladder. Like, that was my cake. But I was like, I do think people would want something sweet. Jacqueline I saw on the W's like 10 page PDF of food options, a churo bar. I was like, let's do a churro bar.

Rina, piles of churos. People never eat dessert at weddings, and the churros are like every photo. Piles of churros. All these men are just like feeding each other churros of like sexy churot photos. People were bringing it over to the photo booth. Can I just talk about the photo booth? They're called Coastal Cam photo booth. And we'll tag everybody and all this stuff.

Again, just look at my wedding highlight. So the owner is a woman named Brittany, and she was a fan of the show. She was a longtime listener. And when we did Jacqueline's episode, she, like, tagged us in a story or something like that. And that's how it all came together. And I got to see her for a moment and talk about, like, how much the show was meant to her and stuff like that. But the photo booth was so perfect. And a lot of times the photo booth gets ignored at weddings.

Like, A, the placement of it was great. But there was this, the way it looked was so good. The printouts looked so good. We were able to do our little crest on it. Okay. You know what I really hate is when you go to a photo booth and they'll only print out one. They printed out as many photos as everybody wanted. And then you can text yourself the photos.

I was in a photo with like 10 people. They did 10 printouts. People wanted to do it. Yeah, but it was in the middle of the room. Like some people put it off to the side in like another room. Like it was just in between the chiro bar and the taco bar. Yes, it was like very visible. But also my whole dream of wedding was one big room.

I don't want you going anywhere else. Like I've been to weddings where there's little off places people are like doing their own thing. I want everyone together and I want everyone like on the dance floor. But I just, I loved it. The photos were gorgeous. She sent some, like, templates for how we wanted things to look and the backdrop. Like, I just think photo boost can feel cheesy. Like the signs.

So they did, like, signs instead of, like, a bunch of silly props. Like, there you could hold a sign up that said different things that was, like, fun. Like, I just feel like it's this element of weddings that A can be ignored or B can just be kind of like a corny afterthought. And this was perfect. So I can't recommend them enough. I just, I feel like people ignore them because they're not in the room with you. and you got to go somewhere else for them. I think you're right.

It was like the most where it's just is right there. Get your churros. So all the guys took a picture with like the fucking churros like they were cigars. I was like, oh my God. I saw them. I was like, baby, you got to get over there and get in this churro pick. He was front and center. No, they were feeding each other churros.

This was a whole thing. People were horny. It was sexual. So we've been talking about this. Like a lot of people who were like married or in relationships were horny for other people. Like I have different thoughts on. I don't need a deep dive on. I just think certain people were maybe like exposed to another kind of person they don't

really see on their day to day. Like I don't know. It just. It was a horny wedding. Yeah. People that you did not expect were acting very horny for other people. Other people who were not available. Like not in a trying to cheat way.

Well, maybe one person cheated. But like not on their spouse. Just, you know, some shit went down. I mean, at one point I was sitting in the court, like me and Ryan and two of our girlfriends. And we're watching at the bar. Two of our friends. One is married. And another friend, he is running game on her for an hour.

And I'm just laughing the whole time because like nothing's going to happen. She's going to go back upstairs to her husband. But like I was like, he is sinking so much time and energy. I know. No, and I don't want to make it seem like we'd a bunch of people at the wedding that like wanted to cheat on their spouse. I mean, I think clearly. No one did. That was not the vibe.

It was just like people were like, who is that? And I'm like, our friends are just so hot. That's what it is. That's what it boils down to. mom at the welcome drinks was like your friends are so gorgeous like it's hard to comprehend all these gorgeous women around like that's how we do it so the reception is just everything I would have wanted like the bottle boys and the champagne moment like turned it into a club so my goal was like what moments can we do that aren't traditional that aren't a cake cutting that aren't a garter bouquet toss or whatever the

fuck so I was like I want to have this champagne tower and I did the saber and did the saber and did the whole thing. But before that, I was like, I want bottle boys, like bottle girls at the club. And I want them to be the biggest men in the room. And I want them to have sparkling champagne bottles. So I was like, I want to put sparklers on the top. Jacqueline was like, you can't have sparklers. You'll set the fire alarm off and they'll clear the room and they won't let you back in. I was like, noted. She was like, get flasher strobe light things from Amazon. I ordered them. We put them on the bottles. And the guys came out. I was like, play bottoms up immediately. They come out. In that moment, I was like it feels like the club. The last song of the night.

It was always going to be We Found Love by Rihanna. It's just my favorite hype song. And so I was like, the last song of the night is going to be We Found Love in full. Ashley, I thought we were going to break the floor. The floor was shaking. I mean, shaking. I was like, I don't know if it's safe, but if we die, we all die. Literally, the next morning Jacqueline sent a video of the champagne bottle, like, next to the tower.

The tower was shaking. The floor was shaking. I thought we were going to collapse the floor. I just, we were dancing so hard. It was rocking the building. It was crazy. concrete floor. It was crazy.

Yeah, it just, everyone felt like really present. And we did speeches and my brother, my sister-in-law, my new sister-in-law, and my parents spoke. And we don't have enough time here today. But it was unbelievably iconic. Your dad dropped the hottest line I've ever heard in any speech of all time. The entire room got up standing, screaming. Our agent looks at me and goes, I'm about to book him a tour. I literally got on the mic.

I'm like, where's his Netflix special? I got up and ran across the room. Unbelievable. It was unbelievable. And this will be promo for my special. We will clip it. You guys will see it. But my brother, I mean, hilarious.

Like, people were like, oh, I get it. You come from this family. My mom, like, and my mom started out. And like, both of my parents just roasted me. And then after my dad brought the house down, my mom had to be like, let me end the speech with, like, some sweet stuff. And my sister-in-law, like her speech just brought us all to tears. I mean, and we'll talk about it more in the second half. But during the speeches is when he and I sat on this like lounge area.

And I've never seen that at a wedding. Like, A, we were never going to do a sweetheart table. But B, even at our own table, like turned around. Like he and I get to sit. Like the two lounge seatings were right on the dance floor. And that's where we sat. And it was like, I couldn't believe it. I was like, Jacqueline, you are just a genius.

But like for photos I liked it too. Like how much better is that? The photos are insane. You know? He and I dying laughing and then everyone behind us like applauding or laughing or smiling and we're just on this like green velvet banquet. Like everyone should do this. Like things like that set the vibe.

I know. Damn, Jacqueline. So this has been a lot. But if there's anything you guys want to know, just. Just listen to the second half of the seven minutes. Ask me anything. Yeah. We talk about a lot in the.

It really was just, it was the best. days. It was so much fun. It was so much love. It was so many like young people. Everybody just like traveled and got into it. And it was like so sad the next day that people were leaving that I was like, come over. Like you all came over and like hung out. We watched football. Like Rob and Bobby and Andrew and Brenna, Megan, Jackie, you. It was just like nice to have a few people around because like it is, we'll talk about it later, but it is crazy to be with that many people and then be alone. And then be alone. Yeah. And like walk into an empty house and just completely just break down, which we will talk about.

into my house and Andrew Collin said, I broke your blinds. No. They just broke the, I don't know how to fix them. So now I have to fix that. Oh my God. I used to break Rob's blinds all the time when I stayed with him. That's probably you should tell him about that. It was just incredible.

I obviously love that you were there for every moment of it. You know, such important part that you played in it and just everybody. I mean, I have never felt so loved and so grateful. And I hope I got all my thank yous out today and we'll continue to do it. I mentioned a pre-up. I'll talk about next week. I'm going to do a whole thing. I have a lot of feelings about it too positive.

So that was just like another element that we'll discuss at a later date. But it was perfect. It's been sad that it's over. And I will like elaborate on it more. But it just feels like so this whole year went into planning this. And we really did it. And we got in under the gun before really all of this airport flight shutdown happened. I mean, this was a fear.

You know, even at the beginning of the year, like shit was like on fire quite literally in L.A. but like the world was just, I'm like, how bad is it going to be? Like, are we going to be able to have a wedding in November? Like, is this crazy? Like, is it crazy that we're even going to be celebrating in 10 months from now and the state of the world? Like, all the planes were crashing. Like, that was such a crazy time.

And I was like, what is this going to be like? And everyone made it. I don't, I think some people canceled a couple weeks prior, but no one, like, didn't make it. No one felt disengaged or like they didn't want to show up for every single thing. that they were in town for. I mean, it's just overwhelming in the best way. The timing is crazy because I went to New York the day after your wedding.

And within what, five days, all the airports were shutting down. And there was like pandemonium. It was hard for me to get back. And my plane kept changing. And it really, I mean, one week later, it would have been a real problem. Yeah. So I hope you guys enjoyed. And we brought you along on the ride.

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didn't know if those are yours or his because I was like, those are so fly. I feel like he would wear those too. Yeah, we both wanted to change into Sambas. He actually never did. But I was like, I want to put on sneakers on at a certain point. And like what better than like a gold sneaker? So anyway, this is a wedding recommendation I have is like get a sneaker you're excited about. Totally. And it has, you know, the gold or silver or something like that. Anyway, so I didn't mention them earlier, but I wanted to shout it out. I love a sneaker with a gown. I put on my Air Force ones I couldn't wait with like a sequin gown. I loved it. Okay, well, let's bring in our guest. Okay, guys, we have an extra special, maybe the most special guest today. He is the artist

formerly known as Ashley's fiancee, currently known as Ashley's husband. Please welcome to the show, Shishonk, Greenberg, Hustleton. Hey, Greenberg Hustle time. I like that for you. That's terrific. SG, SGH. Yes. Let's roll with it. Okay. formerly known as Sparkle Eyes and Ashley's fiance because I refuse to call you my husband over and over and over on this podcast. Well, I'm just happy to see Sparkle Eyes go. What are we going to call you now? We voted on it as a family.

We're going to go with Chunky, Shonky, some iteration of that. Our group name, our group text name is Shonky Tonk. Yes. So some version of that. You do have a lot. You have your name. Yeah. Shonk Greenberg Castle time.

And then there is. I like Shonky. We call you Shonky between us too. And then I think I wrote Chunky and it just, I just didn't fix it. It just autocorrected to Chunky and then we turned into Chunky. But someone says Chunky. You? Chonky.

You say sometimes. Okay. So there are, whatever you guys are feeling. Whatever. Yeah. And let us know where you guys would prefer to have us be sitting for this viewing experience because we couldn't decide. We were like, are people going to be like, oh my God, Ashley's married now? So she has to sit with her husband and a bit.

abandon Raina on one side or are people going to think it's weird that we're not sitting next to each other. So let us know in the comments, which you prefer. Obviously, this is what we went with, but we might switch. Well, Chunky also was like, people see us together enough, meaning the two of them. And I was like, I think people see us together a little bit more, actually. Twice a bit more. Since 2018.

Hundreds of shows. I think people have seen us sit next to each other a couple times. I had a bad moment. No one's seen you at all. So you came on one time. Voice of God, kind of. Voice of God. Just in the background.

Audio only. Like two years ago, probably exactly. November, 2023. Yeah, so welcome back. We'll have you on in two years from now. Yes. When you guys have kids? Yes.

So first question, post-wedding. When are you guys having kids? No. When you put that on that outline, I was like, is there something that I don't know? I was doing a bit. Oh, you don't want to have kids. This is a weird way to find out. It's a hit.

We've never talked about this. We talked about it night one. We talked about the very first night, like in the W in Boston, after you came in a condom, everybody. You guys had sex with a condom at first time? I think I did know that. Yeah. Yeah. Ashley couldn't have rolled her eyes harder.

I was like, well, you know. Why? Because you wanted to use a condom? I was like, just being safe. It's the first time I've met this person. Why did you roll your eyes? I'm just joking. I rolled my eyes when it was.

All right. Cut that. Whoever that is. Cut it. Cut it. Cut it. Talks about this. Oh yeah, that's right.

It was not my greatest performance. It's gone better. It was intimidating. I was nervous. I thought you would be like listening. Like the next room. Cop on the door. Well, Rayno was two doors down.

Crying. So we have talked about the room, one, one, one, one, two. Raina was like one, one four. Yeah, we walked by it. They were always like, do you want to be on the same floor as your friend? I was like, no. Nothing interests me less.

I don't need it. That one time in Miami they put you right next to my room too when I was there with my ex. Oh my gosh. And every time I walked by and like the do not disturb thing was on the door, I was like, ooh, stop. And then the other time we were on the same floor in L.A.

when we were visiting is when I popped in and you had all the security cams up because you were watching below deck. But it is very funny to think that like we had sex the first night. And I was like, I don't know. He didn't really make much noise. And it comes out later. He's like, I just thought Rain would be at the door listening.

That's what it was. I was even more self-munches about it. as it getting super judged by two of you. Now you can make as much noise as you want. You're married. What am I going to do about it? Yeah. Still using condoms.

Well, we're really excited to have you here to recap. Really, what I would say is like the best four days of my life. Yeah. Yeah, we'll see what happens. No, it was the absolutely best. I couldn't have imagined a better day. Days. Now I do wish you were sitting here because I just want to interview you.

How involved, I guess you want to know maybe like how involved he was in the planning. Oh, what a good question. How much? Do you feel like you were? Like how much input? Probably less than 20% being totally up front. Like in terms of the vision, I guess. Yeah.

Which, yeah, I think people, you can tell this was like my vision, but I asked Shishonk early on, what do you want to incorporate from Indian culture? You didn't just like steamroll me. I was like, yeah, we're not doing that. That's crazy. And you were like, okay, well, you know, we found a compromise and we figured it out. So like, I'd say I had some involvement in him. Yeah.

He was like, I want to do this. holiday ceremony and how do we want to do it and he had input into the florals and things like that. But I led the charge with Jacqueline. Obviously, we had a planner and Shishong, we talked to us in the podcast. The first time we were on a Zoom call with Jacqueline. I was like, we were still long distance. Yeah, I was in Boston, right. So I was like, it was so hot to see him pop up on a Zoom, you know? What? And then we planned a lot together, like work when I come to guest list, website, invitations, seating charts, all that stuff we did together on the couch. And it was really nice.

It felt like doing a project with somebody you really care about it. It felt really like when we stuffed all the gift bags, which... When I stuffed all the gift bags. The gift bags never been a whole thing, but gift bag gate. But we spent a whole Saturday doing gift bags, like all the things that we did together. I really enjoyed them. We never had any conflict or disagreement. And it makes you think about couples that are planning a wedding and like fighting about

stuff. because that just couldn't have been farther from the truth. Every time we conquered something, a seating chart, we felt like we did this together. We nailed it. We disagreed on music a little bit. There was a little tension there. What?

Because you just wanted everything to be Beyonce from start to finish. And I wanted everything to be Drake from start to finish, which we found a middle ground. Here we are. Yeah, there is like a moment where I was like, what's the song as soon as Raina announces that we're married and we do the kiss and do the dip. I said family ties my Drake and she said no.

Baby, family matters? What a fan. So I was like, Big Drake fan over here. I'm gonna kill myself. So I was like, I want crazy in love is obviously the vibe.

Obviously I'm sick of crazy in love. I walked out to it every stop of my tour. I'm sick of it too, but it is the perfect song. It hits immediately. It's energy. And I was like, I'll do a different song

if you come up with something better. When I found out what song you were walking out of the aisle, too, I only really lost it two times during the whole wedding. It was when I actually not when I locked eyes with you. It was when I looked at Shashonk. I just, I saw him in his outfit with Azul and I just like really had a hard time getting through it. And when I heard what song you were walking down the aisle too, I was like, I'm not going to be able to deal with this. I could cry right now. I walked down to the instrumental Halo by Beyonce.

Shashonk walked down to instrumental 2009 by Mac Miller. and we walked into the reception to Nice for What, and we have the drum line and everything like that, and we'll talk about that more on the intro. But yeah, music was like a huge part of it. And the DJ was this really special thing, which I've shared who it is. His name is Mike O'Leary. And one Sunday on the couch, just in, I don't know, March or April or whatever, in the spring, we were just like, let's put on some music.

Let's find like a DJ or something to vibe to while we cooked breakfast and hung out and lounged on Sunday. and we found this guy, and he does this thing called Sunday cleaning, and he DJs from different places, and a lot around New York, but now he's going everywhere. He's done like San Diego and L.A. and all this stuff. And we just loved him. We were so into him and we just became instant fans. And I put him on my Instagram and tagged him and just wanted to show him some love.

He hearted it, whatever. But this girl, like a girl's got to eat, listener, a follower of mine, slid to the DM. She was like, oh, my God, that's Michael Larry. He's my fiance's friend. He's doing our wedding. And I was like, what? Now he's doing our wedding.

He would do a wedding? Because he's not a, a woman. wedding DJ. He's like a badass dude. Not the wedding, but DJs aren't. You know, like I was just like, sounds like he'll make, he'll make exceptions is the vibe. So then we already kind of had a DJ booked, but then it fell through. And I was like, Jacqueline, do you care if I just like pursue this other thing? And we got in touch with him. They responded, his manager responded, and we like worked it out with him. And to have him there, this guy that we're like fans of, to talk, be on, you know, calls with him and meetings with him and all figure out together. And

when we told him what we were going for, he was so impressed. Like, he was like, oh, you don't understand what a relief this is. A couple that, and, you know, we told him like, don't play songs for the older people. We don't care. What old people? The whole wedding was like 80%. I say young in quotes because we're all in 40s, but yeah, there weren't grandparents there.

I mean, there was some, like, aunts there and aunts and uncles, but he was just such a big part of it. And obviously, the whole night, everyone was like, this DJ. It was so fun. It was such a party. And, like, also, all the things you're saying, like, I think that people are on this timeline to get married by the time they're like 27, 28. And like, I cannot encourage people to get married later in life as much as possible because like I think all the time about planning my

wedding and how like I wasn't allowed to make any decisions because I wasn't paying for it. And like 70% of my guest list was my parents' friends and his parents' friends. And like nothing was decisions in my own. I didn't feel like I certainly wouldn't have ended my wedding feeling like I collaborated with my fiance. Right. And all these decisions. Like it's nice to wait a little bit longer. you have to pay for yourself. Well, and just to close a loop on Mike, because I want you guys to follow him and you guys have this. He sent you a voice note the other day.

I was like in tears. A real like salt of the earth guy. He's just like such a nice person. He like so well intentioned just like really wants to make sure everything he's doing is like for you and like you, you know, you feel like he's doing it right. And like, I don't know, we had a long conversation after when everything was wrapping up. We talked about music.

We like really got in the weeds about some like some, some, music stuff. I have a nice gift for him. I'm going to send him. So nice. Probably make him cry. You do like sending gifts. I love sending a gift. But he said, he like said something that a lot of people said and was that like you guys like seen your love like inspired me. And it's like I don't think he said this exact words, but we heard this throughout the night like you made me believe in love again or like I want to find this. Something like that. Yeah. Yeah. Gives me hope like meeting people like you

and that's a testament to us as a couple, but everybody around. Like I think he was like these people in this room, these families, these friends, like, are such good people. They're such like good energy and good vibes. And like, we have a single friend. She left me. A voice note was like, saw her ex recently out. And she was like, after being at your wedding, it made me be like, I don't want that. I don't want him. Being around, you guys makes me be like, that's what I want. And that's all I ever wanted. I wanted people to leave the wedding and say, that was the best time of my life and they're really in love. And that's what you want. And everybody did. And I want that for myself. That's what. Yeah.

Well, let's talk about the officiation. Because you guys sat down and talked, like, privately. So, yeah, I had never initiated a wedding before, and you had asked me to officiate it. I was really excited and nervous. And I purposely decided to not sit with you for too long, but all, really. Because I spent every week talking to you about how you feel about him. And I wanted to talk about our relationship and how you speak about him every week. But I wanted to sit down with Shashonk.

And I recorded you. I accidentally deleted all the notes I took. Terrific. I don't know how I did it. Notes? Like written notes? I took notes while I was talking to him and I recorded it so I could gift it to you. Aw.

Oh, it's in your trash bin still. Just going to your trash bin. No, I don't know where it is. I'll find it. Anyways, I recorded it. I heard you guys that they're laughing. Boy, were we. But I was asking him how he feels about you and marriage and a lot about his family and

his family background. I never met Shishon's family previously. I met a sister once, but I know Ashley, your family so well and your parents have been married, is it 42 years now? That sounds about right. I'm pretty sure it's 42 years. It might be 43. Nice.

And you're so close with your sibling. And like I just realized in talking to Shashon, how similar your families are. And his parents have been married for 39 years. He also has a sibling that's close an age to him. That's the opposite sex. And it was so clear to me talking to him like why he has very similar values to you. And it was just, it made writing the speech really nice. And you both allowed me to kind of joke around in the speech.

And I had asked Shisham to kind of joke around. What? Really ran with that. She made a few jokes. A couple of... Just a few little light things. Just a little light in the mood. What the fuck?

That was just like punchline after punchline. It was like... Which went in line with everybody who had a mic the whole weekend. It was like a roast vibe. Yeah, I will get my joke in if I have a microphone. I will get it in. But I wanted to lovingly roast everyone. I think I took everybody on a real wave, a real roller coaster of like really, really sweet.

Well, you could talk about it if you want. Yeah. it was perfect from start to finish. I mean, you hit all the, all the marks. You know what I mean? We were able to talk about the story, the beginning, everything in the middle of it, talked about my family and, you know, us moving here from India in the early 90s, which is like so special. My aunt, who really was a huge part of that and, you know, everything my parents did to get where they are, my sister and myself to get where we are. You really just checked all the boxes and, you know, I couldn't have asked for anything better.

Well, you help me. Do it. It was really nice. Yeah. Thank you. I mean, it was really, I had a lot of fun writing it. I wouldn't have gone as hard if you told me your family wouldn't like it. I asked you if I could say vibrator. And that's like another testament to my parents. Cuck just came to me. My parents probably came to me.

They didn't know what it was. Most people didn't know it. A lot of people had to Google Cuck. At least 50% of the people there had to Google Cuck. Friends of ours who I wouldn't have thought. Crazy. After everything, my buddy Matt, who's married to Gina, who started this whole thing and got us here.

Before he said congrats or gave me a handshake or anything, he was like, dude, I had to explain to my parents what a cuck was. Before anything else. They were at the wedding. They were at the wedding. Well, we did a rehearsal, which was really nice on Thursday. But I don't, the little like platform that we stood on wasn't up there, right? We did the rehearsal.

The rehearsal. It was not there, yeah. Guys, pay attention at your rehearsal. It's all I got to say. Because I was, you think you got it. For the most part, you do. You do, but there's like some cues and stuff. And my dad didn't shake hands.

Like, I think you're all nervous. And so anything, which of course you guys would have wanted to do that, but both of you forgot. Like, you don't. You think. think you know, but you don't know. And I think I was not taking the rehearsal seriously. Sorry, Jacqueline. Like, no one was.

I mean, your nephews were running around. We didn't have the platform. There was a, like, we had to walk around, like, a DJ booth because they were having a party that night. Like, it's a whole thing. Like, the rehearsal, we did our best. But looking back, like, I think we could have rehearsed harder. I just wish we would have the platform because the three of us were on this

little circle platform. It was gorgeous. I love the way it looks. It's stunning. Unbelievably, you know, like, grand. But, like, I was marrying you and then you guys wrote your own vowels. and I was so close to your bodies while you were doing it. I didn't know where to look.

And I was like, this is this beautiful, intimate moment that, like, should have been photographed without me. Like, I wish I would have, like, gotten off the stage, maybe. But then gone where? I'm telling you, there's so much awkwardness. And I feel like I haven't even figured this out. I've done it three times, and I was trying to coach you on it. And I'm like, you need a third hand, like,

because you have to either use a mic. No one wants to wear a lapel mic. You have to scroll or you have to flip your papers. Like, you literally, like, you were saying, like, I want to hold the mic. I'm like, you can't hold the mic. You can't literally, you don't have enough hands. You couldn't have been scrolling.

Like, it's tough. So I had this iPad. It would have been too hard to, it's just too heavy. My wrist would have gone all floppy. Yes. Your wrist would have fallen asleep. You're up there. There's this mic stand.

I came up there. I was like, Raina, what is? Mike stands above your head. It was above my head. I started adjusting. How do I get up there with a bride? You know, we should post a video. I'm like, I'm literally jerking off the mic stand while you were like telling people not to use their phones.

Like, it was. It's just weird. I had to adjust it for you. And I was like, I'm the best mic saying adjuster up here. I know what I'm doing. Just literally, the first thing I do when I get on stage was this. I was like, thank God someone's taking care of this for me. Thank God the stars of this are taking care of this for me.

It wasn't me. The way that I got up there at Rain is a professional who speaks into a mic and it was up here. I was like, is some going to fix this for me? It's not going to be me. It's the stars of the show. Couldn't have been me. My hands were locked behind my back. I also like, you and I are on stage so much.

Until I get married someday, I will never be in a room full of more people that I know and love and feel comfortable and supported by. And it's still, it was the most physically uncomfortable, like nervous I've ever felt on stage. Like my chest was so tight. It's just any other show, I know I'll have another opportunity to like get it, nail it. Oh, just because the pressure. Just, yeah. Yeah, that's fair. It's the only time I've ever been like, you got one shot at this.

Yeah. That's it. Would you? What is it? One shot, one opportunity. Would you... Tor ends and you forget the whole thing. I forget the whole thing.

Incredible. Would you... I don't know. I'm not... Seize the moment or let it slip. I can't remember. I do this whole thing and I've just forgotten it. I just...

I put it to rest. I feel like I got up there and I got up there with you and everyone was like tight. And like everyone is tight. You got to loosen them up somehow. Do some crowd work. Unless you don't want that. I think some people want a tight, formal vibe. It couldn't be me.

Anytime I've done this, I want to, hey guys, let's loosen up. Yeah. So I was like... Guys, let's light it up. Has anybody hung over from last night and party? Also, I think everybody in the audience doesn't know what the bride and groom want necessarily. So I was like, let's take this as seriously as possible. I just was so nervous.

I had to keep reminding myself, like, try to be present and enjoy this. I mean, that's the biggest challenge, I think, with weddings. I mean, how did you feel up there? I was not as sweaty as I thought I would be. But I was pretty nervous. Like, similar to the engagement, you kind of just black out your, that was a lot more pressure. The engagement was. So I don't remember what I said to you.

I don't know either. I know it was sweet, very loving. I don't know. But up there, I was, I don't remember you walking into that song. You had made such a fuss about it. You were talking about Halo. Or like, you were like, oh, baby, you don't know what song I'm walking into. You're going to lose it.

Just blacked out? Blacked out? Because I was so beautiful. Yes. Were you trying not to cry? I really, I had a hard time looking at Ashley because I was trying not to lose it. It's really when they tell you, like, you're going to cry. Like, you're going to fucking cry.

Yeah. Like you walked in the door and I was like, oh God. I was like, buckle, like keeping my knees like so tight so I didn't buckle. You didn't tell? Yeah, you seemed, I mean, you looked. I was pretty poised, I think, but. No, you looked like you had like tears in your eyes.

You looked really like. It was crazy. Yeah. And then Rain was talking about my aunt. Like that got me emotional. Yeah. Talking about my family. Like that stuff.

I mean, on top of you, just like, really. Well, I just kept having to tell myself, like, retain what he's saying. Because I don't remember what you said when you proposed. And I remember it being great. And, like, who's to say. say what it was. And I literally was like, okay, well, at least we wrote our mouths down. I'll get these later. But I was like trying to be like, get in the moment and it's really difficult. And I think that is the thing overall in a wedding weekend. And I felt like I did a really good job.

Like I was like be present, enjoy all these moments. And I really did. And the only time I felt like I was not totally there was the ceremony. I don't know why. It's like I was my dress. was really tight. It took, it took, it was so, such a journey to get into it. And I felt a little physically uncomfortable and we're in these heels, like you're forward. You're going to trip. You have the train behind you. When am I wearing something like that? Like, there's all these factors. And then you stand up on this thing where it's a little, it looks gorgeous and I'm glad we did it, but it feels a little awkward. The three of us are up there. And you, like my posture, I'm thinking about my posture. Like, there's a lot going through your head. And it was really special.

And I really do feel like I was listening. I really remember what and I said. I remember what you said, but it was like, I had to like, you're like reminding yourself to focus and like pay attention. Right. Yeah. Yeah. I really, when you guys were doing your vows to, I had to be like, hey, listen to this. Yes. Like, digest this information. I really wonder what people that don't do this for a living, like what they feel like. Oh my God. I can't even imagine. We're out here. Like, this was hard for us. And, you know, like, there's just little things. I wanted to hug my mom. And then that slipped out of my mind, you know, like I, in my original dream was to have my mom stand up there when my dad

what got to the thing, like, these little things I've had to let go of that weren't like perfect because I'm like, you can't go back. These are the things. Like, you know, you should practice. Pay attention. Did you guys practice your vows? No, no, no, no, no, no. You just wrote it one time.

I wrote them probably 20 minutes before, like, like hand wrote them, like physically wrote them. I had been like writing them for like weeks. Yeah, we both wrote them. my guess, like I wanted one on your laptop or whatever. I wrote mine on my phone, yeah. Transferred that. Like, we wanted them handwritten in those little books. Yeah.

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People really want to know about the egg carton. I think people want to know, did the egg carton make it to the wedding? Ashley had been like, it's going to be there. And I was like, I don't know what it's going to be or what it's going to do. And then sure enough, one of the nephews walked up with it. And I was like, oh, my fucking God. Our rings were in it. And it was so cute.

And it's really been about who can surprise who the most with the egg carton. And Ashley won that round. I thought you might have an idea because when we told the egg carton story, someone left a comment somewhere that was like, you should put the rings in it for the ceremony. And I was like, stop, don't let him see that. That was my idea. I didn't see it.

But she had like said something about it in passing. I was like, yeah, yeah, whatever. So that was my idea. And it was really funny to like, my three college girlfriends came in the room and I was getting ready. And they saw it on the bed and they were like, Ashley, what is this? And I was like, I'm going to put the rings in it. And they were like, shut up.

No, you're not. And I was like, yes, I am. And we stuffed tissues in it. They were like, you're just putting like toilet paper. It looked really nice. Yeah, it was great. Bridget nestled the eggs, or nestled eggs, nestled the rings in there. And we had Jay bring up the egg carton.

And it, you think everyone's going to laugh, but like, they don't know the, yeah, of course. Everyone was like, what the fuck is that? Like my mom was losing her mind. She was, because she knows, her and my dad know the lore. They do. Yeah, they know about it. Because it came with me to Boston for my bachelor party. So my mom was like, what are you doing?

What is that? My dad was like, I don't get it. You're weird. It's like, all right, man. And then it made it to the honeymoon. So, of course, my mom was losing her mind when it went, you know, of course, the boys brought it out. She loved that. And then it came with us to Napa.

I just pulled back the bed, like the comforter in the bed and Napa and there was. Already? There it was. What do you mean? You got it there ahead of time? No, no, no, no. I was in the bathroom and he put it in the bed. I always just like tuck it quickly.

I thought you like sent it to the home to leave. I'm like, this is not on our honeymoon. No. I posted it today on Instagram. Yeah, no. The only comment is not the egg carton. It's so crazy. It's my favorite thing.

It's really funny. I also, okay, that's the only part of the same way that trip me up. I actually don't know when you're supposed to take the rings out and what you do with them. No one knows about the ring. Literally nobody knows. I can't seem to nail the rings either. So when Jay brought them over to me, I like gave him the iPad like a serving platter and had him put the rings on the serving platter.

I was, yeah, I didn't know what to do. And then I'm like holding this carton and I'm like, I don't know like what goes first. Like, what do you do with them? The rings are always awkward. I've never really nailed it. When I did Matt in Steph's wedding, I was like, I don't, I get tripped up. Do you hold them for the vows? Well, no, we also didn't have, like, a bridal party or anything like that.

Usually the person, like, closest to you in your bridal party, like, you are made of honor and then, like. Would hand me mine? But when? But people say, with this ring, I be wet. At some point in the vows, I think. But we didn't do that long. You guys did traditional vows, which I really believe in and I like, but I don't know what people do with the rings. We didn't know either.

None of us knew. Well, here we are. Okay. What was your favorite parts of the wedding weekend, all the things? I mean, like, in a really general sense, is, like, so many people around you that just, like, that matter and, like, have really made the effort to, like, show up and be there for you is, like, overwhelming. It's, like, so, so special. I could, like, I could, like, cry thinking about it. You know what I mean? I'm no pussy, but it's, like, so emotional to think about it.

You know what I mean? People have kids. They've, like, you know, arranged all these sitters, made all these plans, spent all this money to get out there. I mean, it really, you know, I had onset came from Canada who, you know, they didn't have to do that. I had some uncles in India trying to get their visas and stuff in time to show up and, like, they couldn't figure it out, which is fine. But, like, the effort is really what, like, what really gets you. That was really, really special and probably my, like, most, most favorite thing. Like, the broad?

Yeah, generally. Okay. You want to break it down every day? Well, what were some, like, moments? I mean, the Haldi was really, really special. I think getting to see everybody, like, dressed up and sort of not kind of just brushed us. side and genuinely get into it and get like some good outfits and you know really show up we walked out out of our room and kind of peeked over the balcony and saw everyone and like I almost fainted I was like

everyone looks so so good and everyone followed directions which is crazy everyone was so punctual at this wedding which I also appreciate well I mean it was like all at this gorgeous venue and so people just like everybody leaned in to all the outfits and everything so excited right on time it's the biggest compliment that everyone showed up to everything was on time, did all the things. Like, I don't know. I guess I've been to weddings where people had like a more apathetic, like, I don't care vibe. I do think the couple sets the tone. I think people really love us and care about us and want to support us and we're fun and

they want to be involved. But there was these little things along the way where I was like, I'm going to book a coach bus to take people from the one off site from the W event, which was at the gold diggers. So we booked to coach bus. I'm like, I don't know. I just had this feeling. Like, people are going to ride the bus. They're going to want to take an Uber and do their own thing. And that's just, I don't know why I got in my head about it. I don't know why I had any sort of negative feeling like that because all of our friends and family love us so much. But literally, we come down in the lobby. We got that we wanted to go there early and we didn't want anywhere to see our costumes. And everybody was in the lobby early. The bus

filled up where they had to do another round. Like, and Jacqueline was telling me, I was expressing this to her. She was like, actually, everyone's going to get on the bus. Like, why do you think people won't want to be there for you? And like, the welcome drinks, we did not plan for all of our L.A. friends to come to the welcome drinks. So I'm seeing all of our friends. And I was like, I love that you're here, but we didn't plan for it. We didn't invite you. No, like, everybody was invited to everything. And we made it super clear that everyone got a full invite to every here. We want you at everything. But we didn't even really count RSP's for, we were just like, 50 people will be the welcome drinks. Those are people that are going to be there Thursday.

because even coming Thursday, a lot of people can't do. So when I see like Sean, Kate and Chad, Taylor, I'm like, you guys live on the west side. It took you an hour and a half to get here. You didn't have to come. Like everyone just wanted to support us. And like at the wedding, I just felt like all I ever wanted was everyone in one place, constantly present, constantly on the dance floor. Like, knowing off doing something else or not paying attention. And that was the vibe that everyone was just so.

and involved, like, the whole weekend. And you just don't always see that. And we've been to so many weddings that that's not the vibe. I mean, I don't know about Shishonk's friends and you can speak to your friends, but I think that our friends have all become friends with each other. And everybody really wanted to, like, be together. Like, it wasn't this like wedding you go to and you just don't know anybody. Right.

And you're just like, I'll go to the rehearsal dinner for an hour. You know, like I'll show my face. Like, everybody really wanted to go to every single event. And yet, like, I was 15 minutes late to the welcome drinks and I was panicking. Panicking. And everything else I was like could not be, I was like at the moment. But there was, oh, because we went to the rehearsal. That's why.

That's why I was a few minutes late to the welcome dress. Oh, yeah. Everything was a little behind. And so I had to run upstairs and change. That was the only event. I even came a few minutes late to every single event. Everyone was there. Everyone was there.

And everybody wanted to be together. No one left early. All of us stayed out all, all three nights. Me. I don't do that. Yeah. And the way people committed to the costumes, it was just, I don't know.

It just warmed my heart. It was so overwhelming in the best way. Yeah, I mean, to your point in the costumes, I've never seen my parents dress up for anything. And my dad was like, what do you think? I was like, all right, man, nailed it. He was like, I'm proud of you. I was like, this is crazy.

But yeah, I mean, everyone just wanted to be there, wanted to be a part of it, and was like so ready to not miss a thing, which is like so important. Yeah, like, you just, at the end of weddings, you're like, oh, there's way less people here. no. The end to keep a party. Every night, everyone was, where's the after party?

Where's the after party? And the funny part is like for after the welcome drinks, they were five to eight. And I was like, I didn't do any invites. I didn't want to exclude anybody. I was like, I can't go to dinner with 50 people, whatever. So basically whoever's left, we're going to go to dinner. And I did set it up with this restaurant, Liantica, Pizzeria, Dada, Michelle, which is in Hollywood. And it was your idea to go there after because it was really close to the hotel.

And like, I was like, everyone's going to do their own thing, whatever. Like, who's ever left at the end of the night is we're going to go to dinner. And I talked to one of the managers earlier in the day. He pulled it together last minute and was like, we have space for you guys. Please come. And so they were wonderful. But there were so many people. We had another private party.

It was crazy. No, it was crazy. The fact you didn't plan that, that was like 50 people going to dinner. That was wild. My sister came. She's somebody who's like 830 in bed protecting her piece. Just like does not want to do anything. She was there drinking.

Where's the party at? And we went and that was an event in and of itself. And everything just went so perfectly. Like I obviously attribute a lot of that to Jacqueline and her team. But four full events, truly, plus there's a little impromptu after party at the pizza plays. Like four full-blown events and everything felt so smooth. I know.

God, it was so much fun, you guys. Yeah. I know. I really miss it. What are we going to do for fun after this? Well, I'm going to do stuff for fun. You guys are going to come. Yeah.

We'll be there. doing fun stuff. Do you want to ask about our family's meeting and stuff? Do you guys want to sit together for that? Should we switch? Oh, should we switch? Yeah, let's switch.

All right, we're going to switch you guys. Dun, done, done. All right, now we switched. I have some questions to you guys. Honestly, I wish I was over it. I like this now. This is not. You are right.

It's not what you wanted. I just thought it really cute for me to interview your husband, but this is fun. See? Little tension before we didn't record. I almost left. You were really good at dealing with it, I will say.

You were like, you just brought up other stuff. You were like, maybe I don't make eye contact with either one of them and I bring up like stuff. No. Whatever you guys prefer, you get to see both. Yeah. So Shashon, you guys are going to hold hands. Let's talk about, let's talk about your family's meeting each other because your family, wow, your family is just, I could just die. Your mom is so wonderful. I mean, she's truly one of the best people. She has always been there and really shown up in ways that, like, I never would have imagined because they're, you know, they're traditional in a way, but they're so understanding and like willing to compromise and you know really really make sure that they're putting us before themselves and they understand and they adapt and you know they learn to kind of go with the flow and I think people with like very traditional parents yeah really struggle with that because they they're helicopter parents and they really want you to do X, Y and Z and my parents could have cared less what we did.

You know what I mean? They're just like we want you to be happy. We want you to be able to take care of yourselves and you know we've done that. I have a great job, you know, didn't go to college, all this other stuff. And, you know, we're doing great. And my parents are so happy and proud. And, you know, they, that speaks volumes. Well, a lot of people have asked while we've been dating even about our interracial,

intercultural relationship and your family. And I just can't, they don't, they have accepted me from the beginning. It's not that sort of judgmental thing, you know, and religiously, you, you your family is Christian, which is another layer of, obviously, I was brought up Christian, so there's not this, like, religion divide too. But they are just so accepting. And I just kept saying to you, like, all your aunts were there. His mom has four sisters. Yeah, she's the youngest of four. They're all there. And, like, you hear this, like, the aunties are going to, like, even people in my comments, they're like, the aunties are going to be judging you or, you know,

giving you some sort of vibe. And they just weren't. They were gifts and, you know, like, so sweet and there was nothing but love from everyone in your family and obviously I know your parents and your sister and but it was just really special and our parents met at our house on Wednesday night they hadn't met before we just never really got it together so they all met and it was so special like we all went down in the basement because your mom brought gifts for everybody Raina included your parents are unbelievably like watches for my dad and my brother gifts for us like these are these are his mom's bangles that she wore on her wedding day. So I wore these to the holiday.

And it was these moments. And like, Pooja, your sister and I were like, I like overheard my dad saying something to your dad about like just their thank you for sharing your story with us. And I forget what it was. And her and I locked eyes and were like, I got to get out of here. We were like, almost in tears. Like our dads are both very like, I don't know how to describe it. They're not really mushy.

Yeah. Yeah, yeah, they're not. They're not mushy guys. Right. I mean, I can only speak to Ashley's dad, but like your dad. but like your dad is the best dad in the world. He's not like a mushy guy, but like nothing means more to him in the world than his children and his wife.

Yeah. And both our parents are all like that. So that went really well. Like Raina was there. And obviously Raina's like part of the family. And your mom is just obsessed with Rayna. I like ran to your mom. I love her.

She's so hot. She's so beautiful. I mean, your sister's so beautiful too. You have a really beautiful family. And your mom was like, I listen to you girls in the car sometimes on my lunch break. And it like shattered me to pieces.

How sweet that was. was. I know. I was like, Raina Kutown here. She was a gift for you and you're like, what? She brought me a gift. I mean, it's just, it means a lot to me that they would like treat me like family. And it was just really, really nice. It's been that way from the get. Yeah. She sent you that one time for your house. You've always been a part of it.

I love them. It's just, it's, I said it as in that ceremony. It's just, it's easy to see why you guys relate so much on family values because you have like the same family. The same similar family and like the older sister and younger brother thing. We always say. like older sisters work well with younger brothers, guys who have had older sisters. And our siblings gave speeches at the wedding. And there was this real similarity between Pooja's speech and Matt's speech of like, we didn't get along at first because we didn't like you guys. And we just didn't want someone else in the house.

And we liked being only children for the few years we got to do it. Like her thing was she started with being like when Shishonk was born and I was not happy. and Matt starts it with like Ashley and I did not get along growing up and then the way they turned it around they both did these incredible speeches I mean speeches were like on a different level but it's just like there's these similarities there with that too I knew Matt has time would be like so funny your sister I mean I was watching her give a speech and I was like the poise with which this woman is standing because she was like I was so nervous I was like no one in

this room could tell I mean she I wish I could like stand with that like just posture and dictation it's unbelievable she's got some presence yeah she really is The poise. Wow. I just could stop. I couldn't take my eyes off of her. It was unbelievable. Man. I was like so used to this. As you, as this has come to an end, what did you learn from the whole experience? What advice would you give to Heather Grum's? Right. What advice would you give? Yeah. I mean, having been to so many weddings, like you, you don't have to get yanked away for photos and things like that. You can kind of just leave the reception or leave the ceremony, go to the drinks and then go right into the reception. So you're really there for everything from start to finish. But when it's

your wedding, you're getting pulled in a hundred. different directions and then by the time you finally, you know, find yourself on the dance floor and you're, like, loosening up and having drinks, you're nearing the end of it. So I would just, I would say, just be mindful of that. Well, Adam, we didn't do that. We got pulled away and, like, I felt like it was kind of short. Like, when we finally got back, because we got pulled away, you know, family wants to take pictures. I was taking pictures of family. You get yanked in a bunch of different directions and, you know, it goes by quicker than you think. I would say, try to make sure you're as present as you can be for as much of it as you can.

be. Well, that's the thing. I mean, I had this conversation with Brenna and like, you just can't take pictures with everybody and you just can't have a one-on-one with everybody. That would be your whole night. And, you know, you want to make around and see the tables. And I feel like I talked to everybody. The thing that I liked about having all these days was that I really feel like I got time with everybody. And people who came just Saturday, I mean, there was a few people that did. And one friend who came just Saturday is a close enough friend that she came in the bridal suite during the day. And so I felt like we had a moment.

And another friend, I don't feel like I got to see her that much. And it's like, well, you just showed up for this. And I'm going to be on the dance floor. And, you know, meet me out there. And we can bond on the dance floor. But you can't, if you literally are like, I have to talk to every single person here at this wedding that is your whole entire night. You'll never enjoy it at all.

Yeah. And so there is that. I mean, like there's these little things like, you know, pay attention to the rehearsal, actually do it. You know, the photos, I will say, you know, I, I think. I made the mistake of not really putting together a shot list, which is kind of crazy for me, because you and I do shot lists. And I made shot list my whole career. And I just loved my photographer, Jess McDole. She's incredible. The photos are incredible. She really got me. But there are photos that

they can't read your mind. And you will not be able to remember these things. Like your mind is not your own. You are being pulled in a million different directions. It's impossible to remember every single thing you want to do and be present and talk to people. I had this feeling. I was like, during the wedding day where I was like, I am out of body right now. And so there are a few photos that I have regret that we didn't get. And this has nothing to do with the photographer. She was incredible. And she probably got so many that I don't even know about. And I can't wait to see them all. But just a few that like I should have made that shot list. Like you're going to want to do it. And send it ahead of time. And then it's their job. Like any little thing to get ahead of.

of just do not trust yourself to remember in the moment. You will not. It's just this thing of like, well, I'll remember to have this moment with this person. No, you won't. And then you will regret it. And so put it on someone else to direct you to do. And like all the things you want to do, again, it was the most perfect four days of my life. But any those little things, just put them on, make them someone else's responsibility, I guess. I never thought of a shot list. And you and I have done a million photo shoots. We give them to every photographer for every live show. People that have done a million of our live shows, it never even occurred to me to do it. And I think she asked me for, we had a call.

And I was like, she gets me. I told her the things I don't want. I told her the things I do want. And she really delivered. But there are some things that she never would have known. And I forgot. And I don't need to list them all out. But overall, I'm obviously so happy.

And everyone tells you, like, something will go wrong. We had something to go wrong with the gift bags. It's fine. But for the most part, everything was wonderful. But if anything that went, like, wrong, it's because I didn't get ahead of it and then you're in it. And I don't think there's a solution for another thing that I'm going to say, which is just like really being able to take in all the details of these things that you planned and you conceptualized. And I don't think there's a way that you could. I don't think that in that span of however many hours, four or five, you can be on the dance floor the whole night.

Like, I wanted to be talked to people, get photos. and then also like make the rounds and really take in the center pieces and like really eat all the food. Eating all the food is a bigger. I ate but I didn't get to eat all the food and I didn't get to have the churros and like I don't think you can do it. So I don't have advice for it. I guess just do your best. Well, I don't think we've taught. What was the final head count at the wedding?

140. I mean, that felt like anything more than that would have been like I. Sometimes I hear 140 and I'm like, that's not that many people. But like that was so many people. and I actually don't know how people have like weddings with 200 people like how could you 100 300 500 what are you doing I don't know how you could I mean the weekend ended and I was like there was a giant handful of people that I never interacted with the whole weekend and you just like I don't know you're trying to like be present but like anything bigger than that I don't know how you talk to anybody I know and I just there's just some things I wish I there's like a moment I wish I would have with my mom obviously my mom was there the whole time like I'm so close my mom but it's just if there's like these top five people top

10 people, just make sure you, I don't know how, however you want to do it, make a list of like these moments you want to share with them. So, because I'm telling you, you will not remember. You'll put it on the photographer. And that's a photographer's job. You got to do it. Your Valk. There's a list and figure it out. Yeah. Yeah. Just that's really it. And give yourself enough time, more time than you think. If you think, I don't want to start getting ready then because then I'll be sitting around. You won't. You will find something to do. People will come busy. You'll take pictures, like being the slightest bit rushed is just, I mean, it's a nightmare. It's like too much. And then everybody starts pouring in and you haven't done. Like, I wanted to go up and see them getting set up,

which I'm glad that I did. But that set me behind a little bit. I had kind of a schedule to get ready. And I was like, I really want to go up and meet the florist and see the room getting set up. It's like really important to me. Luckily, we're in the hotel. I could go up there and do that. But then it kind of set me back. And then people are coming in. I was like, I just had to leave the door open for you. I was like, Rayna, your hair and makeup's ready. Like just give yourself more time than you. you ever think you'll need so you can relax. And the worst thing that happens is you're like a little bored for 20 minutes better than feeling rushed because there was a really chaotic hour on Saturday.

And it just, I have a little regret surrounding like just not being able to be a little bit more relaxed because it like took longer to do a couple things. It took longer to get me to my dress. And just some things set us back. And then you're rushed. And that's just the worst thing that can happen because you want to enjoy these moments. But I think you did it. You did the wedding day a little different than a lot of brides.

but they have like the whole bridal party and everybody comes over at seven in the morning and you're getting ready for a million. I think you had like a real vision. I don't know how you thought you were going to go to yoga class. That's crazy. But you guys stayed together the night before

you woke up and decided like have a morning together. We like rolling around in bed till like 10 a.m. Yeah. We like wanting to order room service and be together. So that's always what I thought. Yeah, I thought I was going to do this yoga class. I'm so glad everyone like everyone had spray tan issues and they couldn't come.

And so I canceled it. And when I told Jacqueline I canceled it, she was like, thank fucking God. She was like, Ashley, you don't know that I have. have texted every single vendor. Like, hallelujah, she is not doing this

because it really would have set us back. But it was the most perfect weekend. But the few times I felt rushed, I just regretted, not giving myself a little extra time. And like, did we have to,

like, lay in bed and have that really, you know, but I'd love that too. I want to just be lazy and enjoy. I don't know. The first time I've heard of me say that was Alex Cooper.

I think she was interviewed Vogue for her wedding. And she said that like her and her husband, Matt had like spent this really wonderful just day together of their wedding. And they stayed in bed and they watched TV and order room surface. And I was like, I love that sentiment. It's so beautiful. And if you were superstitious and you don't want to stay with your husband the night before, that's fine too. But I really loved the sentiment of like we had this really relaxing beautiful morning together. That's all we would have wanted. Yeah. So, but I will say, he and I loved the way that we did

our time and like our three nights, three days like at the W. And they put us in a suite and it was incredible. And it's like when we left, I missed it. I was like, this was our home while we got married. And we had these mornings and we were lazy. We watched Love is Blind and we like ordered room service. And it was everything I ever would have. But you miss out on some moments like your friends are having. And like I would see like everybody with you getting ready or something.

And like obviously he and I were going to get ready together for Halloween and all these things. But your friends are hanging out without you. I felt really bad. It was it was me, Megan, Lillian, Jackie, Taylor, Brittany and the makeup artist in my room. In my room, getting ready for the Halloween party. I felt really bad you weren't there. But like your friends were hanging out without you too.

Everyone was up at the pool, drinking beers. Yeah, he wanted to go up with the pool. Like there was a point where he goes, I'm going to go up to the pool. And I'm like, Shashank?

Like, no, you're not. She's like, do not drink up there. Okay. But during that, you didn't have time.

I mean, it was just, there was like this perfect lobby patio and it was just a revolving door of people just like having drinks together, having snacks all day down there. Rob just bottle. I had waked fomo.

I was like, I want to be, Rob's crushing a bottle of wine. I want to crush a bottle of line with Rob. And it wasn't like, don't go well, I will say. One of your friends, the Halloween party, were all at the bar, the W back afterwards. And one of your, and Andy, you're all just calling out.

He was like, so how do you feel about like us drinking beers all day together tomorrow? And I said, Andy, don't play with me. A bunch of Boston guys. A bunch of Boston. They can't be trusted.

And I knew, I knew him better, but I got a little worried. And when we, I don't know where you were in that. moment when we connected 10, 15 minutes later, I was like, babe, just so we're clear. You're not getting drunk tomorrow. No, no, no, no. And it was never going to be. He was pushing your buttons. I think it's crazy male behavior. Listen, if you are able to like drink all day, fine. I don't know.

I don't know your man. But like, it's crazy to me to be drinking for like eight straight hours and then go to your wedding ceremony. What are you doing? What did you have? Like two beers or something? I think I only had like a beer. I had a moment where I was like, I need alcohol, which is really not me. I know. I know. I was like, I am really going through it and was just like, I need a glass of alcohol immediately. And it did help. Yeah. It was just, I was so tight in the chest right before we walked out there.

I couldn't like de-escalate. And then I saw Shishonk with the Zool. And I just was like, fuck. I just going to fuck me up. So Shishonk walked a Zool down. He's wearing part of his tucks right now. He were like a little tucks. And it was.

He even thought that platform was whack. So he wouldn't stand up on the platform. Our vision was that we would all be up there together. But we should have known. He's like, no, it was too small. Too small. Yeah. Yeah.

But it looked really beautiful. Okay, so I don't want to be like, be negative about it. But like, I want to talk about the post-wedding crash out. Because this is a phenomenon that we, I had never heard of. And then you, I want you guys to talk about it. And every one of our friends has come out of the woodwork, including a friend of mine that I was talking to last night, one of our really good friends. A man. A man, he said I was depressed for two weeks.

Okay. So I'll say right to the camera. The post-wedding crash is like childbirth. No one is talking about it. And everyone is experiencing it. And talking to people, my girlfriends, weeks, I had to take a. nap every day. I couldn't get out of bed. I had to go to therapy. I was so depressed. And I was like, no one has mentioned this. Brenna said months. She said two months. Brennan Andrew Collin, they left

their wedding. They went out to Miami with Nikki Glazer. They box seats for the airs toward Nikki Glazer. And Brenna was like, I cried the whole concert. I cried on the way to the winery. I took a selfie sent to my mom, crying in the car on the way to this beautiful winery. Oh, God. Like, so this is, it is such a real thing. And I don't want to say I thought I was, like, immune to it. But I thought, like, I understand people who have maybe never had moments like these where you're, like, the main character and the center of attention, all these people are

surrounding you. And then it's over and you miss that high. And that is not what it is for me. Obviously, for me, it was something that I. have planned for a year with the tour. So my whole personality and my whole life for one whole year, starting in January, was planning these two things in tandem. And so they both ended. And the way when the tour ended and I shot my special was like a relief, it freed up all this brain space. I was like, I accomplished a thing. But this felt really different. And this felt like we were surrounded by all the people

we love the most in the world for days, starting Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday. They're just there. They're around you. They're just like supporting you and loving you. And then it just ends. And we walked into our house on Sunday. And I just burst into tears. And I was like something about walking into the empty house.

I literally was looking around the house like, that's where Corey and him were in the kitchen. when Shishonk was making the burritos. And I just had this thought, I missed my mom and I like lost it. And you were like... We didn't have the easiest exit from the hotel to begin with. We had some like weird things. But you were saying,

you thought I wasn't helping you like... Right. I was like arms full of stuff, just like bringing it out of the car, putting it inside, going back up. She has great privilege. I was like, where the fuck is Ashley? And like I like finished it.

And I'm like walking up the stairs with a bunch of stuff in my arms. And she's like hunched over the island or like the counter. Saw me. I was just like, oh, God. She's like shaking. She's like crying. I was like, what's going on here?

I didn't see it coming. And then I started asking people. Jacqueline is like, oh, girl, it's like the realest thing. Everyone is depressed after their wedding. I also did not realize it was instantaneous. Like, Brent, again, Brennan was like, we left the wedding and should have had the best night. She was like, I was beside myself cried the entire time.

I felt a little empty. I was like, similar to you. I was like, this is where everyone was. And now this past week, I've been like, what was I doing last week? Oh, yeah. having the best fucking week of my life with a bunch of people I love. It's such a void. I have not felt a void like this in a while.

And it makes you feel like we want to be around our families more. And we live so far away from them and being around all these people. It's so much love. And I, again, I don't think I'm not human. Like, I just felt like we have been surrounded by all of our friends and family. I mean, even my special. How many people were there? 30. My whole family, my parents, Matt, Steph, Lindsay Buck, all of our friends were there.

So I'm like, I've experienced this before. And will again. And will again. And you've done this thing and you've planned this thing and then it's over and all these people are celebrating. It didn't ever feel like this. Like sure, we'd be like sad it's over. But the void, it was really overwhelming. And I couldn't really shake it. I would think that's why they tell you to go on honeymoon. So you just distract yourself from it. Yeah. Keep it going. Maybe you're a little sad on the honeymoon and then it's even worse when you come back from the honeymoon. Every person we know that's gotten married has told us about this and no one's ever spoken about it at the post wedding crashout. I thought she made it up. I was like, that's not real.

Well, I just, I can't stress this enough. Ashley and I've had so many moments where people surround us with love and we've planned it for a long time. It's this amazing moment. I don't think about it afterwards. I'm just, I can't wait to see the photos the next day. I post them. It's on to the next thing. It's just so different. Yeah, it feels really different. And I really feel for people who the planning has taken over their life and then you have this wonderful experience and then it is abrupt. So I actually was saying today,

I can't believe it's been, we're recording this on Sunday. It's been like one week. I can't believe it. I mean, that's what I keep thinking of. I played that bare naked lady song. It's been one week. Like we woke up yesterday before.

I woke up and just put it on. And I turned it off after he said it's been one week. Yeah, married for one week. That's the rest of your life. Yeah. Well, maybe we could like wrap it up before we let you go with something that you've been working on Shishon, toiling away at.

Yeah, so. Because then people want to know more about you. Yes. So obviously I've worked in automotive for my entire professional career. They don't know that. Well, now you know. And a good friend of mine, two good friends of mine, we've been working on an app to support EV owners.

We're working on a final release. It should be hopefully within a couple months. But that's what I've been doing after my regular 9 to 5 with the help of two of my buddies. And I'm really excited to get it out to people who, you know, who are EV owners, and that's it. So I will let you guys know when it launches, but I just want to say I've watched you work on this for three, four months now and really dedicate so much time to it after working all day. And I'm so impressed and inspired.

Like, you're kind of downplaying the features and what you guys have built. And it really is like the coolest thing. I think there's a real market for it. I think anyone who gives a shit about their, car and how to get the most out of it. And there's just all these really cool tools. And you know, you're not going to say too much. But it looks great.

It's so easy to navigate and use, even for someone that doesn't know that much about their vehicle. And I am just so proud of you. And I think it's really going to take off. And I'm excited to like hype it when it's officially launched. And it's just you and your, the two guys you're doing this with have full time jobs. And not everybody, he was on a call today on a Zoom for two.

hours on a Sunday, you know, like after work, you're working on it. I mean, what? I watched five hours of selling sunset last night. You worked the entire time. Like, it, not everybody has, has that. I mean, you and I have had those moments where you're, have a job and you're doing something on the side and not everybody wants to do that or they start and they give up. And it's just, it's a lot. And you put a lot into it and you have like very high standards. And you guys are really brilliant. And what you've done is incredible. So I can't wait to tell you guys when it, when it launches. I'm really excited to get it out to you guys.

Yay. Okay. Well, do you feel like you said all the things that you want to say? Any closing words about being married? Yeah, it's sick. Shank is snoring louder. I feel like the volume is up. I'm really pushing my limits.

He did do something on the honeymoon, the mini moon. We went to Napa for a couple days. And you peed when I was in the bathroom. Yeah. Oh, you guys aren't doing that. No, we're not doing that. We, it's not for mayor. We are open about our naked body.

and peeing and stuff like that. But he doesn't usually come in, and he has his own bathroom in the house usually. So, like, I was in the mirror and he was just peed. And I was like, oh, we've crossed that. This is the first time? It wasn't like I was like,

this is the first time you've done that? Yeah, I don't know. We just like to keep that. No, it's not for me. It's crazy that you got married and all of a sudden you were like, this is the first time of this. For years you've been together

and you got married and started peeing in front of her. It's not going to be such a habit. No, no, no, no. It was just, I had to pee. It's an interesting thing to start doing all. Like, I feel like there's couples that are just like, we take chits in front of each other and we, what do you mean?

We're a couple, of course. And there's couples that are just like, that's not a thing we do. I've always been a, that's not a thing we do. I don't need to go to the bathroom in front of somebody. I don't need you to go to bathroom in front. Also, shut the door. It's why I got into doors. Yeah.

But, yeah. The day after you're wedding, you started. A couple days. It's not even, I just saw your dick and another something coming out of it. We just had sex. You know, like, it's not. It's just something's different because we just hadn't crossed that boundary yet. I don't think it's going to happen again.

That was just like a weird. It's okay, baby. You don't have to like. Yeah, it sounds like it's okay. No, I mean, you have her now. You could do whatever you want. No, but those are my two things. Like, even night one, I was like the volume on the snoring was higher.

To be fair, we were exhausted. It was a lot and that's why. You know what she does when I do snore? What? She will wake up out of a coma like this and go, babe, babe, turn over. Well, if you would just face the other way. The other way. I don't know how people stop other people from snoring.

I have no idea. She doesn't stop me. She just silences me a little bit. I do a little. Can you just? Way less gentle than that, to be clear. A little bit of this. I put you in the face in your sleep.

No. You're right. It was the night of the wedding. It was like extra loud. But it's been fine since. We're normalizing. I'm getting energy back. Yeah.

Everybody always asks like what's different? Like literally nothing. Like living together is the biggest adjustment. Yeah. If you've never lived together. It's like whatever. Yeah. I don't even think we're legally married yet.

I think the marriage certificate's like still in the mail. Yeah, it's on its way. So keep it together until that. But then do they like email us? You're asking me? No, I'm just asking the one. What kind of email? Like congrats, you got this?

Well, they did email and they were like, how did your experience go with the court? Oh, yeah, yeah. Yeah. Who emailed you? The city hall, whatever it was? Courthouse people, the clerk, marriage people. I don't know. Like the county, like L.A. County.

So they do have my. info. So I feel like I could be like, buzz, buzz, did you guys get that thing? It's crazy to put this, you only have 10 days post in California, at least, call LA, whatever, you only have 10 days to send it back. What if it was 12? Would they be like, you're not married? Yeah. What, what happened? That's what I'm saying. I've heard of this where people are like, oh, fuck, we are not married. Then you have to go to Vegas and get married again. I think we should go to court. That'd be fun, though. That would be fun. That could be a thing to do. I think that'd be fun. Since everyone just keeps saying, let's run it back.

Yeah, I think we go to Vegas. It's running back in Vegas. Oh, you're so fun. Well, we did it. And thanks for everything. And it was perfect. Yeah. Congrats to you guys.

I love you. Both. I love you. How was your first, your first on camera experience on girls got to eat? This is great. Right.

This has been great. That is bad. This isn't really my cup of tea. But you couldn't tell. You guys make it great. It's so fun. Comfortable. Homey.

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