Girls Gotta Eat - What Guys Think About During Sex (Part 2) feat. Comedian Jared Freid

Episode Date: June 24, 2021

Completing our two-part sex series is our loud and proud FOP (friend of the pod) Jared Freid! He provides some of the realest, most helpful, and hilarious commentary on the subject of the male mind in the bedroom and answers everything from "Is he looking at my butthole?" to "Does he care if I cum?" He also gives us some insight into gauging the interest/flirting with a new crush and even walks Ashley through a risky social media move. Plus we're analyzing some listeners' "What was he thinking?!" scenarios from ear tonguing to hot wax. And up top, we're deep diving on an annoying dating phenomenon -- guys who blew you off coming in with the full court press years later. Hope you enjoy! Follow Jared on Instagram @JaredFreid and TikTok @WizardOfHa. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Check our website for show dates, merchandise, and more. Click HERE for Spotify playlists. Thank you to our partners for this episode: Native: Get 20% off your first purchase by going to nativedeodorant.com/gge or using code GGE at checkout. Candid: Go to candidco.com/gge for your risk-free starter kit and $75 off. Helix: Get up to $200 off all mattress orders + 2 free pillows at helixsleep.com/gge. Nutrafol: Get 20% off your first order + free shipping at nutrafol.com with code GGE20. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

And you know how embarrassing the question is, did you come? Like, it is embarrassing. That has been laughed at by women before. Like, did you come? You know how many times I've asked that and, like, you just see their face? Like, oh, I didn't even, like, the minute I said, did you? Back to a bonus episode of Girls Gotta E! Why do you say bonus?

Bonus. It's like boner is coming out. The B and the O, you hit them so hard. We are talking about boners today. We are talking about boners today. Part two of our series. Part do? Today I wrote, today, my Instagram story, I wrote, what I read, our, I called it a

series. It's a series if it's two. It's a two-parter. Two-parter. What guys think about Dirty Sex? We have Jared Fried coming in today. Again, we were trying to combine these in one episode, but we had no idea. No idea. It's a bonus. I just want to say,

I just want to shout all our listeners, our GGE snack head community and just tell them how much I love them. And I'm just feeling so emo about cancer season. So I'm feeling so emotional anyway. And I just feel I have felt so much, we have felt so much love and support as of late, always, but just like especially. And, you know, we get to do these bonus episodes because we have

such a dedicated listenership and we have partners that want to participate and allow us to do extra episodes. And it's all because of you guys and I just love you so much. And I have just never felt so much like love and support from our audience. And it's mutual. Wow. I didn't expect this today. And now we're also go back on the road and like see all those, see all your faces. You guys, it's our dream. How many times are you to cry on stage? Oh, my God. Well, I obviously second what she says, and we love you guys.

We're thankful. We can't wait to laugh with you guys again. It is my favorite thing about doing our live shows. I mean, I wouldn't do it for free, but, you know, I'm big, I would just for almost, almost nobody. Because I just, I just, yeah, but still pay us. But, no, we just, we love it. We love seeing you in person, finally, and we have such a fun year for the rest of the year coming up for live shows.

Yes, and we should still have some tickets left for Philly. July 17th, late show, go to Girls'Gottyupacost.com and grab those tickets and more dates coming soon. But if you are in and around Philly, we hope to see you at those shows. Yeah. All right. So today is June 24th. If you're listening to the day of the episode, I just want to say it's Azul's and my two-month anniversary.

Oh my gosh. His gotcha day. The day that he showed up and I thought I was fostering him was April 24th. So two months of me and Azul. I love him more than I ever thought possible. My heart is so full. I'm so obsessed with him. So I literally feel like I don't need any more love of my life.

I'm just like, this is it. I'm glad to meet you keep him. I know. Thanks to Raina. I encourage Raina to date her now boyfriend and she encouraged me to keep us all. Okay, so April 24th is your guys's anniversary one year. Okay, so I'll keep in mind for next year. Well, happy anniversary, guys.

And just one other thing, we have Spotify playlists. and this week's were maybe my favorite yet. They're the songs that everybody's been asking for, and those are the songs to have sex too. So the playlist is called sexual healing, and it's going to be episodes that are going to improve your sex life and the songs to fuck too. So I love making playlist,

but I think my strength really lies in those sex songs. I hope you guys like them. I mean, I could have made 10, but this is just like. You guys have been asking for this one for years. Yeah, I know. So, you guys like it. Surges on Spotify. and we posted about it yesterday.

You go to our Instagram and get the link and everything like that. So, okay. Do you have anything to say? No, you know, I just love Jared so much. So I'm excited to talk to him. We had so much fun recording with him. It's so silly, like you said, that we thought that we would not have to make this a two-parter.

We're like, Jared will be brief. Michael Sebastian, the editor-in-jiva Esquire, brief. Yeah, but totally different vibes. All right. Well, I have a question for you. So on Monday, on Monday's episode, we talked about all kinds of things regarding sex. And at one point, we had said that Michael was saying that there's not really a lot you could say to most men in the bedroom that's going to surprise them or like freak them out or gross them out or turn them off, I guess.

And you said that you told a friend of ours this dirty line to say to her boyfriend. And what we said was that she like tried to say it. And he was like, what? And I know him. And it's kind of like I can picture him being like a little confused and like not, especially if they don't talk like that to each other in the bedroom. and when she finally said it, she probably said it with her chest for like the third time

and he came immediately when she said his dick exploded. So we did get some DMs of what is that line. And you guys were sorry, we should have told you what that line is. Of course you want to know. So I'm going to give the floor to Raina.

Why didn't we say it? Yeah, she's like, we're talking to Michael. She's so wily. She's so wily. I could see her just like blurting out and they were so drunk when she said at the first time.

But this is a Raina Greenberg original, I think. I don't know. But I say I want to suck the cum out of your cock. I'm so sorry, Mom. So you said I want to suck the come out of your cock, but like say that even during like intercourse. No, I say it before intercourse. But that's like a blowjob.

Yeah, it's a blowjob thing. So I like to give like a little sucky, sucky before sex. I don't love to like finish a blowjob. So like it's good for sexting and it's good just like if you're like you wake up in the morning, you're like touching their dick a little bit and you're like rubbing it and give it a little handy for a second. And you like whisper it in their ear and then you like go down there. You have imagined doing it. But I'm not, you know.

I can. Yeah. And then like, you know, like you guys, no, you don't have to finish the blow job. It's not a contract. You can say the thing you want. Right. Like, I feel like that's just a hot line no matter what. So they could have just been having just missionary sex.

And she says it. He's like, what? You can say I want to milk the cum out of your... No. No milking. No. And if the first part is too dirty for you, you don't want to see the word cock. Just say dick.

Yeah. I want to suck the cum out of your. dick. I don't know. Sounds less dirty. Listen, I stick by a cock. That was the line. Okay. I am a big user of the word dick. A big user. I was a huge proponent of the word dick. In the bedroom. Like,

cock doesn't really flow off the tongue for me as much. I don't know that I'm saying cock a lot in the bedroom. Saying cock a lot. I think I just, I stick to dick. I stick to the dick. She said cock a lot and stick to dick. I don't cock a lot, I stick to the dick. That's our new intro music.

That's our new merch. Cock a lot. We can have two teams, cock a lot and stick to the dick. Stick to the dick. All right, guys, we're going to drop this now. Yeah. So, team cock.

Team dick. Me and Raina. I'm team cock. Well, and I wonder if it started with, I think I've talked about this on some episode or not, like the first time someone dirty talked to me. it was the second person. I mean, I guess my boyfriend

and I were said things in the bedroom, but the first time someone really dirty talked to me was the second time I ever, second person I ever had sex with. It was on spring break in Panama City Beach. I was a freshman in college. And he was saying, do you like the dick?

And he like made me say it. And I was like, I like the dick. I said as a question, I was like, I like the day. So I wonder if that, like, groomed me, you know. Groomed me. Like, um, it scarred you. Or, like, scarred me,

but then trained me to say dick. You got groomed. Because the first thing I ever said was, I like the dick. The first thing I ever said, it was my first words was I like the dick. So ever since, I stick to the dick. Okay, so speaking of dicks, you had a topic you wanted to discuss with me. I don't want to tease you guys. It's not super dick-related.

It's dating and boy-related, boy-guy-related. And who are they? And boys. Boy-related trash. Actually, this is boy-related. No, this is just something that's been happening more as of late. and it happens to all of us. It's happened to me so many times,

but I feel like it's when it rains, it pours type of thing. Guys who really had an opportunity to date me, whether we hooked up maybe once casually or we had some sort of physical something, but it never amounted to anything, but I was interested in dating them. And this wasn't like something did happen between us.

Like there was either a casual hookup or a makeout or like a flirtation there or like a pseudo date, like whatever it is. Not a person that I've dated, but there was like a point where at one point in time where I liked this person and they just didn't bite for whatever reason. And then they come back around, you know, a year, two years, three years later, so full force. And it's, I'm so uninterested. Like I don't know if you're like this. Like for me, when I turn it off, it's off. I feel like I don't always do that. Like I'm thinking of a guy, for example, that I dated before the pandemic. Like I would still hook up with him today. I would still hook up with him today. I didn't totally turn it off for him. I see him out sometimes. I'm like, yeah, like, whatever. After a few drinks, but there's this other type of guy that, like, for some, you know how it is for me.

Like, I like guys that like me and I'm turned off by people that don't like me. So it's like you had your chance. You didn't take it. Not because you had a girlfriend. Like, it's not because of that. It was just, for whatever reason, again, timing is everything. But, like, you really did have an opportunity and, you know, I maybe shot my shot. Or it was very obvious that this could have been a thing.

And you just didn't bite. And now you want to come back and, like, really kind of go. pretty hard. Like I've showed you some of these messages. Like I'm thinking this one guy for example, this was, um, I lived here in New York. I mean, this was a couple years back. And I was like into him. We hung out a couple times and he just didn't really seem into it. I kind of picked up on that. And like he, I mean, maybe a year or two later, he was just in my DMs asking me out. He was showing up places where I was. He was showing up to my shows. Like he went really hard. And I was like, we really missed our window. I'm not interested in this anymore. I couldn't turn it back on if I

tried and it's happened a couple more times. This guy that I actually have, there's a guy that I actually have had sex with that, um, just, I don't, I'm not interested in me anymore. Like, and it's weird to remember when you were. You know what I mean? Like, like, God, I used to like you so much. Like a lot. It's always somebody that I liked a lot. Yes. Like somebody that went into me was exacerbated how much I was into them because they didn't like me. Or not. I mean, these guys, like, there was something there. Like, I'm thinking of another guy. Like, we did, we made out once. We went on a date or two. And it just didn't work. out and I just, I shut it off. I decided I was like, I'm not into you. And he's kind of come back

around. Like, I'm saying that this has happened a lot recently. And I don't really think it's because of like what I do for a living. And like, I guess you could be like, yeah, but now you're like in the public eye. I'm like, first of all, I don't know that a guy wants a girl that talks about her sex and dating life for, for her job. But also it's like, I kind of always had like something going on like this. Like, I don't think they're clout chasing is what I'm saying. Like, you know what I mean? I have a sense for that. And that's not. No, that's not it. So I just want to like kind of nip that in the butt. But it's, it's odd. And it's so weird because

when these people resurface and they're like badgering you, like, we had one guy, this guy, he was in town. He lives out of town. He was in town a couple weeks ago. He FaceTimed me and then texted me, call me back. And then I didn't respond to either of those. We were busy and then DM'd me.

That is wild. I've never had a friend do that. Like unless there was an emergency. FaceTime, FaceTime, for one. I don't even FaceTime. FaceTime. Text. DM. I'm like, dude, and this was somebody that I was like really into. You know this. The thing that pisses me off in these scenarios is when I was into somebody and then it fizzled

for whatever reason, if it was sort of their fault, like they blew me off. And then they come back with the full court press. I need there to be some acknowledgement of what you did. And I don't need like a long, I'm not such like a bad bitch. You have to apologize to me. Like, I just need there to be and I'll give you the example. I really liked this guy in the fall. It was crazy about him. And like, then he split with his girlfriend and I was like, oh my God, we're going to like start to date. I was really into him and back and forth, whatever. It didn't work out.

And I felt like he really told me how much he liked me. And I was like, oh, my God, I'm going to date. And then he just like really blew me off. And I know why he did because on the side, a friend of ours, we have a mutual friend, told me that he basically was like, I'm not in a place that I want to date. Like I feel like I really like Raina and I think she's great.

I feel like this will go really fast. It'll get serious. I'm not in a place to do that. which super understandable. Right. 100% if he had said that to me. Like I said, yeah. I would have been like, oh, absolutely.

You just got to have a serious relationship and I really like you. And I will expect you to like date me. And if he had just said that, no problem at all. But then he just totally blew me off and stopped talking to me. And it like really hurt. Like I was really bummed out about it. And he started like sliding back in recently a couple times. And I'm just like I'm so turned off by it.

And like you know what you did. You know like you told me you liked me. and that you wanted to go out with me and you know that you blew me off. And I know that you know that because you told our friend. Yeah. So I would like there to just be some acknowledgement. I mean, I'm seeing somebody so it doesn't matter.

But like I would like him to at least have been like, hey, like I know that I like kind of blew you off. And like I was in a bad place. You understand that right. And I would have been like, yeah, absolutely. No problem. But I don't care about your fucking life or your job or your apartment or the dumb vacation that you're on.

I don't care about any of these things. You fucking blew me off. We're not homies. Right. And I love what you said about the ignominable. And, you know, maybe there's a world in which one of these guys opens up and addresses why it didn't work out prior. And that makes me kind of be like, maybe, maybe I'm into this. Because now he's got like, he's opening up and there's vulnerability and self-awareness here. But it's so true. Like, no, no. Like one of the guys I'm like, we used to fuck. And then we just like, you, it just totally fizzled out. And years later, you want to be like, well, can we go out? Can we go out? No. I don't. Because it's, because it. you're right. I don't care about being your friend. I'm just so uninterested in this. But it's, I think the funniest phenomenon to me is to like, the guy that probably hit it the

hardest was a guy that we actually never hooked up, but I was into him. And maybe I didn't make it abundantly clear, but I felt like I was being pretty clear. I was asking him to hang out. I was like, hey, are you going out tonight? Maybe we can run into each other. Like, I think I was doing a pretty good job without blatantly being like, I like you, let's hook up. And then I just, the communication kind of stopped. And he went so hard to, like, his, my DMs are insane. It's just after him asking me out, he was showing up, like I said. And it's so weird to be like, oh, my God, this, I am so turned off by this person that I

used to actually really crush hard on a year or two ago. Right. Just have some self-awareness. It's fine. Listen, maybe we missed each other the last go around. Maybe you weren't interested in me for whatever the reason was. Like I said with that guy, you just got out of a serious relationship, totally fine and understandable.

But, like, I just need you to acknowledge it. And why are you going so hard? and another thing. That one of those guys... Oh, you do with something to say, Ray. Rayne was like, I don't really have a lot to say. I'm like, you'll get fired. You'll get there.

I feel like I got more mad than you did. Without giving too much background, the guy that you're talking about, the blew you up, that like FaceTime you and ever, like, he had blown you off in the past and you tried to, like, be cool with him. And he comes, he came here and like blew you up so hard.

And all you said to that guy was, hey, I'm a little busy, like, what's up? And he was like, his response made me feel crazy. I hesitate to call it gaslight. because I feel that gaslighting is like a real psychological term and it's really super manipulative. But he was just like, I was just like, I was just trying to see where you like, no worries.

Like, I felt like his response to you was like that you're being an unreasonable bitch. I didn't really totally interpret it that way. But yeah, exactly what you said. Like he, like he doesn't live here. Last time I went there, he did kind of blow me off. He had like three times to hang out with me. Like three or three nights where like we could have met up

and he just like, maybe he was dating somebody. But again, like, Like, do you remember when I was there last? Like, you really blew me off. And I did call you on it. I was like, you blew me off. And it didn't feel good. And I'm just, I really said something.

I was honest and upfront, I was proud of myself about it. So to come back around and like, it really hound me to see me without acknowledging like, hey, I got to be honest. I really am sorry. I blew you off last time you were here. It wasn't that long ago. You know, it's just without any acknowledgement, I think that's what it is. But yeah, I don't know.

I don't know if you're one of those people like for me like when it's when it's over it's over though a lot of times most of the time yeah because I get excited about somebody in the window passes and something this is not to say like I could never have been if I was single today and that guy I'm talking about like came back around I I don't want you to date him clearly but sorry keep going no no I I I wondered about him and I'm just I'm super happy with the person that I'm with right now and I don't think about him at all but yeah that was like my one that got away and like if he if I was single and he had said to me like hey I know that I told you I liked you and then I completely blew off. I'd be like, okay, no worries. But like, at this point,

I've, like, moved on from it. I've watched your Instagram and talked shit on it for so many times. And, like, I've, like, watched you embarrass yourself on social media and I'm not into it anymore. I mean, that's another layer to this whole conversation of like, it's so funny when you are into somebody how much cooler and funnier you think they are. And then you shut that switch off and you're like, I'm mortified. The amount of times he's posted something and I've sent it to Ashley being like, imagine if I dated this guy. This is so embarrassing. Like one of these guys I'm talking about like we'll literally probably caption something like

Happy Friday. Like that's his energy. And like, say you dodged a bullet. Yeah, I don't know. I mean, I think that like one of the things that we both have gained throughout doing this podcast is that we understand that like people are just people. Stuff's going on in their life.

It's not so egregious to somebody blows you off. Like I'll give somebody a second chance. I just need them to just be like, hey, this is what happened. And like, don't be out here DMing me, facetiming me, texting me. Like, relax. What if I did that? to you. You would call the cops.

Right. And so yeah, so anybody that's listening on both sides of the coin, like whether you're of male or female, like, if you blow somebody off or you just really make it clear you don't want to date them when they are clearly interested in you and then you try to slide back in later, chances are it probably won't work. But if you have any hope of making it work, I say address it. 100%. And I just, I feel like you and I most people are like understanding now. And it's just like, I'm just, I'm a person. You blew me off. I just need like a one. sent and spang water under the bridge. I'm not going to be like, you don't get to treat me like this. I'm a queen. I'm not going to do that. But if you have any chance of actually trying to

date, you know, like, for sure, I know we used to fuck and I was a little asshole back then. But like, I'd love to actually take you. I don't know. Like, I'm just, there is a chance. There is a small chance, you know, one in a million. So I'm telling you, there is a chance. There is a chance. But the higher probabilities I've mocked you on social media is so hard. My friends are so long. Like, I don't know how we walked this back, because all I've done is talk shit on you. Okay, another layer of this, it does depend on their social media presence. That guys, it's so embarrassing. Like, what if I dated him now? Well, you didn't, you thought it was a little of embarrassing before. Like, you were never,

like, he's so funny. I was like, I actually, from the beginning he used to be like, actually, I promise he's funny. Yeah. I promise he has, like, really funny stuff to say. I was like, despite his whole social media presence. Yeah. Yeah, that was so embarrassing. Anyways, if you're out there, I still wouldn't date you and fuck you. I hate you. And to the guys I'm speaking of, the same. To be honest, like, I know. I just need the listeners to know, like, so many guys hit on me and asked me out and they're in the DMs and they're not all like nasty trolls.

Like, I feel like I'm out here like, I'm so single and yada yada. It's not because there's no option. Like, I just think I'm being super selective. I kind of know what I want and, you know, but listen, guys, people want it. Okay. It's just to make it clear. No, I just, it's been, I felt a lot of pursuing lately, but I'm just like, I don't know, I always say, like, it's nice to be in a position where you don't need to be with a person and

like, you can blow something off. And like, I remember, and we've talked to us before, I remember like accepting so little for men and just like, I would like get ready for a date up because like, I would maybe see this guy and I would like sit on my couch for hours and be like, I hope he texts. If he doesn't text by 10, like, I'll take my clothes off, like, whatever, and call it. And like, I used to just accept so little because, like, I wanted somebody to, like, be in my life. And now I just, I don't feel like that. It's like, we've said this so many times, like, you can behave right or not. Like, but I don't, like, I'm not interested in, like, the middle area. I think it's nice to be in a place where you don't need to be with somebody because, like,

I used to accept very little. Yeah. And I don't think I thought of myself as accepting little. I didn't think I was like, weak, sad, not confident. But like, there's just some behaviors I accepted and never thought twice about it that today I'd be like, oh, you're not interested in me. And I am now not interested in you and I'm all sad. Yeah and the behavior I don't like also is kind of the borderline harassment like the and I'm not, I'm not all these guys I'm talking about are not all in the same category but just kind of like the incessant you know like I'm not responding to you. I'm not giving you what you want so stop or change your tactic. You know stop or be like hey am I bothering you do you do you want to go out like just guys go so hard sometimes like I'm telling you like I have some

some guys in the DMs and I'm just like, you're having a conversation with yourself. Do you look crazy? I don't get it. Or like this one guy was like trying to, he was coming after me and then he was like, he was messaging my friends. Like it was just,

it was like it's too much. Like especially in today's landscape, you know, like a no was no and ignoring is a no. You know, like I don't know. I always say like if a woman acted the way a man acted, you call it cops on her. You got a restraining order in 15 seconds. You'd be like she's crazy.

She double texted me. She FaceTime me. and then text to me and then she DM'd me. Can you imagine as a female? There is a guy that you blew off like a year and a half ago and you're out here FaceTiming him repeatedly after you've spoken in over a year.

What? I know. It's crazy. Men would hate it. And of course, I mean, we encourage people to shoot their shot. We like to have guys shoot their shot with us. But my point is just like shoot your shot but also take the hint when you are zero for five. Yeah, read the room.

It's baseball season. Your batting average is a zero. So give it up. You know, like the persistence. It's like, take a hint is what I'm saying. But again, we never want to be like, ew, stop, stop hitting on me. It's not that.

It's like, always shoot your shot. But you gotta walk away at some point. They're shooting your shot and they're harassing somebody. I feel like, I think these guys are like violently harassing. It's like, okay, I made it clear on the best. Yeah, shoot your shot. But if you're, you missed a rim, right. Bye, you're out.

You're fucking ejected from the game. You're out of here. That is so true. If it kind of bounces around the rim, like someone responded to you but not enthusiastically, okay, you can try again. But if you missed the rim completely, ejected. All right, guys, I am so excited to introduce our guest for today. He is a New York City comedian.

He is the host of U.S. podcast as well as J-Train podcast. He's the boardlord authority on all things charcutory. And you can hear him live scream the Bachelor every Monday at 8 p.m. Please welcome back. our most returning guest, Jared Freed. It is such a pleasure to be here. What an intro. What an amazing.

So we, people sometimes ask to come back on and we can't say we don't do repeat guests because you'd be like, well, Jared Fried is on again. Yeah, this is it. That excuse is out now. Other excuses.

We're like, but it's Jared. Sure. I, you know, this is, I'm a, you know, a FOP,

friend of the pod. It is, no, I, I like this. role that I can play on this show. I like coming on with you. I like you guys both. So it's like, you can just say like I'm part of like the, you know, Howard Stern had the whack pack. Yes. You know, I'm the sack pack. Right.

Right. Please give it up for our snack pack. Yeah. The snack pack. Oh. Well, I'm saying you could say we only have like a couple people who do this. Right. I'm trying to help you with the excuse. No, we get, no, we don't need an excuse. So we're thrilled to have you and to take people back. like three and a half years ago, if you guys were newer to the show. Jared, you were one of the first guests that I wanted to have on the show. I was driving back from Pittsburgh.

I was listening to on somebody else's podcast, and I was listening to advice you were giving about when somebody's not the one, about how like, well, you're going to ask me to marry you, and et cetera. And I was like, I love this guy, I love his advice. And Ashley was like, you should sign his DMs,

and you were so thirsty. You responded right away. That's right. And I think you were the third guest, and we recorded an episode with you and the audio never picked up. It was not our fault. But I was just telling you,

that we had to re-record and you were great about it. You came back to the studio. You roasted us a little bit, but it was better the second time because we didn't know how to manage your energy the first time and we were just like, that was a lot. I come in and I'm ready to sing, dance, and dust. You had an ice

coffee. You were jiggling the ice in the mic that's right. I was like, can I tell him to stop? We're doing this. There are some people that hear me on like other people's podcast and I'm like, no, no, no, never again, please. It's just too much. He's just a whirling derv. I'm a bowl in a china shop

I like but I get excited I think like I'm a high energy podcaster so I like I like I like I would the podcast of like sipping a coffee and like so today on MPR like that exists already no yeah and we want to let's talk

let's talk dating P and the V let's get it going and just high energy like like Rayna we have this we got the we got I think we've had two of these emails now but the first one was iconic and it was all caps and it was like you guys are too fast and too loud. And we're like, that's what makes it great.

Yeah, find a new podcast. We're here to, podcasts are created to take the, I'm a podcast lover. I'm a podcast listener. I am a fan of the medium. It is a podcast to take your brain, put it on the shelf,

and let us take the wheel for an hour. You know, let us take, you know, so you don't have to hear. Right. But you do a lot of, people don't know, you do a lot of dating content. I do a lot.

Mansplain a lot of. of men's behavior. Absolutely. Can I get some free dating advice? Let's do it. Okay, we'll just make it quick. Okay, so I saw this guy on a friend of ours. She had posted like a video of him on her Instagram story.

And I was like, it was very funny. And I was like, who is that guy? I've never seen him. Sure. Went to his Instagram. He really, we don't have any mutual followers. Like he's kind of, I don't need to get into it. Bottom line, he looks single.

He's really cute. He's really funny. And I followed him. And he followed me back right away. The dance has begun. So I'm trying to. So I'm trying to figure out what, my only, my biggest fear is not shooting my shot is, uh, that I don't think he's married, but that, you know, he's as has a girlfriend.

Okay. Which I'm not going to slide in with like, can I suck your dick? No. You should say, would anybody be upset to know that you were on a date with me? Okay. I like that. Yeah, I've seen that, yeah, that meme running around, uh, yeah, I like that. But then I thought of like, but, you know, I want to also give yourself a chance.

You don't want to get the turn down right away. Like, right. You want to let them know an option is. So I thought of like, I, I like your work, in a sexier way, but like kind of a compliment, like, hey, just, you know, like what you're doing. I love what he does, comedically. But then, you know, it's always a fear of mind to be like, yeah, I'd love to come on the pod.

You know what I mean? Sure. So I'm trying to think of is, can I tow this line of like a compliment, but like I'm interested in you. So have you sent that yet? I haven't done anything. So I think there's a dance. There's a dating dance to social media.

And you've already done it. That's why the dance has begun. You followed. And we have to admit. to the realities of 2021, okay? Because what we do a lot of times is we go, we don't allow ourselves to have anything good. We don't allow ourselves to agree that him following you back is a flirty sign.

Whatever you want to believe, that is a yes. So you've gotten a yes. You've gotten the glance across the bar. So I would say, I call it, and now I've found out that my phrase has taken off on TikTok with other people using it. But I've come up with, and I know it's me, because I've been talking about it for eight years now on my podcast, let's do the window tap. You tap on the glass.

Like about six photos in a row. Six? Yeah, just like, let's do it. It's IRL summer. It's time to- You lived through a pandemic. Jared's like, don't be subtle. Be the opposite of the subtle.

No, no, no. This is the flirty dance. This is the flirty dance. You go, and I call it tapping on the window glass. Just, hello. I'm here. I'm wet. A sledgehammer to the window.

No, six. Let it be known. I think you're cute. That's, I think you're cute in, in Instagram. What if she goes back to one of his first photos? I know,

do I think that's way more aggressive. I love, we used to joke with a guy friend of ours that when he liked a girl, he would literally go back five years and just like a picture. You know, just to be like,

I'm talking you, just so you know, but he was hot enough to pull it off. He's like a tent. But that's the thing. This is the thing. He's either in a year, he's not.

Right. And here's the other thing. You want to slow play it because we don't know his girlfriend's status. That's why, like, would someone be mad at you for going on a date with me? It's like, well, when's the date? Like, you want to, like, play this out. Let's see what happens. Let's be flirty.

Let's have fun. We live through a pandemic. Right. But it's not like, so, I mean, my, I was going to slide in there because, I mean, that feels scary to tap, tap six times and then nothing. So because then it feels aggressive when you're like, knock, knock, knock, by the way, I'm going to come in. Because what's the response to that?

Hey, you seem to really intro my content. Well, I'm glad to have you as a fan. Well, to me, the response would be him liking a bunch of yours in kind. That's the flirty fun of Instagram. That's where it gets fun. Then it's, then now, now it's flirty. I just got turned on thinking about him liking. Should we do it right now?

I just got turned on thinking about him liking my stuff. This is the point I'm trying to make because what I'm saying is. Right. I didn't even think of it being. But you will, your concern, and I was, listen, as a man, I want to take credit for listening. Because you, your biggest concern was that this will become business. I'd love to come on the podcast, which is not what you want. You want to fucking see this dude naked.

Wait, can we do this in real time? Do you want to like some of the photos? You guys. If he likes them back. Yeah. If he likes back, then you write, then you DM. Now we're in Flirt Town USA. I want people to come on the ride with us.

Just do it. Okay, okay. Let's go to Flirtville Station. Come on. So you like a few. Why are you guys? I'm so nervous. I have to see who this is. I don't even know who this is.

It's weird. We don't have a lot of mutual. Let me see. I'm interested. Well, because here's what the game you want. And I, again, we can't, we can't just assume, um, okay, good looking dude. I see a type. You love a mid-Atlantic political-looking dude.

And I, and I appreciate that. You love a tall congressman's intern. He doesn't know. I don't know. I think atoll anything. I think he's really funny. No, but you want to be on a wooden boat off the shores of Baltimore. And I can see it. Don't worry. Don't worry. Don't. I love him.

No. I love him. You know. Cramp kicks in football. Yeah, that's right. It's coming back. It's coming back. I can't believe that. We quote it all the time. I mean, it's coming back. The plot holes in that movie.

I mean, this guy, I see the tight. love it, live it. But I think here's what you. You like six in a row. He comes back and likes you six in a row. And then your line is, now that we've liked everything about each other, I guess I should give you my number. Raina just came.

Right? Can you date for me? This is what I would, this is what you want. And here's the thing. And I give this advice because six is funny. Think of what you want. It's like, Rayna's in on six.

I know. I'm literally sitting here sitting here, sitting here thinking I'm doing four. I'm doing four. I was thinking let's dial it back for subtlety. It's six. Say yes. Six. Just make sure. Just make sure to do it. Six. The problem you're going to have. I've already liked one. So five, right? No, no, no, no, no, no. It has to be in a row.

Okay, it has to, you have to tap on the window glass. Hello, I'm wet. I'm here. So then I, I, so my point, because a lot of women. He's like, he's like, my girl's going to eat like six to my photo. Well, the fear, no, no, well, if that's, if that's what happens, you don't want to date him anyways. And that's the thing. Here's what we have to remember. You have to remember what you want. And if someone doesn't attain the level of what you want, they're not

for you. So this is the problem, a lot of women that email the podcast get into. And I don't mean to gender this, but it's just, these are the emails I know. And there's a lot of women they'll go, I want this. And then he'll go, well, here's this. And it sucks. And it's not

what you want. It's, I want a date. And then he says, I'll be out Saturday. Let me know. And they're like, should I go? And it's like, no, he's, he's telling you, I don't want to do what you want. You're at the negotiation table. I don't want you what you want, but I do want to fuck you. Right. With the way I want. So let's take control of the situation. You want to hypothetically go out with this dude, right? Yes. So six in a row, he sees, let's do it right now. So you're going to let. But if he doesn't, if he doesn't like six in a row of yours or doesn't play the dance, he's not dancing with you. Okay. Okay. Oh, Jerry, I get it. I know. So I'm just, I get very passionate. I get very passionate. I'm just, I get very passionate. I. I'm. I'm just,

question about this because he always like, okay, which ones you're going to do? I think you're going to go. No, no, no, no, you've got to go what? It's going to be not the first three. Let's go down from the first row. Next six. Next, grid. So it's one thumb slide up and then like six.

I'm going to die. Should I like one of his funny videos first or like the picture of like the headshot first? You want to go all, I think you would go all headshots because that's your biggest problem is that like, oh, she's a fan, you don't want that. You want to go straight up six. Non-comedy. Non-comity.

non-content related. We're leaning. Okay, guys, if you're listening, we're leaning and we're doing it. First one, he looks like a congressman. All right, one. Do we go two? Oh, yes. Okay, okay, good.

Two, come on, you can do this. Come on, we don't want other people getting in the way of your tag. Your like straight. I did like this one. Let me go. Oh, there's a pick. Okay. Three.

Okay, okay. Three. Hit it. Come on. We got three more to go. You're almost done. Okay, okay. Now I'm going to do videos.

You can do it. You can do this. Four. Ash. Number four. Five, come on. You guys, I hate this. You can do it. You won't even remember it.

It's like a tattoo. Oh, you'll sit. You're afraid of this Brooks Brothers motherfucker turning you down. Fuck him. He sucks. Okay. Five.

It doesn't deserve you. If you can't take your six, he doesn't deserve your seventh. Okay. Six. Oh my God. Yes. A girl's got to eat moment.

There's actually just randomly selected. Six. Shit, I use the wrong count. I'm kidding. Six. Six. You imagine it was girls got to eat the whole time. All right, well, that podcast wants me on.

Yeah, wow. I guess I'm booked. Who is Tori underscore? Who is this person without an avatar? No picture. I have to go back in. I'm, I'm pumped about this. This is a good journey.

Okay. But imagine, here's the thing. You were turned on by the idea of the six coming back. Right. So let's remember that. That's what we want. If he can't hang, we don't want it. If he can't hang on Instagram, he ain't going to hang at the bar.

He ain't going to be a great date. He ain't the time. He can't, if you can't keep up with you, you're going to listen. And also, we always say this. So we had this person ask years ago, like, this guy wanted me to go on a day with Dave and Busters with him in Times Square and like, oh, I don't want to do that. And I always said, like, if that's not your, if you don't think that's funny and awesome, that's not your person.

If that guy doesn't think that's fucking hilarious, then that's not your person. Or if that guy's not getting as hot as you got thinking about him doing it back to you. Right. And it just, it's such. a good test. Like, it's like, if he doesn't bite, he wants nothing to do with me. Let's be a little bit more obvious. Okay. Let's be, you know, you're like for more of them. I like that. I like that. There's nothing wrong with being obvious. I feel like I just like really had like a moment. I would never have done that without you guys. I felt like we were at like a motivational speaker

conference. And you're yeah, Tony Robbins. And you just jumped in the ice bath and you're like, I get it. Oh no, you walked over the flaming coals. That was your version of walking over flaming coals. I feel like I just watched you're going to tattoo laser it off. We're like, you can do it. one more minute, just do it. We held your hand through the whole thing. And listen, hopefully we helped the listeners hand. Someone out there right now is like, I like this guy, he's followed me, I followed him,

what next. And what a beautiful things. Six taps. Tap on that window, bitch. Tap, tap, tap. I'm here. I'm wet. Letting you know, I want a date. All right, well, I'm going to check when we wrap with you. So that would be like a big reveal. The big reveal. I mean, yeah.

Oh, my God. the most listens you've ever had. If he's like seven? Seven. Invite him to my birthday party tomorrow. Then he's on the boat. Where does he live? He's on the boat.

Here. He does live where we live. Put on your life jacket, buddy. Oh, okay. Jared, what do you guys think about dirt sex? I'm going to quote you to you.

Okay. And we're going to open strong with butthole stuff. And I'm going to quote you. Okay. Before we quote you, we are, I just want to reintroduce. Obviously,

you guys are realistic. Why am I doing this? We're talking about what guys want in bed. Yeah. This is the whole premise. So Jared does questions on Instagram. this woman said, is it true that guys stare at our butthole during sex? Mine is discolored, sad face.

Should I bleach it? And let me read Jared's response. If a butthole is within sight, I'm a be looking. All caps, one word. You just said? I'm going to be looking. Us men are curious creatures. I'd go the other way, get a tattoo around the perimeter of the anus that says,

hi, snacks inside. So she's worried about, this was probably actually, I loved it. that we had that to quote, but probably the number one question was, like, if my butthole is within sight, is he looking at it? Is he thinking that there's hair in it? It's discolored. Here's the thing. And a lot of this is going to sound like, I don't want to sound like I'm pandering because I think everyone needs to start the premise. If someone's in bed with you, they're fucking pumped to be there. No one's in bed with you against their own will. They're there, especially a man. I like what you phrase that because we've said that in a bunch of different ways, but that's the best way to say it.

And I can only speak for men. And I, listen, that, That opens up a whole can of words of someone being in bed against their own well, which is horrible. And that's not what we're talking about. We're talking about consensual sex today. Both parties are excited. And if a man is there, he is there because his penis told him the guy doesn't do what his penis doesn't want to do. And the penis is in charge. So it's like, I get a lot of questions.

Is this guy, I'm afraid of this guy being on the first day not being attracted. He's on the date. His penis wouldn't let him go on a date he didn't think was going to be fun for him too. So if he's in the bed with you, the idea of, like, is he looking at my cellulite? Is he looking at my butthole? I've never had that conversation. Like I, like, with your friends after sex, you never really, like, I'm looking at the butthole and, like, no, that, I think when a guy is there, he's pumped.

And I think, like, all of the sex conversation has to start with. And I know it gets, this is where it gets combative. But I want, in most cases, guys, are there to make, guys want to win the sexual experience. We're video game players. We're finishers. We want you to be happy because that makes us look good. We want to be bragged about. Everything guys do is for women. Women dress for other women. Men dress for other women. So when a guy does, the guy who showed up to that first date, he dressed in what thought he would get him fucked the most. As funny as that is. You know, like that guy who wore underarmored

to the first date thought that would get him late. Right. One time an ex said he looks sexiness. He bought 10. Exactly. Totally. And so the idea of like, like I'm joking with her about the butthole, but like the idea that I would ever like, of course it's going to look through your butthole. We're fucking,

I'm in bed with you. Also, I'm looking at everything. I look at literally everything, but it's so I can talk about you behind your back afterwards. Well, but you bring up the best point of all because guys are also aware that if they flubb the sexual

encounter, they're getting talked about laughed at. That's when the word goes from laughing to cackling. You know, the whole brunch, a bunch of squawking birds. And he did this and he did that. And it's like every, every guy wants you. And it's selfish because there's all this thing of like, I deal with this selfish guy in bed. He thinks it's doing well. As funny as that. I'm so glad you brought this up because I'm previously, we had like a nice married man on the show. And now you'll talk about this in a gross way. But like, okay, so the man that fucks you and they're just like not

they don't care if you came or not. Like the guy, so there's guys that like over, they're like, you know, did you come on? Make sure you come out. I don't want to talk about that guy. That guy's just over, over eager. The guy that like finishes and is just like not interested in your pleasure, number one, what is that person thinking?

And number two, how do I talk to that guy and change it? So I think the way you said it is different to them. I don't think they don't care. Okay. I don't believe they don't care. Some guys might. Some guys might. But let's not talk about the, the,

the tail ends of the bell curve. The average dude isn't, you know, just like the average person is just pretty okay. Right. So like the average person is in bed with you. He wants to be known as a guy who did a good job. Even if it's, but if he's acting selfishly,

I genuinely think that guy thinks that he's good at sex and his ego filled. And he's doing all the moves that another girl, that his last girlfriend told him were good. Right. Everybody's showing up with the previous sexual experiences into this new relationship. They're going to paint you in the lines that the other girlfriend, because that's all they have to go off of.

And also, men are simple. Like, our sexual is fucking automatic transition. Like, that's an automatic car. You guys are manuals. Right. So, like, you've got to know every car is a little bit different. You've got to know when to do the clutch and all that stuff. Men, up and down.

They're the push button. Yeah. Not even the key anymore. Not even the kind of just a push start. Totally. So we're also relating, and especially if you're dating someone who's younger, more immature, less experience, they're going off of their one experience and they're going off of themselves. Okay.

So that guy who's on top of you doing rabbit, just like humping like crazy. And he's like, did you come? And it's like, no. I think it's, but it's less personal. I think all this dating stuff we take so personally. So when you say like he doesn't care about my pleasure, he actually does, he just doesn't, and he's too ego driven and to know. And I think to talk to him, hey, like, let's slow it down.

Like, I think it has to be less combative and more working together. Well, and guys are insecure too, you know. Like, I think it's, you know, a person that is not shy and communicates, especially people that communicate for a living will ask, like, did you come? What can I do to make you come? Maybe there's, I'm sure there's guys out there that are like, I'm not doing a good job. She didn't come.

And then they, like, so they're kind of just silent. And you, a woman could perceive it. is like he just came and then he didn't care, which that guy's mind is going like, I'm a failure, but he doesn't know how to say, he knows you didn't. So what's he going to say? He's just kind of basking in his failure. Totally. And you know how embarrassing the question is, did you come?

Like, it is embarrassing. That has been laughed at by women before. Like, did you come? You know how many times I've asked that and like you just see their face? Like, oh, I didn't even, like the minute I said, did you? I'm like, oh, I'll stop this sentence right now. You know if I came. If you're asking the question.

But that's the problem is like, now you're not even asking. and it looks like you don't care, just like you said. So it's like if you're at, there's a lot of this is so combative that like, that if we start at the premise that he does want you to come, then this becomes a little easier. If you start the premise of, you know, he doesn't give a shit about me or he's just trying to get his, then of course communication is going to be off. Okay, so we do get this from, ask a lot of guests.

I like everybody's take on it. So if you're with somebody who probably does want to please you, but like they don't know what they're doing and you're like, every time we have a sexual encounter, I don't come. Like, how do we talk to people and pitch them new ideas? So, I mean, this is the hardest part because it takes vulnerability. This is why relationship sex is better than one night stands usually, like on average, you know?

So like, for me. Yeah, because one night stands, you're just throwing shit against the wall. You're like, maybe this will work, you know? And also, guys aren't going to be great every time. Like, the idea of like lasting a long time and like how you last and, like, how you last. And if you one pump chump, like, fuck. Like, I've been there. I've, fucking, I've come before even getting inside.

And I'm like, oh, okay, how are we going to explain this one? We're going to have to really take. I'm going to go for a walk around the block. I'll be back and they'll be like, where are you going? I'm like, I got to do some stuff. I got some emails to shoot off. There's so much pressure on guys. I'm not trying to be like a male apologist, but like I've always thought there's so much more

pressure on a man to perform in the bedroom. Okay. I want to get back to that, but I want to answer the original question of like, how do you, because I mean, you don't want to look at your partner and be like, I didn't come. So let's talk about that. Well, I think it has to have empathy. Because if you sit there and go, I didn't come. What the fuck, dude?

It's a little annoying. I love when you did this and I would really like it if you did this. So like I think it starts with love, bring them in for the hug, whisper in the ear. So it's like, hey, come in here, kid. Yeah. I love when you did this. Do it a little more. I love when you did this.

I would love it. You want a little lighter on this. A little longer on this. Longer on this. Yeah. And like I'm a guy. I'm a big go down on, let me like, you know how the masseuse is like, you know how the masseur. You know how the masseur.

We're like, what? You were going to have a massage. I just, I just, I'm frantically know it's going to be funny. Well, you ever go from massage? And they're like, yeah, start on your back and then we're going to roll you over your front. They're starting your front and they're going to roll you over your back. And when I go for a massage, I'm like, can I start my back so that I can like roll on my front

and like relax at the end? Okay. The little tip for everybody, because they always have you go on your front first, and I hate that. I'd rather end to my front. Same for sexual experience. I'm like, let me get this whole thing going. I'm going to go down first. You know, I'm going to make sure that I get, you know, I'm on my back first, and I'm going to finish sleeping when everyone is done.

I'm going to take care of the whole dinner party first and I'll eat last. So I'm a big, and go down on first. And then the problem is, again, like, and I bring up lasting. long time because that's on my mind when I'm having sex. I'm like, don't come, don't come, don't come. Holy fuck. You know, like, and so, and sometimes I'm better than others, you know, like, there'll be some nights, like, I'm sure there's people in my past going, yeah, the guy fucking sucked.

And there's other people that are like, that was a fun experience of world. Yeah, me too. I'm probably the best sex people have had. I'm probably the worst sex other people have had. I can't know who is that person, though. I know. I'm like, I can't think of anybody off the top of my head. They have their own podcast now, uh, just behind the scenes.

It's called Raina is lying. Yeah, yeah. There's one Reddit thread. Let me tell you about this chick. She's talking about dating, you know, whatever. I have that fear all the time. Just like some ex-wheel, he talks about dating, you know, and that is probably true. So I, but I would say they, when you, so like, if that's my strategy for sex,

where I'm like, I'm going to go down. And then some people, some women are like, no, that's too personal for me, which I totally understand too. They're like, I don't want that out of a sexual experience. I'd rather just fuck. And then I'm like, there goes, 10 minutes fucking out the door, you know, like, I got to cover my time, you know, like as a comedian. You're like, where am I going to find that?

It's like when a comedian, they're like, yeah, you've got to stay clean for this whole 30 minute set. You're like, got to find that extra 30 minutes. Holy shit. I don't have that problem. I don't love when somebody goes down on me. It's just not my thing. I don't give a shit.

But like, I want you to, yeah, I want somebody to, I want somebody to, I want somebody to rub on my pussy and like finger me and like make out my neck. But I don't, I don't need you like sucking my, second on my clit. But here's the thing. Like, you know, if you're in a one night stand situation, that guy's coming in with his plan. You're coming in saying, I don't need you. Get the fuck up here.

You know, like, I've been with women that are like, I like, that are big nipple people. Like I didn't, if, if you would have told me in high school, nipples were a part of the sexual experience, I would be like, what the fuck you're talking about? There's look to the, for looking. Oh, yeah. You know, like, I didn't know, like, I'm gonna be looking.

I'm gonna be looking. I'm gonna be looking. Are people, our guys thinking about, the last guy is this too, Everybody says to say, are guys thinking about your body when they're fucking you? You have a role. Yeah, they're happy to be with your body. Right.

Like, this was the goal. The legit goal on the first, like, guys are on first dates to fuck. Like, like, if they, like, and I know that's sad to hear for a lot of people because guys are on first days to fuck. Like, that's what they, it's up to you to trick them into the second day. Yeah, right. Or, you know, but guys are there because their first thought is, I, when they swiped you, when they said they came up to you, when they texted you, I just really,

I'm into this girl physically, like a woman physically. So I'm like, you have to stick to that premise, you know, like, and trust in that. And I know that's hard to do because people get fucked over too. Like, you know, there's assholes out there. So like that's what kind of trips up this whole process is I'm speaking in generalities. I'm speaking in, you know, I always say on my podcast, I'm like, I'm the center of the bell curve. I'm just a, you know, and the average, you know, I'm a fine looking guy who you might match with

on a dating app. So like that's kind of where I'm coming from. I do understand there's monsters out there. I do understand that there's people like when they get their egos crushed. They come back at you with mean things about your body and that's horrible. But if a guy is in bed with you, he's like, I would, he's happy. He's like, this is it. And also, women do a lot of like society, society, society taught me this.

Let's think of the guy's version of societal stuff. Like, we deal with that too. We're dealing the same world. Are you in your head about is she going to, what is she going to think about my penis? Does that ever cross your mind? Not me. I'm a strong medium, so like I've never really had penis stuff. But I would assume like if a guy is like, yeah, of course.

But I'm more, you know, like I have bought, I have weight issues. So I'm like, okay, like I have a little bit like. You look hot, Jared. I'm trying my best. I'm working out. So thank you. But I, but I, I, I have, you know, body issues. So like, I remember when I first would like I was younger, I lost weight.

Like a girl would touch my son with my stomach would like suck in. Like I just like, like, like, from just the touch of it, like, just because I wasn't used to that. And like, so whatever you're feeling, I'm feeling, like, I think all those insecurities go both ways. And we don't get credit for it because guys are assholes. And we sit there

and we sound like we, you know, fucking talk like dicks, you know? Yeah. I mean, I, I did a guy that, like, he put on a little weight and I still thought he was sexy when to fuck him. My boyfriend, and he was, like, really insecure about it. And I mean, he was a person who had maybe a little more insecurities than the average guy, but not some, like, he wasn't crippled by it. He was a normal dude.

And then I've dated another guy I fucked Like I would always notice like after sex He would be like kind of flexing Like I felt like he needed to he was like naked And he needed he felt like he needed to like look better naked And I'm like I love your body like why are you like why are you flex I feel like all that stems from insecurity And guys don't get normalized as much

And like being insecure about their bodies Listen I'm number one insecure about my body guy I talk about on stage all the time But I think also like these questions Like I don't ask these questions I'm like I do have the trust that like I do have the ego enough where a woman's in bed with me. I do assume she's there for because she's happy with how I look.

So like the idea of like looking at me like getting naked and looking at me and going he's like I have stretch marks on my stomach from when I was younger. And honestly, as weird as this sounds, like that's never like I've never had the thought of like, is she going to see my stretch mark? Because I'm like, that's just me. I can't really do much. Maybe as women we think because like we analyze every part of the sexual experience with our girlfriends. I'm not going to brunch and roasting people publicly. I'm not. I've never been like that. But I'll analyze it with Ashley or like my best friends. But like maybe we think because we do it that men do it. And like men aren't going to brunch to be like did you see that roll of fat? You know? Yeah. I think also like I think women are just harder on each other's body like each other's bodies. Like I think like I like curvyer girls. I've been with curvier girls in the past where like I've had women make comments not men. You know like that's who would make the comment like. But. But.

I again in the in the bed everyone's a star of their own movie so everyone's in bed going am i okay and the guy thinking is he okay is also did she come because did she come is about me not you right as crazy as that sounds that's right the more the more selfish thing like everyone's like oh he doesn't care about me coming no he cares about you coming so he looks good so it is selfish but right and then yeah of course there are these guys that are like well she didn't come you know it it must be something's broken with her because I'm amazing. That's a narcissist and they're a little bit outside the bell curve. So I mean, I think people are like, yeah, but this one guy is like, sure, we're all going to run into these terrible people in our lives. Absolutely. But they're not the average person.

And it's like, then then sometimes I've had instances where you're trying to like go down on a woman or trying to have sex and then like they're getting frustrated and then they get frustrated at you and you're like, I'm here trying. Yeah. Tell me what to do. It's totally okay. And like I think also guys don't know this and I've learned this from doing podcasts and being on shows like this, guys don't realize the idea of a fun sexual experience without coming. We don't have that. Right.

You know, guys have, if a guy doesn't come. I have tons of that. Totally. I can really enjoy myself if I don't come. I don't care. We generally do. So, like, a lot of guys don't believe that, you know, because it's like, well, I think the world would be a lot easier if just women just would spray one out on you, you know, like,

when it ended. Like, just like, if we knew, at least we would have an. ending. We love it. We would love that too. At least everyone would know there would be evidence like, okay, no more did you come and just be like, oh, there it is. Right. It's all over my face. I think most women are like, I don't want that evidence because I'm faking it half the time. I would love a girl to come in my face. Just spray it all over me just so I would know, you know? It's my dream. We talked to Dr. Ian Kerner about sometimes you just have to take the pressure of the orgasm,

like, off the table. And then there's like, is he coming? It's most, most more so than not, but is she coming? And it's just, we have seen, like, the rarest thing in the world is that coming together. Totally. You see it. We saw it in the movies and then TV and you're like, no, it happens. But I'm saying, like, it doesn't happen every time. Look, Rayna's having that happen with her new boyfriend.

She's like, oh, we love each other. Like, that's the hilarious part. It's like, it's emotional for you. He's like, yeah, I think we come together. Yeah, exactly. I'm not crying when it's happening. Okay, so we wanted to bring up a couple more things. We wanted to bring up smells.

Are guys, like, thinking about how you're, like, pussy smells? I think that was, like, one of those things that fucked us over. Like, that was the high school joke that fucked us over for the rest of our lives. You know, yeah, the fish thing, like, we shouldn't have made that joke because later in life, we're like, I just want to fucking see your pussy and fucking fuck. Right, like it fucked women up. It fucked women up. When we were in middle school, yeah, in high school.

We made that joke a thousand times. Yes. We were so immature. And it screwed us for our 20s. and 30s because we're like, let me see that fucking pussy, you know? And you're like, well, I don't know. I might smell a little. It's like, good.

Like, I was just at the gym. Even more fun. Like, what? Like, and it's fucked up this whole relationship. Right. How about how men love yoga pants? We love yoga pants. And then every time you say with a woman, you're like, oh, you look so fucking.

And I was at the gym. And it's like, I think that all stems from like being made fun on for like smelly pussy. and it's like, no, we fucked ourselves. I love the way my purse and she smells. She's like, I just came from spin class. And the guy's like, sit on my face. Yes. You're like, I can never.

And you're totally right. Then we go back to middle school. Our inner child is like, your pussy smells like fish. Yeah. And it's like, well, I have to shower for three days and I have to dunk it and, you know, herbal essences. And it's like, no. Like, I think like we made, and this is all like, these questions all stem, like,

are adult women asking questions about immature guys. Because all, you know, like, these are adult women who are, like, looking to have honest and real conversations. And they're dealing with their 22-year-old dude they fucked once or over her, the 18-year-old asshole. And I, listen, we can't go back. You know, like, you hope to raise yours better. And that's a longer process than we can even get involved in. But this podcast is about, like, having these conversations. Like, I hope, you know, not, there's a lot of women that don't have guy friends that they can talk to like this.

So hopefully this serves as a guy friend. you know, for them. And I, again, like, if you hear, like, I always hear these stories, then it's like, yeah, fuck that dude. Like, get rid of them. I don't even know, like, I don't know why you're questioning yourself, but I get it. Well, and then, I mean, you kind of just need, like, if you, if you're, if you're a self-conscious about a little bit, because also, you know, goes about saying, if you really smell, if your pussy just smells rank, like, see your doctor. But, like, they smell general. They have a scent. And it's like, you know you don't smell so fresh after spin class. But, like, well, I swear all it takes is that one guy that you fuck after

spin class and you're like, this is great. Like I had a guy that we would always hook up after. We were super in love. We would always have sex after I was super sweaty after a workout. He was. And it was like hot. I wasn't like eating his ass after he went to the gym. But I feel like you need somebody to validate that like you're so sexy when you're like are sweating.

And then it kind of fixes it forever where you're like, this isn't a thing. I need to let go with this. And like again, this is all back to that like bell curve thing. Like I've smelled a bad smelling vagina. Also that girls could have been having a bad day. Like let's all grow up. up and realize like, yeah, your pussy has smelled disgusting once.

And your dick. Your dick is smelled disgusting. Yeah, and your dick. And that doesn't mean their dick always smells bad or your pussy smells about the time. My balls after a flight. I mean, I could smell them from across. I'm not getting in there. No.

And listen, we all have our days. Like, you smell it. Just like you're saying. That's what I mean. Some people have a bad day. And then you smell and you go, okay, well, today, but it's not like you go, get this fucking thing out of my face. Like, it's like, no.

If someone acts like that they're an animal. Like, I mean, I've been with women who have been, like, listen, I'm a disgusting asshole, okay? I've been with women who have seen, I remember one time I was in a fight with an ex, and we were in a relationship, but during the fight, I'm joking about the fight, and then I, like, drop my pants down

to the floor, and then I go, well, that's what you think, and I dropped my pants down on the floor and did a big spin. Like, it was like my big finale for the argument, and she was like, you have a clump of poop in your butt. And I go, and, like, I was having this big moment. Yeah. Oh, my God.

And I had this big moment where I was joking, joking, and I reach back, and there is a quarter-sized, dingleberry. Like, quarter-size. And I'm like, like- You never heard this story? I think it's coming back to me. I've told this. I can't remember if you told me on J-Train or if you told this on our show. Do you-do it on stage? Or I tried it for a minute and then I stopped doing it on stage and then I got reminded recently

that I should do it again. Yeah, it just came back to me. I think I blocked it out, but I have kind of remember. But that is so funny. We all have gross stuff happening on our bodies sometimes. Yeah. And it's like the idea that like my girlfriend, I'm like, well, I'm out of here.

Like, that's not, that's not the reality. That's sitcom, that's movie. Also, I think you bring up something that's like really, I think, imperatives. We have to stop analyzing the behavior as shitty people. So if somebody just makes you feel bad about yourself, insecure, they're not nice to you. They don't care if you come.

Let's stop analyzing their behavior. Just be done with that person. They are not interested in you for whatever reason. They're not interested in be a nice person right now for whatever reason. Like, they are not the last person on earth. It's the hardest thing. it's the hardest advice to take and it's the easiest to give.

100% because I think, and this happens with even dating stuff, how does this person feel about me is really the perspective of that? They're like, how does this person feel about me? So if you reverse your perspective on everything dating sex-wise, how do I feel about how this person acted?

Like if you started that, I had this woman, she's DMing me, this whole conversation, and I don't like giving personal advice over a DM, it takes fucking forever. and I understand why people, it's flattering that they would even ask me. This girl, she sends me all these messages from this guy, and it was all about them trying to make a date.

And finally, I was like, listen, I don't do this advice here, but I can tell you, I can say to you this, do you want to date a guy who's this hard to make a date with? Is this how you, is this who you want to date? Right. Ask yourself that. Yes or no. And it's like, that goes for every situation. I mean, do I want to date someone who doesn't hear when I tell them the thing I'd like

to have happen in bed? Right. Start with yourself. I think it's amazing advice. I'm dying to know, but I have one more question. I'm dying to what happened with your Instagram. I have one more question. We wanted to ask you. Sex toys in the bedroom. Love it. And I specifically

had an experience the other night with my new boyfriend where I just, I want to play with his butt. I just like, I love obsess his butt. I really want to. And we were at dinner with a gay friend of mine. And he was like telling my boyfriend about like different butthole toys to use like milk his prostate. And he was like, really intently listening. And I was so proud of him.

The ones that he showed us for a wild. And so like I was thinking like that is a secure ass man. I could sit there with a gay man in front of your girlfriend and be like, this is how you milk his butthole. And then I'll complete the question. So like, yes, toys, like this isn't taboo. Toys in the bedroom. Yes, sex toys.

But I guess there is a, you hear guys make jokes like comedians. I've heard jokes that are funny. But like is it emasculate in any way if a woman's going to pull out like a big toy that's going to kind of pleasure her more than you or something. No, it's got to be like, I think of those toys as like my, you know, the, the sword in my sheath. You know, like, oh, I get to use that on you. I get to become part of my power. And I guess that's a little ego in that where I'm like, no, me and them, you know, it's like,

you know, when the Power Rangers got into the, you know, the Megatron, you know, like, it's like, now we come together. Like, this is my, now I can take the vagina down, you know, like, I think that's, I think that's the person. We have a girlfriend that has to have a toy to come. Good for her. Give him the toy. Give him the toy.

And also explain to him like, this is how I come. I would make, I think what happens with this conversation is you have to sell the sizz. Right. Sell the say. It makes me so turned on to have you using it on me. Right. Not the toy turns me on. That's a mean thing to do to someone.

Right. Like if a woman is out here like, well, I, you know, told him that he. He wasn't pleasure of me, so I brought out my, like, big dildo and did it myself. Yeah, that's fucking mean. Yeah, you're a bad marketer. So you're not in Belgrade either. You're the worst. Yeah, you're out of the Belk, exactly.

And if you're sitting there listening going, well, I shouldn't have to. Well, I shouldn't have to fucking, I don't know where, bringing an umbrella out when it rains. Like, I don't know what you're talking about. Right. You're now getting pride in the way of getting your own pleasure. And it's like in a caring, loving relationship, you want to make, you want to prop someone up to, to in the bedroom especially, this is all confidence. So it's like if you say to someone,

it would make me so hot to have you go down on me with this vibrator. And the way I love it is blankety, blankety, blankety blank. Guys, again, let me reiterate this. Guys play video games. We are fixers. We want to complete the level. We want you to come. We are there for, we want you to go.

And we want to be a part of the story of your best sexual things. All of our things, everything we do is for women. So coming back to the original premise. So like, you know, your boyfriend's listening to that. Like, it is a turn on to me if I was with a girl, like excited about butthole shit. Like I, like, I, like, listen, I always talk about finger in the butt during the blowjob. I'm like, like, the idea of like a woman, like, researching that, how to do it, how to fit. Like, that's hot to me that she's like, that she's thinking of.

about sex even a little as much as I am because men get all this credibility of like all they think about sex. But women are talking about sex too. But like, but you kind of, but it does surprise men a lot of time when you're like, and I was thinking, like, I always, the advice I give on the podcast a lot of times is like do this, if you want to like get a message across so you're not sure how to get it across, tell your significant other about a dream you have. Yep, exactly. Yeah. The pros say. Dr. Ann said that too. Oh, really? Like use your subconscious as an excuse. Exactly. So it gets you add. So hey, I had this. dream last night. Texted to your boyfriend, just be like,

I had this dream last night. You did this. I did this. And I, and I woke up. And all you have to do is end it with, I woke up so fucking wet. Game over. But he's either going to choose to climb that mountain or he's not. Because we have to assess for both. You have to be equally willing to leave a relationship as you are to be in it. I do believe. So like the idea of like, if you give that mountain to climb and he doesn't do it, now you have to reassess.

Maybe this isn't the match for you. And that's a sad thing to deal with. but that's the reality. But that's what you were saying before is, do I want to date a person that X, Y, Z? Do I want a date a person who couldn't get the hint? And then, you know, maybe you give people a second chance. I do want a date a person who couldn't get the hint. But now I have to say it to them up front. That wasn't just a dream.

I would love to do that with you. Right. Do I want a date a person who won't do that at that point? Right. You don't necessarily, I mean, you could choose to, but you don't have to say that wasn't a dream. And, you know, out yourself. You could say, hey, so what did you think of that? You know, like I just, I wanted to follow up.

circle back. You know? Yes. Well, it's like, that takes a lot. Per my last email. To tell someone your fantasy. So you should be able to circle back. Here's the other thing.

Men don't. Your last fantasy. They had to knock him. I thought I thought it would. No, I was laughing. I thought it was great. Delayed. It's like, if a guy walked in the bar and someone was like, he likes a finger

and his butt in a blood job, like, they could hypothetically be made fun of for that. If a woman walks in the bar and it was like, and the guy was like, she likes a finger on the butter during, during. when you go down and they go, ooh, that's hot. You know what I mean? So I think a lot of guys don't get the leeway with sexuality that a lot of women get. Like, you know, it's like, so I think you have to understand that insecurity too, where it's like, listen, I've had a toy in my butt, you know, with the prostate play that

you're talking about. But what made it easier was a partner who was like, this is turning me on that this is happening with me, you know, like, and it's like not being considered like, oh, because you did this like, you know, like you're a weirdo or whatever, because that happens to a lot of guys where it's like, because they bring something up, it's like, what? And what happens is a lot of times they'll make it personal to them. So you don't like what I do? It's like, no, I'm just trying to bring up other things. You know, like, and I think a lot. Right, right, right. I think it can stop people. To be like mutually exclusive. I think you can stop people from bringing it up,

you know? Also, be open and honest to what that person wants so that like when you bring stuff up, that they will be open and honest about like how that feels for them to. Absolutely. And excitement goes long way. I think that's like a big enthusiasm. Enthusiasm. Yeah, totally. And we say enthusiasm and positive reinforcement. Oh my God. Negative reinforcement is not the answer. It's not, you're not trying to challenge someone to do better. Like, I used to say this all the time of like, nobody wants a challenge in the bedroom. Like I guess there's like a level of narcissism where you're like, unless it's a role play. I bet you can't get me off. But like it's positive reinforcement. Not like negging someone into like,

I dare you to try to get me off. But this happens all the time. I told you before we started today. I was like some woman on Raya like, like, oh, I guess you're one of those guys who don't say hello. It's like, well, is that how you want this starting? Nobody wants this. No. And it's like, listen, I am the same as you. So like, remember that. Right.

However you feel, my dad says it to me all the time. However you feel, you're not that special. However you feel, they feel, however you think about it, they think about it. We're not that smart. You're not that special. It's all the same. So if you're feeling it, they're feeling it. So if you feel insecure,

the bedroom that, you know, the guy is too. Right. Well, can we throw a few emails at you? Let's do it. Okay. These, we'll just kind of, well... I hope I'm not too much. I'm not too much. You're just enough.

Just enough? Yeah. Okay. This we get, I don't know, we get this a lot. I don't need to read the email, but we've gotten a lot of guys sticking their whole tongue in an ear. In an ear. Like, like, she says, like, stick to the low.

But like, I, yeah. We get a lot of like full tongue in ear. See, to me, I think that's a guy trying... I feel it. I can feel it. I can actually hear the way it feels. I felt the exact set. You're totally right.

You can hear it. I can feel it. I would say, I think that's a guy who's trying to get this to get kinkier. Right. Like I think earlobe is cute. Inner ear is like, I'm looking to like lick every part of your body. Like I think that's like I said, I think he's trying to send a message. Right.

About your butt hole. Or, you know, we never know. Like his ex could have been like, stick your old tiger. here. Like, you just, we always say, like a guy that I used to date, like, he does a bit about it where he's like, you just don't know. And you're taking the girl before into the next girl. Maybe she doesn't like being choked, you know?

So it's just like, you never know. You never know. But in this instance, I've never heard of the tongue in the year. But if it's happening, I think that's someone like that's trying to push the envelope in a way that isn't, you know, like, to me it's that's a makeout where he's letting you know, I want to be inside of you. Maybe he's an experience. You can teach people.

Just educate someone and how to pleasure you. I got to move on. I'm like, I can hear it. I'm like, I need a cutip immediately. I have an earache. Can you imagine she gets like swim ear? Hey, girls got to eat. I got swimmers here.

Went on a great date. Now I need ear drops. And. Okay. this is just like let's keep it kind of broad like is this the thing that guys do so she says I'm an elementary school teacher I went back to teach in person for the first time since COVID got canceled whatever I was hooking up with this guy and he kept saying he was nervous maybe to deal with nerves he then started to make conversation while we were hooking up he knew I was starting in person school soon and in bed started asking questions all about teaching if I was excited to see my students etc what I'm not trying to think of my classroom about my classroom during sexy time it felt wrong it was a deal breaker for me did he go on a did they go on a date first? Like that's on like it's weird that they're having first date conversation in the bedroom, you know? That's such a good call. Like for him to go, so how's the, you know, if this. That should have been talked about at dinner. Maybe this is a guy, okay, here's my hypothesis. The guy who's like father

said to him like, respect women. And the way you respect women is like learning about their lives. And this guy is just in his head like, I want her to feel like I respect her. And so I got to ask all about he was nervous. Yeah. So I would assume, I respect you content. That could be it. I don't know. I would ask this person, there's two avenues. He's just so nervous that he just didn't know how to talk to you during the sexual experience and he felt that that was a way to like get it. Or they were in this situation where like they just were like come over. Like I, because it sounds like that's for like the idea that he wouldn't ask those questions

on the date when he's already nervous. Right. Okay. That's a weird one. Wouldn't it be funny if she's like, well, we did go on the date, but all during the date. He just dirty talked and told me how much he went to find him. He like, dirty talked on the date. And then in the sex, he's like, so are you excited about school starting? I can't even imagine this, like, being in this scenario where somebody's asking me about this. Like, something happened

here where this guy was like panic-stricken. It could be also buying time. You know, what I talked about before. Like, oh, I don't want you to go down. I mean, he's like, so let's talk about spring semester. And then he's like, okay, does that count as a amount of time that I'm hard? All right. This one just, I feel like this is a cautionary tale. what I just wanted to, I think it's funny. Okay, she said my ex-boyfriend grabbed a lit candle and poured the hot wax all over my chest while hooking up. No warning, kind of hot, kind of terrifying,

kind of pissed, he ruined by expensive candle. Okay, this guy was just like, I want to do something creative, kinky. That is crazy. That's tough because that comes, it was her boyfriend, she said. Ex-boyfriend now. Yeah, well, boyfriend, he's trying, again, this goes into the category of like, how many times have you been with a partner

where you go, what do you want to do? What do you want to do? What do you want to do? And you both don't want to say it, so you just end up a missionary for the endth time. So I think this is him. And again, like I said, like guys pushing the sexuality stuff and like getting you into something new, it gets this side eye thing. So he's like, I'm just pouring this candle. Let's see where this fucking goes. I think that's him pushing, trying to get the conversation started without a conversation

because he feels embarrassed to have a conversation. which and that's the worst way to do it. Right. I can feel somebody do that. I think I know him. His name's Dash. He bartends at Whiskey Tavern because I had an experience where I went there and this bartender had a girl who was my friend do a body shot off of him.

She kind of got surprised with it. Okay. And then he put whipped cream on his nipples. I was on a date at the time with a guy. We were out with a big group, but I was dating this guy. It was right before COVID. And this guy, his name was Dash, he was a bartender. He was like, Stella here has been dying to take a body shot off of me.

and I look at my friend. She's like, I'm not. And then he put whipped cream on both of his nipples. Okay. He put Jameson in his belly button and he laid on the bar. And my friend just did like a little like slurp out of his belly button. And then he grabbed a candle off the bar and threw the hot wax on his own bare chest. I mean, that is.

That might have been what started the pandemic. That was like. All I hear is COVID in this entire story. Yeah. It was right. around COVID just came. And so the guy I was with, I was day and the time, we were like, oh my God. So basically, like, he didn't get enough from that body shot. And then I look at the guy and day, he goes, he did that for him. Like, oh, yeah. Didn't get enough. He's sending a,

he is put up a flag, a freak flag. He's like, this is something, this is the preview for what you get. He's looking to like, you know, that's like the equivalent of like putting out like, like, like a smoke signals. Yes. Like he's like, actual, yeah, he's like, I mean, God looked down at earth and was like they don't deserve a year. We're taking away a year. But I think like that is him definitely going. If you like this, there's more to be seen. Also guys, like while we're here, like there are candles that are made for that.

So like I used to have a candle that it was from a sweet peach by a bikini waxing salon in Atlanta. And she made these amazing sex candles. And they were great peach sending candles by day. And you could reach in there and use the wax at night. It didn't get too hot. So like, the guy I was dating the time joke that I would give him these peachy hand jobs

because I would just, if we needed some... You set a candle by day. Because if we needed some... The Batman of candles is in. If we needed some lube, I would just reach in and they grab some candle. I hope this is on video. You're reaching maneuver.

Ashley... Yeah, she's scooping. Yeah. Your wrist mobility is fucking crazy. I have never seen a wrist literally do the... possessed daughter from a horror movie. That was

the exorcist of Brits. Yeah, wow. I mean, I just, I just thought of you was like, Inspector Gadget. Like, you're in the bed just like doing, you're doing dishes with one arm. Yeah, yeah, yeah, the arm goes out, one arm. I feel like Jared's low-key turned on. Like, he's going to go home and DM me.

I mean, Ashley, you're pissed. You had no idea that I was a, I have a wrist thing. Oh, my God. Can you imagine I go home? Any king can sound funny, but like, that would be, yeah, she moves. a wrist, you should see it. His new opening and Ryan, he's like, can I can see more wrist pins?

What that wrist do? Send some wrist picks. I got to see that thing move. All right, we have to wrap up because I'm sweaty. We do, but also we need an update on if you like your mouth. Oh, you guys. Try to filibuster it, but we won't like that. No, no, I just said, I mean, I'm so.

This guy, you're hoping he fill a bus in your face. Guys, we don't have, no, no likes. None. No likes. Maybe he's busy today. Give it a minute. Let's give a time. Also, you, we've only been recording for like 40 minutes.

So he might have... Give it a time. He's not like us. We're looking every five seconds. You guys, what if nothing ever happens? And that's not your guy. We were talking about today. That's not it.

Yeah. All right. Well, stay tuned. Stay tuned. Jared, we love you. I think so coming on for the third time. Thank you for having me. Third, I think fourth.

Fourth. You've come on a couple times. You've come on with Jordana twice now. Myself, Jordana twice. Now today. Right. Yep, exactly. Okay.

And you can hear us on J-Train podcast and you have podcasts. We've both been guests multiple times. Absolutely. I'll do J-Train again. Let's do it. Okay, done. Well, tell everybody where they can find you. Oh, at Jared Fried on Instagram.

I love Instagram the most, so I would love your follow. I am doing live shows. So those are happening on my website, Jaredfrey.com. I'm also a TikToker. I am getting into the tuck. I love it. The Wizard of Ha. The Wizard of Ha.

It's a wizard of ha. I couldn't. I'm wizard of ha on TikTok. Oh, really? Oh, that's the handle. Yeah, yeah, that's a handle. I learned that yesterday. Wizard of ha.

Yeah, so TikTok, Instagram, and I'm live screaming The Bachelorette, and it is my favorite thing in the world to do. And if you guys want, every Monday night, 8 o'clock, you just tune into my stories, and I'm there screaming. And also the U.S. podcast.

That's my, the podcast that you guys have been on, and I would love for everyone, check it out. Jared does literally the most. I do too much. I look. It's the least confident comedian in the world, just putting out so much shit. We love your content.

But it's not too much. I hope it's not. It's different because you all, your dating stuff and then you have The Bachelor's different. But also, I mean, Raina, you never even watch the show. Raina just watches the recap. I'm the biggest live scream Jared fan. Raina and I would recap the Bachelorette.

I had sat through it for two hours and she just watched your recaps and we were able to chat about it. Yeah. So if you guys don't want to sit through it, which the season's great. We like Katie. Jared said Katie's great. He met her recently. We're fans, but if you don't want to watch, just watch Jared's stories. And it's meant to be fun.

Like, it's meant to like, if you have a significant other, like, I have so many people that are like, I watch it with my boy. It got my boyfriend involved. It got my brother, my family, my mom and I talk about your life screen. You're a gateway drug to the actual show. But thank you guys. Yeah, thank you. And you guys know where to find us, Girls Got Eap Podcast.com.

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