Handsome - Abbi Jacobson asks about personal style

Episode Date: August 19, 2025

Abbi Jacobson (Broad City) asks the handsome hosts a question about their fashion sense, and the answers are as individual and unique as their respective hairstyles! Plus Mae's sad hot dog meal (on a date?!), listener art that gets us buzzing, and more!Handsome is hosted by Tig Notaro, Mae Martin, and Fortune FeimsterFollow us on social media @handsomepodMerch at handsomepod.comWatch Handsome on YouTubeThis is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Handsome via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Welcome to the handsome pod. I'm one of your hosts, May Martin, join. It's so lovely to see you guys, as always. By, joined by. I'm Forgeon Feemster. And I'm Tignotaro. Hi, friends. Hi, friends.

Hi. May, wherever you are, is gorgeous. Thank you. Looks like you're in a, like a greenhouse. I'm in Lake Arrow. head it's happening my weird solo um meditative excursion where you're inviting a bunch of people up well yeah yeah what happened with that well okay i've been up here five days and like three of those days i've been by myself like like sleeping in the quiet house in the woods so isolated i don't i have no

car i have no uber eats i have no uber blacks i have no uber my god Goodness. How'd you get there? Uber. Uber Black. You Uber to Lake Arrowhead? Yes, with so much stuff in the Uber. I packed up so much stuff. And then I'm on the road and I was thinking, well, okay, then what the hell is all that other stuff in my house? Because I have everything I need. I mean, I've got multiple suitcases, paints, instruments, cameras, facial products, weights, like I brought my whole. You brought weights? I brought weights. That Uber driver was probably like, the fuck is happening. I know. I know. Wow.

I really need you to pass your driving test. You have to start being able to rent a car. I need you to not because I enjoy hearing about this ridiculousness. Now, tell us how it's going. Is it feeling good? Is it what you're hoping? Are you really challenging yourself with this time? Yes, I need to challenge myself more, maybe, but I'm like, I just realized when I got up here, I've kind of, I've been craving this for years, like maybe 10 years. I feel like I've been talking about wanting to do this and bringing on books and stuff. And I am just realizing like I forgot kind of how to, or maybe I never knew how to be a human being. Like, it's been so long since I cooked three meals a day for myself and did the dishes after and read a book and went to bed.

I'm like, oh my God, I get why people do this. And so what do you do? You just order food in and then throw that away. Yeah, the waste. And I'm so, I just am so busy and I don't love my kitchen. And I don't, I don't know. So I've been, I made a pasta up here. I did make one meal.

Actually, maybe we can post a picture of it. Should I find the picture and show you guys? This is when I thought I'd need to challenge myself more. Okay, let's see it. Maybe you guys can kind of psychoanalyze what this says about me. We could maybe post this picture, but this was a meal that I had high hopes for. I thought, I'm up in the woods. What do you eat in the woods?

You're not naked in this photo, are you? No. Would you have stopped May from showing this picture if so? I just wanted to let our YouTube viewers know that you might be seeing May. in the nude whether that's good or bad news I just want you to know I didn't know if May was trying to trick us

into seeing them naked you know I've been trying to do that I think people would very much enjoy it is that what you're wanting fortune you want to see May naked everybody wants it come on actually on that topic someone recently said to me

it's weird how you shave your calves but not your thighs and I thought everybody does that don't they and then I realized that's just me and it's like I'm wearing fur shorts I have these smooth hairless womanly thighs and then I have these manly like hairy or sorry womanly cast reverse reverse hairy thighs and I just thought everyone I thought you're not supposed to shave your thighs because it grows back darker but anyways the point is I'm not I'm shaving my calves anymore. They're not? Uh-uh, so I don't have to shave them.

You don't have any hair on your thighs. No, I just shave my legs. My gams. I see. I have little prickly hairs coming out of my knees and stuff like that. So I shave all that. Fortune, you're just shaving your calves? I'm just shaving my calves, but if my thighs were hairy, I probably would shave them. Okay, well, I think my solution, I'm up in the woods, I'm like just not going to shave any of my legs.

You know I like keeping my gam smooth because I got to show off those muscles. Yes, you do. Okay, this is the meal that I cooked and I thought I'm going to make hot dogs. I'm going to grill them. I'm going to do this was what a nice alone time meal. What a fancy meal. Oh, goodness. That is.

Is there, have you seen a water? It's happening here. It's a hot dog on a bun, one plain hot dog and one chip. And two pickles? Two Doritos and two pickles And I thought I don't know In my mind it was going to be this

I don't know Summary Disgourmet meal So I can't tell if you're having a good time Or if you're too lonely I'm having a good time I'm having a really good time But you're also

You're also lonely You're counting the days To get out of there Look I'm To load your weights And your hot dogs Back in the Uber

you're miserable honestly this is great I've been reading books and I'm chilling and I made a hot dog and somebody stop shaking my calves

yeah I haven't you have you invited any friends to come up I currently have two friends here and then I have two more friends coming and yeah but for the most part

I'm going to be by myself with the beautiful creatures of the forest I've seen four raccoons I've seen blue jays are, I think they're blue jays, they're blue jays, they're blue. Sounds about right? Yeah. Sounds like a blue jay.

A woodpecker, I saw a vulture, a lot of squirrels, and then one squirrel that is his own breed or something. He's like the size of a dog and he is so muscular and big. And I sound like I have a crush on him, but I don't. Now, can I recommend something if you do want people to visit? it you? Yeah. Send him a picture of your hot dogs. You guys, I'm making some good meals up here.

Cooking up a storm. Is it any better with your friends there? Yeah, listen, I'm having a good time. No, no, no, no. Totally. Totally. They cooked me a steak last night. That was good.

Is there a hot tub? Yeah, there's a hot tub. All right. Now we're talking. there's no real like this whole lake is private docks and so one night I snuck onto a stranger's dock and I jumped in at the sunset in a horse suit I was in a horse suit it was heavy in the water yeah I bet yeah but it's been it's been good I mean you know we'll check in and see how my mental health's holding up I've definitely been getting a little weird we'll check in five minutes after we end this zoom yeah for the real see yeah how long are you there I've booked it for three weeks. Whoa, that's a long time. Okay, but wait, Fortune, did you notice what just happened?

You said, how long are you there? And May said, I booked it for three weeks. That is somebody who is not committing to staying for three weeks. That is May saying, this is how much time it's for, but probably not how much time I'll be there for. May I be honest. I'm thinking about making some little trips to L.A. just to check in. That's a lot of Uber

blacks. Yes. Seriously. By Uber rides. Oh my God. Yeah, you have to like, you have to really like the woods in nature and not having a lot to do to go up there. But also, let's be honest, May is indoors.

It's not like May is living off the land. Excuse me. I'm out there. I'm sitting at night. I'm feeling the stars, hearing the stars. I'm, uh, you know what I was thinking, though? to all these animals, this is like a bustling metropolis where they're like, morning, morning. And then in the city, they must feel like it's a ghostland where they like hear a noise and

they're like, maybe it's an owl. And then it's just a night bus or something. So I'm in there, I'm in the big city for them. Yeah. Night buses. I have to say, I just took a trip that was very, very relaxing. I went to Iceland. Yes. And my best friend, Andrew, Shout out of 20 years. She went with me and we had not taking a friend trip in many, many years. And it just was so fun. And I've never been to Iceland before. It was amazing.

Isn't it? I'm so jealous. Oh, my God. The food's so fresh, so good. We went to this lesbian-owned restaurant. Yes. Helga is the chef. Of course.

She's incredible. I had ate all kinds of things I never thought I would eat I mean all Icelandic women are sturdy You just picture that I fit in very well You're a sturdy little lady I'm a sturdy little lady

It was the one country I did not get called certain I've tried to push you over before And it's nearly impossible You're so sturdy I'm a sturdy gal This restaurant and I can't say in Icelandic but it just stands for food and drink. Helga just gets right to the point.

Yeah, no frills, just. Sturdy names. But she's like, she's like experimented with flavors like so much that she has just figured out how to put things together that you'd never think of and it's incredible. Like hot dogs and pickles. Classic Helga. And my friend is a vegetarian and they did stuff for her.

her that she loved and so that was amazing and we went to a bunch of lagoons yes where you just sit in water my Andrea, Andrew Cansler, shout out to my friend. She sat in a spa in a lagoon with me for seven hours. What? Yes. Were you drunk? No, neither one. We were so tired and like, but we were both on the same page of just wanted to chill. That like we just were like, oh, she just texted me oh my god it's like we're still it's in patico oh my god are you in love no she's like my sister gross i don't know what you're up to can you get your friend andria to come up to lake arrowhead and hang out with me well she lives in nashville now but you would love her company we know her we hung out with her in nashville that's right y'all met her at the

rhyman she's great but um yeah it was like you know one of those days when you're like you're both like on the same page you're like we don't want to be in our phones we want to be in the lagoon we got massages on a float in the water it's like you're in Lake Arrowhead yeah we got a massage in the water on a float what first time yeah no but y'all didn't seem impressed is the masseuse treading water while they massage you in the water with you and it's it's just are they hanging on to your raft going oh hold on they're like turning your around and oh they're standing they're not treading yeah they're not treading that would be hard yeah i wonder how they get the traction to like like push down without drowning you or pushing you away

they're magical sturdy icelandic women not not your circus yeah not my monkey not my circus that was amazing and um and that we did get reprimanded after our massages because we were floating in the water and we thought everyone had left we looked around the lagoon and we didn't see anybody. So we started pretending to be Icelandic women who were lesbians and we were going like, I'm going to, I'm going to cut wood and eat root vegetables and we're going to make sweet love by the fire on a pelt. And the police came? No, and we didn't know that all these people were being massaged behind us and they had to come over and say, can you guys please They said, can you guys please be quiet?

And we were like shaking, laughing. Oh, my gosh. And then we did sanas and dry sanas and cold plunges and masks and scrubs. Amazing. Laid by the fireplace, sushi lunch. Best time of my life. I mean, best time of my life. But I will give a shout out.

If anyone goes to Iceland, here's what I will say. It's super gay friendly there. They are all allies. it like isn't even a thing they have gay flags everywhere it's such a welcoming place but there's this travel company pink Iceland that not only do they do travel tours for people gay and straight they also um put on weddings for people and they have a lot of people come to Iceland who like are from different countries where it's not okay to like some of their families don't know they're gay or like it's not okay to be gay where they're and they will put on these beautiful

weddings for them, even if it's just the two of them or two of them and a friend. This company is two lesbians and a gay man who run it and they have the biggest hearts. They took such good care of us. They're amazing. If you ever go there, look them up. They are the company that will take good care of you. And you saw the Northern Lights, right? I saw the Northern Lights, which is wild. Yeah, we went to their, they have this, um, their office is, five floors up and we went and we were just chatting with them and they go oh they're the northern lights and to the naked eye it's kind of hard to see them they're like it's just like if you're not familiar with them but when you take a picture of it it's like so obvious it's the

northern lights and they go we've had friends visit for years and never seen them yeah like it's supposed to be a good omen that's very auspicious that's like the icelandic gods were that's right smiling on you it's just a very healing trip at a time that I really needed some rest and some healing. Of course. How great. Yeah. Good for you.

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I don't agree. You're like, we know. In all honesty, when we were doing these Icelandic women characters, I was being a little dirty. Okay, the truth comes out. The truth goes out. I'm going to sizzle you. I can't repeat to you what I was saying. It was that dirty?

It was dirty. and we were crying laughing and then got scolded and we're laughing even more because what I was saying was ridiculous okay the truth comes out now I really want to know what you were saying I can't say it on the pot I can tell you this is like I got reprimanded it to me yeah texted to me right now I can tell you right now but Thomas has to beep it or cut it out or plug his ears I said I was saying

we're going to cut wood and make real vegetables and then I'm going to fuck you in the pussy Fortune what I'd like to okay hopefully that's beeped out and you can imagine it

but what I'll say about it is that it was so direct like what I was anticipating some like but it was very direct. They're sturdy. It's because the lesbians that we were meeting that were in a couple, they loved each other.

They've been together for years and we're so into each other still. And I loved it. So we were saying that the Icelandic, that's how they talk to each other. Yeah, I like that. I like that. I think this is the answer for life is to be out of the city in nature with your sturdy woman eating root vegetables. I'm in the city. You're in New York?

Yeah, with my entire family. And we've had root vegetables. And how were they? They were great. They were great. Isla is known for the root vegetables. They don't have many fruits there. Yeah, they have to grow everything in greenhouses, basically, right?

Yeah, they don't have the Eat Your Morning Fruits song, because they don't have a lot of fruits. Do you think they sing, Eat your morning roots? Your Morning Roots. Eat your morning roots. Good one, babe. Morning roots. Morning roots. But y'all know how much I love sitting in water

Yeah, I hurt, yeah For hours at a time But in Iceland, it's so common Like that's part of their cultures It's being in water and being in saunas And I love all of this Yeah, me too And their water comes from their, like it's natural

Yeah, geothermal They're like, yeah, it's geothermal and it's hot And their water bills are like non-existent there That's another good reason I'll challenge you to a hot tub sitting competition. Really? Because I could sit in a hot tub for hours. Same. Same. My family is blown away. I will sit alone in a hot tub for four hours. Same. And just stare off and think and do nothing. And Stephanie will be like, are you okay?

I'm like, I'm great. Same, bud. I could sit forever. I'm picturing like the sun. The sun goes down. Everyone's in bed and just looking at the window and seeing your little silhouette tig in the hot tub, just contemplating life. Yeah. Yeah. And sometimes barely even having a thought at all. I think you would love Iceland. I have wanted to go for years. You can like just rent a cottage there and it comes with a hot tub and a sauna. Come on. Go look into it. And a root vegetable. Get in touch with pink Iceland. Those ladies would give you so much great information. incredible. All right. TIG, what are you up to in New York? Um, we are just traveling, traveling along,

a little family. We went to the Yankees game last night. That's huge for Max and Finn, right? Yes, yes. It was massive. Um, and some friends of ours with really, really spectacular seats, um, hooked us up. And they had, I mean, one of the best nights and days of their lives because they got to go to batting practice. They got to be down on the field with the players. Whoa. It, like, it was the chef cooked us, like, our own vegan, personal menu. What? It was, and the chef.

You know, some fancy friends. It was so over the top, and it was so generous of our friends to give us these tickets. Yeah. And anyway, and we're going to go see Wicked. Aw. Yeah. And there's a vegan restaurant that we've been excited to try out here. So we're going to go to that.

How do Max and Finn show their excitement? Like at a baseball game like that, where it's like their dream experience, are they, like, chatty or they kind of stunned, wide-eyed? Well, they're very chatty, just in general. They're very, they're not shy kids. And so a lot of people comment on how they seem like little men because, you know, Finn has all of his stats and, you know, it's a history of all the different stadiums. And so somebody will say something casually like, oh, yeah, you like the whatever. Well, my team is this. And he's like, oh, yeah, well, you know, now they got that bigger budget and then they use their money on blah, blah, blah.

player and so that really uh you know and the guys like wow yeah that's true um i don't know if they got a bigger budget i don't know the terminology or how to talk like that but um but yeah they when we were at the restaurant they were talking to everybody near us and our wait staff and you know they're just they're just very engaged yeah is what i will say can you imagine if you went back in time and I told you, like, your future kids that haven't been born yet, they're going to be these two twin boys who are baseball aficionados and love to chat. Like, it's so specific and you can't predict those things,

what kids will be into and what they'll like. It's so wild, and it's also so wild that my life is baseball and sports all the time. And they're on travel teams. So, like, my weekends, when I'm home, I'm driving. with Stephanie and Max and Finn everywhere and we're gone every weekend and we're sitting in bleachers and then during the weekdays we are at baseball practice and when we're home we're watching baseball and we're oh my god it's a lot yeah my nephew is on a travel baseball team and all my brother and his wife do is travel yeah it's it's really something but you know it's like

there's definitely days where you're like, oh my gosh, I do not feel like going to baseball practice or a baseball game three hours away or whatever. But really, it's like pretty great that they are interested and out doing stuff, you know? Yeah. Yeah. That's the really positive thing. And we also, we just came from Denver. We went to Andrea's, Andrea Gibson's memorial which was at this place. It used to be called the Mercury Cafe, and it's been around for decades. And it's been the heart of artists in Denver.

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And Andrea being one of them, and it was so beautiful because there was a private memorial at the Mercury, or as people call it, the Merck, at the Merck. Different friends spoke, and then they opened the doors, and it was open to the public, and poets from every corner of everywhere came to town. incredible and they and every it went all night for hours just different poets doing Andrea's truly greatest hits and that is what is so wild as I was saying they're going oh my gosh these are hit poems yeah and and and the audience it was overcapacity they're you know saying the poems along with Andrea's friends and other poets that came in town and it was just really so beautiful and the talent I cannot express enough. The talent in not just the poetry world, but in Colorado, in Denver, Boulder, those areas, I just, I'm so proud to know these people.

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you know it's wild is not many poets are known by name and she was like and from now on Andrea Gibson has become and will continue to become a poet that you know by name. And it is just phenomenal to me.

Yeah. The reaction to that episode that we did was so amazing online. Yeah. And oh my gosh, when I walked through, I mean, so many places that I've been, but especially in Denver and Boulder and at the Mercury. Cafe, also known as the Pearl. Now, people came up to me and just really expressed how appreciative they were that we really got into that and that it was helpful for their grieving. And so that just meant a lot because it was a very authentic moment that we accidentally deep dove into. So I really

appreciate all of the kind thoughts and words and expression. and so yeah very handsome community very handsome yeah it's so interesting like you know gathering in that way for this unfortunate situation but what a magical night that Andrea Andrea and Andrea's legacy brought together such an amazing group of people it was so it was such a such a beautiful, beautiful night. We should do a show in Colorado. I've never been. I'd love to go and...

Oh my gosh. Yeah. Oh, my gosh. We would be slammed. We would be slammed. You know, I like getting slammed. We should do it. We should figure it out then.

I mean, we should. And it would be incredible to include some poets in a show. Heck yeah. Anyway, that's what I've been up to. And we're all having very, healing summers in a way. Absolutely. Yeah.

Absolutely. Except for that hot dog, which I left the remnants outside because I was hoping it would lure the raccoons. Oh, you don't want to lure the raccoons in? I want to get a photo of a raccoon by the time I leave on my film camera. And I've positioned the cameras by all the windows in case I see one. But won't there be like eight of them? I want that.

All the better. But the point is, I know that it's irresponsible. What if bears come? But the point is, in the morning, not a single animal had touched that hot dog. And it just made me realize it's plastic. There's no real food in that. Oh, my gosh. That is so funny.

Like, even the animals are like, no thanks. Hardly hot dog. Yeah, they're like. I have to say, it didn't look like a great hot dog. No, of course not. I don't know what you did to it. I don't know. It's more what I didn't do. Like, cook it properly. Yeah. It's summer. You want to be cool and comfy, but you also want your hair to look incredible. So help yourself out with one of Blissie's life-affirming silk pillowcases. They're better than cotton, better than synthetic satin. You've heard us all talk about Blissie's many benefits here on Handsome. It's time to experience them for yourself. After all, Blissie's great for your hair and skin.

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who was living with Andrea in the end to help he was an EMT previously but also an incredible poet he wrote about how there was this marathon in Boulder that he and Andrea stumbled upon one day

and they were cheering on all of the runners that were trailing behind and he was saying like we had no idea that this was our passion in life, was to, like, cheer on exhausted runners. And the way he wrote this, in fact, I want to reach out to him and get a copy of it. It was so beautiful. But he just told this beautiful story.

And in the end, he said that was ultimately what Andrea did in life was cheer on exhausted runners in this world. Oh, I love that. Oh, my God. It was so beautiful. Anyway, I just had to acknowledge that. It just popped in my mind. Yeah. It was really, really beautiful.

Should we get to our question? Let's do it. Let's do it. Yeah, why not? I'm very excited. Today's question asker. We've wanted to have her ask a question for so long. I'm so excited.

She's a comedian, actor, writer, and producer who co-created and starred in Broad City. She also co-created and starred in the TV adaptation of a league of their own, which was so good and so steamy. Steamy and starred in No Good Deed on Netflow. She also directed my standout special, Sapp. Abby Jacobson is asking today's question. Nice. Okay, here we go. Okay, I'm curious.

Do you guys feel like you've found like a personal style? And I'm asking this because like sometimes I see someone, I'm like, they just like really tapped into their look. and their vibe, and they clearly feel really good and confident in what they're wearing. And, you know, it's like, it's a thing that, like, exudes from them. Do you guys feel like you have that? And if so, like, what is it? When did you find it?

Yeah. Great question. Personal style. By the way, the Broad City show that Abby and Alana created and started in, one of my favorite shows of all time. Yeah, agree. It is so funny to the point where I actually want to go back and start it again and watch it all over again.

It used to make me cackle how funny that show is. Yeah, it was ridiculous and so good. I think Abby has a personal style. I'm interested to hear her answer, but what do you? I think other people looking at the three of us would say we have a very distilled. distinct personal style, but I don't know if I feel that, or do you guys feel that? I feel like as far as personal style, lesbian? Right.

I just feel like I would have that style too. Yeah, I always tell people that if I ever go missing, I'm scared I'll never be found again because I'm like 5-5 brown hair, brown-night, I mean, graying, and just look like a generic lesbian. I always am surprised when people recognize me because I'm like, how did anybody recognize me? I look like the most generic lesbian wandering around. No, I don't think you were like generic at all. That chisel jaw. Chisel jaw, Tom Cruise, wearing kind of simple, masculine.

and staples, good quality cottons, you know, like a... Quality cottons, yes. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, and I think I like earth tones. Yeah, you like a brown and a green.

That's another reason you wouldn't be found if you were lost. You'd wander off in the forest and you'd blend in. Yeah, the wild animals are feeding off of my carcass. But anyway, that's my style. Better that than the hot dog. Anything but that hot dog. That giant squirrel that's around here, he could eat in one sitting. Now, to go back to your meal, in quotes, why two pieces of, why two Doritos?

I've also left out the most embarrassing part of the meal, which was that I did have a sort of date up here who I was trying to impress. Oh no that was the meal for the date That's what I served her So it was like a garnish, two Doritos It was a garnish May, that is precious That would have been the time to make the pasta I know

Because I've been making pasta Like I don't know I panicked What are we doing having a hot dog date? I thought I might look good on the grill Was this a lady, a man or a lady or This is a lady Who I thought I'm going to just stand and grill

these hot dogs that couldn't get the grill working, had to do it in a front pan. Only had these weird flavored chips. They weren't even Doritos. They were like no-name brand. And then these two little gherkins. But you knew this day was happening? Yeah. And then I got overwhelmed with like meal prep.

I had a big plan for the meal. And then I thought, this was prepped? Yeah, I was going to say that's overwhelmed. This meal was prepped? Yeah, I just, I don't know. Someone had to open the bag of Doritos. Oh, no. I thought it would be a simple and nostalgic, you know, summer meal.

You didn't even steam the buns. Hello, who's to say May didn't steam the buns, you know? Oh, I steamed the buns. I don't know, May, did you steam the buns? What I actually did is I put the buns on top of the toaster. I balanced them. I bet you did. On top of the toaster slots, I turned the toaster on thinking it would toast the buns

gently. It burned them black and it was smoke coming off. Then I had to do it again and wash them. And so what did this lady eat your offering? We picked at it. She took a picture of it. Did she have a sense of humor about it? Oh, yeah.

She was like, oh, that's good. Adorable, how you prepped for this and this is all I got. she was suitably appalled I think but also it's a good it's a good anecdote with the photo evidence of how bleak it was did you leave her with a t-shirt that said I went on a date with May Martin and all I got was this hot dog well I was trying to justify the presentation I was like how cool is it that a hot dog can be the main and also a side like you got an extra wiener on the side yeah you did a hot dog and a bun and then a side of hot dog yeah anyway my personal style

even a burger even a burger would have been a better oh of course anything or a charcutory board like hot dog falls on the bottom of the barrel list of things to serve on a day like we were at the Yankees game

and we didn't even have hot dogs like you had a full meal it's like making someone like a grilled cheese which that might have even been better I love a grilled cheese then you should have done grilled cheese I know, I know

Did you I should have grown cheese? I don't know Are we allowed to ask? Did you at least smooch? Did you get Yeah Fortune that's so private

You know May doesn't give up details I needed to know if this hot dog led to something It was more like the hot dog came at the end of a day of stuff So it was like I was exhausted You were worn out I was run out of time to prep the minute

You know, that was more of the situation. Oh, you got the smooching in first? Yes. So if I had more swoon, it wasn't like I needed the meal to seal the deal, you know? The deal was sealed. Yeah. Before the meal. You were too exhausted to even make something proper.

Got it. Well, that's the different story. And do you want to see this person again? Yeah, listen. Off the pod. I'll... Yeah, listen. Yeah, personal style.

My personal style. Yeah, what's your personal style, bud? Well, I've had this haircut my whole life except for two years, 13 to 15, when I went high femme, like grew my hair out. So I feel like I do have a distinctive look, but clothes I really struggled with. And I held on to skinny jeans for a long time after everyone else had moved on. And now I feel like I'm just settling into like, yeah, good, nice jeans, nice simple things. Anyway, how is that? You love a white tea.

This is a boring answer. You live a white tea and a black tea and black jeans. Yeah, white tea black jeans. Black tea, blue jeans. And you definitely have a distinct style with your hair for sure. I'm going back, blonder. I'm using sun in that spray from the. 90s that you spray it. This is what I was my friend said you're using sun and does it work and I said yeah

you're just spraying bleach on your head and then I kind of heard what I just said like I'm spraying bleach onto my head yeah that can't be good. I don't know if you guys saw you know we we received some incredible fan art uh on this for the show let's see and our socials posted some of that they they periodically post uh this fan art and all three of our hairs our hairs head of hairs what would you call this heads of hair heads of hair all three of our heads of hair hair does was put was put on a vibrator with ties oh i saw this on a on a like a wand yes i saw that so i would say we are pretty distinct because i didn't know who everyone was you knew which vibrator was who yeah did i have gray hair

It was just your hair on a vibrator. There it is. Thomas Marie. Come vibe with us. It's so funny. Our listeners are so creative. Yeah. That's good.

So we, yeah, the hairstyles are styling. Fortune, you are a fan of a t-shirt. Wait, I have to go back. Yeah, go back, TIG. Don't leave any stone unturned. No, I still wear skinny jeans. What do I do about this? Is it a problem?

May. How skinny are they? I don't know. I mean, TIG is skinny. I think you can pull it off. I think the TIG, they're just called jeans. Right. I just started getting a lot of flack of people saying you can't wear those anymore. It's a straight leg or even if you're boldly hipster. People are in the baggy jeans right now. Yeah, so baggy, too baggy. I think you've got to go in. I don't want baggy jeans. Yeah, what if I just want to just go ahead and wear the pants I already have? I think you can, TIG.

Okay. This is what I need to learn from you. It's the way that you own it and are confident about it. It's like, people can pick up that I'm like, is it okay that I wear these jeans are still skinny? And then they go, no, you got to change. And I go, okay. But if I just went, hey, I love my jeans, maybe people will be like, where'd you get them? I got to get some.

I think you owning your own thing will be. be helpful. Me? Because I, yeah, I don't really don't care if people like what I'm wearing or not. Yeah. You got your holes covered. I'm wearing some, I've worn some horrific outfits. What did you get your holes covered?

She said, you got your holes covered. That's all that matters. But I guess in the Adam and Eve times, that's what they were, that's all they did, right? Covered holes. Covered holes. Cover the nips. Yeah. Free the nip.

Let's see them titis. My son, Max, uh, wrote a poem the other day called big feet and one purple nipple. That's what's up. I'm sorry, what? In Andrea's memory, yesterday it was Andrea's 50th birthday. And we were, you know, doing some Andrea-style poetry, but with silly topics. And that's what Max came up with, this big feet and one purple nipple.

And then he ended it with y'all, which is how Andrea's. would do. I think Andrew would have love that. Absolutely. I let Meg know and she was thrilled. Aw.

Any hoodles. Do squirrels have nipples? Oh. Thomas, can you Google please? What if it said squirrels have one big purple nipple? Yes, they have nipples.

Oh, thanks. Thank God we got to the bottom of that. So what's your style, Fortune? Well, yeah, because you wear a lot of t-shirts with phrases on them. Yeah. Look at this. Des Moines. Hell yeah.

Oh, hell yes. I love Iowa. This is just someone from Des Moines gave me this shirt and it's super comfortable and therefore I wear it. That's your style. That's my style. Yeah. You wear what fans send. Yeah. As long as it's as long as it's comfortable, if it's a scratchy, you know those thick scratchy teas? I don't wear those. Okay. Right. And so if anyone gives me one of those, thank you. But I'm not going to wear. But if it's like a nice cozy, like soft cotton tea, that's, I will wear that for sure. We should come up with some weird thing to put on the t-shirt because we know you'll wear a free comfortable t-shirt.

Yeah, I don't care what it says. It says Des Moines, hell yes. Is that part of it that because you're good with money? Do you like shopping or not like it? And you're just like, so it's easier to wear merch and city merch? I have in the last year really been enjoying wearing suits. So when I've had to elevate for something, like I hosted the Jimmy Kimmel show, and I wore three really fun suits, and I really enjoyed that process of with his, the show's

stylist, that they each had fun colors and the shirts were like vibrant. So I've been enjoying experimenting. with suits and colors and patterns, that's been a real treat. Now, I don't wear a suit, obviously, in everyday life. I'm not like Paul Feig, but I just, when there's an event or something that requires me dressing up, I'm really into suits right now. Okay, good to know. Yeah.

I once had a suit made, like, tailored, and I thought that would be good. And then he said, do you want to embroider like a secret message to yourself on the pocket inside? And I wasn't prepared for the question. And I went, yeah, let it be. I'm so embarrassed when I go. It's so corny. Let it be in my suit. Why is that corny?

I don't know. It's like the most obvious Beatlesy thing. I should have gone, you know, niche. I am the walrus. Yeah, I'm the walrus. or cuckoo coo coo coo coo coo yeah i said cuckoo curoo really you say cuckoo caro and i don't listen to the beetles very much clearly um but yeah my style is just uh being comfortable yeah we're taking is being lesbian i'm being comfortable and uh same deal and my hair like you're like you said may my hair has been this

style and cut for probably 23 years. Wow. I like how specific you're keeping track of it. It was like around college. 23 and half years I've been having this. My hair was trying, kind of was a triangle a little bit in high school. And then I learned about layers. Wait, did nobody else around you know about layers?

No, nobody told me. Hey, girl. It was like Gilda Radner's character. Triangle head. A thick triangle head. Yeah. And once I discovered layers, I was like, I like this. Let's stick with it.

But like, what else would my hair even be? I don't. Pig tails. Big tails. It's so like what it is, you know. Curly hair's hard, right? Yeah. People straighten it.

I look insane. Well, I'm picturing your character, Brenda, has straight hair, right? She does. That's a wig. That's a wig, right. Because I was, I was straightening it to do that character. And I was like, this is not going to fly. I cannot do this every time I do this character. So I just got a wig.

I wonder if any of us have like a big style makeover in our future or have we landed pretty much where we're at. Oh, I know I don't. Like if someone comes and looks very different. But like, yeah. Yeah, I think TIG's done. I'm done. just getting more gorgeous as I is the older I get. So that I can't

hope. Yeah. Right. No, you are. Sorry. That's a sincere yeah. Yeah. I wonder like in the old days, like in the 60s people wore such colorful, fun things and now it feels like pretty

normcore. I just love that of all people weighing in on style us. I mean, we are handsome. We're so, handsome for sure influencers wearing t-shirts on our our picture for our podcast we do look very handsome yes we do so when we're feeling ourselves that day when the three of us actually try we we can really turn it out my hair's looking way grayer than when we first started the podcast should I dye my hair no don't die it you're rocking it okay

Yeah, like your hair. It's cool. All right. Everyone calm down. I think if you dyed it, it would be like a solid block color, and this has many dimensions. Well, I just, I'm having these moments where I, and I've talked about this before, how, you know, working with different actors, they've clearly had Botox or different work done. And I just thought, wouldn't it be fun if I just showed up with my hair dyed Botox in my forehead and got my teeth died. Bleached white My teeth died Whatever

But get my teeth My teeth died Purple teeth I just thought it would be so funny To show up with just dark hair White teeth and Botox And like lip filler And cheekbone

Oh I would love to see you with a little of this No nothing too extreme but just something where I'm kind of keeping up, you know, with Kim Kardashian. Yeah. I'm always trying to keep up with that one. You should have a big old ass. Get an ass implant. Yes.

You never know. I don't have a pretty good idea. Yeah, you feel like you're set. So, should we hear... Old dumpster tits over there is set. Don't call me that. Should we hear what Abby has to say? Yes, please.

Okay. I'm going to answer the question. May I told me I have to answer the question, which I didn't realize until now. I think I asked this question because I'm really curious when people find this. their style because I struggle with it and sometimes I feel like I got it and sometimes I'm like what the fuck did I what was I wearing there what was I thinking you know I think the moments I'm so sorry I'm like truly like walking around New York the moments where I felt most confident were like when I stick to like a classic sort of basic and when I've sort of found a uniform for myself

Oh, I'm rambling. I don't know if I have it. I think this is a never-ending question and something that is sort of always evolving as we change because, like, our styles change and, like, the way we feel most comfortable and confident changes, right? Whoa.

So did I ask a question that can't be answered? I'm sorry. It is always evolving. And I'm glad she didn't get run over by a car. Yeah. That felt like an episode of Broad Cities. I did feel like that, yeah. I definitely have gone back and seen pictures online that I'm horrified by what I'm wearing.

I know I went through a sweater vest phase. That wasn't great. Yes, and I went through a vest phase. That wasn't great. What was the other one that wasn't great? Sweater vest and vest. Vests are great. Sweater vests are great, said the one that dresses like a lesbian.

There was a period of time where my T-shirt. shirts were a little too short. I like a cropped tea. I'm not supposed to be wearing a cropped tea. What is supposed? Are you wearing a crop tea to like pick up a dude? Were you like, hey? Was it in those days?

Me? Yeah. I was never picking up dudes. But when you thought you were straight. The dudes were interested. They certainly didn't want me in a crop tea. But I'm saying, is that why you were wearing? wearing one. No, I wasn't purposely

wearing a crop tea. I wore T-shirts that were just too short. It was an accident. Okay. It wasn't like I was like, it wasn't like this. It was like just shy of my belly. Like, my belly was poking out. We're all

doing our best. You know? So yeah, I don't love to Google myself from the past because some of those outfits, especially, and on red carpets too, where I knew my picture was being taken, I looked horrible. It's good to have a couple of friends who were brutally honest with you and I was about to do a red carpet for my friend's show and I was with her and she said, is that what you're wearing? And

it was a big swing like a kind of hairy styles-esque like floral jacket. And I was like, no, you're right. This is insane. And then just wore a white t-shirt. It felt much better. See, back to your style. I was on, I was on a red carpet with Reese Witherspoon one time. And, she is really good at giving me a hard time and I happen to be wearing a long black coat on the and she turns while we're being interviewed and points out cat hair all over my black jacket she's like is this cat hair I was like probably yes it probably is from kitty city yeah kitty city made its way out here. Well, our podcast is all about handsome being whatever it is to you. That's right,

Fortune Marie. That handsome is in the eye of the beholder as well. You're handsome to people for different reasons and you're handsome to yourself for different reasons and your style can be whatever it is you want. As long as you feel good. Thanks, Uncle Fortune. That's right. That's what being handsome is. Yeah. We're a handsome trio. And, um, Thanks, Abby, for the question. Yeah, thanks, Abby. We're all very confused about our own styles, even Abby. That's what it seems like.

I will say I was at Abby's wedding, and she looked stunning in what she chose to wear. And weddings are hard. Yeah, and I always think Abby looks very stylish. It's, yeah, the classics. Yeah, it's interesting when you see that certain people that you think look great, doubt how they look I know. You're like you look like a million bucks kid

you look like a million bucks you look like a million bucks you look like a million bucks kid yeah well that was a delightful episode I'm going to tell you what I'm up to folks I am going to be a dynasty

typewriter in Los Angeles on September 21st and then I'm going to be at the Beau Ravage Resort and Casino September 27th in Biloxi, Mississippi. Check tignotaro.com for more dates because the show, the road goes on forever. This weekend, I'm in Spokane, Washington at the Great Outdoors Comedy Festival.

Then I have San Antonio and Houston, Texas, and then Norfolk in Richmond, Virginia, Washington, D.C., Portland, Maine, Boston, Mobile, Alabama, New Orleans, and Atlanta. a bunch of other stuff, Salt Lake, Chicago, Fresno, San Jose. Tickets at my website, Fortune Feimster.com. I have a Largo show in L.A. on September 17th. Yeah, and I really want people to come. It's going to be a really fun, special one. And then Wayward is coming out on Netflix, September 25th. So I'm just getting pumped.

Amazing. I'm pumped for that. Yeah, the trailer looks so good. Thanks, man. Oh, also, if anybody's interested in seeing the Andrea Gibson documentary called Come See Me in the Good Light, that will be premiering on Apple TV on November 14th. So please tell your friends. Also, tell your friends and loved ones about this handsome pod. Subscribe to the show, subscribe to our YouTube channel, and share your favorite episode with somebody and help us build this very handsome community. Mm-hmm. And until next time, huh? Keep it.

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