Handsome - Breckin Meyer asks about breakups

Episode Date: November 18, 2025

Breckin Meyer (Clueless, Robot Chicken) asks Handsome about heartbreak and whether they hold on to memories. Plus Fortune missing her shot at motorboating Drew Barrymore, Tig's foray into plastic surgery, and the birth of the Peanut Butter B****!Handsome is hosted by Tig Notaro, Mae Martin, and Fortune FeimsterFollow us on social media @handsomepodMerch at handsomepod.comWatch Handsome on YouTubeThis is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Handsome via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Hey, it's your friend Tignotaro on the Handsome Pot. I'm sitting here with my host, May Martin. And Fortune Feimster. Oh, good to see you guys. We did live recordings yesterday. I've been thinking a lot about them, how fun and electrifying that is to be in the same room with the loves of my life. I know. Getting kisses.

I mean, we lit up. Let's be honest. We lit up. Yeah. That's my stage name is Lesby. honest. Lesbian. I am the lesbian that tells the truth. I like that. Speaking of, I do want to mention that, well, I did our friend Tom Papa's podcast. You were lesbian, you were lesbian honest on that. I was lesbian honest. I know Tompapa. I've done a radio show with him

for the last five years on Sirsex Him. Oh, you do know him. You know this. You've been on our show. but you did his own podcast yes i did i love tom i think he's one of the funniest comedians he's just he's so i love ridiculousness i know he's great he is a silly silly man yeah well that you it got picked up by the news it did because but i didn't know that's what i was telling you guys before the podcast is i was getting text and emails from friends that i was A little surprised, listened to Tom Pompus' podcast. One of the people that reached out was Lucy Lawless from the show Zena. And, you know, she's living in New Zealand.

No. Oh, boy. New Zealand. No. Living on her farm. And then I get this email. I actually didn't even know what it was about at first because she was like saying. Did she start it with, hello, lesbianists?

she sure did no she was just like hey rob her that's her husband she said rob and i are so proud of you for speaking out um and and i i honestly thought for a second that she sent the wrong like an email to the wrong person and i was i was like i'm going to write her later in the day and i kept getting these texts and emails like hey you know thanks for speaking out and uh and i oh hey i listen to tom my friend who lives in France wrote me and he said hey um loved you on tom papa's um what you said on tom papa's show and i was like god not that tom isn't a loved of and popular no comedian or podcaster but it was they were just friends that i i was just a little surprised that they um that that was their that that was their wheelhouse in podcasting.

And I meanwhile later found out that my manager reached out and said, just so you know, Fox News reached out wanting to talk to you because of what you said about Cheryl Hines on Tom's podcast. Right. Because you, I mean, I feel like you've spoken around it on this pod, but this was the first time that you were sort of directly addressed it. Well, yeah, I didn't feel like I thought it was clear where I stood. I had a podcast with her.

I had a longstanding friendship. She was, you know, just a really important person in my life. I loved being ridiculous with her. Yeah, you guys were very funny together. Oh, so funny. It was silliness. And I remember, you know, I forgot that Tom listened to that podcast. And so when I was on his show, it wasn't like a set.

up. I didn't know he was going to ask me, but he was asking or brought up that show. And as I was talking to him, I was thinking, oh, right. I remember him writing me from time to time about different episodes. So, but yeah, we would talk about a different podcast or a different documentary every week, but barely. We mainly just talked about who we were attracted to and on the documentary. And then we would do live streams where we would like slap each other in the face and take shots and it wasn't terribly it wasn't terribly presidential or political you know not political at all not in the slightest bit god that's so um it makes it so much more heartbreaking that because yeah that was so such a golden moment and friendship but i well i didn't hear what you said on i didn't hear

either i don't know what was said i just i just basically said that just that she was one of my favorites and somebody i absolutely loved being silly one of my favorite things to do is find a bit and tee somebody up to do something stupid and right right like i love to sit back and like you know and be like oh yeah and how would that look and entertain me yeah yeah and um and so share I don't know. She was just a real bright spot at my life. And for people who don't know, Cheryl is married to RFK Jr.

Yeah. And has some wild opinions. Wild opinions. But it has the power now to enact some of these things. So like legislate his wild opinions. Well, yeah. And he's also a part of an administration where they are. There's a lot of issues that I do not believe in, that he is endorsing, that Cheryl is clearly endorsing.

And it must have been confusing as a friend, but it's almost like, because I feel like initially it was, there was a separation of like, well, yeah, he's got his opinions, but, you know, and then it slowly has become like, like sort of, must be sort of validating that you were like, oh, no, this is a problem because now it clearly has evolved into, you know. But that's what I talked about on Tom's podcast is that she says, you know, that we don't agree on everything. And I think having such a vague statement, you can choose to think that she really doesn't believe in a lot of what he's doing. But my point is Stephanie and I don't agree on. the temperature in our house, but I would not frame it like Stephanie and I don't agree on

everything, you know? You know what I'm saying? It's just, it's too vague and there's too much of a gap there. Yeah, it's very strange. And, well, like Thomas was saying, I think a lot of people can relate to this of having someone they love in their family or a friend who's just sort of drifting into a pretty extreme ideology and how do you maintain a relationship and where is your where do you draw the line and I think it's well and it took me honestly it took me a while to draw a line because I I continued to reach out to Cheryl and say you know hey I'm thinking about you hey I hope you're doing okay hey I'm sending love and and I care about you and she would respond really pleasantly and friendly and say, oh, thank you for this. And I was open to, hey, let's remain

friendly. And yeah, this, you know, I cared about share. I care about Sharlow. Yeah. That doesn't change. It's just, it's hard to pretend like it's weird that anybody's confused because it's a real about face. It is a real about face. It is a real about face. So I didn't sever the friendship, but I did notice that once he was running for president and once I stepped away from our old podcast, I never heard from her again, other than nice responses to me sending love when I thought, maybe she needs support or maybe she's feeling this way or that based on what I knew of her. Yeah, yeah, yeah. yeah so well so that's been your your week is or was it yesterday you got all these yeah just yeah i think yeah just started popping up this morning yeah right well no i mean for me yesterday yesterday morning is i woke up to my email from lucy lawless and then i i continued

to get surreal sentence for me like that would make my day well yeah again i was like wow Lucy follows Tom Papa's podcast. That's so cool. And then I did. I thought all these people were just listening to Tom's podcast. And maybe they are. But then my manager reached out and said, Fox News wanted to talk to you. I can't wait for you to go on Fox News. I can't wait. And then I drift into Maja. You're like, actually, they had a lot of good points. All of a sudden, it's like, I would like to amp this other.

podcast back up with Cheryl again. Yeah, yeah. Well, they did, you know. But that's the thing is I did, she and I had like a four-hour conversation and she went through different issues and encouraged me to sit down with Bobby. And I was like, let me think on this. And then I woke up and I was like, yeah, no, thank you. It's really hard. Well, what's at stake for y'all's own personal lives is very different to like that's what people don't really realize that. It's not just the, like, you have your opinion, I have mine. Like, your life is affected by, you know, this legislation that could, you know. Yeah, when it's like fundamentally about whether you or any demographic should have fewer rights than you kind of, there's.

Absolutely. You know. Where do you go from there? Is there anything? Can we try and say something on the pod that gets picked up by Fox News? Is there anything? Can we throw some? No, thank you.

I don't want to diversify our listenership. I don't like me to that crossfire. I've been there before. It's not fine. You're right, actually. Let's keep our heads below the parapet. But maybe just a little. I have gotten death threats before.

Have you? Well, see, and that's the thing is when Bobby, you know, was running for president and then endorsed Trump and I was still tied to Cheryl in ways, that was the other issue was, this isn't my world. I am, this is not my world. And if you're choosing to go into that world, that is your business. But I have to step outside because I didn't know, and I still don't know where this road is going. But it's not one that I'm interested in.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Anyway. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Anyway. Any who's. Anyone who's. Anyone else. Have any friends they're not doing podcasts with? Well, I did want to mention to you guys. I'm out. Oh, no.

I'm just kidding. I also want to warn you guys. Remember how I had a droopy eye lips? Yes, yeah. I was going to check. We wanted to check in about it. I had my three-hour doctor appointment yesterday. Three hours.

Why? Well, because it could be very minor to a stroke to a tumor. So I was kind of like, oh, boy, come on, man, come on. And so, hey, it's all right. It's just the muscle. But I do have to get eyelid surgery. So this is going to be my first parlay into facework. Oh, my God.

You're getting a beauty surgery. Yes, yes. Do you see this eye? I hope you're covered in a fancy Beverly Hills Hotel. No. It's going to take me a couple of weeks to recover, but there are going to be before and after pictures. Are you pleased to a podcast and one eye? No, I'm going to do a plastic surgery podcast as like an expert.

But does this mean you're going to be wearing an eye patch for a period of time? God, they didn't say I. With a eye patch. They didn't say I had to, but I might just to make it dramatic. If you do do the eye patch and the must. In one episode. Wait, what mustache? I don't have a mustache.

When you do your mustache. Stop. Sorry, girl. In solidarity, I'll wear an iPatch or I'll punch myself in the eye so I got a black eye. No, May. Yeah, do that, May. Yeah. Anyway, there's all my news.

Let's hear yours. Wow. Look at you just hitting the old news circuit. Fox News and Facework. Classic TIG updates. Oh. You know what's smart? Checking Allstate first for a quote that could save you hundreds on car insurance. You know, it's not smart, not checking for nearby trees when you're flying your new kite. Nothing is more beautiful than a kite flying free in the open sky. And nothing is more dismaying than getting a kite string hopelessly tangled in your neighborhood park's tallest tree. Yeah, check in first is smart. So check Allstate first for a quote that could save you hundreds. You're in good hands with Allstate. Potential savings vary, subject to terms, conditions, and availability.

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You guys both know her. I've never met her. I'm hoping that I'm going to be in love. I know it. I'm going to be eye contact, holding hands. Oh, yeah. Please hold hands. Oh, my lord.

She would snuggle with you on the couch. Anything goes with Drew. I'm just so scared that I'm going to be the one person who she's like six feet away from me. No, no, no, no. There's no world. I should have motorboated Drew when I did her show. I have regrets. Fortune Marie.

Out here in the open motorboat. Oh, my God. You say it. like it was your choice and you just decided not to. I think Drew would have been totally fine with it. Yeah, I guess you're right. But do you guys have any tips for doing shows like that or Kelly Clarkson? Was there anything?

Outfit picked? Girl, you know I do. No, I don't. Is it sleeveless? Come on. No, I've lost my definition on the old triceps. I would say that of all the people that you could be doing, interviews with. These are two of the friendliest. There's truly nothing to be nervous about with

either of them because they're both chatters and they're both very warm people. Yeah, like it'll be a legit conversation. Oh yeah, for sure. And Kelly's just like, I don't want to brag. I've done Kelly's show 10 times the most of anyone on the Kelly Clarkton show. I've gotten a jacket. I've gotten a years of free Jenny's ice cream. Oh my lord. A year's free Jenny's ice cream. Yeah, when I did 10 episodes, they gave me a year of Jenny's, which I shared with my manager. I can't just eat at all by myself. Did you share? I share, girl.

So I'm going to be asking about that. I mean, should I pass on a message to either of them? To Kelly? Well, Kelly knows that I am obsessed with her voice. I have been talking about Kelly and her singing since Chelsea lately days. Yeah. yeah well you know you do your pre-interview with the producer to go over what you're going to talk about so for for the drew show they were like oh we heard that you guys talk about drew

quite a bit like she's like a friend i was like yeah i guess she does come up quite a bit but they're like what do you say about her i was like i don't know what am i going to say a fortune side she didn't motorboat i think we just have always commented on that she's so fun and friendly and we like that she doesn't have any personal space boundaries. I mean, we're projecting that she has no personal space. She does not. You can look at every interview and see that she does not. And be thankful.

Yeah, but we celebrate this. We're not. That's what I'm looking for. Yeah, me too. I mean, it's just really like prepare yourself. I want that. I mean, I want to kiss all my friends anyway and spoon them. Well, because, you know, Ross Matthews is her co-host and he's amazing too.

You'll love him. Okay, great. We should get him to ask a handsome pod question as well. Yes, we should. That's a good idea. But he's the nicest guy ever. She's lovely. Both shows, you'll be like, oh, I can't believe this is already over.

It'll go by quickly. Okay, great. Great. And you'll want to keep in touch, but you just have to pull it together and move it along I did tell I don't want to bring up old wounds but I did talk to Kelly about how I sing with Alanis and Kelly was so jealous and then Kelly recently also sing with Alanus so she really won up to me oh god okay where does this leave me yeah take you're not you're not even in this fight you know you don't want it doesn't that seem me doesn't that

I think like a lifetime ago? It was just last summer. Bill, wait, was it really? Oh, wait. Not this summer. No, you're right. It was like, yeah. It was just two summers ago.

It almost brought the whole podcast down. So should I, maybe I'll bring that up with Kelly. You could be, but like, I'm so glad you got a chance to sing with the land. I think of my own anecdotes. Yeah, yeah, you've got some anecdotes. I can't just go on and be like, I heard fortune got ice cream, I heard fortune said No, no, no, don't do that. Fortune said she got this in her goodie bag.

Fortune said, what do I share with my manager? When do I get my moment? You're the number one star in the world. That's right. Talk about that. Talk about me in the one on IMDB star meter that TIGs currently tracking still. What do you mean currently? I've always tracked everyone's star meter on IMD.

Maybe. Tingle just sent text to her actor friends that says number of, Hey, you've gone up to 4.80. Down from last week, but there's always next week. Fortune bad news. You've gone down 100 points. No one's Googling you this week. That's funny.

You'll come up with some fun stuff. They like, you know, anecdotes about your show. and then or antidotes with Tony that was like like little other like celebrity antidotes Are we gonna comment on

that you're saying antedotes? Can we? Can't or should we let it slide? No you should get me I get you what did I say? How do you say it for real? Antiquotes

Yeah Antiquotes Antiquotes Anticotes An antidotes An antidote is like a cure You guys, I'm not just here to dish it. I can also take it.

I don't do any. I don't dish it and I don't take it. I feel like I mainly take it. I would love to be annihilated by both of you. Maybe we should do like one of those, like when people roast each other. A roast paddle? A roast? We should just roast each other.

Oh, my God. Oh, no. I don't like that I don't like roast I'm not really a roast person Me neither I can watch it and enjoy it

but I don't want to be a part of it Yeah I can't even really watch it And well so no Sometimes like you'll see a clip online If someone who's just written Such clever great jokes But

Well I mean the roast battles Can change someone's trajectory Our pal Nikki Glazer Who's so funny She's about to host Saturday Night Live Or may be this week Oh, my God.

They just announced it in October. Wow. That's amazing. In November, she is going to host S&L. Isn't that wild? Yeah, that's amazing. It's really cool. Wait, fortunately.

I was just going to say, I love that when we brought up roasting, we all went, no, I don't like roasting. I know, this is why this podcast works, is that we have certain things in common. That's a little mean for me. Yeah, I don't know about that. No, thank you. Fortune, did you end up going to Cheesecake Factory yesterday? I did. Good question.

Good question. How was it? Tell us everything. It was amazing. I went to the Grove. I haven't been there in like two years. And it was, I think the last time I was there was for Taylor Swift's premiere of her film. Oh, yeah.

Not this latest one. Tate, Tate, as we call her. And it was fantastic. I went with Zach Nooy Towers and Taylor Tomlinson, and I was going to pay because Zach's birthday is in two days. And he got up to use the bathroom and gave his card to the waiter. I love that. Trying to take, you know, if you, for those that don't know Zach, he's very gay.

And it was just funny that he was. Geyer than you? Like way gayer than me. And it's just funny that he was taking care of his women. That's nice. Paying the bill. I love when a secret, a secret paying because I hate the awkwardness of dividing a bill. And I hate this.

I hate the awkwardness of debating like, no, no, I got this guy. So I think going to the bathroom and just smoothly do it. I like, I do that sometimes. I like it a lot. It was very sweet. He's a, he opens a lot for me and opens for Taylor quite a bit too. And he just was like, you guys have done. much for me in my career and I just really appreciate both of you and I wanted to treat you to

some cheesecake factory. So it was very sweet of him. That's very nice. Well, I know your story about when you, when you tried to use a gift card. So I wonder if he secretly was using a gift card when he went to pay. He might have. That's some cheesecake factory points. I did get a piece of cheesecake to go because I ain't a fool. Yeah, you got to. But I didn't know he was paying it. I didn't mean to be like, oh, and now that you're paying, I would also like a piece of cheesecake to go. Did you make the classic joke of, had I known you were paying, I would have gotten a whole cheesecake. No, but I should have.

However, listen, I don't shy away from a deal. I got to the cheesecake factory before them, and they were like, if you sign up for the rewards program, you get half off your cheesecake. So I was like, well, I'm sitting here. Why? What? sign up for a deal. Oh, my God.

So he only had to pay half for the cheesecake. You're welcome, but now I'm probably going to get five checks today from Cheesecake Factory. Yeah. So you join the Cheesecake Factory frequent flyer program? That's awesome. Oh, my God. And it's like, you can get a free piece of cheesecake on your birthday. I'm like, da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da.

Yeah, I can, girl. so yeah I'm not above it what kind of cheesecake you go with the peanut butter I'm always a peanut butter bitch yes I am a peanut butter do you like peanut butter in general like you like go from the jar

I don't I'm not an animal I don't put my finger in the jar I'm using a spoon but I'm going yeah I didn't say finger I'm not an animal I don't just lick straight from the peanut butter jar. I don't go fingering my peanut butter. Oh, boy.

Here we go. See, I like peanut butter on an apple, peanut butter on a banana. Love those. Those are my favorite snacks that I have near daily. You know what peanut butter I really love. What, dear?

What's it called Schneiders? Oh, the peanut butter and jelly swirl. Schmuckers? No, hold on. Smuckers? Hold on. Talk among yourselves. Nope.

We want our shnots. Sniders of Hanover? Sniders of Hanover. Am I really going to have to go on my pantry and find this out? It's pretty important that we get the right information about this peanut butter. So you're Googling Schneider's peanut butter, nothing's coming up? It's not Schneider. Hold on.

God, y'all. Sorry to bother you. Listers will never be able to sleep if I don't get to the bottom of this. Y'all keep talking. No, we won't be talking. Let's just sit here silently. I'll be waiting. What if Fortune doesn't come back?

I love going. What if that was Fortune's exit from the podcast forever? Oh my God. Or from, or if some, yeah. What? What were you to say? I was going to say, like,

she just perished. And that was her last words were. May Marie. And that was her last words. It was like peanut butter bitch. And she had to get on a. little step ladder to reach her pantry. Aw, so cute.

Not tall enough to get her peanut butter. I, here comes the peanut butter, bitch. Here comes the peanut butter bitch. I will never, ever see fortune the same. Now that I know she's the peanut butter bitch. Yo, if I'm fingering any peanut butter, it's this one. It is called Laura Shudders.

I've never heard of it. I have. But this is very anti-climactic, I'll be honest. It is. What were you expecting? Yes, peanut butter bitch. How's this is like? Oh, much better.

It's, I like the nutty one. Okay, of course you do. What I like about it, it's all natural. I'm not getting sponsored by them. I'm just, I'm into it. It's all natural. What's in the ingredients? Oh, shit.

Well, that's how we find out if it's truly all natural. Uh-huh, it is. Peanuts. contains 1% or less of salt. That's all it said. That's the ingredients. That's good. So I like a bit of sugar in my.

So you're a jiffy kind of kid. No, I draw the line at jiffy, but. Or jiff or whatever it's called. Yeah. What's it called again? I'm going to order some. Laura shutters. But do you have to stir it?

Is it one of the ones? Yeah, you do. Ah, see, I'm out. Come on. May doesn't have that kind of time. There's the number one star. The oil goes up to the top. You got to stir it.

But it sloshes around. It gets on your hand. You know another good one? Again, not sponsored. This is Peanut Butter Bitch Corner. This is my peanut butter bitch corner. Almond butter at Trader Joe's. Oh.

I like almond butter. Do you have to stir that one? It's their own brand. You do have to stir that too. I don't know what to tell you. May. Hire an assistant. That's willing to.

not stir what what do you want from me all right i will don't eat that no eat the but the hey peanut butter bitch peanut better bitch calm down you want me to finger my peanut butter um no ma'am no fortune fortune Marie no put it down I'm calling HR I have never seen I've never seen Fortune laugh this hard too. I just imagine they're talking about what we were talking about earlier. And then it cuts me going to go, blah, blah, blah, blah. You just got an update. Fortune turned down a bit.

Yeah, Thomas just commented, Fortune, turn your volume. That's straight from HR, by the way. Yeah, HR just reached out, turn it down. Is it because of the blah, blah, blah, there's going to be a lawsuit. Oh, my God. Oh my God. That was fun. That was fun. The holidays have arrived, and with them come busy days and festive nights with plenty of outfits to pull together.

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peanut butter bitch keep it handsome a brown shirt this peanut butter bitch keeps it handsome there you go oh my god oh boy how did we find joy there god but did we ever someone read those I can't with my droopy eyes. I will. I'm thrilled and excited to. But once I get my plastic surgery, I'm going to be reading everything. You're like this. Keep it a handsome.

How dare you? Hey, everybody. Keep it handsome. My eyes already look. My eyes are so squinty. This is what I'm going to look like after my plastic surgery. Look how squinty my eyes are always so. I'm not one to talk.

Maybe I shouldn't get surgery and I should just hold my eyes up like this. Or put tooth things in. And then I wouldn't even have any recovery time. Yeah. Do that. Yeah. I still can't say that peanut butter bitch. Fortune Marie.

God, what's what's peanut butter bitch is like sidekick or what's, can I be like jam jerk or something? Yeah, jam jerk. What am I? Um. Who am I? Toast. No, I'm so excited to introduce our question ask her today. TIG, this is too much.

Go to YouTube and see what is happening here. Yeah, come on over to YouTube. Come on over. You've been handsome. Fortune Marie, I'm struggling. It's a medical condition. You look like when Martin Short plays a character who's had plastic surgery. I'll take it.

I love Martin Short. Oh, yeah, Marty. Why haven't you asked us a question? Hey, Marty. Marty, Marty. And maybe Meryl. Meryl and Marty. Meryl and Marty.

Ask a duo question. That would be a big get. Okay, sorry, May. I apologize for TIG. Do I really? Okay, I'm not going to wait this out. Okay, this is happening, right? Okay.

And now your eyes can't open. They just stay close. I'm so excited about today's question, asker. This is someone who I wanted to be when I was a kid and a teen. Effortlessly cool, I'm going to say. Today's question asker is an actor, a writer, a musician who is Emmy nominated for his work on Robot Chicken. He's also starred in movies like Clueless, Road Trip, and Garfield. Breckenmeier is asking today's question.

Hey, handsome friends. It's Breckenmire with a question. And an idea. Sorry, here's my question. when you go through a breakup, do you delete all photos and text of the person, or do you hang on to them because they're your memories, and even though they're tough, you want to remember them at some point. Discuss. I like this question.

So do I. And you might remember I've talked about Brecken on the pod before because I went to the, God, this was a lifetime ago as well, the WGA. Oh, the striped picket lines. Yeah. I like the act out with your hand there, mate. That's jam. That's jam jerking action. This is the voice. Jam jerking and peanut butter fingering.

Fortune. Fortune. You need to take. Fortune. Fortune. H.R. is shaking his head. No. Jam jerking and peanut butter fingering.

Oh, my God. Have I been called into HR? I'm so sorry. I didn't know. I was talking about peanut butter. Thomas is writing you both up. No, I was talking about peanut butter. I wasn't talking about anything else.

Go to YouTube. There was no, it was not just me talking about finger in it. I was talking about peanut butter. May, what were you saying? I was saying during the writer strikes, I was protesting, and I saw Breck and Meyer and I was What is wrong with us today? I don't know. I think we're still in love for some.

seeing each other yesterday in person in the same room. And you, sorry, Mae, sorry to take so rude. What? I was protesting and I saw Breck and Meyer and I did like an Instagram story where I was like, I saw my, my childhood crush Breck and Meyer. And I just, it didn't occur to me that he would see that. And then he, and then he DM me and was like, hey, saw you too. Should have said hi or something.

I was like, oh my God. Because in Clueless, his character, Travis, is like the sweet stoner, long hair, skateboarder guy. And I was like, that character was so sweet and pure and non-threatening and funny. And I was like, that's who I want to be that guy. And that's who you've grown up to be. A sweet stoner. Hey, what's up? Hey, what's up, girl?

Wow, breakups. Breakups. Do we know anything about this? No. None of us have been broken out with or broken up with anyone. I'm a keeper. I'm a, I keep, I'm like a little magpie and I keep everything. I can't, yeah, I keep things.

Even if it was a bad breakup, it's, I keep like love letters or things that feel important. I don't keep them out on display like framed for, you know, I'm putting them away in a box. And then if I'm feeling real emo or if I'm moving house. or if I'm moving house, I might, like, look through stuff. Moving house? Yeah, because, you know, when you're moving, you end up going through all your shit, and then I'm like, oh, there's this box of old memories.

I've just never heard that saying if you're moving house. Oh, maybe that's a British thing. If you're moving, I'm moving house. What would you say? Yeah, that might be a British thing. It's like when Australians say, I'm going to hospital. What would you say? I would say I'm going to the hospital.

The hospital. They just say I'm going to hospital Oh right okay But it would probably be like this I'm going I'm wait Here we go Oh jeez

Oh boy Jennifer Lopez Rise of blades I'm going to the I'm going Hospital Thank you peanut butter bitch Thank you for that

I'm going hospital I think peanut butter bitch It's going to stick What were you saying May Oh, just that I keep stuff. I like to, you know, and I'm generally friends with most exes. And I'm like, that was a, you know, a nice time.

Yeah. Yeah, not everyone, I guess. But I've never like burned stuff. I mean, I've never been like, I want every trace of that person out of my life. Right. You know what I mean? I might take down things that are immediately reminding me of the person. Mm-hmm.

Yeah. I haven't even thought about that stuff. truth be told you haven't thought about what like erasing photos or well the one the thing with photos is annoying is your phone will randomly go remember this and it's like right three years ago and it's like the most painful memory or it's like yeah edited together a video with sad music of like hadn't thought about that phone but thank you yeah seriously i that's not something i don't I don't really do that, like erase pictures and stuff. I mean, only if I look really bad in the picture, super chunky.

Because, yeah, like you said, there are memories. I was, at least in my last situation, was together 10 years. So that's a lot of memories. Yeah, situation. Yeah, and I'm not just over here going, F all that. Uh-huh. Yeah. You know, there was a lot of good times, too.

so I'm happy to remember the good times. Yeah. What about you, Teg? Are you like a memory keeper? Yeah, I don't, I don't, I don't go through and throw things out. Yeah. You know, or, I mean, same. I don't like put our old photo albums out on my coffee table.

Right. Yeah. Things are on display now. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But it's like, you know. Although that'd be a good way to send a message to Steph.

Like, you better raise your game. You start putting up this coffee. Look how happy I was with her. Yeah. One of the things that I really appreciated about Stephanie was this woman that I was involved with, kind of overlapping with Stephanie. She made an appearance on one Mississippi. And Stephanie actually suggested her for the role.

And she, and I was like, really. And it was kind of a romantic. person on the show and and I said um or I was just I was surprised and Stephanie said I just feel like she's the right person for the role and she said and if you she was like and if you had a connection with her previously why like that that's a real connection and it'll probably read on on camera and she she just feels like if if you had a connection why not continue that connection in a different way and I just I really appreciated it yeah it's very cool I have often been in love with people who are impossible to make jealous because it's such a cool quality

if you're like well I saw I'm bumped into my ex the other day and they're like oh great how are they and you're like yeah I don't get I don't get crazy about people's exes I'm just like okay yeah yeah yeah yeah Stephanie's tight with um I when I say tight like she she and an ex of mine really, really like each other. And it brings me so much joy. Like our kids, our kids play together and we hang out and our families. And it's just so, and that was a tough one. That's my ex that, like, I didn't know if we were going to come back from because it all kind of went down during when I was sick and my mother died. And it just got so complicated because we went through a breakup and then my health issues exploded in the news and stuff and it just

wasn't a fun thing I think for yeah it just was a little tricky and in weird ways yeah but there's like I mean there's kind of a maybe it's more common in the queer community that people sort of stay friends maybe because there's fewer of us like you stay like I remember going out to a party, like a dance party or something with a bunch of friends. And I was dating Pardy and Parvety came over and was meeting a bunch of my friends. And then after like a couple of hours, she was like, have you slept with all of these people? And I was like, yeah, I guess I have. But like, I guess I have. But like, that is not my situation. Nor mine. But we've stayed really, stayed really close. Yeah. That's so funny. But I don't think that happens as much in like the straight

dating world you know like yeah or i have a t-shirt from that a from an ex-boyfriend that is so comfy and and and reassuring because i i love that guy so it's nice to yeah i'll wear the t-shirt frequently why do you why do you think it is that it's more prevalent in our community i think it's like the nature of like uh women do you think or i i think like i think i think Maybe it happens with gay men too and non-barrier people, I think. I don't know. Just be like a non-traditional. Everything's already so non-traditional that it's like, why would we follow any other rules right now?

Yeah. And also I think community is important. And so, and communities are pretty small, like in different cities. And in Toronto especially, it was like, you know, that L-word thing of the, the Venn diagram or the chart. The chart that like connects everyone who's like been involved with each other. It's just a smaller group. So if you start cutting off everybody who's like dated your friend or anything, then you end up.

Yeah, you kind of have to. Yeah, we had a couple, not of my exes, but at the, our wedding stuff. And I don't even think twice about it. Yeah. I didn't have like a ton of serious, serious relationships prior. Yeah. Um, so it was, there was nothing too heavy that I was coming from. Yeah.

And some, some I'd talk to and some we just have lost touch, but. Yeah, there are definitely exes of mine that I don't talk to as well, like, where it was just too heavy or weird. Or a couple that you're like, no things. Yeah, yeah. I there's, yeah, I have a couple that I'm not in contact with. Yeah. And it wasn't like a terribly fun departure. Yeah.

But we're friendly. And there's not anybody I wouldn't love to hear was thriving in their life and happy. And like there is not a single nobody. Yeah. There's no one. Even like going back to like Cheryl's not my ex or anything. But it's a breakup of sorts. It is.

And, you know, I just, there's, there's no part of me that is excited by somebody not being happy or struggling or anything like that. There's really not. And especially exes, I, man, would I be thrilled to hear that anyone I was ever with was just happy, thriving, thriving, thriving. I'm the same. I, life's too short. I don't wish anyone ill will, even if it didn't. don't work out with us, or even if it ended not great, I am very much like, go live your best life, be happy.

Like, if you weren't happy with me or we had whatever, you know, we just couldn't get it together. Like, that doesn't mean you shouldn't have that happiness with somebody else. Even in this most recent situation, I want her to have the best everything and be genuinely happy and good. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

So, yeah, I don't look at, I don't look at memories or pictures or experiences with any sort of taint on them from, like, what? Lips Taint? Whatever, I said, taint. No, that's, that's right. You used it right. No, I know she did. I'm trying to make sure I. Fortune Merimi.

Mm-hmm. But I don't have this, like, stink on it now. Yeah. Yeah, where I look back on any of it, like, ugh. Yeah. I'm grateful for those memories and that there were so many happy times. And the growth that you get from all of these things that were tremendous and terrible. Yeah.

Man, it launches you to a new place. We're all like, well, I mean, like the retreat I just went to, like by the end of it, I just felt so clearly like, we're all just like, we're all just like. muddling through life and like you're doing the best they can everyone's doing their best you meet people you know where you're at and sort of travel with them for a bit and then if you grow together you do and if you don't you don't and you know you can still have boundaries with people I think but I mean especially in these longer term relationships I feel like I'm so different than I was 10 years ago she's so different than we were 10 years ago and sometimes you grow together

sometimes you change, and that's a part of the journey too. When I split with this one, oh, actually the same one that made an appearance on one Mississippi, when we were like going our separate ways, it was, there was a little, you know, not, I mean, it was, of course, it was emotional, it was hard, but what I did to move on quickly was I grabbed this really unattractive picture that she jokingly sent me while we were involved and I used it as my screensaver on everything. So every time I open my computer, turned my phone on, I just saw her looking her absolute worst. And I'd be like, yeah, I don't need that.

can i can i tell you a funny way i got let down easy um there was a this was many many years ago um and uh we never officially like we're dating we liked each other and yeah and it was kind of in the works to possibly date and she texted me like can i make you dinner and tomorrow night or whatever i was like oh great like maybe we're going to finally you know move into the to the dating phase um and she came over and informed me that uh she was in love with her roommate oh my god oh my god she was going to pursue that so we wouldn't be able to pursue anything here more than friends this is at the beginning of the dinner this at the beginning yes oh god and and i'm just like oh okay like I'm like again not that emotionally invested that is devastating but I did

really like her and wanted to see if there was something there and so I was bummed but you're like okay and then and then you know we have this awkward conversation and and then she's like well I can go or I can't I can actually make you dinner And I was like, you know, I wanted to be like, no, get out of here. But I was like, well, what did you bring? And she was like, shrimp tacos. And I was like, ah, I love shrimp tacos. Now we're talking.

So she said, she went in and made dinner. And I had just gotten dumped. And I was just like, I'm going to eat these shrimp tacos. Yeah, I would do the same thing. Because that's the only tacos I'm eating tonight. Am I right? Hey. Girl, Marie.

Tick. Are you humming, Tick? Did you just start humming a little song to soothe yourself? I'm sorry. I had to. No, you didn't. I was sassed with the response. response being to start humming a little song.

It's like, take just as a dissociate. Because that was, those were the only tycoes I was eating. Heard you the first time. Maybe it was my delivery. Because, because it was the, those were the only tagos. Oh, my lesbian was eaten. Peanut butter pitch. Cork it.

But that's how much I love food. I'm just like, sure you can dump. me and yes I will eat those tacos yeah totally it's funny anyhow well I have a my roommate was was broken up with uh on the first day of a vacation to a romantic vacation together like no and they had a still vacation why would you do that why didn't go that was his main thing he was like okay but what the hell like they'd saved up for this trip it's like just wait till the end but yeah not go yeah So it makes shrimp tacos. Yeah.

Because those are the only tacos you're eating that night. I'm kidding. But hold on, wait. The humming is so funny to me. Wait, Fortune what? Hold on. Hold on. Because those are the only, hold on.

Oh, boy. Because those are the only tacos. I was eating that night. Oh, God. Oh, my God. Do you like that? Yeah, I like that a lot. Thank you.

Should we hear Breckins? Oh, shit. Yeah, let's hear Breckin's answer. Yes. I forgot to answer my own question. So my answer is I would just not look at them until I'm okay looking at them, but I'd want to keep the memories. I used to be the men and black guy

who wishes everyone I was ever with was on a dessert island that was slowly sinking in the sea but now I'm mature and wear sweaters oh look at that mature and wearing sweaters throw on a sweater and just

move on that's right he was wearing a yeah fetching kind of similar to your cardigan there a tick I know yeah yeah yeah that old cardy snuggling cardy B

Cardi T over there TIG do I strike you as a snub person. That's a great question. Thank you. I think that with your immediate family, probably. But I don't, I mean, definitely we know you don't love a snuggle from a stranger.

I love, I love snuggles. Oh, me too, man. Maybe. Not only am I a peanut butter bitch. I'm a snuggle bitch. You're a little snuggle worm. I'm a snuggle worm. I'm a snuggle worm, snuggle bitch.

I love the cuddles. I love the touch. I love the all that. Wait, is this your dating? Is this your online dating profile? I love a butt. I love a butt.

What? Grab. And a snuggle and a cut. A butt rub? How do we get into butt grabs? I do like a butt grab. Does that count as snuggling? Not my book.

Snuggle my butt. Snuggle my butt. All right. Let's wrap this up. I will. You're on fire today, Fortune. like 10 new catchphrases. I love when you did the

the drum roll or whatever it is before you did the joke. Yeah. Wait. Oh boy. I did it. Yeah. All right. Let's wrap this up. Let's get out of this episode, please. I am going on tour at the end of February. Please get some tickets and come see me.

I'm doing 35 cities and I'm, really excited and nervous and I'm going to write that show real soon and it's going to be really fun to see everybody and also check out Wayward on Netflix please. What are you guys up to?

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