Handsome - Chris Colfer asks about past lives

Episode Date: October 14, 2025

Chris Colfer (Glee) asks Handsome a multidimensional question that has Fortune singing his praises, plus an exclusive scoop on Mae's arms in Wayward, visiting the Gulf of ****, and Tig responding to online trolls in realtime!Handsome is hosted by Tig Notaro, Mae Martin, and Fortune FeimsterFollow us on social media @handsomepodMerch at handsomepod.comWatch Handsome on YouTubeThis is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Handsome via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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slash handsome handsome chatin the friends on the handsome pot chatting with friends on the handsome pot Cheers Welcome to the handsome pod

I almost committed to singing it I'm one of your host Mae Martin joined by Dignotaro and Fortune Feemster Together again Together again Never apart.

Tick looks like she's coming in hot from a helicopter ride. Yeah, I am. What you're seeing behind me is the Gulf of America. Jesus. So it really is officially rename that? I guess, you know, some people are taking to it. Others aren't. Imagine that.

Yeah, so that is. It's so. Beautiful. It looks fake. Yeah, it's really nice. It's right here in my home state of Mississippi. Mississippi. I'm right down the road, actually, from my town. Two towns, three towns down?

Yeah. Oh, just three towns down. Three towns down, two towns over. For those of you who can't see, TIG is in a high-rise hotel sitch with a very beautiful backdrop of what is, I guess, now the Gulf of. America, formerly the Gulf of Mexico. I'll be honest, I do still call it the Gulf of Mexico. Well, as one does, and they've known it to be that for many, many years.

And no reason to rename it. But anyway, this is a nice little commercial, I guess, for... Yeah. It's so... Well, yeah, it looks like you're like the Tinder Swindler, and you're trying to pretend that you have a high-flying lifestyle. Like, it looks like you've pulled down a backdrop. I'm in Washington, D.C., if anyone is curious. Oh, I care.

Nice. I care. Are you there to talk about the Gulf of America, the renaming? I'm trying to get it back to Mexico. Your passion project? There are a lot of gay flags around here, so that made me feel good. Really? Nice.

Yeah. There's not too many here in Mississippi. Shocker. Yeah. I don't know. Maybe it's pride coming up or maybe it is pride. I don't know. In October?

Bad, bad gay. Yeah, no. Some, not all the cities do this summer. And I could be wrong. I don't know when D.C.'s is this district of Columbia here, what they're doing. I know Atlanta, they have their pride in October. Oh, cool. Wait, why haven't they renamed it the District of America?

TIG, I'm here. to also get that changed. Okay, I appreciate all the lobbying you're doing. Yeah. I've got my headset on and I will be wearing it to this conference. You are patched in to the White House right now. Because they really want to know what I think about things. I promise you.

I think in the White House, they just have a constant stream. Like over their PA system is just handsome playing all the time. Just piped in. Gotta be. Yeah, big fans of us over there. Absolutely. How long are you in Washington, Fortune? Just for the night.

Until she gets that work done, right? I'm never leaving. Mrs. Feimster goes, or Miss Feimster goes to Washington. I like Mrs. Feimster. I forgot I'm not a Mrs. anymore. I'm adjusting. Are you a Ms? or are you a miss? I think I'm a MS.

No. Right. Meanwhile, I'm in MS. Yes, you are. Yes, I am. Tigg and I have to take a sense. second to, to, you know, acknowledge that we're in the presence of greatness. Someone on this pod has a number one hit Netflix show.

Hell yes. That's amazing. Thanks guys. It's number one. Wow. In a lot of places, right? In random places I did not, it's number one in Croatia. Yeah.

Oh, I saw that coming. You did? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, yeah. Croatians love a thriller. I've watched two episodes now on the road. Thanks, Bob. Thomas came to the screening in L.A.

That was sick. Amazing. It was so good. I can't wait to watch the rest of the show. I know. It's really good. I can't wait to watch it. May's smoking hot.

Now, TIG, let me tell you. Maze in a tank. Girl, tell me. Tigg, girl. Girl, tell me. Girl, TIG. May's in a tank. Uh-huh.

They've fully embraced it. the tank now. Oh, I'm deep in the tank. And this is coming from someone who is in a sweatshirt. I'm in a sweatshirt. That is right. Okay, so tell me about the tank.

So May's character is a cop. Which I feel weird about but I will say that it's not a copaganda show. It's not a copaganda and you're a small town cop. Yeah, on the systems we participate in. Wait, are you spoiling everything? No, I'm not spoiling.

It's in the trailer. It's in their cop outfit. Also, first time we see May driving a car. Yes, I actually, a lot. And it looked convincing. Really? Yeah, it looked like you knew how to drive, and I knew that wasn't true. Okay, see, this is what I picture is May in a car and doing like this with their hand.

Back and forth. Yeah, like a child. May was slow and steady. 10 and 2. Not even doing too much. Because, you know, in some movies or TV shows, people were driving like this. Nobody drives like that. Your car would be, you know, one side to side.

I was told off. Like, I was told that. Like, we did a couple takes. And then my co-star was like, you gotta stop. We're driving along a fake road or a straight road. You got to stop moving your hand. Yeah, straight road. Hands are steady, babe.

That was the same conversation. She told me I have mosquito energy. Oh. Yeah. Which I'll carry with me to my deck bed. That's the actress who plays your wife. Yeah, yeah. I said, what animal do you think I am?

She said, I think like mosquito? And they were like, action. in my head I'm like am I a mosquito energy but is that a positive um she later she said it was okay I liked it but she's so good right isn't yeah she's really good and very believable as wait till you see wait till you see what she gets up to hold on I'm only two I'm two and a half hold on hold on how does one make themselves believable as a pregnant woman oh you know just that energy

a motherly energy where I was like I believe this she had just she had had a baby six months prior to filming see okay all right all right

the vibe was there I knew it I don't need to be yelled out not here not now guys I went I was so nervous for the show to come out and so I just ran away to Toronto

like I got back last night I was like I got to be in my parents' basement you know and see old friends so i i was just pacing around my house so i got on a plane i went to toronto and uh i left in like a crazy hurry and then i get to their basement i have this huge suitcase because i'm i'm only there for four days my dad's like well you packed light right and uh i have this huge suitcase get to the basement i'm unpacking open it up i had brought my synthesizer and i i did i guess had a wait you didn't know i guess i knew i just i had a I packed in such a green.

I split second where I thought, should I bring that? Should I bring this? Am I going to use that this week? And I thought, I might want to use it. So I packed it up. Haven't used it yet. To this day, I haven't used it. That's a gnarly thing to travel with.

Well, it's about the size of like three laptops. Okay, I'm picturing a very long one. This is a mini one. No, it was just bizarre that I thought still got a brand. Still. Still, too big. Too big. I need to get back to.

the important part of the show. Oh, sorry. Okay. Tigg, girl. Yes, girl. What, girl tell me. Girl, what? There are two times so far where

what? May has had to get up in the middle of the night. Tell me, and go to the bathroom? Nope. Better than that. What is May do? Has to grab a gun

and go down the steps but like muscles a glistening let me tell you this whoever whoever filmed may going down those steps really caught those biceps hello hello biceps hello good biceps so oh good biceps um that's good so it was i'm a word smith and the show's great the show's great i'm just saying this is an extra bonus for those that watch oh my gosh i cannot wait are they oiled up they are if i'm being totally honest and you know i have i haven't told anyone this and i have not definitely not flagged at an interview is exclusive right here they're not your real arms they're their prosthetic arms no just uh and i oh should i reveal

this well you know it's similar it's similar to the lip team but girls i girls i girls I contoured Everyone's a girl in this scenario I contour my muscles I got the makeup woman said Should I just put a little brown shadowing under the dry stuff? I said yes girl Yes queen

Yes queen It worked because I was like God dang Thanks I actually did work out so much before those scenes Nobody here doubts that We don't doubt it We do not doubt that And I saw you going on those steps

And I said, this show is going to number one in Croatia. In Croatia, for sure. This is shooting straight to number one in Croatia. But I will say the show keeps you on the edge of your sea. What's going to happen? What's unfolding here? It's spooky. Yeah, it's spooky as hell.

It really escalates. By the end, it escalates to real action and horror and spookiness. But I appreciate it. I appreciate that you added humor in there at different points. At one point, someone says they want to be a stand-up comedian, and the mom scoffs at what a terrible job that is. Well, the mom is just like, I'm so sorry to the other, yeah. There's another time when they assume the kid assumes the guard is a lesbian, and she's not. Oh, yeah.

where does it take place in vermont but it starts in toronto and then they and then the girls well i don't know spoilers yes don't spoil any yeah yeah yeah wait but can i chime in because we haven't it's your show bud if we can i chime in um because we haven't talked about this that i went to a screening of come see me in the good light oh yes i didn't get to go i was filming for both of y'all's things yeah i can't i actually can't like if i talk about it much I'm going to start crying again, but TIG, have you ever seen me like that? After the, I was, like, something, because, anyway, whatever, I could go on and on, but, like, you know, when, like, TIGs talked about it so much, and I was like, I'm sure it's going to be

amazing. I'm sure I'll cry, and, but I'm like, I don't know, guys, I feel forever changed from watching it, so I just, everybody's got to, got to watch it. Yeah. It unlocked something where I was actually, like, like, heaving, sobbing. Oh. And, like, couldn't hang out after. Like, it was like, by take.

And then, like, hugged you and then scurried away. Because I was like, I don't know what to do with myself. But can I add, you didn't just hug me and scurry away. You hugged me and held on for a good five minutes. Oh, I miss this handsome hug. I know. It was, like, a very emotional hug. And, like, it made me very emotional.

And, like, when I thought the hug was wrapping up and I was starting to let go, it was not wrapping up at all. No, you were not getting out of it. Oh, you held me like a baby. Yeah. You know what it is? Like, I knew I'd be moved by the, you know, exploration of mortality and all that,

but it took so many other boxes I didn't expect. It wasn't prepared for around gender and, like, mental health stuff. And also their relationship is so beautiful and aspirational that I just was a fucking wreck. I don't know. But in a good way, like, it was really cathart. And then I've held on to it so much since. I'm so glad to hear it. And I was so thankful that you came.

And, you know, we're doing a few of these little screenings here and there. Apple is like so behind this film. That makes such a difference. Oh, my gosh. They are going for it with us. I should say it's really funny, too. Like, that's part of why I was a mess after because it's a fucking roller coaster. You're like, I mean, I was really laughing.

Andrea's so funny. I know. That's what I always tell people is like Andrea's live concerts are so insane from just the depths that they go to to like the comedy. Yeah. Just the humor. And then also so many people respond when I say, oh, you know, do you want to come to the screening or do you want. whatever, when I've talked about it, people often say, am I going to cry? Or is it going to make me sad? Which I always find interesting, but of course I understand because people process and

handle things differently. They're going through different things. But it really is, I really, it's truly a movie about living. And life affirming. It's so life affirming. And really, at the end, as wrecked as it makes you at times, do you not feel like I got to reevaluate everything when you walk out the door? Yes. I want everyone to watch it also because we, death is such a taboo in our society or in Western culture. And it was like such a, an incredible way to go through that process.

And like, what a gift to everyone to be able to watch someone go through that with such grace. humor and kindness and I was like yeah it yeah yeah he's got to also hit really different now that Andrea has passed yeah that does make it so much more real probably yeah you know I mean partner was there and yeah Meg was there and read a poem after oh man I wish I could have been there Meg read um love letter from the after life. Like I was a goner. Oh, man, yeah.

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couple of nights and had just been at the screening in Maine. And before I saw it, Meg was saying like, oh, you know, it was so crazy. I mean, crazy isn't even the word, to see it after Andrea passed because Meg, Meg was like, you know, I just wanted to pluck Andrea from the screen, you know, but also feels very much like, she loves seeing the movie she doesn't want the movie to end she doesn't want conversations about Andrea to end she wants to keep talking about Andrea

she wants to see everything and yeah that's yeah a testament to how how sort of healthily process that I'll like to be able to sit in it and face it and get some positive feelings from it as well instead of just run

I think a lot of people would just plow forward and bury their head in the sand because of the grief. Yeah, and I have to say it is very different to see now that Andrea's gone, but I somehow fall into this, like, I don't know if it's denial or what, but it makes me feel like Andrea's still there when I'm watching the movie. And I don't know if that's hand in hand of wanting to pluck Andrea from the film, but I can feel Andrea so much. It's crazy. It is absolutely crazy.

And, you know, Meg and, well, you'll see this in the movie, but their song was Shania Twain's... Looks like we made it. Yeah. How does that song? Looks like we made it. Look how far we've come, my baby. We sound just like Chenaya.

Absolutely. But it was wild when we got to, I was in London with my family. And when we arrived there, the first day I was walking down the street with Max and Finn. And there was just this street performer. We came around the corner and he was just standing alone singing that Chenaya Twain song. And I just stopped in my tracks. I told Max and Finn that was Andrea and Meg's song. And they just stood there.

and we just watched this guy sing it. And then the very next day, we were having high tea with Stephanie. Oh, I want to hear about that. With Stephanie and her mother. And somebody in the room was hired to play the harp. And they sat down right behind us, and we looked at each other like, oh, boy, because it was clearly going to be so loud right behind us. Yeah, when someone lugs a giant harp in and sets up right behind you.

Guess what the first song was? Stop. That song? That song. Wow. Yes. That's wild. What a random song.

Yes. And I... That's not a harp song. That's crazy. Do you think I ever hear that song? I'll send you. I'll send you the footage of both. I videotaped both of it and send it to Meg.

That's insane. That's my heart impression. Meg was like, Andrea clearly went to London with the Notaro Allen family. Seriously, yeah. And we had had a conversation about this very exciting thing that we're going to be doing that Meg and I are going to be doing with a couple other people. And she was like, I feel like this is Andrea's go for it. Oh, yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. Anyway, thank you again for coming. It just really meant a lot. And, you know, of course, I would love for you, Fortune and Thomas, to see it. But when, if and ever, you're free. And if not, you know, it comes out. I absolutely want to see it.

I think it's worth seeing in person, wouldn't you say? I very much would like to see it in that capacity. Yeah. It'll be beautiful when people watch it even at home. Yeah. But, like, in a theater, if it's coming to a film festival, near you or there's a screening, I cannot emphasize enough that like how incredible it is to see. Yeah, like the way you were like, oh, I've been getting up at dawn and watching the

sunrise and walking. And now that I've seen the movie, I'm like, yeah, it's because it's also nature is like a character in it. It's so beautifully shot. And it just, you're like, oh, yeah, we're on a beautiful planet. Yeah. Yeah. Almost as meaningful as my biceps. Yes, yes. Yes. Well, I don't I don't want to overshadow either of you, but I am currently playing the voice of a refrigerator on Gabby's dollhouse. So sorry to take your shine away, my buds. Sweet, girl, congrats. That's not how the energy of them why I'd go as alf. Nothing will over top that.

Someone's a refrigerator. Whoa. Is Gabby's dollhouse animated? It's both. Okay, okay. Wait, I'm sorry. I'm not familiar with Gabby's dollhouse. It's like a popular series that's like a real girl and animated things in the, yeah.

She like shrinks down and then goes in, yeah. This is the, it's very popular with young, like, like young, young girls. And it's not a movie. Like four? Like five. Yeah, four, five. Oh, wow. And this is the movie version, like,

Swig plays the villain and Gloria Stephan's in it. And then I'm one of the animated dollhouse. Girl, I love me some Gloria Estefan. I know. I love her too. No, fortune. I will wrestle you for that woman. I love her.

She used to watch Chelsea lately back in the day. I love her. She yelled my name down the hall once. This was like when I first got on the show. She was like, fortune. And I was like, ah! Oh, my. God. How about passed out? I love her so. I did some event with her, I think, in Florida. And I was like, I mean, I, you know, my, I'm a little more in the music world. And so my excitement.

Then Gloria? No, no. I'm saying like, I'm, I just mean, like, as far as TV or film, like, I'm like, oh my God, Gloria Stefan. That's where I'm like, there she is. She's incredible. She's so cool. She's so talented. I just love her. Anyway. Kristen Wigg as a villain is my, if you had to boil down my sexuality to like a few sentences, one of those sentences would be Kristen Wigg as a villain.

Yeah. Hilarious. I of course love Kristen Wig too because I am alive and I am a human. Yeah. She played the villain in Barb and Star. Oh, yeah. No, wait, wasn't, wait. She played both roles.

Oh, yeah, of course. She played her. Who was she? She was star and. I know. She was one of them. Barmore star. She was in the movie.

She also played the villain. Yeah. She's so funny. She's so funny. Did you want to tell us how high tea was really quick? Oh, yeah. Oh, gosh. Well, I love that you guys think we only had high tea once.

Oh, my God. Oh, my gosh. Max and. Finn have been drinking tea since they were two years old. And in our front living room, there's no TV. It's just a fireplace. And we got them these little tiny mugs when they were, you know, two. And we would put tea on, and then we would go sit in that room with them.

And we would say, now let's sit down and have tea and talk. And so, of course, the tea was like room temperature. But we wanted to, like, get them into that world of, like, having tea and chatting with people. It was so cute because when they were two, they would just sit there, you know, in their little diapers and, I mean, they had pants on, but whatever. And having tea and talking about their dump trucks and, you know, and whatever cartoon. The hot goss, yeah. And it was just so cute. So they've, tea has been in their world since they were two.

Tea for two year olds. And so they were very excited to go to England and have tea. And so every day we had. Every day. Every day. Every day. Did you go to the Wolseley? Where did, where did you go for tea?

Most of the time we were, Stephanie was filming in the countryside. Oh, nice. And so we were put up at a hotel that had. had a lot of activities, like pool, you could swim in the pool. They have a golf course. You could rent bikes. They had archery. So we stayed there for like four days.

And there was a little, you know, the hotel was so big. It had several different restaurants. Is this Soho Farmhouse? No, it's called the Grove. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, you know the Grove. I know the Grove. Yeah. So that's where we stayed. And so there was a restaurant at the Grove that we went and had high tea at. And also Stephanie's mother. So Stephanie's grandmother is from England. And she met us out there. And it was a big deal for her to have tea every day with her grandsons. I'll send you a cute picture.

Little sandwiches, little tiny cakes and scones. A little on a little desserts and scones. Yeah. It was so fun. And, you know, they were just so, they had never been, aside from Canada, they hadn't been out of the country. And so. Oh, wow. No way.

Yeah. They showed up ready to be in another country. Like everything we did, especially Finn, he would be like, everything's just so different here. Wow. Oh, my gosh. Look at that. Look at the, you know, like the telephone booth and oh my gosh, the double-decker bus. It's just so crazy.

How different everything. Like they were just so excited. Oh, I love that. Yeah, it was really sweet. It was so fast. And they, if I can brag for a second, they hardcore acclimated like nobody's business. And we got a hotel outside, like outside of Stephanie's hotel the first night because we didn't want to bother her while we were up at weird hours.

And I made them stay up until 7 o'clock, which was still a little early because they woke up at like 2.30 in the morning. And we started our day at 2.30 in the morning. And then I had them stay up. I was like, you guys have to stay up till 8 tonight. And they stayed up till 9.30. Max did fall asleep at dinner. but they did so well

and then after that second night they were perfectly fine and it's really incredible because that's a hard, hard, quick haul that we do. And they are just nine, you know? Right.

I would not have pulled it off as well. So I'm very impressed by them. I hope they came back with full English accents. Finn did start kind of talking. He'd be like, should we go? And then I also found, we got them journals, and I found a to-do list that Matt Finn had put together that he checked off of like, you know, phone booth, black taxi cab,

Big Ben. And it was really cute. Did you tell him I'm good at accents? No. They must know that. Everyone knows that. A spa of tea. Is this Australian?

You want a spartee. Which accent is this? Croatian, I think. Cockney. It is Croatian. Can we hear your Croatian accent? I wouldn't even. I didn't know how to do that.

I did, I was impressed with Tony Clutz, American accent. Isn't it great? It's so great. And in my show, her accents. I, when I went home, my friend. Good. showed me these old videos she found of us when I was like 14. I just watched these a couple nights ago.

And I'm doing this weird voice. Like it's like I'm, it's like a just trying to be cool or something. But it's like, yeah, I don't know. That's pretty cool. Like it's really weird. It's just a weird intonation. Yeah, I don't know. I guess it's pretty cool that we go to the store.

It's weird. It's weird. I don't know what movie I watched and was like, let me be that guy. And you were just doing it like as a bit? No, I was like, this is my voice. That's your new accent. Yeah. Okay, okay.

We were both like, why are you talking like that? Yeah, and then, oh, man, some of the stuff on these videos is, comedy's not evergreen. Some of the things I'm saying would not fly. I mean, not in a dark way. I just kind of was like, I'm an edge lord, you know? Everybody's crushing it here at the handsome pond. Yeah, big time. Especially me here.

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winning actor, singer, and author who came to fame for playing Kurt on Glee. He is the author of over 20 books. I don't think a lot of people, I mean, these books are very popular, but I don't think a lot of people know that. Wow. Including the New York Times bestselling fantasy series, The Land of Stories.

He stars in the upcoming horror comedy, The Restoration at Grayson Manor. My friend, Chris Culfer, is asking today's question. Hey, handsome pod. It's Chris Culfer here, and it is an absolute honor to be asking you guys a question. I am a huge fan. and my question is do you believe in past lives if so who do you think you were and if spiritualists are correct and time doesn't exist on the other side is it possible that more than one person is walking around with the same soul at one time and is that what the true meaning of soulmates and soul groups is this guy is a May question barking up my tree I thought he was going to say

is this the true meaning of Christmas Chris and I love Chris I have to hang out I'm going to introduce you too Does he have the best head of hair you've ever seen Unbelievable and what about mine Yeah sorry I take it Incredible too

But also speaking of arms He's he's ripped Oh, ripped. So handsome. I feel like we even, we look kind of related. Like, I think we got to have dinner and talk about. You know, I want to be friends. I'll make it happen.

Yeah. He's the sweetest. He got famous at like 15 or something. And it's one of the most normal down to earth. That glisha was humongous. Yeah. And he absolutely crushed it on there. I don't know.

It's just the loveliest guy. Also, how cool to then go and write books. I know. 20 books is. insane but it's a whole series that like with all these this this made up world

this it's very big and creative and like is it for kids or like adults like it might be I think it's like like middle school kind of yeah middle school I believe and his partner will is amazing they're awesome guys okay

energy can't be created or destroyed we know this Sure, right? Sure, bud. So we also know, I believe you. Okay, but my son, Max, says, until we find the source of energy. Of course. But how will we find it?

I don't know. We don't know where it goes, but we, and we know that when you die, you lose, is it 21 grams of weight? And no one knows why, and that might be the soul. I don't know. But I think of all the theories. reincarnation does make a lot of sense to me that there's some source energy and then we're little droplets of it

you know and and so I'm going to say yes I believe in past lives but that we might be a vapor in one life we might be on a different planet in another life a vapor what a bummer what a waste would you be pissed if you came back clearly i want to have been i want to have been something i want to have been something else like what

what do you want if you're not a vapor i believe in past lives as well yeah i love it i'm going to assume i was some sort of farm hand oh i think that's a safe assumption i think because of the head gear maybe uh-huh what what do you mean why no i just feel like i was probably kind of like the farm boy in Princess Bride Yes Yeah Yeah yeah yeah yeah

I like that Farm boy fetch me that picture That was me And some hot And some hot chick was Yeah and you were falling in love with As you wish That was basically that was me

You were Wesley Okay Yes And so But couldn't you Couldn't have passed Couldn't a past life Also be

From like What year were you born? Mois? Okay. In a past life, in a past life, you were French, for sure. My goodness. You were just channeling your Napoleon.

That was my other past life as a French person. Um, 1980, 1980. Okay. Could a past life be from the 70s or does it have to be long ago. Maybe you can answer. I mean, I'm just, I'm going to say, yeah, it could be from the 70s. And I think that as you learn something, and so I think people who are old souls and

have had like many lives are sort of further along in their process of the school of life. I mean, this is all, I'm talking out of my, but you know, these are things I intuitively out of your what? Anus. Out of my fortune. Marie, not today. Tigg was a schoolteacher in the past life. A Catholic school teacher.

But I kind of wish that we all had glasses where if we looked at each other, it would just show, like special glasses you put them on and it would show how many lives everyone's on. So I could look at fortune. That would be so cool. That's like an episode of Black Mirror or something. Yeah. Because you don't want to be, you're, someone asks you out, you put your glasses on, they're on their

third life only. no thanks I want someone who's on life 20 30 oh but also like sometimes you meet people you know where you're like I know this person yes like I they are so familiar to me I have to say my ex poverty and it's not just because I knew poverty from Survivor but when when we met I really felt like I mean I yeah I yeah we both were like we've met we know each other yeah So take, what do you think about past lives? Do you believe in them? Yeah.

I mean, I feel like it's one of those things where I'd be so cool if that exists, you know, if that's real. I think that, yeah, I don't know. I don't know. I had someone on the fence about it. I am a little on the fence. That's fair. But, you know, there's, I can follow that thought and be like, yeah, that makes sense. that'd be cool if that was

yeah I don't know I'm just I'm not confidently Right Chris was talking about Soul groups and things and soulmates and like It does I mean this is

A lot of people are into simulation theory Because it feels like There are only a handful of algorithmic types of people And so you meet someone You go oh we must be The same program or made us like we're the same blueprint of person like so that could be another explanation well he he was saying can there can what was it that two people have the same soul so that's what

a soul made is like you're like oh we have the same soul like one soul split into two things maybe I had to that I've never thought about I don't know I just always assumed one soul was kind of bouncing around at one at a time. Do you think that we knew each other in a past life, all of us? No. Okay.

You think no, Tick? Okay, Riddle me this. What if it's old and timely days and it's like a pirate ship and what position would we all have on the ship? I think I'd be cabin boy, obviously. Cabin boy, yeah. You like that in your sexual fantasy.

Yeah, I do. Actually, let's get off this subject. I'm getting too into it. Tate would probably be the captain, though. Yeah. Would you be captain in that? Why would I be captain? I don't know.

Are you good with directions? I mean, I can drive a boat. I can drive a boat. I can drive a motorcycle. I can drive. I can drive a car. I'd be the one getting the people together for the poker game at night. Yeah.

You would be? Yeah, why not? The fun guy. The fun one. Yeah. Who the captain's like, can you just show me the map already? I have to just focus the whole time. Yeah, you're the captain.

You're just standing at that big ship's wheel, just staring at this constellations navigating. But who do y'all think that y'all, okay, TIG, say that you did believe in past lives. I know you're not totally against it, but you're not totally for it. If you had to guess who you were in a past life, what? would you think you were? A cat or a bird. Oh, an animal. Interesting. Okay.

Cater a bird, two natural enemies. That makes sense as to why you don't want to eat animals. Right. Because you were one. Deep, deep, right? Real deep. Deep is the Gulf of America. But why those particular animals?

I just, when you asked me that question, my brain did not go to, my heart, soul, brain, everything did not go to a person. It went to, um, I mean, honestly, as we mentioned, I'm on the 26th floor here. Uh-huh. Birds come flying by so close to this window with wingspans of like, I mean, honestly, it seems like three feet. gigantic birds and um and i've just i'm so envious of them i just think birds are the most incredible incredible creatures and you know i love a cat yeah it's interesting that if you were a bird that you would then choose to be you now like you maybe you got tired of that you wanted to have a an earthly terrestrial experience you wanted to have feet like uh

Ariel, the little mermaid. You were always singing it when you were up in the sky. You were going, was I? Flapping around, you don't get too far. Legs are required for doing stand up. Zap, sap, sap, zap, but yeah, that's what I didn't, I didn't connect at all. Up where they run. Up where they stay all day.

Some watering free. What is that from? Little mermaid. Oh, because Stephanie sings that at our house all the time. Because you wanted to have legs. Yeah. Well, anyway, I just didn't, my brain did not, my brain, heart, soul, nothing connected with a person. Okay.

Actually, I would also be a fish, I think, too. Oh, a little dolphin or something? Yeah, that sounds Yeah, that sounds about right I don't connect with being a human In my past life Fortune you're going farmhand I'm going farmhand like the guy from

Princess Bride What year would be the farmhand What is the era that was? I want to, what is that like 1600s? It's kind of medieval. See, that's why I was asking It seems like people with past lives, ghosts, all that stuff

It always seems to be hundreds of years ago that people go to. That's why I'm like, could it be just from the 70s? Yeah, it could be. But maybe after you live a life, you're like exhausted and you just chill up and you take a rest. You take a break. And then you're like, all right, here we go. See, I think a bird probably slammed into a window or something like here at the hotel. And then I just, yeah, I was born in Mississippi right after that happened.

You're saying, on the wings of love. There's a boat behind you. Where do we think it's going? That way. That way. Now, May, what did you think you were in a past life? Well, if my dreams are anything to go by, like if I'm tapping into past lives in my dreams,

then I was a murderer with them. Because I keep having recurring dreams. I know. Recurring dreams where I've killed people. What? I don't, I never, and in the past, I never see myself kill them, but basically I'm on some kind of road trip with friends. This is a, it's happened recently. Mm.

And, uh, dream analysis. Yeah, the police are closing in. Yeah. No, no, dig, don't. That would ruin the pod, dig. Yeah, I can't pod from Pris. Dick, think of the pod. May is completely replaceable.

I can't pod from Pris. Wait a second. No, not at all. You're just going to get Chris Coulfer in? No, in my dream, I've hidden the bodies badly, and I know that. And I'm like, any minute now, they're going to float up from the bog that I sunk them in. And you know what that is? Imposter syndrome.

Lies that, lies that have come to light. Fortune, I don't have lies that are going to come to light. I have never lied. I have never lied. Your internet's coming on at 10.30. Dead body Only told the truth I think it's

imposter syndrome I think it's feeling like at any minute people are going to figure out I don't know what the fuck I'm doing and that's the thing And I always I feel awful in the dream

I'm like My friends are going to be so mad And God you're even Feeling guilty in your dreams Yeah I'm a guilt I'm a shame based person No we got to change that

I know right But the body keeps Because you got nothing to be guilty of our love. I got a song for everything today, baby. Yeah, I like it, baby. Who are you calling it, baby, me or me? Oh, both of y'all. Girl!

Girl! We got to get this shame, guilt stuff out the window. That's why I'm going to this institution. Oh, that's right. You're taking a holiday. no not a holiday i'm going for may is finally going to be locked up you're going to a med spa i'm going no also life coaches no it's actually i mean i don't want to say the name of it but it's like it's like well known and it's um been around since the 60 it sounds kind of like the plot of wayward

so i'm a little worried i'm going to get brainwashed or someone let's think about the pod though do you think may's going to change oh yeah i already talked about it on the pod Thomas says what do you mean do i What if May goes to this and changes? Guys, I can hear you. Hold on a second way. You're not as funny as you used to be. You're all serious now. If you think I haven't thought about that and I got worried, you're wrong.

And then I felt guilty about it. And then you felt guilty. No, but I do want to shake off some pass. Another boat. Do you think you did that when you were a bird, too? Guys, look. Guys. boat

boat Maybe you'll just get really like introspective for a minute oh for sure I think I just want to shed this constant sense of dread

and guilt that I seem to have been I would love for you I would love for you to get rid of that because you don't need that it does not serve you anymore I just want six days away from my phone and six days they take your phone man isn't that crazy is that why you're going to get away from

your phone honestly i think that's a huge part of it because it's like a dopamine detox almost right like i'm i'm on it way too much and uh and with the show just coming out like i'm so glued to my phone it's impossible not to be and it's such a weird unnatural experience for a person to have like reading stuff about yourself in like international press and it's like even if it's positive it's weird to read because also it's not just reviews of the show it's always about me personally it's like ex drug addict trans person may martin and you're like oh is that who i am like it's very weird and unnatural now are you only reading news from Croatia of course that's where i get all my news What a wild thing to have is the headline though

That wasn't an actual You know what I mean Every article is sort of about It's just like overwhelming And you think oh my God I guess that lives on the internet forever now And it's so exposing and weird Even like a description of your appearance and stuff

It's just not normal to read that kind of thing You're like this is fucked So get me to the institute Right well you have the double whammy of it you're starring in it and also created it and wrote a lot of episodes and you know what i will say in today's climate it is like a little scary to stick your head above the parapet as like a trans person and already i'm getting a lot of hate and i can tune it out yeah i don't look for it so i i don't really have to interact with it at all but it's like you know it's it's creepy and scary and yeah

yeah and you think yeah and you know what's interesting because in the show there's not a single conversation about my character's a trans guy. Not a single line of dialogue about it, but people are still so mad. So then you're like, oh, you are just mad that trans people exist because that's just, it's not, and they're like, stop shoving it down our throats, this ideology. And you're like, what ideology? Like, it's just a crazy thriller.

I mean, for once and for all, if you don't have anything nice to say or any interest, move it along. If you don't like the show or the movie or the podcast or any, just go, find the comedian. Go find something else. I don't understand. How is it affecting you?

I really don't understand when people have to stop and negatively comment. Write you about the thing they don't like. Just don't watch it. It ain't for you. Yeah. It's just move along. It's good enough for the people. people, Croatia? Like, come on. Yeah. But anyway, I went on a little tangent there, but mainly

that's why it's good timing, I think, to just go for six days away from my phone. Yeah. Well, sorry you're dealing with that. But also, how exciting that you're number one in a lot of places. And also how exciting that come see me in the good light is coming out. Also, trans issues and just, yeah, compassion. that was one thing I took away from it was like Andrea talking about in the past before they kind of came into their own identity like how they felt self-destructive and sort of didn't like their body and stuff and I really related and it's that's why it's so infuriating because it's like whatever shit I've done in the past couple years to sort

of embrace this identity and I got top surgery and stuff it's like it's only made me just a more productive member of society. And a happier person who's kinder to people, kinder to myself. So it's like, who cares? Yeah, move it along, bozos. Move it along. Move it along.

If you don't like this episode, move it along. You don't like the show, move it along. You don't like the show, move it along. If you don't like the movie, move it along. You don't like our comedy. I'm moving along. You don't like the Gulf of Mexico. I'm glad you brought that full circle.

Yeah, me too. Move it along. I actually know. Everybody's all up in everybody's business. Just fucking live your life. Like when I like something, I am so into it. I can't wait to tell everyone about it. If I don't like it or I don't like a comedian.

What do? I'm moving. I'm going to tear anyone down. I'm going to move it along. Yeah, I hope when I get to this therapy place, you're the coach, and that's the message. Well, listen, should we see, should we see what Chris's answer is? Yes, I forgot about that part of the show. Let's move it along. Let's move it along. No, I don't think the universe would put more than one of me in any place at one time. All right.

Love you guys. Wait. Wait, that was quick. Wait, wait, Chris. I would have bet my life that there was going to be an in-depth answer here. Man, did he move it along. He sure did move it along. Yeah.

Wait a second. Wait, we don't know if he believes in past lives or not. It was kind of like a Cindy Lauper situation where she's like, did you, was you, was you write a cookbook and then come back to her i would and that was such an amazing episode um but yeah he had such a an in-depth question and then yep nope he's really long i mean what do you think who do you think chris was in a past life you know him fortune oh man well that he's Bird or cat? That's the team of that high-pitched voice, so a pretty little lady at some point who's

an opera singer. A beautiful voice. Have you heard? It's from Glee, but it's him and I think Leah Michelle singing, sing hallelujah, come on, get happy. The duet that Barbara Streisand and Judy Garland did. And he plays gorgeous. Stunning.

His, he was a thing on TikTok for a long time that everyone played. They like mimic. What was that? Oh, like they lip sing. That was him. What did it get me? Yeah, what is that? What is that?

What is that? Gypsy Rosalie or something? I don't know, but that was him singing it. He's very talented that guy. But also doesn't like to answer all of his three questions. And let's go to Chris now. The answer is no. Well, what a treat you guys.

What a treat. Yes, indeed. Good to see you guys. And I'm headed back to Los Angeles tomorrow. Great. I'll be waiting at your front door for one of those emotional hugs. That was a good hug. Oh, man, it was actually.

I'll remember that. I'm on tour. I'm going to be in Atlanta this weekend at the Symphony Hall. If anybody wants to come to that. And then Chicago Theater, San Jose and Fresno, California. Charlotte, North Carolina, St. Petersburg, Florida, and Orlando. Then for New Year's Eve, Seattle, Washington, Vancouver, and then a bunch of new dates that have been rescheduled to January and February.

I'm going on my first ever big tour. What? Speaking of being... Stand up or music? Stand up. And I'm going on a tour bus and everything. Oh, yeah, you mentioned that. Yeah, I'm so scared, but tickets are on sale today.

You can go to Maymartin.com. I'm going to 35 different cities at 10 a.m. local time. The pre-sale code. Yeah, this is a special pre-sale code. Capital letters, it's M-A-E-L-I-V-E. So that's May Live or May Live, who knows. But yeah, please come because the venues are too big and too ambitious and it's too many cities. And I'm real scared about that. It's going to be so fun. And also, if you're in LA this month, on October 17th, I'm at the Lyric doing newsstand. On October 29th, I'm at Largo with very special guests. I am going to be at Largo in Los Angeles on October 17th. And then also, please make a note, Apple TV, November 14th, come see me in the Good Light.

Premiers, please check it out. Oh, and I am also on season four of The Morning Show, which is on Apple as well, and that's airing now. And then go to tignotaro.com just for general TIGNOTOM just for general TIG information and upcoming tour dates. Also, if you liked this episode or any of our episodes, share the episode with a friend. Let's keep building this handsome community that we love so dearly. Also go to handsomepod.com for merchandise. We have some wonderful merchandise. So I don't know.

Until next time, what do you say, friends? Keep it handsome. Hansom is hosted by me, May Martin, Tignotaro, and Fortune Feemster. The show is produced, recorded, and edited by Thomas Willett. Email us at handsomepod at gmail.com. And please follow us on social media at HandsomePod. What a podcast, what a podcast. That was a hate gum podcast.

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