Handsome - Pretty Little Episode #51

Episode Date: August 8, 2025

Fortune and Mae join forces to talk about getting ghosted (by ghosts?), party games, and their favorite chores, on a Pretty Little Episode that is much more party than chore!Handsome is hosted by Tig Notaro, Mae Martin, and Fortune FeimsterSubmit questions to speakpipe.com/handsomepodFollow us on social media @handsomepodMerch at handsomepod.comWatch Handsome on YouTubeThis is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Handsome via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Pretty little episode. Welcome to the Handsome Pod for our Pretty Little Episode episode. It's fortunate. And me, I may. Here in person. Yeah, I like doing these with you in person Me too You can like feel each other's energy

Yeah, your energy's good right now I'm a big energy person Did you know this? No Yeah, I am a cancer July 1st was my birthday And I would say If you looked up cancer traits

Yeah, I'm pretty Full on cancer Like they're full on cancer Like I line up with a lot of that Emotional Um What else? I feel energy very deeply.

Yeah. Especially if I'm close to people, I can tell if something's off. Yes. I can walk into a home and tell if there's, like, bad energy. Really? Yeah, I can tell if there's good energy. I wonder, is part of that, like, learned hypervigilance from childhood? I've had a psychic tell me that I have to consciously, like, let go people's energy.

when I, after I walk out of a room. I think I'm similar. I'm a cancer moon. Yeah. Yeah. And I feel similarly like people, and I've really tried to, like, in my life, be like, which, who do I feel really good after I hang out with them and feel energized? Yeah.

And who do I feel anxious? It's important, yeah. And, like, it takes me a lot of process. I'm emotional, like, not, let me just start that over. I'm not an emotional person. I'm very even. Oh, okay. But I have deep emotions.

Right. that makes sense the rivers run deep the rivers run deep but it takes me a while to process the emotions yeah i don't know what i'm feeling if you were to like press me i'm like i don't know oh but i will show you an action yeah that uh my what those emotions are and will you take will you say i need time to figure out what i'm feeling yeah i'll be like i i just need a minute to be like right how do i feel about this thing you know and i just have to like internalize it and think about it. I think a lot. Yeah. I probably overthink too much. Um, but I, uh, care about people and, um, yeah, you have a lot of empathy, keen sense of justice, I would say, like,

a lot of justice. Yeah, like when someone's wrong. When, yeah, I'm not, I don't hold grudges or like anything like that, but if somebody does something I don't think is right. Yes. I don't like that. Yeah, same. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm also an overthinker, but I, I'm like, I won't I won't take time to prose says. I'll send an essay of my thoughts and feelings, but I'm getting better at that. Before processing it? Oh, I don't write things out and give it a minute.

Yeah, that's smart. I'm doing that now. Because then I'll realize the next day, like, oh, you don't need to share all that. Yeah, you don't need to say all that. Yeah, also people know, people know how you're feeling a lot of the time. Yeah, I kind of wear my heart on my sleeve. Yeah, yeah.

I don't shy away from, like, if I, like, telling someone, like, a thing about them that's cool or, like, or, like, Like a friend if I appreciate something about them. Yeah. Like, I want to tell you this thing. Like, I don't have any ego in like, oh, will it look, if I'd tell someone a nice thing, will I look silly? And the opposite, too.

Like, not saying, this is what I don't like about you, but I think you stand up for yourself. Oh, yeah. Yeah, which is good. I mean, sometimes when you're, like, considered a nicer person. Yeah. That's assumed that you let people walk all over you. Yeah. And I do not do that at all.

I do not. Well, people can be foolish, but I, uh, you suffer fools, but you don't suffer, uh, yeah, injustice. I just don't, yeah, I just don't put up with being treated poorly. I love that. Love that. Yeah. But that took time. Yeah. You know, I, I had to get to a point where I liked myself. Yeah. I think if you don't like yourself, you do allow that. And I have certainly had years of my life where I have let people walk on me. Yeah. But with age and time and therapy. Yeah. I genuinely like myself. I haven't seen a life coach.

Yeah, how's that? Yeah. Well, great, because I often start therapy and then it tapers off or I don't, I dread it. And it's like, I find it really intense sitting across from somebody and diving into like the hardest, deepest stuff. And I also feel like I know so much of it. Yeah. But this is a more roundabout way, this life coach, who is a, you know, a qualified therapist and psychotherapist as well. but it's just a lot more manageable for me

because it's like I can do arts and crafts while we talk and we're talking about my day to day life and we made a pie chart of my life and all the different areas

and it seems more functional and practical and then we can talk around the deeper issues and the things and but for now I'm finding it less scary than therapy

I'm still gonna go to therapy and I have been but I'm not judging you look to be like I bet I'm going to therapy that's on everybody's own time you know yeah and people go in and out of it sometimes too yeah like you you go if you're if you're dealing with stuff you feel like there's more pressing things and sometimes you need a break from it you don't want to overanalyze things too you know I find that

sometimes people get too in their head about things and situations and relationships and yeah sometimes you just need to chill yes yeah because you're just constantly repeating the same stories. I guess that therapy would help you break those stories but yeah anyway well yeah what is your sign I'm Taurus okay with cancer moon and Gemini rising I want to say I don't know what my other things are I think the moon is like your emotional world okay well I'll have to find that out but I do feel pretty through and through cancer yeah and I they say we're moody too but I my mooting is just I'm not a moody person. I don't find you

quiet sometimes. Right. That would be the moodiness. My mom would say I get moody sometimes with her but that's you got licensed to get moody with your mom. Yeah, you regress.

But that's just a parent kid thing I think. But you, yeah, you are a steady person. I mean, yeah. And you handled fatigue really well or you just don't seem to run out of energy.

I guess not. What's up with that, dude? I don't know. I don't know because, yeah, I'm taking better care of myself. right now which is helpful yeah i like that my last tour i got very out of hand and gained a ton of weight and i felt super lethargic but right now i'm just eating a lot less and trying to work out and that helps with the energy it helps with everything yeah yeah although i will get gelato after

this recording oh at that place next door yeah why not you come on yeah i'll get a gelato sure oh my god what flip i don't know i got to see what they have because there's a place around here that has weird things like bacon flavored ice cream and stuff that I'm not into that. No, I want a classic. I'd like a mango sorbillade. They have that at the I like glanced down the way

here. They have a mango sorbet. Great. Which is delish. Deelish. Let's get to our questions. I'm all this sharing of feelings. I know. I know. I know. Hi, handsome. My name's Letitia. I'm a long time listener

and a big fan boy of your podcast and all three of you. I'm recording here in Melbourne, Australia. You really need to come and visit and practice your Australian accent. I'd be happy to show you around. My question for you is, what is your all-time favorite party game and or board game? Party game or board game? Melbourne. Melbourne, I'm not going to do it. Y'all put me in this trap every time where I start doing my Australian X-in and Tony Colette tells me it's not good that was that was really pretty great um I mean I I don't know where to start mafia a lot oh mafia mafia mafia is good if you've got it's what traders is based on yeah so if you've got like eight people it's ideal I have been in some amazing mafia games but

especially back in my groundlings days yeah it's like all comedians and artists yeah so passionate it so dramatic it was fun i played mafia with this is one this was with parv and a group of people and with abby jacobson and clea duval and a bunch of other people and it was so intense and so much fun yeah and clea is absolutely an assassin like she and it's just so scary to question her like she's like seriously you're you think i'm the mafia and you're like oh like she just is so um she's so good at it and then and then my friend accidentally threw a knife across the table it wasn't a good story by accident but it almost took an eye out dude that would be so gnarly he was gesturing and it flew out of his hand

and imagine if that just no that you don't want a game to go that way yeah yeah mafia is a good party game it does take some people a minute to figure out the rules and to folk i get i'm like guys we got to focus like i yeah i yeah i can can get irritable okay what about you i like that mexican train game have you ever heard of that what's that it's like dominoes but like i don't know i can't remember how it's played but it's easy to pick up on but it's a you you like stack dominoes in a certain way mexican train there's another game that Natalie mayn's taught me that's really fun with dice but i don't remember the name of it god dang it i'll have to ask her so i'll tell you next time yeah um but you would

would like that game it's you need to like four or five people it's called oh is it fast i like a fast um like with dice it's like you roll and if like you get sixes or like you know it's like and you have to keep score and stuff and there's different rules yeah yeah yeah but that one's i know that's not helpful to our listeners but it's a very fun dice game i like um a game if you're ever at i mean which you will be like the Emmys Or you're at like a really swanky. One day. Which I always am like, how fun would it be to get some big game going with all those amazing people there? But what, so the game that I like to play, and I play it at the BAFTAs in England is it's called Tissue Shoulder.

And all you do is you take a bit of a napkin and you roll it up into a small ball. And then the objective is to get it on the shoulder of someone without them noticing. Oh my God. And then let it stay as long. Yeah. It's so fun. And you did this at the Baptist? I did it to some.

some some big names people really yeah yeah yeah so they ended up being on stage with this not on stage because it would fall off but it's more like people are milling around after or you're sitting in your seat and it's just having to walk by and just place it imagine getting called though from like some big actor they're like what are you doing judy dench knocks you out some people just know they could save hundreds on car insurance by checking all State first. Like you know to check that you follow all the instructions carefully when you're dog sitting. Use the right scoop with the right food. Take them for a nice walk and don't forget some cuddles on the couch as well. Checking first is smart. So check Allstate first for a quote

that could save you hundreds. You're in good hands with Allstate. Savings varies subject to terms, conditions, and availability, Allstate Fire and Casualty Insurance Company and Affiliates, Northbrook, Illinois. Should we hear Letitia's answer? I have a favorite game that's just called The Hat Game. Yeah. And it involves a lot of acting and miming and all around chaos. And I think that may, you would love it. And if you ever do come to Australia, please make sure to reach out and I will teach you how to play.

I know. Thanks for being amazing and keeping me company on all of my dog walks. My dog is a very bad boy. he's the goodest boy but he's a very bad Oh Letitia I'm there And I know this game The hat games

You put names in a hat of like famous people Or I mean you could even write Fake grapes Yeah you know And put in that And then there's three rounds timed The first round you can describe it Without using the words

Second round you can only use one word to describe it Third round is just mine But it's really fun Because you got to remember all of them Gotcha I also like running charades Oh yeah That's fun too

Wait what do you mean running Like uh You, like, run to different stations and they give you the clues and stuff. Oh, what? Yeah. I want to do that. It's fun. It's active and, yeah, you go to different people for it.

That sounds good. The clues. I like that. Should we hear another one? Yeah. Spaced out. I just left my body. You know what I just, I just had a whole thought.

Yeah, what was it? Where I thought, I really want to post something nice about Fortune on her birthday. And then I thought, maybe I'll get a picture with Fortune today, but I won't say it's for that. And then on the day, and on the day I'll post it. All that ran through your head in that moment. In a split second, I went on a whole journey. And then I was like, I'm honored. The other day I was eating with, and I said, I was trying to think of a word between breakfast and lunch.

And I said to this person, I said, I really was, I said, I can't believe for a second. I thought, I wish there was a word between breakfast and lunch. lunch because it's just brunch it's brunch but i literally was like i wish there was a word you said i wish there was a word oh my god and i was like what is wrong with me that's really funny belunch belunch we should get blunch going because to me brunch is still very breakfast focused yeah it's like more pancakes but lunch is more breakfast focused or more lunch focus oh yeah because it's more in the lunch blanche it's more of the word i don't know that's great but how come there's no um

linner or dunch there should be a like between lunch and dinner a four o'clock situation yeah yeah an apertief yeah yeah I love an appertive yeah

in Europe when you like go for a drink and they give you all these snacks yes or like an afternoon tea in England with the scone and the cream and aw did I tell you that no I love afternoon teas okay let's go with the all the

trays of the scones and the sandwiches cucumber sandwiches and little pastries yeah me too i'll hide to you they call it and i am all about it oh man that's good let's hear our question hi my name is carrington from pittsburgh pennsylvania my question for you all today is which historical figure would you most want to ghost you after one weird date and why you would Oh, who you would want to ghost you. Jesus, you'd be like, where'd he go? Oh, that's true. But he'd come back.

Jesus would be good. I was seeing this really cool guy who was in his early 30s, long hair. He had all these friends around them all the time. Preaching. He's a little preachy. Yeah. But he never judged anyone. He turned my water into wine.

Yeah. And then all of a sudden, one day, he just disliked. Wait, but to be ghosted by Jesus would be really hard. Because it's for mankind. Oh, I see, I see, right. Okay, yeah, that takes a sting out of it. He was sacrificed. Yeah, you're right.

You go, well, I got to respect that. It's for the greater good. Yeah, okay. Yeah, that's a really good answer. I think I would I want to be ghosted by it? Like, if I could have a first date with someone really psycho, you know, who I know would get too attached. Just because they're... But you want to experience the freak in the sheets.

Yes, and then they... Yes, yeah. And then they can go to worry about the aftermath. Yes, exactly. Like, we're talking... Who do you think? Some Roman emperor, really. We're not...

I mean, I was going to say Emperor Nero, but I think he was really dark and... Oh, we don't want to go too dark. No, I want to just... What about Joan of Arc? I think Joan of Arc would be too like me. Like, gender-wise, like, would be two of the same magnet. Right.

You need to go... different flavor yeah like maybe a cleopatra okay but i'd be sad if she goes to me whereas if it was some twisted emperor and we just did really messed up stuff and like he put me inside like a giant bronze bull you know and then a bronze bowl like no bull because that's what bull i think nero put put people in a giant metal bolt and then killed them i think i don't want that but i want some weird stuff and it would be fun and then i go he goes i kind of want to kill you and I go kill me next time and then he and then it goes to you yeah you live yeah not nero the tail to tell whoever is listening to this and knows oh Alexander the Great maybe that would be

pretty hot and he was by he was they all were oh for sure but Alexander the Great his boyfriend died and he built this huge funeral pyre for him and like it was in mourning I didn't know all these guys were bye they were because it was just of the time it was of the time i guess yeah no one was judging back then yeah he's murdered people if you were was it had you were done with them what was it hadrian was his boyfriend and that's where hadrian i've never heard this have you Thomas were you aware of alexander the gay i i didn't know about that hadrian was antinus's um boyfriend okay who are you on it Alexander the Great's boyfriend

King Darius's eunuch named Bagoas was he took as his lover I could be a eunuch as his lover I like it when they say took as his lover Yeah and will you take a lover Do you ever use the word lover? No I can't I can't And even when people go hey lover

Hey lover I don't think I can do it This is my lover That's remember did you ever see that Will Ferrell Rachel Dratch sketch Oh yeah I'd be like, my lover in the hot tub. Yes. It is such a word.

Yeah. This is my lover. I mean, it's a really nice way to put it in a way, but instead of like what, fuck funny. Let's hear Carrington's answer. My answer, Nicola Tesla. I just feel like he'd show up in a weird cape, over-explain his crystals, and then disappear into a puff of pigeon feathers. Okay. wait this is a different like take on tesla than i'm used to like yeah yeah because

that he would explode into pigeon feathers and he's this sort of mystical merlin figure i like that i know i didn't escape room that was tesla themed really yeah it was a lot of wires and knobs it was too like intricate yeah yeah should do a quick one quick one quick one quick one Hey, Hansoms. This is Roxy from Ohio. I love listening to you, especially when I'm doing chores and different things around the house or running errands. I feel like I'm so much more productive because I feel like I'm part of the conversation and just hanging out with y'all. Aw. Okay. But my question is, what is your favorite kind of chore?

Something that you like to do that just kind of, it's weird, but in the way. what else wants to do it but you're just like oh yeah i'll do it the name on everybody's lift is gonna be roxy thanks for going with me on that uh you're welcome i'm scary uh i have like a spending problem but not for big items so just i buy clothes like online late at night like i'm just click in clicking yeah so i end up having a lot of stuff that i don't wear and i'm not good returning stuff so my favorite chore is to go through everything in my closet and make a pile of stuff to donate and then and then like see that my closet only has stuff that I wear that I like white t-shirts like basically it's this yeah yeah he just spend all this money just to spend it

because I get excited at night I think I can wear that plaid yeah double-breasted suit um yeah that's a good one I love clearing stuff out that's a nice feeling I don't like a lot of stuff. Yeah. I don't like to accumulate. Uh, so there is something very freeing about donating things and yeah. Throwing things away. Merry condoing.

Yeah. Yeah. This doesn't spark joy. Yeah. Um, and you do that voice to yourself. This isn't sparking joy, may? Do you like, sweep and vacuum and do all that? Uh, I don't mind vacuuming.

When, when, when Jackson and I were together, she was kind of that, she was very good about all that stuff um i don't mind the outdoor some of the outdoor stuff because when i was growing up that was my chore yeah was yard work um so there's we have like a like a like a the thing that you cut bushes with oh i don't know trimmer yeah a hedge trimmer yeah i love going out there with that thing we have these bushes that uh get unruly i can imagine you like um edward scissor hands whipping up a shape yeah yeah very but there's these these one bushes that just grow like constantly and i go out there like yeah i feel very i'm like yeah but uh yeah i feel very productive in that i tonight have nothing to do and but i have a list of like 20 chores to do and like

laundry and i've been on tour like i've stuff in my suitcase yeah and i'm gonna put something on and do it like do you listen to a podcast or music music podcast i think i'll listen to some really awful true crime probably all right i can't help myself what is that about I think that's just what you're into. I guess. Maybe I'll listen to Handsome. Like, I haven't listened since. Yeah, check us out.

Honestly, well, well, a friend of mine just started listening from episode one. She was like, I never listened to it. And she was saying things from episode one that I was like, that's pretty funny. I think, yeah, I'd like to read a bit. We could hear some of our quotes. Yeah. Our early day quotes, pineapple apart. Yeah, it goes.

Yeah. I'm trying to think two against one starting back then We need more quotes I know it's been a minute since we've created a new one But I don't know if it's that we've stopped being quotable Or that people have stopped Quoting us yeah

Or like stopped lifting quotes You guys have you gone away from our quotes Yeah please keep it going If there's anything in here Worth quoting Please Let's hear Roxy's answer mine is folding laundry

I hate putting it away I hate everything else about it but I do enjoy folding laundry yeah I find laundry varies in I think Teg likes laundry too yeah yeah yeah I'd smell so fresh and clean and yeah but I agree putting it away no good yeah no

leave it in a pile on the sofa yeah folded neatly well what a treat what a treat as always lovely to see you bud you too and thanks everyone for sending in your amazing questions keep sending them in speakpipe dot com slash handsome pod yeah give us questions advice whatever you want yeah or if you need advice we have not gotten many advice questions and i'm asking for them every time yeah i would love that yeah uh i guess all it remains is to keep it pretty handsome handsome is hosted by me

fortune fiendster tignitaro and may martin the show is produced recorded and edited by Thomas Wollett, email us at HandsomePod at gmail.com and follow us on social media at HandsomePod. What a podcast! What a podcast! That was a hate gum podcast.

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