Handsome - Pretty Little Episode #75

Episode Date: January 23, 2026

Mae and Tig get songs stuck in their head and chat about social media on a Pretty Little Episode you'll remember forever!Handsome is hosted by Tig Notaro, Mae Martin, and Fortune FeimsterSubmit your questions to speakpipe.com/handsomepodFollow us on social media @handsomepodMerch at handsomepod.comWatch Handsome on YouTubeThis is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Handsome via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Good morning. And hello at whatever time of day it is where you are. This is Tignotaro sitting here with... May Martin. Yes. Okay, I gave it away. We're recording very early in the morning. on this day. Yeah, I haven't spoken out loud yet today. I haven't shaved yet. Yeah,

clearly. Yeah, yeah. This is, we've figured out the earliest we have ever recorded. 7 a.m. Yeah, 7 a.m. Yeah. I have to fly away today. Were you, where are you off to? I'm off to New York, and in a crazy twist of life, the Star Trek premiere is overlapping with massive press for not just the premiere, but the documentary in the same week. Oh, no way. In New York? Yeah.

It's, and award shows as well. Jesus. Yeah. So it's like pure insanity, what I'm about to go away into this week. Normally, it's just crazy press for one thing, and it overlaps for two. When they send you those schedules for the upcoming days and you're like, this is not. Yeah. I can't even think about it when I look at my calendar. I just, I just go one foot in front of the other. Yeah. I'm like, well, somebody will pick me up, drop me off there. I'll be moved to this.

So like I can't even think about it. I just, I glance at that and never look at it again when I, when I fly out and do something like this. Anyway, thanks. Thanks for getting up to record. Hey, it's been, it's been a whirlwind. I, I got in bed. maybe 1130. I was like, this is fine. And then couldn't really sleep. And then remembered at about 1230, I have no coffee in the home. And I was like, oh, no.

And so I pre-ordered for delivery a coffee. And then it was like nail-biting, watching the clock. It got here at like 701. I ran out to get it. Yeah. Wow. And then I couldn't sleep and I dreamed that I'd forgotten how to have sex. Oh, I don't.

I don't think that's the case. Yeah, Thomas is shaking his head wildly. No. We believe in you, little cowboy. Thank you. I got it. Yeah, I dreamed that there was this huge house party at my house, but my childhood home, of course. And then hundreds of people, and I kept walking around going, there's so many hot people here.

There's tons of hot people, and I didn't know what to do with it. And I was like, how do I make a move? Yeah. That's so funny. Now, I had a dream, but very different. Oh, tell me. It was about Thomas. No.

I dreamed about you guys. I was dreaming about, like, missing the podcast. Oh, my God. That's hilarious. Wow, two against one. May's over there just dreaming about sex, and then you and I are dreaming about each other. Yeah, I had a dream that Thomas, had found these

like organic, all-natural hand sanitizer wipes that were individually packaged. And he had come over oh, I had told, I was like, oh, I like these. Where'd you get this? And he was like, oh, I don't know. And then he had come over and brought a whole box of them

and placed them in my pantry like standing up against food. So when I walked in the pantry, I saw all these little individually packaged hand sanitizer wipes. That's really funny. Yeah. Is that a new sponsor, Thomas?

Yeah. That's amazing. I know. I think it happened. Yes. That's what I meant to say is thank you for that. I think that happened because my family, my kids and Stephanie were both making fun of me yesterday about my germ issues.

And they were all imitating me the way they imitate me behind my back. And I got, yeah. I was like, you guys talk about this and do this with each other. And they're like, yeah, this is how you open a door. This is how, like if we're in a public bathroom, what you do. This is. And then, oh, my God. It was making me laugh so hard.

There's nothing better than being like really seen by the people you love. Like really observed and lovingly mocked. Oh, I was going to say, and made fun of behind my back is what brought me the most joy. Yeah. Well, I, when you said Thomas had found it made me think of this that I'm really excited about. but also I'm worried that I've like crossed over into pure nerd. I ordered a metal detector. Oh, yes, you did.

You did cross over. It happened, right? Oh, there goes May. There I go. Yeah, there you go. Off I go. But that is also the dream of every person up until I was going to say a certain age, and I'm assuming that's 38, 39.

Well, Sabrina, how old are you? 38. Yeah. Our friend Sabrina said, oh, that was on Wolfie's Christmas list this year. And we didn't get it. He's seven. Yeah. But so I'm going to take him.

You're not. I'm definitely not. Yeah. But now at least I know I have someone else interested in it in my life. And I'm thinking, do I either go to the beach or do I go just around my house? My house is 120 years old. I might find a coin. I would return it.

Yeah. Yeah. I would go return. it. No, it sounds fun. The beach, maybe? Yeah, beach or like, I mean, I wish there were like some ancient castles or something, but yeah, beach is probably the best bet. I just want to get some, some people's lost wedding rings and stuff. I mean, really what I want is antiques and relics, but if I'm on the beach and I'm finding rings, jewels, sure. And you, what about an antique store? Yeah, I could, yeah, I could hit that up. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's possible. But you also, you would,

And maybe this might, I'm projecting my own embarrassment of actually walking around with a metal detector. Yeah. But if I did that, I would have to go do it on the beach because that's where people do that. Yeah. And you could, you could disguise, like I'm thinking, I could disguise myself, put a hat on, a mustache, whatever. You're not, you're not concerned about that. Well, I'm a little, I'm, listen, you know, my ex lives by the beach. What if I bump into it?

That would be really embarrassing. if I'm, be, beep, beep. Oh, my gosh, yes. Oh, God, I'm scared I know a lot of people that live down in, you know, Santa Monica. Go at an odd time that you know that your ex won't be at the beach. Right, right. You know? Yeah.

I'll go and it'll end up being like, singles day at the beach. Well, that'll work out for you as long as you can remember how to have sex. I won't. I'll have my pants pulled up high in my little propeller hat on. Yes, you absolutely will. And I'll be... Well, then everyone will know it's you. Yeah, that's true.

But that's great for Singles Day. Yeah, you're right. Everyone's... There's May. Yeah. I'll let you know if I find anything, though. I feel like Max and Finn would be into metal detecting. Oh, I think so.

Yeah, that would be fun. Yeah. Yeah. Maybe I'll show him. Max is becoming quite the... It's really going to be interesting to see what he's going to do in life because he is so equally interested in science as he is in comedy.

And he does impressions like nobody's business. Really? It's really impressive. And he has the jokes to go along with it. It's really something. Who are his top impressions? Well, you know, he's nine. He does a lot of South Park and family guy.

Yeah. The new edition is, pro football referee the delivery of all of the calls and he does the wrong hand gestures but because of course fins over there going no no Max you actually you grab your wrist

and then you and then but we're like it doesn't matter it makes it even better that he's doing the wrong hand gesture but his delivery and his voice when he does it is really something maybe he'll do both science and he'll be Bill 9 the science guy. Yeah, yeah, maybe so. I thought about you the other day because I watched,

I imagine that you're into Jeff Buckley or you? Oh, yeah. So I watched this document. Oh, the documentary. Yes. Have you seen that? I have not. You got to watch it. Yeah. I mean, his, I don't know how I didn't, I was never deeply into him. Oh, you weren't. He seems right. He seems like you, you were born for him. Yeah, he's totally, I'm obsessed. I mean, I've, I, I like the album, but watching his, like, vocal performances and him singing hallelujah. Yeah. Oh, my God. I know. I know it. What a beautiful man. Yes. Well, those are our morning thoughts. They are. Those are our morning thoughts. And should we get into other people's thoughts, whatever time zone they're in or day? Yeah. Yeah. Headspace. Mm-hmm. Hello, handsomes. My name is Ken. I am from Portland,

Oregon. And I just had to record a message for you to say that I kind of hate you right now because I got the handsome bansom songs stuck in my head for several days now. I love the song. It's super cute and it just won't leave my head. So my question is, what songs do y'all get stuck in your head? Thanks for everything. Ken. Thank you. I was just saying Ken, thank you. Oh, oh, I thought you were saying can, like see it, like can. Can we? Yes. Thank you, Ken.

It is so catchy. It's the only thing that's in my head now. Really? It's catcher than Jeff Buckley. Oh, my Lord. I get the theme song, the handsome theme song stuck in my head for sure. Oh, my God. Not holiday wishes?

I mean, that's like the greatest song ever. Some holiday With the day wishes Places While we wash the shit I mean this is Thomas's creation Yeah it is very very catchy

But what are your Like earworm songs that you sing around the house Well you know what What I sing a lot around the house Is that I love you so Oh what's that And I want you to know that I

gonna miss your love Oh Don't know it You walk out You don't know that No, but I like it Please don't go Oh yeah

Please don't go Yeah Yeah okay Because I always say To Stephanie Max Finn And all of Kitty City Or as I've mentioned The exhausted sausages

I always say Oh I love you so Oh I love you so And then it kicks me into, I love you so. Yeah. Yeah. That's not stuck in your head, that's for sure.

No, I mean, I don't know then what this says about my life, that this is the one stuck in my head, but it's Aidelweiss from, I'm often singing. Well, that plus your metal detector, murderrama. Checking Allstate first could save you hundreds on car insurance. That's smart. Not checking if your friend enjoys theater. before buying tickets for the new show, that's going off script in a bad way. I can admit a four-hour musical that reimagines Queen Victoria through the lens of disco

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because somewhere in my wicked miserable past I must have done something good you know that one I sure you are standing there

loving me whether or not you should reminds me of when you were singing eggs for breakfast who wants them eggs for breakfast who needs them

what is this song How do you like your eggs in the morning? You know that Bear Naked Lady's song that goes, It's been one week to do. Yeah, it's been. In my head all the time, it's been, one week. That's hilarious. That is such a great intro to a song.

And I'm sure they had no idea. It would be such a, everybody knows that those two. Two words. Yeah. It's been. You do it really well. Thank you.

Please do it again. I'm nervous. You're overthinking it. You're overthinking it. It's been. You did it. You did it. Yes.

And they're Canadian. Yeah. And I'm hosting the, when does this come out, Thomas? January 23rd. Oh, can't say. Okay. Well, I'm hosting a Canadian event. And I'm hoping that they're going to be there.

And I'm thinking I might say, yeah. Elspin on stage. Just maybe every time I look at them, I go. That's so great. It's been one week's again. I don't hear that on the radio much. But I'm also not listening to the radio much. Or in Canada.

It's every second song in Canada is. It's been. And now we know we played it 20 minutes ago, but it's been. Oh, my God. May you've ruined my life. again. I can't believe Ken had no answer. How dare you think you're mad at us, Ken? We're furious. Next question. Yeah, let's hear. Yes, Ben. Was that pretty good? That was really good. Yeah, it's been. Thomas? It's man. Yeah, that's good. It's okay. All right. What's our next question?

Yes, man. Yes, man. Hi, Fortune May and Tig. This is Danielle in Tulsa, Oklahoma. TIG, I saw you last time you were in Tulsa and you were a light in a very dark time for me and I've always wanted to say thank you. I would like some advice from you. My question is, how much should I share on social media? The more things happen in the world, the more I wonder if I'm being hypocritical or cowardly by not speaking out on social media. I decided a long time ago not to be a keyboard warrior. I don't hide my beliefs and I'm happy to have conversations with people in person, but I feel like arguing

online is not productive. I wonder if I should speak out more. I wonder if I should stay more online though and or if it's okay for me to just continue sharing pictures of my pets and my son and poetry. So what do you think? What's your advice? Thank you. I love you all. and I love listening to your podcast. Bye. Bye. Well, thanks for coming to the show when I was in Tulsa. I don't know if you've heard me mention this,

but I love Tulsa. Really? I do. It's such a cool little city. It's so cool. Yeah, I don't imagine. I couldn't picture you saying, oh, yeah.

I love Tulsa. It's been. Yeah, it's been. Yeah. Yeah, do you have any immediate feelings? I have some. I struggle with it as well. I mean, yeah, it's confusing. I kind of go on a day-by-day basis if something compels me, but also I'm in a tricky position right now because I'm waiting on a green card to come through.

And I'm really genuinely worried about, you know, they tell you not to, that they're going to look at your social media, which is so insane. But I don't know. I'm posting quite a bit. Yeah, I feel some responsibility if I can share specific resources or, like, direct people to other people who are better informed than me or, you know, because you have to know your limits as well. But I just, I always feel like I'm not saying enough, basically. But I don't know. I also think social media is kind of, it's like. Garbage can.

Yeah, it's so tough. But yeah. What about you? I mean, I'll do the same every now and then I'll share something. But I think in general, just sharing in general, I have moments where I'm like, oh, I'm going to say this or I'm going to post this or whatever it is. And then when I do, I'm like, what am I doing? Like, who is this for? Who am I talking to?

What am I? You know what I mean? Yeah. I just, it's so odd. It's like part of it, I feel like is about making sure that your followers and the people that support you and watch your comedy, you know, where you stand on some things. Like there's, there's an element of that of like, yeah, it's definitely confusing. Yeah, I just feel like there's also, there's a lot of people that solely live online and the extent of their activism. is just posting things, and that's not to say that's not great,

but how many of those people are actually getting out and doing something, you know? Yeah. Like boots on the ground doing something, making calls, lobbying, protesting. Yeah. I think that when the trap that happens sometimes is that people that live pretty exclusively online and see that as like the real and only world. I remember years ago, something happened with somebody in the comedy community

and maybe I've shared this before, but I don't really ever, I have a Facebook account, but I don't ever go on that. My assistant posts things on there, but I went on because somebody had died or I didn't know what had happened. I was something, something I went on.

And I saw somebody else from the comedy community saying, if any of you are still following this person who did this thing to this other person, unfollow me and unfriend me in real life. And it just really struck me where I was like, God, you're making the assumption that I'm on here as much as you are. Right. And that I've gotten all your, not that he was. writing it solely to me, but it's this, you start living in a world sometimes thinking that everybody

is on all the time and that this is how they're only getting their information, this is how they're only sharing information. I know. It just becomes true. It just really struck me that time that I saw that post. I was like, God, if I hadn't even come on to Facebook, I wouldn't have even known about this thing that was going on. Yeah, there have definitely been moments where it feels like, yeah, everyone's keeping track of who's not posting a certain thing.

Yeah, in a way that's really paralyzing and insane because, yeah, you don't know what people are doing in their private life. I try to post like calls to action more than like commentary and, yeah, donate and volunteer and stuff. But I don't know. I do feel, I mean, increasingly I do feel like some, I don't know what to do about America and, yeah, and Gaza. Yeah. So I'm trying to do more, but it's like even when I, I think I've said when I posted like about the animal paintings and selling those, I got, I got flack from like left wing people who were like, hey, you should have done this sooner. But it took me a year to get it set up. And then also people being like, well, you know, you should send it to the money to private families there instead of to an NGO. And it was like, oh, man, this is what this is what stops people from doing. I know. It's so scary. You think you're going to get in trouble for doing the wrong thing.

So I think you've got to just do what feels. Yeah, do what feels right in the moment. Yeah. But we do for sure have a platform that is useful. But then you want to also spread joy and not alienate people. but I don't know, God, what in mind? It's early 7 a.m. Yeah, it's 7 a.m.

It's almost 7.30. But I stand by everything, we said. Do you? I do. I do. It's tricky. And social media is definitely a tool and a way to be helpful, but it's also a way to be hurtful, and it's also not the only way.

Yeah. I mean, the main thing we need to do really is get people to vote and then lawmakers will make change and boycott. And boycott. Yes, yes. I mean, that's a massive thing. But that goes back to sharing outlets. Yes, specific resources and stuff.

But man, yeah, let's get people more politically engaged because then the actual politicians we elect will do their job. And you can also be politically engaged in so many other areas. Yeah. not, you know, but again, it's complicated. Anyway, thank you, Danielle. Thank you, Ken. And everybody listening, please submit your questions and advice request to speakpipe.

com slash handsome pod. Please, please do. Yes, please do. And also, please come see me on tour. Go to tignotaro.com for all of my show information, ticket links. And keep in mind that some dates are going to change. some cities will be added. And what about you, May?

I have, if you go to Maymartin.com, my tour is up there. Or check out Wayward on Netflix, please. Or stream my music, actually. I'm trying to get more people to listen to my music. That would be amazing. You're a real talent, kid. Thank you. Thanks.

I'm writing some new tunes. Awesome. Well, I guess all the remains is, too. Keep it pretty handsome. Handsome is hosted by me, Fortune Feimster, Tignitaro, and May Martin. The show is produced, recorded, and edited by Thomas Wulet. Email us at HandsomePod at gmail.com and follow us on social media at HandsomPod. What a podcast.

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