Handsome - Pretty Little Episode #98

Episode Date: July 3, 2026

Fortune and Tig talk tummy-rumbles and live the good life on today's super-Handsome Pretty Little Episode!Handsome is hosted by Tig Notaro, Mae Martin, and Fortune FeimsterSubmit your questions to speakpipe.com/handsomepodFollow us on social media @handsomepodMerch at handsomepod.comWatch Handsome on YouTubeThis is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Handsome via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Hi, it's your friend Tignotaro sitting here with my co-host. Fortune Feamster. And this is a pretty little episode. Is it not? It sure is. Feels very pretty to me. In your office, I know you have that gavel that makes your office officially an office. I have this.

Fortune. Is this new or have you had this? This is from when I guest hosted Jimmy Kimmel and I just found it. And I was like, I think I need this in my office to make it an official office. Is it on the edge of your desk? Yeah, it's right up here. Love it. And so if anyone wants to take a meeting with me.

Uh-huh. They know whose office this is. Okay. I have my ex's parents in a coaster on my desk. Oh, my gosh. I just realized the people listening don't know what I held up. It's my name. It's a nameplate of my name.

Nobody's listening. They can only see that on a video. Yeah. And yeah, you have your ex's parents. Those are the parents you're close to. Yes. They have been like parents to me. Thomas has met them.

Yeah, they are just delightful elderly folk living in the middle of cornfields. And my wife and children and I go visit them on our family vacations. I love it. So, yeah. Anyway. Any whoozles? You know a good day? I am. I've been out of town and I have this thing that's a blessing and a curse. My assistant set up a slideshow on my laptop. So when it goes to sleep or whatever, it just plays all the hits of photos. And it is so nice to be able to see my family and cats, but it also am like, get me home.

Oh, yeah. Get me home. So that's been an interesting new part of my touring life. Yeah. Because I mean, how often do you really scroll through your photos or videos? Or maybe you do. Not often. Yeah.

And so having that on my computer is so, so nice. So yeah, I've been gone, I don't know, almost two weeks maybe. and got home yesterday, and then Stephanie and I went to a dinner last night, and then this morning we, Finn went to camp, and then we went to a movie with Max. I saw a movie.

Uh-huh. What movie? That new Spielberg movie. Oh, yeah. How was it? It was good. Max loved it. Yeah.

I mean, aliens, and, all sorts of stuff. He was just like digging it. Yeah. But I hadn't seen a movie since Forrest Gump a few months ago. Wow. Mm-hmm.

Well, that's cool. Y'all went to, yeah, because it's in the theater, so you went to the movies. Yeah, we went to the movies. I love going to the movies. Oh, well, we should have invited you. I was home. I was available.

God, that's just you. But yeah, that's been the day is like when they each have camp, the other one has a free week and then gets special day and special time. Yeah. So, yeah. One-on-one time, you mean? Or two-on-one? Well, however, the numbers shake out. Yeah.

Yeah, I'm home for, I think, until Saturday. And then I go off again for like a week. But nice Love that All is good What about yourself? I'm good I just filmed something

I don't think I can say what it was yet But it requires you to eat food Oh Was it good? It's Food I normally like But they amped it up a lot Okay

Yeah my stomach's just in a little bit of a like Oh Rumble, rumble. Like you had too much or? No, it does something to your palate that messes you up. Okay. And when do you imagine, did they say, you should be good by this time or you should be? I think it affects everybody's body differently.

Okay, all right. Okay, well. Yeah, tomorrow maybe. If you get a good rumble, can you move the mic down? And so you can hear it? Yeah. I'll let you in on that. Thank you.

Did you have a good time, taping? I had a very good time. We're doing press now for the Hawk that's coming out mid-July, the golf show with Will Ferrell. So I was filming this with him and Jimmy Taitro, who's in the show as well. Awesome. Yeah. So it's a good day, other than my tummies. And that show also has Molly Shannon, right?

It does. But she, I don't know if she's at. out of town, but she didn't, she was, I think, asked to do this, but didn't do it. Mm-hmm. But I think, yeah, she might be out of town, but. Or she's just riding her bike around my neighborhood. She might be doing that, too. But we're about to all, for like two weeks in July, be doing a bunch of press together.

Well, gear up. Yeah. I'm sure it's a massive press tour. I think so, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Cool. So the people will have to check it out when it comes out.

Little Cowboys in two of the episodes, I believe. Oh, really? I thought it was just one. That's great. I think it. Well, maybe it's one, but I thought it stretched out to two. I'm not sure. Don't quote.

Don't quote me on that, T. I quote you all the time. Should we get to some questions? Yeah, let's get to some questions. Hi, Hansons. This is Ryan. Love the pod. Love you guys.

Funny little stories that my wife and I separately got into your podcast and kept it secret from each other because we didn't think it was a podcast the other would enjoy. And then we both found out that, oh, we both love it. So we're enjoying it all. Question for you. This is a question I asked lots of people in my life. If you had to summarize how to live a handsome and good life in a single word, what would

that word be? And why? Give me an explanation of what's it all about. wait so if you could live a handsome good life wait i think i'll use one word to describe a handsome and good life okay yeah i would my immediate thought was openness okay because if you're open about who you are if your communication is open with people if you are open to change and um i don't know that just that was the first word that struck me. And I feel like when everything's cleared out and open, you can be who you are and you can do your thing. Yeah. I like that. That's a good one,

TIG. Thank you, Fortune. Let's hear your good one. The word that came to mind for me was authenticity. Mm-hmm. Living your life. Open. Open. But yeah, being who you are. being true to yourself. Being, you know, just like not living your life for other people and not always feeling like you have to do what's expected of you based on pressure or norms or thing. You're just like staying true to your own beliefs and what makes you happy.

But, you know, also being a good person. But yeah, I think that, you know, You know, that song I Did It My Way kind of makes me think of that. You wrote that. I did write that. Mm-hmm. I went back in time. Yeah.

And you did it your way. And I did it by way. Gave it to Frank Sinatra. Yeah. I remember that day. I did it my way. Such a good song. Some more tunes for you.

I love that he and his wife secretly listened. to handsome. See, that's the importance of being open. That's right. What openness did? That's right. I like that. I like you too. A way to bring a full circle.

That's what I do. Well, and a whole full circle is open. Should we go to our next question? Just like a, sorry. That's okay. It's really okay. This time, Fortune Marie, it's okay.

Oh, there's a, um, I had to do. tell you, a listener of handsome crocheted me a cute little, I don't, pair of underpants? No, that's cute. Ponties. Crocheted this little, it's like in the shape of like a picture. It's framed. And it says Fortune Marie, exclamation mark. And it's got like flowers around it. And I put it on my new bar cart. That is so cute. It made me laugh.

the thought of like I have three bourbons and then that sign and it made me think like Fortune Marie are you really going to have a drink? Fortune Marie, don't drink. Now that I ever, I'm not a big drinker. I like a drink. Yeah. But it just gave me a good chuckle to think that this sign is yelling at me to drink responsibly. Fortune Marie, don't drink too much and then drive your bar cart around the house.

That's right. So thank you to that handsome listener for that cute fortune Marie. There's so many handsome listeners on my tour. On all of our tours, it's wild. That's wild. Yeah. For me, what I think of to live a good life is kindness. I think that makes everything work better.

If you're kind to the people around you, good things will come your way. If you're kind to yourself, you'll be fulfilled. and at the end of the day, kindness beats everything else. All right. Thanks so much. Love you guys a lot. Fortune, we get to see you in a couple days in Portland, Maine. Very excited for it.

Oh, yay. Awesome. I love that. Yeah. Kindness is good. Kindness is not a terrible thing. Authentic. And open.

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Nice one. Thank you. I still got it. Yeah, you do. Hi, TIG, and or Fortune and or May. My name is Ruth. I am in North Carolina, and I desperately need your advice. So for context, I am 33 years old, and I just finished my Ph.D. last year, and I moved to North Carolina for a job that is perfect for me.

Like, I really enjoy it. It really uses my skill sets well. It uses my PhD. It's great. However, the location I'm in is not ideal. Like, I'm not very socially fulfilled. There's not a large queer community. It's not great. And previous to this, I was living in Boston, which I loved and I started dating someone that easily could have been the love of my life. But then I got this job and moved to North Carolina. So we broke up. And so now I'm just like, what are we doing? Are we living to work? Or are we working to live. And is that something that has changed for you all? Do you consciously think about it? Give me your advice. It could, you know, very easily change the course of my life. So no pressure. All right. Thank you guys. What do you think? I mean, I think you've been better about that lately, right? Finding the balance. You know, I was just talking about this at that dinner last night, about how

I have been trying. And then I can't... It's so tricky because it's like... I made serious changes and shifted things in my life. And then it happened to overlap with the success of the documentary, which made me so busy, you know? And so I didn't fully experience... That.

Right. But I used to plow through and towards, plow through my material and my tour and trying to get to the next thing. And I just, that's where it's really changed for me. Like, I'm just taking it much slower. I'm just doing a weekend a month, which I just used to not do. all. Yeah. And so that feels that feels good, but I, I'm curious to see how this new year come, you know, like what, what's coming. Uh, because if I maintain that and podcasting, that's a pretty sweet gig and the popping in and out of movies and TV shows, I'm all about it.

Yeah. That is, that feels like a schedule I can work with. And it, but it's not anything I've fully experienced yet because of the wonderful success of the documentary. So I don't know if I can, I don't know, I don't know the answer. Right. But you are from North Carolina. So I feel like you're holding the key to Ruth's future. I mean, I think when you're younger, that is the time to sort of take those risk in regards just her career.

Because you want to set your life up in a way where it's comfortable, hopefully. You've done some hard work. And so at some point in your life, you can take it easier and enjoy the fruits of that labor. That's kind of how I look at it. I don't know. It makes me bummed for Ruth about that relationship that, like, you could have been, you know, that person there was clearly a strong connection there that could have been the love of her life. So I would have been like, could that have still worked?

And maybe it will down the road. Yeah, maybe. It's kind of like, well, why not give that long distance thing ago? I've done it in the past and some, you know, I don't know. I always kind of think like give it a whirl. Same as like taking risk with work. Why not take risk there as well? And if it becomes a thing that's like, oh, this isn't working, then you know you've gone down that road.

But with work, I'm certainly not one to give advice because I work all the time. But I work all the time because I don't work to live. I genuinely love my work. It brings me a great deal of joy. I've probably had some things in my life fall apart maybe because of that commitment to that work. But I got fulfilled in that way, going on the road, doing shows, filming something, taping a podcast. My cup felt full because I was doing something I love.

But sometimes other people's cup feels not as full because you're not around. And so, yeah, I think there are sacrifices that come with it when you sort of dedicate. your life to a certain thing. So you just have to kind of decide what is important to you. Do you love your work so much that you're willing to sacrifice some of those things for it? Or do you feel empty in that you're working a lot and you're not being fulfilled by that and it's affecting your personal life? Does that make sense? Yeah.

I mean, Ruth was saying she really loves her job. And so it does feel like something to go towards for a beat. See how that, I don't know how long Ruth, maybe I wasn't listening, but I don't know how Ruth has been at this job. But the other thing that I always like to tell people to do is if you're not meeting friends or romantic interests in your day-to-day life, switch up the route that you take. Go to different places. Go find a whole new coffee shop, become a regular there. Find a new restaurant. Find a new park to walk your dog.

Just make yourself available. Because I always think of all of the different lives and worlds I could have started if I had just gone left. Right. And then all of a sudden you see your town in a whole different way. I mean, I've had my course change significantly because I decided. to go to one thing instead of another thing. Yeah. So you truly never know.

But I think even, I would say with work, you're young enough to like be focused on your work and have that be a priority. But maybe like also like I don't know what you're into, Ruth, but like say you are into tennis or soccer like join a league once a week so that you have, you know, something outside of work that you have to look forward to. I played soccer in a league for 15 years before COVID.

It was every Monday night and that was like my sacred time for me. Like I let no work things get in the way of it ever. And I like really loved having that thing for myself. Yeah. So whatever that thing might be for you, I would maybe also, you know, put that into your routine as well.

Ruth sounds like you have. a soccer career coming your way. Something. Let us know how it goes. Yeah. Whatever you're into, Ruth. Find it so that you have balance. Yeah. Go get them, Ruth.

Ruth, you got this. Yeah. And who knows what is ahead of for you in the love department. Good things. Nice North Carolina gal out there. Well, thank you for the questions. They're always a delight to hear. Yes.

submit questions and advice requests to speakpipe.com slash handsomepod. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Do that. Hit us up, y'all. We like to hear what you got to say. Yeah, hit us up. And also, I have new dates added to tignotaro.com.

Head over there, get your tickets, and come see me in the flesh. Mm-hmm. Yeah, same here. I'm doing a lot of fun shows coming up in August. up in the northeast, like Provincetown and West Hampton Beach and Foxwood Casinos and Red Bank, New Jersey, get on it.

Mm-hmm. And until next time, Keep it pretty handsome. Handsome is hosted by me, Tignotaro, May Martin, and Fortune Themster. The show is produced, recorded, and edited by Thomas Willett. Email us at Hand.

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