Heart Starts Pounding: Horrors, Hauntings, and Mysteries - 174. Reddit Scary Stories: Stalkers, Setups, and a Serial Killer (feat. Psychopedia)
Episode Date: April 30, 2026Today. Slater and I are reading Reddit scary stories about close encounters with people who were not who they said they were. A man offers a woman her dream job, but the company doesn't exist!? A frie...ndly neighbor starts knowing things he was never told. A first date takes a deliberate detour. And a hitchhiker carrying a small child through a Montana blizzard may have been one of the most dangerous predators in American history. TW: Abduction Find Investigator Slater & Psychopedia here!! @investigatorslater @psychopediapod Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/pw/podcast/psychopedia-true-crime-criminal-psychology/id1677222172 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2LBNRJG9B8vrruJNAuHsxp?si=ff9f7d7bdfbc4a4e Patreon: https://patreon.com/PsychopediaPod?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_fan&utm_content=copyLink Subscribe on Patreon to become a member of our Rogue Detecting Society and enjoy ad-free listening, monthly bonus content, merch discounts and more. Members of our High Council on Patreon also have access to our weekly after-show, Footnotes, where I share my case file with our producer, Matt. You can also enjoy many of these same perks, including ad-free listening and bonus content when you subscribe on Apple Podcasts. Follow on Tik Tok and Instagram for a daily dose of horror. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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Welcome back to another episode of Heart Starts Pounding,
a podcast of Horrors, Hauntings, and Mysteries.
As always, I'm your host, Kayla Moore.
Now, you guys know that I do love having friends
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and today I have a very special friend back for you.
It's investigators Slater from the Psychopedia podcast,
and today we're going to talk about
very strange and unsettling encounters.
These are Reddit stories that kept me up all night,
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gift. All right. I want to get straight into this episode and show you guys the scary stories I found,
so let's get into it. Slater, welcome back to HeartSour founding. Thank you. I'm so happy to be back.
It's good to have you back. It is great to be back. This is my favorite place to be.
We did an episode last, I think, end of the summer last year, and it crushed. It was another one of
like very scary encounters that people have had. And I don't know what it is about these
terrifying encounters, but I think a lot of people in the audience resonate very deeply with them.
It's very relatable content, which is terrifying. And then I hope you and I can like break it down a
little bit and make it a little less terrifying. Like let's confront the anxieties that arise
from these stories and let's tackle it. Yes, because it's like the anxiety of this happening to you,
but then I think a lot of people actually have stories of things like this happening to them.
Actually, last time we, if you haven't watched that episode, I highly recommend everyone go listen to it
and watch it. But we talked about, I think that was the one where we talked about there was like
a pregnant woman and someone was like, you should come to my house, you should come to my house.
And the amount of pregnant women that reached out afterwards being like the exact same thing
happened to me. Like once I was visibly pregnant, I felt like I was a target and people knew I was
vulnerable and they would follow me. And that was really eye-opening for me. That's beyond terrifying.
Yeah, because you're protective obviously of yourself, but I mean, you're coming at.
me and now my baby, like that's petrifying. Yes. And I can't run away. Oh, you're so vulnerable
in that case. But I think we also talked about like terrifying events that have happened like on
campgrounds, like summer camps and stuff like that we talked about, which like still haunts me.
Some of the, what we were talking about. It was so scary. And we just did an episode where we were
doing listener stories. And I had a listener write in who she used to go or no, she worked out a
Catholic summer camp. And aside from, I mean, we did like a terrifying encounter of someone who lived near
the summer camp and was chasing the kids. But that one was like there were, there was some sort of like
demon or something in her cabin at this summer camp. So summer camps in general are just very spooky
places. Yes. I mean, you're out in the middle of nowhere. Yep. Especially sleepaway ones and you're not
with your family and, you know. I felt when I worked out a summer camp, I felt like I was in a fishbowl.
I felt like there were things in the woods that could just see me and all the kids and they knew that it was
just 500 kids on this campground and I always felt like exposed. We were in danger and exposed. That's the
exact word for it. Yep. I'm glad you're safe and you're here to tell the tale. Thank you. We made it. Well,
I think we should dive right in because we have some really spooky ones to get into today. So I'm going to
start and then we'll have you read one and we'll go from there. But this first story that I want to
read to you is titled, Man tried to lure me to a place that didn't exist. And it was posted and
Let's Not Meet seven months ago by Hold My Jumex, and they write.
When I was about 25 years old, I was working at a tiny restaurant that served desserts.
It was pretty hidden and a quiet location, so I was there alone in the mornings.
On one occasion, a man walked in, and I recognized him from the night before.
He had been there with his wife and his adult children.
That was the only other time that I had ever seen him, though.
This time, he was alone, and he began talking to me.
Everything seemed like the typical small talk, but he kept commenting that I looked 19 years old and saying that he could help me, that he could get me into his job that paid seven more dollars than what I was making at the time.
I was intrigued at first, so I asked for the name of the company, kind of getting excited, but he just kept talking and he didn't give it to me.
He then began talking about how he has affairs and that his wife knows about them and is okay with it, mentioning that he had an affair once was someone who was 19.
and that now she was happily married and that she thanked him for everything he taught her.
At this point, I'm starting to get creeped out, but he would not stop talking.
He wouldn't stop pestering me about this job telling me that I could apply,
but he wouldn't give me the name of the place.
He would tell me the overall area of where it was at, which was by the outskirts of the city,
but he always avoided the name.
He kept telling me to follow him after work so that he could get me in,
and I would probably just be hired on the spot.
I told him that my car was getting fixed, so my sister would be.
be picking me up anyway, so I couldn't follow him. But since he wouldn't take no for an answer,
I eventually decided to tell him I would just so that he could leave. But as soon as I did,
he changed the goal and now he was telling me to go into his car with him, and that way,
they would see me arrive with him and they would hire me right away. In between all of this,
he randomly shows me a white paper that was supposedly his license to carry, very random. He also
finally gave me the name of the company.
Eventually, I told him I would go with him
and come back at the time I would be off,
just so that he would leave.
I went to the back and looked up the name of this supposed job,
and there was nothing.
I used Google Maps to search the area he mentioned,
and no, no factory, not anything.
Once my time to leave arrived,
my sister picked me up from the side of the building,
and as we drove away, he had indeed come back
and was parked near the location around the corner.
I never saw him again, and I was recently retelling this story to a friend of mine,
and I do deeply regret not reporting this to the police.
That's the story.
Well, good on her for not getting into his car.
First and foremost.
First and foremost.
Yes.
And for doing what do they say?
Like, never go to a second location with someone.
Like if you're somewhere, never go with them to another place.
Especially if he showed you his face, which he did, because he was sitting in this restaurant, right?
So she obviously could identify him.
You know what I mean?
So typically if you, they say, if you wind up in a perpetrator's car and that perpetrator is not wearing a mask, it's not looking great for the outcome because they don't anticipate you ever leaving to be able to then report them to the cops.
Whoa, I didn't even think about that, but that makes so much sense that they're like, well, if you ever leave, you're going to wrap me out. So I'm just going to kill you.
Right. So the fact that he was there and like very exposed in what he was doing and trying to get her to go into his car, I feel like.
Like had she somehow, for some reason, you know, wound up in his car, I doubt she would have ever made it out, assuming he is a perpetrator and not just some creepy weirdo, which is possible.
Yes.
Well, creepy weirdo for sure.
That's the bar.
That's where he's starting at, a creepy weirdo, potentially someone more threatening.
But the part of the story, I was just reading more about Keith Reneery, the nexium guy.
And there's a part of this story that reminded me of him because he says, oh, I have had affairs.
with women who are 19 years old and they thank me for everything I taught them. I have so much
wisdom that I can give to young women. And Keith Reneery used to always say stuff like that too.
Because they're so arrogant and narcissistic. And, you know, I wonder, I don't think that these
people like Keith are just saying it to try and get these young women to fall all over them.
I think they truly believe the bulls. A hundred percent. I think they truly believe the BS that they are
spewing. I think they're that arrogant and that.
that narcissistic that they actually believe that the women who they quote-unquote had affairs with.
I'm going to say who you prayed upon. Yeah. Are so thankful for all that you offered. I doubt that.
Yes. And there's something extra sick about it being someone so young and thinking like you have so
much to teach them. I mean, yeah, it's predatory behavior, exactly what you said. Yep. You're finding
somebody, you know, the younger women are perhaps more vulnerable, a little, you know, less exposed to the
horrors that are out there and therefore easier to persuade and manipulate and are just that much
more malleable. So if you're telling me the women you have affairs with are typically 19,
that's very, very telling, given your age. And saying, you look 19. You look just like these
women that I've courted. Oh, you look barely legal. That's just despicable. So freaky, so freaky.
We did an episode actually that was all about people being lured to fake jobs.
Ooh.
Which also is a thing because I mean, that's such a, it's such a, people are so vulnerable, I guess, when they're looking for jobs.
I know in my job searches like during my unemployment too, sometimes you're like, I'll take literally anything.
And we did an episode that was specifically about people who have gotten murdered because of the promise of a job.
Oh, yeah.
Well, in my work professionally at my family's law office.
firm. And I can obviously just speak vaguely. I'm not going to mention names or anything like that or
location. But we have two women who were responding to Facebook ads to be what they thought,
to be hostesses at a restaurant. So they replied to this ad and they show up and they were manipulated
into basically like dancing for the quote unquote manager. I think I recently told this on an episode.
they were like basically, this is what they were told once they arrived. Remember, they are desperate for work. They see this ad. They think it's legitimate. It's on Facebook, right? Like, it's a Facebook ad. This is totally legitimate. I'm going with my girlfriend. Like, we're going to be fine. They walk in. Everything is great. Right. They're essentially sort of love bombed in the beginning. Like, you know, you ladies seem perfect for the position. We pay really well. Here's the thing. It is a restaurant. We do, you know, we do want you to serve as hostesses. But it's also a club, like a job. Like a job.
gentleman's club. And on occasion, if we're, you know, really backed up the hostesses, it would be
really helpful if you could dance. On occasion, you never will have to do that. You will never have
to do that. But it is part of the application process because we just want to make sure whoever we
hire to work as hostesses are prepared for that very, very unlikely scenario. So they're on this
interview. They need the job. And it's like they were saying to me, in the moment, it seemed so
legitimate? Like, they, they were so convinced because these people are manipulators. They are
experts at what they do. It ended up being a human trafficking situation. It was absolutely
horrible. And thank God they wound up making it out alive and okay. But that's how sort of simple,
I want to say, the plot was. Yeah. Like, the ploy, rather. Like, come, you know, we're going to put
a Facebook ad out and we're going to lure you for legitimate work.
Yeah, and serve. And like, because on Facebook, too, you select who you want to see it. So you're just picking like young women. Yeah. Exactly. And it's getting served to a bunch of young women. And then they show up. And like I could, you know, when you're in that position too, you're like I already came all the way out here. Like they've been so nice to me. They already said I'm really not going to have to do it. But this is. Yeah. And I could see too just feeling like it's wrong. But being like I guess I'll just do this. And then it'll be over. And maybe I'll get this job and we'll never have to think about this again. But. And you have this full sense of safety. Like you're with your.
and you kind of look at each other, you kind of both agree with each other.
Like, we'll just do this because he's telling us we're going to get the job.
And that's what we're here for.
That's what we need.
Really devastating.
And they probably set the whole thing up to look, like they could have done it at a real
restaurant too.
Like they can set it up to make it look way more legit.
Absolutely.
So.
I'm so glad they made it out.
Oh, thank goodness.
Seriously.
Truly devastating.
And then you think of all the people who didn't make it out.
It's just horrific.
I know.
Oh, very scary.
So, I mean, like lesson of that.
one if someone just shows up to your job and says they have another job for you, but you have to get
in their car, big no. It's like the equivalent of, I have this puppy that really needs help.
You think you can come, you know, to, it's really manipulative and very hard to say no.
I mean, they just are very good at knowing exactly what human emotions to tap into to lure people.
Like, what is how much can I lean into someone's sense of responsibility or guilt or wanting to help and use that to get
them to do what I want them to do, basically. Yeah, well said, exactly.
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I really do. Yes. Okay, so this next story is titled, I might have met a serial killer.
Posted one month ago on creepy encounters by top degree 7267. I hope I said that name correctly.
I was a teen runaway heading back home to Washington from Montana on February 25, 1997. I had two male
companions who were also teen runaways with me, and we had stopped at Courts Flats Campground
Rest Stop in Montana for a break from our drive. It was snowing heavily as we left the rest stop. I could
barely see the road to I-90 when I saw a man carrying a little boy, hitchhiking. My first thought
was he was some idiot parent endangering his child and that poor kid shouldn't be in a blizzard.
It never occurred to me to wonder where his car was located. I decided. I decided to be a little bit of
to pick them up so the boy wouldn't freeze.
The man never offered any information about where he came from or where he was going.
The man also did not realize when I picked him up that I had two teen boys in the back of my van
and he became unnerved and began speaking in this maniacal fashion about buying a boat in Arizona,
saying things like, you know where you get a good boat?
Arizona. Do you know why? There's no ocean, so they sell them cheap.
I was relieved when he turned to the boys in the back of my Plymouth Voyager and began talking to them so that I could tune him out and concentrate on driving.
The man had curly brown hair with the devil's lock in the front and a scar on his upper lip and his chin.
The boy appeared to be between two and four years old, wearing a blue coat, red or blue warm-up pants, and light-colored boots that resembled construction boots.
The boy would not look at any of us, nor did he turn to the man for comfort, just the boy.
looked down at the floor and didn't move from the man's lap. I felt bad for him, thinking he must be
so scared of us. They were not with us very long, and the man asked to be let out at the gas station
in Superior Montana, and that was the end of that interaction. In 2017, I found true crime media,
and it made me reflect on 17-year-old me and the terrible risks I took hitchhiking and picking up
hitchhikers. I had a few disturbing rides, but the one that sticks out the most was the hitchhiker and the boy.
On a whim, I googled serial killers, I-90, and missing children. I didn't really believe I would
find any likely offenders until I did. My heart dropped when I saw the devil's lock and scars on his
lip and chin, and even more when I found a video he posted online, his maniacal voice, style, and tone
matching the boat guy I had given a ride to.
Joseph Duncan the third.
The worst part was that there was a little boy
that went missing in the same region two days prior.
I connected with his aunt and she connected me with the FBI
so I could provide a detail that they hadn't made public.
If you've ever researched Duncan,
you know that he was one of the worst human beings ever.
He had a court date on that same day I would have picked him up,
coincidentally, his birthday, and there was no record of him showing up for that court date.
There was a warrant issued for his arrest in 1997 for missing a court date.
By April, he absconded and ended up in California, where he took the life of another young victim.
I wrote him a letter, and he wrote back and stated that he was not the man I picked up,
but that I was very brave for picking up a hitchhiker. The letter is the weirdest thing I've ever
received in the mail. One more thing. While I was looking into the timeline of Duncan, I reached out to
the two teenagers that were with me at the time. They both said that it could be him based on the
photos and in the video, but they couldn't be 100% sure. They said the creepiest part was when the
man turned around to talk to them. He had said, you're not buying any of this bullshit, are you?
And then he asked to be let out at the next town.
Oh, and that is the story.
Wow.
That is healing.
As the now mother of a young boy, that's hard to read.
Yeah, it's terrifying.
I have some thoughts on it.
I have not actually covered Joseph Duncan III on psychopedia, but I looked into him a little bit because he is actually probably one of the worst human beings.
to have ever existed. Yeah, and you never hear his name. Yeah, no, he's for whatever reason. He's not one of the
headlining, if you will, serial killers. I guess, you know, what he did was particularly horrific. He
annihilated an entire family and he focused on children. He was, you know, a pedophile, to say the
least, but a child predator. And he assaulted and he killed children. And it's beyond,
beyond horrific. So I'm happy we don't see his name out there too much because I don't want to know.
about him. But did you read anything about his backstory? Like what? I'm curious what would have happened to
very slightly about his backstory. And there was a mentioning of a domineering mother, which is like very,
very textbook for men who go on to kill. But usually it's, it's men that go on to kill women in
particular. But again, that wasn't really Duncan's, you know, victimology. I mean, he did
kill at least one woman when he killed an entire family. But, but. But,
But really he was out for the children. And one other potential, you know, obviously red flag that did come up in his history. Again, I did sort of a cursory glance into his background. But there is a mentioning that he was abused as a child, although his siblings deny his allegations of abuse, which doesn't mean it didn't happen because it's possible his siblings didn't know. Like that's entirely possible. Yeah. Yeah. So yeah. So those are two predictive behaviors that we will often see in the
somebody who goes on to offend in the way that Joseph Duncan III went on to offend. You'll see
childhood abuse, a domineering mother. So I don't think, I think it's likely that those two,
you know, facts were accurate. But if you break this down behaviorally, based on his victimology
and how he kidnapped his victims and then went on to kill his victims, we would probably
classify him as like a power control offender with strong parapherllular. And,
specifically pedophilic and sadistic drives. His crimes were methodical and they escalated. So there
wasn't really sort of this element of chaos. Offenders like Duncan are typically goal-oriented and very
controlled. I mean, they're maniacs. I'm not giving them any credit. It's just like how they sort of
organize themselves. They don't behave in ways that unnecessarily draw attention to themselves.
So hitchhiking in a blizzard, I would say, is very uncharacteristic.
of an offender like Duncan.
There are some things, yeah, there are some things that do align, like geography, like Montana
along the I-90 corridor hits, you know, fits with the movement patterns, 1997 tracks with
like the period, you know, when Duncan was like active.
Obviously the physical description, the scars and like that devil's lock, that hair thingy.
Yeah.
And the fact that he had a child with him, you know, potentially a kidnapped child.
But the man that this Reddit user described was erratic, maniacal, rambling about boats in Arizona, right?
Yeah.
That doesn't really match Duncan's profile because he was very controlled.
And when he did speak, and I'll tell you how we know what he said in a minute, but when he did speak, it was always about the devil and how the devil was present.
and the devil was interested or like into children's suffering and crying.
So he had a very sort of specific talk track.
And we know this because there was a videotape that was presented in court that the imagery.
I mean, it's beyond terrifying and sadistic and horrific.
But we heard him in that video and it was all about the devil.
So anyway, all this is to say that winding.
up, you know, hitchhiking in a blizzard is very random and disorganized and going into a car
with three people inside of it. It's extremely high-risk behavior that you wouldn't typically
see in an organized offender. Like, it just contradicts what we would expect from an offender like
him. Again, I haven't done like a deep, deep dive on him. Yeah, yeah, yeah. This is so interesting.
I'm like so just enraptured in what you're saying. Oh, my God. I love this stuff. I can talk about it
all day. All day. So you're going to have to stop me.
Because, yeah, I mean, I guess there is a chance because the poster is saying, I think it was him.
And then also him writing the poster or a letter is so scary.
So that's something else that I'm glad you brought up because that also fascinated me.
First of all, he denies being the one that she picked up, right?
Like, he's like, that wasn't me.
You picked up somebody else.
He had nothing to gain by denying that it was him if it, in fact, was him.
He pleaded guilty to all charges against him and he accepted a plea deal.
He also agreed to cooperate with investigators and provide them with things like passwords to
encrypted files that he had on his computer.
Like he was very cooperative and he pleaded guilty.
So there's just nothing for him to gain by lying.
Yeah.
So he was the type of person that he was just like, this is what I did.
Yeah.
I'm okay just telling people that this is what I did and getting the sentence that I get.
Totally.
He pleaded guilty and he took a plea agreement. He was life behind bars. It wasn't like a walk in the park. But he completely accepted responsibility for all of the crimes that he was charged with. So why wouldn't he accept responsibility for something like getting in the car? That's like so benign in comparison to what he accepted responsibility for. So like that doesn't land for me. You know, that doesn't hit. Yeah. Okay. So maybe it wasn't him. But also.
So the I-90 corridor specifically in Montana is a very terrifying place. It's a lot of people have gone missing along that corridor, especially indigenous people who live in the area have gone missing there. So there is like the terrifying reality that it just could have been some other. I mean, yes, it could have been a dad with his son in the middle of a blizzard on the I-90 corridor, which also feels just kind of random. But it could have just been someone else. Like that's just a scary place in general to be. Yeah. It could have been. It could.
have, like you said, it could have been nothing. It could have just been a very strange situation.
What's weird, you know, which this reader pointed out is that he didn't say like, oh, thank you so much for picking me.
My car broke down, you know, half a mile away. Like, he didn't offer an explanation for why he was walking through a blizzard with a child.
I think where I land is like, does it feel like it could have been him? Yeah, it does. The timeline, geography, make it plausible.
but behaviorally, it doesn't line up for me.
Wow.
This is fascinating.
No, thank you so much for looking into this so much.
You should be an investigator.
Oh, my goodness.
Good idea, Kailen.
All right.
I have another one that I want to read for you.
So excited.
This one is called Moved Out at 17.
I didn't know I was being watched.
And it was posted three months ago in Creepy Encounters by Time Hair 9-440.
And it goes.
Okay.
Three years ago, I moved into a student apartment one hour away from my parents' home.
I was 17 at the time.
I had negotiated for a long time with my parents so I could live on my own and study independently
since the school was far from home.
At first, they were reluctant, but they eventually agreed.
I had a small apartment, but I liked it.
I was able to decorate it the way I wanted.
I made friends quickly, and I met my best friend, Eva.
Everything started when a boy moved into the apartment next to mine.
At first, I didn't notice him.
It was only when I came back from a little.
weekend at my parents' house that I saw a new doormat at the door next to mine. One evening,
I was at the common room, a place with couches, a mini bar, and a foosball table, basically a place
where young people can hang out and pass time. I was there with my friends when a boy entered
the room. At first glance, he looked shy and especially lost. Eva suggested inviting him to join
us. She got up and came back with him. He sat with us, and we went around introducing ourselves.
For the rest of the evening, he was quiet and reserved and he didn't talk much, but I didn't pay a lot
attention to him. As we went back up to our apartments, Eva discreetly told me, did you notice that he
kept looking at you? I think he likes you. I just smiled because at the time, boys weren't really
interested in me and I was more focused on my studies. Wednesday was mail day. I went down to my
mailbox to get my mail, nothing special. While flipping through pieces of mail, a small piece of paper
fell out with my first name written on it. I opened it and written in pen, it said,
you dress so well, you're more beautiful every day.
I smiled imagining myself in a romantic TV series, but again, I didn't think much about it.
When I talked about it with Eva, we both laughed.
One evening, I was working at a small restaurant near my school to earn a little bit of pocket
money, and that evening, the boy came in.
For the story, I'm going to call him Dylan.
He sat at the bar, and I went over to take his order.
He was very smiley and he talked a lot, even though I had other customers to take care of.
It was only at the end of my shift at closing time that I realized he had stayed for two hours.
I found that strange, but wasn't really concerning.
We went back up to our apartments together.
I was about to say goodbye before going into mine, but he hugged me.
I was kind of surprised.
And he said, I'm happy to have a friend here.
You're one of the only ones.
That was pretty surprising because we barely knew each other.
The next day I went to school and I ran into him in the hallways.
He came over to talk to me.
We chatted in between classes, but the conversation was only about me.
He asked questions like, what city do your parents live in?
What's your class schedule?
Do you have a boyfriend?
But when I asked him questions about himself, he dodged them, and he always brought the conversation
back to me.
In the days that followed, I kept running into him every morning on my way to school.
In the evening, when I got home, sometimes even in the school hallways, even though before
we had hardly ever crossed paths.
I found this really strange.
I talked about it with Eva and a few friends, but they all told me that maybe he just
had the same schedule as me.
I had thought that the little note I received in my mail.
might have come from him, but I didn't mention it to him. One day, when I was cooking at home,
the doorbell rang. I thought it was Eva coming to pick up some of her things, but when I looked
through the people, I saw Dylan, and he was smiling. I hesitated to open the door, but I did anyways.
He was holding a box of chocolates, and he handed it to me and said, this is to thank you for being a
golden friend. I thanked him, and I closed the door. That evening in front of the TV, something clicked.
I was eating the chocolates when I remembered that the day before I had gone grocery shopping with a friend and we had passed by the candy aisle.
She bought chocolate and I had told her that the brand she got was my favorite.
But since they were a bit expensive, I preferred to wait until next month when I had a bit more money.
And that was strange because I hadn't seen Dylan in the store at any point, but I didn't remember telling him that I loved that brand of chocolate.
It bothered me a bit, but I thought maybe he had asked Eva.
So I talked to her about it and she told me that he had never gone to see her.
We both found this really weird.
As the days went by, I kept running into him more and more, and every time he came to talk to me.
Honestly, it was becoming annoying.
I talked about it with some friends who simply told me to tell him the truth, that it bothered me, and he needed to keep his distance.
So one morning, in the school hallway, I went up to him, stressed out, and I told him the truth.
Dylan, you're very kind.
I know we're neighbors, but I feel like you're following me, and you think you're really close to me, even though we barely know each other.
I hope you understand.
It's not against you, but I would like you to keep your distance.
At that moment, his face fell.
He looked angry and a bit sad.
It was hard, but it was better that way.
Just before the end of year holiday season,
my cousin came to visit me,
and he stayed at my place for just two days.
We spent a good amount of time together,
and I ran into Dylan less and less.
When I did see him, he didn't even look up at me.
I think he was maybe hurt,
but I preferred that to him following me everywhere
and talking to me nonstop.
After his stay, I walked my cousin to the train station
so he could go home.
And when I came back,
I ran into Dylan in the hallway on our floor.
He said hello, I said hello back.
And before I went into my apartment, he asked,
is that boy your boyfriend?
I told him no, that was my cousin
who had come to visit me before the holidays.
And then he went back into his apartment
without saying anything.
One evening when I got home,
there was a bouquet of flowers
placed on the table in my kitchen
with a small note that said on it,
Happy holidays.
I immediately understood that it was from Dylan.
But what bothered me was that the bouquet
was inside my apartment.
Dylan didn't have the keys to get into my place, and above all, he had no right to do that.
I took the bouquet, and I went to ring his doorbell.
I admit, I was angry.
He opened the door, and I said, listen, I'm not going to repeat myself again.
I'm sorry, but I'm not interested in you, and I don't want your gifts either, so please,
don't waste your money and give this bouquet to someone else.
And his face fell again, and he just replied, okay.
I asked him how he had managed to leave the bouquet in my apartment,
and he simply told me that the building caretaker had opened my.
door so he could put the flowers inside. I didn't look into it any further and just went back home.
One night I was asleep in my bed when my doorbell rang. It scared me so I woke up with a start.
I looked at the time on my phone and it was three in the morning. I wondered who could be disturbing me at that hour.
I got up and looked through the peephole but the hallway was dark. Couldn't see anything.
I stepped back slowly and then there was a soft knock on the door. From the other side, I heard someone whisper,
open up. I just want to explain myself. And I recognized it as Dylan's voice. I hate it. I was
terrified because that's not normal to do that at three in the morning. At first, I wanted to check that
my door was locked, but if I made noise, he would know that I was awake. So I simply went back to
my bathroom, the only room in the apartment that I could lock. I thought he would leave,
but he kept knocking on the door harder and harder. I was terrified. I took my phone and sent a
message to Eva. Of course, I didn't get a reply. No one's awake at three in the morning. Then I heard
a metallic noise. That's when I realized he was trying to force the lock. My heart stopped,
but I took my phone and called the police. I was so stressed that I could only give my address
my floor and my door number. The operator told me she would stay on the line until the police arrived.
I could feel him pulling on my handle and I knew that time was running out. What would happen if he
managed to open the door before the police arrived. The longer I waited, the harder the blows on
the door became. At one point, I heard loud footsteps in the hallway and someone shouting.
I finally calmed down when I heard knocking on the door and a man shouting,
Open up, miss, it's the police. I got up and looked through the people, and yeah, it was the
police. I opened the door and Dylan was on the ground, handcuffed, and he was furious.
One officer dealt with him while the other one took my statement, and I told him everything from
beginning to end. They said that they would call me when they had more info.
Then came the holiday season. I stayed at my parents' house for two weeks and honestly it did me a lot of good.
The police called me back and I was shocked when they told me that they had searched Dylan's phone and laptop and they had found a lot of information about me.
Dylan had found all my social media accounts, even my parents' Facebook accounts.
I also learned that he had previously assaulted his ex-girlfriend several times and that she had even ended up in the hospital because of him.
After that, I finished my studies, but I moved into a shared apartment with Eva.
And today, I live with my parents.
And I admit that I am afraid to live alone again.
I don't know when I'll have the courage to do so.
How would you have reacted in my place?
Oh my God.
I was on the edge of my seat, Caitlin, that whole time.
I hate it so much.
Oh, wow.
That was very intense and terrifying.
It's really, really scary.
When you keep telling someone, no, please don't do this.
Hey, and she was so nice to him too.
at first.
That's the thing.
You're not going to go to level 15.
You know what I mean?
I don't know where that level or where that number came from.
You're not going to go to a super high level immediately, right?
Because you're so afraid of like overreacting and blowing something out of proportion.
Maybe you're misreading the situation.
So at first you're polite about it.
And that's what we're taught too, especially I hate to say it, as women, like we're taught like to smile and be polite.
And you know what I mean?
So you're first, at least I'll speak for myself.
Like I'm wired and nip.
my first response is like, you know, this is fine. We're fine. Like, I'm going to be polite and we're going to, you know, we're going to talk and everything's going to be fine. So, yeah, so she really gave gave a lot of patience initially and did it a lot nicer than she probably would do in the future because she's going to learn from this. That's for sure. Whoa. So, so, so freaky. You know what? This reminds me of, have I ever told you this story of when I was in the seventh grade? I was on.
I was whatever on like the bus going to school. And this new kid, I'll call him Alex, had moved into
my town, small town, everyone knew everyone. And he just would get on the bus and started sitting right
next to me, like in the seat next to me, which was so strange. Like there was enough space on the bus
where everyone had their own seat to themselves. And he wouldn't talk to me, but he would just
sit next to me every single day. And soon he started bringing snacks. And he would like sit on the
bus right next to me and he'd pull out a snack and be like, do you want some of this? And I'd be like, no.
And the whole time I'm like, can you just not sit right next to me? Like there was a free seat in
front of me, please just like get out of here. And he was also, he was just kind of like a
strange kid in general. My town was really small and he was known to like, he was like graffiti things.
And it wasn't really a place where you had graffiti. I don't know, the bridge. But so everyone
just knew him as like the kid that just moved to our town to sort of graffitiing everything in the town.
So I just really wanted to be left alone on my way to school. And so one day, he brings a
banana and he opens it and it smells horrible and he's eating it and it sounds horrible.
And I told him, I was like, hey. It's the scariest thing you've said all day.
I know. That was my breaking point. That was the moment where I was like, he can't sit next
to me anymore. And I turned to him and I said, hey, the seat in front of me is free.
Can you just sit there today? And I've never seen someone look so angry at me and disappointed.
And he just like gets his stuff, huffs up, sits in front of me. And that was.
that. And every day he'd come back on the bus and you'd sit right in front of me, but he wouldn't
sit next to me. So I was like, okay, we're good. One day he stops showing up to the bus. He stops
being on our bus route. And I never heard from him after that. And everyone was like, where did Alex
go? Like what happened? And finally, like maybe two months later or something, just like a few weeks
later. Someone was like, whatever happened to Alex? Like, he used to be on our bus. I haven't seen him
at school or anything. And someone goes, oh, someone called the police on him or for some reason,
the police went to his house and he had been building pipe bombs.
Oh my God.
And he got arrested.
And so he doesn't go to our high school anymore.
Wow.
Or middle school.
And I was like, whoa.
Wow.
I mean, you were spot on for picking up on something obviously amiss.
It's a really dark energy coming from it.
Yeah.
Yeah, really dark energy.
And again, I don't know if he was building pipe bombs to like for me specifically,
but I could not shake that thought afterwards that like, this is my fault.
It's because I upset him.
if I just let him sit next to me and eat his bananas, we would have been fine or whatever.
That's terrifying. And he was obviously, I mean, he was young too, but he was like imposing himself
on you. And he, you know, he knew what he was doing. He knew he was making you uncomfortable. He was
breaking you down, you know? Yeah. Just. And you know what? The banana was a test.
He's like, if I can eat this next to her, I can do anything. She'll never say no to me.
His big mistake wasn't the pipe bomb. He was the banana. Yeah. Oh, yeah. No, but it's that thing of like,
like testing boundaries.
And it seems like it's what this kid was doing too of like, I'll just start showing up in the hallway with her.
Yeah.
And I'll talk to her. And then I'll be in the next place she goes and I'll talk to her. And then it keeps like encroaching closer and closer and closer. And that can feel so threatening. Threatening. Yeah. I think it's like a, they say the expression of the frog in the boiling pot of water. Like you kind of maybe don't realize it at first. And that's what they're counting on. You know what he means? So like at first, you know, within this story like he just what, like left her a note or wrote her name on a piece.
piece of paper or said something like, thanks for hanging, whatever it was in the beginning,
that he seemed so innocuous, you know. And then you step it up a little bit. And then you
step it up a little bit more. And you see what you can keep getting away with. You know what I mean?
And that's how you're testing those boundaries and seeing how far you can go. And it's really hard
when you're on the receiving end of that to know when to put an end to it or is it just going to fizzle out?
am I overreacting? Am I misjudging? I think the moral of the story is like, listen to your gut always. And don't be
afraid to put your foot down and say off the bat very firmly, like, I don't want to know of you. I don't
want to see you. I don't, like, this isn't ever going to be a thing and you actually just make me
uncomfortable. I know we've only met twice, but to your point, Kaelan, you have this dark energy
and I don't like it. It's making me uncomfortable. Your vibe is off. There's something evil there.
Instead of being polite in the beginning, like, oh, thank you.
Like, how did you know I like this chocolate?
Whatever, you know what you mean?
Like, we have to be okay listening to our gut and responding accordingly.
We can't worry about hurting feelings or stepping on toes.
You know, I'm not saying you're going to like call the cops on him, you know, the second
time he looks at you and makes you uncomfortable, but you have every right to say, don't look at me again.
I don't want you in my face ever.
I don't want you in my face ever.
I know.
I'm honestly so impressive.
by the way she spoke to him at the beginning, because I think a lot of people would have waited a lot longer to say something. And like what she said was so spot on. The like, I think you think we're a lot closer than we are. And that's making me uncomfortable. But I don't really know you. And I'd rather just keep some distance between us. Like that was beautiful. That was so. And the fact that he could. I think she really did everything right. The only like the only time that maybe more alarm bells should have been going off. And that actually kind of freaked me out too is when he said that, oh, our apartment manager, like the building manager.
let me into your apartment. Like once, yeah, I would go check in with that guy because, like,
you can't just be letting people into that apartment because they say that they're her friend.
100%. But then you also wonder the legitimacy of that. You think that's what happened or you think
he broke through a window. You know what I mean? Like, I think he probably did break in, but still,
even that excuse of like, well, someone else let me in. It's like, well, I need to go talk to that person
and like get that story to see if that's actually what happened. Because even if that is what happened,
that's not okay. It's almost distracting. It's almost like shifting the blame.
to the landlord. Like, well, they let me in. It's like, well, you should not need to be in my apartment
when I'm not here. No one should be allowed to come into my apartment when I'm not here.
Like, no one should just be inviting themselves into my space. Ever. That is so, yeah, that's,
that's really scary. It's just such a violation. It really is. Thank God she's okay. I can only imagine
the fear of being in your bathroom with the door. I'm just wondering, who's going to get in first,
the cops or this maniac, you know, like you're praying that the cops. I know. I know. I'm
praying that the cops are going to...
And time is ticking.
Yeah, that they're going to show it.
And like, she'd look through the hole in her door to, like, make sure it was the police.
Like, it could have very well been him right there.
You know what I mean?
That's so scary.
One thing I recommend to anyone who's listening to this and is like, well, I don't want anyone to ever be able to get into my apartment even if it's locked by forcing the lock.
I have these straps.
They're blue.
I forget what they're called, but I take...
I started taking them when I traveled.
And then I also just when I, before I was married and I lived in an apartment.
I would do it to my door.
But they, you can, they're Velcro and they go around the lock so that even if someone
has a key to your apartment, they won't be able to turn the key and unlock it because the force
of the strap will be holding the lock in place.
Interesting.
I've never heard of that.
And I highly recommend them.
Just for the peace of mind.
Like, no one's going to try to force their way into your apartment 99.99% of the time.
But even just like when I'm traveling, I can at least sleep at night because I know like the lock is
double enforced.
Yeah.
I'll, like on the video, I'll put up a picture of them so people can see what they are.
But highly recommend.
I love them.
Yeah.
No, peace of mind for sure.
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This post is titled, I was once mugged, and I am convinced that it was a setup.
Posted four months ago on Let's Not Meet by Glitter Dorses 21.
I moved to East Los Angeles the summer after high school.
My parents bought the house from my aunt and uncle who had just moved out.
We already had family in that area so it felt familiar.
The neighborhood was nice and quiet.
The plan was for me to live with my parents and save money while I figured out what I wanted next.
I was getting ready to start community college and apply to a medical assistant program.
Back then, everyone had an opinion about East L.A.
People loved to describe it as dangerous, even though most of them had never even been there.
I grew up visiting my cousins in that same area and it was never as dramatic as people made it sound.
These places are not scary to me.
They are just neighborhoods where people live.
I met Michael at my cousin's house party that summer.
He had tattoos and looked edgy.
When he asked me out, I said yes.
I was flattered and curious what he would be like.
He told me he knew a place with the best guava nectar in town.
Okay, and that we could go to a drive-in movie afterward.
I actually left.
Okay, I did too.
I like guava nectar, but I had never heard anyone hype it up like that.
But like I said, I was curious, and I agreed.
He parked at the drive-in first.
He said we would leave the car there, walk to the restaurant, and come back for the movie.
We even asked the employees if that was okay.
They said yes.
But something about the plan felt strange.
The restaurant was about a 20-minute walk away, and the movie started at 9.
It was close to 8.
I asked him if it was smart to walk by ourselves so late.
He smiled and said he thought I was not afraid of neighborhoods like this since I had spent so much time in East L.A.
He said it like a challenge.
I remembered mentioning that earlier and he used my own words to keep me from saying no.
So I went along with it.
Very few people were on the street and it was dark.
As we got closer to the restaurant, he stopped a few times to show me videos on his phone.
There were silly clips that he thought were funny.
I was uneasy about the walk.
It felt like Michael wanted it to let him.
last longer than it should have.
Something was off.
Looking back, I think Michael was stalling.
Then a car pulled up beside us.
A masked man got out and walked towards us.
For a second, I thought it might be a prank like for a YouTube video.
Then I heard his voice and he said,
I need your phone and wallet.
I remember thinking he sounded young, maybe high school age.
He also sounded nervous and out of breath.
I can't prove this, but I could tell.
this was not something he had done before.
I think he was hesitating.
At one point, I even remember the driver yelled,
hurry up, man.
He yelled back, I am hurrying up, bro.
She's right here.
I kept looking at Michael.
Michael looked back.
I could not see their faces,
but something in that moment told me
that they knew each other.
He took my wallet and phone,
then ran back to the car,
and they drove away.
Michael stood still.
He did not help,
but to be fair,
I don't know what he could have done.
You never know what someone with a gun might do if you make the wrong move.
I was in shock, trying to make sense of what just happened.
I told Michael we should go to the police.
He kept insisting we should still go get that guava nectar so I could calm down.
I had just been robbed and he was offering me juice.
I had no phone and no way to call anyone and somehow we were walking to get guava nectar.
We got it and then walked back.
When we finally got to the car, I told him again that I wanted to go to the police.
This time, I said that if he refused, I would ask someone else in the parking lot to call.
He finally said okay.
At the station, we gave our statements, and it got even stranger.
I said the car was gray because I knew what I saw.
Michael said it was white.
I said there'd been a driver who yelled, hurry up, man.
Michael said there was no driver.
And instead that it was the same person who got back into the driver.
driver's seat of the car and drove himself off. He kept adding little changes. The officers were
polite, but I could feel their patience thinning. When they realized we were giving them two different
stories, one of them sighed. She said she could not really investigate if two people who were both
there could not agree on what happened. I knew right then and there they were not going to investigate
this any further. Michael drove me home. When my parents found out what happened, they were furious.
My mom told me never to talk to Michael again.
She did not have to repeat herself.
Thankfully, I did not lose much.
My wallet was easy to replace and I needed a new phone anyway.
The more I think about that night,
the more I am convinced that Michael planned it.
I can still remember how he stalled to give them more time
to come and mug me.
I can still remember how calm he stayed through all of it.
I can still remember how he tried to give the police
completely different information from what had really happened. No way that was all an accident.
Since then, I've seen Michael a few times at different things. He always wants to make small talk
and invites me to things. I keep my guard and don't agree to anything. And that's the story.
He fully planned that. Yeah, he 100% planned that. First of all, why was he not robbed? That's my first
question. Yeah, well, yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly. Why just her? If this was an actual
there is no way that somebody is just walking off with one cell phone and one wallet and leaving
the other person with all of their items, it makes zero sense. Yes, no, 100%. And he, like, for sure,
was luring her there, like the obsession with the guava nectar, which I guess I had her,
I ended up like Googling it while you were talking. Like, it is just juice. I mean, it looks very
delicious, but like he was so insistent on like, we have to go get this guava nectar. Yeah, that sounds like
so, such a great idea.
let's leave our car 20 minutes away in a parking lot to go walk and get some juice.
I mean, she knew something was wrong.
She knew something was weird, I'll say, not wrong in the beginning.
But I think, like, social pressure as a compliance strategy, like, when he subtly pushed her to go along by saying, like, well, you said you weren't scared of this neighborhood.
So why wouldn't you want to walk at night to go get the juice?
Yeah.
You know what I mean?
Like instead of forcing her, obviously, he's like, you know, I thought, come on.
Like, I'm going to put your words to the test and see if they stand.
Like, you said this.
And then it was a very smart tactic on his part because she's like, I did say that.
I got to be a woman of my word.
Yeah, I know.
And then you're like, well, yeah, I guess I did say that.
And you kind of start talking yourself out of it or like into something.
And you don't want to contradict who you said you were.
Like you said you were somebody who was not afraid of this.
You know what I mean?
So it's like very.
Yes.
Very smart tactic.
And she didn't do anything wrong by going for that walk.
Like she, you know what I mean?
Yeah.
At the end of the day, though, when she started to feel like something was funny, like we,
again, it goes back to what we were saying earlier, like, we have to be okay
choosing ourselves over other people.
Like the second she was like, he's stalling.
Something's weird.
But you're just so like compelled to do the socially right thing.
Like we're on a walk.
And also it's nighttime and he's the only one with you. So like, what are you going to do? Just run off into the night.
You have to like pick your poison at that point. Like stay with somebody who's kind of making me feel a little bit weird or risk it and walk back by myself, you know?
Do you think he would have done this to other people before? Like, do you think this is like a whole scheme that they're running where he's like, I'm going to start kind of dating a girl. I'll get her comfortable. And then he just like has a thing with his friend where like he just takes her out. And like the friend comes and robs him.
It seemed weld oil from Michael's perspective.
Like he was a cool cucumber, but the way she describes the driver, he sounded like a nervous wreck or the or the one who did the actual mugging, right?
Yeah.
He's like, she's right here.
Like, I'm doing it.
I'm nervous.
You know what I mean?
So I don't, doesn't sound like that guy had ever been involved in something like this before based on that alone.
But it definitely sounds like this was not Michael's first rodeo.
Oh.
And then I know.
There's like probably also not, because they're probably giving.
their statements together it sounded like. So there wasn't really an opportunity for her to even say,
like, I think this guy is the reason. Right. Right. I think this guy's in on it. Like our stories
aren't matching because trust me, he's in on it. You know what I mean? Yes. Yes. And so of course,
the cop is like, well, it sounds like you guys are just making this up. So we're busy here. Like,
go figure out something to do. But the other thing of it is, too, is, you know, there are two different
people who can experience fear and anxiety in different ways. So, you know, that's, I feel like to say,
like, throw your hands up, like there's nothing we can do in this investigation. I mean,
I don't know what the solution is. I'm not saying I do. But I just feel like, is there no
acknowledgement that they were just put through this traumatic experience? And so maybe they're,
you know, one of them is misremembering or, you know what I mean? Yeah. I would love to think law
enforcement, like kind of maybe circled back with them to see if, you know, once the nerve
settled, if maybe there was like a version that came out that was consistent.
Like, I hate to think that they just dropped it because two teenagers were tripping over
themselves.
They were scared, presumably.
Listen, I don't know if you've ever had to call 911 in L.A.
deal with law enforcement.
Like, there's been a handful of times where I've had to call 911 here.
and the vibe for sure is like we are very busy.
If you can even get them.
I mean, there's been times they'll put you on like a 10 minute delay.
Like you just can't get them right away.
Oh, wow.
The one time I called the non-emergency line,
it was an hour and a half before I got someone.
And they basically hung up on me.
Oh, my God.
And that was like during like a car,
like a car got stolen.
And the cop was like,
it doesn't look like the car's in our system anyways.
Click. Gone.
Oh.
I mean, I guess there's very violent crime that obviously
would take precedent, but this was a mugging at gunpoint. Like this was not a small, you know,
that's a good point. That's a good point. You know, and that's, that's just kind of like,
for now the gun didn't go off, maybe the next time it would, you know, I just feel like to be so
dismissive. I mean, again, I don't know what the solution is because I do understand from
law enforcement's perspective, like, we got bigger fish to fry, like get your story straight,
you know, where do you want me to go with this? You're saying this, you were both just there.
And then it makes you question whether or not anything at all happened.
or these kids just like all up in our business for shing giggles, you know?
Yeah, right.
Like, are they just lying about something?
Like, yeah.
Especially if, like, the stories are so wildly different that, of course, they're like,
this sounds fake.
Like, you're doing this for some other unknown reason and we're just not going to entertain the idea.
Did ever tell you I may have told this story.
I was on the phone with Dave once and I heard him getting mugged?
No.
No.
Okay.
So my husband is Dave for those who don't know.
Firefighter Dave is what he's known as on psychopedia.
So Dave used to be a teacher in Harlem when we lived in New York City together.
He worked at a school for children with autism.
And he would walk from our apartment on the Upper East Side to Harlem.
It wasn't like a long walk, whatever.
Not the greatest part of town.
So he was on his phone and we're talking.
One second he's talking and literally mid-sentence.
The next he's not.
And I hear panting and I hear going down.
Like I knew what was happening.
I knew what was happening.
And in that moment, I was working in an office at a school.
I stood up from my chair.
And I was like, Jocelyn, to the girl next to me, call 911,
tell him there's a mugging happening right now in Harlem.
And I was like, it has to be.
And I kind of give the estimated street, you know,
where Dave probably was around that time based on his walk.
And I was terrified because I couldn't hear.
But then I heard clear running.
So in my head, I'm like, the guy.
has to have Dave's phone and he's running, which means hopefully Dave is okay.
Absolutely panic-stricken.
Thankfully, Dave walked into a Dunkin' Donuts and asked that he could use their phone.
And the first thing he did was to call me at work to say he was okay.
But he 100% he said he was jumped when I was on the phone, like jumped thrown on the ground in Harlem.
Instinct for Dave was, you know, I think he threw, through, I don't if he threw punches and landed them or he just like physically, you know, went.
And thankfully the guy took off.
Like there was no engagement.
There was no actual fist fight or any, or worse.
But of course, I was like, why didn't you just, why would you even?
I heard you.
I heard you guys.
Like, right?
Like, why?
Just here, take my phone.
You know?
Because you don't know what's going to happen in that moment.
You just don't know how you're going to react.
No, and he's probably so caught off guard because he's just talking to you.
And next thing he knows, like the phone's gone and you don't even know what's happening.
Terrible.
So scary.
Arguably scarier for me.
I know. You have to be on the other end of the phone call and to like hear it all go down but not be able to do anything. Oh my God. I'll just never forget getting that call from Dunkin' Donuts. I will never forget. And it said Duncan Donuts on the caller ID and I'm like, this has to be Dave. It just has to be. Yeah. And it was. Thank goodness. Oh, wow. Thank God. Yeah. Firefighter Dave. Oh, my God. Very scary. Yeah. The last time he took his cell phone out in Harlem. I can tell you that.
Oh, yeah, for sure.
There was no talking and walking anymore on the streets, you know.
You learn.
You live and you learn.
You learn.
You live and you learn.
Well, thank you so much for coming on.
Those are all the stories that I have for you today.
This was a great lineup.
Thank you, Kailen.
I always love the stories that we share.
Where can everyone find you?
They can find me at Psychopedia.
So wherever you listen to podcasts and you put in Psychopedia, you will see all of the cases there.
We have lots going on on on Patreon right now.
I'm actually rolling out this criminal.
profiling test that I just put together at patreon.com slash psychopedia pod. And on Instagram,
I just kind of combined pretty much psychopedia with investigators Slater. So my handle on
Instagram and TikTok is at Investigators Slater. And I have, as you know, Kailen,
lots of other stuff that goes down on my social accounts. Oh my gosh. Yes. So much.
So definitely give a follow. And I would love to see your wonderful listeners in my world. Thank you
for introducing us all. Kaylin. You're the best.
I can't wait to have you on Psychopedia.
Yay, I know.
So I'll be going on Psychopedia.
So keep an eye out for that as well.
Yes.
But yeah, thank you for stopping by.
Thank you.
Anytime this was wonderful,
you're like my favorite person
and I'm obsessed with your podcast.
So I would love to do this.
It's the best.
I love what we get to hang out.
This is just an excuse for me to hang out with you.
Same.
Same.
I love it so much.
Thank you.
All right.
Bye guys.
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