Hidden Brain - Doing it the Hard Way

Episode Date: June 16, 2025

Learning to play a musical instrument is hard. So is trying to run a marathon, writing a term paper, and caring for a sick child. These things involve frustration, pain, and disappointment — yet we do them anyway. This week, in part two of our look at the allure of suffering, psychologist Michael Inzlicht explains what we get from doing things that are difficult, and why the things we think will make us happy often do not.Hidden Brain is hitting the road this summer! Join Shankar in a city near you as he shares key insights from the first decade of the show. For more info, and to purchase tickets, go to hiddenbrain.org/tour. 

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This is Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedanta. Human beings are wired to seek pleasure. We all want lives filled with joy, comfort, and ease. At the same time, many of us are also curious about some forms of discomfort. We go on scary rollercoaster rides, eat food so spicy it makes us cry,

and we shriek in terror as we watch horror movies. Last week on the show, in the first part of a mini-series, we explored the attraction of some kinds of suffering. We do like pleasure, but we also like meaning, and we like struggle. We want to be moral, and all of that makes our minds a lot more interesting than if we were to simply seek out pleasure.

If you missed that story, you can find it in this podcast feed. It's titled Ouch! That Feels Great. Today on the show, we explore one specific dimension of the pain pleasure continuum. Doing hard things is hard. Learning to play a musical instrument, caring for a sick child, trying to run a marathon. These things involve frustration, pain and disappointment. Unsurprisingly, if given the choice, many of us say, no thanks.

Why that might be a mistake. This week on Hidden Brain. Have you seen those ads for vacations that tell you that all you need to do is show up? Everything after that will be taken care of. You'll just lounge by the beach or by a swimming pool. Delicious food, massages and entertainment await you. The most effort you'll have to expend is to reach for that frozen margarita or apply a little sunscreen. Sounds blissful right? Well sure, but it turns out this is not the whole story. At the University of Toronto, psychologist Michael Inslick studies the science of motivation, effort, and reward.

He's found that what we think will make us happy often does not. Michael Inslicht, welcome to Hidden Brain. Thank you so much for having me on, Shankar. Michael, social science has managed to identify only a few so-called laws of human nature. One of these was developed a little more than a century ago. It's called the law of least effort. What is this law? This is funny because psychology, we like to say, is a young science and we don't have very many laws. I found three accounts of this law of least effort. Sometimes it's called the law of less work, sometimes the law of least

effort, sometimes it's the principle of least effort. And 3D independent scientists discovered this. And this law suggests that all else being equal, every organism we ever tested, every animal we ever tested, prefers to work less than to work more for the same reward. So the notion that people given the choice will take the less effortful path has been shown over and over again both in real life and in psychological experiments. When we look in our own neighborhoods, for instance, we find that people routinely ignore neatly laid out streets and walking paths and instead take shortcuts I expect this must be the same on your university campus

They must be neatly laid out streets and you have students cutting across the grass to take the shortest path to their classes Yes, in fact, it is a universal feature of of all parks and fields across the world and Apparently, it's not just humans that carve these paths, animals will carve these paths too. And the idea here is that even though there's a beautiful path laid out by a landscape architect, people and other animals like sheep, for example,

they will carve out their own path with their feet connecting two spots between A and B. I remember talking to the behavioral economist Richard Thaler some time ago. He said the one rule that he's seen over and over is that people, in his words, are lazy. Given the choice, we will choose the path of least effort. And economists, in fact, have deployed this assumption to reshape the way we all save for retirement by making it automatic rather than something we have to think about.

That's right. So economists, behavioral economists, famously use nudges, they use what they call choice architecture to make the virtuous option the easy option. So for example, if you struggle to save for your retirement, what about if a certain amount of money is withdrawn from your account, put into a savings account automatically without you having to lift a finger? So an interesting area where behavioral economists have discovered and have used the law of least effort to save people's lives is in the context of organ donation. So even the simple choice that people need to make about whether they should opt into organ donation,

it can be made easier where the lazy route, the default is that you donate your organs, and then you need to expend effort to opt out, to not donate. Giving them the easy, the lazy, the effortless route means that more people do it and more people then donate organs later. So the appeal of working less shows up in our books and popular culture almost everywhere. There are books like the four-hour work week for example and they

become bestsellers because they promise we can work a few hours a week and then kick back and relax. Do you see other examples of this in the culture, Michael? Everywhere. I will never forget. I'm born and raised in Canada and I grew up with a commercial for a life insurance product that was advertising, you know, not just life insurance but also a way to save for retirement. And they called it Freedom 55. And the idea was that at 55, he saved enough. You could live a life of luxury.

And the commercials always had someone on the beach kicking back with a, you know, a piña colada in their hand. I remember seeing that as a child and was just in awe. I want that life. I want to have that life. So definitely people, you know, when they think about a future that's desirable, that's fun, enjoyable, it's about relaxation. It's about being lazy. It's about being at the beach and just kind of sitting. So we see this all the time.

During the pandemic, Michael, we all heard the trend of quiet quitting and lazy girl jobs. Did you come by these memes yourself? Oh, definitely. Quiet quitting, the great resignation. The labor force was so tight that people wouldn't necessarily get fired, even if it only worked not quite to their full potential. So yeah, you saw this trend where people were not working as hard. We might say half-assed their job. And because, you know, employers didn't have many options, this was seen to be a trend, hey, you too can just, you know, have your job and not work so hard. And of course, we don't want to work so hard.

We don't want to expend effort because effort is something we don't like. We are lazy. I wonder whether you've seen this in your own life. Do you see the law of least effort playing out in the choices that you make, Michael? I see it regularly. So I just returned recently from a trip to Japan and it was toward the end of our trip and One thing that I've my wife and I have wanted to experience our really our entire lives are The cherry blossoms that occur in the spring in Japan and we had a long day and and we'd seen a few blossoms already

And I at that point just I just wanted to get back to the hotel room What did I want to do in the hotel room? Not much. I just wanted to relax if I want to surf the internet read the news doom scroll a little bit my wife Wisely who just loves is moved by beauty and plants and trees. She wisely decided to go to Yoyogi Park in Tokyo to witness beautiful cherry blossoms and apparently they were the most beautiful that we had seen in our entire trip and I missed it. For what? For really for nothing. I understand this also plays out when there are social occasions at hand and you have to decide whether to

go to a party or a gathering. Yes and I should say that I'm a very extroverted person. In fact I had plans right after this to go out for beers with friends. And I find myself, despite being social, despite truly enjoying social occasions, almost invariably, I tell myself, oh, I wish I didn't have to go out tonight. I wish I could just stay in and watch, do what? Watch television, doom scroll again. I have the impetus. I had this laziness in me to like not want to go out.

The notion that people will choose the easiest, least effortful option seems to be a law of human nature. But as we have seen over and over again on the show, humans are endlessly complicated. When we come back, the effort paradox, why so many of us deliberately violate the law of least effort, and the curious relationship between pleasure and meaning. You're listening to Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedantam. This is Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedantam.

Michael Lindslick is a psychologist at the University of Toronto who studies how we think about effort and why we often gravitate to the path of least resistance. He also looks at what happens when we choose to work hard at something. Michael, we've seen that we have a natural bias against exerting effort, a bias that is then reinforced by our culture in all kinds of ways. You point out that the unpleasantness of doing things that are hard sometimes leads us to overlook the unpleasantness of doing nothing at all? That's right.

So doing nothing leads us to feel bored. We find this experience unpleasant. And in fact, sometimes we'll do really bad things to ourselves and other people when we're bored. There's a famous experiment where people who are left in a room with nothing other than a shock machine for a few minutes, they decide to shock themselves instead of just being alone doing nothing. We ran a study, in fact, where we gave people an option exerting a little bit of effort,

not much effort, but a little bit, or just sit there, take a 10 second holiday and do nothing. And what we found was that it was not clear that people wanted to avoid effort all the time. In fact, people preferred exerting effort if the contrast was doing nothing at all, because doing nothing is boring and boring feels meaningless, feels purposeless, and people really don't like it. But the key to our study is that people made this choice over and over and over again, and they got to experience what the effort was like,

what boredom was like, and it turns out they preferred doing something than doing nothing. ["The Last Supper"] So in addition to staving off boredom, exerting effort has other benefits. What is the relationship between effort and success? There are many benefits. So, people who do this regularly experience more rewards.

So for example, if you want to learn the piano, the more you practice, the more you try and do the dull, repetitive work of playing your chords, practicing your chords, the more you practice, the more you try and do the dull, repetitive work of playing your chords, practicing your chords, the better you get a piano, the more rewarding that will be to the extent that you again value piano. The more you study, the higher your grades and the maybe greater entry into various vocational opportunities will be available to you. But now this is really interesting. This is true true not just for humans. So animals that exert effort end up flourishing more. So insects, animals like penguins or fur seals, the more effort they exert to you know forage for food, to hunt for food, the healthier they are, the more

varied their diet, and the more likely, the more varied their diet and the more likely they are to pass on their genes to the next generation. Ants! Ants show this as well. So there's a connection between a willingness to exert effort and the rewards that you get. So it makes sense, you know, exerting oneself makes sense, just in the sense that probabilisticallyistically you will likely get better stuff. You've looked at the relationship between exerting effort and a feeling of competence and mastery. Describe the studies that you have conducted for me,

Michael. So what we needed to do was to kind of give people dull tasks, boring tasks even, and see if the extent to which they work on them and exert effort on them, they will feel like it was worthwhile in some way. So for example, we'll give people a four digit number and we'll have them add three to each digit of that four digit number. Boring, meaningless, yet, uh, effortful. In contrast, we'll give another

group the same four digit number, but this time the task is not effortful. They have to add zero to that four digit number, which of course is the exact same number. They just have to remember that number and spit it back to us. Afterwards, we ask people to what extent that task was important, to what extent it was meaningful. And what we find is that people will imbue these silly, objectively meaningless tasks as being more important and more meaningful. And then afterwards, we might ask them,

like, what other feelings did this task generate in them? And what we found is that it led, at least in some cases, for people to feel like they're learning something, that they're mastering something, that they're kind of attaining some competence in something. And this is actually really important because one of the ingredients of feeling self-actualized is feeling like you're competent in the world, feeling like you can master certain domains. So perhaps exerting effort allows people to play with this feeling, to attain some of these feelings that you wouldn't otherwise

get. Is this a reason why when I finish building my IKEA bookshelf, I feel prouder of the bookshelf than if I just bought a bookshelf, you know, straight off the bat? Yes, there is a reason. The reason for that is that at least after the fact, we tend to find working, exerting effort, despite it being costly, or maybe because it's costly, we find that thing to be more meaningful. We even might cherish that IKEA furniture a little bit more.

And there's a classic study called the IKEA effect, whereby people who are assigned to build their own little IKEA effect, whereby people who are assigned to build their own little IKEA box, they tend to value that box more. They think it's better and they demand more money for it than another box built by an expert. And what's funny about this is that I'm sure you've built some IKEA furniture in your life Shankar, and you then know that oftentimes you'll build something and hey, I've got a few extra screws here. Right? So the things we build are not perfect, they're often imperfect, yet we think they're masterpieces and we are attached

to them. And part of that story might be because we've exerted effort on them and we then imbue value and meaning and purpose to it. I understand that you had one such experience years ago on a trip to Turkey, Michael. them and we then imbue value and meaning and purpose to it. I understand that you had one such experience years ago on a trip to Turkey, Michael. What did you do there and what did you end up learning about yourself? Yes, this was many, many years ago in my 20s and we went on a hike somewhere off the Mediterranean coast in beautiful, beautiful parts of Turkey. They called it the turquoise coast. And our tour guide was someone new to the job,

and didn't know the route himself that well, but was an experienced hiker. So my wife and I, my girlfriend at the time, but now wife, we decided to go on this hike. We expected it to be a two to four hour hike. It ended up being like six plus hours in the burning heat. And I remember feeling it was torture. Not too much the physical strain, because okay, I could walk a few more hours.

It was more we felt like we were lost, and we felt like we didn't know where we were going. We felt like, you know, we're exerting on this effort. And I just want to be on the beach right now. I want to be sitting and relaxing. And by the end of it, we just felt mentally exhausted. But I also remember, you know, the next day at the very least, if not, like, you know, immediately after I felt like, wow, I can do that too. I too can go on a trip like this without great shoes, without great clothing,

without all the sun gear that I needed. And I felt like I'd learned something about myself. I'd learned that like, okay, I'm resilient. I'm a bit tougher than, you know, tougher mentally than I thought. And I felt like, okay, maybe, you know, maybe I couldn't do Survivor, but maybe I'm not quite as weak as I thought I was. Yeah, I mean, in some ways, you're learning that you have capacities inside you

that you actually didn't know you had before, and that has to be, you know, maybe pleasurable is the wrong word, but it is sort of deeply satisfying. It's definitely satisfying and meaningful and it was pleasurable is definitely not the right word because it was painful and physically mentally the anguish. I remember looking at my wife being like we were to kind of like oh my god what are we doing here but having gone through that that pain and that effort,

if it was easy, if it was just a walk on the beach, we wouldn't have left that moment with any lessons whatsoever. So you've run a number of studies where you ask people to think of a number of different tasks, routine tasks that they do in their daily life, and you find there's an interesting, in some ways, distinction between the amount of pleasure and joy

that people take from tasks and the amount of meaning and satisfaction they derive from those tasks. Can you talk about this work, Michael? Yes. So, we've done a number of studies. I've already mentioned one of them, where we give people these arduous tasks that are really meaningless, and then we find find that afterwards people ascribe meaning to them.

They don't necessarily think they're fun, but they do think it's meaningful. And then we also, what we did is we want to see to what extent this plays out in real tasks, not just these made-up tasks that we give them. And what we did is we kind of gave people a list of 40 to 50 kind of everyday things you could be doing, going to a party, doing your taxes, doing your homework, working out, what have you, bathing. And then we gave people this list of tasks, and then we asked them how effortful each of these tasks are, typically. We asked them how pleasurable, how much joy they derive from each of these tasks are typically. We asked them how pleasurable, how much joy they derive from each of these tasks. And then we also asked them how meaningful, how important, how significant, how purposeful each of these tasks are. And what we found

was very, very interesting. We found that the more effortful a task was, the less pleasure we seem to derive from it. But at the same time, the more effortful a task was, the more meaning we derive from it. Effortful tasks are not necessarily pleasurable. So remember my hike in Turkey, that was not pleasurable, especially by hour six. But later on, I described it as being meaningful and important. So joy and meaning sometimes go together, but effort breaks that apart. And it seems like effortful things, we seem to imbue them with meaning and purpose, we have this extra value that

things that are merely pleasurable don't have. I'm wondering if this might explain some of the seemingly paradoxical data we get when we ask parents how much they enjoy parenting. So if you ask parents every few hours, especially parents with small children, you know, are you having a good time now? Are you having a good time now? What about now? People will often say they're not very happy, you know, they're doing chores, they're picking up after their kids, they're sleep deprived, they're exhausted, they're stressed. But then if you also ask people how meaningful is it to you that you have this child, that you're

caring for this other human being, people report reported being an incredible source of meaning and here's another example of something that's very Effortful takes a lot of effort might not be pleasurable on a moment-to-moment basis, but it's deeply meaningful Yes, absolutely. That's a classic one So I think sometimes there's a revisionist history going on where we might, you know, cognitive dissonance pushes us to describe the arduous task of parenting as being meaningful and important. And that's a way for us to kind of save faith to some extent, to kind of say that effort was worth it. Right?

So I think sometimes the connection between effort and reward might be an illusion. It might be something, a trick we do to kind of keep us going, but not always, because oftentimes there actually are real rewards that are connected with that effort later. Is it possible that your trip to Turkey was also the same thing here, Michael, which is that, in fact, it was pretty horrendous.

But in retrospect, cognitive dissonance is basically reshaping your memory of the event to make it more meaningful. Absolutely, I think cognitive dissonance is a hell of a drug. I think we want to be consistent. I could have been sipping Mai Tais or Arak in Turkey, but instead I was hiking under the hot sun. So the connection between effort and value

is multiply determined. I think some of it is like a bit of a trick, an illusion, but I also think there are real sources of importance that are attached to that as well. Hmm. And I suppose even if it is a trick, or what you're calling a trick, you know, if it is cognitive dissonance, post-hoc rationalizations, you know, I can't believe I made myself go through that six-hour hike. It must have been a really meaningful and important thing. As far as your mind is concerned now, it is now a meaningful thing, regardless of the mechanism that produces that meaning. Absolutely.

And that's really, really important because, of course, we're constantly facing choices about what to do and what not to do. So if I've now encoded that really arduous and difficult hike that I did in Turkey as being worth it, as being valuable. Now I have a connection in my mind that effort and value go together. And so now when I make, I have a new decision to make, I'm like, yeah, I think it's difficult, but oh yeah, effort can also be valuable. It can also be important. So I start learning the value of hard work, for example. I'm wondering as a college professor,

you must deal with students now who have figured out that there are very easy ways of completing their assignments. They can ask ChatGPT or another AI to basically help do the work for them. And at some level, it is the case that these systems are very, very good at coming up with high quality work. But I think the story that you're telling complicates what it means for the student to actually have an AI do their homework for them.

Absolutely. I think it complicates it a lot. In fact, we've run a study with comparing people's experience of writing an essay themselves versus prompting Chachibiddi to write one for them. And what we found is like, I think quite extraordinary. What we found is their essays were middling. They were on an avenue. We graded them. They got, I think, somewhere in the high 60s for their little essays. And then when they prompted Chachibadee to write, Chachibadee wrote much, much better essays, more like in the 80s. But then afterwards, when we asked these participants about their experience, people who wrote for themselves found the experience more meaningful, more important. So what this suggests to me is part of the experience of writing an essay

is the experience of writing an essay, of doing it, and you might find that meaningful and important, and then you might want to do it more, and you're not just doing it just for the end goal of getting a grade. You're doing it because you're cultivating some skill, and cultivating skill is intrinsically rewarding, as I mentioned earlier. It's meaningful. You feel like you're alive in the world when you're doing something like that. It's more to kind of just outsourcing it to a machine. So yes, it

does complicate things for students. So there's something of a paradox in all of this work, isn't there Michael, which is we go to great lengths to avoid effort, to choose the path of least resistance, but as you've shown in multiple ways, doing hard things can produce benefits. It gives us pride and meaning and satisfaction. Absolutely, and a number of years ago my colleagues and I, we talked about this paradox. We coined the term the effort paradox to describe this very thing. Where on the one hand you've got economists like Richard Thaler, but many others

who look at as effort as something we need to avoid, or something that people avoid, and as a result, design tools and products that maximize our laziness. But at the same time, we do things all the time that require effort. In fact, effort seems to be the only point of doing it. And it just seems odd that both of these things

exist at the same time. When we come back, one woman's vivid encounter with the effort paradox. You're listening to Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedanta. This is Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedanta. We are all compelled to do difficult things from time to time. Sometimes those things serve a clear purpose. You push through years of grad school to get a degree. You go to the gym to get stronger.

You eat the broccoli, even though you hate broccoli, because you know it's good for you. But there are some things we do that don't seem to serve a practical purpose. They are hard for the sake of being hard, and yet we do them anyway. At times, we may even surprise ourselves with the lengths we'll go to

in order to finish those things. My name's Mary Pan. I am a family medicine physician who lives and works in Seattle, Washington. I met Mary on a trip to the Pacific Northwest. She and some colleagues were going on an early morning hike and they were kind enough to let me tag along. As we made our way through the hilly hike, which was slushy in some places, it is Seattle and it rains a lot, Mary told me a story. Yes, so I've been running my whole adult life. It's a great way for me to de-stress and also get some exercise, get outside.

And a few years ago, I wanted to do something different. I was just going through a lot of, a difficult season in life, and so challenging myself to try something new, something different, seemed like a good thing to do. And so what did you have in mind? So I signed up in the fall for the next trail run that was available, and a trail run is, you know, on like a hiking trail, often in the middle of,

you know, around here in the Pacific Northwest, lots of trees, nature, a place where people would go hiking, but running on that path. So it's much more uneven. It's beautiful often, but it's a nice way to get out into nature, out of the city. And that's how it's really different than a lot of the races I had done previously. The trail run was in December. As the date neared, Mary began watching the weather. The night before the race, she saw that snow was forecast. This would make the run even more challenging. I woke up in the morning, looked out my window here in North

Seattle where I live, and there was no snow. So I thought, okay, great, I'm going to still bundle up, get on my trail running shoes, you know, get my gloves, headband, headed out to across Lake Washington to where the start of the race was. So as I was driving, though, about 20 minutes away to the suburb of Seattle suburb, I realized there was some more, I've seen more and more snow as I was driving. And I went to the park and ride where the shuttle bus was picking us up

to take us to the, all of the runners to the trailhead. And I realized there were patches of snow at the park and ride. And I thought, okay, well, I'm just going to keep, I'm still going to do this. Mary got on the bus. As she and the other runners were taken up to the trailhead, she looked out the window with apprehension. As we're moving up to the trailhead,

there's more and more snow. And once we get up there and I get off the shuttle bus, I realize there's several inches of snow on the ground. And I wasn't prepared for this. I'd never really run in snow. I run in the rain a lot in Seattle, but not in the snow. And the other runners, no one else seemed as concerned as I did. Some of them had brought spikes to put on the bottom of their shoes.

Maybe they were more experienced in running in the snow, but I wasn't. But it was beautiful and I thought, I'm just gonna do this. I've got my gloves, I've got my layers, I'm gonna start the run and see where it goes. I'm wondering if some of your trepidation was because you are a doctor, and in some ways you see people coming in to the hospital

after they have, let's say, not had the best run of their lives. Could that have been part of your trepidation, Mary? I'm sure it was. I tend to be a pretty cautious person, and because I've seen so much illness and injuries in my life and in my work. And you know, I exercise a lot, but early to mid-40s, I didn't want to twist my ankle or break my leg. And as I mentioned before, trail runs are different

and they're very uneven. And so you've got to pay attention to that, even when just hiking. Did the possibility of just getting back on that shuttle bus and going back to your car occur to you? It didn't at the start. I will tell you. I had, you know, I had bought in anticipation of this race some running shoes that are more for trails but not for snow. And I had, you know, my gloves, I run with gloves in the winter regardless. But I sort of looked around too and I think my gloves, I run with gloves in the winter regardless.

But I sort of looked around too and I think I thought, well, these people don't seem too concerned. Some of them have the similar, just running shoes, gloves, hat that I had. So I also I think thought, okay, maybe I shouldn't be too concerned either. This sounds like the classic story of peer pressure. So tell me how the race began. What happened? So I started the race, and I realized right away

I was very tentative. Again, I'm not used to running on the snow. So I'm running much more slowly, I realized, than I normally would. Much more carefully, paying attention to my steps. There were hills, uneven terrain. The snow was very slushy at parts. Other parts are very icy. So I did slip a few times, but I'm with a big group at the

start. We're sort of all bunched together and I start running and I think, okay, I can do this. I'm going to be slower than I thought, but I can do this. I didn't know how far I'd gone and I realized I was already soaked through. My feet were, you know, toes were numb, fingers numb, and I hit the first aid station and I don't know how far I've gone. I think, I must have gone at least, you know, six miles or more. And I asked the poor teenager there who's handing out water in these gel packs, well, how far is this? Can you tell me how far I've gone? And he asks around and he says, I think it's about 5K.

And I am just dismayed because, you know, I've only run a little over three miles. I know it's taken me much longer. I'm already exhausted and freezing. And my muscles are aching, I think, because I'm using different muscles to balance on this snowy trail than I normally would. And again, at that point, I'm in sort of,

it's up adjacent to a neighborhood, actually. But I have a coworker who lives in that neighborhood. And he had said, hey, if you get stuck or anything, feel free to just text me and I'll come and pick you up. But I didn't stop. I grabbed my water and I thought, okay, I'll just keep going and see where this goes. And I kept going, just past that 5K mark. What was it like to run where you couldn't feel your toes?

And was it just your toes or was it your feet that became numb after some time? It was my toes and most of my feet and also my fingers. I'm used to running with some cold or numb toes, but it was much more pronounced. It was both my feet and my hands were completely felt really numb. And again, I didn't feel as stable or steady on my feet. I mean, if you can't feel your toes, you can't feel your feet, that's actually quite unsafe

because how do you plant your feet? It probably is. I'm not, I don't recall how I, I mean, I guess there was maybe some sensation, if maybe just pain that I was able to do that. And there were several times where I'd slip and I'd sort of, you know, gain my balance again. And I would slow down for a little bit, and then I would speed up again when I think I

gained a little more confidence. But right after every time I lost my balance and slipped, I was much more hesitant and cautious, I think, right after that. I'm wondering what thoughts went through your mind as you were doing this, Mary. What was your internal voice saying to you as you're going through this essentially half marathon from hell? going through this essentially half marathon from hell? I kept thinking,

should I just stop? I think there were these moments of should I stop? But for the most part, I, and I realized this is just a pattern in my life, whenever I meet a challenge or I commit to something, I tend to want to finish it, to complete it, even if it's very challenging and painful. I had started it, I had committed to it, and I wanted to finish it.

And it was so beautiful visually, you know? It was really a gorgeous morning on that trail in many ways, but I couldn't really enjoy it fully because my body was really in a lot of pain. Mary kept going. No matter how much pain she was in, no matter how many times she slipped, she kept hearing that voice inside her. You must finish. As she reached the back half of the race, something happened that certainly made it seem like the running guards were conspiring against her. Yeah.

So I'm running up the hill. I have about two miles left in the race. And I'm noticing it's warming up. And the evergreen tree branches are heavy with snow, and I'm starting to see some of the snow drop around me. And as I'm running up this hill, one of the branches full of snow just dumps snow right over my head and all over me. And no one else is around at this point, and I exclaim and sort of let out a bit of a laugh too.

I'm nearing the end, and it was just so ridiculous that I got soaked by this snow on the branch near the very end of the race. And at that point, I could sort of look at it and laugh at myself a little bit for even making the decision to continue on with this and the timing that I just got dumped on by the snow at the very end. It's almost as if the gods were trying to tell you something, Mary. Maybe, yes. That's true. So the rest of the race, I was able to finish the race.

It was warming up, so it was very slushy snow for the most part at that point, which can also be very slick to run on. And I made it to the end and felt a lot of relief and a lot of soreness. And I grabbed my hot chocolate and got on the shuttle bus and headed back to my car. I'm wondering, looking back on it, how your accomplishment of having finished this race under these very difficult circumstances circumstances in a lot of pain What did that tell you about yourself? What was the message you heard from yourself? I

Think that I can do difficult things That's a core value of mine is to completing and making it through challenges and difficult experiences. This is just a core of who I am, this taking on challenges. And I was thinking of, you know, I ran hurdles when I was in middle school and my first track meet, I remember I started the race,

ran over the first hurdle, second hurdle, hit it with my foot, fell down, was bloody, and saw all the other runners in front of me, got up and kept going. Hit the next hurdle, fell down, got up and kept going. Hit the next hurdle, kept going, finished the race. And I remember the coach came up to me after and I was only, you know, 12 years, 11, 12 years old and said, wow, Mary, I've never seen anyone, you know, finish something, you know, when they're bleeding like that.

I shared Mary's story with Michael Inslecht at the University of Toronto. I asked him what he made of it. I mean, I hear the effort paradox written all over that story. So first, she wanted to run a half marathon, which the act of running a marathon is a really, really puzzling thing if we come to think about it. We're running in a circle, more or less, and it's painful, it's not necessarily good for you. Bad on your feet, bad on your knees.

Yet people do this regularly. And Mary, she experienced the true hardship of running. Forget about it being painful. Normally she also had snow, you know, branches with snow falling on top of her. Didn't sound like she was having a good time at all. It sounded very unpleasant. But yet afterwards, she appraised it as this important experience, this meaningful experience. And she even connected then to a story of herself running hurdles when she was younger.

And she kind of built this story of herself as being a persistent person, a person who, you know, overcomes things. So I think, you know, these effortful situations in our life give us these like testing grounds, these testing grounds to show what we're made of. And they allow us kind of to be a hero in our own life story. And you don't get that by not running the marathon. You only get that by putting yourself in hard places, in challenging places. And that's why the economists or the psychologists who talk about the silliness of effort and how we're all lazy is not paying full attention to the rest of us and how we tell stories

about ourselves and we want those stories to be, to some extent, a hero story. And effort allows for that, allows us to be a hero in our lives. Effort is unpleasant and painful but effort can also be rewarding. Michael and other psychologists suggest that we can help other people in our lives cultivate industriousness by offering praise when the people around us display effort, regardless of whether it achieves a goal. That's something we can do as parents.

To teach our children that trying is the key. We want people to be rewarded for trying. So you've got someone who just kind of participated but didn't do much. I'm not sure how much reward they need, but if they participated and they've tried and gave it their all, and who cares what the outcome is at that point? Now you're like, you tried hard and I'm going to reward you for that. So we're learning that to be industrious is rewarding, to push yourself, to try, to give it your all, to like to tolerate that feeling because it is not necessarily a pleasant feeling

and that's something that we can learn and in fact many cultures teach this we we receive all kinds of lessons about the value of trying and we can scaffold that in in in our children or our students when when they're trying for things is there any evidence that learning to be industrious in one domain transfers over to other domains? Yes, there is. In fact, there's some research that I've just done in my lab that people in fact, exerted more effort on a brand new task that they had not experienced if previously they had learned that effort is rewarding.

So what I love about this idea is it suggests that we can learn to tolerate effort as a general thing. And the reason for that is because the feeling of effort is a generalized feeling. Yes, when I try hard on my piano, of course, there's something strictly attached to the piano and the finger movements and what have you, but the experience of effort is common. These feelings transfer, and then if we can learn that these feelings signal reward is coming, you then become industrious. I understand that you yourself have absorbed the lesson of your research,

and you did so many years ago, even before you had conducted the research, during a trip to Indonesia with your then-girlfriend, who again was the woman who became your wife. Tell me the story of what happened on that trip, Michael. Yes, so I'm also cognizant of, I've met lots of stories around trips. Clearly you can see that my wife and I like to travel. And Indonesia is truly one of our favorite places. And we had this is, you know, after graduate school and we spent this is I think probably

about two and a half months now in Southeast Asia. And at the end of our trip, we were kind of on what I call the the Paradise Island of Bali. Bali is one of my favorite places. Beautiful people, beautiful culture, beautiful nature. And my wife wanted to go to Java, which is the neighboring island just to the west of Bali, but it involved a long series of trips on boats, on various buses. I think it involved like over 24 hours of travel. And I just was tired.

The idea of sitting on a bus, being bored, this is well before smartphones and entertainment on a bus. And also the heat and it's not pleasant to be on a bus for so long. I just didn't want to do it. But I decided, okay, let's just go ahead. And we then continued on to Java. We then experienced Jogjakarta, which I witnessed, you know, incredible sights there. But truly the thing that I will never forget as long as I live is the

moment I saw Mount Bromo. Mount Bromo is an active volcano on Java and I'd never seen something like this in my life. I'd never been to the moon as most people have and not been to, but the landscape was seemed like it would be you know what you'd be like on the moon. And I was surrounded by volcanoes all around me, fires kind of just coming from the ground. And it was an otherworldly experience. It was tremendous. And we spent a good 36 hours there. And I now see that the effort was so worth it to see this sight.

And if I had not had that pain, I wouldn't have seen it. Now, of course, maybe I'm exaggerating how beautiful it was because, again, cognitive distance can play these tricks on you. But I do think that if anyone ever gets a chance to see this, this kind of otherworldly place, go. The effort was truly, truly worth it. And I do not regret that whatsoever.

It was one of the highlights of my life to see that. Michael Inslecht is a psychologist at the University of Toronto. Michael, thank you so much for joining me today on Hidden Brain. Thank you so much for having me. It's been a real pleasure. Hidden Brain is produced by Hidden Brain Media. Our audio production team includes Annie Murphy-Paul, Kristen Wong, Laura Quarell, Ryan Katz, Autumn Barnes, Andrew Chadwick, and Nick Woodbury. Tara Boyle is our executive producer. I'm Hiddenin's executive editor. have access to episodes you won't hear anywhere else. To sign up, go to support.hiddenbrain.org. If you listen to the show via Apple Podcasts, you can sign up at apple.co.hiddenbrain. I'm Shankar Vedantam. See you soon. you