How I Built This with Guy Raz - Serial Entrepreneur: Gary Vaynerchuk

Episode Date: August 2, 2021

Growing up in New Jersey in the 1980's and 90's, Gary Vaynerchuk honed his business skills trading baseball cards and selling wine at his dad's liquor store. He discovered the potential of Youtube early on and launched Wine Library TV, an unfiltered, in-your-face wine review series that boosted the family business and branded Gary as an early social-media guru. From there, his marketing career exploded, and suddenly Gary Vee seemed to be everywhere: consulting, speaking, vlogging, tweeting, and publishing best-selling books, all while growing what is now a sprawling media company, VaynerX. His energy can be exhausting and his critics think he's full of it, but Gary shrugs them off; he credits much of his success to his immigrant upbringing and his parents' strong work ethic. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Airbnb.ca slash host. You know, at this wine store, I have this wine show. I'm a wine guy. When I started putting out a little business content in 2009 and every comment said, stay in your lane wine guy. What do you know about business? That's when I was like, wait a minute, these people don't realize you can be a wine guy and a businessman. I couldn't wrap my head around it. I was like, why are they telling me to stay in my lane? I was a business guy before I was this wine guy they know. Of course I can talk about business.

I'm a businessman. From NPR, it's how I built this, a show about innovators, entrepreneurs, idealists, and the stories behind the movements they built. I'm Guy Raz, and on the show today, how Gary Vaynerchuk started as a wine salesman, grew into a master marketer and built a massive one-man brand that's inspired tons of people to start their own companies.

There are lots of people who don't take Gary Vaynerchuk seriously, who think he personifies the worst elements of hustle culture, who write snarky things about him because he violates their sense of what it means to be cool, because he's earnest, exuberant, and sometimes so over the top that it can be a little hard to take. But Gary Vaynerchuk doesn't much care about what his critics think. And he doesn't pay all that much attention to the praise he receives either. Gary is about as pure an entrepreneur as anyone who's been on this show.

It's in his blood and soul in a visceral way that is almost incomparable. You can hear it, you will hear it, in his voice, in his expressions, in the frenetic speed and cadence of his sentences. At age 45, he's already started more than a dozen businesses and sold a few as well. Gary is one of the pioneers of social media marketing and one of its most influential practitioners. He produces a seemingly endless amount of daily content, videos, tweets, blogs, Instagram. Instagram posts, Facebook chats, a podcast, and yet, for the most part, he's not trying to sell you anything. On his website, there's no shop, no pitch to take a course or sign up for a seminar, no products for sale at all. Partly because Gary has already made a lot of money, from the two businesses he sold, from his best-selling books,

but also from his branding and marketing studio and other ventures that fall under his company, VaynerX. What he offers is advice on marketing, on working, on branding, on entrepreneurship, even on how to deal with critics and skeptics and haters. And I should mention, he does all of this with a lot of F-bombs, which, fair warning, you will hear in this interview. Gary has had a remarkable ability to see around corners. Back in the late 1990s, he convinced his dad to let him set up e-commerce website for the family's liquor store, which Gary turned into a powerhouse direct-to-consumer wine business. He was one of the earliest YouTube vloggers and amassed an enormous audience talking about wine. He saw the early promise of Twitter and figured out how to use it to help

massive brands reach younger consumers. He co-founded one of the early online reservation sites called Rezi that he would go on to sell to American Express. But his biggest secret? It's not a secret at all. Gary Vaynerchuk works really, really hard. Work is the fuel that allows Gary V. to be Gary V. And he explains the source of that work ethic in his status as an immigrant. Gary was born in the Soviet Union and was now a part of Belarus. His parents were Soviet Jews in a society that often discriminated against Jews. So in 1978, when Gary was around three years old, his parents managed to emigrate to the United States. They settled in a tiny apartment in Queens, New York. They had no money, no language skills, and no professional

qualifications that were recognized in the U.S. But they did have a few relatives in the area. I remember random things like my Greek grandfather. I actually remember him quite a bit. I remember a lot of one-on-one time with him. He would walk me to the park. I remember riding a beat up big wheels that we found in the trash, I remember that he occasionally would buy me vanilla ice cream and that blew my mind because even at that young of an age, I kind of knew that we didn't spend money on most things besides food and clothes. So we were a poor-ass family. Yeah. What did your dad, what did your parents do for living in those early years? Do you remember? Of course. Yeah, I mean, this is the beauty of being only 20 years younger than your parents. You

remember a lot of stuff. First, the family was very big on picking garbage and selling it at flea markets and things of that nature. Real rugged stuff. It was really hard. The U.S. was not flourishing. It was 70s in New York. Yeah, it was 1978 New York.

My parents were like, wait a minute, we heard propaganda of streets of gold. Grandma just got mugged. Like, you know, like, it was like, it was hard. And so my dad was fortunate. He had a great uncle who was extremely. extremely well off. And so he was going to kind of take care of us. But when we were in Italy, waiting for our visas, he died. And so we came to the U.S. thinking we had a little bit of this kind of like, you know, Jeannie going to take care of us. Now he's passed the credit of his children,

Bob Siegelman and Arlene Newman. They did do a nice job by my dad. And one of the nice things they did was they gave him a job as a stock boy in a liquor store in Clark, New Jersey. And they were, just be clear, they were like your sponsors. They were like our sponsors. That's exactly right. This was a liquor store they owned. This was a liquor store they owned. And my dad gets a job there, which was very nice. And there was this mass exodus at one point at the liquor store. And my dad had basically got propelled to manager. Literally my dad's first American words were things like Budweiser and Carlo Rossi and Boone's Farm. Like literally. Later in my career when I met some of the salesman that called on my dad when he was just a stock boy, not the owner, they would tell me stories

about my dad, like literally, literally did not speak English. And so, you know, my dad became the manager, got paid more, and we moved to Edison, New Jersey, where really this story of my life starts to truly form. All right. So your family moves to Edison and your dad is managing this liquor store with an eye to eventually opening his own liquor store? Yes, because my dad's boss was his great uncle, his second cousin removed, you know. So my dad, obviously, giving me a lot of this day,

was an entrepreneur, was a hard worker. And so this gentleman recognized that. And at some point in the mid-80s, this gentleman allowed my father to buy half the business. You know, going from zero, not having a language to four, five, six, seven years later to own a piece of a business, It's an incredible accomplishment, and I admire my father so much for that. And so he became half owner of that store.

And then only 10 years after he came to this country, he opened a very small store in Springfield, New Jersey, which later... This was called Shoppers Discount Liquors. Thank you for doing the homework. Shoppers Discount Liquors. I'm sitting in my office in New York right now. His second store was not much bigger than my office. It was literally a tiny home. But it was his, and that was huge. And liquor is a pretty good business because it doesn't go bad.

It's a good business that it doesn't go bad. It's better than food that way. It was a good business that people drink when things are good and when things are bad. It's not a good business in the part that my dad's store was called shoppers, and let me hit it now. Discount liquor. Product, everybody bought for the same price because that's the regulation of the liquor industry. He was selling everything low and running ads. That's how he maintained growth top line.

but it wasn't a lot of profit. And that we kept his expenses low because my dad surely, he didn't love the idea of paying employees too too much. So he kept his overhead down, very good operator that way, knew how to not lose money, but it wasn't a profitable business.

And what I realized was right, my dad ran a business where he valued the business more than the money he took out of it. He cared so much about the business. He didn't care that it wasn't profit. He just wanted to keep being the best store in town and keep his position.

Yeah. What kind of kid were you? I mean, were you, first of all, at school? Was school, I mean, did it come easy for you? Or was it harder? School was incredibly easy to me until third grade. I got straight A's. And then I don't think I got another A except for gym

for the rest of my life. As a matter of fact, my interest level and my capacity to sit and be bored was zero. Yeah, you could not focus on the teacher. You couldn't focus on a lesson plan. Your mind was wondering. You know what's funny? I have incredible focus. I'm outrageously focused. I wasn't willing to compromise my interests to appease what seemed to be required. And that is why I am still to

this day. Now, I didn't understand it at the time. I got Fs and science, but I got B's in history because I was very interested and it was very easy to focus. I think I am a true byproduct of the vulnerability of a rigid system because if you would have taught me why new coke failed in high school, I would have got an A plus plus because I would have been fascinated. Yeah. And did your parents care that you didn't excel at school? My mother, my father had no idea what was going on. He spent 150% of his time on the business and, you know, I didn't see my dad until I started working in the store at 14. My mother, God, she's so smart. She grounded me every single report card for two weeks, no TV, no video games, no friends.

It was, when I tell you the anxiety I still have to this day about bringing the report card home. Not bringing the report card home, you'll love this. Still to this day, like on a November 6th, the breeze of the fall, winter thing hits me, and I can feel sixth grade me saying, uh-oh, it's time for me to check the mailbox for the report card because if I can get it before my mom gets it, I'm going to flush it down the toilet, which will buy me two weeks before she crowns me. Like, that was my life. It was cat and mouse between me and my report card, but my mom knew who I was. And she saw it.

And, I mean, clearly you were focused on things outside of school. Like, right? Like, I think you started to work at your dad's liquor store pretty much every weekend when you were around 14, right? Yes. My dad's store was in Springfield, New Jersey on the slightly, slightly wrong side of the tracks of a very affluent area because of it. it literally my dad's parking lot of his liquor store was in Milburn, and Milburn was attached to Short Hills and Summit and Livingston and money. And by the way, I didn't like my dad's liquor store at first. I was selling baseball cards making a lot of money as a kid and now I was in this liquor store making two, three bucks an hour. And I didn't like beer and liquor, but I realized that people collected wine and that was the trigger. That's interesting. I mean, were you, I mean, were you expected to work in a liquor store?

Was that was an expectation? Yes. I remember at 12 or 13, my mom saying to me, well, you're not going to Harvard, so you better mentally get prepared because you're going to be working into the store every day of your life soon. There was no conversation. Yeah. I was the son of a merchant of a first generation family.

I was the only child born in the old country. I was the oldest. This was my destiny. Now, I don't think there was, I didn't feel pressure that I had to take it over one day. Yeah. What did you think about the liquor store? Did you think that it was like, I don't know, did you have an impression of what it was? Did you think it was sort of low class?

What I thought was this stinks. Like, why am I here? Like, I could be at the mall or the JCC or the fire station right now in Hillsborough, New Jersey, selling my Eric Davis rookie cards that I bought this week in school. And he's hot. He had three home runs last night. And they're up to six bucks a piece. right now. I bought them for two, but I can't do anything about it because my parents are making me be here.

And by the way, there was no doubt that I was going to work every weekend and every holiday and every summer vacation in high school. And that was non-debatable. I wonder whether you how, I mean, you were a baseball card collector and a lot of kids. I love collecting baseball cards and, you know, selling them now. Remember Jose Canseco, how much that rookie card is worth? It's crazy now. But it seems like your interest in baseball. cards and the collecting of baseball cards, you started to kind of connect that with wine. I mean, you were working at a liquor store, but it seems to me that the baseball card collecting kind of side of you got you thinking about wine. Do you think that's fair? Not only do, I think that's fair. That's exactly what happened. I learned a lot from the ages of nine to the ages of 15 in doing baseball card shows. I would.

was a child setting up tables with grown men and doing business. And by the time I got to my dad's store, I was a little seasoned for a 15 year old, 14 year old. And then I got to listen. I educated myself in class, took advantage of every minute, started to really know wine, understood human behavior, understood collecting, and took everything. That would be the word I would use, everything.

By the way, let me give you one. when you're setting up a table at a baseball card show, you start realizing if you're talented like I was and you had the gifts that I was given that the way you set up your table will be a huge variable of how much money you make. Where you put cards, what signage you use, where is your table?

And by the time I got to my dad's store, the first thing I did for my dad was merchandise the store. I would make signs and I would move around cases. I would say, dad, you want to sell this wine, right? He was like, yeah. I was like, why is it here? I'm like, look how, and this is a 15-year-old. Dad, look how people walk in the store

and they walk that way first because of the way you've set up the store. That's opposite of this thing. You've got the thing we don't want to sell there, but this is the profitable. And so I started merchant, I was a merchandiser first. And he was listening to you.

He was listening to me, which I, you know, this gets me emotional. My dad really gave me a lot of freedom. Now, I know for fact, it was earned. I know my pops. He would be quick to shut everything down. He very quickly realized probably he tells me and I believe him because he doesn't bullshit. He basically knew right away first weekend because I was a 14 year old supposed to be downstairs finagling myself upstairs trying to sell people stuff. It was just in me, right? And he knew that. He knew what that was. And by the way, were your parents just expecting you to stay on in the business after high school? I mean, did they want you to do you to do? You go to college. Did you want to go to college? No, I planned on not going to college. My parents didn't know anything. My mom was very insular. She didn't go to my parent teacher conferences. She had no idea. My mom had no, this is a true story. My mom asks me February of my senior year of high school.

So what are we doing about college? I laugh. I go, what do you mean? It's over. I'm going to go right into the business. She rolls up on me, stares me down and scares the shit out of me, points her finger directly in my face to my, and my mom's an angel, by the way, and goes, you're going to college, figure it out, turns around, turns back around, and says, and don't make it a community college. Huh. And so you actually wound up going to a four-year college. It's called Mount Ida College, which is a sort of a small school in Massachusetts, right? Yes. In Mount Ida College first semester, I hear the internet for the first time. And I decide, oh my God, I'm not going to launch 800 Toys R Us of Wines, which is what my plan was at that time, I'm going to launch a website, even though I did not own a computer, even though I wasn't techie.

And a year later, I launched Wine Library.com, one of the first e-commerce wine businesses. This is like 96, 97. I mean, no one's doing that. I mean, people are going on like Prodigy and AOL and, you know, you've got mail. Like, nobody's, but you're thinking this is the way to sell wine or this is the way to market wine. How are you thinking of it? Sell. Sell. Okay. And I want to say this publicly, the greatest thing that was ever done for me in my life professionally was my father making an enormous bet on spending the $15,000 to build winnibrary.com, which was like a good trillion dollars. Wait, so the idea was to build a website and you wanted to call it winelibrary.com. That's right. My dad went to Napa on a trip because now he was like getting deeper into the wine world.

To wine, okay, yep. Because the business was turning. everybody kept calling their wine sellers, their wine library. This is our library. And so my dad actually came up with the name Wine Library. I just knew he liked the name. He wanted to use it as a catalog or is like a thing. I was the one who says, this is what we'll call our dot com.

But that's how the name wine library was come up with. Because a business was called Shoppers Discount Liquors. Correct. So you said, let's not do Shoppers Discountlicers.com. let's call it, let's just call the website, whinlibrary.com. My dad was part of a co-op. So there was 40 stores named shoppers,

discount, liquors in New Jersey. They were all independently owned, but they all wanted to run a full-page ad in the Star Ledger. It was like A's hardware. Correct. I wanted to not be part of that because I wanted to build

the biggest wine company in the world. So I strategically bought winelibrary.com because I already had bet the farm that the internet was going to be the future. and I knew that if I did this, because my dad was not looking to give up the shopper's name, he came up with it. That was his baby, and he was not listening.

That was a place he was fighting me on. I wanted to change the store name. He was petrified of that. But I knew that if I changed the dot com to that, that eventually it would tip, and that's exactly what happened. By the way, how did you learn wine? So you were just 21, 22 at that time. I learned wines through books, through books, and really Robert Parker's Wine Spectator.

and there was a bulletin board on Prodigy called Mark Squires' wine bulletin board. And so I lived on that community board. And did you have, I mean, some people like Janus Robinson are known to have like just superpower palette, right? But did you have, were you one of those people with a natural palette? Yes. I knew everything on paper, but the first year of me tasting wine heavily in the store, it all just tasted like wine.

Yeah. And I was starting to worry about this imposter syndrome. of shoot, what are these people talking about? I don't taste poison berry. The hell is leachy fruit. Like, I would literally after work, after working a 12-hour day, go to the King's supermarket

and buy all these weird fruits and vegetables and spices and go home at 11 p.m. This is how obsessed I was. I'm a 22-year-old boy on a Friday night at 11 p.m. Instead of going out, sitting and biting cinnamon sticks so that I could really capture the nuance of cinnamon

to see if I would pick that up on Barolo's. Like, I, God, I was obsessed. Hmm. So after you graduate college, you come back to New Jersey, and you work in the shop, and you've got the Wine Library.com site, and how are you getting people to find out about it? I work the floor at that point.

The floor of the shop? That's right. I am in the store 12 hours a day. So you come in the store, I see you. Gotcha comes up to me and he says, what are you looking for? By the way, even the way you just said that, you nailed.

The Gary Vaynerchuk you see on the internet was that boy. How are you? What can I help you? Like, just pure, pure enthusiasm, and I will not let you leave my store. I will make you a hostage unless you give me your email address.

Now, this is 1996, 7, 8. It was really 97, right before I graduated, and then 98 full time. a lot of people didn't even know they had an email, just got it from work. My favorite stories, because I can see them in my brain, are people say things like,

oh, yeah, I got one. It's aOL at yahoo.com. I'm like, no, no, no, no, no. You probably have an AOL and a Yahoo. And so what I did was I built a very powerful 10,000, then 20,000, then 30,000. Wait, 10,000 email address? No, not from people just coming into the store.

Over the course of the first year, yeah. I would say the first year, we probably had about 13,000. We did a little direct mail, but I would argue, I mean, you know what's funny, I'm such an extreme character that I think when people hear my stories,

they don't believe them, there's the level of embellishment there, he's trying to make a point. And I'm like, no, no, no, no, I'm telling you right now, every human being that walked into the liquor store for an entire year, I would not let them leave

to the best of my ability, which is very high, without giving me their email address. I don't know why somebody wouldn't believe that well i think i think i think you know the store was a big enough store that we had enough customers to that 10 000 like it was easy to get to that base what ended up happening was that work so well driving people to the website and buying on email that it gave us our first level of profit you know the first year i ran the business we went from a four million to a 10 million dollar business

so this was i mean this was an email list that you would send out to people uh with the wine deals and they could directly click on that email and order wine because it's This is still like the late 90s, early 2000s. Was that possible to do? It was, but to your point, 90% of the people didn't know what the hell you were saying. Right. Nobody trusts putting a credit card in the computer.

Nobody really even knows how to buy on a website. Most people don't even know how to look at an email newsletter yet. And look how well my dad's business is going. This is it. Like, wait to, this is where I was wrong. Wait to the year 2000 when everybody in America buys everything on the internet. In my youth, I did not understand yet because I didn't have the, know, pattern recognition or experience to know the things that I saw would take a decade to happen,

not a year. This was still before, like, many states now allow, you know, direct wine sales and, but even, there's still some challenges with some states, as you know, but at that time, were you only selling pretty much to people in New Jersey? Yes, comma, in 2000, we opened it up a little more as FedEx and UPS became more progressive. So, yes, $98,99 was very New Jersey. and then we built a big reputation because Wall Street,

a lot of people live in the Jersey suburbs. Right. And Wall Street is very viral at that time because people now have email for the first time. So think about it, this is going to make so much sense to everybody. I'm sending an email for Opus 1 at the lowest price in the country. What was the price?

At the time, Opus 1 was a $90 wine and I'm selling it for $62.99. And that was the hottest one. American wines in the hottest wine. Super hotest wine. at the time. So I send it to Wall Street. Now think about the psyche of a Wall Street guy. Let's call it what it is. You send it to who? You send it the email newsletter. Rick Thompson comes in from Short Hills buys six bottles of duckhorn, Submione Blanc for me. I get him on the email

newsletter. Yeah. He now gets an email while he's on the floor for Opus at 629. He yells, guys, Opus at 6299. Oh wow. Burt from Long Island's like, get the fuck out of here. I'm paying 95 bucks in Long Island. I'll take six, I'll take six, and they start, and then I'm getting emails saying, can you add my friend Bert to the list? Can you make it? And so we are now in a viral loop and the world doesn't know it. Sherry Lehman's doesn't know it. K&L doesn't know it. Morales doesn't know it. Zaki's doesn't know it. Sam's in Chicago doesn't know it. Spex doesn't know it. Crossroads doesn't know it, but I do. I'm now spending six years mapping all the stores that I just mentioned to you reading every single Wednesday the dining section of the New York Times and I'm

memorizing the ads that all the stores are pricing what their mixes. Are they Bordeaux heavy? Are they Napa heavy? Wow. And I'm mapping in my little brain. And so now I can see where I want to play in between and how I can attack them on pricing and selection. And it just was that. All right. So you're building this email list and you are starting to reach people, especially Wall Street people who know a deal when they see it. And you start to see revenue grow pretty quickly. By the way, is the store still, the physical store still called shoppers discount liquors? The physical store became Wine Library in 1999. Okay. So your dad agreed to change the name. Yep. Better name, much better name.

I think so. And did it increasingly become more wine and less liquor? Yes. But that was not only because of how I was running the business, it was because that's what was happening in America. Yeah. The average 49-year-old woman that lives in a high-network neighborhood in 1977 has a cocktail at night. Yeah, right. The cliche 49-year-old woman in a high-networth neighborhood in 1999 in 2002 has a bottle of wine. So you're seeing this happen in real time, and you guys are riding this wave. And, I mean, how fast? Because your dad was doing $4 million in revenue. a year in gross revenue, his net profit was low, relatively low. What kind of change were you were you starting to see when you, you know, start to sell people via the internet?

We went to, um, we went to 10 million in 99 and 17.5 in 2000 and 28.3, you know, I mean, it was, we went from 4 to 65 and 60 to 65 in a blink, you know, that was the first culture shock of my life. Because, Everything changes when something like that happens. Yeah. And your dad was making serious money, big money. Yeah, but to my dad's credit, he was making big money, but you know what he decided to do? He decided to buy the Burger King next door, which just went out of business, which is unheard of.

And then he decided to build a 40,000 square foot store as if he was building the Taj Mahal made out of mahogany and stone. So my dad had the opportunity to make a lot of money and take it off the table. What he chose to do was to pour it back into the business. Something that is still to this day one of the great life lessons for me. I think the reason I have such a big business is I was born in an ecosystem that says, don't take the money out and buy a boat, put the money back in to build a bigger business. Yeah. What were you, I mean, I'm trying to, if you asked me a question, what was I chasing in my 20s?

I don't quite know. It may have been a combination of recognition or proving something. probably there was some insecurity that I was chasing to prove that I could do these things. What do you think you were chasing in your 20s when you were working so hard? Was it money? Was it a number? What was it? What I was chasing, you know, it's really funny, the numbers thing made me laugh that we just talked about earlier. It was definitely not a number. Numbers are just like a very quick way to tell a story. Yeah.

I never had a goal. To this day, I've never had a goal of like, we're going to do this. I don't even think that way. in my 20s, I was chasing one feeling. God, you gave me the best parents in the world. You also gave me this talent. I have this incredible relationship with time. I'm patient. I am going to give everything I've got for this next decade

to my parents who brought me to this country, who loved me, who gave me self-esteem, who gave me work ethic and accountability. I was so emotionally intelligently charged that I knew it. And I said, you know what I'm going to do? I'm going to give my prime youth years fully to my parents. And then I'm going to go and do my own thing.

So in your 20s, because in your 20s and you were really grinding away. I mean, you were totally what? Seven days a week, 12 hours a day working at the store? Yes. I worked, you know, it was a retail store. Saturday was the biggest day by a country mile. So Saturday was 7 to 11 because I had to get there early. Seven to 11.

Those are insane hours. Did you have friends? Did you hang out with people or not really? My friends became my employees. By the way, that's my life now. My friend group always circles around what I'm doing because I enjoy it too much. In 2006, you launched a YouTube show, Wine Library TV. New York Times wrote a review of this show like two years in. And I just want to read what they wrote because it's so funny. It's actually a very positive review of the show. But the opening line is when the refined British wine, writer Jansis Robinson joined the frenetic Gary Vaynerchuk last fall on his video blog Wine Library TV. It was as if Helen Mirren had shown up on an episode of Dog the Bounty Hunter.

I love that so much. It's such a great lead. And it's true. I mean, here you are. You're this young guy shouting about wine and, you know, Janus Robinson and, you know, these, and she's probably the greatest wine critic on the planet. Yep. But, you know, some of the young guy. You know, some of the young guy. And, you know, And initially, I have to imagine people in the wine world just thought, who is this bozo? Hello, everybody. Welcome to Wine Library TV. I am your host, Gary Vaynerchalk. And this, my friends, is the Thunder Show, aka the Internet's most passionate wine program.

I feel like I do wrestling promo videos in perpetuity. But I had the ambition to make it possible for people that were more casual. to be influential voices in the wine world because I thought it would be good for the wine world. Very elegant, very structured, almost like a hot dog flavor in the mid-pallet. I know stick with me, I'm sorry, but a little hot doggy, little ganniness, meaning.

And all the people that thought I was downgrading wine, not holding it up to the standard that it deserved, they didn't realize that I was creating wine drinkers and interest at scale. And what first initially shook the wine world was not only the fact that I was out of control in talking about wrestling and football, and all the things the wine world would never want to be done,

especially 15 years ago. But what was happening was, I was also showing that I actually knew what I was talking about, which really confused a lot of people. And then most of all, the one that completely was the big one, I was panning wines that we sold. You were panning them. You were saying they're terrible.

I was saying things like, how in the world does this winery believe that they can pass this wine on us for $55 when on a blind tasting, it's a $13 wine, and they're hosing us because they have the word Napa in their wine. Wow. And there was three reasons why that blew people away. A, everybody in my company, from my dad down in the first year or two, thought I'd lost my mind. Right. These are people you're buying wine from.

Well, that's the next part. The Insular industry had a real problem because my friends would call me, and they're like, what are you doing? You know, you've been buying wine for me for 15 years. We're friends. You stayed in my couch in Napa. I'm like, John, I love you. I can't lie. It's over if I do. I remember that being the first two years. Just the sheer, why are you doing this?

And I remember thinking, how do people not understand why I'm doing this? If I'm chilling up here or not telling my truth, I'm one moment away from being finished. I always thought that if somebody showed up to a dinner or an event, gave me a glass of wine

without me knowing what was in it, tell me what I thought. And if I didn't say good or bad, you know, if I said, oh, this is delicious and they're like, ha ha, you said it was garbage. Like, so I was so scared of that that I just always said what I said. So is this interesting because as you're, I mean, this is like, you know, this is a time when the news media would sort of scour the internet for interesting things and say, oh, there's this thing called YouTube and here's this guy and he does a wine show on this thing called YouTube. And so you started to get invited onto like the news and you got invited to the Conan O'Brien show. And I have to assume that you were sort of seen as this curiosity. Here's this wine guy who's got a video show on the internet.

100%. And I also was using Twitter and Facebook and MySpace to promote the show. Yeah. Which started the process of me understanding this new medium. What's so interesting to me is that you are building up a profile, a brand, around yourself as a wine guy. So most people, this is like 2006, 7, 8, 9, 10, they're thinking there's Gary Vaynerchuk, if they knew who you were.

He's the wine guy. He's the guy who talks about wine. That is absolutely correct. And normally, that is who people stay for the rest of their careers. Did you think at the time that's who I'm going to be? I thought that I am a wine guy. You know, this wine store, I have this wine show. I'm a wine guy.

When I started putting out a little business content in 2009 and every comment said, stay in your lane wine guy. What do you know about business? That's when I was like, wait a minute, these people don't realize you can be a wine guy and a business man. It was the first time I realized, oh, America is obsessed with narrow and or not wide and both. Yes.

I couldn't wrap my head around it. I was like, why are they telling me to stay in my lane? I was a business guy before I was this wine guy they know. I was very confused. I was like, no, no, no. I built this business, this big business with not a lot of money. We didn't get cash infusion. We didn't raise capital for Wine Library.

I exploded it from the dirt with my skills and work ethic. And wait a minute, they think I'm a wine cartoon character. Of course I can talk about business. I'm a businessman. When we come back in just a moment, how Gary throws an impromptu party for 500 people in Austin, Texas, and how that party helps him evolve from a wine guy into a marketing guy. Stay with us, I'm Guy Raz, and you're listening to How I Built This. Hey, welcome back to How I Built This. I'm Guy Raz.

So it's 2006, and Gary has launched Wine Library TV on YouTube, what he calls the first ever video wine blog. And when he's not doing that, he's finding out everything he can about this new media ecosystem that he's immersed in. I started really getting into Silicon Valley startup Web 2.0 because I was using it to build Wine Library TV. And then YouTube sold to Google for $1.7 billion, which at the time... Was crazy. Yeah, I mean, that would be like waking up tomorrow and hearing that TikTok sold to Amazon for $1 trillion. the kind of number that would stop you. We're in billions now.

So it was one of those moments. And so I read everything that I could on the internet. And time and time again, the article said, Angel investor Ron Conway is set to make this on this. And I said, you know, now I'm 32. And I'm like, you know, I've always thought I was a business man. Yeah. But I have something.

This dot com, like I was right about email. I was right about Google AdWords. I was right about YouTube. I was, maybe I should be an investment. And when you started here about people like Ron Conwin, you said, I want to be like that. I mean, where did you go? Who did you go? I don't go through the pattern of I want to be like that.

I go into like angel investor, enter Google. What the hell is an angel investor? What is investing? What's 20%? Wait a minute, you borrow money from other humans? Like, you know, I was in a cocoon. I surely knew how, you know, champagne was made, but I had no idea of investing. I didn't take economics class.

I didn't even pay attention to Wall Street. So I said to Eric Kastner, who was my lead developer, and no question, one of the most influential people in my career, because he was the developer that showed me Web 2.0. And he was working with you on Wine Library. Yeah, he was my lead developer for Wine Library.com, but our office was half the size, a third of the size of the office I'm sitting in now, which is not very big.

So I sat with him, and I would look at his screen and be like, what's that? He's the guy that made me stop searching stuff on Yahoo to go. to Google. So what ends up happening is Twitter comes out and I really am intuitive to it. Like it just really blew my mind and I got very aggressive on it. I did a very good job. I'm good with people. I figured out how to translate that to the internet. And I'm like, this is it. This is it. This is I got to do more of this. And now I find my first passion since wine. Which is the internet. Which is this new internet, web 2.0. So anyway, nonetheless, now I know I want to know Web 2O, so I want to go to a conference.

So me and Eric Kastner go to London to something called the future of web apps, FOA. This in 2007, this in 2007. Six, seven. I want to give you the right answer. But then we sit in the crowd and I'm listening and I'm blown away by these people and they were nice. And they were like, hippie, techie, a tiny bit business. But I was like, this is it. and then I went to South by Southwest

and I threw a wine party I remember at South by because I just sent wine down there just in case I would need it. And you what, you got, and you had like a hotel suite and you just advertised it or something? I wasn't in that place of my life. So instead of throwing this wine party in the suite,

I charmed the person at the front desk of the Hilton in Austin and said, can I just use this room over here? And she was like, sure. And then I tweeted out. By the way, I had 5,514 is what I remember, followers on Twitter at the time, and everybody at Southbyte, they thought I was the Kardashians. Right. Like, they couldn't believe how many followers I had. This is how early it is.

And so, like, 500 people showed up to this Hilton. 500 people came to a conference room at the Hilton to have free wine. It was actually, like, the closed restaurant, so there was enough room. Oh, okay. It was a scene. Actually, I'm going to Google after this interview of the photo, because the photo exists. and that was kind of my coming out party. And it really was, I mean, in the sense that it kind of catapulted you into the tech world, right?

I mean, Twitter and Facebook were pretty young at the time. And I guess after that party, you were kind of able to walk into those places and meet people. Yeah, a month later, I flew to San Francisco and met Chris Messina for a coffee. And Chris Messina, just to be clear, he is the guy who invented the house. hashtag. That is correct. He was absolutely the guy who tweeted, let's all use a hashtag to give context to our tweet. He was a connected guy in the game as a developer. The hashtag's been around. He kind of commercialized it as a proxy. I'm sure that the hashtag was being used in nerd ICQs and other things. But anyway, while I was having coffee with him, he's like, do you want to go to the Twitter office? It's right down here. I'm like, of course. We go there. There are nine people there. There's Jack. There's Ev. and I get to talking to Blaine Cook, the original CTO. A year later,

Blaine's at Southby, 2008 now maybe, he's leaving Twitter, he tells me. Not only is he leaving, but he has to sell all his shares because that's how religious he is about his passions

and ideological points of view. The next thing I know, I am negotiating to buy a portion of Blaine Cook, the original CTO's founder shares of Twitter, and now I'm in the game. And this is based on the money that you, because in your 30s, you start to make some money because of the wine business. Here's the hugest part.

I never made more than $80,000 a year, even though I built this huge business because it's a family business and we don't take salaries and I don't own the business and I don't have any. You grew it to $60 million. You're making $80,000 a year? That's right. Okay. Because my dad was too because that's like, and again, this is where true first generation immigrant family businesses will understand that I'm dead seriously. about this like an immigrant business that is built by a certain type of immigrant that picks business over luxury yeah right my dad's my dad drove a truck that had a hole in the bottom of it right

like he's the anti show off but how did you have money to buy into twitter i put 34 000 into twitter okay the reason i had that and then i also put money into facebook and then put money into um tumbler those are my first three investments and this is simply because you went out there and you had met people yes because got you have to understand understand. This is 2006, 7, 8. It was early. People didn't know what Facebook and Twitter were. So it wasn't, it wasn't huge amounts. It was, well, these are still big, but this wasn't like millions of dollars you had to spend. These were in the tens of thousands of dollars. Correct. And that's all you had. That's right. And then I guess people started to get to know you as like a social media presence, right, like a person with opinions about about social media. And there was a video that you posted at one point, I think on YouTube was it? Is that right? Actually, it was on Vidler, V-I-D-D-L-E-R.com, a platform that was competing with YouTube at the time.

Right. It was a single video I made titled, Facebook Should Worry About This Thing Called Twitter. It was me laying on a couch in my house with my, remember the flip cam? Oh, yeah. Yeah. So I take the camera into my face and say, Facebook should be worried about this thing, Twitter. I've been on Twitter, this new thing. You got to check it out.

and I gotta tell you, I know my brother and all the college kids are on this thing Facebook, but there's something here with Twitter. And a couple weeks later, I get an email from Dave Morin, who was a top executive there. Sure.

At Facebook. And he says, you don't happen to be in California on this. I was like, yeah, ironically, I'm coming. Of course I was going to come and talk to Facebook, right? So I go, and there's 200 people there, 150? I mean, the company was tiny. And by the way, when you went to Facebook and they asked you to just speak, did you like write a speech or did you just kind of come with notes?

Did you like sit down and start preparing something? I'm pure improv. No notes, no decks. And so after that moment, I just started making business videos. And the first 50 business videos of random ideas I had about social media, we called it Web 2.0 back then. We're met with 90% comments. Stay in your lane, wine, boy. Stay in your lane.

Yeah, and you were putting his up on YouTube. And Vidler, because it had tagging, and you could click to the part of it. And I was filming myself at the flip cam for the business stuff. Eric Kastner and Chris Mott, they would just, you know, click the button on the camera. I would do my thing, no editing, no lighting, no microphone, and they would go upload it and post it. And this is all happening, I guess, around 2009. And I guess right around this time, you decided to start a digital app. ad agency, like a branding agency, which would become VaynerMedia.

That's right. But you were still doing the wine business at the same time. Is that, is that right? Yes. From 2009 to 2011, I moonlighted in both businesses because Wine Library wasn't ready for me to leave. And VaynerMedia wasn't big enough for me to be forced to. And so I was, you know, doing both. And the idea with VaynerMedia was, look, I know this space.

And I, like, I'm a native in this space. I can help brands figure this out. Yeah, the idea in 2009 was, how does Pepsi and Campbell's and the NHL still not have a Twitter and Facebook account? It's 2009. Right. I already knew that I wanted to work with my brother, who's 11 years younger than meet AJ. Maybe I should start a company.

AJ's graduating now. I don't have a great idea. You know, we might want to do this fantasy sports thing. That would have been good. We might want to do this deal of the day, Groupon, living social thing. That probably would have been good. Like, the ideas were good, but Vayner Media was practical.

Gillette paid us $60,000 for a project and we thought that was a trillion dollars. Yeah, I'm sure. And so we got to work and what we knew was we wanted to be in this space, we wanted to be able to pay our rent and we wanted to be able to learn

and that nobody loves a good half-time adjustment more than me. That whatever we were doing, helping brands do social, it didn't matter to me to overthink what 13 years from now was going to look like because I would figure it out along the way.

And that's why it was so easy to start. I think people are so rigid, so in need of predicting the future, that it cripples them from actually doing. I agree. So you and your brother start VaynerMedia, and you start to get some accounts, and you basically were using the playbook that you had developed with the wine business?

Yes, the playbook was put out content that people actually want. Don't do television mentality where you're forcing things down. listen to the comments, engage in the comments, follow people back, use context of culture. So, hey, Pepsi, you know what would be really cool is if you follow Friday normal people. That would be stunning to people. And that's what they did.

Victor Lee, who was at Hasbro? Hey, Victor, I know you're launching this new Furby, the reboot of Furby, which was big a decade earlier. Why don't we do it on a Facebook fan page instead of television? And we post a Furby comment that says spell your name backwards by writing the words, spell your name backwards, in backwards. So it was that kind of work that was working. It was internet native. And at the time, every brand was

completely dismissing social media or trying to do print radio or television-like content on social media. Yeah. This is the time like 2009-10, 11, where companies started to hire quote-unquote social media gurus. Was that who you guys were thought of? Or is that like, people said, oh, we'll go to these social media gurus. Yes. But what was different was, even though I was the guru of the guru because of Gifted Gab had the most Twitter followers, my book was a New York Times bestseller. I knew then that I didn't want to be Gary Vaynerchuk, the guru. I wanted to build a business. So you would be hiring VaynerMedia, not Gary Vaynerchuk. Of course I would come to the meeting. Of course I would put my strategies. Of course I would talk to you. But I don't.

believe a lot of people in Ad World thought that this was like the Gary V. Show when it never was and it never will be. Let me go back to you mentioned your book and I want to talk about that for a sec because I mean you were you got a book contract I think like a 10 book deal to write books about I guess about entrepreneurship. Your first book was called Crush It Why Now is the time to cash in on your passion. And I mean how did you start to get attention that enabled you to attract the book deal. There was a Web 2.0 conference at the Javitt Center in New York

and I give this talk and the talk was basically Crush It which is does everybody understand what's happening here in 2007? Like this is it. We can do stuff. You can do a blog about Smurfs and make them $100,000.

Like that's literally what I said. I said smurf it up. I said do something about Alf. I was like I'm doing it about wine. If you read Crush It today I basically laid out 14 years ago influencer marketing And it landed.

And by the time I got to the green room where I had my phone, because I didn't even bring it with me on stage those days, I had three emails from Pengnam Putnam, from Wiley, from publishers saying, I'm in the crowd right now. Can you turn what you just said into a book? Wow. This is around the time when Tim Ferriss also released for Workweek. Yes. That was about a year earlier, maybe two years earlier.

I'm not sure exact timing. And hence here comes Crush It, which is, you know, you. You know, the economy is crap, but you can do it. You can be on the internet. You can start a vlog or a YouTube show. And you were in 2008. You were not a rich guy. No.

You were making a living, but you were making a living from the wine business, but it was your passion. Yes, but bookwriting was my most lucrative part of my life. Lucrative, yeah. In 2009, 10, 11, 12. That's where I made most of my money. Yeah. Because I was making nothing at VaynerMedia.

I was still making 80. And maybe, you know, to be fair, I might have gotten to 100 by then. at Wine Library just because at 30 I got a little testy with my dad of like, yo, I need some more money. Can I get $100,000, yeah. So you and your brother are building VaynerMedia and it's growing. And then in 2014, you're still running VaynerMedia. You helped co-found Resi, the reservation platform.

And did you guys raise money for that, by the way? We did through the fund that I started Vayner RSC. And so we incubated Resi in that fund at some level. Right. So you didn't have to answer it. investors who were like, well, how are you going to do that and this? I was the investor in that scenario. Yeah. As you, I mean,

as you kind of were growing Vayner media and building it out in different extensions and then started other things, what about your personal life? Did you get married? Did you like what? Married, two kids. How old are your kids today, by the way? 11 and 8. Yeah. And so, you know, like people think, because I talk about work ethic as an important

variable that I'm trying to burn myself out and die at four. Like people are very literal, but, you know, I come from the old school, right? Like my family life is like, that's like mine. That's important to me. I come from real family dynamics. And it's very easy for me to have that, prioritize that, value that. So yeah, I mean, like I live like a real life. I'm not a reality TV star.

When we come back in just a moment, Gary talks about his latest all-consuming passion, an NFT project called V-Friends. Oh, and did I mention he wants to buy the New York Jets? We'll talk a little bit about that, too. Stay with us. I'm Guy Raz, and you're listening to How I Built This. Hey, welcome back to How I Built This. I'm Guy Raz. So we're already up to the present day.

And on the day we did this interview in early May, Gary was gearing up to launch his last. latest project. It's called V-Friends, and it's a community for buying Gary's own brand of NFTs, non-fungible tokens, which are basically unique pieces of digital property. And to build V-Friends, Gary's team created about 10,000 electronic trading cards that can be redeemed for real things in the real world, like, say, a fishing trip with Gary. And he believes that if they do it right, V-Friends could be. be a model for how other people could get into NFTs. And I believe that it will be the project that every celebrity, influencer, author, podcaster, expert, personality, human will look at as a blueprint of how to do an NFT project properly.

For me, if this thing does $30 million in Ethereum or a dollar, if it becomes the blueprint that I just said I hope it is or doesn't, it's completely irrelevant. since January 7th, it is the only thing I care about to try. I have to try to launch this thing. I put in hours and hours of thinking and work, but also gleamed off of 25 years of experience

off of the back of a decade plus now of building a community and knowing how to do better for them than me. And in a world right now where everyone's putting out an NFT project as a gold rush for a quick dollar, I'm building something that's going to benefit my community. That's not anything other than

curiosity if I can pull it off. Right. I mean, if you can pull it off because there are, you know, they're skeptics, right? There are people who think that the NFT concept is super risky, like maybe not a good investment of time or money. Yeah, I mean, I think 99% of the projects that are being launched right now are gold rushes, and they're going to be projects that fail. And people are going to buy tokens from celebrities, leagues, different things. And the price is going to go down. And they'll probably even be an NFT winter.

call it a tipping point next year. I don't know when. That I don't know. But what I know is supply and demand and what I know is human psychology and what I know is pattern recognition. And then what's going to happen, guys, internet 1999.

The stocks declined because those companies were built on gold rush greed. But the technology changed our lives forever. NFT technology is going to change our lives forever. This 12 to 24 months will create incredibly bad projects that don't bring back value to the person that supported it. But I plan on making my project, for example, the Amazon and eBay of that era.

Amazon and eBay were during that March, April crash of 2000 stock, and if you were smart enough to see the bigger picture and bought those stocks for dollars, very nice things happened. Yeah. And that's what's going to happen again. Gary, it kind of makes my head spin hearing, hearing, all of this because this NFT project is like one of many businesses you have going on right now. I mean, I mean, you've launched so many companies and sold at least two.

I mean, I think Rezi, you sold to Amex, Empathy Wine, Direct to Consumer Wine Business, and then sold that. But you've got Vaynerx and you've got digital content production studios and you've got a talent agency, a sports agency. And I wonder whether you have to do all of these things. It's like stimuli. that you can't, you have to keep moving, creating. Because some people would say, how do you do all that stuff? How do you focus on all those things? It's impossible.

But I wonder whether you actually have to do it to feel alive. A hundred. You're absolutely right. To me, when people are like, how do you do all those things? I'm like, how would I ever focus on one thing? Now, I love focusing on one thing. It is a game for me. I don't mind losing.

Nobody talks about Vayner Live, right? Or Vayner Experiences. That was a division. Failed. Vayner sampling. I still want to do it. Hip hop at lunch, dead. The first version of the publishing company dead.

So I lose a lot. I just don't care. I remember interviewing Richard Branson a few years ago on the show and, you know, talking about virgin cola and some of the other virgin vodka, just, you know, failures. But he tried him. Yeah. He must be somebody. Because it's more fun.

Yeah. All right, I want to ask you about the Jets. You're a lifelong fan of the Jets. You've been very open about wanting to buy them one day. What does the Johnson family think about this? Have you talked to them about this? I've never had a conversation with Chris or Woody Johnson about this, mainly because I don't like audacity. You don't like audacity?

Stick with me here. You've been publicly on the records saying you want to buy the Jets. Me sharing my public dream feels natural to me. Okay. Me rolling into a meeting with the Johnsons where I'm... I'm nowhere close to being able to purchase the New York Jets feels audacious. And so my greatest joy is the hunt to buy the New York Jets. Would I like it to happen?

Sure. It has absolutely been a fun goal of mine. It sucks because I know I'm patient and I know how I'm going about doing it, which makes me feel that I'm going to get it done in 25 to 27 years. The part that bothers me is like how deep I want my parents. to be there. You know, can I, can I, that's tough, because I know I won't deviate from my process,

otherwise there's no chance that I get it. But I have this ticker that I'm not in control of. And obviously I'm not in control of a trillion things, but I'm pretty sure if I pull that off somewhere in 25 years, that 40 years of this energy yelling about it, and then it actually happening is probably good for a Disney movie and why not. Here's something I'm interested in, which is, and I've talked about this before, which is I don't engage in social media too much. I do it. And I've got, you know, I don't have masses of followers like you. But I don't, it doesn't feel good when people are cruel or mean. And, you know, you see this with some celebrities, they'll drop off Twitter after a while because it just can't take it anymore. You get a lot of hate on social media because you've got millions of followers across your channel. channels, does it ever get to you?

I'm a human being, right? You know, somebody decided to take time out of their day to spit venom at me. And I would never in the world think that that was a use of time that would be interesting to me, even if I disagreed with somebody or didn't like someone. So first, I think, where is that person? And that doesn't mean I think that person sucks or should be deleted. I don't block people. It's just a very interesting curiosity, intrigue of, man, that sucks. Like, A, let me look at what I posted.

Did I do something there that would so engage someone to do that? B, there's a very big part of how I handle this. I believe that a lot of my friends who aren't able to handle it, which is many, enjoy the accolades too much. I believe one of the reasons I can deal with this is I can't hear them cheering for me, which allows me to deal with the booing. If I disappear tomorrow, God forbid, I'll get nine nice hours on social media of people sharing clips if I even affected them. And then everybody will move on their daily life

except for a very small group of people. When you realize you mean nothing, but you aspire to mean as much as humanly possible, you create a very interesting perspective framework that makes a lot of things easy. I once asked Jimmy Fallon in an interview, how does he deal with just being on all the time when he's in public? Like, you know, because he walks to work, right, from his apartment and he's walking down the street and people are high-fiving him and then he goes to a restaurant and people are kind of always around him.

And I was in an event with him and he was just getting mobbed. And he loves it. He loves it all the time. It's just so natural. He loves talking to people. and it's part of what makes him so approachable. But I am an introvert. So when I see that, I'm like, oh, my God, I am, I need to just go into a room for a while by myself.

Do you ever want to just jump off the hamster wheel for a couple of weeks and just not be around people? My answer is the same as Valance. I love it. The airport, the cab, the high five, the Jets games. I love it. You know why? I can't believe it. I'm so grateful.

And by the way, I'm not a comedian. I'm not a supermodel. I'm not an athlete. People like me because of things I'm saying that I'm hoping will help them or giving out information that did help them. I figure out TikTok, I'm telling my people.

I figure out NFTs, I'm telling my people. Like, I'm getting it not from fame. I'm getting it from someone admiring it or being grateful. It's an incredible energy. On the flip side, I actually completely understand, why people in first glance

in an Instagram feed of a 30 second clip at my height of it of feeling and conviction will be like, fuck this guy. But I also know there are people that walk around the world that are adored that know as people get closer to them, they hate them more.

I have the reverse. And it sounds like the people that are your detractors, your view is like, come on, come meet me, come talk to me. You're not mad at them. I'm definitely not mad at them. I understand. them. I'm a lot when the lights are on. You've never seen me and you're and you see a 30 second video on Instagram where I dropped seven F bombs and nine seconds and you have no context for me. And to your point,

like even your reaction on my audacity, like I'm not confused what audacity and conviction and even a disgusting word ego and all these things that people might think, but, but I just know the truth. Like I think of myself as an athlete. When I I am on the field, I will do what it takes to win the game in the rules. But when the game is over, guy, I'm going right up to my competitor who I tried to rip his fucking eyeballs out and saying, hey, how's Karen? And can I give you a donation to your charity? So when I see athletes at the end of the game hugging each other after they were bashing each other, and I'm pissed because I'm like, don't hug them. They just beat us. I'm fucking angry as a fan.

But I understand them, brother, because even though I know I'm competing with people day to day or this and that, I'm on the field when people see me on social media. I'm on the field. You are obviously super passionate about the new project that you're building around NFTs, and there will be other things. And you have this reputation of somebody who never stops working, right? Never, ever stops, constantly working, constantly on the go. First of all, do you think that's true?

Because it seems to be true. No, I don't think it's true. I try to communicate. Here's the problem, right? No matter how many times I make a video, I can easily say with the same conviction as I've said everything else, guys, sleep eight, nine hours a day.

Yet, even though hundreds of thousands of people will hear that, somebody will come out and be like, he sleeps four hours a day, it's not hell. Like, people see what they're looking for. Right. You know, I am high energy because I'm passionate and excited

and optimistic and enjoy it. And that comes through. I really like work. And I am very addicted, no question, to the notion of legacy. I want to leave a mark. It's nice. Why not? Why not?

Why not try to give the world more than it gave you? There's a renewed or a new kind of view on, and I hesitate to use this term because I think it's a lazy term, but for shorthand purposes, I'll use it, hustle culture. There's kind of a new or a different perspective on it. and there's a lot of criticism about, and now we get it about our show, too, even though I don't believe that's what we do. You get a lot of criticism for promoting hustle culture, this idea that anybody can succeed and make a living off their passion. I know that's oversimplifying. It's not what you say.

No, no. It's not what I say. Right. It's not what you say, but you get. Well, I mean, everybody gets, right? I say in 2008, when Crusha came out, the economy's crap, everyone lost their jobs. You have the ability to use the internet

to build a business around things you like. That was factual in hindsight. It doesn't mean that I'm not, guy, I'm not the secret. If you just work, it will, like, it's just not true. And nor have I ever said that. People are so incredibly selective. I don't even use the word hustle anymore, a word that I loved my whole life.

Yeah. Because I believed in grit and I believe in tenacity and I believe that work ethic is one of the variables of success. But nobody read the parts of the book where I say, make $60,000 a year

and be happy. Let there be no confusion. I'm not driven by people making money, buying BMWs, having private planes, but I think there is a certain group of people on Earth that love building businesses,

the way people love golfing, love being a mother, love being a doctor, love. And I'm one of those people. Yeah. Do you, when you think about your journey from, you know, childhood and Queens and your dad opening that liquor store and the work you did and where you kind of came to now, how much of that do you attribute to you, your values, your hard work? And how much do you attribute to luck? Well, it's tough. I worry that people use the word luck to eliminate accountability on their own efforts and they give up and cease mental control and don't realize how much control one has in their lives.

So I play very carefully with the word luck because I think people love to use it as an excuse engine. However, I think it's an incredibly powerful reality. I mean, you know, to me, the luck starts and stops with Tamara Vaynerchuk. To be the firstborn son of that woman is the greatest lucky thing that ever happened to me. The way she molded me and navigated me, nothing in the outside world had any chance of competing with that. Yep. Yep. You know, I've never said that before that way.

I was in a cocoon of love and accountability. You're punished. You got Fs. but she made me feel like I could do anything. And so if you ask me what drives you right now, and I've only realized this in the last five years, which is why I'm like, oh, that's right. That's what I was doing in my 20s.

I'm so damn curious about how good I am at this. But it's interesting because when you say that and articulate that, right? If somebody read a transcript of you saying that without hearing the tone in your voice and the cadence, they might think, God, what a, that guy's full of himself. But when you say it and you hear it, it's clear that that's not how you're trying to express it. You are, it sounds like you're almost amazed that you just came to you. You just gratitude. The way you just articulated it at, if this was red, you're a douche, but if you listen to this with all the nuances of context, it feels right.

And honestly, I like that. And by the way, could you imagine a better life? Could you imagine a better life? That's Gary Vaynerchuk, CEO of Vayner, media, author of Crush It, co-founder of Rezi, launcher of many, many other projects too numerous to name, and one day, possibly the proud owner of the New York Jets. By the way, I had a great conversation with Gary at our virtual How I Built the Summit back in May. He had all sorts of incredible insights about marketing and time management and lots more.

So be on the lookout for that. It will be in your podcast feed on Thursday, August 5th. Thanks so much for listening to the show this week. This episode was produced by Liz Metzger with music composed by Routin Arablee. It was edited by Neva Grant with research help from Dereth Gales. Our production staff includes Casey Herman, J.C. Howard, Rachel Falkner, James Dela Hussie, Julia Carney, Farah Safari, and Annalise Ober. Our intern is Harrison V.J. Choi. And Jeff Rogers is our executive producer. I'm Guy Raz, and you've been listening to How I Built This.

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