How I Invest with David Weisburd - E245: From $0 to Billions in a Regulated Market

Episode Date: November 18, 2025

How do you build a multibillion-dollar company from scratch, walk away at the peak, and reinvent your life around purpose, generosity, and impact? In this episode, I talk with Pete Kadens, one of America’s most respected first-generation wealth creators and one of the leading philanthropists focused on closing education and opportunity gaps across the U.S. Today. Pete and I dive into how he built Green Thumb Industries (GTI) into a multibillion-dollar cannabis company, the unsexy strategies that made it work, and why choosing overlooked markets and consumers unlocked massive profit. We cover the power of ownership cultures, transparency, discipline frameworks, and why giving equity and education to employees creates extraordinary performance. We also explore the character transformation that led him to retire at 40.

So Pete, your first generation wealth creator, your co-founder and CEO of Green Thumb, which you built from scratch, took it to $6 billion market cap today. It's roughly $2 billion. Tell me about founding Green Thumb industry, specifically how did you build a business in the cutthroat cannabis space? Yeah. And so, you know, I had a couple tours of duty as an entrepreneur. I started my first business at 24 and sold it at 29. It was a millionaire before it. 30, and then had started another business in the commercial solar space and had another nice exit. And I was working, running a billion-dollar subsidiary of a utility, the same utility I had

sold my solar company to. And I got a phone call one day from a friend. We weren't that friendly, but someone I knew in Chicago. And it has asked me, he said, what do you think about wheat? And I said, I love weed. And he said, no, I'm not talking about the product. I'm talking about the business of weed. You know, it's starting to be legalized.

And there's all these folks out in Colorado where, you know, building $100 million plus businesses who don't really even know what they're doing. Like, what if really sophisticated operators came into the space like you and I? And so I started doing some, you know, private equity type due diligence on the current operators in the space with my partner and other people

and learned a lot about the space. And I figured out is that, yeah, indeed, there's a massive opportunity to do something really, really different in the space. And that's exactly what we did. The Green Dumb Industries is the largest cannabis company in the world today. Revenue-wise, we'll do, I think, 1.4, 1.5 billion at revenue this year, operations in 15 states around the U.S. And, you know, we built this thing by just doing the unsexy things well. While everyone else was trying to be the Apple store of weed or the Starbucks of weed, we were just busy doing the blocking and tackling. Good example, David,

The company is headquartered in downtown Chicago, and we don't even have a dispensary. You're the largest cannabis company in the world. We don't even have a dispensary in our whole town. The reason is that the company has operated on the basis of profit, you know, profit above all else, basically, except for ethics and morality. And we do the unsexy things well. So instead of being in Chicago, we're in Joliet and Naperville and Essingham and Munderland, other cities that some people may not have even heard of that are, you know, 30,000, 50,000, 100,000 people, cities in Illinois. And that's just a good example.

It's like that all over the country. We sort of zigged while everyone else was zagging. And I think that's why we were able to take this thing to, you know, sort of to the moon, so to speak. Tell me about what's unsexy about Green Thun? Yeah, so being in Toledo, Ohio versus Cleveland or Columbus, or being in Erie, Pennsylvania versus Pittsburgh and Philadelphia, that's pretty unsexy. But when you look at the math, you know, Erie, Pennsylvania is a great example. We got the first, we got the highest score in the state of Pennsylvania. We could have picked anywhere we wanted to go.

We picked Erie, which again, not sexy. But when you look at the NSA there, it's about 500,000 people. And the way the state had chopped up the licenses, the next closest dispensary was going to be like 72 miles away in Bradford, Pennsylvania. Now, I don't know if anyone here has been to Erie. But if you have, you know that for about six months a year, you ain't going anywhere. Like, you're not driving 70 miles to get, you know, pre-roll joints that are $10 cheaper because the weather is very inclement. We went to places that no one else would go because our bias was we want a monopoly or oligopoly on a market. And that's why our margins are some of the highest in the world in the industry and certainly our profits.

We are the most profitable company in the world. And I'm saying we, I've been gone for, you know, five and a half years. But, you know, I still feel very much a part of it, obviously. The other thing is a lot of times people don't go after non-obvious opportunities. We got really good at going after non-obvious opportunities. So let me give you an example. In 2013, 14, when we started this thing, you know, the average marijuana consumer in that time was sort of like a 32-year-old man who had been, you know, smoking weed since college. The consumer was not the American woman mother of three kids age 30 to 50.

But what we know to be true, what we knew to be true then and what we still know to be true is that we went after the customer that was not yet the customer and pulled them over from that glass of wine at the end of the night after raising three toddlers to a gummy, that that would unlock so much opportunity. Because the truth is that American women, age 30 to 50, drive more consumer behavior than any other demographic in the world. You know, when my wife tells me we're going somewhere, we're going somewhere. I think we all sort of feel that or acknowledge that. So instead of going to where the market was, it's sort of like the Wayne Gretzky. You know, we weren't skating to where the puck was. We were skating to where the puck was going. That was just something that we did better than anybody else.

And it was pretty unsexy at the time. And frankly, a lot of people even thought it was a little questionable at the time. We directed all of our products, all of our form factors, many of our taste profiles, towards the female consumer. And then ended up working out very well, obviously. It's well-known meme or idea that if you want to make a lot of money, you go after unsexy businesses. You go after waste management or construction, things like that. I think it's much more difficult to implement it.

Why? Because while you're building these unsexy businesses, you're living in the real world. When you go to cocktail parties, people ask you where your dispensaries are. You say Erie, Pennsylvania versus downtown Chicago. So how did you have the discipline to stick to an unsexy strategies? And what are some lessons from that? My partner in the Green Thumb Industries was very, very operationally disciplined. He still is to this day, probably the most disciplined operator in his face.

His name is Ben Covaler. He taught me a lot, frankly, about operational discipline. And, you know, when you have a partner, you know, Ben and I didn't always see eye to eye. But I think we respected one another because we each brought very complex. skills to the table. When I got out of line or was doing something that maybe didn't map to our vision or to our discipline, he sort of course corrected me. And similarly, sometimes when he was too sort of focused on the books and on the spreadsheets and not thinking about the big vision, I was able to hold him accountable and challenge him. So I do think that if you're in a good

complementary partnership, you can sort of stay the course and stay disciplined. And, you know, It's good. I think we've learned there's a school of entrepreneurship, EOS, the entrepreneurial operating system. And, you know, typically there's got to be one visionary and one integrator and a great partnership. And we had the visionary integrator balance going quite well. Ben has become the visionary of the business. And now there's another integrator in there, named Anthony Georgiatis, with him. And, you know, it's just that partnership balance where you can hold each other accountable, I think, is the way we did it. And again, when the North Star is we want to be the most profitable company in the space, you sort of set aside some of the more undisciplined approaches that don't make you money. And that was always our initiative. It's like we want to, we want to sell to the mass market and we want to, you know, brands distributed at scale and we want to be the most profitable company in the cannabis world. And so we just held true to that vision. Perhaps what I'm getting to is you're also home of. sapien like other people. Nobody does not want to make profits. You're limited to the same neurobiology

that humans are limited to. How do you discipline your way into doing things that in the short term are not sexy? And what are some to do's in order to replicate the strategy? I'm a big believer in manifestation and building roadmaps. And, you know, our roadmaps, my personal roadmap was always about reaching some level of attainable wealth. And, you know, so I knew this. specific destination and just like that, my companies have always known the specific destination that they wanted to get to. And then from there, you build sort of a discipline's framework to be able to get there. And then you hire really, really talented people to operate within that discipline framework. But the key is, I think, is you have the discipline framework

to get to your North Star and you let really talented people operate freely within that discipline framework. What we did at Green Thumb is similar to what I'm doing now with my current companies, is like we give people a lot of autonomy. We say to people like, we trust you and therefore like you're sort of the CEO of your own domain. You sort of blow up the hierarchy, so to speak. And when you blow up the hierarchy and you give people agency and autonomy, magic happens. And, you know, but again, it has to be done with a discipline framework. There were steps to get to our North Star.

I'm a big believer in Jack Stack, his approach. He wrote a book called The Great Game of Business, right? And he talks about one of the best ways to keep everybody. and the company on course and mission aligned and goal aligned is through full transparency. In fact, I will say, like, I own an engineering company. We have about 100 employees, the company is headquartered out of Philadelphia. I bought the company a couple years ago. And it was remarkable when I first bought the company, we asked the employees, not me,

but we sort of did a survey, an anonymous survey, and we asked the employees, like, what are the most important things to you about working at this company? It's called Mainstay. And then we took all the response. and we built a word cloud. And in the word cloud, right in the middle, in like 48 point font, where the next closest word was like 16 point font, was the word transparency.

And I think just like Jack Stack did in the great game of business in Springfield, Missouri, like you just tell people what's happening where they're at, where we're at as a company and what we need to do to get to our North Star. If you walk through a Green Thumb Ministries, there's a big whiteboard right in the middle of the headquarters, and it had the 10 KPIs that we had to achieve. achieve and it measured them week by week. So everybody knew the level of accountability and the standards we had to meet in order to meet our vision and North Star. So that's sort of how we did

it. I've adopted that strategy with all the companies I've ever managed. That's an old school book. I just was looking up. It was written in 1992. I think I read it in probably the late 90s. I used to go to bookstores and read business books in high school. Jack Sack talks about this ESOPs, which is employee-owned organization, is equity one of the secret sauces to making people do these on sexy tasks? Absolutely. A lot of people became millionaires at Green Thumb industry, not just the executive team, far downstream from the executive team. And at all of my companies, I have provided equity. I own a company now called Warmer.com. It's in the, you know, peer-to-peer support space and every single employee at the company. It's only 20 of us,

but every single employee of the company is an owner of the company. That's sort of a mandate because you want people to act like owners. You better make them, in my opinion. And we want everybody acting like an owner. We want everyone at our company to pass the trash test, which is, you know, you see a piece of trash on the ground at the office. Don't let the person, you know, don't rely on the person who actually, you know, threw their fashion on the ground to pick it up. Just pick it up yourself. You're an owner. Right. And so every company, ever managed, you know, everyone meets the trash test. And that's sort of a cultural norm at these companies. So, but you've got to take it a step further. And Jack Stack talks about this in his book,

and you're right, he was very early on to this. KKR, the private equity firm, is now adopted this in many ways. And they found that their companies were the ESOP, there's an employee stock ownership plan. The EBITDA is 3X what it was 10 years ago when they didn't have, you know, an ESOP plan, for example. And, and, you know, so, but in order, you can't just, here's what I would say. This is what's interesting is, and if there's, maybe there's one thing that a few employers take away from this call, maybe it's this, which is that employees don't feel ownership based upon what you give them.

They feel ownership in the company based upon what they give you. And so they have to feel like they're giving value to the company. They have to feel like they understand the. financial so they can add value to the finance. Even the janitor, you know, as Jack Stack talks about and the great game of business, understood the financial implications of wasting disinfecting, right? Cost of goods sold up, inventory down. And he understood the balance sheet implications for that. And so it's great to have owners, but it's even better and more effective to have educated owners who understand the implications of the work they're doing. And that's what I've tried to do in all my

businesses. I was essentially asking you the question of how do you build an organization where people are not going towards the flashy lights and the flashing headlines and the cool things you could tell their friends. And your answer was you build a much bigger purpose, which is we're building something. We're self-actualizing ourselves through the business. We get ownership over domains. We're all a part of this bigger mission. And we could also, you know, build, build wealth for ourselves and our families, which matters much more than telling some random person at a cocktail party, I have a dispensary in Chicago versus Erie. You just have a bigger why. So it's not that they're avoiding this other kind of cool, nice to have, is that you're giving them something much more

valuable. No question. No question. And, you know, like, I got to say, I operate on sort of a sleep at night quotient. You know, like if I'm not sleeping in night, something's wrong. And and something's bothering me and I need to figure out what that is because I just want to be able to feel good enough about myself and my decisions that I sleep at night. And I got to tell you, as I sit here in my beautiful home on Lake Michigan, which I earned, I worked hard for. I feel I can sleep so much better at night

knowing that I didn't hoard all the benefits. You know, yeah, I benefited and I live in this big, beautiful home, and I have the type of life where I can do just about anything I want. but it wasn't just me. There are lots of people whose lives were altered in a really meaningful way and generational wealth was created. And I just sleep better at night knowing that I'm not selfish, I'm not greedy. I have a moral imperative to look out for others.

And I know we might touch on this later, David, but maybe it's a good time to say it as like, I have always said, and when I speak in almost every podcast I do, I tell people the more generous I am, the wealthier I get. And that's not just about money and that's not just about equity. There's lots of forms of generosity. You can be generous with your energy, your intellect, your network. But I just feel like I am a little spiritual in the sense that, you know, when I give to the universe, the universe repays me.

And I just believe that, you know, those of us who are very greedy, only looking out for ourselves in our own wealth and never share any of it, I question sort of the moral imperative there. and, you know, and also the true fulfillment. I'm very fulfilled that lots of other people who have benefited from my work. Let's take away the morality of the equation. From a purely rational standpoint, give me an example of by not being greedy, by being giving at the margins,

how are you able to benefit? How are you able to scale that as well? The more people around me feel like owners, the more they feel like they can give and contribute, they're more committed they're going to be. And, you know, if you want to build a successful company, you have to have committed people working on your team. And so I think that, but instead of forcing commitment, it's better to sort of earn it through kind and generous gestures. And, you know,

David, I don't really, to be honest, I don't really decouple my moral imperatives from making money, you know? I know you asked me to do that, but I don't do that. I always tell people, I do not love my businesses. I love my family. I love myself. I do not love my businesses. I team my businesses is a vehicle to help people and to help myself grow and learn and build wealth. And so I try my best not to decouple those things. And while I've had my moments where sort of my moral imperative may have been, you know, diminished a little bit while I made some hard or even ruthless decisions, I try to make sure that I invoke the moral imperative in every decision I make. Because the truth is, is like, you just get better results. When people

like working for you, when people feel comfort, when people feel they can give a lot and be rewarded a lot, you build better companies. And I've done that a number of times now, it continues to work for me. I always tell people, like, the culture I build of the companies that I've founded, it's all about a culture of compliments. I want people liking, working together with their peers and complimenting one another and supporting one another. It's just a much more fun, which more advantaged way to play the game. I think it's a unique advantage, a distinct advantage in the corporate world today. A lot of people fail to see that one of the main benefits are your main structures and startup stuff make so many successful is the equity, is this alignment.

It's not, they think it's a tech thing. It's not a tech thing. It's an alignment thing. I think a lot of places outside of specific use like edge cases like a McDonald's or franchises with existing built systems, I think a lot more places. We have a lot more upside if there was more sharing and more alignment. Literally, KKR, the big private equity firm, has published their data on the companies where every single employee is an owner of the company. And just like benchmark those companies. There's an overhead door company based in Southern Illinois. I forget the town that KKR owned.

And like benchmarked that company since they gave all the employees ownership versus its biggest competitors. And again, they're like 3x outperforming their biggest competitors. And, you know, before KKR did this, they were sort of like performing on par with their competitors. So it's like the proof is in the pudding, the data supports. that when people are aligned through ownership and opportunity, they perform. The exact report is called Creating an Ownership Culture by KKR.

So I'll take a look. The data is very suggestive and supportive of what I'm saying. So think about providing ownership to your employees and also, again, educating them. Don't just give ownership, educate them on what the financials mean, how to read a balance sheet, how to read a cash-fills statement. That's really important. You've been on 60 Minutes twice. I recently took a look at that.

And one of the things that talks about is your character arc, going from this ruthless business person to one of the top philanthropists in the U.S. Tell me about this character arc. And what were your lessons along the way that changed essentially your character? I've always had a bias to action. And I've always been charitably inclined. But certainly there have been moments in my life where I was so focused on a business that I didn't feel I had the time. time to contribute to other causes outside of my area of focus. I'm teaching a class at the collegiate level now called mastering wealth. And I remind my students that, you know, when you

think about someone who's wealthy, I know that you traditionally think about, you know, bank account wealth. But, you know, I spent a lot of time. I didn't then, but I spent a lot of time now thinking about the different permutations of wealth, health, wealth, relationship wealth, family wealth, you know, network wealth, lots of different forms of wealth. And, you know, what happened, to be honest to you, David, is when I, when I reached my wealth goal, I'm a big manicester, you know, a long time ago. I read Thinking Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill and I set my wealth objectives and I did accomplish them and then some. And when I got to my wealth goal, I think I felt this sense of relief, but also this extraordinary sense of juxtaposition. Like,

Yeah, I'm bank account rich, but holy cow, do I feel really relationship poor. And I felt like I needed to do something about it. Ultimately, that led to my retirement. The other thing I'll say is this. Like, if you made money the way I made money, which is at the time rich white man, I didn't grow up rich, but I came over my history of my entrepreneur in a career, I became very wealthy. But, you know, if you became rich the way I did, which is by selling marijuana,

you can't look yourself in the mirror and not acknowledge that you did this on the backs of black and brown folk who have been selling weed in their basements and garages for like four decades and instead of creating a fortune they created a criminal record for themselves and and so I became there was a lot of guilt I've said that on 60 minutes wise it was Scott Pelly a lot of guilt in in the sense that I really needed to pay it back like who were the people and communities who suffered and sacrificed so that I could succeed. And when I woke up on this day with extraordinary wealth in my bank account, I felt a degree of guilt and I sold some sort of this relief of this hubris.

And I said, I got to go pay it backward in people or communities who suffered for me to be able to actually actualize this. And that's how this happened. And it was just sort of a moment of real human clarity. And I think I've really, I've become such a, I don't. human, much less ruthless, much more kind, much more empowering to people around me. And the last thing I'll say is, you know, I used to give a shit about what I call extrinsic affirmation. I don't need extrinsic affirmation. I know the man I am. And so to have the ability to stop caring about how

other people see you or what they think about you and just do the things that make you fulfilled and feel good. And to live that as your life purpose. Like my life purpose is to help myself and people around me who I care for find the truest form of fulfillment. And so I think the way I do that is through charitable endeavors, and I feel very happy and proud of what we've done. And I'm never ruthless anymore, which is, which is good. There's this novelism that there's two ways to reach this, this type of enlightenment. One is to be a monk, and the other is to attain your goals and realize that you're good enough or you no longer need them. Would you have reached this kind of level of thinking and

enlightenment if you hadn't achieved your goals? And isn't that a big part of why you're able to kind of do good and do these things to say? I'd love to say that no, I didn't need to achieve my goals in order to sort of get to this point of enlightenment. By the way, I often call it, I haven't call it enlightened self-interest because I do believe I achieved some enlightenment, but I believe that some of it is still self-interested and I'm okay with that. I wish I could say yes, but the truth is that I don't think I would have gotten to this place had I not achieved my business and financial goals. That gave me a sense of security and safety and comfort that allowed me to sort of flourish in other domains. I do think I'm a good human. I do think I care about the world, but I care about

the world a ton more because I achieve my business objectives. Now, if I was giving advice to somebody else. I'd say probably not the most ideal way to do it. You could find, you could sort of stay committed to your, your more well-rounded objectives and be a thoughtful and charitable leader in your community outside of your business, even before you hit it big. But that's unfortunately not what happened with me. But I don't have any regrets, but the truth is that I had to hit my goals before I could sort of open up and become really enlightened. If you've been considering future straightings, now might be the time to take a closer look. The futures market has seen, increased activity recently and plus 500 futures offers a straightforward entry point.

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disorder that people have is non-binary. Depression, I think everybody has trauma, all sorts of things. The very unusual belief that I have is that everybody has a form of multiple personality disorder. What does that mean? Today it's called dissociative identity disorder. That's a new way people want them to be called. But we all have different drives within ourselves, which is oftentimes a time, for conflict. Last time we chatted, we talked about your drive to succeed versus your drive to be with your kids. These are essentially different drives in ourselves. And if you subscribe to that, something like achieving your wealth can quell or satisfy that need. So you had this tough upbringing.

You had this need to show people that you mattered and that you were good enough. Once that is satisfied, it kind of relaxes and allows you to kind of evolve. yourself into a better human being. What are your thoughts on this? I could agree more. I mean, I've never actually heard it described in that accurate of a way. And again, I wish it wasn't that that, I wish that wasn't the case, it's at least not for me. But, but the truth is, is that, you know, sort of like, sort of like we, we have multiple personalities, you know, as we're talking about we, there's, there's, there's, there's, it's not just polar personalities. It's sort of, there's, there's a lot of clarity in business success. And in this class I teach at the collegiate level, I'm just reminding

my students this week, like, you kind of sort of like, in order to be a really successful entrepreneur, you sort of have to smooth out the edges. You have to become really emotionally stable. And you have to strike some form of balance. I actually think that's a really overused word, balance, but because it's very, very hard to achieve that. What? Work life balanced. Yeah, right. That's a hard one to achieve. But I got to tell you, Like, for me, it's, it's a lot about understanding polarity and acknowledging polarity and then trying to figure out, like, how to, you know, bring things a little bit closer together versus, you know, versus sort of to accentuate the polarity.

I'll give me an example. It feels like in many cases it's bank account wealth up, health wealth down. You know, bank account wealth up, relationship wealth down. You know, bank account wealth up, happiness wealth down. And, like, it doesn't have to be that way. Maybe for a period of time it does, you know, while you're really struggling or whatnot. But, like, I totally, I definitely felt that polarity. And it was hard for me to manage.

But, I mean, look, the truth is, is, like, I would build, I was part of building a rocket ship from zero to a billion in revenue in a very short period of time. Like, you're going to be on a plane 200 nights a year? Like, how are you going to have family wealth and relationship wealth if you're flying around the country 200 nights a year? It's very, very hard to do. Maybe I'm not dynamic enough to manage that, but that's where my struggle was. In fact, that's why I retired at the age of 40s. I just couldn't, I didn't like that polarity anymore, and I couldn't manage it. I needed to sort of get back in balance.

It's so interesting because the reason we're talking in many ways is because you are so one-sided, because you had this extreme success because of the tradehouse that you made, somewhat of a paradox is that oftentimes these stories are told from the side of somebody that has extreme lack of work-life balance and is able to do those things. At the same time, it is necessary. So if you think about any new industry, including cannabis, it's kind of the Wild West, there was going to be a winner. And many of these games, for better or for worse, are zero-sum or have a lot of oligopoly-type tendencies. So you have to have this kind of lack of balance. One of the things that that was really interesting is when we were chatting,

preparing for this interview, you said that even though you didn't see your kits for the first couple of years. You did not regret that. Tell me about that. I'm not sure I want them to hear that. But so, but, you know, as I look back on my life, when I was on this run, my kids were sort of ages like, you know, one to six, right? My oldest is in high school. And so I don't have regrets. Maybe I could have done it differently. I certainly could have been a more compassionate husband and father, I really would, I really would have liked to have anchored around compassion. That would have been a better way to, you know, to operate. I didn't have a lot of that either for my wife who was basically re-raising, you know, three toddlers at the time. But the reason

I don't have regrets is because my push, my sacrifice gave me an opportunity to be around, to retire at the age of 40 and to be around basically every day from the time when I was 40, my oldest was I guess nine. And from nine years old, and the time I'm at a seven-year-old and a five-year-old when I retired. So like it really early ages, formative developmental ages, I was able to like quit and be around.

I was totally around and engaged during COVID. We went and spent, you know, six months in Florida and had the best time. Like, I didn't have to do anything, you know. I didn't have to be at any meetings. I had the ultimate flexibility. my family and I could travel and experience. And I just feel like, you know, would I have been able to take my kids to Spain or Italy or Costa Rica or Panama or all these places they have been able to see and go to

if I hadn't sort of pushed the envelope when they were younger? No, I wouldn't. And so I look back and while like I probably would have changed some things, I can't regret it because it's opened up so many doors and opportunities for me to foster better relationships with my kids and my spouse and others around me over the last couple years. And that's, I don't know if I would have been able to do it otherwise. I mean, I still have lots of friends who, I think I'm my best friend here in Chicago. And he does very well for himself, but he's an investment banking and he's still traveling like three to four days a week.

And he's got four kids. And that is really hard. So I'm, I have no regrets, even though it pains me to say that in some way. It's a heavy subject. I appreciate you going down this rabbit hole. I'm thinking as a future father, I recently got married, we want to have. Congrats. Thank you.

Thank you. It was a beautiful wedding. And what do I want to role model to my kids as a father? Because I do think the roles of a mother are slightly different. And as a father, what do you think going through this process? What is it that you believe that your role is? And what do you want your kids to remember or model from you? It's a great question, a fun question for me to answer because I spent a lot of time thinking about it. I want my kids to know and see my best and authentic self. You know, like, if you have the time and capacity to bring your best self to your kids, it's amazing how they see you. I got a piece of advice from my friend Amber Venn's box who runs a multi-billion dollar company called LTK out of a Dallas. And she's a fellow

of mine at the Aspen Institute. Once she said something to me that stuck with me and I don't think I'll ever forget it. She said, Pete, she said, you're spending a lot of time being your kid's roommate. Maybe you should spend more time being their playmate. And I was like, holy shit, like, I couldn't have said it better myself. I come home by the end of the day, I'm tired as hell. You know, we have dinner, we go through the motions, we go over homework, and then I put them to bed. And it's like, that's not quality time.

And so when your kid asked you to play basketball or play football or watch a movie with them or play a video game or whatever it is, like, just say yes, just do it. You know, be their playmate. That's the type of stuff they're going to remember. That's the legacy that counts for them. They don't give a shit about how much money I made. maybe later in life they will, but like right now they certainly don't care. They just want their dad and they want their dad to be present and they want their dad to be fun.

And I've really endeavored to do that. And the other thing though is like, look, I want my kids to know that we do important work in this family. Like we have a moral imperative. We have a moral nor star. We believe in our family that are rising tie lifts all boats. Like in other words, you know, the better people are doing in the south side of Chicago and the under-resourced, underestimated communities, the better we're doing here up in the beautiful northern suburbs that are very wealthy. Like, we're all in this game together. And I think we've

been able to show our kids, especially in the last five, six years, my wife and I have been able to show our kids. Like, we invest deeply in communities that are trauma-filled because we believe that when they're better, we're better to. And our kids see that and they live that, experience that. And I think that's the legacy that I want my kids to have for me, is that my dad pushed the envelope, believed it helping others, when I, of his way to help others. And, you know, like, the other thing, I'll just say one last thing on this, David, because this is an area of real passion for me. I tell my kids all the time. My kids have never sat down at a restaurant. I own two restaurants myself, but I'm talking outside of my

restaurants. Like, they have never sat down at a restaurant with me where I didn't look the server in the eye and say, excuse me, may I have your name? Never. My kids have never seen. There's never been a scenario where that hasn't happened. And I explained to them that, you know, Dale Carnegie, how to win friends and influence people. The sweetest sound in the English language is your own name. And we're going to treat this person like they're an equal. And I say to my kids all the time, I am going to be judged, and so are you,

by the way we treat people who can do absolutely nothing for us. And I really hope that is my legacy. And I hope my kids own that legacy too. Like, we're just going to treat people who can do nothing for us with kindness and dignity and grace. And if we all do that, not just me and my family, the world's going to be a lot better of a place. you have a lot of parents

they say you know well my kids this he's spoiled and rotten and they don't think about their own behavior like what behavior are you modeling for your kids because chances are it's going to be very similar I tell the teachers and the parents of principals and my kids different schools or not like my kid doesn't need to be validatorian

my kid doesn't need to be the best athlete my kid doesn't need to be you know the most popular we don't strive for those things for our children But you know what? We want our kids to be. We want our kids to be the nicest. We want our kids to be the kindest. And, you know, just to be super honest, like, when you're, when you're the rich kid in school, now there's plenty of rich people in the North Shore of Chicago, but people know we're, you know, meaningfully wealthy. And, you know, my kids have caught some heat over that for the years, especially in the ways that I made my wealth in the cannabis sector. That's been a sort of a running joke for a number of years with, you know, teenagers. But, you know what? I've never, the thing I'm most proud of about, my kids has nothing to do with their grades or athletic accomplishments and my oldest is now 15 and 15 years of being a parent never once have I gotten a call from another parent a teacher a principal saying that my kid was a bully my kid was mean my kid was disrespectful to somebody else because that's what we prioritize we set the bar in our home that we are going to be kind

generous humans and and that is the non like that is there's nothing else that's acceptable other than other than that. And so it's just about setting priorities and what matters, what matter. I don't care from shit if my kids go to a tier three college, to be honestly. They're going to be just fine. But learning how to be nice and kind and generous to the world, like that's something that they can't, they can't not have. Do you just assume kind of the assertiveness and the strength and how do you not overdo it?

How do you make sure your kids aren't soft? We hold them accountable to standards. Most importantly, the number one way you can ensure your kids won't be soft. is by showing them how hard you were. You know, like, there's a reason, you know, I didn't want to go. I got the flu shot yesterday, and I don't feel great. I really, I'm kind of a little off today, if I'm being honest. But you know what?

I was still the first person out the door at 5.45 a.m. on the way to the gym this morning to meet my trainer to bust my ass. And I do that every morning. And I run Spartan races. And my kids see me putting the work in. And when your kids see you putting the work in and believing in yourself, and giving of yourself and striving for better for yourself, like, they follow that lead, you know?

And so in our home, you know, the mom and dad in this home, they just work really damn hard and they lead by example. And that's how we do it. And our kids have in many ways followed our lead. Our kids are very, very disciplined, which we're happy about. There's certain things that almost has to be seen on a regular basis, like discipline, commitment, these unsexy things, you'll never see them on a viral tweet or viral short.

but it's like this consistency that's so important to model, that's so valuable to understand. Like what it really takes to succeed is something that most people don't actually understand. And you know what? They may not understand it today, but upon reflection when they're like in their 20s and out of college. Your kids will understand it. Most people's kids will not because they think it's about they, a lot of people think success is about doing the spectacular triple axle, you know, at the Olympics every four years. They fail to see the thousands of triple axles to do that one triple axle. And also, most things are not the Olympics with a single race every four years.

So I think a lot of people miss what it really takes to succeed. We have a little bit of an idiom in our house that we say, we say that how you do anything is how you do everything. So you always show up. I don't give a shit if the homework assignment isn't worth many points. I don't care if you don't like it. Like you strive to do everything you do well. And that's a hard concept for a kid to understand. But when, again, you know, I'm going to be washing dishes.

I'm going to do it well in my home. And I can see that. Me and my wife, Jessica, we have this concept of, is it world class? We talk about everything. We go to dinner. Was that world class? Was this? You know, she'll put out a social media piece.

Was that world class? We hold ourselves to kind of this world class standard in most things. Sometimes you go to whole food so you don't have to make it be world class. But we apply this filter to a lot of things. And it's kind of fun because it makes everything kind of like this pursuit of excellence. And it makes every piece of your life meaningful and memorable. Absolutely. And then, you know, we have a different sort of permutation of that in our whole, which is I say to myself all the time, Pete, you're better than that.

You know, you're better. Like, whatever you're doing sort of like, you're better than that. And I tell my kids, you're better than that. No, you can do better than that. And like, when you think of when you, when you realize that I haven't reached the summit, despite my success, I haven't reached the summit yet. I haven't reached the pinnacle. I got more, I'm on the rise, but I got more climbing to do. And that means that every single day, you got to be a little bit better than the day before.

And, you know, so maybe not world class for me, but just better than yesterday. On that note, you mentioned Amber Venn's box from LTK, who's one of your fellows at the Aspen Institute, arguably one of the most. prestigious fellowship in the world. You also have other fellows, Reid Hoffman from a founder of LinkedIn, Reid Hastings, founder of Netflix. You have these like really world-class entrepreneurs, like another level you would argue.

What have you learned from them? It's almost like, what have I not learned? I, you know, so I was a 2019 fellow. There's 21 of us in my class. And I almost, all the things I, the skills and knowledge I deploy today comes from my experiences in the Crown Fellowship at the Aspen Institute with people who are brilliant. I would say one thing I learned is this. I learned I was too judgmental of a person, you know, because when you walk into a room,

a seminar room of really brilliant people, it's hard. Like when you're a CEO and you're building these big companies and everyone's telling you how great you are and every meeting starts when you enter the room and every meeting is about you taking oxygen out of the room. Like, you starts to think that you know you're the greatest and and you matter a lot and the truth is is like when you sit in a room with 20 people who are your equals as successful as rich as smart or better on all those fronts than you are it's a humbling experience um but it took and it took me a little while to get acclimated to it but the truth is is it like hey you know just being honest like some of my friends have different political ideologies and i do like very different

And instead of dismissing those, what I have to say to myself is, is like, no, my, my, my, my peer here is brilliant, like, and they're smarter than me. They've been more successful in me. How can I not listen and learn from them? Listen to them and learn from them. And so I think like probably the number one thing is suspend assumptions and suspend judgment when you meet people, especially people you respect. And, and just really listen effectively. I used to, David, I used to spend a lot of my time when I was talking to someone, even someone who's really brilliant, you know, I was spending a lot of my time thinking in my brain how I was going to respond to them versus listening to what they were actually saying and digesting it. And my fellows have taught me that they are worthy of being

heard and that if I actually suspend assumptions, suspend judgment, and suspend the desire to, like, think about what I'm going to say next and really listen to them first, I'm going to, I'm going to become a much more whole and complete individual. And so it's been a remarkable journey with my those. Suspending disbelief, especially when you're looking to level up your skills is so critical. You mentioned Spartan races just to use that example. If let's say you're top 5% in the world and you meet somebody in the top 10, the 0.001%, you start interviewing them about what they're doing. Almost everything is going to seem counterintuitive and you're going to have this egotistic drive to say, well, no, no, I do it this way, not realizing that the way that they do it is the reason they're the top 10. It's not only some weird side effect and some quirk is actually the reason you're not on the next level. In other words, it's not that they're training five times harder or that they're, you know, biking for 20 hours in a day versus four hours. It's that they're doing something fundamentally different. And that difference is the reason why your top 5% they're the top in the world.

Yeah. Yeah. In fact, there's an argument to make it. For those of you who have read the Harvard Business School case study, the making of the corporate athlete by Schwartz, You know, what he says is sometimes you realize that the reason people are superior to you on whatever domain you're interested, you know, whatever domain you're thinking about is because not because they work harder. It's because they rest, rest harder. In the Harvard Business School case study talks about, you know, athletes like Usain Bolt who, you know, for 10 years is the

fastest man in the world, right? And what Bolts would often say is, is like, I take my train, I take my rest as seriously as I take my training. And so, you know, I learned from that. like I wasn't big on rest. I was big on sort of being a 24-7 CEO. But now I know that I'm better and I can perform better when I get my rest and I spend my time away. I'm absent from time to time. But yeah, lots to learn from other people. Sometimes like you said, counterintuitive. But if you're, if you suspend judgment and you suspend assumptions, um, you can really grow. Another thing that I found really surprising about just excellence in any field is oftentimes it's idiosyncratic in a certain way. So to you,

Usu Sain Bolt, he might be the best runner in the world, but he might be boring conversationalist or he might not even be a great dad. And like just from movies, we assume that these packages come in these like perfect people. Like he's Bruce Wayne, he's Batman, he's super intellectual, all these things. But oftentimes they're just extremely good at one thing.

And sometimes even not one thing in Silicon Valley, it's well known. Some of the top entrepreneurs have some degree of autism. where they're able to go against the grain and that like autism basically helps them ignore the herd like behavior of their peers. So sometimes not only are they different

in other ways, but sometimes that difference is actually the source of their competitive advantage. Have you found that? And do you have any examples of that? I myself, I'm neurodivergent and have some learning challenges. One of the scariest things about the Aspen Institute is when I walked in and you have to do tons and tons of reading, hard reading, and really digest it and process it

for the Aspen Institute every time you go into the seminar room and like I kind of felt so much different because I had to read because of my learning differences, I had to read the text four times to, you know, the one time that my colleagues had to read, my classmates had to read it. And so I do believe that my brain zigs while other people zags. I like to be a contrarium. I like to think different. Thinking different is fun. It's fulfilling. One of the things it drives me more than anything, David, is being underestimated. Oh, I was a really good basketball. player growing up and, you know, as a five, nine, you know, kid growing up in Toledo, Ohio, I wasn't sort of, I probably didn't meet the profile for, you know, really good basketball player.

But because people questioned my ability, I worked even harder. I demanded more of myself. And that underestimation has always, has always driven me. So I like proven people wrong. I'm on a journey now with this new company to prove the people that I think social media can be kind, that social media can be offered without the side effects. A lot of people think I'm nuts and I'm sort of trying to go up against Facebook or Instagram and, and the way you think about, you know, social media. But, but I think there can be a form of social media that is a social antidote. I'm thinking about it way differently than everybody else. Like, why do we need ads and influencers and likes and followers? Like, I spent my entire upbringing with my dad telling me

don't be a follower. And now the entire world is a damn follower. So like, so I, um, yeah, I think thinking differently is fulfilling. It's fun. And because of my neurodivergence, I get the benefit of thinking differently and being different. And while at times that can be hard and people can question you or give you diminishing stares, again, because I've learned that I just don't give a shit what people think anymore. Like, you know, I leverage the fact that my brain zigs while there's zacks because I think it builds moats and moats are ultimately what builds successful enterprise. What is one piece of timeless advice that if you could go back to before you start a green thumb

and you could give yourself one piece of advice that either accelerated your success avoided your weaknesses. What would be that one piece of timeless advice? John C. Maxwell, who was an author on leadership, had a quote. And when I first read this quote,

I was like 29, it really in so many ways changed me. And he says, the biggest gap in the world is the gap between I should and I did. I'll repeat it again. The biggest gap in the world is the gap between I should and I did.

And, you know, like, look, if I had a dollar for every entrepreneur, wannabe entrepreneur, came up to me and said, you know, I should start this, here's a great idea, you know, I'm going to quit next week, who like never ended up actualizing themselves, never ended up quitting next week, never started the business. Like, I'd be way wealthier and I am right now. Like, I just, there are too many people who say I should. And what I learned is, like, if I'm thinking something, I'm just going to do it.

I'll give you a good example. Like, I have this discipline now. where if, like, I'm thinking about a friend or a loved one over the course of a day, I don't let that thought become a fleeting thought. I don't let that thought go. I simply text them. It's like, my friend Yvonne, the other day, she's sort of in a career transition, and I hadn't heard what she was, you know, going to be doing.

And she's a brilliant woman. I hadn't heard what she was going to be doing in her next go around. And so I was like, you know what? I'm just going to text her. You're like, hey, I haven't heard from me while. Like, what's next for you? You know, I stopped, like, not doing things. I said I should do a long time ago, and if all of us adopted that mindset of like,

I don't stop and I should, I proceed directly straight to I do. I think that helps eliminate a lot of the issues and inefficiencies today for most people. We've actually operationalized at our firm, which is how do you change I shoulds to I do's? You have to celebrate version ones. So we call it like the shitty version one. So anytime we have the shitty version one, which is every single version one in the history of time we celebrate it and we celebrate the mediocrity of version one because doing it is actually exceptionalism so it's a bit of a paradox i couldn't uh exceptional execution mediocre output well and if you just if you just operationalize that you will have an organization that builds that does versus shoulds absolutely you know it's like uh there's lots of quotes on this but

my favorite is from Joe Gebbya and Brian Chesky to Airbnb. They have this line that I love and they say 80% equals done. You know, like don't spend in a winner take all market where speed to market matters. Like, don't try and get to 100. Don't make perfect the enemy of good, right? Just like, do it. Get it to a place that's the best possible place you can get it to. I don't call it the shitty product. I call it the MLP, the minimum lovable product. What is something that is minimally, minimally lovable about this offering and get it there and then you don't need to get to the rest of the way. Then you iterate and learn and sort of get the feedback loop going and grow from there. But I always ask people like, all right, you submitted this word product.

Like, where are we at? Like, 50%, 70%, 90%, like you don't need to be at 100. I want to make sure we celebrate 50 and 70 and 80 on the way to getting to 100. Well, Pete, oftentimes with podcasts and I find myself biased in this way, we take just extreme excellence for granted. I have the dream of interviewing people like you, but, you know, just talking to somebody in the flesh, somebody that's come from nothing, Bill took a company to $6 billion, now multi-billion dollars. Although you could have balanced work-life balance, arguably, I would argue you couldn't. And you could always tweak things, just the exceptional

outcome that you've had, an exceptional kind of philanthropy that you've done it. It's truly an honor to sit with you and appreciate your time and look forward to continuing this life. This is awesome. I appreciate it. And I'm eager to learn more from you and from others who are listening. So please reach out to me and let me know what I can learn from you. What would you like listeners to know or how should people follow you? I would say follow me on LinkedIn, reach out to me through inmail and LinkedIn and my new business, warmer.com, just the word warmer, like a temperature warmer. Check out what we're doing there. I think it's going to be pretty game-changing. If you're interested, sign up and start to meet some people

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