How to Be a Better Human - How to design a creative life (w/ Debbie Millman)
Episode Date: June 16, 2025“If you’re a good designer in five or ten years, you’re gonna want to look back on your portfolio with horror and nostalgia and somewhat amusement… because you want to be growing,” says illu...strator Debbie Millman. Debbie is the host of the longest running podcast, Design Matters, and the author of the book, Love Letter to a Garden. In this episode, authenticity and growth are at the forefront. Debbie talks about the loss of humanity with the rise of personal branding, how her fascination with origin stories and the universe led her to gardening, and her advocacy with the Joyful Heart Foundation, an organization working to help sexual assault victims heal and reclaim their lives.FollowHost: Chris Duffy (Instagram: @chrisiduffy | chrisduffycomedy.com)Guest: Debbie Millman (Instagram: @debbiemillman | LinkedIn: @deborahmillman | Website: debbiemillman.com/) LinksLove Letter to a Garden (Bookshop.org)joyfulheartfoundation.org/Subscribe to TED Instagram: @tedYouTube: @TEDTikTok: @tedtoksLinkedIn: @ted-conferencesWebsite: ted.comPodcasts: ted.com/podcastsFor the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscriptsWant to help shape TED’s shows going forward? Fill out our survey here!Learn more about TED Next at ted.com/futureyou Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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You're listening to How to Be a Better Human.
I am your host, Chris Duffy.
Today's guest, Debbie Millman, is one of the most acclaimed and talented podcasters
around.
You know her from her fantastic Design Matters podcast, but she's also an incredible artist,
an author, an illustrator, an educator, and so much more.
We're going to be talking with Debbie about how to stay curious, how to grow as an artist,
and how to design the arc of a creative life.
That is a question that Debbie has been investigating for more than 20 years on her show Design
Matters, and it's one that has lessons for people in all phases of their life.
I cannot tell you how much I have taken away from listening to Debbie's show and from
learning from her.
So to start us off, here is a clip from a Design Matters episode.
This was a live event that they did at the Green Space in NYC.
And at this event, Debbie is being interviewed by her wife, the writer Roxane Gay, about
what inspired Debbie to start Design Matters in the first place.
You've been doing Design Matters for 15 years, which in podcast years is about 100.
Why did you decide to do a podcast? And how have you
sustained the interest in doing one for so many years? Well, I didn't really decide to do one,
I was asked, I was offered an opportunity by voice America Business Network, which was a fledgling
internet radio network at the time. And I was offered the opportunity to pay them
for airtime on their network.
And at the time, I was doing very well professionally
in a commercial realm, and I had surpassed
any possible hope or dream that I'd had professionally
in my branding career, but because it was
all commercial, I actually felt that I was dying and that I had lost all of my creative
heart. And I wasn't writing anymore, I wasn't drawing anymore, I wasn't doing anything creative.
And I understood why. I mean, my professional success
was the first time I'd ever been successful at anything in my
life. So of course, at the time, I was like, okay, I'm not going
to do anything but this because it feels so good to be
successful at something finally in my 40s. But then that wore
off, you know, I'm that metabolized and I needed to do
something creative. And this felt like a sneaky way to be creative but still
be able to justify it from a business perspective because I could interview clients or I can
interview people in the design business.
And so that's really how it started.
It was really a hail Mary to my creativity.
And because I have such generous friends, they were willing to come on the show.
I mean, they had no reason to come on the show.
I mean, Steve Heller is sitting in the front row.
Steve is my mentor, my fairy godfather.
He's been on the show 13 times.
Every time he says, OK, he'll still be doing it,
because now I want to do it with him every year so we can create
this oral history of design together. I'm shocked that he says yes, but why it grew
I think is just because of the guests that I have and the generosity in their hearts.
For me, I'll never ever get tired of talking to people about who they are and how they've
become who they are and how they make their lives and how they create
and make things out of nothing.
Okay.
So from the Design Matters podcast to the How to Be a Better Human podcast, here's
Debbie.
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So Debbie, I once took a workshop from you that was about how to have a great interview.
And one of the secrets that you taught all of us was to make sure that your first question
revealed deep research about the person, that it was surprising and not something that they
get asked often, and that it was surprising and not something that they get asked often,
and that it made them laugh.
So my first question to you is,
does having taken your class and remembering your lessons
count as a good first question?
It's a great first question.
It's actually awesome because I don't even know
if I remember teaching the class.
It was so helpful, genuinely it was so fantastic.
And you're so wonderful at interviewing,
which I think is actually quite unusual for someone who has
a really illustrious and big accomplished career of their own,
that they're also really interested in other people's careers and accomplishments.
Oh, well, thank you for saying that.
I would like to think that I've improved over the
years. I have been doing this now for 20 years, and I feel that it is an acquired skill. The
more you do it, the more you begin to understand how people respond to different kinds of questions, how humor is so helpful in
creating rapport, and how showing deep respect with deep research is so
appreciated and then in many ways rewarded because people become so engaged in sharing such meaningful conversation.
And it's not opportunistic at all. It's really genuine. I am genuinely curious about people
and I'm endlessly fascinated by how they become who they are.
I think that something that I've learned from you in listening to your podcast and in reading
your books and hearing you
talk is how everything is designed in a way.
Everything has a design to it.
And I think it's fascinating to think about how there's the visual design, there's branding,
there's all of that, but there's also the design of an interaction.
A lot of what you've just described is putting thought into how can I design an interview
or a conversation so that it goes better?
And these are often places where we don't think
about design at all.
Do you think you landed on that naturally
or is that an outgrowth of your professional work?
I've discovered over the decades now
that it's not really random in as much as
it's been serendipitous how I've gotten to certain things.
But I do think that the common denominator in everything that I do is a search for identity. In the branding work
that I do, it's about the identity of a product or an organization or an
institution or a movement. In my writing, it's trying to understand human behavior and motivation and same with my illustration work.
And in the podcast, it's a search for a person's identity
through their origin story and their beliefs
and the work that they make and create.
Hmm, that idea of finding the through line
in your own work,
I think that's something that people really struggle with,
especially young people starting out in their careers.
But what advice do you give people
when they're trying to figure out what their thing is,
what their brand or their self is?
Okay, well, that's going in a very different direction
because I don't believe that people should be working
on their personal brand. I actually find that to be somewhat reprehensible and really
the opposite of what I'm talking about. I'm talking about discovering soul and
brands by their very nature are created by humans. Brands are not self-directed.
We as humans have to direct them.
And they don't have a soul, and they don't bleed and breathe and have a heartbeat.
Whatever we project onto them is our own construct.
When people ask me about personal branding, because I do so much work in branding,
that's inevitably a question.
And I've thought about it long and hard.
And brands are manufactured, it's meaning manufactured.
Humans are living, breathing entities, we're a species.
And we're messy, and we change and evolve, or
at least one would hope that we do, we grow.
And brands are not self-directed. They're only directed by humans. Some humans
are better than others in that direction and in their intention. But what I suggest that
humans work on is building their character and building their reputation and building
their body of work. And doing those three things will help create or
communicate really your persona and your intentions and who you are.
But once we start to position ourselves as a brand, first of all,
it is about positioning.
It is about creating a manufactured meaning.
Then we begin to lose all the wonderful things
that make us human.
Now we can own brands, we can direct brands,
we can manage brands, we can design brands.
But the minute we begin to see ourselves as brands,
we become a commodity.
And I find that really unfortunate and a little bit sad.
I love that distinction.
I've actually, I've never heard anyone else make it.
And I've also never thought about it that way,
but it really rings so true.
Yeah, I mean, if I thought of myself as a brand,
I would, and as a brand consultant,
I would say to myself,
well, doing so many different things
actually dilutes your brand
because it's gonna take a lot longer
to master those different things
and to create a reputation and a body of work. But that's my passion is doing
different things. I also would tell my podcast director, moi, that having the
name Design Matters after 20 years is probably a bit of a misnomer because
you're doing a lot more than talking to people about
design.
Given my expertise, I've sort of re-engineered the meaning to be more about how the world's
most creative people design the arc of their lives.
But if I was starting out now, knowing what I'm doing and the kinds of interviews that
I undertake, I would never have used that name.
But I also know as a branding
person that there's a lot of equity in it. And so I'm just hoping my audience goes along for the ride.
I want to go deeper on the three things that you talked about. How can someone build their character
in your mind? By working really hard to be as transparent about who they are as possible by telling the truth, by showing
up, by living up to your word.
I think that those are very personal inner directives that shouldn't be done either opportunistically
or for any other reason than just being, no pun intended here, a better human.
And then what about reputation?
I think that's also such an important piece of this too.
See, a lot of these things are about consistency,
about doing things in the way that you feel is true
to what you believe in consistently.
And if you do that over time,
then the reputation building and the character building
happens organically.
It's not something that's positioned or done for a specific reaction or for a specific
reward.
It's just who you are and standing up for those beliefs, whether or not they're popular.
Sometimes they are, sometimes they aren't, but if you start to shift in the wind with
popularity contests, then that's the
opposite of building a character or a reputation.
Now, all of this takes time.
I would tell young people to have some patience, to have some patience on building their reputation
and their character, because if they work too hard at coming out of the gate all fully
formed, they're not going to have the opportunity to evolve and to be able to move into different pathways.
All the time I tell my students, don't get so caught up in what your portfolio looks
like now, because there is absolutely no question in my mind that if you are a good designer,
in five or ten years, you're going to look back on that portfolio with horror
and nostalgia and somewhat amusement.
Because you want to be growing, you want to be better than you were 10 years ago.
And to be able to see the growth is actually a great thing.
It's a great accomplishment.
That also ties into the third piece that you mentioned, which is having a body of work.
It's really easy to not build a body of work or to not put work out there or
create it because you're so worried about it being perfect or it being good
enough that in ten years it will stand up. Whereas I think everyone who I really
respect as a creative person or an artist in any way they get better by
making things. They're not worried about each thing being perfect. It's the
iterative process. That's not like the one golden statue that they've created.
That's another thing my students often say is, well, I'll do this when I have more confidence.
And I'm like, well, when, when do you think that's going to happen if you never actually
try? Because the only way to get confidence is to do it successfully, repetitively. And
if you don't start, you're never going gonna have the opportunity to get to that success so what are you waiting for?
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Debbie, when you're thinking about your own work, how do you think about art that is making
money that's paying your bills, that kind of functional art, art that's healing, that's
solving something or wrestling with something inside of yourself, and then art that is inspiring
or building a community?
How do you think about the lines between those different kinds of goals in your work?
Well, in many ways, they're created for different purposes.
Art that is in exchange for money.
And I'm not talking about art that's hanging in a gallery that's offered for sale.
I'm talking about commissioned art, design, illustration, that generally is done for a client with a
creative brief or very specific directions on what is required.
And I think that's great and I love illustration.
I think that especially satire right now is some of the most important creative work happening
in our culture. Work for self-healing tends to be more self-directed and as
long as somebody is able to create something on their own terms, it's
worthy and important and necessary as well.
And then lastly, I think fine art is different
in that your audience could be anyone, anyone.
And it's about creating some type of visual language
that's never existed before.
I mean, the great artists
examining the world through a new lens. And that's what I would imagine is the
highest aspiration for any artist to examine the world through a new lens and
share information about who we are or why we do the things that we do, really
trying to understand in its purest form human
motivation and expression and communication.
And I think poetry does that too, actually.
The best poetry.
As for what I make, I just have a hard time seeing what I do as offering a new perspective on the world
or a new way of thinking about something.
In my interviews, I'm trying to give my guests
an opportunity to do that, I guess,
but I'm not the one doing it, so it's different.
I completely disagree.
I so see you as doing that,
as bringing a completely new perspective and a way to see the world. I think of you as doing that, as bringing a completely new perspective
and a way to see the world.
I think of that in everything that you do.
I mean, I just think there is such a clear Debbie Milman
vision for what art and what conversation looks like.
And to me, that is such a work of art and it's so inspiring.
So I really, I have to disagree and say,
there is a way that you look at the world
that's different than other people. Well, thank you. Thank you. That means everything
to me coming from you. And I really, really thank you for that. Both of your Ted talks,
they start with this big history in science, right? Like we go back hundreds of thousands
of years to when something is created. There is this thread in a lot of your work that is thinking about the specific
and the personal in placement in relative scale, right?
Like in the scale of the universe or in scale of nature.
So I'm curious if you could tell us a little bit
about why understanding our relative place
in the world matters so much to you.
Thank you for noticing that about my work.
I am, in another lifetime,
I would have loved to have been an astrophysicist, a theoretical astrophysicist to be specific,
but I have and I'm very willing to admit this and recognize this at a very early age, absolutely no mind for math.
Same.
I spend an ordinate amount of time thinking about how the universe was
created, where did the hydrogen and the helium come from?
Do black holes come out the other side and create other universes?
I mean, I can't even begin to tell you I have subscriptions to so many
science podcasts and science sites and I just spend a lot of time wondering. And so in the
same way that I sort of go back to the very beginning of a person's life in my podcast,
I am just obsessed with origin stories and understanding how we all got here,
as well as understanding how an individual got here.
That's a really interesting thread
that you've been pulling on for many, many years.
And to connect it to your latest work,
this book that's coming out,
I'm wondering what are some of the ways in which
a garden has made you think differently about origins or endings
because when I work with plants sometimes it's like it seems like it's
dead and then it comes back or it seems like it hasn't started and actually has
so how have you thought about origins in your own garden? Well I have always had a
relationship with nature ever since I can remember. I was always happier when I
was around trees and meadows and lots of different greenery. My family had a
house in the Catskills for a very long time. I went to summer camps all through my childhood in the Catskills as well.
And as I became an adult and started living in more urban places, always tried to have
a little tiny piece of outdoors, whether it be a deck or a terrace or an actual backyard and spent from my 20s to my 50s trying to have some sort
of garden without really having any success, truly any success.
I was just ill-equipped to manage soil and sun and pH and all sorts of things that you have to
think about.
I just wanted a garden.
So I planted things and hoped they'd grow.
And when you plant roses in a shady environment, they're not going to thrive.
Then during COVID, at that point, I had gotten engaged to my now wife and she had a house
in Los Angeles and I had a place in New York City.
And we decided during COVID that we would stay at her house because we'd have a car
and an ability to be able to travel more and get out of just sort of the house. And I started to turn her backyard into a garden.
And suddenly, because I was there every day,
and it's a beautiful environment to have a garden,
it's nice and warm and very consistent in the weather,
that I was able to actually have success for the first time,
and was able to grow vegetables and flowers
and shrubs and even a lemon tree.
And so I began to think quite a lot about the way in which plants grow and then go into
hibernation and then come back, you know, perennials, annuals. And I became really fascinated
by how a seed can turn into everything, into a life system. And I started posting some
of my adventures in gardening on Instagram. And I think Chi Pearlman saw what I was doing,
my dear friend Chi, and because she does a lot of work with Ted and is a chief curator,
she asked me if I'd be interested in doing some interstitials the year that Ted went completely
online. And I decided that one of those would be about gardening.
And between that and seeing a piece that I did for a farm magazine on my expedition to
Antarctica in search of a total eclipse of the sun, Timber Press, which is an arm of
Hachette, reached out and asked me if I'd be interested in writing this book about gardening. And I said, well, if I wrote a book about gardening,
gardeners would roll their eyes and kind of laugh like Snoopy.
You know?
Uh-huh.
Uh-huh.
Because I am by no means an accomplished gardener.
I am at the very beginning of my journey
with a teeny weeny bit of success.
And by success, I mean like a salad.
Like I grew everything that went into a salad.
And they actually were interested in that angle.
And so that's what I did.
But it's very much about learning how to do something
for the first time, overcoming many, many obstacles,
whether self-imposed or real,
and then having a modicum of success
that I could celebrate.
Uh-huh.
So many of the topics that have come up
in this conversation already are also reflected
in nature and in plants and in gardening, right?
The idea of patience, the idea that when you're working
like with a tree, you have to prune away excess.
This idea of avoiding extremes, right?
It has to be not too sunny, but not too shady.
This idea that there's this impossibility of perfection.
These are all things that you find in gardening
as well as in all the other places
we've been talking about it.
Absolutely, and then the rebirth.
I walked outside of my apartment today
and my neighbor has a hydrangea,
large hydrangea in front of their house,
and the buds are out.
The buds are out.
And I find that to be miraculous, that this plant grows these gorgeous flowers, and they
last for a really long time, and then they fall off and go to sleep, and then somehow,
because of some change in temperature,
because of some way the sun hits it, who knows exactly?
I'm sure people do, but I don't.
There they come back again.
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And we are back. We're talking with Debbie Millman about how to design the arc of your life and how to
find your own way to make art.
I know that I have been really inspired by, and I know that many people, when I talk to
them about you and your work, are really inspired by the ways in which you have taken things
that are awful and painful and bad and found beauty and joy and love and connection despite those things.
I do a lot of work and I'm on the board of the Joyful Heart Foundation, which is Morishka
Hargitay's foundation. She started after starring in Law and Order SVU over 20 years ago. Now the
show is 26 years old, but she started Joyful Heart about a little over 20 years ago.
six years old, but she started Joyful Heart about a little over 20 years ago.
And just for people who aren't already familiar,
the Joyful Heart Foundation, the mission is to heal,
educate and empower survivors of sexual assault,
domestic violence and child abuse,
and to shed light into the darkness
that surrounds these issues.
And you are on the board.
Being on the board helped me make my life make sense. I had been
severely abused as a young girl by my stepfather and spent a lot of years in
shame and pain and secrecy. And then when I had the opportunity through a friend to
work on developing the No More movement. I had the opportunity then to be introduced to Mariska and then Mariska
asked me if I'd be interested in being on the board and then if I'd ultimately
become chair of the board, which I did for five years. I'll be on the board for
the rest of my life, but I was chair for five years. Given my background in
branding and positioning, it felt very much like these
two disparate experiences and knowledge of could come together in a way to try to help
eradicate sexual violence in our culture, eradicate the rape kit backlog, which is what
we were spending a lot of time and effort doing at that time, and really try to provide
a way for people to feel safer about disclosing their own abuse, mistreatment, and so forth.
The amount of people that have reached out that I've been able to point in different
directions for their own either disclosure or help or support
has been remarkable.
And once again, helps me feel like something really terrible that happened.
I've been able to use that as a way to help others and then work on my own healing in
the process.
Something that I always feel like is a really important distinction to make, too, is, you know, there's this really
very common, but also kind of awful idea of like, oh, there's a silver lining in every cloud.
I completely disagree. Like some stuff is just bad.
Just shitty. Yeah.
But there is this this different separate. and I see why sometimes people get confused idea,
which is that terrible things can happen and there can still be beauty. It's not like it
required the terrible thing, but that doesn't mean that like there can't be beauty and joy,
right? It's not now you're forever. Your life is forever one way.
You know, I thought a lot about what my life would have been like if these
terrible things hadn't happened, because there were several sort of cumulative
things in addition to the sexual abuse.
And it's very hard for me to.
Know what that would have been like.
Maybe I wouldn't have had more as much drive as I do.
Maybe I would feel okay as is.
Maybe I'd have an ordinary life.
Maybe, it's hard to say, it's really hard to say.
And Seth Godin and I have talked about this quite a bit.
You know, people like to ask the question, you know,
what would you tell your 30 year old self?
And Seth once said to me, nothing.
Because if I told them anything that
changed where I am right now, then I wouldn't want to risk it. And I kind of feel the same way now.
I mean, yes, I'd love to be exactly who I am now with a little bit less self-loathing and shame,
which I'm still working on every day. But other than that, I'm married to the greatest person in the world.
I do some of the most interesting things that I could imagine, and I'm still not done.
I kind of just have to be grateful for that.
There's a frequent myth in creativity that you have to be a tortured artist, that the
more you suffer, the more your creativity will blossom.
And it seems like from what you're saying
and from this conversation, that your most creative,
your most flourishing periods have come
when you've actually done more healing,
that you've gotten rid of some of that suffering
and been able to be more creative.
Is that true or is there a connection
between your wellbeing and your living a creative life?
I do think there is. I do think that one of the best pieces I've ever made from an art perspective
came at a moment when I felt very, very down. It's hard because I'm like, can I, should I get that energy back?
I don't want that energy, but I really love that piece.
It had a lot of energy in it.
On the other hand, I think about what Elizabeth Gilbert says in,
I believe her Ted Talk about feeling like
your best creativity comes from when you're fully relaxed into that creativity,
where you're doing
the work every day and you sort of let the muse come through you and you're
open to it. And there is, I think, a bit of both. I do know that when I'm drawing, I
have to go through a period of torture with what I'm doing before I get to ease.
And I know when my work is tortured and it's dreadful, it's gruesome.
And then if I get to a point of ease, there's a certain, I guess for lack of a better term,
flow state, almost effortlessness that comes into doing the work.
And that's my holy grail now.
It's not a matter of being happy or unhappy,
because that flow state could actually come.
You know, I guess it's like endorphins when you're doing,
when you're working out,
you have to get to a certain point for that to happen.
You don't start doing something and then the endorphins come.
Takes quite a while.
For me, it's only happened a few times in my life,
so I have to, I can only rely on those experiences
to know they even actually exist.
But they come after a lot of struggle.
And I would say the same thing happens for me with art.
Like I, and I can tell, I'm like,
that's tortured and that's free, that's easy.
What was the piece that you said that was like like one of the best things you've ever made?
Part of it is on the cover of my book,
Self-Portrait as Your Traitor.
And so it was about my feeling at the time
that I was being utterly duplicitous
and how angry and sad and down and depressed I was inwardly
and then trying to be cool girl,
to use a Julian Flynn term from Gone Girl, you know, being the cool girl and pretending
that nothing mattered. And I was in my studio and just created this piece called Self-Portrait as
Your Traitor, Self-Portrait as a Li liar, Debbie Milliman once again being duplicitous,
that was the text all through it.
And I just love that piece.
I mean, it's one of the most honest pieces I've ever done,
but I also did it like 30 years ago.
I did it in the 90s.
Well, it's also interesting to talk about that piece
and the process because I've kind of used the word
art like lowercase a in a broader way and you've really thought about art as like capital
A art. It's not just like a broad category for you. It is a thing that is worth being
respected and taken quite seriously.
I agree 100%. And Roxanne and I, my wife Roxanne Gay, we have like quabbles over this.
Is that a word?
Squabbles?
Squabbles.
I like quabbles.
Squabbles feels right.
That's a love it.
She thinks that I'm an artist.
I think I'm an illustrator and a designer.
So yes, I do feel like there is a big difference.
And I mean, I said I'm an artist, but I said it in a lowercase way.
I did not say it in an uppercase way. And that's a very important distinction in
the way I consider my own work, my own body of work.
What would it mean to be a capital A artist? What would it take for you to become a capital
A artist in your own mind?
To be much better at what I do, to have something to say through the work, to start a quest
to create something original. I tend to love conceptual work, so I'd need to find a conceptual
idea that I would want to explore and investigate. And I'd have to learn a lot more, I think. Which doesn't mean it's not
possible, it's just quite a big commitment and an agreement with myself
on what I would need to do to do it. I don't know that I could become an artist,
capital A artist, and still do all the other things that I do. I'm lucky that I've fallen into the work that I have as a podcaster, as an educator, as
a brand consultant, mostly because I've just done them for so damn long.
I'm lucky I actually got better at all of them.
I think Capital A art is different.
Is that a standard that you've just described?
It's a really high bar.
Do you hold other creative people in your life to that bar, do you think?
Well, I know a number of other people at that bar.
They are considered some of the best in the world.
You can tell when somebody is just at the very, very top of
their talent and I mean I just interviewed John Battiste. I mean he is a
genius. He is a genius. He is a genius and there's no one else like him. No one. That is capital A-R-T-I-S-T artists.
And when you are beholding that, you know it, you know it.
They are the best.
That's what I'm really talking about.
When you have a completely original imaginative mind.
That to me is also the trait that I see in all of the really, all of the people
that I admire the most is that ideally you would have this without the, and I'm
not saying you specifically, you generally, ideally you would have that,
that desire to raise the bar without the critiquing yourself overly harshly.
But I think the idea that like, I'm not just gonna coast,
I'm always striving for something more,
those are the people that I respect the most,
who they're in their 80s and 90s
and they're still making new work
and they're still looking for something different
in themselves and in their community.
I think the quest is really the,
I'm so much more inspired by people who are trying
than by having accomplished.
Absolutely, Absolutely.
To bring it all the way back to my gardening effort,
that's part of why I also love it so much.
You can see,
I mean, this is going to be very corny,
but you see growth.
You see there's evidence of growth. It's amazing.
Well, Debbie Millman,
thank you so much for being on the show.
It truly has been an absolute honor talking to you and I couldn't admire you more.
Thank you for being here.
Thank you, Chris.
Now we have to do part two on my podcast.
Oh, okay.
Well, the bar is really high.
That is it for this episode of How to Be a Better Human.
Thank you so much to today's guest, Debbie Millman.
Her latest book is called Love Letter to a Garden,
and she's the host of the fantastic Design Matters podcast.
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