How to Be a Better Human - How to sleep like your relationships depend on it (with Wendy Troxel)
Episode Date: April 12, 2021How did you sleep last night? Whether you sleep next to someone or not, in today’s episode Wendy Troxel offers tips on how to catch better z’s. Wendy is a Senior Behavioral and Social Scientist at... RAND who explores how sleep affects our relationships, well-being and society at large. As a licensed clinical psychologist, she specializes in behavioral treatments for insomnia and other sleep disorders. Wendy has received several awards and honors for her research from national and international scientific societies, and her work has been published in top-tier medical and psychological journals. Her research on sleep was featured in two best-selling books: Arianna Huffington's “Sleep Revolution” and David Randall's “Dreamland”, and she recently was one of the co-organizers and presenters at the first-ever national conference on Adolescent Sleep, Health, and School Start Times. Her latest book “Sharing the Covers: Every Couple's Guide to Better Sleep” comes out on April 20th. To learn more about "How to Be a Better Human," host Chris Duffy, or find footnotes and additional resources, please visit: go.ted.com/betterhuman Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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What does it mean if you and your partner sleep in different beds?
Is that okay?
You're listening to How to Be a Better Human.
I am your host, Chris Duffy,
and on today's show,
we're gonna be answering that question and so many more.
We are talking all about sleep.
Personally, I have always thought
that there are two kinds of sleepers.
There's light switchers, like me,
which are the people where we turn off the light switch
and then we instantly go to sleep.
And then there are the people like my wife, who I call doomsday preppers, because they have to
spend hours before bedtime preparing for the apocalypse that is the night. Do either of those
sound familiar to you? Well, whether you have an easy time falling asleep or it is a constant
struggle, we've got some serious insights for you on today's episode. We're going to talk about how
to sleep like your relationship depends on it, because it very well might. We're going to talk about how sleep affects
our relationships, and we are going to be asking that big question that I started with at the top,
is it okay if couples sleep apart? Sleep doesn't just affect romantic relationships,
it also has major impacts on society. So there's going to be useful information for everybody,
whether you are currently single and sleeping alone or not. We're also going to be exploring what the most effective
bedtime habits are to make it so you can actually fall asleep in the first place. And we're going
to talk about why sleep has all of a sudden become such a hot topic. To get started, here's a clip
from sleep scientist Wendy Troxell's TEDx talk. Is it bad if my partner and I sleep apart? The answer is no,
not necessarily. Just as sleeping together doesn't guarantee a successful relationship,
if only it were that easy, sleeping apart doesn't guarantee an unsuccessful one.
Sleeping apart doesn't guarantee an unsuccessful one.
Use open and honest communication to find solutions that will maximize sleep quality for both of you. And if sleeping apart seems like the right choice, then think of it not as filing for a sleep divorce, but rather forging a sleep alliance with your partner.
Or as journalist Jessica Goldstein calls it, unconscious uncoupling.
Bottom line, there is no one-size-fits-all sleeping strategy for all couples.
But all couples should make sleep a priority.
After all, we spend about one-third of our lives asleep.
Proportionally, that's a major part of our coupled existence,
much more so than sex.
And yet it's so often neglected. Research shows us when you're well-slept, you're a better communicator, more empathic, happier, more attractive, all important
attributes in developing and sustaining healthy and happy relationships.
Sadly, we live in a culture that continues to view sleep deprivation as a badge of honor.
Perhaps by focusing on how our sleep problems affect not just ourselves, but also our relationships,
we can begin to view sleep as the pillar of health that it is. If you're not going to sleep for yourself, then do it for your partner and everyone else around you.
Consider it an investment in your relationship. At the end of the day,
there is nothing happier,
healthier,
and even sexier
than a good night of sleep.
We're going to have even more sexy sleep facts for you
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Charge time and actual results will vary. Okay, let's get right into it. We are talking sleep and we have the
incredible Wendy Troxell here with us now. Hi, I'm Wendy Troxell. I'm a senior behavioral and
social scientist at the Rand Corporation and author of the book, Sharing the Covers,
scientist at the Rand Corporation and author of the book, Sharing the Covers, Every Couple's Guide to Better Sleep. How did you sleep last night? You're a sleep expert. How did you sleep last
night? Well, the irony is I actually did not have a good sleep last night and I blame my husband
entirely for it. Normally, I'm a great sleeper. I know sort of the behaviors to do before bedtime. I have a nice
wind down routine. I have a very consistent bedtime and wake time. I read before bed. Um,
and I did all those things last night and all was going swimmingly, but then my husband was
having sleep problems as he was falling asleep because he was stressed about something at work.
And that beginning of the night is so important
for setting you up for the rest of your night.
And as long as I fall asleep deeply and quickly,
I have a really good night of sleep the rest of the night.
But because he was tossing and turning
at the beginning of the night,
that kind of ruined the whole start of my night.
And then I got frustrated and resentful of him,
which definitely didn't help my sleep.
So I ended up being up a lot
of the night. And then I started thinking about this interview and the irony that I was going to
be sleep deprived as I talk about the importance of sleep and sleep within couples. I see this in
my clinic all the time, by the way, people come to me, often women with insomnia and, you know,
through gritted teeth, they will say, you know, and my husband,
his head hits the pillow and he's down for the night. I'm up all night struggling to sleep,
but it's so easy for him. So it was very funny how the resentment can arise within couples with
one who's an excellent sleeper and the other who has trouble. And you really can feel sort of some
sleep envy over that. Well, I know anecdotally
and from talking to friends and just from my own personal experience that a lot more people
are having trouble than normal sleeping these days. At least it seems like that in my world.
Have you noticed that? And why is that? Stress can certainly interfere with our ability to get
good quality sleep. Our daily lives and social rhythms,
including our biological rhythms, have also been profoundly disrupted by the pandemic and stay-at-home
orders, the fact that we're working from home, so we have little sort of distinction between our
nights and our days that can also contribute to sleep disturbances. And the stress is real. The disruption is real. And we're also
spending a ton of time with our families and with our partners. And that can also create relationship
conflict. So there's a great deal of salience between what I study, which is how we sleep,
how that affects our relationships, and vice versa. Diving into the actual relationship piece of this, which I know is really your area
of absolute expertise here.
Is it OK for married couples or for partners to not sleep in the same bed?
And what does that mean?
Obviously, there's a lot that's tied up in that around like our emotions and our societal
expectations, but also science.
So how did you first start looking at that?
Well, I've always been interested
in how social relationships impact our health and wellbeing.
And I mostly study the marital or marital-like relationships
and had been studying this for years.
And we have lots of evidence to show
that married or partnered people live longer, happier, and healthier lives than their unmarried or unpartnered counterparts.
And it's also true that the quality of relationships matters for our health, but we don't quite know
how that transpires. And I became interested in sleep because we know that sleep is critically
important for our health and
well-being. And yet at the time that I started studying sleep over 15 years ago, very few people
were studying sleep in the social context in which it occurs, which is with a bed partner.
And as a result of this sort of neglected view of sleep as a social behavior, we have all of these,
you know, tired myths about how couples should or should not
sleep together.
And it's really not all science-based.
So I really wanted to bring the evidence to that critically important question.
Yeah, I mean, this is one of the things that I love so much about your book is that it's
written in a way that's super accessible, and you're so good at explaining this for
the general public.
But it also, it does debunk these things that I think a lot of us just take for granted as like that that has to be the
way it is. So what do you hear as the biggest myths that you wish people knew were not true?
So I think the big one, as you alluded to, is this idea that sleeping apart is necessarily a sign of
a loveless or sexless union. That is simply not the case. There is not a one-size-fits-all
sleeping arrangement for all couples. I mean, when you think about it, we spend about a third
of our lives asleep. And for many of us, that's shared with a partner, if it works. If it's not
working, then why do we need to be so prescriptive about how we should be doing this behavior that occupies a lot of our coupled existence?
So kind of debunking this idea that there's a one size fits all sleeping arrangement and that how you sleep or don't sleep with your partner necessarily says something about the quality of your relationship.
I think that that's a really big myth to debunk. And the research definitely bears that out. While to maximize sleep quality for the both of them
in their relationship. Not what your parents do, not what your friends do, not what society does.
It's what's working for you. Because, you know, just like mattress preferences are different
across people. And I always encourage people to focus on comfort, comfort for you, not what other
people think. And that goes the same for, you know, how you feel about sharing
a bed. And there's lots of strategies to do it healthily if that's the choice that you want to
make as a couple. I think that, you know, what I recommend to couples who are considering
different sleeping arrangements, including sleeping apart, either permanently or more
temporarily, is to have open and honest communication about it. Talk to your partner
about what's working and what's not working. What too often happens in couples who choose, well,
who end up sleeping apart is that it's not really a choosing or an active decision as a couple.
Rather, it's sort of a default reaction that one partner goes stomping out of the room and onto
the couch. The other partner can be
left feeling kind of abandoned and rejected. And that's where problems could arise. So it's the
lack of communication around the decision and the resentment and frustration that often builds when
these conversations aren't had as a dialogue within a couple that problems can occur. It's not so much
the arrangement itself, but it's how you approach that arrangement that
really matters.
So I say this again to really emphasize to couples the importance of prioritizing sleep
for the health of your relationship.
I know we've talked about how it depends on the person, but is there an ideal sleep?
The subjective experience of sleep is truly one's own. And the best way to assess the quality of
your sleep is do you wake up feeling restored and refreshed and like you had a good night quality
sleep? I couldn't necessarily tell that just by watching two people sleeping together because
the subjective experience doesn't always map on to some of the
objective measures we have. And that's actually a really interesting point about the limited data
we have on couples sleeping together versus apart. The interesting thing is that when we measure
sleep objectively, for instance, using motion sensing devices, when couples share the same bed, they actually show some objective
sort of costs to their sleep. So their sleep is disturbed in some ways. But if you ask those same
people subjectively, you know, do you sleep better with your partner or alone? Most people will say
they sleep better with their partner. And that's, again, I think speaking to the psychological benefits that some of us get
from sharing a bed, that feeling of safety and security derived from being close to a
significant other.
Hearing you say it, it makes so much sense that if you woke up feeling restored and refreshed,
of course, you would be in a better place to be a partner and be in a better relationship,
right?
We all want our partner to look at us and feel refreshed and restored and with energy
for us rather than drained and exhausted.
What are the other ways that sleep affects relationships?
There's really some exciting research that has been coming out from a number of different
laboratories lately, including our own, showing the sort of intricate links between how well you sleep at night and how
you behave in your relationship the next day. So we've shown that there's really this kind of
reciprocal influence that, particularly for men, on nights when men sleep poorly, the next day they
report poor relationship functioning or satisfaction. For women, the opposite was true. On days when
women were more satisfied in their relationship, that night, both she and her partner slept better,
which is really kind of interesting. There's also research showing that under sleep-deprived
conditions, people are less empathic. That is, they're less able to read their partner's emotions,
their communication skills suffer, their problem-solving skills suffer,
and they're more prone to conflict. So you can see how in the context of sleep deprivation,
this can really put couples on a rocky trajectory. This is the thrust of it is that if we don't take
sleep seriously,
we're really putting our relationship in danger. Absolutely. So as much as I talk about this
vicious cycle of what we found in our work of, you know, kind of how you sleep predicting next
day's relationship functioning and vice versa, relationship functioning, predicting that night's
sleep, that's a vicious cycle. But where there are vicious cycles, there's also
opportunities for virtuous cycles. So it suggests that we can intervene. You can intervene at the
level of the relationship, and we have good relationship therapies out there that may be
very beneficial for some. But we also need to start paying attention to our sleep and intervening
and improving sleep with the possible outcome of also improving
our relationship health.
Do you have any insights on how sleep looks different across other demographics, like
age, profession, region, gender, all of those things?
Other demographic differences include the fact that there are profound racial, ethnic, and socioeconomic
disparities in sleep. We see that individuals with low-income households have higher rates of
sleep disruptions and certain sleep disorders. So it's really interesting to look across. I mean, I focus often on our most intimate relationships,
but sleep is really affected
by our broader social environments as well.
And some of the things I think about
within couples that matter for sleep,
like feeling safe and secure with your partner,
that also matters for our broader social context.
For instance, if you live in a neighborhood
that doesn't feel safe,
that can also drive what we see is, you know,
poor sleep quality in low-income,
predominantly African-American neighborhoods, for instance.
That's a study that we have.
It's interesting because I think so often we think about,
at least I so often think about sleep
as something that is the most definitionally
individual, right? Like it's just what do you do to make sure you have good sleep? But it's
a new idea for me to think that there are policies, whether they're government policies
or social norms that could shift sleep on the large scale for everyone.
I love to hear you say that because that is exactly the thrust of a lot of my work, that we have a lot
of research that studies sleep as an individual isolated phenomenon. And we have a great amount
of research showing all the individual factors that contribute to sleep health or lack thereof.
And those individual factors are very important. But we also need to start expanding
our lens and looking at these broader social influences on our sleep, from our relationships
to the communities we live in, to our cultures, and to our policies. And that does relate to
some of my other work, for instance, on public policies like early school start times
and their impact on adolescent sleep,
as well as other broader social policies
like neighborhood investments
in disadvantaged communities
and how that relates to sleep.
We have much more on the importance of sleep
and what you can do to make sure
you are getting the rest you need.
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And we are back with Wendy Troxell.
Okay, so Wendy,
let's imagine that you're in charge of everything
and you can snap your fingers
and magically policies fall into place.
How would you fix the way that we sleep?
Oh, that's hard. Well, I think that
from a policy perspective, we really need sort of a top-down approach to prioritizing sleep,
that we really need to culturally disabuse this idea that, you know, you sleep when you're dead
or that, you know, sleep is a thing that you do, you know, once everything else is done. Because we all suffer from that misconception. Our economy suffers, our productivity
suffers, our mental health suffers, our physical health and functioning suffers. And those all
have societal consequences. So I think really, you know, kind of from a top-down perspective,
we need more sort of prioritization of the
importance of sleep. And that can relate to many policies, ranging from shift work policies to
school start time policies to family leave policies and policies in the military. So there's
kind of broader, more nuanced policies sort of within that general framework of we've got to start
making sleep health a critical and vital priority within our culture because it is so critically
important for all aspects of health, functioning, productivity, and the economy.
What are the three biggest things to make sure that they and their
sleep partners, if there are people sharing their bed, are getting the best night's rest that they
can? Okay, so the first thing I recommend is that we all need to be fairly rigid about setting a
consistent bedtime and wake-up time. Time is a really important signal to our internal biological rhythms or circadian clocks, which in turn, by keeping that consistent, it helps set us up for sleep success that subsequent night.
Tip number two is to keep technology out of the bedroom.
There's really no place for it.
I recommend that you try to have a technology-free zone about an hour before bedtime. If that seems impossible,
start with a half an hour and inch your way closer towards that goal. And if you're scrolling
through social media, kind of doomsday scrolling, you're looking at content that often is distressing,
even if not distressing, it's kind of emotionally activating. That's exactly opposite of where you
want your headspace to be as you approach sleep. You want the time before bed to be a time to
unwind, relax, and settle and prepare your brain for a healthy night of sleep.
There is someone for sure listening to this podcast right now in bed, looking at their
iPhone being like, I have made every mistake right now.
It's not too late to change,
person who's listening in bed.
Not at all.
Get that phone out of the room.
So if you're really struggling with this,
if the idea of being separated from your phone
for an hour sounds impossible,
try it in small increments.
At least give yourself, for starters,
a 15-minute free zone
where you are separated from your phone
as you approach the bedtime.
And the other thing that I want to say about phones in our bedroom is that they're really
taking away from a very important time if you share a bed with your partner, that instead of
using that time before bed to relax and connect with your partner, so many people are now scrolling
through social media and completely ignoring the physical human being who they care about, who's lying right next to
them in bed. This seems like an obvious question for me, but you don't use your phone as an alarm
then? I do not. In fact, people ask me this all the time and my clients who I see in my practice,
when I suggest to them that, you know, no phones in the
bedroom, and they asked me, well, it's my my alarm. What I say is, guess what, there are these things
that they sell very cheaply. And they have only one purpose in life. They are called alarm clocks,
and they were designed to do only one thing, and they do it really well. So allow that thing to do the job it was born to do.
It's only an alarm clock and it's good at its job. Your phone is just, it's too ubiquitous in your
life. So that's no excuse. You know, you can run to your nearest store, buy yourself a cheap alarm
clock and it works magically. You're describing to me a phone that doesn't make calls. I don't
understand. I'm confused by this concept.
Again, just being honest, this is another change that I need to make, which is my phone
is my alarm.
And so that has always been my excuse for why the phone has to be in the bedroom.
It's because I'm like, well, that's where the alarm is.
But like you said, there's absolutely no reason I can't get a different device that does that.
Right.
Because your phone is your alarm.
Your phone is your connection to your work life. Your phone is your connection probably to news and other media.
Sometimes it has, you know, again, stressful, distressing content. Okay. So that's two. What's
your third tip? Third tip is to make your bedroom a haven. And by that, I mean you want your bedroom to be a place that is kind of free from clutter, free from technology, and as comfortable and sort of aesthetically pleasing as you can make it.
So, you know, investing in a good sleep environment, that means a comfortable bed, a room that's comfortable in terms of light. You want the lights low,
sound. You don't want a whole lot of noise in the bedroom. And temperature. We want our bedrooms to
be cooler at night than you would during your sort of daytime activities. Generally, somewhere around, you know, 67, 68 degrees is a comfortable bedroom temperature for sleep because the lowering of your body temperature is one of the signals that happens to facilitate sleep onset.
You've been doing so much of sleep research for many years, and I feel like for a long time, this was not like the hottest field. And I mean that respectfully,
like, I just feel like people weren't, it wasn't something that was in popular consciousness when
you started studying this. And in the last few years, it feels like all of a sudden people are
starting to take this really seriously. I wonder if you have any sense of why that is? Cause I
don't like what changed. It's pretty amazing. I mean, it's, it's exciting. And as a sleep
researcher and somebody who cares deeply about public health, it's wonderful
to see sleep now being elevated to the place it should be, which is as a vital pillar of
health.
I think there are many reasons why it's suddenly gaining such traction and attention.
Number one, now sleep is big business.
There are lots of devices out there and companies that are really devoted to helping people sleep better.
But that also suggests that, you know, I think people are now more and more cognizant of how not sleeping well is profoundly disruptive to all aspects of their lives.
to all aspects of their lives. It's also true that we have an aging population. And as we age,
certain sleep problems are more common. And then it's also true that sleep science as a field is a relatively young science, kind of 60 or so years. And it's really only been in the past
couple of decades where we saw this major emergence of study after study
showing the many consequences of sleep loss and sleep disruption, ranging from increased risks of
heart attacks, diabetes, stroke, now even dementia, and other indicators of cognitive decline.
We also know that sleep loss is strongly linked with our
mental health and well-being. So we have a few more questions,
and then I will let you go and you can take a nap.
Which actually, is that good? Should you take naps? Okay, naps are okay. I jokingly said take
a nap, and then I was like, wait a second, is that like the worst thing that I could suggest,
or is that actually a healthy suggestion? The general strategy with naps is shorter is better and earlier in the day is better.
And it also depends on why you're taking a nap. For me, I had one bad night of sleep. If I had
taken a nap earlier in the day, that would have been totally fine. I probably would have set,
had I had the time, you know, an alarm for a 20 to 30 minute nap, kind of the idea of a power nap.
There is some validity to
that. You don't want too long a nap. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. So yeah, shorter naps is better and earlier
in the day. So I would have done it probably, you know, before 2 PM. It's sort of like the why you're
napping or are you napping every day because you're not allowing yourself sufficient opportunity for
sleep at night. Then the nap is really a band-aid for the fact that you're sleep
restricting on a regular basis.
And you probably should start prioritizing sleep at night.
You've also said, one of your famous quotes is, great sleep is the new great sex.
Is that something that you truly believe?
Do you stand by that?
Well, I don't think it's a replacement for great sex, but that in our sort of psyche and in our culture.
So we need to be thinking about, you know, great sleep as a vital component of our healthy relationships, just as we think of great sex as being a vital component, not the only component, but a vital one of a healthy relationship.
But the thing about that quote, which originally is not my quote, actually, it was by a journalist
a number of years ago, I saw it.
And what I love about it is that it not only speaks to what I would agree with, that sleep
is a vital part of our relationship health.
If someone is listening and they are either in a newish
relationship or they're about to move in together or something like that, so they're about to combine
for the first time and really start a practice of sleeping together, what can they do to set
themselves up for success? What are the rituals or routines that they should initiate now before
they have any bad habits? That's a really great question because it's so neglected in kind of the life course of
relationships.
You know, even if you think about sort of premarital counseling, there's a lot that's
being done to, I think, support couples, you know, as they start a committed union.
But we're primarily focused on the, you know,-thirds of our lives we spend awake and neglecting that
third of our lives that is a really critical part of our coupled existence. And I think it's
important to acknowledge that there is going to be an adjustment period. And when you think about
sleep from an evolutionary perspective, it's a vulnerable state to be in. And that's in part why
some of us do benefit from sleeping with a partner
because a partner can help to make one feel psychologically safe and secure. But at the
beginning of a relationship, there's still some anxiety and getting used to, even a very healthy
one, the newness of it, that's part of the excitement, but that can also cause some sleep disruption. So recognizing that
sometimes it takes an adjustment period to get used to the partner. And if you're feeling a
little anxious at night, that's sort of normal because as you adjust to a new environment,
that's partly your brain signal saying, oh, this is not very familiar. I don't feel
particularly secure or safe right now. So I think that you can sort of acknowledge that, you know, some adjustment is necessary.
I think having some conversations about your sleep habits and patterns is a really good idea at this, you know, start.
You know, maybe not the first date, of course, but, you know, if you're moving in together or whatnot,
you know, talking about these issues that occupy such a major portion of our coupled existence is so important.
Well, I'm having to stop myself from asking you 400 more questions because I could genuinely talk to you for like four days straight and that would not be good for either of our sleep routines.
So last question, what is one way in which you right now are trying to be a better human?
I am trying to practice patience.
It is not a skill I come by naturally.
I'm trying to practice patience with myself, with my children, with my coworkers and other
family members, and really recognize that sort of being willing to engage and participate in the process,
whatever that process might be, and not rushing to the outcome. I tend to be sort of very much,
you know, task oriented and let's get it done and focus on efficiency in sort of all things in life.
But recognizing that sometimes just letting things be and letting things sort of
transpire as they do somewhat organically is necessary. And you learn things by
practicing such patience. And it also teaches you tolerance for other people. And that's
really important. Well, Wendy Troxell, thank you so much for being on the show. You've given me
so many deep, profound things to think over
and also really practical things
that I am going to put into practice in my life
starting tomorrow morning.
So thank you so much.
It was a real pleasure.
Oh, me as well.
I really enjoyed myself.
Thank you.
That is our episode for today.
This has been How to Be a Better Human.
I'm your host, Chris Duffy,
and I learned so much about sleep today.
I hope you did too.
Thank you to our guest, Wendy Troxell.
On the TED side, this show is produced by Abimanyu Das,
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Daniela Balarezo, who wakes up at the same time every day,
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The Apple Watch Series 10 is here.
It has the biggest display ever.
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Compared to previous generations, iPhone XS or later required,
charge time and actual results will vary.