How To Fail With Elizabeth Day - Atomic Kitten’s Natasha Hamilton - ‘We were young and working-class. We were dismissed.’

Episode Date: March 18, 2026

Natasha Hamilton was 16 when she signed a record deal with the girl band, Atomic Kitten. The group went on to sell over 10 million records and achieve three UK Number One singles including Whole Again and The Tide Is High. But the pressures of fame affected her mental health and made her feel isolated and judged. After five years and the birth of her first son, Hamilton quit the band. Today, Hamilton tells that story - the one that existed behind the headlines. We talk about the toxicity of 90s and early Y2K media, surviving postnatal depression and financial catastrophe after divorce. Plus we talk about why she set up her own record label, Morpho, to focus on nurturing and empowering young talent rather than - as she puts it - ‘moulding them into a product’. An amazing woman whose resilience should be an inspiration to us all! Natasha Hamilton’s new single Numb is out now. ✨ IN THIS EPISODE: 00:00 Introduction 03:15 Forties And Clarity 04:47 Writing Numb 06:03 Morpho Records And Duty Of Care 08:11 Bullied But Born To Sing 14:13 Fame Tabloids And Numbness 21:40 Whole Again And Industry Bias 29:37 Making Peace With The Band 31:17 Rebuilding Sisterhood Again 31:37 Losing Pop Star Identity 32:43 Shock Pregnancy And Isolation 35:17 Postnatal Breakdown And Help 38:12 CBT And Taking Control 40:40 New Career In Beauty 46:00 Divorce Money Chaos And Recovery 💬 QUOTES TO REMEMBER: From the age of 16 I was constantly told who to be: what to do, how to look, how to act - I’d never been given the reins of my own life before. There is no wrong decision, if it works it works. I thought: everyone’s judging me for not being thin enough. Fame was so isolating. If you’re struggling - talk to someone. It’s incredible what can happen when you back yourself. 🔗 LINKS + MENTIONS: Natasha Hamilton’s new single, Numb, is out now If you need someone to talk to, the Samaritans are available 24 hours a day: www.samaritans.org or call on 116 123 Join the How To Fail community: www.howtofail.supportingcast.fm/#content Elizabeth’s Substack: www.theelizabethday.substack.com 📚 WANT MORE? Vicky Pattison - on Geordie Shore, self-worth, PMDD and family addiction: swap.fm/l/kUiBIHEkL1y3C9moLdsx Louise Thompson - on how severe trauma after childbirth, chronic illness and the loss of her former identity forced her to rebuild her life with self-compassion: swap.fm/l/LouiseThompson 💌 LOVE THIS EPISODE? Subscribe on Spotify, Apple or wherever you get your podcasts Leave a 5⭐ review – it helps more people discover these stories 👋 Follow How To Fail & Elizabeth: Instagram: @elizabday TikTok: @howtofailpod Podcast Instagram: @howtofailpod Website: www.elizabethday.org Elizabeth and Natasha answer listener questions in our subscriber series, Failing with Friends. Join our community of subscribers here: www.howtofail.supportingcast.fm/#content Have a failure you’re trying to work through for Elizabeth to discuss? Click here to get in touch: howtofailpod.com Production & Post Production Coordinator: Eric Ryan Engineer: Matias Torres Assistant Producer: Shania Manderson Senior Producer: Hannah Talbot Executive Producer: Alex Lawless How to Fail is an Elizabeth Day and Sony Music Entertainment Production. Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts To bring your brand to life in this podcast, email [e-mail] _________________________________________________________________________ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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alongside Liz McLernan and Kerry Ketona, who was later replaced by Jenny Frost. The group went on to sell over 10 million records and achieve three UK number one singles, including Whole Again and the Time. is high. After five years and the birth of her first son, Hamilton quit the band until they were reformed in 2012. Hamilton, now a 43-year-old mother of five, has since 2024 been concentrating on her solo projects, including setting up her own record label, Morpho, which focuses on nurturing

and empowering young talent, rather than, as she puts it, molding them into a product. She's also been releasing new music. Her latest single, Numb, has just been released and is a total bot, but there is a darkness underneath the electro pop beats, which speaks perhaps of Hamilton, finally having found her own voice, some 25 years after Hull again reached the top of the charts. Hamilton says, it's the most honest work I've ever made. There's a rawness to it, but also a clarity and strength that comes from everything I've lived through. Natasha Hamilton, welcome to How to Fail. Wow, it's what an intro.

What a woman. It's so lovely to be sitting here opposite you. First of all, thank you for the music. Thank you for those years that you gave us with Atomic Kitten and for what you're now delivering. It is so needed in our culture. Thank you. You know, you say that.

I get goosebumps because it never, ever fails to, resonate how much that music means to other people. I refuse to believe that Hull again is 25 years old. How dare it be that old? It's crazy. It's like it happened in a blink of an eye, but also I've lived many lives in that 25 years. So talk to me about your 40s.

So we are both in our 40s now. How are you finding it as a decade? Great. I wasn't looking forward to it. I don't know. I feel like the turn of being 40 felt quite dramatic and uncomfortable, actually. I wasn't looking forward to it at all. I don't know why.

I mean, I was leaving behind a lot of sadness, really, but also a lot of greatness because I just started living in a really comfortable part of my life. And I don't know, maybe a new decade. I was like, oh, please stay. Like, I hope everything stays well. But with age comes just a lot of clarity about the life you want to live, the person you want to be,

about not really caring about the noise that can surround you, especially in the industry that I'm in. I spent a lot of years, like doubting, is this the right direction? Am I good enough? What will people think? And actually, to enforce, he was a great marker for me

because it was like none of that matters. Like this is the decade to be unapologetically me. And enjoy life, enjoy my career, enjoy my creativity. And what life can be if you live without fear. That is so powerful. Tell me about your new single nom. Because is there an element that you feel. felt numb through some of your fame, your previous fame, and you've sort of woken up in your

40s? Would that be accurate? Nunn wasn't deliberate. So I ended up in a writing camp in Spain through chance. I was at my husband's charity event. I met a single songwriter called Kyle. He was like, look, I've got this writing camp. I think you're great. I've listened to your music for years. Why don't you come out? So I just took a chance. I booked a flight to Alicante for three or four nights and went to a writing camp where I didn't really know anybody. And it felt quite liberating. And from fear of making another wrong move

or bringing another wrong person into my life, I'd cut myself off from feeling. And it wasn't until I was in this room listening to music. when this song has to be called numb. This moment now, everything that happens beyond this is my rebirth. And it really empowered me. Is part of the reason that you set up morpho because you didn't want younger creative artists to go through

some of what you went through with Atomic Kitten? Yeah. I think everyone around us at the time was doing the best that they could do in this machine that was just gaining traction and atomicating was becoming bigger than what we ever thought it could have been and I still speak to my old management like they're still part of my life

in a small part and my old record label boss is almost like a mentor to me now and I appreciate the position that they were in whereas we wear a product and everyone's got a job and we have to move forward. But on the flip side of that, there were part of the life that we were living

where we needed support that we didn't get. And I don't know whose shoulders that was to fall on. I think between management, record label and parents, everyone was trying to do the best with the tools that they had. But if there was practices in place that they'd learned or experienced from other bands pre-atomaceting, because let's be honest, We weren't the only band who were young and who struggled.

I think there could have been things put in place that would have helped a lot. So with Morpho Records, that's what I'm doing. I'm setting up a label where first and foremost, it's a duty of care. It's really what does that person want out of their mentorship. So for me, it's giving back before we take. Let's get on to your first failure, because as you put it, it's the end of atomic kitten. And I'd like to go back to the start of atomic kitten

because I couldn't believe that you were 16 when you joined until I did the research for this interview. So young, but you seem to have such a good head on your shoulders when I look back at the footage. How did you feel age 16 being part of this band? Truthfully, I was ready. I'd been singing since, oh, forever. You know, the first school play at the age of four,

when we had to be a flower. You know, there's lots of kids scratching the head and picking at the feet. And I was the beautiful flower, right? Really OTT in the middle of the room. And teacher saying, oh, Mrs. Hamilton, I think your daughter's got something special. So it was just always in me to perform

and to want to sing. But I think as I got older, as you mentioned, the bullying started and being left out and being punched in the back, playing games in the school playground and being laughed at because I was in the school choir or I was playing the recorder and it was like my special gift

was brought a lot of, negative negativity into my life. But the flip side of that was, when I did sing and when I was on stage, people would be quiet. It was time away from all of that negative noise. I grew up in the inner city of Liverpool. And it was brilliant. Like, I love my, I still call it my home.

Like, I grew up in a home full of love. My parents were amazing. But to step outside of that front door, it was brutal at times and it was harsh and I had people picking on me and chasing me and fighting me and pulling my hair jumping on my back and beating me up

you know this is kind of what it's like to live in an inner city also being a ginger kid wearing braces having a mixed race father in a predominantly white area all of these layers of, oh my God, she's the perfect target for us to bully her. So when I joined the Starlight Show Group at 12, which was a group of kids going around pubs, clubs, theatres, anywhere, anything,

anywhere with a stage or a space that we could make a stage. That took me away from the streets. Every week went and I was busy. I used to love coming home on a Friday and getting my outfit for, And my dad just taught me out to iron, like, with a, you know, a pillar case and damp it down so you don't burn anything. And it was this pride that I had for all these items because we didn't have a lot of money. But my mum would save up every last penny to get me, like, beautiful dresses to wear on stage. So from 12 to leaving school at 15, I'd done thousands of shows.

And I went from being a 12-year-old little kid with this young voice to a 15-year-old. with this powerhouse vocal where people, instead of drinking the pint and smoking the fag and chatting, you know, from three years previous, they'd put their drink down and turn around, watch and clap at the end. So I knew I was like,

I've got something here that could get me out, could get me on a cruise ship, travel in the world. Wow, how amazing would that be? So by the time the atomic hitting audition happened, I'd done so many auditions. My mum had driven me all around the country, bless her. And she saw the audition.

I was at college and I came home. She said, I've got you an audition for a girl band with attitude. And I was like, okay, I can work with that. When you joined the band, I know you became firm friends afterwards, but Kerry Cotona did, you didn't get on. We clashed. You clashed. Was that intimidating?

Or because of everything you'd been through to get there, did you feel this inner confidence that it was all going to be okay? I wouldn't say intimidating, but I was definitely upset because coming into Atomic Kitt and having Andy McCluskey and Stuart Kirschor Backett, OMD, being in the rehearsal space, the studios that they owned, listening to the songs, for me, I knew. At that age, I was like, this is the one. This is the ticket out.

So to clash almost instantly with Kerry. And I was just being myself, I was trying to suggest dance moves. And I just wanted to come as a team player, but I think that was seen as being too bossy or, you know, I hadn't quite earned my place to be suggesting what the girls should do. But when you grow up, you know, in the situations that I had, you have to kind of have a confidence and maybe a bit of bravado

and I'd done it for years it wasn't my first rodeo I yeah I think I just overstepped the mark a little bit and Kerry didn't like it and she did go back to the studio and say

I don't like her and if she stays I'm leaving and they told me that they were like what happened at the flat and I was like what do you mean and they were like Kerry said she doesn't want to work with you

and I just burst out crying I was like, I really don't know. I was just trying to be helpful. Anyway, they just said, well, you stay. You best get on. And it was difficult because Kerry and Liz lived in a flat together for like, I think 18 months before I even turned up. So they had a really close bond.

And yeah, they had to let me in. And I had to earn my way in. And it took a little while. It was a bit frosty to begin with. But I was a tough cookie at that point, so I was going to try and make it work every way I could. And you did make it work as a band. Yeah. And I am obsessed with talking to women who were in the public eye who made it through that time.

Oh, my God. Of late 90s, early Y2K media retention, which is part of the reason I was so excited that you were coming on. because I as someone who was not in the public eye whatsoever found that period of time difficult enough to handle in terms of how I felt about myself, how I felt about my body and I cannot imagine what it was like for someone like you who was famous. What do you remember of the tabloid attention when you did get famous? I remember starting the band and liking myself.

I liked the way I looked. I liked the fact that I was flat-chested and, you know, and I was quite boyish, sporty. I think then when people start to highlight what is wrong with you, it's a really confusing place to be in because you're not really sure why people are saying these things

and all of a sudden you're like, maybe that does need to change or you feel it is an attack on who you are. And I think I was down the line. Part of me, the naivety of it all was I don't really give a shit, but the longer it went on, it does chip away and you do start to care. And it was always very apparent that, you know, Kerry was the beautiful, the bombshell, you know, things like that. And there's always a language used around how Kerry looked, which was not really ever used for me and Liz, I don't suppose.

And you know, and you kind of, you get used to that. And then you do start to think, oh, maybe I'm not that pretty. You are so beautiful and you were then. And I just need to state that as a fact for the record. I was a beautiful young girl growing up in the public eye. But I think it does. I knew I'd get upset. Oh, Natasha, I can't even imagine

and I really, it's important to show these feelings. Like, it really is. I'm upset, but I'm angry. Yeah. You know, I've got an 11-year-old daughter, a 15-year-old son. And you just think, how do people be that mean and disgusting about kids? Yeah.

But it was what it was. We were fodder. Fodder for the tabloids, fodder for the magazines. I don't know why it's still so raw. I'm so sorry you went through that. It's okay. I'm actually, like, I'm fine. I think there's a lot of pain that gets boxed up.

And occasionally when you open it, It's, oh, it pinches. Because there were times when I'd cry in bed. And there were times when I was just in a hotel room on my own with no parents and no friends. And feeling really vulnerable. I'm scared. Not good enough.

But then you have to open that door the next day and be like, hey, I'm Natasha from Atomic Inn. Yes. I feel pain, not just for myself, for all the young people back then. who you had to be dragged through the media like that. It was tough times and I'm probably more sensitive to it now because I'm a woman and it's unfair.

Back then I think I had to really toughen myself up to it. I had to just be tough and you have to tap out a little bit. And it's that numbness feeling. You're not feeling, you're going through the motions, you're doing things that half the time you don't want to do. Or you're in a public space and in the back of your head you're thinking, oh my God, everyone's looking at me and how thin I am. They're judging me or like I don't look nice.

And it's just a level of scrutiny on top of the pressure of being famous that is difficult. It is difficult. Thank you so much for opening up about that. I don't know why I get so emotional over that. Please. Like I totally understand why you get so emotional. And if it helps, any woman I've ever spoken to who's had a similar experience to yours has done the same.

And I think potentially it's because you were so busy and working and booked at the time. And it was a different era in terms of mental health that you, you were never given the opportunity to process. No. And it also strikes me, Natasha, that so much of what you've done in the last couple of years is about parenting. And healing, I think. And healing.

And parenting your own children, parenting young artists, but also parenting yourself as you were then. Yeah. And there's something so beautiful and powerful about that. You've turned your pain into that kind of purpose. Yeah. it was just so lonely and so isolate him. And if there was someone I could pick the phone up to and say, okay, this is what happened today.

And as you say, process it in real time. Instead of putting a lid on it and pushing it down deep for decades. And sometimes you just say it, but you're not reliving it. And I think it's in situations like this where my whole being is reliving it. it's whoa that really was upsetting and I just think

God if that was one of my own my mum and dad must have got a lot of grey hairs from basically sitting at home having to watch from afar what their teenage daughter was doing and going through

via the media could you talk to your bandmates I'm sure you could but was it difficult because they were teenagers too It was spoken about, but probably more like in a sense of cheeky fucks. Yes. You know, kind of a bit more bravado to it. But were we confined and into our deepest, darkest secrets with each other?

No, not really. But, you know, we're talking 25, 26, whatever years ago. That wasn't the thing that we did. We didn't really know that we could do that. I think the least we spoke about it and the more we buried it, the easier it was just to crack on and get through another day. Carvana's so easy, just a click, and we've got ourselves a car.

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it flopped. I think it went to 39 in the charts and left the following week. Then a member left. And we had to scramble around quite ferociously to find someone and get Jen. And that's why a lot of the, all the TV performances of Holigan were Jenny alive because all we had was Kerry on the track, which I loved.

I was like, yeah, we get to see live. We knew it was going to do well. But when I say going to do well, we were hopeful for top 10. But we were going up against you two at the time. Like they just absolutely annihilated everyone. So to get that phone call, I'll never forget, I was in the Regent Plaza Hotel in May DeVale. That's what it was called then.

I lived there for like two years and my manager was like it didn't do as we expected and I was like oh so it like embedding my PJs we're bloody number one and I'm like like jumping on the bed

fell on the floor then I put the phone down and next door was Liz and then I can hear Liz screaming and we had an interconnecting door so we opened the door so we just threw ourselves So we were like, what?

Honestly, that whole week is a blur. It is an absolute blur of promo. Like every day it was sales up, up, up, up. We annihilated you too. And I love the T-shirt you wore at the time, which was you two, just another Irish boy band. So cheeky. It was so funny.

So cheeky. Have you ever met Bono? Yes. So we'd had a few impromptu. meets and drinks with Bono actually leading up to that. Hence why I thought, oh, he'll be able to take it. And that was at the Enemy Awards. But then Jenny called him over and said,

oh, you need to look at Natasha's T-shirt. And I had a jacket on. And I was like, and he was like, show me a T-shirt. Terrible. Sorry. I'm so sorry. To anyone who's Irish. And I showed them a T-shirt and he went fair play. And when he collected his award,

that day, he said something like we've had our arses kicked by pop, well done girls. There's so much that is sort of dismissive in the narrative around girl bands because it's young women. But there was an additional dismissal, I think, with Atomic Kitten because you were working class. How much did you feel that at the time? I think our naivety and our youth and not really knowing a lot about. politics and how people were treated differently, especially if they were northern and had a Scouse accent. We were fearless. I'm glad we didn't really know much about that or pay much

attention to it. But looking back and hearing other people's stories like management and label and the stories they've told me, I'm like, oh, we weren't really, yeah, we weren't aware. in that moment because we just wanted to be successful. And I'm glad it was kept away from us. But when you think that Atomic Hitton in the midweeks were outselling you two, two to one, yet no one would play our song on radio, we were so dismissed.

And it was only when it hit number one on the Sunday that they had to play it because obviously it's in the chart. And every week thereafter, our sales went up. So on week two of number one, we increased sales every week for four weeks. The only person to do that previous to us was Michael Jackson. That's so interesting that you weren't being played on the radio.

So it was literally like your live appearances were your performances were driving the sales. Yeah. That's very impressive. Yeah. Like I can remember doing certain radio shows with male presenters. And we'd be like, we don't really want to do it. because we're basically sitting ducks with a man who's more eloquent and intelligent than what we wear at our age, just taking the piss.

And that infuriates me now because I'm like, why did we have to do that? But it was, well, you have to. There were certain panel shows that, you know, I was asked to do and I'd be crying to management saying, I don't want to do that because it is just a load of men going to take the piss out of me. and why would I want that? And I was being asked to do that show when I was actually diagnosed with post-natal depression.

But, you know, it's the biggest show on TV. Oh, well, I don't want to do it. Yes. Which panel show? Buzzcocks. Right. Yeah. So it's that humour where they take the piss,

but when you've got postnatal depression and you're vulnerable, that's not going to go down. down very well. You poor thing, that is so much. You mentioned the postnatal depression. So you gave birth to your first baby boy. And the doctor said, you need six to 12 months off.

And they gave you six weeks. Have I got that right? Two weeks. Two weeks. It wasn't it. It was two weeks. Yeah. And then you were back on stage.

Yeah. Yeah. It was really tough. because even when I had two weeks off, I was not lay at home, chilling, watching this morning. I was, my nervous system was completely shot and I couldn't relax, I couldn't sleep, I couldn't focus. And I had this immense pressure of when are you coming back to work? When is, you know, if you're leaving, just tell us you're leaving. and it was just a constant, I don't know,

I suppose at the time it felt like a threat. And in the end, instead of being threatened, I just made the decision myself to leave after that. Yeah. And is that the end of atomic kitten that you are quoting as a failure? Because there are various ends of atomic kitten the band. No, I think when you've had such huge success,

such a young age and you walk away from that at the peak. Like we, another 12 months probably would have made us financially stable for a very long time. Coming off the back of this huge success and then having a whole year off, I've had my biggest, I've earned the most money I've earned ever where I've just sat at home trying to heal for a year and all of a sudden I've got a tax bill and I'm having to go back because I'm on my own with the kids and I'm the breadwinner

so I need to get back to work and I think it wasn't I wasn't going back out of passion and love it was fear and oh my God like how can I ever do that again how will I ever beat that how can I fit back into a world

that I didn't love anymore, but I need to because I had a family to support. So the fear of failing and not being able or not wanting to really do that again, it was such a confusing time in my life. Do you think you've recovered from that time even now? Do you think you've recovered from the end of Atomic Kitten? Yeah. I've definitely made peace with it. Like at the end of Atomic Kitten And me, Jen and Liz, I don't think we spoke. The odd text message, but we didn't speak or we weren't sisters the way we had been for a good while. It was heartbreaking.

They were my girls, they were my sisters. But my decision to leave also ended their career. And they had to go off and do different things that maybe they weren't ready to do. I'm not sure. Maybe they were. Maybe they weren't. But there was definitely a time where there was that feeling of animosity and it didn't end well. And people didn't like me.

I didn't like them. It was just, it was hard to go from this tight-knit bubble to just being at home with my kids, not really even understanding how the real world works. And you were still only 19 when you had your first baby. 20. Yeah. How are things now, have you healed enough to have a friendship with your former bandmates? Yeah, God, yeah.

Yay. Yeah, we've moved on, as they say, time is the greatest healer. And it's been a long time. And we've reformed and we've done other bits and bobs together, which has been beautiful. But my career really did come. to an abrupt halt. And that was something I'd worked hard for. Like, that's all I ever wanted to do.

Out of everyone, all the girls in the band, I'm the only one that wanted to be a pop star. Everyone else kind of fell into it. So to end on such a dramatic and negative point, it was heartbreaking. It really was because I wanted to do that. I wanted to be a pop star. until I really didn't want to be a pop star.

I hated it. And to fall out of love with the one thing you always wanted to do, that's a bit of a head, you know what. It's very tough because it leaves you without an identity, I imagine. Absolutely. That identity crisis leads us onto your second failure, which thank you, I want to preface this by saying, thank you so much for talking about it

because I don't think you've spoken about it before. And we're moving on a few years and it's after you had your daughter Ella at the age of 31, would you mind telling us what happened? Yeah, so I had Ella quite soon into my relationship with her father off the back of a painful divorce.

so I'm not in a great place but I've met someone who I get on really well with but I had a lot of health issues and was in and out hospital with ruptured cysts at previous to falling pregnant with Ella so I'd had a lot of investigations going on I'd been told by the doctors not going to be able to have kids no more

in my head I don't need to go and get this coil put back in because even though I had one, I did have one. And I was trying to get it, put in in a private clinic, never quite got there in time. In my mind, I'm like, oh, well, that's probably why I've had kids young, giving it out to the universe. I'm blessed.

I've got three. And then, yeah, I fell pregnant with Ella, and it was a massive shock. I fell out with my family over it. Like, they were... they weren't happy and I'm very close to my family so that was quite isolating

because they were worried about it yeah of course like you know I'm having a baby and I've come through a lot of hardship and a lot of mental health issues off the back of going through a divorce so there's my support system gone for a little while we did make amends in the end

and then obviously I'm having a child with someone don't really know. And we were good friends, but it was quite telling early on that. Things weren't great. But in my mind, I'd made the decision and like, I'm going to do this with or without you kind of kind of thing. I don't need your permission to continue with this. I will carry on. But, you know, Rich was there and we made the best out of the situation that we could. I think there was just a lot happening. My whole pregnancy was horrendous. horrendous. I was ill, like violently ill for weeks and weeks and weeks. Stressed, anxious, depressed. And then after I had Ella, I, yeah, I started having dark thoughts.

So I was cooking tea in the kitchen one day and I had a sharp knife. and a flash came through my mind of me cutting my wrists and it was quite joyous I wasn't in pain I was quite enjoying it and it scared the hell out of me it was a moment of

what the hell was that and I was very I was taken back by it was a lot and I shouted Rich and he came in and I told him and I was shaking from head to toe and he helped get me to the hospital

because at this point I was just having a complete meltdown and yeah I was told I was having like a mental breakdown I was under the care of the hospital for quite a few weeks I was treated at home they did offer to have me at hospital and have Ella with me. They had wards where women who were struggling

post-birth, they could stay and be treated with the baby there. But I was able to go home and have that treatment with Rich and my parents there every day. I was sedated for a couple of days just to sleep because leading up to that, what happened, that imagery. I hadn't slept. I'd say for weeks. I used to get up in the month.

and sit in the shower and cry because I was so exhausted from my mind. Just so tired, tired of life, tired of my brain, tired of not being able to sleep. Oh God, when I came out of that, I can remember just feeling, again, numb. A complete numbness on a level that I'd never felt before, but also, A, it was such a relief because

everything I was feeling, I'd said. I didn't hide anything. I was scared that my children would be taken away from me because I was some kind of crazy lady who couldn't be trusted with the kids. But honestly, the mental health team at Chester Hospital were incredible, so supportive. But that for me was the first time

I'd said, enough is enough. Like, this is rock. bottom for me. And I just need to take one day out of time to figure out how to function again. And I was given 18 weeks of intensive CBT therapy that at first I just thought, this is a load of nonsense. I don't know why I thought that just maybe from how I'd grown up the environment. So, you know, this is a load of woo-woo or whatever. but I committed to it and it changed my life. It was really difficult at first because no one's telling you what you should think

and how you should be and what the next step is and that was the hardest thing for me. I was so useful for someone telling me what to do. Managed, I'd been managed. I'd had a manager from the age of 16. I was constantly told who to be, what to do, how to look, how to act. had never been given the reins of my own life before. I'm so emotional hearing you talk about this. I can feel how terrifying it must have been.

It was horrible. Because I was so scared to make the wrong decision. But what I've realised is there is no wrong decisions. All you can do is try. If it works, it works. If it doesn't, it doesn't. And being able to let go the reins and say, I don't know all the answers

and I don't know where life is going to lead me. But I have faith that everything's going to be okay. Yeah. I think a lot of things are happening in life. Make you lose faith. Yes. But it's something I'm really trying to hold on to at the moment. Like 18 weeks later, I cried my eyes out leaving that therapy room.

The woman who'd looked after me was like, that's it. And I said, can I stay in touch with you? And she said, no. Oh, my goodness. She said, we're not allowed. That's sort of extraordinary, given what you just said about being managed. Like, here was someone who gave you back your agency. Mm-hmm.

What do you think is the most important thing you learned about yourself during those 18 weeks? Like, I am capable of making my own decisions. And when you think you're 31 years old and you haven't realized that yet or had to be, I had to, I just had to go through so much to have the realization of I am capable. And at the time my sister, my younger sister had just signed up to go to beauty college. She was on a new path and I thought, I think I'd like to do that. I know a lot about beauty. I've had every beauty treatment under the sun and I'm quite, like I am, I love, like at school,

I was a bit geeky. I was like a science girl. Like I love science. I was really good at it. And I love the fact that going back to college, I'd have to learn the anatomy of the body and learn the science behind what we were doing and take exams.

So all of a sudden I was like, I'm going to do something for me. Like I'm going to focus on something else. I don't want to just be living in this, oh, me, me, me. What else can I do to grow as a woman? So I signed up for a local beauty college course. and I was terrified.

I got my mum to drive me there. I got my mum to get out the car and walk into the college. Oh, like your first day at school, literally. Yeah, I was like, can you just walk in and have a lot and tell me if it, like, what's it like? She was like, oh my God, Natasha. And I was like, please.

I was, you know, I was quite raw and vulnerable, but I also knew that I had to just be me and go out there and do these things to grow. that led to me going to London and studying at the International Institute of Anti-Aging and becoming a skin specialist and opening my own clinic. And honestly, it's incredible what can happen when you back yourself. I'm in awe of you. I'm so admiring of you going through that process and ending up where you are.

How old is Ellen Ab, 12? She's 11. 11. And what's your relationship like with Ella? Incredible. I mean, apparently I'm not as cool as what she used to think. Happens to us all. Sometimes I'm cool.

But super close. I just shot my next video on Friday. And she's in it. She's not in it for the sake of being in it. There's a part of the lyrics of the song. that refer to the celestial beings that I've created or that we create as women. And she has a role in the video.

And oh my God, that girl, the confidence. She is everything I wanted to be as a young girl and more. She is so articulate and confident in herself and in her. Don't get me wrong, she's been through it. She's a young girl navigating life at school and also having two famous parents, which is very difficult. So her father is Richie Neville from Five. Yeah.

So instantly she's different to everyone else. She has come up against a few things at school, which we just try and navigate with as much love as we can. And, you know, I tell her when I was a little girl, I got bullied and I was picked on. And you've got to some young kids maybe listening to what other people are saying and they don't really understand. And it's your talk to you to tell them. You're just the same.

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All of, I think from that moment on, all of my relationships got a lot better. I mean, the kids were only, I mean, Ella was a baby, but the kids were young, but like my older boys, they obviously saw mum, mummy struggling.

I never tried to hide anything. I've always been very transparent and open. You know, they don't need to know every, at the time they didn't need to know everything. but what I would say is talk to someone. The worst thing that you can do is keep it all inside and going back to my postnatal depression with Josh, I hid that for so long for the fear of people saying,

oh, you're so ungrateful. You're a pop star in one of the biggest bands in the country and you've got this money and you've got that. What have you got to be sad for? and what other people think of you is quite frankly none of your business it doesn't matter but you can't keep all of them feelings locked in to yourself because it only gets worse and worse so if you can find the courage just a little bit of courage to reach out to a family member a friend an older child if they're older and just can find

So well put. Your third and final failure is life after divorce. So you've mentioned it there in terms of the impact it had on your personal relationships. But this was a very specific experience to do with business, wasn't it? Yeah. Again, I'm so thrilled you're going to talk about it because I cannot tell you the amount of people who I know. who will relate to this. Okay. So, and also the other person who spoke about this was Melby.

Okay. So you're in great company. So you went through a divorce and what happened financially afterwards? Well, I mean, I was very much the face of the business and my husband, ex-husband, he was the finance. And not just that, not just for business, but for my own personal business. I mean, now I go, wow. But when I went through my divorce, I didn't even have the login details to my online banking. Wow.

Now where I am in my life now, I'm like, what? And this is when you're in your late 20s. Is that right? Yeah. Yeah. And I imagine as well, you're used to other people being in control of the money. Yeah. That to me, that made sense.

Yeah. That was totally normal for me. And I'm not saying I was in a relationship where he was like, I'm having. these are not for you. I was happy just to go, you can deal with that while I'm in my box over here. We built multiple businesses together, coffee shops, restaurants, bars, businesses I could sell in the future and help support me in the family, pension, whatever that may be. And, you know, it meant a lot to me. It was like, this is the first time I'm doing these businesses off my own back with my husband. After atomic hitting, I feel like I'm succeeding. This is great.

And then the divorce happens and everything gets frozen and all of a sudden I'm thinking, well, where are my assets? Where are they? Because there was lots of them and now there's literally nothing. Look, I can't tell you what all of this was in a monetary value. But it was many years of my life. I'm talking five maybe years of working really hard every day we're getting, you know, press coverage and, you know, celebrities are hanging out in the club.

And, you know, it's all the, it's great. It's like all of this is going to one day be my rainy day pot for me and the kids. And, yeah, going through divorce, all of that just fell down around me. And I didn't have the access to what all these things were because I didn't have a bank account. I've never seen a book on any of the accounts. It was like, where are all these things? Where does it exist? Yeah.

I don't know. I can remember sitting at my island in the house. I just, like a lot of bills had bounced. And I'm like getting like these calls. And I'm like, I don't know what's going on. And like all my accounts had been frozen. And I just remember phoning the bank crying saying, I have absolutely no idea what I'm supposed to do.

I can't even log into my online banking. I don't know how to do it. Like, I'm going through a divorce and I need someone to help me. It was the worst free, like, I just felt like this free fall of chaos and anxiety. It was wild. That's horrendous. What happened? Did you just, I mean, I don't want to be intrusive,

but did your ex-husband take it all? I don't know what happened to this day. I went through a divorce with a clean break. It just got to a point where I thought I can't put any more money into investigating what the hell has happened here because I'm a single parent with a family to support. So you have to start again?

Yeah. It took me seven years to financially recover. after my divorce. Good grief. Yeah. I'm astonished and horrified and so again in awe of what a survivor you are. I just sometimes I do look back and think God in a previous life I must have been a pain in the house. Because maybe one of these things isolators happens to someone in their lifetime but it's like this chain of events that it was like this steam train coming at me through my life. How did you build up your finances again? Was this through the skin clinic?

Working hard. Taking every job. I always say I'm Jack of All Trade, Master of Non. I never stopped working. I've learned how to pivot. And that's always fuelled from being a mum looking after a kid's. Like there's no time. I've always found, weirdly,

and in recent years I've made this stop. When my back is up against the wall, I can make shit happen. And I got to a point I thought, actually I just want to make shit happen without my back being up against the wall. Yes. But I think, God, if I can get through that,

I can launch a record label. Definitely. You've survived 100% of your worst days, your toughest challenges. You're still that kid in the streets in Liverpool, getting punched in the back and carrying on and performing your way through it. There's that resilience, that core of steel that is so impressive. And it's strength because of what you've been, because of all of the challenge.

Yeah. Like the vulnerability you've shown is the strength. Yeah. I do, yeah, I do see that. I don't know. Maybe this is me trying to make myself feel better about it. but I feel like I've just experienced so much that I can give my kids a lot of insight and knowledge into life that I wasn't able to have growing up.

These days, so you're married again. Yeah, like that very much was then. I met my husband 10 years ago this year, so we're on our 10th year anniversary. I was 33. I actually went, so bearing in mind, six months or eight months before I met my husband, I met my now husband. I was under the care of a mental health team in a really dark place.

And then I met him and we courted. We old school courted because one, he lived in London, two, I didn't trust myself. I was like, I can't rush into this because I've rushed into everything and look what's happened. And he helped me heal a lot because he, you know, he always says the woman he met, when he met me, he was like, you're amazing.

But I was also carrying a lot of hair and pain. He was just fun. I could get away from life and just hang out and just be tash. And he was a, he had his own thing going on. He was successful. You know, he didn't need me for anything. He didn't have to manipulate or be jealous in any of. Anyway, he was just like, I like you, you're cool.

But I think I was so raw and honest within a month of knowing me, like, I told him a whole life story. Because I just thought, oh, this is me and I can't be asked, getting six months in and going, I've got something to tell you. The first night we met, I told him, like, I had four kids and I was living with my ex. And he was like, what do you mean? And I say, well, I'm looking for a house. But until I get it, I'm living cohabiting with my ex. And he was just like, okay.

That's someone who's securing himself. Yeah. He's always said, there's never a dull moment with Natasha. You have five kids. What's the age range? So Josh is 23, 24 this year. Then I've got Harry, who's 21. Alfie, 15, Ella, 11 and Kitty, who's two.

That is an astonishing achievement. Is it challenging parenting each different age group simultaneously? At the moment, I question myself more with my eldest because he's a man. And sometimes, you know, men go to their dad, they go to that male for support. So sometimes I feel like, oh, what can I offer? to help right now because he doesn't really like to confine at me. But he's got a beautiful partner. Yeah, they're just this beautiful couple, quite old-fashioned.

They remind me of the notebook. It's like that old, that wholesome love. Like they're just super cute. I'm really close with her. So now I kind of find out what's, I'm like, hey, how are you? How's Josh? Which is quite nice, actually. Yes.

Because he's in the army, he's doing his thing. He's very career-focused. Being a mum of a soldier's a whole other. Yes, that must be really emotional in so many ways. Yes. Well, your eldest is a soldier and in so many ways you fought so many battles throughout your life. And you've come out triumphant on the other side, Natasha Hamilton. I cannot tell you how grateful I am for your openness and for.

trusting me. And I would love to end on one very, very important question. Yeah. Do you have the login details to your own bank account? Because I don't want to be back here in three years' time. Yes, I can confirm I have access to my online banking. Thank you. I'm thrilled to hear it. Listen, thank you so, so much for coming on how to fail. Thank you for having me. I'm Craig Melvin. Cheers. Cheers. Cheers. I've always been a glass half-full kind of guy,

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