How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett - LIVE COACHING! How to Be More Attractive to Women TODAY, using the ‘Confidence Code’

Episode Date: July 6, 2023

Do you lack self-confidence with women? Do cute girls tend to see you as not attractive enough or not tall enough or not charismatic enough… not something enough? Low confidence makes you less attractive and leads to rejection and loneliness.It’s frustrating… but it’s fixable! If you want to learn how to be more attractive to women, you’re in luck. In this special “live coaching” episode of the Dating Transformation podcast, Connell Barrett shares a game-changing coaching secret for the first time publicly. He helps his client Nick transform his confidence in just 45 minutes. How? Connell guides Nick through a powerful process called “The Confidence Code,” a tested formula that you can use to feel magnetic to women, instantly! Nick literally TRIPLES his self-confidence before your ears, in minutes.Use Connell’s Confidence Code. You’re about to go from low confidence to knowing how to be more attractive to women. Listen now!Quotes"I should focus on showcasing my own unique qualities and confidently pursue my romantic interests." - Nick"I’ve learned that fear breeds self-doubt, but embracing confidence leads to meaningful connections on dates." - Nick"I doubted my old belief and embraced a better, more truthful belief. I changed my body language to align with this new mindset."- NickFeatured in the episodeNick (Guest)Connelll Barrett (Host)Founder and Executive Coach of Dating TransformationWebsite: https://datingtransformation.comInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformationChapters00:29 Introduction07:49 Unlocking Confidence: Inner Power over External Validation11:54 Overcoming Debilitating Beliefs in Dating14:54 Exploring Worth and Value in Dating22:21 Embracing Manhood: Redefining Masculinity30:08 Physical Exercise for Boosting Confidence34:06 Radical Authenticity: Transforming Dating Challenges39:14 Counter-Evidence: Challenging Limiting Beliefs44:12 Questioning the Masculine Archetype51:22 Exploring the Complexity of Masculinity56:00 Empowering Beliefs: Replacing the Old01:01:59 Confidence Kickoff: Embodying the New Belief01:11:25 Boosting Confidence: Daily Reinforcement and Proof01:15:06 Outro

Yeah, don't be some fake alpha male masculine parody. You know, at best, it stifles growth, and at worst, it turns you into a guy who wears Axe body spray and says bra and baller. Welcome to the Dating Transformation Podcast. Here's your host, dating coach, Conal Barrett. All right, welcome back to the Dating Transformation Podcast. Here's your host, dating coach, Conal Barrett. All right. Welcome back to the Dating Transformation Podcast. I'm your host, dating coach, Conal Barrett. I'm the real life hitch. I help guys gain confidence, learn how to flirt and get great girlfriends all by being what I call radically authentic.

No creepy pickup moves, being real, being genuine, basically awakening that true best self. And I'm super psyched for this episode because we're doing another live coaching episode. And today's episode is really near and dear to my heart because you're about to witness me doing one of the most powerful things I do with men when they work with me, which is to give them what I call the confidence code, which is to quite literally, not literally, almost literally, upload a new confidence software so that in 60 minutes or less with my clients, I help them go from self-doubt, struggling, not sure if women like me, to basically feeling like an 8, 9, 10 out of 10 in self-confidence and a self-confidence that lasts and sticks. So you're about to watch a process, a coaching

process I take my guys through called the Confidence Code. And you're going to see how what we're about to do, I'm doing this with my brand new client, Nick. So Nick is a great guy. He's in his mid-30s. He has struggled with confidence. He doubts himself. Tell me if this sounds like you. He feels like he's just not masculine or, quote, man enough for women, at least for quality women. He thinks that, oh, I'm not cool enough. I'm not alpha. I'm not badass enough. And that messes with his confidence. And when your confidence is low, everything else gets a little bit wobbly. All of the flirting moves, all of the things that are fun to learn, like how to flirt, what to say, how to get girls giggling, all that's well and good.

And I love that. But if you don't have the inner game, the confidence piece in place, all of those moves, it's like a house of cards built on sand. It's a very wobbly foundation. So what you're about to hear is something that you can do along with Nick if you'd like to. And you're going to hear me basically uncover with Nick his core biggest sources of self-doubt and feeling like he's not good enough for women. Now we're going to flip it and you're going to see in 60 minutes or less how he goes from feeling literally a three on a scale of one to 10 in terms of his confidence and worth to a nine. We literally triple his confidence.

So if you want to triple your self-confidence, if you want to feel incredibly worthy and sexy and magnetic and authentically you to women, instead of feeling like, girls just don't like me, listen up. By the way, Nick is a brand new client. This is our very first in-depth coaching call. You're about to hear essentially what I do with all my guys. It's all about building a really rock-solid foundation because women aren't looking to date just a guy with good quote-unquote lines and game. She's looking to date a man who has that sense of worth, self-esteem, what I call radical authenticity, and being in touch with your worthiness. So let's take it away.

Get ready to upload a whole new confidence code for your dating life. Here is me and Nick. We're going deep. Get ready. I'm gonna read your mind. Ready? I'll bet that you would love to confidently approach women,

get great matches on the dating apps, flirt with charm, and attract your dream girlfriend. Right? But fear keeps you from approaching. You're not sure how to flirt. You struggle on the apps. And desirable women just don't seem into you. Well, I have great news. Dating coach Conal Barrett can help.

He's guided thousands of men like you to more confidence and more dates, and more fun. Oh, and you'll be dating women as your best self, a charming gentleman. That's because Connell does not teach creepy pickup artist tricks. He unlocks your most confident self, so you can make authentic romantic connections. Your next steps? Book your free call today at datingtransformation.com forward slash contact and grab a time that works for you. Then you'll be on your way to more confidence, better results, and attracting bright, beautiful women. Oh, so you know, soon Connell will stop taking on new clients, so book a call today while you still can. Go to datingtransformation.com forward slash contact and transform your love life. Bye. Okay, Nick, good to talk to you, man.

What's up? Good to see you. How are you? I'm good. Our first official coaching call. Cool. So here's what we're going to do today. We're going to take a quick look at whatever we discover is a big, potentially limiting belief you have about your sense of dating worth. Basically, what we want to do is uncover potentially your biggest limiting belief and replace it with something that feels a lot better and will just make you feel more confident, more excited, and more stoked about going out to approach girls, go on dates, and just really take lots of action. How does that sound? Sounds great. Okay. Did you drink the half bottle of scotch like I suggested for the prep? Fine.

Fine. I only had a couple glasses. Very cool. Because I want to stay coherent. All right. Cool. And yeah, just so you know, what do I mean by beliefs? Beliefs are basically anything that we believe is certain and true about ourselves.

And some beliefs are limiting. Some beliefs are not limiting. Some beliefs are true. Some beliefs are false. Some beliefs have somewhere kind of both truth and falseness to them. So, for example, I have a belief that I will never play quarterback for the Dallas Cowboys. I think there's a lot of truth in that belief. I don't think that's a limiting belief. I think

it's true because I'm 52 and I've never played football in my life. So we're looking for specific beliefs that might either be false or maybe partial bullshit so we can replace them with something that feels a lot better. So are you ready to roll? Yep. Okay, cool. So my first question for you, and what we're doing here, by the way, it's a process that I call the confidence code. Essentially, I'm going to give you, for lack of a better term, codes, cheat codes, to find confidence from within and from inside, as opposed to drawing

confidence about women and dating from external sources. Because we want to be internally powered, almost like a nuclear power plant, as opposed to externally powered, like solar power, drawing it from external sources. So this is all about giving you that confidence code to find confidence and good mojo from within. So first question is pretty simple, which is what belief, one or two or three possibilities we can look at before we dial in, what are a couple of beliefs you have about yourself in relation to women and dating that you feel might be holding you back or that just make you feel sort of bad or low in confidence? I would say one belief slash fear

is that I worry that the woman will sense that I'm not, maybe not masculine or confident enough. Maybe she'll sense that I'm a little more on the shy side, like shy slash sensitive. And when I start worrying about it, that makes me feel even more shy or not confident. So it's like a negative spiral that I go into. Okay. Got it. So I wrote down one possibility here.

I'm not masculine enough to attract the kinds of women you're attracted to. Is that pretty close to it? Okay. Are there any other beliefs that pop up that get in your head a lot about literally anything other than what you just said? Because I want to look at a couple options and just make sure that we're looking at sort of the biggest, baddest one. Yeah, I'm also kind of insecure about showing my interest to the girl because I feel as though it will automatically put me below her because girls, and especially if they're attractive, they're used to guys showing a lot of interest in them. So I feel if I show interest, I'll be just like all the other guys that lot of interest in them so i feel if i show interest i'll be just like all

the other guys that have shown interest in her and she will automatically put me in that category of like every other guy and basically not not see me as good enough for her okay got it and there's two so i'm not masculine or attractive sorry i'm not masculine or man enough to attract the kinds of desirable women that I want. Number two, I'm afraid I might, if I show romantic interest, she'll lose romantic interest. Anything else? Or are those the two biggest ones that come to mind? Well, I guess physical attractiveness. I don't think I'm a bad looking

guy, but I haven't had a whole lot of success with online dating, even though I think I have pretty decent photos, but there's obviously room for improvement. But since I've had so little success in online dating, it kind of carries over into the real world too. And I think, well, these girls don't like me when they see my good pictures so why would they like me in person okay and if a woman saw your pictures on a dating app and decided she didn't like you what would that mean in your mind or at least when you're thinking these thoughts what does that mean that i'm not attractive enough to date the kinds of women that I find attractive. Not physically attractive enough

or masculine enough or combination? Well, if we're talking about pictures, it's more physical attractiveness. Okay. Okay. Got it. So the belief there, is it safe to say it's something close to this?

I am not physically attractive enough to attract women I'm into on dating apps. Right. And in the real world. Okay. Got it. All right. So we got three beliefs here. I'm not masculine enough to attract women.

If I show interest, I might lose their interest, come across as needy and try hard basically, right? Yeah. And then the third one is about, oh, I'm not good looking enough, not attractive enough on the apps. So the first and the third belief are sort of our two finalists. The middle one about, oh, I'm afraid if I show romantic interest, she'll lose interest. That is a belief that is associated with what you think good mechanics are. And now I do believe that this is a limiting belief. However, a mechanics-based belief typically is not as debilitating and shitty feeling as something that's about you, what I call an identity belief. Basically, I'm not good enough, right? So for example, I used to get my biggest limiting belief back in the day, Nick, was I am just too introverted, too soft-spoken,

and dorky to approach and attract women. That felt crushing to me. As opposed to, oh, I'm not quite sure how to flirt, what to say. I might do it wrong. That limited me too, but that felt like something that was learnable as opposed to something about me. So typically what will make this confidence code really be the most powerful experience for you is we look at something that's about you, Nick,

and that internal identity worth and value you offer women. So we got down to two final two, and then we'll actually do the process here. So let me just say these to you and imagine these were going through your head when you're out in the world dating and tell me which of these feels more debilitating and heavier and fuck it sucks number one i'm just not masculine enough i'm not man enough for the kinds of women to be attracted to me number two i'm just not good looking enough to attract women, especially on the dating apps. I don't have the looks.

Which of those two feels like deeper, heavier, shittier? Probably the first one. Okay, got it. Then let's go with this one. Because when looking at quick inside baseball thing, and then we'll do the process. There's basically two kinds of beliefs. One is identity belief. And the other is a, what's called a worldview belief, meaning how the world works. Okay. And so this belief that you have, which may or may not be limiting. It's just a belief. Let's find out in a second. But this is what I call an identity belief because it's about you as a man and

relating to your worth and value to women. And this kind of belief is usually the most powerful to fix because wherever you go, there you are, right? So we want to make sure we have that handled. So cool. Let's go a little bit deeper on this. Okay, so here's what we're going to do. I'll probably repeat this belief a few times. So me, you, Nick, I'm just not masculine enough. I'm not man enough to attract the kinds of women I'm into.

Okay, here's a thought experiment. Imagine you're in a courtroom, and you are an attorney standing in front of a jury, and you're making your opening statement. And your opening statement is, I am just, me, Nick, I am just not masculine or man enough to attract wonderful women. Make your case. In other words, what is your evidence that this is true?

Or what stories do you tell yourself to justify this belief? Basically, back this case up with evidence. The courtroom floor is yours. Go ahead. Well, firstly, I was never super physically strong compared to other guys. Even though I do go to the gym once or twice a week, but just going back to childhood and up to this day, I never felt like I was quite physically as strong as a lot of other men. And I was always, especially as a teenager, I was super skinny. So that also kind of contributed to this belief that I'm just not physically strong enough.

Also, I was never much of a risk taker i was always more on the cautious side and i have a tendency to kind of overthink and analyze things i was never like a daredevil um slash you know reckless risk taker and not a risk taker okay right i was always uh more on the sensitive side like emotionally i would be more sensitive than the average guy i feel um and i also have a tendency to be introverted slash on the shy side like you mentioned similar to your previous belief okay all right interesting so i'm your co-counsel by the way in the courtroom and i'm going to take a moment and say hey nick um so just to remind you we're here to make a case and the case is that you are not masculine or man enough to attract quality women.

So make sure you back up that proposition. Because so far you haven't mentioned women once. Your evidence has not mentioned anything about women. So hit me. What's your evidence that women do not find you masculine or man enough? Okay. Floor is yours again. I guess I just assume that all these things I listed make me less masculine compared to my competition. And therefore a woman will likely to choose more masculine guys rather than myself. Interesting.

You just said, I just assume. Yeah? Well, also there was a girl back in freshman year of college that I was interested in. But back then I was super skinny, like borderline underweight. And we got along really well but she just she ended up friend zoning me and i thought that part of the reason was that i was too skinny and she actually

mentioned me being super skinny a couple times so i thought that had something to do with it okay so a girl in college friend zoned you and mentioned you being skinny yeah when she dumped you did she say it's because you're skinny she never dumped me she just friend zoned you and mentioned you being skinny. Yeah. When she dumped you, did she say it's because you're skinny? She never dumped me. She just friend zoned me. We were friends. Oh, I'm sorry. Okay, got it. So she didn't actually, did she,

so when she friend zoned you, did she say, sorry, Nick, you're a little skinny for me. We're just going to be friends. No, she gave me a bullshit reason saying that she doesn't want to ruin our friendship. But obviously I knew that was just the cover up. But she did mention me being skinny a couple of times.

Okay. Alright. So far you've got, in terms of evidence for this core belief that weighs you down, you've got a girl in college said you were skinny and didn't want to date you. Anything, any other hard evidence? Because the court, because the judge

is looking, the judge is, some of the guys in the jury are yawning. The judge is cleaning his glasses and coughing. Remember, you're in a court here. You're here to say here is rock solid evidence and proof that I am not man enough and I am just not masculine enough to date quality women. What else you got? I mean, a woman never directly told me that I'm not masculine enough. But, because they don't give you a reason why they reject you typically. It's just something I assumed might be part of the problem.

Okay, there's that word again. I'm assuming. Let me just ask you a couple questions. I'm just curious. I'm trying to help you make your case because I'm your co-counsel. How many women have said to you, Nick, in so many words have said to you nick in so many words nick you're just not masculine enough for me you're too sensitive um well my first

girlfriend mentioned that she didn't break up with me because of it but she did mention one time that i'm a little feminine that was years ago though So I feel I changed a lot since then, but that was like 12 years ago or 11. Okay. So you're in court trying to prove something beyond a reasonable doubt. Um, let's use the, let's use the phrase man enough. Cause you mentioned that to me last week. Oh, I just don't feel man enough. How many women have said you are, quote, not man enough for me? Zero. Zero? I'm confused.

Because you have this core belief, I am not masculine or man enough to attract quality women. So how many women have said it? You said 1,000 or zero? Zero. Interesting. By the way, I don't know that this belief is true or false i just we're just looking for evidence to support it so far we've got i don't feel physically strong we've got i just assume women who weren't into me it's because of this

reason um i'm on the sensitive side fair enough And you're a grown college friend zoned you. Any other evidence to back up your big court case? No. Okay. Just curious. I hope you're getting paid a lot by your client. Okay. Oh, by the way, quick sidebar. No court pun intended. Quick sidebar. So if this belief feels especially true and also just like cemented and hard to fix, It's because not only is it an identity belief that I'm just not man enough, not just good enough. There's also a supposition in this belief, which is that idea of a worldview belief. This is how the world works. This is how other people think. And so basically what this belief is telling you is from inside out, I'm not good enough. And also your belief is saying to you, all these women in the world, they want a man who is masculine and man enough.

That's what all women want, or at least quality women. So if it feels like doubly intense, it's because you've got like an internal thing and also an external force basically saying, hey, every woman in the world wants masculine and manly, and I'm not that. And that's why it can feel sort of like a double-decker shit sandwich. Anyway, okay. Moving on, next question. What is this belief, this belief about not being masculine or man enough, what does this belief do for you? Or how does it serve you or help you? And let me clarify this. This is not a trick question.

When we have a belief, even if it's potentially a limiting one, the reason why these beliefs can take hold is because they give us something. They can give us a certain sense of something, or they can also protect us from pain. So for example, my belief back in the day was, I am just too nerdy and introverted to be able to approach women. In other words, I thought I wasn't good enough. And my belief allowed me to not approach, not take action because I didn't want to find out that I wasn't good enough. I remember one night about 15 years ago, I was going out to approach women for the first time in my life. I'd made a decision.

I leave my apartment on a Friday night. I'm walking down the block out to go meet girls. And I stop halfway down the block. And I said to myself, you know what? You should really go back home and finish writing that article that's due for your job on Monday. Yeah, go back and finish that. You can approach girls tomorrow. So I did a 180. I went back home and I wrote, I'm sure, a really good article for the magazine I worked for. So my belief about my being not good enough to approach women gave me the reason to instead do something that I felt confident in, which is writing. Another quick example, sometimes a belief just gives a guy certainty about how the world works. So I had a client named Anthony, who his main belief was women only want to date really, really rich guys. And I'm not rich enough. And I said, okay, how does that belief,

what does that belief give you? And he said, oh, well, it gives me a sense of superiority. At least I'm not shallow like all those people. He actually said, it makes me feel like I'm a monk on a hill and I get to look down on everybody and be better than them. So his belief in a weird way was giving him something. Anyway, sorry for that long-winded discourse. So when you think about, oh, I'm just not masculine or man enough, when you buy into that belief, what does it either allow you to do that feels good, or what does it keep you from doing that maybe shields you from pain

or shields you from discomfort? I would say probably similar to you, that it gives me a reason not to approach, especially if I'm at the bar at night. I see my competition, and I see a decent amount of guys that I think are more physically strong and maybe more masculine looking or more attractive. So having that belief allows, like it gives me a reason not to try to approach because

I think, you know, it's probably not going to work because I'm not as good as some of my competition. Okay. And so is it fair to say that the belief keeps you from taking action that could be painful? Exactly, yeah. Okay, so it shields you from pain. Yeah. Okay.

Anything else it gives you? No, I'm not looking for anything. Just want want to find out anything it gives you or shields you from um guess it gives me something to work towards maybe like if i can become physically strong or masculine like there's something to strive interesting kind of like oh women want a masculine badass man i better work and try to be that and and whatever hit the gym or work on my masculinity or whatever something like that yeah okay interesting so that that actually is a form of kind of value for lack of a better term, basically a limiting belief in it.

The reason why it stays burrowed in our, our minds is it pays the rent in a weird way. It gives us something or it shields us from something we don't want to deal with. And that that's partially why it can stay present. Um, but potentially at a very steep cost. So let's talk about that.

Next question then. So this belief, again, I'll say it a couple more times, that you're just not masculine or man enough to attract quality, attractive women. How do you feel about yourself when you really feel this belief? How does it feel? What does it cost you? It makes me feel inferior, disempowered, and also kind of hopeless about my dating prospects.

Okay. Hopeless and disempowered in what sense? Can you just elaborate a little bit? This empowered us and I'm unable to attract the women that I want because I feel I'm not good enough or masculine enough in that sense. Hopeless because I assume that most women aren't going to be into me.

And so I'm probably not going to be able to date the kinds of women that I really want. Okay. Got it. So when you really buy into this belief, it just makes you feel hopeless, unable to take action, or sorry, unable to fix this. Sorry, what were a couple other adjectives you use? I just want to get clear on this. Disempowered. Disempowered. Thank you. Inferior. Yep. So more attractive or more masculine. Okay. Yep. I remember feeling so inferior. I remember

being, going out to a bar or club back in the day before I even approached a girl, just imagining it. I would look at that charismatic guy and I'd think, Oh man, I'm not as good as him. So I just felt less than I felt smaller. I felt stuck, super stuck.

Yep. Why are all those girls flirting with those guys? What about me? Why can't I be like them? Compare, you know, compare grades, despair., compare creates despair. Exactly.

Got it. Okay. All right. I want to do a little exercise with you. I'm going to do it with you pretty much. Although you're going to stand up. I'm not because I need to be close to my mic, but I'm going to ask you to stand up. Okay.

Okay. And I'm going to ask you to take on a physical pose. One second. Let me just make sure my mic is good. Okay. I want you to stand in a certain way. I want you to stand with your feet together. Take a feminine, quote unquote, feminine stance. In other words, feet together, knees together. And I also want you to slump your shoulders a little bit. I want you to stand, kind of slouch, hunch your back, make it a question mark. And tell me when you're in that position, okay? Yeah, I'm in that position. Okay.

And let your arms hang. Now, this is not going to be fun, but it's going to be really helpful, So I'm going to ask you to give this 100%. Okay. Stay in that position. Stay small. Stay hunched. And for the next 30 to 45 seconds, I'm going to ask you to say what I say and mirror the way I say it. So don't just repeat the words. Say it with my tone of voice. Okay? Okay. Here we go. I'm'm gonna do it with you and so do whatever I say whatever I say and also make whatever sounds I make so starting right now in three seconds just make the noises and the sounds and the Fuck.

Fuck. I am just not man enough for really hot girls. I am just not man enough for really hot girls. I feel so disempowered. I feel so disempowered. I feel so disempowered. Look at all those men and I'm not a man. I'm small. Look at all these men and I'm not aable. I'm hopeless. This is not fixable. I'm hopeless. Great job. Keep it going. I want even more emotional commitment in your voice, okay? So really mirror me. This is unfixable. This is unfixable. I'm too sensitive.

My muscles are too small. I'm too sensitive. My muscles are too small. I'm not a risk taker. I'm not a risk taker. Too feminine. I'm like a woman. Too feminine.

I'm like a woman. Women want a man, and I'm just Too feminine. I'm like a woman. Too feminine. I'm like a woman. Women want a man and I'm just, I'm too feminine. I'm too ladylike. Why would they want me? Women want a man. I'm just too ladylike. Why would they want me? Jesus Christ, this sucks.

Jesus Christ, this sucks. Why bother? Why bother? Why bother? Hold that for 10 more seconds, okay? Think about the girl in college who friendzoned you. Think about gorgeous women with other outgoing guys compared to you. Hold that for five more seconds. Okay, right now, on a scale of one to 10,

one being really low, unattractive, not a man, 10 being a fucking amazing superhero, what number are you at right now? Rejection, ghosting, loneliness. What number are you at right now? gain instant confidence and attract a great girlfriend. Be radically authentic. It's all laid out in the number one Amazon best-selling book, Dating Sucks But You Don't, your step-by-step guide to attracting wonderful women and doing it with total authenticity. Author and dating coach Conal Barrett has had and fixed

all the dating problems that you struggle with. He's also helped thousands of men gain confidence and find love. Conal Barrett has had and fixed all the dating problems that you struggle with. He's also helped thousands of men gain confidence and find love. He's put his best tips and strategies into Dating Sucks But You Don't so that you can confidently approach women and get dates. Become magnetic and attractive, even if you're not tall or great-looking. Always know what to say to make sparks fly. Magnetic and attractive. Even if you're not tall or great looking. Always know what to say to make sparks fly. Get lots of great matches and dates on the dating apps.

And attract your dream woman. You can find Dating Sucks But You Don't on Amazon. Or wherever books are sold. In paperback, Kindle and audiobook. Get Dating Sucks But You Don't today to transform your confidence and find your dream girl. Like three. Okay, got it. Please return to your seated neutral position. Thanks for doing that. So why did we do that? I didn't do it because I was trying to be a dick. I promise. Thank you. Thanks for stepping up and doing something that's not fun.

The reason why we did that is I want you to feel the cost, the emotional cost and consequence in your body, in your mind, emotionally of how that feels to, to really suck, to, to be sucked into that. I'm not man and masculine enough belief. Basically, I want you to start, I want you on this call to get a feeling for, Whoa, did that fucking like, did that just fucking suck? How hard would it be to approach a woman feeling at a 3 out of 10? Pretty hard. Borderline impossible. Right, exactly. And how attractive did you just feel had you walked up to a woman through sheer willpower?

Very unattractive. Right. So the purpose of that is to get clear on the pain and consequences that this belief takes on you. It's kind of like you go to the doctor, you're smoking a couple packs a day for about 15 years.

I want you to see the spot on your lung. I don't want you to have a spot on your lung, but I want you to see it. So you can say, fuck this, I got to get rid of these cigarettes. Kind of like we need to get rid of this mindset, this core disempowering belief. By the way, one last shitty part of this call, and then we'll have some fun. The way you just felt right then and there, is it possible or even probable that feeling something like that, has that kept you from approaching women?

Has it kept you from taking action? Oh, absolutely. What are some potential prices you've paid, consequences you've paid for feeling the way you just felt are is it possible women you've there are women you could have approached and succeeded with but didn't because of the way you just felt because of that belief yeah i usually don't even try so that probably prevents me from potentially getting some success at least yeah and also having that fear it's also self-fulfilling prophecy because if i do go on a date and i'm

super worried about not being masculine or confident enough that just puts me more in my head makes me very not confident and then the girl can probably sense that and then it's just it just proves my original beliefs it's like right so the belief props so you feel how that belief can hurt your posture your confidence your sense of certainty and belief with a woman and how that can actually create the friend zone type situation on a on the rare dates you do have. Yeah. Right? Good. Not that it's happening, but good that you're clear on it. Because only when our psychology, our brains say, whoa, this is way too costly. This belief is costing you love, action, sex, success,

relationships. Maybe it's made you settle either for being alone or for women you're not that excited about possible if not probable that's been a side effect of this belief yeah not to mention just kind of walking through life feeling like it at two or three or four that doesn't that just fucking sucks right cool thanks for doing that. Yeah, we got to get clear on consequences. Okay. And back in my day when I was doing this myself, I just remember thinking, oh, my God, there's so many gorgeous, cool, amazing women in New York City who I didn't even talk to.

It cost me dates, confidence, love, stories, adventures, and it really was taking a big toll on me. So it's a good thing to get clear on. Okay, now let's have some fun. Let's talk about how we fix this. Let's get that confidence code in place. So here's how we're gonna do it. We're gonna go back to the courtroom, and except now you have a slight, you have a very different role uh you are like a prosecuting or a cross-examining attorney and you're about to cross-examine the witness sort of like have you ever seen the movie a few good men tom cruise no jack nicholson oh amazing movie tom cruise gets jack nicholson's character to basically totally crumble on the witness stand.

Pokes his story, pokes so many holes in the story, he just totally crumbles. We're going to do the same thing with your limiting belief, or at least we're going to see how much we can make it crumble. And you're going to be Tom Cruise. You're going to be the cross-examining attorney, and I'll be your co-counsel. And here's what we're going to be the cross-examining attorney and I'll be your co-counsel. And here's what we're going to do. So think of this old belief. I'll say it one more time. You, Nick, you're just not masculine man enough to attract high quality women. Think of that belief as sitting in the witness stand. And your job is to poke some holes in the story. Here are some ways

we can do that. You might ask, what's some counter evidence? What's some evidence that's counter to the story? You might also ask, what might be untrue about this belief? Could it be a misinterpretation? Is it 100% true 100% of the time with every woman in the world? Basically, how is the story either partial or total bullshit? I'll help you along the way, but you start.

Give me some counter evidence. The courtroom floor is yours, counselor. Well, I am six feet tall, and a lot of women would think that's kind of masculine because they prefer taller men, and they associate that with masculinity in a way. Awesome. Great start.

I'm a healthy weight now, so I'm no longer that borderline underweight teenager young adult that I used to be I do have some muscles I weigh 180 pounds okay I used to weigh

130 back in the day you're 50 pounds heavier than your skinny youth yes I didn't know that that's amazing all right very cool somebody's been hitting the uh the protein uh the weight room or the protein the protein powder okay very cool six feet tall 180 what else what else he got um i used to practice kickboxing and i was 15 one at the time and i remember i was doing this drill with this big muscular guy who would go pretty hard on me even though i was only 15 and he was like 29 I believe okay I remember he like hit me in the jaw

and a piece of my upper tooth chipped off but I didn't even feel it and then another another guy in my kickboxing class after the class he actually complimented me saying that I'm a very strong guy all right I love it give me one more, any piece of counter evidence, and then I'll give you a couple more ideas to play around with. Because we've got six feet tall, kickboxer, having teeth busted out. That's what's manlier than that. 50 pounds of muscle more than back in the day, or 50 pounds with lots of muscle.

Yeah. I hope it's just muscle. No, it's actually not not but that would be nice um i like being dominant in the bedroom okay so on the rare occasion that i do have the opportunity i step on it in the bedroom what kind of stuff do you say in bed to a girl nothing too inappropriate but i just show dominance oh like more like kind of like the like the way you move yeah okay got it okay awesome great so we've got some great pieces of counter evidence that show a guy with some really masculine traits here, right? I've never kickboxed. Okay, I am six feet tall.

I never lost a tooth. Why am I feeling so inferior next to you all of a sudden? I don't know why. Cool. Let's go back to that core belief. Let's look at the belief itself. Because I love what you said here. You basically said, hey, women want masculine,

manly men. And I have a lot more going for me than maybe I focus on. But let's look at the belief itself. What is your vision of a, quote, masculine man enough man? In other words, what is the archetype that you think women want? So someone, well, tall is good, but also someone kind of wide, really broad shoulders, really muscular arms. My arms are pretty skinny. So muscular arms, big shoulders. That's the physical part and then personality wise i would say also like someone with a broader face bigger jawline okay can you give me a physical approach paint a picture for me what kind of famous person represents what women want according to your belief your old belief is it

i'm just making i mean you tell me you tell me i like gerard gerard butler you know that i i kind of like gerard butler he seems very alpha okay gotcha so is it possible that plenty of women would love a Gerard Butler type? Is it also possible that a lot of high-quality, beautiful women don't want a Gerard Butler type? Maybe. Is it possible? I think so. What do good lawyers do? It's possible.

Isn't it possible? Isn't it possible? By the way, all we need to really crush this belief is doubt, reasonable doubt, just like a courtroom. So stick with me on this. So it's possible that some women are into the Gerard Butler type and some women, is it possible some women, like he's a big galoot in my mind. Do I look like Gerard? Do I have Gerard Butler's size and muscles? No. Have I been with, as far I have Gerard Butler's size and muscles? No. Have I been with, as far as you know, a stupid number of women?

Yes. Well, wait a second. I don't, I don't look like Gerard Butler. I'm a, I'm a skinny, nerdy chicken leg ginger guy. I wear extra slim jeans. They're so slim. I like women slim jeans. They're so slim. I like women's jeans. Is it possible that some women like my type and some other women like a Gerard Butler type? Yeah, that must be the case.

Yeah. Do you see, is it possible that, because when I said, hey, what's your kind of the platonic ideal of what you've created, your old belief has created. It sounds to me like your old belief has created, oh, I've got to be a Gerard Butler type. That's what women want. Is it possible that, sure, there's some truth in that, some women might love that, and some women might be repulsed by that and just not be into that at all

and want something very different? That's possible. Have you ever seen a a really attractive beautiful woman out in the world and she was with a guy who had was not a gerard butler type yeah yeah do you remember who remember where no just like random people on the street okay well i actually do know um i used to have a crush on this uh young professor young professor in college not in college in grad school and i assumed her husband must be this big macho guy and then i found him on the internet and he was like this short very chubby bald balding unattractive guy and i I was like, Whoa, what happened over there? Sorry, this, this guy was with, with what woman? So I used to have a crush on this universe,

young university professor at university. It's really beautiful. Yeah. Okay. He's got it. He's her husband. Got it. Um, so do you see how this belief has created? I'm not saying you consciously think this, but it's there. Oh, women want a Gerard Butler type. And I'm not that. That equals feeling like a three feeling shitty, but you've got short chubby uni got university guys who have a really attractive girlfriend. You've got me, skinny, 52-year-old lost Weasley brother. I've had crazy success with women, and Gerard Butler could probably snap me in half. So do you see how the actual belief itself is creating this, uh, this, uh, unrealistic or at least oversimplified

and maybe like kind of raise the bar for what you think women, all women want in terms of a masculine quote unquote man. Yeah. Yeah. Um, is Pete Davidson, is he a Gerard Butler type? No. How is he doing? doing oh my god pretty well for himself exactly exactly so the thing about a limiting belief let me just kind of cut to the chase here what a limiting belief does is it paints four billion women with one brush oh all women or at least all quality women, your definition, wants this thing. You're a smart guy with a lot of psychology background, and you're very well read. I think you know a lot about how our minds work.

Is it very, very, very likely that lots of different women have lots of different blueprints for what they want? I would think so, yeah. Yeah. I remember, like, my girlfriend, is it possible that a woman might fall for you and the value you offer her? And then she might select something that gives her the masculine essence she

likes, but that he doesn't have to be Gerard Butler? Yeah. Yeah, I mean, I have relatively nice biceps. I'm sorry uh what are the ones on the outside triceps right like outside the ones here biceps on triceps yeah triceps triceps so i'm i'm not a muscular guy at all uh i i'm more jerry seinfeld than gerard Butler, but my girlfriend Jess is like, oh, I like your arms. Your arms look good.

You hit the gym today. That's enough for a lot of women. So do you see how your old belief is basically painting all quality women with the same I want a Gerard Butler type of brush? Yeah. Now, I'm not saying there's no truth in your belief yeah masculinity quote-unquote manliness uh absolutely that's something that i would say a majority of women want some amount of but it's

going to change from woman to woman as opposed to all women wanting one thing and by the way but in terms of the masculine manliness that you do offer, six feet, 180, kickboxer, busted tooth. I'm getting turned on just talking to you. You're so masculine. And let's remember in that beginning of the call when I said, hey, what's your evidence for this? A lot of assumptions, right? A lot of assumptions, a lot of painting with a really broad brush. And the fact is you're a lot more manly and masculine than you might realize, but you're not focused on that. You're focused on, oh, look how much I fall short from Gerard Butler or whatever the ideal is. And so you see how, when you really

buy into that, you take action or inaction from that state and you end up creating a self-fulfilling prophecy where you're like, well, I want to go up to her, but I'm not Gerard Butler and I'm feminine and sensitive. And that you create the crappy, shitty outcome that you're afraid of. Either you're not approaching or maybe you do man up, God bless you for the action you have taken, but you got that internal voice just screaming at you, you're not enough. You're not Gerard. But do you see all the counter evidence that your old belief is bullshit or at least or at least very flawed yeah yeah yeah let me ask you this is it possible that uh there are a lot of quality women who like kickboxing healthy six foot tall dominant in bed intelligent cool men with a sense of humor

yeah unfortunately they don't find out the dominant in bed part on so later that's unfortunate but intelligent, cool men with a sense of humor? Yeah. Unfortunately, they don't find out the dominant and bad part. It's the latest. That's unfortunate, but yeah. Okay. Got it. Does this make sense? Have you, again, I'm not saying this is going to magically transform in this moment, but

do you see, oh, wait a minute. There's some, do you see the holes in your story? Feel free to disagree with me. No, I do. Yeah, totally. Are there lots of different ways to be masculine? Be masculine with your voice. Be masculine with your actions.

You can be really blunt, candid. Is flirting with women a way of being masculine? Yeah, potentially. Yeah. a way of being masculine. Yeah, potentially. So I think what you've done is you've constructed this very narrow definition of what a masculine man is that every woman wants. You can't be Gerard Butler. You can only be Nick. But you can be the most badass, fucking awesome, relatively masculine,

but also sensitive version of Nick. And then what we want to do is kind of just get that guy to come out, and then you might be amazed at how much women love that guy. Okay, so let's have some fun now. Let's ask a very simple, I have a very simple question for you. Let's say just hypothetically, thought experiment. Let's say this belief just left your head. It was just gone.

The old belief. You were free of it. How would that feel? And what could you do if that weight of I'm not man enough was gone? What could you do with that? Definitely it would feel more powerful and confident. And I have moments where I feel that way when that belief kind of falls off temporarily. And I feel more masculine and dominant.

And it makes me feel much more powerful, confident, and hopeful about my prospects. So basically the opposite of having that belief. Great. If that belief was gone, would it be so much easier for you to approach some really cute girls? Yes. Would you be a lot less hesitant and hopeful or at least not scared as scared of rejection? I think so. Although I would probably feel that i don't want to burst that belief so even though i might internally feel that i'm masculine in the moment i would i would be afraid that if i approach and she rejects me that it's going to burst my belief and then i'm going to go

back to feeling not good enough you know what i mean okay got it well just stick with the the what if here what if the the thought the old thought just vanished you were free of that and you knew it was bullshit it was just gone would it would the would so much of the approaching fear and the hopelessness would that all diminish if not disappear yeah i would think so okay well let's do something right now that is more powerful than just removing it. Let's replace it. Let's replace it with, drumroll please, your confidence code. essentially make you feel a lot more confident, a lot more excited, a lot more hopeful. And also, this is something that's true. It's got to be something that's true, or at least that feels more true. So what is, let's think of it this way. Let's think of a belief that is a mirror opposite of the old one. So for example, my old belief back in the day was I am just too introverted

and dorky and nerdy to approach and attract women. And my new belief was basically it read like this. A lot of really attractive, quality women are into me because I am. So it's great to have an I am statement. Because I am intelligent. So instead of nerdy, I said I'm intelligent. I'm funny. I'm a cool, edgy nerd. A little bit of a hipster.

And a lot of women love intelligent, witty, funny guys. And just focusing on that made me feel very differently. So yeah, well, let's brainstorm something for you right now. I'm going to ask you to start. What belief, if you had it in your system, would feel like an emotional fuel cell and make you smile and go, this feels great? Even if you don't believe it right now, what, what might that be? Hypothetically?

Um, does it have to be like the exact opposite of the non-masculine belief or it could be anything. It can be a mirror opposite. I like it to be all it has to, we just want it to be something that feels really good. And that at least in theory makes you go yeah that fucking feels good i want to go test drive this and it can be the opposite of the old

one or it could be something different that replaces the old one that's fine but it should be it should be reflective of your worth and value that you offer That's the one thing we want it to be. Because this is an identity belief. Okay. Okay. I would say something like a lot of women would find me attractive because I am tall, intelligent, charming,

and a gentleman, but also dominant in the bedroom. Nice. This is great. A lot of women will find me attractive because I'm tall, a gentleman. What was it again? Tall, intelligent, charming. Okay. And a gentleman, but also dominant in the bedroom.

Nice. Do women tend to like men with a dominant side? Yes. Do you feel? I agree. Do women like intelligence, all things equal? Do they want a man who's intelligent or stupid? I think intelligence.

At least a lot of them do. Do they tend to want dominant or submissive and really wimpy? Probably dominant. Right. Do they want a scumbag who doesn't focus on her at all in terms of noticing how she feels, or does she want a true gentleman?

Hopefully the latter. I guess it depends on the woman. All right. If we polled 100 women and we said, do you want a dirt bag or do you want a gentleman, what do you think most women would say? Probably gentleman. Okay.

That was a long pause. So here is your old belief. I'm just not masculine and man enough to attract quality women. Here's your old belief. I'm just not masculine and man enough to attract quality women. Here's your new belief. A lot of women would be attracted to me because I'm tall, intelligent, a gentleman, and I have a dominant side in bed. Now, which of those two, if you could, if a objective person on the street walked over to us and we read them these two beliefs, what do you think most rational, reasonable people would say or which beliefs feels more true to the average person, do you think? About me? About people in general.

Let's say they don't know you. Let's say that base. Cause basically your old belief is every woman wants masculine, super masculine Gerard Butler, manly type. That's your, that's essentially your old belief. Your new belief is lots of women like guys like me who were tall, gentlemanly, intelligent and dominant in bed.

Which would, which would most people say is more true? Probably the second one. Okay. So your kind of rational, logical mind can look at that and say, yeah, that seems like it makes sense. Yeah, it seems reasonable. Okay, cool. All right, and what do you want more?

What do you want more? Do you want your old belief more? The Gerard Butler belief that makes you feel like a three? Or do you want to feel like a tall, intelligent, attractive, worthy, sexy gentleman? Tall, intelligent, attractive, worthy, sexy gentleman. Ding, ding, ding, ding. Good answer. The truth is you can't have both. You got to choose one. You cannot have this old belief and still, and then get the results you want.

Because even if you magically started approaching women and getting dates with them, guess what? That three out of 10 Gerard Butler bullshit story is still inside of you. So good answer. You did the right answer. Okay, now let's get this belief in your system. Let's basically upload this software. Let's upload the confidence code.

So I'm going to ask you to stand up again. But now we're going to do it very differently. And same process, but I'm going to ask you to stand differently. So stand up. And I want you to man spread with your legs. Stand nice and tall, okay? And you know what? We've been talking for, oh my God.

We are, okay, we're going way late. We're an hour in. We're almost done. But we've spent the last hour being very logical, very analytical. So I want you to just take 10 seconds. I want you to shake your body out. Move your arms. Take a couple deep breaths with me. Basically,

get out of your head. Nice. Awesome. Get into your body with me. Nice, deep exhalation. Great. Let's do one or two more deep breaths. In. Out. Okay. One more time. Nice in. Exhale out. All right. Stand nice and tall. I want your spine to feel like a steel rod. Manspread. Give me a quick higher self name for you? What's a good nickname? No pun intended. What's a good nickname that you, when you are feeling in the zone, what is that guy's name? Mine is Connell fucking Barrett. I've got a client whose name is, oh, geez, there's so many. Unstoppable Steve. It doesn't have to be alliteration. What's a name we can give you that when you are feeling this way in certain areas of life, you feel lit up? What's his name? I like calling myself Nico because it sounds so cool and sexy. Nice. Oh, I like that. Nico. Cool. Nico, you are. So Nico is your higher self.

Nico is how you are about to feel. So let's do it. Stand like Nico stands. And now for the next 60 seconds, I want you to do exactly what I do, just like before, except this will be a lot more fun. So here we go. Give me full commitment. Mirror my noises, my commitment, my emotion.

Sound your barbaric yop. In other words, like Walt Whitman said, here we go. Repeat after me starting now. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. I am Nico. I am Nico. Nice. Give me an even louder, deeper voice. I am Nico. I am Nico. A lot of quality women.

A lot of quality women. Are going to be attracted to me because I'm tall. Are going to be attracted to me because I'm tall. Are going to be attracted to me because I'm tall. I'm a gentleman. I'm a gentleman. I am intelligent. I am intelligent. And I am dominant in bed.

And I am dominant in bed. Yeah. Nico is going to make them go, oh. yeah Nico is gonna make them go oh Nico is gonna make them go oh yeah I want you to hit the oh harder

Nico is gonna make the girls go oh Nico is gonna make the girls go oh I'm six foot bitches go I'm six foot bitches I'm six foot, bitches. Go. I'm six foot, bitches. I'm 180 pounds of kickboxing muscle.

180 pounds of kickboxing muscle. Do that again. I want a 10% more vocal commitment. Go. A 180 pounds of kickboxing muscle. Awesome. Very cool. Now, just for a second, I want you to go back to that old body posture from before, but let's exaggerate it.

Let's make fun of it. Get really small. Pretend like you're putting your finger in your nose like a nerd and repeat after me. Here we go. Wah. I'm not masculine. Wah. I'm not masculine or man enough for women.

Wah. Wah. I'm not masculine or man enough for women. Wah. I was put in a friend zone 15 years ago I was friend zoned 15 years ago Okay, come back to Nico, awesome Stand nice and tall Big finish, we're going to finish strong

Here we go, repeat after me I am Nico I have an abundance of quality women We're going to finish strong. Here we go. Repeat after me. I am Nico. I am Nico. I have an abundance of quality women. I have an abundance of quality women. Because I am tall, intelligent, and a gentleman. Because I am tall, intelligent, and a gentleman. And I am dominant in bed, ladies.

And I am dominant in bed, ladies. Nico I am dominant in bed, ladies. Nico will make you go, oh. Go. Nico will make you go, oh. I am Nico, bitches. I am Nico, bitches. I am Nico, motherfucker.

Give me falsetto. Go. I am Nico, motherfucker. Say yes. Yes. Say yes. Say yes. Yes. Say yes. Say yes. Nice.

Nice. Okay, right now, on a scale of one to ten, one being a little piece of shit, shit on my shoe, ten being fucking Nico, a superhero, what number are you right now? I would say a solid nine. Fuck, dude. How'd you go from a three to a nine? What happened? How did you get there?

Okay. I'm using that quote on my website. How did you get there? What did we do to take you from a three to a nine? So I started doubting my old belief and started focusing more on a better belief that I also think has a lot of truth to it. And then I basically changed my body language to reflect that new belief. Right.

And that's the confidence code in a quick little formula. You just gave it to me or you just said it. I'll underline it. The confidence code is number one, it's a core powerful belief about what you offer women. Combined with your physiology, the way you use your body and your voice. Notice how we had you yelling. We had you doing falsetto. We had you getting silly. And so when you use your physiology and your focus on a story that's way more empowering, instead of focusing on that bullshit, I got to be like Gerard Butler, girls don't like me nonsense. What this does is it essentially takes your state up to a 7, 8, 9, 10, in your case, a nine, literally triple where you were before. And you don't need me with you to do this. You can do this on your own.

And all you need to do, you don't have to do the whole hour, by the way, you already did the hard work, is you take this core belief that we just wrote, which you've repeated many times. And what you do is you say this out loud. You say it with some emotion. You really commit to it. And you say it while walking and talking in a nice tall stance, using your physiology. Because there's an expression that an old coach said to me, motion is emotion. If you're walking and talking and standing like a three friend zone, effeminate, sensitive, rejected guy, guess what? You're going to get those results. But if you walk and talk and think and focus like Nico on your worth, your height, your gentlemanliness, your intelligence, all these amazing things about you, you're going to go up to an 8, 9, 10.

And you can do this anytime you want. Now, by the way, out of curiosity, feeling like at a 9, like you're now feeling, would it be a lot easier to go approach a woman right now compared to before? Right? Yeah. If you approached a woman in the state we just got you into as nico is there a much higher chance that something really good could happen based on that yeah absolutely yeah and is it would it be much more likely that you would take a lot more action if you felt that way regularly versus

feeling it like it at two three four yes four. Yes. Absolutely. So basically the fastest way to just really transform your confidence is write that new belief, which you've done. Get, get it in your body, in your, in your head, in your gut, say it out loud, use your physiology. You're in other words, the way you use your body. And then here's the good news. I have, I have bad news and great news. Bad news is tomorrow morning, you might wake up feeling maybe not at a nine. Okay. Old beliefs die hard. Now it's possible that the old belief will disappear forever after this phone call. I hope it does. But if it doesn't, nothing to worry about, nothing to freak out about. Think of this new belief that you wrote with me.

Think of it like a tabletop. For a belief to become something that we know in our marrow, our heart is true and real, it needs legs under it. It needs proof. In other words, proof that it's true. And that's what we're going to be doing for the rest of our time together, is getting you out in the world, meeting some gorgeous, cool, amazing women, and you getting proof and evidence that you are tall, intelligent, attractive, more than dominant enough, more than man and masculine enough for lots of cute girls.

And give it a little time. Give it some new reps, some new references. Those references become table legs. And essentially this new belief becomes really sturdy. Like imagine a table with like 10 legs under it. It'd be really sturdy right now. There might not be 10 legs. It might be a little wobbly and that's okay. Does that make sense? Yeah, for sure. Yeah. So your marching orders as we move forward, working together is every day you're going to do what I call in my book the confidence kickoff, which is getting yourself in a really good, resourceful, awesome state by doing what we just did here. Except you don't need to do it for an hour. It only takes about five or ten minutes.

And you remind yourself of this belief. You tattoo this belief on your neck or your lower back. You memorize it. You get it in your system. And what really makes it true is when you start getting that new evidence, when you get that first really cute girl who's like, damn, Nico, you are so freaking manly. I love you.

Or whatever she says that makes you feel manly. And then your brain is like, whoa, this really is true. And then this becomes something that you know that is you, not something that you have to try to just believe. Does that make sense? Yeah, that sounds great. Say it one more time. You can say it in a chill, Nico just had the best sex of his life way. You're lying in bed. You're smoking an e-cigarette with your lady.

Turn to me and give me your new belief. What is it? I am attractive to a lot of beautiful women because I am tall, intelligent, charming, gentleman, and dominant in the bedroom. I am Nico. Cool. Now go back to bed with her. Wake up in the morning. Time for a nap.

Give her some morning sex. Of course. Okay, cool. So, yeah, marching orders. Make this your daily what I call hour of power confidence kickoff. And then give it a few weeks to really sink in. And you basically... By the way, Nico is who you really are. When we strip away the self-doubt, the stories, the bullshit, Nico is the real you, that radically authentic you.

So thanks for stepping up and doing a really intense session. You did amazing. Thank you. It was life-changing. Cool, bro. Thank you for listening to the Dating Transformation podcast. For lots of free tips, videos, and other goodies,

go to datingtransformation.com. See you next time.