How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett - Use these 8 Flirty Questions to Stop Boring Women and Spark Deep, Romantic Conversations
Episode Date: May 27, 2025Do you get stuck in “interview mode” on dates? Not sure how to text women in a way that actually gets replies? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett answers your questions to help you brea...k out of boring small talk, ask magnetic flirty questions, and master texting with a simple 4-word rule. Whether you’re just starting out or stuck in a dating rut, this episode gives you the tools to build real connection—and get the girlfriend you want.You’re About to Learn:01:45: Why Some Women Want to Date Guys with Little to No Sexual Experience08:18: How to Get out of Interview Mode with these 8 Flirty Questions19:30: Why Some Men Become Incels—and How to Avoid this Trap29:11: Your New 4-word Framework that Makes Texting Fun and Effective33:42: Should You Worry if your Girlfriend is Texting Her Ex?Listen now and take on step closer to finding your dream girlfriend!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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It's a myth that women want the guy with the best game.
They don't.
They want the guy who feels the best about who he is
and who can share that best self
as he's getting to know her.
["The Best of Me"]
Welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast.
I am your host, dating coach, Connell Barrett.
I am here to help you flirt with confidence,
get lots of dates and get a great girlfriend,
all by being radically authentic.
No sketchy pickup moves needed.
And if you're watching me on Spotify video right now,
or YouTube, yes, I'm wearing a Yankees t-shirt
for the first time in my life.
I'm wearing a Yankees regalia. Because when your girlfriend's a Yankees t-shirt for the first time in my life. I'm wearing a Yankees regalia.
Because when your girlfriend's a Yankees fan,
that means you're a Yankees fan.
And today's episode, I've got something kind of different planned for you.
I've got five kick-ass great questions from listeners
who have been writing me with questions about dating issues, struggling
with flirting.
We got a really good question coming up about good questions to ask on dates to get you
out of the friend zone.
I've got a guy who needs some texting help.
And anyway, I've got five really good questions from listeners.
And if you want me to answer one of your questions
The best way to reach me is my email email me at connell at dating transformation comm
Ask me any dating question any problem you're struggling with and if I don't respond to you personally by email
And I probably will
But if I don't I will definitely answer you on
This podcast so that
everybody listening can get some help. Okay, let's get to it. Let's go to
question number one. This comes from G, the letter G in Los Angeles. He's 33. And
here's the headline I wrote for it. Help! I can't stop lying to women about my shameful sexual secret. Here we go.
Hey Connell, I go on a lot of first dates and women ask me the same basic
question. What was your last relationship like? The truth is I've never had a
relationship. I've never even had sex. I'm still a virgin. He goes on
parenthetically, in my 20s I focused on my career, not on dating.
When I get past, when I get the relationship question, I lie like a rug. I act like I'm
a player and I refer to my quote, many sex partners from the past. I even mentioned an
imaginary former fiance of mine. I feel shame that I'm a virgin and that I'm so inexperienced. I hate lying to women but I'm afraid that no one will want me if
they learn the truth. How can I stop doing this?" From G in Los Angeles. He is 33.
Well there is no shame, my man. There's no shame in having no game. Because if
you're gonna beat yourself up for something, do it for lying like George
Santos talking his way out of a speeding ticket.
Don't do it for lying about your sexual past.
Can you imagine George Santos trying to talk his way out of a speeding ticket?
Sorry, officer, I'm late.
I'm accepting the Nobel Prize in physics for my discovery of entangled photons in physical cosmology.
Yeah, yeah, that's the ticket.
Anyway, G, thank you for your question.
So a man lies on a date because he fears
that a woman won't like him for who he is.
And in your case, what you're telling yourself is,
I'm a virgin and that might mean I'm not enough for her. So you're wearing a mask,
player mask, and essentially pretending to be somebody who you're not. You're
actually pretending to be the opposite of who you are. And there's no judgment
from me here. I know all about telling big fat whoppers on dates.
Back in the double zeros, when I was first working on my dating life, almost 20 years
ago, I met a woman named Lisa.
I was way into her.
I was super at it.
I was really crushing on Lisa.
She was smart, sexy, witty, blonde.
I was smitten.
I was a school, I was smit faced. I was full of smit. I was basically
writing Connell plus Lisa on my spiral notebook. And I felt out of my league with her though.
That's the truth is I felt like she was out of my league. As far as I was concerned, she
was a major leaker and I was a Toledo mud hen. And I remember thinking, well, what the heck
am I going to talk to this bright bombshell like?
About on our date. Why would she like a bookish nerd like me?
Because Lisa was into outdoor stuff. She was into scuba diving and hiking and
So what I did when I had a first date with her is I pretended to be into the things that she liked
I pretended to be the guy I thought she wanted so I played a part of being this rugged outdoorsy guy
In other words, I lied. I lied like crazy on this date. I remember the date really vividly
I remember I told her that I just fed her a line of bullshit
I said, oh, I'm getting I'm studying to get my pilot's license. That's a lie. I
Told her I love skydiving double lie I actually said that I can't believe this is true I
actually told her that I swam with sharks in the Caribbean and I by the way
I have a terrible poker face I am not good at lying and as I spun these yarns
for her I could just feel my forehead becoming like a slip and slide of sweat. And of course she friends on me. Because when you feel
really unworthy and you pretend to be somebody you're not, women can tell, right?
They can really tell. They're very intuitive. So take it from a reformed
liar to women, or a fibber anyway. Dishonesty, it hurts your soul, and it can
hurt women too. It's
really lose-lose. So tell the truth, G. Tell the whole truth. And I don't just
mean about your romantic history. Take off the player mask. Lean into being that
authentic open best you. There's a deeper quote truth here that you've been
hiding from women, which is the real you. Tell women that truth. Show them your true sense of humor, your true opinions, your
true personality, and yes, when the time is right, show her your true dating and
sexual history. It's okay to be a virgin. I mean, is it possible, is it just possible, G, that she won't want to date a guy who's
got no notches on his bedpost?
Sure, I suppose it's possible.
I think it's just as possible that she'll be into it.
You know what's an aphrodisiac?
Candor telling the truth. So, gee, remind me of a client, one of my former clients I'll call
Harvey. Harvey was a really hardworking guy, early 30s, a workaholic, a virgin at the time.
And he had like a fourth or fifth date with a woman named Stacey. The two were getting
really into it and really connected. They were having a really great time together.
And they're at his place.
Things are getting hot and heavy.
And they had not yet discussed his sexual history.
And so he actually paused things mid-makeout.
He called the time out.
And he said, look, before we go any further, I need you to know something.
I've never been with a woman.
I've never been intimate, never had sex. I'm a virgin. I just had to be honest with you," he told her. And not only was Stacey not turned off, but that vulnerability that Harvey showed actually made her trust him even more. And she said this to him, and I'm quoting her according to what Harvey told me. She said, thank you for telling me. I want to
be your first and your last. She said, basically, I want to be your only one. And then she led
him into the bedroom. And they had a very nice night. So tell the truth, G. You're so
much more than your romantic history. You're so much more than the number of relationships you've had.
Yeah, you're so much more than all those things.
All right, question number two comes from Nicholas in Indianapolis.
I love Indianapolis.
I love Indy.
I went to school in Indiana for a couple years.
Okay, Nicholas asked, Nicholas is 29.
He says, hey, Connell, on my last last few dates I got stuck in interview mode. I
asked so many questions. He gives some examples here. Where did you grow up? What
year did you graduate? Where do you live? And on and on. At one point this girl said
to me, I feel like I'm being interrogated. How do I stop asking so many questions?
Well Nicholas, let's bust a big dating myth right now.
You might think that interview mode, so-called, is bad,
but interview mode is a good thing,
as long as the questions you ask are good questions.
Now, pummeling your date with boring, logical questions,
that'll get you serving hard time in the friend zone.
You'll be breaking rocks in the friend zone quarry.
But when you ask questions that are fun,
that are flirty, that are thought provoking,
maybe all three, boom.
Then interview mode actually becomes a good thing.
There's real power in asking good questions.
So I once had a first date with a woman named Rebecca,
a really cool, smart, very cute, special
costume designer. She worked Broadway shows, she worked in the TV industry, and
I'm an introvert. And that night at the pub we went to for our first date, I did
not feel especially on. I did not feel terribly charismatic. I guess I was tired
working a lot maybe. So rather than fake that gregarious energy, I just said, you know what? I'm gonna interview her. I'm gonna let her do
the talking. I'm gonna try to find out what makes Rebecca tick. And she opened up
about her career. I asked about her career, her family, her favorite TV shows.
I learned all kinds of things about her. She's an incredible baker. She's
brilliant at making, at baking Pennsylvania Dutch baked goods. Found out all about her. And I would say
the conversational breakdown was roughly 75-25, Rebecca to me. And I was fine with
that. I was just trying to get through a tough night of being tired. Had nothing
to do with her. I was actually really very charmed by her so i just listen and i chimed in and i i went into interview mode.
I was asking good interview questions here's what shocked me so the date ends we say good night.
I grab a cab my phone buzzes before i get home and it's a text from Rebecca and she wrote me I had so much
fun tonight you're one of the most interesting people I've ever met those
were pretty much her exact words and I'm like I read her text thinking wait me
interesting well maybe on a good night but I barely said a word about myself
but because I asked her good questions that she enjoyed answering, she found me
interesting. She found me very fascinating. And you know there's an old
expression, if you want to be interesting, be interested. So fear not
interview mode. Okay Nicholas, just make sure it's a good interview. So here are
eight fun flirty interesting questions to ask on your next
date. In no particular order, but I'll count them down. Number eight. What was the best
thing that happened to you today besides meeting me? Ask this in the first few minutes of the
date. I like this question because it injects some small talk. How was your day basically
with some cheeky confidence and
Give her a sly smile when you say besides meeting me you're going for playful and a little bit cheeky But you're not trying to be arrogant. You're trying to be a little bit cheeky
Number seven if we could be transported anywhere in the world right now, where would we go and why?
This lets her focus on the idea of the two of you as a couple
Plus it's a
more evocative, open-ended question about seeing the world compared to a boring,
do you like to travel? Where do you want to go? Okay, number six. Who should play
you in the movie of your life? What actor, what actress slash actor should play you
in the movie of your life? Now this question will cater to your dates ego and
The actor that she chooses is gonna clue you in on how she sees herself
So just be ready to end
Oh, by the way be ready to answer your own question here be ready to answer any of these questions as well
Because a lot of a lot of women will answer your question and then she'll say what about you?
What's your answer to that? So just be ready to answer any of these yourself
number five question and then she'll say, what about you? What's your answer to that? So just be ready to answer any of these yourself. Number five, how did your parents name you? Or another way to phrase this would be, what's the story behind your name?
Everyone's favorite word is their first name, so ask her about hers. I once asked
a woman named Faith this question and I thought she was gonna say something about the Bible or
Religion and I found out she was named after the George Michael song Faith
lucky for her
She wasn't named. I want your sex or monkey
Number four ask this question. Who did you see for your first concert? This is just a great banter question, just a fun light question.
Who was your first ever rock concert, pop concert?
Music is a great date topic.
And you know, if she says something impressive like Beyonce, be impressed.
If she says Nickelback, pretend you're horrified.
And then share of course yours. By the way mine was
Hall & Oates in their 1980s prime. Loved Hall & Oates. Number three, what was the
very best day of your life? Or if you want to phrase this one differently you
could say if you could go back in time and relive the best day of your life
what day would you choose? Now save this one for later in time and relive the best day of your life, what day would you choose?
Now save this one for later in the date or in the middle of the date. This is heavy, but it gets good heavy
We're getting deep
This question will take your date back to a momentous day
That she's gonna love reliving and that no guy has ever asked her this. So you're going to take her down a memory lane, powerful place, nostalgia, and you're also going to be taking the conversation way deeper than just surface-level chat. And think
about the experience you're giving a woman with the right combination of
questions. Light, bantery questions like, who was your first rock show? And then
later in the date, what was the best day of your life all of a sudden she's opening up to you
about a really vulnerable incredible moment she's telling you the most
important most powerful day of her life and make sure you find out why it was so
special to her ask her the question why why was that day so special and it
creates such an incredible vulnerable authentic, authentic connection. And my best
day ever, for what it's worth, it was my dad's 85th birthday party on Halloween 2014. My
dad is still kicking, by the way. He's 95 my dad. And anyway, his surprise 85th birthday
party was the best day of my life. Why?
It was extra special because it brought me a lot closer to my three sisters, who I planned
the party with.
It was also a time in my life when I stopped focusing so much on me and my career and started
focusing more on people I love and my family and giving more. Became more of a
giver. I had been a little too much of a taker or at least a little bit too
connell-centric and here I made it about helping my dad have a great birthday
party. And it was also the last big family event that my mom
attended. My mom was very sick at the time and she died not too long after and
I remember that moment. I remember
Halloween trick-or-treaters are knocking on the door. It's my dad's birthday
We're all laughing and crying and hugging and I look over I see my mom sitting in her wheelchair
This big beautiful smile on her face her blue eyes
Lighting up and I just remember looking over at that moment thinking wow this is the best day in my life right now
Yeah, it was perfect that day was perfect so anyway
I'm not gonna tell that story on every first date, but if it comes up organically hell
Yeah, I've definitely told that story on many dates alright number two. What was your first kiss like I?
Love this question. What was your first kiss like? I love this question. What was your first kiss like?
It's an innocent, effective way to dial up
some romantic vibes in a nice G-rated way.
I like that one a lot.
And again, be ready to share your own story, okay?
And number one is, do you like to see a first kiss coming?
Or do you like to be surprised?
Now, if you go back over this list you might have noticed that these questions started off light and
playful and became increasingly deeper and more more personal and more
flirtatious. The last two were flirtatious. What was your first kiss like
was the last one and then did you did you do you like to see a first kiss coming?
And I put these questions more or less in the order you want to ask them for a very specific reason is that we're we're amplifying
romance we're dialing up romance connection
And all of this leads up to this question
Do you like to see the first kiss coming or do you like to be surprised? And you can ask this question and you're basically
teeing yourself up to go for that first kiss. Now if her answer is I like to see
a kiss coming, then you can say well here it comes and you move right into
lock lips. If she replies oh I like to be be surprised then you can still move in you can say hey as you move in say surprise
Make your move
So anyway, don't fear asking questions. Do not be afraid of interview mode be afraid of boring questions
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Okay, here's a heavy question.
Speaking of deep, here's a heavy question.
Here it comes from Kyle.
Kyle writes me this.
Oh man, his subject line was, help, I hate dating.
I think I'm becoming an incel.
Okay, he writes, Connell, I've been single for eight years, and dating just never seems I hate dating. I think I'm becoming an incel.
Okay, he writes, Connell, I've been single for eight years
and dating just never seems to work for me.
On paper, I know I'm a good catch.
I'm 6'3", pretty outgoing and I'm a firefighter.
I feel like I should be doing pretty well with women,
but I'm not.
Women tend to ghost me or they just say,
you seem great, but I'm not feeling it.
Maybe I'm not interesting
enough or rich enough. I don't make that much as a firefighter. Maybe women want richer
guys or more interesting guys. He also says maybe I'm too negative on dates and I don't
even enjoy the dates I go on. I'm sorry, I don't even enjoy the dates that go well. So
he can have a good date and he doesn't even enjoy it. It's such a grind, Kyle continues, I hate having to find hilarious witty things to
say. I hate having to entertain women. I just
hate dating. Sometimes I find myself posting angry stuff
on Reddit just to vent. I don't like who I'm becoming.
I don't want to date, sorry. I don't want to date. Sorry, I
don't want to hate dating or hate women. I really don't. But I feel this
bitterness building and I don't know how to stop it. Am I doomed to feel this way
forever or am I gonna be an incel? Kyle, 37 from Chicago. Kyle, first of all I
respect you so much for having the guts to say I don't want to
hate women.
Few men have this level of self-awareness and honesty, so I honor that.
This kind of honesty is how you fix this, by facing the music, even if the music is
angry death metal in your case.
By the way, I know a thing or two about rejection.
I used to struggle
with women and dating. I was rejected more than a telemarketer calling it dinner time.
Thing about rejection is it's like it cracks open the Pandora's box of painful emotions.
And there's two different kinds of emotions that might open up and let loose. It's different from guy to guy.
For some like me it was sadness and loneliness, but for you Kyle it's anger,
it's bitterness. But at the root of that it's still this it's the same painful
story either way. I'm not enough. So your whole quote I'm not interesting narrative
that feels true to you but it's a lie.
But it feels true, especially when you've been rejected,
so called over and over again.
And by the way, I'm gonna bet
that your bitterness comes out on dates.
I mean, you did say the word hate five times,
Kyle, in your letter or your email.
So the bitterness is there, probably shows up on dates. It might not show up in your letter or your email So the bitterness is there probably shows up on dates
It might not show up in your words
But in your energy your overall vibe women can feel that negativity and it's really repellent to women
It can really repel them. So women may be rejecting the energy and your negativity
But they're not rejecting you as a person. They're rejecting the negativity a
Woman doesn't want to meet a guy who treats dating like a chore. You called it a grind. Why would a woman want to have a date with a guy who's grinding through
the date? Yeah, so that's just not attractive to women. So I think your
energy and your overall projection of how you feel is causing the rejections.
Not you as a person, Kyle.
Because yeah, on paper you know you're a great catch. But I don't know if you feel
it in your heart. I don't know if you feel it on the date, like in your gut. You
need to feel it. You need to be feeling, yeah, I'm amazing. I'm a great catch.
Let's talk. Let's flirt. Let's have some fun. You need that, feeling, yeah I'm amazing. I'm a great catch. Let's talk. Let's flirt. Let's have
some fun. You need that uh on a date. That happy uh but I'm not hearing it from you. You should
though. You have you know intellectually that you're a great catch but you don't feel the
greatness, the attractiveness you offer. By the way, I mean you're a six foot three firefighter.
You literally run into burning buildings to save lives. In my book, you are a
hero. You're basically a superhero. By the way, there's a reason why women buy entire calendars
showcasing firefighters. You're a type that a lot of women are going to be into. So please remind
yourself of this. The next time your brain says, you're not interesting.
I'm not interesting.
Remind yourself that you are.
But anyway, no matter what your resume looks like, if you don't feel worthy of love, that
energy is going to come across and make it difficult for you.
So I don't think you need to become more impressive.
I think you just need to show up more like somebody who knows his worth.
You need to know your value and feel it on the
dates. So no more negativity on dates. I like to, I like, I've told clients this
many times, be an open book not an open wound. Be an open book not an open wound.
Wounds seep, books share. They have value, they have truth.
Be an open book.
A lot of guys say to me,
oh, well, Connell, you're always talking,
be authentic, be authentic.
Well, I was authentically in a shitty mood,
and I was really negative,
and I told her what an asshole my boss is,
and she didn't wanna see me again.
That's an open wound.
Don't be an open wound, be an open book.
A book you open, and it's filled with stories. It's filled with truth. It's filled with adventure. It's filled with
you, the author, the people you're reading about. Be an open book, not an
open wound. And also on a date, Kyle, talk about things that excite you, not
things that exhaust you. If you're if you're grinding on a date, you're clearly not talking about things you want to talk about. So yeah, think curiosity, not
complaint. Vulnerability, not venting. Think what excites you, not what exhausts you. And
yes, I love alliteration. I love alliteration. It lets me load layered life lessons with lyrical language
One last thing Kyle this whole thing about I hate flirting
You said oh, I'm sick of the song and dance. I hate flirting great
So so don't dance flirting is a is something I love flirting is icing on the cake, but it's not the cake
It's not required. You're not into flirting
Don't don't try to impress women with clever lines
It's a myth that women want the guy with the best game
they don't they want the guy who feels the best about who he is and
Who can share that best self as he's getting to know her good game?
witty amazing impressive lines
Nice bonus totally optional okay so stop
trying to impress with punch lines that's exhausting for you that's why
it's a grind you got the bar so high for how good you think you have to be on the
date so don't try to impress her with punch lines it's a. It's not an SNL audition. So here's
my mission for you. I'm just called you Tyler, Kyle. Don't
try to be funny. Don't perform. Be open, but positive. Show up
with an intention to give just like you do in your day job.
Right. And speaking of your day job, come armed to dates with
stories about why you love being
a firefighter.
What's your best day as a firefighter?
What's the story?
What's your ESPN highlight moment of you being a firefighter?
And don't forget, of course, to ask her about herself.
You know, I said earlier in this episode, if you want to be interesting be interested if you don't think women find you interesting
Get interested in her and you will become very interesting to her
Oh, and of course, please stop reading red pill reddit threads
That fuel all this resentment. They don't make you smarter. They make you angrier
Each rage scroll leaves
you more hardened. There's no wisdom there. There's no wisdom, just the potential for
self-harm. So anyway, Kyle, you are not doomed. Okay? No, you are not doomed. You are not
quote becoming an incel. But if you keep feeding that resentment in these bitter echo chambers, you are walking a path toward more pain, toward isolation, as
opposed to walking toward the love of a really wonderful woman. So anyway, just
remember that feeling this way does not mean this is who you are. Feeling
this way does not mean you are this way. It means you're hurting, but the
nice thing is hurt people can heal. Okay? So you are not the problem, Kyle. Your
stories are the problem. Your beliefs are the problem, but you're amazing. The story
you've come up with is the problem, so let's write a better one. Now end with
this, Kyle. You're a firefighter. Yes Yes the alarms are going off, but you're not panicking, you're walking toward the heat,
the flames to put it out.
That's what you do.
Alright next question, I really like this one, this comes from Matt in Los Angeles.
Matt's 25.
Matt writes, hey Connell, I met a woman at a singles event.
We talked for 10 minutes. It went really well.
We bonded over skiing. She gave me her number and she seemed interested. Since then, I've asked her out by text several times.
But she either doesn't reply or she says she's busy. Did I do something wrong?
Or am I just terrible at texting? Matt 25 LA. Okay Matt let me summon my inner, I'll summon my inner Marvin Gaye
for you. When you get that feeling you need textual healing. Textual healing is
something that's good for you. All the dogs in my building are barking right now. Okay,
so Marvin Gaye's advice was sexy, but your texts are not sexy. Yours are coming off as
thirsty, Matt. Here's what I mean. Here's what's going wrong. Basically, you're asking
for what you want before you've given enough to her by
text. All text messages, all text messages pretty much fall into one of two categories.
You're either giving or you're asking. You're giving value or you're taking value. And I
teach my clients a four-word texting rule. Simply put, that would be give, give, give, ask. That's all. That's how you
text women. Give, give, give, ask. Romantic attraction starts with how you make a woman
feel and that starts with generosity, giving something, a smile, a laugh, a moment of fun
connection, texting her in a way that makes her happy to see your name pop up.
So I call these give texts because you're giving her something
that makes her smile, or at least you're seeking to make her smile.
So a give text gets her excited to hear from you
and it helps her say yes when you ask her out.
It shows you're paying attention to her.
It shows you're trying to make her day, make her feel better, make her day better. Now here's
how most men text and this is what you're doing. This is what you're doing
Matt. Most men use this forward texting rule
accidentally, this pattern. Instead of give, give, give, ask, most guys do this. Ask, ask, ask, ask
some more. Hey, you there? You free? You want to hang out? Did you get my text? You there?
Hello? Want drinks? Why are you ghosting me? You tease? That's not flirting. That's emotional spam.
So right now your messages are mostly asking, Matt. You're not giving. As you wrote in your email to
me, you texted her several times asking her out every time. Right? Don't want to do that.
So what you want to do is you want to shift into give mode. Okay?
So give her a good question.
Hey, you said you love skiing.
What's your favorite mountain for shooting down the slopes?
Give her a laugh, give her a giggle.
You could write, okay, serious question.
Would you rather fight one horse-sized duck
or 100 duck-sized horses?
Give her a smile. You could write her, I just saw
Frenchie wearing one of those little cone things around its neck. You look
like a grumpy little satellite dish. And once you've given her a few good
emotions then you ask her out. Yeah so anyway women date men who give and they ghost men who take okay, or as Marvin might have sung
Let's get it on
After you give her a reason to want to
Okay, that's enough singing for today's episode. Let's take a really quick break and we are back
Yeah, sorry to make you listen to my singing today. I'll, I'll
let the people at my favorite karaoke bar endure my singing voice from now on. Okay,
we got time for one final quick question. This is from Jason 41 in Jacksonville. Hey,
Connell, I just found out my girlfriend is still texting her ex. Should I be worried?
Well, only if his contact name in her phone is quote,
Emily from accounting. Then you should be worried.
If it's just an ex and everything is above board and she's letting you know
nothing for you to sweat, don't create a moment. Don't let any possible
insecurity get you in your head about her and this guy. As long as she's telling
you above board, you're fine. There's nothing to worry about. Okay, that is
today's episode. I hope you've liked these five questions. If you want to, again,
ask me any dating question, I will either answer it here on the podcast or I might even email you back. I love interacting with my listeners. Thank you
so much for being here and don't forget your dream girlfriend she is out there
and she's gonna love you. She's just gonna have to meet the real authentic you.
So go out there be authentic and Carpe Datum sees the date