HR BESTIES - HR Besties Happy Hour - Roman Empires, Love Languages and Answering the Burning Bestie Questions

Episode Date: March 15, 2024

Welcome back to another Happy Hour, Besties! We’re sure as hell glad it’s Friday. In this Happy Hour: Roman Empires A (brief) update on the Topless Technical Teammate Upcoming meeting in San Antonio Love languages Answering listener submitted questions Your To-Do List: Grab merch, submit Questions & Comments, share your crazy work stories with us, and make sure that you’re the first to know about our In-Person Meetings (events!) at  https://www.hrbesties.com. And don’t forget to wish Ashley a Happy Birthday by leaving a review.  Follow your Besties across the socials and check out our resumes here: https://www.hrbesties.com/about.  We look forward to seeing you in our next meeting - don’t worry, we’ll keep to that hard stop! Yours in Business + Bullsh*t,  Leigh, Jamie & Ashley Follow Bestie Leigh! https://www.tiktok.com/@hrmanifesto https://www.instagram.com/hrmanifesto https://www.hrmanifesto.com Follow Bestie Ashley! https://www.tiktok.com/@managermethod  https://www.instagram.com/managermethod https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashleyherd/ https://managermethod.com Follow Bestie Jamie! https://www.millennialmisery.com/ Humorous Resources: Instagram • YouTube • Threads • Facebook • X Millennial Misery: Instagram • Threads • Facebook • X Horrendous HR: Instagram • Threads • Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

TGIFF besties. We finally made it. We survived. Congratulations, ladies. Thank God. It may be early when people listen to this and it's the Ides of March today. So sounds all serious. I mean, it was for, you know, in Caesar, right? Right. Like that was a thing. Yeah. Yeah. In the Roman Empire.

Exactly. That's my Roman Empire. Oh my God, that's a good question. What is y'all's Roman Empire? Thank you. Okay. Lee, you know what that means? Yes, but also no. Like I've seen all the videos. It just means a thing that keeps me up at night, right? Yeah, like the thing that you always oddly think about for no fucking reason. Yeah, it started because someone like,

someone like texted, that's your husband. Like they asked, yes, yes. Do you ever think about the Roman Empire? And he's like every day or so. Every day. I asked Dan, he was like, yes. Do you ever think about the Roman Empire? And he's like every day or so. Every day. I asked Dan, he was like, never. But one of my friends sent that to her husband and he was like, at least once a week, if not more.

And she was like, what? And he's like, I still can't understand how the Carthinian, he wrote the thing. And she sent a meme and she heard the meme, like, are you serious, Clark? And he kept going. And she was like, OMG, please stop. It's a thing. It's a thing. What's your Roman Empire thing

that you think about all the time, Lee? I don't know. I feel as though I overthink about everything equally, to be honest with you. I don't know. I'm trying to, it's hard to pull something, you know? Like a topic that that's not about me or like my dreams or aspirations or something does that count or no?

It's a good for thinking I'm a failure all the time. So wondering what I need to do next that sort of thing Oh mine's a lot more shallow Empire I need to figure that out my so-called life. It was only one season Never stop thinking about that show Also ten things I hate about you same thing never something about it. I still quote it Wow. And I never stopped thinking about that show. Also, 10 Things I Hate About You. Same thing. Never stopped thinking about it. I still quote it. I still quote it. So good. I love that so much. Maybe I have a Roman Empire. I think I just got one. I'm an Anglophile. I'm an Anglophile, which means I'm obsessed with Brits. Like, obsessed with Brits. That is my Roman empire

ever since I was young, okay, and started having feels. That sounds terrible. But oh my gosh, like the accents, y'all. I just love it. I'm just obsessed. I just adore them. I just adore. I don't know why. Yeah, I don't know why. I'm not talking about their politics or whatever else, their millinery and all that bullshit. I just think they're fun as fuck because they're so crude at times. And their language, I say that in a loving way, but gosh, you know what I mean? So yeah, I have a fixation is what it is. So maybe that's why I'm always like, Brits, Brits, Brits, Brits, Brits, Brits, you know, that sounds terrible. I sound like a big old bag on Friday. This is happy hour. I've been drinking just.

Exactly. I'd say mine, nope, you didn't ask, but I'm just going to jump it in. I was about to ask you. No, we're all giving our Roman Empire. This is a good lead in. It's like a panel at a conference when people talk and you're like, one answer will do,

but everyone jumps in. But this isn't quite, you know, like just adding something on here. No. But mine is Johnny Depp's accent because it especially hits home because he is from Kentucky and yet he seems to think, yes, he's from Kentucky. But you listen to him and I think he too clearly is an Anglophile or Francophile because he has that accent and it drives me really wild because I'm also probably Roman Empire as all things Kentucky, in particular Louisville, Kentucky. I love it. Fantastic place.

Hit me up anytime with your questions for recommendations Louisville. But is Johnny Depp's accent and why? We see you. It's one thing to do that if people haven't there's your people haven't seen you as a child, as a child or whatever, but like, it's, it's weird. It's just the drugs. I thought, I mean, that's not, I mean, you know, isn't that drugs? I mean, you can blame, no, it is not, it's pretension. It's high tension, which is pretension. You can blame drugs for a lot of things. He's not one of those people that woke up on a

beach and had that accident. People you see on Daily not one of those people that woke up on a beach and had that accident. People you see on Daily Mail, oh my God, woke up on a beach and... Yes. It's like what I always say, you can take the hoe off the streets, you can't take the hoe out the hoe. It's the same thing with those Kentucky roots. That's what you're getting. I get it.

I get it. It's right. You can't... Yeah. You see it, Lee. You see it. You, but guys both see my Kentucky roots for sure. He is an actor though. So he's played a lot of different parts.

So maybe it's like, you know, like how many fucking pirates of the Caribbean? No, no. How much treasure is there out there? Damn. No, you have lots of, lots of famous actors and actresses. You have Jennifer Lawrence, you have George Clooney. I mean, we could literally spend this whole happy hour. Yeah, but they usually just use their own voice, right?

Jennifer Lawrence doesn't. She's definitely had some accents. I'm going to hit up in our stories and defend myself and add some of these in. But no, it is unnecessary and fake. No, I get what you're saying. Just own it. You know, he had his wife's shit. And it's your Roman Empire.

That's true. And also, as an aside, people frequently call me Amber Heard. When I get like to go to Walmart and pick up a delivery, it'll say Amber Heard. Oh, okay. Yeah. I was like, wait, what? Why? Yeah, it took me a minute. It's been a long week. I was like, I'm sorry. What? Curtis? Sorry. If you're listening, you'll hear from my set. I wish my name was Curtis and then we would be Jamie Lee Curtis. But anyway. Yes. But anyway, I mean, just the way they say bottled water. Oh my God. Oh my God. It just like drips in my ear. Jesus Christ. Anyways, I digress. I have a question, Lee. I want, I demand an update. Remember, Jamie, last time we told

us about the topless technical cliffhanger. So the guys, so tell us what happened and what we have learned. I've been waiting all week. Titties Tom. Yeah, I can't remember. He had a little nickname, right? Topless technical teammate who was just chilling in his office. That's the recap. I hope his name is not really Tom. No, I don't think it is. But let's hope it's not anyway. But if you'll recall, this person, it was a guy, was just hanging out in his office, like completely shirtless.

And of course, you know, has a history. He's a frequent flyer of, you know, letting it all hang out. But typical HR, right? I have not received a thorough adequate update this entire week. And I've resorted, I've resorted, of course, to reaching out demanding, demanding the update. And all I got was OMG, this week has been absolutely nuts. I haven't had the chance to do anything. Well, no shit, you work in HR. Yeah. Hello,

welcome to HR. This case is so complicated because of all of this history with the employee. Simple answer is we met with them and they admitted to it. They like to do it. And we took steps to remediate the issue. And of course, I'm like, no, absolutely not. That is not enough. I want all the juicy deets. And of course, there is juicy deets.

And so we need those juicy deets. So your friend is withholding. You feel like an employee though, when they have those complaints and they raise them and they don't hear back, and so they have to reach out. So just remember HR, people need communication, even if you don't have a full update, even if you can't correctively reach out for people, don't make them come chasing you. Like Lee's having having to chase her anonymous cis friend. Exactly. That's rude. And then saying something very formal using corporate speak like we've remediated it. Like, the fuck does that mean? What does that mean from my experience? Are they going to apologize? Are they not? What do you? I mean, did he say he'll close his door

next time he gets his tits out? Like, I want to know. Okay. Like, who the hell do you think you are using the word remediate to me when we've taken shots off a hooker's ass? Oh man, but there's always those fun details with investigations, right? So we demand answers. We absolutely demand answers and we will get those answers. We need to have a real meeting about that in investigations, but that's not a happy hour topic. Only the juicy details are. Oh, exactly. Yeah, that'll be fun. Yeah, we do. We need to put a pin in that. Put that one in the parking lot. We will film an episode about investigations.

We'll circle back to that. We won't sunset this topic. Exactly. In fact, we should cover that in April when we meet again to film some full staff meetings. And where are we meeting, ladies? San Antonio, Texas! Yeehaw! Lee, were you waiting for one of us to say yeehaw? I wasn't expecting yeehaw because we're like 75% Hispanic, but that's totally fine. I know. I'm like, is that in Texas? I mean, it's San Antonio. Yeah, no, it is Texas.

That's Yee-Haw and Howdy and all that bullshit. You know what I mean? That definitely flies here. But yes, we're meeting in San Antonio, first weekend of April. I cannot wait to welcome you all down here, especially because, if you know anything about San Antonio, we're coming up on Fiesta time. And that is a big thing here.

It's like a big old 10 day money-making drunk festival, kind of like think Mexican Mardi Gras. But we absolutely love it. It's so much fun. And so y'all are gonna be here a couple of weeks before that. So like the hype will be starting. Everything's gonna be decorated. But if you wanna see us, let us know.

Because we committed to you all to have meetups like everywhere we all are going to be together. We did it in Atlanta and that was that we had some awesome some besties that are listening right now, some of our besties. Yeah, I'll be honest. I didn't think people would show up, but they did. And man, that was awesome. Why wouldn't people show up to a bar?

I know, but it was a rainy night too. For us is the key. It was a cold. And really, probably more for y'all than me, but that's okay. No, not at all. We packed that place, girl. Full of our 50th birthday party. Yeah, it's true.

I mean, we were kind of like there, but... Well, yes, we shared the video with the 50th birthday party. But what was funny is when they were singing 50th, when they were singing happy 50th birthday. They did know you, Lee. Are you or do you know H.R. Manifesto? Well, that's because I have a big face and that's what shows up on the socials. Well, you're also tall and gorgeous.

Well, okay. I'll take it. Lisa Stunner. But yeah, but listen, I'm like talking to a friend. I turn over and here come Lee and Jamie hopping over to the table and they're like, we got cake. And I'm like, where's the third place for the besties? Well, no, you shouldn't pass up free food.

I'm not asking you to get less. I'm asking more. Besties? What besties not bring some cake to a bestie? And then I'm going to go over there now. They don't know me. So your manager method. That was rude, actually.

It's true. I'm the mom. What is the message? Mom. Someone responded to everyone. They're like, mom, manager, manager, mom. Order up for Damien. Hey, how did your doctor's appointment go, by the way?

Did you ask about rubellsus? Actually, I'm seeing my doctor later today. Did you say Rebelsis? My dad's been talking about Rebelsis. Rebelsis, really? Yeah, he says it's a pill that's... Well, I'll definitely be asking my doctor if Rebelsis is right for me.

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where all your investment gains are yours to keep and put towards your first home. With Questrade, you can open an FHSA online, no bank appointment needed. It's easy and only takes a few minutes. This is the last day that we are all the same age. Oh, yes. Tomorrow is my birthday. And so if you all know, we are literally, all three of us are the same age until tomorrow when I again will become the elder of the group.

So you have to bring me cake on that aspect. You have to do as I say, children. Yes. So for Ashley's birthday, we are asking the besties to please go and like, subscribe and all that. But specifically, let's leave a review. I like that. I'd like a five star review, but you know, I can't tell you that.

You're so creative. That is a good birthday present. So yeah, you should like leave a review for a birthday present for Ashley and just like say how amazing we are, especially Ashley because it is her birthday. Give her all the flowers. I can buy my own flowers, but I like reading them. The social flowers. I love that. That is so nice. That will really make my day to see those pop up. And I wonder,

I don't know how long it takes for reviews to pop up, but probably a couple days. And so, you know, like you go through on Facebook and see the birthday. Well, I'll ask this. Are you guys on, do you guys do Facebook? Are you Facebookers? Jamie are. Oh, yes. No. Lee, you're not a Jamie. I mean, Lee, you're- Jamie does everything. You know I am.

No, I'm not on there. And I don't have any personal accounts anywhere. I mean, Lee and I literally are like the yin and the yang on this. And Jamie and I are two peas in a pod on this. Unlike my birthday, I will go when people leave me a birthday message, I will go and individually love and respond to each one of them. Because I do, I love reading them and I get so excited. That has to be your worst nightmare, Lee. No, I mean, I like being loved on. But I don't, I mean, I think that's neat. You know, I remember that. But I guess it wasn't neat enough for me to stay on the Facebook, right? I mean, so,, right? But for my birthday, send me cash. Ashley wants a review, you can send me money.

She's still calling it the Facebook. I got that book recently. I was like, what is this? It was like the five love languages, because when people talk about it, I'd never read it before. Oh my God, yes. I hear people talk about it. It's so good.

I don't know. I've only a few pages in, so I couldn't read it before. And so, I hear people talk about it. And I don't know, I couldn't, I literally couldn't name, I'm only a few pages in, so I couldn't name all five. When he said, I was like, what is this? And I said, when people talk about it, I want to know what they're saying. And so I do think I'm probably a words of affirmation person, I guess. So yeah, that would be nice.

I appreciate a review. I remember I made a joke the other night, like your love language is websites. Buying website addresses. Buying domains. Man, this bitch has like 50 domains she's bought. Oh my, and I say that lovingly. Oh my, it is unreal. It's impressive. I do. I do. I was, yes, I, yeah, I do. I was supposed to say a hundred percent, but we don't say that in the podcast. We use that up in season one. But we don't say that in the podcast. We use that up in season one.

But yeah, I love a good domain. In an upcoming episode, you will hear about a domain that I purchased while we were recording season one or season two, excuse me. And you'll hear it. But in the meantime, you can go to one of my favorite domains, which is quainttech.com. It's always a good tech company name. QuaintTech.com. I was going to say. Oh, yes. Yes. K... It's always a good tech company name when you spell it out. Quaint rhymes with...

Yeah. K-W-A-I-N-T-T-E-C-H.com. I think it's two T's in there. But that's my... I made up a fake website for Luke's company. And so you can go and look at that and I'll add to that. That's clever. Hey, Luke.

Lee was like, what the fuck? That is clever. I love domains and making fake websites. So that's the sixth love language. Yeah. Domain sets. Sure. What's your sixth love language?

Oh, man. You're going to make me look this up now because I have to remember. I know I can tell you that I love to gift give. I'm obsessed and I take my time and I'm very thoughtful. You might've said you liked something six months ago and I put it in my little head. Matter of fact, Ashley, your birthday present that should be arriving soon.

Oh my gosh, making me look bad. So, yeah. Sorry, I'm sorry, Lee. Just leave me a review, Lee. Actually, you know what, Lee? No, gifts is one, that's number three. Leave us a. Just leave me a review, Lee. I like giving gifts. Actually, you know what, Lee? No, gifts is one. That's number three.

Leave us a review for the podcast, Lee, and do thanks, Jamie, Ashley, with an X, two exclamation points. Yeah, I was going to say, but get those two exclamation points. Yeah. Maybe Lee will follow us. Do you think Lee will follow us one day for our birthdays? No, she will never follow us. That's a 50th birthday present, which is a little bit of a way.

For real, right? We had to request that. You've got a while. We've got a while. We have to earn it. We haven't earned it all yet. Okay, okay. But here's what they are. Words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, quality time, and physical touch. Okay.

So, see, gifts. I love gift giving. Yeah, that is you. Quality time as opposed to superficial time. It's probably like sitting there looking at your phones together is not healthy, probably. Okay. No. My husband reminds me of that every night.

I'm like, I'm sorry. I don't even realize I do it. God, see, I like to receive them all and give none of them. Like as I get into this- You're good at giving gift giving though. No, I am. I'm thoughtful. You are very, very thoughtful. No, I'm meaningful with it. no I am, I'm thoughtful. You are very, very thoughtful.

No, I'm meaningful with it. Yeah, yeah, I like that. Because I remember everything too, like Jamie does, you know. But you're like sneaky because Jamie and I are mushes. I mean, the first time we hugged, we squeezed, I'm like, come on in there. I mean, Lee is definitely, you're more reserved. I like physical touch from Brits. From Brits. I know, you're more reserved. I like physical touch, from Brits. From Brits.

I know, you stroke spaghetti squash. I tried to hug, I tried to hug Lee, but it's awkward when I hug Lee because I come up to her about her belly button and because I have the legs of a dachshund and she has the legs of a therabit. I mean, I am aware that people typically don't like their, well, some people don't like their, you know,

face right in my tits. You know, I got to be careful. I hug some people, you know. I think there's a lot of people, a few people. I know. I'm five foot one. So compared to Lee. Yeah. Yeah. We're a little bit different. But here, but you know, it's, it's, it's, we're, we are also, I know Lee, you pointed this out in our texts that we are halfway through women's history. We are. We are.

Yeah. So anybody here getting paid more or, you know, anybody get anything free yet? Giving things for free this month. I've definitely gotten some requests to give for free this, this month. I've definitely gotten some requests to give for free this month. And I've declared stop from my own. It ain't your birthday. Oh, damn. Speeches. So I say this for those that are listening, especially those who are thinking,

when you ask women to speak for exposure, that is a frequent thing that we are asked. Because everyone wants our diversity on their panel. You know what I mean? They don't want to pay for it. But they don't want to pay us. But I go deep. People will do that. And I'm like, hold on a second. And I go and look at the ticket fees for it. I approximate the registration. If they have a list of attendings, I'm counting. I will maybe copy and paste and pop it in a tachypathy to count. But I will go deep on the research and I will point that out. And I say candidly, and then also

say, you know, we're moving things aside for that day. You can see me. I don't, the requests for those things, it's just not... Well, and, you know, one thing I don't... I feel like sometimes they never consider is, sure, exposure is great, but it's taking time away from our jobs. And so I might have to take a PTO day, for instance. And so, yes, I'm getting paid, but I had to use a PTO day to come. If I'm traveling, I'm missing time with my family. I don't need, quote unquote, exposure. I need money. Thank you.

Yeah. Pay us what we're worth already. Thank you. Thanks. Anyway, I would love to come speak, though. Right? We've had some very cool outreach, literally, in the last week, a few conversations. We're getting out there. We're getting on the road. But one thing I did want to bring

up in this happy hour is that we asked you, our followers, for your questions. We asked for your icebreaker questions that we could answer. We have a laundry list of them. I think maybe what we hit to here, I mean, because my gosh, you know what I mean? I think every happy hour, let's just shoot the shit with some icebreakers, right? Let's do it. Yeah. We'll end it with icebreakers because then we go, mic's off for the really fun of it. Exactly, right?

But I got this whole laundry list, like I said. Is that cringe? Is that cringe corporate speak? I don't know. It's not bad. We should add it to the list. Okay. Well, here's the first one. We'll start easy. What TV shows have you all been binging lately? What are you all on? The silence is loud. Love is blind. Love is blind. Yeah, I'm caught up there.

Cringe, cringe, cringe. Reunion app this week. I won't say anything more. I don't like spoilers, but like, love is blind. The first season was filmed in Atlanta and that was amazing. Oh, yeah. Yeah, I remember that. I've never watched Love is Blind, so I cannot. Well, it's a social experiment. Whatever it is, it is interesting.

It proves Love isn't blind, basically. That's the synopsis of the show. Yeah, yeah. But you know, like I see all the memes, like the girl who said she looked like Megan Mowat. Yes, yes. She said the internet poor, the poor girl. But I know that being said, I don't think she looks that,

I think I can, I see it. She favors her. I see it. 100%. Yeah, that girl does favor her. I see it. I felt, I don't think she looks that I can I see it. She favors her. I see. I see. That girl does favor. I see. I like also full swing on Netflix, which is the golf. It's really good. Golf rails. It's the same thing as like the F1 show, you know, all those that they have the tennis that all of that. And so they have a golf one that just came out last week. So it's good. that. And so they have a golf one that just came out last week. So it's good. Jamie, one day with Leo, who's again, hot Brit, like I'll stay on theme. Oh my God, those accents, but I stopped it before the sad shit. You know what I mean? So I only watched

through like episode eight and then I'm not going to, I don't want to see someone died and the love story gone and all that, you then The Tourist was great with Jamie Dornan, who's hot as hell. Irish, I'll accept that accent as well. That works. That is so good though. That show is actually really, really good. But I watch all the things. All the things. Jamie, nothing really? Are you too busy working? Well, yeah. I mean- Figures. I mean, my God. I don't want to, it's like I hate people who are like, I don't watch TV.

But I will say I did recently get sort of caught up on my Bravo show. So I do like to watch some Bravo shows. My husband calls it my trash TV because he says I don't have enough day-to-day drama in my work life. It's a mental palate cleanser. You deal with enough. No, it really helps me, I swear, sometimes. But right now, I just got caught up on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. We're in reunions. And then, I don't know why I'm still watching Vanderpump Rules, but I am. Oh, gosh.

When we go to Vegas, I want to go to, I love the Vanderpump. Me too. Yes. I would love to go. I like that one. We need to meet one time in LA too, because I would love to go to Stockholm or what? Go to like Sir. Oh yeah.

Yeah. Oh, we'll do that. We'll do that. Put on the list. We'll put on the list. All right. What's our other question? All right. We got one more.

Time for one more. No kidding. I've got like 50 icebreaker questions. Okay. Oh my God. People submitted. I know. They want to know all sorts of shit.

What's y'all's go-to karaoke song? Oh. Go, Jay. I got one. I got mine. Ice, Ice, Baby. Do you really? Oh my God.

Yes. Like, oh my God, I love rapping it. I bet that's good. It's like you can get people fucking hyped. Oh yeah. Oh yeah. I can see that. Oh yeah.

You can get people so hyped to it and then people start joining in with you. You don't have to be a good singer because you're a rapper. I love that. Also, I had a crush on Middle-Ice when I was younger. Obs. I mean, we know that's why you sing it. But it's really embarrassing now. It is. I like how the poster hanging up in my room.

Oh, it's cute. I would kiss it. And like, it's fucking weird. Of course, Obvs. Did you French kiss it too, right? Like you gave it tongue? It's so gross because he's so gross. I know.

I know. And you're like making out with your hand. No, he's not cute anymore. Rude? What if he listens to this podcast? Sorry, Vinalice. I love you. Lee, what's yours? Trains, drops of Jupiter.

Wow. I didn't see that one coming. Okay. Are we going to go karaoke in San Antonio that one coming. Okay. Are we going to go karaokeing in San Antonio? For sure. Okay. Fuck yeah we are because I have a place. I have a place here in San Antonio and I have a bartender and they take care of us. But the times that I have gone, I've gotten free drinks, which is nice. So I'm just like, we should go there.

Let's go. We should definitely go there. Print it. Yes, print it. Print it. We'll record that. Love it. We'll sing something and then we'll put it on the socials. There's only one right answer here

and that would be Salt and Pepper, Whatta Man. Oh my God, I would totally. I would totally. We can, same thing. You can, it's, you know, people know it, people sing it, it's good. I can see the music video in my head. It's amazing. I'll sing that for Men's History Month.

I'll do the En Vogue part for you. Oh, God, En Vogue love. Or I can rap for you, whatever you need. I'll be a backup dancer even. I love it. We should probably wrap it up. I don't want to wake up feeling funky tomorrow on my birthday. I know. I got to feel fresh. Happy birthday, Ashley. We love you. Thank you. Thank you all. my birthday. I got to feel fresh. Happy birthday Ashley. We love you. Thank you. Thank you all. Happy birthday. Appreciate this. I love these Friday happy hours. Don't forget to gift Ashley a review. Don't forget, don't forget. Send her some

social flowers. Yeah, either one. Either one. Or yes, or cash. That works too. That's all fine. Yeah. Total. All right, everybody. Well, you know the drill. You don't have to go home, but you can stay here.