HR BESTIES - HR Besties: Managing Up
Episode Date: March 12, 2025Today’s agenda: Salary suspension Cringe corporate speak: fight for it Hot topic: all about managing up - how should HR go about this? What does this mean? BTW: subscribe to our HR Besties ne...wsletter for weekly team discussion guide questions Human resources and managing up: how can we influence unapproachable managers? Thinking realistically is a must for HR and leaders: doing what you can do to the best of your ability is key Best practises for HR when providing feedback to toxic leaders and out of touch management Focus on the relationships Questions/Comments Your To-Do List: Grab merch, submit Questions & Comments, and make sure that you’re the first to know about our In-Person Meetings (events!) at https://www.hrbesties.com. Follow your Besties across the socials and check out our resumes here: https://www.hrbesties.com/about. Subscribe to the HR Besties Newsletter - https://hr-besties.beehiiv.com/subscribe We look forward to seeing you in our next meeting - don’t worry, we’ll have a hard stop! Yours in Business + Bullsh*t, Leigh, Jamie & Ashley Follow Bestie Leigh! https://www.tiktok.com/@hrmanifesto https://www.instagram.com/hrmanifesto https://www.hrmanifesto.com Follow Bestie Ashley! https://www.tiktok.com/@managermethod https://www.instagram.com/managermethod https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashleyherd/ https://managermethod.com Follow Bestie Jamie! https://www.millennialmisery.com/ Humorous Resources: Instagram • YouTube • Threads • Facebook • X Millennial Misery: Instagram • Threads • Facebook • X Horrendous HR: Instagram • Threads • Facebook Tune in to “HR Besties,” a business, work and management podcast hosted by Leigh Elena Henderson (HRManifesto), Ashley Herd (ManagerMethod) and Jamie Jackson (Humorous_Resources), where we navigate the labyrinth of corporate culture, from cringe corporate speak to toxic leadership. Whether you’re in Human Resources or not, corporate or small business, we offer sneak peeks into surviving work, hiring strategies, and making the employee experience better for all. Tune in for real talk on employee engagement, green flags in the workplace, and how to turn red flags into real change. Don't miss our chats about leadership, career coaching, and takes from work travel and watercooler gossip. Get new episodes every Wednesday, follow us on socials for the latest updates, and join us at our virtual happy hours to share your HR stories. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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So, in my entire 20-year career, I have only been mad at work four times.
I can count them.
They're in my memes.
I can see those exact moments because I'm actually a pretty chill person for the most
part.
You're like, yeah, I guess.
But I'm pretty laid back and in the workplace, super professional.
I like to have a good time, but I don't get very upset.
That's why I'm probably good at this job.
I'm like, okay, let's tackle this issue.
I don't go crazy like my hair's on fire or anything, but there's been four times.
I've shared a couple of those with you all already. Like that one bus thrower under her. That engineering
leader who hid his stepchild under his desk for the workday because he didn't have childcare.
And then I ran after him in the parking lot, like screaming. I lost my cool because children
and safety and all of that. But there's two other times I haven't shared with you all where I got really mad. I'm talking angry at work. For some people,
that's their identity and that's their brand at work, right? Not me, but it was an ops leader.
I was dealing with a, strategically partnering with, I say dealing, but strategically partnering
with, I say dealing, but strategically partnering with an operations leader. And I was the HR leader for that organization and that business and that site.
And it was an acquisition into a huge Fortune 10 organization.
And I'm sitting in my office one day and another coworker, colleague of mine comes in and they're
like, hey, who should I go to while make up a name? Mark is out. And I was like, Mark's out? What do you mean?
Is Mark okay? Like Mark's on vacation? Like, what do you mean? Who do you go to while Mark's
out, right? And he's like, yeah, well, I mean, Mark is suspended. So who do I go to? I was like, Mark, the salaried director has been suspended?
What are you talking about?
Like suspended, like who, what, where?
Like hanging from something suspended?
Because salaried employees, I've never suspended one without pay, right, personally in any
organization. So, and if we were to, it would
surely come through me, right? I mean, you know, I would hear about it from my HR team, at least,
at a minimum. Holy shit, did you hear what Mark did? Well, I think we should do this, right? What
do you think, right? I mean, you'd have a conversation. I was like, he suspended, what?
And so, I like ran out of my office, go to the office next to mine, and that's where the ops leader's
office is.
And I'm like, hey, oh my gosh, Mark, what happened?
And he's like, oh yeah, I didn't like his attitude.
So I told him to get the fuck out of here.
And he's suspended without pay until we can turn this shit around.
Whoa, wait, I mean, I was just totally blindsided,
obviously, and that's what pissed me off, you know, and likes to be blindsided, especially by
someone who doesn't know anything trying to do their job for them. Like that's my job,
right? So that's my job. That's HR's job, at least to be in the conversation and to do it.
That's my job. That's HR's job, at least to be in the conversation and to do it.
Make that process happen if we're going to do that."
I was like, we aren't in the practice of randomly suspending salaried employees because you
think they have an attitude problem.
This is the first I've even heard of Mark's attitude problem.
What the hell is going on?
He just started ranting and he was a very angry person and he was
like, Mark did this and that. I mean, he was like really blowing up, right? As he's talking
about Mark and it was making me more upset. I looked at him and I said, I do not appreciate
you moving forward on something that is the wrong way forward without consulting me as your partner.
Hello, I'm literally right next door.
I've been in all week.
I was in all morning.
You could have easily run it past me.
Right?
Like what?
This is your professional brand too.
And he, I mean, he was just going off.
Da da da da da.
I got so angry that I was about to say something I regret. And I've
reached this point, the times I've gotten mad at work, I stood up like all crazy. We
were sitting at his conference table. I stood up and just like glared at him and was like,
I am going to leave this office before I say something that I regret.
I love it.
I did that HR eyes glare.
How dare you?
I turned around and walked out of there.
Scared the shit out of them.
My advice is that staying calm is way more scarier. It really is. Throwing a look in there, but
staying calm, talking slower is freaking terrifying. It really is. I've always gotten more progress
when I have that approach. I was so mad that I had to leave the room. I mean, wow, what
a jerk. And of course, I'm like, let me calm down. Let me do a walkabout or whatever. Then
I had to get on the phone, Mark, our bad, get the fuck to work. I mean, because it is
our bad. And so you talk back to that big bully bitch boss of yours, and then he suspends you without
pay.
We didn't even have a way to do that in the fucking system.
That's what I was telling the ops leader.
I cannot not pay a salaried person in this new payroll.
You know what I mean?
Because this was back in the day.
I can't do that.
What do we...
What are you thinking?
What are you doing?
Besides the fact it's wrong, I can't fucking do that.
Anyways.
So I just wanted to share and release that to the world, that time where that guy really
fucked up and then I let him know about it and then he got me so mad I had to walk out.
Yeah.
You are a better woman than me because I probably would have flown off the handle.
Oh gosh.
But like, are you fucking stupid?
He is stupid.
But you know what I'd say is if he's an ops leader, assuming that he at times works with
others maybe in field or warehouse environments or things like that, good for him for getting
maybe a touch.
That happens at times with hourly or, you know, unexempt employees where they get told
in the moment, like, leave without pay, because also in the payroll system, it's a lot easier
to shut people on and off, obviously, from an hourly pay, other than salary.
Salary in the US has all these things about whether you can do that or not.
Like, oh, all of a sudden you're paying a lawyer more than that hourly rate.
Like, what can I do?
These are the things I used to do as a law firm lawyer. But,
good for him for getting a glimpse into what that's like. And again, sometimes that is totally
warranted. Like, get out and figure out the pay later, but get out of here. But it is the decisions
that people just make on a whim. With a director? I mean, with anybody, really. I would love for you need to consult with us.
Like, does it even warrant the threshold? We're setting precedent here. I mean,
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But anyway, there's some hot goss from the past there. Hopefully you learned something
from that bullshit.
But welcome to the meeting besties. Quick rundown of the agenda, shall we? We will move into our Cringe Corporate speak next and Ashley, Ashley has that for us today.
And then we will pivot over to our meeting hot topic and that is all about managing up. So how do we
effectively do it? How do we boss our boss? Right? How do we do that? So we're
gonna share some inside experiences and wisdom with you all and then as always
questions and comments saved for the end. Ashley, you got something cringe for us
today? I do and it's and it's didn't know the intro story, but it works.
That cringe speak is fight for it.
And the way that you might hear this is if you ask for something like you ask for, let's
say, like a long overdue raise or maybe even something that's like promised in your in
your offer letter or agreement.
And the boss says, I mean, I don't know, we'll fight for it.
Have you all ever heard this?
Oh, absolutely. From people that ain't going to fight for shit.
Yeah.
Well, we got to fight for it.
I feel like I've probably even said it myself.
Is that part of your cringe warning?
Probably. Yeah, but I feel like I've used it in the sense like, you've come to me and
asked this and I'll be like, it's not an option
now but I will fight for it.
Oh, no.
Like that type.
And often people will say it, like when you hear it, it tends to come from someone that
does care about you and wants to make it happen.
It sends a signal that's probably a realistic one, that it's going to be hard to get past.
The trouble I have with it is, why do things have to feel like such a fight or be such a
fight at work?
Especially when it's things like rewarding someone like there is no bonus that feels less celebratory than when it's dragged out
And fought for I mean like not paid on time the fight for it like what what I don't want to be rocky
I want to be right head padded or just like thumbs up. It feels...
I know.
Yeah. So what I've literally done in internal meetings and I've had with organizations when
I've done trainees, as I say, when have you said that as a manager? And generally people
will say like, I'm advocating for my team, but I'll say, why has it got to be such a
fight? And it's helpful, especially when you have managers and their bosses in the room.
And it brings out a lot of never had but much needed conversations.
And then people can get a glimpse into things like budgeting.
But also that's where I think HR can use its voice to be the advocate for reason, if not
just the employees, but to say, why should these things that reward people feel like
a fight?
So that's why I find it very cringy.
Because then if like you're trying to fight for something, air quotes, that's positive, right?
It totally diminishes the value and worth to the person you're quote, fighting for,
my opinion, at least in the workplace setting, right? Like why can't you say, I'm going to
advocate for you? You know what I mean? Which I hear a lot too, but yeah, like all of our
cringe speak is so violent. It's either sports or it's violent.
Yeah, it's all caveman.
Yeah, exactly.
I'd rather run from a dinosaur than have to ask my boss for a raise.
Like, I don't know.
I guess we didn't run from dinosaurs.
That's true.
Sorry for my...
That was back in the day.
Mastodon or...
Exactly.
Exactly. Anyway, don't make it feel like such a fight. I'm sorry for my... That was back in the day. It was like mastodon or...
Exactly, exactly.
Anyway, don't make it feel like such a fight.
Make it feel like a reward.
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And shout out to Ashley, who is the...
Newsletter extraordinaire.
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All right, shall we pivot before this takes a little turn to the hot topic of today is
all about managing up.
How do we boss our boss?
Is it important?
Should we do it?
What the hell is managing up?
Thoughts, ladies, jump in.
I think if you can.
Oh, you always can.
Because I've definitely had some managers that were not open to feedback or assistance
or enlightenment.
Enlightenment. Existential change.
Yeah. I've definitely had some leaders that I could not approach, but I've also had good leaders
that were open to feedback and managing up.
And those usually were the people that I had incredible relations with even after I left
or they left.
Yeah.
I mean, there's a lot of common threads in that.
Like, you can...
A lot of people have that gut feeling.
It can be very unpleasant when you find out at the outset that they're not receptive to
that.
That's not a fun lesson.
But I do think, like a lot of management tips I think you can find from real life, well,
maybe not real life, like Hollywood.
I think I was a senior in college when my big fat Greek wedding came out.
And you know how she's like, you teach the man, like the woman,
I'm going to botch it.
The woman is the neck and she turns the man's head
because she's talking about her husband and all the things.
I do think a very strong skill, whether you're an employee
or whether you're a manager,
whatever level you are in the organization,
is learning how to influence other people.
And sometimes it's literally thinking about them
and what do they care about.
And the more people go up, it is things like ego, money,
PR, reputation.
And so to the extent, I think Jamie a while ago
had given an example of like raising an idea
and being like, remember this to my boss,
like you brought this up.
And they're like, I did?
That's a great idea.
Like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
I mean, we won't necessarily advocate lying.
Manipulation.
A form of influence.
But I think a tip I've given frequently, because a lot of times I would have people come to me and say, I'm asking for raises for my team. How's that going to get approved?
Like, well, shake me like an eight ball.
You could fight for it.
team. How's that going to get approved? Like, well, shake me like an eight ball. You could fight for it.
Here we go. You can fight for it. Like, well, you can fight for it. But I say, you know, in leadership, you got to be realistic. And that is one level that like you kind of like a skin that tends to grow as you advance up the organizational ladder. And sometimes it's really hard and it's disappointing. But to realize it would feel great to be able to give everybody a raise. But sometimes you have to think about, okay, this is our pool of money. These are the people that really deserve it.
These are the people that need to have conversations because they aren't doing what they need to
do.
But I would tell people frequently when you're asking for a raise, for example, for your
team, tell your boss, say, you know, I had this idea of everyone I wanted to ask for
raises for, I put it through a sieve and thought to myself, okay, I've got to be a steward of our budget and really think about who's
earned it, what's going to have the impact.
Talk about all of these things to show everything you did to that point, because then they see
you're putting in the effort and you're thinking about them.
And just having that recognition of an actual thought process can be so helpful.
And I've frequently had people come back to be like, oh my gosh, that really worked.
Great, again, there's no guarantees
when you work with people,
but that's an area that I've found can be helpful
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I love influencing leaders. That is a superpower of mine because I'm a listener. I'm a really
good listener. And so, to your previous point, Ashley, I can very easily pick up on and observe and listen and figure out what means the most to my manager.
I also know, like so many of us do, that that relationship with the manager is the most
critical relationship in your workplace.
That one matters the most because your manager has so much control over your future and fate
in that organization.
And so I know so many of us, I've been there, shy away from creating that relationship with
your leader or manager because it's scary.
Perhaps you haven't hit it off.
Perhaps you inherited an asshole for a leader.
Who knows, right?
But that's where you really have to lean in.
And a way to empower yourself into leaning into a relationship that you're kind of ick
about is the power of managing up.
Like put that armor on, to use another violent term in the office.
Look at that as a weapon that you can use to help you be successful. It's that managing up piece. How
can you manage that relationship with your leader? How can you manage that leader to help you be
successful in your job? Right? And so, a great example of this for my past is I am someone who cannot be micromanaged. Sorry,
you will fail if you're a micromanager trying to lead me. I don't want someone breathing
down my fucking neck. I'm very autonomous. I work a certain way, whatever. But I had
a micromanager once. right? And it's like,
I'm going to have to make this work because bitch needs to eat. I need shelter. Yes, I can
get my exit strategy, go find a new job, but I need to make this work now. I inherited an asshole.
It is what it is. Let me make the best of it. Ah, let me manage up effectively. So knowing that
they were a micromanager, I was like, I need to take control of the situation.
Instead of them randomly dropping in or throwing my day
into the fire by popping in, assigning something, doing
this, whatever, blah, blah, blah.
I was like, hey, I'm setting up recurring meetings
in these recurring meetings twice a week.
This is where I will give you a quick rundown of everything I'm working on, the status of everything, blah, blah, blah. That's
a great example of managing up. Right? Knowing that I knew that my leader was super insecure,
that they had insane imposter syndrome, they didn't know what they were doing, they were
new to the organization, they are a micromanager, they needed that constant reassurance.
I did that to try and manage a situation to make my day, my weeks, my life while I was
still in that organization easier.
To me, that's what managing up is really all about.
How can I make my boss successful so that they can make me successful and advocate for me and we
can be a team here you know. What would be like one way that you would suggest
on managing up? One thing a common question because managing up can mean
you may be talking to a direct boss like in Berman. I mean I think it's
influencing what you possibly can in the best way that you can and so
sometimes it's asking for
things, trying to get their support because rarely as a manager, are you going to be able to do
things on your own, but especially things with like compensation benefits, things like that.
Sometimes it's giving feedback that people need to hear. That to me is a much harder one,
because if you do have that boss. And so one thing I think can be helpful, and I really recently
talked to an organization about this in HR, and I said, because they talked about some issues they've
had with leadership, in unaware leadership, people that fashion themselves very supportive
leaders, but the rest of the, a little bit of glass door, but then feedback says otherwise.
And I said, well, you know, you're kind of lucky that you haven't had something go viral
or you haven't really gotten blasted on glassdoor, but it sounds like it could be a matter of time.
What if you meet people where they are and say, have a session with your leaders that's
like the things that you're doing that could make us go viral for the wrong reasons.
And they're like, whoa.
And they won't listen to me, they'd listen to you.
And I said, I'm happy to have that conversation with people.
But what I like doing best is to help other people have that internally.
You got to decide what you got to do.
Sometimes it's helpful to have me come in.
But I said, giving specific examples and using some of, sometimes I use these case studies
of like a layoff or the CEO videos and show like, this is how people actually receive
this and these are your customers, your employees, your applicants. These are all people that to you, if they represent nothing more than money,
you need to care about. And so that's a way I think of thinking how you give that more
critical feedback that can be very, very hard. I feel like I've been just kind of reflecting on it.
I feel like I have had to be somewhat a chameleon in the different organizations and different bosses I've had throughout my
years, but also within the same company.
You almost have to take time to evaluate their management style so you even understand how
you can approach them.
I always reference Gallup Strike Finder because I think it's super interesting.
If you can have your boss do it.
For instance, one of my top fives is influence.
That's something I already know that is something for me that I can influence my boss like you
were saying, Ashley.
It's also nice to know what their strengths are and how you can better work with them
because ultimately they're your boss and for it to be a more harmonious for you, sometimes
you have to, like I said, be a chameleon, unfortunately.
You're not completely changing your work style, but to understand how to better work with
them, like I've mentioned before, the very super toxic CEO that I was under a while back,
I knew that she does not accept ideas unless they
were her own.
So that was the way to influence her would be like, hey, remember when we talked about
this and you mentioned-
And you said-
I didn't need the credit.
I've never needed the credit.
So that was one way that I could get her to come around on things like giving everyone
in the nursing part a raise after COVID.
Like they busted their ass.
You had such a good idea on that.
So I don't know.
That's just one thing that I've found that works is because you have to almost mold and
shape and to fit yourself.
Well, what it is, is you have to focus on the relationship.
The relationship matters.
And so you have to learn that person while they are learning you.
So again, lean into that.
Oh, well, besties, please use that influence power at work.
You got this.
You can do it.
Manage up, manage up.
Questions and comments?
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I don't know if that's the right word, multi-channel podcast,
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in our HR Besties pod social Insta story.
Love it.
I have a quick comment. It's a confession, actually. I've never seen my
Big Fat Great Wedding. Oh, it's good. The Windex. From a leadership movie to love story. Yeah.
I have to see it. Okay. Did you watch Sex and the City? Yes, I did actually watch that.
Aidan. Oh, Aidan's in it. Yeah. He's in it and he's just such a hot guy. Aidan. It's
lovely. It's so funny. Plus it makes me want to go to Greece. So. One day, he's in it and he's just such a... Hot guy, Aiden. He's lovely. It's so funny.
Plus, it makes me want to go to Greece.
So...
One day, let's have a besties retreat to Greece.
Yeah, love Greece.
I'll make that my comment.
I went to Greece once.
I went for spring break.
I was studying abroad my junior year of college.
So Center College in Danville, Kentucky is one of the top schools, small liberal arts
school where I went, one of the top schools in the country for study abroad. Fun fact. And so they, I studied abroad in
Strasburg, France, but we have this school and apartments there. We have this amazing
travel schedule. And so with our like rail pass, we found out for spring break, we were
able to go and take the trains and ferry to Greece.
Oh my gosh. How beautiful.
Nice.
Oh my God. And for the record, like I grew up riding
in like the station wagon up to you know visit my grandparents in New Hampshire. Like this was
totally a new world. So very excited. But I stayed at this place called the Pink Palace.
Don't look up Pink Palace ever. The Pink Palace. You've mentioned Pink Palace, the hostel.
The hostel, yes. They smashed plates on our heads. It was 25, I think it was zero at the time, I don't know, 25 of a round, the toga party
that and they showed up once when I was, you know, years later, I was watching TV on Wild
On, E Wild On.
Oh yes, damn, I remember that.
I was thinking Girls Called Wild.
Oh, I know.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, remember those commercials.
I was like, you were watching that?
For another day, your girl was on E Wild On. Oh, I know. Yeah. Remember those commercials? I was like, you were watching that? For another day, your girl was on E Wild On.
Oh, damn.
Not this episode.
Can you get the clip? Do you have it?
I have the clip somewhere. I do have the clip somewhere. I have still, I do, I do.
Yes, you are uploading it on Stories, please. Thank you.
But the guy that owned the hotel shop, and he called himself like Dr. George. And you
can guess when we would be like, you know, with our pink milk drink, we'd be like,
what are you?
What kind of doctor are you?
Somebody would ask.
And he'd be like, you know, you can guess what part of the body.
The booby doctor.
Some different part.
But he would claim to be that.
And like, again, all the things that were, all was fine.
I was with my friends and we were all safe for $25 a night.
But anyway, I did, I said we like rented a car and drove safe for $25 a night. But anyway, I did.
Oh my gosh.
I said we rented a car and drove around Greece.
So it is a very pretty, very pretty.
I'd like to go back, maybe spend $26 a night, really upgrade.
So highly recommend.
Yes, go to Greece.
That's the comment here.
But not a question for me, but a quick comment.
I have coached folks on managing up, right? Because they came to me for help because a
relationship with the manager was crap. And they said, well, I don't like the concept of
managing up because I think it's too political. Like, I think it's just too... It makes me a
political animal, basically, right? And, you know, what I always say to that is, hey, managing up serves you. Don't be shy to serve yourself.
You really do need to manage that relationship. That's what managing up is. You can take control
of it. You can make your work life better. Do it for you. Think of it as a selfish act there for
you to be successful. That's really what it's about. So, good of it as, you know, a selfish act there for you to be successful.
That's really what it's about, you know, so good luck managing up besties. You got
this. We believe in you. Boss that boss.
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