In Your Pants with Dr. Susie G - Spinal Cord Injuries & Sexuality: Tips from an OT & Sexologist
Episode Date: November 22, 2024**Spinal Cord Injuries & Sexuality: Tips from an OT & Sexologist** On today's show we have Norwegian Occupational Therapist and Sexologist, Vanja Rizvic. We discuss the unique role of occupational t...herapy in pelvic and sexual health, the impacts of spinal cord injuries on sexuality, and share several practical strategies to navigate sexual dysfunction or dissatisfaction. From sensory play to reframing sexuality perspectives and fostering communication, Vanja guides us on an empowering journey of embracing our sexuality through curiosity and courage to enhance our sexual pleasure and well-being. Guest Bio: Vanja holds a bachelor's degree in Occupational Therapy, and has since 2017 worked in both outpatient and inpatient settings. He started his career at a hand therapy department, working with rheumatological illnesses and orthopedic injuries. Vanja has also worked in physical medication and rehabilitation, and currently works at one of Norway's biggest hospitals for rehabilitation medicine. He works specifically with spinal cord injuries, and has a special interest in sexual health and pelvic floor therapy. Vanja is a proud alumn of Lindsey vestals OT pioneers and is a sexual health advocate in the Norwegian OT community. Connect with Vanja on IG: @vvnnjjaa https://www.instagram.com/vvnnjjaa/ Video Chapters: - 00:00 Meet our video sponsor, Mainspring Medical featuring Vacurect - 00:40 Podcast Guest Introduction, Occupational Therapist and Sexologist Vanja Rizvic - 02:15 The role of occupational therapists in sexuality and sexual health - 02:30 Domains of occupational therapy for sex: context, potential, and narratives - 07:03 Sexual dysfunction as a trojan horse, the whole-person approach to improving sexual issues - 09:09 Supporting sexual function through relationship - 13:20 What is a spinal cord injury - 14:32 How a spinal cord injury impacts sex - 15:50 Autonomic dysreflexia considerations during sex - 17:40 Primary, secondary, and tertiary impacts to bladder, bowel, and sexual function with as spinal cord injury - 21:25 Orgasm and ejaculation with a spinal cord injury - 23:45 Sexual function versus sexual satisfaction - 29:00 Sex and sexual identity as an occupational narrative - 33:05 3 tips to explore with for sexual dysfunction 📢 Thank you for watching. To stay up-to-date on pelvic and sexual health tip and exercises, subscribe, hit the notification bell, and like this video! RESOURCES: 💡 Looking for solutions for erectile dysfunction? Check out our episode sponsor, MainSpring Medical featuring the Vacurect: [https://www.mainspringmedical.com/pag...](https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbG52a3UyU2Y4RHRVQU41dUpiWjBQb3dyS3BaZ3xBQ3Jtc0tuODhqTk1WQlhfcUlLWkJ4a2dxbjh0ZVhydXZTcVVWWHd3R3BMamVraW45Sk1Ic183Q3lHcTQtNkxCMEEzZlowRlN2anp1ZllYTi1Ca0h4MF8tbXRHcThKempGUlhDM3BzVjJGbVVrWWE2UFJQXzdpSQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.mainspringmedical.com%2Fpages%2Flp-aff%3Faff%3D9&v=oXMTpRRxneo) Free sex and pelvic pain resources https://drsusieg.com/resources Online Pelvic Pain Relief Program for Men https://drsusieg.com/pelvic-pain-in-men-online-program CONNECT WITH ME (DR. SUSIE) AND TEAM: Website: https://drsusieg.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.susieg/ and https://www.instagram.com/lainie_ot/ ___________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: This information is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of a healthcare professional with any questions you may have regarding treatment, medications/supplements, or any medical diagnoses. This information is intended for educational purposes only and is in no way to substitute the advice of a licensed healthcare professional. #occupationaltherapy #pelvicfloor #sexologist #sexology #sexualhealth #spinalcordinjury #neurological #neurology #sexualhealtheducation #sexualdysfunction
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on this episode also maybe using a mirror either in the room or close to the genitals to really
see right especially important for women i think because you know we guys we it's there right
you're listening to the in your pants podcast i'm your host dr suzy gronski your penis friendly
pelvic health physical therapist sex counselor and educator helping you get in the know down below
On today's show, we have occupational therapist and sexologist, Vanya Rizvich.
We discuss the unique role of occupational therapy in pelvic and sexual health, the impacts
of spinal cord injuries on sexuality, and share several practical strategies to navigate
sexual dysfunction or dissatisfaction.
From sensory play to reframing sexuality perspectives and fostering communication, Vanya guides
us on an empowering journey of embracing our sexuality through curiosity and courage to
enhance our sexual pleasure and well-being.
Before we dive in, let me formally introduce you to our guest.
Vanya graduated with a bachelor's degree in occupational therapy and has been actively
engaged in both outpatient and inpatient care since 2017. Beginning in a hand therapy department
Vanya focused on treating rheumatological conditions and orthopedic injuries.
Over time his expertise expanded to encompass physical medicine and rehabilitation. Presently
he contributes his skills to one of Norway's premier hospitals specializing in rehabilitation
medicine with a primary focus on spinal cord injuries. Vanya's passion for sexual health and
pelvic therapy is evident in his work where he advocates for these areas within the Norwegian
occupational therapy community. He takes pride in being an alumnus of Lindsay Vestal's OT Pioneers,
further enriching his dedication to advancing his field. We hope you enjoy the show. Vanya,
thank you so much for being on the show today. Thank you for having me.
Well, so tell us, what is the role that occupational therapy has in pelvic and sexual
health? Well, I'll just start off by saying that I currently work at Sunos Rehabilitation Hospital,
so I don't specifically work with pelvic health. It's more indirect because of the spinal cord
injury. But I do work a lot with sexuality and sexual health. So with that caveat, I will try
to answer your question. I think the way I see it is that there's this like trifecta of
characteristics, you can say, or domains of OT that I think can answer this question. So one
would be context. The other one would be potential. And the third would be narrative.
so the first one being context alludes to a specific model in the occupational therapy
framework the otipem model by angie fisher and in that model she references the transactional model
of human occupation which basically sort of states that occupational challenges don't exist
in a vacuum so you have to always address the environment when working with with people in
their issues so that that would be like one thing um and another one which i think is uh very
relevant and multidisciplinary is the icf model from the world health organization and specifically
i would say that ots belong in the in the activity and participation environmental factors and a bit
into the like body functions we're kind of like spread out but specifically participation would
be like one um so yeah and then you have the potential part um uh I would like to start that
off by by quoting and I will quote a lot because I love quotes I feel like they really encapsulate
the essence of something um I read somewhere on the internet I cannot remember find a reference
but somebody said that OTs are like search engines for potential I really that really spoke to me and
it really kind of communicates what i'm trying to say um so basically it's about being like working
resource oriented from like a client-centered resilience-based practice another quote that
kind of springs out from that is from dionne von furstenberg uh she wrote a book where she
again quotes her mother uh where she says find the light and build around it and i feel like
that's something that really sort of I you know characterizes my approach and my way of working
like addressing the negative but working around the positive um and clinically like in practice
what does you know what does this look like so when I'm working with patients I often like to
um phrase questions from a from that sort of perspective so one question would be how does
this become a challenge for you right so instead of saying do you experience erectile dysfunction
where i box it and i limit it you know i put it into this mechanic biomechanical sort of box
i you know place the ball is on their court and i open it up and i say it can be anything
and it becomes a challenge in meeting with the context right
so i don't project anything onto them either i don't i don't address gender or body function
or relationship status they can be married they can be you know really they can be situation
shipping all over the place it's not really that important yeah so it kind of invites a different
kind of dialogue and the third the narrative part is um again i'll start with a quote uh
by Esther Perel, who I'm sure you know a lot about. She once said that she likes to get to
know people before she gets to know their problems. Right. And that speaks a bit about
the resource and resilience factors that I just mentioned, but also about the way we kind of
organize our lives and stories. And as occupational therapists, we are especially
preoccupied with the occupational narratives, right? I mean, Lainey would probably tell you
lot about this your ot colleague um and how um how you know our brains i'm sure you can attest to
this uh susie that if i give you a statistic your brain will make up a story right so again and and
in a more practical sort of example of this is really listening to the problem because um
And a lot of sexological dysfunction is presented as a Trojan horse.
I mean, it takes the shape of a Trojan horse.
So a lot of my patients may express, you know, the stress relating to erectile dysfunction
or lack of sex or this and that.
But if you listen and you kind of, you know, get underneath it, you see it's actually an
expression of inadequacy, right?
So all of this to say that we have to take a biopsychosocial approach in addressing pelvic and sexual health.
And I think OTs are an integral part of a team to do this important work.
Absolutely. I think you really nailed it on all fronts of it's a humanistic person-centered approach instead of let's just look at a body part.
it's not separate from you as a human being who's engaging with the world moment by moment,
right? So we can't really separate that from one's experience. We're almost like,
when we're doing that, we're just dehumanizing people, just trying to put them in boxes and
check our boxes off and all of that. But we're really missing what you're saying, the crux of
where that distress is coming from right what is that just what is it causing like how how is that
changing your entire life in your world and how you engage with yourself and and with others so
i think you've really uh expressed that in the role that occupational therapy plays in in sexual
health and pelvic health and for the for the people that you work with you know how do you
how do you, how do you help them understand that model? Right. Cause as a clinician,
I understand that model very deeply because I also use that, that model in, in my approach to care,
but for patients sometimes, and for people, like sometimes that can be really difficult to,
because it's a physical, like some, you know, often we're dealing with some physical problem
or physical distress. And the idea is to tackle that, you know, it's a physical problem. I want
to address the physical stuff. And we're trying to open up, right? Like, hey, it's not just the
physical stuff. Here's what else might be going on. How do you help bridge that conversation
so it is tender and gentle, but yet also encompassing this approach?
Hmm. Well, I think, I mean, the means are the end. So if we are, you know, if we meet people
where they are and we create horizontal relationships, then we can, you know, on the
other end of that, help people become more empowered. So I try to just explicitly say that
I'm not, I mean, I'm an expert in spinal cord injuries or I'm an expert in sexology or something,
but I'm not an expert in you. I really don't know how your mind works and how your life
is organized. You have to tell me that. The expertise lies in the medical specialty that I'm
associated with. It's not in your life. So I would probably use a quote or an allegory.
i love pictures or a story right i really love the narrative so i think the narrative could
i think one of my mentors is um writes poetry or or lyrics or it's called lyric in norwegian
it's like poetry um and they um they say that uh it speaks to a different part of your brain and i
really believe that there's something to that of using allegory and rhyme and you know i'm kind of
alternative like that so yeah well it's it's it helps with i mean you're using um foundational
strategies in in what educators use right to to metaphors um certain tactics right to help with
learning to help with changing a particular conceptual framework or construct right because
we're we all have these internal rules and beliefs that whether we're aware of or not like
are governing our behavior and how we're engaging with the world and how we're engaging with
ourselves. And so it is really deconstructing a particular view or construct within ourselves
and a particular behavior with others that we are shifting or pivoting in some way to transform,
to just engage differently with, right? But it does take that
shift and metaphors and stories and narratives and rhymes helps with learning and relearning
yeah and even with like scientific linear kind of men like you know the guy who like works as an
engineer like you would think okay this will not stick with this guy but if you use an analogy from
the linear sphere right you have to find the relevant imagery the i mean i think we all have
that you know I think we all have different talents in terms of using and understanding
imagery and poetry and yeah totally totally and expressing the inexpressible often you know with
this anguish distress it's hard to explain hard to share how to you know to to really take what's
going on on the inside and and share that on the outside right so having multiple forms of
expression whether it's through art or poetry or verbalizing or through thought or whatever
music lyrics all the things to help really connect you know on a on a deeper level at a different
level um consolidate right to make help have it become more relevant and concrete for that person
yeah absolutely wonderful oh goodness okay i don't want to say i don't want to go off on too
many tangents here because I could probably talk for hours. So your work is in spinal cord injury
and that population. Let's talk about what some of the impacts are on their sexuality.
Well, before I get into the specifics of the impact, I would have to just give a brief
intro to what a spinal cord injury is. Please. Please. Thank you.
So the spinal cord obviously is like the main wire connecting the central nervous system with
peripheral nerves and initiating movement and, you know, facilitating sensory feedback back to the
brain. It is a very severe injury, can be for a lot of people. So basically, the spinal cord is,
like I said, responsible for sending signals to and from the brain and different injuries,
traumatic injuries or illnesses like cancer or myelitis or anything like inflammatory,
autoimmune can cause an injury in on different levels of spinal cord now the disruptions can
affect motor and sensory functions below the level of injury so if you have an injury at t6
you're going to have all the functions above t6 intact and below you're not going to function
that's kind of like the simple simple explanation of that so you can sort of um there are like two
main deficits you can say groups the motor and sensory the motor is basically affecting
a person's ability to move and also the spasticity will kind of kind of play into that right so
um and over time it can also lead to joint stiffness contractures pain which again just
kind of complicates things even more uh but basically you know getting into position being
able to spread your legs keep them there doing the penetration being penetrated if you're having
penetrative sex partner sex so that would be like one thing um and then the other one is sensory so
our skin is our largest sexual organ right um the mind has its you know has its um own place
in this conversation but for this time being i would just talk about the skin um and they're
connected right the skin and the brain but but um it gives us it's a very important feedback system
right so and it's also a way to show affection right massaging someone's legs is an act of love
so what happens if you're if you're a paraplegic right that that's something to think about um
but then when we're talking about sensory issues we also have to talk about autonomic dysreflexia
and for those of us who are not you know worked with this it's basically um something that is
kind of initiated in the body in the nervous system when there's a noxious stimuli below the
level of injury right kind of simplified and what does it look like it looks like increased blood
pressure increased heart rate um elevated blood pressure i mean um sweating right and in some
cases could be lethal and it only affects those with a level level of injury of t6 and above
and the higher the injury the more severe the autonomic dysreflexia so think think for a moment
like what does that mean when you tell somebody if you have sex you can die right i mean it's
quite serious to to kind of if you kind of sit with that for a moment but it's also interesting
because sexual response kind of kicks into this
because what does arousal look like?
Increased heart rate, right?
Increased heart rate.
Sorry, blood pressure.
Sorry.
Elevated blood pressure, increased heart rate, and sweating.
Sorry.
So part of my job as an OT is to inform the patients, right?
To say, this is what you can expect.
This is what you need to have at hand.
you want a little bit of this right and what does it do to you how does this become a problem for
you how does this become a challenge for you right then they can you know if you ask 100
different people they will give you 100 different answers to that question right
so those are like the two basic sort of groups of deficits but underneath that there's this like
way of thinking about it that I you know like that I use in my practice it's about the primary
secondary and tertiary consequences so the primary would be biological right the neurovascular supply
of the of the genitals and the different like thoracolumbar and sacral stations of the spine
which house you know functions like erection ejaculation and stuff like that so that's like
the primary impact right the secondary would be uh and this is where the pelvic health thing
kind of kicks in um bowel and bladder movement gi tract right reduced motility not just reduced
motility of the the bowels but also of the vas deferens and you know the the the sperm moving
finding its way through the vas deferens into the seminal vesicles through the urethra and so on so
forth so now we're talking about reproduction right then we get into the tertiary which is
more like a psychosocial part the locus of control that is disrupted when somebody can't control
their bowels or don't know if they're you know how are they going to date i have a stoma you know it
makes sounds or i transfer from one chair to the other and there's flatulence right so social
isolation would be the tertiary consequence so that's my kind of way of looking at it right um
And so all of this, again, to say that the biopsychosocial frame of reference is imperative in working with, I think, anybody, really, but especially this group. Yeah.
Thank you so much. And all very important. This conversation, I can't imagine it's happening as often as it probably should.
well i mean i am certainly um dripping dripping my colleagues with i'm squirting all the way
yeah yes we need that we do we need that excitement correct we do enthusiasm that's
right we really do because um often again as you mentioned in the beginning of this conversation
is that there's such a focus on the biomedical model and what's happening just at a biological
system, which very much so impacts, again, everything else impacts that and that impacts
everything else, right? So why are we missing so many of these conversations that people are just,
they have these questions, they have these concerns, like, how can I have sex with a
potential autonomic dysreflexia happening? You know, what are the things that I need to keep
in mind? Like, I still can experience pleasure. I want to experience pleasure. I am still a human
being you know and and that's the the bridge and that's what i'm hearing you know as far as the
work that you're doing and the enthusiasm you're bringing to this field and and and percolating
that and scoring that into others you know because that is so needed no one i mean again
you know the conventional medical system isn't talking about these things right i completely
agree with you and i think what you're sort of getting to is also what i'm trying to touch on
is that, you know, our body, our sexuality is, you know, it lives in our bodies. I mean, there is a
body component to this, but our body lives in our culture, it lives in our relationships, and there
is something to be said about the interaction between the body, the mind, and society, right?
So, yeah, I think that the medical profession especially needs to have, you know, lift up their,
you know look up and try to acknowledge that as a real thing yeah one question i do get asked a lot
in the spinal cord community is can i still experience an orgasm can i still have ejaculation
can you talk to us about some of the nuances around that i'm sure oh gosh that's tricky one
I always say, I mean, I try to make a point of addressing this fairly early on by saying that, you know, you can have an orgasm without having an ejaculation, right?
Because those two tend to go hand in hand for most people, which I understand.
I would also, I also thought that before I started my studies, the physiological sort of mechanisms are still somewhat obscure to me.
I mean, I'm not really versed in that.
ask me in a year or two, and I'll get back to you. But, but I do make, I think it's just important
to, to let them know, because a lot of sexological counseling can be met on the permission level,
right? If you're, and I'm referencing the implicit model here. So even me, I mean, even I,
you know, I sell myself as an OT who's a sex, you know, sexologist OT, but even I don't know
everything. So I think that also kind of lowers the bar and makes the relationships more horizontal
And I think just acknowledging that gives some sort of therapy.
But yeah, I do try to explain to them that the orgasm is primarily something that is
organized in the central nervous system, the brain, but because of the, you know, the
dysregulation and the disruption of the spinal cord injury, they might not be in tune or
they might not be you know they might not present themselves together right right yeah right
absolutely yes so what i'm hearing is that there is there is almost there's no limit to the
experience of pleasure yeah absolutely absolutely pleasure doesn't doesn't have to be based on
function a particular function or what we is perceived what perceived function although that
is very i can imagine what a mind fuck that that can be right to feel this disconnect or having an
experience that is very different from what someone may or may not be used to absolutely
absolutely so yeah and you're touching on something in terms of like sexual function versus
sexual satisfaction and what i often see and i i always feel like i can explain things better in
examples and, you know, and people and imagery, like, you know, we get all sorts of injuries,
all levels. We have the high tetraplegic patients, we have the paraplegics, and then we have the
cauda equinas, the ones that are very low and where, I mean, they're basically walking most of
them, but they do have, you know, their natural functions are mostly affected, right? So an
interesting thing happens um in the clinic you see sometimes patients that are relatively i mean
they could look healthy outside right you wouldn't really know anything about their health status
meaning they their hands function their legs function but they have this um
sacral injury so but then you have the uh tetraplegic right um who is you know face value
looks quite, you know, disabled and you would think, well, you know, that must be a very tough
life. But they tend to have very different responses because of the way they interpret
the situation and the resources they have inside of them and around, right? So if you're a low
level injury, you're unemployed, right? Or you just lost your job. You have, I mean, you, maybe
you, you, you have some, you know, other health issues, drug abuse, whatever. I'm trying to make
a point of how, uh, life circumstances around the person really affect the way they cope with
injury. But then you have the high level injury, you know, secure job, good finances, has a partner,
has had kids, gotten that out of the way, and they kind of lean into it differently.
right so we're kind of tracing back to what we started with resiliency context narrative
that's right yeah that is that is so right so it brings me to this adage saying it might be
cliche but don't judge a book by its cover have you ever heard absolutely you don't know what's
going on for that person inside it is our reality being projected from our inside out right so so
only that person who's experiencing what what they're going through can really tell you know
tell you absolutely and on on that note I would just like to add that I'm I mean I'm I'm a gay
man I'm fairly effeminate and I have my own sort of worldview and my own life experience and
and in studying now and having mentorship with two different mentors I've been more I've been
made more aware of the fact that the penis and the erection specifically is a very important
identity marker right being gay you kind of have a you know the menu looks different if you will
so you kind of you know and the the the the idea of a man is kind of you know open in a different
way than it is for for cisgendered straight men um but i've been made much more aware of what
loss um there is and and and not being able to either have an erection hold it or control it
And because one of my mentors says that there's a lot of love in the heart penis, right?
So it's not just an identity marker.
It's also a way of kind of communicating to your environment, your context, partners that you are interested.
And it's a precursor to sexual activity.
So it's not just the person who has the erectile dysfunction who's affected.
It's also the partners.
And this goes way beyond spinal cord injuries, right?
this is right anybody any couple really yeah right absolutely and it's i'm glad that you brought that
up because too often i think the message is like well you you know you don't need a firm erection
you know it's almost like downplayed like hey you know it's no big deal or the partner might say
it's no big deal to me oh really cutting out the actual person who's living with that experience
and that disconnect in their body to say like, it may be okay for you, but it's not okay for me.
And what's going on in my body and how I'm perceiving what's going on, it's like you
mentioned, grief, loss, fear, anxiety. They're almost, like you're saying, this identity is
being deconstructed and reconstructed in different ways. And that is a very, it's a destabilizing
place to be to be in psychologically emotionally and physically so as occupational therapists i
imagine that you know you're you are working with like you're y'all you guys have a really
wonderful like you work with the grief and loss you're not afraid to address the emotional aspects
of of what this person is going through in their bodies and in their world exactly can you speak
to that a little bit more about like how that unique approach right because that's very different
from physiotherapists like that is not a training ingrained in the curriculum and that's changing
i think that's that's definitely influencing each other yeah yes we are symbiosis yeah
well yeah i mean it's again back to the narrative part it's like it's a disruption of an occupational
narrative really i mean role and losing a role and and and what that role looks like based on
the culture you you are a part of and i would use my own ethnicity i mean we spoke about that i come
from the balkans and there's this very machismo kind of like no you're a guy and i think you know
because my sexuality sometimes enter the enters the room before i do it kind of opens up a
conversation about gender stereotypes um and and because i've my whole life been you know
been uh having to kind of reflect and discuss and you know defend um gender roles you can say or or
you know just problematize them i kind of feel at home in that conversation on the other hand
because i'm gay um i've kind of felt i felt the distance especially the guys
right but that all of this to say that um as ots we have something called therapeutic use of self
so we're trained in in different modality like get it going in and out of different modes
like you can be an advocate in one moment and then you can be a counselor in the other
like you can shift right so you have a very it's very ingrained in your way of thinking
so for in my case it's very like personal and professional i have a personal experience i
often bring and i i feel very comfortable with that and then there's a professional ot part where
we're really um trained and in sitting with those you know hard feelings like and and being open to
feedback i mean you have to be open to put be put in your place and i have been let me tell you
i've been put in my place yeah yeah i can relate yeah and it's humbling it's humbling it is quite
humbling big and and also um like i like how you use the word we're more in a horizontal like the
relationship becomes more horizontal than the power over it's a it's empowering with right yeah
and and and just as much as the individual that you're working with is um kind of processing and
integrating in in their own therapeutic process so are you as the clinician absolutely i would say
i will tell you this that there are times i come home or we have students or we have visitors at
work and you you see the work you do through their eyes and you realize just how traumatic
it is to be on the sidelines of such an injury because you are really involved in people's lives
on a very personal level right and then when you have patients over the years you kind of get
desensitized by that it's it's good to get you know to have to be jarred by something it's good
to be disrupted by something because it does really form you as a therapist i think yeah i
think there's a group or i'm not sure if it's a book i i apologize in advance for misspeaking but
it's called ot disruptors okay wow you're my favorite pt by the way my colleagues will kill
me, but I will have to say that on air. I swear, I feel like in another life, I was an OT at heart.
It just so happened my karma just ripened to go to PT school for whatever reason.
But to be honest with you, not many people know this, but it was an occupational therapist in my
high school career. They had a fair, like a booth set up and et cetera. It was an occupational
therapist that I spoke with that encouraged me to get into the rehab profession.
There you go. See, she or he or they insinuated themselves into your minds.
That's right. It was an infusion all the way.
Awesome. I love that.
I love it. Vanya, before we bring closure to our session, can you share maybe one or two strategies
uh for someone to to explore with if they're challenged with like sexual dysfunction or
dissatisfaction um yeah i i mean i'm a man of a lot of words so i'm gonna try to really keep it
succinct but um there are two main ones right there's the there's the sensory play aspect of
it which is very in ot sensory profile and then there's the psychological maybe sexological
approach uh so sensory would be usually using audio visual um arousal like stimuli so if you're
struggling with the psychogenic erection maybe using porn uh turning it up you know the the
the auditory sort of uh sense right um and then also maybe using a mirror either in the room or
close to the genitals to really see right especially important for women i think because
you know we guys we it's there right yeah it's pretty you have a external visual cue exactly
and then temperature playing with temperatures and i think this goes beyond spinal cord injuries
because it invites communication right so you have to kind of um infer cues from the from the
environment your partner obviously or partners um and then the third underneath the sensory thing
would be arousal patterns which i'm not really sure is like a word in english it's a very good
word in um norwegian but it's like language right you learn like if you if you like latex it's
probably it's maybe because you masturbated with something with a boot when you were a child right
so you learn like language that language fresh keeping it you know using it even though you have
this injury right or feet maybe you you know maybe you masturbated underneath the table or something
you know yeah yeah or rubbing against a pillow or a blanket or a quilt yeah exactly and then the
second one uh towards the end here um to cultivate curiosity so communicating right uh with your
partner one example would be if you have a tetraplegic or a central medullar spinal cord
injury meaning like a walking quad so you you you have the injuries in the center of the spot of the
spinal cord not in the distal end uh so you have reduced hand function and sensibility so trying
to masturbate yourself is kind of like having somebody else do it for you. So you have to
communicate with your own body and it makes you kind of think, well, how do I communicate this
to somebody else? Right. So what do I like? I like it on the top, on the, on the bottom of the shaft.
I like it fast or slow. Like you have to communicate, right. And then reframing. So I
often say to my patients that, you know, this is like a second puberty for you. Again, the allegory
or I can say, when you speak about this, it makes me think of puberty.
And to me, it sounds like you're about to blossom out, right?
Then, you know, they can accept it or they can not.
But it's very interesting because a lot of bodily changes are happening.
And it made me think, when was the last time this happened?
Hmm.
Yeah, puberty.
And then it kind of changes their narrative, right?
Right.
And the third and last one, and thank you for being patient with me, is this idea of confluence, right?
I don't have a textbook definition of it, but it's kind of like synchronizing or getting close to, right?
So I tell my male identifying patients that, and most of them, like I said, are cisgender and straight.
most. I mean, it's changing and this really works good in heterosexual couples, but I tell them that
the injury can provide them with an opportunity to become more responsive partners because the
impact of the spinal cord injury is such that they have to work on their own arousal. They have to
use more time. And I always say with like a, you know, with like a smile, like what do women need?
Like, what do you usually think women need from you? They need time, right? And then they smile,
right? And then I know I'm onto something. And so the result is very often that they get more
in tune to their partner's needs. And like I said a moment ago, they have to infer cues and they
have to communicate their own needs. And the central axis of sexological counseling for
straight couples often, and this is not my opinion, this is another very famous Norwegian
sexologist hokum osh who said that the central axis of heterosexual counseling is uh making the
woman like more um responsive or more open or you know in in tightening her response and increasing
the man's stamina meaning don't come too fast right so that's the confluence part right so
Like a slow simmer.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Exactly.
And both, again, it's like this attunement together.
I mean, I imagine that with this confidence,
there's a deep sense of attunement to each other.
Exactly.
Right?
Oh, how wonderful.
That is so beautiful.
I hope everyone out there tries to expand their sexual menu in some way,
regardless of body function or gender and et cetera.
Like just think outside of the traditional box, you know, you might be surprised.
Exactly, exactly.
Well, Vanya, thank you so much for being on the show today.
It has been an absolute pleasure and an honor and a privilege to have you on the show.
And yeah, thank you.
Thank you for having me.
And to all of our listeners and viewers out there, thank you very much.
And in loving wellness for your pelvis.
Until next time.
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