It Can't Just Be Me - New Year, Not You with Sam Pennells-Nkolo

Episode Date: January 8, 2025

It's only the beginning of January and we've all already been bombarded with a million messages about how and why you should change your life this year. To counterbalance the endless 'New Year, New Yo...u' messaging, Anna is putting herself in the hot seat on the podcast this week! She's enlisted the help of Sam Pennells-Nkolo, psychotherapist at the London Practice, to get some sensible and helpful advice about how to approach the things that are worrying her about the year ahead. Feeling overwhelmed by it all, or like you just can't get optimistic about 2025? Then this episode is for you.Every Friday Anna, alongside a panel of experts, will be addressing YOUR dilemmas in our brand new episodes It’s Not Just You. If you have a dilemma or situation you'd like discussed, reach out to Anna by emailing hello@itcantjustbeme.co.uk or DM her on Instagram @itcantjustbemepod Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Starting point is 00:00:23 Find your power. Peloton. Visit Peloton at OnePeloton.ca Hello, I'm Anna Richardson and welcome to It Can't Just Be Me. If you've listened before, hello, and if you're joining me for the very first time, it's great to have you here. This is the podcast that helps you realise you're not the only one. It's a safe space where nothing is off-limits as we try to help you understand that whatever you might be going through, it's really not just you. So each week I'm joined by
Starting point is 00:01:05 a different celebrity guest who will talk through the challenges and hurdles they faced in their own lives in order to help you with yours. I want to know about it all. The weird, the wonderful, the crazy because these conversations are nothing if not open and honest. So let's get started. This is the first episode of 2025. So we thought we'd try and do something a little bit different for you today because January is always full of chats about change, whether that is giving up alcohol, getting fitter,
Starting point is 00:01:41 being happier, finding love, getting a new job, you name it, we all do it and we really really focus on what is wrong in our lives and how we can change it. The thing is is we all need a bit of help doing that and that includes me. So in this episode, whether you like it or not, I'm gonna be sharing some of my anxieties. A problem shared is a problem halved and I think that you might be able to relate to some of the things that I'm going to talk about and to help me with some of my lingering peculiarities and worries for the year
Starting point is 00:02:12 ahead. I'm joined by my friend and psychotherapist from the London practice Sam Penelzencola. Hello. It's so good to have you back on the show Sam. It's so good to be back. It's been too long. Too long, too long. And he's been here every week. I know right, it's lovely. It's so good to see your face again. You too. So look, I know that obviously you're a psychotherapist, so you're trained to work out other people's problems. But do you still find that you have background anxiety about your life or do you kind of know how to fix it because you've had four years training? No, I have my own therapist that helps me manage my stuff.
Starting point is 00:02:49 But I think with our own lives, of course, yeah. I'm a human, so I have lots of anxious thoughts. I have all the normal things that we have, but I do know what to do. But sometimes if I'm not in the right head space, it doesn't always work. This is it, sometimes applying it, because again, you know, I've got all of these neuroses and worries.
Starting point is 00:03:07 And this is with the caveat that I know what to do about it, just in terms of my own training. But then I forget to apply it. Yeah. So I end up getting into a real sort of downward spiral. So are you ready to have a little bit of a personal session? I am. I love this. You see, I just know you really as a mate and expert on the show, so this is going to be very interesting. All right, so my problem is that I
Starting point is 00:03:32 feel pulled in a million different directions, particularly I think at this stage in my life. So I haven't got children, as you know, but I'm a freelance. I have lots of different jobs that are going on at different times. I work with different people on different projects in different places, all with their own priorities and needing my time and attention. I then, like everybody else in the UK, I have to compete with email, text, WhatsApp, Instagram messaging, social media. I find it really, really difficult to prioritize it all and cope with it all, actually. And I end up then just becoming a really bad friend, partner, colleague, everything, because my attention's too shattered.
Starting point is 00:04:21 Hearing you say that you sound really punishing, like I'm a really bad friend. I'm a really bad colleague. And I keep being told as well that people are very disappointed because I haven't returned their phone call or I'm late with a whatever. And so I end up sort of feeling that I'm not doing well enough or doing good enough for whoever it is that needs my particular attention. I mean, the first thing I would say is multitasking has become this huge thing. Everyone's really prideful about multitasking
Starting point is 00:04:50 and being busy and doing a lot. Whereas actually there's a huge now move to monotasking. Can we just do one thing at a time? Talk to me about monotasking. So monotasking is very simple. It's literally just if you're doing the washing up, you are doing the washing up. If you're listening to a podcast,
Starting point is 00:05:04 you are listening to the podcast. You're not doing the washing up, you are doing the washing up. If you're listening to a podcast, you are listening to the podcast. You're not doing the washing up, listening to the podcast, checking your emails, et cetera, et cetera, because we're just not as productive. So if you can look at what you can let go of and keep it very simple. And I think also people saying, you haven't returned my phone call,
Starting point is 00:05:20 you haven't done this, you haven't done that. Sometimes it just is what it is. And it's back to the relationship with ourselves to say, okay, how do I actually feel about that? Do I feel guilty about that? Do I care what's important to me? And keeping it simple, the multitasking has gone a bit out of hand, I think.
Starting point is 00:05:35 So I think it's one thing at a time where we can. Okay, washing up, listening to a podcast, that's okay. But we just become too fraught. Our brain can't cope with it. It's too much. Right, there's so much to say about this because then you see other people who are doing, like you say, multitasking,
Starting point is 00:05:51 doing a million things all the time and they seem to be really thriving and managing. And I feel quite stressed by that. And then I feel a failure because I think, well, why can't I do all of that? And I feel as though my brain as you said my brain can't cope with too many tabs being open so is that okay are we saying that actually our brains aren't designed to have too many tabs open and yeah it
Starting point is 00:06:15 can end up just being terribly stressful for us and I think the key word you use is people seem to be hmm so it's like that snapshot people seem to be okay with it there's always a cost so you can go on like that snapshot. People seem to be okay with it. There's always a cost. So you can go on like that for so long, but there will be a fallout to that. There always comes a point where people can't manage or it becomes too much and then they have to reassess. So the people that you're seeing, you just get a snapshot of their life. You don't get there every day, how stressed they might be, how anxious they might be and a lot of people mask. So we all pretend and then they go home and have complete meltdowns.
Starting point is 00:06:47 Tell me a little bit more about when you say people mask. When you've got other people coming into your therapy session, what sort of masking do you see? Well, I suppose it's people going and pretending everything's all right. So they'll go into work and they'll be productive and they'll laugh and they'll smile and they go for drinks. And then they go home and feel deeply, deeply depressed.
Starting point is 00:07:08 And so they're high functioning. So they're doing very well, inverted commas, but actually their sense of meaning, their sense of purpose, their drive for life isn't necessarily there. And a lot of people must, so when they come into therapy at first, they're sort of, how are you?
Starting point is 00:07:22 They're like, I'm great, I'm good. And we do the dance until they say, okay, actually, this is how I really feel. And it takes a bit of time because once the mask slips, people are always worried whether, can I put myself back together again after that's happened? But I think it's really important to sort of clutch onto seem to be, is perception.
Starting point is 00:07:43 What we think people are like, no one is a robot. So people can operate like that for a certain amount of time. But like I said, there's always a fallout. There has to be. I'm really interested in what you're saying about purpose as well, because sometimes I feel as though I'm trying to sort of tick off all the things
Starting point is 00:08:00 that I have to do. And particularly in terms of, as I say, the demands that are on me and I feel as though I'm not necessarily fulfilled personally or that I'm not entirely sure what my purpose is. So again does that make sense? Well that's hugely common. Right. So one of the first things I do is I ask people so what's your inner dialogue with yourself? Like most people say I don't know what you mean and I say well, what do you say to yourself every day when you get up? Do you know what my inner dialogue is? I'm like Christ. Yeah, I've got to fuck. I haven't done that. Oh my god I've got to respond to this email. Shit. I haven't written that script. Oh my god
Starting point is 00:08:40 I've got to do this or I'm worried about I need to find more work because I'm a freelance Yeah, and obviously my industry at the moment as anybody who works in media will know, it's in crisis. So a couple being a freelance with an industry in crisis, there's then that low level anxiety of where I need to get more work, I need to be more driven. And then I sort of think, Oh my God, I've got to do my social media, which I'm, as everybody will know, I'm crap. So yeah, it sort of feels as though we're on this, I'm on this sort of treadmill of trying to do everything, but just not doing it very, very well.
Starting point is 00:09:11 And then sort of going, well, what's the point? And actually what's making me happy? I'm not sure. I mean, what you're saying again, is the to-do list. It's the Tesco list, this, this, this, this, this, this, this. That's not really a dialogue. It's just a list yeah of stuff so if you think about if you met a friend for a coffee or a drink and you just listed at them and
Starting point is 00:09:29 said this is what i'm doing there's no relation there and that's what we do with ourselves so it's having a conversation with yourself and it might sound a bit cheesy but they're like i'm doing well it's okay if i haven't done everything i'm going to do this and then i'll do that and checking in how am i feeling like so it's the anti list So I want you to think about when you're doing that. Oh my god. I've got to do this. I've got to do that It's like I have actually like had a conversation with myself about how I am what I need today What makes me happy? That is very important. Isn't it is what actually makes me or makes us
Starting point is 00:10:02 Happy and are we achieving that every day and a lot of the time I think probably I'm not and maybe there is something Sam about as you say that kind of self-talk because I think sometimes what I'll do is I'll have a chat with my other half and he'll say what have you done today and I'll go well and well I wrote my column and I've really I've not achieved very much today I went for a coffee and I've wrote my column. And so I've really, I've not achieved very much today. I went for a coffee and I've written my column, but I've got so much to do because I'm not on top of my emails
Starting point is 00:10:30 and I haven't been to the gym and I've not done that. So I keep listing what I haven't done rather than going, actually, do you know what? I managed to do this today and that's okay. Yeah, because I suppose again, the tick list will never end. You get to the end, another email comes. You get to the end, another email comes, you get to the end, another thing happens,
Starting point is 00:10:47 where it's sort of a false economy. So we feel like, okay, once I finish this, suppose if you think about your end goal, so what's the end goal? You get everything done and then there's nothing, it just keeps coming. Yeah. So then how do you relate to that?
Starting point is 00:10:59 The end will never be in sight. So we have to find a new way for you to relate to yourself in those moments. And also again, it's about what we have done, not what we haven't, the things we've done right, not the things that we've done wrong, all of those things. If I feel quite chaotic, which never used to be, I don't think, who I was or how I worked, is there something in structuring our lives a bit better than? Do you think we could learn to be more organized or be more structured so that we go,
Starting point is 00:11:28 okay, between nine and 11, I am just focusing on this. And going back to what you were saying about, I'm just doing one task in this block and then I'll move on to that. Time blockers tend to be a bit calmer. So people that time block will say, I'm doing this at this time, this at this. And if it doesn't all go right, that's you can be flexible within that. But it's putting the phone away and just trying to do one thing and say, yeah, nine till 11, I do this, 11 till one, I do that. And again, if it doesn't get a plan, it's not the end of the world. But at least we have a sense of control. So we know what's going on. But if everything's everywhere, we haven't scheduled where we're doing things we feel more chaotic and stressed. And is it okay to say to
Starting point is 00:12:07 people which I frequently do look do you know what I'm so sorry but I've just got I'm spinning too many plates and I'm sorry I've not come back to you I will come back to you is it all right because I end up feeling like I'm just making excuses all the time. Well I suppose what's the alternative if you don't do that it makes us feel better to say look this is going on you're checking in and just letting them know you're on it and that makes us feel better and it makes them feel better. So I think that's fine and I think we've forgotten like we're all people we're all humans we all struggle it's okay. And we all do things differently
Starting point is 00:12:39 exactly because sometimes with some people that I know they'll sort of go you know you're always really late or you haven't done this and And I just sort of think to myself, well, I'm not you. Yeah. So and that's okay. Yeah. And that comes down to, I suppose, how happy we are within ourselves. Yeah. How we do things, what works for us, our morning routine, our evening routine. And I think there's a huge drive for everyone to do this, this and this to be optimum. And it doesn't work because we are all different, as you've just said. And I'm a huge fan of, okay, like if we look at the morning routine, the plunge,
Starting point is 00:13:10 the this, the that, people are so overwhelmed with it. It's just too much. You have to make it work for you. So when someone says you're always and even that always, well, sometimes maybe. I was going to say, always, always, or sometimes, as you say, occasionally. Yeah. Always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always,
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Starting point is 00:13:35 always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, always, knocking down your goals. No pressure to be who you're not, just workouts and classes to strengthen who you are. So no matter your era, make it your best with Peloton. Find your push, find your power. Peloton. It's quite odd because I sort of sailed through the pandemic and I've sort of been spat out the other side and suddenly I found weirdly sort of a few years later 2024 2024, really, really difficult. I think that like all of us, the war in Europe, you know, really unstable politics, cost a living crisis, changes in my industry, as I've mentioned, family problems, my dad's very sick.
Starting point is 00:14:40 I found it a really difficult year, but me feeling sort of bleak and a bit depressed and a bit pessimistic just isn't helping anybody at all, least of all me. And I often look at people who are optimistic and sort of glass half full. And I think I want to be you. I want to be like that. Now I know this is with the caveat of you know I know that with my training we can change our mindset yeah and we can become more positive people but I want to hear it from you can we? Absolutely and I think you know part of that is genetic so the people that are sort of glass half full tend to have always been like that and the people glassed half empty again it's nature nurture yeah but if we look at I, what's going on in your life and why you're feeling bleak and how you're positioning it, I suppose the lens that you're seeing it through,
Starting point is 00:15:31 most people will say, as you've said, always, it's always like this. And if I say, is it always like that? They'll say no. And just even just shifting of the lens. But if you look at sort of the research on positive psychology, which can get a bit of a bad reputation,
Starting point is 00:15:46 it's not about being fakily happy all the time, that is not what it is. The first pillar is positive emotions, how do we cultivate that? But that's kind of like pleasure, a glass of wine, going out, going for a walk, having a chat with a friend, those things can fill our cup, but it doesn't last long. And more hedonistic things also,
Starting point is 00:16:03 so if we go and we have a lovely dinner, or maybe we drink too much or we eat too much pleasure Okay, so that's the first one. The second one is our emotional regulation How do we emotionally connect with people our relationships? So we're getting a bit deeper Do we have friendships that are meaningful? Who do we go to if we're upset? So the first one is I go Okay, what do you do in your life that creates pleasure or positive emotion? Okay, I'm going to do a tick list with you because this is my therapy session. The first one is pleasure.
Starting point is 00:16:31 I'm really good at pleasure. Yeah. Okay, so hands up. I eat too much, I drink too much. I'm well up for going out and going for it. Yeah. So pleasure, tick. Tick.
Starting point is 00:16:42 How long does it last? A night. Okay. Well, I mean does it last? A night. Okay. Well, I mean, it depends what we do. If we're going sort of, we're going out to the pub and we're going for it, then yeah, no, I'm up for that. And how long I suppose does the feeling last for you,
Starting point is 00:16:55 that up feeling? While I'm with my mates and we're doing it. Okay, and then when you come home, it's gone? Yeah. Okay. I think so. So that's the first one. And I'll tell you something interesting about the research. So this is all developed from Martin
Starting point is 00:17:09 Seligman and he's an amazing guy that's done so much research on well-being, on positive emotions, etc. and the good life. What creates a good life for people? Yeah, what does create a good life? So that's the top tier, the second tier, okay. So it's called PERMA. First one, positive emotion. Second one, engagement or flow. So engagement or flow, when we're in an activity and time just goes and we don't even know that the time's gone. Surgeons talk about it, musicians talk about it, artistic people talk about it.
Starting point is 00:17:36 So how much in your life do you feel like you're in flow? Do you know what, I don't think I do often feel like I'm in flow unless I'm out sort of walking Where I can go into that sort of trance state that effectively we're talking about a flow, but you're right I don't think I have enough of that creative Mindfulness in a way in my life I think that's a really good point and something attached to that is what's your personal individual strengths So how what are the things that you think,
Starting point is 00:18:05 and it's not about skills, this is not skills-based. It's I'm trustworthy. I've got zero skills, genuinely zero skills. I'm a good friend, I'm funny, I'm interesting. What are those sort of values that we align with ourselves that can attach itself to engagement? So when we align our strengths with, let's say a job, we're happier.
Starting point is 00:18:24 So if we think, oh, I'm a really sociable person and we somehow take that into our work or we somehow take it into something that we're not enjoying, we start to enjoy it more because it's part of, I suppose, how we think we are, who we are. So I suppose if I ask you that, what do you think one of your signature strengths might be?
Starting point is 00:18:42 I think I'm quite jolly. I'm up for a laugh and I really like being around people so Yeah, definitely. I'm interested in people. I like people. I'm interested in them. I'm chatting I'm curious and I like to be around a team of people for sure So the more you do that, yeah, the happier you will be. Yes for sure. So that's engagement the third one P er Relationships. Yes, how would. So that's engagement. The third one, P-E-R, relationships. How would you rate your relationships? How strong would you say your connections with people are?
Starting point is 00:19:10 Well, I suppose it depends what you mean by which ones we're talking about. I suppose, interestingly, it would be what comes to mind first for you. Oh, without me. When I say that, when I say, how do you feel about your relationships in your life? Yeah, first thing, I suppose it would be my other half and my friends. And I've got a great relationship with my other half. I've got a really good, I hope, good relationships with my friends. They're very important to me.
Starting point is 00:19:38 I think my my family relationships leave me a little bit sad. There's difficulty within that. I miss them. I don't see them very often. I haven't got my own family. So that is, I think, a bit of a black hole for me. And what about the relationship you have with yourself? Often people miss that one out. That's why it's the relationship you with you. How would you say? And again, it's a bit of a obscure question. But how do you feel when you are with your own self, when you're in your own company again that dialogue
Starting point is 00:20:06 Do you would you say it's healthy? Would you say you struggle being by yourself? What's your relationship? That's a really that's a really good question And I'm sure that people listening as well will be wondering that and I hope that all the girls in the studio be sort of Trying to you know, what is your relationship with yourself? I think I'm ace I you know, what is your relationship with yourself? I think I'm ace. I think that I'd be a really good friend. If I was a friend to me, I think I'd be a really good friend and I think I'm a really good partner. But I don't like being alone. I have a huge fear of loneliness, morbid, mortal fear of loneliness. So I can sometimes wake up and check in with myself and feel a huge sadness that you know I haven't got my family or my friends around me. I was brought up in a boarding school
Starting point is 00:20:56 and in a vicarage so I feel you know a little bit of loneliness I think but other than that I think I've probably got maybe I'm a bit too harsh with myself. Perhaps there is too much critical thinking. But if I really dig down, I think I'm brilliant. Yeah, great. I think that sense of self of, again, it sounds cheesy, but to love oneself, to know what we bring is so important. And in those moments where you do feel lonely,
Starting point is 00:21:20 to say, it's okay, this is part of the human condition. This is part of being a human. We're not good at that, are we? Yeah, no. And it's like, this is part of the human condition. This is part of being a human. And you know that, are we? Yeah, no. And it's like that self-sooth, that sort of, that voice, that nurturing voice, we wanna hear that and say, okay, well, if I feel lonely, I'm gonna go out
Starting point is 00:21:33 and meet a mate. It doesn't have to be too intense. We don't have to sit in it all the time. We can just go and do something about it. So recognize, feel a bit lonely, feel a bit low. Actually, I'm gonna go now go nurture myself. Exactly. First of all, what's your pleasure?
Starting point is 00:21:45 Pleasure, positivity. Then you've got engagement or flow. That's a really important one that people tend to miss out. Then we've got relationships. This, the next one, meaning is huge. Meaning and purpose is the next one. This is the one, if you don't have meaning and purpose
Starting point is 00:22:02 and you don't have engagement, again, the research supports that the positive emotions at the top make no difference So you could be going out you could be drinking you could be having fun and it falls flat Because it's not digging deep enough the meaning and purpose and engagement need to be there And I suppose the caveat to that is positive emotions. So those two need to be the sort of strong pillars Yeah, everybody says the same thing. What does my life mean? Why am I even doing this? I don't even like this.
Starting point is 00:22:27 Most people get to sort of midlife and they're like, what is going on here? And then when that happens, people don't feel positive, people don't feel happy. So it's like, okay, we need to know, you know, hashtag why. Why am I doing this? Meaning is huge. You know when you're a kid and you do something
Starting point is 00:22:42 and you don't really think about it that much, but you're just really happy? It's kind of that feeling that we're how do you find out? We're not the thing I think you need to do lots of things I think putting yourself in different situations where you're uncomfortable is also good out of your comfort zone Just doing stuff that's new because we're all in our own like routine. You just do the same thing We know what we're doing. You're right putting ourselves into into situations where there's discomfort is really important. Otherwise we feel stagnant and we need to grow. When there's growth there's meaning and growth is sometimes deeply uncomfortable and not pleasant but we just feel better
Starting point is 00:23:16 knowing that we're doing it. So anything new, anything different, anything where we feel uncomfortable, that's great. I can really relate to that and I'm just thinking that you know for you I'm looking at you thinking I wonder what your meaning is but you're a psychotherapist so you are every day helping people plus the fact you've got your other half you've got your children so you've got a huge amount of fulfillment going on there and the fact you are making a difference to people's lives so I think that's something that drives me is I want to make a difference. So it's the question mark over how do I do that? I mean, you've just hit the nail on the head, meaning when we're doing something bigger than ourselves,
Starting point is 00:23:51 when it's not just for us, we need that. Why am I doing this? Not just for me, not just for, you know, to take, not for consumerism, to give, those people are happier. So it means this, I'm doing this for the greater good, again, as cheesy as it might sound, that'm doing this for the greater good. Again, as cheesy as it might sound, that's what creates a sense of, okay, purpose, drive, and it pushes us, it keeps us going when we are feeling low. At the top level of positive emotions, that can fall away.
Starting point is 00:24:16 If we feel like what we're doing is meaningful, even when we're feeling a bit low, we'll keep going. Absolutely. I suppose we forget often, don't we to to actually have that kind of community engagement and meaning or religious meaning. So I often see that the people around me who are happiest either have a really strong philosophy or faith or belief or they're very engaged within the community. So that is an interesting lesson for me I think that perhaps we focus too much on on work and trying to find meaning within that. Whereas actually you could look outside of it and how can you give back maybe within the community and the bigger picture. So zooming out. So we've got our everyday
Starting point is 00:24:57 and we're doing it. We're doing this, that and the other. We're running around on the tube, going to work, coming back, but zooming out, we need to know why we're doing it. And often we forget that and then something hits us and we think, well, what is this about for me? Yeah. And so the zooming out, I think, can be so helpful. So we know again why we're doing things. Community.
Starting point is 00:25:14 We have a laugh with someone. We connect with someone and connect with ourselves. Like you say, those people just happier generally. Generally. down your goals. No pressure to be who you're not. Just workouts and classes to strengthen who you are. So no matter your era, make it your best with Peloton. Find your push. Find your power. Peloton. Visit Peloton at OnePeloton.ca. And so is there an A at the end? You said it's called the perm structure. There is. It's accomplishment or achievements. So those again can be a bit surface. So what have I achieved? What am I good at? What are the things that I think today and again, if today we're feeling low and we go out and we go to the shops and we do what we said
Starting point is 00:26:22 we're going to do, that's an achievement. So to actually, as you said at the start, to count what we do do, not look at all of the things that we haven't done. That we haven't achieved. Exactly. So if you use that model and you don't have to go through all of them all of the time, but we can connect to something in a way that's structured and we can actually say, actually I did a good job today, even if I just did one thing, we don't have to multitask and do everything all of the time. We can't. so we do one thing at a time and it good
Starting point is 00:26:47 enough is also good enough doesn't have to be perfect. I love that. Sam thank you so much thank you for my unofficial therapy session. I'm gonna be thinking about Perma all night long. It's given me a lot to think about a lot to reflect on as well a lot to take action on I think for 2025 I would like to have more meaning and purpose in my life and you know I really hope that it's been helpful for anybody else listening who may have been nodding along to that as well. So please let me know, let me know if you have. Sam before you go, what one piece of advice would you give to somebody who may be worried perhaps about the new year or about their life as they gaze into the endless void of the years spanning out ahead of them?
Starting point is 00:27:32 I mean, yeah, this is I'm not a fan of New Year's resolutions. I think it puts too much pressure on people. And I think going into January, it's just another month. It's just another month. Every day is a new opportunity. You can change your life anytime you want. It doesn't have to be in January. The pressure is too much. Take the pressure off. That's so true though, isn't it? I think we often forget you can change your life anytime. Yeah. Thank you.
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