I've Had It - Another Day, Another Dumbass
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Blacktriots, and Browntriots. Welcome to America's Top DEI Podcast. I'm hosted by these two
broads and just fighting through the good fight and Trump's America pumps. What have you had it
with? Okay, what I've had it with, and I know we've talked about it before, but it's been a while
and it deserves a retouch. I cannot stand it when people send me a text to my phone
that I know and they begin it with Angie and then they write what they're going to write
and then they sign their names.
I know exactly who just did this to you. It's your ex-husband.
Yes, he does it all the time.
He's the worst.
And I'm like, I have your number in my phone. First of
all, if I'm receiving the text, I'm pretty sure I know I'm Angie. And I don't need your signature
on a text message. I find it so ridiculous that you're going to text somebody. That'd be like,
every time I texted you, Jennifer. Well, I'm texting your number, so you should be the recipient.
And my people, we have caller ID.
We know who's texting us.
If not, there's no name.
It just goes all through me.
I just feel like it's one more grandstand unnecessary,
had it.
This, the initialing and signing the text,
I think it's, there's a layer of narcissism to that.
I, because the people that I know that do it kind of have those issues,
but I'm just like, MFR, your number is saved into my phone.
So when you text me, I already know exactly what your initials are.
I know what your phone number is. Like it's so ridiculous,
the signing of the text,
but I knew immediately when you said that,
because even, this should provide you
just a small bit of comfort.
The torture that your ex-husband extols onto you
with his over-the-top ridiculous formal text messaging
as though he were writing a personal business letter.
Right.
He does that to everybody.
Right, I'm not special.
When I have received texts from him, it is the same formality of bullshit. It is just ridiculous. And I have
to admit, there's something angering about receiving that. Because it's like when you're
in a text, it's about the most informal form of communication that there can be. Gen Z
doesn't even capitalize letters, use punctuation, anything.
Like they've let all of that go. So when somebody enters into that communication
genre and wants to use, you know, dear Angie, comma, space, space, you know, tab
over. I was just talking to the kids and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, and then goes
down, create some more spaces and signs with his initials. That is the kind of shit you want to take the person's cell phone to the highest skyscraper
you possibly can and throw it off and have it like weighted, you know, like a hundred
pound weight to ensure that it smashes everything, the SIM card and all.
Into a hundred thousand million pieces.
Hate it.
I think you're right about the narcissism.
I'm going to be on the lookout. I do. I think that when right about the narcissism. I'm gonna be on the lookout.
I do. I think that when people sign, and then you also see the saying like when people sign
their like on their Instagram accounts, like initial their description of the photograph,
they put their initials on it. And I'm just like, stop it. You are not the Princess of
Wales because that's what like Kensington Palace official William and
Kate Princess and Prince of Wales, when they actually write it, they sign their names.
Bitch, you are not that.
Well, and even that, it's kind of over the top.
Even that's over the top.
I mean, we don't give a shit if it's your proxy or if it's you.
I just, it's your account.
So let's just keep it at that. You own the account
because your pictures on it. So you put something on there. We're all just going to assume you be
responsible for all this stuff you do. And then what is it? Why are you poo poo in the other
messages that are done under your account? That's what I was wondering on the princess and prince of
Wales. You know what I mean? Like that's just that's I think that's so over the top. But of course, I mean, of course, this is like the bullshit royal family, right? You know, but
anyway, I'll tell you what I've had it with. Okay, pap smears. Yeah. So you know, I had to go to the
OBGYN today and I go every year dutifully. And I just thought as I'm sitting there talking to my doctor, and she was telling me how awful
it is being in the healthcare industry right now, that people are now more crazy and frenetic
than they were during COVID, you know, just the lambasting of expertise.
So I have a couple things I want to address on this.
Number one, I want to tell everybody to be kind
to your doctors and healthcare providers,
unless those doctors and healthcare providers
voted for Trump, and then Trump appointed RFK Jr.
And I think that RFK Jr. should be personally responsible for treating Donald Trump and all of his many, many dementia and cholesterol and other issues that he has going on. That's number one. a little tiny like miniature little q-tip with a little pipe cleaner on the end of it.
And once a year these men go in for a penis smear and it just goes down into the little
pee pee hole, scrapes around like they do your pap smear.
You got to do it annually, you know, your screening and then ship it off.
And then I want an all female government, you know, pretty much predominantly female
government, to then start telling them what they can and cannot do with their dicks.
Right.
That's my fantasy dream right now.
I would just even start, I mean, I would think that I would feel a little bit better if no
erectile dysfunction meds were given out, because that, to me, seems like they're messing
in reproductive healthcare.
Well, and it also is gender-affirming care.
It's gender-affirming care, so you don't get to have it.
These limp dicks with their gender-affirming care,
I think now we know all the projection
about all the trans issue is because they do
gender-affirming care.
Right, because they can't get a hard dick.
Right.
And so, I mean, let's start there because I promise you if women were in charge, this
would not be an issue because they understand different situations and are not so fucking
crazy.
But here's the thing.
I just feel like they get away with everything.
I mean, we're advertising erectile dysfunction meds, every other commercial.
You can send them to your house in a disguised box. I want all the boxes to say limp dick.
Joe has a soft penis. That's why he's getting this box because he sucks in the bedroom.
That's where I want to start. I want that would be law number one in our all female government.
It would be Donald J. Maybe Donald T. has a small penis and hasn't had an erection in
10 years.
So we thought we'd send him this as big as possible on the box to 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue.
I would love that.
Or like you're at the pharmacy and they're like,
Donald T, your limp dick medicine is ready.
Please come pick it up at the pharmacy.
Wouldn't that be great?
Yeah.
That would be great.
Yeah, I also, I just, while we're on this subject,
I would like to make a law in our imaginary government.
Okay.
Okay, which would be petty and stuff.
So our imaginary boss bitch government, which would be petty and stuff. So our imaginary boss bitch government,
I would mandate a law that every person that voted, whether they're still in office or not,
this would be by law. Every person that voted for anti-gay, anti-trans, anti-woman, anti-abortion,
anti-child, blah, blah. Any person that voted against that stuff,
your Google search history has to be made public record
into a domain called the Asshole Island hit list.
And so we can start with like Lindsey Graham.
What porn sites have we been on?
When did he exit out of the video?
So we can then go back in and see what was the money shot
for Lindsay?
What was it?
What was he seeing?
Ooh, I like that.
Mike Johnson.
Oh, yeah.
I guess we could also just text his teenage son
and get those documents ourselves.
Yeah, we could get those from him.
But JD Vance, I want to know what
is on the search history of these people. I just do.
Well, because I think it's a window into their souls.
It's a window into their hypocrisy.
Well, yeah. Which they have no soul. So that was a bad choice of words.
But, you know, they just tempt us with Crash and Grindr twice during the Republican National Convention.
So we know it's on there. It's coming. And they're all
just the grossest. I'm trying to think of some other laws that I want to do. That's
a great idea. Our imaginary kingdom. So you know, you know that drag queen we've had her
on the podcast, Katya? Yeah. Okay, so she trolls this shit out of Lindsey Graham all
the time on Twitter. I mean, just relentlessly just trolls the
shit out of this guy. And I've got to find this one that she tweeted to him because I
mean, I spent my water across the room. Oh, please tell me she didn't delete it. Oh, let
me find it. Okay, here it is. Here it is right here. So Lindsey Graham, this is, uh, he tweets on June 12th, game on, pray for Israel.
Katya, the drag queen from her verified account,
responds with comment, life is not a joke and war is not a game,
but you clearly don't give a shit about public service or human life.
You're nothing but an abhorrent Zionist, death
cult-charing, soulless ghoul. Just quit politics and focus on something you really love, like,
oh, I don't know, maybe sucking dick after dick in public bathroom, you despicable, closeted, No notes. I mean, absolute hashtag goals.
Right.
I mean, that is like, that popped up and I was just like, I remember when we had her on, I was like, Oh my God, this is a very, very, very smart drag queen.
Very smart human being.
And like, we're just, it was such a great episode.
This was like when we were baby podcasters.
And so shout out to Katya because she just came on.
I mean, we didn't have that big of a following yet
just to support other people in the industry
because she's a podcaster as well with Trixie.
Trixie, who came on was great.
Who both came on.
So of course I start following her on Twitter
and I mainly get on Twitter to look for, you know, subjects for the podcast and I don't actively tweet.
Well Katya does.
She fucking dismantled Lady Graham.
I mean that is, that is, I mean, that is a homicide.
Right.
911.
Welcome to I've Had It.
I'm Jennifer.
I'm Angie, HBIC.
And I really like that the beaver is picking
up steam. Kylie, how are you today? I've got some reviews for you today. The first one is a hate
comment. It's one star titled No, I've Had It and Socialite writes, these hosts are incredibly out
there with their views. How anyone can listen to this nonsense is beyond me. No thanks.
reviews. How anyone can listen to this nonsense is beyond me. No thanks. Well, here's the deal. Thank you for the review. That helps us.
Exactly. I just, again, I'm just, I say this all the time, but I'm just flattered that
somebody takes the time and the care to go find where to write the review on something
that you don't like. I don't have that enough passion in my hatred for things
to take it over the finish line about some random podcast that two old broads like you
and me are on. I mean, that's just like a point for us in my opinion.
I completely agree.
Okay, next.
Okay, next we've got five stars titled Here's the Thing. And David writes, these unhinged
ladies, one much younger than the other,
have been infiltrating my algorithms for months
and I finally jumped in.
They are quickly becoming my favorite
new parasocial mommies.
I'm 36.
They may be unhinged, judgmental, and foul-mouthed,
but in addition to these positive qualities,
they're also extremely correct about everything.
I love when they say, here's the deal, here's the thing,
or let me ask you this, because I know a real banger,
petty or otherwise, is about to be said.
I think that's so true.
Well, yeah, I loved it when Pumps and I
are diving into something.
I love to ask her, you know, like a fuck, marry, kill,
or what she would do in a situation,
because she takes the question very earnestly
and seriously and she wants to like, okay, well, let me think about that.
Yeah.
Like if it's a fuck Mary Kill of Donald Trump, Elon Musk and Ted Cruz.
I mean, it's a painful.
I'm tortured by it.
But you really scout the question and give a very recent answer to such a diabolical ask that I
ask of you and I get so much joy out of it. Well here's the thing, as crazy as it seems,
I kind of dig it. Like I'm like, I kind of like going through all the patterns.
Sado masochism. Okay.
Kylie, how are the lesbians doing? They're good. They're all moving out of Oklahoma as they should.
I think Ana and I are gonna be the last left here.
God, so all the lesbians are moving.
Yeah, the gays are fleeing.
I can't blame them.
This is a hostile state to women
and it's a hostile state to the LGBTQ plus community.
It's just a very archaic nut job.
It's religious psychos everywhere, everywhere.
But listener, I wanna tell you,
like in Oklahoma City, it's purple.
Like when we have liberal friends
and they are diehard liberals,
when you have a blue dot that lives in a red state,
they are so fiercely liberal
because they've had to fight for that liberalism. And those are some of the best liberals in the country, in my opinion.
No, I agree. Okay. I have some news stories I'd like to share with the class. First one,
eight signs you're probably an extroverted introvert. And I totally think I am this.
Sign number one, certain people drain you while others energize you.
Ding ding ding.
Number two, you find people both intriguing and exhausting.
I, it's a hundred percent I do both of those.
Number three, you love being alone but appreciate good company.
A hundred percent.
I can do that one.
The other two, I'm just an introvert, okay.
Number four, your energy levels are closely tied
to your environment.
That's 100% true for me.
Yeah, same.
Number five, you would rather say what's on your mind
than make small talk.
And this is the biggest one for me.
I would much rather have a conversation of substance than sit around and feign small talk.
I'm not very good at it. I don't like it. It doesn't have any deeper meaning for me.
My brain just starts wandering off immediately when I have to engage in small talk.
Yeah, and that's going to get worse as you get older. And you're going to get to where I am,
which is it's not that I wanna talk about
what's on my mind, I just don't wanna talk, period.
See, I find this so fascinating
because when I'm out with you,
it's the contrary to what you say on the pod.
Yeah, but I don't go out very much.
How many times do you see me out in a month?
Maybe once.
I've seen you out trolling around all these NBA games.
Well, I mean, that's different.
I've seen you all hookered up,
running around the Paycon arena.
That's different.
Oh, I did take a picture and I looked at it and I thought, I do look like a corpse with
lipstick.
Didn't somebody say that on the pod?
You do not.
No, I thought I did it in the picture.
I think you look fabulous.
No, I'm not doing it for that, but I'm just like, oh, they might've had a point.
But so far, I think I'm just more of an introvert introvert.
Okay, go on.
You enjoy socializing, but always have an escape plan.
That's both of us to a T.
Yeah. Socializing but always have an escape plan. That's both of us to a T. Yeah
You are selective with your people and your social calendar That's a hundred true. I'm totally that and number eight people often mistake you for an extrovert true
Yeah, a hundred percent true at the core
It's funny because I'll get invited to stuff and I notice like people are so excited to invite me
because I'll get invited to stuff and I notice like people are so excited to invite me like they're excited about the event. And I perceive the invitation as as like a living breathing
resentment. I agree that it's just been delivered to me whether it is. This is so bad. So our
friend Brad, one of my dearest friends of 30 years, Brad's birthday party invitation came out
and it was texted and it was like a paperless post
and we're gonna be in Italy in September
and he and I said, okay, we'll celebrate your birthday then,
but his official birthday's in October
and the birthday party is gonna be in Arizona in October.
We already had the conversation
about celebrating the birthday in September.
So I get the paperless post and I immediately respond, decline, and just cleared it from
my plate.
Like it never happened.
So Brad and I were at the march, the No Kings march, and as we're marching along he goes,
you sure did decline my birthday party invitation really quickly. I go, well we're doing it
in Italy. He goes, yeah, we're doing it in Italy.
And he goes, yeah, I know, but can't you do both?
We've been friends for 30 years.
I'm like, then I kind of start to feel bad, but Brad, if you're listening,
I think Italy's sufficient.
I think it's plenty.
I think it's a math.
I love Brad.
He's like one of my favorite, favorite people on the planet.
He's so good and nice and bitchy and catty and all of the stuff that encompasses a person
that I like. Like the other day when we went to the march, he was bossing me around left and right,
just criticizing my driving. I loved it. Loved it. Loved every second of it. So anyway, Kylie,
are you an introverted extrovert? I think I'm becoming one. I think I used to be just a full
on extrovert. Are we making
you worse? I do think it's you guys. Okay, let me ask you if you think it's this. We have to talk so
much in these jobs that I've noticed like when I did interior design full time, I had a lot more
serenity. Number one, I wasn't talking about Trump and I was creating things. But a lot of that work is done in solitude.
It's me grinding, working,
putting together different things.
And there was a real satisfaction
and sense of accomplishment that I had in that,
that was just tied to me.
And then when I get into this job,
it's so interconnected. It feels
like oftentimes, like when I'm done with this, I don't want to talk to anybody. That's how I feel.
Like sometimes since my kids are at home right now though, and I'm like, I'm just going in my room. I
don't want to talk. I'm just done talking for today. I've talked enough. Do you think that's
it, Kylie? I do. And I also think the politics plays a side to it.
Like what we talk about all day and what we read all day, I go home and I'm like, nobody
fucking talk to me.
Don't talk to me about politics.
I'm sorry.
Like it just kind of fries your brain a little.
And it's heavy.
Yeah, it does.
Yeah.
It's really like the shit.
I think the hardest thing for me is knowing that we live around so many goddamn
horrific people.
That's the hardest part.
Like Trump being a piece of shit, being a fascist, being an authoritarian, any person
that's even taken any history class, this happens.
People want to do this.
The enabling of people within the United States to do it and to triple down on that.
That's the part that is the grossest for me.
And then on a state level, the grossest thing for me is out of all 50 states, the state
that's ranked dead last for women's wellbeing is Oklahoma.
If I'm the governor of this state, I would make that something that I would address, something
that I would say we have to improve this because you cannot on the one token say we support
families, we support kids, we support mothers, we're so pro-family, we're a big Jesus state
and we just value family while at the same time do nothing about being ranked dead last
in women's well-being. This is not a safe space for women.
That type of contradiction, that type of hypocrisy, and that type of moral duplicity is where
democracy dies.
Nobody fucking holds his man accountable.
Nobody.
Of course, he didn't win Oklahoma City.
To those of you listening, everybody in the city hates him and he even quit campaigning
in the city. He just had even quit campaigning in the city and
he just had to go out and get his votes in rural America. But just knowing all the hypocrites
around in Oklahoma, there's just something that Trump exposed in them that just is so
unsettling for me. And I know that y'all feel it. I know that listeners out there feel it
like you go to a store and you see somebody walk in that looks kind of
Trumpy and it just kind of makes your stomach turn. Yeah, it makes me like
Heartbeat goes up like I'm angry kind of but I look at Republican like when you're describing it's
Republicans were so pro-life yet
We're gonna do nothing about guns nothing about child care nothing about social safety net after a child is born only thing thing we're going to do is tell women what they should do with their bodies.
Like the hypocrisy is Republican play 101. Stitt, I mean, I've never been a fan,
but he lost me as a lame duck when he didn't come out. He has not come out against any of the shit
from the state superintendent that is making people dumber every single day in this state.
You know why? Because he didn't give a shit. get from the state superintendent that is making people dumber every single day in this state.
You know why?
Because he didn't give a shit.
He believes it.
He believes it.
He just wishes Ryan was a little less crazy about it, unless I'm talking about Ryan Walters.
They believe it.
If you went and interviewed people that went to that crazy Christian school, or the people
that go to that Crossings Christian Church, or Live Church, crazy Christian school, or the people that go to
that Crossings Christian Church, or Live Church, or your parents, or all of these Christians
around here. And you ask them, item by item, all the stuff that Ryan Walters—do you believe
this? Do you believe this?—they would have 100% agreement with him. Evangelical Christians
believe that. The reason Stitt hasn't stood up against that is because he believes it and this electorate believes it.
Ryan Walters is just a little bit unhinged about it. But the core tenets of everything he says, they believe.
God damn, Crossings Christian School, Oklahoma, where does the governor send his?
Oklahoma Christian School.
Listen up, listener. These schools make you sign a document saying that marriage is to
only be between a man and a woman. That is one of their core tenets that they want kids
to value. Bigotry. So what Ryan Walter says is not that big of an aberration from that.
I guess you're right.
They believe it. They believe it. You know I'm right because you grew up in this.
I know, but it it's been so mad, but that's why your story pumps is so valuable
And you should talk to the people
At that old Christian school. Yeah, I mean you could make change on a person-to-person basis
Well, I have on the people that I like but I had a really small group there. Anyway, yeah
I wasn't very popular which is hard to imagine. I know I also want on Jen, your original point, we all went to the No Kings protest recently
and it made me tear up a lot just being reminded that there are that many people around us
in Oklahoma because it doesn't feel like it at all. And so going to stuff like that,
finding people like that, I think that'll help people a lot.
Well, and I think it's important, you know, we bat, we rag on these red states, but at
the core of the moral compass in all of these red states, there are really good open-minded
people that care for the people who can't vote for everybody else. And, you know, you
have the really cruel people in these states, and I feel it when I go in places and I see it.
Like you can just see, you can see the MAGA on people and you know that like how quickly
they are to dismiss and to humanize somebody that's an immigrant. But then they're, you
know, at church every Wednesday and Sunday, every time the door is open, they have no
problem exploiting somebody and paying them cheap labor as long as it benefits them.
But then it's all praise Jesus.
Right.
Let's go give the pastor 10% of our money so he can buy jet fuel for his PJ.
So yeah, it's a really hard time to be American, but especially you guys, especially for the
blue dots and red states, especially for them because the state governments and then the
population, they don't, because the state governments and then the population,
they don't, they only care about literally, I think the Christians I know, like the evangelicals
in the state, and I think Pumps and Kylie can confirm this. It's like their personal
families may be one degree of separation and that's it. There is not love for humanity
and the betterment of people.
No, betterment of self.
Yeah.
Pumps and I need to share with everybody that we have written a book. It's called Life is
a Lazy Susan of shit sandwiches. And believe it or not, Pumps and I have not always been
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I have gotten so much feedback regarding the book that because of my situation
with the religion and addiction and all that, that people relate to that.
So I do think there's something to take away that's comforting about it because
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money. This tradition, rooted in Japan's post-war economic culture,
is based on the belief that women are better financial managers. Husbands typically receive
modest allowances and must budget carefully for social outings, hobbies, and lunch money.
Many see it as a form of trust and teamwork within the family. While this practice is
slowly declining among younger couples, it still reflects a unique cultural approach to money,
responsibility, and family dynamics. It has sparked interest and debate worldwide for
its contrast to Western financial norms." I just want to go back to the closing part
of the first sentence, based on the belief that women are better financial
managers.
Well, I think really when it gets right down to it, women are really good at business,
but you just see men in business. Women are just as good at numbers and everything else.
So I go Japan. I'm all for it. I know. I think it's really cool. You know, to think that
there's cultures that like embrace women and prop women up. Like I think Iceland is really,
really good at this. I've read some articles about it. But the patriarchal norms, I think
that's what we're up against right now. You talk about this a lot, Pumps, that they're
just like clinging on. It's like their're last. Like we're not going to let these
people have it. So they're just, you know, it's like kitchen sink right now with MAGA. They're
just, they just keep slugging at everybody. Yeah. And I also think religion plays a big part in that
because Christianity is patriarchal. I mean, from jump, but I just will, I just feel like I have to
say this even though nobody cares about what I'm about to say, but it's going to make me
feel better. Having done divorce law for all my life, I just think it's a really bad thing
when one person has financial power over the other, regardless of sex, in terms of it so
easily can become abusive. That's
just my PSA.
I think you're 100% right. I think one of the biggest things for all of the young parents
out there that happen to listen to our pod is this whole idea that we're taught is that
marriage, everything is joint. We share everything. It's a really bad idea.
It's a bad idea. It's a really bad idea. Have your own money. Are there shared expenses
and shared property? Sure. But it's just generally a bad idea, I think, to merge all money. And
then these MAGA people listen to this podcast and be like, those men haters, they want the women controlling all the money.
I ain't letting my woman control my money.
Right. My wife's not going to control my money.
Gross. You fucking suck.
Yeah.
Okay. I have some voice memos today.
Excellent. I feel like it's been a while.
I know. I came across this girl named Em.
She sends so many and they're so good. I'm going to play been a while. I know. I came across this girl named Em. She sends so many and they're so good. I'm gonna play two of hers.
All right.
Okay, we're gonna start with this one.
I've had it with people saying, you're the best.
Bitch, I know you've said the same thing to 10 other people today, yesterday, and you're gonna do the same tomorrow.
No, the word best is a superlative adjective. It is reserved
for one person, one thing only say what you mean and me when you say I'm mediocre. I'm
average. You appreciate the thing that I'm doing for you that you didn't want to do for
yourself. Let's please reserve the word best to describe our ladies at the I've had it
podcast. Seriously. Love y'all so much. Thank you for making me laugh during
these crazy times. Crazy times. I'm guilty. Me too. I'm guilty. But I'm guilty too. I'm
guilty too. I don't just say it like I just wouldn't, you know, text it to somebody out
of the clear blue sky. Typically when I do it, it's like I'm feeling
extremely affectionate and I really like that person at that time and I'll be like, you're
the best.
I feel like in order for me to use that, I have to feel like somebody really did me a
solid.
I agree.
I have to feel, I wouldn't just arbitrarily throw it out in conversation. I have to feel like for me to say that typically,
and I typically don't ask people for favors, I hate people paying for anything of mine.
Like I always want to pay my own way. So if I ask somebody to do something for me,
that's outside of my comfort zone. But from time to time, we have to ask people to do some. So if
I ask somebody to do something for me, help me with something and they do,
then I respond with, you're the best
because I genuinely mean it
because I am a very self-contained woman.
I pay for my own shit.
I hate it when anybody pays for anything for me.
If somebody bought me something three or four months ago, it will hover in the corner of
my brain that I need to reconcile that and I need to make it right.
Or if somebody does me a huge favor, it still sits there that I need to do something to
like repay that.
So if somebody does something for me and I throw out, you're the best, I genuinely mean
it.
That's how I feel like I do.
I genuinely mean it when I text it, but I might text like one of my kids, you're the best, I genuinely mean it. That's how I feel like I do. I genuinely mean it when I text it, but I might text like one of my kids, you're the best,
because they did something I liked.
I don't think I give it to the kids.
Sometimes that's just how I end a conversation.
Are you, you're the best abuser?
Yeah, I kind of do, but I genuinely feel it
when I do it most of the time. Most of the time.
And would you say some of the times that you don't would be your children?
Yeah, but sometimes it's like, if they do something that like they would never do and
it takes something off my plate and it's unexpected, then I will genuinely be like, Oh my gosh,
you're the best because I came home and your shit wasn't everywhere and you unloaded the
other dishwasher. We don't have to fight over who's kept and who has to put it in. She's
just done like that kind of thing. In the moment, I just makes me so happy that I'll
say you're the best to my kids.
Kylie, do you use this? You're the best.
I think so. I just think it's nice, you know, but I do think it gets abused.
I disagree with her, but I am guilty. I think she has a good point, but I am also an offender.
But I will say that when I use this, I it is reserved in the moment. It is reserved for
somebody who did me a solid right. Like somebody passing me the popcorn. I'm not going to say you're
the best, but somebody going to the top of the arena and bringing it back and surprising me with it and
saying, no, I got it. Like that's in that moment. Like that's the best.
Okay. Up next, we've got her sending another. Good morning, ladies. First of all, I love you all so
much. I respect the hell out of you for having more balls than let's be real most
men in the entire world. Okay, I fucking had it with the phrase face over fear. I see it
on tattoos. I see it on hats, shirts, t shirts, car stickers. I'm pretty sure if you were staring down the barrel of a gun
or you were, I don't know, God forbid being attacked by a shark in the ocean,
your faith is not gonna do shit, okay? You're gonna be afraid and you know what?
That's fine because you're human. That's normal. I fucking had it. I've just had it with evangelicals thinking that because they have
this ridiculous faith that the rest of us should too and that none of us should fear anything.
By the way, isn't one of their trademark lines, fear God? So, faith over fear, yet fear God. I
don't get it. I don't get it. And I fucking had it.
I mean, you know, she's speaking my love language. There's nothing that I love more than some light
evangelical bashing. I mean, that's just like my love language. There's so much hypocrisy and just
bullshit. And then I just have this whole thing like, when you start using critical thinking with evangelicals
and they go, well, that's why they call it faith. Right. Which I've been guilty of. That's
always the, that's always, well, I mean, I just have faith. I mean, I just believe it
because I believe it because I have faith. Right. And it's just like, I would have never
had conversations with people about religion ever. I don't have conversations with Catholics about religion.
I didn't have conversations with Methodist friends.
I had some friends I grew up with that were Lutheran.
I never had any of it.
The only people I ever had to talk to religion about are these fucking awful evangelicals
because they recruit.
It is the MLM of churches. It is multi-level marketing,
and they will not fucking relent. They are relentless, just like the fucking, you know,
what was that, what was that MLM that that girl tried to get me to do? Arbonne. Arbonne. It's
like that. They will not stop.
And so those are the people that I had conversations about existentialism in or religion or, and
they literally cannot go one question deep.
I have to say the faith over fear goes all through me.
I can't stand it. The only thing I hate more than that is
when people say my thoughts and prayers are with you after a school shooting or
something so tragic that could be prevented that something is preventable
and they send thoughts and prayers and I just want to turn around and say shove
your thoughts and prayers in your ass, out your nose, and fucking
sit and spit on it.
I just, it's so empty.
Well, now that you're, now that you're not religious anymore, let me ask you this.
When you're in public settings and people pray, in Oklahoma, listener, you often find
yourself in these situations where there's like this group prank. I never put my head
down and I always scan the crowd for, uh, to see what the, what the Christians are doing.
What do you do? I scan the crown because I used to back in the day I would look around,
I mean I would bow my head, but I'd look around with my eyes open. So now I just kind of,
or sometimes I just look straight ahead if I don't want people to be uncomfortable.
I scan the crowd because I would always look for the people like you, the people that were
Christians but nosy.
Right. Yeah.
We're kind of sitting the prayer out. And so I always get kind of it because their heads
down, but you see their eyes, they're like moseying around. I don't know. It's just kind
of an interesting, it's an interesting thing because I always sit there and I'm like, like they're all so into it and I'm just not, even remotely. Yeah. Oh my god, you guys, this
is hilarious. Okay, so we'd gone to all the NBA finals games and there is a guy who dresses up
like Jesus at the games and then he goes, his girlfriend dresses up like Mary and my
son Roman and I were watching him like like total like old-school Jesus you
know garbs like dressed like Jesus and Mary and the cameras went over to
them and they were full-blown for like the kiss cam? Well it was I think they
they were on yes they were on the kiss cam and
she was eating, it looked like a bowl of Ramner's, which is a weird thing to be eating in an
NBA game. And then they just start making out. Roman and I were dying laughing. I mean,
like the blasphemy factor of that, some of our listeners will get this. I think blasphemy
can just be so hilarious because it's so triggering. It's like the stupidest thing and it can be so
triggering to the most devout, scared, fear-based evangelicals. Faith over fear. So we have this
friend listener, his name is Saul, but he goes by BingoSparkles on Instagram and he
used to live in Oklahoma City and now he lives in New York. But he always, when he comes
back in town to Oklahoma, he wears a shirt
and it will say like Satan on it. And it just says Satan, S-A-T-N. It goes in front of the
evangelical mega church and like takes his pictures.
I just think that kind of blasphemy is so hilarious because you know, like, here's why
it's funny because it's a nothing burger, right?
It's a no big deal.
But to like this percentage of the majority of those evangelicals would just die and equate
that to like child exploitation.
Right.
And they're so into appearances and bullshit and surface level stuff.
So that's hitting them right where it hurts.
All right, Kylie.
Okay, the last one.
Wait, one more.
I have a question.
Oh, yes.
Let me ask you some kind of...
Do you think blasphemy is kind of funny?
Of course I think it's funny.
It's so funny.
That's why I send you all that shit.
Don't you think the one, here's the funny one, on Easter, you know, everybody's like,
he is risen, and it's like Zombie Jesus Day.
I haven't seen that. I haven't seen that.
Okay, I have a question about this Jesus at the Thunder Game. I've seen him.
Have you seen it? I didn't see the make out.
They were making out. Okay, so do you think that the whole crowd,
which is going to be majority Christian, gets that that's blasphemous? Because it seems
like they're cheering like it's not. I think they don't get that it's blasphemy.
They don't get it. They do not get that they are the brunt of the joke.
Yeah, no.
And actually I'm learning more from Pumps about the, we had this conversation on IHIP
News about how chosen they think they are, how much better they think they are. You've
opened my eyes up to that in our conversations on this and I think that
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but it's even deeper than that. They think they are chosen by God. Right, well
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Okay, the last one is from Ethan. Jennifer, hey Pums, this is Ethan from Florida.
Ethan. Hey Jennifer, hey Pums, this is Ethan from Florida. I've memo'd in a couple of times but I've actually just really have had it with like walking into places
like restaurants and bars and stuff and men being like and me hearing it being
like oh she's so hot or damn or and then it takes them all about four minutes to find out that I'm
just a twink and then they just say like mean comments like oh wait it's not a
girl blah blah blah it's like okay but you were just attracted to me like two
seconds ago and I don't know it's like if you're gay just say that if you're
gay just say that because it's really fucking annoying.
Or just don't say anything at all.
Just shut your big fat fucking mouth.
Anyways, love you.
I think that's a point that we were talking about with Jonathan Van Ness.
Like I think that a straight man would immediately feel like an insecurity about his masculinity
because it's so browbeat
into them, that that's why they have to be ugly. I mean, we just kind of talked about
that. And so when I hear him say that, that's what I think, that they think it reflects
on their heterosexual masculinity. Yes, and I just think this is an atmosphere of just, they've turned up to a boiling pace,
the homophobia.
Right.
And after gay marriage was made legal under the Supreme Court, when the first black president
was in office, this is just too much for these white supremacists to handle.
It's a lot. I mean this type of oh my god they can be who they want to be
and I think it's just I think that they're all going through quite some
things because their their number one goal in life is to get you to be as
stupid as they are and to think less like they do and to completely eradicate any form of acceptance,
empathy. You know, there's all this talk now in the MAGA movement, they have labeled empathy now
toxic empathy. They, yes, there is a movement where they have the MAGA, like evangelicals, they realized that Jesus was a radical, and He was radically
empathetic, right? And they have a problem with that. So now they have branded empathy
as toxic empathy, and the preachers are preaching accordingly now. And if you go back and you
remember how Elon Musk talked about empathy,
this is a messaging that they're trying to do. The rich people that use the religious
nuts to control all of the masses is now they're trying to demonize empathy.
Right. I had not heard that. That's fucking bananas.
Yeah. Turning Point is one of those conservative think tanks.
Yeah, it's got Charlie Kirk, yeah.
And they had a gal that was up on stage recently, like in the last couple of weeks, and she
was talking about toxic empathy and how dangerous it was for the MAGA movement.
Because being kind and equality, that's bad.
Right, for me, evangelicals that I know, that's not that big of a stretch to sell that to them
Okay, let me ask you this. I
Can't believe I just said that when it was brought up this episode, but do you think as?
You know the decades move on the most
Popular religion is non, you know people are non-religious more than they are any other religion
I would think that would be amplified tenfold in this time with Maggot. I would think people that were on the fence about
Christianity, like I personally know people that have left religion because of the hypocrisy of
the Christians, and they're like, I don't want to be any part of that. Like, I can't. I'm out.
And they really take stock in examining it. I think that this movement is going to push
people out of Christianity hand over fist. Have you read anything about that?
Well, I've read a couple of things. Number one, I've read that Gen Z is turning to religion more.
Really?
Well, and this makes sense to me because this is a generation that is looking for community,
that is looking for togetherness because this is the COVID generation.
This is the raised with cell phones in your hands. And I think it's more of a sense of community.
I mean, I think once they get in there and they realize, oh, it's anti-gay, a little bit white
supremacist and all this shit, I think it's more socializing, if you will. But I mean, the thing about Christianity is in Europe, it's pretty much diluted out.
You know, the United States of America is a very religious first world country. Very,
especially when you get to a state like ours, it's just suffocating the religiosity that
goes on in this state and the hypocrisy that goes along with it. So I don't know.
I mean, I think the numbers would continue to keep going down and down and down because
it just makes no sense.
Right.
And it's just illogical.
I mean, those of you that are listening that have been so deeply indoctrinated in it, let
me explain it to you like this.
I wasn't indoctrinated in it at all. So to the Christian
light listener right now, I'm not trying to change your views. If your religion brings you
serenity and it's your deal and you're not an asshole, it's none of my business. I don't care.
And I will fight for your right to have that religion. But to explain it to you as somebody
who was never indoctrinated in any religion at all, the first time you learn
about Greek mythology, it sounds crazy. Like, this goddess did this and this god did that and then
they, you know, did this and then Medusa appeared. It sounds fucking bananas, right? Christianity
for somebody who wasn't indoctrinated has that same level of incredulity to it.
I just, I can't even express to you how ridiculous it sounded when it was pitched to me when
I was in middle school.
The suicide mission, the human sacrifice, the virgin birth, the flood, the genocide,
all of those things, if you're not indoctrinated
to believe it, sounds every bit as crazy as any other religion that you've ever heard
about in your life.
Just for me to have heard it in the buckle of the Bible belt makes my case kind of, you
know, peculiar, but it sounded nuts.
I mean, at a very young age, I was like, that makes no sense. But I mean,
these kids, these peers that I grew up around in suburban Oklahoma City, I mean, they were deeply
indoctrinated by their preachers and their parents to try to recruit and turn me. Even Pumps tried.
No, they did. Guilty.
In a funny plot twist.
She's the one that flipped.
I know.
And I'll tell you what else.
I defend somebody's right to be an ex-smoker more than I do.
Stain in the Death Star.
That's just my thought for the day.
All right.
Well, I think that's all we have for today.
Kylie, do you have anything else to add to our conversation
about the recruiting evangelicals?
I don't think I have anything to say that you have not said better than I would.
But it was a big part of my sorority.
There was like a handful of girls that would say, hey, so and so they'd reach out randomly
and say, do you want to go get coffee with me?
Like an older member.
And if you said yes, you went and got coffee.
And then they did something called bridging.
Have you ever heard of this?
No.
I don't know what. Is it like soaking Kylie? No. I probably would have enjoyed that in college.
But they like have this diagram they draw. They get taught it at some camp and they're trying to
convert you. And so they trick you. They bait and switch. Let me be friends. You're younger than me.
And then they try to convert you at this coffee meeting. Really? That goes on a lot. So like, so that would they try to do that to you? Or were
you already? Yeah, I was gonna say you were already in it. I knew about it. And so it's
like within this already. So I knew there was like the certain girls that if they asked
me to get coffee, I was not gonna fucking go. Right. They probably didn't really think
they needed to. I'll tell you this much, and this is universally true. The most religious people in a group
of friends are the least liked.
Oh, for sure.
I mean, the most annoying religious person is always, it's always everybody's like, oh,
here we go.
Yeah.
Yeah. Even in Oklahoma.
Oh, totally. Always. The one who was the most outspoken about the religiosity.
It was always just eye roll. Eye roll goddamn city. God, I miss that. So that doesn't surprise
me that the white sororities are MLMing the evangelical Christianity in Oklahoma. Yeah.
I would think the ground would already, I mean, I wouldn't think there'd be a whole
lot of fertile ground for them. There's a lot of little Jennifers running around.
You think?
Well, we've got our wine.
I mean, if there's like a point, you know, one percent of the population in the evangelical
just can't sleep all night.
Well, we'll watch that documentary.
No, I know, but I'm just saying like in my pledge class, I don't think there was anybody
that would say they were an atheist.
Like I really think you were the first atheist I ever knew in person. I really think that. So I just think it's kind of everybody,
you know, you don't have a lot of ground to cover because everybody's the same.
What about your generation, Kylie?
We had gays, obviously like me, I think people that like partied more than others,
they would need to get saved, things like that.
But were these partiers Christian or Christian light?
I'm sure they would say they are, but I think these people are trying to make sure.
Oh, they're just doubling, double checking.
Just in case.
Well then I should have been called in because I was all the things, the wildest, the naughtiest.
You were also kind of, I mean, you're, I mean, it was widely known quickly in meeting you that you were religious.
Yeah. Probably not as much in college though, to be fair. Yeah. She met me after kids.
Yeah. But yeah, no, I mean, we were all wild as March hairs.
You were making boys get boners and jeans. That's right. Boners and jeans. Let's not forget.
Let me ask you this, if y'all knew this to be true. So I remember the most
religious girls in high school were the ones that lost their virginity first. Kylie?
Mine I think lost their, um, like anal first. That was a big thing.
That kind of came out after we were like the, we're not going to have vaginal sex, we're
going to have anal sex.
And that was the skirt.
That was kind of post me, but I remember that whole thing coming out and I was like, I would
not let somebody put something in my ass.
Thank you.
There was a Christian sorority, like all the Christians were this one sorority and it was
known that like they called it the pooh-poh loophole.
And so they just do the butt stuff.
And they call themselves virgins after that somehow.
Okay, no, that was the big pitch.
Do you think, I mean, here's the thing.
First of all, I think the word virgin's stupid,
but okay, we have it, right?
Do you think that if, let's say Jane,
Jane gets fucked in the ass, but she saves her vagina for her wedding night is Jane a virgin yes or no I?
Mean technically if if you define
Intercourse as vaginal yes or no is Jane a virgin yes or no
I think no got fucked in the ass, but she didn't get fucked in the vagina on her wedding night Is Jane a virgin yes or no? I think no. Jane got fucked in the ass, but she didn't get fucked in the vagina. On her wedding night, is Jane a virgin?
Yes or no?
Probably not.
Yes or no?
No.
Kylie?
No.
I think somehow you're past a virgin.
I agree.
I think you're way past.
I think the person who just did the vag only is more of a virgin than the ass fucker.
Right.
Like the least, you know, people fucking people in the armpits.
Does that count as sex?
People are, you know, people do weird shit in the name of religion sexually.
But I think that's kind of how it was designed.
That's kind of the plan from John.
What?
What was the plan?
Like controlling people sexually.
So like you can't have sex,
you can't have sex, you can't have sex. So it becomes this big taboo and then people
are automatically going to find a workaround. Pardon the pun. I didn't even think about
that. But yeah. All right. Well, I, uh, well, I don't know what more we can cover on this.
I mean, we've talked about asex.
We've talked about smoking.
We've talked about, I mean, is there anything we haven't introvert, extrovert?
This has been the PSA of all PSAs.
This is where it's at.
You get smarter if you're here.
Yeah, yeah.
And I just want to say this. I want to leave everybody with this. It's so
stupid to try to control other people's sex lives. It is stupid. It's a fool's errand.
And it goes back to what Katya calling out Lindsey Graham. You know, like at the core
of Lindsey's problems are Lindsey.
100%.
And it goes back to in my all female government, we will have all of this released.
We're going to have this thing knocked out. I bet it wouldn't take us six months to whip
this thing in shape.
Okay, we have to stop. It's too much.
We have to stop.
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Cacaw!
A little bit more enthusiasm.
Cacaw!
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