I've Had It - Negative, Self-Righteous, Terrible

Episode Date: June 4, 2024

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So are we supposed to start the podcast? Ready? One, two, three. Crushed it. Crush nation. Meemaw, I have a new idea. I think that we should give ourselves the opportunity to be either positive or negative at the beginning of the episode.

Okay. Well, I'll try. So what I'm going to introduce to the Patriots and to the iHipsters and to Meemaw, America's greatest legal mind, is you can either tell me what you've had it with or you can tell me what you've been hitting. Okay. So what I've been hitting is I'm a new mom of a baby French Bulldog. And he is the sweetest, cutest, snuggliest little love muffin on the planet. So I've definitely I'm hitting puppies right now. You are.

And I just want to obviously listener, this is huge news. Because as you know, in the permanent record that we keep here at I've Had It podcast, the very first entry is that Pumps is not a good pet owner. So I just want everybody to know that Kylie and Seth and myself have been engaged in a lot of oversight. We've done a lot of parenting classes, a lot of prenatal work, and our eyes are on her. And so far, so good. Why don't you share with the listener what your dog's name is? Jennifer Bickford Oliver Glizzard Sullivan. And I call him Ollie, and

Jennifer calls him Little Gliz. RISA GOLUBOFF Little Gliz. Jennifer Bickford The Little Gliz. RISA GOLUBOFF Here's the situation with that. We have teenage sons and everything's a Glizzy, which is a hot dog, which then you can take your brain to junior high teenage boy humor and then you know what the hot dog is. So I think it's hilarious for Meemaw at her advanced age to have a dog named Little Gliz. Number one, I think it makes you hip. It's gonna take a lot more than Lil' Glez to get me hip.

Lil' Glez and Mimaw. Lil' Glez and Mimaw and Blaze. Blaze to this point just kind of ignores them. Right. The big Siberian Husky. The Siberian Husky. And I just tell you this much, there's no way you're giving that Lil' Glez a haircut. Well, no, but French Bulldogs don't have bad hair.

I know, but I just think that if there's a way that you could fuck it up, you'd try. I might try, but I don't think at this point I have no plans to do that. He is adorable. He's precious. He is adorable. Okay. I want to share with you all a comment that I saw on Instagram from Debbie. She commented on a post that Kylie put up where we're talking about

something we've had it with. It's not even that, you know, it's not even that controversial. And here's how Debbie responds to the post. Both of you make most real Americans vomit. Go the fuck away. Get eight hours of beauty sleep. Ugly people need nine hours, but y'all need 12 hours of sleep. Okay. So I went to Debbie's Instagram page because I was curious about her, right? What's Debbie's backstory? Okay. So, phase bio is number one, realtor, mother, daughter, sister, but most importantly, Nana

to two handsome grandsons. That's phase one of my reconnaissance. Phase two is you go to following, okay, and then the following populates. And then you type in the search, T-R-U-M-P. Okay, let me tell you who all she follows. We got Don Jr. Naturally. Lara Trump, Ivanka Trump, the real Donald Trump, Eric Trump, Donald Trump underscore 2024,

Students for Trump, the Trump Organization, Melania Trump World, Team Trump, Ivanka Trump Team, Sophie Trump, Baron Trump, Ivanka Trump Looks, Serbs for Trump 2024, like the Serbian people. Right. Melania GOP, Melania Trump fan page, Melania Trump official fan, Baron Trump fan page, Greeks for Trump, Pursuit of Happiness with Trump, Trump Forward 24, Trump Patriots 45, Trump for President 2024, another Donald Trump fan page, DonaldTrump.team, elegant Melania forever, and Trump Latinos 24.

That's phase two of the recon. Phase three is the following. You go back to the search, okay, the following. You click following, and then it populates, and then you can type in. Now I'm gonna type in another person's name, J-E-S-U-S. Oh my gosh. Remember she told us to fuck off, that we'd look like vomit? Right. Real Americans hate us. Listen to this, success in Jesus. Jesus is the only way. Christian reels. God says love. BibleGod dot Jesus, Jesus's endless grace, Jesus Bible live, and Christ

will lead. You know, she really is practicing what would Jesus do. So Debbie, the realtor, number one, who told us to vomit, told us we weren't real Americans. Right. We were ugly. It's interesting. She follows, I mean, just us we weren't real Americans. Right. We were ugly. It's interesting. She follows, I mean, just a shit ton of Trump pages. All the Trump pages.

Lots of Jesus pages. Right. And first and foremost, the analysis I want to make on that is the real Americans. It's such a stupid thing to say. I have a hot news flash for you, Debbie. We're both American. Right. We are both real.

We're American sports. We were born in red states. We live in red states. Our kids are American. Our parents were American. Our grandparents were American. Our great grandparents were American. Just because you like Donald Trump doesn't make you more American than we are. And I would even argue it might make you a little less considering he tried to overthrow the American government. Right. I would think that all these people hijacking the word patriot slash real Americans need to take a look in the mirror and say, would a real American be down with a coup? Would a real American want to take away rights from other people?

Apparently, the real Americans that follow Trump do. Well, I just want to say, Debbie, that we are taking back the word patriot. That's right. We're just, we've, we're done. Everybody hijacking patriot. So listen up, patriots. Welcome to I've Had It. I'm Jennifer. I'm Angie. She is a real American. She's a real American lawyer. She's a real American podcaster. Some even say she is America's me-ma. So back off Deb. Back off Deb. Kylie, what do you think about Debbie?

The weirdest thing about Debbie is that she's following a fan page for like a 15 year old boy. That one stood out to me. Baron Trump. Baron Trump fan page. Yeah. It's fucking weird. It's weird. She's a me-maw.

It's weird. I just, my favorite is Jesus's fucking weird. It's weird. She's a meemaw. It's weird. I just, my favorite is Jesus's endless grace. She follows that account. And then in her spare time as a side hustle, she tells Pumps and I that we make her want to vomit and we need to get 12 hours of sleep a night. Right, because we're so ugly. Hashtag Jesus's endless grace. Hashtag so much grace from Debbie.

These Christian Trumpers are the meanest, the meanest, trolliest trolls on the planet. And here's the thing, Deb, you don't hurt our feelings. No, we're fine with it. I just like to do the three prong analysis. First, you read the bio, then you look at who they're following. And there's always a link between the Trumpers

and Jesus. And their breed of Trumpy Jesus-y stuff is trolly, troll, mean, accusing actual Americans of not being Americans. Like that's a burn. Like, oh, Deb doesn't think we're Americans. Well, but they're all such snowflakes. Maybe it would hurt their feelings if somebody said they weren't American. Deb, we don't think you're a real American. We don't think you're a real American. We think that you are a mean-spirited butthole. And I think you're a bad realtor.

And I just wonder... I don't think you're number one. I think we're talking like 1047th top realtor. I agree. And I just wonder, does she kiss her grandchildren with that mouth saying we make people vomit that we're ugly? Yes, with Jesus's endless grace. That's the loophole. So you get to go be a troll on the internet. And then you go like a post for Jesus

and then do some real American Trump liking stuff. Then you can go back to being a troll. It's like a cycle. Okay, got it. Infinity loop. It's an infinity loop. Excellent. All right, I've got a one star review.

Okay. Which we don't get often, because you guys are just so damn likable, but it's titled Negative Self-Righteous Terrible. And this is from Melissa D. Harris. She writes, these women are self-righteous, self-important, miserable women who have nothing but negativity to spread. They attack and belittle other women and it's truly embarrassing.

At their old age, you think they'd be more mature. You would think. You would think. You would think. I mean, that's a real criticism. You would think that we would be more mature, Melissa, but in fact, we are not. We just fought with a grandma who thinks she's the number one realtor in the country, named Deb. We fucking hate her and we think she's shitty at selling houses.

Right. And we think that she's ugly, and we haven't even seen her picture. Oh, I've seen her picture. Oh, you have? If we need 12 hours of beauty sleep, Deb needs 15. So Melissa, everything you said was spot on with the one star review, because number one, we just belittled Deb.

Right. Actually, it was self-defense, but that's neither here nor there. We didn't take the high road. I think we can all agree on that. And we are profoundly immature. Profoundly. Yeah.

All right. Speaking of Deb, I'm sure she follows this news organization, but I have an article from Fox News. And they ran a story that's titled, Libraries Have Turned Into Drug-Infested Sextons. The dumbest thing I've ever heard. So host Jesse Waters told his fellow Fox News panelists Thursday that an under-reported crime spree had spread through public library systems, and he had one person to blame. He quotes, libraries are no longer safe in President Joe Biden's America.

Well, I mean, that's the obvious link. First of all, I get so sick of legitimately news coming out that has no basis in fact. I remember I was listening to the Jesse Waters take down a bass and it was talking about Kamala Harris liked porn and libraries. And I was listening to the Jesse Waters take down a bass and it was talking about Kamala Harris liked porn and libraries. And I was just like, where's he getting that? Like I don't understand. But the leaps are so big and so broad, like you don't even, they don't connect at all. And I dare say libraries are not drug dens and sex houses. Do you, I mean, that's the dumbest thing I've ever heard.

You don't even have to ask, do I think? Of course they're not. Of course they're not. Of course they're not. Like dens of iniquity with orgies and people shooting up. Everybody knows that that is patently false. But what they're doing is there is an assault on intellectualism and knowledge, which is total moves of fascist people. They want to, where do you go to get knowledge? A library. And so they want to demean that. And this is all a way to take our eye off the ball to where one could argue America's public schools are shooting

grounds and there's actual evidence that can back that up. But they don't want to talk about that because they want the gun lobby to get billions of dollars for hashtag Deb number one realtor hashtag Jesus is endless grace. That's their fucked up world of America. And Jesse Waters is a total snowflake. Oh, the biggest. I mean, he is pussboy 101. The fact that he could even that could even come out of his mouth is insane. That makes no sense. What did the internet have to say in response? They obviously had a field day. So one Twitter user at Thomas AC Stout responds and said, I have not been offered drugs or

sex in 12 years of library work and I demand this injustice be rectified. At John Devour writes, it surprises me that Fox News would promote libraries but every little bit helps. Devour writes, it surprises me that Fox News would promote libraries, but every little bit helps. And the last one I have is from D. Harma Scholar. All right, y'all think libraries got sextant money in this economy? Yeah, people just, I mean, they just make shit up. And you know, here's one thing that really bothers me in this election year.

All I've heard about is, oh my God, the crime. I mean, the crime from all the right wingers, the crime is just catapulting, you know, Alvin Bragg's prosecuting Donald Trump. And I mean, New York City is just full of crime. Fun fact, if you look at the data and the numbers, crime in New York City is very, very low. And crime in the United States as a whole is really on the downturn. So it just it's infuriating that nobody looks this shit up, that they just believe it. Oh my God, I forgot to tell you this.

You're going to die. OK, so last night I was watching a reporter who had been to a Trump rally the weekend before, so he was interviewing these Trump people after they went to the rally, Donald Trump kept saying, I cannot believe 42,000 people came out to my rally. He said 42,000 several times. These people that he interviewed on the way out were like, I mean, it's just so good to be here with 42,000 other people. The reporter

said at best it was 5,000. So they're in a stadium. They know there's 5,000 or they know objectively 42,000 is not the right number, but he repeats it so much and they believed it. This surprises me zero. And the situation with the libraries and them saying this stuff and crime and them saying about crime rates is because Fox News is mainly viewed by white people that think that immigrants and black and brown people are taking their jobs. Jobs I would argue that they're probably not physically fit enough to perform themselves.

Just a wild guess. And it's just an easy thing to throw out there. I always, always, always know when I'm talking to somebody that watches Fox News because they tell on themselves. They talk about the border immediately, or they talk about crime. After Joe Biden's State of the Union address, this man said, yeah, I've watched every State of the Union my whole life. And this guy's probably late 60s.

I've never seen one like that. And I was like, really? How so? And he's like, it was like a campaign speech. It's like, were you in a coma during the Trump years? Are you serious right now? It's like, it's unbelievable. But that's what Fox News tells them. And then they go out and echo it immediately. And none of these people are intellectually curious. They just take everything at face value and they have their whole life. Here's what your religion is. They just accept it.

Here's what you have to do in your life. They just accept it. Then they have all these little side hustle projects, like maybe hookers on Craigslist over here, you know, gay hookers over there. And so I mean, they're all just cranky, just like Deb, you know, it's just like all all chips in on Trump, all chips in on Jesus side hustle. I'm going to go troll people that disagree with me on the internet. Right. I'm going to be mean spirited. I like, why does she give a shit? Why didn't she just not listen? Because she can't.

For some people, I think it's so enticing to be angry all the time. Well, and to put it, say, instead of being mad at my life or myself or my decisions or my circumstance, I can be mad at somebody else. I can blame Joe Biden that the libraries are sex and drug dense, which they're not. The situation is though a lot of these people genuinely might not have anything to be upset about. They should be going out and retiring and enjoying the fact that they've raised their kids, that potentially they could be close to being out of debt if they're boomers and maybe their houses are paid for. They debt if they're boomers and maybe their

houses are paid for. They could go on a few trips and enjoy their grandkids. But instead you have a news organization that is just riling people up. And I would argue that the pastors in their churches are doing the exact same thing where it is their number one thing they feel that they have to do is be against people right when Everything their whole lives and everything in the world to date has kind of been shifted and geared towards helping them and in their last days They're gonna go down punchin mad at trans kids mad at gay people mad at immigrants Mad at us. I mean just mad at all this shit so that they can go vote

for a man who can't even put on his makeup very well. Right. Who cannot put on his makeup well. He damn sure can't style his hair. Yeah. That's their guy. That's their guy. Banging out porn stars and Playboy playmates.

Yeah. But... Here's the situation. I could give a shit. I could give a shit. If he fucks pornmates. Yeah. But here's the situation. I could give a shit if he fucks porn stars. But I'm not the one following every Jesus account imaginable. I am not some moral hypocrite. I feel like if the president wants to fuck a porn star, it's just genuinely not my business. But what Trump did was he lied about it and he tried to impose election interference with

it. Was he lied about it and he tried to impose election interference with it? But I don't know how the mental the mental and moral gymnastics that these people have to go through to get to the end of the road that he's okay is Fascinating to me, but I think you were just telling me before we came in here Katie Kirk said these people are anti-intellectual and I completely concur. Completely concur. These are black and white thinkers that do not understand nuance, that do not understand critical thinking.

And when critical questions are asked, they get offended, they're triggered and they're total snowflakes. When somebody asks an actual penetrating question like, hey Deb, aside from being the number one realtor, how do you justify, you know, loving Jesus so much and following all these Jesus accounts and telling Angie and Jen that they need to go fuck themselves and that they make you want to vomit and that Trump fucks porn stars? How do you reconcile all that, Deb? She'll be like, oh, you know, Jesus is grace.

That's an easy one. Yeah, so anyway, that's been really uplifting. We have just really been positive. It's an election year. And Pumps and I are in on this thing. Like, these girls out there and women out there have lost rights. And it's something that is very, very serious, something that has to be taken seriously. And we have to stay on topic. That's right. We got to call out the devs of the world, highlight how ignorant and cruel that breed

of politics is, and advocate for women and marginalized groups. That's right. They're all lumped in together. They are pumps. Yep. Kind of like your dragons. I would say those are slumped in together. All right. So today we have a guest and he is one of my and Pumps favorite Instagrammers that we

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to get offline and, you know, just so my brain doesn't melt entirely. And I'm happy to be back in the routine and here with you. So listeners, if you don't follow Matt, you should because he, in my opinion, lays out facts about issues that pertain to what I believe issues that are all connected, which are women's rights, gay rights, trans rights, black and brown rights, marginalized rights. He links there's a thread throughout all of his posts that shows how all of these civil rights are connected. And I think you lay it out so clearly and so obviously, yet there's so many stupid people that tend not to get it. Yeah, you know, I don't even know if I would say that. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, you know? Oh, we don't. You're younger than that.

I mean, my core belief is that most people are reachable, right? I feel like we live in this very politicized, divisive moment. I know, I know, yada yada, everyone talks about how bad the division is. But I think there is a thing that a lot of people feel, which is that like, you know, we're doomed to conflict and, you know, the family members that don't see us are doomed to never seeing us. And I like to think that a lot more people are a lot more reachable than we give each other credit for. And with that maybe delusional optimism, I try to approach, you know, the internet

and, and hope that people get it eventually. I want to believe what you said, that most people are reachable, but we live in the Bible Belt. And there are some people that are just, maybe they're reachable, but they're not bendable. They might in polite conversations say, yeah, I'm not going to get wound up about gay people or whatever. And they might say what's appropriate to say in those moments, but this, they're not going to go vote in a way that lifts everybody up. Where are you from? So I'm from New Jersey. Okay. Where it's pretty blue, but it really depends where you live.

Where I grew up specifically, it was pretty like down the middle. But also that's what I love about you two is that I look at you and you, I mean you, and I say this with love, you look like you're from the Bible Belt. And I think- Matt! Which I actually think is a compliment.

I have a great affinity for the South and I have a great affinity for, for actually red stage generally, which is something that I talk about from time to time online is that, you know, there's this prevailing attitude coastally and then also in like the coastal like Northeast where I'm from, which is like, oh, you know,

you know, rednecks in the South and can't we just cut off the Bible belt from this country so we could progress and all this stuff? And it's like. There are we are people in all of those states, there are all sorts of marginalized people in all those states, there are great allies in all of those states, there are people who are working to make where people feel safe in all of those states. who are working to make queer people feel safe in all of those states. And so, I don't know, I hear a lot from my followers online about like, hey, I'm, you know, I'm a trans person living in Arkansas, or whatever. And it's like, no, we can't actually just get rid of those states. There are people who not only live there, but people who want to live there. Like not everyone wants to move to New York or LA or whatever. Like we should make all of these spaces safe for all of those people

without being like, well, you should just scrounge around and somehow find the money to move to like one of the coasts or something. Right. No, I agree with that. I think that's a really good point. OK, I want to shift gears. When we emailed with you, we asked you what you'd had it with. And right out of the gates, top of your email is JK Rowling. What the fuck is going on there?

We haven't talked about this on the podcast. I don't get it. I don't understand it. What is her deal? So do you guys know what TERF means? No, we're not cool. No, we're not cool at all. What does TERF mean?

Teach us. So TERF means Trans Exclusionary Rad exclusionary radical feminist. It's an acronym. And it's basically this group of people that JK Rowling is essentially the reigning queen of, that they identify as feminists and their whole ethos is around like, this is only for cis women and in fact trans people and in fact, trans people and trans women calling themselves women and trans women being included in feminism is like at odds with the feminist cause.

And so in practice, while they identify as feminists, they're rarely talking about abortion. They're rarely talking about girls access to education. They're rarely talking about girls access to education. They're rarely talking about, you know, about any of the issues that feminists are, that like in my opinion, real feminists are talking about all the time. They're only ever talking about like fuck trans people.

And so JK Rowling has spent five years, the last five years, basically all day, every day, just ranting about the transgenders on Twitter. And it is a fucking wild spectacle. Okay, it's unhinged. Here's my take on this. Like, okay, I'm a woman. I'm a progressive woman. I always vote for women's rights. I would consider myself to be a feminist, I have two sons that I've raised to be feminists, I am not in any way, shape or form threatened nor is my femininity by the existence of trans women. If anything, as a woman, as

what I perceive to be by nature a little bit more the empathetic gender. I have nothing but empathy for trans people because nobody in their right fucking mind would choose to be trans in the middle of the fucking Bible Belt. Nobody would do that. But I just, I do not get out of all the hills to die on, trans people are less than 1% of the population and they tend to have an incredibly high suicide rate. So why not support and love and embrace these people? When you watch Fox News or if you get on Twitter, they act like there's just these trans terrorists running around blowing shit up.

Right. Last time I checked it was a bunch of MAGA people doing that shit. Right. On January 6th. Yeah, I mean, there's so much, there's such a distortion of scale with all of this, right? Like if you have just been watching conservative media over the last two years, you'd think that like trans people were literally running the government, running all industries. It's like, it's like, it's just not true. You'd think that like women's sports were actually being overrun by trans women.

I don't know, I singled, actually, I know one trans athlete. I know one trans athlete. And he's a trans guy and he swam on the men's Harvard swim team. But it's, it's just, it's such manufactured outrage on the whole. And then in the case of JK Rowling, I think she has done something that a lot of people do in a lot of different ways, especially on like kind of conspiratorial parts of the internet, where she, you know, you get in your echo chambers online and I think JK Rowling lives online. And I'm not knocking her for that because so do I.

My screen time is 10 hours a day. I'm not proud of it, it is what it is. But you have to open the window and, like, breathe in the fresh air sometimes. And I just don't think J.K. Rowling has done that, right? I think she is consuming media close to 24 hours a day from other very transphobic, feminist-identifying people. And I think she is genuinely convinced that trans people and I think especially trans

women are like going to start attacking cis women in the streets or something. Like I think she is convinced that this is like a real issue. And to be clear listener, it is not. That's what I don't get about all this. It's like you're manufacturing somewhere to put your rage and it's the lack of empathy. Like if you're a feminist, you know that women have suffered at the hands of the patriarchy, misogyny, sexism, all of that. So why would you double down on a trans person?

I just don't, I don't see how that correlates, I guess. I mean, I'm still back in here on turf. Like y'all are talking and I'm thinking, I don't get how those coexist. Well, it's misplaced rage, right? I did an episode about her recently with Natalie Wynn, ContraPoints from YouTube, which we talked about this a lot more.

But instead of correctly blaming patriarchy for all of these things that cisgender women have to suffer through, it's like, well, it's hard to do that. Because what can we, we all talk about dismantling patriarchy. That's really fucking hard to do. And no one has seemed to found an easy route to doing that. It is much less difficult to to to bully and demean trans people because there's already an entire apparatus that makes that happen.

Well, and I think they've had to move the goalposts, you know, like it was at first. I remember in the late 90s, early 2000s, the George W. Bush era, it was the gay agenda, the gay agenda. It was the big gay agenda. And so they were able to get out, drive out evangelicals because it's such a big voter group and say, oh, they're going to make gay marriage, blah, blah, blah. Well, surprise, surprise. Nobody gives a shit.

There are people that do. I'm not saying that, but in general, the numbers support progressive causes. And that's a big misconception in the United States. They think that they're a silent majority and they're not. They're a minority. So the court, we have gay marriage. So then they're like, well, oh shit, everybody's okay with this. Gay people are adopting kids. They're having surrogates, what can we do? So then they had to move the goalposts and then go after trans kids. And I think it's important for our listeners to understand the first time you hear, not you, Matt, because you're young and your generation is so much more open-minded and accepting. But for more listeners our age, the first time you might hear that somebody is trans, you

kind of think, huh, well, that seems weird. And the reason we think that is because we accept everything as a binary choice. For all of these decades, everything has either been boy or girl, man or woman. But I implore all of the listeners who don't understand this issue that this is, people do not choose this. This is not a choice. They are just trying to be who they are. And the parents that are accepting of their kids have researched this and understand how

high the suicide rates are for trans kids. And it needs attention and acceptance and love in early stages for their child to go on to live a life. And at the end of the day, why does anybody give a shit if a man wears a skirt, if women wear pantsuits, why do you care? It's not that big of a deal. Matt today is putting on some lip gloss with some with his fantastic fingernails. And all I want to say is I think you look fucking great. Love it. Well, thank you. I do like this shade of berry. It's a good one. You look nice and like, perky puffy without being overdone. Okay, since we're on the fingernails, I have to ask.

perky puffy without being overdone. Okay, since we're on the fingernails, I have to ask. Because every time I watch your videos, I'm like, I love the nails. Here are my two questions. How do you type? How do you wipe your ass? I gotta wipe my ass. Yes!

I knew you were gonna ask it. Everyone has the same two questions. What I tell people about the nails is two weeks. There's a two week break in period when you start getting like long, long nails. And for me that two weeks was like years ago. But for those first two weeks, I was not functional. Couldn't do a thing, couldn't do a thing.

Couldn't tie my shoes, couldn't put on socks, couldn't zip up pants, couldn't, nothing. After two weeks, maybe three, you forget that they're there. Really? Yeah. A lot of people ask me how I wipe my ass. I find that a little bit confusing, because like,

I don't know, like, are people shoving their nails up their ass in order to wipe? That's never been this way. Well, no, here's what I would think, like, when you wipe, like, would it drag? Would it, you know? Does it penetrate the toilet paper? Right.

And then you've got shit on your hands. That's what she's getting at. And then do you have to like swab under your nails? Do you have breakthroughs? Breakthroughs. Do you have breakthroughs where the shit is touching your nails and or skin? No. No breakthroughs?

Oh my gosh. There are no breakthroughs. What I will say, what I will say is that the most dependable way to do it is take the roll, these four fingers, wrap the paper around, and then kind of flat hand. See, I didn't, I never would have occurred to me, Matt. That's a great point. All right. Okay.

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that have given me sufficient FOMO. I don't know, like Kesha going on stage with Renee Rapp and then Chappell Rhone, like there's a lot of excellent lesbianism happening at Coachella that I do, that I do really wish I could see live. The lesbians are like so in right now. It's peak lesbian era right now.

Lesbianism is back. It is peak lesbian era right now. Lesbianism is back. It is peak lesbianism. Our executive producer of this fucking heeping pile of dog shit of a podcast, lesbian. And that's why it's good. She's over there smiling from ear to ear. Okay. Had it or hit it, Ben Shapiro. Oh, fuck Ben Shapiro. You knew what I was gonna say.

You're baiting me. I am. Fuck Ben Shapiro, I mean, God. I hate him. Can we talk about his meltdown about Barbie and about Cardi B's WAP song. It's crazy. I just don't get why he's the most famous Jewish guy with a squeaky voice when it should be me.

Ben Shapiro gets it's very entertaining to see what he gets mad at. But, you know, the sinister undertone is that he's also one of these like right wing taste makers, right? When he gets mad at something, he's telling you what to be mad about. And he has an audience of millions of people who listen to him. It's just like manufactured rage over nothing. Well, and here's the thing. I have a hot news flash for Ben Shapiro.

A lot of his listeners are evangelical Christians. And if you're a Jewish man, the evangelicals just want you to be in your place so that when Jesus comes, then you can go straight to hell and burn forever. So it's not that big of an ally ship on the evangelicals part. Like the Jewish people are just to be in a geographic location for the rapture preppers. That's why they are friends with the Jewish people. That is the only reason. I wish more people talked about that. It's really fucking sinister.

It is. It's like, we need for you to be in your place so that we can jump on the back of Jesus' horse and go up to white Jesus, pearly gates, capitalism, also the homoerotic version of Jesus we really like. He is posing up there with Donald Trump. Fuck you, Ben Shapiro, you're gonna burn in hell. I mean, that's just, that's their mentality. Yeah, those Donald Trump Bibles or something.

Oh my, it's just more than I can take. What about the homoerotic, all the photographs of Trump that are so homoerotic for the FTs. The NFTs. The photo shop where he has like the muscles and then the abs. Oh yeah. Yeah, those, he was selling like Trump NFTs where he was like, he was like a big buff.

Oh God. And it's like, you don't look like that, Prash. You just don't. Yeah, I don't think anyone thinks he does. No, okay. I think he does. Had it or hit it, libs of TikTok. I need to take a Xanax after this podcast.

God, yeah, libs of TikTok. She's just like this lady who is in her late 20s, apparently lives in LA and just posts all day, like random pictures of of random gay teachers. And essentially encourages her followers to dox them and is blaming all of these random people she gets hold of of indoctrinating the children. And she's just such a fucking loser.

You know who her BFF is? Yeah. Ryan Walters. He put her on the Oklahoma school board. Yes, yes. She was put by Ryan Walters on the Oklahoma school board. Yeah. This woman is from Brooklyn.

Right. She lives in LA. Yeah. She has been to Oklahoma one time. Right. And it was after she was put on the fucking school board. Yeah. Have a hot news flash for you Oklahoma parents.

This woman does not believe that Jesus Christ is the son of God. And let me just tell you, I don't believe that either, but that's a big fucking prerequisite in the Bible Belt. I mean, it's a big fucking deal here. And so it's interesting to me that they have welcomed this woman who's so full of hate and not a believer of Jesus into the fold so easily. It's kind of fascinating to me. Well because she's not being sold to Oklahomans or Ryan Walters as a Jew, she's being sold as a queer hater. Right. Just hate, hate, hate. I have Gen Z kids and I love how the petty shit that our generations worry about, you

don't worry about. You don't worry about gender. You don't worry about sexuality. That's all generally stuff that we should all just accept and then move on to fight the good fights like gun control. And sadly, because of all of these religious nuts around this country, you all have to fight these things and just fight for your existence.

And your Instagram page is phenomenal. It's a 12 out of 10. It is a fantastic follow. I want everyone to go follow it. And you also have a podcast called A Little Bit Fruity, which I love the name. Yes, it's called A Bit Fruity. A Bit Fruity.

Yes, we talk about a lot of the things that we talked about today in some detail, and we do some research beforehand. And it's a good time. If you like my squeaky ramblings, then you might like a bit fruity. Okay, and the Instagram is at Matt, M-A-T-T-X-I-V. And so listeners go follow Matt there, go listen to his podcast, A Bit Fruity with Matt Bernstein. Thank you so much for having me. This is so much fun. Thanks, Matt. Bye to meet you.

Talk to you soon. Bye. Bye. I mean, I just really like Gen Z. I really do too. They're a lot smarter and more thoughtful than I was at that age. Yeah, and I think it's wild. Like, the whole, like from their perspective, they're sitting there accepting everybody, accepting, you know, everybody's sexuality, gender. They're not worried about that. They just accept the person for who they are, who the person says they are. They love and embrace them and they move on. And then you see the JK Rowlings of the world, like dying on that hill. It's just really bizarre.

I have to say, like when he started explaining the whole turf thing, I just got in my head thinking about it. I mean, I just, I don't get it. I'm going to have to research that because I'm fascinated by that. I just think that's a lousy excuse for mean spiritedness. Well, and I don't know how that helps women. I don't either. I don't know how I don't have any other people down is going to help the cause of women because women more than likely, 100%, give birth to trans children. Right. So it's just really bizarre.

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