I've Had It - Traditional Family Freak Show

Episode Date: August 6, 2026

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So are we supposed to start the podcast? Ready. One, two, three. Patriots, K-Treats, they treatets, black treats, brown triots, and any other triots we left out. And what is it? And MAGA can go. And MAGA can do what? The pumps.

And MAGA can do what pumps? Fuck. That was great. Welcome to I've had it. We have a special day. We have the lovely Kylie and Ryan. And for those of you watching at home, both fantastically gorgeous. And I'm so excited to be there to be with them today.

Jennifer is on vacation. She will be back next week and then I'll be gone. So you'll miss this shining face. And so Kyle's Ryan, who do we want to start with? Who has their hand up first? What have you had it with? Kylie. I haven't had it.

Okay. So I've had it when you're, let's say I'm out in public. restaurant, a bar, whatever. And I'm honest. My girlfriend's going to get the brunt of this because it's who I'm with the most. I've had it when you, when I'm like trying to talk shit on someone out loud. Yeah. And I'm like, hey, look over there or I'm whispering.

And then the other person responds, what? What? And they look where you're pointing. And I'm like, shut up, shut up, shut up. She does this to me all the time. I think I do it as well. But they out me when I'm trying to talk shit. in public.

I can hear Anna doing that. I do that all the time. Somebody will like whisper, like, don't look now, which is immediate. My head jerks off my neck. Yeah. To look. And then here's it. I'll take it one step further.

Yeah. I do it. I'm guilty. A sin. I do it. But when somebody does it, when I try to like do that, hey, don't look now. Like I'm whispering. And they say, what?

I can't hear. you? What are you trying to say? Look where? And I'm just like, shut the fuck. Normally, when somebody whispers, like, if I'm trying to whisper because I'm trying to be quiet, the person listening, whether they're trying to be quiet or not, starts whispering. But in those situations, they don't. They immediately like, you need to match. Match volume just to start so that no one's in trouble. Or you warn them multiple times. Don't look. Don't look. I'm going to tell you something. Don't woke and then they still look. That's what really. Which I think I do it. But I do that. I know I do. I have a story from a football game when my youngest was playing football. So one of my favorite

moms, she's a dear, dear friend. We're sitting there and I'm like, tell her this story that is, I don't preface it by don't say anything. I just think that that's implied. You don't need to say it. I just assume she's not going to say it. And she's super sweet. It was just she was trying to be helpful. The person sits down and she immediately brings it up to their face. Like, so I'm sitting there next to her and I text her, I cannot believe you fucking did that.

And she was like, well, I felt, I mean, it wasn't bad or anything. It was just like, we probably should not have been gossiping about it. I should not have been gossiping about it, but I was. And I mean, she went straight to the source with, and I was just like sitting there with egg all over my face. Somewhat like when you're talking about someone on the group text and you accidentally looped them in. Sure. I had done that before. And it is absolutely horrible.

I side texted everybody but one person in a group text. What a cunt. I thought the one was. Then I got in the shower. So like I don't have my phone. I don't know what's happening. And this thing is blowing the fuck up. I'm getting like 50 phone calls why I'm in the shower.

And I'm just like, what? And I get out and I'm just like, fuck me. And I just owned it. I was just like, that was shitty. I'm an asshole. Sorry for telling you a way time. And I'm sorry. Like you can't keep digging at that point.

You just have to fucking own it. That's just why I don't participate in group messages avoids that problem. them all together. Not that you don't gossip. You just don't do group messages because you can't know that gossip. Yeah, don't sit on your high horse ride. You know, we gossip. No, I gossip.

I gossip. But I do have selective friends that I gossip with because I know I have friends who are big mouths and can't keep their mouth shut. There's always one or two. Yeah, I have a few. All right, Ryan, what have you had it with? I have had it with movie theater etiquette. I feel like it is.

a really good example of this societal collapse in just etiquette that is ravaging this country and probably the world. I went to the movies on Friday. I'm always seated next to either the person who talks the most or laughs the loudest in the movie theater, which if you're laughing at the movie, you get a pass. At least you're enjoying it, at least you're present. But it was some really obnoxious laughing. But then in front of me, a woman had her dog on her lap. And I was just wondering when we were, when we started bringing dogs into movie theaters. When did we need emotional support at the movie theater?

Like I get it on airplane. But why are you at the movie with your dog? Which leave the dog at home. The movie's less than two hours long. before that, the week before, I go to the movies a lot. I love the movies. There was, you know, a big family with an infant, probably like a three to six month old infant. And the baby is crying throughout the entire movie.

And they're going in and out, in and out of the movie theater. They're sitting the entire family, there's probably 10 of them. They're going in and out of the movie theater. They're getting up. They're switching seats. To be fair, I was watching Toy Story 5. So it was a family. Okay, wait, wait.

But still, but it. You're a Toy Story 5. It's a really good movie. Like, I'm a bitch with you until my head falls off about people bringing kids to the movie. It is unacceptable. Okay. If more than one adult, one adult can stay home with the child. Okay, but this movie was at 8.39 o'clock.

I thought that it would be late enough. that it would be more of an adult showing of Toy Story. An adult showing of Toy Story. I think that that family, I hope, is on a podcast and we're saying, why was a 30-year-old man at Toy Story 5? Why was the 29-year-old man at Toy Story? If you say you were alone, I'm going to really be worried. Were you alone for?

I was not alone, no. But it is okay to go to the movie theaters alone. Pumps really quick. Didn't you just tell me a story off-camera of something that's happening in the news at a Spider-Man movie? Speaking of movie etiquette. Yeah. Okay.

So I got like a TikTok or something in a group chat that somebody at the Spider-Man movie, because I know this because people were dressed up as Spider-Man. And the farting and the noxious fumes were so bad. They had to evacuate the movie, which I would go to go to the next showing. If you're having the D super bad, like I understand you might have a blowout. or whatever. But if you're going to sit there and fart, we just have to stay home. I know you're excited to see Spider-Ran.

And I'm just going to go on record. I absolutely am madly in love with Tom Holland and Zendaya. I mean, I think they are, first of all, one of the movies I went and saw by myself that it was like, I don't really want to go to a movie, but I want popcorn. Was that movie with Robert Pattson and Zendaya? It was like the drama. Yeah. I could not look at anything but her the whole time.

I was like, she is so gorgeous. My eyeballs hurt. And then Tom Holland, he's just a, I just love him. So adorable. Yeah. He's adorable. Yeah. So people just fucking take a shit at home before you go.

If you have the D, don't go. If you can't get a babysitter or one of the adults can't stay home, even for Tori's story, which I'm not giving him a pass on that. I'm just saying overall. I just want to revise my statement slightly. My problem was not. It's going to be hard to back out at the toy story. My problem.

My problem was not with the baby. It was more, well, my problem is that they brought the baby into the movie theater, but more my problem was that all the kids were running. And they're, you know, they're older kids. They're teenagers that are with them. They're running in and out of the theater. And they're sitting in the front two rows that are right in front of the screen. And even then, Mike, Quam still lies mostly with the dog in the theater and the person talking next to me.

So don't roast me in the comments. Here's. They will. They will. Ryan, you kind of deserve it. Like, I love the story. I was all in. But then when you said Toy Story 5, I'm like, didn't you kind of assume the rest just a little bit with Toy Story 5?

I probably should have, but I didn't. Yeah. there's just too many too many kids at adult activities overall or make a showtime this is the showtime

to take all your kids again toy story five I can't get it too I retract my I retract my same in about Toy Story 5 it was more of a stream of consciousness than anything we're on a podcast here

you know what we need the comments Ryan so I appreciate it Pumps do you ever had it Okay, I do have I had it. And it's just, it's the whole thing, like, I could start and never, ever finish about all the shit I've had it with with MAGA. But what really is getting me right now is the family value stuff. Like, shut the fuck up about family values. Shut the fuck up when you don't give a shit about kids after they're born.

Shut the fuck up when you bomb little girls in Iran and you don't give a fuck. shut the fuck up about how you stand on your Bible and you're such a great Christian and raw, raw you, but you refuse free lunches for kids at school. When you are gutting, when you are getting pre-kindergarten education, which the data is clear. Pre-kindergarten education is a game changer for kids. Not to mention, there's no universal child. So this serves as child care for working parents and it's important. And the fact that this administration is doing nothing but going out and making kids less safe,

less smart and less healthy and then sits and talks about family values, it is more than I can take. I have had it. It makes me want to scream at the top of my lungs. And it's not even the hypocrisy of it all. It's that people believe the hypocrisy. The people that are like, oh, yeah, I vote Republican because it's family values. Shut the fuck up.

What is the number one family value you see this administration legislating for? Is it old people? Well, no. Is it kids? Well, no. Is it women? Well, fuck no. It's always.

about the white male and the patriarchy. I'm so sick of family values on Republican. Like it just makes me want to bang my head against a wall. So that's why I've had it. I've just had it.

No notes. I agree. It's not going to change. This is ongoing. There's no relief from it. I don't. It's not, this happened long before Trump.

It's going to happen way after Trump. Like this. is their messaging and it just it's in sensing that people actually buy this shit it just it is it just makes it crazy it doesn't it doesn't actually mean anything either because these are the same people who are you know cheating on their wives who are protecting pedophiles who are doing everything that they say they're against right i know someone um he's a father of like five kids and lives in Oklahoma and he sent something and he was like yeah I'm going to this walk for to protect the traditional family to protect against the attack on the traditional family they walked like 10

miles in Oklahoma to combat it what is the attack what are you talking about what everything you want I'll tell you what the attack is kiley the attack is women in the workforce women having their own money gay people getting to get married That's the attack, even though it has nothing to do with him. It has like their lives are different zero because of trans people. Their lives are different zero because of gay people. Their lives are different zero because women choose not to have children. I mean, it goes on and on, but it's just this fucking, I'm going to tell you how you need to live your life, even though it affects me zero.

And it is, you know, all of the attacks on trans people. gay people like that is crushing it is devastating to face institutionalized bigotry from your government from your pastors from all those people that affects their lives it affects how they feel about himself the two men getting married affects somebody else's straight marriage absolutely fucking none zero zero zero zero zero zero zero you know what Kylie I think after the 10 mile traditional family walk is that what it was right probably gave each other fucking I think I'm going to marry a woman. I think it worked. I think it worked. Do you feel better about it? I just feel different. I feel a sexual attraction to women now. Yeah. Yeah. It worked. Everything

changed. Everything changed. I feel better. I feel like they should do a walk for guns and getting, you know, children being killed in school shootings. If they did a 10 mile walk for that, we wouldn't have them anymore. That's how stupid these people are, which drives me fucking bats. All right, let's face it. A lot of us just randomly picked a bank and signed up, and then we've just been there. And then we're stuck with all the bank fees and all of the stuff, but the thought of even switching banks is overwhelming. No more. That's where Chime comes in.

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I mean, it looks like I just took the lipstick and rubbed it on my teeth. And I wiped it off. My whole finger is covered with lipstick. And I'm like, Kylie, you didn't tell me. Oh, I didn't notice. I think she did. I think this was a personal attack.

In her pattern and practice of making Jennifer and I look as much like shit as possible on these channels. So that when people see it in person, they always say, oh my gosh, you guys are pretty. You're welcome. You're welcome. Imagine if they saw it in person. The reality is out of the millions of people that see us on TV or whatever I, YouTube, they're not seeing this in person.

They're not going to experience. Yeah, but when they do it's like life changing, how beautiful you look in comparison. Life changing. That's exactly what I was thinking. I just don't, yeah, I just want you to have those moments. Thanks. You're welcome. Okay.

So here is, I have missed and we haven't done it in so, so, so, so, so long. A fuck Mary Kill. we have not done the game fun married. I don't want to preface it by. It is a game. This is not real. We're not threatening to kill people. God knows we're not threatening to fucking marry people.

Especially these people. I was driving and I thought there is nothing on the planet now that has become more unattractive and insufferable than billionaires. Like you always think, if I were a billionaire, I would have the best life. I would help people. I would do cool shit. But what we are seeing is just billionaire after billionaire, just being fucking crazy, number one. And number two, just mean shit. Like, I used to sit around and think like millionaires or billionaires are just bored.

So they go on submersibles to see the Titanic, that kind of thing. But really now we, you know, have learned their map, you know, behind the scenes, doing all kinds of shit. So my fuck Mary kill. I think this is a great one. Fuck Mary Kill. Billionaire round. Elon Musk. Peter Teal.

Jeff Bezos. And so I've given this so much thought so I've kind of cheated. So okay, Ryan, what's yours going to be? Okay. So it's a

really hard choice. It's so hard. It is a really hard choice. But I will say, I will, I will marry Elon Musk, no pre-nup, you know, we're just accumulating all of the wealth that we can. And then it's down to the other two. And I'm going to say, oh, fuck Jeff Bezos because he's just a little bit more attractive than Peter Thiel. And that is like slow-bar. It's really tough.

But you're putting me in this position. So I guess I'll have to kill Peter Thiel. Which I'm totally fine with. I think I would sleep up without. I think I would do. I think I would marry Jeff. Okay. Okay.

because I agree he's actually the least disgusting of the three, which again, looks wise. Splitting hairs. And then I would agree. I think I would kill Peter because he's very scary. I mean, this is like, I feel like he's a murderer. Like, I feel like he is serial killer anti-trice. He gives serial killer energy for sure.

Yeah. So I feel like I'd be doing the world of favor there, except I don't know. Maybe I kill Elon. Fuck you on bus. No, I can't fuck it. Okay, wait. Kill Elon because he's actually making a difference with like really direct that I see every day of getting some of these next people elected. I'll fuck Peter Thiel because maybe he won't like it.

Yeah. That's a good one. It's what yours. Torture him. And I'll give you my reasons why, which I think are really thought out. I mean, I spent like the entire day at the gym thinking, about this. Okay. I'm going to marry Elon Musk, and here's why. Elon Musk, as has been reported for years, is a terrible addict. That is what has been reported nonstop. I don't know that personally,

but based on my observations of him, I agree. However, so at some point, he is going to bottom out. Like this, you can't do this forever. He can't take this much ketamine, this leaves this much sleep. So I think he's a ticking time bomb. So I think there's a real possibility that he goes first out of those three. Peter Thiel, I'm going to fuck. And here's why. He's going to hate it.

I'm going to hate it. We're both going to be miserable the whole time. And so that gives me a little bit of joy. I chose Jeff Bezos to kill. and I'll tell you why. Okay. Number one, I believe he and Lauren Sanchez probably have the tightest pre-up in the history of the world. So then you think, okay, his ex-wife is doing so much good with her money. Anonymously, she's helping people, funding meals on wheels. She's doing all the good. It's also been reported that his kids did not go to his wedding with Lauren Sanchez. So I'm thinking that the kids probably have. don't agree with him politically. And so with his money, the kids and their mother's influence could do what he's done,

which is so terrible and change it for good. Those are my thoughts on it. I think they're pretty good. They're always good. I always imagine you have like this notebook of just like elaborate notes and thoughts. And then you just scrap one idea and then yeah. And also on Peter Thiel. I wouldn't want, because, you know, he's running around talking about this weird Christian cult thing and the Antichrist.

And so I wouldn't want anybody to put him as like a martyr. That would be hard for me to take. So, yeah, that's what I do at the gym. It's past the time. I think we all had different answers. Yeah. That means it's a tough one. Let us know in the comments.

Yeah, everybody, do your own. Again, this is a game. We're just playing the age old game. I know we should move on, but can I do like a rapid fire one with you I just thought of? Yeah. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, for sure. You know it's my favorite. Okay.

Eric, Don Jr. Okay, hold on. Hold on. I'm writing it down. Okay. Ryan, you pick the third one. Eric, Don Jr. Jared Kushner.

Jared Kushner? Yeah. That's a good one. Okay. Okay, do it. Okay, number one, you got to kill Jared because he appears to be the smartest. Dem and Dem and Dem and Dem are pretty much harmless. I mean, without dad, they're incompetent to the instigree.

Yes, they're corrupt. They don't have the charisma, all the things. So Jared has to go because I do believe he has deep-seated convictions, albeit corrupt, and he's more ambitious than the other two. So he's got to go. Eric Don Jr. God, that is tough. That's a tough one.

Collie. I think both of them are probably completely malleable. I think that I could browbeat either one of them into what I wanted them to do. I think that I'm going to pick, thought Don Jr., even though that's repulsive. It's absolutely repulsive. I think Mary Eric, because I think he is so incompetent, I can literally lock him in a room and go for days and weeks and months on end. and he does not have the balls to fight for himself.

I mean, he thinks his wife is a good singer. I think he has like trainable half of a brain cell. And that's generous. Like I really do. And Don Jr. maybe has a brain cell and a half before. I think Don't worry. I'm not having fun with that. But it's just you have Sophie's choice. And he's so much more in your face.

and oh, I'm a bro and all that. Plus he's, oh, God, he's friends with Andrew Tate. Okay, let me. Andrew Tate's going to be in jail, though. Yeah, but that's how he is with women, I bet. So, oh. I, bombs, I think you nailed it. I think I agree with your three.

I think I have to do that. I mean, obviously, you know, there's no good answer. If I had to get one, it would be that. Yeah. That's a great one. You know, keep them coming because I just love this. So we'll bring. People should drop in the comments below.

Some of your ideas and then we'll do them. It's one of my favorite things to do. It is. You take it very, very seriously. Oh my gosh. I don't just throw out names and answers. I really think about it. Okay, you guys, I have a news story.

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experienced calmly. Okay, I love this. As you know, I'm way too old to have grown up with tracking up. So let me tell you what, this is the old school. This is how I did it in college. Okay. What you did is you pretty called. Are they answering?

Are they not answering? And you'd start 6'7 at or star 6.9 at at some point because at first you didn't even have callerity. So you didn't have to worry about that. And then we would have stakeouts and drive-bys. So we would just switch cars like we'd go to our neighbors to get a car that our boyfriends didn't know so we could drive by. So I think that having the ability to track people is a time-honored.

tradition of nosy romantic partner. But I would have never camped out to see what somebody was doing if I didn't have a reason to not trust them. So I think fundamentally your generally like fucking Kylie. Kylie, this is beat up on Kylie episode. Kylie tracks me. Okay. That is the most boring track.

I guarantee you it is boring. They said seven times a day. How often do you look at your location? sharing. I mean, I'm probably right in that average. I just like to like I bet you're what my I like to look at what my Sims are up to all of my friends. I'll look at where they're in Oklahoma. I'll see what they're up to here. Angie's always one of two places. It is very boring to watch you. It's so boring. Like so yeah, I'm the worst track on the planet. So, okay, and here's the thing. My daughter, she tracks all her friends. Like so and so is here.

And so somebody said they broke up with their boyfriend, but they really didn't break up with their boyfriend. So all of them were tracking her and like, oh my God, she's something out of their boyfriend's house last night. I'm like, why the fuck do you know where she is all the time? Like, that's weird. You should not be tracking your friend group. I will say that's nobody's business. But then she made a good point. And I have to give it to her on this. She said, when we were in college, we all tracked each other. And if somebody was gone for 15 minutes, then we could find them, which does make sense to me. That's what I was going to say. That's kind of how most of my follows have started.

How they started. Because you want to make sure your friend gets home safe. And if anything happens, you have all their location. So, yeah, there's a good side to it. But that comes with obviously a lot of lack of privacy. I just think we're used to it now, too. Like, I don't even think it's hard to go back. Yeah.

I think it's, I'll tell you what, my oldest, the minute he got out of college, he was like, you can't track me anymore. Full stop. Yeah, my parents don't have my location. And they never have. I didn't, because I grew up without it. My parents wouldn't even, probably don't even know that location sharing exists on my phone. Yeah.

So I think it's privacy matters a lot. But what is privacy anymore? Like, we don't have any. If somebody fucking around, you one million percent get to track them until the end of time. They're no longer trustworthy. Like, I completely get that. But just, I just don't think a control issue. What I see is a control issue that can pop up in a romantic relationship.

relationship. Yeah. That's kind of scares me a little bit because some people, whether they have the tracking up or not, are going to be fucking nuts and want to know where you are, what you're doing, who you're with. And that's not fair. Yeah. And here's a great tool for them.

It's just the perfect. Had I had this back in the day when Jennifer and I were playing CIA agents? You always solved that shit. It would have been, we would have had nothing to do because all of our time was spent on location, who were you with. And now that, that. that would have been gone. So I don't know.

I think probably what I learned the hard way is if you're having to spend a large portion of your day monitoring your partner's whereabouts, your relationship is toxic. Because I just don't think the healthy relationship. Now I get like, oh my gosh, are you still at the grocery store? You just pick up eggs. Completely get that. But why were you at lunch for 45 minutes? You said you were gone for 30 minutes.

You know, that kind of shit. That gets really toxic and fucked up. and it's a slippery, slippery, slippery slope. So I don't know. Ryan, what do you think? So I, yeah, I, so I recently moved in with my boyfriend, Jess, and we just started sharing our locations with each other, more so out of convenience because he works from home a lot. And, you know, our hours can change every day, just depending on the news.

And, you know, I want to know if he's at work or at home and he wants to know, you know, if I'm on my way home, if he's on a call, if he needs to go into a different room. But I was scrolling on TikTok about a week ago, and I came across this video that I thought was, you know, very thoughtful about what makes a healthy relationship. And they said in the video, do not share your location with someone else. And so I said to him, I was like, you know, because all of the other points I thought were really smart. It wasn't some, you know, idiot on TikTok. I thought it was like actually pretty insightful. And he was like, why don't you want to share your location with me anymore?

Yeah, once you're going to take it back. In your generation, it's just everybody shares the location with everybody. So right. It's weird that you don't want to share it. And then I was like, okay, fine, you can have my location. And honestly, I check it. I do check it. I check not just his, but I check everyone. My friends, because it's just like Kylie said, it's fun. to see where everyone is, what everyone's up to. Yeah, sometimes I'll just screenshot and be like, where are you? What is this place? I've never seen you here.

What are you? Like, why are you at Soneso's house? Yeah, I'm just like, where is this? I've never seen you here. Do you have a new boyfriend? What are you doing there? Yeah, not saying it's healthy, but I do enjoy it. Even though there's, like, even though 99.9% of the time when you track somebody,

there's nothing juicy about it, you still like it. Yeah, I don't even think there's ever. in a juicy finding for me. Like you've never found anybody that's like, I was tracking my youngest. He was somewhere out of town. And I was like, I wonder what time he got home last night.

And it tracked to government building. And I thought that motherfuckercker's in jail. That's where he is. He's in jail. And they turned his phone off. And it turned out he was at the Airbnb, like right behind some government building. But I immediately was like going.

through jail records because I do worry with the young one because, you know, 21 is not the sharpest age. And I do worry that like they're going to get picked up or something and that he's going to end up in jail. So yeah, I saw that. But he's not like Emily, I don't track because she's boring. Luke's only going to track Sam won't let me. I probably would track Sam, but I think that'd be boring. But Luke is the only interesting one. And I just want to make sure they got home. okay and it's like I don't track it normally it's just like he was out of town but that government building it's in a shockwave through me I don't know about you guys but I feel like August is the Sunday of summer and it's the perfect time to hit the reset button before the autumn rush

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And I'm going to say it again, Alpha, the term alpha male. Alpha is a flawed study. The guy who did the study who coined the term alpha male, did it with a bunch of wolves that didn't know each other that were in captivity. It has nothing to do with anything that has to be male or masculine or taking care of anything. It's a bunch of scared males who don't know what to do, so all they do is fight each other to see who's the best. The guy who even did the study has been trying for years to get people to stop doing it,

because it's so stupid. So that's what I've had it with, this fucking term alpha male. There is no real term. It's a stupid term. It's fucking stop using it. God damn it. I love when they get progressively mad. I love when they educate me.

I didn't know that. I didn't know that. But she's one billion percent, right, never in my life. Like, I mean, I lived maybe 45 years on this earth and I had never heard the term alpha male. I thought alpha was the beginning of the Greek alphabet. Like that's, I never. And now it's like we're big strong men. We're alpha males.

Yet we have to run around and bend over for orange makeup boy. We have to go and drink creatine. We have to lift weights. And we have to do all this. You know, we have to go to UFC and WWE matches to prove how masculine we are. We have to pith all over everybody else to show how great we are. It just, she's one million percent, right? I'm furious.

I didn't think of it. See, but I would argue that like to me, it's being used correctly. If they're just putting scared men, scared wolves that don't know each other and they fight just to see who's the best because they don't know what they're doing. That's kind of exactly what I'm seeing happening with alpha males. It's actually a derogatory term. Right. Yeah. I agree.

When I hear alpha males, yeah. They don't realize it though. That's the problem. No. And if you identify as an alpha male, you're definitely not one. Beta, Zeta. Yeah. Again, beta male was not something I ever heard of either.

But now we have to have an alpha male, a beta male. But I do like the term just low tea, high tea. I also, I go back to it and I've been using it for a year. I think it's groundbreaking is overcompensating for a little dick and or poor sexual performance. You can spot it in the cars. You can spot it with how they treat people. You can spot it with how they talk to their partners. Like, it is not hard to spot a piece of shit man because they put a full.

fucking poster board and say, look at me, my dicks is so big in my, I saw bright green corvette driven by somebody my age just yesterday. And I thought, well, teeny. Teeny, teeny, teeny, weenie. It just, it never, ever, ever, ever, ever fails, ever. Ryan, what do you think about it? Do you, did your friends, like your age group, you're much younger than Kylie. So, um, correct. Sure. Was that like a term they bannered around in college? I've never even heard that.

Did you hear it, Kylie? No, I think it, I think it's even more popular with people who are just like slightly younger than me, um, and much younger than Kylie. Um, like the, the term has like really come into use. I don't know. I never referred to people as an alpha male. And I don't think I ever would. See, I see.

I see people my age using it. Like the Fox News crowd, they're talking about alpha males all the time. But it's the young people too, the young youngs. They have all this slang. And I feel like maybe that's a part of it. Maybe that's misguided. But those are my actual thoughts. I remember when I started saying good, like bad, that's so bad in high school.

Or maybe it was middle school. And my mom was like, why is it bad? So no, bad means good. And now my daughter says words to me that I am just, she'll be like, oh, my God. that's cunt. And I'm just like, what? She's like, oh, no, mom, that means you look, you look pretty. And I'm just like, okay. Like, I'm so confused. I've officially reached the over the pop culture hub. Just now? Now, it's been about two years. I've realized it. I've been, I've been on the downhill slide.

It's careening towards when you start saying, I don't know anybody who's up for any awards, you have slipped into the old person, you know, and so when it, like a movie, I mean, I kind of know actresses because I go to the movie, but by and large, I don't know any of celebrities. All right, Pups, you want to close it out? Okay, we have to plug Jennifer's book. The best book of 2020, 26, the must read must have before the midterms. Pre-order Jennifer's book, Not Today, Fascist. The link is below in the show notes.

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