Jocko Podcast - 496: Toxic Leadership. This Is How You Spot It. This Is How You Know.
Episode Date: June 25, 2025>Join Jocko Underground< Discussing the broad and often misunderstood term "toxic leadership," noting how frequently he’s asked about it. A detailed paper by Colonel Denise F. Willi...ams from the Army War College that identifies toxic leadership traits and categorizes 18 types of toxic leaders. Though the paper focuses on the U.S. Army, Jocko emphasizes that toxic leadership exists in all organizations, not just the military. Explore how such leaders emerge, why they’re tolerated, and whether strong, positive leadership can counteract the damage they cause.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/jocko-podcast/exclusive-content
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This is Jocko podcast number 496 with Echo Charles and me, Joccoe.
Good evening, Echo.
Good evening.
So I get asked a lot of questions for years.
Get asked questions about toxic leadership, right?
Questions like, what do you do?
What should I do if I have a toxic leader or how do you handle the company when there's toxic
leadership?
That kind of thing.
But the problem with the term toxic leadership and toxicity and specifically toxic leadership is,
That's such a broad term.
And, you know, when someone tells me they have a toxic leader could mean a whole bunch of different things, even though we kind of all know what it means, right?
It means bad leadership.
That's what everyone's implying.
Well, I found a paper written by an Army colonel that was at the Army War College.
And it's just a paper about toxic leaders.
and the characteristics of toxic leaders
and then the types of toxic leaders
that they become.
And I think it's really, when I read it,
it's one of those things,
you know when you get a certain type of car
and then you're driving around
and you keep seeing that type of car everywhere?
Yeah, fully.
It's like that,
but as you start reading the descriptions
of the characteristics and the types of toxic leaders,
they're like, oh, yeah, oh yeah.
And most important, you can check
your damn self
to make sure that some of these traits
that are out there aren't in you.
So let's jump into this paper right here.
Just to get first,
give off the credit here.
This is the author of this is Colonel Denise F. Williams.
The title is toxic leadership in the U.S. Army.
It kicks off here.
The extent to which toxic leadership exists
in the U.S. Army is a question that demands
thorough examination.
While most publications on military leadership
focus on the positive aspects of good leadership,
this project examines,
the current literature on destructive leadership styles this paper sought a definition of toxic
leadership consolidated expert views on the personal characteristics of toxic leaders and compiled
18 types of toxic leaders the project serves a review of toxic leadership in the u.s.
army it derives insights into toxic leadership in the army why it exists why it is tolerated and what
impact positive leadership may have on this phenomenon so that's what it is that's what it's a
paper about but clearly and you're going to see this real quick this ain't just about the army
this is about any type of then not just the military but any type of organization that exists in
a world and and that's another crazy thing is people think that because someone was in the military
they were a good leader and because they were an officer they were a good leader because they were
a commander they were a good leader or a or a colonel they were a good leader or a general they
were a good leader or an admiral they were good that doesn't mean that at all
Doesn't mean that at all.
There's absolutely horrific, toxic leadership at every level of the chain of command.
And of course, there's a bunch of great human beings as well.
But we're talking about the toxic ones right now.
So I don't want to make it sound, and that kind of opening makes it sound all toxic leaderships everywhere.
It's common, but it's not the preponderance, right?
So it starts off, Army leaders must set high standards, lead by example, do what is legally a
morally right and influence other people to do the same.
They must establish and sustain a climate that ensures people are treated with dignity
and respect and create an environment in which people are challenged and motivated to be
all they can be.
Cool.
There you go.
US Army Field Manual 22 tack 100.
Telling about what solid leadership is.
Solid leadership is the cornerstone of a successful military.
The U.S.
Army absolutely depends on it.
What happens?
However, when that solid leadership turns out to be solidly bad, what happens when leadership is
so bad that it hangs over an entire organization like a toxic cloud that suffocates everything
and everyone that it comes in contact with. Does this happen in the Army? If so, why does it happen?
Why does the Army tolerate it? Why in the world would the Army tolerate toxic leadership? Can
positive leadership play a role in eradicating it or mitigating against its detrimental effects?
So there you go. There's the setup. Toxic leaders can be characterized as leaders who take
part in destructive behaviors and show signs of dysfunctional personal characteristics.
To count as toxic, these behaviors and qualities of character must inflict some reasonably
serious and enduring harm on their followers and their organization.
So there's like a definition right there that we have to pay attention to.
If you're a toxic leader, but you have no impact, it doesn't really matter.
You've got to have some kind of negative enduring impact on the organization.
The intent to harm others or to enhance the self at the expense of others distinguishes seriously toxic leaders from the careless or unintentional toxic leaders.
I've known quite a few unintentional toxic leaders in my day as well.
You know, people that were just, and this paper goes into it.
Thus, there are varying degrees of toxicity in this damaging disorder.
At one end of the spectrum, dysfunctional leaders may simply be unskilled, unproductive, and completely unaware of the
fact that they are lacking in the necessary talent to lead in the at the other extreme toxic leaders
will find their success and glory in the destruction of others be it psychological or even physical
they will thrive on the damage they can inflict on others in any case this toxic leadership
plummets productivity and applies breaks to organizational growth causing progress to screech to a
whole so there's your toxic leadership now we get into this this whole thing starts off with the
personal characteristics.
Man, man, I was kind of got,
what's the term here?
I kind of got engaged
when I started rooting this part.
Experts have identified a number of characteristics
attributable to toxic leaders.
The following compilation of traits
provides a starting point
for better understanding of toxic leadership,
although all of these characteristics
are significant.
They are listed from the least significant
to the most severe.
It's pretty cool.
In most cases of
toxic leadership, the leader will present not just one, but a combination of traits.
Intuitively, the more of these traits the leader displays, the more toxic the leader is considered.
Many authors explain these unfavorable traits in terms of psychologist Abraham Maslow's hierarchy of
needs. Maslow categorized human needs into a five-level pyramid and suggested that people
move upward as needs at a particular level are met.
We were talking when we were talking about this on the on the underground podcast, I think we were talking about Maslow.
The levels start with basic physiological needs forming the base and then ascend through safety, love and belonging, esteem, and finally self-actualization.
So this starts with like food, water, air, shelter, safety, and security.
And then it goes up, those are the physiological needs.
And then it goes up, safety, love, and belonging, esteem.
And then finally self-actualization.
Until needs and desires are met at any given level,
the individual cannot progress to the next level.
While trustworthy leaders usually operate at a level four or five,
destructive leaders are still concerned with meeting their safety needs at a level two,
or possibly their love and belonging needs at a level three.
their behavior indicates that they have not begun to address their esteem needs at level four.
This results in many of the following negative personal characteristics.
So if you're not feeling safe and secure in your scenario, you got problems.
This is why, what is it, money is the root of all evil.
Well, you could take that a step lower and just go like food.
You know what I mean?
Because if you don't have food,
you know you and I are fighting right if there's only one freaking hamburger yeah and it's just you and me
we're gonna have to fight for that thing yeah you see what I'm saying now listen we could in theoretically
we could we could decide hey we know each other hey we'll be able to go out and harvest more hamburgers
if you and I work together and we can figure out a system we'll split this one but there's also a
chance I'm just sticking you in the neck you know what I mean yeah and I'm getting the whole burger
yeah that feels like a learned thing like that that like that like things
we're going to work together.
The cooperation thing?
Yes.
There's definitely some cooperation thing.
Yeah, you know,
is learned.
Because you've got to kind of teach little kids to share, you know, after you.
They have to be taught that, you know?
That's a perfect example, dude.
They don't want to share.
It's actually instinctual to not want to share.
Even something that you're not using at that time when you're a kid.
Like a little kid, there'll be like a toy that they're not playing with.
And someone else will come over and take the toy that they're not playing with
and they will stop that individual.
Because that's mine.
That's one of the first words kids use.
Mine.
Mine.
Mine.
Actually, this is how deep that goes.
Sometimes, if you ask a kid what their favorite color is and they tell you blue,
and then they ask you what your favorite color is and you say blue, they'll be like,
no, no, no, that's mine.
That's my favorite color can't be your same.
So it's like, that's some instinctual activities.
And so much of this, this.
Insecurity and that look when I when I'm talking to people when I'm
Working with people and they have a an individual that's a toxic individual
So often it's it's coming down to insecurity right it's their ego their insecurity
They don't feel like they get the recognition that they deserve they don't feel like they're good enough and that's why they want to prove to everyone they are
So much of this boils down to that insecurity and look there's food insecurity that's a thing
Yeah and when you have food insecurity you're gonna do
more harsh things when you have food insecurity.
You know, if you're walking down,
or if an individual has a bunch of money
and somebody grabs a cup of coffee from,
or grabs the grocery out of their hand,
they might be like, whatever.
Whereas if someone doesn't have a lot of money
and someone grabs that grocery bag out of their hand
starts running, they're going after them
and they're going to beat them to get that thing back.
Yeah.
And I guess on a technical level makes sense
because when you say,
insecure. That means you're just not secure with I mean, I feel like nowadays anyway,
it's like almost like assumed when someone says, oh, that's just an insecure person. It's
almost like they kind of root it automatically in like something that you feel that you should
be secure in like, I don't know, your manhood or your relationship or something that's like kind of
frowned upon if you're not secure in it. But technically insecure just means you don't feel like
secure in that. So yeah, if like,
food is scarce you're not going to be secure in that you know just like anything is scarce you're not going to feel secure you don't know when the next one is coming so you're just not going to feel secure and it kind of applies to anything yeah yeah but i think you just kind of nailed it when you talked about there's things that we just when we say oh that person insecure we're talking about like their value as a human as perceived by themselves yeah like how do they perceive themselves right and do they have value as a human as a human and do they have value as a human
And if they don't, then they're going to be insecure.
And that's going to put them on edge.
Right.
Just like if the food is scarce, they're going to be on edge.
When they think their value is not there, they're going to be looking to lash out.
Packed it up.
Now, unfortunately, this doesn't really start with one of these things that's rooted in insecurity.
The first, the first characteristic, personal character is incompetence.
Incompetence results from the lack of the required skill, capability, aptitude.
that are required to complete the function.
It may include a failure to understand the mission or task at hand,
a continued failure to comprehend the problems
and issues associated with the task,
and ultimately a failure to determine
the best way to solve problems and overcome issues.
Look, that's just an incompetent person, right?
They could be secure, they could be a normal person,
but they just don't get it, man.
They just have a hard time with it.
It could be a technical task.
It could be a cognitive task.
It could be anything, but they're just not good at it.
And maybe they can learn some of it over time, but they're just not there yet.
And that's the lowest level, according to this personal characters, that's like the lowest
level of toxic leadership is you're just incompetent.
Next one, malfunctioning.
Leaders who malfunction are focused on their own insecurities and are therefore unable to
focus on the mission, organization, or followers.
Most of their time, energy, and effort are spent on themselves, leaving little attention
or interest for anything else.
not only does the leader malfunction, so does the organization.
So this person is focused on themselves.
So obvious to everyone, by the way, that's malfunctioning.
Now we get maladjusted.
Leaders who are viewed as maladjusted are insecure about their own accomplishments,
often with good reason having avoided the personal risk, discipline, and hard work needed
to succeed in earlier circumstances.
They are maladjusted to their surroundings, their position,
their organization, and certainly to their followers.
So they know that they don't really belong there.
They didn't work hard enough.
They didn't take the risk that was necessary.
They didn't put the discipline into their world.
And so they know that and they feel insecure about that.
And they're going to cause problems.
And that rolls right into the next one, sense of inadequacy.
Similarly, all toxic leaders have a deep-seated sense of inadequacy.
The sense, and that's important, this says all toxic leaders have a deep-seated sense of inadequacy.
The sense of inadequacy may be based on either real or perceived chinks in the armor, but nonetheless, the self-doubt is ever present.
In its most extreme form, this self-doubt can bring about a leader who only feels competent when destroying others.
Oh, that's so freaking fitting.
So again, now when these inadequacies and this insecurity starts to grow, the only way you feel good is by crushing someone else.
Malcontent.
The malcontent leader is an extremely bitter leader, an unhappy person, a disgruntled soul who is angry about past failures and determined to make.
the world pay. This leader is not satisfied with anything. Self, others, circumstances, and
displays this dissatisfaction through angry outbursts, rants, and tirades. So one thing that I,
it says that they are angry about past failures. And one thing I, I feel like it's not
just angry about past failures. I think these people can sometimes
be upset that they haven't gotten the recognition that they feel that they deserve.
So they did something and they think that they deserve the recognition and the glory for that
thing and they don't get it and now they get determined to make the world pay for it.
That's sort of the Kane and Abel story, right?
Kane did not get the recognition from God.
And so he killed his brother, Abel, who got the recognition?
That's what it is.
Next one, irresponsible.
Leaders who possess the characteristic of irresponsibility refuse to answer for their actions.
They have reckless disregard for the costs of their actions to others as well as to themselves.
They say no need to do what is right because they see no penalty for doing what is wrong.
I actually put the irresponsible one kind of like lower down in my mind, someone that's incompetent.
Those two are like I would go incompetent and then irresponsible.
Like you ever work with someone and they just do dumb shit?
Yeah.
And you're like, bro, you can't do that.
And they're like, oh, well, you know, it literally fits this, you know, they see, they see no need to do what is right.
Well, I didn't do that.
Well, it's going to take too long, you know.
They're like that type of person.
Yeah.
I view irresponsible.
And look, responsibilities is incredibly important.
Obviously, this is what extreme ownership is all about, right?
That's like the top of the of the jam.
But when someone is irresponsible, and by the way, when we.
We wrote the book Extreme Ownership.
There's a lot of people in the world that don't take ownership.
It's a very common.
It's a very common trait to blame other people.
So that's why, to me, it's just like a common trait that people are just irresponsible.
And they just go, oh, well, no, I didn't care.
Hey, why are you late?
Echo Charles.
You know what I mean?
He's like, well, what?
10 minutes, what?
You know what I mean?
It's one of those things.
They're just, or like, hey, hey, wait, you know, what'd you do with the, the, the, the, the, the,
SD cards from the recording.
You're like, oh, no, we got to do it again.
Why do we do it again?
No, I left him at the, I went to Chipotle on the way home.
I left and they were gone where they, I think they got thrown in the trip.
You know what I mean?
It's just like irresponsible.
You know what?
I also think, I think of the word irresponsible.
I think of kids, like 12 year old, 13, 14 year old.
Right.
You know, like that's when I think of irresponsible.
So I think this one should be a little bit lower in my mind.
The next step, amoral.
A step beyond irresponsible is amoral.
leaders who are amoral are often also irresponsible and see themselves as outside the particular
moral code.
Not only will they not take responsibility for their actions, but their amorality makes it nigh
impossible for them to discern right from wrong.
Again, to me, I still think we're in a zone of people that just don't comprehend.
Like it says that they don't discern right from wrong.
You ever, you know, your kid ever do something where they just didn't get why it was wrong?
Yeah.
You know what I mean?
You're like, bro.
What are you doing?
You can't do that.
You never had your kid do something that you're like, hey, what in the hell are you doing?
Well, my kids are pretty young.
No.
No.
Yeah.
Well, yeah.
Actually, yeah.
My teenager one, yeah, for sure.
You know, they'll think, they'll set fire to something.
Yeah.
Right.
A small fire.
Yeah, you know, you know, it's in the backyard.
It was only by the fence.
Yeah.
But the fence is made of wood.
You know what I'm saying?
And, you know, oh, no.
If I would have put it out.
The hose was over there.
I could have put, no.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And I'm thinking now that you got my mind all working, like there's a few incidents
that happened that it was that.
It was just like how you said, where it's like, bro, you, it feels just in general as a human
being that you would know better kind of a thing like how you say setting fire to something right
next to the wooden fence or whatever keeping a stack of papers right next to the stove open flame or
something like this right where it's real obvious or whatever um but yeah it's like you kind of
understand oh their brain is like not quite there yet so they don't think about the secondary
kind of effects given any situation you know so it's like yeah that's irresponsible yeah there's
To me, the irresponsible, the amoral, and whatever that was the first one.
And the incompetence, they're all kind of like ignorant.
They're all kind of a level of ignorance with those where, bro, what are you doing?
Like you ever had, well, I've had leaders where I've seen a leader behave a certain way in front of the troops.
And pull them aside and be like, dude, what are you doing?
Like everyone's watching you.
Well, I didn't think it was that big of a deal.
No, it's a big deal.
They're all watching you.
they're watching you you know you walk out of the office with the commanding officer and you got like the look on your face like oh fuck that guy
everyone just saw you do that what are you doing yeah actually i'm just um
amoral is like without morality right not like immoral which is like bad morals or negative whatever
amoral yeah like if you level of ignorance yeah like um i don't know i guess a lot of it comes down to your
value system because like okay so there's this
frog that exists in the big island in Hawaii.
And they're a menace and they make,
they're these little frogs.
Are they,
uh,
indigenous to the island?
No.
They're an invasive species.
Exactly right.
And they're kind of loud.
So some people,
they'll just like catch them and then just kill them.
Like stomp them and kill them,
you know?
So that sometimes,
I guess it depends.
Like if you're not attached to a very specific value system,
it'd be like,
oh yeah,
the thing is just loud,
so let me just kill it.
You know?
That's nothing really wrong with.
They just because I haven't really thought about it or, you know, but that's like a moral.
Like I'm not doing it because I'm angered, angry with necessarily their existence.
It's just, oh, it's bothering me.
Here's the solution to that.
I'll just kill it.
So it won't be croaking or whatever.
You know, more so than, you know, I'm going to kill every freaking frog because I'm angry at it or whatever.
Something like that.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And the ignorance there would be like, well, it's a life.
You know what I mean?
Like you're treating.
Well, if you.
killed this frog which you know and look if you didn't know it is an invasive species and it's
harming the rest of the ecosystem and all that no just like this thing was making noise so i killed it
right that yeah that's different like that value system which can go either way by the way like
like you could be like hey look it's taking a life and you know that's wrong given like you know my
beliefs and my morals or it could be like hey no there's a big picture here and certain like you know
ecologies have to function a certain way or whatever you know like um you know they do it with like
pigs sometimes what's the you know when they kill the pigs yeah
Because there's too many of them.
It's like you got to control the population.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Yeah, well, you got to do more than that with pigs.
Yeah.
So it's like that's different because there's thought put into it, you know?
Yeah.
It's like the amoral is like, no, it's not neither right or wrong.
I don't think about that kind of stuff.
It just is.
And I don't try to solve this immediate problem.
There you go.
Boom.
Kill it.
Next is cowardice.
Then this is a big jump.
Big jump to cowardice.
Cowardous and a leader is about, is about,
much more than a simple lack of physical courage as on the battlefield.
It is about a lack of resolve, determination, and steadfastness in times when tough decisions
must be made.
It is about being unable or unwilling to make tough decisions.
This type of leader does not recognize this weak point and is therefore not able to make
necessary change.
Yeah.
This is just someone that's just backing down continually and not standing up and doing the right thing.
And then that, again, this is a little bit of a strange progression here.
It goes insatiable ambition.
It goes from cowardice to insatiable ambition.
While ardent ambition may qualify as positive personal characteristic for a good leader,
insatiable ambition does not.
A leader who has an unquenchable desire for power, prestige, money, success, and glory
will obviously do whatever it takes to satisfy.
That desired any cost.
It may mean compromise of operation, organization, people, or all of these.
This leader will put ambition above all else.
So we just jumped to me.
You're just went from like, hey, the dude's a coward, but you know what?
Like, hey, you won't make a call, but we can step in and make a call.
Or, hey, he's doing something that doesn't make sense so we can correct him.
Or, hey, he's ignorant about this.
So we can, he doesn't know how to do this.
He's incompetent.
We can, like, those are all things that are sort of in a category that we can,
deal with.
Insatiable ambition.
Now all of a sudden,
we just jumped our issue level,
just jumped up quite a bit.
This person is doing whatever it takes,
whatever it takes to satisfy what they want,
which is power and glory.
And then it goes right into egotism.
As with ambition,
a healthy ego by itself may not be a particularly negative attribute.
However, egotism in a leader is a dysfunctional trait that can destroy organizations.
The leader's exaggerated sense of self-worth, constant focus on self, and inability to distinguish
between the real self and the imagined self, cloud self-perception, and thus limits the capacity
for self-renewal.
So, you know, clearly this is a huge one.
I think that I would actually flip these.
I think there's a person that can have an ego, but they also.
recognize, you know, like, okay, well, I can talk to them. I can help them see that in order to
help them move towards their egotistical goals, they still need the team to win. But the person
with insatiable ambition, they seem like they're, that seems like it's stronger than egotism.
And again, I'm being, you know, semantic about these words. But they are very, very closely related
and clearly things that destroy teams and organizations.
Yeah, that I always tried to figure out
what's the prescriptive threshold of ego.
Like, where does ego have to stop, you know,
before it becomes unhealthy?
Because just like I said, like a big ego,
it technically is good if it's, quote, unquote, healthy.
But then I've always figured,
okay, so what's the diagram?
what's the what's the thing and not only that why why it's difficult for you to figure out where that
is because it's different for different situations right but that's a good little description right
there where it's like the perceived versus the reality or whatever like kind of a thing like my
cloud self-perception yeah so if it's like if it's in line with like reality with the team that means
you got to be really in touch you know um then it's going to be a healthy ego no matter how big
you see what I'm saying if you're getting getting things done and you have high
expectations for yourself or for other, you know, that whole thing.
Yeah.
It's like healthy if it's in line with the reality of it.
I think you just nailed it.
If it's in line with reality, it's fine.
When it's out of line with reality or at least, look, it doesn't have to mirror reality,
but it has to reflect reality.
Right.
That's the difference.
Because if I'm an M.MA fighter and I'm going to fight, you know, uh, uh, John Jones.
Like, okay, I need to be humble when I'm training to fight John Jones.
And all.
And then when I'm getting in the ring, I'm going to be like,
All right, dude.
Like, this is John Jones.
I know, I got a plan.
Yeah.
Hey, he might be the greatest ever, but I got a chance.
If I can connect with this, if I can get that, look, you know, I got to get some confidence going.
Oh, yeah, fully.
It's not, it's not closely.
And, you know, at that point, an MMA fight against John Jones is not very closely.
It's reality.
I didn't pick a good example.
But the approach is still sound.
A better example would be, let's not say me, but let's say an actual MMA fighter that's going up against the champ.
Right?
They have a decent chance of beating them.
could do they could pull it off like all these things are good and and they have to be confident they
can't what they can't be is like there's no way i can win this right that would be a lack of ego
and that would cause them to have no chance of winning or there's no way i can lose this as well
if they're really yes believe that you know it's like which we've seen that before in m m m ms where
guys put their hands down or whatever they're joking around crack yeah and all of something they get
caught they get knocked out yeah so yes
The ego, and this ties into something I've been discussing a decent amount lately, and that is just the self-awareness of knowing who you are.
You know, Jimmy May, when he was on the podcast, he was talking about the fact that when people are going through buds, depending on how they view themselves and what the delta is between how someone views themselves and how the class views them, the bigger the delta, the less chance they have of making it through.
So with ego, the further your ego gets away from reality, the worst situation you're going to be in.
Yeah.
So it's like a, it's like a form of inflation.
So it's like the reality of your worth or whatever is the healthy ego zone.
Any kind of inflation from there is like the delta.
Yeah.
And you have to, it's weird because in there's certain moments where you have to ego up.
This is a, this is a interrogation term.
Right? Like when I say, dude, you know, when I'm interrogating you and I say, hey, you being in charge of all these troops, you must know exactly where they're going to attack. And you go, you're damn right, I do. And then you tell me. Or I ego down, which is like, you're, you don't even know what's happening with your own troops. And you go, yes, I do. And you tell me where they are. Yeah. But you have to do that with your ego in certain situations. Like you're, when you're walking into the cage or you're walking onto the battlefield or you're walking into the meeting to present something, you got to ego up a little bit. Yeah. But. But.
But when you're preparing for the meeting,
when you're preparing for the fight,
when you're preparing for the battlefield,
you got to ego down a little bit.
Yeah.
So you got to kind of,
you got to kind of make some adjustments.
Perfect.
Addition to the diagram,
because I think that's still part of the healthy ego.
It can expand as needed because not too much.
Otherwise, you go into inflation
and it can contract as needed, you know.
But not too much.
Otherwise, yeah,
you go into like to defleas.
Yeah.
So,
and like your,
kind of like your muscles, right?
Sometimes you get that pomp.
You look in the mirror.
You see that pump.
You're like,
But that's really your body.
That's really your arms or shoulder,
whatever you're looking at.
You see what I'm saying?
It's not always going to be like that.
But under certain circumstances,
that's really you,
homie.
You see what I'm saying?
And then sometimes you might feel a little bit shriveled or whatever
when you dehydrated,
whatever, and that's you too.
Yeah.
Yeah, good point.
But if you don't see yourself realistically in that mirror,
and you start thinking that you're huge
and you're entering a,
you know,
a bodybuilding contest when you're not there.
Or the other end of the spectrum is you don't think,
you know, you're, you're not seeing how jacked you really are.
And now you're freaking going on crazy trembleone and whatever other steroids you're going to go on to.
And you have body dysmorphia.
Yeah.
So, yes.
So some people might have ego dysmorphia kind of a scenario.
Yeah.
That's it, man.
That's it.
Could go, could be one way or the other.
One way or the other.
And that rolls right into arrogance.
Again, to me, arrogance, I always looked at arrogance as a precursor to egotism.
really a precursor to insatiable ambition.
And again, maybe I don't understand the words 100%
or maybe we just have different understandings.
But to me, like a free, you know, you can meet a 20 year old jujitsu kid
that's kind of arrogant.
You know, he's going to a tournament.
He's bobbing his head back and forth.
He seems a little bit arrogant.
You know, I don't, I don't, I think that seems below like egotism.
Yeah.
But here we go.
To take, to take this idea of self-worth a step further,
leaders who are arrogant and overly certain of their own superiority to all others are not only
consumed by their self-worth but also by the fact that they are convinced that they can do all
things a cut above others because of their self-perceived perfection they cannot fathom making
mistakes this arrogance prevents them from acknowledging their mistakes and instead leads to
blaming others for all that goes wrong nothing will ever nothing will ever be there
fault, but they will not hesitate to find and lay blame wherever it is otherwise convenient.
Again, like how we how we break these out, we can do it a bunch of different ways, but this is,
you know, this is the opposite of extreme ownership.
This is the ego taking over and is not good.
And see, again, now this next one is called selfish values, which to me is like the,
even precursor to the precursor, right?
Oh, this person's a little bit.
Like, I would, I would call you selfish before I'd call you arrogant, before I'd call you egotistical.
Right?
That's probably the order that I would go.
And then I would eventually get to this guy, Echo Charles got an insatiable freaking ambition.
Like, he's not stopped.
That's kind of the mode out.
Because selfish values is like, a lot of people have selfish values.
We all have selfish values.
Yeah.
Like that little kid that you took my toy, the toy I'm not playing with.
Dude, I want that thing.
Selfish values.
Good leaders are those who genuinely.
genuinely care about the mission organization and their subordinates and put those entities before self.
Toxic leaders, by contrast, do not develop values that place organizational needs high.
The concept of selfish values encompasses more than merely lack of selflessness.
It encompasses that notion that the value someone holds are focused excessively on self.
For the most part, values are directed toward the good of others or the good of all.
or sorry, for the most part, values are usually directed toward the good of others or the good
of all.
Toxic leaders maintain values that are purely self-centered and self-promoting.
Next one up, avarice and greed.
One of the self-centered values results in yet another dysfunctional characteristic of
avarice and greed.
Those in this category place an inordinately high value on the accumulation of wealth and
financial gain.
Averous and greed will take a toll on the organization and the people in it.
Check.
Again, you know, when you start talking about how people react, you know, the saying money is the root of all evil.
Like, when you don't have any money, you're going to people, people do things that they shouldn't be doing.
Well, when people are obsessed with money, they do things that they shouldn't be doing.
We were having a family talk the other night about the movie,
The Wolf of Wall Street.
Have you seen this movie?
Yeah, yeah.
Good on.
Well, what's crazy about that movie is the dude was legit making money.
Maybe not in the, in the most, you know, honest of ways, but not illegal ways,
which is a huge difference between illegal.
And I think Jordan Belford has said that only 5% of what he was doing was illegal.
Maybe it was 20.
I don't know.
But at a juncture, he was doing things that were legal.
They were scummy, they were dirty,
they were low morale, but they weren't illegal.
And he made a lot of money doing things that weren't illegal.
And then he went out and just did things that were illegal.
And you think to yourself, damn, dude.
Now look, he was also like a total drug addict, I think at the time.
when he was making a lot of bad decisions.
And probably his arrogance got him to a point
where he thought that he couldn't get caught.
But it's interesting that someone would make a ton of money
and it just ain't enough
and they do something illegal to make a little bit more.
You know, make more.
And risk, there's a certain amount of ignorance
or arrogance when it comes to taking risk
when you start saying, oh, we'll just do this.
I can get away with this.
Just cut that corner.
We we can pump and dump one time with the with this stock
Yeah, yeah
Which that's what they that they did that they did some illegal stuff and then I mean I don't I forget what's true and what's
Just the movie
But in the movie they set it up like
He could have kind of gotten a slap on the wrist
If he walked away from what he was doing but then he didn't walk and I again I don't know if that's movie talk
If that's the movie to make the movie more epic because let's face it it's pretty epic and
when he says, I thought fucking leave it.
It's pretty epic.
But in reality, any human that is like, okay, I've made a shit ton of money.
I know I've done illegal things.
I can just sign this piece of paper, walk away, and go live my life.
You can't fathom that there's people that would go, no, I'm not fucking leaving.
That's the way things happen.
That's greed.
Yeah.
And how much is enough?
Yeah.
Kind of not because of that thing.
It's like a mechanism in your brain that recalibrates stuff.
Like the new normal is this.
And then now if I fall below it, it's like, who is it?
Chris Rock, I think he had like a comedian, sorry, a standup thing.
And he talked about that a bit.
A bit.
Yeah, yeah.
Where he's like, if, oh, like, he's talking about two rich people.
Uh, but one was like way more rich.
And then he said I forget the names. I know Oprah was one of them, but it was basically like if Oprah woke up with
Some lesser rich person yeah money she'd want to kill herself or something like that
You know what's like you know to a normal person it's like yeah having
Ten million dollars is like oh my god that's like the dream right then for a billionaire ten million dollars
It's like that's the end of his life kind of because you calibrate the new normal as you as you kind of go up and
It can go into those weird dreamland worlds where it's a
like, sure, you make millions of millions upon millions to the point where you start to be
able to get anything that you want, all the way to where it goes, it overflows into like
even the legal system in a way, you know, where it's like, oh, yeah, I'll just get a better
lawyer.
I'll get a team of lawyers.
And I'm kind of like, start to perceive myself as above the law, just a little bit.
And the more money I make, the more of that capability.
So it's all this weird perception in your brain.
And you get there and you stay there for a little bit, maybe a few months, maybe a year,
whatever that's normal now if you fall below you're like losing you feel like you're
drowning now you know so it just sort of recalculates like that and then you just
need more just need more if you you can either stay where you are or more you know but
if I to get this much more all I got to do is like make a small adjustment in my
ethics which is a name for that too by the way called ethical fading make a small
A little adjustment.
So now I went from unethical to slightly legal, which I'm totally fine because
I'm slightly above the law.
Anyway, you see what I'm saying?
It's just a one tiny half step at a time.
A little rationalization.
Yeah, there you know.
Slow rationalization.
Good ain't, man.
Which ties right into this next one.
Lack of integrity.
Lack of integrity on the part of a leader will result in the lack of trust on the
part of the followers.
A lack of trust will cause a good business to lose money, good government, to lose
credibility, and good military to lose lives.
There's absolutely no room in leadership for a lack of integrity.
It marks the leader as cynical, corrupt, hypocritical, or untrustworthy,
and is both deplorable and intolerable in any leadership situation.
And the best definition I've ever heard of integrity is,
say what I do and do what I say.
Like, I say what I do and I do what I say.
I'm not, if I say I'm going to do something, I'm going to do it.
And if I say, I won't do something, I won't do it.
And that's the way it is.
And if I do something, I will tell you that I did it.
And by the way, I haven't pointed this out yet.
but a lot of what I'm reading is just, is footnoted.
So this, this colonel that wrote this,
she pulled from a bunch of different sources.
And a lot of this is footnoted like an academic paper.
So it's not just her opinion.
There's, there's a research behind it.
Next one is deception.
Toxic leaders know that lack of integrity,
selfish values, insatiable ambition, irresponsibility,
and all the other character flaws that they may possess
are not acceptable in their role as leaders.
Therefore, they must embrace yet another flaw, deception.
They must attempt to deceive others about their character flaws and self-serving motives.
Knowing they are supposed to care about the organization and its people, they will provide
lip service to a sense of concern while their genuine loyalty is to themselves.
They hide their intentions most of the time, since their true intentions are socially,
morally, and organizationally unacceptable.
This constant deceit yields an absolute.
contradiction to the faith, confidence, and trust necessary for good order within your
organization.
So one thing that I've always found interesting about this one is the idea that someone can
deceive a whole organization is very difficult.
Like when someone is really looking out for themselves, but they're giving lip service to the
team and the, you know, I always, I think that's very difficult to do.
It's very difficult to do that.
I suppose some people pull it off sometimes,
and that would definitely make them a very destructive, toxic leader.
But most of the time,
you're looking at them as they're smiling and they're, you know,
doing bad things.
Next one is malevolent.
Malveillance in leadership is the persistent, severe hatred for others
that these leaders have in order to counter their own insecurities.
They wish for the misfortune of others
and then revel in it,
they secretly cheer when co-workers,
superiors, and subordinates fail
even when the well-being of the entire organization is threatened.
Yeah.
And that comes,
there's different degrees of this, right?
Like when someone gets promoted
in another department not competing with you,
and echoes like,
dude,
I can't believe they're getting promoted.
Or when they get fired or when they get demoted.
You know,
that's why,
people love that you know speaking of uh what you were talking about the rita the Oprah going from
you know 100 million billion dollars to something bad happens sir oh everybody likes to do that
yeah oh yeah that's why in the old days the national inquirer existed remember what that was
yeah yeah the national inquirer or now it's just you know uh either TMZ or just gossip you know
drama websites yeah well there's like a german word for that
because I think it's like, I think it's like more natural than we might.
Oh, no, that's, that's, that's why this surprises me that it's so high up on the list when I think this is a lot of people.
Yeah, but I guess it depends on the degree because I'm sure that this, um, what they're saying is if that's the front running quality, you know, kind of a thing where everyone's going to have some of this to some degree, selfish, arrogance, whatever.
Yeah.
They're going to have it to the small teeny tiny degree is part of the formula of being a person.
whatever but like um this basically taking pleasure another person suffering or or whatever is
something Freudian I don't know something it's like a there's like a German word for it where um so
yeah I think we all have it to a degree but yes a malevolent person is kind of like that's their
whole shit one one thing that again I feel like this is a more common thing but also the reason
I'm kind of surprised that this type of thing is so high on the list.
list is that even in the definition says they have hatred for others.
That's a feeling.
They wish for a misfortune.
That's like a feeling.
They secretly cheer.
So like this is a person that's not really taking action as a leader to undermine or set
echo up for, you know, plant some freaking drugs in your locker at work so you get
busted at school.
You get in trouble.
Like that's, this doesn't talk about the actions.
But I guess that's where we get into the next one, which is malicious.
Maliciousness takes malevolence a step further.
These leaders actually inflict the harm on others.
They feel such malice towards often, whether there is personal gain in it for them or not.
Rancor, malice, enmity, and spite are the trademark emotions of these leaders.
And they enjoy the insult of revenge on others.
Yeah.
So I guess I spoke too soon.
And the next one is malfeasance.
Finally, haughty, arrogant, and insecure, toxic leaders sometimes cross the thin border
between unethical or unprofessional behavior and illegal behavior.
This can result in malfeasance.
Their perceived self-importance has them convinced that rules and laws do not apply to them.
That's exactly what you were just talking about.
This can result in behaviors that are internally and externally devastating to an organization,
especially in the public sector where public trust and confidence are greatly valued.
The worst case scenario occurs when a number of these negative traits are combined in a leader.
It is now evident why so many authors use Maslow's hierarchy of needs model.
A number of these dysfunctional personal characteristics illustrate the toxic leader's inability
to get past low-level survival needs, level three, and in many cases, level two.
Then it goes on here, and therefore they have issues of insecurity, yearning, sense of loss,
fear, obsession, and compulsion.
In less extreme cases, the individual may be getting safety needs satisfied, but misses
the out on the love and belonging needs.
This type of leader has a feeling of self-consciousness, feelings of being unwanted,
feelings of worthlessness, emptiness, loneliness, isolation, and incompleteness.
So there you go.
Those are the characteristics of toxic leaders.
Now the next thing is the types of toxic leaders.
what do these people actually do?
At first glance, toxic leadership connotes an evil bullying person, but the reality is
that toxic leadership can be present in much milder types or in a multitude of types between
these two extremes.
Recall that the penultimate of toxic leadership is in the harm done to the organization
and the followers.
The nature and degree of that harm results helps to characterize the toxic leader type.
So the first one is the absentee leader.
The absentee leader is detached from the organization.
organization and the people he is in charge with leading he is only involved in the decision making
future planning and program executing because of his physical presence in the organization he seems to be
mindless because his mind is only on himself and obtaining approval of others for himself so that's the
first one just someone's not really in the game next one is incompetent leader he may be incompetent
due to lack of skill, but may also have careless,
careless, dense, distracted, sloppy, or slothful.
He may be unable to effectively act and react in times and situations of uncertainty and stress,
and he may be unable to successfully communicate his ideas, educated his subordinates,
or delegate any authority to his competent supporters.
There you go.
That's just an incompetent leader.
We see them.
Key last one there is unable to delegate any authority to his competent supporters.
Because even if you're not quite a competent leader,
but you can delegate,
then you can have other people pick up the slack.
You're going to be good to go.
I saw that all time in sealed platoons.
Maybe the leader wasn't the best.
Maybe the chief was the best.
Maybe the platoon commander was the best,
but he would deselect and let the boys go.
The codependent leader,
the codependent relationship is based on the codependent
following a harsh set of rules
in order to conceal the behavior of the dependent.
This results in the emotional repression
that creates great stress for the codependent person.
which he then takes into his leadership behavior.
He will act and react to the followers in his organization
in the very same manner as he does to his or did
to his dependent accomplice.
He will take personal responsibility for their substandard performance
and make no attempt to correct it for fear of hurting their feelings.
He will take on more work and responsibility than is rightfully his
and then become very angry with the amount of work that has been pushed on him.
He is a peacemaker who would
rather cover up problems than face them in an effort to balance the group's system.
The result on the followers and the organization is distrust, uncertainty, and neglect
for addressing bona fide, bona fide problems, issues, and the future of the organization.
That's like people that fuel off a drama.
You know what I mean?
And they're just like, they're just kind of in the game with the drama.
in the game
I always was
I was always kind of
astounded by relationships
you know
especially when you know
when when I was younger
and I'm not saying like a kid
but like you know in my mid-20s
and you'd see people that were
girlfriend boyfriend
you know
they'd be just like fighting and screaming
but then they'd be there the next night
fighting and screaming they'd be there the next night
they'd be the next night fighting like dude
what is happening
this does not look like fun to me
but it's fun to them
Yeah, like that drama.
Yeah, it's like you need it.
There is this same, might have been a comedian again.
Actually, I think it was long term.
Where it's like he's talking about he was behind this guy in on the road, right?
He's driving behind a guy and it was raining.
And the guy in front of him, there was like, you know how your wheels kick up mud, right?
And the mud was going on his windshield.
So he put on the windshield wipers.
So he was super annoyed.
that this guy was basically kicking up mud all over his car, all over his windshield, right?
So he has a windshield wipers on and he starts to get used to it after a while.
His windshield wipers, mud, windshield wipes, mud, right?
Sees the car, right?
He gets used to it.
Then after a while, the car takes the exit or makes a turn or whatever.
And he kind of felt like lost without the car.
He's like, I kind of liked that.
I kind of got used to it.
It kind of became my life, you know, kind of a thing.
where I kind of wanted that mud back on my car
so I could wipe it off the windshield.
Yeah, the codependent relationship right there of life.
So I'm thinking oddly, the way he said it was actually funny
and I was like how that's funny, but then when he kind of,
yeah, because the way he said it was not funny.
No, no, no.
But when he, the way he said it too was funny, yes,
but I kind of felt them.
I was like, I kind of feel like I know how that feels, you know,
where it's kind of like, because I feel like
this has a lot to do with how life is for a person where in a matter of speaking,
it's constantly you sending out signals to the universe,
we'll call it externally,
right?
You're sending us and then you're getting signals back.
And I think it's like that's constantly happening, right?
And sometimes it doesn't even matter whether the signals you get back are good or bad.
It's just the fact that they're there, you know?
And then sometimes the little formula.
can be like, hey, I'm only getting bad signals,
but for some reason it's helping me put one foot
in front of the other, kind of a scenario.
And you get used to it.
And then after a while, you kind of depend on,
what was the freaking movie that he said that?
Freaking Shawshank Redemption.
You ever seen that movie?
Yeah, of course.
Badass man.
He called it institutionalized.
He's like at first, you're like, whatever.
And then after a while, you start to depend on these walls,
you know?
Where it's like, right kind of is that.
Yeah, well, that's why guys would leave the prison and come back.
Right.
Go get rolled up for something because it was just safe in there.
Safe.
I know what to expect.
Yeah, you get used to it, you know?
So it's like, it's almost like a version, a weird version of like, um, you ever heard
of the most quiet room in the world or something like it's called the most quiet room in
the world?
Is it like literally for sound?
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's like a sound dampening room.
And they say that you go crazy or you can go crazy in there.
And it's for that reason because.
you know, even me talking and whatever, like these little vibrations that are going out.
There's coming, it's coming back to me, right?
So I got, it's always, I'm sending some signals and I'm getting some back or whatever.
If you got nothing, you got a problem.
So I would way rather these negative ones than nothing.
Yeah.
I don't need positive all the time, you know, but then after a while when you just function throughout your life or in certain circumstances,
only getting the negative back, but like I said, you're still tracking, you're still moving, right?
And then now there's nothing.
Yeah.
I can't deal with it.
Give me those negatives back.
Give me something.
That's the codependent leader.
I went into a studio like a legit.
I was doing a voiceover for something.
And I went into a really nice.
I've been into a lot of different little sound studios doing voice recordings and all that stuff.
But I was somewhere and I went into a really, really like legit.
And it had that quality where you had no return.
And I was like, yo, this is sick.
I liked it.
I didn't go crazy or nothing.
Yeah.
I think, but yes, people get addicted to that mud going on the window and they become the little
solution for it.
And it's just a little bit of drama that fuels and keeps the whole system going.
Yeah.
Right.
Kind of watch out for that one.
I went in on Kauai.
There's caves.
Sometimes you can explore.
So we went deep in this cave.
It was in a place called Mahalapu is the beach that you could go down this room.
I think they caved in the cave.
I don't know.
It might still be there.
But we used to go visit these.
caves and one time I went we went deep in deep deep deep deep and you could feel the sound just like
disappearing you know how you feel like basically that that feeling and then all of a sudden you know how
you can it's like you can get this weird subliminal subconscious sense of how big the room is you know
and all of a sudden it like opened up and i had no idea how big the room was it could have been like a
massive like stadium size room you know
And it was like, the best way to describe it was impending doom.
Like, Brett, you think like I could die right in here.
It's so unpredictable.
Just my physical environment is so unpredictable.
And that was based on, was it dark?
It was dark.
Completely.
Yeah, it's black.
So you were only relying on the sound.
Yeah.
So just a little microperception.
Check.
Next one.
This is one everyone likes to talk about.
the passive aggressive leader. The passive aggressive leader has a tendency to resist demands to
adequately perform tasks. He has an intense fear of failure and is therefore reluctant to deliver
his best performance because it may not be up to the standard and would then result in failure.
If he does too well, it may mean that he will be promoted and then be expected to perform at an
even higher level, which could in turn result in failure. His own.
Unwillingness to perform well equates, his unwillingness to perform well equates to
procrastination, dawdling, stubbornness, forgetfulness, and intentional inefficiency.
The passive aggressive leader is impetuous. He will have a sudden outburst of anger or
frustration and then immediately be regretful. He will complete his task, but then be resentful
for having it forced upon him. Followers live on pins and needles, constantly wandering,
constantly wondering when the next outburst will be and for what reason the organizational response
is resistance and aversion on the part of the followers who wish to prevent an outburst
under such conditions positive change to the organization is near impossible one thing that
is interesting to me about that is it's it seems like it's on it's subconscious you know what I
mean like the procrastination dawdling stubbornness forgetfulness and intentional inefficiency
like those things are it says intentional inefficiency i think oftentimes it's unintentional
it's people that are their their passive aggressive for the very reasons that are printed here
the very reasons that they're saying which is which is a tendency to resist demands because they're
fearing of failure they don't want to deliver the best because they don't want to they want to they
want to still have something in their back you know like oh could have done best
better butt or they don't want to get promoted because then, you know, they'll be have a lot of
responsibility. And I think those are subconscious and therefore these behaviors are subconscious
and they don't even know that they're executing these behaviors in my mind. Or at least I've
seen a decent amount of passive aggressive. Some of them are conscious of it. Sure. Some of them are,
but some of them are just, they have that in the back of their head and they therefore behave
this way they don't even, they couldn't identify.
You know, if you said, hey, dude, why do you keep procrastinating?
They wouldn't be like, if you put a lie detector test on them and said, why are you
procrastinating?
They wouldn't say, you know what?
I'm afraid of actually executing the task because then I might be judged and I'm afraid
of failure.
No.
If you said why you're procrastinating, they'd be like, well, you know, I would be doing it,
but, you know, there's this other thing and blah, blah, blah.
In their, in their heart, they don't even realize what they're doing.
Yeah.
I could see that.
That's kind of my opinion on the on that next one next one is a good one the busy body
leader the busy body leader is energetic restless constantly in motion and full of unfocused
vigor he may give full focus to one project or topic for a period of then jump to another
for no apparent reason leaving those around him in a confused days he yearns for the spotlight
and must be the center of attention he works long hard hours but is unlikely to remain focused on
anyone given task he is relentlessly scanning roving pressing
talking, traveling, planning, plotting, giving speeches, cajoling, joking, flattering and working,
always working, or at least making a grand performance of working.
The busy body leader is manipulative and firmly establishes himself as the center of information
flow in order to further manipulate those around him.
He will fail to make decisions that resolve conflicts among subordinates, assuring that the flow
of complaints and information about conflicts and therefore attention received will be continuous.
us.
His manipulation, unfocused energy, and persistent movement, leave the organization, bewildered
and unclear about where the focus is or should be.
And again, in my mind, I don't think this is conscious.
I think a lot of leaders that behave this way are doing it as a defense mechanism.
They're insecure.
They're not quite sure how to win.
And so they do all this stuff.
Next is the paranoid leader.
The paranoid leader may be brilliant of mediocre intelligence or somewhere in between.
He is convinced others are trying to chip away at him, his performance, his leadership,
and ultimately his achievements.
Regardless of his brilliance or lack thereof, he is completely insecure about himself and his skills
and is pathologically jealous of other gifted people.
He will not tolerate any variety of criticism because his view, because he views it as a personal attack
and attempt to undermine him and his authority.
He will become hostile toward anyone who perceives, who he perceives is trying to,
undermine him, despite how innocent or genuine a remark or action might be, the paranoid leader
assumes there are hidden intentions behind it.
This fear and paranoia drive him to seek total control of everything that takes place in the
organization.
Excessive staff meetings and reporting are often the result of this need to keep close tabs
on those around him.
If someone else attempts to exert control or appears to be attempting control in any part
of the organization, organizational activity, he will deal harshly with this individual.
In time, followers will learn to be passive and keep all comments, opinions, and observations
to themselves.
This passivity, along with jealousy and hostility, foster an organization full of fear,
anxiety, and trepidation.
The only initiative exercised such an organization is that which the paranoid leader can
force through by himself.
Scary.
The rigid leader.
Man, I wish I would have taken notes when I was in the military, each individual leader
in what I saw.
the leader and you know that's another thing that's interesting is you see various levels of each one of these things being there or not being there and complimenting or or emphasizing or deemphasizing various characteristics because if you've got someone that's very controlling but they're also wanting to progress like they can count they can they can help each other sometimes some of these characteristics and then sometimes it's just a total disaster the rigidly
leader is stiff and unyielding and is unable or unwilling to accept new or to adapt new ideas,
new information or changing times. As one might expect, rigidness may very well have its place
in leadership as determination or steadfastness of purpose, but in the current age of constant
change, flexibility has the overwhelming edge of rigidity. The rigid leader is convinced that
he is right and that he is the only one who is right. He is therefore loathe to entertain any
other opinions. He will surround himself only with followers who thinks as he does so that he does not
have to be confronted by conflicting or dissenting opinions. Boom. The controlling leader, very
rigid, very similar to the rigid leader, the controlling leader takes rigidness one step further.
This is a perfectionist who craves certainty and surety. The only way controllers feel they can
achieve the certainty and surety that they need is to make the decisions themselves, while the
rigid leader will surround himself with like thinkers and delegate certain authorities to those
who agree with him, the controller, the controller leader cannot and does not delegate.
He will be intimately involved in every decision, big or small.
The controller leader is process oriented and while he does not have a grasp of vision
of the, and the future of the organization, he's extraordinarily preoccupied with the processes
related to the conduct of daily operations.
He is disdainful of people who are not excited or involved in the implementation of efficiency
incurring processes that make everything neatly identified and hierarchical because of the controller
leader's rigidity and perfectionism.
His followers suffer personal angst and fear because they have no input to the process or the
outcomes.
The skilled intelligent followers are stifled while others merely go through the daily motions.
All are micromanaged, again leading to absence of positive change.
Sounds like a freaking lovely work environment.
The compulsive leader, the compulsive leader,
the compulsive leader possesses traits of the rigid leader and the controlling leader with a twist.
He is similarly rigid but has the need to completely control all aspects of his life and pursues
perfection to an extreme, but he also has emotional glitches of which he is probably unaware.
He is angry, angry, resentful, and rebellious on the inside and believes it is wrong to express his true
feelings.
His need to firmly control his own feelings results in his efforts to control everything else.
However, because of the inner turmoil, it is common for someone.
such person's repressed anger to be expressed in sudden and violent outbursts.
The outbursts and violent behavior contribute to an atmosphere of fear and anxiety among
followers.
The intemperant leader.
The intemperate leader lacks self-control.
He is unable to abstain from over-indulgences and incapable of cautiousness when he over-indulges.
The excesses may be simple or complex.
but they are most always morally questionable.
If the intemperance in private is private in nature,
there may be limited organizational consequences,
but these overindulgences rarely stay private.
When they become public, they also become distractions.
When the behavior is more egregious and enduring
as in substance abuse, it is destructive.
Thus, a lack of self-control raises questions of morality.
If the intemperate leader cannot uphold a personal commitment to himself
as followers realize that his commitment to them
and the organization is of little value.
The followers become distrustful, disillusioned, and cynical,
and the organization ceases to be productive.
What's interesting about that one is it shows how,
when you're in a leadership position,
you are being judged by your behavior.
Not just your performance at the job,
but like what else you're doing in your life?
And if you don't have good self-control in life,
you're going to lose credibility and respect
from your team.
So keep that in mind.
The enforcer leader is subservient
and often second in command.
He follows his leader and implements the leader's desires.
If his leader is not a toxic leader,
he will be a detailed oriented paper pusher
loyal to the boss, the organization, in the system.
However, if he does work for a toxic leader,
he will become quite toxic himself.
He wants the approval of his boss
and cares only about that approval over
that of any of the followers in the organization.
The enforcer leader may never achieve the principal position in the organization,
but he will be instrumental to the success of others.
And the others in question are more often than not toxic leaders.
A responsible non-toxic superior will probably recognize the enforcer leader
and remove him from the organization.
The enforcer leader's impact on an organization is doubly damaging
because his behavior has enhanced and multiplied that of the primary,
of the primary toxic leader.
Yeah, ran into some of those dudes along the way.
I can tell you that much.
The narcissistic leader.
For the narcissistic leader,
the world revolves on the access of self
and is driven to succeed by a need for admiration and acclaim.
Although self-absorbed, he lacks self-esteem.
Although deeply ambitious, he feels inferior.
Although he desires to be great,
he's unable to take pleasure to his accomplishments
because he wants more.
His lack of self-esteem, feelings of inferiority,
and inability to value his own success as a result in mistreatment,
manipulation, and exploitation of others,
all for the sake of his own self-worth.
The narcissistic leader is so confident that he is the best
and only one who can do things that he does,
he is unable to recognize that others are capable of performing to his standard.
He leaves his followers feeling inferior and doubtful of themselves.
He leaves the organization longing for recognition.
Check, the narcissistic leader.
Followed by the callous leader.
The callous leader's uncaring and unkind and dismissive of others' needs, wants, and wishes.
He is arrogant, patronizing, unpleasant, abrasive, and often hot-tempered.
He demands, his demands are not only unrealistic, but delivered in near-abusive manner.
Perhaps most distasteful aspect of the callous leader is the one at his
core he enjoys his reputation of being harsh and abusive that's a freaking interesting right
that person that's like yeah you're damn right that's how I roll I'm hardcore he takes
pride and pleasure knowing that his followers fear and cower before him his effect on his
followers is a degraded self-image and diminishes morale next the street fighter leader
perhaps alluring.
The streetfighter leader is egotistical, yet charming,
and he maintains a competitive vision of winning at all costs.
He is good to those who are loyal to him
and can help him with his wins,
but he can be brutal to those who disagree with him
or offer a dissenting opinion.
He tends to build gangs of supporters
and uses the gangs to fight the battles he feels he must win.
Accordingly, if there are dissenters in the organization,
they will be ostracized from the gang, gang, and duly punished.
He will define himself by how.
much he wins and by how big his empire grows.
At the root of his egotism and competitive nature is his unyielding need to be the one in charge.
This unwavering need to be dominant produces power struggles when challenged.
The street fighter leader has a strong sense of inadequacy which drives him to prove himself
to all those who he sees as superior to him.
Although the street fighter leader might be productive leader who achieves short-term goals,
it is at the cost of a cooperative and open organization where varying ideas can be exchanged.
It is his unwavering belief that he is right and that support for him is right for the organization
that allows this toxic leader to attract and manipulate organizational gang members.
Ultimately, this can destroy the moral of the organization.
Yeah, that's a more common.
And again, the SEAL teams is filled with great freaking leaders.
but there's also plenty of them that fit into this category.
This is a pretty common like military type leader,
especially in the SEAL teams where you have that,
you have that opportunity kind of build little gangs
and be like, oh yeah, this is what we're doing.
And it's also, I've talked about this before,
but the fact that you're only going to be in charge for two years,
you know, you're in charge for two years in the military,
most military in the SEAL teams for sure.
You're in charge for like two years.
and so for two years you can get some freaking great results and then you leave and the guys are miserable
but they still work hard because they're freaking team guys and they still get the job done
but they're miserable and but then you're gone and you got the job done so guess what you're
getting promoted boys um there's something else that caught me about that yeah it's like this person
And you have to have to have, especially at the lower levels, you've got to be able to make shit happen, right?
It's like a super positive quality to make shit happen.
But then once your organization grows to a point where you can no longer make shit happen by yourself and you have to use decentralized command, that's a transition that not everyone can make.
Because it feels good.
I made this happen.
I did this.
I did that.
I did something else.
And everyone knows that I did it.
that's a big ego hit when all of a sudden it's like well the team did it and I didn't really get my hands on that and I didn't actually do that thing I'm still overall in charge but you know echo actually did the thing and it can be hard for people to make that transition that's why you know you see like a company like a like a like a startup will grow under that CEO that the founder and he's making things happen getting things done and then as it grows
At a certain point, he's still trying to operate the same way when you can operate.
Now, you know, you could do that when you had nine people in the organization.
You could just freak it.
Hey, everyone come in tonight.
We got to get this shit done.
Boom.
And you can make that happen.
That's an admirable quality.
But at a certain point, you grow enough.
That doesn't work anymore.
Just does not work anymore.
That's centralized command and it doesn't work.
And part of centralized command is that, that idea of, I need to make this happen.
And I kind of like making it happen.
I like it.
It feeds my ego.
It feels good.
I know I'm the man.
The whole team looks at me when I show up and they know that I got it done.
Boom.
So to go from that centralized command where you and your ego get all the credit to decentralized command,
that trips people up, jam some people up, as they say.
Yeah.
It feels natural that, you know, I'm always searching for like, what the hell?
Like why are we compelled to do this or feel this or whatever under whatever circumstance?
So I think that a lot of times, especially men, it's almost like everything's rooted in feeling useful, you know?
Like the idea of being accused of being useless is very insulting, you know.
That's a common value.
It's not a 100% value.
Yeah.
It's very common.
I feel like that's kind of either at the root or near the root of stuff.
Yeah, yeah.
There's like an, uh, an insult thread commonly used.
You use a useless piece of shit, right?
Yeah, yeah, sure.
There's a reason that exists.
Yeah, right.
So it's a common thing.
You're freaking useless.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So yes, it is certainly an insult to tell someone they're useless.
Yeah.
So you, and especially in a situation where there's, there's a job to do, you know, collectively
or whatever.
So think about if you're, I don't know, I'm gonna use you guys terms right now.
You're an operator.
You know, you're pulling the trigger.
You're going on the missions.
You know, you're doing that stuff.
And you've been doing it for so long and been successful, by the way.
So now you feel the opposite of useless.
You feel useful.
You feel like you're kind of one of the ringers, really.
And that's the standard of feeling for yourself, you know?
And then, yeah, you make that jump.
And then now you're not doing all the things that you've grown accustomed to fulfilling that feeling of usefulness.
You're doing something else.
And in fact, since it's new a lot of the time, you kind of feel left out.
So now you feel left out.
You're not doing the stuff that fulfills that anymore.
So yeah, you feel kind of useless.
And then not to mention if you have other insecurities, other people other than you
for getting the recognition for the stuff that you know that you are good at.
Yeah.
So yeah, man, that's going to, as you said, that might jam you up.
It's going to make you feel really uncomfortable.
That's for damn sure
And you got to fight through that
And you have to fight through it
Or you have to just be aware
That hey
I'm elevating above that position
And I need to move up
Into the next position
That's what I need to do
And there's
That's what you need to do
Yeah
And if you don't want to do that
Then stay it down in the weeds
It's
And
it is what it is
but I understand
because
it's yeah
I think yes
if you're aware of it
and you if you can recognize
this is what I learned long time ago
if you can recognize
the short game
and the long game being played
and the big picture
and small picture
they're like dimensional
you know if you can understand
that like deeply
I think you'll be all right
you're going to be all right
if the less you understand that
the more you will not be all right
because okay
So, you know, like an organization, right?
And someone gets like some award or something like this.
And then someone will say that kind of the, for lack of better term, like this cliche.
It's not a cliche because it's real, but the obligatory like, hey, everyone had their role in this thing.
And meanwhile, they have this big shiny golden award, right?
But no, no, no, everyone played their part, right?
If you really understand that, then that'll mean something, you know?
like but a lot of times it doesn't come off like that on the surface you know it's like wait what do you mean
i played my part well i was obviously insignificant because you're over there standing with the big
award i'm not i don't even have part of that award yeah you got that award is like half the size of you
and i literally have zero you know nothing to show for it kind of a thing or to be recognized or whatever
so it's kind of like wait a second i know you said that but apparently my role wasn't that important
compared to yours.
See what I'm saying?
But if you don't understand that,
that's what it's going to feel like, you know?
Like your whole being is feeling that now.
That's your,
that's your job now.
Yeah.
To be underappreciated,
underrecognize the way that you used to.
You can frame it correctly in your brain.
The corrupt leader,
power and greed motivate the corrupt leader.
He will lie,
cheater steal to fill his need for money and power.
The line usually feeds the need for power,
while the cheating, stealing feeds the need for money.
It's clear to the followers, which is interesting,
this even talks about, like, money.
Because you've got to get pretty high up.
I guess there's military things that can happen
that involve money, but there's not, like, a lot of them.
You know, there's, I guess you could,
you could be, like, giving, buying a weapon system
and getting a kickback from, like, the company.
You know, I guess that, but that's,
there's not a lot of money that changes hands in the military,
You know what I mean?
There's just not, it's just, you know,
there's just not a lot of money that changes hands.
But, uh, or,
or even, you know, like gain, material gain, you know,
you, there's not a lot of material gain to be had.
Like, maybe you get issued like an extra set of camis.
You know what I mean?
Like, you know, you could, you know,
pull a fast one to make that happen.
But, but in the civilian sector,
there's definitely more of that because that's what drives the civilian sector.
So,
So the lying usually feeds the need for power while the cheating, stealing feeds the need for money.
It's clear to the followers that the corrupt leader will put his own needs and desires ahead of theirs.
It is a matter of self-absorption similar to that of the narcissistic leader and reminiscent of ignoring the needs of others characterized by the callous leader.
The corrupt leader steps further into the immoral, unethical, and often illegal realm.
Eventually, the corrupt leader is found in a labyrinth of deceit, whether it is for power or money.
The corrupt leader cannot be trusted in when subordinates and followers know this, the organization suffers.
Boom.
The insular leader, while those in the inner circle of the insular leader may not suffer directly from his actions, there is a cost to others, to others.
The insular leader separates himself and his organization from everyone else and then utterly disregards.
the health and welfare of those not in his organization.
Careful that one.
Insular leadership may be observed primarily in the political arena
where national boundaries are apparent
and leaders may have a tendency to protect their own constituents above all else.
Check.
And then there's the bully leader.
The bully leader is pugnacious, bitter,
intensely angry at the world and vehemently jealous of others who outperform him.
The bully leader has needs.
to put others down, to invalidate others,
and to devastate others.
In addition to taking pleasure and his abusive behavior
akin to that of the callous leader,
for the bully leader hurting others is the main goal.
He will invalidate others in order to validate himself.
He will boast about his contributions,
whether valid or not.
He appears to be confident in himself and his abilities,
but in reality is terribly fearful
that others will find out how incompetent he is.
The bully leader is prone to ranting and outburst,
particularly when such actions may degrade and humiliate someone.
In his mind, this makes him appear to be powerful and in charge.
He will make threats and instill fear in others
in order to establish an environment that gives him an advantage.
If people fear him, he will have more control.
However, the bully leader is secretly a coward
and will back down when seriously challenged.
He will then linger in anticipation of the right time
to exact his revenge on the challenger.
The bully leader is mean, pure and simple,
and the influence he has on the organization
and his followers is nothing less than devastating.
His goals are to hurt others,
and he does exactly that.
The positive side of the bully leader
is that he will probably not last.
His bitterness, anger, and vindictiveness
make it difficult for even close associates
to continue their support.
Such leaders will have a lasting effect
on those they brutalize even after departure.
Jack.
The bully leader, yelling and screaming,
and cutting other people down.
And then we've got the last,
last one of the evil leader and this is like a serious escalation right when the
bully's leader becomes when the bully leader's brutality becomes physical to the
point of committing atrocities he becomes the evil leader for the most part
the evil leader is found in the political arena in form of the evil leader of a
nation while a study of toxic leadership certainly invites the question of the
role of followers and creating and harboring the
leader this is especially salient in the case of the evil leader the this leader and at least some
followers commit atrocities they use pain as an instrument of power the evil leader must have
evil followers to remain in a position of authority there will also be bystanders who take on the
role of followers the only way the only way such leaders can be stopped or at least slowed
is by followers who are willing to take them on it will have to be the bystanders who
gain strength in numbers, a collective power, and are not part of the evil followers who must
intervene.
So we just escalated to freaking Hitler and Stalin and Mao.
So there you go.
That's the evil leader.
Fast forward a little bit here.
It seems that when most people experience toxic leadership in the military, they assume that
their situation is an anomaly.
They assume that they're toxic leaders, just one person, the thousands who slipped through the cracks
and made it to a leadership position without qualifying skill set to be a leader.
They assume that the army generally knows and grows and promotes good, conscientious, trustworthy
leaders and that if a bad one slithers through, it's without question outside of the norm.
They assume it is their bad fortune to cross pass with this irregular abnormality.
They are wrong.
Although it would not be to correct to assume that toxic leadership is running rampant in the ranks,
it is unquestionably more prevalent than just a few bad seats.
And that is true.
You know, it's not, it's not the overwhelming, but you'll run into them for sure.
You'll for sure.
And not just in the Army.
You'll run into them in the Navy and the Marine Corps in the Air Force, in the Coast Guard,
in the Border Patrol, in the police department, in the fire department, in the corporation that you work at,
in the freaking volunteer group that you're unpart of,
the charity that you know what I'm saying it's like everywhere
and it's a different varying degrees of impact
sometimes it's like that low you know that low level toxicity
doesn't kill you it makes you kind of sick makes you feel bad
you know we were joking the other day that I had like mold in my house
you ever heard that yeah I heard of that hell yeah like we we didn't
we weren't really too concerned about that growing up yeah but we had just mold yeah
and I'm talking about me like we had more
mold in the room like my son's room just had black mold growing up the wall visible yeah but and he
was like yeah yeah whatever and he said like oh yeah i think he had stuff he knows for a while
yeah just black mold growing up the wall yeah i mean there's a difference between um tolerable
and intolerable yeah apparently he made it tolerable yeah so like something can be annoying
junk not ideal blah blah you can be all of this thing but as long as it's within the tolerance yeah
So that's an important thing to remember about toxicity and toxic leadership.
It's toxic leadership can just give you like a low level stuff he knows, right?
Or it can just be a full on cancer that eats you from the inside.
So that's a sure thing there.
Why does toxic leadership happen in the U.S. Army?
The investigation of toxic leadership in the military should include a close look at why it exists
and why it appears to be so prevalent in the military.
I think it goes back to that book, the psychology of military incompetence.
people that look at the military from the outside and go,
oh, cool,
everyone will have to listen to me when I put this rank on.
I'm going to go in there.
That is a personality that goes in.
They say it about some police, right?
Some police that want to have that authority,
get that gun in the badge.
You're going to have to listen to me.
You're going to have to respect me.
Does that all cops?
Of course, it's not all cops.
Is it some?
Yes, it is.
So some of it is who is attracted to these type of organizations, right?
But the weird thing is, like I said, charities and like weird hippie, like hippie cults.
You know, they have some weird freaking crazy toxic leadership in a hippie cult.
People are talking about, you know, playing drum circles and they're, you know, smoking gonja.
And there's like a toxic leader in there that's doing crazy shit.
You know what I'm saying?
Yes, I did.
So even though it doesn't matter.
These things are like human traits that reveal themselves sometimes.
Back to the book.
the simple answer is that toxic leadership reflects an aspect of human nature, which is what I just said.
As discussed earlier, humans fall victim to a series of hierarchical needs. Recall that Maslow points out
the needs at the lowest level must be met before advancing to the next level. Unfortunately,
some human struggle with getting these needs met. And that's, I think is such a huge piece of it is when you get a really good leader.
And you know, this is something in the book, the dichotomy of leadership that it wrote. It's like, you have nothing to prove, but you have
everything to prove a really good leader doesn't feel the need to prove anything you know
They just when I think of general McFarland Colonel McFarland when I work for general McFarland in Hermody
You could see that he didn't have anything that he was trying to prove
He wasn't trying to prove that he was in charge he wasn't trying to prove that he was the highest ranking guy
He wasn't trying to prove that it was his brigade like you didn't even catch any of those vibes from him
His open mind and like, hey, yeah, it was more like, I guess I am the guy that's going to be making a decision, but what do you think type of attitude?
And when you see really good leaders, they just don't have anything to prove.
And when you see bad leaders, they have more to prove.
And the more they have to prove, generally speaking, the worst leader that they're going to be.
And some of that comes with hopefully maturity.
and some of it comes from where you kind of view yourself.
Like for me,
I think I was always calibrated to where I was,
and I always felt like I was doing a good job at what I was doing,
and I felt like I fit there, right?
I was never like, I should be in charge of these mother, you know,
I wasn't, when I got to a SEAL team, I was like, dude, I made it.
I was kind of stoked that I made it.
And then, you know, I was a new guy.
And I was like, I was like, a good new guy.
Was I the best new guy?
No, I wasn't the best new guy.
I was the worst new guy?
No.
But I was like, I was good.
I was a good new guy and I saw myself as a good new guy.
I didn't see myself as a best new guy.
I didn't see myself as the worst.
I saw myself as I was.
And then I was a one cruise wonder.
And when I was a one cruise wonder, I was, I viewed myself as a good guy that has one
deployment under my belt.
And now I'm a one cruise wonder, which is kind of a funny thing.
Because we think we know everything, but obviously we don't know.
You know, I kind of, I kind of saw myself in a realistic way.
And I didn't have some.
visions, right?
I didn't have some, some, my ego was somewhat aligned with the reality of the situation.
Yeah.
And that continued, you know, when I, when I was in training cell.
I was in training cell.
You're kind of in a position of authority.
It's team one, you know, three deployments under my belt, whatever, piece time deployments
to like, on a ship, driving around, drinking.
But, you know, that's what we're doing.
So I had three of those deployments.
Now I was in training cell.
I was in training cell.
I wasn't like, you're damn right.
I'm in training cell.
You better listen to me.
But I was like, oh, yeah, I'm in training cell.
Yeah, this is kind of where you end up after you do a few deployments.
And I know some stuff about this.
I can help you.
Right.
By the way.
And there was some times where I was harsh for sure.
But you know what it reminds me of is in jiu jiu jitsu.
In jiu jiu jitsu.
When you when someone is better at you than jujitsu,
when I explain to people like,
oh,
when you start jujitsu,
you're going to get beat by everyone.
It doesn't make someone a better human being than you when they beat you at
Jiu Jitsu.
What it means is that they've trained more than you have.
This is like,
this is like belts,
you know,
probably up to black belt,
honestly.
Now look,
you get someone,
that's a,
that's a hyper awesome.
athlete and they're training five hours a day like okay they're going to beat you because
partially because they're training five hours a day and partially because they're a badass athlete
and at some point you know some people that will beat you it's just because they're a better
athlete than you are you've been training longer than them and they beat you because they're a better
athlete that's one that that does happen in jiu jitza it does happen but my attitude was like yeah
you know this person is beating me like when i was a purple belt get beat by a brown belt
Dude, I didn't think, dude, there's so much better than me as a human.
My literal thought was they've trained more than I have.
And so when I was in training cell at SEAL Team 1, I wasn't like, you're damn right.
I know this shit.
You don't.
It was like, no, I've actually just been here for seven years right now.
I've done three back-to-back deployments.
I was a radio man.
I know how to work the radio pretty good.
I wasn't like, you're a freaking idiot that you don't know this.
And so I think that when you have your.
position in your situation in your head is all kind of co-located and it's not like I
should be running this shit the minute that you have that you start to have problems
and the other the opposite is true as well which is if you don't think you should be
there if you lack confidence that could be a problem as well no but it's like I did three
platoons I squared away squared away comms guy squared away radio man okay cool I can teach
how to use a radio.
Oh, I can teach, you know, how to do an I ad.
I can teach how to clear a room.
Like, that's what we're doing.
Cool, I can do that.
I just did three deployments.
Cool.
Not I'm better than you.
Just like I know more than you at this time.
And you will learn the same stuff that I've learned and you'll be the same as me.
So I think that is very important from a leadership position and not being toxic.
Is that you, that's well calibrated between where you are.
in reality where you see yourself.
Those things are very,
those things are very important that they're,
that they're in the same zone.
Because they're not in the same zone,
you get problems.
With you,
when you say you have nothing to prove
and everything to prove,
everything can prove nothing.
That's one of those ones that,
when you hear it, you're like,
oh, bro, I get it, I understand.
Like, I understand.
but at the same time you're like wait a second so how do you format that to if you had to explain it because
maybe someone wouldn't understand even though it seems pretty clear you just saying that even though
it sounds kind of confusing on a certain level but so like it's almost like is me trying to figure
it out right now real time real time try to figure it out where you have like the needs and
requirements and actually even kind of the wants of a certain position
in a group and then you can if you fulfill that so if you fulfill the needs that's good if you fulfill
the needs and the wants that's good anything outside of that is counter now it goes into the
negative so if you want like okay if you're uh you know if you listen you do all these things that
are like um wanted but not necessarily needed actually that wanted and needed to be kind of
the same thing.
But anytime you go like extracurricular as far as the roles and requirements, it's
counter.
So it'll make,
it'll make you a worse team member, kind of no matter where you are when you think about it.
When you say extracurricular, what are you talking about?
Like extra.
So if you're like, okay, you have nothing to prove, but everything to prove, right?
So if it's like, hey, yep, basically you have to, we're going to put you in this position.
Are you going to maintain the integrity of the team, you know, to a certain degree,
essentially.
Now, if you go,
if you have something else to prove
from on a personal level,
now you're deviating
from maintaining the integrity of the group.
Yes.
And in fact,
what the,
the main thing that you have to prove
is that you don't have anything to prove,
right?
The main thing.
So the minute I say,
hey, I could do it like this.
The minute that I impose
and prove to you that I'm the guy in charge,
I already blew it because I prove that I have something to prove.
Right. So the main thing, the thing that you have to prove is that you have nothing to prove.
And how do you do that by not trying to prove anything?
And by proving that you have nothing to prove, you prove that you're a good leader.
You're going to listen, that you're going to have an open mind, that you're going to take input.
That's what you're proving.
By not trying to prove anything.
So those are the kind of leaders that are.
exceptional. So you're a surfer, right? Yeah, indeed. No doubt about it. You've watched
there. There's a movie called Forgetting Sarah Marshall. You ever seen that? Negative.
This is one part where he's a really good one by the way. So he was telling, he was teaching
the guy how to surf and he's like, hey, he's like, no, no, no, you're doing too much. Do
do, do less. And you know how you do the, the, you know, surf lesson you do it on the sand
first? So he's like, he's like, okay, pop up. And he pops up all aggressively. He's like,
no, no, no, you're doing too much. Do less. And he's like, you know, you're doing too much. Do less.
And he does it again.
He's like, no, no, no, you're still doing too much, you know?
He wasn't a very good teacher, but there was some wisdom in here.
And he's like, no, no, no, do less.
Do nothing.
And he doesn't pop up.
Well, you got to do something.
You see what I'm saying?
So he's saying like, do nothing, do less.
But no, you do have to do something.
But where that something is, you can't do more than what the something that's required
to do that thing.
So you'm saying?
That's what it sounded like when you explain that.
That reminds me when I'm coaching jiu-jitsu and like a new person and I'm telling them to relax.
They're like, I'm freaking relaxing.
I'm like, relax harder.
Exactly, man.
Exactly.
Um, continuing on here.
This is about why toxic leadership exists.
Some struggle, some human struggle with getting the basic needs met.
They get delayed at a certain level of development and are never able to move on.
If at this, if this is at level two, the level of safety or level three, love and belonging
the result may be low or no self-esteem.
Nearly every type of toxic leadership previously defined
has self-esteem concerns as its root.
Rooted in low self-esteem.
Some of these people make it into the army
and into leadership positions.
Another reason may be the inherent paradoxical nature
of military leadership.
A review of some toxic leadership types reflect
some desired qualities of military leadership.
Yes, this is the dichotomy of leadership, right?
Unlike some milder traits and types,
such as incompetence, malfunctioning, inadequacy, or absentee,
many more of these severe traits and types such as busy, rigid, in control,
enforcing, confident street fighter may be characteristics the army values in a leader.
It is the extent to which these characteristics are applied that represents a problem.
And again, this is the balance of the dichotomy of leadership.
Because do you want someone that's busy and hardworking as leader?
Of course you do.
Do you want someone that's in control?
Of course you do.
Do you want someone that enforces things?
Yeah, of course you do.
Do you want someone that's competent?
Yes, of course you do.
Go overboard with any of those things, you've got a problem.
In moderation, these features may be seen as good as acceptable and extreme.
They are toxic.
For the most part, these toxic military leaders tend to do little in moderation and do most everything in the extreme.
Inadequate development is another cause of toxic leadership.
Mentoring is a critical aspect of army leadership.
Officers are taught at an early age to find leaders to emulate.
Junior officers are advised to observe and emulate older, senior, or successful officers
to determine what they have done to be successful.
If there were no existing toxic leaders,
there would be none to emulate.
However, since there are toxic leaders,
it is inevitable that toxic leadership will be replicated.
It will continue to propagate because it is seen as some
as a pathway to success.
There's no doubt about that.
You used to be able to tell, like, you'd get some guy
that was a platoon chief and he'd be like a freaking tyrant.
You go, hey, dude, who's your first platoon chief?
And they'd tell you, like, got a check.
Or you get some officer that's an idiot
or an egomaniac.
And you'd be like, hey, who's your first platoon commander?
Who's your first skipper?
And they'd tell you, me, that cool.
It all transferred right on down the pipe.
Why is toxic leadership tolerated in the U.S. Army?
Let us now address the difficult question, why toxic leadership is tolerated, if not
promoted in the U.S. Army.
Perhaps the most obvious region, albeit disturbing, is that toxic leaders seem to get
the job done at least in short term.
Yes, that is true, unfortunately.
And I think the main reason why toxic leadership exists in the Army is because that two-year
thing.
you can freaking put up with an idiot for like you don't even it takes you a few months to realize that they're how bad they are
because you're like oh they'll get I will teach them we'll mentor them well I'll build a relationship with them let's start figuring out and you think it's gonna be okay and then by the time you're done with your workup you're getting ready to go on deployment this dude's a freaking idiot but if we fire him right now the other platoon's gonna get you know the good missions
so we're just gonna keep our mouth shut we're keep doing what we're doing and you do you go out he acts like an idiot but it doesn't matter you got the boys your boys get the mission done now this
Guys getting promoted.
So I think it's that short two-year thing.
Their superiors are either oblivious to toxic behavior or more likely they're so satisfied with the results in terms of mission accomplishment that they choose to overlook the human cost of getting the job done.
What effect does positive leadership have?
If toxic leadership can be identified, can it be cured?
If superiors and senior leaders take appropriate action, perhaps they can mitigate the negative effects of toxic leadership.
the appropriate action on the part of the superiors is good leadership itself.
Leading mentoring, training, and educating in a responsible, honest, non-toxic manner may be the best way to combat this phenomenon of toxic leadership in the U.S. Army.
Perhaps if toxic leadership is not rewarded by the system, superiors in the Army, that perhaps it will cease to be prevalent.
The hard thing about that is a lot of those, when someone has a big ego, it's really hard to coach them.
It's really hard to mentor.
It's really hard to teach them because they already think they know everything.
and that is a problem when when when when there's a delta between a difference between how you and I see each other and I see myself as even if you're my boss but I see myself as kind of technically you know you're my boss on paper but the reality is I'm kind of superior to you yeah in kind of a bunch of different ways yeah whenever you're mentoring me I'm kind of like oh yeah sounds great sure I really really appreciate that advice but I'm not listening to a damn thing you say it's what we're
When you have a big ego, you're not getting coached, you're not going to mentor, you're not going to unlearn your toxic traits, unfortunately.
And then here's the closer here.
Conclusion and recommendation, toxic leadership exists in the U.S. Army and the Army seems to tolerate it.
While it is unlikely that toxic leadership can be eliminated, better identification and further study on the part of the Army could very well reduce its persistence and temper its negative effects.
As revealed in this paper, there are a number of personal characteristics and types of toxic leaders, all of them can be found in the ranks.
to varying degrees.
And I'd go and tell you they're found in everyone in varying degrees.
Identification in the early part of a leader's career is a good first step toward decreasing
the possibility of continuing or worsening toxic behavior.
This identification and recognition is critical and can only be accomplished through further
study and education of superiors as the need to recognize and it and take appropriate action.
The appropriate action on the part of the superiors is good leadership itself.
So there you go.
And that's some toxic leadership for you.
Obviously not just in the Army, but everywhere.
It can be in any organization.
And like I said, if you look inside, if you look in the mirror, they might be in you.
They probably are in you just a little bit.
So pay attention, try and detach.
See your weak points and try and get better.
That's what we're doing.
And speaking of getting better as a leader, we're trying to get better in all aspects.
of our life.
Mentally and physically.
Which means we're getting after.
Did you lift today?
Nope.
I thought you were like new program was you're lifting before we show up here.
For sure.
Yeah.
You did that once.
How good that feel?
I did a bunch of stuff.
But yeah,
it felt great.
You were correct.
Yes.
Because now when we get done and we have to record some underground after this,
so you're already going to be,
how are you going to feel when we get done today?
Are you going to be happy?
You don't have it in the books?
Yeah.
You're right.
Unhappy.
The workout is looming.
What do you got today?
What are you going to today?
I got squats today.
Oh.
Oh.
Oh.
Oh.
Oh, guess what?
They're already in the books for the kid over here.
Already done.
The point you are making is absolutely correct.
And I agree with it.
Yep.
And you don't think about that.
Like, when the alarm cock goes off, you're like, dude, I'm going to get this done.
I'm going to have this in the books.
Yeah.
Well, you know, look, at risk of creating verbal.
excuses in the clear, by the way.
You know, last night, I fell asleep super early
and it was off rhythm with my normal fall asleep time,
so then I woke up.
I woke up at like two something,
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And I started feeling myself getting tired at about,
maybe like a 637 scenario.
And at that point, you just can't, you can't work out.
I can't get up in these squats and then try to come here.
It couldn't happen.
But that's what happened.
You know, could I have done it?
Yeah, I could have.
You're going to wish you would have.
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Also, when we look out for ourselves
and others around us,
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Yeah, hell yeah.
We know what it's like to deviate from the path,
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Health, your mind.
It's up to you what you put in your body.
It's up to you what you put in your ears.
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Echoes out, Aco, Charles.
Just be careful.
Because that algorithm on there, which is programmed, which is artificial intelligence,
which will get inside your brain and wreck your life, be careful.
Don't let it happen.
Set a little timer.
Seven minutes.
Seven minutes.
Seven minutes you can waste on that.
Then get back to your real life.
Thanks to all our military personnel out there.
Sometimes I know that you have to put up with some toxic leaders in order to protect us
in our way of life.
Thank you for what you do every day
to overcome those challenges and keep us safe.
And also thanks to our police law enforcement,
firefighters, paramedics, EMTs,
dispatchers, correctional officers,
Border Patrol, Secret Service,
as well as all other first responders.
I know sometimes you all deal with toxic leaders as well.
Well, thank you for dealing with them
in order to protect us here at home.
And everyone else out there,
as is our habit,
we blame other people.
and you may have spent the last hour and a half listening and identifying all the toxic qualities that everybody else around you has and while there may be some toxic leaders around you you can't really control them you can control yourself so be a good person a humble person with integrity and honor and be competent in your job and be responsible and keep your ego and check
and put the team ahead of yourself and you'll be in a good spot as a good leader that's all
i've got for tonight until next time this echo and jocco out
