Jocko Podcast - 78: How Adversity Reveals Human Nature. Are You Worthy of Your Suffering? "A Man's Search For Meaning", by Viktor Frankl

Episode Date: June 7, 2017

0:00:00 - Opening 0:18:47 - "A Man's Search For Meaning", by Viktor Frankl 0:42:12 - The Sociology and Psychology of the Camp. 1:02:28 - An Attitude. Being Worthy of Your Sufferings. 1:34:...59 - Adversity Reveals Human Nature. 1:42:32 - To Sum Up.  Takeaways and Lessons Learned.   2:07:09 - Support, Cool Onnit, JockoStore stuff, with Jocko White Tea and Psychological Warfare (on iTunes). Extreme Ownership (book), (Jocko's Kids' Book) Way of the Warrior Kid, and The Muster 003.  2:33:39 - Closing Gratitude.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/jocko-podcast/exclusive-content

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Starting point is 00:00:01 This is Jocko podcast number 78 with Echo Charles and me Jocko Willink. Good evening, Echo. Good evening. Nightmare. Now, that's a word that I use oftentimes to describe the most horrible things and the most wretched things. And in my hierarchy of adjectives, nightmare is right alongside of how much. Hell. And I'm not sure which one is worse in my mind. That's why I say they're right alongside
Starting point is 00:00:43 each other because hell is beyond the worst thing your mind can imagine. And that's basically what a nightmare is when you're asleep and your mind delves into the most horrific things beyond what you can consciously and willfully imagine in your own head. That's what a nightmare is now what if there was a place that was worse than a nightmare and it was a real place who could create such a place and the answer to that is we can I shall never forget how I was roused one night by the groans of a fellow prisoner who threw himself about in his sleep obviously having a horrible nightmare since I had always been especially sorry for people who suffer from fearful dreams or deliria I wanted to wake the poor man suddenly I drew back the hand which was
Starting point is 00:02:07 ready to shake him frightened at the thing I was about to do at that moment I became intensely conscious of the fact that no dream no matter how horrible could be as bad as the reality of the camp which surrounded us and to which I was about to recall him and that's a quote from the book man's search for meaning by victor frankl which will be appearing into today and it's a book the nazi got concentration camps which are really as he pointed out there worse than any nightmare we can imagine here's a Holocaust survivor Eddie Weinstein on the death and the atrocities in Treblinka by now the transports were coming every day one was much like the next the same incidents recurred again and again once as I swept out the interior of a
Starting point is 00:03:25 car an SS man suddenly struck me with his whip and ordered me to help woman who is unable to stand and climb out of the car the idea was to show his victims how well the ill were being treated then he ordered one of the workers to take the women take the woman to the field the field hospital for care the newcomers really believed that the ailing woman would be taken to an infirmary none of them realized that the field hospital was in fact just a giant pit about 30 yards in diameter which was always a blaze they would place those who were sick or disabled on the ground at the edge of the pit facing in the SS man in the in charge
Starting point is 00:04:15 circulated among them and shot them in the back of the neck then the workers cast them into the pit some of the victims were still breathing when they were tossed in with the other bodies the pit was separated from the spacious field by a barrier of fresh pine branches, which were replaced from time to time to conceal the infirmary from the newcomers until the last moment. 20 minutes after I helped the woman climb out of the railroad car, I was told that some infants were sitting by the pit, and no one else was there because the SS soldier had taken his lunch break.
Starting point is 00:04:54 I gathered some trash and went over there. I saw the woman who I had removed from the car still breathing sitting at the edge of the pit and staring in fright into the burning inferno and its contents The half cremated bodies of old people and children mixed with smoldering trash She tried to stand up but her legs would not hold her She looked at the workers who stirred the embers remnants of human beings so they would burn better nearby were about a dozen infants too young to have learned how to walk they were not crying they certainly did not understand what was happening they looked about almost certainly in hopes of finding their mother or father later I heard that right after he returned from his
Starting point is 00:05:51 lunch break the SS man shot them all and ordered the workers to throw the tiny bodies into the flames of all my memories of that accursed place the vision of the these babies is undoubtedly the worst. I see their faces whenever I remember Tremblinka. As I write these lines more than 50 years after that day, I still cannot overcome the horror. In another report, here Martin Spett of Tarnow, Poland describes the massacre of Tarnow Jews in an interview. We heard the columns of Jews under the German escort at night. It was going constantly. They were passing our house because this was already on the outskirts of the city, the cemetery,
Starting point is 00:06:52 and they were marching them to the woods behind the city. As we found out later, they were all shot over there. During the day, I looked out through the shingles. My father said I shouldn't look, but anyway, I was a kid. I was curious. And the roof was overlooking the cemetery and wagons with bodies, dead bodies were coming in. Groups. They were bringing in groups of Jewish people that had to dig trenches.
Starting point is 00:07:21 They had to dig ditches. And the bodies dumped in. And after those Jews that dug the ditches, they were shot also and pushed in by another group that came in after them. Into those ditches and lime was poured over the bodies. and the next group covered up those ditches and dug other ditches they brought in pregnant women and they didn't use any bullets they used bayonets the screams of the mothers that their children they tore their children out of their arms and the screams of the children i still hear and Solomon radaski who is the only survivor from the
Starting point is 00:08:34 the 78 people in his family described the concentration camp they throw the people in the crematoriums the children I will never forget alive they throw them in the crematoriums they grabbed by an arm by a leg by the head and throw them into the ovens there it was so tragic the cries and people when crying there you know it was so terrible I can feel it now I can even see the people the other people were crying the children were hollering mama daddy help me mama daddy help me it was terrible a report on Treblinka from Henry Gold and the worst thing that happens to a person in that instance he loses self-respect and that's exactly what happened to the majority of the people
Starting point is 00:10:02 Some of them even lost their minds. They couldn't take it. They couldn't take the hunger. They couldn't take the beatings. They couldn't take the cold, no clothing, and the uncertainty. And the uncertainty, I think that was the worst thing that can happen to a person. You didn't know from one moment to the next what was going to happen. Life was very cheap.
Starting point is 00:10:25 A person was alive one minute. The next minute, he was shot, killed, beaten up, beaten to death, torn a tart, a part of part by dogs and so on life was very very cheap and that's the way the Germans liked it that particular camp was governed by the Jewish Jewish police and so on the Germans did not stay in the camp they were on the outside but the life inside of the camp was just as bad without the Germans being right there than if they would be the Jewish police was I don't know you take a person in that situation and you give them a little power and he becomes the same as the oppressor himself
Starting point is 00:11:15 There were some policemen that were not bad But there were a lot of them that were ruthless There were others that would beat people and do all kinds of things that would degrade them and so on Especially women They cut their hair off and they look like men. They look like scarecrows and they would get beaten up by the Jewish police Just as bad as the man for no reason at all if they wanted a little more soup where they were distributing soup and there were some left and they were going to give everybody a little bit and the Jewish police with their
Starting point is 00:11:55 sticks and rubber hoses would beat them half senseless and that's what happens when the conditions are the way they were then when a person becomes an animal and loses self-respect that is willing to get a beating and get beaten half senseless just to get a little bit of soup Either you died Or if you didn't die The Germans would come and take you away The filth was just terrible in the camp In the barracks you had cots
Starting point is 00:12:33 I mean bunks where everybody slept on straw There were no covers was no pillows nothing You slept in your clothes in the winters In the winter because you're afraid to get cold The only heating was a pop-bellied stove in the middle of the barrack When somebody stole some wood in the factory or something then we had a fire otherwise it was freezing and the only warmth they had if you huddled together and they kept warm that way but nobody would get undressed the lice were eating you up alive
Starting point is 00:13:08 once a month you were allowed to take a shower and we had to walk to camp a day to go to the showers and that means a 10 mile walk 10 miles there and 10 miles back a lot of people were too weak to walk and those people hardly ever took a shower. There was no hot water in the washroom. It was only cold. And in the winter you were afraid to wash up because there was nothing to wipe yourself with. Therefore, you would walk out in the cold winter
Starting point is 00:13:41 and freeze to death. Brothers and both of his parents were all killed in the gas chambers. And from the Bukenwald report, which was translated and edited with an introduction by David A. Hackett, I will now describe the crematoriums and the transports. At the station, 2,000 people got off the trains. They had to throw away all their luggage.
Starting point is 00:14:23 Afterward, the men and women were divided into two groups, at which the larger boys were assigned to the group with the men. Then that great devourer of Jews, Mengela, drove by in a car seeking out the strongest from each transport. They numbered around 30 out of 2,000. The remainder were led away by SS Technical Sergeant Mole, the officer of the crematorium. The elderly were loaded onto dump trucks and then dumped into burning trenches while still alive. The remainder were led to the gas chambers.
Starting point is 00:15:03 Meanwhile, new transports were arriving. In front of the gas chamber was a dressing room. On its walls was written in all languages, put shoes into the cubby holes and tie them together so you will not lose them after the showers you will receive hot coffee here poor victims undress themselves and went into the chamber there were three columns for the ventilators through which the gas poured in a special work detail with truncheons drove the people into the chamber when the room was full small children were thrown in through a window sergeant mole grabbed infants by their legs and
Starting point is 00:15:50 smashed their skulls against the wall. Then the gas was led into the chamber. The lungs of the victim slowly burst and after three minutes a loud clamoring could be heard. Then the chamber was open and those who still showed signs of life were beaten to death. The prisoners of the special work details then pulled corpses out, took their rings off and cut their hair which was gathered up, put in sacks and shipped to factories. Then they arranged. the corpses in piles of ten each after sergeant mole had counted them they were taken to the ovens or if the crematerians cremateriums were insufficient thrown into fire trenches once it happened that a victim crawled out of a burning trench he was beaten to death with trunchons once sergeant mole put a naked woman in the trench and shot her in the genitals another time mole found a ring on a member of the
Starting point is 00:17:03 special work detail he ordered naphtha poured over him and had it lighted he hanged a man by his hands and shot him until his arms were torn through then he hanged him up by the feet and repeated the process once sergeant mole took a family of six first he shot the youngest in the presence of the rest then he shot the older ones and finally their father and mother and that's the test of John De Weiss who was 15 years old at Bergenau. So I think it's safe to say that this is a situation that is definitely worse than a nightmare. And what possibly can we take away from that? The best thing we can do is try and learn.
Starting point is 00:18:35 And I think one of the best places to learn and take lessons away from the Holocaust is from the book that I started off with today called Man's Search for Meaning by Victor Frankel let us take the case of a transport which was officially announced to transfer a certain number of prisoners to another camp but it was fairly safe to guess that its final destination would be the gas chambers a selection of sick or feeble prisoners incapable of work would be sent to one of the big central camps which were fitted with gas chambers and crematoriums the selection process was the signal for a free fight among all the prisoners or of group
Starting point is 00:19:33 against group all that mattered was that one's own name and that of one's friends were crossed off the list of victims though everyone knew that for each man saved another victim had to be found a definite number of prisoners had to go with each transport it did not really matter which since each of them was nothing but a number on their admission to the camp all their documents had been taken from them together with other possessions each prisoner therefore had an opportunity to claim a fictitious name or profession and for various reasons many did this the authorities were interested only in the captive's numbers these
Starting point is 00:20:23 numbers were often tattooed on their skin and also had to be sewn to a certain spot on their trousers jacket or coat any guard who wanted to make a charge against a prisoner just glanced at his number and how we dreaded those glances he never asked for his name to return to the convoy about to depart there was neither time nor desire to consider moral or ethical issues every man was controlled by one thought only to keep himself alive for the family waiting for him at home and to save it friends with no hesitation therefore he would arrange for another prisoner another
Starting point is 00:21:04 number to take his place in the transport as I have already mentioned the process of selecting capos was a negative one only the most brutal of the prisoners were chosen for this job so capos were prisoners Jewish prisoners that got selected to help run the prison camp And Capo, I tried to find the etymology of where that came from, and the best or the closest or the thing that made the most sense to me from what I read was, was they had two words combined together. Comrade police. In German, those got shortened to Capo.
Starting point is 00:21:57 So some of these, and you already heard one of those earlier testimonies talking about the Jewish police inside. the prisons and how they were just as bad as in many cases as the Germans themselves back to the book but apart from the selection of capos which was undertaken by the SS there was a sort of self-selecting process going on the whole time among all the prisoners on the average only those prisoners could keep alive who after years of trekking from camp to camp had lost all scruples in their fight for existence they were prepared to use every means honest and otherwise even brutal force theft and betrayal of friends in order to save themselves we have come back by the aid of many lucky chances or miracles whatever one may
Starting point is 00:22:56 choose to call them we know the best of us did not return so there's a dynamic that you don't think of immediately when you think of the concentration camps number one you don't think about the capos, the Jewish police that are forced into this situation. And then the other thing you don't think about is this, the fact that the people that we're going to survive were basically, I'm making a very broad say, but, but you know, from what Victor Frankl's saying here, it was the people that were willing just to do anything to survive, including betraying their friends. And he's saying straight up, we know the best of us did not return. And that is something that you don't think about and we probably don't think about it because we don't want to think about it
Starting point is 00:23:54 Because when you start thinking about What would you do to survive? What would you do to survive? What would I do to survive? And that's a question I don't think a lot of people want to know the answer to And it's very easy to go through life and never have to answer that question He's talking a little bit now about what life was like and in the camp back to the book somewhere it is said that man cannot exist without sleep for more than a stated number of hours quite wrong i had been convinced that there were certain things i just could not do i could not sleep without this or i could not live without that or the other
Starting point is 00:24:43 the first night in Auschwitz we slept in beds which were constructed in tiers on each tier measuring about six and one half to eight feet slept nine men directly on the boards two blankets would be shared by each nine men we could of course lie only on our sides crowded and huddled against each other which had some advantages because the bitter cold though it was forbidden to take shoes up to the bunks some people did use them secretly as pillows in spite of the fact they were caked with mud otherwise one's head had to rest on the crook of an almost dislocated arm and yet sleep came and brought oblivion and relief from the pain for a few hours
Starting point is 00:25:34 the thought of suicide was entertained by nearly everyone if only for a brief time it was born of hopelessness of the situation the constant danger of death looming over us daily and hourly and the closeness of deaths suffered by many of the others from personal convictions which we mentioned later I made a firm promise on my first evening in the camp that I would not run to the wire this was a phrase used in camp to describe the most popular method of suicide touching the electrical electrically charged barbed wire fence it was not entirely difficult for me to make this decision there was little point committing suicide since for the average inmate life expectation calculating objectively and counting all likely chances was very very very
Starting point is 00:26:29 poor he could not without any assured he could not with any assurance expect to be among the small percentage of men who survived all the selections the prisoner of Auschwitz in the first phase of shock did not fear death even the gas chambers lost their horrors for him after the first few days after all they spared him the act of committing suicide and Victor Frankel was a Chiatrists going into this situation. So that's the view. That's the perspective that he takes throughout this and He's now been in for a couple days in Auschwitz and Another guy comes in to talk to him who's another colleague of his and we're going back to the book a colleague of mine who had arrived in Auschwitz several weeks previously smuggled himself into our hut he wanted to calm and comfort us and tell us a few things he had become so thin that at first we
Starting point is 00:27:42 did not recognize him with a show of good humor and a devil-may-care attitude he gave us a few hurried tips don't be afraid don't fear the selections dr. m the SS medical chief has a soft spot for doctors but one thing I beg of you he continued shave daily if at all possible even if you have to use a piece of glass to do it, even if you have to give your last piece of bread for it. You will look younger, and the scraping will make your cheeks look rudier. If you want to stay alive,
Starting point is 00:28:17 there is only one way, look fit for work. If you even limp, because let us say you have a small blister on your heel, and an SS man spots this, he will wave you aside, and the next day you are sure to be gassed. Now his mind and his thoughts he describes what he would think about Back to the book my mind still clung to the image of my wife
Starting point is 00:28:55 A thought crossed my mind I didn't even know if she was still alive I knew only one thing which I have learned well by now Love goes very far beyond the physical person of the beloved It finds its deepest meaning in his spiritual being in his inner self. Whether or not he is actually present, whether or not he is still alive at all, ceases somehow to be of importance. I did not know whether my wife was alive and had no means of finding out.
Starting point is 00:29:34 During all my prison life, there was no outgoing or incoming male. But at that moment, it ceased to matter. There was no need for me to know. Nothing could touch the strength of my love, my thoughts. the image of my beloved had I known then that my wife was dead I think that I still would have given myself undisturbed by that knowledge to the contemplation of her image and that my mental conversation with her would have been just as vivid and just as satisfying set me like a seal upon thy heart love is as strong as death and continuing on dr. Frankel talks about images from inside
Starting point is 00:30:34 the camp standing outside we saw sinister clouds glowing in the west and the whole sky alive with clouds of ever-changing shapes and colors from steel blue to blood red the desolate gray mud huts provided a sharp contrast while the puddles on the muddy ground reflected the glowing sky then after a few minutes of moving silence one prisoner said to another how beautiful the world could be and beyond looking for beauty around them they were able to find humor and I have people asked me about this from time to time about humor in combat situations and isn't it important and yes it absolutely is and you'd think in a concentration camp even humor would go away but not true back to the book to discover that there was
Starting point is 00:31:37 any semblance of art in a concentration camp must be surprised enough for an outsider but he may be even more astonished to here that one could find a sense of humor could find a sense of humor there as well of course only the faint trace of one and then only for a few seconds or minutes humor was another of the soul's weapons in the fight for self-preservation it is well known that humor more than anything else in the human makeup can afford an aloofness and an ability to rise above any situation if only for a few seconds the attempt to develop a sense of humor and to see things in a humorous light is some kind of trick I learned while mastering the art of living yet it is impossible to practice the
Starting point is 00:32:28 art of living even in a concentration camp although suffering is omnipresent to draw an analogy a man's suffering is similar to the behavior of gas if a certain quantity of gas is pumped into an empty chamber, it will fill the chamber completely and evenly no matter how big the chamber. Thus, suffering completely fills the human soul and conscious mind no matter whether the suffering is great or little. Therefore, the size of human suffering is absolutely relative. And I think the point that I took away from that was that chamber that can be filled up with suffering, fill it up with some humor as well.
Starting point is 00:33:17 otherwise that that suffering will just fill the whole chamber will fill your whole brain back to the book we were grateful for the smallest of mercies we were glad when there was time to de louse before going to bed although in itself this was no pleasure pleasure as it meant standing naked in unheeded hut where icicles hung from the ceiling but we were thankful if there was no air raid alarm during this operation the lights were not switched off If we could not do the job properly, we were kept awake half the night. So you're at a point in life where you're grateful for being able to stand naked and pick the lice off of your friends before you go to bed so that the lice won't keep you awake at night by chewing at your body.
Starting point is 00:34:23 And, you know, I talked about how, or he talks about how, you know, it was the person that was going to survive had to be ruthless, basically. And here he says, but is not for me to pass judgment on those prisoners who put their own people above everyone else. Who can throw a stone at a man who favors his friends under circumstances when, sooner or later, it is a question of life or death. No man should judge unless he asks himself in absolute honesty, whether in a similar situation he might not have done the same. And here he says, I mentioned earlier how everything that was not connected with the immediate task of keeping oneself and one's self and what. one closest friends of lives lost its value. Everything was sacrificed to this end. A man's character became involved to the point that he was caught in mental turmoil,
Starting point is 00:35:29 which threatened all values he held and threw them into doubt. Under the influence of a world which no longer recognized the value of human life and human dignity, which had robbed the man of his will and made him an object to be exterminated, having planned however to make full use of him first to the last ounce of his physical resources under this influence the personal ego finally suffered a loss of values if the man in the concentration camp did not struggle against this in a last effort to save his self-respect he lost the feeling of being an individual a being with a mind with inner freedom and personal value He thought of himself then as only part of an enormous mass of people. His existence descended to the level of animal life. The men were herded, sometimes to one place, then to another, sometimes driven together, then apart like a flock of sheep without a thought or a will of their own.
Starting point is 00:36:39 A small but dangerous pack watched them from all sides well-versed in methods of torture and sadism. They drove the herd incessantly backwards and forwards with shouts, kicks, and blows. And we, the sheep, thought of two things only. How to evade the bad dogs and how to get a little food. He's going to delve into this deeper, this idea of this inner freedom. And how hard you had to fight to maintain that. and how easy it was just to roll in and become one of the pack, one of the herd. It is very difficult for an outsider to grasp how very little value was placed on human life in camp.
Starting point is 00:37:44 The camp inmate was hardened but possibly became more conscious of this complete disregard of human existence when a convoy of sick men was arranged. The emaciated bodies of the sick were thrown on two-wheeled carts, which were drawn by prisoners for many miles, often through snowstorms to the next camp. If one of the sick men had died before the cart left, he was thrown on anyways. The list had to be correct.
Starting point is 00:38:16 The list was the only thing that mattered. A man counted only because he had a prison number. One literally became a number. Dead or alive, that was unimportant. The life of a number was completely. irrelevant what stood behind that number and that life mattered even less the fate the history the name of the man the camp inmate was frightened of making decisions and of taking any sort of initiative whatsoever this was the result of a strong feeling
Starting point is 00:39:08 that fate was one's master and that one must not try to influence it in any way but instead let it take its own course in addition there was a great apathy which contributed no small part to the feelings of the prisoner at times lightning decisions had to be made decisions would spell life or death the prisoner would have preferred to let fate make the choice for him and so some of the examples that he brings up in the book on that are they'd get told We need people to go to a different camp for rest and they had no idea Sometimes it actually was some kind of rest sometimes it was some kind of actual medical facility Sometimes it was just you're going to the gas chambers at another camp and they had no idea which one it was and So they got into this mode of they were just going to externally just whatever was going to happen that was going to happen And they wouldn't they go beyond where they're trying in the beginning to
Starting point is 00:40:18 to like get me off that list or I want to be on that list and they realized that they just were were messing with fate. And so they got into a mode of I'm just going to let things happen and whatever happens happens. And they got this this feeling of apathy. You can just imagine how that that having no control externally of what's happening, how that leads, number one leads to this apathy of just I don't care what happens. But number two, how that can then sneak in and start. To get control of your inner thoughts and your inner feelings where you just feel like you don't have control over anything in life and that's it
Starting point is 00:40:59 And here he talks about apathy some more the prisoner's apathy was also the result of other factors Hunger and lack of sleep contributed to it as they do in normal life also and To the general irritability which was another characteristic of the prisoner's mental state The lack of sleep was partly due to the pest of vermin which infested the terribly overcrowded huts because of the general lack of hygiene and sanitation The fact that we had neither nicotine nor caffeine also contributed to the state of apathy and irritability Besides these physical causes there were mental ones in the form of certain complexes the majority of prisoners suffered from a kind of inferiority complex We all had once been or had fancied ourselves to be seen
Starting point is 00:41:51 somebody now we were treated like complete non-entities the consciousness of one's inner value is anchored in higher more spiritual things it cannot be shaken by camp life but how many free men let alone prisoners possess it without consciously thinking about it the average prisoner felt himself utterly degraded this became obvious when one observed the contrasts offered by the singular The more prominent prisoners the capos the cooks the storekeepers and the camp policemen did not as a rule feel degraded at all Like the majority of prisoners but on the contrary they felt promoted Some even developed miniature
Starting point is 00:42:45 Mnucher delusions of grandeur clearly we can all take a lesson out of that one and that is you know you get put into a promotion position or you've got authority over people don't let that go to your head yeah I guess that's a natural thing where they did this the experiment test in that university whatever and they're all just random students one played the prisoner one group played the guards and that happened yep you know like it's just an an experiment it's not real life you know and it still happened yeah and it happened in real life which I think is even more insane it's even more insane yeah in a way huh But then again
Starting point is 00:43:32 How can we sit here and judge When if you're in that situation And you need to survive and you need to do the best to get you to survive and your family survive And you have an opportunity. Oh, are we gonna say nope? No I'm gonna instead of doing this where I maybe can do something good in the long run Nope, I'm not gonna go across my values. I'm gonna die in three days and that's it. Yeah, that's a hard decision to make. Yeah, I mean, it seems easy when you're sitting in the comfort of your home. Be like, I wouldn't do that or, you know, and this is what I would have done or I wouldn't have done. But yeah,
Starting point is 00:44:10 you know, I, I talk to people about, again, it's, I'm not going to compare anything to what we're talking about here. But in the military, for instance, a lot of times I had to make decisions to, to, you know, I got to do something that maybe I didn't fully agree with. But I knew in the long run it was going to get me something that was going to be beneficial to my team or to my platoon or whatever. So you make those little adjustments and you got to suck it up and you do something that you might not want to do. But in the long run, it's going to be beneficial. Yeah. Now, I mean, I don't even know if this is even a remotely close comparison.
Starting point is 00:44:50 But what I am saying is this. You take a human being and you say, look, you can either step up and act a different way and be abusive to these people. people or you're gonna be dead in three days. That's it. Those are your choices. Yeah. And it's not that hard to figure out that a lot of people are going to step up and say, cool, I'll abuse those people because I need to live.
Starting point is 00:45:10 You need to live. Yeah. My choice is either death. Yeah. And by the way, maybe the, maybe the best person in that group is going to say, you know what? I'm going to do this and I'm going to step up. And when I abuse these people, I'm going to do a little bit less than someone else might. Right.
Starting point is 00:45:26 And therefore, I'm doing the best I can. Yeah. I mean these are decisions I had even think about these decisions Yeah, I know man And you have to think about them you have to understand them you have to understand what human nature is that there's a survival point for humans You have us an instinct instinct to survive that very few people can overcome Yeah, and I don't even you know again how do you judge whether it's right to overcome it or not When is it right? I mean obviously when is it right? We're sitting here. It's easy to say hey don't you know these guys
Starting point is 00:45:59 Why would you kill yourself? Well, If you don't do these things, you're basically killing yourself. You don't step up. If you don't say, okay, I'll work as a capo. If you don't do that, you're killing yourself. Right. Does that make it okay? Man, it's brutal.
Starting point is 00:46:14 It's like you got to figure out whether or not you're better off dead in the, even in the grand scheme of things. Like these people that they're going to kind of succumb to these positions or do all these low things to survive so they can survive and, you know, live on and all this stuff. So it's either that or am I better off dead overall, you know, like that's the decision you got to make. Dang, who knows what you think, especially with all these conditions. Yeah, you know, the opposite of that is Dick Winners was talking about how he had.
Starting point is 00:46:46 And I don't know if I talked about it on the podcast, but in the book conversations with Dick Winners, he goes through a big section where he talks about some of the guys in his company. And he called him the killers. And he actually went on and said, hey, you know, I don't want to call. them killers because that's gonna give the wrong impression but these guys were my most aggressive guys they were my best guys and he's and he said they didn't make it past you know he said most of them didn't make it I forget which which battle but he said most of them didn't make it past this certain time because they were so aggressive
Starting point is 00:47:20 they were such good guys they were so brave that they didn't make it and and this is sort of the opposite where you have the people that are brave I guess no it's the same in that people that are brave and gonna hold their values they're gonna die right and and if you think about somebody that's cowardly in combat that says oh you know what you know echo you go first I'm gonna sit over here behind this you know covered position yeah I'm gonna live longer and it's a micro example of what we're talking about here yeah yeah it's and this this given the book and what we're talking about right this might come off his borderline
Starting point is 00:48:01 insulting if not full-fledged insulting but you ever watch this show survivor I I watched the first one when it was kind of a thing yeah and there was a interesting psychology happening yeah and that's like I was Rudy Bosch was on it you know this seal retired seal master chief who you know everyone kind of knew in the seal teams okay yeah so and especially what you're gonna say is that the the people that are not good human beings are the ones that win a lot of well they get far put it that way because they have this weird mechanism at the end where the last few people who get voted off, they become this sort of a jury. So it's like if you went through the whole game screwing people over, the jury's gonna get you kind of thing. So it's a, yeah,
Starting point is 00:48:44 and this is just how the show just sorted itself out over time. But the first ones didn't have any jury, right? I don't know. I don't really watch it that much. I'm gonna go ahead and say, I'm almost positive they didn't because Rudy had his hand on some log
Starting point is 00:48:58 and they had to keep it there for like X, for a longest, And one person, you know, he actually, like, thought of something else and took his hand off and then he was out. That was it. Okay. But, yeah, there's an absolute comparison there. There's an absolute comparison to, you know, if you're willing to be a snake. Right.
Starting point is 00:49:17 You can win the game. And I've talked about that too in promotion, people getting promoted. And if you're willing to be a snake, you can get promoted. But the thing that I will say in a work environment is that. That snake might get one promotion. They might get two promotions. They're not going to go the distance. And if you hold the line on doing what's correct,
Starting point is 00:49:41 then you might miss that first promotion. You might even miss that second promotion. But eventually, if you're on the right path, you will get the recognition and you will win in the long run. You've got to be patient, though. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, obviously, in your job, it's not life or death.
Starting point is 00:49:58 You know, death isn't so close that, you know, one slip up your death. You're dead. You know, so that's, you know, obviously the dynamics are different in work in that way. But otherwise, I think so. And Survivor, there's also that other thing that kind of what they talk about where, or what you were just talking about is if you, it's kind of, in a matter of speaking, plain, it's safe where you're just hiding under the wings. You might attach yourself to someone or you'll avoid any kind of, you know, risky situation. For sure.
Starting point is 00:50:28 And so in Survivor, you can make it far like that as well. I mean nowadays everyone knows about those things like oh, you backstabed everyone or you just hid behind this guy because he's strong But at the same time just like how you're saying if you're brave or you're gonna stick to your morals and be honest with everyone like you'll get voted off real quick even if you're really good at you know the challenges or something Don't even like really good leaders get voted like if someone just is a dynamic leader they get voted off almost immediately right They're like oh yeah see later too much of a threat too much of a threat to everybody else And actually what you're talking about going through seal training I would hear it wasn't I didn't hear it when I went through but I heard it later this idea of the gray man and I think we might have actually answered a question on the podcast about that was going through training and just
Starting point is 00:51:09 being a gray man meaning just don't stand out right not on one way or the other and you'll be good to go and that's that's that's a that's a strategy why in the seal teams is that no it's a strategy going through buds through seal training the initial shield training course because the minute you stand out people start knowing who you are And now you got instructors looking at you and the more they watch you the more they can see That maybe you're making some mistakes or maybe you're not doing everything right or maybe you're not and so It's better just to be that guy in the middle I was the guy in the middle not because I wanted to be But because I was not you know the fastest runner. I wasn't the the best swimmer
Starting point is 00:51:45 Which you don't want to be is the guy on the tail end right? Yeah, and it's weird because I put so many guys not through the basic Sealed training but through the advanced seal training and the guys that I remember there's two types of guys that I remember the guys that were awesome and the guys that guys that were horrible and the guys in the middle all the gray guys I know them when I see him right but a lot of times I don't 100% I might not know their name whereas some of the pipe hitters the young pipe hitter some E5 pipe hitter that was just getting after it I'd always remember those guys names because they would take control of everything and they'd stand out and then the other guys you remember are guys that are totally jacked up so that idea of being a gray man it seems like a good policy to have in the concentration cap look I just don't want to stand out I don't want to
Starting point is 00:52:25 have a limp I don't want to you know come across as a I just want to fit in and be the gray man unless you're going to go the distance right which is and that's a horrible way of saying I'm going to stand out by saying hey I can whip these prisoners into shape right that's going and raising your hand and saying I'll be a capo I'm going to step up and what you're risking there is we don't know where this war is going to end and where you're going to be at the end of this thing yeah and you know I read some stories about that the war did end and they did liberate these camps and it didn't work out good for the capos so there's there's the same thing you might have been done all right getting your promotion the first couple times but eventually it it comes around yeah exactly right yeah you know Harley Flanagan was talking about karma and I don't know how much reality there is to that but there's there's there's the reality of you reap what you sell yeah and if you treat people if you if you if you take advantage of your position if you maneuver
Starting point is 00:53:29 and screw people over to get ahead of them they'll remember that yeah they'll remember that yeah and that makes sense I mean Carmel with you and it's never worth it by the way it's I don't think so never worth it I mean could you possibly come up with some scenario where where you know I did this to get a promotion so that I could take care of you and everyone else you could come up with this but it's very very rare and and my gut feeling was always like it's not worth it yeah not worth it to do those little maneuvers and try and better your position on other people's backs. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:54:05 We're screwing someone over in because you've got to live with that too. I mean, unless you're like a sociopath or something like that. You have to live with that. Man, yeah. And even at the time, it seems like, oh,
Starting point is 00:54:16 I could live with that because, ooh, you know what? You're actually taking a higher road than me because you're saying you personally have to live with it. And that's definitely, I'm saying beyond that, even if you're a person that can live with it,
Starting point is 00:54:27 you're still going to pay in a long way. Even if you can look yourself in the mirror, be like, I don't care. I got promoted. It's good. That's, okay, so you can live with that. That's cool. But guess what? There's something else that's going to come back around.
Starting point is 00:54:38 And that is one of those other people that you stepped on their back is going to invent something new at work and he's going to take over the division and you're going to pay. Not to mention the 10 people who watched it happen. Yeah. And, you know, yeah. You're just making enemies. Yeah. Enemies.
Starting point is 00:54:52 And that's really what karma is for, I mean, karma could be this mystical thing that personally watches you and has this judgment system and I'm just be real just real life just like if I walk up to you know even mean you're even we don't know each other I don't have any bad or good feelings towards you and I come and I slap you I created a deficit now now you're in tension big deficit yeah so your intention whether you do it or not you're what you're compelled to slap me back if not more usually more yeah because you know so that's kind of really what it is I I mean, really in a small teeny tiny nutshell. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:55:29 I go out and start acting mad to everyone. They're not going to be like, oh, I love you. I mean, they might because they might be, you know, intellectual or, you know, they might be able to think about it, but their natural compulsion will be to be mad at you back. And this, you know, the podcast, human nature, talking about human nature. And I always say that war reveals human nature more clearly than anything else because it's so much pressure on the people. obviously a concentration camp it's revealing human nature and that's exactly what we're talking about and it reveals itself in
Starting point is 00:56:02 crystal clarity on a massive scale in terms of being able to see it in a concentration camp and you see it reveal itself on a TV show called Survivor and you see it reveal itself in in the work environment and what I'm saying is from all that what you want to do is you want to make sure that when you get put into a position of authority you You don't abuse it. That's what I'm saying. Yeah. You don't want to abuse it. You want to treat people with respect no matter what. And you don't want to step on people's backs to get ahead because ultimately it's not going to pay off.
Starting point is 00:56:39 It really isn't. Yeah. You're only going to fool. Like that leader that you fooled and thinking that you are a great guy, that's only going to last for so long. Yeah. And eventually, you're going to get found out. Yeah. Now, all right, let's get, let's get back into the book here.
Starting point is 00:57:00 The experiences of camp life show that man does have a choice of action. And this is, we've talked about the capitalizing. He's going to talk about some of the more heroic people and some of those actions very briefly. And he says, because the reason there's very briefly, is because there wasn't a lot of them. The experiences of camp life show that man does have a choice of action. There were enough examples often of a heroic nature, which proved that apathy could be overcome, irritability suppressed. Man can preserve a vestige of spiritual freedom,
Starting point is 00:57:38 of independence of mind, even in such terrible conditions of psychic and physical stress. We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through huts, comforting others, giving away their last, piece of bread they may have been few in number but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing the last of the human freedoms to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances to choose one's own way and there it is I mean that is it that is it that is it
Starting point is 00:58:26 this idea and you know captain plum talked about it as well and captain plum had a quote from stockdale and we got to explore this and i've got a bunch of stockdale books and we will get to some stockdale books who was the senior guy in the hanoi hilton and he's you know a fighter pilot philosopher guy brilliant guy and a hero one the was awarded the medal of honor and one of the things that that Captain Plum was talking to us about is is Captain Plum said that they got word from Stockdale and I'm gonna miss quote it by I'm gonna do my best It was just because we're in a prison camp doesn't mean we have to be on defense We're gonna be on offense in a prison camp That's just a completely different attitude
Starting point is 00:59:16 It's choosing the attitude we're not gonna sit here and be abused and and be Put down we're gonna step up we're gonna We're going to go on offense. And they did. They did hunger strikes. They passed word around. They wouldn't stand up when people entered. They did these things.
Starting point is 00:59:32 They went on offense. And that's what he's talking about right here. This last human freedom to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances. We always have that choice. No matter what the circumstances are that it surround you, you always have that choice. Back to the book. And there are always choices to make.
Starting point is 00:59:58 Every day, every hour offered the opportunity to make a decision, a decision which determined whether you would or would not submit to those powers which threatened to rob you of your very self, your inner freedom, which determined whether or not you would become the plaything of circumstance, renouncing freedom and dignity to become molded into the form of the typical inmate. Again, there it is. You're in a concentration camp doomed doomed and yet you can hang on to that last that last bastion of freedom in your soul to not let them win and not let them own that. Back to the book, seen from this point of view, the mental reactions of the inmates of a concentration camp
Starting point is 01:01:02 must seem more to us than the mere expression of certain physical and sociological conditions. Even though conditions such as lack of sleep insufficient food and various mental stresses may suggest that the inmates were bound to react in certain ways in the final analysis it becomes clear that the sort of person the prisoner became was the result of inner decision and not the result of camp influences alone think about that the sort of person the prisoner became was the result of an inner decision not the result of the circumstances you're in.
Starting point is 01:01:47 That doesn't matter what kind of person you become. What matters is the decisions that you make. Unbelievable. Back to the book. Fundamentally, therefore any man can, even under such circumstances, decide what shall become of him mentally and spiritually.
Starting point is 01:02:13 Okay, physically, you can have that one. Can't control that all the time. But mentally and spiritually, I get to decide what I'm going to be. He may, retain his human dignity even in a concentration camp.
Starting point is 01:02:33 Dostoevsky said, Once, there is only one thing that I dread not to be worthy of my sufferings. These words frequently came to my mind after I became acquainted with those murders whose behavior in camp, whose suffering and death bore witness to the fact that the last inner freedom cannot be lost it can be said that they were worthy of their sufferings the way they bore their suffering was a genuine inner achievement it is this spiritual freedom which cannot be taken away that makes life meaningful and purposeful the way in which a man accepts his fate and all the suffering it entails the way in which he takes
Starting point is 01:03:34 takes up his cross, gives him ample opportunity, even under the most difficult circumstances, to add a deeper meaning to his life. It may remain brave, dignified, and unselfish, or in the bitter fight for self-preservation, he may forget his human dignity and become no more than an animal. Here lies the chance for a man either to make use of or to forego the opportunity. of attaining the moral values that a difficult situation may afford him and this decides whether he is worthy of his sufferings or not so think about that when you get faced with this ultimate challenge brutal challenge when life is just
Starting point is 01:04:27 about to crush you that's when you have the biggest opportunity to prove who you are You know, speaking of Of Of Unworthy topics But this is something I was when I first got to see world as at SEAL team one I ran a communications class and
Starting point is 01:04:51 When I ran the class we I was like super hard and I know it comes as a big shocker Yeah, yeah, yeah, but we would great test test test on all these different subjects. You know what radio? What frequency you brand with? What You know all these different subjects? I'm And I would say the guys, hey, you know, tomorrow we got another test, another opportunity for you to prove yourself. Mm-hmm. And that's the way I looked at it. They didn't always look at it the same way, but that's exactly what he's saying here.
Starting point is 01:05:21 When you have these brutal circumstances that you face, that's your opportunity. And if you think about all heroic tales, right? There's no heroic tales where the hero doesn't face any challenges. And as a matter of fact, the worst challenges he faces, the more of a hero he becomes. Yeah. If he rises to the occasion, if he doesn't rise the occasion, guess what? We don't hear about it. Right. Not a hero. Not a hero. Yeah. In fact, let's say you're considered a hero. And then this big chance to prove yourself comes about and you fail or you don't step up. You're kind of like this big failure in a way, even though you've been a hero the whole time. Yeah. I would say that's true. Although. If you do something heroic enough, people are like good with it.
Starting point is 01:06:12 Right. I think. If they're significant enough. So it's kind of the same thing. Yeah, I mean, the bottom line is you face these challenges and you get challenged to have this attitude of, you know, basically good opportunity. Opportunity. Yeah. Right.
Starting point is 01:06:30 Oh, big challenge? Cool. Opportunity. Yeah. Good. Yeah. It's like those guys who, you know, they start a business. The business is like grows.
Starting point is 01:06:37 And then it just massively fails because of some mistake or I don't know something and some or the kind of I don't know whatever and then they They reach rock bottom and they build himself back up and then you know it's this massive success You know that's a much better story. Yeah, you know that's much better than hey I went to this school I graduated I worked this job. I made a bunch of money. Yeah Everyone goes oh cool Right cool yeah cool good for you yeah they want to hear the struggle they want to see that you were challenged Yep back to the book everywhere man is confronted with fate with the chance of achieving of achieving something through his own suffering God think about that the the
Starting point is 01:07:24 The suffering that you're going through is in a chance to achieve something through your suffering That's an incredible thought yeah that's an incredible thought now this next part is something that I get asked about on a fairly regular basis back to the book take the fate of the sick especially those who are incurable i once read a letter written by young invalid in which he told a friend that he had just found out he would not live for long that even an operation would be of no help he wrote further that he remembered a film he had seen in which a man was portrayed who waited for death in an courageous and dignified way the boy had a thought it a great the boy had thought it a great accomplishment to meet death so well now he wrote fate was offering him a similar chance yeah I mean there's there's you know diseases terminal diseases and that's it and then what do you do well I think you have to choose the best possible attitude you can and a
Starting point is 01:08:45 Again, I've never been in that situation, obviously. But that statement seems to be the best possible attitude to take. Again, that's when we see people doing something heroic. That's what we see. And you know, it's funny, some of those, when we were doing a lot of the Native Americans on the podcast, they all had that attitude. When you go to face death, hold your head high. Be afraid of it. and that's really like you said easier sitting here in the you know in the recording studio of course
Starting point is 01:09:24 yeah easy for me to sit here and say that yeah but that's a hard one and you know um the other day on the joe rogan podcast everlast was on there yeah and joe rogan you know everlast was saying hey you know i'm not in good shape right now i wish i get in better shape but i have you know back i think he's got a back injury and he's got this and he's got a daughter that It's got some kind of illness, bad illness. And Joe put on the good video that you made. And, you know, Everlast, when he got done, Everlast, was like, hey, that's cool, that's inspirational.
Starting point is 01:10:02 But how does that help me with my sick daughter? Yeah. What's good about that, you know? And I wished I could have jumped through and talk to him. Because this much I will say, when you got a bad situation like that, I'm telling you right now it could be worse absolutely a hundred percent and the fact that he's talking about his daughter and how she's sick and how he has to spend so much time with her to take care of her well well that's what I'm saying yeah be thankful that you're in a position in life where you
Starting point is 01:10:33 can spend time with her be thankful that she's in a condition where she can spend time with you yeah and you know there's she's still here if nothing else that's good if nothing else and so what are you going to do i mean you're your your your your other option is to say my daughter's sick this is horrible I got cursed it's it's not fair and what does that do for you where does that get you it doesn't get you anywhere it matter of fact it takes you backwards yeah so you really truly do have to look at these horrible situations I remember I got a call back from from overseas that a guy was a seal was really badly wounded and
Starting point is 01:11:17 A couple of my friends were kind of distraught and I talked to one of the guys overseas And I you know and and man I at this point you know lost Mark lost Mikey I don't think Ryan had died yet but like I was familiar with guys dying Yeah, and I talked to one of the guys that was overseas and they said hey, you know this guy's really really messed up and I'm like is he he gonna live and they're like yeah he's stable and I go then don't worry about a thing be happy he's alive and it doesn't matter if he's missing a leg or two legs or whatever he's going to be coming home and he's going to carry on with his life and it's going to be hard and it's going to be hell and it's going to be a challenge but guess what he's going to be here you know and that you know
Starting point is 01:12:15 again it's like man what's the alternative the alternative is he's dead the alternative is we never talk to him again that's the alternative yeah versus he's gonna come back right and this guy the guy that got wounded he wasn't like a great friend of mine but I knew I was talking to people that were very close to him and so you know I I had to make sure I wasn't coming across like hey it's no big deal I you know look he's gonna be fine no it wasn't like that but look look what the alternative is you know let's be thankful that he's alive.
Starting point is 01:12:47 Yeah. And he's going to come home and we know, he's going to carry on with his life. Yeah. And that's what that's what's important. So it's really when you do look at these situations when things are going bad and then you say, okay, well, what good can come with that? And then the one step further is then what happens when someone does die? Then what good comes to that?
Starting point is 01:13:06 And my thought is always the same thing. I'm thankful that I got to know that person. I'm thankful that I got to understand. their personality. I'm thankful that I got to spend a day with them laughing and having that memory. That's what's good. What's good is I got to experience them in my life and they got to experience other peoples in their lives. And that's what's good about it. But just to say, hey, you know, my friend, my family member is dead. This is horrible and I can't escape from this. Wrong attitude. And of course, you're going to go through that. It's the, there's the, whatever
Starting point is 01:13:45 those things are that you go through, it's shock and then denial and then anger and then acceptance and all that. That's, I get it. And it's not going to be easy. But I'll tell you what will make it easier is to look at the situation and say what here is good. You know, and one of the worst things is parents that have young children that are terminally ill.
Starting point is 01:14:10 It's awful. It's awful. And the best you can think of is, Hey, hold them while you can. Yeah. Right. And get what you can and grow the memories that you can right now. Because just to focus on the fact that life isn't fair isn't going to help you.
Starting point is 01:14:27 And guess what? You're right. Life isn't fair. Yeah. Life isn't fair. It's a random, horrible thing. And if you want to focus on the randomness and the horribleness of it, that's where you're going to end up. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:14:42 But if you can focus on the good that comes out. of those situations try to and again I haven't been through that I haven't been through that thank God yeah not that level for sure but the best I can do the best I can assess is say man at least try and look at what positive is coming out of this and and focus on that instead of focusing on what is negative shoot it's going back to what Frankl said you choose what your attitude is going to be yeah don't become a victim of the randomness yeah and that's so And that goes on like all levels. You know how even if like something isn't horrible, it's just kind of junk, you know,
Starting point is 01:15:22 all the way down to just something that's, that's pretty horrible. There's still a lot of good going on in the situation. But and just like how you're saying like your attitude or another way to put it is what you're looking for to internalize, you know, a lot of times and it's natural. And I've been there where it's like everything just seems bad. Even the smell like if something real bad happens that you think is really really, bad and then the same day or the next area whatever something small bad happens it'll just add big time to the badness like nothing's going right kind of kind of attitude meanwhile all the good things are going on all around you but you
Starting point is 01:15:57 not looking for that all those things yeah so and a lot of times with like real bad situations especially especially with kids because that's like the the most weak you can ever feel really like your kid like when my daughter had she had a big staff infection or so her lymph node so her neck was big she's in the hospital for a week and we're there that's like the most weak in that that you'll feel in of course there's way worse situations yeah you know than that that's nothing compared to situations I know that but there are good things that a are still going on in your situation your life that's a
Starting point is 01:16:31 B there's good situations that can come of it and a lot of them a lot of them is just our strength related you know like if you let something beat you down and you don't get the strength like that's a loss you'll lose like you'll So you're saying you're getting some kind of conditioning from it? In a way, in a matter of speaking, yes. So like if you have a quote unquote good attitude, when you emerge from the situation, you will have strength now.
Starting point is 01:16:58 If you don't, you won't, you'll have weakness. You'll be, you know, gun shy. Everything happens bad. My life sucks. And, you know, you'll continue down kind of that road. So the good part,
Starting point is 01:17:09 like you said, like you said, if you keep that good attitude. And when you make it out, you will have this among the other good things that can't come from it you will have the strength yeah you're right
Starting point is 01:17:21 and I mean just look at Captain Plum and look at Colonel Reeder and for those guys to go through what they went through and maintain a positive attitude and then they come out and you talk to those guys and it's like I don't you can't think
Starting point is 01:17:33 of more positive people yeah in the world yeah you know I mean not in the whole world but you're just have so much positivity because they've been through something and they had to maintain that attitude so you're right When they come out, it's like, how are you going to make?
Starting point is 01:17:47 And I think that's what happens a lot of times with guys that have been to war is they come back and they're like happy to see the sunrise. I know I am. Right. I'm happy to see the sunrise. I'm happier than a lot of people to see the sunrise. I appreciate that thing. Yeah. And I think when people go through some kind of devastating disease in their family or themselves, same thing.
Starting point is 01:18:06 Once they get through it, they at least come out the other side and they can appreciate it. Yeah. And yet if they let it beat them down, it's going to, it's going to, it's going to. Everything is going to look down. If you're looking down, you're going to look down. If you're looking up, you're going to look up. Yeah. That's got to be a, it's hard.
Starting point is 01:18:23 I mean, it's so hard for people. It's so hard. Yeah, and again, I'm over here talking, you know. Yeah, for sure. Both of us are. You know, when I was on Joe Rogan, we started off talking about Chris Cornell. It just killed himself. We kind of cursory kind of talked about depression.
Starting point is 01:18:37 And neither one of, I mean, I definitely am not claiming, claiming to be any kind of expert at all about it. And I even said on there I was like look I've never felt this way and I had a couple people hit me up on social media like you know you should you should read this or you should do this or and and you know or you're not right and I'm like no I wasn't even trying to say anything that I'm right I'm just telling I was saying I don't actually even know. Yeah and and so yeah I'm not you know certainly an expert on how to overcome you know horrible situations but I've been in some pretty horrible situations and this is what my thoughts tried to be yeah and it's not. always easy at all yeah Jordan Peterson has some good good you know good content on that where he's basically in a nutshell he says get yourself together where in his example one of the many was you know a family member dies or whatever get yourself together so you know what are you going to do are you going to wallow with the rest of the people so no one can get a hold of anything in the funerals a mess or whatever or are you going to get yourself together grieve for sure but get yourself together so you can
Starting point is 01:19:43 And kind of lead and get the funeral together and take care of the business or whatever. And it's such a cold blooded thing to say, right? It's the complete, and that's what I think is hard about it. Is, you know, think about this. Oh, if someone in your family died and I was like, I go get yourself together. Right.
Starting point is 01:20:00 You know what I mean? Like I, who says that, right? But that's probably the best thing I could possibly say to you. Now I might need to say it in a more tactful way. I might just say, hey, echo man, I feel for you. Hey man, what we need to do is, grieve but we also need to focus on moving forward you know what I mean it's that kind of thing Yeah, but the reality is what am I really saying I'm really saying hey get yourself together
Starting point is 01:20:21 You got to move on we got to move on we got to move forward you got to move forward in your life and that's like such a hard thing to say to somebody Yeah, but that's probably the right attitude to take is okay like this is horrible and I need to keep it together Yeah Yeah, yeah man Especially when there's no majorly prevalent things that are at risk at that moment as well. Like, you know, like your situation, like in a combat situation, I think BTF Tony was talking about this one.
Starting point is 01:20:55 If like you're in a firefight or something like that and something gets hit, you don't just quit. No. Exit the firefighting. Oh my gosh. My guy's hit. It's like, okay, he's hit. Boom.
Starting point is 01:21:05 Let's continue the firefight. But let's say there was no firefight. Then the guy gets hit. It seems like a harder thing to. To just move on and start solving problems. So what you kind of need is you need to have a firefight going on. So that you can say, okay, I'm going to deal with this, but I need to also think about the rest of life.
Starting point is 01:21:27 Yeah. So hard. And, you know, again, it's, it's, I, you know what I'm feeling like right now? I got, I get some social media sometimes where someone will say, hey, I'm not a vet, but like a friend of mine is going through problems and I don't know how to talk to him because I'm not a vet. And that's kind of like what I feel like right now. Like I haven't been through those kind of suffering.
Starting point is 01:21:44 So I'm throwing darts, but I'm throwing them based on what I know. So it's the best I can, you know. Yeah. Best I could do right now. Yeah. Like you're at risk of someone saying, hey, you simply don't understand. And the fact is they are right. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:22:00 My statement to that would be, yes, I don't understand. You know, it's like in the, in when I was talking to veterans saying, look, people, you feel like people don't understand? They don't. And that's okay. And so definitely not sitting here saying, oh, you know, I know this is what you do in a situation like that No, I don't know. Yeah, I don't know what you do when your family member suffers something egregious like that like a terminal disease or death. I don't know Haven't been through it
Starting point is 01:22:29 What I have been through is losing guys in combat That I have been through this is this is darkness. It's a different kind of darkness But this is what I I did in those situations and that's what I Would think would help you in these other situations. Yeah hard. It's just the question right? What do you? What do you do? Hard and we are we are sitting here reading a book by a guy that was in a Concentration camp and he's saying this thing to do you know so that's that's another sort of reinforcement of this thought pattern. Yeah
Starting point is 01:23:15 All right. He talks a little bit about the passage of time here. In camp, a small unit of time. A day, for example, filled with hourly tortures and fatigue, appeared endless. A larger time unit, perhaps a week, seemed to pass very quickly. My comrades agreed when I said that in a camp, a day lasted longer than a week. How paradoxical was our time experience? And that's something this actually reminded me I was talking to Sarah Armstrong and she and well now
Starting point is 01:23:50 It's actually around the conversation when Leif was talking about he'd come out here and Seen all my kids my kids are all grown up now basically Except for my littlest one but you know my oldest daughters graduate in high school in a couple of weeks and she's gonna go to college And you know when Leif met her she was what was that 12 years ago? So she was you know Five no Six Something like that So you know
Starting point is 01:24:19 And when he came out here You know he just come left his Apartment in New York City where he's got his wife and kids and they're and you know It's chaos and little kids and they're crying and screaming and spilling stuff and throwing up milk and pissing everywhere And it's just you know it's that's what life is when you're a parent And you know he came out here and saw how my kids were now grown up and those that time is gone by the way Gone You can't get it back
Starting point is 01:24:44 and and he you know he talked about it on the podcast just hey man make sure you appreciate those and Sarah Armstrong you know said something along the lines of uh the days are long but the years are short yeah yeah that's a very true statement and you can you can see that here it's the same thing you know all of a sudden this time is just going by so quickly this is starting to talk again back to the attitude we could say that most men in a concentration camp believe that the the real opportunities of life had passed yet in reality there was an opportunity and a challenge one could make a victory of those experiences turning life into an inner triumph or one could ignore the challenges and simply vegetate as did a majority of the prisoners
Starting point is 01:25:38 same same thing same topic I know what's interesting and I told you this before we started this book you know is a great book but I I kind of wanted to talk about how bad concentration camps were and I went and found some other sources for that Because Victor Frankel doesn't highlight it that much. I mean his ad I mean he was in Auschwitz for crying out loud It doesn't get any worse and You know to really give the impact of how bad it was I went and found some other sources that were a little bit a little bit more Directly written and
Starting point is 01:26:18 And a little bit more horrifying to be lack of a better word. Because in his accounts, he doesn't go into some of those graphic details, which I feel like you should know and you should understand what. Before you talk about, hey, he's keeping a good attitude. But no, no, it's not he's keeping a good attitude because he was in a concentration camp, but it wasn't that bad. No, it was freaking hell. And that's what he's dealing with. And in his mind, you could make a triumph or a victory out of those experiences. which is incredible attitude to have yeah going back to the book the prisoner who had lost faith in the future his future was doomed
Starting point is 01:27:02 with his loss of belief in the future he also lost his spiritual hold he let himself decline and became subject to mental and physical decay usually this happened quite suddenly in the form of a crisis the symptoms of which were familiar to the experienced camp inmate we all feared this moment not for ourselves which would have been pointless but for our friends Usually it began with the prisoner refusing one morning to get dressed and wash or to go out on the parade grounds No entreaties no blows no threats had any effect He just lay there hardly moving if this crisis was brought about by an illness he refused to be taken to the sick bay or do anything to help himself He simply gave up There he remained
Starting point is 01:27:53 Lying in his own extradah And nothing bothered him anymore And that's similar to What Colonel Reader said how if you didn't actively stay alive You would die You couldn't just passively exist You weren't gonna make it if you wanted to die All you had to do is stop trying
Starting point is 01:28:15 Then you were gonna die back to the book As we said before Any attempt to restore man's inner strength in the camp had to first succeed in showing him some future goal in Nietzsche's words he who has a why to live for can bear with almost any how that could be the guiding motto for all psychotherapeutic and psycho-hygienic efforts regarding prisoners whenever there was an opportunity for it one has to give them a why an aim for their lives in order to strengthen them to bear the
Starting point is 01:28:59 terrible how of their existence woe to him who saw no more sense in his life no aim no purpose and therefore no point to carrying on he was soon lost got to know why you're doing what you're doing and that's all there is to it he who has a why to live for can bear with almost Anyhow and obviously that translates right into leadership perspective making sure people understand why they're doing what they're doing You just don't park orders at them but from an individual perspective Why are you doing this? Find that
Starting point is 01:29:40 And I actually I actually made a A post on social media the other day and it was something along the lines of Finding your inner why or something like that sure and I would I was you know mocking that attitude right and I was saying you know sometimes my inner voice is trying to find out why I'm doing what I'm doing and I'm like my when I'm doing something hard my inner voice doesn't allow to talk be quiet I'm over here working you know but there is obviously just like a leadership perspective and from a personal perspective why are you doing what you're doing and that should be the
Starting point is 01:30:20 driving force yeah and if you don't have have that it's hard to overcome these challenges you can't just overcome challenges just because you know they're there you need some greater reason yeah and when that gets lost you get lost I don't know why I thought those I think the when why you were mocking that this is my why and my inner voice it wasn't it wasn't now that I think about it wasn't really the why thing right it was more about the inner the inner voice But yeah, no, I definitely said why in there too.
Starting point is 01:30:55 Because I think people use, like, it's like a lot of good expressions or sayings or whatever. Or people just, oh, I like that. And they'll just start throwing it out and abusing it. And it dumps it down. And then now everyone's saying it. Now it just sort of sounds cheesy because no one's actually doing it. No one's actually understanding like the real what it really means. You know, like the person who's like, hey, I'm going to lose weight.
Starting point is 01:31:18 And, you know, they've basically spent their life neglecting their health or whatever. And then they're like, okay, I'm going to get in shape. And then they go on this, you know, program. They quit, you know, but when they're doing good on the program, let's say the first or second day, they'll be like, this is my why. And they'll show their, I don't know, their dog or something like that. My why or my kids or whatever, you know. But then the next day they quit the program. Like it's such a weak thing.
Starting point is 01:31:44 You're like, whoa, whoa, whoa, you can't just do that, you know, like that, the whole thing, my why or whatever. That's way too powerful for people to just. be like hey my why and then just not do it it shouldn't be just like a little thing yeah you can't just throw together a 38 second into Instagram posts that's about your why yeah that need to dig yeah you got to do that stuff so that's why it's funny because like just people just throw that out now now it means like nothing and it's it's almost like they see it seems like it seems like it's totally my interpretation of it but it seems like they're saying it and Thinking that they sound so profound and deep and new and inspirational, you know, but everyone's saying it and to to counter your point
Starting point is 01:32:28 I've had plenty of people that have talked to me about you know I was in bad shape. I wasn't taking care of myself I wasn't healthy and I had my first kid and I said to myself I need to I need to be there for my kid or or I was doing bad at work and I didn't really care and I wasn't focused on my career and I wasn't focused on being squared away and I was wasting all my money on dumpststead And I had my first kid. Yeah, and then I said, I got to you know, this this is me taking care of my kid and I need to do a damn good job and that's exactly the point right there is that it's a real thing and if that's for real, you're your why conceptually now. I'm just saying the expression. You know, like what people do. That's like it sounds cheesy. Well, there's a big difference between the contemplation that goes into I'm doing this for my kids. Cool. Yeah. I'm going to go on weight watchers. It's like, um, no like think about this. Think about your. relationship with your children and where you're gonna end up and now you want to see them live and what guidance you can give them as human beings and the example that you're setting for them and you line all those things up then maybe you can put down the donuts Yeah, you know, yeah, exactly right in other words. You got to do it. Yeah, actually, you know, so yeah, that's why it just sounds cheesy because everyone does it, you know, says it This is a great section going back to the book. We had to learn ourselves and furthermore we had to teach the despairing men that that's a great section going back to the book. We had to learn ourselves and furthermore. We had to teach the despairing men that it did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life and instead to think of ourselves as those
Starting point is 01:34:04 who were being questioned by life, daily and hourly. One answer must consist not in talk and meditation, but in right action and right conduct. Life ultimately means taking the response. to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual Again, you're turning you're flipping this idea around. It's not about what I want from life It's what what does life want for me and it's putting these challenges and these hurdles in front of me and I got to go and jump over them And then I got to smash them and then I got to set fire to him and then I had to use that fire to fuel the domination of everything that's in my path Is that kind of like, hey, these weights aren't going to lift themselves?
Starting point is 01:34:56 It's the exact same thing. It's the exact same thing. Yeah. And again, going back to this idea that war reveals human nature. And this is Dr. Frankel's way of putting this exact same thing that I say. Back to the book, Life in a Concentration Camp tore open the human soul and exposed its depths. It is, is it surprising that in those depths, we again found only human qualities which in their very nature were a mixture of good and evil. The rift dividing good from evil, which goes through all human beings, reaches into the lowest depths and becomes apparent even on the bottom of the abyss which is laid open by the concentration camp.
Starting point is 01:35:55 So we've got this idea once again that there's a dichotomy in people In people this dichotomy that you're capable of doing extreme good and you're capable of doing extreme evil and we've seen it a bunch We've seen it a bunch on this podcast Be you look at the mili massacre Those guys were normal guys that committed extreme evil straight up evil normal guys that were you know four days earlier probably would have done something heroic to save someone yeah and here they are at the other end of the spectrum and I think that you have to we have to face that not
Starting point is 01:36:53 only individually do you have that but then obviously as the group you have that as a group of human beings. We have that capability. We've seen it over and over again. And if you want to know what that good part is, you've got to know what that darkness is too. Yeah. Yeah, the group thing is interesting.
Starting point is 01:37:11 Like, you know how you always hear, not always, but you hear sometimes about these riots on college campuses, whether it be after a game or something like that. Bro, at a glance, you'd think, dang, is this college full of just hooligans? Like if this big, like huge riots, you know? But it's that it's like as an individual or you know under quote unquote normal circumstances they just they're just normal people
Starting point is 01:37:34 You know guys girls whatever. They're just normal people But then you put them in this particular situation in some way extreme or whatever you know it's a spectrum But and they just act different and the whole group dynamic too. Yeah The group dynamic is a is it can be a very very scary thing There's no doubt it can be a very very scary thing. There's no doubt it can be a very very scary thing and that's why you know even when he's talking about and I mentioned this on when I was on Joe Rogan's last podcast. I'm like this idea of individual freedom and acting as an individual is so important as to structure your life around to say look I'm not part of this group.
Starting point is 01:38:16 This group is not me. Yeah. This group is not me. They don't represent me. I represent me. Exactly. And I'm I have my own individual choices and that's what he's saying and here. The minute you give away to the herd yeah that's when you start going you don't know you you no longer control it yeah and when you give up that control that's a scary scary thing and that's when these evil things take place yeah and that in that once again that it's it's like it's easy to say now because grouping yourself is actually a survival mechanism true so you you know it's not going to be just that you're not going to naturally just be an individual and act like an individual and conduct yourself in all these extreme situations as an individual you're not just going to
Starting point is 01:39:00 naturally do that true so I guess it just helps to know these things well that's you're a hundred percent right on both facets number one yes grouping and fitting in is a survival instinct that people have and that's why trends happen and that's why nations happen and that's why that's why groups occur and people and And politics. Yeah, politics and everything, right? To get these groups and I mean, it's weird now because with the internet you can have groups you can be part of these groups Yeah, whatever group you want and whatever group you want and you can connect with all these different people
Starting point is 01:39:37 But it's also important to make sure that you you do remember that you are an individual that you can that you don't want to give up that last Shred of human will yeah to decide what your attitude is going to be. Yeah. And today, you know, in our luxurious society, if you can consciously navigate your way clear of that of falling into the group trap, it's what it is.
Starting point is 01:40:06 It's a trap. Because you don't have to, if you can do that successfully, but probably you won't fall for the tricks, man. Like that's the thing. You get, we all get tricked. All the way down to just something is seemingly benign as marketing.
Starting point is 01:40:20 Just, man, You'll just fall for way less tricks. You don't like those tricks out there in the world, do you? No, I don't. Probably fell for too many of them, I think. This is a, I'm gonna wrap this book. This book is not long, it's a very fast read. And actually, he goes into,
Starting point is 01:40:41 sort of goes into the more of the psychological, the psychiatrist, the actual academic of it than I covered. but this is a fast read I mean it's only 150 pages or so and you definitely get a raw look at at human nature but this closing I think is very very powerful going back to the book a human being is not one thing among others things determine each other but man is ultimately self-determining what he becomes within the limits of endowment and environment he has made out of himself in the concentration camps for example in this living laboratory and on this testing ground we watched and witnessed some of our comrades behave like swine while others behaved like saints
Starting point is 01:41:43 man has both potentialities within himself which one is actualized depends on decisions but not on conditions our generation is realistic for we have come to know man as he really is after all man is that being who invented the gas chambers of Auschwitz however He is also that being who entered those gas chambers upright with the Lord's prayer or the Shema Israel on his lips. Has both potentialities within himself and we've seen them over and over again. These grand banded potentialities in extreme display. And we've talked about these situations in the podcast over and over again and the the Burma Railway that was built by the prisoners of war and the prisoners of war were
Starting point is 01:43:15 tortured and killed by the Japanese and the genocide in Rwanda and the rape of Nanking and we've also seen the other potentiality and we've seen that over and over again that that that potential of goodness and of sacrifice those men that we've seen over and over again that lay down their lives for their brothers and in doing so protect our freedom and to note that again that whether the good or the evil is actualized in the minds of men that is not based on conditions but on decisions and this doesn't only apply to good and Of course, that's the most expansive thought that we can apply this to, but it also applies to everything we choose to do or choose not to do and everything we choose to become or not to become choice and we are responsible to be good instead of evil, to be strong instead of weak, to become what we want to become, not what we let ourselves become. own the course every decision that we make we actualize ourselves we become what we choose swine or saints so when you make decisions every decision think decision leads and decision will make you become self-determined self-determined choose what will make you a better
Starting point is 01:46:07 Person in situations where you feel you have no choice at all you still have one last freedom and that is to choose your own attitude in any given set of circumstances Hard to the disciplined choice the discipline to make the right choice Maintain yeah Isn't it crazy how I can't help but think of like where how they talk about the SS officers, the Nazis, the guys there who are just savages, obviously. But are they really savages as people, though?
Starting point is 01:47:36 Or is it a circumstantial thing? I mean, I know they're trained to kind of regard this, you know, the Jews or these groups of people as, you know, beneath them and all this stuff. But like, are they savages just as individuals? Because it takes a savage to do some of this stuff, you know? She's grabbing a baby and smashing his, as the book said, skull against the wall. That's like subhuman behavior, you know.
Starting point is 01:48:00 But when he goes home, you know, he has kids, you know, is he like, eh, I don't care if these kids, ultimately if their heads get, you know, I'm sure he's not like that. I'm sure he's just a normal person who'd just be just as weak as all of us if your kid stubs its toe and starts crying, you know. Yeah, well, we're going to explore. I got some books in the queue. to explore the other side of this and they're very revealing about some of that but again it's it's You're right that some of these guys You know
Starting point is 01:48:34 Were were We're normal right some of these Nazis were normal and they were doing their job and that's one of the worst You know there's a whole there's a whole argument on whether that even is allowable like if that if you're doing your job And I'll tell you what in the US military you that doesn't that doesn't work. That's an excuse that we don't have you can't say hey I got ordered to do this thing that was against the law or against ethical values doesn't matter. I still can't do it. That's not an excuse and that came directly from this attitude that Nazi said hey I was just fallen orders. You know hey it wasn't my fault. It was just fallen orders. No, actually you can't you can't say that. You're not allowed to say that. So as far as the normalacy, sure they might have been normal normal when they went home. but that doesn't remove their guilt at all. Yeah, fully. You can't take a baby and smash its head against the wall.
Starting point is 01:49:28 You don't get a pass on that one, whether you order to do it or not. There's certain moral standards that exist, and you can't violate them. And if you do, you're guilty. It doesn't matter what else you did. Back then, who was kind of the authority on that? Like, where the moral?
Starting point is 01:49:45 Was it like a global thing, you know? Or is it? Because obviously Hitler would be like, can, whatever. Well, there's different societies that had different viewpoints. Obviously, the Nazis. Yeah. Hence the war.
Starting point is 01:49:59 The Nazis and the Japanese both felt, okay, we can do what we need to do to dominate. Yeah. And whether that's the rape and Nand King or whether that's the concentration camps and the final solution, both those things were in their societies. Now, there was, of course, there was people inside those societies. I don't know. I haven't I don't know of any Japanese. I'm sure there were some Japanese that were against him. Even when we'd read the rape of Nanking, there was a Nazi in Nanking. Remembered that sheltered people. So there's an example. Here's a guy now he didn't know what was going on with the final solution back in Germany. At least it doesn't appear that way. But yeah, this is what makes morality and ethical decision making so challenging. But there is, in my opinion, you know, a certain standard moral code that human beings live by yeah and That is a
Starting point is 01:50:57 Universal relatively you know how this now? I should actually say it's universal right there's the way that I believe That there's morals and standards that human beings should live by yeah, and when you start stepping outside those bounds Yeah, you're going on the wrong side. Yeah, and like anything man, it's like obviously a spectrum and then what you're talking about that universal line that you can't It's like actually when you really look at the line, it's like a it's a universal gray area of yeah and then when you really look closer But I think that this the circumstances don't really fall within the confines of that gray area very often So it's easy to be like that's obviously right. That's obviously wrong But then every once in all these gray areas are emerging then it's like this big debate and it depends on who you are Yeah, I don't spend a lot of time in the gray areas to be honest with you like in my thought pattern. I don't spend a lot of time in the grayers right I'm I spend a lot of time in the gray areas
Starting point is 01:51:47 Right I'm I spend time because to me it is pretty obvious yeah like when you're ISIS and you're systematically raping yeah 12-year-old girls and boys you don't get to live that that doesn't work yeah that's not it's not not part of my deal over here you you you die and when you take people and you put them in cages and you burn them to death right you don't get to do that just like these Nazis that are putting people in you don't get to do that no yeah we go to war we fight and we win that's the way it works yeah now these gray areas
Starting point is 01:52:18 that you're talking about, I don't mess around in those gray areas. Yeah. I think there's too much, there's too, there's turbulence in there, right? And a lot of times you look at it from the outside and you don't, it's hard to tell what it is, what it actually is happening in there, right? I'll, and maybe that's not the best policy, but I won't escalate something personally until I see it, go outside the lines of what I deem to be. Okay.
Starting point is 01:52:42 Yeah. You know, once you get outside those lines, you're done. Well, thankfully, you're, you know, a little bit. smart in a way where you know whether you name these things or not there's always a particular standard that you go by you know so just like like the like the difference between killing someone and when someone says murder you know murder is a is clearly defined you know so if you murder someone like killing someone is this broad thing you killed them accidentally killed them you killed them yeah after planning yeah there's a million little things
Starting point is 01:53:14 revenge and all that you know that's killing someone but murder is defined You know, so. Well, somebody asked me when I did Tim Ferriss's second time and someone asked me something along the lines of, well, who defines these rules, which is basically what you just asked me. And I think it actually, there is an answer to who defines these rules in warfare. It's the law of armed conflict. It's like a Geneva Convention.
Starting point is 01:53:35 We follow those laws. They're very clearly defined what you can and can't do. Boom. That's it. Next question. Yeah. And I mean, unless you straight up disagree with the Geneva Convention, you know, because of your personal moral code.
Starting point is 01:53:47 But as long as you have, again, a standard that you're going by, that'll reduce the gray areas by a lot. Yes, it will. But they're going to be there. But it's easier to operate in black and white when you have standards. And it won't always be easy. But, you know, it's like, well, let me, this, this, when we start getting the gray area and you're sitting here saying that I'm all black and white and that's, and I'm actually saying that, like, hey, once you cross this line, but guess what? Those lines can get blurry too. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:54:13 Because I heard about, um, a guy that was on a documentary. who is he was he was he was a Western journalist of some kind and I got to watch this documentary I'm sure someone will tell us what it is but somebody else told me about it the Western journalist he's embedded with insurgents in Iraq and he's filming and they're going out and attacking coalition forces thing yeah right and I guess he was while he's doing it you know he's trying to get his story and do his job but then all of a sudden they're attacking coalition forces right now there's a gray area now Let's say if you want to take that example to the extreme, if we're in a firefight and I see a guy with a camera who's wearing a press badge following an insurgent.
Starting point is 01:54:58 Right. I mean, they ain't going to work out good for him because it's not like I'm going to say, okay, well, you know, he's clearly he's with insurgents. But what I'm saying is that's that's one example of many that you could get into where also another thing that happened in Iraq a lot was people change sides. And they went from supporting the terrorist to supporting the coalition and then back again and then back again. So how do you balance those? Yeah. And I'll tell you how I balanced them was how can we achieve our mission. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:55:30 And that sounds like one of those, hey, mission focus. But it's true. I look at, okay, this guy, you know, a year ago was being targeted by coalition forces for being a bad guy. Now he has changed course. So what am I supposed to do? Still prosecute him? Or is he going to help us achieve our mission of overall victory? Guess what I'm going to do?
Starting point is 01:55:51 I'm going to cut him some moral slack. Yeah. Because we're going to win. So those are hard things to... But that's exactly what I mean, though. See, the standard? The standard, in your case, became the overall mission. Yes.
Starting point is 01:56:06 So, you know, you have that saying... It's not like just some guy floating down the road through life being like, hey, I don't feel good about that right there. So I feel this way, so I'm going to do it. It's not that. It's like, there's a standard. standard very concrete attached to it still gray areas gonna emerge but like I said it just reduces that gray area Yeah and the the bottom line is this is why leadership is hard yes the whole idea of leadership
Starting point is 01:56:28 Whether it's in combat or whether it's in the business world or whether it's part of a team or whether it's part of a family or whether it's in a concentration camp or whether it's in a prisoner of war camp leadership is hard there's gray areas like when captain plum was saying hey he got told an order you know make communications with this guy at all costs at all costs that means I'm gonna get beaten and tortured and died by the guards to get this guy this piece of communication is he gonna follow that guess what no he had to make a judgment and say you know what though that doesn't make sense that doesn't make sense so this gray area that went outside the bounds the gray area and he said no I'll do my best I understand that it's critical but I'm gonna stay within me staying
Starting point is 01:57:13 alive right so that is what makes leadership hard is you have to constantly make these decisions where there's their gray area and you're doing your best you're assessing and that's that's again to me it was always I love that I love that about leadership I loved weighing those decisions out and I love discussing them with my guys up and down the chain of command and saying hey here's where we're at me take exactly where we're at you know I'll use Laif you know Laif here's what's going on this is the situation What do you think? Yeah well I think this okay. That's a good point but did you think about that? Oh, that's a good one. You know what I mean? We're gonna have those conversations and I had never had any problem
Starting point is 01:57:52 ? Opening my mind up to these various opinions that people had and I think as a leader that's a huge piece of Building trust up and down the chain of command is when you have an open mind to discuss things with people and that also Double gravitational pull echo Charles helps you build the relationship Yeah Helps you build the relationship and helps you say, oh, you know what? Like the minute I'm in there, I'm talking like, hey, echo, we got a gray area here. You know, we got a customer that is threatening to put us on Yelp, but we didn't do anything wrong. How do you think we should handle it?
Starting point is 01:58:27 Okay. Well, you think we should just tell them, go ahead, put it on Yelp. We don't care, and we'll go to Yelp and we'll talk to them. That might be the good answer. But also it might be good to say, bro, wait, why are you so mad? Right. Customer. Let's talk to hey, we want to refund you. We want to take care of you because our customers are important to us
Starting point is 01:58:45 Maybe you'll give us a positive thing on you. You know what I'm saying? There's all this gray area. Yeah, and if you have an open mind to discuss things with your team Team up and down the chain of command you know what you'll do is you'll you'll get in that gray area. You'll start to get clarity You'll start to get clarity. You'll start to see better and you can move through the gray area without being without being so decisive that in a gray area you don't know if it's black or white, right? Right.
Starting point is 01:59:14 So if you decide as the leader, I'm going black. Yeah. Going black. Then when the gray area clears up, it was white that you should have gone with. Yeah. You don't need to do that.
Starting point is 01:59:24 In many cases, you can say, okay, I'm going to lean a little bit towards the black because that's what I'm feeling. And then all of a sudden you start moving there and you start seeing that,
Starting point is 01:59:30 no, this is going to be a white decision. Yeah. Okay, I can recover from that. I can move backwards. and repair what decision was made. And the best way to do that is say, hey, guys, here's the situation. I thought that black was going to be the right decision.
Starting point is 01:59:44 I started leaning in that direction. I was wrong. Now I see that white is the right answer, and we're going with white. Does anyone have any questions about that? Does everyone understand why I did that? Oh, you don't understand why. Let me explain it to you.
Starting point is 01:59:58 Here's what I thought. Here's what I saw. Next time, do you want me to contact you so you can, that's what I'm talking about. And by the way, when I'm doing that, I'm building relationships with my team, which is what I want to do I just was talking to a leader the other day and I told him and reiterated something. I've said over and over again, the people that did things for me and the teams that were in the Army, the Marine Corps, in the SEAL teams, in my platoon, up and down the chain of command, doesn't matter.
Starting point is 02:00:22 99.9% of it wasn't because I had some kind of rank or privilege over them. It was always because I had a good relationship with people. And when you build that good relationship with people, that's what I'm a lot of. it's all about. Then they do things for you. And you know what? You do things for them too. It's not a one way street that I'm talking about because you won't build any relationships if you're building one way street, right? No one's going to be your friend after you just take advantage of them over and over again. Like those people that call you only when they need something from you. Right. Now I actually don't have a problem with that because I don't communicate with a lot
Starting point is 02:00:55 of people. Yeah. I communicate on social media with a bunch of different people. They'll get you there But as far as if something like when one of my buddies calls me up and says, hey, I need this favor. I'm like, cool. On it. I haven't talked to him for nine months. He's only calling me because he needs something for me. Doesn't matter. People do that with me all the time.
Starting point is 02:01:14 And it's cool. Now this isn't a big group of people. There's like six people in the world. And those same six people, they don't call to wish me happy birthday. Don't call to tell me, you know, uh, uh, Merry Christmas. They call me up and say, hey, I need this from you. Can you do it? And I'm like, got it.
Starting point is 02:01:32 No factor. Do you even have a birthday? Negative. I have a manufacturing date. So funny. I'm just trying to imagine someone calling you to wish you having a birthday. I mean, maybe like your wife or not. It was awkward when I got in the civilian sector and people would be like, when's your birthday?
Starting point is 02:01:49 And I'd be like, why, what do you care? What are you talking about? Why are you trying to get my personal information? I'm going to attack you. Yeah. Hey, what sign are you? No. Yeah, you know.
Starting point is 02:02:01 That's a thing. The, what was the other funny thing about? Oh, that's like getting presents. I'm not good with presents. Yeah, man. Like, don't get me any presents. Right. Because I don't want what you got me.
Starting point is 02:02:12 Yeah. If I want something, I already have it. Yeah. Yeah. So what you got me isn't going to be appreciated. There's one gift that my wife got me one time. And I haven't, I've been thinking about why I haven't talked about this particular whole situation.
Starting point is 02:02:26 And that's, there's a band called the White Stripes. Sure. White Stripes. And the White Stripes, Jack White White, Meg White. The white stripes are awesome. They're an awesome band. And there's so many layers with the white stripes. First of all, there's, I'll tell you two layers that I love about the white stripes.
Starting point is 02:02:44 Number one, all their clothing, guitars, drums, keyboards, everything that they have on stage and everything that they have on their record albums, everything that they have is either red, black, or white. On all their records since day one. That's number one. Number two. They only have three sounds in any other songs at any one time. So those three sounds could be drums, vocals, guitar. They could be drums, keyboards, vocals.
Starting point is 02:03:18 They could be keyboards, guitar, vocals, but they only have three sounds at any one time. So vocals is one of the sounds. Oh, thanks, only two instruments. And there's only two people in the band. Anyways, the White Stripes is an awesome band. And my wife bought me tickets to go see the white stripes. Now, I didn't even think about it.
Starting point is 02:03:37 I never pay attention to when bands are playing or whatever. So my, I was, I was, I don't use this term very often, but I was overjoyed that she got me tickets to the white stripes. I was so stoked. And then Meg White had some issues and they canceled the whole tour
Starting point is 02:03:55 and they never played again. And they were like a couple weeks away from being in San Diego where I was going to go see the white stripes. So the question is, Ultimately, ultimately, grand scheme of things, was that a good gift to give Jocko? That was an awesome gift to give me?
Starting point is 02:04:08 So was it the thought that counts in this case? Yes, it was a beautiful gift that she got me. And I was, and I couldn't believe she thought of it. Yeah. Because normally it's like, oh, you got me a sweater from some store that I hate. No, I'm really hard to shop for. Right. I'm really, if I want something, I have it.
Starting point is 02:04:26 And I don't want that much. So it's like, oh, I want something I have it. Like, once every. 18 months I want something and then I get it. Yeah, I'll get you like a new t-shirt or something you wear that one. No, this t-shirt's fine. Don't get me a new one This one works good. Mm-hmm. So yeah, that's um yeah, it seems like a good gift. We just went off on a tangent. I feel I feel like you went off on a tangent, you know? You know why? Because I was listening to the white stripes the other day and I was thinking I never give the white stripes the props that they deserve. Yeah, I meant and Jack White the props that he deserves right as a singer-songwriter. Aren't they brother and sister? They're not. Allegedly.
Starting point is 02:05:05 Alleged. They were actually husband-wife, they got divorced, but they always claimed to be brother-sister. Dang. It's my little sister Meg White. More layers. Oh, no, this is my big sister. That's right. That's what he always said.
Starting point is 02:05:14 Dang. That's good, man. Cool. Well, the original point was these crazy savage type people, maybe normal people other than their crazy crazy job. Yeah. And what's... But I'm not saying so it's cool. I'm not saying that at all.
Starting point is 02:05:31 I'm not saying this is you're, you're accountable for your actions. Yeah. Regardless of how cool you are. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I agree. And that's something from any leadership position you need to be aware of. And when I say any leadership position, I mean you as a frontline trooper. Because if you as a frontline trooper is getting told to do something that you know is morally, ethically or legally wrong and you still do it, it's on you.
Starting point is 02:05:51 Sure, you can point the finger and blame the higher ups and the higher ups should be burned to if they told you to do something that was wrong. But you need to be accountable for what you did. And that's all there is to it. Yeah. Okay, it's a rough tour. No one wants to play that game. The Nazis wanted to play that game. Oh, it's not mine.
Starting point is 02:06:06 Hey, I was ordered to do this. Can't do that. Can't say that. Don't get that excuse. You don't get the, I was a good person and I took care of my kids, even though I was shoving people into a gas chamber. You don't get to play that game. No.
Starting point is 02:06:19 Yeah, man, it's too much. Brother, there was a small little documentary on blind. I don't know. I didn't watch the whole thing, but it was about the executioner in the Middle East somewhere, you know, one of these countries where, you know, he, he, He has his sword. Yeah. And it's his job, you know.
Starting point is 02:06:33 Yeah. And he's a straight up executioner. Yeah. That's it. That's just his job. Modern-A job, by the way. And he's like, yeah. Yeah, it wasn't old school.
Starting point is 02:06:40 No, it's like on YouTube. Yeah. Like last week. Yeah. And there, but it's like, it's funny because the whole feel of the documentary was just real like, oh, yeah, this guy has a cool job. And he's like slicing people's heads off with great precision. And he's so good at his job.
Starting point is 02:06:54 You know, here's his family and they're loving, you know, and they're, you know, he's playing with his kids. It's like all this stuff. It's just weird, man. Anyway. Yeah, there's another culture. Yeah, it's weird. A lot of gray areas in that one, too.
Starting point is 02:07:12 My man. Indeed. Kind of. Anyway. Or not. I feel like we should go into the support. Yeah. We should go into the support.
Starting point is 02:07:24 Support is one of those good things. Very dynamic. Supporting others. Supporting yourself. supporting others and yourself, which is a separate category of support, in my opinion. So there's yourself,
Starting point is 02:07:37 others, and yourself and others. That's another category. I want to talk about on it. We're talking about all three categories. Support yourself. By the way of supplementation. And we talk about supplementation all the time, but...
Starting point is 02:07:51 No, you talk about supplementation. Well, you're the one who turned it. Turn me onto it. So actually, some of it. I took Schumtek before you talked about... Pre-podcast? Pre-podcast, I was on Schum-Tech. I was on AlphaBrain, Shum-Tech.
Starting point is 02:08:09 I got my shipment of Alpha-Brain pills. Back in, I had run out. Then I only had the instant. And so now, like I said, what's nice about the pills is you got something coming to do the podcast? Guess what? Alfa-brain pills. And I might double up on the alpha-brain if I think I got to really get my game. Get engaged.
Starting point is 02:08:30 But it's good to have the capsules. as well. I dig it. But what's cool about the drink is it tastes good. And I, if you get the sweet tooth itch going and you want something sweet and you get the peach, the natural peach, not the spicy. The spicy has a different situation going on. The peach is just straight up like tasty. Like peach.
Starting point is 02:08:51 Yeah, peach juice. Peach juice kind of situation. Yeah, kind of like that. Agree. I dig it. The pills. I dig it. And that's actually what we had was the pills.
Starting point is 02:09:01 I said we Because me and my brother We were oh yeah Alpha brain But when they came out with the instant That was better And it starts to become like This little kind of ritual
Starting point is 02:09:10 You know you mix up your alpha brain You know kind of thing And it's instant I don't know It just seems like Either way it doesn't matter If I haven't mentioned it already I think I did
Starting point is 02:09:20 These are supplements from Onet Onit.com We talk about the supplements But there's like work outside I just bought a jump rope Did you? Yeah see so When I was young, I was good at jump rope.
Starting point is 02:09:33 I was pretty good at jump rope, too. Yeah. And then as I, you know, as I think kind of when, I don't know, maybe early 20s kind of stopped. So that's a long time ago. Jump rope is awesome. Yeah. So, and you know how like riding a bike, you kind of stay good at something a little bit, you're rusty. You're rusty.
Starting point is 02:09:52 Yeah. You're definitely going to be rusty. You can't shred. And you can't go as long, you know, like that kind of stuff. It's weird because it, you know how jump rope you go. Yeah, you know what's weird is back in the day of boxing? Yeah, boxing, jumping rope for three minutes was like no factor. Yeah, go to, five, ten minute warm up.
Starting point is 02:10:06 Yeah, go get your jump rope right out and just get out, get out, get out three minutes on the rounds. You feel it. Yeah. So, yeah, I bought one of those. And so the interesting thing about that is jump rope technology has changed a little bit. So what is it made of steel? No, well, there's, I'm sure there's steel in there. So, but it's like each handle has a swivel, the little, I mean, it's simple, but there's like way more to it than before last time.
Starting point is 02:10:30 like two wooden handles and a rope yeah yeah for sure actual rope this one is like a cord that survives all this stuff I don't know anyway got a jump rope the jump rope's on there if you want we'll have a jump off yeah I was pretty good too I remember one like when you jump rope and then when the you know how like this was like elementary school and if you'd get tired or you couldn't keep a rhythm they'd say hey just just wave it from back and forth you know what that's There's a name for that move. Yeah. What's it called when you, Tataro?
Starting point is 02:11:05 Tatero, when you, boom, like a, like a, matador. Isn't it called Matador? Wait, when you just go side to side. Because you can't get it or whatever. Yeah. You just get that rhythm going. Oh, yeah, I don't know the name. I never had to do that because I was expert level, even in elementary school.
Starting point is 02:11:20 But that's going to be you if, in fact, you want to step up. So you can get that on it, not just something. If you want, if you want, kettlebell's on there too, the good kind. Well, kettle pills are good straight out. They're all good. And but on it has those artistic ones. Yeah. Those add another layer.
Starting point is 02:11:39 But they have the regular one. I think they're called the competition ones. I don't know. Don't quote me on that one. Yeah. Oh yeah. So yeah, you get the legend bells, which is like what? The cyclops, the werewolf.
Starting point is 02:11:50 Better look at them. They're dope. And then you have primal bells, which is like all the primates and stuff. Yeah, I think I got the. chimp two chimps and two werewolves yeah see i have i have zombie bells mine are just evil zombies how big is the the one you know i forget i got a look yeah that's like it's like designer you can you probably keep it inside too yeah no that's that's you really do no the one that i keep inside is not the the ones in my garage are for the long heavy work this one is for oh i'm tired of writing right
Starting point is 02:12:24 now I'm gonna bang out some snatches right boom boom god feel a lot better now right more we're right harder yeah there you go but yeah this anyway the point there is there's very cool things on the website on it dot com and the supplements it's not to mention this the fact is the supplements are straight up the best ones straight up because from the beginning and how's this and I don't know if we already mentioned this but I hear it all. Joe Rogan talks about it all the time. Name drop.
Starting point is 02:12:58 Yep. I listen to Joe Rogan all the time and he says these things and I believe them. If you get like, I don't know, Shroom Tech and you're like, hey, I didn't feel it. I got tapped out. So, you know, I expect more out of Shroom Tech.
Starting point is 02:13:12 I expect this to make me tap out everybody. I don't like it. Send it back? You don't even send it back. You send them an email. Saying, hey, I don't like this stuff. They'll just send your money back. You don't have to send it back.
Starting point is 02:13:22 That's pretty awesome then. Yep. But don't be trying to be like, hey, I'm going to give me my money back. And the next month after you're done with it, order some more and then do it again. Don't do that kind of stuff. Yeah, yeah, you're going to get ostracized. Nonetheless, krill oil, that's the one you don't want to not have krill oil. Even if you're like a young guy, in my opinion, I should have always been on krill oil.
Starting point is 02:13:44 You should have. Yeah. And if you're not in krill oil, I think you are like a step behind joint wise. Mm-hmm. It's a you know which puts you up behind in a lot of different ways a lot of different ways. Yeah, you know not working out as hard Now is working on this hard a struggling through various activities in everyday life Yeah, I told this story whatever, but I do it all the time you know when you fill up water in the big five gallon jugs Yeah, you know and Brad do that at night when it's kind of cold. It's like right you can carry those things from the thing to your car
Starting point is 02:14:11 You don't want to be worried about my knees or whatever You're back the trials you shouldn't you got to put it in there life Yeah, you think I'm worried? Maybe you should write your own book, dude. What? About like the kind of crazy trials you've been through, carrying water on a cool night in Southern California. I know, man. Very fresh and pure water, by the way.
Starting point is 02:14:34 It doesn't make it any lighter, though, that you still have to struggle. But here's the thing, though. They're called micro struggles is really what they are. You know, standing in line. Actually, the standing in line thing, that's not a struggle. That's manufactured struggle. So it's like an exercise in discipline and embracing struggle. That's what it is.
Starting point is 02:14:52 It's not an actual struggle bestowed upon your heaped on your shoulders, you know, that you have to bear in everyday life. That's not what's the standing in line with heavy case is. That's why you need your own book about echoes struggles. Right. You can document these various. Me looking for a specific wine in the vast wine section as a request. Was there a tomato one too?
Starting point is 02:15:13 Like some kind of tomato sauce? No, I went. Yes. Yeah. It's a tomato sauce struggle. Wine struggle, the holding the groceries, now we got to fill in the water bottles. There's four chapters, bro. Micro struggles.
Starting point is 02:15:23 And filling up the water is not a struggle because I'm on the krill oil. Oh. Omega three is right into my joints, straight into my joints. Uptake. High percentage uptake. Anyway, get on the krill oil. I'm on the strong bone now, too. By the way, for, that's for tendons, the tendon attaching to the bone.
Starting point is 02:15:45 Strontium doesn't. Good about it. I feel good about it. actually more preventative because like because I lift too. Yeah. Nonetheless, um, strontium that's in strong bone that get doesn't, that doesn't hit that like the limelight isn't on that all the time. It's all on calcium most of the time.
Starting point is 02:16:02 Like calcium makes your bone strong. Strontium just as much. So get on the strong bone. Uh, bone strength. Also, alpha brain obviously stream tech for high, high performing. Go on the website. Whatever you need. They got it.
Starting point is 02:16:17 They even got like a try blend peanut butter, nut butter. It's not peanut butter. It's like almond, cashew, and walnut. Don't know. Anyway, it's delicious. Get on that one. Anyway, on it.com slash jocco if you want 10% off. Pay full price.
Starting point is 02:16:36 That's all. That's up to you, really. You know what I'm saying? I wouldn't recommend it. I don't even know of anyone who would recommend that. Also, good way to say. support. If you're interested in the book, Man Search for Meaning Victor Franco, what I have done is I put on the website a page with all of the books, all of them, that Jock was covered. Every once in
Starting point is 02:17:12 a while Jock will cover an article, the links, maybe I'll do that. But nonetheless, the books are all on there, all in order, too, by the way. So the most recent is going to be at the top. This one will be on there it is on there if you want to support click on there if you're going to get the book click through there directs you straight to amazon what if you're doing other shopping hey man go ahead do the same thing click on it we have a banner on the front page too and then you can click on there yeah and then you can do shopping yeah if you want that sounds like a good plan even if you're buying duct tape also do you have a link to your favorite duct tape on there no dang no Sometimes I say things that are just so inherently brilliant.
Starting point is 02:17:53 It makes me wonder. So we will have a duct tape. Link for sure. Yeah, just in case. Everyone needs duct tape. And they especially need it when they get done listening to the podcast. They're thinking about the things that they're going to be duct taping together. Yeah.
Starting point is 02:18:09 So. Yeah, that's true. You know why I mentioned duct tape in the beginning? And I didn't really realize this because I didn't think about it until a handful of people asked me. You know why? Why? Because I used to watch McGiver all the time Actually I still watch McGiver
Starting point is 02:18:22 That's his thing man No no no it's on a channel called Clue C-L-O-O random Random channel It's like a retro channel kind of Apparently Mugiver man Well there's a new McGiver by the way
Starting point is 02:18:37 A new one which is it lame I don't think it's as good as the old one But it could be just my butt You know how you get attached to your old shows It could be that But McGiver was dope back in the day So you know whichever And that was his thing, duct tape.
Starting point is 02:18:50 People like to say, oh, paper clip, right? McGarver with a paper, he never really had a paper clip. Really? He had duct tape. That was his thing. I don't know because I wasn't watching TV. All right. That's on you and I dig it.
Starting point is 02:19:02 But I was busy getting after. He had the Swiss Army Knife and the duct tape. That was his thing. Everything else he just found it in his environment, his environment, which changed from episode to episode. Nonetheless, subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, Stitcher, Google Play, all these platforms that provide a podcast we're on all of them boom subscribe which are one you use even if you use two I guess right I mean if you use two I mean does do people use two
Starting point is 02:19:27 platforms why did I do that the other day there's some reason I had to go to a different platform so I have a backup platform boom subscribe to both yeah right is that kind of like YouTube and Vimeo you know some guys will have a Vimeo account as well I don't know why that got escalated it's a good YouTube Brad, you know, I'll tell you what, I don't know why, but this could be the reason why, because YouTube, okay, so Vimeo is kind of for, like, professionals. People who fancy themselves as, like, film makers. Like, here's my piece that I've made in. Artists.
Starting point is 02:20:01 It tends to be that. Right. YouTube is just like, guys, YouTube is kind of that too, but overall, yeah, exactly right. Just throw my video. It's YouTube. Like, you know, the tube TV, it's you. Whatever you are. Vimeo is, I don't know, the name, I guess I could think about it, but nonetheless, that's what it should.
Starting point is 02:20:17 It shook itself out to be, you know? So it's funny when people are like, I'm not on YouTube, I'm on Vimea. I'm an artist. Yeah. But do you have to do anything to be on Vimeo or are you just still submitted video? No, same exact thing. It's exactly like YouTube except for the fact, which now that I'm thinking about it makes
Starting point is 02:20:35 sense where if you upload a video and you're like, oh man, in one of these titles midway through the video, I spelt it wrong, which happens to me sometimes, you can go back into your account and replace the video, even if it's been a little. up for a week you can just replace it or youtube vimeo YouTube you cannot yes a new video yeah it's like you got to upload again and here's a thing you can't upload the same file got to rename it because YouTube will no you got to read it'll it has all these little this little information in the file they'll be like hey that's a duplicate file you can't do that you know probably had something to do with advertising I don't know nonetheless subscribe to jocco podcast on
Starting point is 02:21:12 YouTube if you like that channel we're trying to provide what you call providing value. You know, that's... Don't say that. It doesn't even sound cool. That's another... It sounded cool when I first heard it, but it's another extreme part in that... That's another one of those things where it sounded cool and then everyone thought like me, or
Starting point is 02:21:33 I think like everyone else, whatever, and so everyone started using it now it's like people are abusing it. I'm over here just trying to provide value. And it just, you know, it starts to sound like... That's a good voice you just threw out there. You normally don't do voices other than escalation. Thanks Jocko anyway Subscribe to YouTube
Starting point is 02:21:52 We're trying to provide some value there with the excerpts and various other Clips aside from the video version of this podcast your Memorial Day one was really good man I liked it. That was a powerful powerful letter Yeah a bunch of other stuff like Jocko has the store It's called Jocko store if you didn't already know jocco store.com what do we have on Jocco store?com. What do we have on Jocco store? Or we have T-shirts. If you wear T-shirts.
Starting point is 02:22:27 I just realized that Jocko also has a podcast. Sure. Called Jocco podcast. Jocco has white tea. It's called Joccoe white tea. Yeah. I think I see a trend here. Yeah.
Starting point is 02:22:34 Yeah, the trend is real, for sure. Nonetheless, the shirt. Lack of originality and name. Well, no. Yeah, so in a way, because here, there are layers in that too, and there is sophistication to that, even though it seems simple.
Starting point is 02:22:49 Oh. Because. There I was being sophisticated. You are being sophisticated. Without even knowing it. There's more to Jocco than just, oh, yeah, that just happens to be my name. There's more to that goes beyond this podcast, beyond the TV, beyond whatever, right? Okay, so let's just start with that fact, which is complex in and of itself.
Starting point is 02:23:06 Then you're like, okay, look, this is what roughly considered a company, technically? Maybe, I guess if you had to. If you had to. A guy asked me today, what do I do? Like, for a living? And I was like, I was like, well, just like stuff. Yeah. And he goes, well, what would you, how would you, what do you say? He said, well, how would you describe what you do? And I said, stay busy. That's what I do. Yeah, yeah. Okay, fair enough. Yeah, there you go. But technically, as far as, dang, I haven't heard that one in a while. Coopodcast.com. That's an entity. We'll call it an entity. I don't know. Company, business? It's a place where we have the web stuff. Nonetheless. Oh, you know what? I'm gonna go ahead out on a limb and call it a brand.
Starting point is 02:24:01 It's brandish. Whatever. Nonetheless, if you call, okay, well, Jocko store, that's the name of the store. Yeah, well, that's true. And to be honest with you, the reason that I called the podcast Jocko podcast, when I was on Tim Ferriss's podcast, I said, I said, jaco hungry. And I don't even know, I don't know if I just said, I don't know if it's on the podcast or not. But I think he says, I'm like, oh, you know, we got to go get some food. And I was like, Jocko hungry.
Starting point is 02:24:25 And then I was like, well, we're going to do a podcast, right, Jocko podcast. That was the initial thought. There's the layer. Makes sense. Yeah. And that's it. But even with naming stores. The other thing is I wanted to be able to do whatever I wanted to do and not care.
Starting point is 02:24:42 Yeah. And that makes sense. I knew we were going to talk about jihitsu and fighting and music and hardcore and war and death. And I just wanted to not have any limitations. And the only way I could do that, because if you give the podcast a name like, you know, the ultimate business podcast you know it's like okay well then next thing you know we're talking about war and or if you call it the war podcast but you're talking about business or if you talk about
Starting point is 02:25:09 the leadership podcast but you're talking about jihitsu so how do you get all those things into one thing called the jocco podcast and that can do whatever I want yeah there you go and if people are looking for you they see you talk about XYZ they're like oh you know I sure I can look on XYZ easy connection yeah and it's simple which is like you know Simplicity goes a long way. Yeah, you know, and that's kind of like a thing. So why are we talking about this? I'm just saying that's why it's called Jocko store. Oh, yeah, that's right. So because it is a store. You know people want to do other things in their life besides listen to our advertisements? Well, you're the one chiming in. I'm over here telling us talk about Jockel's door. Actually, I noticed that the other day when we had Roger Hayden on and I gave you the silent treatment and when you looked at me for affirmation while you were giving the advertisements. I didn't even nod. I just looked at you and you got you actually got uncomfortable. Yeah. You actually. You actually. She actually got uncomfortable. You were like, the look on your face, like, when you'd look at me like I was going to give you a smile,
Starting point is 02:26:02 and I'd just look at you like, hurry up. And then you got uncomfortable, and I said, oh, he's starting to feel it. Yeah, that gave you no mercy. Yeah, that's like subtle pressure. No, man, it's all good, you know? So do that again right now, you know, so I can talk about the store, jocco store, jocco store.com,
Starting point is 02:26:20 if you like t-shirts. Now, I'm not saying if you like t-shirts in general. I'm just saying, if you want to represent, Discipline equals freedom. What? Get after it. Know the darkness. Know the darkness.
Starting point is 02:26:34 That's a good one. Anyway, go on the story. JoccoSter.com. You can see shirts if you like them. Go ahead, get one. Support that way. That's a good one. Got some rash guards on there.
Starting point is 02:26:44 One new rash guard out already. It says get after it on it. Discipline on one sleeve. Freedom on the other sleeve. Jock approved. Really good. I think it's good. I feel that the people who have
Starting point is 02:26:58 Witnessed it Is that pompous to say witnessed it like some kind of a little bit? Yeah, yeah Maybe even a lot Anyone that's witnessed my rash guard That I made echo Charles That I bestowed upon them by way of visual How about people that how about people that saw it thought it was a little pretty cool? They thought it was a little bit more realistic Yeah, they thought it was cool and
Starting point is 02:27:20 So there it is you go in the story, look at it if you think it's cool if you want to get one to witness a glory of echo charles's rash cards you may go to jocco store.com and revel in the glory exactly right and whatever else you want there's some good stuff on there we added this little thing too if we're out and I'm trying to like I'm trying to restock you know restock boom but I added this little thing where if like let's say the size medium or whatever is out you it just says oh a little button notify me but but your email boom notifies you when it's back in stop and again I'm trying to put them back in stock a sap boom boom boom right now but you know give me a day or two or whatever we'll notify you boom also
Starting point is 02:28:07 psychological warfare if you didn't know what that is it's an album with tracks not music tracks word tracks sent like spoken word you know so basically what it's for is you know it's not like poetry well arguably not poetry but it's jocko on there talking talking to us to me jaco's talking to me i actually quite literally was talking to you yeah when that was made exactly right so you know you can have them talk to you well so basically what is for is he's not just talking like everyday stuff so when you have hard time waking up in the morning or you have a hard time because you're tired and you want to skip the workout or you have hard time because you know it's lunchtime
Starting point is 02:28:52 And I'm all hungry and all they have his donuts here or whatever. What else is? What if you're procrastinating? Also if you're procrastinating or what do you call it? What if you're Procrastating ending the podcast? Maybe you could listen to that one right now. We can carry on. I'm trying to explain this thoroughly so that so we can all have a really good understanding of what it is and its value. That's that's it's downloadable me talking about moments of weakness so you can get through them. Yeah. Next. Next. ever next comment yeah I guess let me add this one more thing actually you can even take it at moments of triumph and strength oh and it'll still work you'll just want to do it more you know yeah it's like drinking coffee when you're not tired you know I mean yeah double down let that sink in
Starting point is 02:29:45 psychological warfare on iTunes Amazon music all these music Google play Google play I think I think it's on everything cool but yeah man do it right on all right also you can get jocco white tea on amazon and when you order jocco white tea make sure you also order more weights for your barbells because your deadlift is going to go up to approximately 8,000 pounds so you need to get that much weights when you order it weigh the warrior kid book it's been out for a couple weeks now and thank you for getting it also a little warning that someone put on Amazon in their review I thought it was worth hearing and thinking about parents be ready I bought this book after listening to Jocko on the Joe Rogan podcast where Jocko was the guest great podcast bought the book
Starting point is 02:30:39 after learning Jocko has a book for kids my son who isn't very motivated yet was excited about the book when he started reading the book a fire lit underneath him He said to me dad I'm gonna get up tomorrow at 5 a.m. Will you get up with me? In that moment I realized that I was What I was going what was going on and I couldn't let him down I enjoy my sleep like everyone else But I was amazed that my son got excited so I replied yes, let's do it got up at 5 a.m.
Starting point is 02:31:08 And his alarm clock must not have gone off, but I turned on his light in his bedroom and he got right up He got his clothes and shoes on and we went for a jog. We've never done this before I had him do some sit-ups and push-ups and push-ups and And he gladly did couldn't quite do push-ups if that's okay we'll get there Long story short this book only being a few chapters in the only few chapters in the only a few chapters in I was kind of surprised me I saw that only few chapters in Made the book worth getting in this day and age of electronics and iPads and tablets kids don't seem to be as motivated to do activities as when I was a kid I'm 39 So I edified him after for making the decision to get up at 5 a.m. on a non-school day and I told him that he can apply that mentality to anything in life.
Starting point is 02:31:52 Boom, weigh the warrior kid. Get it for your kid. Be prepared to get yourself back in the game. Also, discipline equals freedom, field manual. The instructional manual for getting after it. Feel free to pre-order that one. Also, extreme ownership, combat leadership, combat leadership, and also combat leadership.
Starting point is 02:32:15 That's what the book is about, how to apply the fundamental principles of combat leadership to your business and to your life also for a more hands-on experience you can call echelon front our leadership and management consulting company myself layf babin jpdinell dave burke you can contact us at in info at echelonfront dot com also the muster austin texas july 13th and 14th at the omnibarton Creek resort no fluff there's no fluff just pragmatic information you can act on immediately you can literally in a break email your team and give instructions that's
Starting point is 02:33:04 gonna move them in the right direction in the Austin muster there's only 300 seats smaller venue it's gonna sell out so Get online get registered if you can't make to that one come to San Diego in September September 14th and 15th for muster zero four will be there live and while you're waiting for the muster if you need to communicate with us You can find us on the interwebs on Twitter or on Instagram On da feces boha Echo is at echo Charles and I am at jaco Willink and To the military personnel out there
Starting point is 02:33:50 holding the line in places no one wants to be doing things that no one else wants to do thanks for keeping us free to police law enforcement firefighters EMTs and other first responders thanks for keeping us safe and for everyone else out there remember remember what human beings are capable of suffering through and remember that even in those situations where everything seems to be taken away when you seem to have no choice at all in the world remember
Starting point is 02:34:35 remember that you can still choose how you react to the things around you you can still choose your attitude and you can still choose to actualize the best person that you can be in every aspect of your life you can choose to get after it so until next time this is echo and jaco out

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