Jocko Podcast - Jocko Underground: Subconscious Excuses May Be Holding You Back

Episode Date: June 10, 2024

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This is the Jocko Underground podcast, number 129 sitting with Echo Charles. We are going to jump right into some Q&A tonight. Echo, go. Read. What do you got? All right. First class, Jocko. Time management.

I have a two-year-old with primary physical custody and little to no family support. Whenever I'm not at work, I have my daughter. I've tried integrating her in with my workouts, but she's a danger to herself if I don't keep an eagle eye on her. I've always had an all or nothing mentality, which has made blocking out distractions so I can get after it a lot easier. Over the last two and a half years, though, it seems like it seems like it's just been a steady stream of factors outside of my control that even when mitigated keep interfering with my workout routine. Is the all or nothing mentality the problem? And should I just accept inconsistent workouts or am I missing something? Yeah.

That's real? Yeah. No, it's definitely real. And it definitely a mindset shift is needed, right? Because your daughter is now the priority and not a perfect workout, right? You're not going to get the perfect workout that you used to be able to get with the rest, the recovery, the time in the gym used to be an hour and 22 minutes for chest day. Right? It's not happening anymore.

It's not happening. It's definitely not happening because you need to rearrange. So it's not going to be perfect. But even though your daughter is a priority, part of the priority that you have for your daughter is staying healthy yourself. So you still have to work out for her and for you. So what are we going to do? You know what I'm going to say right out of the gate to wake up earlier? You know what I mean?

Like wake up before she's going to wake up and get that done. Which also could mean you need to get some kind of workout equipment in your house. Like if I was a single dad, I would 100% have a squat rack. and a pull-up bar or whatever equipment in my house. So I'm not even in the garage anymore. Like in the garage, you've got a two-year-old. You might not be able to hear a baby monitor all this stuff. No, I would be working out.

I would set up my house. Probably my bedroom would be a small bed and a squat rack. So get some workout equipment in the house. At a minimum, get a pull-up bar, and you can do everything else, right? You get a pull-up bar. You can do everything else. because you can hang rings from it. You can do dips.

You can do all kinds of stuff. But be working out whenever you can, right? That's another thing is two-year-olds take naps. But now you might be at work when she's taking naps. Okay. Cool. Two-year-olds are going to eat dinner. What are you going to do when they're eating dinner?

They're in the little, the seat with the tray in front of it that's made a plastic and they throw everything everywhere. You're sitting there doing kettlebell swings. Well, that's happening. You know what I mean? Yeah, yeah, fully. So work out whenever you can. Yeah, your all-or-nothing attitude is not going to work anymore.

Not going to work anymore. You need to get rid of that attitude and get into do what you can when you can. And make time. That's a big one. Make time. You got to make time for stuff. That's what we're doing. It's real simple.

It's real straightforward. You're going to figure it out. Many people have figured it out. And you're going to figure it out too. Yeah. Yeah, I think that first answer, by the way, is a massive problem. Problem solver. Which part?

Wake up earlier. Oh, yeah. Or do it after they go to bed if that's your jam, which I know you're not used to that. Yeah. Like waiting for it and then doing it afterwards. But either I've done both and they both literally work. Here's the thing I think, I don't know, my opinion, because I've been in the situation where any time I get frustrated with my kids interrupting my workout or let's face it, anyone working interrupting my workout. I've my you know how you get like oh you get that frustration like hey I'm busy but it's like man I

always revert back to your solution like when you think man how can I what can I tell them to make them understand my workout is important right I'm thinking that I'm like wait a second I'm looking at it backwards if I do this workout at a time that they it's impossible for them to interrupt generally speaking that'll solve my problem so when I just do it like John and you know before everyone wakes up that'll 100% or Yeah, that 100% solve the problem. Like, put it this way, very reliably solve the problem. Of course, stuff happens or whatever, but that's how.

Here's the thing. And I'm admitting this on air in front of you and everyone else is listening. I'm, like, intimidated by making that huge schedule change. Not by, like, a massive thing, but it's just one of these things like, if I don't have to, like, I'll just suck it up kind of a thing. But it doesn't change the literal fact that if I just, hey, that's the schedule now 4.30 a.m. or whenever, whenever before everyone wakes up, it'll literally

solve any of that problem, pretty much permanently too. So that's usually, and of course there's exceptions. Everybody's schedule is different, so we don't know this guy's schedule, but all those tips, I think, I think you even went kind of hard. I think just the waking up is going to solve it. Yeah, yeah, that's probably well. And even the whole

well, I'm assuming he has a workout scenario at his residence. I'm assuming because you can't just leave the kid. Yeah. You know, while you go to the gym. And also, but he said,

I try to incorporate her into the workout. So it's not like you can bring a two-year-old to the gym anyway. So you can't. So he's got something at home. Yeah, you'd think. And even if it's in the garage bar,

baby monitor, freaking all day, bro. When I first had our first child, when me and my wife worked, when it was just me at home and the kid, I got to monitor the naps and all that baby monitor. Yeah,

oh yeah, fully. So, yeah, can be done. But the mindset, start with the mindset of like, hey, you know this all or nothing because I'm like that too. Well, I'm like, right, them interrupting versus them not interrupting is like night and day as far as the workout. But I think it was my mindset that was like, I'm like, it's almost like I'm committing to that mindset.

I'm committing to the idea of if I get interrupted, it ruins my workout. But if you're like, no, this is part. This is part of the whole challenge. I have kids now. I'm still going to work out hard. And I'm going to do both. I'm going to pay attention to them and I'm going to work out. You know, let's face it.

Way more comfortable when I can just put in the freaking headphones, put on whatever music, not have to worry about any kid, anybody in a right. I get it. Yeah, that's ideal or whatever. But if you're like, hey, it's not going to be ideal, I'm still going to freaking go hard on my workout and make it like a priority with the kids around. But you'd be surprised how easy that works if you just make that mind shift.

That's my opinion. Next question. Hi, Jocco. I'm sending this email because I was curious how to balance fatherhood and service in the SEAL teams. My question to you, how often did you have time to see your family? Did you have to deal with frequent moves? If so, how did you find ways to keep them in in sports and activities with a consistently fluctuating schedule? Did elements of SEAL training influence your fatherhood? Did you teach your kids things you learned in the SEAL teams or made them train or

made them train or do PT with you? Any advice for active duty infantry who wish to start a family, but want their kids to have some stability and not move around constantly. Thank you. Let's see. I was gone a lot. I was probably in a sealed platoon had probably gone 200 days a year.

So gone. Half or more than half. More than half, yeah. Yeah, when you're in a platoon, you're just gone a lot. And so deployments then are six, seven months long, you know, and you do a little pre-deployment site survey,

so there's two weeks. So it's like, you're gone a lot. Sorry to interrupt, but what's the average, or even if this is even an appropriate question? Like, what's the average age of a member of a SEAL team? Or is it just all over the place? Yeah. Well, you ask for an average, and you can take numbers that are all over the place and find an average. But, you know, in a SEAL platoon, if you took a SEAL platoon of 20 guys, there's like the platoon chief is 35.

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