Jocko Podcast - Jocko Underground: The Truth About Controlling Your Emotions. How to Balance Your Crazy Life.

Episode Date: November 26, 2021

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This is the Jocko Underground podcast number 36. Echo Charles here sitting with me. Still not 100% sure what's going on. We're still, we have to maintain the underground, as you may have heard on the last version of this. We have, is it a war? There have been warlike moves been made. Symptoms.

They're symptomatic. Symptomatic of war. So that is why we have the underground podcasts. We have experienced some acts, some offensive activities from some groups that control some large media areas. That's why we have this Jocko Underground podcast. So jocco underground.com. If you want to support, we appreciate it. I was thinking the other day as I observed emotions, negative emotions being evoked in an individual, anger type frustration.

And I just wanted to talk a little bit about controlling your emotions. And I think I do control my emotions. and I would say that I have been controlling my emotions for long enough now that it is not a big challenge for me to control my emotions. And specifically I'm talking about anger, frustration, things are going to make you lash out, things are going to make you clench your fist, those kind of things. I've been controlling those emotions for long enough that I've got some methodology behind it. I also got to see many times people and I still get to see people that lose their emotional control. They get angry. Look, people get sad sometimes.

And, you know, just to start this thing off, I'm not saying emotions are bad. That's not what I'm saying. Before you freak out, I'm not saying emotions are bad. Emotions are good. Emotions make us human. Emotions are part of life. In many ways, they are life. So I'm not saying emotions are bad.

but allowing emotions to dictate the way you're going to behave, allowing emotions to drive your decision-making process, it is not going to help you. So here's a couple things that I have in mind that kind of flow through my mind when things are happening that could cause emotions. And basically, I barely even get a little blip on the radar. I get a little blip and it's already I go into this mode that I'm about to talk about. The first one I automatically think hey whatever I'm hearing right now is probably wrong

The reason I know that is because on the battlefield first reports are First reports are almost always wrong What do you mean what you're hearing like in your head or like whatever whatever What ever input? Yes, I guess whatever stimulus is hitting me that's about to make me angry I feel that little blip Whatever I'm saying is probably not right Whatever someone's telling me whatever I'm hearing whatever I'm seeing It's probably not right it looks

bad but it's probably not that bad the reason I know that is because on the battlefield you're gonna get some report that comes in and people are someone's panicking it's gonna sound horrible and it's probably not accurate doesn't mean you dismiss it but you don't get emotional you don't get emotional because you're dealing with some other people's emotions because when you send me a back a report back from the battlefield and you just got your your your overwatch position just got shot up. You're freaking heated. We just got shot up. Okay. Do I immediately send the QRF the quick reaction for us? No. I go, hey Roger, give me a little bit more detail. What's happening?

So I'm going to not get emotional. The reason I'm not going to get emotional is because I can almost guarantee you that the continued amplifying information that's going to come my way is going to mitigate some of the problem just by nature. The second thing that I kind of think about is whatever is happening right now, whatever I'm hearing, whatever I'm seeing is not final. A lot of people jump to the conclusion

of whatever's happening right now is the ultimate atrocity situation, the disaster, the catastrophic scenario, that's what people immediately go to mentally. And for me, things never seem catastrophic to me ever I was gonna almost ever right look can you have a cat I'll tell you there was an explosion up in Maine up in Farmington Maine at one of the factories up there not an non-an origin factory thank God but there was a massive massive explosion in a mill and

I talked to Pete Pete like called me and he's like, dude, this thing is gone. Like the factory's gone. And I just knew. So something like that, I know immediately this is a catastrophic situation. Whoever was in there is dead. This is horrible. And so, but that's very rare.

You know, even in my, in my military career, like, hey, this is what happened. A vehicle gets hit with an IED. Okay. There's a chance it's catastrophic, for sure. but if my immediate response is emotional, when chances are, okay, we're going to get more information, we're going to find out exactly what happened, my emotional response is not going to help me make good decisions.

So I don't think catastrophic out of the gate because that doesn't help me, process what's happening. Doesn't mean I dismiss it and think it couldn't be catastrophic, but I don't focus on the catastrophicness of the situation. by the way if it's catastrophic guess what it doesn't matter you you've already missed it's already gone it's already catastrophic so you can't you can't take that back so getting emotional about something that you can't take back is not going to help you move forward right now because those emotions aren't going to help me make decisions my viewpoint is that if I lose my temper

it's weak. And seeing leaders when I was a kid in the SEAL teams, seeing a leader lose their temper and just looking at them in a, you know, like a demeaning way of patheticness.

Like, wait a second, you're getting mad. That's what's happening. You're going to yell and scream. And I just remember seeing that throughout my career, but especially when I was young, I see some leader yell and scream

and just think, this person is an idiot. So I'm never going to do that I'm never going to yell and scream So that's another thing I kind of run through my Mental checklist I don't want to I don't want to give you control by the way echo

Over what I'm doing over what I'm thinking Over my emotional state So you come in and you say something And I don't want to give you control over my mental state So this is another little mental check I say wait a second am I really going to let Echo make me fly off the handle Right now that's where I'm at, no, I'm not going to do that.

That's a bad move. It's kind of a pathetic move. So we're not doing it. It doesn't help for me to give away my position, leadership strategy and tactics. What gives away my position? My emotions. You come in and you say,

I don't like the way this plan is looking. And I immediately get mad. I'm giving away my position. I don't want to give away my position. because once I give away my position, now you know where I'm at and I can't move anymore. So when someone to come with some idea to me or come on some attack to me,

attack me about something, you'd never be able to tell that I was even remotely frustrated by it or angry or whatever. I'm just sort of like, hey, give me some details on that. You know, look, do I do some reflect and diminish? Yes, I don't, I just act like Mr. Robot. No, and I'm not saying to act like a robot.

But I'm not going to get overly emotional in these situations. And so I guess those are kind of some things that go through my mind, that have been going through my mind for a long time, starting when I was a young seal, realizing that watching a leader lose his mind and get all mad and realizing how weak and pathetic that was and how the level of respect would go down, made me realize getting emotional is not good.

Now, like I said before, this doesn't mean that you don't have emotions, and it doesn't mean this is even more important. It doesn't mean that you don't put emotions into the calculus of what's happening. Because if you're getting emotional about something, and I say, I don't take that into account,

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