Jono, Ben & Megan - The Podcast - BONUS: How Does A 23 Year Long Distance Relationship Work??

Episode Date: June 5, 2023

We did a deep dive into long distance relationships today! some of these stories will blow your mind.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Hits, the Jono and Ben podcast. And I signed you up. Last week I was in an Uber taxi situation where I got talking to the driver, runs a bloody finance company. He's like, I'm looking for a trustworthy face to front the finance company. He seemed like a lovely guy. Lovely guy. You signed me up for it and then I saw on our combined Facebook page,

already a direct message. I'm like, Jono, that's on you. You can sort that out. This is your sloppy admin that'll never get back to this poor person. Ten years I signed you up for the face of the finance company. And I better follow that up, actually, if he did message. He did message, didn't he? He did.

I said, no, it's you. I was like, Jono, here you go. But I didn't put a price on what you would charge to be the face of the finance company. Anyway, next one. I'm in an uber over the weekend get chatting to the driver and i tell you what it's an endless supply of content bit i should just go bloody take five uber rides a day have all the content sorted for the radio show just talking to these lovely people about their lives uh but he is in a long-distance relationship.

Now, you ask me, how many years has he been in a long-distance relationship? Okay, how many years has he been in a long-distance relationship? Twelve. Wow. Twelve years. She's moving over here next month. They're getting all the papers sorted and all that jazz. Twelve years.

She's in bloody Bangladesh, mate. Twelve. that is a long long distance relationship yeah obviously they've seen each other i would gather through that time but that's a long time to make that work which is pretty incredible you'd have a lot of pent-up love wouldn't you ready to give yeah 12 years how long okay so let's just say uh you and amanda you're on other sides of the world. She's in Istanbul. You met her online on some dating website. Okay. This is just scrap what you've got now.

Oh, scrap. So this is early. Restarting. Restarting. Okay, pushing the reset button on Ben's relationship status. She's in Istanbul. You're like, I like the look of this lady. Oh, so we haven't met.

No, but you've got, let's get married. How long are you sticking it out for? Jeez, I feel like I've really jumped. I feel like I'll be pulling myself aside and going, hang on, mate. Well, you haven't met this person. She's asking for your bank account number. You're sending over cash. Yeah.

Well, you like to think that those things are going to work out. And obviously in this situation, it is. You haven't given me a year period. How long are you waiting for it? Well, I don't know. But the fact that I've never met her and i'm like i haven't like i'm okay let me change the scenario you know each other but she's like i want to go on a sabbatical to istanbul went away for a few months yeah actually you know did overseas did her oe and then i went a few months later so she did six months yeah it worked out worked worked out loyal

yeah it worked out for well i didn't didn't. No, we all did. Yes. No, we all did. Yeah. But it's just one of those things. You communicate, keep in touch, and you make it work. I'm sure you can, right? There must be more examples out there.

Well, I weighed 100 of the hits. Can you make long-distance relationships work? Long-distance relationships. Do they work? Thank you, Producer Joel, for those sultry tones. Is this Spandau Ballet? Yeah. There was a wonderful blooper with Spandau Ballet and an answer on the breeze, wasn't there?

It was very good. I don't know if we could play it for you, though. It was very un-breeze-like, wasn't it? We'll put it on the Burnify podcast. How's that sound? That's a good idea. Our new podcast on iHeartRadio. Long-distance relationships.

Got talking to a guy in an Uber. Drives an Uber over here. Twelve years. Him and his wife. He has flown to Bangladesh to marry her but then came back. Twelve years they've been living in different countries. That's awesome. She's about to come over here. Well it's not awesome that they're living

separately but it's awesome that they've kept the romance alive. They've made it work. Twelve years seems like an extraordinary time. It does. Yeah, to stick with it. Let's go to the phones because I tell you what, tapped into a beauty here, Ben Boyce. Long distance relationships.

Going to kick things off with Hayley. Welcome. Hi, morning guys. Now you're still in this long distance relationship. How long has it been going? So we met in 2010. 2010 2010 so 13 years ago yeah geez okay how'd you meet uh we actually met online we're quite passionate gamers and um we were kind of we didn't know at the time but we were set up by someone we're in different clans and someone sort

of messaged us individually hey you should get on and have a chat and hey you should get on and um they all ended up bailing and we were talking to ourselves. Oh, there was a set-up. Set-up when you say clans, not the Clu Cluts clan. No, no, this is obviously connected with the games. Yeah, the games. Clash of the clans. Yeah.

Yeah. Well, that's awesome. So you got chatting over online and then what? How long until you guys saw each other? Well, we weren't in very great jobs and and I was sort of studying at the time, so it was sort of a money situation for a while. So it was actually about five years, and he came here in 2015 when we met. And so where is he now?

He's in America. So he's still over there. Is he coming here? What's going on? No. So actually, so we got engaged in 2019. We'd been back and forth a couple of times. So I've been over there a couple of times.

And we were supposed to make the big move and get married in 2020. Well, we all know how that went. Of course. So yeah, got postponed a couple of years. And I went over last year and we got married beginning of last year. And finally submitted our immigration paperwork and it's been about almost a year waiting for immigration to say

keep going. That's a beautiful story. How do you keep it alive? How do you keep the relationship alive when you're not together? Or does it help? There's not little things to bicker about. Communication is probably the biggest thing to be honest. I know it's a cookie cutter answer but

yeah just keeping up with everything and we're quite fortunate we've got quite good passionate hobbies like gaming and stuff we can sit there and do that for hours together and and talk at the same time so video calling as well Ben Boyce that's an option you're right that is definitely video calling and yeah it helps hey good on you Hayley what an impressive story hey long distance relationships a load of calls coming through we'll continue this on michelle how long was your long distance relationship uh just uh just three years three years separate countries yes south africa and new zealand oh i've heard of the both uh that's. You say just three years, but I'm sure that still feels like a very long time. Oh, yeah, yeah.

It was also over COVID, so there was no going back and forth. It was really just not knowing when we were going to see each other again. Yeah, geez. And so what happens when you meet up for the first time? Oh, a lot of tears. Yeah. Very emotional of tears. Yeah. I imagine it's very emotional, yeah. Yeah.

Yeah. And do you regret it at all? No. No, that's the right answer. The good answer. The good answer. A great story, Michelle. Appreciate that.

Just talking long-distance relationships, some incredible texts coming through. It's amazing. 4487. Stacey, you're in a long distance. How long? So we did seven years, and then we got married in our eighth year of relationship, and now we're going on five years of marriage.

Seven years. A long time, isn't it? Now, is there a part of you during that period where you think, well, maybe my partner could have strayed from our long-term relationship? No, he's not very good at flirting, so there was no doubt over there. But it worked on you. How did he attract you?

He pursued me for, I think it was about two years. He really just stuck at it, and we were best mates and he just kept on kind of like, you know, hinting away. Yeah, persisting away. He broke you down eventually. He did. He absolutely did. That's seven years long. And so what would your

advice be to those that have just started a long distance relationship? How to make it work? Probably communication once a day at least because if you go on multiple days it starts putting um doubts in your head of whether they're into this or not or whether they're having doubts or whatnot and it just starts eating away at your mind so as long as you've got that once a day at least how did you meet uh we were both on vacation right

and so did he propose to you over the internet? No, it's kind of silly, but we just always knew that we were going to get married and stuff. So when I moved over here, we had already actually started planning the wedding. It was just always in the talks. There was no actual proposal. And then one day he just decided to take me out and actually propose. And I was like, we're getting married in two months. I don't know why he did this.

Well, that's a lovely story. Really appreciate it. Thank you. No worries at propose. And I was like, we're getting married in two months. I don't know why he's doing this. Yeah, well, that is a lovely story. Really appreciate it. Thank you. No worries at all. Have a good one, guys. Have a good one. Bonnie, how long have you been going long distance for, Bon? We're coming up just 23 years.

23 years. That's incredible. Yeah. So we met when I was 21 and I'm about to turn 45. So we live in two different cities and we have done for about 16 years now. And we got married two years ago. Have you got children? Yeah, we've got three children.

And one lives with my husband up in Auckland and the other two live with me in the Waikato. So you're not too far away, I guess. So how often do you travel to see each other? One lives with my husband up in Auckland, and the other two live with me in the Waikato. Right. Wow. So you're not too far away, I guess. No. How often do you travel to see each other? He comes home every weekend, and then just sort of whenever we can during the week sometimes, or we still made it work, so it's all good.

Incredible. And so when you do spend extended periods of time together, are you like, oh, God, he's driving me up the wall? A little bit. It's like, I love you, honey, but can you go home now, please? Wow, 23 years. That's incredible. How come you guys haven't, if you don't mind me prying, haven't decided to live together?

Or have you tried to and decided it's better that we have separate cities? We lived together for a wee while when we were younger and sort of kind of like it didn't work too well together, but we thought we'd give it a little bit longer because we were younger. And then we talked about it again and then COVID hit and then we talk about it every now and then, but he has a good job up there, I have a good job down here

and our kids are pretty settled. So one day, maybe when we're retired, we might end up living in the same house. That is really incredible. 23 years you've been doing the long distance thing for. Hey, well, good on you, Bonnie. No worries. Cool. Thanks for the call. I'll keep an eye on him in Auckland for you,

Bon, okay? That would be appreciated.