Jono, Ben & Megan - The Podcast - BONUS: One Day You'll Thank Me With Jenni Mortimer

Episode Date: October 19, 2022

We chat to Jenni Mortimer the host of the parenting podcast 'One Day You'll Thank Me'See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Hits, with a bonus podcast from Jono and Ben. Now this isn't Jenny from the Block, this is Jenny from the Herald. Yeah, also Jenny from the Block works, I'm totally fine with that. But you don't want to be Jenny from the Block, the TV show, because they didn't win a lot of money this year. Yeah, true. So Jenny, you're from the Herald, the New Zealand Herald, and you've got a podcast as well. Yes, we've got a parenting podcast called One Day You'll Thank Me, where we kind of just talk about all things parenting that parents don't really talk about but that's happening to all of us so we

should be talking about it oh it's awesome that's awesome i remember seeing what you're talking about why getting a divorce can be a good thing um yes yes um so not from personal experience but um yes it was along the lines of the fact that you know if parents aren't happy together then sometimes they're better parents when um when they take that factor away and they just focus on their kids. So, yep, that was one of our episodes that we really delved into why divorce can be a good thing. But, of course, you know, it was a good headline that pulled everyone in. Who's going to argue in front of the kids, though, if the parents are happy in a relationship? I know, right?

And that's like key building blocks of childhood, listening to your parents argue. Kids need to see this. They need to see the passive hatred we have for each other. You've got a really, really awesome podcast this week. Explain what's going on. Yeah, so this week we were talking about postpartum, basically after you have your baby, and society's expectation that mums should be bouncing back.

So, you know, you see it everywhere, the everywhere the stories about you know how to bounce back fast and when you've had a kid you know it's not just bouncing back physically that you're expected it's mentally you know people expect you to be back on top of your game when you go back to work and and in all aspects of your social life and things like that too but that's not actually the reality for mums and even dads you know your your it's not just your body that changes it's your whole life your priorities everything so that's kind of what we wanted to chat about this week and we had an amazing guest um Steph Clare-Smith who talked about um you know the expectations on her as as an ex-model and somebody who works in that industry but you know it's everyday mums and dads who are going I'm not the person I was before and before and society can't expect me to be that person.

Do you think also you're seeing celebrities sometimes, there's articles out there going, oh, they're back to the figure, they're doing their thing again. Do you think that sends unrealistic messages out there to a lot of people when that narrative's out there in the world? Totally. And I guess we have to think too about the pressure on these celebrities quite often you know it's external pressures on them whether it's you know they've got a movie or you look back

to the victoria's secret fashion shows it was like oh my gosh she had a baby four weeks ago and then women who were sitting there like literally like in diapers themselves are going why don't i look like that you know like there is this massive pressure from all these external places. But I guess we can't blame celebrities entirely because the pressure's on them more than anyone, right? Yeah. What can, you know, partners of people, you know, have gone through childbirth, what can their partners do to help? One of the biggest things, and we talked about this this week,

is actually remembering to do the you know say compliments like you used to like I think a lot of time people go oh you're such an amazing mother you're such an amazing parent and you're doing so well and baby's so healthy but to actually remember to focus on who they were before they were a parent too like you look beautiful like your skin is glowing great outfit like you like, you know, focus on the bits about them that are, you know, the compliments you used to give somebody. Because, you know, for me, it was like all of a sudden people forgot you were a person and they were just really focused on the fact that, oh, well done, you're raising a baby. That's great. And I'm like, but I'm still

here too. Someone call me, someone say I'm pretty, please. I know when a lot of the girls come back from maternity in the office, Ben, you're like, you're looking hot as. Oh, yes. He does it. I don't watch it ever. I'm sorry that you get involved in this. He's always slandering me. I don't agree with it, Jenny, but

it's confidence building. The other thing I noticed as well to be serious, you often say to someone, oh, you'll be such a good mother or you'll be such a good father. But I don't know what I'm basing that on as well. That's another thing that people say. Yeah, I know, right?

Like a lot of people say to parents, oh, you're such a good mom and you're doing such an amazing job with him. And you're like, there's other things going on in my life outside of him. Like, compliment me on my great work ethic or something. Like, I am a person outside of this. And people say that to us. So you're going to be, John, you're going to be a great dad. I'm a shocking dad.

I'll admit it. I know, they don't know. I have no idea what I'm doing. Forget the kids are at school sometimes to pick them up. Hey, Jenny, thank you very much for joining us. Really awesome. If people want to hear the podcast, where can they head to?

iHeartRadio or wherever they get their podcast and it's called One Day You'll Thank Me and it's great and everyone should go listen.