Jono, Ben & Megan - The Podcast - Dating in the 80's!

Episode Date: April 10, 2024

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On today's episode of the Wild Wild Web, what was it like dating in the 80s? Welcome to the untamed realm of the World Wide Web. A swirling vortex of weirdness, bullying and self-obsessed social media posts. In this digital jungle, Jono and Vienna are your fearless guides. Leading you through the wildest parts of the Wild Wild Web. This is the wild, wild web Yeah, actual stories that we've stumbled across on the internet And then conversation takes a bit of a turn as well That's how this podcast works

Now, I stumbled across a wonderful It was a montage of women in the 80s in Vancouver in Canada And it's for a dating agency So back in the day before in Vancouver in Canada and it's for a dating agency. So back in the day before your tinders and grinders, you would sign up to a dating agency and the agency would essentially play the role of tinder. Matchmaker. Yeah, matchmaker.

Oh yeah, that's right. There was those sorts of things. I guess it's married at first sight. Yeah, that's exactly what you do. And that's a roaring success. It's not a roaring success at getting couples to stay together no no yeah yeah yeah uh i don't even think i think they go for the least compatible people like actually if you are wanting to meet someone probably avoid married at first time but if you want to get famous get like instagram influencer yeah like all that build a profile. Great reasons to go on that show. Yeah. Be edited into someone you might not be in real life.

Oh, yeah. So this is from 1983. Hi, I'm Linda. I guess you could say I'm an Oreo cookie freak. And I don't know how to ride a horse. And my goal in life is to have my own religion. Spend time at the fireplace. I have an Oreo cookie jar, Oreo salt and pepper shakers i was a flop at

canoeing i'm over at the gym pumping iron or driving my black porsche with the wind blowing through my hair personable doesn't smoke in my face and i love to eat double stuffed ones they're the best bett middler i laugh hysterically at bett mid Midler Well I gotta go now but keep in touch Okay bye There you go that was What I liked too is back in the 80s So simple, simple time I just want someone who doesn't blow smoke into my face

That's all I wanted In a partner And another lady just wants to sit by the fire Wow So they were all different women, right? That was a montage from this dating agency. And it wasn't dating simpler back then, wasn't it? Yeah, I suppose in a lot of ways it would have been, yeah.

I mean, it's probably like technically it's easier now because you just swipe and hit a button. And you probably get to know a lot more about the person nowadays, which is probably good going into it. In a shorter space of time and even going into it you can probably you know stalk them on the internet you know you can find out who's this person where they work what they look like look at their social media you probably get a real idea of someone before just turning up randomly and going oh

this is the person and what did you did you guys used to go on old school dates where someone was saying what i was thinking about it i'm like i don't think i've been on old school dates where someone would say... Do you know what I was thinking about it? I'm like, I don't think... I've been on like two dates and mostly when I was like a lot younger because I had a tendency to kind of like hook up with at parties and then kind of just... You're a party pasha. Yeah, and then you kind of just stay together and then you do dates, reverse dates. Yeah, that's the good old New Zealand way.

You get drunk, you might have a snog at a party and we'll see how it goes from there. That's pretty much how all my relationships have worked. New Zealand's very interesting when you go somewhere like America and they will date multiple people until it gets exclusive, which seems like the right way to go in a lot of ways.

Rather than just going, well, this person, I spent six months with this person, it didn't work out. At least until you go exclusive, you kind of get an idea of kind of what you know a few people half a dozen on the go and then you both have to agree is this exclusive or something i've never done a date where like you don't really know the person and you're going and having dinner or whatever and you're getting to know them i've never done that yeah that would be exhausting for me i'm just not good with new people like not good with the small talk you're good at listening uh yeah we went to a work

function you were being uh you're in a conversation for about an hour and a half didn't say a word just listen smile and nod so yeah that doesn't play well if you don't have a talker on the other side of the table no have you did you how did they do it back when dinosaurs roamed? Well, you'd steal your woman. Cave men days. Ride it on a cave in the middle of a cave, that sort of thing. Did you do lots of dates? No. Because obviously it wasn't dating apps.

Probably the same as you, met people through parties, which eventually ended up meeting my wife through work. Jen, where do we have been, was the same. Same. I do remember one date, which Ben knows about. I was probably about 19, and the girl got me to pick her up from her house and then swing by the tinny house along the way. OK. Yeah.

And then just drop her off at another guy's house. So I was essentially like a Uber, but without any financial reward. Didn't even get to smoke a joint. Wait, so how did that miscommunication happen? You think you're taking her on a date. She's like, can you just drop me off at this date? Was there a date before you dropped her off? Well, she was kind of, maybe I assumed it was a date.

Maybe she said, I need you to drop me at my friend's house. I want to smoke bongs. And I didn't hear that. But I just heard, come pick me up at six. I'm like, wow like wow i'm gonna put my best tuxedo for this oh yeah we'll just take a quick break uh from the wild wild web and we will be back after this welcome back traditional dates as in uh would you like to go out for dinner yeah uh no no even just looking crazy just type in dating and put on news and the first couple of articles that come up travis kelsey saying he didn't know how doesn't know how he

started dating taylor swift he can't really pinpoint the moment where it kind of just again just happened well he chased her down on social media didn't he rihanna saying her and asap rocky dated uh started dating with a lot of caution that's the best thing that ever happened to us did they did they did he ask her out or because they'd known each other for a while, I guess. Who's that? Ace, Rocky and Rihanna. I think he had a crush on her for many, many years. But like my best friend now. Oh sorry, I was going to say

even Travis Kelsey, I think. There's those videos from way back where he's like Taylor Swift. I like Taylor Swift. Back before they even knew each other. He was fishing for it. Manifested it. But like my friend now has been on so many dates. Always. I think she's gone on a date tonight. All the dates. All the time. I was fishing for it. Manifested it. Yeah. Yeah. But like my friend now has been on so many dates. Always. I think she's gone on a date tonight.

All the dates. All the time. I was just like, there's so much energy. Through Tinder? One of them, yeah. Or Bumble. Bumble, right.

Bumble's more focused on let's have something meaningful here. And like females, that's the one where they ask the question first, right? I think they get to... They have to initiate the conversation. Yes.

Yeah. That's a lot more... Not just a bunch of randy guys trying to get one away sending pictures yeah we had we had up to there was people in our tv show we were on tinder and stuff like that back in the day remember and it was just what just the information they were like ask us questions if we're like i think you should say that and then they'd come back later go no that wasn't the right thing to say favorite thing to do at a party is just go on other people's Tinders

and strike up conversations. See if you've still got it. Yeah. Turns out I don't. With nothing to lose though, your chat can get quite good because you're like, well,

I don't care. Blah, blah, blah. I've got no inhibitions. It's probably quite a good way to be in some ways, you know. And then my friend's like, great,

I've got a date with like seven guys, thank you. I don't want to be with. Don't want all all the admin involved in that i wouldn't know what to do if you had to go back to dating neither nah but i imagine most people were in the same situation like it's not like anyone i mean most people are probably good at dating and probably end up in relationships so you gotta think about that if you're going into a dating thing you're probably meeting someone who's not good at it doesn't know what to do either oh you're right yeah so i think it's all one of those situations because if you're

good at dating you probably you nail the date and you've got a relationship but have you seen those guys on those dating apps no like some of them they just i they need help the ones holding uh dead animals after going hunting and that sort of thing and like lying on their car being like there's my car it's like cool, man. That's pretty cool. On the bonnet, on the roof, where are they lying? Just like lying

on the side of the car. Nice, nice. I don't know. That's good, that's good. That's my type of guy. It's 10 o'clock, just before pulling back the curtain. Do you need to go?

I do need to go. You've got to go to an appointment. Will you go to the appointment? Are you going to carry on without me or are you wrapping this up? I feel like we've, I mean, do you think we've got more to talk about? Well, I don't know. Do you have more to talk about? What happened to the good old... Did we to carry on without me or are you wrapping this up? I feel like we've, I mean, do you think that we've got more to talk about?

Well, I don't know. Do you have more to talk about? What happened to the good old- Did we talk about Ben's dates? Yeah. No, I must say it was you, you know, really. You didn't go on a date? We'd go on dates, but people you'd not, it was never a blind date or anything like that.

It was people you either met through friends, met through work or whatever, thing like that, you know, or you knew from, you know, studies and stuff. But did you take a girl on a date somewhere? Where would you take them? Well, it was normally like... To a restaurant or to the movies? Yeah, it was probably along those lines. Movies is a great option.

You don't have to talk. Yeah. It's an interesting one, eh? It's like, let's be silent for, well, these days, three and a half hours. But then also at the end of it, you've got something to talk about. Talk about, yeah.

Debrief. Or going, I heard the other good trick is like going to a restaurant or somewhere where they do, like teppanyaki. Oh, there's something going on. Where you're like, oh, wow. You know, you've got something to focus on that's not each other. Yeah.

Which is quite good. And they're trying to throw the egg in your mouth and. Yeah. Yeah. I prefer the good old days where you'd walk into a toilet cubicle and it was said, if you want a good time, call this number. Hey, we did glory holes yesterday on the podcast. I'm talking about the number. Why are you bringing it back? The number thing. You call the number and they took you out for a good time, call this number. Mate, we did glory holes yesterday on the podcast. I'm talking about the number.

Why are you bringing it back? The number thing. You call the number and they took you out for a good time. Tipping bowling. Whatever you thought was a good time. Yeah. You got to pick it and they took you for it. Hey, well, go to your appointment.

Good luck. Thank you. We made it sound very, but anyway. Oh, no, my son's just getting his ears checked. It's all good. When you left, I was going to say it was plastic surgery I was going to chuck that out there What surgery?

What surgery were you going to say? What surgery were you going to say Jono? What would you Nose You don't need to fix your nose What's wrong with your nose? I'm just going to name a bunch of things so you can be like no you don't need that Until we go silent on one

Have a great day What's wrong with your nose? I'm just going to name a bunch of things so you can be like, no, you don't need that. You don't need that. Until we go silent on one. Well, have a great day. Thank you for listening to the Wild Wild Web. Yeah. And we'll catch you tomorrow.