Jono, Ben & Megan - The Podcast - FULL SHOW: Should I confess to cheating after 11 years?

Episode Date: December 1, 2025

On today’s show:  Jono a “sensitive” message by mistake How Ben ruined his daughters vibe... Is Megan the most stressed this Christmas? Why Megan’s husband  fainted last night Dear Megan, confess to cheating after 11 years? Jono awkward boardroom hug story. Tom Sainsbury on A Christmas Crisis and new projects. Instagram: @THEHITSBREAKFAST Facebook: The Hits Breakfast with Jono, Ben & MeganSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Thanks to Hello Fresh, cook easy, delicious dinners, the whole family will love because nothing beats dinner time. Welcome to the podcast, eventful podcast for you to listen to. There's a lot going on with Megan right now, very busy. Busy period of time. Just look, I'm not trying to outbusy anyone. We're all busy. People are texting in 4'8-7. I'm busy other than Megan.

I'm busy. You think you're busy. I'm busy. I'm busy. I also haven't sat here and laid out my to-do list for everyone if we're going to be competitive about it. I'm busy like Megan in my birthday and December. but just like my dad's birthday last week, Christmas shopping, planning a wedding,

third week of January, my daughter, other daughters having a knee operation while carrying on every day working full-time cooking, planning like Megan, my air conditioning doesn't work either. They want two and a half thousand for it. I'm not paying it. I'll just put the windows down. There you go.

That's the text has come through. Yeah. Okay, well, the daughter's getting a knee operation, not you. I like that. The faster you read the text house, the busier it makes her sound. Yeah, like I can list off all the people all my life getting operations,

but it's not me. So, Megan says she wasn't going to get competitive about that. I know, you are. No, but I'm just saying, Everyone's like, I'm busier than you. I'm like, well, I haven't sat down with my Google. Megan moved to us in the past week and have an overlapping week. So we've clean out our rentals.

We've won one hectic week. Since Saturday the other day, we've moved out both properties, cleaning at the rental and I'm packing for our house. Hasn't bought any presents yet. Time to buy our groceries. Well, yes, there's a whole lot going on there as well. You do click and collect while you're on the go. I think, all right, mate.

It's all very well with other people, wouldn't it, Megan, but for you. Well, we can all be busy. It's like, everyone's trying to tell me, like, I'm busier than you. We're all busy. Two things humans love to complain about. How tired they are and how busy they are. Also, I didn't get much sleep last night because my daughter was awake in the night if we're going to do that. I'm very tired today.

I'm getting that to the list. Very tired. No one cares. No, that's the thing. No one cares. A big to do on your list is the aircon on your car is out of whack. Not going. It's not going at all.

It only blast hot air. It's going into the summer months. Hot November. So I do have to have the windows down. But sometimes you're just getting a blast in the face from warm. warm air. Well Nicole joins us. She might have a solution. Yeah, well I just thought I had the same problem with my aircon. My partner fixed it and he's not a electrician, anything like that. But they were going to charge me like a thousand dollars to fix it and I was not paying that.

Oh my God, Nicole, can he fix mine? I can't fix yours, but I've got a suggestion. Yeah. So like there's a filter, like a condenser. If you get leaps and bugs and stuff in it, it's like at the front, it's like by the, um, the little grill. Okay. So you've got to like clear it. You've got to use your initiative, a wee, but have you got a man? Yes. Is he real man?

No. There's some stereotypes right now. None of the people you're talking to right now are real men. Okay. You're really got to start giving more incentive for him to be a real man. Yeah. Sometimes it's easier not being a real man. They don't get good at what they don't want to do.

Like, um, you know, You've got to be like, okay, I'm going to get out there and I'm going to do this today, which they know you can't do and you know you can't do, but they don't want to see you waste money and fail doing it so they'll do it for you. Yeah, okay, that's good. Okay, good play. Manipulation, I see what's happening here. And you've also got a great platform.

There's going to be someone that's just a tutu at home that'll fix your aircon for you. Do not pay $5,000. No, that's a good point, Nicole. Are they taking the car too? Yeah, I'm not sure. They're driving it to Japan to fix it, I think. Hey, good on you, Nicole. I really appreciate your time, mate.

Thanks, babe. No worries. Thank you, Nicole. Well, Megan goes to fix her air on you. You can go and enjoy the podcast. John O'Ben and Megan. The podcast. The heads.

But right now, what did you do? WhatsApp. I got sent a message from a guy we've done a bit of work with John. All right. Johnny. Oh, John boy. Johnny, yeah, lovely guy.

And the topic, or the title of the WhatsApp message was, sensitive. I thought, oh, what does John want to see me that's so sensitive? This is, you know, emotionally sensitive? Does he calling me sensitive? But no, there was a document attached. And the first thing you do, it's human nature. If you get something, land in your lap that says sensitive, you're going to open it. You're going to open it and you're going to look at it. Yeah. And what I opened was a whole bunch of spreadsheets, pie charts, lines going up and down.

It looked like the stock market was crashing and then regrouping and just by a lot of numbers. okay and then I just thought nothing of it 40 minutes later get another message ping from John hey mate if you'd kindly delete the last message I sent you and refrain from opening it is it's a sensitive

information it was meant for another John not John no and now I'm in a position of I've digested the sensitive information none of it means anything to me but I know it's in my head somewhere and I haven't got back to it because I didn't kindly delete it

I unkindly opened it and read it so I don't know what to say back to Johnny what do I don't want to lie to him oh okay well that was my just saying all girls I've deleted it now was probably the thing and that's not what deleting it now deleting it now or something I don't know

because I mean you're not going to I'm obviously confidence you're not going to pass it on to anyone well don't say it's John I'll be saying it our next meeting do you know that such and such a Dale Jones and something and be like, I can't remember where I heard it but blah blah blah blah

You like you heard it from me and that was a secret He said not to tell anyone Yeah Megan's told me a lot of stuff I'm like you shouldn't be telling me this No no You never know when it's going to come out

Megan That's the thrill of working with me I've heard you relay information to other people And he's like I don't know where I heard this I'm like from me Megan I said not to tell anyone

Yeah So anyway I put the spreadsheet on the lad's chat And everyone can have a good old read John Ovenin and Megan the podcast That's

But speaking of Christmas It is really They say it's the most wonderful time of the year But it's also the busiest Right Most stressful time of the year Yeah For some reason

Why don't we just All the things That are coming up in the next three weeks Why don't we just spread them evenly throughout the year Yeah New Zealand feels like we put all this unnecessary stress on us

To get everything down And everything shuts down In January Yeah It causes the rest of the world They just carry on They have a couple days of Christmas And they go

And they're back into it You have the Christmas stuff right And then for some reason, your dishwasher will break or your aircon will break in your car. And then your tyres or something, yeah. And then you can't get a bloody appointment with anyone because they're all booked up. And then they go on holiday for a month. And then everything compounds at this time of the year. I reckon we need to get the message out there that stuff's going to continue on next year as well.

Those places are going to be open next year. Even with work parties, we'll see each other next year. I know, but we're trying to get stuff in before everyone closes for a month. So, 0,800, the hits, 4487, 23 days till Christmas. Who has the busiest 23 days coming up? What's on your calendar? What's on your schedule? Because, Megan, we feel like you're a race car in the read at the moment.

Producer Grace will brought you in right now because you've had something in our calendar, our shared calendar for how long? It was the 4th of November I put it in. So about a month. I put it in for a month, Megan. Okay. And yesterday, Megan's like, oh, that's tomorrow. This is what she was like.

Yeah, yeah. She's like, that's tomorrow. And she looks at me or sassing. She's like, Grace, I have a love. lot going on. And Megan, it's literally been in there for a month. What do you want me to do? I had to claim that time, because you guys are all so busy, and I have to get all the stuff done. So I need time with you.

She's wanting us to go to a beach and bank some Christmas content. So that's the day. Yeah, that's the day, 11 o'clock. But Megan's like, does this have to happen? Why is this happening? 11.30 for an hour. Because we've got so much other stuff on. And then you were like, we really have so much stuff ready, videoed grace. And I went, no, we don't.

In my defense, we get like four calendar invites a day. And I just go, accept, accept, accept, accept it. Because there are, like, I don't have a choice. You do the typical radio now to think is you just deal with it on the day. Yes. And then you're inconvenience everyone else. But I have this thing, like, it was to help my anxiety.

So, like, if you look at your whole to-do list as a whole, it's really stressful. So I deal with it like a day or two. I'm like, okay, what do I need to be done today? Like my problem. What needs to be done today? No, you need to look more ahead than that. Okay. Right.

Big picture. In hindsight. Yeah, big picture. So what's got, what's on their list? What's on the to-do list for you? In the next couple of weeks. There is like, the mental... We didn't get blood yesterday.

I mean, you're great. Didn't need to give blood. Yeah, that's not... Yeah, that could have happened. That could have happened in January. We've got to film this and stuff yesterday. They still need blood next year. $5,000.

If anyone can help me with that, that'd be great. Just do it, mate. You just got to do it. With what money, Ben, and what time? Chuck it on the mortgage. Just put you a window down. You've got to give them your car. Put the windows down.

I've got children. No, you can't put the windows down. On a motorway it's like God, don't even get excited Well, you have, we've got your star My dishwasher is broken So I'm handwashing all the dishes With two little kids

Driving me nuts And then not to the people in Africa who don't even have dishes Exactly, yeah They kill for hot water, wouldn't they? And the mental load Making sure you've got everything sorted And everyone has to be here and there And you've got to get this job done

You take about four weeks to wrap your presents You don't need to do that to that level You're adding extra stresses that are not necessary. I've raped my presents. You theme, you theme your Christmas, colour theme, too, don't you? That's easy. It's all done. It's all done.

You've added all these necessary stresses. You know what? You guys are helping so much. This is therapy. Also, this doesn't need a competition. Like, who's got the most stressful time? We could all just be helpful as they were all stressed. You could win a competition right now.

Who's more stressed than Megan? Oh, yeah. Oh, my God. Do you know what? I'm going to put it out there and say it's just the women with the mental load. Oh, okay. I'll fight you on that one. I'll fight you on that one.

Okay. Are you doing all the Christmas shopping? 100%. But Ben is just like that. Yeah. That's my forte. He's the woman of the relationship. I won't be fighting you on that one.

I know Jen is taking the mental mode. I've got my spreadsheets. I've got my list. I'm ready to go. And Jono said it's like la. It's the most relaxing time of year. John O'Benn and Megan. The podcast.

The hits. That is Somba in the country. It's a not. You're going on to that, Megan, are you too busy? I am going to that. Well, that counts as something. Oh, God, pit off. So we...

Look, do you know what? We didn't have to pit each other against each other. We can all be busy together. You love a competition, though. You love a competition. My mum is definitely more stressed out than Megan. And then they list off everything they're doing. I'm like, look, we can all be stressed.

Well, we were in the middle of workplace bullying Megan at the moment because she was a bit annoyed that there was a calendar invite that was sent out four weeks ago of something that we were required to do today by our producer Grace. Okay. I also booked my other thing in ages ago. No one asked me when I booked that in. Put it in the calendar, mate. I'm not going to put my personal stuff in our work.

Sure is in. Anyway, this is an off year. Anyway, very busy. Got a lot of stuff going on, everything in her house, breaking down her windows, her aircon not working in the car. Christmas, fans not working in the house. She's having a breakdown herself right now as well. Mental breakdown.

So we're helping it through it by seeing it taking stories from other people who are also feeling it right now. Yeah, 23 days until Christmas. Is anyone busier than Megan? I reckon we're going to struggle to find it. We can all be busy. Chris Valaxon's the sexist. No, he's not as busy as you. He's running the country.

That's good. What is he doing? Show me his to-do list. There you go. Thanks for your text, Chris. Appreciate it. He has a text, by the way. Morning to you, Stacey.

Hi. Busy with Megan, we understand. She can't just be busy, you know? Yeah, well, see, mine isn't every year kind of busy because I was really stupid and didn't actually plan having my kids at the right time.

Oh, no. So I've got two kids with birthdays in December. Oh, no. Yeah. That's good times. Yeah, right. And Christmas on top of that.

And then also with New Year's as well. And then I'm a teacher, so it's trying to wrap everything up at the end of the year. She's teaching people, Megan. She doesn't finish work at all. I'm teaching you matters every day. So what would you say busy than Megan Ben? What was your chair of her? Oh, it's pretty up there.

Are you going to a somber concert tonight or not? No. No. No. Okay, so not quite as busy as Megan. Do you have time to come with me tonight? I'm quite happy. You what?

I'd quite happily trade. Yeah, exactly. He has the kids' birthdays and the holidays. Good luck, good luck for the next week. So a few weeks we're thinking of you, all right? There we go, Stacey, just selling your children on the air there. Karina, morning to you. You're busy as a Megan, we understand.

Good morning. Yeah, I'm pretty busy. I've got four boys, eight-year-old twins, and one that's 11 months older and a 16-year-old. And I have three jobs. And I'm studying part-time to get my degree. Oh, Jesus. That's a lot, that's a lot, that's a lot on Karina's to-do list. That is a lot.

Are you going to a somber concert? Jeez, guys. No, no, I'm working tonight, sorry. One of her 19 jobs. Liding me up. Just trying to put food on the table. Excuse me? Just got to kick yourself, but, Dee.

You do, you do, you know. It takes a bit to survive these days, mate. Oh, good luck. She's, you've got a lot on your plate. I really, yeah, we're thinking of you in the next couple of weeks. Now, we'll take one more. You guys are absolutely making my blood boil. Danielle.

She can't call it down because there's no air going. Danelle. Morning, busy than Megan, we understand. Oh, my mum is definitely busier than Megan is at the moment. Oh, I don't know about that. She's not going to the summer concert, I'm sure. Well, we just moved house in the past weekend, and we have an overlapping week. at our rental.

So my mum has been over there every day since Saturday when we moved. Busy cleaning and dusting the cobwebs. She hasn't even had time to buy groceries for the new house. Moving houses. That's that tactic.

That is hectic. What are you eating at the moment? Ham and cheese toast. That's it. That's what they got. It's a live off, mate. Nothing. No food. They're almost about to eat the door knobs. So hungry these kids. Again, good luck. We're thinking of you

of the next couple of weeks. Keep this coming through. 4,48, 7 of the text. Look, it doesn't need to be a competition. You love a competition. John O'Ben and Megan, the podcast. The hits.

Watching Megan, extracting grey hairs from her head or getting producer grace to do it. Like her. Oh, shut up. It feels like you were at the zoo? Yeah, like a mother chimpanzee sort of picking the fleas out of the. So I said there's one in my part.

Can you get it out? And then she's looking. She's like, oh my God, there's so many. Oh, shut up. Yeah. Okay. So that's what we do. florist in the machines playing official producer's job that's what goes on in the studio you'd never

guess that was what went on right uh now my daughter indy i love what i love about her she's it's very unique she's her own person i love that about it and uh and the way her brain works is you know like everyone it's different you know the different quirks that we all have and um long story every year i get a skin you know i get skin spots and stuff i've had skin cancer in our family before so I'm quite, you know, quite rigid about that. Every year I get a reminder and I also take the gills in as well and they get their little skin checked as well. So it's like, oh, you can map it and stuff

and hopefully that doesn't become a problem at any stage. The mole map. I always regale a story that you say didn't happen. I'm pretty sure you ended up naked or something in the mole map. I think I got naked. Do you have to get down to your underpants? I mean, it's not something that anyone really enjoys. I mean, I don't know.

Having someone like inspect every little minute part of your body. You're right. You're standing there in underpants. And Indy's not a favorite thing to do. I get her. It's not something. Indy, you're not alone, mate. She really looks forward to as well.

Sometimes when I see medical professionals and they're looking at me naked, I'm like, you went through, you know, nine years of study for this. Do you know, I'd rather get like a smear than that because they go over every part of your body. You're just like looking and looking and looking. I'm like producer grace looking through for your grey hairs.

Pretty much like that, aren't they? They're a little microscope too, don't they? Yeah. And they're the camera that zooms things up as well. They're not great shots, but anyway, you do them. You don't put those on and stuff? no yeah but you do it because it's a good thing to do you know and so that's why so I booked in the end about it I looked at you know her schedule over the next couple weeks I was like great

I can book it in the afternoon when school finishes she's got it half day and I'm like great and then I told her about it she's like oh not can we not do it on that day because oh yeah after school I might want to go with my friends and hang out in the school mate no worries at all I'll re-book and so then I looked and I was like well you've got a week of holiday after that I'll book it in there great sorted clear unray got your mole maps sort of a second time I've been on the phone I'm like booked it in for you and she's like oh about what she's like you've ruined my vibe is what she says and I'm like what she's like that's her holiday yeah she's like you've gone I've gone from end of school great the end of my

birthday great then you booked it after my birthday before Christmas there was three good things in a row and now you've ruined my vibe and I'm like welcome to life like what you're going Like this is just one big vibe ruin You know, the older you get You can't have that good a run forever That's what I said to us You can't just go from end of school All the way to Christmas

With nothing that is going to be inconvenient happening Do you know what ruins your vibe? Skin cancer Yeah, that's right That's an ultimate vibe ruiner Getting that cut out of here That should be the new slogan for Mulberry Yeah, you know, I want to ruin your vibe

Cancer She's like, can I book it or another time I'm like, you're on you mate Here's the number You're like, I've to hold them three times. I've got it here. You want to schedule it before school finishes? I don't know.

My moles are clear. That's right. So it'll be interesting to see if you follow through on that one because I got in trouble for ruining your life. John O'Ben and Megan, the podcast. The hit. A lot of unsettled weather. A bit of rain over the next few days and it's going to be a little bit cooler in the South

Island. But yesterday Megan, after the show, you were talking about how you were going to go give blood. Mm-hmm. Went and donated blood yesterday. For what cause? Just being good. human being, good member of society. Do you know my dad has done it for like 40 years?

He got, um, years ago he got a polo shirt and a little ceremony because he got to his 50th donation. But then he carried on. So I actually don't know how many times he's done it. But I was like, I need to pick up the baton. Yeah, good on you. And carry on you. Imagine me how many liters of blood he's donated over these.

So many. Yeah. And you get a polo shirt. Oh, he thought it was great. He wasn't expecting anything. Oh, good. I mean, a polo shirt is a night. It's the gesture.

Yeah. Thanks for the bloodies a shirt with a collar So I went and did it yesterday But I took my husband, Andrew, along And like, I've had two Caesareans I'm not too phased With jabs and everything now There are needle people and not needle people

Right? There's a really clear line between the two I never used to be I have fainted in the past from a blood test So I never used to be But now it's just like, oh whatever Do your worst So I was fine And Andrew

Plus your rampant heroin addiction has made you numb to needles too got to mention that shout out to that um so andrew was really nervous really nervous like i think he was working himself up into a frenzy i know well i was like you've never he's never had anything made i hold his hand and i get what you're saying yeah um so yeah you're gonna be okay do you give a lollipop or anything at the end of it or he's making fun of the fact that andrew's quite a bit younger than he's yeah he's yeah i mean he's 31 he's not a child like a child, he's a little nervous. You got a plate of bickies,

got the chocolate bickies. But when it came to, like, the lady's like, okay, you're okay? And he's like, yeah, yeah, I'm good. There's a lot of heavy breathing going on. I was like, just chill. Like, just relax. How has he been dragged into your family blood-giving tradition?

Well, I was like, come on, it's not that bad. Like, this is a chance to give something back to the community for Christmas. Like, do our bit. This is something your father's bestowed on you, though. Yeah, but it's easy. He's been dragged into the tradition. Like, we should all be doing it. and people need blood so

he's in a frenzy and when she finally put it in jabbed it in his arm and the blood starts coming out and he goes my ears are blocking and the blood drains from his face and he's like should I feel like this he's like what I can't hear

I can't hear and I was like it's like me at work drinks so they end up tipping his legs up the lazy boy chairs like legs in the air lying down and they're like we're going to have to take it out

so they take out the blood line the line and they put a cold flannel they had like an emergency kit he's like grey and he's like we've got a fainter but it was very busy

so everyone can see this guy with his legs in the air I'm just cracking up I'm just sad I didn't take any photos but he came to and then they donated like 65 mills

and I was like is that enough like can you do something with that and she said, I think we're probably just going to have to chuck that out. It's like a little shot glass for a vampire. A little advertiser. Friday night shots. He comes to and he's like, did I do it?

I'm like, no. Oh, poor fella. And so how many litres does they actually take out of you? It's not a huge amount. Like if you donate plasma, they can take more. They can take almost a litre. But it's just a little pack. It looks like maybe 600 mills.

I'm not sure. Oh, what a lovely Christmas tradition. But I did it and I was fine. It took like five minutes and then Andrew was like, I'll have to drive home. I was like, you didn't even do anything. What did they pub into him? John O'Ben and Megan, the podcast.

The hits. Get into it, a dear Megan. Someone has slid into Megan's DMs and we need to get to this one because even as that song was playing, we were talking about it. As Lewis Capote was playing, I know he's in the country right now. That's important.

He's playing Auckland tonight. You know what Lewis would think? Yeah, but this pales in comparison. Harrison right now. He's probably listening. You can text him with your opinion, Lewis Capaldi. 448-7 Lewis. Great to have you here. Okay, this reads, Dear Megan, 11 years ago, before kids and before we had a house, I cheated on my wife. It was stupid, selfish and something I've regretted every day since. I never told her. I convinced myself it would only cause pain and blow up our lives. I figured I could

just quietly do better, and I have been. I've shown up, I've been loyal, I've put my family first, some friends of ours are going through their own situation where one of them is unfaithful and it has blown up their life. Part of me wonders if honesty is the right thing even after all these years, the other part thinks unburdening myself now would be selfish and would only help me not her. So I'm stuck between wanting to do the right thing by her and wanting to protect the life we have. What do you guys think I should do? She was 11 years.

It's a long time, isn't it? But I mean, geez, we're still writing the wrongs from her. treaty that we signed in 1840 so maybe it's not that long ago in the grand scheme of things what is the reason though is he trying to clear his conscience because in doing so he's going to lump it all on her so he's obviously it's obviously brought up the guilt having like his friends are going through it and suddenly it's red its head for him so he's feeling guilty at this moment will it die down but then I'm thinking okay put myself in the wife's position would I want to know after 11 years what do you want to

know, yeah. Especially after he is regretful and he's changed and he's been loyal and all of that, would I want to know? I don't know if I would. Right, okay. Because then it would make it feel like the past 11 years was a lie, but for him it wasn't. Yeah, that's a good point. And he's changed his ways.

I do see why people would want to know, though. I can understand. Can I read some of the Facebook messages we've got? It's just so hard for him. I mean, can he live with it? Can he continue to live with it? Because that's the thing. I couldn't live with it.

I'd have to say it. I didn't say it. But I would have probably said it a long time before now. But that's a difference. If you had said something 11 years ago, the relationship probably 90% would be over. Yeah, probably. And now 11 years later, you've got kids and you've got a life together.

They're stronger now to get through this now, maybe. Yeah. But I'm just taking that other side of it because I know that that's probably in the minority of what everyone's thinking. So Gillian said, no, don't. You have remorse. You've learned. You'll be unburdening.

you and burdening your wife, please don't do it. Then there's one from someone who has been in a similar situation. I found out I was cheated on while pregnant. Ten years later, don't do it, don't tell her. It blew our lives apart. Wow. That's someone who found out. Yeah. Now I wouldn't

have wanted to know. Interesting. Someone said I would never forgive you if I was the wife and I'd leave you, so don't tell her. It's so weird. I would never forgive you. So just don't tell me in the first one. What you don't know, don't know.

I mean, they managed to bloody keep the Epstein file suppressed for a long time, so surely this guy can suppress this for a little bit longer. What do you think? What would you do? If you're in this situation or you had someone who come to you in your friend group and said, do I tell? But maybe it would help him out. Maybe

it would make him a better person, unburdening him, and maybe your relationship would be stronger. You've come a long way in 11 years. I don't know. God. It's awful. I can see why... I don't think the lady you did it with could plenty remember it from 11 years ago. Oh, yeah? Vaguely.

Well, that was pretty quick. But still, it's, I just could love with it. So I'd have to say it, but I'm definitely in the minority here. Minority, yeah, minority. John O'Ben and Megan, the podcast. That's. In the middle of today's Dear Megan, where it's pretty one-sided, I think, the advice on this one. Dear Megan.

So, a husband has messaged me 11 years ago. He did cheat on his wife, and he's like, look, I stayed quiet at the time, and I've turned my life around. I've been really loyal. I haven't done it again. Righty, righty, rah. but a friend of theirs is going through a cheating scandal and so it's obviously brought the feelings to the top

and he wants to know should he tell his wife. A lot of women on Facebook, especially, have said don't tell her, which is interesting. They wouldn't want to know. Steph says, in my opinion, telling her now would only relieve you of what you're feeling from the situation, which has only come to the surface because of what your friends are going through. for her that's 11 years worth of lies as you never came clean at the time how do you come back from that

you don't should question what else you've been hiding well you did say that it's you know he's put it to well he hasn't put it to bed he put someone to bed 11 years ago but uh he it's a years ago he's made peace with it yeah he's moved on from it well has he though has he well he's brought it back up again he says he's been playing on his mind for all through that time well 11 years ago he did it now he's written into a radio station slow burn slow burn yeah well true a lot of time to bring it up yeah producer grace now you're 23 years old yes thriving yeah 24 he's 24 now yeah I've been 24 for like six months strong oh happy birthday yeah now now you are obviously anti cheating is as most

people ask your thoughts I'm very opinionated on the fact that he should tell her because if I was her I would want to know and yes they say it's like 11 years of lies and she'll think about that. But it's true, it's 11 years of lies and she deserves to know. Yeah, interesting. You know, a lot of younger people take that stance. Age and stage, though, isn't it, too? Yeah, I think life becomes a little bit more grey and nuanced as you get older.

Yeah, I don't have kids. It depends. If I had kids, I feel like I would understand the different side more, but I just don't understand it. I think you should tell her 100%. All right. Amelia and Taranaki, morning to you. Morning, morning.

Spicy, spicy, spicy topic today. Doggy. What do you reckon? Well, I think he needs to just keep quiet, to be fair. Let's sleeping dogs lie. You know, as much as you kind of want to know, you want to know at the time, not 11 years later. And, yeah, he needs to forgive himself. He's only going to benefit him, him, and destroy probably what he had.

Well, because, I mean, if she did find out 11 years ago and they stayed together, they would have worked through it well by now and moved on to a whole other chapters in life. Exactly, exactly. Whereas 11 years later, like, nah, don't do it to benefit yourself because it'll destroy her. Okay. Fair point, Amelia. Fair point. Don't make her life a lie for something that you've grown from, you know? But yeah. I don't know. I was just like, I couldn't do it. I couldn't do it. Like every day. But he's managed to do it for 11 years. I know, but then might be a point now. He's like, I can't do it anymore.

He made the choice. Now he has to live with it, I think. If he didn't do it at the time, don't do it 11 years. later. God, right before Christmas. Please, no. I had hair 11 years ago. A lot changes in 11 years. Did I know? No, I already lost it by then what I'm talking about. Jess, morning to you. Good morning, how are you? We're doing well, Jess. Do you think he should tell or keep it

shh? No, I think why hurt her? If he feels like so guilty about it, go see a priest instead. Yeah. Okay, go tell someone on the street. Confess to the priest. Yeah. No, that's a fair point. That's a fair point. Maybe that's what you need to do, Ben.

Just go to a priest and like... Well, you've become religious first. Just be like, I've got so much to do this. I'm not really religious, but I'm thinking if he feels guilty and why hurt your wife, go and tell a priest. And maybe that's his punishment. His punishment is to have to live with it. Yeah, maybe that's it.

Okay, Megan, well, I think it's pretty clear way everyone's thinking. Yeah, don't tell her. At least sit with the decision a little bit longer till after Christmas. After Christmas. Good Lord. Don't tell her now, please. Dad's ruined Christmas. Yeah, well, that's true.

right now is probably not the greatest time. John O'Ben and Megan, the podcast, the hits. Starting to slowly realise I think human-to-human interaction might not be for me, okay? I've said that many times. Yeah. Megan said that. You persist, though, and that's, you know, the definition of idiocy. going, oh, we're hugging. Oh, we're hugging.

Not everyone loves physical touch, especially from, like, people that don't know. So anyway, that point forward, I made a mental note, never hug again in a meeting room. Okay, then Kids Can, the wonderful team from Kids Can, we did the handball with, they came in for a bit of a debrief after the handball. To be fair, we spent, you know, 24 hours with them, and we were in a deep, dark hole in the middle of the night with them. Yeah, I can't remember what we said a lot of the time to them as well. catch up them again and I noticed that people, not me, people, started engaging in hugs around the meeting room.

So I'm like, okay, well, there's some textbook hugs going along here. Ben, I think you even got involved in a huger. But you had reinstated your rule of no hugs. Well, I was kind of like, everyone's doing it before me, so now I'm obligated to hug. But the problem was, in between me and my target was a giant border room table. Don't say target No target sounds weird Isn't it

Victim And so then I was like Oh we're better going for a hug And so then we both kind of leaned forward Torsos About a 45 degree angle Over the table And I ended up with both my arms

Fully stretched out She didn't have long enough arms And I ended up both my hands on her shoulders Just kind of tapping both of her shoulders Babes it wasn't that big a table You could have just scooted around I know Yeah

You're right Yeah and they're folded and half over the table. Just be like, oh, hang on and... Hang on and come around, too. Come round. Yeah. It's kind of like I was trying to burp a baby or something.

John O'Ben and Megan, the podcast. That's... Tom Sainsbury. Okay, so there's a lot going on in the studio right now. Tom Sainsbris come on in. Dressed as, well... As Alf number three? Alf number three, okay.

And Lara, was it? Yeah, it's Lara. Lara, you're elf number... Four. Okay, four. What happened to one and two? Do we talk about that or not? Yeah.

They're the big stars. They don't, they don't have to do it, the promotions. They stay in their, they stay in their caravans. What is all of this an aid of? We are doing a Christmas show called a Christmas crisis, and we, it's a comedy dance show, and it's been performed at Q Theatre in a couple of weeks. Oh, my God, Tom.

Are you dancing? I'm dancing. Yes. And as we say, we go really hard. Like, the dancing's good. We go hard on the dancing. We try, like, it's not us. taking the piss out of dancing.

We're trying really hard to be good at it. Lara is a dancer and a choreographer. I'm an enthusiast. I'm an enthusiast. We have paid you to dance in the past, which makes you a professional dancer. There we go. There we go. There we go. There we go.

But one of our storyline, so the reason we've got this cupcakes, and please just take, you're going to have to take one. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Oh, there's little reindeer coming. There's Rudolph and there's Christmas tree ones. So it's a Christmas-themed kind of storyline. So there's Alves and there's Santa Claus and all that kind of carry on.

But we're also taking a pastiche of the kind of hallmark Christmas, you know, the romance ones. The girl returns to the hometown and falls in love with the turkey farmer. That kind of story. The holiday. I love it. M.M.D.S. or something. And Lara's also playing, as well as an hour, she's also playing Ashley, who is a cupcake shoppy. And she falls in love with the prince.

Oh, wow. I love the storyline. Netflix movies. Agneepa's all told within like an hour and a half. Yeah, they're too well to get to us. Is that, could I take my children to it? You can't, the warning I'm giving, the warning I'm giving is that we do play a Lily Ellen song that has a certain word in it.

Do you know the one? Yeah, my son knows it too, so. Okay. My daughter's also in the show, which is a way of getting around some babysitting. She's 12 and a half. That's actually quite smart, isn't it? It's good. Bring your kid to work.

If you're prepared, if you're, if you're ready to cough every time, Lily Ellen says that particular word, you'll be fine. You don't want to be that person coughing all the way. You're very, very much. The lady coughed me that whole song. How long to take you to, you know, come up with a show like this and write it and... This one's been a little bit special because it's the first Christmas. We've been doing this for 13, we've done 13 shows,

but this is the Christmas one. We're trying to kind of fill the pantomime kind of market. So we actually had it on sale in April before we'd even written it. So we're like, Oh, really? It's a really good approach, though, is like, sell tickets, see if there's any interest in anything, and then go, okay, God, we've got to come up to the show. Okay, now we've got to make it, yeah.

100%. People want to come along and see it. How can they get tickets? Qtheta.com.com. Awesome. And while you hear, Tom, because I think producer Troy was like, hey, Tom's coming in today, there's a bit of a surprise, which is great. We love seeing it.

But then he's like, I've had three emails over the last week about three different projects. So do you want to rattle off all your other projects right now? I do. Savi you're coming back? Yeah, this is so good. Okay, you're ready? You're ready? So there's the show.

So Christmas crisis, 10th to the 20th of December. Then I've got my podcast, third season of my podcast, Small Town Scandal coming out, which is a true crime parody podcast on High Heart Radio. And that's like, so my third season. So true crime podcast, like serial and stuff like that, I've taken the piss, and I'm playing all the characters in it. It's very good. It's very good, mate.

Did you say 30? 30 characters, I know, but by the time you get to the end, you're like, I'm scraping the bottom on the barrel of this. You got it, you got it, oh, just to draw out, whatever. Award winning podcast though as well. It is, I know. And then the final thing is I'm also kind of the face at the moment of electric Uber.

So like pushing people to go, you know what, why don't I go electric and be better on the environment? There's no busier man in show business. Hey, well, lovely to see you both. Good luck for the show. We really are on the countdown to Christmas right now and something we started early November was tried to avoid

Mariah Carey's all I want for Christmas for as long as possible if you hear it you're out of the game malls, social media Santa parades they're all places that have caused people to be eliminated from the game I was really surprised

didn't get attacked with it at the Santa Parade on Sunday Megan you were up high did that mean you couldn't hear as much up there on the stills you think? We were around our own float, which was Kelly Clarkson's under the Christmas. Oh, and just pounding it out. Couldn't hear much other than that.

Honestly, I felt sorry for the people who the float would drive past, just assaulted in the face with Kelly Clark. We turned it up loud. Yeah, they do. They crank it up. But we did, afterwards, Megan, you got out of the game because. At Santa's after party. Yeah.

So you're now out of the game. PJ seems to be the last person from the, one of the last people from the hits still in the game. Claire, are you in or out? I'm still in. You're still in? We're about so you're calling from. Tamuka. What's been the key?

What's been the key ingredient to lasting so long, Claire? There's no mall here. No malls, say? It's probably, yeah. What about the supermarket? They haven't started yet, but I'm scared to go in now. Well, you've got to get to Friday. We've decided to hear on the hits that Friday.

If you get to Friday, you've clocked the game because management, like, we need to start playing the song. It's getting later than everyone thought, all right? So you've got to hang in this all Friday, okay? Will do Okay All right Thank you Claire Someone's texting

Saying they're still In the Mariah game But out of There's one in the UK Similar sort of thing Whamageddon Oh yeah They try and avoid hearing this song

Last Christmas And we got her out On the Hits Because we're legally allowed To play last Christmas Oh gotcha So yeah Speaking of which

He's from the Hits in Southland Whoa good morning Hi Lance And Megan Hi Hello I'm out And I'm okay with it.

You're okay. He's okay with him. He's okay with him. Peace. Okay, so you're a peace. You've had a good run. You've had a good run. So what happened?

How'd you get out? Well, my lovely wife, she's a T-Moo fanatic. But that's a story for another day. But she ordered this Advent calendar, and it was a Christmas song Advent calendar. So each day you use your Spotify and you scan the code and it plays a Christmas song. And obviously, day one, and it said, this is a song by Marion Carey. You're like, well, they can't be even the Moriah Carey version, we're in the Claire. It's Marion's version, but sure enough, it was dead and it was Mariah, and all I want for Christmas is you, and that's it.

I am out. Thank you, Timu, and thank you, Marion. Maybe it was Timu's way of, you know, tip-y-toeing around copyright. I'm sure it is. That is so funny. Well, hey, look, my goal was to make the top 30 days, and I've made that, so I'm okay. You did well. I mean, yeah, you've got four weeks into it, really.

I know you're in Southland, well, is it everywhere? Getting reports of it in the malls and shops? Well, you know, I'm involved in like we have a big Christmas variety show down here at the stadium. And every time I'm there rehearsing, they've got Christmas music blasting. I'm thinking I'm going to hear it. I'm going to hear it. I've been lucky up to this point. So now, of course, I'm going to hear it every single day.

What exact day in time did you get out, Wall? I just kind of need to know if I beat you. It was this morning. So after you, Megan. Damn it. You beat me, Wall. She's very competitive. She's very competitive.

I don't even think probably come top five at work. No, not now, Megan. Not now. No. Yeah, thanks. Hey, well, thank you so much, mate. And have a wonderful day.