Jono, Ben & Megan - The Podcast - The Burner Phone 58: Jealousy In A Relationship...

Episode Date: July 30, 2023

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The Hits with Jono and Ben's Burner Phone Kids sports, kids whatever, they've got lessons, bits and pieces. You know, it's the weekend's go. We're hitting the netball courts Saturday morning. Saturday morning, early at the netball courts. Yeah, having to be there at 8 o'clock these days for the Saturday morning. I know the courts you play on too. It's got a real blistering cross breeze. No matter how hot it seems outside of the court, you get to there and you're like, whoa, it's its own little climate, little ecosystem there.

It is because it kind of sits in a little hole, I know what you're talking about. The amateur netball going well, are they having some wins? Lots of fun, yeah, I mean, it's the main thing, you know. I know having fun is the main thing, but when does winning become the main thing? When do we make

that change, that gear change? Yeah, true. I mean, I think the kids, you know, they do like to win. I think all kids, you know, like to. No one likes to lose in life. No, even though you're having fun, you still probably like to win, don't you? Even, you know, the football ferns last night, they were devastated after, you know, being knocked out.

And I don't think losing gets any easier. Yeah. You just probably learn how to move on to the next thing a bit better, don't you? A couple of weeks ago, my daughter's team was playing against someone whose coach was a former Silver Fern. And I was like, oh, Jesus. Jump in the car, kids. I'll go get a coffee or something.

And, you know, they were, geez, they were good. Why don't you just say, hey, text us when you're done. I'll be in the car. It's quite cold out here by the courts. Yeah, when you see a former sports representative coaching a team, you're like, guys, I'm going to get the car out. It's quite cold out here by the courts. Yeah, when you see a former sports representative coaching a team, you're like, guys, I'm sorry. Oh, they're turning up. They're putting their reputation out there, you know? They are. And I'm like, yeah, and they were, geez, they were good. They were very good. Jeff Wilson,

former All Black, he was also an accomplished basketballer as well, Jeff Wilson. Yeah, and a cricket player as well. He was a very, very talented sportsman. Yeah, and he's a talented coach. As it turns out, his basketball team is they are guns yeah they are like almost like why aren't you in the nba you know to that point again he's putting his reputation on the line yeah because you don't want to be like oh jeff wilson's team shambled i thought he was like a really talented athlete you know yeah you're right We used to work with a former cricketer. He was always cautious about playing social cricket. I understand.

Because if he goes hard, then everyone's like, oh, calm down, mate. You played international cricket. But then if he takes it soft and gets beaten around, everyone's like, oh, he's completely washed up. So it's a fine balance between flexing but not flexing too hard. I'll tell you what I really appreciated. We were lucky enough to talk to Sean Wallace, who's one of the stars of the chase. And I did like the fact that he's up for

quiz competitions. He's like, I'll lose a whole lot. But I learn stuff from that as well. So it's quite good because I thought he'd be quite protective because he's meant to be the expert on the chase. The guy who never loses. He's like, I get beaten all the time. But I learn stuff and he's so knowledgeable. But it's quite interesting because you're right.

Normally you wouldn't put yourself in that situation. I can never get sick of quizzing. Like you're just wandering around. Hey, Wallace, I'll take you on in a quiz. All right, here we go. What have you got? Just getting a coffee, but okay. Yeah, hey, the Burner phone.

This is what we do every day. You leave us a voicemail if you want to get the Burner phone number. Just text BURNER to 4487. Directly bounce the number back. Bounces the number back. What an age we live in. And here's today's message. I have a question.

My girlfriend makes $70,000 at her current job. She went to a job interview today. She calls me and tells me she got the job and she's going to be making $100,000 a year. The only problem is her ex from five years ago is the company. I tell her it's going to make me uncomfortable knowing that she's going to be around him all day, every day. I tell her if she takes the job, I'm leaving because I know I'm not going to be able to handle it. If she loves me and wants to stay with me, she's not going to take the job And she's going to go somewhere else My question is, am I doing too much? Does that make me insecure?

If you were her, what would you do? What does it sound like an Instagram story? I think it is from an Instagram I think I saw that on Instagram So someone's probably just loaded that onto a Played that down the line to a Oh well thank you for playing it And it's a great dilemma too

And the best thing is we don't have to give that American guy the $50 petrol card. Yeah. But what a dilemma. So just to recap, his partner is going to work with her ex, and the money's really good. And he's like, I don't want you hanging around with your ex all day. It really depends on the circumstances. How did they break up? I also think, interesting one to put out,

how's the partner going to feel if we're putting this out everywhere online? Yeah. Is the partner aware that we're like a very niche podcast? All right, here we go. Here's what we'll do. Is the partner going to be like, hey, thanks for your opinion, but I think I'll just live my life. What would you do?

Okay, let's say Amanda's come come to you and go on a hot, you know, my ex-hot Jeff. Yeah. And you're like, oh, bloody hot Jeff. What's he doing these days? Well, he's turned into a multimillionaire. He's got a multinational company, in fact, and he would like me to be on the board of that.

But it does mean some long days with hot Jeff. A lot of work, travel overseas. Yeah, a lot of business trips with hot Jeff. A lot of work travel overseas. Yeah, a lot of business trips with Hot Jeff. Oh, really? Hot Jeff, yeah. Is he still hot, Jeff? Yeah, no, he still is. He's still hot.

Well, yeah, it is a funny one. You like to all feel like, in a lot of ways, that you'd be secure enough in your relationship to go, no, it's fine. You know, at the same time. I don't know. I would. I don't know if I would.

But I'm not going to tell someone to turn down a job. That's on there. That's there. That's there.. That's their call to make. Yeah, I would go, how would this make you feel? I'll leave that with you. And then I'd walk away. And then she'd probably go, well, I'm still taking the job. It's another 30 grand more a year.

It makes me feel pretty good as well. You hope that your relationship's in a good place. Some people remain very good friends with their exes. And, you know, the new partners don't have an issue with it. Some, I think, even end up in the wedding party. That's right. You're right. It probably depends on the circumstances of the breakout, the relationship, your current relationship.

There's so many things that play into that. You couldn't really have a hard or fast roll. Look at my hero, Dwayne The Rock Johnson. He's in an interesting relationship. Yes. You know? So his wife moved on with his gym trainer.

Yeah, his ex-wife. And they all get on great. They all holiday together. You know, in that situation as well, it'll be like, yeah, fine. So I would say in this scenario, if Dwayne The Rock Johnson's new wife

said, I want to go personal train with your ex or whatever it is, he'd be like, yeah, sweet, whatever. You know? say in this scenario, if Dwayne the Rock Johnson's new wife said, I want to go personal train with your ex or whatever it is, he'd be like, yeah, sweet, whatever. So I feel like it's down to personal preference. It is, yeah, you're right. But personally, our preference would be that our wives don't go and work with Hot Jeff. Hot Jeff, yeah,

if it's Hot Jeff. Stay with Ugly Ben and Ugly Jono. It's a no-go with Hot Jeff, isn't it? Well, thank you very much for your message, whoever that was, and if you would like to leave a voicemail on the Burn? Well, thank you very much for your message, whoever that was. And if you would like to leave a voicemail on the Burner Phone. If you want to join the Burner Phone podcast, text BURNERPHONE to 4487 and we'll send you our digits. You could be on tomorrow's episode.