Judge John Hodgman - Fudgie the Bail

Episode Date: August 30, 2017

Kate brings the case against her husband, Aaron. Aaron insists on baking cakes for every birthday party or special event. Kate would rather he focus his energy on helping her with their two young kids instead of baking elaborate cakes. Who's right? Who's wrong? Thank you to Jesse Madsen for suggesting this week's title! To suggest a title for a future episode, like Judge John Hodgman on Facebook. We regularly put out a call for submissions.

Welcome to the Judge John Hodgman podcast. I'm bailiff Jesse Thorne. This week, Fudgie the Bail. Kate brings the case against her husband, Aaron. Aaron insists on baking cakes for every birthday party or special event. Kate would rather he focus his energy on helping her with their two young kids instead of baking elaborate cakes. Who's right? Who's wrong? Only one man can decide. Please rise as Judge John Hodgman enters the courtroom and presents an obscure cultural reference. I threw it in the bin because I didn't want to present it.

I didn't want John Hodgman to judge the way my case came out, so I'd rather present nothing. Bailiff Jesse Thorne, swear them in. Kate and Aaron, please rise and raise your right hands. Do you swear to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, so help you God or whatever? I do. I do. Do you swear to abide by Judge John Hodgman's ruling, despite the fact that he recently celebrated his birthday with a birthday pie?

Yes, I do. Very well, Judge Hodgman. You may be seated. In fact, it was an ice cream birthday pie. Which, is that a sandwich? I don't know. By the way, I'm going to jump way ahead here, Jesse Thorne, and say thank you to Jesse Madsen for naming this case Fudgie the Bale, which, of course, is a reference to the old Carvel ice cream cake Fudgie the Whale that I grew up with at many a birthday party.

It is the most tortured and, frankly, given the circumstances of this case, inappropriate legal metaphor to suggest that Fudgie has anything to do with bail. But it made me laugh. So I used it anyway. This does have to do with bail but it made me laugh so i used it anyway uh this does have to do with cakes however so aaron and kate given that as the subject matter can either of you name for an immediate summary judgment in one of yours favors the piece of culture that i referenced as i entered the courtroom uh aaron why don't you go first what's your guess i'm going with a julia child's reference julia child so that was a quote of julia child's of some kind yes all right she is a very uh famous uh culinary television personality it's a reasonable guess i'm still here at weru

in maine with a guest engineer joel mann joel is that a reasonable guess very reasonable judge all right we'll put it in the guest book then. All right, Kate, what's your guess? I'm going to guess The Baking Bible by Mary Berry. The Baking Bible by Mary Berry. What do you think, Joel? Reasonable guess? Too reasonable, actually. Too reasonable.

I'll make a note. And now I will compare those and I will take that note into account and i will stare deeply into joel mann's eyes here in maine and all guesses are wrong i'm afraid uh first of all thank you for mentioning julia child one of my very favorite people uh in the world uh but you're wrong you're wrong aaron kate you got close closer than anyone so far has in this two-person contest for this particular cultural reference. Because you mentioned Mary Berry, who, of course, until very recently, was one of the judges on what is known in the UK as the Great British Bake Off, known in this country as the Great British Baking Show. Do you know why, Kate? Because Pillsbury trademark situation, right? Yeah, Kate knows it.

Pillsbury owns the concept of a bake off in the United States only. Kate, since you knew that kind of deep cut Great British Bake Off trivia, you should have absolutely picked up on what I was throwing into the bin for you to pick up out of the bin did you not watch the very famous fourth episode of the fifth series where ian can't make his baked alaska i did and he thinks it's because diana took his ice cream out of the freezer for a while and so it didn't set so he threw it in the garbage bin rather than present it to the judges leading to him to be immediately disqualified then diana left the show under circumstances pertaining to her health i believe but was vilified for

it would seem sabotaging ian's ice cream for the baked Alaska. So, Kate, you are eliminated from this competition, I'm afraid to say. And so are you, Aaron. And thus, as you're both eliminated from this competition, we have to go to the main event, which is the case that you have brought before me. Kate, your complaint is that Aaron is making cakes for your child's birthday party. What's the problem with that? I know it sounds extremely lovely. And it

is it's incredibly sweet that he wants to make cupcakes and cakes for parties and events. However, there is limited time and limited resources in our world right now. And it causes an immense amount of chaos and stress. And I just about lost my mind at our daughter's fourth birthday with a tiny baby. And he's basically completely out of commission for 48 hours because he has to gather the ingredients and practice and, you know, ponder life or whatever of a baker. And so it means that I'm doing everything else, all of the logistics and all of the child care for that 48 hours. And it's just a challenge. So I would like to just buy them. You just like to buy cakes and get just check that off the list.

Correct. And you guys live in in Austin, Texas. Do I understand that correctly? We do. So I don't understand why you're not just going out and getting a brisket from Franklin Barbecue and just having a meat cake. That's a great idea. That sounds pretty good.

Yeah, it is a really good idea. I only have the good ones. For four-year-olds, they would love it. So you have two children, a four-year-old daughter and a baby. How old's your-olds. They would love it. So you have two children, a four-year-old daughter and a baby. How old is your baby? He's almost nine months. And tell me about the most recent birthday party.

What went down that broke this camel's back? So Aaron decided to make Batgirl cupcakes. Batgirl was the theme. And Maya, our daughter, wanted it to be pink and purple. And so we... Quick question. Sure. Which Batgirl?

Oh. Barbara Gordon or Stephanie Brown? Oh, I think Barbara Gordon. That's the redhead, right? Yeah. I mean, but I'm not quite sure. That's my... If you hear me, I'm coming to a quiet judgment.

Yes, I can tell that that was the wrong answer. No, it's a pretty mainstream Batgirl party. That's all I'm saying. Yes, it was definitely very mainstream. Was it an insult to the development of the character Barbara Gordon, who had been paralyzed by the Joker, but developed into the much more interesting character of Oracle, seeding the cowl of Batgirl first to Cassie Kane and then to Stephanie Brown fan favorite,

only to have that taken away during an ill-advised reboot to have Barbara Gordon not only become Batgirl again, but now be able to walk? Yes. That's not a rhetorical question. I'm answering it. Yes. I was wrong. Yes.

But I understand. Yes, I was wrong. But I understand. Most people think of Barbara Gordon Batgirl, Yvonne Craig from the TV show Batman. So, all right, what were we talking about? Cakes? Pink and purple cakes. Okay.

So it was deeply insulting to all things because really it was just pink and purple party with the Batgirl symbol. That's pretty cool. That's pretty cool. Whose idea was that? That was our daughter's idea. She likes Batgirl? Oh, yes. I mean, you know, she goes through phases. So in that moment, she was into Batgirl. There have been times when my daughter demanded to be referred to as Batgirl. Like would not respond to any other name. It didn't get that bad. But she does have she's a very um opinionated child for sure so she planned this to a t so she wanted pink and purple and so aaron decided that he was going

to make the uh cupcakes from scratch and he was going to go and literally buy the ingredients to dye the actual frosting. So he wasn't even going to buy any kind of pink and purple frosting. He was going to make it himself and buy all of the, you know, sprinkles at this very fancy bake shop and like the whole nine yards. Wait, by the ingredients to dye the frosting, do you just mean food coloring? I think so. Or are you talking about he was like grinding up cochineal or something? There is very specific food coloring for, as you would know from watching the Great British Baking Show,

there's very specific food coloring that doesn't add additional liquid to your mixture. So we went and found that food coloring. And by the way, she picked out the colors, the exact ones that she wanted too. That's adorable. Why do you hate food coloring so much, Kate? Okay. So when he took her to the baking place, that was great, right? Because that was a break from me having to clean the house for all of the family who was going to arrive and doing all the grocery shopping and all of that good stuff. So that part I enjoyed. But then when he takes himself sort of out of rotation of the parenting and cleaning and other preparation, you know, cycle to just then bake for 24 to 48 hours, that is the challenge,

right? It's about timing. The intent is fabulous. It's the timing and how he likes to live his life like a reality show where it's, you know, down to the last five second count. And that makes me absolutely insane. Like I can barely even watch it on television because it just stresses me out so much, let alone live that reality. I just want to have everything done, you know, so that when there's diaper blowouts and all of the things that happen in life, it's just not that we're late to our own party, which has definitely happened multiple times. Did you say 24 hour project or 48 hour project? I mean, I think the whole thing was like, including the shopping, it was probably 48 hours. It's 48 hours.

It involves a trip to Costco as well to get a 50-pound bag of flour so we can get everything just right and like 10 pounds of cream cheese to make it just right too. Did you say a 50-pound bag of flour? There's thousands and thousands of cupcakes. What are you making? Cake for your entire pirate ship? There's a lot of cake action that happens. Both ovens are going in the toaster oven.

So there's some there's some stop talking stop talking now answer this question how many cupcakes did you make oh i would say probably 150 to 250 how many guests did you have oh well no that was like the prep cupcakes the cupcakes for the actual people was, I think we made 60 cupcakes. Wait a minute. So, Kate, when you said that he had to practice making cupcakes, you meant that literally? Literally. Because he's never done it before.

How many times, Aaron, did you make cupcakes before you made the actual cupcakes? Actual cupcakes are in my mind watching the Great British Baking Show. I don't want to know what it's like in your mind at all. Maybe once. Maybe never. Maybe twice. Yeah. It's not very.

No, I mean, during this particular weekend, you made like two practice rounds. Oh, no. I don't think he means in your life you made like two practice rounds. Oh, no, no. He don't think he means in your life. He made two practice rounds. I think he means in my life before that. No, I mean during the time that you were not available to be a father. Oh, probably. Well, I made about 150 or so of them.

So I don't know. Probably for about seven, eight hours. Hang on. Let me ask you this. After you made in your 150 round cupcake making practice sesh, after you hit 75 cupcakes, didn't you kind of know what you were doing at that point? Like, was there an appreciable difference between cupcake number 75 and cupcake number 149 well judge all i can say is the output

all of the cupcakes were gone at the end of the the party all 150 plus the 60 that you made no no i took about 60 to the party the 150 went down they didn't uh. I took about 60 to the party. The 150 went down. They didn't make it to the party. Those were testers to get the ingredients right. The first 90. I've noted that the children at a birthday party ate the cupcakes that were served to them. That doesn't prove anything. It doesn't prove that your procedure was necessary, but that's what I'm trying to determine and my question to you was if you made 150 practice cupcakes is that correct yes all right what did you learn between cupcake number 75 versus cupcake 150 well the big thing i learned about it was uh there was a couple of big like

lessons learned and it was uh around the temperature of the butter. When you put butter into the whole mixture and get it going, it changes the way the cupcakes rise. And so, and then sifting the flour one time I didn't lift it. And I was like, you know, it's not, it's not really lifting. So I lifted the sift of the flour. So there was some, there was definitely some lesson learned. And, uh, and I stopped when I was like all right this is the good batch this is how you do it and that was after 150 cupcakes that's when there's 24 in a tin

and i i'm just guessing it was about six batches in those tins so it was after batch six that's where you really felt like you got it that's where it was nailed yep and what'd you do with all those cupcakes that you didn't bring to the party oh Oh, they didn't make it into anyone's mouth. So they weren't used, unfortunately. Some were burned. Some were undercooked. You binned them. Yeah.

Were you following a recipe? I was. I was. You shouldn't have to think that hard about that. Do you know what a recipe is? Well, I've learned from Kate that baking in particular requires a recipe. You can do technique within the recipe, but you need to have the right, don't mess with the measurements. Don't mess with anything.

Get a recipe. Use it. Make the cupcakes. Find someone you trust. A baking book that someone you trust a baking book that you trust a cupcake book that you trust follow the recipe what recipe were you using uh i think for this one i think i was using the um uh cooked country the seven seasons one they had a best cupcake recipe in there that i used huh if only you could have found a recipe where they had made hundreds upon hundreds of cupcakes ahead of time to refine the techniques. Yeah. If only they had some sort of test kitchen right here in America where they could have practiced and tested and checked to see in what manner you should make those cupcakes.

Not only do they have a test kitchen, but it is specifically in my hometown of Brookline, Massachusetts. That's a state in New England, Jesse, a Commonwealth, actually. There's a slight difference. I'll tell you about it later. But and that's where Judge John Hodgman, listener and litigant Afton works. You are insulting the work they do there, sir. That's all they do is make hundreds and hundreds of the things to look at and be persnickety about until they get to the one that works. So did you follow the recipe and what happened when you followed the recipe? I did. I followed the recipe and it came out okay. And then I made a couple of tweaks in the way that I prepared the recipe. But I stuck to the same amount of flour and sugar and butter.

How dare you tweak an America's Test Kitchen recipe? Who are you, sir? How long have you been baking? Not long. Not long. Permission to treat the witnesses hostile. I grant it. To me.

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Aaron wants to continue his tradition of baking for family birthday parties. But his wife, Kate, wants to keep it simple and buy cakes at a bakery. Why does Aaron insist on baking? Let's go back into the courtroom to find out. How long have you been baking that you've been developing all these new techniques to change recipes on the fly? Well, I'll say I bought my first 50-pound bag of flour to figure out how to make a great chocolate chip cookie. And that was probably about three years ago. Can I give you a tip on how to... I've done a lot of experimenting with chocolate chip cookie. And that was probably about three years ago. Can I give you a tip on how to, I've done a lot of experimenting with chocolate chip cookies.

It's probably my favorite baked good. Can I give you a suggestion on how to make a great chocolate chip cookie? Yes. Follow that Cook's Illustrated recipe. They already tested it at America's Test Kitchen. They did it a thousand different ways and they tell you how to do it. It comes out great. Ooh. Yes. different ways and they tell you how to do it it comes out great yes well let me ask you this as an inventive improviser in the baking kitchen what did you do right that our listener and litigant afton cyrus did wrong on these cupcakes specifically. What did you change in the recipe? I didn't change anything.

The first few batches, I didn't make sure. I didn't follow what I learned from the chocolate chip cookie with the butter. And so the butter was too cold and didn't really mix into the batter well. And it was just not smooth. And so I did the butter thing and then the next one is i went and i got a flour sifter to make the the ingredients like the baking soda and everything running it through with the sifter just made the the whole like ingredient not changing the ingredient but running it through a sifter made it fluffier mm-hmm kate you're still there all right i still here, I'm having a moment

Tell me about the moment you're having What's your reaction to this? Here's the situation, I should say Aaron is an amazing cook I mean his barbecue does not rival Aaron Franklin but it is excellent and it's how I decided to marry him after two dates because he made a pot roast on our second date

and I was sold So he's a great cook. With that caveat said, these cupcakes were not very good, even after many, many, many tries. Mary Berry would say, I believe, that they were too close textured. Definitely the vanilla ones, they just didn't taste right. They tasted like they were trying to be angel food cake, but not quite. So I think there was some sort of like two creative choices around the sifting and butter and such

that probably weren't exactly the recipe because they were a little firm on top and then smushy inside. The chocolate ones were better, but, you know, these were not so amazing that they needed to happen. They certainly didn't justify to your mind uh him taking himself out of commission on his own daughter's birthday to finalize the cake aaron why don't you make what you know i appreciate that you do a lot of stuff in advance but not enough right why don't you make these cupcakes three days in advance so that you can be available on the day of the birthday. That's definitely an option. But the cupcakes won't be, you know, they'll be sticking around for 24 hours.

So I don't know if they'll taste as good. I just, but to be fair. You already heard from your wife, they don't taste good to begin with. How do you feel about her assessment of your Batgirl cupcakes? I would say the proof is in the cake because I'm pretty sure she had one vanilla and one chocolate. That's not the saying at all. Are these cup puddings or cupcakes? They're cupcakes.

Tell me how your wife is wrong. Well, she had both cupcakes and she looked like she was enjoying them. So I'm thinking maybe history is rewriting itself right now. False. May I remind you that your wife is an individual human being who knows her own mind? It's true. And she's under oath. Aaron, you did 75 percent of this baking for purposes other than serving at the party. Why didn't you do that 75% of the baking

two weeks beforehand or say once a week for the preceding three weeks so that among other things, you could actually eat the cupcakes that came out, even if they weren't perfect? Can I just say something, Bailiff Jesse Thorne? Yeah. Great question. Thank you. You're welcome go on i agree i've been preparing for next year too just already thinking that uh i can get i'm gonna win this or that the judge

will vote in my favor or give a judgment in my favor i've already started baking now for uh for the next birthday party and what are you gonna do for the next birthday party. And what are you going to do for the next birthday party? Well, my chocolate chip cookies are really getting good. And so I'm thinking like a chocolate chip cookie cake with the melted butter in the center and then some ice cream on top. Do it that way. With melted butter in the center? I'm not melted butter. With melted like milk chocolate in the center of the cookie.

Molten chocolate in the center? Yeah, not to burn kids, but just to scald them a little. At no point in this conversation did I worry that your intention was to maim children with your bakery. We knew all along that you just wanted them crispy on the edges and chewy in the middle. Why don't you just get these chocolate chip cookies? Chocolate chip cookies are perfect. Just make the perfect chocolate chip cookies and then give them to the kids. It's true.

In my, well, in the preparing, I've started making my own ice creams. So the whole cookie thing and then some homemade ice cream. So they go together well? The ice cream is not so great. It's pretty melty town. She's right. I have about six more months to get it right, though. You have to put in a little tiny bit of, like, xanthan gum.

Mm-hmm. And then put it in the freezer for a few hours after it's made. And the xanthan gum will help keep it from crystallizing if you leave it in the freezer. But the extra freezer time will help it firm up. You wrote that down. Thanks, Bailiff. Bailiff, Jesse Thorne, I thought that was starting out as a snarky crack, but it turned out it's legit advice.

That's just serious ice cream talk. That's something about which I feel very passionately. Okay, so Aaron, when is this next party happening? Well, the baby turns one in October, so we have to have that situation cleared up. Oh, yeah, that's true. We have two birthdays now. Yeah, that's why we're here.

Oh. I was still going on. Did you not realize that your younger child also has birthdays? Well, yeah. So at the first year birthday, it's not as – no, I guess I hadn't yet. I really hadn't thought about it. He's a very busy dude. You have to kind of – he compartmentalizes well.

I'm excited, though. I have two opportunities, hopefully, to bake and share. Kate, in the time that your partner spent making 150 cupcakes for this party, what efforts did you make on behalf of the party? So I was doing everything else. So I had to buy all the food. And I had to, this is where things get a little bit tricky

because I had to, this is where things get a little bit tricky, because I had to supervise Erin's sister who does all of the decorations and the party favors. And she's amazing. She's literally a saint. But she takes it to a level that is so far beyond where I would ever take party favors for a four year old, I would literally buy them at the grocery store or go to a place that provides them for you at the venue, you know, as part of the package deal. But she handmade 30 different colored Batgirl and Bat, I guess, boy capes.

She, I mean, really, really goes beyond all out for these things and Aaron's sister this is Aaron sister who's amazing so she's possessed of the same mania that Aaron is possessed of correct which is this sort of reality show level push it till the very last minute for example she said she was going to come in on the night before But then she changed her mind to come in the morning of the party, which begins at two o'clock. And it's a four hour drive from where she lives. So we were going to have like less than an hour together to kind of combine all of our various, you know, decorations. And are you taking her to court now, too? She's not even here to defend herself. No, it's just it's a relevant situation because I then have two people who are racing around at the last minute in chaos, which is what makes me want to cry.

OK, so now you have two crazy reality show contestants in your house while you're trying to get everything else ready. Yes. And does he contribute to taking care of the baby or the four year old during this time? No, because he's making cupcakes. Aaron, how do you answer to that? I say that the situation is not completely correct or accurate to the way that it actually went down. Our daughter, Maya, is pretty particular about her color of her cupcakes and the consistency of her cupcakes too. So she spent a significant amount of time doing some quality control for

cupcakes and also for the color of these cupcakes and the consistency of the frosting. So I would say if I was in there eight hours, our daughter was probably in there for an hour. But she's turning four, so she'll go from sitting nicely with him working on the cupcakes to then like finding a permanent marker somewhere and destroying my couch you know how it goes downhill very quickly she still has to be supervised Aaron saying that she was with you defending yourself to say no I was helping take care of our daughter on her birthday she was adjacent to me for a whole hour out of eight that i was hiding in the kitchen it's not a defense is it i don't know but kate you did hear how how maya was going in there and adjusting the colors and and being very

high quality control. How do you feel now that you realize that she has inherited at least half of her dad's reality show DNA? I feel pretty bummed out about it. I mean, it's incredibly sweet, right? I mean, it's a very sweet tableau of the two of them together for that five minutes. But then, you know, it's just an overall chaotic mess because then the sister-in-law is coming in with all of the two of them together for that five minutes. But then, you know, it's just an overall chaotic mess because then the sister-in-law is coming in with all of the favors

and she needs to put it all together. And I've bought three different kinds of hummus because I was getting different feedback from two different people about like, what was the hummus situation for the party? You know, so it's just utter chaos. And that is just not how I roll. And I think a lot of people.

Yes. Get in your car and drive away. That's my ruling. Abandon your family and your town. Don't abandon your family. Please don't do that. But I will tell you this. You have enough going on in your life that you do not need to be doing hummus taste tests for your picky friends. Who was giving you flack about the hummus?

No, it was the question of whether or not we had hummus. I was getting different answers. So I got hummus and then I put hummus back and then I got less hummus and then more hummus. That was sort of the situation. Who was giving you the bum hummus info? Well, I texted Aaron to say, do you have a list from your sister and so he sent me a list but then she sent me a different list that had fewer things on it so i was just getting multiple texts and i'm at walmart with a screaming baby and it was horrible because walmart is the worst

i don't want to hear anything more about the sister it's just between you and aaron this is i understand she's as terrible as he is and you have a lot of things you need to vent they're both wonderful let me just add because i know i sound horrible they're terrible in in my defense judge yeah maya and i i know it's it was only one eighth of the time of her birthday that we spent together in the kitchen. But that one-eighth of the time, it continues to pay in daddy-daughter time now. So we bond over watching cooking shows. And we come in the kitchen. And she's gotten to the point where she says, daddy's the best chef in the world.

And I ask her, how is it? What makes it amazing? And she goes, it's the best chef in the world. And I ask her like, how's it, what makes it amazing? And she goes, it's your secret ingredient, Daddy. It's love. And so I'll make more cupcakes for that. Yeah, kids are adorable. She's wonderful.

It is, of course, lovely that you're baking for your daughter and sharing time in the kitchen with her and sharing this interest in, do you guys watch cooking shows or cooking competition shows? Cooking shows. All right. that's that's wonderful enjoy this until she becomes bored of it and moves on to something else and all of a sudden she's like i need you to make scallops in the theme of uh jason todd the red hood

she's almost there i don't understand my daughter anymore and that's where i am now she's almost there i don't understand my daughter anymore and that's where i am now uh there's no question that that the hour that you had with her on her birthday was great but there was a party going on that you were absent for were you in the kitchen throughout this party because you were trying to hide from people you know do you have party phobia or maybe some people in the family that you'd rather just not deal with? So you're going to make an incredibly arduous task that really shouldn't be as arduous as it is in order to opt out of the social interaction of the birthday party? Well, I am guilty of that other times, but not this time. The party is actually was at a, you know, a kid's playhouse kind of place.

And so all the cooking had to be done before. And so I did complete all the cooking before and participated in the actual party. So it was all in the lead up to the actual party. Yes. It's not like you had your sister and then like your dad-in-law out there and you can't stand talking to him because he believes the opposite about politics or whatever and so you're going to create this busy work for you all right i got it well you know i can't eat your baking but i am going to have to this all comes down to whether or not uh the the high quality of your baking justifies your absenteeism as a co-parent. You're not absent to your daughter, but you're being absent to your wife

who wants your help and is asking for it, and you are not only not providing it, you're not even managing to give her an accurate inventory of your hummus. So since I can't eat your cupcakes, I'm going to have to feast with my eyes on evidence that's been submitted by Kate. I have these photos here.

We're going to share them, obviously, on the Judge John Hodgman page at MaximumFun.org. Here we have an adorable photo of, I'm guessing that's Maya on the right. Is this her second birthday party? Yes. All right. And who's that snowy-haired fellow sitting down on the couch? That is my father. Oh, this is the famous father-in-law.

He seems like such a nice guy. He's amazing. Sitting there. He's just smiling at his granddaughter, drinking a can of Mountain Dew or whatever. It looks more like a Schweppes ginger ale, maybe. And then there's some other people. Who else is in this photo? That's my mom and then one of Maya's friends. It's the only picture I could find with the Elmo

cake because I didn't find it to be particularly, you know, camera worthy. Okay. Right. So let's forget. Thank you, Kate, for keeping me on, on focus here. I'm sorry that I was asking questions about your family. Let's forget about all those human mannequins that are surrounding what really is the focus of this photo, the Elmo cake. Everyone can go now to their internet and look at the Elmo cake. And it's a very small, I can't really see the picture very well here. Do you have a close-up picture of this Elmo cake? I don't. I can tell you it it tasted very good it was a carrot cake recipe he got from some woman at his office and it was it tasted very very good but i had wanted you know fondant and all of the things so that maya would appreciate it visually because you know she was two um and

instead we just got you know he just frosted it with cream cheese frosting and then we put a candle from amazon on the cake. Sorry, I'm Buzz marketing. I know that's not allowed. No, we've already talked up Costco and Walmart in here. We might as well get the hat trick and talk about Amazon. Okay, so you're saying this cake looks like garbage, and Maya was disappointed. And you wanted the cake to look like this other Elmo cake that you sent a picture of,

this totally fondanted out, super smooth. I don't think that's accurate. I don't think Maya thought it was garbage at all. And it was so amazingly tasty. And at two, she couldn't really tell how unattractive the cake was. But the cake had like three pounds of carrots in it. So the kids were having their carrots and it was delicious.

Even though you are mistaking your wishful opinion for another person's inner judgment, once again, I agree with you. There's no way that Maya was disappointed with that Elmo cake. It looks delicious. Now here's some photos of these Batgirl cupcakes. Are these,

because you sent some photos of cakes that you didn didn't make but that you pinterest it up because they were inspiration to you correct are these bat girl cupcakes that are submitted here the ones that were served at the party yes the ones with the maya uh you know logos that yeah the sister made yeah let me say something right now this is the fourth birthday party yeah aaron your skills have gone way up all right these cupcakes look good it looks like some crazy person made 150 of these before you even decided to get going but i like your look i i like your selection of the foil cups. I think that the dolloped frosting and the the pink and purple sprinkles are obviously very well art directed by you and your four year old. I think the presentation is fantastic. I wish I could tell you something about the sponge or the crumb.

But I even if I lick my computer, I won't be able to taste them. So that looks pretty good. This looks like it paid off in a way that the Elmo cake did not pay off, to my mind. Wouldn't you agree, Kate? These look like pretty good cupcakes. They looked totally great for homemade cupcakes. I mean, definitely as good as homemade cupcakes get. And again, the look of them is less relevant to me than the fact that they just didn't taste all that amazing, considering I lost 48 hours of co-parenting with a baby who does not sleep and, you know, a very rambunctious four year old.

And this is what it comes to, right, Kate? This is what you would have me rule. You want your husband back. Correct. So how would you like me to order so i would have you rule that for the kids birthday parties that we got one coming up in october we got one coming up in october we just little nameless boy yes his name is hudson um that we um just do a store-bought bakery cake or cupcake situation so that we can spend the time together all hanging out. And I, you know, one of us can like hang with the kids while another one goes and buys the hummus and all of the sort of normal division of labor as opposed to having a reality

baking competition in one room and then me doing everything else. And so that would be the case till the kids are old enough to choose and participate. So like when they're 12 and he can definitely bake for all of his own personal parties. Like if he has the dudes over for something and he wants to bake cupcakes for them, that's great. Just not for something that involves me. I thought his personal parties meant that his solo pity baking parties. Once I rule in your favor.

We'll see. What about you, Aaron? What would you have me rule if I were to rule in your favor? Status quo, right? That's what every dude wants. Status quo for sure, but uninterrupted status quo. So I would get some allocation of two hours to take whoever the birthday child is to the store to pick out their content. And then four to six hours of baking time to make this thing with one hour being with the kids. Okay.

I think I've heard everything I need to in order to make a decision. I'm going to go into this tent that I pitched in the middle of an English field to contemplate, and then I'll be back in a moment with my verdict. Please rise as Judge John Hodgman exits the courtroom. Kate, how are you feeling right now? feeling right now? I'm honestly shocked. I thought that I was going to have a real uphill climb. I thought that because it's such a sweet gesture that Aaron would have sort of the, you know, sympathy vote and that I would get really grilled. So I'm shocked, shocked. I even sort of feel like I warned Aaron that I was going to get the brunt of it. And then he did. So I mean, I'm feeling really good, which means there could be a surprise situation here. It makes sense that you would feel that way since in your house, I guess Aaron probably does most of the grilling. Very true. Sorry about that. I liked it. Aaron, how are you feeling? I am not feeling good about going into

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Please rise as Judge John Hodgman reenters the courtroom. So, Aaron, let me say, first of all, that you're doing everything wrong. I mean, you're adorable. There's so many things you're doing wrong here. First of all, it is settled law in this court it is not helping unless you are helping in the way you are asked to help helping in the way that you enjoy helping is not helping helping the way someone asks you to help is helping

so you are not contributing to the party or to the larger effort of throwing the party even though you're sharing some very special time with your daughter. You are mainly contributing to your own obsessive mania and enjoyment of forming your own America's Test kitchen in your kitchen when someone else is trying to get a birthday party going. Right. There's that. Second of all, you know, you've already said it, but I need to reiterate it. Baking is not barbecue. There is no jazz in baking.

There is no, let's try this, or let's do this. It's science, much more than any other kind of cooking. And I am not versed enough in the science of baking to evaluate whether your sifting and butter temp improvisations, if indeed they were improvisations, were helpful or less helpful. Because I'm getting mixed reviews on these cupcakes. You say they were fluffy. Kate said that they were dense at the top and mushy at the bottom. And I don't even know what any of this means.

I do know that America Test Kitchen knows its stuff and they are testing things a lot. And I would practice baking for five years before I started monkeying with recipes, which I feel different about any other kind of cooking, where it is not only the case that I am an incredible intuitive cook, but also you can be intuitive. And by the way, barbecue is science, too. I'm sorry about that, Aaron Franklin. But there are ways you can push and pull at that sort of thing but things have to happen at a certain temperature and react in certain ways especially in baking that makes violating recipes really problematic but there is a flip side of that which is that once you find a recipe that provides the output that you like

the kind of crumb and sponge and everything else that you like? Well, you can just stick with it and get to know it really well. And it becomes of a second nature to you. So I'm not saying that you shouldn't be doing trial and error. You should be doing trial and error. You should be trying different cookbooks. You should be trying different recipes. Maybe you'll find ones that you like a little bit better than the others. And maybe over time, you'll find some ways to adjust and mold those together. and you will enjoy doing it because this is what you enjoy doing you love schooling yourself in this esoteric world where things can go really well or they can go really poorly right but the third maybe is the third i can't i've stopped keeping count of the things you're doing wrong but the final thing

you're doing wrong that i'll mention now is that you're doing all of this self-instruction and experimentation that is fun for you too late too late what you should be doing and i think you've already self-corrected on this is six months down the line think to yourself i want to be able to make the perfect chocolate cookie. Let's say that that's what you're going to serve. I want to make the perfect chocolate cookie. I don't want to get so good at it that on the morning of my daughter's birthday, I can make a batch of chocolate cookies in 45 minutes before anyone else in the house gets up and it's done. And then I can help my wife with all of her hummus problems. This is what you should be going for. If you were going to be the kind of help that you want to be to your family, as well as the kind of father that you want to be to your daughter, because you'd be modeling, planning ahead and everything else.

This molten center chocolate chip cookie cake with homemade ice cream feels too ambitious for a fifth birthday party. Because, as you know, kids' tastes are pretty unsophisticated. They love pretty things and they love sweet things. And you can give them both. But you've got to crawl before you can walk. And you've got to walk before you can walk and you gotta walk before you can run and i would aim a little bit lower because a perfect chocolate chip cookie is already a thing of beauty you don't need to trick it out with all kinds of doodads and bangles in order to impress a five-year-old she's gonna say that you're the greatest cook in the world no matter what

you might as well work really hard to be incredibly good at the basics. And I think that this is what you want to do. I'm not yelling at you really too much about this because I think you're on your way here. But if you're really good at the basics, you might just prove your daughter correct down the road. And those are all the things you're doing wrong. Here's what you're doing right. You're baking for your daughter and for your family. here's what you're doing right you're baking for your daughter and for your family and five wrongs don't make a right but one right as profoundly right as this one can definitely overwhelm those five wrongs you know i obviously would throw this and in and in substance i do throw this one to kate she needs you on the day before and the day of your daughter's birthday

it's not project time for you and the amount in of your daughter's birthday. It's not project time for you. And the amount in which your daughter is involved in your project is lovely and adorable and meaningful, but none of it has to happen on the day of or the day before the birthday. This is all, as Jesse Thorne pointed out, you could have been doing a batch of cupcakes every weekend for months leading up to this thing. And then you would have those cupcakes under your belt. And your belt wouldn't fit anymore either because you'd be eating cupcakes all that time. So, Kate, you would have run away with this,

except you said something wrong, which is you want to buy a cake from a store? Come on, Kate. Your daughter deserves better than a cake from a store if you've got a weirdo husband who's teaching himself how to bake cakes and she's getting in there and and picking out those bat girl colors with her dad over at the unnamed supermarket store-bought cake come on i mean maybe if you had some fancy pants bakery that did the greatest buttercream frosting of whatever you might you might get me and knowing they're baked for example

you might i might say okay to that but i already know you go to costco and you go to walmart lots of people do lots of people have to and i i don't think you want to be giving your daughter a Walmart cake when your weirdo husband is in there trying to really live it up and create some incredible baked Alaska or whatever. He's got to be able to do his thing. Baking for your family is a wonderful act of generosity unless you're doing it at the exact wrong time. And then it is a nightmare for everyone else so i i hereby find in aaron's favor not precisely the status quo but the status quo on a much more prolonged time scale such that on the day of and the day before he can be fully present to help in the way his wife asks him to help and the way he is needed to help. of a weird clock and a couple of screaming hosts is not only more pleasurable,

it is how baking has been learned for many, many, many, many generations. And therefore, I am ordering you to skip the reality show and teach yourself to bake properly and then be there on the day of your daughter's birthday. This is the sound of a gavel. Judge John Hodgman rules, that is all. Please rise as Judge John Hodgman exits the courtroom. Kate, you lost, but did you get what you want? Yes, I did. And I completely did mess up because the cake I bought

the year that he didn't bake because I was a little bit pregnant and he was scared of me was from an amazing bakery, one of the best in town, and the cake got rave reviews. So I should have said that, that people would have liked it better. But you know what? I wanted him to win in the sense of for the sentimental favorite kind of a thing. When you say sentimental favorite, you mean you love him and that's why you married him? Correct. And it's so sweet. I know that, you know, the general public listening thinks I'm a monster for wanting him to not bake for our kids. I think the general public may think that Aaron is a monster for being a monster. For torturing me. Thank you. I'm glad that you guys understand. It makes me feel so much better.

Aaron, how do you feel about the verdict? I'm excited. I'm ready to go get another 50-pound bag of flour and get working. How much of this is just about buying 50-pound bags of flour for you? Because you have brought that up a lot of times. It's a lot.

He has an addiction to shopping at warehouse stores. It's like a real problem. Have you tried getting like different kinds of flour i mean what's the like have you tried different brands of flour they're quite different well to judge john's uh point is i haven't messed with the ingredients i've just tried to learn the recipe and the oven and the tools around the recipe so i haven't messed around with different flours yet. Plus, you're pretty committed to Kirkland's signature brand.

It's slal, let's be honest. Well, you two, thank you so much for joining us on the Judge John Hodgman podcast. Another Judge John Hodgman case in the books. Before we get to some swift justice, our thanks to Jesse Madsen for naming this week's episode Fudgy the Bail. If you'd like to name a future episode, like Judge John Hodgman on Facebook. That's where we put out our calls for submissions.

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I'd like you to order them to only cook mushrooms in the house when I'm not around. Sure. So ordered. I think my mouth really wanted to say so ordered and the higher principle of my brain tried to stop my mouth and force it back into saying so ordered. But either way, I order that. I think people smells, people like what they like and they don't like what they don't like to smell. And I know that mushrooms, while I will smell them cooking all day long and enjoy it, I can see how that could drive a normal person around the bend a little bit. And I don't think it's unreasonable to say, hey, I'm going to take a walk. Why don't you cook up some mushrooms now rather than do it around and stinking up my nose?

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