just a little shady - Are We The Problem? - Ep. 3

Episode Date: December 19, 2025

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hello and welcome back to the podcast if you listen last week you know that we did a giveaway on our patreon so if you are a super shady member make sure you go and check out and see who won that was very exciting but also speaking of super shady um we need to talk about our listeners really quickly because after last week, we realized just how much more shady you guys can be than us. Because we completely missed something, and you guys pointed it out. And then after that, we realized that we're not as maybe safety focused as we had once thought. We're not on the tip of our toes anymore, I will say. We're off our game.

And honestly, it's not like us not to... overthink a situation and think through every single possibility that somebody else could have been thinking in an interaction except for this. And typically we also will overthink an interaction after it occurs. So we will think of every possibility. And we will have came to the conclusion, but we missed this. So we talked about how at the wedding that we were at in Florida, I got carted by the bartender but nobody else did and you know here I am he he like maybe he thought I wasn't 21 much we were like whoa that's crazy and haley out of everyone there not even me no one was carded and you guys pointed out in the comments that one maybe the bartender was being sketchy and trying

to see my address or two which is also kind of in the same vein maybe he was trying to confirm like if it was really me who he thought it was but he wasn't sure so he wanted to see my ID to confirm it um we had we had glazed over that that completely went over our heads it did it really did and you know i don't know i would like to think we're on our toes most of the time this was something that we missed but i will also say and again maybe this is just something that's happening right now but i was just in a situation this week where I got approached at the store and we were just talking. I was me and like

a woman probably like in her late 30s, early 40s. We're talking about like how the prices of everything were Christmas shopping are so expensive and like kids' toys are even out of control and they're probably going to like use it once and throw it away. We get into this whole conversation

but the woman started like really wanting to help me find this specific toy for a cheaper price and so she goes on her phone. She's looking it up for me which at this point I was telling her like in the store it was cheaper than what I had found online so I'm like good enough deal for me like the money in my head girl math was already gone so now I'm saving money if I buy it here but she was like no I'm gonna find it cheaper online so she does

we're standing in the aisle for a while she finds it she pulls it up and she keeps showing me on her phone that like it was cheaper at a different store so I'm like it's okay it's okay okay like honestly I think this store price matches so maybe I could just price match it up front I'll show them she's like well I already have it pulled up on my phone and she wasn't saying like let me send it to you but that was a vibe I was getting like well it's already on my phone so I can send it to you but obviously I'm not going to give a random person my phone number but like that was kind of the way the conversation was going so I'm kind of just like oh no it's okay like I'll pull it up on my phone when I go up there and so finally she just gets a point she's like well just take a picture

of my phone screen and then you can show it to them and at that point I just like did I wasn't thinking anything of it I'm like oh she's like being super nice but then it was also to the point where I was getting skeptical because also when people are too nice now I'm skeptical I'm skeptical of everyone in almost any situation so the fact that the bartender thing went over my head It is surprising to me because in this interaction, if I were you, I would say what's going on? Like, who is behind me, like getting ready to, like, steal out of my purse? No, I, in the moment, I was kind of like, okay, it was one of those things where, and I don't know if I'm getting to approachable, because this has been happening to me kind of often recently. Like, women will just be like, well, hey, we'll be hanging out.

Maybe it's just girlhood. Maybe we're just, that's where we are in life. And maybe we recognize that we're in need of, like, a little moment. So this has happened to me a few times in the last, like, I don't know, a couple months where someone will just start a conversation when we're shopping. So I wasn't really totally alarmed, but it gets to the point when the conversation starts, like, going on a little bit longer. And you're like, okay, you know, like, I have so much crap to do.

Like, got to get going. I don't know how to end a conversation in any given situation, especially that one. Well, she was so nice and helpful. And I wasn't feeling. I wasn't feeling sketched out until it started going on too long. And then I'm like, wait. Maybe she felt the same way. Maybe she felt like I was just chatting her up too much.

That could have exactly been it because I fear our social cues, are off right now so maybe she thought like shoot i'm in it like in the thick of it with this woman and she really thinks i'm helping her like i need to provide in this situation and i don't know how to get out of it like maybe she thought the same of you or maybe those listening and or watching right now are like girls this is exactly what was happening in you both right like maybe this is going to be another scenario where they're like no she hacked your whole life and now you're screwed yep that's fine we'll find out i guess by you taking that photo something no because i looked at her phone screen multiple times before i took the picture with my phone there was no QR code or something i was

scanning it was just like simply the website with the cheaper toy um that's what you think that is what i think i guess we will find out i will say i it was after i had just drank my entire coffee for the morning so maybe i was the chatty one i don't know if people are really nice these days but no it's it's hard to say it's hard to say i feel like i've been there yeah well also catching up on some things that we mentioned last week um we're finally at the point of winter right now where it is so cold that our hands are cracked they're static everywhere and what i was asking brittany which neither of us really know the answer to this. No.

How is it 2025 and houses don't, there's no technology for a house to automatically know that it needs to be more humid because I woke up with a nosebleed today and I realize that there is something that Evan has to, that's an Evan job has to do in the, like, to turn on the humidity for winter.

But like, I'm sorry, it's 2025. Where is the technology for that? Because I literally. genetically happened on its own. Honestly, too, I got so mad because I'm like, we have a humidifier in Elliott's room, but I'm like, what's the humidity? I'm like checking his monitor to see. And I'm like, if my nose is bleeding.

Well, I will say this. I will tell you this much. So, you know, you're talking to me today about like the furnace, supposedly the humidifier, how it links to that. Brian also has been saying things of this nature in our house. for about the past week and let me tell you it's the first time i ever knew that homes had their own i thought right it just automatically occurred no i just thought that i don't know i never would have thought that there was a humidifier built into your furnace i don't know what i think a furnace does um

i don't exactly know either i just know that when it's summer evan goes downstairs and he does something and when it's winter he goes downstairs and he does something but in the summer it doesn't affect me as much because obviously it's more humidity so i'm like whatever but in the winter i immediately notice it and i'm like how does this thermostat that reads every single thing i only thought there was like portable humidifiers or dehumidifiers which one are you do we're trying to we want humidity we want humidity so we need a humidifier yeah well i really need one because like my hands are cracked I have a lot to say it like send help send all of your like tips tricks because like I also googled at one point this week like is this the coldest winter in Michigan history because

guess what I thought my cracking hands were coming from how cold it was outside which probably because your house humidity is not it's exactly that and like I two thought that my clothes were so staticy and I thought it was my own doing like when I was at the store this past weekend I was looking at all of the what are they called things that you put it the um dryer sheets yep the dryer sheets I was reading each one I said which one will produce the least amount of static and like I thought it was something to do with that um I was considering buying static guard I'm gonna say this too and I don't know if this matters but I saw a video years ago that dryer sheets are like a scam and you don't actually need them but I haven't used them but I don't I do think they might help with static specifically but I don't

know would you ever take your stuff out of the dryer and it's like stuck together all you hear is the stack and you're like I can't live like this because I get very like overstimulated by my clothes in general like if there's a tag that's like just a little off or itchy like if pants feel too tight like to the point where like and i'll admit this like i don't know if i've told you this story about things i've talked openly about it to many of our friends but like there's a built-in bra with elastic i think elastic is the worst thing to ever happen to any close yeah i'll cut it like so it like stretches and i'm not being suffocated like a sausage and i'll do it in swimsuits too i'll cut that bad boy right on out of there i agree i feel the same way

I noticed the static, but I used to do this in college, which is so gross and crazy. But I had this spray for my hair, and it smelled so good. I don't even know what it was. And it was basically just like water mist that smelled good. And it would always make my hair not staticy. So it got to the point where, like, I used to just kind of like spritz it on myself. And it was so good. But one day I put it in my back.

to go to class and it spilled like it broke it was it was like a hair spray it broke in my bag with like all my stuff so i stopped using it since then um but i used to just spray this spray which quite frankly i think if you just kind of like spritz it with water water in general because it's it would work but i don't know we're still figuring out how to adult you saying that respond like random tangent story and then I'm done I said a crazy thing recently I'm scared um so we just went to Florida so I was on my flight early in the morning to Florida and I had a bad migraine I wake up with migraines nine times out of ten and peppermint oil is one of the few things that helps me bear such hardships and I had my rolly peppermint oil my favorite one I have three or four of them

that go in all the different places I said you know what I'm going to take this one with me because it is my token peppermint oil roller spout it exploded like in my and somebody's going to comment like Brittany you're not allowed to bring that on the plane I don't know I had this little roller thing I think it's fine it's like less than it's probably like a half an ounce you know what I said on the I don't want... I looked at Brian and I go, Brian, it exploded. You can't say that. And then I realized...

I realized what I said it and I was like, I'm going to jail. Like, they are coming for me. They heard me. And then after that, like, I didn't know what to do with myself. So just thought I'd share that we can carry on with our regularly scheduled program. Well, I think...

Yeah, I mean, everyone's done... Not everyone. It's like when you know you're not supposed to do something and you accidentally do it. Like, you can't say that. on the plane so it's just like you're subconscious like I committed a crime you probably it probably did commit a crime they didn't know um back to so don't use peppermint oil no um on a plane don't use hair spray to get rid of static um but yeah I don't really know what the solution is

I just feel like this is a token situation of every year how I know and like shit it's really winter now and like these things happen the hands are one of them i feel like i have crocodile alligator crunchy hands but i'm also washing my hands a million times no germs yeah i do not wish to be sick exactly so it's the same time that you're supposed to wash your hands more and then not get cracked dry hands and it's spraying them with hand sanitizer yeah so i don't really know what the solution is but it feels like christmas you know it's right around the corner if that's happening. And I finally got things going. I also took Elliot to meet Santa, which was very cute. How did he do? He's good as always. He did get a little stranger danger at one point.

Fair. Smart kid. I think I walked too far away with the camera. So when I came back, he was fine. But yeah, it was fun. It was cute. It was, I mean, kind of quick. He obviously didn't tell Santa what he wanted exactly. That's okay. With time. Yeah, with time. But that also leads me to, I've been wrapping gifts this week. Oh, my gosh. And wait, have you, so I have this question, I feel like to a lot of parents, but with Elliot, are you wrapping gifts in front of him? Are you shielding him from his gifts?

I feel like I'd probably do that. I don't know if it's bad to do it. Probably after this year I won't, but this year I have been. I feel like this year. And I'm kind of trying to entertain him, too, like, while I do it. So I'm like, oh, this is something new to watch the papers. I don't know. No, I bet he loves it, too.

I feel like he's a big fan of the crinkle noise right now. Yeah, so he, like, kind of watches, but then I'll be like, no peeking. But obviously, he doesn't really have a clue. Speaking of which, speaking of peeking, are you going to do Elf on the show? So that's something, too, I think, like, maybe, should we, the Patreon bonus content, I feel like we're going to talk about, like, our unfiltered opinions on Christmas. stuff but this is one of them i'm not sure i think i'll get into it more on the patreon but as of right now we didn't have it when we were growing up no because it's new and yeah but i loved

our christmases and like that seems like a lot of work for not a lot of like i've it's we'll get into it on the patreon i actually have a lot to say about you have a lot of opinions i do okay i do i like that but anyways yeah so also this year and i don't know if this is just a thing when you get older but i'm really starting to lean into secret santa instead of gifts and by leaning into it you mean that you kind of have pondered the idea but we're not capitalizing on it yet yes and no we're doing it this year with evans family i like that for the adults like obviously the kids we're getting gifts but Brian's family does but I'm kind of thinking about convincing my family to do it next year because I seriously I need to be contained because we've talked about this

and we said this last year if I get someone a gift it needs to like make sense there has to be something that goes with it or like a package deal like I can't just get one thing and be like okay done I for some reason I'm like oh I got a golf polo now they need a golf sim as your gift card You objectively are a very good, thoughtful gift giver. Thank you. But I'm also, it's like to my own detriment. And now that I have Elliott, I'm like, oh, I want to get him like all the good gifts. And I'm thinking of everything.

But then I'm trying to get like 20 gifts for every other person too. And I'm like, I just don't have the mental capacity. It's a lot. And there's going to be more kids in our field. Like, Elena's, like, I'm going to have a niece. I have a niece right now. Evan's niece is my niece and I spoil the crap out of her and Evan's like, what are you like doing? I can't help it.

And I know it's going to be the same thing with Elena's kid. So I'm just like, we need to reel it in before there's multiple kids also and then also the parents. So like I'm loving the idea of Secret Santa, but one thing I haven't figured out yet, and I know this is crazy. So, oh, we haven't gotten to the answer yet. me and Evan because Evan's never done it either but we don't know like once you give the gifts do you ever find out who was the secret Santa yes well I what's the point well because it's like it's it like you don't know like leading up to it it's like ooh who's my secret Santa and like it's like the surprise of it also the way that Brian's family does it is typically um they would start with like

they would select somebody to start to like give their gift first so they'll like get in a big circle and then guess they won't really guess but they'll kind of like fake each other out because like they have a big family so they'll like start walking up to somebody and be like oh no it wasn't them and then they'll give that person their gift and it's like oh you had me so you hold on to the gift that you brought for your person yeah that's at least how they do it and then you walk over and give it to the person and then it's like a shock of like who you gave it too yeah and then they open it and like everyone watches and then it's like they go next they're like okay here's my gift who do i have do you can you only get one item or you

can you get multiple items if it fits within the budget you can get multiple items if it fits within the budget okay good to know yeah we're doing that this year so i'm pretty thrilled about it um i'm obviously learning as i go have yeah okay great yeah no that part like that was easy because then i'm I'm like I already had thought about every person so now I'm like oh I got my one person I already had my thoughts no so now I can just get it done with it too um Brian's family has like an app and or like a website we did that you did the website where you can like a wish list if you want nobody did that because we honestly it was so last minute that we did it that's fair maybe next year so nobody did that but yeah I was thinking that too and I feel like with my family a lot of us would be like okay no

let me like put what I want in it yeah and then it would make it so much easier too because I know like the person's getting what they want I love a registry I was just having this conversation like a registry like I wish that was like the norm for like our friends like when they have like any kind of parties any kind of parties coming up like it seems like so like at first like at face value with a registry at our age if it's not like a wedding or like a baby shower it seems like ooh like you're expecting like i don't know like it seems like that but i love a right you can look on it i know exactly i think you appreciate it when you get older more because you do get confused on like what exactly somebody already might have or got themselves or especially even kids when

kids are tough things up with kids i'm like i would rather just know specifically what to get them because if you already got it for them which a lot of times parents think of everything first Yeah, but they know exactly what their kid doesn't have. So if I was just told, this is exactly what they need or, like, don't have at this time, I would love to know that. No, and, like, even for, like, little kids, like, what size are they at? Because, like, you could just think, like, it changes so fast. It changes so fast. And, like, just because they're a child of certain age doesn't mean, like, they're in, like, the same clothes size.

Yeah, just because they're six months old doesn't mean they're necessarily in six months clothing. Yeah. I thought that for Elliot and I would try to buy stuff in advance. I'm like, oh, I will have the next size ready to go. But really, he grows into the next size before it's the next size. So my timing's always off. For winter, I tried to get him a winter coat. And I'm like, oh, 12 months will be perfect.

No, we're already past like, we're already past that. By the time he will wear the coat, we will not be in the coat. And that's kind of just how it is too with like other kids I know. And I don't know. I think registries are great. Great. I recommend it for literally anything. Well, you're a hypocrite then.

Why? Because it's your 30th birthday today. And I didn't make a registry. And you didn't give anyone a registry. But if you're watching this episode on Friday, it's Britney's 30th birthday. That's insane. That's actually such a crazy thing to say because I just don't, not that I don't feel 30th. it's just I feel like when you're growing up like especially with movies like 13 going on 30

you have this like vision of like 30 is so mature and established and I fear I don't necessarily feel that yeah not that I feel like super immature or like not as I mean I guess like I'm getting married I have a house like I have a career like I'm doing the things but it just doesn't it's hard to conceptualize that I agree I mean even still sometimes I feel that way and I literally have a kid yeah that's yeah so I I kind of feel what you mean I mean I'm acting like I'm not 32 but like I'm gonna be 30 in like a week after you five days time yeah by the time this comes out not long after I will also be 30 and I feel the same way I think when we were younger too it was so much different because our parents were doing so much more so much younger no i see that a lot on

ticot where it was like at my or um sending my mom my christmas list but like knowing damn well at my age she was married with two kids like and all of these things and it just feels like life happened so much faster back yeah it was i mean people had kids younger people did everything got like moved out younger all of that i can't imagine and so So got married younger, I just feel like since everything was pushed back for us, we're just now, like, meeting that time. And I'm sure for them, like, what they were doing in their 20s is what we're doing in our 30s. And for them, I'm sure at the time, too, it felt older. Yeah.

But since everyone was doing it, it was just the norm, which is kind of like I feel where we're at, where everyone's getting married and having kids. And that's the norm. That's like the timeline for our generation. Yes, the timeline. But somehow I still don't feel old enough to be participating in the timeline. No, I agree. And this is like speaking of timelines, I, by the time Brian and I are married, I will be in my 30s, and he will still be in his 20s. And I go, I just really.

I know that he's all that much younger. But I was like, I just don't think it's fair that when we look back on life together, be like, oh, you got married in your 20s. and I was 30. I don't think that matters, but I know what you mean. I definitely think women also feel it way more than men. For sure. Saying I was, I didn't get married until I was 30 feels a lot different. Like coming from a woman than a man.

Yeah. Like for a man, it's almost like a flex. Like they waited. Oh, yeah. You know what I mean? But for us, it's like, oh my gosh. We're late when we did it or whatever, which I was not yet, but almost just about. So like pretty much.

And by the time we have. have like more kids and you have kids like we're going to be in our 30s and it just I don't know it feels like behind in a way but really we're not because that's the norm for our age and somehow we also feel like we're doing it too soon in a way because we feel younger than we are. I still feel very it's a very weird concept and I wonder if it's just our generation I think it is I feel like we're going through like a really unique time in the world but I mean I guess maybe other generations I've felt this as well, but to your point, like, I just feel like, like, I personally, like, sometimes, like, when I, like, really think of time, I'm like, am I behind?

But, like, I genuinely don't think I feel that. And, like, in the same way, which, like, this is, like, such a silly thing to say, but I'm, like, when I've talked about, like, my 30th birthday to, like, many people at this point, I'm, like, I'm getting so old. Like, I genuinely don't feel that. And, like, when I, like, say that, I'm, like, oh, 30's so old. Like, I know damn well, I'm sounding it to, like, people that are, like, people that are, like, like not 30 and haven't been in their 20s for a while and they're rolling their eyes but I'm like

I don't know I'm just being a brat I guess like saying you feel like I feel old and they're I know well that's the other thing it's like part of me really does feel old when I say 30 when you like think about it all too but then part of me is like I don't know I don't feel that old some of the stuff that I here's what I think gets me too it's like some of the stuff like we are and like what we like and when we do feel like if in your mind you're thinking when I'm 30 I'm not going to be still wanting to like go to brunch with the girls or and we will be doing that you know what I mean there's like certain things you thought in your mind when you were younger by the time I'm 30 I'll be over this and I'll be over then I'll want to do this and you're not

there yet and you're just like okay so am I behind or am I just not that old? mentally or no I feel that because it's like by the time I'm 30 like I won't have like a stuffed animal sitting on my bed knowing damn well I have an anxiety dino that is a weighted dinosaur plush that sits on my bed at the age of 30

I feel no shame in that literally not an ounce of shame but to your point as we've, you know, gotten closer to being 30 years old, I fear that I've been seeing on TikTok everything I wish I would have done in my 20s, my advice to a 20 year old. I wrote down some things because I also was seeing like the 30 before 30 are things to do before you're 30. I'm going to read some of these and we're going to talk about whether we have or haven't done them yet because we're both about to be 30 and,

by the time you see this Britney's 30 and I'm not that's crazy but only for six days but I got the math right this time I said four or five like I didn't know yeah I know excuse me I've been thinking about this whole time I'm like am I idiot people say that you should travel by yourself before turning 30 and initially I was like I haven't done that I haven't had decided to do that but I fear I I did for work once travel alone I don't know if that counts by myself I don't know what that necessarily counts but I will say I'm not that kind of person I'm not going to go out to eat by myself I'm not going to travel by myself I really don't like to do anything by myself um besides lay on the couch and scroll or like binge watch a show um so I won't be doing that

go road tripping was another one which I guess what's the context of this I love road tripping but I feel like we've done that a lot so I think we can check that off our list that we definitely have done see the world is a crazy one because it's like what do you mean I've seen I've seen Epcot I've seen the world traveled around the world check seek thrills skydiving no thank you Britney's done it zip lining I've done I didn't think that was a thrill but call me crazy I will say about this though I think that is like of all the things on here because I think a lot of this like you could do after you're 30 but when it comes to seeking thrills I will say do it now do it as soon as possible because the minute your frontal

lobe develops you will not want to do it again I did skydiving pre frontal lobe development and then not not necessarily post frontal lobe development but like as my frontal lobe was developing I honestly think my frontal lobe developed while I was in the air because the fear I felt that second time was astronomically different than the first time that's kind of how I feel because even I've gone parasailing and now if you asked me to do it i would not do it um yeah there's just things even honestly this is going to sound crazy but even like jumping off a boat into the ocean you wouldn't catch me no i'm not going to do that doing that now like i have what is in that ocean i don't know will not be but when we were younger i would snorkel my little way around and i would jump off a boat and do all the things same

There are. Instant. Absolutely no. So, yeah, I definitely think those things do before you're 30, but the rest of this, you could do after. Learn something new. I learned something new every day. That was the next one.

Learn something new. I learned how to use chat GPT. Correct. That was new. That didn't exist. Develop hobbies. Start gardening, learn photography, create a piece of art for your home. I feel like we've already done that.

Step out of your comfort zone, something that truly scares you. Again, no thanks. You know what I mean? That won't be on my list. Prioritize health. I do what I can. That's about all you're going to get from me. You skip to read more.

I've read. Can't say the same for you. Yeah, no. No, I read the TikTok comments. Oh, that's when I get the chance. That's my favorite. Basically, there's a lot of stuff on the list and like the 30 before 30 thing, but most of it, I would say you don't really need to rush to do it. You know why.

However, the other, the thing that Bernie made a good point. I made a good point. I, truthfully, I would say up until the last like three years or so, up until about 26, 27, I had no interest in most of these things because my main interest was going to the bar. and I would say prioritize that in your 20s because you know go out go to a club because you know what

no I like being home I really enjoy being home and I'm not I'm once in a while interested in a bar if that bar has food a nice seat not too loud of music but I'm not you know you're showing your age but I agree

No. Those are my requirements. I like those things in a bar. And I'd also like to talk on our topic from last week, like a nice cocktail or wine available at said bar, not just like vodka soda. So enjoy your vodka sodas. Enjoy loud music while at last because it's just tough when you get to your old age. of now you're almost 30 you're really showing your age yeah I agree I mean I you know what you guys let me be honest I'll let you know once I'm 30 but oh I'm not 30 really me right in like two in two days you will be and in a week a week in three day I can't do that much math I had six days between my birthday and yours that I know that I know you guys I'll let you know when I'm 30 but right now we'll just we'll trust whatever she says um trust your elders let's get into some shady stories from this week make sure you keep submitting your shady stories too there's a new form for season four to anonymously submit your stories in the description but let's get

into shady story number one this one starts with the question do you block you your exes on socials. For me, it really depended on the guy. There is a twin flame I had, a toxic on-again, off-again guide that I had to block when I got into a serious relationship. I knew this person moved to a state near Oregon, where I moved a couple of years ago for work. Hi, former Michigander, and love you both. Well, my coworker brought up the company, my ex, works for casually in a conversation, having no idea about my twin flame ex, and I had a Raven-Simone moment where our entire dating history flashed before my eyes. The rest of the day, I debated going to Instagram to stalk his account. Eventually, I gave in and saw he got engaged that day. Tell me, is that

divine intervention? I was so freaked out that I went into the depths of chat GPT asking what kind of karmic timing means. Chat pretty much said that it could be coincidence or a serious sign of our interconnected souls. Yikes. So no help pretty much made it worse. Fast forward a few months later, he did get married, and I'm still wondering how I even got into this spiral. What's a twin flame? Oh, are you serious? So listen, I, when Megan Fox and MGK were doing all those interviews, drinking blood and stuff, I know they were saying like twin flames, but I truly thought that was just like a personal thing. I didn't think like other people used that to like talk about.

Honestly, I haven't heard that term in a minute. But I also Googled the actual definition of it because, like, I was thinking when you're dead, I'm like, what is the actual definition of it? It's a spiritual concept describing two people halves of the same soul. So basically a soulmate? Yeah, basically a soulmate. Basically, like, I would say the Gen Z version of like a soulmate. Okay. So not as, like, deep as I feel like.

Like, twin flame to me sounds like more dramatic than like soulmate. But is it more toxic or something? Probably, yeah. I think the thing with a twin flame is I don't actually think you're supposed to marry them. I think it's a toxic thing. So it could be divine intervention that led you to his, what was it? not his Instagram, his Facebook page. Yeah, I mean, I feel like if you're somebody who believes in signs from the universe,

then that seems like one. However, doesn't mean go for it. You can't do anything about it now. Homeboy's married, and it sounds like he was not right for you. Yeah, we don't. No toxic. But like, maybe, like, the universe just wanted you to see that it's over. He's engaged.

you know what I mean like maybe that was the sign yeah no it was the sign it did not like not all signs mean like we are meant to be together but sometimes signs might mean other things as Haley so eloquently put it maybe it's over sorry not to be hard no but like maybe that was what the sign wanted you see that was the reality and it's just like kind of like when your ears are ringing you know yeah isn't it left ears bad Right ear is good. And I believe that in my soul. I really do.

Shady story number two. Harmless. Petty AF Revenge. You will need some context here. So here it is. At the time my husband and I lived in San Diego. He worked less than three miles from our home with five to ten minute commute. I worked about 16 miles away with an hour commute.

If it was sunny out because it's southern. California traffic. So it's 20, or not 20, 23, it's 2003 and I'm 23 at the time. I've just walked in the door from my day at work and commute home to put on my sweats, chill, make dinner. The best part of my day for sure. About 30 minutes later, my husband comes home. We have dinner and after he starts talking about how he wants ice cream. So I tell him to go to the store, it's like two blocks away. Oh no, no, no. He needs me to go get it. Why, why would I need to go get it? I'm in my comfy clothes that are not meant for the public and just spent an hour in traffic. Go get your own ice cream, dude. Well, this turns into whining, a lot of whining about how I have a desk job

and he has to deal with the general public all day and they are crazy so I should go, I roll. Finally, I cave and run to the store and get his ice cream and go home. As I walk in the door, the husband is not downstairs, which means he is upstairs, screwing around on his computer, playing games or whatever. I get even more annoyed with him when I notice that my big, beautiful Rottweiler laying in the living room, I call her over to take the plastic films off the top of the ice cream, hold it out for her and let her take several big sloppy licks off the top after this i or after this i feel there is enough dog slobber coated on the top that i stick the spoon the pint of ice cream and run it upstairs to

him yes we are still together no he does not know that i did this to him that is hilarious i think that is harmless petty a i'm sorry but leave it to men yes two you cook dinner and first of all they immediately need a snack it's like really evan always does that we'll like eat a nice dinner we're hanging out and then he's like so and honestly i'm guilty too because i snack with him after obviously i'm not going to let him do it alone right but if he brings it up i'm like yeah so leave it to men anyways and yeah you had to go back out in the public Like after you're in your comfy clothes? Absolutely not.

It's a negative. I'm not going anywhere unless I'm being driven there and I'm in the passenger seat. Maybe then I will go to the store. But I'm not going out alone. Yeah. And at that point, just drive through Dairy Queen or something. Literally. Don't need to be stepping into a store that late.

All right. Shady Story number three. I don't know that anyone in my real life knows all. the details of this, but way back when my husband and I were dating, we broke up because his mom didn't like me very much. And within two weeks, he was already dating the mutual friend I wasn't supposed to worry about who his mom greatly preferred to me. Flash forward to them getting pregnant and the shotgun wedding her parents insisted on and he calls me laying out his mom's manipulation and all the chaos that was going on behind the scenes. But he wants to start his marriage and their

baby's life on the right foot so he needs closure. I think. think nothing of it we heal and even become friends after a while i get married and have a baby and our kids are actually friends and we do barbecues and birthdays and all sorts of things including his wife and i actually healing our friendship everything seems to have worked out the way it was supposed to until his wife and my husband get found by our eight and six-year-old children having an affair and beyond that their eight-year-old is actually my husband at the time child and not mine at the time ex-boyfriend. So then my husband and I leave our respective partners and move into a house together, not as a couple, but just as two people who are going through the shit at the same time and need

support from someone who understands. Separate bedrooms and all. My husband is an honorable man, and so he stayed in the life of the child that he'd been raising and still has parental rights because his ex-wife is a hoe, not evil. But like 18 months into this situation, our kids decided that we needed to date. They'd set up awkward living room dates and all sorts of things until eventually he did ask me out on an actual date under the pretense of getting them off our backs. So anyways, now over a decade later, we're married, but he went with his mom during his first marriage so she didn't know anything about what really went on. I'm, however, a very petty little bitch, so just to rub it a little salt in the wound for her, I sent her the wedding announcement that we sent to friends and

family that couldn't make it to the wedding just so she knows that even though she delayed us we eventually got the life she didn't want for us now that is divine timing that is the parent trap truly that is that actually it does sound like a movie it's literally the plot of the parent trap but the first part was definitely not um the whole basically swapping partners yeah because they were having an affair behind their backs that kids found them just so messed up um but yeah ultimately the kids then helped you get with your new husband and it all worked out in the end happily ever after happily ever after parent trap edition um but yeah that concludes this week's episode and shady stories like i said make sure you keep submitting your shady

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